WEBVTT - Dear Banya: The Bitmoji Ick

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<v Speaker 1>Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.

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<v Speaker 1>Scrub but dub dumb.

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<v Speaker 2>We've had a lot of guests, so we haven't done

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<v Speaker 2>a catchup or dear Bonnia episode in a minute.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, you know, when Dancing with the Stars is in season,

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<v Speaker 1>what else would we be doing?

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<v Speaker 2>You're right, You're right. We did have a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>the cast on. It's really fun. All people that I

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<v Speaker 2>was like so excited to have, very excited. Is fact

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<v Speaker 2>back to back boom boom boom.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Do you know what I think though? I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like perhaps people think that Scrubbing In is filled with

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of Dancing with the Stars of voters.

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<v Speaker 2>What is Oh so.

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<v Speaker 1>They saw that we had Jenna and Joey on and

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<v Speaker 1>they were like, uh uh not so fast. Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>think next week we'll get another duo. Wow, it's just

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<v Speaker 1>my prediction.

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<v Speaker 2>Who is who is it gonna be?

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<v Speaker 1>Not sure?

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<v Speaker 2>Who would you want it to be? Uh?

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<v Speaker 1>Jan and Sasha?

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<v Speaker 2>Interesting?

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<v Speaker 1>No any takers?

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<v Speaker 2>Well they're not on anymore? No?

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<v Speaker 1>Great? Even better?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah yeah yeah we could.

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<v Speaker 2>Talk to them about their blooming relationship friendship. Yeah, I'd

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<v Speaker 2>like to have Alona.

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<v Speaker 1>I'd be down to have her, to love her.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I went to What's happened Since? I went to

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<v Speaker 2>Kawahi for my birthday, which was absolutely magical, Like, that's

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<v Speaker 2>just that place is a healer Hawaii.

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<v Speaker 1>Tell me it's just a healer, like.

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<v Speaker 2>You being outside and being by the ocean and the

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<v Speaker 2>trees and the flowers, and it rains and then the

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<v Speaker 2>sun comes out. It's very like cleansing. There's just something

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<v Speaker 2>like very I just think it's one of the most

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<v Speaker 2>magical places in the world.

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<v Speaker 1>Isn't It's so funny because when I think of Hawaii,

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<v Speaker 1>I associate Hawaii with you wo.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, me too, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I really do, like I associate Hawaii which yeah wow

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<v Speaker 1>Mawana adjacent.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah one is my favorite comfort movie.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you know we should do for Halloween one year,

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<v Speaker 1>what Disney Princesses.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, it'd be fun.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, it'd be cute.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't dress up. I was I this October flew

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<v Speaker 2>October will by so quickly that when it came to

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<v Speaker 2>my birthday, which is the second to last day of October,

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<v Speaker 2>I couldn't believe that I was already there, and I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, what have I done this month? That that

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<v Speaker 2>what did I do this month? So if they say

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<v Speaker 2>time flies and you're having fun, yes, but.

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<v Speaker 1>Also it goes faster the older you get. Oh really yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I feel like everybody says, like when you're a kid,

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<v Speaker 1>a year feels like ten years, like you're like, oh, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>like I can't wait till Christmas an whole nother year,

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<v Speaker 1>and now like when you're an adult, it's like Christmas

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<v Speaker 1>is tomorrow all the time.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah I did. I remember thinking like, oh, Christmas is

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<v Speaker 2>in six months, and then now it's.

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<v Speaker 1>Tomorrow around the corner, literally tomorrow.

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<v Speaker 2>And Easton celebrated his birthday as well. How was your birthday?

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<v Speaker 3>It was great. It was something happened in the nation

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<v Speaker 3>that was kind of made it a little weird, but

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<v Speaker 3>I can't remember what it was. Yeah, some was. My

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<v Speaker 3>birthday was on the sixth, the day after the fifth,

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<v Speaker 3>but uh, it was a nice time. Allison and I

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<v Speaker 3>went out to a steakhouse that we really like. We're

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<v Speaker 3>going to Palm Springs this weekend. I'm really excited. There's

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<v Speaker 3>a there's this hotel in Palm Springs that has a

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<v Speaker 3>boat in it, like a what's it called. It's the JW. Marriott,

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<v Speaker 3>like Desert Springs or something.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I feel like I've seen this.

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<v Speaker 3>I think Robbie stayed there. He like hit Allison and

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<v Speaker 3>I have He's like stayed there.

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<v Speaker 1>He's gonna say, I feel like, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>They filmed an episode Saved by the Bell there, But

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<v Speaker 3>it's like they have this big like river that goes through, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>like a big lake and it goes into the hotel

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<v Speaker 3>lobby and you can take a boat ride from the

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<v Speaker 3>lobby around the grounds.

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<v Speaker 2>Whoa.

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<v Speaker 3>And we went and took the boat rid a couple

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<v Speaker 3>of months ago, and then Allison surprised me. She's like,

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<v Speaker 3>we're staying there for the week. What you're going to

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<v Speaker 3>go on the boat ride?

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<v Speaker 2>Like four times lady joggle on the boat ride. And

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<v Speaker 2>when we were there filming the or doing the.

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<v Speaker 3>US, that was a different trip. We talked about we

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<v Speaker 3>wanted to take Sam with us.

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<v Speaker 2>Wait, that's so fun.

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<v Speaker 3>Very excited about that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, returned the Palm Springs. Yeah, yeah, the season c yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>chills speaking.

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<v Speaker 1>About Actually texted Serena Carpenter the other day.

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<v Speaker 2>Did she were spelling?

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<v Speaker 1>She shir did?

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<v Speaker 3>Wow what she's saying?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it was just like cute like I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't believe we're playing one of your songs every

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<v Speaker 1>fifteen minutes, Like I know it works so hard for this,

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<v Speaker 1>and she was like sent like crying emoji's and said,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you so much. Yeah, I know I.

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<v Speaker 2>Didn't know you how to remember. We really could have

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<v Speaker 2>reached out person.

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<v Speaker 1>I had it. I forgot I had it, but like

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<v Speaker 1>if you will not remember back in twenty sixteen or whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>we interviewed her with a ton on this podcast. She

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<v Speaker 1>I interviewed her for like a ton of stuff with Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>I like they flew me to New York to like

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<v Speaker 1>host her thing. I was like, Serena Carpenter's like Mamager.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>There was one point on American Top forty we needed

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<v Speaker 3>a guest host at the last minute, and Sabrina Carpenter

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<v Speaker 3>came on Christmas Eve and recorded it with us on

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<v Speaker 3>her way to like her dad's house to celebrate, And

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, man, she's she's the best.

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<v Speaker 1>She's a loyal iHeart, yeah, but like she's been grinding,

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<v Speaker 1>like she's been working so hard for so long, and

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<v Speaker 1>that's like just crazy now that we play one of

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<v Speaker 1>her songs literally every fifteen minutes.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's crazy. Yeah, podcast like three times.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because I was like, I was like, I want

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<v Speaker 1>to have spreen again. We'll have Spreena again. She was

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<v Speaker 1>Sabriena again.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like when you when you're past it on the floor,

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<v Speaker 2>It's like, why not have her again so you can

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<v Speaker 2>remember it, you know, and take it in. Yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 2>like what you just got to keep trying. Sonny speaking

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<v Speaker 2>of speaking of being on the ground from a skinny

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<v Speaker 2>spicy Margarita, Sonny soelebrated her twenty first.

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<v Speaker 1>She did, my baby is twenty one. Can you believe it?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so young to have twenty one year old. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's crazy, crazy. Everybody was a huge party. Yeah, and

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<v Speaker 1>everybody was messaging me like I can't believe you didn't

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<v Speaker 1>invite Phoebe. I'm like, why would I not invite Phoebe?

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<v Speaker 2>Just like people were like, I can't believe you didn't

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<v Speaker 2>invite Twny onto Hawaii. Yeah, I'm like, of.

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<v Speaker 1>Course, like what no. But however, usually when you've been

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<v Speaker 1>out of town in the past, Phoebe says, with our

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<v Speaker 1>mutual friend.

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<v Speaker 2>Who brings her brings her.

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<v Speaker 4>So but that unfortunately it was hard to go to

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<v Speaker 4>the sitter who's only watching me once to be like, hey,

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<v Speaker 4>would you mind packing her up and taking her to

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<v Speaker 4>Beverly Hills for my friend's dogs twenty first birthday party?

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<v Speaker 3>Just go to a birthday party. Yeah, that'd be great.

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<v Speaker 2>I can add on a fee for that time for

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<v Speaker 2>the drive.

