WEBVTT - Get Back on the Horse

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<v Speaker 1>Hell I Suck at Dating with de Nungler and Jared

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<v Speaker 1>Haven and I heard radio podcast What's going on? Everyone,

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to a special Sunday Quick episode of Help I

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<v Speaker 1>Suck at Dating. We had to do this. Well, you

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<v Speaker 1>don't have to do it, of course, we don't have

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<v Speaker 1>to do anything, but we wanted to do this. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>Jared especially wants to do this because because there was

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<v Speaker 1>a big proposal and Bachelor Nation biggest proposal of the

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<v Speaker 1>year perhaps, and um, yeah, we just want to take

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<v Speaker 1>a second talk about it. So. I don't know if

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<v Speaker 1>you guys saw Kalin's Instagram post the other day, but

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<v Speaker 1>Kalin proposed to me, Calin proposed to you. We said

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<v Speaker 1>so when Klein was on the podcast, she said she

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<v Speaker 1>was going to do it before years over, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>still two so she's stuck to her promise. Did you

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<v Speaker 1>know who was coming? She squeaked it in I she

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<v Speaker 1>she is suspicious that I think that she thinks that

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<v Speaker 1>I knew that it was coming, but I had no idea.

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<v Speaker 1>She just said maybe a few weeks ago or a

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<v Speaker 1>month ago, that to save December at two thirty because

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<v Speaker 1>she's got a date plan for me, and I thought

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<v Speaker 1>she just like what I thought it was was I've

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<v Speaker 1>I've been talking to her about wanting to do the

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<v Speaker 1>there's like a speedway here in Vegas where you can

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<v Speaker 1>like drive a Ferrari around a race track, and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>that sounds so cool, and we've like tried to do

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<v Speaker 1>it in the past, like when my brothers are here,

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<v Speaker 1>but it hasn't worked out. And so I thought that

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<v Speaker 1>she was like just planning, like this is a fun

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<v Speaker 1>thing that I've wanted to do for a long time.

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<v Speaker 1>And then we started driving the opposite direction, so I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, Okay, can't be that. And then I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>you're taking me on a helicopter ride over red rocks

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<v Speaker 1>because we've been talking about I want to do that

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<v Speaker 1>for a long time too. And then we pull up

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<v Speaker 1>and and like she hadn't told me anything of what

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<v Speaker 1>we were doing or anything like that. And then we

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<v Speaker 1>pull up and I see horses, and I look at

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<v Speaker 1>her and I go, you son of a gun, because

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<v Speaker 1>she knows I I it's not that I hate horses.

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<v Speaker 1>I have a fear of them. I don't trust them,

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<v Speaker 1>and they're so powerful and big and muscular and strong

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<v Speaker 1>that like if a horse doesn't like you, and you're

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<v Speaker 1>on it, good luck, because yeah, you're gonna get dragged,

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<v Speaker 1>you're gonna break some bones, and it's nothing that you're

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<v Speaker 1>doing wrong theoretically. Like I, you know, I grew up

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<v Speaker 1>riding motorcycles. I still ride motorcycles. A motorcycle doesn't have

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<v Speaker 1>ulterior motives. A motorcycle does what you tell it to

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<v Speaker 1>do a percent of the time. Horses not so much.

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<v Speaker 1>So people make that comparison sometimes not a good comparison.

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<v Speaker 1>In my book, horse motorcycle doesn't have alternative motives until um,

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<v Speaker 1>the future comes and the machines turn on us. But

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<v Speaker 1>that's still along waves away. I would agree I've never

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<v Speaker 1>felt less in control or less powerful than when I

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<v Speaker 1>was on a horse, because I agree my horse there,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, they tell you like, oh, go like this

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<v Speaker 1>to go left, go like that to go right, and

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<v Speaker 1>then go like this to stop the horse. And then

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<v Speaker 1>we were rodding, and then I went like this to

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<v Speaker 1>stop the horse, and the horse didn't stop, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, oh my god, this is all this is

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<v Speaker 1>literally all I have. There's nothing else I can do.

