1 00:00:19,720 --> 00:00:22,360 Speaker 1: What's up, Emily. Here you are listening to five Minute 2 00:00:22,360 --> 00:00:26,520 Speaker 1: Friday from Hurdle. What an unbelievable week this has been. 3 00:00:27,040 --> 00:00:31,520 Speaker 1: I am feeling gosh, so lucky. I feel so lucky. 4 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:38,120 Speaker 1: I feel grateful and so appreciative of everyone that has 5 00:00:38,159 --> 00:00:38,760 Speaker 1: reached out. 6 00:00:39,040 --> 00:00:41,200 Speaker 2: I'm feeling really excited for this next chapter. 7 00:00:41,680 --> 00:00:44,239 Speaker 1: And before I get into five Minute Friday to day, 8 00:00:44,360 --> 00:00:48,280 Speaker 1: I do want to explain what will be different on 9 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:50,800 Speaker 1: the show so that you can have a full understanding 10 00:00:51,000 --> 00:00:51,919 Speaker 1: as a listener. 11 00:00:52,000 --> 00:00:53,519 Speaker 2: So nothing's changing here. 12 00:00:53,720 --> 00:00:57,800 Speaker 1: You're still getting content wise the same episodes on Tuesdays 13 00:00:57,800 --> 00:01:00,360 Speaker 1: and Fridays. What is changing is just the way that 14 00:01:00,440 --> 00:01:04,480 Speaker 1: the ads sound on your side, so you'll hear different ads. 15 00:01:04,520 --> 00:01:05,920 Speaker 1: Not all of them are going to be read by me, 16 00:01:06,120 --> 00:01:09,160 Speaker 1: and transparently. It's something that I really thought long and 17 00:01:09,200 --> 00:01:12,360 Speaker 1: hard about. It's a big reason why I waited for 18 00:01:12,400 --> 00:01:16,199 Speaker 1: such a long time to join a network, But when 19 00:01:16,280 --> 00:01:20,039 Speaker 1: this opportunity came to me, it felt really right for me, 20 00:01:20,160 --> 00:01:23,080 Speaker 1: and so I hope that as listeners you can have 21 00:01:23,160 --> 00:01:26,160 Speaker 1: compassion for the fact that, yes, the ads might sound different. 22 00:01:26,400 --> 00:01:28,280 Speaker 1: But I want you to know that I care so 23 00:01:28,760 --> 00:01:32,639 Speaker 1: much about you, and I care so much about giving 24 00:01:32,680 --> 00:01:35,319 Speaker 1: you content that matters, and I realized that I was 25 00:01:35,360 --> 00:01:39,640 Speaker 1: just so worried about upsetting the listeners, because the listeners 26 00:01:39,680 --> 00:01:42,240 Speaker 1: are my why there, You guys, are why I keep 27 00:01:42,240 --> 00:01:43,920 Speaker 1: showing up week after week without you. 28 00:01:44,200 --> 00:01:45,240 Speaker 2: Hurdle wanting to be a thing. 29 00:01:45,959 --> 00:01:48,880 Speaker 1: And what I came to realize is that I listened 30 00:01:48,880 --> 00:01:52,160 Speaker 1: to so many shows where this is a thing, the 31 00:01:52,240 --> 00:01:55,880 Speaker 1: ads are thing, and I just need to evolve and 32 00:01:56,040 --> 00:01:59,840 Speaker 1: know that as hurdlers, you will understand. 33 00:02:00,120 --> 00:02:02,000 Speaker 2: So thank you for understanding. 34 00:02:02,360 --> 00:02:06,480 Speaker 1: I've learned a lot in the past almost eight years 35 00:02:06,480 --> 00:02:11,000 Speaker 1: of podcasting, and this week the most resounding lesson is 36 00:02:11,040 --> 00:02:15,399 Speaker 1: that good things take time. I've been podcasting for eight 37 00:02:15,480 --> 00:02:20,720 Speaker 1: years and we are so inundated in this. 38 00:02:20,680 --> 00:02:22,800 Speaker 2: Highlight real world that we live in. 39 00:02:23,400 --> 00:02:26,399 Speaker 1: To see people where it looks like an overnight success. 