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<v Speaker 1>Because pebe you thought about it.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't. I was just I literally did not think

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<v Speaker 2>about it. But I was laughing thinking about how would

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<v Speaker 2>I even she would be like this girl's crazy, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>but I'd be like, not as crazy as the girl

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<v Speaker 2>party she's going to.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, first of all, you think it's crazy, but the

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<v Speaker 1>amount of dms that I get from people with dogs

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<v Speaker 1>who have passed saying celebrate your dog now, like just

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<v Speaker 1>do it all now because it's fleeting and it makes

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<v Speaker 1>me so emotional, and I'm like, you know what, I

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<v Speaker 1>damn I'm going to I thought for a while that

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, Okay, I'm gonna do a big one

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<v Speaker 1>for her first, and then I wasn't really gonna do

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<v Speaker 1>anything for a second. But then her third or twenty

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<v Speaker 1>first was like a rager, and then like they'll get

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<v Speaker 1>smaller as the years go on, and I'm like, they're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna get bigger and bigger.

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<v Speaker 2>Alie asked if I purposely planned my birthday trip around

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<v Speaker 2>Sunny's Worth and I don't know. I was like, but

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<v Speaker 2>I can't.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry, participatingly comes. Does she not enjoy it?

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<v Speaker 2>No, she didn't enjoy it, but she goes, have you

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<v Speaker 2>ever been to one of these? And I was like, no,

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<v Speaker 2>they're during my birthday?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, yeah, but Phoebe has attended.

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<v Speaker 2>Phoebe has been there with a yea yeaheah. So but yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, I sorry, I will not sacrifice my birthday

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<v Speaker 2>trip with my.

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<v Speaker 1>Love, nor do I ask you. But that tone in

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<v Speaker 1>which Ali asks you, that makes me feel like.

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<v Speaker 2>She doesn't enjoy So no, no, no, no, no, she had

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<v Speaker 2>a great time. She's been two years in a row.

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<v Speaker 1>I know.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So the best part is so I invited Carissa Stanton,

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<v Speaker 1>who is Brought your Body on Instagram, and I'm now,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm one hundred percent sure that she thought you were

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<v Speaker 1>going to be there because she knew no one at

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<v Speaker 1>this party and I barely know her. We've had her

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<v Speaker 1>on the podcast and I follow her on Instagram and

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<v Speaker 1>she's so keep But the minute she got her dog,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh, my gosh, like, Benny should come

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<v Speaker 1>to Sunny's birthday this year, and this was like six

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<v Speaker 1>months out from her birthday, but I remembered that brock

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<v Speaker 1>your body was very excited. Yeah, and so I invited

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<v Speaker 1>her and she came, but like literally didn't know a

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<v Speaker 1>single person there, and uh, I think they had a

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<v Speaker 1>good time. But she she was like, is Becca coming.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, no, she's out of town for her

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<v Speaker 1>birthday and she's.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, oh yeah. I can't imagine going to a child's

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<v Speaker 2>birthday and not knowing anyone, much less a dog birthday

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<v Speaker 2>and not knowing people. I'd be like, oh, thank you,

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<v Speaker 2>I have to run after thirty minutes.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I think they really enjoyed themselves. And she brought

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<v Speaker 1>her husband, Corey Rager. It was a rager and the

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<v Speaker 1>dogs all got along really well.

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<v Speaker 2>I honestly felt like Phoebe's coloring would have ruined the

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<v Speaker 2>aesthetic because they were all like.

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<v Speaker 1>Tans, yeah, yeah, yeah, correct.

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<v Speaker 2>Just she's she stands out over where she goes.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's what Phoebe does.

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<v Speaker 2>She's a standout.

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<v Speaker 1>She's a standout. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, that was.

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<v Speaker 3>The videos of everyone were trying to take the picture.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like I think you had the spoon of peanut butter.

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<v Speaker 3>I watched that like ten times.

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<v Speaker 1>Like literally we are doing that for solid ten minutes,

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<v Speaker 1>like ever trying to get the shot for a good

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<v Speaker 1>ten minutes. I'm like, okay, everybody take your spoon with

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<v Speaker 1>peanut butter, and everyone had their dogs sit and stay,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's just like total mayhem.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so hard, like it's it's so hard to get

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<v Speaker 2>two dogs to look at the camera. I was like

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<v Speaker 2>felt the stretch from all the parents, like behave, don't

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<v Speaker 2>embarrass me.

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<v Speaker 1>I think next year I want to get a portrait

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<v Speaker 1>person to come and take pictures of everyone with the

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<v Speaker 1>dog in their owner, like a nice one you like

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<v Speaker 1>a Christmas card type thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah right, yeah, I can't wait to see what you

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<v Speaker 2>do for your children.

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<v Speaker 1>Everybody says when you have kids that the dogs go

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<v Speaker 1>to the they don't get as much attention.

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<v Speaker 2>So sad. I think it's just like there's.

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<v Speaker 1>So much you don'tly have so much capacity.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I just can't even imagine, like Phoebe is my

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<v Speaker 2>everything or that too everything.

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<v Speaker 1>I know. I tell Sonny too, until you have a baby.

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<v Speaker 2>Well I'm not in that position. So if he's gonna

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<v Speaker 2>be my queen for a long time. Any wedding updates

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<v Speaker 2>that you can give to the number.

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<v Speaker 1>No wedding updates, not a.

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<v Speaker 2>Single wedding update. No jeez, we're getting close. Yeah, but

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<v Speaker 2>we do have dear Bondiard questions we do. Oh wait

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<v Speaker 2>before we move on from Halloween, because you and Robbie

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<v Speaker 2>dressed up, and Robbie really really dressed up. Okay, I've

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<v Speaker 2>never seen someone make heels look so uncomfortable in my

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<v Speaker 2>entire life.

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<v Speaker 1>By the way, those were two inch heels. Those are

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<v Speaker 1>not even like three or four. They were kittens, and

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<v Speaker 1>he was romping around it and so uncomfortable.

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<v Speaker 2>I felt like he also made his walk. He was

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<v Speaker 2>trying to make his walk a little more masculine, so

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<v Speaker 2>it felt like he was really making them.

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<v Speaker 1>Look So the dress that I gave him has like, uh,

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<v Speaker 1>a bodysuit built into it, so he was not prepared

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<v Speaker 1>when he got into that dress for what he was

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<v Speaker 1>going to experience all night. And it wasn't a song.

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<v Speaker 1>It was like a full full but luckily for him,

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<v Speaker 1>but the whole outfit was just like a lot and

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<v Speaker 1>he was like constantly pulling up the tube top. It

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<v Speaker 1>was just like a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, did he have some Like he was not graceful

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<v Speaker 2>with my lipstick, like at all.

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<v Speaker 1>If I showed you the lipstick tube, it's like literally

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<v Speaker 1>like crooked now because he just like used it like chapstick.

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<v Speaker 1>He was just like.

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<v Speaker 2>Like a little grace Yeah, yeah, have some finesse. Really.

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<v Speaker 1>But it was so fun because I feel like we

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to do Ryan and Banna, but we felt if

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<v Speaker 1>we just did it whatever, the like I'm being Vana,

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<v Speaker 1>he being so boring, so boring. Yeah, so we had

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<v Speaker 1>to flip it on it.

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<v Speaker 2>I just appreciate him going for it. I did too.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm trying to figure out if him is Vanna or

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<v Speaker 2>him as Ken with that scary wig was worse because

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<v Speaker 2>the Ken wig lives like written free in my head.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, if I'm gonna be honest, I think his favorite

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<v Speaker 1>was being Travis.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because that was it was almost like him is

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<v Speaker 2>like edgy.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, he's like next year I want tattoos. I was like, okay, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>he deserves it. I'll give it to him.

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<v Speaker 2>You're like your cat bondiets.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, but I didn't tell you we're gonna be the

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<v Speaker 1>hocus Pocus whitches.

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<v Speaker 2>So sisters were so good, so good. Also, we watched

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<v Speaker 2>that movie on Halloween, like in Hawaii, and I remember

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<v Speaker 2>watching that so young. It's really scary at the beginning. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>they're like sucking the soul from a little girl. Like

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<v Speaker 2>it's really dark. Watching it as an adult, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Was like, I watched that movie like that is my

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<v Speaker 1>go to Halloween movie. I watch it on repeat every season.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I've been doing that since I was

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<v Speaker 1>like a fetus.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so good.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, okay, say the night before Christmas for Christmas, I.

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<v Speaker 2>Will not be watching that at any point of the year.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, we don't have to go there again.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, no, here's the thing. Most people agree with you.