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<v Speaker 1>And then finally the horse slowed down after a couple

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<v Speaker 1>of seconds. But for a good three seconds. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I got nothing. I'm done. And like the way that

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<v Speaker 1>I kept keep rationalizing it in my head is like, oh, well,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a horse, and like it doesn't want to do

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<v Speaker 1>anything crazy, it's not going to try to hurt itself,

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<v Speaker 1>but like it could stumble. I was getting on my

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<v Speaker 1>horse and I still had no idea what her plan was.

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<v Speaker 1>But I was just getting on the horse to like

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<v Speaker 1>start the ride, and it was like a big horse.

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<v Speaker 1>But I was like, I was like asking the girl

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<v Speaker 1>that was guiding us. I was like, hey, this this

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<v Speaker 1>horse can support my weight? Right, Like you know, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a big guy. I'm I'm I'm heavy, swarz and get

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<v Speaker 1>out of here that horse. You're like a fly on

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<v Speaker 1>the back of that horse. I'm a bigger than average

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<v Speaker 1>human being. I would definitely say that's true. And I

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<v Speaker 1>was getting on the horse. Issue carry your tiny ass, okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So Klin under reported my weight. She thought I'd wagh

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<v Speaker 1>a d eighty five pounds. I am two hundred pounds

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<v Speaker 1>on a good day. And I was getting on the

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<v Speaker 1>horse and I was like, can this horse support my weight?

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<v Speaker 1>And the guide goes, oh, yeah, don't worry about it.

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<v Speaker 1>This horse can support up to two hundred pounds, and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like up to two I am like, if

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<v Speaker 1>I get on an elevator and the weight limit is

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<v Speaker 1>a thousand pounds and I'm looking around and we're at

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<v Speaker 1>a thousand pounds, I'm getting off the elevator, you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I mean? Like, that's you don't want to be

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<v Speaker 1>on the upper end of that spectrum now, I always

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<v Speaker 1>want to be below. I think about that with planes too.

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<v Speaker 1>Anytime Ashley's luggage is overweight and it's like sixty pounds,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, listen, what if every single person on this

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<v Speaker 1>plane has an overweight bag? Are we gonna be able to,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, get up? Or were getting dragged down here? People?

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<v Speaker 1>Well the sidebar the airplane thing is ridiculous to me.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't have over fifty pounds and your check luggage.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh but if I just move it to my carry

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<v Speaker 1>on then it's okay. Excuse me. The same amount of

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<v Speaker 1>weight is going on the airplane. What is the purpose

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<v Speaker 1>of me having to move way out of this bag

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<v Speaker 1>and put it in this bag? If it's all going

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<v Speaker 1>on the airplane, it's all the money scheme, It's all

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<v Speaker 1>it is. It is it really is. Anyways, back to

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<v Speaker 1>the story, So get on the horse. I'm terrified because

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<v Speaker 1>the horse is big. But we're walking and like it's

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<v Speaker 1>all like stumbling. But I'm like looking at its shoulders

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<v Speaker 1>as it's clumping around, and I'm like, this horse is

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<v Speaker 1>so mad because it's working so much harder than it

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to right now, and I don't have the knowledge to,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, wrangle it in any certain direction. Like you're

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<v Speaker 1>saying you pull left, you want to go left, but

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes it doesn't happen. So I'm kind of freaking out.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like obviously a big advocate for like facing my

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<v Speaker 1>fears and doing things that frightened me. I was telling

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<v Speaker 1>Kalen this scenario was my nightmare because the reward isn't

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<v Speaker 1>worth the risk. If you go skydiving, the reward is amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>You have an incredible adrenaline rush, you have so much fun,

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<v Speaker 1>and yeah, there's a lot of risk involved, but riding

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<v Speaker 1>a horse, in my opinion, is not fun. So I'm

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<v Speaker 1>taking on a lot of risk to do something that

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<v Speaker 1>isn't fun. I don't understand, Like the math doesn't math

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<v Speaker 1>for me. Wait a minute, wait a minute, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>how fast are you going on this horse. We didn't

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<v Speaker 1>even get up to a gallop. It was a walk.