40 00:02:26,520 --> 00:02:29,480 Speaker 1: Someone starts creating content on a Tuesday and by the 41 00:02:29,480 --> 00:02:34,000 Speaker 1: following Tuesday they have something like fifty one hundred thousand followers. 42 00:02:34,120 --> 00:02:37,359 Speaker 1: Everyone wants instant gratification. I won't sit here and say 43 00:02:37,360 --> 00:02:40,320 Speaker 1: that I didn't want instant gratification for a really long time. 44 00:02:41,200 --> 00:02:45,520 Speaker 1: That hasn't been my experience. Podcasting has just been one 45 00:02:45,560 --> 00:02:51,160 Speaker 1: small win after the next, and transparently. For a long 46 00:02:51,320 --> 00:02:54,040 Speaker 1: time in there, I felt like I was just getting 47 00:02:54,280 --> 00:02:58,240 Speaker 1: slammed with no but I kept trying things. I kept 48 00:02:58,320 --> 00:03:00,880 Speaker 1: failing forward. If you want to put in air quotes, 49 00:03:01,280 --> 00:03:05,000 Speaker 1: I knew that where there's a why, there is a way, 50 00:03:05,560 --> 00:03:10,480 Speaker 1: And my why has always been to help women, specifically 51 00:03:10,960 --> 00:03:14,120 Speaker 1: on their journeys to live healthier, happier, more motivated lives. 52 00:03:14,160 --> 00:03:16,680 Speaker 1: And over the course of the last eight years, I've 53 00:03:16,760 --> 00:03:20,200 Speaker 1: tried so many things. When I was determined to have 54 00:03:20,280 --> 00:03:23,480 Speaker 1: my own studio space, I sold a sponsorship to the 55 00:03:23,520 --> 00:03:26,799 Speaker 1: studio space so that I could afford to move into 56 00:03:26,880 --> 00:03:29,919 Speaker 1: a bigger apartment. I watched hours of videos on how 57 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:33,480 Speaker 1: to do keynotes. I have studied for months on end 58 00:03:33,560 --> 00:03:36,320 Speaker 1: to become a certified professional coach, which we've talked about 59 00:03:36,360 --> 00:03:37,960 Speaker 1: on the show. You can like into it like coach, 60 00:03:38,040 --> 00:03:41,560 Speaker 1: because I wanted to be able to have smarter conversations 61 00:03:41,560 --> 00:03:43,800 Speaker 1: with my guests as they opened up to me and 62 00:03:43,840 --> 00:03:47,480 Speaker 1: got comfortable with me. I have traveled the world hosting 63 00:03:47,920 --> 00:03:51,160 Speaker 1: live shows and workshops, and I have been told so 64 00:03:51,440 --> 00:03:55,920 Speaker 1: many times that it's just not yet from speaking agents, 65 00:03:55,960 --> 00:04:00,640 Speaker 1: from managers, people that look at one metric like social media, 66 00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:03,240 Speaker 1: followers and they say, m I just don't think now 67 00:04:03,320 --> 00:04:05,440 Speaker 1: is the right time. But when I tell you that, 68 00:04:05,480 --> 00:04:09,120 Speaker 1: there is so much power and persistence. I knew and 69 00:04:09,200 --> 00:04:13,960 Speaker 1: still firmly believe that I have something to offer and 70 00:04:14,000 --> 00:04:16,560 Speaker 1: it was just a matter of time until the right 71 00:04:16,680 --> 00:04:19,160 Speaker 1: people came to the table. And this isn't the first 72 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:21,400 Speaker 1: time that someone's come to the table and said, we 73 00:04:21,560 --> 00:04:23,520 