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Speaker 1: Spreading in with that Atilly and Tanya rad and I

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Speaker 1: Heart Radio and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast

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Speaker 1: Good Morning Everybody, Good morning, Good morning everyone doing. This

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Speaker 1: is our first episode since our live show. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: it was so fun. It was so fun. Um, you're

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Speaker 1: very what's going on this morning? So frazzled? Like you know,

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Speaker 1: like you're about to go on a trip and then

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Speaker 1: but you still like to do list that's like five

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Speaker 1: things long. I mean that's every time I go anywhere.

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Speaker 1: So it's like I'm watching myself but with you doing it,

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Speaker 1: which is a little more frantic. Yeah, because I like,

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Speaker 1: I'm very buttoned up. I like to have my stuff

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Speaker 1: like sin delivered, ready to go, and I'm not that,

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Speaker 1: And it's like stressing me out. What happened? Why are why?

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Speaker 1: What was the Well I'll tell you change. So this

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Speaker 1: week I've been a little sanzy. My work week has

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Speaker 1: been like earlier than most, so I've been getting up

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Speaker 1: like in the threes and fours, which is not healthy. People,

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Speaker 1: It's not healthy. It's not let me tell you why. Also,

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Speaker 1: so Sisney has been sick uh this week, and then

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Speaker 1: start Red Star Red Star has also been sick. So

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Speaker 1: I've been trying to like rest and sleep and like

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Speaker 1: just be careful because everybody around me is like super sick.

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Speaker 1: So I just haven't been doing things at my normal pace. Okay,

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Speaker 1: that's fair, no judgment. I just went to pick Tanya

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Speaker 1: up this morning. We reverse roles. I picked her up

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Speaker 1: on the way to the podcast, and she was supposed to, well,

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Speaker 1: she's supposed to have my bags back, so it's not

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Speaker 1: your bags pack because she's going on a little what

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Speaker 1: would you call that get away get away, a romantic

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Speaker 1: weekend get away. And she came out and she didn't

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Speaker 1: have her bags and she was all like full lester.

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Speaker 1: I was like, where's your bag? And she goes, I

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Speaker 1: just I can't. I just like repeated. I was like

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Speaker 1: together usually yeah, and like my bags would have been

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Speaker 1: packed last night, were ready to go, because I went

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Speaker 1: to bed at eight o'clock because I was like, so

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Speaker 1: I'm like so scared that I'm fighting off like getting sick.

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Speaker 1: So I just I went straight to bed last night.

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Speaker 1: When I got home, I eight, Um, I did laundry

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Speaker 1: too so I could pack my stuff. Um, I got

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Speaker 1: a spray tam and then I went to bed. The

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Speaker 1: difference though, is that because this is my everyday life

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Speaker 1: and how my life runs. I'm chill, you know, I'm like,

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Speaker 1: here we are Tanya, because it's so not how she

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Speaker 1: does things. Isn't a frantic state. I'm in a frantic state.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna be fine. So what was the plan when

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Speaker 1: you went to bed last night? You thought, I'll get

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Speaker 1: up tomorrow morning and i'll pack before the podcast. I'll

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Speaker 1: pack before the podcast. All up, do all the things

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Speaker 1: I need to do before that go awry. This morning, Uh,

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Speaker 1: my shower took longer, writing my spots took longer. Um,

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Speaker 1: making my breakfast took longer. Everything just took longer than

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Speaker 1: I had anticipated. Yeah, yeah, this is weird. It's not

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Speaker 1: especially you know because now you gotta call him and say,

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Speaker 1: I know you're planning to pick me up, but now

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Speaker 1: I can't. Yeah, and like, uh, normally I have just

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Speaker 1: we're only going for like maybe four d eight hours,

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Speaker 1: and I have so many clothes, like it wouldn't all

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Speaker 1: I was like, who am I Like? I can pack

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Speaker 1: a I can pack a travel size bag to fly

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Speaker 1: to New York and back, and I can't pack my

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Speaker 1: travel size bag to go away for a day. It's

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Speaker 1: different when you care about what someone thinks. So stressful

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Speaker 1: and then it's like supposed to be rainy and cold,

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Speaker 1: so that I brought jackets. But I was like, it's

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Speaker 1: You might relax, so you have to have cozy, comfy clothes,

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Speaker 1: but you might go to a nice dinner, so you

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Speaker 1: need to cute up it. And then I'm probably gonna

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Speaker 1: work out, so I need to pack my workout. She yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's a lot, it's a lot. She FaceTime me last night.

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Speaker 1: Um as she was like planning her packing, trying to

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Speaker 1: then we decided I was gonna wear a blazer today

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Speaker 1: and I put the blazer, said text me and goes,

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Speaker 1: I thought she was gonna be like, are you on

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Speaker 1: The blazer maybe too masculine, because at that point I

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Speaker 1: I just can't do it. Is this the first time

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Speaker 1: you all are spending like consecutive days together. Are you

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Speaker 1: nervous about that? No, I'm excited, Okay. I mean it's

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Speaker 1: the longest y'all have spent together is like y'all have dinner,

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Speaker 1: say the night, and then breakfast or something. This is fun,

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Speaker 1: how exciting. I love. I love where you're going Zoo.

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Speaker 1: There's tentative plans, but like I feel like the rain

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Speaker 1: other thing, Like I feel like anytime I know where

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Speaker 1: so is he keeping something surprised or it's just how

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Speaker 1: having options, It's just there's just options. So you're going

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Speaker 1: to be great. We'll go home. I'm going to get

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Speaker 1: your hair done, to curl my hair, and I'm just

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Speaker 1: gonna shot that too, So you're not gonna leave before dark?

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Speaker 1: Is that pretty much the plan? No, I said, pick

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Speaker 1: here at eleven. I'm down. But she's gonna curl your

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Speaker 1: keep him waiting. I mean, really, I know. It's just

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Speaker 1: because this is we're in first impression area, I know,

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Speaker 1: saying I know you're going to pick me up, but

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Speaker 1: to a lifetime of not ready exactly, I know, trust me.

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Speaker 1: That's why I'm spinning right now. That would not affect

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Speaker 1: like I'm the same, especially a guy who's been around

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Speaker 1: a little bit. If Amy was like, look, Amy's never

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Speaker 1: been with Amy for twenty three years, Like I get

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Speaker 1: it at this point. If I were in a guy

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Speaker 1: here we go with it, always late again. You know

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying. I don't. I don't. I don't want

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Speaker 1: him to be thinking that way. No, I know, and

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Speaker 1: you know me like I'm I don't. I don't play home.

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Speaker 1: I don't play that game. Like I like like having

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Speaker 1: a time getting out on time. I'm always on time.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes people just aren't on time people, you guys, it's

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Speaker 1: not that hard to be on time. It is sometimes

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Speaker 1: But this is the age of old conversation because Patty

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Speaker 1: it's not just irresponsibility. It is a chemical thing or

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Speaker 1: it's a physical thing. But she sees time differently than

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Speaker 1: she experiences time, differently than other people experienced time. I'm

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Speaker 1: with Patty, Honestly, we're different. We're special special. It's not

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Speaker 1: like it. Actually, I think why I'm so frazzled is

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Speaker 1: because it's really not that hard. I could have packed

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Speaker 1: It's it's not like it's like six pm and you're

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Speaker 1: But it's just so funny because I literally took every

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Speaker 1: I'm like, what is that a modern woman? That you're

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Speaker 1: getting an ivy, vitamin B met magnesium. They are amazing

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Speaker 1: sure for sure. But if your eyes are rolling, just

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Speaker 1: like a vitamin IVY infusion brought me back to life. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I has anyone in the room watched Love Is Blind? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah you have? Yeah, I haven't finished it. I think

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Speaker 1: I was still single, I would do that show, but

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Speaker 1: literally totally never watching. And she was I could see

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Speaker 1: Danya show. I was like, I think that's offensive. No,

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Speaker 1: it's the yes. Um, So these Love is Blind is

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Speaker 1: So people they these people meet in pods, like they

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Speaker 1: They can only hear each other's voice, and they sit

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Speaker 1: get to know one another. And after how many days

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Speaker 1: days go by there? Maybe a week? Yeah, for three days. Yes,

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Speaker 1: they're like crying saying I love you, and then the

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Speaker 1: and so they like think about it. Our whole lives

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Speaker 1: own show and dance and that's really cool, yes, and

423
00:24:04,960 --> 00:24:10,000
Speaker 1: it's it's brave because it's a big vulnerable thing to

424
00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:12,960
Speaker 1: perform in front of not only the audience at Dancing

425
00:24:13,000 --> 00:24:16,320
Speaker 1: in the Stars, but the world who watches exactly and

426
00:24:16,320 --> 00:24:19,399
Speaker 1: put yourself out there. Yes, there are so many different

427
00:24:19,440 --> 00:24:21,960
Speaker 1: factors that went into that, and that's why Dancing with

428
00:24:22,040 --> 00:24:24,320
Speaker 1: the Stars, you know, you have to almost in a

429
00:24:24,320 --> 00:24:28,239
Speaker 1: way prepare yourself for that experience because you know you

430
00:24:28,320 --> 00:24:31,840
Speaker 1: are dancing in front of so many different people. Obviously,

431
00:24:31,960 --> 00:24:35,119
Speaker 1: like you said, the audience within Dancing at the Stars,

432
00:24:35,119 --> 00:24:38,399
Speaker 1: but also the millions of audience who are watching. And

433
00:24:38,440 --> 00:24:42,439
Speaker 1: now we have lovely social media where people tell you

434
00:24:42,480 --> 00:24:47,359
Speaker 1: what they think instantly and some people you know, again, um,

435
00:24:47,480 --> 00:24:51,040
Speaker 1: when I was in fifth harmony. It was so bad. Um,

436
00:24:51,080 --> 00:24:54,280
Speaker 1: the comments that people would say to me and tweet

437
00:24:54,480 --> 00:24:58,040
Speaker 1: and yeah, you right, you saw it was really bad

438
00:24:58,200 --> 00:25:01,760
Speaker 1: and it it's it really damaged my confidence in myself.

439
00:25:01,880 --> 00:25:04,199
Speaker 1: And there's other factors too, and it's like that happened

440
00:25:04,200 --> 00:25:07,199
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, man, like this is just

441
00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:09,679
Speaker 1: not good, then I must not be good. I just

442
00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:14,480
Speaker 1: felt really, um, just really trapped in and insecure major ly.

443
00:25:15,160 --> 00:25:17,600
Speaker 1: But you know, that happened for a reason, and I

444
00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:20,399
Speaker 1: learned and grew and I could have been like, listen,

445
00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:22,000
Speaker 1: I can't do Dance with the Stars. I'm going to

446
00:25:22,119 --> 00:25:24,639
Speaker 1: run away from that, and I said, I chose, and

447
00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:27,280
Speaker 1: with the help of my parents and my team to

448
00:25:27,400 --> 00:25:30,480
Speaker 1: be like, you can do this. I chose to embark

449
00:25:30,520 --> 00:25:33,760
Speaker 1: on it. And oh my god, like I can't imagine

450
00:25:33,760 --> 00:25:36,760
Speaker 1: my life without Dancing with the Stars. Um, and I

451
00:25:36,800 --> 00:25:39,960
Speaker 1: made so many new friends and like memories for life.