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<v Speaker 1>My point being, what is your risk? I mean, you

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<v Speaker 1>can get thrown off the horse. Do you honestly think

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<v Speaker 1>at a walking pace that you are going you are

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<v Speaker 1>in I mean you could maybe break a bone. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not denying this, like you fall wrong, but the horse

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think is trampling you. So if you're telling

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<v Speaker 1>me that the risk of death with skydiving you find

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<v Speaker 1>more bearable than the risk of potentially a broken pinky

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<v Speaker 1>finger by falling off a horse that's walking. Yeah, So

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<v Speaker 1>if we were to like put on a graph, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like maybe like the y access would be risk and

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<v Speaker 1>the X axis would be reward, skydiving is somewhere in

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<v Speaker 1>the upper right hand corner high risk but high reward.

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<v Speaker 1>Horseback riding at any speed high risk, low rewards. So

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<v Speaker 1>it's too far there's the risk, I find You're you're

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<v Speaker 1>over No, it's not that high of a risk. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>not even galloping on a horse, well, just walking trotting.

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<v Speaker 1>We were walking through like a river bed, so it

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<v Speaker 1>was sandy and rocky, and every step he took I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, what if this is the step where he

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<v Speaker 1>snaps an ankle, falls to the ground, rolls over the side,

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<v Speaker 1>rolls up on my bad leg. That horse weighs, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>a thousand pounds. You could it could shatter a leg.

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<v Speaker 1>It could literally if if it just like rolled an

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<v Speaker 1>ankle turned onto its side. I'm not bailing in time

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<v Speaker 1>to get off out of the way of this horse

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<v Speaker 1>falling on top of me. And then all of a

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<v Speaker 1>sudd I'm on the ground and this pund beast is

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<v Speaker 1>on top of me, scrambling to get back up. Who

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<v Speaker 1>knows where it's thrashing and throlling about. It could kick me,

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<v Speaker 1>It could do anything. You don't know. The thing is,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't know. Would you rather have the thousand pound

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<v Speaker 1>horse fall awkwardly on your leg or splat on the

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<v Speaker 1>ground from five thousand feet in the air well, obviously

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<v Speaker 1>the horse, But the thing is a parachute. A parachute

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't have a brain of its own to have a

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<v Speaker 1>reaction to something like if there's a mouse that screwies

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<v Speaker 1>across the path, maybe the horse, you know, rears and

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<v Speaker 1>I fly off the back. There's the possibilities are endless,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. I feel like para is a bad name.

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<v Speaker 1>Bro I am anti horse. It's my one fear that's

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<v Speaker 1>like just like there are other fears, yeah, okay, being

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<v Speaker 1>poor or going to jail, sure, but like it's my

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<v Speaker 1>one legitimate feer that I have in like every rational fear. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>there you go. It makes me. It makes me so

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<v Speaker 1>happy that Kaylin planned an engagement around your fear after

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<v Speaker 1>you dragged her through that eleven mile talk about high risk,

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<v Speaker 1>dangerous hiking adventure to get to a beautiful beach in

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<v Speaker 1>which you had a beautiful engagement and it was quite fantastic.

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<v Speaker 1>But it makes me happy that she didn't do something

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<v Speaker 1>that you want to do. She was like, you know what,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to do something that I want to do,

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<v Speaker 1>and it just so happens that Dean is also quite

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<v Speaker 1>terrified of this, so you know what, He's gonna have

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<v Speaker 1>to conquer his fear. And then that is when I

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<v Speaker 1>Kaylin Miller Keys will propose to Deed. Yeah, that was

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<v Speaker 1>the rationale behind it. She was like, you made me

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<v Speaker 1>face my fear on the hike of heights, and so

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna make you face your fear of horses and

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<v Speaker 1>proposed to you. There. Um, she did run over her

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<v Speaker 1>alternative plans like this was like her d option I

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<v Speaker 1>think number one. She wanted to do everything like zero

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<v Speaker 1>gravity or planes where they take you up really high

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<v Speaker 1>and then drop really fast and you have like zero gravity.

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<v Speaker 1>She wanted to do that, but it's like way too expensive.

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<v Speaker 1>She wanted to get my brothers out here and go

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<v Speaker 1>on a rock climbing trip and do it there. But

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<v Speaker 1>those are like my things, like you're saying, those are

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<v Speaker 1>like things that I would enjoy, which don't get me wrong,

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<v Speaker 1>I would love those things. But she wanted to do

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<v Speaker 1>something similar to what I did with her, where it

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<v Speaker 1>was my thing that I wanted to do and I

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<v Speaker 1>knew she would have a good time and it would

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<v Speaker 1>all work out that way. So she was like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna take Dean on something that's gonna make him

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<v Speaker 1>face his fears like he had to do to me.

