1 00:00:00,760 --> 00:00:05,039 Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast. 2 00:00:07,360 --> 00:00:09,920 Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. 3 00:00:10,680 --> 00:00:13,720 Speaker 1: Scrub but dub dumb. 4 00:00:14,200 --> 00:00:15,920 Speaker 2: We've had a lot of guests, so we haven't done 5 00:00:15,920 --> 00:00:18,880 Speaker 2: a catchup or dear Bonnia episode in a minute. 6 00:00:19,360 --> 00:00:22,520 Speaker 1: Well, you know, when Dancing with the Stars is in season, 7 00:00:23,960 --> 00:00:25,240 Speaker 1: what else would we be doing? 8 00:00:25,520 --> 00:00:28,040 Speaker 2: You're right, You're right. We did have a lot of 9 00:00:28,040 --> 00:00:30,440 Speaker 2: the cast on. It's really fun. All people that I 10 00:00:30,480 --> 00:00:33,440 Speaker 2: was like so excited to have, very excited. Is fact 11 00:00:33,560 --> 00:00:35,080 Speaker 2: back to back boom boom boom. 12 00:00:35,159 --> 00:00:39,080 Speaker 1: Yeah. Do you know what I think though? I feel 13 00:00:39,120 --> 00:00:47,440 Speaker 1: like perhaps people think that Scrubbing In is filled with 14 00:00:47,479 --> 00:00:49,599 Speaker 1: a lot of Dancing with the Stars of voters. 15 00:00:51,560 --> 00:00:53,640 Speaker 2: What is Oh so. 16 00:00:53,600 --> 00:00:55,480 Speaker 1: They saw that we had Jenna and Joey on and 17 00:00:55,480 --> 00:01:00,080 Speaker 1: they were like, uh uh not so fast. Yeah, I 18 00:01:00,080 --> 00:01:03,800 Speaker 1: think next week we'll get another duo. Wow, it's just 19 00:01:03,840 --> 00:01:04,360 Speaker 1: my prediction. 20 00:01:04,440 --> 00:01:05,760 Speaker 2: Who is who is it gonna be? 21 00:01:05,959 --> 00:01:06,440 Speaker 1: Not sure? 22 00:01:06,880 --> 00:01:10,320 Speaker 2: Who would you want it to be? Uh? 23 00:01:10,480 --> 00:01:11,600 Speaker 1: Jan and Sasha? 24 00:01:11,959 --> 00:01:12,720 Speaker 2: Interesting? 25 00:01:13,520 --> 00:01:14,800 Speaker 1: No any takers? 26 00:01:15,280 --> 00:01:16,760 Speaker 2: Well they're not on anymore? No? 27 00:01:17,680 --> 00:01:18,480 Speaker 1: Great? Even better? 28 00:01:18,600 --> 00:01:20,440 Speaker 3: Yeah yeah yeah we could. 29 00:01:20,480 --> 00:01:25,119 Speaker 2: Talk to them about their blooming relationship friendship. Yeah, I'd 30 00:01:25,120 --> 00:01:26,520 Speaker 2: like to have Alona. 31 00:01:26,720 --> 00:01:28,680 Speaker 1: I'd be down to have her, to love her. 32 00:01:29,680 --> 00:01:32,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, I went to What's happened Since? I went to 33 00:01:32,360 --> 00:01:39,399 Speaker 2: Kawahi for my birthday, which was absolutely magical, Like, that's 34 00:01:39,560 --> 00:01:41,840 Speaker 2: just that place is a healer Hawaii. 35 00:01:41,920 --> 00:01:43,759 Speaker 1: Tell me it's just a healer, like. 36 00:01:44,120 --> 00:01:49,880 Speaker 2: You being outside and being by the ocean and the 37 00:01:49,920 --> 00:01:52,520 Speaker 2: trees and the flowers, and it rains and then the 38 00:01:52,560 --> 00:01:55,120 Speaker 2: sun comes out. It's very like cleansing. There's just something 39 00:01:55,200 --> 00:01:57,960 Speaker 2: like very I just think it's one of the most 40 00:01:58,000 --> 00:01:59,600 Speaker 2: magical places in the world. 41 00:02:00,680 --> 00:02:03,280 Speaker 1: Isn't It's so funny because when I think of Hawaii, 42 00:02:03,320 --> 00:02:05,440 Speaker 1: I associate Hawaii with you wo. 43 00:02:06,120 --> 00:02:08,239 Speaker 3: Yeah, me too, Yeah. 44 00:02:07,600 --> 00:02:12,000 Speaker 1: I really do, like I associate Hawaii which yeah wow 45 00:02:12,360 --> 00:02:13,280 Speaker 1: Mawana adjacent. 46 00:02:13,360 --> 00:02:16,000 Speaker 2: Yeah one is my favorite comfort movie. 47 00:02:17,000 --> 00:02:19,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know we should do for Halloween one year, 48 00:02:19,600 --> 00:02:21,560 Speaker 1: what Disney Princesses. 49 00:02:21,639 --> 00:02:22,480 Speaker 2: Oh, it'd be fun. 50 00:02:22,600 --> 00:02:23,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it'd be cute. 51 00:02:24,080 --> 00:02:27,839 Speaker 2: I didn't dress up. I was I this October flew 52 00:02:28,480 --> 00:02:32,880 Speaker 2: October will by so quickly that when it came to 53 00:02:32,919 --> 00:02:35,600 Speaker 2: my birthday, which is the second to last day of October, 54 00:02:35,720 --> 00:02:38,280 Speaker 2: I couldn't believe that I was already there, and I 55 00:02:38,320 --> 00:02:41,240 Speaker 2: was like, what have I done this month? That that 56 00:02:41,720 --> 00:02:44,639 Speaker 2: what did I do this month? So if they say 57 00:02:45,040 --> 00:02:47,200 Speaker 2: time flies and you're having fun, yes, but. 58 00:02:47,120 --> 00:02:50,359 Speaker 1: Also it goes faster the older you get. Oh really yeah, 59 00:02:50,400 --> 00:02:52,880 Speaker 1: Like I feel like everybody says, like when you're a kid, 60 00:02:53,680 --> 00:02:56,560 Speaker 1: a year feels like ten years, like you're like, oh, okay, 61 00:02:56,720 --> 00:02:59,280 Speaker 1: like I can't wait till Christmas an whole nother year, 62 00:02:59,520 --> 00:03:01,560 Speaker 1: and now like when you're an adult, it's like Christmas 63 00:03:01,560 --> 00:03:02,720 Speaker 1: is tomorrow all the time. 64 00:03:03,280 --> 00:03:05,640 Speaker 2: Yeah I did. I remember thinking like, oh, Christmas is 65 00:03:05,639 --> 00:03:07,399 Speaker 2: in six months, and then now it's. 66 00:03:07,400 --> 00:03:09,400 Speaker 1: Tomorrow around the corner, literally tomorrow. 67 00:03:09,600 --> 00:03:13,080 Speaker 2: And Easton celebrated his birthday as well. How was your birthday? 68 00:03:13,440 --> 00:03:17,280 Speaker 3: It was great. It was something happened in the nation 69 00:03:17,400 --> 00:03:19,080 Speaker 3: that was kind of made it a little weird, but 70 00:03:19,120 --> 00:03:22,960 Speaker 3: I can't remember what it was. Yeah, some was. My 71 00:03:23,000 --> 00:03:25,720 Speaker 3: birthday was on the sixth, the day after the fifth, 72 00:03:26,000 --> 00:03:28,080 Speaker 3: but uh, it was a nice time. Allison and I 73 00:03:28,120 --> 00:03:30,480 Speaker 3: went out to a steakhouse that we really like. We're 74 00:03:30,480 --> 00:03:32,519 Speaker 3: going to Palm Springs this weekend. I'm really excited. There's 75 00:03:32,520 --> 00:03:34,600 Speaker 3: a there's this hotel in Palm Springs that has a 76 00:03:34,639 --> 00:03:38,920 Speaker 3: boat in it, like a what's it called. It's the JW. Marriott, 77 00:03:39,160 --> 00:03:40,800 Speaker 3: like Desert Springs or something. 78 00:03:40,960 --> 00:03:42,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like I've seen this. 79 00:03:42,520 --> 00:03:45,320 Speaker 3: I think Robbie stayed there. He like hit Allison and 80 00:03:45,360 --> 00:03:47,320 Speaker 3: I have He's like stayed there. 