452
00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:43,359
Speaker 1: I'll always have Dancing with the Stars, like they'll always

453
00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:48,040
Speaker 1: be my family. And even other contestants who I've met before,

454
00:25:48,520 --> 00:25:51,000
Speaker 1: they're like, oh my gosh, I have haven't been on

455
00:25:51,040 --> 00:25:53,760
Speaker 1: the show in five years, but I still visit, you know,

456
00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:58,959
Speaker 1: every season, and it's like a family. So it's really beautiful.

457
00:25:59,040 --> 00:26:02,119
Speaker 1: Do you still read your comments on Instagram? Yeah, some

458
00:26:02,240 --> 00:26:04,520
Speaker 1: of them I do for sure, and a lot of

459
00:26:04,520 --> 00:26:06,639
Speaker 1: them are positive. And I feel like a lot of

460
00:26:06,640 --> 00:26:09,359
Speaker 1: people have been so loving towards me. And I feel

461
00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:13,080
Speaker 1: like once I opened up more, I think people were

462
00:26:13,119 --> 00:26:15,920
Speaker 1: able to kind of connect to me more. I had

463
00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:20,800
Speaker 1: a problem with um, opening up and being vulnerable. It's

464
00:26:20,800 --> 00:26:22,720
Speaker 1: just something that's kind of scary for me to do that,

465
00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:25,360
Speaker 1: like publicly. But I did that and I found that

466
00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:27,919
Speaker 1: that it's not a weakness, it's it's a it's a

467
00:26:27,960 --> 00:26:31,479
Speaker 1: real strength to be able to do that. Yes, And

468
00:26:31,520 --> 00:26:34,280
Speaker 1: I didn't realize that I was for so long just

469
00:26:34,320 --> 00:26:37,600
Speaker 1: like no, I'm gonna, you know, be the strong person,

470
00:26:38,440 --> 00:26:42,119
Speaker 1: but I still am. I had to realize that, and Um,

471
00:26:42,160 --> 00:26:43,760
Speaker 1: I feel like once it happened, like a lot of

472
00:26:43,800 --> 00:26:46,520
Speaker 1: people were able to more get to know who I was.

473
00:26:47,080 --> 00:26:50,399
Speaker 1: And I feel like people have seen me grow and

474
00:26:50,440 --> 00:26:52,360
Speaker 1: they've given me a lot of love, which is amazing.

475
00:26:52,560 --> 00:26:55,480
Speaker 1: Of course, you you have your mean people and your haters.

476
00:26:55,560 --> 00:26:58,840
Speaker 1: Everybody has your hater doesn't matter if you're at the top. UM,

477
00:26:58,920 --> 00:27:02,240
Speaker 1: and it does suck when people are mean. They don't

478
00:27:02,280 --> 00:27:05,800
Speaker 1: like whatever, and they love to pick apart anything they

479
00:27:05,840 --> 00:27:09,760
Speaker 1: can pick apart, like my eyelashes, like there's nothing to

480
00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:16,200
Speaker 1: go what is it called? Um? Nothing to go unseen? Um?

481
00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:18,320
Speaker 1: But you know, I also think social media is a

482
00:27:18,320 --> 00:27:22,000
Speaker 1: beautiful platform to connect to people and to reach people

483
00:27:22,040 --> 00:27:25,439
Speaker 1: and to touch people and to help They've helped me,

484
00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:27,439
Speaker 1: like my fans have helped me, and other people I

485
00:27:27,480 --> 00:27:30,560
Speaker 1: follow have helped me, And I think it could be amazing.

486
00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:32,720
Speaker 1: It's interesting because I kind of feel like social media

487
00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:34,800
Speaker 1: has broken down that wall, like like you were saying,

488
00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:37,040
Speaker 1: it's like as an entertainer, as somebody in this industry,

489
00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:38,800
Speaker 1: like you feel like you have to have it all

490
00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:41,359
Speaker 1: together and you have this like not a facade, but

491
00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:44,800
Speaker 1: you have this person that people see. But at the

492
00:27:44,880 --> 00:27:47,440
Speaker 1: end of the day, like we all have the same insecurities,

493
00:27:47,560 --> 00:27:50,200
Speaker 1: we all have the same like things that are going on,

494
00:27:50,320 --> 00:27:52,640
Speaker 1: and I think social media has been able to kind

495
00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:55,040
Speaker 1: of be that medium where people can see like the

496
00:27:55,080 --> 00:27:57,000
Speaker 1: more more vulnerable side of you, you know, because I

497
00:27:57,200 --> 00:27:59,640
Speaker 1: think that's what connects us all, you know, like when

498
00:27:59,680 --> 00:28:02,520
Speaker 1: you really kind of peel back the layers and you're

499
00:28:02,560 --> 00:28:05,520
Speaker 1: just kind of like admit the things that are super embarrassing.

500
00:28:05,560 --> 00:28:07,960
Speaker 1: And then when somebody says me too, like I literally

501
00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:09,560
Speaker 1: never forget I was so embarrassed to say I had

502
00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:12,960
Speaker 1: a dear future husband journal. What's what's that? Why is

503
00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:15,879
Speaker 1: it like write letters to my dear future Husband's beautiful?

504
00:28:16,280 --> 00:28:18,760
Speaker 1: I love that I would so do something like it's

505
00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:23,600
Speaker 1: like I mean a lot of people for sure, But

506
00:28:22,040 --> 00:28:25,439
Speaker 1: then but a lot of people responded and we're like,

507
00:28:25,480 --> 00:28:27,080
Speaker 1: oh my god, like I do that too. When I

508
00:28:27,080 --> 00:28:28,439
Speaker 1: gave it to my husband one day, and it's like,

509
00:28:28,480 --> 00:28:31,040
Speaker 1: it's so cool when you find people that are like

510
00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 1: the same and do things like the same. When it's

511
00:28:33,080 --> 00:28:35,720
Speaker 1: like something that seems so crazy to other people, you know, right,

512
00:28:35,920 --> 00:28:39,360
Speaker 1: it's like the most fring feeling. It's very comforting, very fring.

513
00:28:39,600 --> 00:28:45,800
Speaker 1: Like even um, I'll look at like Lizzo or Babe

514
00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:49,920
Speaker 1: or like Billy and I remember even Lizzo. She's at

515
00:28:49,960 --> 00:28:53,040
Speaker 1: the top. She's one of the most loved artists to me.

516
00:28:53,280 --> 00:28:56,160
Speaker 1: She I'm like a music person, like a singing person,

517
00:28:56,280 --> 00:28:58,960
Speaker 1: Like I love people who sing, and she's one of

518
00:28:59,000 --> 00:29:03,000
Speaker 1: those who has a trummendous voice, and she's bringing music back,

519
00:29:03,000 --> 00:29:06,959
Speaker 1: in my opinion, with with her own modern sound. I

520
00:29:07,000 --> 00:29:09,240
Speaker 1: love her and it's so comforting to know even someone

521
00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:11,840
Speaker 1: like that who's at the top, everybody loves her. But

522
00:29:11,880 --> 00:29:14,440
Speaker 1: even she's like, I have the escape Twitter because this

523
00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:16,960
Speaker 1: is getting too much. It's like, oh, like we all

524
00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:19,200
Speaker 1: go through the same thing and she's at the top.

525
00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:21,640
Speaker 1: You know, it's so you know, it's actually really interesting.

526
00:29:21,680 --> 00:29:23,320
Speaker 1: So I was talking to a girlfriend of mine the

527
00:29:23,320 --> 00:29:26,000
Speaker 1: other day and I was telling her, how, um, I

528
00:29:26,080 --> 00:29:29,280
Speaker 1: have a boyfriend. I told you this, right, But I

529
00:29:29,320 --> 00:29:33,760
Speaker 1: was like, I can be myself, Like he literally knows

530
00:29:33,800 --> 00:29:36,680
Speaker 1: all the weird things about me. There's like no hidden anything,

531
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:39,240
Speaker 1: Like he knows the weird, the good, the bad, ugly

532
00:29:39,280 --> 00:29:42,360
Speaker 1: of me best. It's so nice because I know I'm

533
00:29:42,360 --> 00:29:44,280
Speaker 1: a lot, Like I know my personality is like a lot.

534
00:29:44,320 --> 00:29:46,920
Speaker 1: And so I was telling one of my girlfriends about this,

535
00:29:46,920 --> 00:29:48,520
Speaker 1: and she's like, you know what, I'm actually trying to

536
00:29:48,560 --> 00:29:50,320
Speaker 1: do that more in my dating life right now. She's

537
00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:53,040
Speaker 1: like I used to always when I newly was dating somebody,

538
00:29:53,120 --> 00:29:55,320
Speaker 1: I always kind of put on like my you know,

539
00:29:55,360 --> 00:29:57,400
Speaker 1: you would put on your best self or whatever. But

540
00:29:57,400 --> 00:29:59,800
Speaker 1: she's like, for the first time she's having a conversation

541
00:29:59,800 --> 00:30:02,240
Speaker 1: with this guy, and he, um, they were kind of

542
00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:03,880
Speaker 1: talking about, like what's the longest you've gone without like

543
00:30:03,960 --> 00:30:07,000
Speaker 1: drinking or like part like going out or something like that.

544
00:30:07,040 --> 00:30:08,880
Speaker 1: And she was like, normally I would just kind of

545
00:30:08,920 --> 00:30:11,000
Speaker 1: say like I would just make something up or whatever,

546
00:30:11,080 --> 00:30:13,600
Speaker 1: but she froze her eggs and so she was like,

547
00:30:13,640 --> 00:30:15,640
Speaker 1: I actually, um, I had to go a month without

548
00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:17,760
Speaker 1: drinking or doing going out or anything because I froze

549
00:30:17,760 --> 00:30:19,840
Speaker 1: my eggs. And she's like when I said that to

550
00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:21,760
Speaker 1: a guy that She's like, it was so weird. Like

551
00:30:21,800 --> 00:30:26,720
Speaker 1: I just felt so powerful almost, like I mean, it's

552
00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:28,600
Speaker 1: like you're always kind of trying to sign stuff, and

553
00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:30,800
Speaker 1: like she's like, I'm just taking this new approach where

554
00:30:30,840 --> 00:30:33,000
Speaker 1: like I used to be really easy going and I'd

555
00:30:33,040 --> 00:30:34,800
Speaker 1: be like, okay, yeah, I'll meet you here even though

556
00:30:34,800 --> 00:30:36,440
Speaker 1: I live way over here. And she's like, now I'm

557
00:30:36,440 --> 00:30:40,040
Speaker 1: like let's meet in the middle and let's yeah. And

558
00:30:40,080 --> 00:30:43,560
Speaker 1: it's like really amazing. That's so inspiring. And I like,

559
00:30:44,000 --> 00:30:47,040
Speaker 1: whoever you are, go you because that takes bravery, it

560
00:30:47,080 --> 00:30:52,520
Speaker 1: takes gut. Like I feel like, um, just what you're

561
00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:55,120
Speaker 1: telling me is that She's like, I don't know, I

562
00:30:55,160 --> 00:30:57,120
Speaker 1: feel like I can identify a little bit of where

563
00:30:57,160 --> 00:31:00,840
Speaker 1: she's very like she wants to people please her exactly.