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<v Speaker 2>Most people love it. Most people find it trag.

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<v Speaker 1>I listened to on Halloween.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't be great.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that movie.

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<v Speaker 2>So we have some deer Bonnier questions. Easton is going

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<v Speaker 2>to read. But first we're gonna take a break, so

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<v Speaker 2>we'll be right back. All right, we are back, so Easton,

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<v Speaker 2>We're just gonna take off right now in the dear Bonnie.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow, was that a car crash or plane taking out?

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<v Speaker 1>Supposed to be a plane taking.

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<v Speaker 3>All right, Well, now that this bird's in the air.

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<v Speaker 3>Dear Bania, Mark and Easton. First, just want to say

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<v Speaker 3>that I've been a Day one listener and look forward

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<v Speaker 3>to the pod every week. The very same day of

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<v Speaker 3>the podcast came out seven years ago, on September fourteenth,

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<v Speaker 3>was the day my husband and I made our relationship official.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow, We've now been married for two and a half years.

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<v Speaker 3>We're expecting our first baby in December. Congratulations. This is Oh,

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<v Speaker 3>this is Madeline. I should say sorry, congratulations Madeline. Our

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<v Speaker 3>baby will be our third, the third grandchild on my

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<v Speaker 3>husband's side, so my in laws have been grandparents for

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<v Speaker 3>six years already. Instead of Grandpa, my father in law

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<v Speaker 3>goes by the name Daddy Joe. He goes by this

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<v Speaker 3>because he has the same name as his grandpa and

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<v Speaker 3>that's what he called his grandfather. He's also Southern, so

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<v Speaker 3>this is apparently a souther thing. But I hate it.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's creepy to call him daddy. He himself

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<v Speaker 3>is not creepy, don't worry, but I just think that

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<v Speaker 3>our baby should save the name daddy for his own

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<v Speaker 3>dad aka my husband. I'm trying hard to avoid my

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<v Speaker 3>children calling him this. For the record, my husband doesn't

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<v Speaker 3>like it either, but my father in law is incredibly

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<v Speaker 3>stubb in a conversation would probably not go well. So

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<v Speaker 3>my husband feels that we are likely stuck with this.

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<v Speaker 3>I have toyed around with the idea of just not

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<v Speaker 3>acknowledging it directly and referring to him as Granddaddy Joe

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<v Speaker 3>or maybe Grandpy Joe. Do you have any other suggestions

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<v Speaker 3>on how to handle this? Am I over reacting? What

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<v Speaker 3>are your thoughts?

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<v Speaker 2>Help? I personally don't love Daddy Joe.

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<v Speaker 1>He literally makes skin crawl.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that you maybe talk when you're with your kids,

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<v Speaker 2>you you refer to him as what you want to

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<v Speaker 2>refer to him as, and then they're gonna call him not.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think that I mean, really reference how often

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I guess very often what very often they're

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<v Speaker 2>saying their name huh?

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<v Speaker 1>Because I think of it as like my step kids

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<v Speaker 1>and their grandpa, and how much they refer to him

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<v Speaker 1>as his name, Maybe they.

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<v Speaker 2>Can come up. I think it's like, hey, we really

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<v Speaker 2>want our kids to have their own nickname for you

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<v Speaker 2>that's special to them, and like that that means something

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<v Speaker 2>to them, and you'll come up with something together.

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<v Speaker 1>So she's saying that the conversation wouldn't go well. So

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<v Speaker 1>I think you backdoor it. And she's sort of only pregnant, right,

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<v Speaker 1>she says she's pregnant, so the baby's not even here yet.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think what you can do is on the

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<v Speaker 1>baby's learning names, you can have them call daddy Joe

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<v Speaker 1>DJ and come up like have like teach the kid DJ.

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<v Speaker 1>There's DJ, and then it's like your kid's own version

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<v Speaker 1>of daddy Joe that they came up with on their

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<v Speaker 1>own and it's so cute. Oh my gosh, she calls you,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what they call you DJ.

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<v Speaker 2>How cute is that? I think that might be the

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<v Speaker 2>best advice, thank you, because I would avoid Daddy Joe with.

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<v Speaker 1>All I have in me, everything in me. Daddy Joe

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<v Speaker 1>makes my skin it no disrespect.

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<v Speaker 2>Is probably great, But Daddy Joe the name I don't

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<v Speaker 2>want my I don't don't want my child referring calling

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<v Speaker 2>anyone daddy Joe. No unless no, no, no, no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 2>unless it's Jill Biden.

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<v Speaker 3>She's the only one that can do.

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<v Speaker 1>It exactly where my head was. Yeah, So that's I

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<v Speaker 1>think the best path of the best solution here is

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<v Speaker 1>DJ yeah, and then it's just the kid came up

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<v Speaker 1>with it, and.

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<v Speaker 2>If he has an issue with it, I think it's

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<v Speaker 2>just like, hey, we wanted to.

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<v Speaker 1>Take it on. Then Daddy Joe can take it up

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<v Speaker 1>with the kid.

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<v Speaker 2>That's right.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Daddy Joe.

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<v Speaker 2>You let your kid handle it, not text it. Write

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<v Speaker 2>us back in three years, let us know how that goes.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I think it's a flawless plan if you ask me.

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<v Speaker 2>But here's the thing. I'm with you. We see you,

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<v Speaker 2>we hear you, and we wish you the best.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Yikes, all right.

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<v Speaker 3>This one's from anonymous. I have a coworker who I've

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<v Speaker 3>worked with for worked with virtually for some time. We

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<v Speaker 3>see them more regularly in the office. Said coworker has

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<v Speaker 3>on more than one occasion, had an odor general sweaty,

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<v Speaker 3>musty type of smell. Said coworker is also pregnant. As

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<v Speaker 3>someone who's recently pregnant myself, I know hormones can get

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<v Speaker 3>you all out of whack. Plus my sense of smell

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<v Speaker 3>is definitely heightened. I was personally very paranoid about smelling

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<v Speaker 3>bad and told my boss to let me know if

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<v Speaker 3>I ever stink. This coworker has not asked for that

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<v Speaker 3>type of feedback. I don't know her super well outside

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<v Speaker 3>the office, but well at the office. Question do I

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<v Speaker 3>say anything? Wait until after she has the baby to

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<v Speaker 3>see if this is still an issue. Keep my mouth

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<v Speaker 3>shut unless asked, and try to keep my nose shut too.

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<v Speaker 3>Thanks to the advice and the light you guys bring,

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<v Speaker 3>this podcast always has me laughing out loud. Thank you,

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<v Speaker 3>ps Rebecca. I was talking about shoes with another coworker

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<v Speaker 3>and they said, I need a slimmer, silhouetted sneaker. I'll

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<v Speaker 3>of the Adida samba. I'm wearing sambas right now. All

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<v Speaker 3>I could think about was Ali sash Randy saying he

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<v Speaker 3>liked a slim afoot.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think you say anything. I think that she's

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<v Speaker 2>probably the last thing she wants to hear about is

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<v Speaker 2>that she smells bad from someone else Like that would

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<v Speaker 2>just be the icing on the cake tip of the iceberg.

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<v Speaker 2>If I was in an uncomfortable pregnancy, not feeling.

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<v Speaker 1>Great, if I was walking around stanky, I would want

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<v Speaker 1>someone to tell me.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, but you would. You're you're verbally saying that,

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<v Speaker 2>so I would feel comfortable saying something to you because

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<v Speaker 2>you're saying I would want someone to tell me, but

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<v Speaker 2>she hasn't heard this.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'm not going around my office telling everybody, Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>if I smell, please let me know.

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<v Speaker 2>I know that I'm saying. Maybe she said it to

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<v Speaker 2>someone else that she like let me know, but she

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<v Speaker 2>hasn't said it to anonymous, So I don't know if

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<v Speaker 2>it's not like I mean, maybe there's.

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<v Speaker 1>A way an anonymous no, like she doesn't you need

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<v Speaker 1>to need to tell her to her face, Like that's

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<v Speaker 1>such an awkward conversation. Hey, you kind of smell like

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what the smell is or sweaty mussy,

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<v Speaker 1>so me like, it's such an awkward thing to say

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<v Speaker 1>to somebody, like do you worry dooder? Are you trying

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<v Speaker 1>a new dude?

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<v Speaker 2>Or like what if what if she was she's been

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<v Speaker 2>pregnant before, so what if she was like, how have

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<v Speaker 2>your pregnancy symptoms been been? Like have you had anything?

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<v Speaker 2>And then if she's like, oh, like what were yours?