81 00:03:47,920 --> 00:03:51,360 Speaker 1: He's gonna say, I feel like, Yeah. 82 00:03:50,720 --> 00:03:52,520 Speaker 3: They filmed an episode Saved by the Bell there, But 83 00:03:52,560 --> 00:03:55,600 Speaker 3: it's like they have this big like river that goes through, yeah, 84 00:03:55,720 --> 00:03:58,280 Speaker 3: like a big lake and it goes into the hotel 85 00:03:58,320 --> 00:04:00,520 Speaker 3: lobby and you can take a boat ride from the 86 00:04:00,600 --> 00:04:02,560 Speaker 3: lobby around the grounds. 87 00:04:02,680 --> 00:04:03,160 Speaker 2: Whoa. 88 00:04:03,200 --> 00:04:04,600 Speaker 3: And we went and took the boat rid a couple 89 00:04:04,600 --> 00:04:06,440 Speaker 3: of months ago, and then Allison surprised me. She's like, 90 00:04:06,440 --> 00:04:08,440 Speaker 3: we're staying there for the week. What you're going to 91 00:04:08,480 --> 00:04:09,040 Speaker 3: go on the boat ride? 92 00:04:09,080 --> 00:04:10,800 Speaker 2: Like four times lady joggle on the boat ride. And 93 00:04:10,800 --> 00:04:12,520 Speaker 2: when we were there filming the or doing the. 94 00:04:12,920 --> 00:04:16,960 Speaker 3: US, that was a different trip. We talked about we 95 00:04:16,960 --> 00:04:18,040 Speaker 3: wanted to take Sam with us. 96 00:04:18,560 --> 00:04:19,760 Speaker 2: Wait, that's so fun. 97 00:04:20,160 --> 00:04:21,080 Speaker 3: Very excited about that. 98 00:04:21,880 --> 00:04:26,479 Speaker 2: Yeah, returned the Palm Springs. Yeah, yeah, the season c yeah, 99 00:04:28,400 --> 00:04:29,479 Speaker 2: chills speaking. 100 00:04:29,160 --> 00:04:31,599 Speaker 1: About Actually texted Serena Carpenter the other day. 101 00:04:31,800 --> 00:04:32,480 Speaker 2: Did she were spelling? 102 00:04:32,680 --> 00:04:33,279 Speaker 1: She shir did? 103 00:04:33,440 --> 00:04:34,360 Speaker 3: Wow what she's saying? 104 00:04:34,560 --> 00:04:35,720 Speaker 1: I mean, it was just like cute like I was like, 105 00:04:35,720 --> 00:04:37,320 Speaker 1: I can't believe we're playing one of your songs every 106 00:04:37,320 --> 00:04:39,240 Speaker 1: fifteen minutes, Like I know it works so hard for this, 107 00:04:39,279 --> 00:04:41,279 Speaker 1: and she was like sent like crying emoji's and said, 108 00:04:41,279 --> 00:04:43,560 Speaker 1: thank you so much. Yeah, I know I. 109 00:04:43,480 --> 00:04:45,360 Speaker 2: Didn't know you how to remember. We really could have 110 00:04:45,440 --> 00:04:46,919 Speaker 2: reached out person. 111 00:04:46,960 --> 00:04:49,120 Speaker 1: I had it. I forgot I had it, but like 112 00:04:49,160 --> 00:04:52,839 Speaker 1: if you will not remember back in twenty sixteen or whatever, 113 00:04:53,279 --> 00:04:56,600 Speaker 1: we interviewed her with a ton on this podcast. She 114 00:04:56,760 --> 00:04:59,280 Speaker 1: I interviewed her for like a ton of stuff with Radio. 115 00:04:59,839 --> 00:05:01,880 Speaker 1: I like they flew me to New York to like 116 00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:06,360 Speaker 1: host her thing. I was like, Serena Carpenter's like Mamager. 117 00:05:06,560 --> 00:05:06,960 Speaker 2: Yeah. 118 00:05:07,040 --> 00:05:09,600 Speaker 3: There was one point on American Top forty we needed 119 00:05:09,600 --> 00:05:11,960 Speaker 3: a guest host at the last minute, and Sabrina Carpenter 120 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:16,200 Speaker 3: came on Christmas Eve and recorded it with us on 121 00:05:16,200 --> 00:05:18,159 Speaker 3: her way to like her dad's house to celebrate, And 122 00:05:18,200 --> 00:05:20,240 Speaker 3: I was like, man, she's she's the best. 123 00:05:20,440 --> 00:05:24,720 Speaker 1: She's a loyal iHeart, yeah, but like she's been grinding, 124 00:05:24,760 --> 00:05:28,280 Speaker 1: like she's been working so hard for so long, and 125 00:05:28,320 --> 00:05:30,160 Speaker 1: that's like just crazy now that we play one of 126 00:05:30,200 --> 00:05:32,360 Speaker 1: her songs literally every fifteen minutes. 127 00:05:32,640 --> 00:05:36,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's crazy. Yeah, podcast like three times. 128 00:05:36,960 --> 00:05:38,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, because I was like, I was like, I want 129 00:05:38,440 --> 00:05:40,240 Speaker 1: to have spreen again. We'll have Spreena again. She was 130 00:05:40,279 --> 00:05:40,880 Speaker 1: Sabriena again. 131 00:05:41,200 --> 00:05:43,159 Speaker 2: It's like when you when you're past it on the floor, 132 00:05:43,240 --> 00:05:44,920 Speaker 2: It's like, why not have her again so you can 133 00:05:45,000 --> 00:05:48,240 Speaker 2: remember it, you know, and take it in. Yeah, it's 134 00:05:48,240 --> 00:05:53,040 Speaker 2: like what you just got to keep trying. Sonny speaking 135 00:05:53,120 --> 00:05:57,200 Speaker 2: of speaking of being on the ground from a skinny 136 00:05:57,320 --> 00:06:01,560 Speaker 2: spicy Margarita, Sonny soelebrated her twenty first. 137 00:06:01,440 --> 00:06:07,719 Speaker 1: She did, my baby is twenty one. Can you believe it? 138 00:06:07,800 --> 00:06:11,479 Speaker 1: I'm so young to have twenty one year old. Yeah, 139 00:06:11,520 --> 00:06:16,480 Speaker 1: it's crazy, crazy. Everybody was a huge party. Yeah, and 140 00:06:16,520 --> 00:06:18,920 Speaker 1: everybody was messaging me like I can't believe you didn't 141 00:06:18,920 --> 00:06:22,279 Speaker 1: invite Phoebe. I'm like, why would I not invite Phoebe? 142 00:06:22,560 --> 00:06:24,280 Speaker 2: Just like people were like, I can't believe you didn't 143 00:06:24,279 --> 00:06:26,560 Speaker 2: invite Twny onto Hawaii. Yeah, I'm like, of. 144 00:06:26,560 --> 00:06:31,680 Speaker 1: Course, like what no. But however, usually when you've been 145 00:06:31,680 --> 00:06:34,320 Speaker 1: out of town in the past, Phoebe says, with our 146 00:06:34,400 --> 00:06:35,640 Speaker 1: mutual friend. 147 00:06:35,360 --> 00:06:37,400 Speaker 2: Who brings her brings her. 148 00:06:37,480 --> 00:06:42,560 Speaker 4: So but that unfortunately it was hard to go to 149 00:06:42,680 --> 00:06:45,240 Speaker 4: the sitter who's only watching me once to be like, hey, 150 00:06:45,240 --> 00:06:47,760 Speaker 4: would you mind packing her up and taking her to 151 00:06:47,800 --> 00:06:52,200 Speaker 4: Beverly Hills for my friend's dogs twenty first birthday party? 152 00:06:52,600 --> 00:06:56,200 Speaker 3: Just go to a birthday party. Yeah, that'd be great. 153 00:06:57,000 --> 00:07:00,760 Speaker 2: I can add on a fee for that time for 154 00:07:00,800 --> 00:07:01,200 Speaker 2: the drive. 