564
00:31:00,920 --> 00:31:03,479
Speaker 1: That's how I feel like I'm starting to go there

565
00:31:03,680 --> 00:31:07,920
Speaker 1: was I was still working on it. I think it's

566
00:31:07,920 --> 00:31:09,640
Speaker 1: like the best thing to give to people and to

567
00:31:09,760 --> 00:31:12,800
Speaker 1: like make other people's lives easier and happy and be that,

568
00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:14,760
Speaker 1: but at the end of the day to take care

569
00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:17,480
Speaker 1: of yourself too. Yes, And I like, I'm just learning

570
00:31:17,520 --> 00:31:20,760
Speaker 1: that in this year of life. And it's awesome because

571
00:31:20,800 --> 00:31:25,360
Speaker 1: you make everyone's lives better and everybody becomes happy and

572
00:31:25,880 --> 00:31:29,680
Speaker 1: you form healthy relationships. It's just so cool hearing her story.

573
00:31:30,360 --> 00:31:32,960
Speaker 1: You have you ever taken the angeogram test? No, but

574
00:31:33,160 --> 00:31:36,760
Speaker 1: I someone else told me that I'd be so curious

575
00:31:36,800 --> 00:31:40,000
Speaker 1: because I am so I'm a number nine and I'm

576
00:31:40,080 --> 00:31:42,880
Speaker 1: the same way like I'm I'm thirty one, but I'm

577
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:45,959
Speaker 1: I'm just having that moment of being like, oh my gosh,

578
00:31:46,160 --> 00:31:50,120
Speaker 1: I've always only been so worried about making sure everyone

579
00:31:50,160 --> 00:31:54,320
Speaker 1: else is happy. And I even thought because I thought,

580
00:31:54,360 --> 00:31:55,840
Speaker 1: like I need to change that, like I need to

581
00:31:55,840 --> 00:31:57,560
Speaker 1: take care of myself. But I was like, I like

582
00:31:57,680 --> 00:32:00,280
Speaker 1: that about myself, Like I'm happy that I want people

583
00:32:00,280 --> 00:32:02,040
Speaker 1: to be happy around and that I want people to

584
00:32:02,080 --> 00:32:06,000
Speaker 1: be comfortable and be generous towards people, but there has

585
00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:08,000
Speaker 1: to be a balance of knowing that I'm taking care

586
00:32:08,040 --> 00:32:10,840
Speaker 1: of myself so that I can give to other people.

587
00:32:12,360 --> 00:32:13,960
Speaker 1: So I would be interested to know what you are

588
00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:16,720
Speaker 1: because you're so kind and you're so sweet, and you're

589
00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:19,280
Speaker 1: in this world where it's not like that. You know,

590
00:32:19,320 --> 00:32:23,440
Speaker 1: you're an industry. That's really hard, and I'm like, the

591
00:32:23,480 --> 00:32:26,640
Speaker 1: downside to that is I have been taken advantage of

592
00:32:26,840 --> 00:32:30,320
Speaker 1: because I've been so kind or or I didn't want

593
00:32:30,320 --> 00:32:34,040
Speaker 1: to hurt someone's feelings or whatever, and that's, you know,

594
00:32:34,280 --> 00:32:37,960
Speaker 1: really awful. So um, just learning that is really cool.

595
00:32:38,120 --> 00:32:40,080
Speaker 1: And I love that you're you're kind of on the

596
00:32:40,160 --> 00:32:43,200
Speaker 1: same path here where you're like absorbing that as well

597
00:32:43,200 --> 00:32:45,840
Speaker 1: and like shaking steps. That's awesome. I have to take

598
00:32:45,880 --> 00:32:49,040
Speaker 1: this test. How do you take it? Like a website? Yeah, okay,

599
00:32:49,160 --> 00:32:52,000
Speaker 1: it takes a minute. And the questions are interesting because

600
00:32:52,040 --> 00:32:55,240
Speaker 1: they're they're kind of it's they're kind of weird questions

601
00:32:55,280 --> 00:32:56,800
Speaker 1: that you don't really think of, so you do have

602
00:32:56,880 --> 00:32:58,880
Speaker 1: to stop and think and you have to be honest

603
00:32:58,880 --> 00:33:01,880
Speaker 1: with yourself, which is sometimes hard because you're like, if

604
00:33:01,920 --> 00:33:04,560
Speaker 1: you're naturally a people pleaser, you're like, what's the best

605
00:33:04,680 --> 00:33:08,560
Speaker 1: answer that sounds right to people like it's weird. Yeah,

606
00:33:08,680 --> 00:33:10,520
Speaker 1: so you really have to just be honest, like, oh,

607
00:33:10,560 --> 00:33:12,960
Speaker 1: I guess I think this way in this situation, but

608
00:33:13,920 --> 00:33:16,640
Speaker 1: it'd be it'd be interesting. Should definitely take well, I'm

609
00:33:16,680 --> 00:33:18,560
Speaker 1: gonna take it. I'm gonna recommend it back to you.

610
00:33:19,080 --> 00:33:23,000
Speaker 1: Recommend a book to you too? Are you single? Dating? Single?

611
00:33:23,080 --> 00:33:27,320
Speaker 1: Or dating? In that realm books? It's called Calling in

612
00:33:27,360 --> 00:33:32,520
Speaker 1: the one? Okay, it's so good. It's so basically like

613
00:33:32,560 --> 00:33:35,000
Speaker 1: every day you know, it's like a different chapter in

614
00:33:35,040 --> 00:33:37,640
Speaker 1: the one because the homework element of it does put

615
00:33:37,680 --> 00:33:44,320
Speaker 1: some people off homework about yourself, so it's very introspective

616
00:33:44,400 --> 00:33:46,080
Speaker 1: and so every day you read like it's a small

617
00:33:46,080 --> 00:33:48,280
Speaker 1: little blurb but like a page or two, and then

618
00:33:48,280 --> 00:33:50,320
Speaker 1: it gives you like an assignment every day for seven

619
00:33:50,360 --> 00:33:53,560
Speaker 1: weeks and awesome. Let me tell you this. I completed

620
00:33:53,680 --> 00:33:57,959
Speaker 1: my workbook in December. I had my official boyfriend end

621
00:33:57,960 --> 00:34:03,120
Speaker 1: of January. Wow, that's saying something. So basically, this this book,

622
00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:05,920
Speaker 1: it just like it's almost like therapy without going to

623
00:34:05,920 --> 00:34:08,960
Speaker 1: a therapist, because it makes you, like, it makes you

624
00:34:09,120 --> 00:34:11,520
Speaker 1: just getting dating patterns and stuff, and it's funny because

625
00:34:11,640 --> 00:34:14,080
Speaker 1: I was about like three weeks into the book when

626
00:34:14,120 --> 00:34:17,040
Speaker 1: I met the guy that i'm dating now on our

627
00:34:17,040 --> 00:34:18,640
Speaker 1: first day, I was like, oh my gosh, so I

628
00:34:18,719 --> 00:34:20,920
Speaker 1: have this dating pattern that I just realized because I'm

629
00:34:20,920 --> 00:34:22,840
Speaker 1: doing this work book. I was like very honest about it,

630
00:34:22,880 --> 00:34:26,040
Speaker 1: and he was like, wow, you that's cool. You can

631
00:34:26,080 --> 00:34:27,879
Speaker 1: like identify your dating patterns. I was like, well, it's

632
00:34:27,880 --> 00:34:33,839
Speaker 1: the lesson my my lesson today, wow, from the book. Yeah,

633
00:34:35,480 --> 00:34:37,680
Speaker 1: but I never told him the title of it. I

634
00:34:37,680 --> 00:34:41,080
Speaker 1: didn't say Calling in the One is like a little aggressive, um,

635
00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:42,920
Speaker 1: but I said it was like a workbook. It was

636
00:34:42,960 --> 00:34:45,400
Speaker 1: like a seven week workbook. That is so cool calling

637
00:34:45,440 --> 00:34:47,840
Speaker 1: in the One, But don't start unless you're one of

638
00:34:47,920 --> 00:34:51,640
Speaker 1: boyfriend and you're busy. I just want to put that

639
00:34:51,920 --> 00:34:59,840
Speaker 1: post tour reading right to come down. I'll be on

640
00:34:59,880 --> 00:35:01,719
Speaker 1: the look at you. Um. And then you have also

641
00:35:01,760 --> 00:35:05,080
Speaker 1: have a new single out. Yes, such a bob, thank

642
00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:10,440
Speaker 1: you so much, nobody good. Well, I can't say I

643
00:35:10,560 --> 00:35:18,440
Speaker 1: was good, you can't. That was a wonderful thank you. Um.

644
00:35:18,480 --> 00:35:21,239
Speaker 1: It's awesome when anyone sings myself back to me. I

645
00:35:21,280 --> 00:35:24,920
Speaker 1: love it. It's really cool. But yeah, so that's um

646
00:35:25,000 --> 00:35:27,640
Speaker 1: my new single. And it's just me in it, and

647
00:35:27,680 --> 00:35:30,919
Speaker 1: I love the message because it's talking about how I'm

648
00:35:30,960 --> 00:35:33,520
Speaker 1: just not going to accept anybody who's not good for me,

649
00:35:33,840 --> 00:35:37,080
Speaker 1: someone who's toxic, and and the verses it talks about

650
00:35:37,120 --> 00:35:41,480
Speaker 1: how like you're in this intoxicating kind of place and

651
00:35:41,520 --> 00:35:45,960
Speaker 1: you're like, oh, I'm infatuated, but then the chorus you're like, wait, no,

652
00:35:46,000 --> 00:35:48,279
Speaker 1: this person is not good for me and I'm not

653
00:35:48,280 --> 00:35:51,600
Speaker 1: going to accept it and I'm good on my own, baby,

654
00:35:51,680 --> 00:35:54,279
Speaker 1: and it's like a really cool story. So I love

655
00:35:54,520 --> 00:35:57,799
Speaker 1: I love this record. And then actually today I just

656
00:35:57,880 --> 00:36:01,840
Speaker 1: came out with my collab afro Jack called All Nights.

657
00:36:03,800 --> 00:36:06,120
Speaker 1: I love him. It's so cool because I grew up

658
00:36:06,440 --> 00:36:08,640
Speaker 1: listening to him well, you know, like in middle school

659
00:36:08,640 --> 00:36:11,200
Speaker 1: with my friends, and it's just so crazy that now

660
00:36:11,239 --> 00:36:14,239
Speaker 1: I have a collab with him. Is really cool. Isn't

661
00:36:14,239 --> 00:36:18,400
Speaker 1: it cool? Those full circle moments like what the mind blowing?

662
00:36:18,440 --> 00:36:22,040
Speaker 1: I'm like, Wow, it's awesome. So I love this song.