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<v Speaker 1>So we rode on these horses for not even very long,

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<v Speaker 1>like twenty minutes out into the desert, and it was fun.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it was fun. It was fun. Uh it

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<v Speaker 1>did it did ease my my my like hesitancy with horses.

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<v Speaker 1>It did, you know, kind of bring me around a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit. And we wrote out and then we you know,

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<v Speaker 1>stopped for a water break or whatever, and then she

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<v Speaker 1>got down on it and asked me to marry her,

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<v Speaker 1>which is really nice. It was a nice experience. It

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<v Speaker 1>was something that we had planned to do ever since

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<v Speaker 1>we agreed that we wanted to get engaged, that you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I would propose to her and she would then propose

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<v Speaker 1>to me, because you know, I do believe that when

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<v Speaker 1>a guy asks a girl to marry her, that is

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<v Speaker 1>her basically agree of course, agree to marry him. So

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<v Speaker 1>it's like yes, you're both serving your part or your

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<v Speaker 1>role in the relationship by asking and then the other

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<v Speaker 1>person saying yes. But I wanted it to kind of

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<v Speaker 1>be like a uh. I wanted her to get the

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<v Speaker 1>experience of like asking me the same question because it,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, it does kind of go both ways

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<v Speaker 1>where it's like, well like I don't know where I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going with this, but like I want to marry you,

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<v Speaker 1>and she said yes, and so now I want her

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<v Speaker 1>to ask to marry me, and so I can say

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<v Speaker 1>it's kind of like interchanging vows when getting married, because

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<v Speaker 1>it's not like one person at the altar says, will

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<v Speaker 1>you be you know, take me as your lawful. Whatever

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<v Speaker 1>the hell they say, I can't remember was years ago. Anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not like one person says it and the other

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<v Speaker 1>person says yes and they're like okay, good to go.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like you both say and you both say yes.

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<v Speaker 1>So I understand the logic where you said, I want

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<v Speaker 1>both of us to propose, and I want both of

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<v Speaker 1>us to say yes. Yeah, we're equal partners, and I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to. I think both of us wanted to feel

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<v Speaker 1>like equal partners in the engagement process. Did you make

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<v Speaker 1>her sweat it out? Did you say yes immediately? Or

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<v Speaker 1>you were like, oh, well, I do hate I should have.

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<v Speaker 1>I did it. It was kind of abrupt, uh, similar

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<v Speaker 1>to how I did it. There was no like pre

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<v Speaker 1>speech where it was like I love you so much,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to spend the rest of my life with

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<v Speaker 1>your blah blah blah blah blah, will you marry me?

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<v Speaker 1>It was just like a quick will you marry me?

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, oh my gosh, of course yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I would love to. And so now I have two rings?

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<v Speaker 1>Two rings? Which one did she give you the one

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<v Speaker 1>on your pinky? No, that's that I've warned that for

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<v Speaker 1>a while to rings ring finger. Which one did she

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<v Speaker 1>always wear this one obviously worn of that since like

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<v Speaker 1>six months into our relationship, and then she gave me

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<v Speaker 1>this one, which is nice. Yeah, it's nice. So I

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<v Speaker 1>got some more jewelry. There's a nice inscription on the

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<v Speaker 1>inside that says vel Crow Forever on it because early

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<v Speaker 1>on in the relationship I did nixt podcast and I

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<v Speaker 1>called her Velcrow and it's kind of been like our

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<v Speaker 1>little joke. So there's an inscription on the inside. And

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<v Speaker 1>now I've got a nice ring. But my question now

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<v Speaker 1>is like when we get married, do you wear both?

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<v Speaker 1>Is she gonna put a third ring on my finger?

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<v Speaker 1>Do I take these rings off and then have asked

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<v Speaker 1>her to put them back on my finger when we

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<v Speaker 1>get married? Well, usually, like for me, I never wore

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<v Speaker 1>any type of engagement ring. This is my wedding band,

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<v Speaker 1>So during a when I was engaged, I got nothing

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<v Speaker 1>on my hands, and then obviously when I got married,

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<v Speaker 1>that's when the wedding band went on. So I'm imagining

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<v Speaker 1>that's your engagement and wedding band that she gave you.