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<v Speaker 2>And she could just be like, oh, mine, Like I

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<v Speaker 2>felt like my nose was out of whack and I

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<v Speaker 2>was just like my hormones changed. I felt like I

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<v Speaker 2>there was like a smell And if she's like oh,

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<v Speaker 2>like I contrived?

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<v Speaker 1>That is so contrived? Are you joking me? I could

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<v Speaker 1>see right through that. No, leave an anonymous note.

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<v Speaker 2>You stink?

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<v Speaker 1>Not you stink? But like, what is the note I

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<v Speaker 1>would want?

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<v Speaker 2>Like?

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<v Speaker 1>I would want to know there's been a pungent smell,

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<v Speaker 1>like and I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>What it is.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't want to embarrass you by saying anything, but

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<v Speaker 1>I want to help you.

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<v Speaker 2>What if you said, I'm looking for a new deodorant,

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<v Speaker 2>do you have one that you love?

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<v Speaker 3>And then she's, oh my god, that's what I've been forgetting.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I don't think that's gonna go over as well

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<v Speaker 1>as you.

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<v Speaker 2>I have a perfume, Like, I've been looking for a perfume.

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<v Speaker 2>What do you? What's your go to a.

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<v Speaker 1>Lot of people don't wear perfume because of the endocrime disruptors.

0:21:59.760 --> 0:22:03.320
<v Speaker 2>Maybe she's not wearing theodorant for the same reason, and

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<v Speaker 2>or she's wearing a natural Those.

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<v Speaker 1>Are does work, okay if you get the right ones

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<v Speaker 1>saltan stone.

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<v Speaker 2>No, yeah, you still have to have the right like pheromones.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, they do stop working after a while.

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<v Speaker 1>Do I smell?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm anonymous?

0:22:27.160 --> 0:22:27.399
<v Speaker 1>I'm like.

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<v Speaker 3>Something, I have a podcast there for a lunch time.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you telling me something? No, I think I can

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<v Speaker 1>tell when my natural deodorant like stops working.

0:22:37.080 --> 0:22:38.200
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's good.

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<v Speaker 1>I think I'm self aware enough.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I I have a hard time because I've never

0:22:42.400 --> 0:22:45.200
<v Speaker 2>been pregnant. So I imagine when you're pregnant, if if

0:22:45.240 --> 0:22:47.600
<v Speaker 2>your like hormones are all disruptive and your nose isn't

0:22:47.640 --> 0:22:50.480
<v Speaker 2>like we're I don't know, like or you're just maybe

0:22:50.560 --> 0:22:53.679
<v Speaker 2>she's just like I don't care, like I know I smell.

0:22:54.600 --> 0:22:55.080
<v Speaker 2>I don't care.

0:22:58.480 --> 0:23:02.879
<v Speaker 1>Sorry, I mean, I've had a stinky coworker in the past.

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<v Speaker 2>How'd you handle it?

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<v Speaker 1>Didn't tell him?

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<v Speaker 2>There you go?

0:23:06.680 --> 0:23:10.600
<v Speaker 1>No, no note left, no note left. Nope, this was

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<v Speaker 1>a different type of smell.

0:23:12.320 --> 0:23:16.200
<v Speaker 2>I think after she's not pregnant any you know I

0:23:16.280 --> 0:23:19.880
<v Speaker 2>feel about that. Yeah, I think after she's not pregnant anymore,

0:23:20.160 --> 0:23:24.080
<v Speaker 2>maybe if you're still smelling it, maybe you can leave

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<v Speaker 2>a note or have a conversation.

0:23:26.040 --> 0:23:27.600
<v Speaker 1>Does pregnancy really make you smell?

0:23:28.080 --> 0:23:30.959
<v Speaker 2>It's yeah, changes all your like horrible everything.

0:23:31.080 --> 0:23:33.080
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's so crazy.

0:23:33.800 --> 0:23:35.879
<v Speaker 2>So I think maybe I just am like worried that.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, she just I feel like she's probably got

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<v Speaker 2>a lot going on and is emotional, and she's at work,

0:23:42.440 --> 0:23:44.200
<v Speaker 2>and I just don't know if it's the time to

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<v Speaker 2>like bring up that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, I think I retract my anonymous letter.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah yeah, until after she's had the child.

0:23:53.760 --> 0:23:57.600
<v Speaker 3>Correct, So yeah, look back with us after this child's born.

0:23:58.040 --> 0:24:00.640
<v Speaker 3>Let's see what we can do. Here's another one from anonymous.

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<v Speaker 3>I beck Antanya. I've been listening to you for years

0:24:03.119 --> 0:24:05.240
<v Speaker 3>and you always brighten my day when I listen. I

0:24:05.320 --> 0:24:08.399
<v Speaker 3>started dating my boyfriend in January. We've been together this

0:24:08.480 --> 0:24:10.240
<v Speaker 3>whole year, but we took a break back in August

0:24:10.280 --> 0:24:12.560
<v Speaker 3>after I broke up with him. He showed up drunk

0:24:12.600 --> 0:24:14.600
<v Speaker 3>at my place one night. But this was on top

0:24:14.680 --> 0:24:16.880
<v Speaker 3>of other things that were building up and basically giving

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<v Speaker 3>me the ick, like re wearing dirty clothes because he's

0:24:19.400 --> 0:24:21.320
<v Speaker 3>too lazy to do his laundry in the basement of

0:24:21.359 --> 0:24:23.800
<v Speaker 3>his apartment building. He also has a five year old

0:24:23.880 --> 0:24:26.320
<v Speaker 3>daughter that he has most nights and weekends, so he's

0:24:26.320 --> 0:24:28.320
<v Speaker 3>super busy being a dad, but the laundry thing was

0:24:28.359 --> 0:24:30.920
<v Speaker 3>grossing me out. He also wouldn't let me come to

0:24:31.000 --> 0:24:32.879
<v Speaker 3>his place all summer because it was too messy and

0:24:32.920 --> 0:24:34.840
<v Speaker 3>he was too lazy. To clean up for me. After

0:24:34.880 --> 0:24:36.320
<v Speaker 3>I broke up with him, he saw me on hinge

0:24:36.359 --> 0:24:38.399
<v Speaker 3>and reached out, so we got back together. Things have

0:24:38.480 --> 0:24:40.040
<v Speaker 3>been really great for the most part. I met his

0:24:40.119 --> 0:24:42.240
<v Speaker 3>family and also met his daughter. He even told me

0:24:42.320 --> 0:24:44.080
<v Speaker 3>he loves me for the first time. So a lot

0:24:44.119 --> 0:24:46.560
<v Speaker 3>has happened since getting back together. He's gone out of

0:24:46.600 --> 0:24:48.200
<v Speaker 3>his way to invite me to his place and keeps

0:24:48.240 --> 0:24:50.320
<v Speaker 3>it super clean and does his laundry, so he's putting

0:24:50.320 --> 0:24:52.280
<v Speaker 3>it in the effort. The thing is, although I do

0:24:52.440 --> 0:24:54.720
<v Speaker 3>love him and I'm happy, I don't think he's my person.

0:24:55.119 --> 0:24:56.920
<v Speaker 3>He's a great guy. I fully trust him, which is

0:24:57.000 --> 0:24:59.399
<v Speaker 3>hard for me, but he doesn't have any ambition. We

0:24:59.440 --> 0:25:01.560
<v Speaker 3>also seem to. I have different morals. I like to

0:25:01.560 --> 0:25:03.680
<v Speaker 3>follow the rules where he likes to bend them. I

0:25:03.720 --> 0:25:05.720
<v Speaker 3>don't know if these are pet peeves that can be changed,

0:25:05.800 --> 0:25:07.399
<v Speaker 3>or if it's just going to be who he is

0:25:07.520 --> 0:25:10.520
<v Speaker 3>forever and I'm sabotaging the potential. Thanks for your help,

0:25:10.760 --> 0:25:11.239
<v Speaker 3>Love you all.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think he's your person.

0:25:15.160 --> 0:25:17.440
<v Speaker 1>Oh oh oh yeah, wow, straight to that.

0:25:17.880 --> 0:25:20.240
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I just don't. I don't think. I think that

0:25:20.560 --> 0:25:23.119
<v Speaker 2>you can find people that make you happy enough to

0:25:23.200 --> 0:25:25.440
<v Speaker 2>where you're not alone. But I don't find that you're

0:25:25.480 --> 0:25:27.200
<v Speaker 2>excited about this guy at all.

0:25:28.440 --> 0:25:30.560
<v Speaker 1>See, I feel like it's really hard to find people

0:25:30.640 --> 0:25:32.280
<v Speaker 1>that you get along with and that you click with.