155 00:07:01,200 --> 00:07:02,800 Speaker 1: Because pebe you thought about it. 156 00:07:03,160 --> 00:07:05,360 Speaker 2: I didn't. I was just I literally did not think 157 00:07:05,400 --> 00:07:08,640 Speaker 2: about it. But I was laughing thinking about how would 158 00:07:08,680 --> 00:07:12,920 Speaker 2: I even she would be like this girl's crazy, okay, 159 00:07:12,920 --> 00:07:14,920 Speaker 2: but I'd be like, not as crazy as the girl 160 00:07:15,520 --> 00:07:16,480 Speaker 2: party she's going to. 161 00:07:17,160 --> 00:07:20,280 Speaker 1: Okay, first of all, you think it's crazy, but the 162 00:07:20,400 --> 00:07:23,720 Speaker 1: amount of dms that I get from people with dogs 163 00:07:23,840 --> 00:07:29,640 Speaker 1: who have passed saying celebrate your dog now, like just 164 00:07:29,800 --> 00:07:32,840 Speaker 1: do it all now because it's fleeting and it makes 165 00:07:32,840 --> 00:07:34,640 Speaker 1: me so emotional, and I'm like, you know what, I 166 00:07:34,840 --> 00:07:37,480 Speaker 1: damn I'm going to I thought for a while that 167 00:07:37,520 --> 00:07:38,720 Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, I'm gonna do a big one 168 00:07:38,720 --> 00:07:40,240 Speaker 1: for her first, and then I wasn't really gonna do 169 00:07:40,240 --> 00:07:42,080 Speaker 1: anything for a second. But then her third or twenty 170 00:07:42,120 --> 00:07:43,880 Speaker 1: first was like a rager, and then like they'll get 171 00:07:43,920 --> 00:07:46,120 Speaker 1: smaller as the years go on, and I'm like, they're 172 00:07:46,120 --> 00:07:47,400 Speaker 1: gonna get bigger and bigger. 173 00:07:48,000 --> 00:07:51,560 Speaker 2: Alie asked if I purposely planned my birthday trip around 174 00:07:51,600 --> 00:07:54,960 Speaker 2: Sunny's Worth and I don't know. I was like, but 175 00:07:55,120 --> 00:07:55,559 Speaker 2: I can't. 176 00:07:55,640 --> 00:07:58,880 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, participatingly comes. Does she not enjoy it? 177 00:07:58,960 --> 00:08:01,200 Speaker 2: No, she didn't enjoy it, but she goes, have you 178 00:08:01,280 --> 00:08:02,880 Speaker 2: ever been to one of these? And I was like, no, 179 00:08:02,920 --> 00:08:04,040 Speaker 2: they're during my birthday? 180 00:08:04,120 --> 00:08:05,840 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, but Phoebe has attended. 181 00:08:06,160 --> 00:08:10,800 Speaker 2: Phoebe has been there with a yea yeaheah. So but yeah, 182 00:08:10,840 --> 00:08:15,000 Speaker 2: I'm like, I sorry, I will not sacrifice my birthday 183 00:08:15,000 --> 00:08:16,320 Speaker 2: trip with my. 184 00:08:17,040 --> 00:08:19,360 Speaker 1: Love, nor do I ask you. But that tone in 185 00:08:19,360 --> 00:08:21,280 Speaker 1: which Ali asks you, that makes me feel like. 186 00:08:21,240 --> 00:08:23,480 Speaker 2: She doesn't enjoy So no, no, no, no, no, she had 187 00:08:23,520 --> 00:08:25,360 Speaker 2: a great time. She's been two years in a row. 188 00:08:25,520 --> 00:08:25,840 Speaker 1: I know. 189 00:08:26,640 --> 00:08:27,000 Speaker 2: Yeah. 190 00:08:27,040 --> 00:08:30,840 Speaker 1: So the best part is so I invited Carissa Stanton, 191 00:08:31,080 --> 00:08:34,880 Speaker 1: who is Brought your Body on Instagram, and I'm now, 192 00:08:34,920 --> 00:08:36,640 Speaker 1: I'm one hundred percent sure that she thought you were 193 00:08:36,679 --> 00:08:40,480 Speaker 1: going to be there because she knew no one at 194 00:08:40,520 --> 00:08:42,360 Speaker 1: this party and I barely know her. We've had her 195 00:08:42,360 --> 00:08:44,000 Speaker 1: on the podcast and I follow her on Instagram and 196 00:08:44,040 --> 00:08:46,520 Speaker 1: she's so keep But the minute she got her dog, 197 00:08:46,760 --> 00:08:49,040 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, my gosh, like, Benny should come 198 00:08:49,040 --> 00:08:52,079 Speaker 1: to Sunny's birthday this year, and this was like six 199 00:08:52,160 --> 00:08:56,480 Speaker 1: months out from her birthday, but I remembered that brock 200 00:08:56,559 --> 00:08:59,520 Speaker 1: your body was very excited. Yeah, and so I invited 201 00:08:59,559 --> 00:09:02,360 Speaker 1: her and she came, but like literally didn't know a 202 00:09:02,400 --> 00:09:06,000 Speaker 1: single person there, and uh, I think they had a 203 00:09:06,000 --> 00:09:07,960 Speaker 1: good time. But she she was like, is Becca coming. 204 00:09:08,360 --> 00:09:09,960 Speaker 1: I was like, no, she's out of town for her 205 00:09:10,000 --> 00:09:10,840 Speaker 1: birthday and she's. 206 00:09:10,760 --> 00:09:15,840 Speaker 2: Like, oh yeah. I can't imagine going to a child's 207 00:09:15,880 --> 00:09:19,280 Speaker 2: birthday and not knowing anyone, much less a dog birthday 208 00:09:19,320 --> 00:09:23,400 Speaker 2: and not knowing people. I'd be like, oh, thank you, 209 00:09:24,040 --> 00:09:26,120 Speaker 2: I have to run after thirty minutes. 210 00:09:26,760 --> 00:09:29,160 Speaker 1: No, I think they really enjoyed themselves. And she brought 211 00:09:29,160 --> 00:09:31,880 Speaker 1: her husband, Corey Rager. It was a rager and the 212 00:09:31,920 --> 00:09:34,400 Speaker 1: dogs all got along really well. 213 00:09:35,160 --> 00:09:37,680 Speaker 2: I honestly felt like Phoebe's coloring would have ruined the 214 00:09:37,679 --> 00:09:39,199 Speaker 2: aesthetic because they were all like. 215 00:09:40,040 --> 00:09:43,880 Speaker 1: Tans, yeah, yeah, yeah, correct. 216 00:09:43,600 --> 00:09:46,280 Speaker 2: Just she's she stands out over where she goes. 217 00:09:46,600 --> 00:09:47,640 Speaker 1: But that's what Phoebe does. 218 00:09:47,679 --> 00:09:48,400 Speaker 2: She's a standout. 219 00:09:48,440 --> 00:09:49,720 Speaker 1: She's a standout. Yeah. 220 00:09:51,360 --> 00:09:53,160 Speaker 2: So yeah, that was. 221 00:09:53,520 --> 00:09:55,760 Speaker 3: The videos of everyone were trying to take the picture. 222 00:09:56,240 --> 00:09:57,920 Speaker 3: It's like I think you had the spoon of peanut butter. 223 00:09:58,679 --> 00:10:00,280 Speaker 3: I watched that like ten times. 224 00:10:00,840 --> 00:10:04,160 Speaker 1: Like literally we are doing that for solid ten minutes, 225 00:10:04,760 --> 00:10:06,719 Speaker 1: like ever trying to get the shot for a good 226 00:10:06,840 --> 00:10:08,960 Speaker 1: ten minutes. I'm like, okay, everybody take your spoon with 227 00:10:08,960 --> 00:10:11,520 Speaker 1: peanut butter, and everyone had their dogs sit and stay, 228 00:10:11,559 --> 00:10:13,200 Speaker 1: and it's just like total mayhem. 229 00:10:13,440 --> 00:10:16,680 Speaker 2: It's so hard, like it's it's so hard to get 230 00:10:16,720 --> 00:10:19,040 Speaker 2: two dogs to look at the camera. I was like 231 00:10:19,200 --> 00:10:25,239 Speaker 2: felt the stretch from all the parents, like behave, don't 232 00:10:25,280 --> 00:10:25,920 Speaker 2: embarrass me. 233 00:10:26,440 --> 00:10:29,680 Speaker 1: I think next year I want to get a portrait 234 00:10:29,800 --> 00:10:32,080 Speaker 1: person to come and take pictures of everyone with the 235 00:10:32,120 --> 00:10:35,240 Speaker 1: dog in their owner, like a nice one you like 236 00:10:35,280 --> 00:10:36,439 Speaker 1: a Christmas card type thing. 