663
00:36:22,239 --> 00:36:25,040
Speaker 1: I love this song, so you guys got to check

664
00:36:25,040 --> 00:36:27,759
Speaker 1: it out. So awesome. I'm so excited for you that

665
00:36:27,840 --> 00:36:30,840
Speaker 1: you're coming out doing your own thing. It's all happening

666
00:36:30,880 --> 00:36:33,480
Speaker 1: for you. And then you're You're performing for the Selena

667
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Speaker 1: Tribute in UM, Texas, right, Yes, I am. Oh my god,

668
00:36:39,360 --> 00:36:45,200
Speaker 1: I am just beyond beyond excited, beyond thankful. Like it's

669
00:36:45,239 --> 00:36:48,440
Speaker 1: a very emotional thing because Lena is my favorite UM

670
00:36:48,640 --> 00:36:52,719
Speaker 1: singer of all time. And I got to know Suzette

671
00:36:52,960 --> 00:36:56,319
Speaker 1: this past year and which is her sister, and she

672
00:36:56,400 --> 00:36:58,400
Speaker 1: asked me, And when she asked me, I start tearing

673
00:36:58,440 --> 00:37:01,000
Speaker 1: up because it meant so much. And it's at the

674
00:37:01,040 --> 00:37:07,160
Speaker 1: Alamo Dome in San Antonio. Yeah, so that's that's a

675
00:37:07,200 --> 00:37:13,000
Speaker 1: special thing that happens in May. Yeah. Amazing. Yeah. And

676
00:37:13,000 --> 00:37:16,759
Speaker 1: then right before that, I'm in Santonio, martched thirty or

677
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Speaker 1: one of those. UM So San Antonio my hometown. If

678
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Speaker 1: you're listening, please buy tickets from my hometown show. Um

679
00:37:25,200 --> 00:37:29,120
Speaker 1: I'm playing at the Aztec Theater. UM. Yes. So it's

680
00:37:29,160 --> 00:37:31,880
Speaker 1: gonna be so much fun, incredible, and I'm gonna have

681
00:37:31,920 --> 00:37:34,879
Speaker 1: something special plan because you're my hometown. I love you guys.

682
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Speaker 1: Get your TICKETSOK. Dot com is actually thinking about that.

683
00:37:38,760 --> 00:37:41,799
Speaker 1: But you doing the Selena Tribute show in your hometown

684
00:37:42,000 --> 00:37:46,040
Speaker 1: in an arena that seats seventy peopleable, that's gonna be

685
00:37:46,040 --> 00:37:49,120
Speaker 1: an amazing moment in your life that you will never forget.

686
00:37:49,280 --> 00:37:53,800
Speaker 1: It's exactly like I've kind of dreamt about this because

687
00:37:53,840 --> 00:37:58,080
Speaker 1: I've again watched Selena and have watched almost every video

688
00:37:58,400 --> 00:38:01,000
Speaker 1: about her, you know, all the tribute dutes from n

689
00:38:01,600 --> 00:38:04,960
Speaker 1: and Telemundo and everything, and I hope that one day

690
00:38:04,960 --> 00:38:06,600
Speaker 1: I want to be a part of it. Now I am,

691
00:38:06,719 --> 00:38:09,360
Speaker 1: and it's just like there really no words. It's a

692
00:38:09,400 --> 00:38:11,640
Speaker 1: moment where if your twelve year old self could see

693
00:38:11,640 --> 00:38:16,239
Speaker 1: you now, that twelve year old would like, I don't

694
00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:18,080
Speaker 1: know what she would she would not believe it, she

695
00:38:18,080 --> 00:38:20,200
Speaker 1: would cry all these she's going to be in there

696
00:38:20,239 --> 00:38:24,680
Speaker 1: that day. Yes, yes, yeah, for sure she is. You're

697
00:38:24,680 --> 00:38:29,359
Speaker 1: singing not yet actually yeah, a bunch of her stuff

698
00:38:29,360 --> 00:38:30,680
Speaker 1: that I feel like, I saw you did a song

699
00:38:30,719 --> 00:38:34,560
Speaker 1: for Wango Tango. Yeah. So I do a lot of

700
00:38:34,600 --> 00:38:38,880
Speaker 1: like Selena tributes whenever I can, because it's really cool

701
00:38:38,920 --> 00:38:43,239
Speaker 1: because um, I think about going to these different markets

702
00:38:43,640 --> 00:38:48,120
Speaker 1: and for me to always highlight um, honor her in

703
00:38:48,120 --> 00:38:50,839
Speaker 1: her life, and and maybe bring her music to people

704
00:38:50,880 --> 00:38:52,839
Speaker 1: who may have never heard of her. You know, there's

705
00:38:52,880 --> 00:38:56,960
Speaker 1: like younger girls or boys. I think that's really awesome.

706
00:38:57,000 --> 00:38:59,440
Speaker 1: So I tried to do it whenever I can, because

707
00:38:59,440 --> 00:39:04,840
Speaker 1: she such a beautiful spirit and the soul and an artist,

708
00:39:05,120 --> 00:39:08,600
Speaker 1: and she deserves all the love and recognition and her

709
00:39:08,640 --> 00:39:12,759
Speaker 1: legacy still so strong more than ever five years later.

710
00:39:13,120 --> 00:39:16,880
Speaker 1: It's crazy, that's so awesome. Well, we were so honored

711
00:39:16,920 --> 00:39:21,799
Speaker 1: to have you come. We are so excited for you,

712
00:39:21,840 --> 00:39:23,200
Speaker 1: and we can't wait to see you when you come

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Speaker 1: to the l R again. Tickets on sale right now

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Speaker 1: you with a Bachelor Live on Stage. Becka Koufern and

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Speaker 1: I can't wait to hit the road as your co

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Speaker 1: host of this amazing journey. But we need your help.

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Speaker 1: to enjoy the show from your seat, It's going to

730
00:40:30,840 --> 00:40:40,040
Speaker 1: be a night to remember. Wow, it's like my first

731
00:40:40,120 --> 00:40:42,920
Speaker 1: day at work. Antonia just went to start and have

732
00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:45,200
Speaker 1: her Michael and I had to reach over turn it on.

733
00:40:45,360 --> 00:40:49,440
Speaker 1: I would eventually realize it wasn't yeh eventually, Um, she

734
00:40:49,640 --> 00:40:53,439
Speaker 1: is the cutest ever I know, Like, and not only

735
00:40:53,480 --> 00:40:56,000
Speaker 1: is she the cutest ever, She's been that way literally

736
00:40:56,040 --> 00:40:57,719
Speaker 1: since the first time I met her, and that was

737
00:40:57,800 --> 00:41:02,319
Speaker 1: like eight years ago. It's so interesting because you do

738
00:41:02,520 --> 00:41:08,200
Speaker 1: I remember, like you see or you're critical about people,

739
00:41:08,280 --> 00:41:10,880
Speaker 1: and then you hear things that they go through and

740
00:41:10,920 --> 00:41:13,799
Speaker 1: you kind of go, oh, my gosh, Like we are

741
00:41:13,880 --> 00:41:16,640
Speaker 1: so quick to be like to just say things without

742
00:41:16,680 --> 00:41:19,799
Speaker 1: even not even trying to be like a bully or

743
00:41:19,800 --> 00:41:21,640
Speaker 1: you know, anything a troll or anything like that, but

744
00:41:21,719 --> 00:41:25,279
Speaker 1: you say things without thinking, and then you realize, like

745
00:41:25,800 --> 00:41:30,280
Speaker 1: that is something that she's overcome that insecurity of dancing.

746
00:41:30,360 --> 00:41:32,560
Speaker 1: Like I know, it's funny because I forgot, like I

747
00:41:32,680 --> 00:41:35,600
Speaker 1: knew that she got a lot of harsh like critiques

748
00:41:35,640 --> 00:41:37,480
Speaker 1: and people really mean to her about her dancing when

749
00:41:37,520 --> 00:41:40,480
Speaker 1: she was in fifth Harmony. Um, like I didn't connect

750
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:41,959
Speaker 1: the dots when I found out she was on Dancing

751
00:41:41,960 --> 00:41:44,960
Speaker 1: with the Stars, Like how gnarly that must have been

752
00:41:45,040 --> 00:41:47,400
Speaker 1: to like face head on, you know, Like I didn't

753
00:41:47,400 --> 00:41:49,319
Speaker 1: really connect the dots until she had said it. It's

754
00:41:49,320 --> 00:41:52,160
Speaker 1: so funny because I remember seeing them, and I mean

755
00:41:52,200 --> 00:41:55,200
Speaker 1: you have to think that like Normany is like an

756
00:41:55,239 --> 00:41:58,480
Speaker 1: insane dancer, Like the girls are all amazing dancers. But

757
00:41:58,960 --> 00:42:01,920
Speaker 1: it's cool that she said, you know what, like she

758
00:42:01,960 --> 00:42:04,040
Speaker 1: said she could have ran away from that. I would

759
00:42:04,120 --> 00:42:05,799
Speaker 1: run away from that in a heartbeat if that was

760
00:42:05,840 --> 00:42:08,600
Speaker 1: my insecurity. But that's so cool and the fact that

761
00:42:08,640 --> 00:42:11,120
Speaker 1: she did it and then she had a great season

762
00:42:11,239 --> 00:42:14,160
Speaker 1: on there and also built you can feel like her

763
00:42:14,200 --> 00:42:17,520
Speaker 1: confidence talking about it. That's really cool. I feel like

764
00:42:17,600 --> 00:42:19,400
Speaker 1: proud of her. We have been of the show. I

765
00:42:19,440 --> 00:42:22,680
Speaker 1: put him counter Yeah, yeah, yeah, that'd be really fun. Um.

766
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Speaker 1: We had the best time at our l A show.

767
00:42:25,960 --> 00:42:28,520
Speaker 1: The best are the two shows are San Francisco and

768
00:42:28,600 --> 00:42:31,600
Speaker 1: l A shows were just like they're the only ones

769
00:42:31,680 --> 00:42:33,920
Speaker 1: we've had, but they were freaking awesome. And I just

770
00:42:33,960 --> 00:42:40,280
Speaker 1: had to say, are scrubbing and sisters are so effing thoughtful?

771
00:42:40,840 --> 00:42:43,920
Speaker 1: Like I literally when I was like opening the gifts

772
00:42:43,960 --> 00:42:46,960
Speaker 1: and the cards and the letters and stuff, like they're

773
00:42:47,120 --> 00:42:50,880
Speaker 1: so nice, Like I get so emotional, like and I

774
00:42:51,200 --> 00:42:53,320
Speaker 1: keep them on, keeping everything in like a box because

775
00:42:53,360 --> 00:42:56,640
Speaker 1: like that little butterfly that with the butterfly dr Pepper,

776
00:42:57,640 --> 00:43:01,120
Speaker 1: So like, what did you guys make the like where

777
00:43:01,120 --> 00:43:03,400
Speaker 1: did that come from? You know, even if you just

778
00:43:03,440 --> 00:43:06,040
Speaker 1: found it, how did you find that? I was so

779
00:43:07,520 --> 00:43:10,040
Speaker 1: so you were going you like posted on your story

780
00:43:10,200 --> 00:43:12,440
Speaker 1: and I had like one bag and I had a

781
00:43:12,440 --> 00:43:14,400
Speaker 1: few cards and some candy, but that was it. And

782
00:43:14,440 --> 00:43:17,120
Speaker 1: I was like Tony about all these gifts and stuff

783
00:43:17,160 --> 00:43:20,839
Speaker 1: like what And then Hayley goes, oh, there's another bag

784
00:43:20,920 --> 00:43:23,920
Speaker 1: of gifts from like the scrubbing in and they were

785
00:43:23,920 --> 00:43:26,680
Speaker 1: all like these like nice thoughtful things that you got

786
00:43:26,719 --> 00:43:31,040
Speaker 1: to I was like, oh, I was like, man, Tony

787
00:43:31,280 --> 00:43:35,520
Speaker 1: is the favorite stress. Wow. That never happens to me.