0:25:35.040 --> 0:25:38.719
<v Speaker 1>And I feel like you're unsure right now, which is fine,

0:25:39.240 --> 0:25:41.560
<v Speaker 1>But I feel like when you're sure, you're sure, like

0:25:41.680 --> 0:25:43.960
<v Speaker 1>you broke up with him already once, like you are sure,

0:25:44.080 --> 0:25:46.440
<v Speaker 1>So I feel like, wait till you're sure before you

0:25:46.520 --> 0:25:47.119
<v Speaker 1>break up with him.

0:25:49.119 --> 0:25:51.440
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I just feel like you don't. You just said

0:25:51.480 --> 0:25:53.360
<v Speaker 2>I don't think he's my person, and it's like we're

0:25:53.400 --> 0:25:54.560
<v Speaker 2>not getting any younger, so.

0:25:54.640 --> 0:26:00.159
<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, if he doesn't speak for yourself. Also, do

0:26:00.200 --> 0:26:00.760
<v Speaker 1>you want over here?

0:26:01.240 --> 0:26:03.480
<v Speaker 3>I'm scanning this again, and I don't see anything she

0:26:03.920 --> 0:26:04.600
<v Speaker 3>likes about him.

0:26:04.640 --> 0:26:07.280
<v Speaker 2>That's what I'm saying. She's like, Oh, he's cleaning for me,

0:26:07.400 --> 0:26:08.960
<v Speaker 2>which it's nice that he's putting in the effort, but

0:26:09.080 --> 0:26:12.320
<v Speaker 2>beyond that, it doesn't feel like you are excited about

0:26:12.400 --> 0:26:14.560
<v Speaker 2>him or any qualities that he has. So I think

0:26:14.680 --> 0:26:17.200
<v Speaker 2>you just go, hey, we tried it again. He's a

0:26:17.280 --> 0:26:19.800
<v Speaker 2>great guy, but we're he's not my He's not the

0:26:19.880 --> 0:26:20.600
<v Speaker 2>great guy for me.

0:26:21.560 --> 0:26:24.159
<v Speaker 3>Yeah. The only improvement from after you broke over with

0:26:24.200 --> 0:26:25.920
<v Speaker 3>him is that he started doing his laundry.

0:26:28.119 --> 0:26:29.960
<v Speaker 2>He lift the bar off the floor.

0:26:30.400 --> 0:26:32.680
<v Speaker 1>The fact that he has a child and he doesn't

0:26:32.720 --> 0:26:35.479
<v Speaker 1>want to do his laundry is scary.

0:26:35.720 --> 0:26:36.440
<v Speaker 3>It's concerning.

0:26:36.800 --> 0:26:42.760
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, were so s?

0:26:43.480 --> 0:26:45.080
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, break up with him immediately, That's what I.

0:26:46.040 --> 0:26:48.920
<v Speaker 2>Let's take a break because we have two more and

0:26:49.000 --> 0:26:54.080
<v Speaker 2>then we'll be right back. Then wait, coming up, best

0:26:54.200 --> 0:26:59.280
<v Speaker 2>friend ickes this, you too know. I save myself for

0:26:59.400 --> 0:27:18.280
<v Speaker 2>one email for Dearmona. All right, we're back, so we

0:27:18.440 --> 0:27:22.560
<v Speaker 2>have I think two more emails to get to. But

0:27:22.720 --> 0:27:25.040
<v Speaker 2>this one is best friend ick.

0:27:25.320 --> 0:27:28.480
<v Speaker 3>That's right, we just heard a boyfriend ick. Now we

0:27:28.560 --> 0:27:31.080
<v Speaker 3>got a best friend iic. This is from Jocelyn. My

0:27:31.160 --> 0:27:33.080
<v Speaker 3>best friend and I have known each other for ten years.

0:27:33.119 --> 0:27:35.560
<v Speaker 3>We're in our late twenties. She recently started dating a

0:27:35.600 --> 0:27:37.200
<v Speaker 3>new guy and got a new job all around the

0:27:37.200 --> 0:27:39.639
<v Speaker 3>same time, which is great. Life changes are fun and

0:27:39.720 --> 0:27:41.520
<v Speaker 3>exciting and I want to be there to support her.

0:27:41.640 --> 0:27:44.760
<v Speaker 3>But she has to mention the new job all the time.

0:27:45.320 --> 0:27:47.760
<v Speaker 3>It is constantly the only thing she talks about. This

0:27:47.920 --> 0:27:50.520
<v Speaker 3>is on top of some other inconsiderate mannerism she has

0:27:50.560 --> 0:27:52.879
<v Speaker 3>in group settings, and it's given me the ick. I

0:27:53.040 --> 0:27:55.000
<v Speaker 3>try to set my own boundaries, like not hanging out

0:27:55.040 --> 0:27:57.520
<v Speaker 3>one on one and only group events, so I haven't

0:27:57.560 --> 0:27:59.000
<v Speaker 3>needed to see her as much to give us a

0:27:59.040 --> 0:28:01.360
<v Speaker 3>little space. But even when she texts me, I get

0:28:01.400 --> 0:28:04.000
<v Speaker 3>this irol feeling because of course the job is always

0:28:04.040 --> 0:28:07.000
<v Speaker 3>part of it. We have some personality differences now versus

0:28:07.040 --> 0:28:09.520
<v Speaker 3>when we met in college, where I don't think she's

0:28:09.560 --> 0:28:11.000
<v Speaker 3>the kind of person I would be as close with

0:28:11.040 --> 0:28:13.199
<v Speaker 3>if we met as adults. We've been friends for so long,

0:28:13.240 --> 0:28:15.200
<v Speaker 3>I feel obligated to stay invested. But what can I

0:28:15.320 --> 0:28:17.800
<v Speaker 3>do is this is our friendship doomed? Do I talk

0:28:17.840 --> 0:28:21.359
<v Speaker 3>to her about these issues? Am I just an unsupportive ahole? Thanks? Ladies,

0:28:21.400 --> 0:28:24.400
<v Speaker 3>Love you. EXO Joscelyn Psocell is my drunk bar name,

0:28:24.440 --> 0:28:26.000
<v Speaker 3>so you can read that instead of being anonymous.

0:28:27.200 --> 0:28:32.760
<v Speaker 2>I like that. That's cool her alter ego. Yeah, I'm

0:28:32.800 --> 0:28:33.600
<v Speaker 2>torn on this one.

0:28:33.680 --> 0:28:35.600
<v Speaker 1>Oh tell us how you feel? Well.

0:28:35.680 --> 0:28:37.840
<v Speaker 2>I just think that sometimes we meet people at a

0:28:37.880 --> 0:28:41.280
<v Speaker 2>certain stage in our life, and then as you get older,

0:28:41.720 --> 0:28:44.640
<v Speaker 2>there's sometimes where you just grow apart. Like I feel

0:28:44.640 --> 0:28:46.480
<v Speaker 2>like sometimes it's just like you don't align on the

0:28:46.560 --> 0:28:48.280
<v Speaker 2>things that you used to align with. And I don't

0:28:48.280 --> 0:28:51.240
<v Speaker 2>think it's that anyone did anything wrong. Like, I don't

0:28:51.320 --> 0:28:55.360
<v Speaker 2>think that your friend talking about her new job is

0:28:55.480 --> 0:28:59.600
<v Speaker 2>the underlying issue here. I think it's a symptom of

0:29:00.240 --> 0:29:05.320
<v Speaker 2>and already like set in mindset that she has where

0:29:05.400 --> 0:29:07.280
<v Speaker 2>it's just like, we're not the same people we were

0:29:07.360 --> 0:29:10.400
<v Speaker 2>when we met, and we haven't grown together, we've grown apart,

0:29:10.600 --> 0:29:14.920
<v Speaker 2>and so now everything she does feels annoying because you've

0:29:14.920 --> 0:29:17.200
<v Speaker 2>already set in your mind that you've grown apart. That's

0:29:17.240 --> 0:29:19.760
<v Speaker 2>how I think, And I think it's worth I mean,

0:29:19.840 --> 0:29:22.360
<v Speaker 2>I don't think it's like worth just throwing it away

0:29:22.400 --> 0:29:25.600
<v Speaker 2>without having a conversation, But I do think it's important

0:29:25.680 --> 0:29:28.720
<v Speaker 2>to address things that you're struggling with, because then I

0:29:28.800 --> 0:29:30.880
<v Speaker 2>think it's out on the table. And if y'all do

0:29:31.040 --> 0:29:33.760
<v Speaker 2>grow to a point where you're not best friends anymore,

0:29:34.240 --> 0:29:37.280
<v Speaker 2>it's like we tried and I communicated with her, and

0:29:37.360 --> 0:29:39.880
<v Speaker 2>this wasn't just like I threw in the towel on

0:29:40.000 --> 0:29:41.320
<v Speaker 2>something that was really important to me.