237 00:10:36,559 --> 00:10:40,880 Speaker 2: Yeah right, yeah, I can't wait to see what you 238 00:10:40,920 --> 00:10:41,800 Speaker 2: do for your children. 239 00:10:45,600 --> 00:10:47,600 Speaker 1: Everybody says when you have kids that the dogs go 240 00:10:47,840 --> 00:10:50,040 Speaker 1: to the they don't get as much attention. 241 00:10:50,320 --> 00:10:53,520 Speaker 2: So sad. I think it's just like there's. 242 00:10:53,559 --> 00:10:55,200 Speaker 1: So much you don'tly have so much capacity. 243 00:10:55,720 --> 00:10:57,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, I just can't even imagine, like Phoebe is my 244 00:10:58,000 --> 00:11:01,640 Speaker 2: everything or that too everything. 245 00:11:01,760 --> 00:11:05,000 Speaker 1: I know. I tell Sonny too, until you have a baby. 246 00:11:05,400 --> 00:11:09,280 Speaker 2: Well I'm not in that position. So if he's gonna 247 00:11:09,320 --> 00:11:13,920 Speaker 2: be my queen for a long time. Any wedding updates 248 00:11:13,960 --> 00:11:15,400 Speaker 2: that you can give to the number. 249 00:11:15,679 --> 00:11:17,000 Speaker 1: No wedding updates, not a. 250 00:11:17,040 --> 00:11:22,000 Speaker 2: Single wedding update. No jeez, we're getting close. Yeah, but 251 00:11:22,120 --> 00:11:24,679 Speaker 2: we do have dear Bondiard questions we do. Oh wait 252 00:11:24,840 --> 00:11:28,160 Speaker 2: before we move on from Halloween, because you and Robbie 253 00:11:28,240 --> 00:11:33,240 Speaker 2: dressed up, and Robbie really really dressed up. Okay, I've 254 00:11:33,320 --> 00:11:39,439 Speaker 2: never seen someone make heels look so uncomfortable in my 255 00:11:39,720 --> 00:11:40,280 Speaker 2: entire life. 256 00:11:40,440 --> 00:11:42,440 Speaker 1: By the way, those were two inch heels. Those are 257 00:11:42,520 --> 00:11:45,000 Speaker 1: not even like three or four. They were kittens, and 258 00:11:45,120 --> 00:11:47,600 Speaker 1: he was romping around it and so uncomfortable. 259 00:11:48,480 --> 00:11:50,480 Speaker 2: I felt like he also made his walk. He was 260 00:11:50,559 --> 00:11:53,040 Speaker 2: trying to make his walk a little more masculine, so 261 00:11:53,200 --> 00:11:55,160 Speaker 2: it felt like he was really making them. 262 00:11:55,080 --> 00:11:59,240 Speaker 1: Look So the dress that I gave him has like, uh, 263 00:12:00,240 --> 00:12:04,720 Speaker 1: a bodysuit built into it, so he was not prepared 264 00:12:04,840 --> 00:12:07,640 Speaker 1: when he got into that dress for what he was 265 00:12:07,720 --> 00:12:09,920 Speaker 1: going to experience all night. And it wasn't a song. 266 00:12:10,040 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 1: It was like a full full but luckily for him, 267 00:12:13,600 --> 00:12:17,319 Speaker 1: but the whole outfit was just like a lot and 268 00:12:17,400 --> 00:12:19,800 Speaker 1: he was like constantly pulling up the tube top. It 269 00:12:19,960 --> 00:12:21,360 Speaker 1: was just like a lot. 270 00:12:21,520 --> 00:12:24,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, did he have some Like he was not graceful 271 00:12:24,120 --> 00:12:26,040 Speaker 2: with my lipstick, like at all. 272 00:12:26,120 --> 00:12:29,280 Speaker 1: If I showed you the lipstick tube, it's like literally 273 00:12:29,400 --> 00:12:32,000 Speaker 1: like crooked now because he just like used it like chapstick. 274 00:12:32,400 --> 00:12:32,800 Speaker 1: He was just like. 275 00:12:35,240 --> 00:12:41,520 Speaker 2: Like a little grace Yeah, yeah, have some finesse. Really. 276 00:12:42,679 --> 00:12:44,199 Speaker 1: But it was so fun because I feel like we 277 00:12:44,280 --> 00:12:46,280 Speaker 1: wanted to do Ryan and Banna, but we felt if 278 00:12:46,320 --> 00:12:51,480 Speaker 1: we just did it whatever, the like I'm being Vana, 279 00:12:51,559 --> 00:12:53,840 Speaker 1: he being so boring, so boring. Yeah, so we had 280 00:12:53,880 --> 00:12:54,480 Speaker 1: to flip it on it. 281 00:12:55,040 --> 00:12:57,960 Speaker 2: I just appreciate him going for it. I did too. 282 00:12:58,320 --> 00:13:00,679 Speaker 2: I'm trying to figure out if him is Vanna or 283 00:13:00,800 --> 00:13:03,920 Speaker 2: him as Ken with that scary wig was worse because 284 00:13:04,000 --> 00:13:06,480 Speaker 2: the Ken wig lives like written free in my head. 285 00:13:06,679 --> 00:13:09,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, if I'm gonna be honest, I think his favorite 286 00:13:09,200 --> 00:13:10,400 Speaker 1: was being Travis. 287 00:13:10,120 --> 00:13:12,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, because that was it was almost like him is 288 00:13:12,480 --> 00:13:13,000 Speaker 2: like edgy. 289 00:13:13,320 --> 00:13:16,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, he's like next year I want tattoos. I was like, okay, yeah, 290 00:13:16,679 --> 00:13:19,360 Speaker 1: he deserves it. I'll give it to him. 291 00:13:20,040 --> 00:13:24,360 Speaker 2: You're like your cat bondiets. 292 00:13:25,360 --> 00:13:26,719 Speaker 1: Okay, but I didn't tell you we're gonna be the 293 00:13:26,720 --> 00:13:27,760 Speaker 1: hocus Pocus whitches. 294 00:13:29,200 --> 00:13:34,440 Speaker 2: So sisters were so good, so good. Also, we watched 295 00:13:34,480 --> 00:13:38,520 Speaker 2: that movie on Halloween, like in Hawaii, and I remember 296 00:13:38,600 --> 00:13:42,840 Speaker 2: watching that so young. It's really scary at the beginning. Yeah, 297 00:13:42,840 --> 00:13:45,360 Speaker 2: they're like sucking the soul from a little girl. Like 298 00:13:45,480 --> 00:13:48,240 Speaker 2: it's really dark. Watching it as an adult, I. 299 00:13:48,320 --> 00:13:50,719 Speaker 1: Was like, I watched that movie like that is my 300 00:13:50,880 --> 00:13:54,520 Speaker 1: go to Halloween movie. I watch it on repeat every season. 301 00:13:54,559 --> 00:13:56,040 Speaker 1: I feel like I've been doing that since I was 302 00:13:56,120 --> 00:13:57,520 Speaker 1: like a fetus. 303 00:13:57,679 --> 00:13:58,240 Speaker 2: It's so good. 304 00:13:58,400 --> 00:14:03,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, say the night before Christmas for Christmas, I. 305 00:14:03,520 --> 00:14:05,520 Speaker 2: Will not be watching that at any point of the year. 306 00:14:07,240 --> 00:14:09,920 Speaker 1: Okay, we don't have to go there again. 307 00:14:10,040 --> 00:14:13,199 Speaker 2: But yeah, no, here's the thing. Most people agree with you. 308 00:14:13,280 --> 00:14:15,400 Speaker 2: Most people love it. Most people find it trag. 309 00:14:15,520 --> 00:14:16,559 Speaker 1: I listened to on Halloween. 310 00:14:17,200 --> 00:14:19,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't be great. 311 00:14:21,760 --> 00:14:22,600 Speaker 1: I love that movie. 