788
00:43:35,560 --> 00:43:38,279
Speaker 1: So I would be honored if I were. But I'm

789
00:43:38,280 --> 00:43:41,799
Speaker 1: not know that it was the most thoughtful the things

790
00:43:41,840 --> 00:43:44,719
Speaker 1: that they write, the thoughtfulness of the gifts, it's it's

791
00:43:44,880 --> 00:43:47,439
Speaker 1: even the cards, like the car there was a whole

792
00:43:47,480 --> 00:43:50,239
Speaker 1: main card that was like had a red starbers on

793
00:43:50,280 --> 00:43:52,640
Speaker 1: it that like and then the Red starbus had butterflies

794
00:43:52,680 --> 00:43:54,160
Speaker 1: lying out of it. I was just like that, like

795
00:43:55,680 --> 00:43:58,560
Speaker 1: it was so nice. I know, we love you guys.

796
00:43:58,600 --> 00:44:01,319
Speaker 1: It's so it's like so much fun. Every time we

797
00:44:01,360 --> 00:44:03,759
Speaker 1: get to meet you all and have those moments, it's

798
00:44:03,800 --> 00:44:06,600
Speaker 1: just just such a good reminder. And then I got

799
00:44:06,640 --> 00:44:09,600
Speaker 1: so many messages about the show after it went The

800
00:44:09,640 --> 00:44:14,400
Speaker 1: podcast went up, and the amount of people who responded

801
00:44:14,400 --> 00:44:17,000
Speaker 1: about Melinda, and you know, I was talking about her

802
00:44:17,000 --> 00:44:18,799
Speaker 1: and that they're praying for her and they're thinking of

803
00:44:18,800 --> 00:44:22,280
Speaker 1: her and sending her good vibes and I'm just so proud.

804
00:44:22,640 --> 00:44:26,880
Speaker 1: I feel like, literally the most proud thing I feel

805
00:44:26,920 --> 00:44:30,800
Speaker 1: about the podcast is our group, our community. Sure, um

806
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:34,399
Speaker 1: so yeah, we're hoping. We're not sure like when we'll

807
00:44:34,400 --> 00:44:36,960
Speaker 1: be doing more shows, but where we want to get

808
00:44:37,000 --> 00:44:39,920
Speaker 1: to all of you, I promise. Yeah, that was our last.

809
00:44:40,000 --> 00:44:45,239
Speaker 1: We're officially off tour. Now the bus. The bus has stopped,

810
00:44:45,440 --> 00:44:48,640
Speaker 1: we are bags are unpacked, and we're home now for

811
00:44:48,680 --> 00:44:52,759
Speaker 1: a minute. Everyone. It's sad that everyone can't experience this,

812
00:44:52,840 --> 00:44:54,560
Speaker 1: but everyone should, at some point in their life be

813
00:44:54,560 --> 00:44:56,799
Speaker 1: able to experience what I experienced when I walked out

814
00:44:56,800 --> 00:44:59,840
Speaker 1: on that stage to that response from that group of people.

815
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:03,279
Speaker 1: It is unbelievable to experience that. So thank you for

816
00:45:03,360 --> 00:45:10,080
Speaker 1: that loud, so incredibly loud. They even said on the

817
00:45:10,120 --> 00:45:12,080
Speaker 1: part they were like, can we lower the volume of

818
00:45:12,160 --> 00:45:15,680
Speaker 1: the crowd come out because my I love you guys,

819
00:45:15,680 --> 00:45:19,839
Speaker 1: but my ear drums are damnag amazing. No for an

820
00:45:19,840 --> 00:45:21,920
Speaker 1: old guy like me, that was a pretty special moment.

821
00:45:22,480 --> 00:45:26,799
Speaker 1: Al right. Uh k M sent us this email. She

822
00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:29,920
Speaker 1: was very happily married to her soul mate. We started

823
00:45:30,160 --> 00:45:31,959
Speaker 1: when I was eighteen, he was nineteen. In the first

824
00:45:31,960 --> 00:45:34,160
Speaker 1: few years it was a typical college romance on and off.

825
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Speaker 1: But during the off time I always went back to

826
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Speaker 1: this one guy, somebody I used to work with. He

827
00:45:38,480 --> 00:45:40,840
Speaker 1: was older, not as cute as my husband, but we

828
00:45:40,920 --> 00:45:44,040
Speaker 1: had crazy chemistry and he was hilarious. When my husband

829
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Speaker 1: and I got into her late twenties, we realized we

830
00:45:45,760 --> 00:45:47,960
Speaker 1: wanted to be together. And that was that. Right before

831
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Speaker 1: we got engaged, the old co worker wanted to try

832
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Speaker 1: to get together. I said, no, no no, no, no, You'll

833
00:45:51,880 --> 00:45:54,040
Speaker 1: always have a special place in my heart. But you're

834
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Speaker 1: the one that got away, and that was the last

835
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Speaker 1: time I saw him. No, no, no, he will always

836
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Speaker 1: have a but I told him, he will always say,

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00:46:01,480 --> 00:46:06,520
Speaker 1: oh yeah, the cok. She told the whole coworker that

838
00:46:06,560 --> 00:46:08,759
Speaker 1: he's the one that got away. Which that's a big one.

839
00:46:09,360 --> 00:46:12,759
Speaker 1: That's a big thing to say to somebody. Yeah. Fast forward,

840
00:46:12,800 --> 00:46:14,960
Speaker 1: twelve very happy years with my husband, and we just

841
00:46:14,960 --> 00:46:18,680
Speaker 1: bought a new house, and that guy is best friends

842
00:46:18,760 --> 00:46:21,719
Speaker 1: with my next door neighbor. So now I see him

843
00:46:21,800 --> 00:46:24,200
Speaker 1: randomly and I can't get him out of my head.

844
00:46:24,360 --> 00:46:26,600
Speaker 1: Age one with my husband, who was still white hotter,

845
00:46:26,920 --> 00:46:29,520
Speaker 1: but that connection I had with him, I still feel.

846
00:46:30,280 --> 00:46:32,680
Speaker 1: I unfriended him on all social media. I told my

847
00:46:32,760 --> 00:46:35,440
Speaker 1: husband most of the story, But why can't I get

848
00:46:35,480 --> 00:46:37,239
Speaker 1: that guy out of my head? Is it normal to

849
00:46:37,280 --> 00:46:40,239
Speaker 1: have feelings for the guy that got away? Does do

850
00:46:40,360 --> 00:46:49,000
Speaker 1: those feelings go away over time? Oh? Okay, here's what

851
00:46:49,080 --> 00:46:52,760
Speaker 1: I have to say. You can't help how you feel,

852
00:46:52,880 --> 00:46:56,799
Speaker 1: but you can help how you respond to your feelings.

853
00:46:57,160 --> 00:46:59,399
Speaker 1: And I think you deleting him off of all your

854
00:46:59,400 --> 00:47:03,040
Speaker 1: social media, yeah, so that you're not even like connected

855
00:47:03,080 --> 00:47:05,920
Speaker 1: with him or seeing him more than you even have

856
00:47:06,040 --> 00:47:09,040
Speaker 1: to in real life. I think you need to just

857
00:47:09,520 --> 00:47:13,200
Speaker 1: stay away from it. You're married, you've made vows to

858
00:47:13,320 --> 00:47:17,520
Speaker 1: the your husband. I think what that is is just

859
00:47:17,640 --> 00:47:22,680
Speaker 1: that like maybe boredom you're maybe you're going through like

860
00:47:22,840 --> 00:47:25,680
Speaker 1: boredom or I don't know. I feel like I'm not

861
00:47:25,760 --> 00:47:29,920
Speaker 1: like capable, like qualified to answer this. There's like a

862
00:47:29,960 --> 00:47:31,840
Speaker 1: part of me that says, like, obviously, you still have

863
00:47:31,880 --> 00:47:34,360
Speaker 1: feelings for this man, so that's not right to your husband.

864
00:47:34,360 --> 00:47:39,960
Speaker 1: So maybe that got away. Yeah, so maybe you get

865
00:47:40,000 --> 00:47:42,560
Speaker 1: a divorce and go for this guy. I don't know,

866
00:47:43,719 --> 00:47:47,080
Speaker 1: I mean, right, I don't think it's not I hate

867
00:47:47,120 --> 00:47:52,720
Speaker 1: that advice. Please do not do not listen to Daniel

868
00:47:52,760 --> 00:47:55,040
Speaker 1: on this one. Well, I don't know, like I I

869
00:47:55,080 --> 00:47:57,000
Speaker 1: just can't. I don't know. I feel like it's not

870
00:47:58,400 --> 00:48:00,359
Speaker 1: I've never been married, so I don't know what it's

871
00:48:00,400 --> 00:48:02,000
Speaker 1: not going to have feelings for somebody else. Can I

872
00:48:02,040 --> 00:48:05,400
Speaker 1: see what I think I thought about after Tama's horrible

873
00:48:05,440 --> 00:48:08,799
Speaker 1: advice that brought me back, Um, I think maybe you

874
00:48:09,200 --> 00:48:12,680
Speaker 1: have a conversation with your husband that's going on and

875
00:48:12,719 --> 00:48:15,000
Speaker 1: just say I don't know what's happening. This guy has

876
00:48:15,040 --> 00:48:17,319
Speaker 1: been in my life and now he's like weirdly back

877
00:48:17,320 --> 00:48:21,759
Speaker 1: in it. I and maybe you go see couples a

878
00:48:21,840 --> 00:48:25,960
Speaker 1: couple's counselor to get that advice, transparency and communication, and

879
00:48:26,000 --> 00:48:28,319
Speaker 1: they can ask the right questions and y'all can talk

880
00:48:28,360 --> 00:48:30,879
Speaker 1: about it and have an open dialogue with someone there

881
00:48:31,000 --> 00:48:35,719
Speaker 1: because there's this is not going to go in a

882
00:48:35,760 --> 00:48:39,640
Speaker 1: good direction. If you just go for what your heart wants. Yeah,

883
00:48:39,640 --> 00:48:42,839
Speaker 1: and if you're hiding it, that's that's where it's like.