0:29:41.600 --> 0:29:44.800
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean I took it at surface level of

0:29:44.960 --> 0:29:47.320
<v Speaker 1>just like somebody like not being socially aware of just

0:29:47.440 --> 0:29:49.280
<v Speaker 1>like saying the same you know, talking about the same

0:29:49.320 --> 0:29:51.080
<v Speaker 1>thing over and over again, because I feel like I

0:29:51.200 --> 0:29:53.200
<v Speaker 1>have to catch myself because I'm like, I can't just

0:29:53.320 --> 0:29:55.920
<v Speaker 1>like text my friends every little freakin detail because it's

0:29:56.040 --> 0:29:58.440
<v Speaker 1>so many details. So like I catch myself doing that

0:29:58.480 --> 0:30:01.440
<v Speaker 1>because I'm trying to be more socially aware. So like,

0:30:01.520 --> 0:30:04.200
<v Speaker 1>maybe your friend just isn't socially aware and like this

0:30:04.360 --> 0:30:06.160
<v Speaker 1>is just what's consuming her right now because it is

0:30:06.240 --> 0:30:07.800
<v Speaker 1>like a new job and it's top of mind and

0:30:07.840 --> 0:30:10.240
<v Speaker 1>there's so much going on. It's like your job essentially

0:30:10.320 --> 0:30:12.200
<v Speaker 1>is your life. You know, you spend more hours at

0:30:12.240 --> 0:30:14.160
<v Speaker 1>your job than you do at your home. So it's

0:30:14.200 --> 0:30:16.520
<v Speaker 1>like maybe she just isn't aware that she's like being annoying.

0:30:16.680 --> 0:30:18.960
<v Speaker 1>If you don't address it, you don't tell her it's annoying.

0:30:18.720 --> 0:30:21.360
<v Speaker 2>Right, doesn't say I think it's worth having a conversation.

0:30:21.480 --> 0:30:23.520
<v Speaker 2>But I also think because it is such a surface

0:30:23.600 --> 0:30:26.440
<v Speaker 2>level thing, it makes me think there's a deeper rooted

0:30:27.480 --> 0:30:31.200
<v Speaker 2>issue in the friendship that it's like that is causing

0:30:31.360 --> 0:30:35.240
<v Speaker 2>so much something so simple is causing so much distress

0:30:35.320 --> 0:30:35.600
<v Speaker 2>and it.

0:30:35.880 --> 0:30:38.560
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it would it be something else, right, Yeah.

0:30:38.520 --> 0:30:40.760
<v Speaker 2>Like it would. Just I think you're at a point

0:30:41.000 --> 0:30:42.960
<v Speaker 2>where you just need to have a conversation of like

0:30:43.960 --> 0:30:48.160
<v Speaker 2>whether it's the changes y'all have felt in the growth apart.

0:30:48.480 --> 0:30:51.560
<v Speaker 2>It's addressing that. And also like, hey, when we hang out,

0:30:51.680 --> 0:30:53.920
<v Speaker 2>I know your job is so important and I love

0:30:54.000 --> 0:30:56.200
<v Speaker 2>an update, but like I feel like that's the only

0:30:56.280 --> 0:30:58.320
<v Speaker 2>thing we talk about, and I want to talk about

0:30:58.320 --> 0:31:01.400
<v Speaker 2>other things with you. I wanted to just I mean

0:31:02.200 --> 0:31:04.840
<v Speaker 2>sometimes in a relationship, like sometimes Haley will come home

0:31:04.880 --> 0:31:07.200
<v Speaker 2>when something she's working with and it's like, can we

0:31:07.360 --> 0:31:09.200
<v Speaker 2>just have a break and not and just talk about

0:31:09.520 --> 0:31:11.120
<v Speaker 2>other things other than work things?

0:31:11.280 --> 0:31:15.160
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because like would you eat for lunch? Whatever?

0:31:15.480 --> 0:31:18.480
<v Speaker 2>We don't get that exciting every night of like what

0:31:18.640 --> 0:31:21.560
<v Speaker 2>did you eat for lunch? You know? But I'm just saying,

0:31:21.600 --> 0:31:24.239
<v Speaker 2>like I do think it's important to have to let

0:31:24.360 --> 0:31:27.200
<v Speaker 2>someone know because sometimes people don't know that that they're

0:31:27.280 --> 0:31:30.120
<v Speaker 2>just hemming and hauling on and on about the same thing. Yeah,

0:31:30.240 --> 0:31:32.680
<v Speaker 2>and they probably she might not even remember if she's

0:31:32.760 --> 0:31:34.360
<v Speaker 2>talked to you about certain things and you're like, I've

0:31:34.360 --> 0:31:35.960
<v Speaker 2>heard this story for five hundred times.

0:31:36.120 --> 0:31:36.320
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:31:36.800 --> 0:31:39.959
<v Speaker 3>I talk about work a lot because that's often all

0:31:40.000 --> 0:31:41.880
<v Speaker 3>that I do in the day. And at one point

0:31:41.920 --> 0:31:44.560
<v Speaker 3>Alison was like, Hey, you get paid for that. I don't,

0:31:44.680 --> 0:31:47.560
<v Speaker 3>so I'm can we calm it down, you know, And

0:31:47.640 --> 0:31:49.360
<v Speaker 3>I was like wow, And I think about that old

0:31:49.440 --> 0:31:50.800
<v Speaker 3>every time I started like talking about work, I'm like,

0:31:50.800 --> 0:31:52.760
<v Speaker 3>oh god, you know, like she just leave them at

0:31:52.800 --> 0:31:53.280
<v Speaker 3>the office.

0:31:53.560 --> 0:31:56.800
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean, which is hard, so hard. It's easier

0:31:56.880 --> 0:31:58.520
<v Speaker 2>said than none to just be able to turn it off,

0:31:58.640 --> 0:32:00.880
<v Speaker 2>but it is. I do think it's worth a conversation.

0:32:01.080 --> 0:32:04.240
<v Speaker 2>And I also think that if it's if it's a

0:32:04.320 --> 0:32:06.320
<v Speaker 2>deeper issue and it's like, hey, we're just not the

0:32:06.360 --> 0:32:09.560
<v Speaker 2>same people, and I want to be more specific on

0:32:09.600 --> 0:32:12.360
<v Speaker 2>where I'm spending my time and energy and friendships and relationships,

0:32:12.400 --> 0:32:18.120
<v Speaker 2>and it's not here anymore. That's okay. Yeah, it's good luck, Jocelyn, Jocelyn.

0:32:18.360 --> 0:32:21.719
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, we wish you the best of Joscelyn. All right.

0:32:22.000 --> 0:32:25.960
<v Speaker 3>Last one this is from Lauren, Hi, Banya and me Ston.

0:32:26.160 --> 0:32:29.400
<v Speaker 3>That's fun and just binge. Nobody wants this And all

0:32:29.440 --> 0:32:31.560
<v Speaker 3>he did the whole time was picture Tany as Joanne

0:32:31.640 --> 0:32:33.880
<v Speaker 3>and Robbie is Noah. I want to know all the

0:32:33.920 --> 0:32:36.239
<v Speaker 3>different parallels Tonya saw when she watched the show. Did

0:32:36.280 --> 0:32:38.600
<v Speaker 3>she experience similar struggles with Robbie's family as far as

0:32:38.640 --> 0:32:41.080
<v Speaker 3>the religion and being more conservative? Is Robbie a lot

0:32:41.160 --> 0:32:45.360
<v Speaker 3>like Noah's character, even parilis Becca saw from out outside perspective,

0:32:45.520 --> 0:32:46.360
<v Speaker 3>love you guys.

0:32:48.680 --> 0:32:52.720
<v Speaker 1>Well right off the I mean the storyline in and

0:32:52.840 --> 0:32:56.920
<v Speaker 1>of itself is like this blonde podcast or that talks

0:32:56.920 --> 0:33:01.840
<v Speaker 1>about sex dating this like Jewish guys, So like right off, Rabbi, sorry, Rabbi,

0:33:02.400 --> 0:33:07.600
<v Speaker 1>my apologies, even though Robbie's not a rabbi. The general

0:33:08.520 --> 0:33:12.480
<v Speaker 1>synopsis of the show is like literally our relationship, so

0:33:12.640 --> 0:33:15.160
<v Speaker 1>that to me, like right off the bat was very weird.