312 00:14:24,040 --> 00:14:29,360 Speaker 2: So we have some deer Bonnier questions. Easton is going 313 00:14:29,440 --> 00:14:31,240 Speaker 2: to read. But first we're gonna take a break, so 314 00:14:31,280 --> 00:14:50,040 Speaker 2: we'll be right back. All right, we are back, so Easton, 315 00:14:50,280 --> 00:14:53,040 Speaker 2: We're just gonna take off right now in the dear Bonnie. 316 00:14:56,800 --> 00:14:59,440 Speaker 3: Wow, was that a car crash or plane taking out? 317 00:15:00,000 --> 00:15:01,000 Speaker 1: Supposed to be a plane taking. 318 00:15:03,840 --> 00:15:05,520 Speaker 3: All right, Well, now that this bird's in the air. 319 00:15:05,920 --> 00:15:08,840 Speaker 3: Dear Bania, Mark and Easton. First, just want to say 320 00:15:08,880 --> 00:15:10,520 Speaker 3: that I've been a Day one listener and look forward 321 00:15:10,520 --> 00:15:12,240 Speaker 3: to the pod every week. The very same day of 322 00:15:12,280 --> 00:15:14,960 Speaker 3: the podcast came out seven years ago, on September fourteenth, 323 00:15:15,120 --> 00:15:17,560 Speaker 3: was the day my husband and I made our relationship official. 324 00:15:17,680 --> 00:15:18,320 Speaker 1: Oh my god. 325 00:15:18,320 --> 00:15:20,760 Speaker 3: Wow, We've now been married for two and a half years. 326 00:15:20,760 --> 00:15:24,360 Speaker 3: We're expecting our first baby in December. Congratulations. This is Oh, 327 00:15:24,400 --> 00:15:28,160 Speaker 3: this is Madeline. I should say sorry, congratulations Madeline. Our 328 00:15:28,200 --> 00:15:30,600 Speaker 3: baby will be our third, the third grandchild on my 329 00:15:30,680 --> 00:15:33,080 Speaker 3: husband's side, so my in laws have been grandparents for 330 00:15:33,160 --> 00:15:35,720 Speaker 3: six years already. Instead of Grandpa, my father in law 331 00:15:35,760 --> 00:15:38,000 Speaker 3: goes by the name Daddy Joe. He goes by this 332 00:15:38,080 --> 00:15:40,000 Speaker 3: because he has the same name as his grandpa and 333 00:15:40,040 --> 00:15:42,600 Speaker 3: that's what he called his grandfather. He's also Southern, so 334 00:15:42,680 --> 00:15:44,960 Speaker 3: this is apparently a souther thing. But I hate it. 335 00:15:45,640 --> 00:15:47,840 Speaker 3: I think it's creepy to call him daddy. He himself 336 00:15:47,920 --> 00:15:49,840 Speaker 3: is not creepy, don't worry, but I just think that 337 00:15:49,880 --> 00:15:51,880 Speaker 3: our baby should save the name daddy for his own 338 00:15:51,960 --> 00:15:55,040 Speaker 3: dad aka my husband. I'm trying hard to avoid my 339 00:15:55,120 --> 00:15:57,520 Speaker 3: children calling him this. For the record, my husband doesn't 340 00:15:57,560 --> 00:15:59,640 Speaker 3: like it either, but my father in law is incredibly 341 00:15:59,640 --> 00:16:02,400 Speaker 3: stubb in a conversation would probably not go well. So 342 00:16:02,520 --> 00:16:04,440 Speaker 3: my husband feels that we are likely stuck with this. 343 00:16:05,040 --> 00:16:06,560 Speaker 3: I have toyed around with the idea of just not 344 00:16:06,720 --> 00:16:09,680 Speaker 3: acknowledging it directly and referring to him as Granddaddy Joe 345 00:16:09,840 --> 00:16:12,560 Speaker 3: or maybe Grandpy Joe. Do you have any other suggestions 346 00:16:12,600 --> 00:16:14,480 Speaker 3: on how to handle this? Am I over reacting? What 347 00:16:14,600 --> 00:16:15,200 Speaker 3: are your thoughts? 348 00:16:15,280 --> 00:16:18,320 Speaker 2: Help? I personally don't love Daddy Joe. 349 00:16:19,120 --> 00:16:21,360 Speaker 1: He literally makes skin crawl. 350 00:16:23,880 --> 00:16:28,280 Speaker 2: I think that you maybe talk when you're with your kids, 351 00:16:28,400 --> 00:16:30,560 Speaker 2: you you refer to him as what you want to 352 00:16:30,640 --> 00:16:33,680 Speaker 2: refer to him as, and then they're gonna call him not. 353 00:16:35,160 --> 00:16:39,360 Speaker 2: And I think that I mean, really reference how often 354 00:16:40,680 --> 00:16:44,040 Speaker 2: I mean, I guess very often what very often they're 355 00:16:44,080 --> 00:16:45,200 Speaker 2: saying their name huh? 356 00:16:45,600 --> 00:16:48,880 Speaker 1: Because I think of it as like my step kids 357 00:16:48,960 --> 00:16:51,440 Speaker 1: and their grandpa, and how much they refer to him 358 00:16:51,480 --> 00:16:53,960 Speaker 1: as his name, Maybe they. 359 00:16:53,920 --> 00:16:56,040 Speaker 2: Can come up. I think it's like, hey, we really 360 00:16:56,120 --> 00:16:58,440 Speaker 2: want our kids to have their own nickname for you 361 00:16:58,560 --> 00:17:01,360 Speaker 2: that's special to them, and like that that means something 362 00:17:01,440 --> 00:17:03,120 Speaker 2: to them, and you'll come up with something together. 363 00:17:03,320 --> 00:17:06,480 Speaker 1: So she's saying that the conversation wouldn't go well. So 364 00:17:06,560 --> 00:17:10,560 Speaker 1: I think you backdoor it. And she's sort of only pregnant, right, 365 00:17:10,640 --> 00:17:14,080 Speaker 1: she says she's pregnant, so the baby's not even here yet. 366 00:17:14,160 --> 00:17:15,520 Speaker 1: So I think what you can do is on the 367 00:17:15,560 --> 00:17:19,800 Speaker 1: baby's learning names, you can have them call daddy Joe 368 00:17:20,040 --> 00:17:24,160 Speaker 1: DJ and come up like have like teach the kid DJ. 369 00:17:24,320 --> 00:17:28,000 Speaker 1: There's DJ, and then it's like your kid's own version 370 00:17:28,240 --> 00:17:30,679 Speaker 1: of daddy Joe that they came up with on their 371 00:17:30,720 --> 00:17:33,080 Speaker 1: own and it's so cute. Oh my gosh, she calls you, 372 00:17:33,560 --> 00:17:35,560 Speaker 1: I don't know what they call you DJ. 373 00:17:36,240 --> 00:17:39,159 Speaker 2: How cute is that? I think that might be the 374 00:17:39,280 --> 00:17:43,000 Speaker 2: best advice, thank you, because I would avoid Daddy Joe with. 375 00:17:43,080 --> 00:17:46,160 Speaker 1: All I have in me, everything in me. Daddy Joe 376 00:17:47,080 --> 00:17:51,200 Speaker 1: makes my skin it no disrespect. 377 00:17:54,440 --> 00:17:58,800 Speaker 2: Is probably great, But Daddy Joe the name I don't 378 00:17:58,840 --> 00:18:02,040 Speaker 2: want my I don't don't want my child referring calling 379 00:18:02,119 --> 00:18:07,080 Speaker 2: anyone daddy Joe. No unless no, no, no, no, no, no, 380 00:18:09,440 --> 00:18:10,800 Speaker 2: unless it's Jill Biden. 381 00:18:12,520 --> 00:18:13,560 Speaker 3: She's the only one that can do. 382 00:18:13,600 --> 00:18:17,639 Speaker 1: It exactly where my head was. Yeah, So that's I 383 00:18:17,720 --> 00:18:21,000 Speaker 1: think the best path of the best solution here is 384 00:18:21,400 --> 00:18:24,359 Speaker 1: DJ yeah, and then it's just the kid came up 385 00:18:24,359 --> 00:18:24,919 Speaker 1: with it, and. 386 00:18:25,000 --> 00:18:27,120 Speaker 2: If he has an issue with it, I think it's 387 00:18:27,200 --> 00:18:28,119 Speaker 2: just like, hey, we wanted to. 388 00:18:28,280 --> 00:18:30,320 Speaker 1: Take it on. Then Daddy Joe can take it up 389 00:18:30,359 --> 00:18:30,720 Speaker 1: with the kid. 390 00:18:30,960 --> 00:18:31,399 Speaker 2: That's right. 