884
00:48:43,480 --> 00:48:46,279
Speaker 1: But if you're open and honest with your husband's that's great,

885
00:48:46,360 --> 00:48:48,440
Speaker 1: that's good advice. I don't I think it's going to

886
00:48:48,520 --> 00:48:50,400
Speaker 1: really freak your husband out when you tell them you

887
00:48:50,440 --> 00:48:53,799
Speaker 1: have these weird mystery feelings for this guy. Well, guess what,

888
00:48:53,840 --> 00:48:56,400
Speaker 1: I would scare the hell out of me. So you

889
00:48:56,480 --> 00:48:58,760
Speaker 1: just would want her to like harbor them and maybe

890
00:48:58,760 --> 00:49:02,120
Speaker 1: be like sneaky and trying to do stuff. No, not

891
00:49:02,160 --> 00:49:04,879
Speaker 1: trying to do anything. I thought the social media block

892
00:49:05,000 --> 00:49:06,680
Speaker 1: was a great thing. It just needs to be a

893
00:49:06,760 --> 00:49:09,439
Speaker 1: certain he's best friends with your next door neighbor. He's

894
00:49:09,480 --> 00:49:12,759
Speaker 1: not in your life and unless you want him to

895
00:49:12,760 --> 00:49:14,799
Speaker 1: be in your life, it's simply a wave if you

896
00:49:14,800 --> 00:49:17,399
Speaker 1: see him in the driveway right like, you're not having

897
00:49:17,440 --> 00:49:19,520
Speaker 1: big block parties, you're not hanging out with your next

898
00:49:19,560 --> 00:49:22,359
Speaker 1: door neighbor when he shows up. I feel like if

899
00:49:22,400 --> 00:49:24,480
Speaker 1: my ex girlfriend was from with my next door neighbor.

900
00:49:24,520 --> 00:49:26,640
Speaker 1: It would be okay. I could simply say, oh, hi,

901
00:49:26,680 --> 00:49:28,839
Speaker 1: how's it going, and that would be that the one

902
00:49:28,880 --> 00:49:30,560
Speaker 1: the phrase the one that got away, which you used

903
00:49:30,600 --> 00:49:33,560
Speaker 1: twice in this email, Skins, because there's an implication there

904
00:49:33,600 --> 00:49:36,920
Speaker 1: that there's regret there that you wish she hadn't got away,

905
00:49:37,520 --> 00:49:39,680
Speaker 1: and that's not a good sign for your future. So

906
00:49:39,760 --> 00:49:42,839
Speaker 1: I do like the idea of counseling, and I guess

907
00:49:42,840 --> 00:49:44,360
Speaker 1: you'd have to address it with your husband before you

908
00:49:44,400 --> 00:49:46,440
Speaker 1: get into counseling, but only if you feel like it's

909
00:49:46,480 --> 00:49:50,880
Speaker 1: that level of attraction. It sounds like it is because

910
00:49:50,880 --> 00:49:54,560
Speaker 1: she said you said it the one that got away twice,

911
00:49:54,719 --> 00:49:59,640
Speaker 1: So I think she is feeling very strongly about this guy,

912
00:50:00,560 --> 00:50:06,880
Speaker 1: and I think she needs to squash it. Anythink therapy

913
00:50:06,920 --> 00:50:09,520
Speaker 1: is the best way to squash it. I mean, I

914
00:50:09,640 --> 00:50:14,000
Speaker 1: just when so when I'm consumed by someone like that

915
00:50:14,040 --> 00:50:16,200
Speaker 1: and I can't stop thinking about it, I rarely just

916
00:50:16,239 --> 00:50:17,680
Speaker 1: put it in the back of my head and don't

917
00:50:17,680 --> 00:50:21,680
Speaker 1: do anything about it, Like when I ended things. If

918
00:50:21,680 --> 00:50:24,440
Speaker 1: I've ended things in like a relationship or something, and

919
00:50:24,480 --> 00:50:27,480
Speaker 1: I knew like I was bored and lonely, and I

920
00:50:27,520 --> 00:50:30,000
Speaker 1: was thinking about that person because I was bored and lonely.

921
00:50:30,520 --> 00:50:33,319
Speaker 1: I majority of the time ended up texting them, even

922
00:50:33,360 --> 00:50:34,960
Speaker 1: though I knew it was a selfish thing to do

923
00:50:35,080 --> 00:50:37,920
Speaker 1: and it wasn't good for either of us. And what

924
00:50:37,960 --> 00:50:40,319
Speaker 1: I'm saying is, she's a human. It's not like you

925
00:50:40,320 --> 00:50:41,719
Speaker 1: can just be like just put it in the back

926
00:50:41,719 --> 00:50:44,120
Speaker 1: of your head and don't think about it, like she's

927
00:50:44,120 --> 00:50:45,680
Speaker 1: going to think about it. So I think she needs

928
00:50:45,680 --> 00:50:47,640
Speaker 1: to address it to her husband. I think they need

929
00:50:47,680 --> 00:50:50,319
Speaker 1: to go to counseling and maybe try to ignite a

930
00:50:50,400 --> 00:50:53,200
Speaker 1: spark in their relationship that she thinks she's going to

931
00:50:53,360 --> 00:50:56,360
Speaker 1: find with this other guy, just because maybe you know,

932
00:50:56,400 --> 00:50:58,319
Speaker 1: they've been married for a long time and maybe she's

933
00:50:58,360 --> 00:51:01,080
Speaker 1: feeling bored or like not sad to find in that relationship.

934
00:51:01,120 --> 00:51:04,080
Speaker 1: And I think she needs to find what made her

935
00:51:04,400 --> 00:51:08,080
Speaker 1: choose her husband in the first place. Yeah, maybe we're

936
00:51:08,120 --> 00:51:11,920
Speaker 1: new year vows. Okay, we're gonna stick with Becca this

937
00:51:11,960 --> 00:51:16,000
Speaker 1: one alright, one more and this one was a little uh.

938
00:51:16,320 --> 00:51:20,040
Speaker 1: This one's the I think this one's even harder. From Anonymous,

939
00:51:20,120 --> 00:51:22,680
Speaker 1: My fiance and I have always watched bachelor shows together

940
00:51:22,960 --> 00:51:24,919
Speaker 1: and he's always been very critical of girls on TV

941
00:51:25,000 --> 00:51:27,280
Speaker 1: who looked like me, like they're my size and my shape.

942
00:51:27,520 --> 00:51:29,479
Speaker 1: On a recent episode, called one of the girls who's

943
00:51:29,480 --> 00:51:32,880
Speaker 1: about my size chunky, I asked, well, if she's chunky,

944
00:51:33,080 --> 00:51:35,879
Speaker 1: then one am I, without thinking, he said, well, you're

945
00:51:35,880 --> 00:51:40,120
Speaker 1: not that fat. Oh no, this isn't the first time

946
00:51:40,160 --> 00:51:42,320
Speaker 1: he slipped up like this and basically called me fat.

947
00:51:42,440 --> 00:51:45,280
Speaker 1: Although I wouldn't call myself tiny, I'm very self critical

948
00:51:45,280 --> 00:51:47,279
Speaker 1: and I work every day to be thin. On top

949
00:51:47,320 --> 00:51:49,480
Speaker 1: of that, We're getting married in less than three months,

950
00:51:49,480 --> 00:51:51,279
Speaker 1: so I was spending tons of time, money, and self

951
00:51:51,360 --> 00:51:54,120
Speaker 1: control to look the best I've ever looked. I always

952
00:51:54,120 --> 00:51:55,719
Speaker 1: thought the Menam Mayor would make me feel like the

953
00:51:55,719 --> 00:51:57,839
Speaker 1: most beautiful woman in the world, But he's never made

954
00:51:57,840 --> 00:51:59,840
Speaker 1: me feel that way, because I believe he truly doesn't

955
00:52:00,120 --> 00:52:02,239
Speaker 1: that way. Whenever I bring it up with him, he's

956
00:52:02,280 --> 00:52:06,719
Speaker 1: incredibly unconvincing. In my head, these sound like deal breakers,

957
00:52:06,920 --> 00:52:09,680
Speaker 1: but he's kind and caring in so many other ways.

958
00:52:09,920 --> 00:52:12,440
Speaker 1: He'd be a great father. We make a great team.

959
00:52:12,520 --> 00:52:15,239
Speaker 1: I still want to marry him. Am I being too sensitive?

960
00:52:15,320 --> 00:52:17,520
Speaker 1: Is that's a red flag? Is it something I can

961
00:52:17,560 --> 00:52:19,520
Speaker 1: work on with him? And how do I do that? Oh,

962
00:52:19,600 --> 00:52:23,000
Speaker 1: this is no way. And I just say The Bachelor

963
00:52:23,239 --> 00:52:27,680
Speaker 1: is criticized for not having anyone who's over a size

964
00:52:27,719 --> 00:52:32,080
Speaker 1: like two. Who say about someone that if you're not

965
00:52:32,320 --> 00:52:36,120
Speaker 1: that fat, like who on the show is even chunky?

966
00:52:36,160 --> 00:52:41,840
Speaker 1: As there's never been a chunky on The Bachelor. No, No,

967
00:52:42,040 --> 00:52:44,560
Speaker 1: And I mean that's kind of been Like I said,

968
00:52:44,600 --> 00:52:47,680
Speaker 1: that's been something that's been criticized because they you know,

969
00:52:48,239 --> 00:52:53,960
Speaker 1: this is how I see it. It's like you're going

970
00:52:54,000 --> 00:52:57,120
Speaker 1: to the grocery store and you're buying a carton of milk. Okay,

971
00:52:57,520 --> 00:53:01,680
Speaker 1: the milk's fine, it's not expired. The carton is a

972
00:53:01,719 --> 00:53:09,040
Speaker 1: little dingy, there's a little like it's brown. Some things

973
00:53:09,040 --> 00:53:14,799
Speaker 1: going on in that milk carton. You don't know what milk.

974
00:53:14,960 --> 00:53:16,959
Speaker 1: There's no label, you don't know what milk is in there.

975
00:53:17,560 --> 00:53:21,120
Speaker 1: Are you going to buy that milk just because it's

976
00:53:21,120 --> 00:53:25,160
Speaker 1: not expired. She's tried the milk. It's delicious. Fine, it's fine.

977
00:53:25,280 --> 00:53:28,360
Speaker 1: It's fine, maybe not delicious, it's good milk, quality milk.

978
00:53:28,920 --> 00:53:32,680
Speaker 1: I just feel like, if this is bothering you this

979
00:53:32,840 --> 00:53:37,680
Speaker 1: much already and you're not married, this milk has given

980
00:53:37,680 --> 00:53:41,920
Speaker 1: her a little bit of diarrhea. Let's be honest, Like,

981
00:53:42,280 --> 00:53:47,240
Speaker 1: I just um, I think that your husband, fiance, boyfriend

982
00:53:47,320 --> 00:53:49,320
Speaker 1: should make you feel like the most beautiful person in

983
00:53:49,360 --> 00:53:52,279
Speaker 1: the world, especially if you don't feel that way about yourself.