0:33:15.680 --> 0:33:20.920
<v Speaker 1>The first kiss when I got my vagina tingles, that

0:33:21.120 --> 0:33:24.160
<v Speaker 1>felt very like similar to the kiss that we had

0:33:25.920 --> 0:33:28.600
<v Speaker 1>less with the family because his mom and his sister

0:33:28.680 --> 0:33:32.200
<v Speaker 1>in law were like so excited about me because of

0:33:32.280 --> 0:33:34.120
<v Speaker 1>like everything that he's gone through in the past, so

0:33:34.240 --> 0:33:37.440
<v Speaker 1>like I didn't have to deal with any family members

0:33:37.480 --> 0:33:39.280
<v Speaker 1>not liking me, which was really nice, Like they were

0:33:39.360 --> 0:33:43.480
<v Speaker 1>really like lovely to me. But the scene where she's

0:33:43.520 --> 0:33:45.760
<v Speaker 1>trying to like impress all the other like friends at

0:33:45.760 --> 0:33:51.480
<v Speaker 1>the basketball game, like that is so literally me like

0:33:51.600 --> 0:33:54.680
<v Speaker 1>trying to like make friends with other school moms, like hey,

0:33:54.720 --> 0:34:02.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm cool, like I'm new here, uh looking up the

0:34:02.040 --> 0:34:05.560
<v Speaker 1>other woman On Instagram and social media I did a

0:34:05.640 --> 0:34:08.359
<v Speaker 1>lot of that. What else from the show?

0:34:10.880 --> 0:34:13.840
<v Speaker 2>I mean, I feel like even with your his Robbie's

0:34:13.840 --> 0:34:15.680
<v Speaker 2>family was so much more accepting of you. But I

0:34:15.800 --> 0:34:21.640
<v Speaker 2>do feel like you feeling like the blonde Christian there

0:34:21.800 --> 0:34:25.120
<v Speaker 2>was like the ships coming in. I think there was

0:34:25.239 --> 0:34:30.320
<v Speaker 2>some like not pressure, but there was some nerves in terms.

0:34:30.160 --> 0:34:32.000
<v Speaker 1>Of yeah, just because it's so it was so foreign

0:34:32.040 --> 0:34:34.480
<v Speaker 1>to me, like I've never I've i've never had like

0:34:34.560 --> 0:34:36.239
<v Speaker 1>a satyr, or I didn't know what a satyr was,

0:34:36.320 --> 0:34:38.800
<v Speaker 1>Like I remember I made it was COVID and so

0:34:39.920 --> 0:34:42.840
<v Speaker 1>I am not sure exactly, but it was a satyr

0:34:42.880 --> 0:34:45.440
<v Speaker 1>that I wanted to make for Robbie, and so I like,

0:34:46.680 --> 0:34:48.319
<v Speaker 1>I look, I saw pictures of it. I look at

0:34:48.360 --> 0:34:52.319
<v Speaker 1>it now, it's so wish mode. I look at it now,

0:34:52.400 --> 0:34:54.640
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, this is so not what it should have

0:34:54.719 --> 0:34:57.719
<v Speaker 1>looked like. You know, I tried. I tried, and I

0:34:57.760 --> 0:34:59.840
<v Speaker 1>also had no idea. I had no idea what I

0:34:59.920 --> 0:35:02.120
<v Speaker 1>was doing. Yeah, but I do feel like it was

0:35:02.200 --> 0:35:05.319
<v Speaker 1>both ways too. He never even decorated a Christmas tree

0:35:05.360 --> 0:35:08.480
<v Speaker 1>until he met me, right, and so I invited him

0:35:08.480 --> 0:35:10.440
<v Speaker 1>over one night to like decorate the tree, and he

0:35:10.600 --> 0:35:13.279
<v Speaker 1>like went to Creighton Beryl and he was like asked

0:35:13.320 --> 0:35:15.600
<v Speaker 1>for help to buy ornaments because he like didn't know,

0:35:16.200 --> 0:35:18.399
<v Speaker 1>like like which ones do you buy? Like I don't

0:35:18.400 --> 0:35:20.719
<v Speaker 1>know which one she had? Yeah, do you buy? He

0:35:20.800 --> 0:35:22.160
<v Speaker 1>bought them in pairs. He thought you had to buy

0:35:22.200 --> 0:35:22.760
<v Speaker 1>them in pairs.

0:35:24.480 --> 0:35:24.680
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:35:25.080 --> 0:35:27.840
<v Speaker 2>I feel like I watched it feeling like the general

0:35:28.040 --> 0:35:30.840
<v Speaker 2>storylines and some there were some specific things where I

0:35:30.960 --> 0:35:33.000
<v Speaker 2>was like, this felt very like your story.

0:35:33.360 --> 0:35:33.560
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:35:33.680 --> 0:35:36.440
<v Speaker 2>And even for Aaron Foster, who it's based on, She's like,

0:35:37.200 --> 0:35:39.480
<v Speaker 2>there's a there's a lot of extremes in it, you.

0:35:39.560 --> 0:35:42.480
<v Speaker 1>Know, but even the best somebody in this show is

0:35:42.520 --> 0:35:43.200
<v Speaker 1>named Rebecca.

0:35:43.560 --> 0:35:45.879
<v Speaker 2>I literally before I realized it was Aaron Foster who

0:35:45.920 --> 0:35:48.120
<v Speaker 2>wrote it, and they have their podcast together, I was like,

0:35:48.239 --> 0:35:52.680
<v Speaker 2>someone listens to someone was inspired by Tanya's story too.

0:35:52.719 --> 0:35:54.360
<v Speaker 1>I didn't realize it was Aaron's either, and I was like,

0:35:54.520 --> 0:35:55.600
<v Speaker 1>this is a listener yeah.

0:35:55.719 --> 0:35:55.919
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:35:56.719 --> 0:35:59.480
<v Speaker 1>And then the cousin his brother's named Sasha, Yeah, and

0:35:59.600 --> 0:36:01.520
<v Speaker 1>we have a song. He has a Sausha in his family.

0:36:01.680 --> 0:36:03.440
<v Speaker 1>Like I was like, this is so weird.

0:36:03.800 --> 0:36:06.359
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I know. I felt that way too. And one

0:36:06.360 --> 0:36:08.560
<v Speaker 2>of my favorite storylines in that show was when she

0:36:08.680 --> 0:36:11.080
<v Speaker 2>got the ick. When like he had his like sports

0:36:11.160 --> 0:36:14.280
<v Speaker 2>code on and the shorts and he had the flowers

0:36:14.360 --> 0:36:17.680
<v Speaker 2>for the mom and she was just like, oh Like,

0:36:17.920 --> 0:36:20.399
<v Speaker 2>I was like that, that is such a I loved

0:36:20.480 --> 0:36:22.879
<v Speaker 2>that it was a reversed ach though, because I feel

0:36:22.920 --> 0:36:25.440
<v Speaker 2>like in my situation, anytime I would get the thick

0:36:25.480 --> 0:36:28.399
<v Speaker 2>from guys, I'd just be like done done.

0:36:28.600 --> 0:36:31.359
<v Speaker 1>Oh right, she overcame the it overcame the ck. Yeah. Yeah,

0:36:31.600 --> 0:36:34.239
<v Speaker 1>I never got the ck with Robbie. I don't think.

0:36:36.080 --> 0:36:39.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm sure the very some of you did recently where

0:36:39.120 --> 0:36:42.440
<v Speaker 1>you were like, oh my gosh, the bit moji. Oh no,

0:36:45.040 --> 0:36:48.600
<v Speaker 1>I showed him this, so I can't remember. You were

0:36:48.680 --> 0:36:52.400
<v Speaker 1>at my house for after we went wedding dress shopping

0:36:53.360 --> 0:36:56.360
<v Speaker 1>and Becca was showing me some text message from Robbie

0:36:57.080 --> 0:37:01.600
<v Speaker 1>and I see the photo that is saved in her

0:37:01.760 --> 0:37:05.279
<v Speaker 1>phone for him, and it's like this goofy looking bit

0:37:05.440 --> 0:37:09.680
<v Speaker 1>moji and I literally never cringed or had the ick harder.

0:37:09.960 --> 0:37:13.160
<v Speaker 1>I was like, please tell me he did not pick this,

0:37:13.440 --> 0:37:16.320
<v Speaker 1>like please, but he doesn't know. He was like, she

0:37:16.480 --> 0:37:17.600
<v Speaker 1>must have added that for me.