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<v Speaker 1>So you'll still wear two rings if you choose, unless

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<v Speaker 1>you move on from the first one. Yeah, I was

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<v Speaker 1>thinking I would get myself a wedding band like you have,

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<v Speaker 1>but I would put it on my other hand, on

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<v Speaker 1>my right hand. I think you're just confusing everybody. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to I want an excuse to wear rings.

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<v Speaker 1>I like rings. I'm a ring guy. All of a sudden,

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<v Speaker 1>I think they're cool. It's like a minimalistic piece of

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<v Speaker 1>jewelry that doesn't get in the way of anything. It's

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<v Speaker 1>not uncomfortable. You never have to take it off. Do

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<v Speaker 1>you wear when you rock climb? Oh? Yeah, which I

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<v Speaker 1>know is a bad idea. Are you ever afraid of

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<v Speaker 1>just your finger getting ripped off by a rock? You

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<v Speaker 1>know you hear stories of that happening, But you there's

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<v Speaker 1>there's a story for everything these days. Like my brother,

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<v Speaker 1>for instance, is married and rock climbs quite a bit.

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<v Speaker 1>He always takes his off because he's worried about it. I. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess I'm just an idiot, and I don't think

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<v Speaker 1>it's gonna happen to me until it does, and then

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<v Speaker 1>I'm boom, all of a sudden without finger. That's your story, now,

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<v Speaker 1>that's that would be my story. Yeah, all right, well

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<v Speaker 1>that's gonna do it. Um, I thank you Jared for

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<v Speaker 1>letting me talk about my engagement, my second engagement. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>whatever it helps, ratings, whatever else, ratings. It was interesting

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<v Speaker 1>too experience it again, like you know, we already got engaged,

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<v Speaker 1>were already proposed or proposed and engaged, you get married.

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<v Speaker 1>It was it was a cool exp is gonna do

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<v Speaker 1>it again? So yeah, I think Ashley should propose to me. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think that's happening. I don't know if you

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<v Speaker 1>heard that, doesn't sound like that's going to happen. It

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<v Speaker 1>was cool. I would recommend it if anyone's thinking about

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<v Speaker 1>joint proposals or dual proposals and they're in a relationship. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>it was a good experience for both of us. I think, uh,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe we can get Kalen one of these days to

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<v Speaker 1>talk about it, maybe from her side. Wait a minute,

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<v Speaker 1>so you're saying there's no chance, like you so we

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<v Speaker 1>would never actually doesn't want to renew ever renew our vows,

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<v Speaker 1>which something totally down with, but you never proposed just

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<v Speaker 1>for some giggles now to be like, hey, let's renew

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<v Speaker 1>our love in some different way. That's a no, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe she'll come around one of these one of these days. Um. Alright, well, listeners,

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<v Speaker 1>if you're out there and you're still listening to this podcast,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you so much for joining us on Sunday's special

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<v Speaker 1>bonus episode of Help I Second Dating Jared as always,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you for joining us, glad if I figured out

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<v Speaker 1>maybe maybe we'll get a cup of coffee. Man, you

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<v Speaker 1>look tired over there, dude, I definitely it's all I've

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<v Speaker 1>been thinking about, Like, I need more coffee in my life.

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<v Speaker 1>If right now I've only had one cop I'm usually

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<v Speaker 1>three deep now. I like how also as actually just

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<v Speaker 1>sitting on the floor in the room next to you,

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<v Speaker 1>it's kind of I'm jealous. I wish Kylin was on

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<v Speaker 1>the floor next to me. It's very nice. It's like playtime.

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<v Speaker 1>Be sure to tune in to Thursday's episode because we

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<v Speaker 1>have a great co host with us. Jenna Cooper will

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<v Speaker 1>be joining us and you're not gonna want to miss that.

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<v Speaker 1>She's a fantastic person, Um, and she talks a lot

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<v Speaker 1>about stuff that was in the headlines a few years ago.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a very open standard about it, so uh and

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<v Speaker 1>interesting podcast. Definitely check it out Thursday. Yeah, check that out.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you so much for listening this week Tune on

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