984
00:53:52,320 --> 00:53:54,200
Speaker 1: Like if you're saying you're doing all these things and

985
00:53:54,280 --> 00:53:57,680
Speaker 1: that's an insecurity of yours. You want your partner to like,

986
00:53:58,800 --> 00:54:01,200
Speaker 1: you know, be like you don't cellulite, even though I

987
00:54:01,360 --> 00:54:03,440
Speaker 1: fully have cellulite all over my body, you know what

988
00:54:03,480 --> 00:54:05,839
Speaker 1: I mean? Like you want that? Am I not? Am

989
00:54:05,840 --> 00:54:11,960
Speaker 1: I wrong? No? I I cannot imagine being with someone

990
00:54:12,000 --> 00:54:14,799
Speaker 1: who didn't actively make me feel like I was the

991
00:54:14,840 --> 00:54:17,279
Speaker 1: most beautiful person in the room, even if I knew

992
00:54:17,280 --> 00:54:20,440
Speaker 1: I wasn't. Yeah, Like that's how it should be, And

993
00:54:20,480 --> 00:54:23,480
Speaker 1: like we're self aware enough to know when there's someone

994
00:54:23,600 --> 00:54:27,360
Speaker 1: like with a better body or prettier or whatever in

995
00:54:27,400 --> 00:54:30,839
Speaker 1: the room. But that my like I have and the

996
00:54:30,880 --> 00:54:33,799
Speaker 1: reason why I've actually like gained weight and haven't really

997
00:54:33,800 --> 00:54:36,120
Speaker 1: done much about it is because I've been made to

998
00:54:36,200 --> 00:54:39,520
Speaker 1: feel like I look amazing no matter what. And I

999
00:54:39,560 --> 00:54:42,160
Speaker 1: think that's what you're supposed to feel from your partner,

1000
00:54:42,760 --> 00:54:47,080
Speaker 1: and especially if you voice your insecurity about it, and

1001
00:54:47,120 --> 00:54:50,400
Speaker 1: they don't, they don't even have enough in them to

1002
00:54:51,440 --> 00:54:55,680
Speaker 1: convince you or like make you feel better about that. Yeah,

1003
00:54:55,719 --> 00:54:58,440
Speaker 1: it doesn't sound great to me. I know. I've been

1004
00:54:58,440 --> 00:55:00,799
Speaker 1: feeling a little bit smsty about mysel this week because I,

1005
00:55:00,920 --> 00:55:02,440
Speaker 1: like I said, I said, I was trying to fight

1006
00:55:02,520 --> 00:55:04,920
Speaker 1: off not getting sick, so I just didn't work out.

1007
00:55:04,960 --> 00:55:06,719
Speaker 1: I didn't want to push myself this week. And it's

1008
00:55:06,719 --> 00:55:08,440
Speaker 1: really weird. It's like a mental thing like working out,

1009
00:55:08,480 --> 00:55:10,800
Speaker 1: just even though it probably doesn't do anything to me physically,

1010
00:55:11,000 --> 00:55:14,439
Speaker 1: it makes me feel like I look good, I guess

1011
00:55:14,480 --> 00:55:16,560
Speaker 1: in a weird way. So I've been feeling not so

1012
00:55:16,600 --> 00:55:19,120
Speaker 1: cute about myself. And I guarantee this weekend, like he's

1013
00:55:19,160 --> 00:55:21,759
Speaker 1: going to be like you look so beautiful like every day,

1014
00:55:21,880 --> 00:55:25,000
Speaker 1: and I'm like, why would I so stressed? Bruise on

1015
00:55:25,040 --> 00:55:31,560
Speaker 1: your butt? Wow, that is a sexy bruise. I literally

1016
00:55:31,560 --> 00:55:34,880
Speaker 1: said to us, like, this bruise is the most unsexy

1017
00:55:34,920 --> 00:55:40,120
Speaker 1: thing that you could ever have. I will not see that, no, no, no,

1018
00:55:40,200 --> 00:55:41,640
Speaker 1: But he was like up in it. I started to

1019
00:55:41,760 --> 00:55:44,319
Speaker 1: him like when it was fresh, Um, so you've seen

1020
00:55:44,400 --> 00:55:47,120
Speaker 1: it in full ince full For us, it's it's an

1021
00:55:47,120 --> 00:55:50,000
Speaker 1: aggressive bruise. It's like you fell down the stairs and

1022
00:55:51,719 --> 00:55:56,480
Speaker 1: I've actually wanted to get life alert again. What do

1023
00:55:56,560 --> 00:55:59,560
Speaker 1: you think about this? Mark? You're a man, you're my

1024
00:55:59,560 --> 00:56:01,680
Speaker 1: wife is most beautiful women in the world. And I

1025
00:56:01,719 --> 00:56:04,239
Speaker 1: don't even believe that's my opinion. I actually believe that

1026
00:56:04,360 --> 00:56:06,879
Speaker 1: is fact. So I think this is a major red flag.

1027
00:56:06,920 --> 00:56:09,440
Speaker 1: But you're getting married in May, like this is it's

1028
00:56:09,440 --> 00:56:13,680
Speaker 1: almost too late to be having this conversation May. They're

1029
00:56:13,719 --> 00:56:16,200
Speaker 1: not May. But so what are we saying walk away?

1030
00:56:16,239 --> 00:56:18,439
Speaker 1: Or are we saying good counseling? Are we saying we'll

1031
00:56:18,480 --> 00:56:22,319
Speaker 1: talk to him? She was married, I'd say head to

1032
00:56:22,440 --> 00:56:26,360
Speaker 1: the hills, girl, the rest of your life. No, I

1033
00:56:26,640 --> 00:56:30,560
Speaker 1: Tony is very quick with the leave him and everything.

1034
00:56:30,640 --> 00:56:32,839
Speaker 1: Now that she's in a relationship every other one can

1035
00:56:34,280 --> 00:56:38,759
Speaker 1: she's happy, so by to every bad relationship. I think

1036
00:56:38,840 --> 00:56:42,440
Speaker 1: it's definitely something you need to seriously talk to him

1037
00:56:42,440 --> 00:56:45,960
Speaker 1: about and say, I'm really struggling because I want to

1038
00:56:45,960 --> 00:56:48,480
Speaker 1: be as someone who makes me feel good about myself

1039
00:56:48,520 --> 00:56:51,279
Speaker 1: and we're not even married yet, Like, is is this

1040
00:56:51,440 --> 00:56:53,160
Speaker 1: what it's going to be like for the rest of

1041
00:56:53,160 --> 00:56:54,759
Speaker 1: my life? Because I don't I want to be with

1042
00:56:54,840 --> 00:57:01,320
Speaker 1: someone who encourages me, makes me feel beautiful, honesty, transparency, communication.

1043
00:57:01,400 --> 00:57:06,680
Speaker 1: I think that is the I'm just shocked that this

1044
00:57:06,760 --> 00:57:09,360
Speaker 1: came from comparing it to a girl in the Bachelor.

1045
00:57:09,760 --> 00:57:14,320
Speaker 1: I'm just like, what, Yeah, that's like scary. Yeah, I

1046
00:57:14,480 --> 00:57:17,000
Speaker 1: figure than any girl on the Bachelor. I'm more. I'm

1047
00:57:17,040 --> 00:57:20,160
Speaker 1: mostly concerned with that because literally, you look at the Bachelor,

1048
00:57:20,240 --> 00:57:23,600
Speaker 1: those girls are real thin. He clearly has a standard

1049
00:57:23,640 --> 00:57:28,160
Speaker 1: of perfection and it's very unhealthy. Honestly, Yes, it is

1050
00:57:28,520 --> 00:57:31,760
Speaker 1: like if he is first of all comparing you, and

1051
00:57:31,800 --> 00:57:35,720
Speaker 1: then on top of that, these girls are not chunky

1052
00:57:35,840 --> 00:57:37,800
Speaker 1: at all, and if you're their size and that's what

1053
00:57:37,840 --> 00:57:42,760
Speaker 1: he's doing, then this is it feels, it feels unhealthy.

1054
00:57:42,920 --> 00:57:45,320
Speaker 1: I'm all about encouraging each other to be healthy, but

1055
00:57:45,440 --> 00:57:47,960
Speaker 1: this is not how to do it. I'm so scared because,

1056
00:57:48,000 --> 00:57:54,920
Speaker 1: like invitations are going out soon, so she's supposed to

1057
00:57:54,920 --> 00:57:58,800
Speaker 1: go through with it because money, no price too big

1058
00:57:58,920 --> 00:58:01,480
Speaker 1: for a life of happy. Yeah you almost got it,

1059
00:58:01,520 --> 00:58:05,920
Speaker 1: Tony say happy to fulfillment happy. I agree, But like

1060
00:58:05,960 --> 00:58:07,920
Speaker 1: she's saying, it's one part of him, there are so

1061
00:58:07,960 --> 00:58:10,480
Speaker 1: many other great parts of him. Well, this clearly she

1062
00:58:10,520 --> 00:58:13,880
Speaker 1: wrote in about you know who had nice qualities about

1063
00:58:13,960 --> 00:58:17,919
Speaker 1: him too. Every guy that Don just dated that I dated,

1064
00:58:18,000 --> 00:58:21,720
Speaker 1: I guess what not for me? Yeah, I'm sure ted

1065
00:58:21,800 --> 00:58:26,760
Speaker 1: Bundy had. I was searching for somebody like that, and

1066
00:58:26,840 --> 00:58:29,160
Speaker 1: I was going places and I was like, oh, like,

1067
00:58:29,320 --> 00:58:31,360
Speaker 1: I was like, maybe O. J. Simpson probably had something

1068
00:58:34,320 --> 00:58:39,919
Speaker 1: sweet to his family. But you know, oh, Anonymous, We're sorry.

1069
00:58:42,880 --> 00:58:45,960
Speaker 1: So I'm sorry, and you're probably just I can tell

1070
00:58:46,000 --> 00:58:50,640
Speaker 1: you you're probably so absolutely beautiful and you deserve to

1071
00:58:50,680 --> 00:58:52,440
Speaker 1: hear that, and I'm sorry that you're not getting that

1072
00:58:52,520 --> 00:58:54,520
Speaker 1: from the person who should be telling you that the

1073
00:58:54,640 --> 00:58:58,439
Speaker 1: most honestly, Tony, I was very proud of that milk

1074
00:58:58,480 --> 00:59:01,400
Speaker 1: analogy because I didn't know where it was going. Who

1075
00:59:01,400 --> 00:59:02,800
Speaker 1: are you texting? By the way, you had a little

1076
00:59:02,800 --> 00:59:06,320
Speaker 1: grin on your face that yes, I could tell by

1077
00:59:06,320 --> 00:59:08,400
Speaker 1: the look on your face while you were texting right there.

1078
00:59:08,520 --> 00:59:11,000
Speaker 1: Because I feel bad because we were supposed to be

1079
00:59:11,080 --> 00:59:17,040
Speaker 1: in transit at the moment, and I suck to plan.

1080
00:59:18,480 --> 00:59:21,520
Speaker 1: I hate to see it, love to see it. He's

1081
00:59:21,560 --> 00:59:23,240
Speaker 1: probably going to be at my house while you're curling

1082
00:59:23,280 --> 00:59:25,720
Speaker 1: my hair. That's cute. I would love to see him again.

1083
00:59:35,320 --> 00:59:37,120
Speaker 1: Why is Becca curling your hair for us to get

1084
00:59:37,120 --> 00:59:40,960
Speaker 1: in the car for two hours, so maybe we can

1085
00:59:41,000 --> 00:59:42,760
Speaker 1: wrap this up, and we can wrap it up. But

1086
00:59:42,800 --> 00:59:45,000
Speaker 1: I do like him. I've met him twice now, and um,

1087
00:59:45,000 --> 00:59:48,000
Speaker 1: I told you the other day, very protective of Tanya.