0:37:18.800 --> 0:37:22.279
<v Speaker 2>No, I didn't. That's what phone you know what?

0:37:22.640 --> 0:37:24.319
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's the test when it.

0:37:24.360 --> 0:37:28.800
<v Speaker 2>Says like someone has a new contact information. That's what

0:37:28.960 --> 0:37:29.279
<v Speaker 2>I did.

0:37:31.960 --> 0:37:33.080
<v Speaker 3>Mine's there's no picture.

0:37:34.080 --> 0:37:37.120
<v Speaker 2>I tell you, guys, what did I create a bit moji?

0:37:37.239 --> 0:37:37.879
<v Speaker 2>Because I did.

0:37:37.960 --> 0:37:39.360
<v Speaker 1>I took a picture of it, and I was like,

0:37:40.360 --> 0:37:42.719
<v Speaker 1>I need to address this, and I addressed it head on.

0:37:43.080 --> 0:37:45.200
<v Speaker 2>She was like what is that? And I was like what.

0:37:45.840 --> 0:37:48.759
<v Speaker 2>She was like, did you choose that for him? And

0:37:48.880 --> 0:37:54.600
<v Speaker 2>I was like, no, that's what came on. This is okay.

0:37:54.640 --> 0:37:56.759
<v Speaker 3>So to be clear, this is a me moji. This

0:37:56.880 --> 0:38:00.400
<v Speaker 3>is the Apple moji, is a Snapchat.

0:38:00.040 --> 0:38:01.279
<v Speaker 1>Sorry, it's a memoji.

0:38:01.440 --> 0:38:03.080
<v Speaker 3>This is slightly more acceptable. I think.

0:38:03.520 --> 0:38:07.520
<v Speaker 1>No, I think this is no me emojis.

0:38:09.120 --> 0:38:09.680
<v Speaker 2>Five o'clock.

0:38:12.120 --> 0:38:14.279
<v Speaker 3>He's given us like self assured smirk too.

0:38:14.400 --> 0:38:17.399
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I love. I mean that's like when I see

0:38:17.480 --> 0:38:21.000
<v Speaker 2>his text, that's what pops up. That makes me so on. Well,

0:38:21.080 --> 0:38:23.560
<v Speaker 2>we're texting all the time, yeah, every day.

0:38:23.640 --> 0:38:25.880
<v Speaker 1>When I see his every I get it texting.

0:38:27.840 --> 0:38:30.000
<v Speaker 3>Actually, I should point out I looked at my own

0:38:30.400 --> 0:38:32.759
<v Speaker 3>and it's it's a memoji doing the exact same face.

0:38:33.280 --> 0:38:35.440
<v Speaker 3>I did not set this. I didn't set this.

0:38:36.960 --> 0:38:40.520
<v Speaker 2>Wait, I think I didn't. That's on mine as well,

0:38:40.600 --> 0:38:42.000
<v Speaker 2>because on my computer.

0:38:43.719 --> 0:38:46.160
<v Speaker 1>See, oh yeah, I have it for you.

0:38:46.719 --> 0:38:48.799
<v Speaker 3>I'm so embarrassed.

0:38:48.960 --> 0:38:49.879
<v Speaker 1>I have it for you too.

0:38:50.920 --> 0:38:53.120
<v Speaker 3>For the longest time, my picture is me flexing in

0:38:53.160 --> 0:38:55.440
<v Speaker 3>front of a nuclear bomb going off. It should be

0:38:55.520 --> 0:38:59.120
<v Speaker 3>that instead of me emoji. Well, I'm going to change

0:38:59.120 --> 0:38:59.440
<v Speaker 3>it right now.

0:38:59.520 --> 0:39:01.560
<v Speaker 1>It's so funny because I did have that conversation with him.

0:39:01.719 --> 0:39:02.680
<v Speaker 1>I was like, we need to talk.

0:39:03.000 --> 0:39:04.440
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean I didn't really see what the big

0:39:04.480 --> 0:39:05.880
<v Speaker 2>deal was. I don't think that would give me the

0:39:05.960 --> 0:39:08.000
<v Speaker 2>ick if she had a.

0:39:08.040 --> 0:39:12.440
<v Speaker 1>Cute It's not a cute little emoji, is it?

0:39:12.800 --> 0:39:15.239
<v Speaker 2>Did it make it? Why? What about it gave you

0:39:15.320 --> 0:39:15.640
<v Speaker 2>the ick?

0:39:16.560 --> 0:39:18.280
<v Speaker 1>Because I'm like, we're not in high school.

0:39:19.280 --> 0:39:21.400
<v Speaker 2>Oh see, I think that that is an older person

0:39:21.520 --> 0:39:23.759
<v Speaker 2>thing that they do. Oh I thought you were more

0:39:23.880 --> 0:39:25.120
<v Speaker 2>like this is giving boomer.

0:39:25.520 --> 0:39:27.719
<v Speaker 1>No, it was like giving like why aren't you just

0:39:27.840 --> 0:39:31.280
<v Speaker 1>using a photo of yourself or just or just no photo?

0:39:31.560 --> 0:39:35.640
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, or like a color yeah. You Your reaction really

0:39:35.680 --> 0:39:36.239
<v Speaker 2>surprised me.

0:39:36.640 --> 0:39:38.600
<v Speaker 1>Really. Yeah, but I addressed it with him.

0:39:39.080 --> 0:39:39.960
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you handled it?

0:39:40.160 --> 0:39:42.680
<v Speaker 1>Was where did what's happening.

0:39:45.000 --> 0:39:45.600
<v Speaker 2>For most of you?

0:39:45.719 --> 0:39:46.040
<v Speaker 3>Actually?

0:39:46.440 --> 0:39:48.120
<v Speaker 1>Becca must have added that. For me, I don't know

0:39:48.200 --> 0:39:48.520
<v Speaker 1>what that is.

0:39:48.680 --> 0:39:51.680
<v Speaker 2>I am actually offended now that he thinks I took

0:39:51.800 --> 0:39:55.480
<v Speaker 2>the time to find an memoji that looks like him

0:39:56.080 --> 0:40:04.440
<v Speaker 2>and mo think of mimosa but memoji. Yeah. Anyways, well,

0:40:04.440 --> 0:40:07.359
<v Speaker 2>I'm glad you ever, I'm glad you've already started wedding

0:40:07.440 --> 0:40:08.719
<v Speaker 2>planning before you got that ic.

0:40:09.080 --> 0:40:11.160
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Yeah, yeah, I got over it fast. It was

0:40:11.200 --> 0:40:18.440
<v Speaker 1>like same day, same day confrontation. Well that's all for now, folks,

0:40:18.480 --> 0:40:19.200
<v Speaker 1>that's all for now.

0:40:19.560 --> 0:40:22.239
<v Speaker 2>We are back next week chatting with Jenna Eshkowitz, which

0:40:22.320 --> 0:40:25.200
<v Speaker 2>I'm so excited. I was like a glee what did

0:40:25.239 --> 0:40:26.120
<v Speaker 2>they call them, gleek?

0:40:26.160 --> 0:40:28.840
<v Speaker 1>I was a geek. Yeah, So I'm so excited to

0:40:28.880 --> 0:40:29.319
<v Speaker 1>talk to her.

0:40:29.600 --> 0:40:32.920
<v Speaker 2>So if you have any specifically mom related questions or

0:40:33.000 --> 0:40:35.359
<v Speaker 2>any other general questions for her, send them to us

0:40:35.760 --> 0:40:38.120
<v Speaker 2>d miss on Instagram at scrubbing in pot or email

0:40:38.200 --> 0:40:41.839
<v Speaker 2>us at scrubbing in at iHeartMedia dot com. And uh,

0:40:42.960 --> 0:40:43.799
<v Speaker 2>we love you so much.

0:40:44.280 --> 0:40:47.759
<v Speaker 1>We love you so much. We are off to the

0:40:47.920 --> 0:40:51.560
<v Speaker 1>airport because we are going to NAPA this weekend. Yes

0:40:51.719 --> 0:40:53.520
<v Speaker 1>we are, so we're gonna be.

0:40:56.160 --> 0:40:58.320
<v Speaker 2>It sounds like a crash, I think as well. I

0:40:58.400 --> 0:41:00.600
<v Speaker 2>don't like about the plane respect of that.

0:41:00.800 --> 0:41:02.000
<v Speaker 3>That one sounded like a bomb.

0:41:02.280 --> 0:41:06.680
<v Speaker 1>Oh oh my god. Yeah, I'll work on that.

0:41:06.760 --> 0:41:09.440
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we'll work on that all right. We'll love you bye.