391 00:18:31,720 --> 00:18:33,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, Daddy Joe. 392 00:18:33,160 --> 00:18:38,680 Speaker 2: You let your kid handle it, not text it. Write 393 00:18:38,800 --> 00:18:41,680 Speaker 2: us back in three years, let us know how that goes. 394 00:18:41,880 --> 00:18:44,320 Speaker 1: Yeah. I think it's a flawless plan if you ask me. 395 00:18:44,359 --> 00:18:47,320 Speaker 2: But here's the thing. I'm with you. We see you, 396 00:18:47,560 --> 00:18:49,280 Speaker 2: we hear you, and we wish you the best. 397 00:18:49,400 --> 00:18:49,600 Speaker 1: Yeah. 398 00:18:49,840 --> 00:18:52,080 Speaker 2: Yikes, all right. 399 00:18:52,119 --> 00:18:54,600 Speaker 3: This one's from anonymous. I have a coworker who I've 400 00:18:54,640 --> 00:18:58,159 Speaker 3: worked with for worked with virtually for some time. We 401 00:18:58,320 --> 00:19:02,280 Speaker 3: see them more regularly in the office. Said coworker has 402 00:19:02,400 --> 00:19:05,159 Speaker 3: on more than one occasion, had an odor general sweaty, 403 00:19:05,280 --> 00:19:08,719 Speaker 3: musty type of smell. Said coworker is also pregnant. As 404 00:19:08,760 --> 00:19:11,239 Speaker 3: someone who's recently pregnant myself, I know hormones can get 405 00:19:11,280 --> 00:19:13,200 Speaker 3: you all out of whack. Plus my sense of smell 406 00:19:13,359 --> 00:19:16,600 Speaker 3: is definitely heightened. I was personally very paranoid about smelling 407 00:19:16,680 --> 00:19:18,199 Speaker 3: bad and told my boss to let me know if 408 00:19:18,200 --> 00:19:20,480 Speaker 3: I ever stink. This coworker has not asked for that 409 00:19:20,520 --> 00:19:22,760 Speaker 3: type of feedback. I don't know her super well outside 410 00:19:22,800 --> 00:19:25,840 Speaker 3: the office, but well at the office. Question do I 411 00:19:25,880 --> 00:19:28,119 Speaker 3: say anything? Wait until after she has the baby to 412 00:19:28,160 --> 00:19:29,840 Speaker 3: see if this is still an issue. Keep my mouth 413 00:19:29,880 --> 00:19:32,280 Speaker 3: shut unless asked, and try to keep my nose shut too. 414 00:19:32,760 --> 00:19:34,399 Speaker 3: Thanks to the advice and the light you guys bring, 415 00:19:34,520 --> 00:19:36,760 Speaker 3: this podcast always has me laughing out loud. Thank you, 416 00:19:37,080 --> 00:19:39,840 Speaker 3: ps Rebecca. I was talking about shoes with another coworker 417 00:19:39,840 --> 00:19:42,440 Speaker 3: and they said, I need a slimmer, silhouetted sneaker. I'll 418 00:19:42,480 --> 00:19:45,320 Speaker 3: of the Adida samba. I'm wearing sambas right now. All 419 00:19:45,359 --> 00:19:47,800 Speaker 3: I could think about was Ali sash Randy saying he 420 00:19:48,000 --> 00:19:49,000 Speaker 3: liked a slim afoot. 421 00:19:52,560 --> 00:19:56,200 Speaker 2: I don't think you say anything. I think that she's 422 00:19:56,359 --> 00:19:58,600 Speaker 2: probably the last thing she wants to hear about is 423 00:19:58,760 --> 00:20:01,120 Speaker 2: that she smells bad from someone else Like that would 424 00:20:01,200 --> 00:20:03,360 Speaker 2: just be the icing on the cake tip of the iceberg. 425 00:20:03,480 --> 00:20:08,240 Speaker 2: If I was in an uncomfortable pregnancy, not feeling. 426 00:20:08,000 --> 00:20:11,960 Speaker 1: Great, if I was walking around stanky, I would want 427 00:20:12,040 --> 00:20:12,720 Speaker 1: someone to tell me. 428 00:20:13,920 --> 00:20:17,720 Speaker 2: I know, but you would. You're you're verbally saying that, 429 00:20:17,960 --> 00:20:20,200 Speaker 2: so I would feel comfortable saying something to you because 430 00:20:20,240 --> 00:20:22,040 Speaker 2: you're saying I would want someone to tell me, but 431 00:20:22,160 --> 00:20:23,000 Speaker 2: she hasn't heard this. 432 00:20:23,520 --> 00:20:25,679 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not going around my office telling everybody, Hey, 433 00:20:25,680 --> 00:20:26,920 Speaker 1: if I smell, please let me know. 434 00:20:28,119 --> 00:20:30,760 Speaker 2: I know that I'm saying. Maybe she said it to 435 00:20:30,840 --> 00:20:33,240 Speaker 2: someone else that she like let me know, but she 436 00:20:33,280 --> 00:20:36,320 Speaker 2: hasn't said it to anonymous, So I don't know if 437 00:20:36,320 --> 00:20:38,520 Speaker 2: it's not like I mean, maybe there's. 438 00:20:38,320 --> 00:20:41,320 Speaker 1: A way an anonymous no, like she doesn't you need 439 00:20:41,359 --> 00:20:43,719 Speaker 1: to need to tell her to her face, Like that's 440 00:20:43,720 --> 00:20:46,000 Speaker 1: such an awkward conversation. Hey, you kind of smell like 441 00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:49,840 Speaker 1: I don't know what the smell is or sweaty mussy, 442 00:20:49,920 --> 00:20:52,280 Speaker 1: so me like, it's such an awkward thing to say 443 00:20:52,320 --> 00:20:53,920 Speaker 1: to somebody, like do you worry dooder? Are you trying 444 00:20:53,920 --> 00:20:54,360 Speaker 1: a new dude? 445 00:20:54,440 --> 00:20:56,600 Speaker 2: Or like what if what if she was she's been 446 00:20:56,640 --> 00:20:58,600 Speaker 2: pregnant before, so what if she was like, how have 447 00:20:58,680 --> 00:21:01,280 Speaker 2: your pregnancy symptoms been been? Like have you had anything? 448 00:21:01,280 --> 00:21:03,320 Speaker 2: And then if she's like, oh, like what were yours? 449 00:21:03,320 --> 00:21:04,920 Speaker 2: And she could just be like, oh, mine, Like I 450 00:21:04,960 --> 00:21:06,720 Speaker 2: felt like my nose was out of whack and I 451 00:21:06,840 --> 00:21:08,520 Speaker 2: was just like my hormones changed. I felt like I 452 00:21:08,960 --> 00:21:12,320 Speaker 2: there was like a smell And if she's like oh, 453 00:21:12,560 --> 00:21:13,640 Speaker 2: like I contrived? 454 00:21:13,760 --> 00:21:17,200 Speaker 1: That is so contrived? Are you joking me? I could 455 00:21:17,240 --> 00:21:20,280 Speaker 1: see right through that. No, leave an anonymous note. 456 00:21:21,800 --> 00:21:22,320 Speaker 2: You stink? 457 00:21:22,720 --> 00:21:26,080 Speaker 1: Not you stink? But like, what is the note I 458 00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:26,600 Speaker 1: would want? 459 00:21:26,760 --> 00:21:26,800 Speaker 2: Like? 460 00:21:27,080 --> 00:21:31,919 Speaker 1: I would want to know there's been a pungent smell, 461 00:21:32,560 --> 00:21:33,879 Speaker 1: like and I don't know. 462 00:21:35,720 --> 00:21:36,280 Speaker 2: What it is. 463 00:21:37,560 --> 00:21:39,760 Speaker 1: I didn't want to embarrass you by saying anything, but 464 00:21:39,840 --> 00:21:41,040 Speaker 1: I want to help you. 465 00:21:41,480 --> 00:21:44,120 Speaker 2: What if you said, I'm looking for a new deodorant, 466 00:21:44,160 --> 00:21:45,440 Speaker 2: do you have one that you love? 467 00:21:46,720 --> 00:21:48,880 Speaker 3: And then she's, oh my god, that's what I've been forgetting. 