1088
00:59:48,120 --> 00:59:49,840
Speaker 1: I don't like a lot of the guys that she's

1089
00:59:49,880 --> 00:59:52,320
Speaker 1: gone out with or even or been interested in, Like

1090
00:59:53,400 --> 00:59:55,880
Speaker 1: we have some examples, but anyway, I have nothing. I

1091
00:59:55,920 --> 00:59:57,880
Speaker 1: have really good. I got a really good energy and

1092
00:59:57,920 --> 00:59:59,880
Speaker 1: a really good vibe off of him. I told Tany,

1093
01:00:00,120 --> 01:00:03,600
Speaker 1: I said, he's just wonderful. Like that was my best description,

1094
01:00:03,680 --> 01:00:06,360
Speaker 1: because he had a he met a bunch of people

1095
01:00:06,400 --> 01:00:10,880
Speaker 1: on one night and he was so he was so chill,

1096
01:00:11,120 --> 01:00:16,040
Speaker 1: but he also gave everyone the tension, like he seemed interested, wonderful.

1097
01:00:16,120 --> 01:00:19,120
Speaker 1: It's like the perfect description of him. Like that's how

1098
01:00:19,160 --> 01:00:21,760
Speaker 1: I feel like. I just feel like he's a wonderful man.

1099
01:00:21,880 --> 01:00:23,760
Speaker 1: And I feel like he's seen the scariest parts of

1100
01:00:23,800 --> 01:00:28,800
Speaker 1: Tanya's world, but the scariest parts of the world she

1101
01:00:28,880 --> 01:00:32,800
Speaker 1: lives in, and he seems totally down with everything. Totally. Yeah,

1102
01:00:32,960 --> 01:00:36,760
Speaker 1: it's impressive. There is one thing though, I didn't know

1103
01:00:36,800 --> 01:00:39,000
Speaker 1: he hasn't seen when we did like the reading of

1104
01:00:39,000 --> 01:00:42,560
Speaker 1: our Dear Future Husband journal this past week on Wednesday,

1105
01:00:42,720 --> 01:00:46,000
Speaker 1: and he didn't hear it obviously, and he was like, um,

1106
01:00:46,040 --> 01:00:49,720
Speaker 1: somebody like posted something or whatever, and I like reposted

1107
01:00:49,760 --> 01:00:51,320
Speaker 1: it just because she was like, you're my spirit animals

1108
01:00:51,360 --> 01:00:53,400
Speaker 1: said like Tanya reads from her dear future husband journal

1109
01:00:53,640 --> 01:00:55,600
Speaker 1: and he like DM being he was like, I need

1110
01:00:55,600 --> 01:00:58,080
Speaker 1: to hear this, and that's the only one where I

1111
01:00:58,120 --> 01:01:01,080
Speaker 1: was like, I'm not sending that to you. Can I

1112
01:01:01,120 --> 01:01:05,240
Speaker 1: read enforcenate? Sure? Can I end with this? I have

1113
01:01:05,320 --> 01:01:07,560
Speaker 1: the November fifth entry from last year. Do you want

1114
01:01:07,560 --> 01:01:11,680
Speaker 1: to read it? You can read it. I don't have

1115
01:01:11,720 --> 01:01:14,320
Speaker 1: in front of me. Okay, if we didn't hear this

1116
01:01:14,400 --> 01:01:16,560
Speaker 1: on Seacreft, this is what she said after her first

1117
01:01:16,640 --> 01:01:18,600
Speaker 1: day with the person we now know as Red Star.

1118
01:01:19,160 --> 01:01:20,520
Speaker 1: I had a first day to night in a while.

1119
01:01:20,920 --> 01:01:25,800
Speaker 1: He was cute. Sierra kind of forced me to meet

1120
01:01:25,840 --> 01:01:28,040
Speaker 1: this guy, and I went because she's weirdly always right

1121
01:01:28,120 --> 01:01:30,200
Speaker 1: about these things. Side note, I wonder if she'll speak

1122
01:01:30,200 --> 01:01:34,640
Speaker 1: at our wedding anyway. We spend almost nine hours together.

1123
01:01:34,760 --> 01:01:38,120
Speaker 1: It's five. I don't know. It looks like we spent

1124
01:01:38,200 --> 01:01:40,800
Speaker 1: almost five hours together. And the weird thing is he

1125
01:01:40,960 --> 01:01:43,120
Speaker 1: isn't what I'd write down on paper as like my

1126
01:01:43,200 --> 01:01:46,240
Speaker 1: ideal man. But when we kissed, I got the tingles

1127
01:01:46,240 --> 01:01:49,480
Speaker 1: in my vagina and that's never happened to me at

1128
01:01:49,480 --> 01:01:53,560
Speaker 1: the first date ever. What does that mean? I have

1129
01:01:53,880 --> 01:01:56,680
Speaker 1: crazy two weeks of work coming up, so I hope

1130
01:01:56,720 --> 01:02:00,320
Speaker 1: I can see him again. If this isn't you talking

1131
01:02:00,360 --> 01:02:03,960
Speaker 1: to the dear future husband, then I'm getting closer and closer.

1132
01:02:04,680 --> 01:02:11,080
Speaker 1: Damn that was good. XO XO is this real? This

1133
01:02:11,280 --> 01:02:14,600
Speaker 1: is real? You didn't even like write that for the show.

1134
01:02:14,600 --> 01:02:17,440
Speaker 1: And the one from the one actually, the other one

1135
01:02:17,440 --> 01:02:19,680
Speaker 1: I grabbed was the day that I ended things with

1136
01:02:20,200 --> 01:02:23,000
Speaker 1: Senior Butterfly. Don't read that one, Okay, I have it,

1137
01:02:23,120 --> 01:02:26,200
Speaker 1: but but reading that one again like made me emotional

1138
01:02:26,240 --> 01:02:29,200
Speaker 1: because it was like I was so sad, like I

1139
01:02:29,240 --> 01:02:32,680
Speaker 1: was so down on myself, but every move you made everything.

1140
01:02:32,720 --> 01:02:34,400
Speaker 1: But then I was like, but I know, like you're

1141
01:02:34,400 --> 01:02:37,280
Speaker 1: gonna love these qualities about me. It's like, actually made

1142
01:02:37,320 --> 01:02:40,040
Speaker 1: me really emotional. That one was funny that you will

1143
01:02:40,120 --> 01:02:42,280
Speaker 1: love all those weird traits I have and make me

1144
01:02:42,320 --> 01:02:45,120
Speaker 1: feel proud to be this way versus ashamed. My strength

1145
01:02:45,160 --> 01:02:47,720
Speaker 1: will be your weaknesses and mine yours, and it's just

1146
01:02:47,880 --> 01:02:53,120
Speaker 1: going to be so magical. Is so funny. It's like

1147
01:02:53,200 --> 01:02:59,000
Speaker 1: a like sixteen year old girl. Literally, it's so very right,

1148
01:02:59,160 --> 01:03:03,400
Speaker 1: is so key, it's embarrassing. It's how I think. That's

1149
01:03:03,400 --> 01:03:06,600
Speaker 1: how I think. I love that a little like snipping

1150
01:03:06,680 --> 01:03:10,240
Speaker 1: into how that brain works. We get it all the time,

1151
01:03:10,280 --> 01:03:12,600
Speaker 1: but you know, it's it's nice to try living in it.

1152
01:03:13,120 --> 01:03:20,280
Speaker 1: It's exhaustome. But damn that was good. But damn that

1153
01:03:20,360 --> 01:03:25,400
Speaker 1: was good. All Right, that's it. You gotta go, I

1154
01:03:25,480 --> 01:03:29,760
Speaker 1: gotta go. Yeah, I'm sad. I wanted to talk about

1155
01:03:29,800 --> 01:03:37,160
Speaker 1: the Goop episode. Why don't we assign scrubbers? Alright, So

1156
01:03:37,840 --> 01:03:41,760
Speaker 1: there's this episode. So Gwyneth Paltrow has a series on Netflix.

1157
01:03:41,800 --> 01:03:44,840
Speaker 1: It's called The Goop Lab, and it's a docuseries. And

1158
01:03:45,000 --> 01:03:47,400
Speaker 1: to be honest, I haven't heard anything about any of

1159
01:03:47,480 --> 01:03:52,480
Speaker 1: the other UM episodes except for what's it call The

1160
01:03:52,520 --> 01:03:55,760
Speaker 1: Pleasure is Our Pleasure? Pleasure is Ours? So I will

1161
01:03:55,800 --> 01:04:02,120
Speaker 1: say there's a lot of UM vagina talk and video

1162
01:04:02,320 --> 01:04:06,360
Speaker 1: of vagina. I don't know vagina. It really goes in

1163
01:04:06,520 --> 01:04:10,120
Speaker 1: depth UM, but it's actually quite like enlightening. I did

1164
01:04:10,160 --> 01:04:12,479
Speaker 1: not know all vaginas. I did not know vaginas looked

1165
01:04:12,520 --> 01:04:14,840
Speaker 1: like some of those and I actually was like, oh,

1166
01:04:14,840 --> 01:04:16,200
Speaker 1: that one looks a little bit like mine. So I

1167
01:04:16,240 --> 01:04:21,200
Speaker 1: think that it does show like everybody's vagina. Okay, so

1168
01:04:21,280 --> 01:04:24,880
Speaker 1: some people will be totally comfortable and excited to watch

1169
01:04:24,880 --> 01:04:28,880
Speaker 1: this episode. I was not necessarily comfortable with the episode

1170
01:04:28,880 --> 01:04:33,840
Speaker 1: itself because there's just things that don't I loved it.

1171
01:04:34,000 --> 01:04:37,600
Speaker 1: I think that we need to talk more about the vaginas.

1172
01:04:37,640 --> 01:04:39,800
Speaker 1: We need to examine our vaginas, need to look at

1173
01:04:39,840 --> 01:04:41,600
Speaker 1: them in the mirror. We need to talk to our vaginas.

1174
01:04:41,640 --> 01:04:43,440
Speaker 1: So I talked to my time time, but I want

1175
01:04:43,440 --> 01:04:46,320
Speaker 1: to talk to her more. And I think that there's

1176
01:04:46,440 --> 01:04:48,760
Speaker 1: like a lot we need to talk a lot about

1177
01:04:48,760 --> 01:04:54,520
Speaker 1: this episode. You should start a Dear Vagina journal very healthy. Anyways,

1178
01:04:54,720 --> 01:04:57,240
Speaker 1: we we I want everyone to check it out because

1179
01:04:57,240 --> 01:04:59,040
Speaker 1: we're going to talk about it today, but we've run

1180
01:04:59,040 --> 01:05:00,840
Speaker 1: out of time, so we're to talk about it, but

1181
01:05:01,000 --> 01:05:04,720
Speaker 1: this way, y'all, can you know, listen with an opinion

1182
01:05:04,760 --> 01:05:07,360
Speaker 1: already in your head, So check that out. The pleasure

1183
01:05:07,920 --> 01:05:11,919
Speaker 1: is ours is ours? The good club? All right? On

1184
01:05:11,960 --> 01:05:24,880
Speaker 1: that note, time of death. Damn, the spray tend does

1185
01:05:24,880 --> 01:05:25,280
Speaker 1: look good.