Speaker 1: see what you have to offer. I will say that, 74 00:04:23,920 --> 00:04:26,159 Speaker 1: but it's the first time that it just felt so 75 00:04:26,520 --> 00:04:30,080 Speaker 1: aligned with what it is that I want to become, 76 00:04:30,279 --> 00:04:32,839 Speaker 1: who I am becoming, and where it is that I 77 00:04:32,880 --> 00:04:35,840 Speaker 1: want to go. I want to have conversations within the 78 00:04:35,880 --> 00:04:39,480 Speaker 1: woman's sports space. I want to sit at the table 79 00:04:39,560 --> 00:04:42,080 Speaker 1: and in rooms with so many of the women that 80 00:04:42,160 --> 00:04:46,520 Speaker 1: are already doing unbelievable work on behalf of this network. 81 00:04:46,600 --> 00:04:48,360 Speaker 1: At the beginning of this year, one of my good 82 00:04:48,360 --> 00:04:51,360 Speaker 1: friends reminded me of this. Honestly, I was having a 83 00:04:51,400 --> 00:04:53,800 Speaker 1: really hard time and her and I were out for 84 00:04:53,800 --> 00:04:55,760 Speaker 1: a walk and I said to her, I'm not sure 85 00:04:55,920 --> 00:05:00,279 Speaker 1: if I can podcast moving forward for much longer, Like 86 00:05:00,400 --> 00:05:02,440 Speaker 1: I didn't know if I was going to be able 87 00:05:02,480 --> 00:05:05,159 Speaker 1: to make it happen. And as we were standing in 88 00:05:05,560 --> 00:05:08,880 Speaker 1: the room, at this celebration on Tuesday night. She looked 89 00:05:08,880 --> 00:05:11,560 Speaker 1: at me and she said, you kept going, and that 90 00:05:11,720 --> 00:05:15,640 Speaker 1: is some inspiring stuff. And she's right, And I'm proud 91 00:05:15,640 --> 00:05:17,360 Speaker 1: of myself that I kept going. And I'm proud of 92 00:05:17,440 --> 00:05:22,040 Speaker 1: myself that I took those nose as information, not as Bible. 93 00:05:22,240 --> 00:05:25,200 Speaker 1: I took the nose that came my way as this 94 00:05:25,279 --> 00:05:27,480 Speaker 1: isn't the right opportunity for you, So now it's your 95 00:05:27,520 --> 00:05:32,080 Speaker 1: opportunity to seek out something else. There is so much 96 00:05:32,200 --> 00:05:36,839 Speaker 1: power in patience, and it's not an easy thing to exercise, 97 00:05:37,240 --> 00:05:39,440 Speaker 1: but that's when we get to lean into our people. 98 00:05:39,560 --> 00:05:41,599 Speaker 1: That's when we get to seek out support from the 99 00:05:41,600 --> 00:05:44,920 Speaker 1: people that care about us and our hearts and who 100 00:05:44,960 --> 00:05:47,039 Speaker 1: it is that we are and who it is that 101 00:05:47,080 --> 00:05:50,799 Speaker 1: we want to become. I'm so grateful for the family 102 00:05:50,880 --> 00:05:53,120 Speaker 1: and the friends and the peers and the mentors that 103 00:05:53,200 --> 00:05:57,160 Speaker 1: have guided me up until this point, and I firmly 104 00:05:57,240 --> 00:06:01,360 Speaker 1: believe that I'm still just getting started. For anyone who 105 00:06:01,440 --> 00:06:03,599 Speaker 1: feels like they're often in between a rock and a 106 00:06:03,600 --> 00:06:04,720 Speaker 1: hard place, I get it. 107 00:06:04,839 --> 00:06:05,680 Speaker 2: I felt like that. 108 00:06:05,880 --> 00:06:10,680 Speaker 1: For so many moments, during so many days over the 109 00:06:10,760 --> 00:06:14,400 Speaker 1: last eight years. For every whin that you do see 110 00:06:14,440 --> 00:06:18,560 Speaker 1: on social There are probably three to four moments that 111 00:06:18,600 --> 