468 00:21:49,040 --> 00:21:51,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think that's gonna go over as well 469 00:21:51,400 --> 00:21:51,720 Speaker 1: as you. 470 00:21:52,359 --> 00:21:55,119 Speaker 2: I have a perfume, Like, I've been looking for a perfume. 471 00:21:55,160 --> 00:21:56,480 Speaker 2: What do you? What's your go to a. 472 00:21:56,480 --> 00:21:59,520 Speaker 1: Lot of people don't wear perfume because of the endocrime disruptors. 473 00:21:59,760 --> 00:22:03,320 Speaker 2: Maybe she's not wearing theodorant for the same reason, and 474 00:22:03,560 --> 00:22:05,240 Speaker 2: or she's wearing a natural Those. 475 00:22:05,080 --> 00:22:11,359 Speaker 1: Are does work, okay if you get the right ones 476 00:22:12,280 --> 00:22:13,000 Speaker 1: saltan stone. 477 00:22:13,400 --> 00:22:16,679 Speaker 2: No, yeah, you still have to have the right like pheromones. 478 00:22:17,040 --> 00:22:21,280 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, they do stop working after a while. 479 00:22:23,280 --> 00:22:23,920 Speaker 1: Do I smell? 480 00:22:26,000 --> 00:22:26,840 Speaker 2: I'm anonymous? 481 00:22:27,160 --> 00:22:27,399 Speaker 1: I'm like. 482 00:22:29,080 --> 00:22:32,280 Speaker 3: Something, I have a podcast there for a lunch time. 483 00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:34,439 Speaker 1: Are you telling me something? No, I think I can 484 00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:36,800 Speaker 1: tell when my natural deodorant like stops working. 485 00:22:37,080 --> 00:22:38,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's good. 486 00:22:38,320 --> 00:22:39,640 Speaker 1: I think I'm self aware enough. 487 00:22:40,200 --> 00:22:42,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, I I have a hard time because I've never 488 00:22:42,400 --> 00:22:45,200 Speaker 2: been pregnant. So I imagine when you're pregnant, if if 489 00:22:45,240 --> 00:22:47,600 Speaker 2: your like hormones are all disruptive and your nose isn't 490 00:22:47,640 --> 00:22:50,480 Speaker 2: like we're I don't know, like or you're just maybe 491 00:22:50,560 --> 00:22:53,679 Speaker 2: she's just like I don't care, like I know I smell. 492 00:22:54,600 --> 00:22:55,080 Speaker 2: I don't care. 493 00:22:58,480 --> 00:23:02,879 Speaker 1: Sorry, I mean, I've had a stinky coworker in the past. 494 00:23:03,119 --> 00:23:03,800 Speaker 2: How'd you handle it? 495 00:23:04,720 --> 00:23:05,360 Speaker 1: Didn't tell him? 496 00:23:05,920 --> 00:23:06,320 Speaker 2: There you go? 497 00:23:06,680 --> 00:23:10,600 Speaker 1: No, no note left, no note left. Nope, this was 498 00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:11,760 Speaker 1: a different type of smell. 499 00:23:12,320 --> 00:23:16,200 Speaker 2: I think after she's not pregnant any you know I 500 00:23:16,280 --> 00:23:19,880 Speaker 2: feel about that. Yeah, I think after she's not pregnant anymore, 501 00:23:20,160 --> 00:23:24,080 Speaker 2: maybe if you're still smelling it, maybe you can leave 502 00:23:24,119 --> 00:23:25,320 Speaker 2: a note or have a conversation. 503 00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:27,600 Speaker 1: Does pregnancy really make you smell? 504 00:23:28,080 --> 00:23:30,959 Speaker 2: It's yeah, changes all your like horrible everything. 505 00:23:31,080 --> 00:23:33,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's so crazy. 506 00:23:33,800 --> 00:23:35,879 Speaker 2: So I think maybe I just am like worried that. 507 00:23:36,680 --> 00:23:39,119 Speaker 2: I mean, she just I feel like she's probably got 508 00:23:39,119 --> 00:23:42,280 Speaker 2: a lot going on and is emotional, and she's at work, 509 00:23:42,440 --> 00:23:44,200 Speaker 2: and I just don't know if it's the time to 510 00:23:44,320 --> 00:23:45,080 Speaker 2: like bring up that. 511 00:23:46,000 --> 00:23:50,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I think I retract my anonymous letter. 512 00:23:50,960 --> 00:23:53,680 Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, until after she's had the child. 513 00:23:53,760 --> 00:23:57,600 Speaker 3: Correct, So yeah, look back with us after this child's born. 514 00:23:58,040 --> 00:24:00,640 Speaker 3: Let's see what we can do. Here's another one from anonymous. 515 00:24:00,800 --> 00:24:03,040 Speaker 3: I beck Antanya. I've been listening to you for years 516 00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:05,240 Speaker 3: and you always brighten my day when I listen. I 517 00:24:05,320 --> 00:24:08,399 Speaker 3: started dating my boyfriend in January. We've been together this 518 00:24:08,480 --> 00:24:10,240 Speaker 3: whole year, but we took a break back in August 519 00:24:10,280 --> 00:24:12,560 Speaker 3: after I broke up with him. He showed up drunk 520 00:24:12,600 --> 00:24:14,600 Speaker 3: at my place one night. But this was on top 521 00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:16,880 Speaker 3: of other things that were building up and basically giving 522 00:24:16,920 --> 00:24:19,400 Speaker 3: me the ick, like re wearing dirty clothes because he's 523 00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:21,320 Speaker 3: too lazy to do his laundry in the basement of 524 00:24:21,359 --> 00:24:23,800 Speaker 3: his apartment building. He also has a five year old 525 00:24:23,880 --> 00:24:26,320 Speaker 3: daughter that he has most nights and weekends, so he's 526 00:24:26,320 --> 00:24:28,320 Speaker 3: super busy being a dad, but the laundry thing was 527 00:24:28,359 --> 00:24:30,920 Speaker 3: grossing me out. He also wouldn't let me come to 528 00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:32,879 Speaker 3: his place all summer because it was too messy and 529 00:24:32,920 --> 00:24:34,840 Speaker 3: he was too lazy. To clean up for me. After 530 00:24:34,880 --> 00:24:36,320 Speaker 3: I broke up with him, he saw me on hinge 531 00:24:36,359 --> 00:24:38,399 Speaker 3: and reached out, so we got back together. Things have 532 00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:40,040 Speaker 3: been really great for the most part. I met his 533 00:24:40,119 --> 00:24:42,240 Speaker 3: family and also met his daughter. He even told me 534 00:24:42,320 --> 00:24:44,080 Speaker 3: he loves me for the first time. So a lot 535 00:24:44,119 --> 00:24:46,560 Speaker 3: has happened since getting back together. He's gone out of 536 00:24:46,600 --> 00:24:48,200 Speaker 3: his way to invite me to his place and keeps 537 00:24:48,240 --> 00:24:50,320 Speaker 3: it super clean and does his laundry, so he's putting 538 00:24:50,320 --> 00:24:52,280 Speaker 3: it in the effort. The thing is, although I do 539 00:24:52,440 --> 00:24:54,720 Speaker 3: love him and I'm happy, I don't think he's my person. 