00:06:22,200 Speaker 1: feel like a loss, But I recognize now that the 112 00:06:22,320 --> 00:06:24,800 Speaker 1: almost eight years has taken for me to get to 113 00:06:25,040 --> 00:06:31,040 Speaker 1: this step in this journey, they weren't a delay, they 114 00:06:31,080 --> 00:06:33,960 Speaker 1: were a development period. I know that what I'm doing 115 00:06:34,040 --> 00:06:38,080 Speaker 1: now is better because I took that time to sort 116 00:06:38,120 --> 00:06:41,520 Speaker 1: myself out, to sort my business out, and to really 117 00:06:41,560 --> 00:06:43,840 Speaker 1: get firm on who it is that I am and 118 00:06:43,880 --> 00:06:46,839 Speaker 1: where it is that I want to go. Rejection is redirection, 119 00:06:47,279 --> 00:06:50,440 Speaker 1: and your experience is your leverage. 120 00:06:50,520 --> 00:06:52,800 Speaker 2: The things that I know now that I can bring to. 121 00:06:52,760 --> 00:06:55,880 Speaker 1: The table I didn't have this knowledge seven years ago. 122 00:06:56,080 --> 00:06:58,120 Speaker 1: It is up to you to pick yourself up when 123 00:06:58,120 --> 00:07:01,719 Speaker 1: it feels hard, and trust me, it's going to feel hard, 124 00:07:02,200 --> 00:07:06,479 Speaker 1: But that adversity, those hurdles are what help you become 125 00:07:06,600 --> 00:07:10,240 Speaker 1: the person who you are supposed to be. My thought 126 00:07:10,320 --> 00:07:12,600 Speaker 1: problem for you this week, what is something that you 127 00:07:13,040 --> 00:07:17,640 Speaker 1: are consciously being patient on right now? What is something 128 00:07:17,640 --> 00:07:20,640 Speaker 1: that you are being patient on right now? And what 129 00:07:20,840 --> 00:07:24,880 Speaker 1: is your ultimate goal in exercising that patience? What is 130 00:07:24,880 --> 00:07:27,760 Speaker 1: something you're being patient about right now and what is 131 00:07:27,800 --> 00:07:32,960 Speaker 1: your ultimate goal by exercising that patience? And now a 132 00:07:33,000 --> 00:07:37,320 Speaker 1: listener question Hey, Emily Alexander, here quick question for you 133 00:07:37,720 --> 00:07:41,200 Speaker 1: when it comes to sneakers. Do you track your mileage 134 00:07:41,280 --> 00:07:44,160 Speaker 1: on your sneakers and how do you know when to 135 00:07:44,320 --> 00:07:47,480 Speaker 1: rotate or retire them. I've always done it based on feel, 136 00:07:47,560 --> 00:07:49,520 Speaker 1: but I feel like there's a firm number for this. 137 00:07:49,960 --> 00:07:52,240 Speaker 1: Thanks so much and really excited for this new chapter 138 00:07:52,280 --> 00:07:55,200 Speaker 1: of a hurdle. Alex all right, there are a few 139 00:07:55,640 --> 00:07:58,480 Speaker 1: like buy feel ways that you can know when it's 140 00:07:58,480 --> 00:08:01,920 Speaker 1: time to retire your sneak within the sneaker itself. If 141 00:08:01,920 --> 00:08:04,280 Speaker 1: the cushioning starts to feel flat, if the shoe is 142 00:08:04,360 --> 00:08:06,800 Speaker 1: overly flexible, if the mid. 143 00:08:06,720 --> 00:08:07,680 Speaker 2: Soul feels tough. 144 00:08:07,840 --> 00:08:10,760 Speaker 1: These are signature signs that's a shoe itself is starting 145 00:08:10,800 --> 00:08:14,600 Speaker 1: to really experience some wear in tear. You'll also be 146 00:08:14,640 --> 00:08:17,200 Speaker 1: able to see some physical wear and tear if you 147 00:08:17,320 --> 00:08:21,040 Speaker 1: look at perhaps the bottom the sole of your shoe 148 00:08:21,200 --> 00:08:24,520 Speaker 1: from a body POV. If your feet or your joints 149 00:08:24,520 --> 00:08:27,440 Speaker 1: are hurting more than normal, that is a big sign 150 00:08:27,480 --> 00:08:31,400 Speaker 1: that something is up there now. In terms of specific numbers, 151 00:08:32,000 --> 00:08:34,600 Speaker 1: it's a really wide range that people offer up for 152 00:08:34,720 --> 00:08:38,120 Speaker 1: running shoes. Specifically, they say that the general mileage guideline 153 00:08:38,160 --> 00:08:40,920 Speaker 1: is to replace them every three to five hundred miles. 154 00:08:41,240 --> 00:08:44,200 Speaker 1: But this really depends on things like your gate, how 155 00:08:44,440 --> 00:08:46,960 Speaker 1: hard are you hitting the ground, what surfaces are you 156 00:08:47,000 --> 00:08:50,800 Speaker 1: running on? All of that comes into play. I'm saying 157 00:08:51,160 --> 00:08:53,520 Speaker 1: I'll running a pair of sneakers for anywhere from like 158 00:08:54,040 --> 00:08:56,679 Speaker 1: five to seven months, and over that time, if I'm 159 00:08:56,720 --> 00:09:00,000 Speaker 1: running around twenty to thirty miles a week, I'm definitely 160 00:09:00,120 --> 00:09:03,160 Speaker 1: giving that sneaker a good time before I'm ready to 161 00:09:03,200 --> 00:09:06,360 Speaker 1: retire it. When it comes to training sneakers, that is 162 00:09:06,360 --> 00:09:09,200 Speaker 1: something that you can typically keep a lot longer, especially 163 00:09:09,200 --> 00:09:11,720 Speaker 1: if you're only wearing them inside of the gym, not 164 00:09:11,840 --> 00:09:14,600 Speaker 1: doing your commute to and from. So I've had a 165 00:09:14,640 --> 00:09:16,800 Speaker 1: pair of Nike Free met Cons, which is my go 166 00:09:16,880 --> 00:09:20,640 Speaker 1: to strength training sneaker gosh for at least a year 167 00:09:20,640 --> 00:09:23,199 Speaker 1: and a half, and with those, I really do look 168 00:09:23,240 --> 00:09:26,000 Speaker 1: for physical signs of wear. I'm taking a look not 169 00:09:26,120 --> 00:09:28,560 Speaker 1: only at the soul, but then also on the insul, 170 00:09:28,720 --> 00:09:31,600 Speaker 1: looking at the toe box and the heel. And remember, 171 00:09:32,160 --> 00:09:34,920 Speaker 1: when you look good, you feel good, and feeling good 172 00:09:34,960 --> 00:09:38,720 Speaker 1: is such an integral part to keeping that workout motivation going. 173 00:09:38,920 --> 00:09:42,040 Speaker 2: So sometimes you just got to treat yourself. 174 00:09:42,480 --> 00:09:44,720 Speaker 1: Last thing if you have any doubts on whether or 175 00:09:44,720 --> 00:09:47,839 Speaker 1: not the sneaker is still good, that's usually your indicator 176 00:09:48,000 --> 00:09:50,839 Speaker 1: that it's time to switch things up. Make sure you're 177 00:09:50,880 --> 00:09:54,280 Speaker 1: following along with hurdle over on social It's at Hurdle podcast, 178 00:09:54,520 --> 00:09:57,200 Speaker 1: I am over at Emily Abadi and if you're new 179 00:09:57,240 --> 00:10:00,720 Speaker 1: around here, I answer listener questions every single week. The 180 00:10:00,720 --> 00:10:02,760 Speaker 1: way to get yours featured on the show is simply 181 00:10:02,800 --> 00:10:06,560 Speaker 1: email us over at hello at Hurdle dot us with 182 00:10:06,880 --> 00:10:09,680 Speaker 1: your question another hurdle conquered. 183 00:10:10,000 --> 00:10:11,040 Speaker 2: Catch you guys next time.