540 00:24:55,119 --> 00:24:56,920 Speaker 3: He's a great guy. I fully trust him, which is 541 00:24:57,000 --> 00:24:59,399 Speaker 3: hard for me, but he doesn't have any ambition. We 542 00:24:59,440 --> 00:25:01,560 Speaker 3: also seem to. I have different morals. I like to 543 00:25:01,560 --> 00:25:03,680 Speaker 3: follow the rules where he likes to bend them. I 544 00:25:03,720 --> 00:25:05,720 Speaker 3: don't know if these are pet peeves that can be changed, 545 00:25:05,800 --> 00:25:07,399 Speaker 3: or if it's just going to be who he is 546 00:25:07,520 --> 00:25:10,520 Speaker 3: forever and I'm sabotaging the potential. Thanks for your help, 547 00:25:10,760 --> 00:25:11,239 Speaker 3: Love you all. 548 00:25:13,800 --> 00:25:14,879 Speaker 2: I don't think he's your person. 549 00:25:15,160 --> 00:25:17,440 Speaker 1: Oh oh oh yeah, wow, straight to that. 550 00:25:17,880 --> 00:25:20,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, I just don't. I don't think. I think that 551 00:25:20,560 --> 00:25:23,119 Speaker 2: you can find people that make you happy enough to 552 00:25:23,200 --> 00:25:25,440 Speaker 2: where you're not alone. But I don't find that you're 553 00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:27,200 Speaker 2: excited about this guy at all. 554 00:25:28,440 --> 00:25:30,560 Speaker 1: See, I feel like it's really hard to find people 555 00:25:30,640 --> 00:25:32,280 Speaker 1: that you get along with and that you click with. 556 00:25:35,040 --> 00:25:38,719 Speaker 1: And I feel like you're unsure right now, which is fine, 557 00:25:39,240 --> 00:25:41,560 Speaker 1: But I feel like when you're sure, you're sure, like 558 00:25:41,680 --> 00:25:43,960 Speaker 1: you broke up with him already once, like you are sure, 559 00:25:44,080 --> 00:25:46,440 Speaker 1: So I feel like, wait till you're sure before you 560 00:25:46,520 --> 00:25:47,119 Speaker 1: break up with him. 561 00:25:49,119 --> 00:25:51,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, I just feel like you don't. You just said 562 00:25:51,480 --> 00:25:53,360 Speaker 2: I don't think he's my person, and it's like we're 563 00:25:53,400 --> 00:25:54,560 Speaker 2: not getting any younger, so. 564 00:25:54,640 --> 00:26:00,159 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, if he doesn't speak for yourself. Also, do 565 00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:00,760 Speaker 1: you want over here? 566 00:26:01,240 --> 00:26:03,480 Speaker 3: I'm scanning this again, and I don't see anything she 567 00:26:03,920 --> 00:26:04,600 Speaker 3: likes about him. 568 00:26:04,640 --> 00:26:07,280 Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. She's like, Oh, he's cleaning for me, 569 00:26:07,400 --> 00:26:08,960 Speaker 2: which it's nice that he's putting in the effort, but 570 00:26:09,080 --> 00:26:12,320 Speaker 2: beyond that, it doesn't feel like you are excited about 571 00:26:12,400 --> 00:26:14,560 Speaker 2: him or any qualities that he has. So I think 572 00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:17,200 Speaker 2: you just go, hey, we tried it again. He's a 573 00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:19,800 Speaker 2: great guy, but we're he's not my He's not the 574 00:26:19,880 --> 00:26:20,600 Speaker 2: great guy for me. 575 00:26:21,560 --> 00:26:24,159 Speaker 3: Yeah. The only improvement from after you broke over with 576 00:26:24,200 --> 00:26:25,920 Speaker 3: him is that he started doing his laundry. 577 00:26:28,119 --> 00:26:29,960 Speaker 2: He lift the bar off the floor. 578 00:26:30,400 --> 00:26:32,680 Speaker 1: The fact that he has a child and he doesn't 579 00:26:32,720 --> 00:26:35,479 Speaker 1: want to do his laundry is scary. 580 00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:36,440 Speaker 3: It's concerning. 581 00:26:36,800 --> 00:26:42,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, were so s? 582 00:26:43,480 --> 00:26:45,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, break up with him immediately, That's what I. 583 00:26:46,040 --> 00:26:48,920 Speaker 2: Let's take a break because we have two more and 584 00:26:49,000 --> 00:26:54,080 Speaker 2: then we'll be right back. Then wait, coming up, best 585 00:26:54,200 --> 00:26:59,280 Speaker 2: friend ickes this, you too know. I save myself for 586 00:26:59,400 --> 00:27:18,280 Speaker 2: one email for Dearmona. All right, we're back, so we 587 00:27:18,440 --> 00:27:22,560 Speaker 2: have I think two more emails to get to. But 588 00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:25,040 Speaker 2: this one is best friend ick. 589 00:27:25,320 --> 00:27:28,480 Speaker 3: That's right, we just heard a boyfriend ick. Now we 590 00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:31,080 Speaker 3: got a best friend iic. This is from Jocelyn. My 591 00:27:31,160 --> 00:27:33,080 Speaker 3: best friend and I have known each other for ten years. 592 00:27:33,119 --> 00:27:35,560 Speaker 3: We're in our late twenties. She recently started dating a 593 00:27:35,600 --> 00:27:37,200 Speaker 3: new guy and got a new job all around the 594 00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:39,639 Speaker 3: same time, which is great. Life changes are fun and 595 00:27:39,720 --> 00:27:41,520 Speaker 3: exciting and I want to be there to support her. 596 00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:44,760 Speaker 3: But she has to mention the new job all the time. 597 00:27:45,320 --> 00:27:47,760 Speaker 3: It is constantly the only thing she talks about. This 598 00:27:47,920 --> 00:27:50,520 Speaker 3: is on top of some other inconsiderate mannerism she has 599 00:27:50,560 --> 00:27:52,879 Speaker 3: in group settings, and it's given me the ick. I 600 00:27:53,040 --> 00:27:55,000 Speaker 3: try to set my own boundaries, like not hanging out 601 00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:57,520 Speaker 3: one on one and only group events, so I haven't 602 00:27:57,560 --> 00:27:59,000 Speaker 3: needed to see her as much to give us a 603 00:27:59,040 --> 00:28:01,360 Speaker 3: little space. But even when she texts me, I get 604 00:28:01,400 --> 00:28:04,000 Speaker 3: this irol feeling because of course the job is always 605 00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:07,000 Speaker 3: part of it. We have some personality differences now versus 606 00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:09,520 Speaker 3: when we met in college, where I don't think she's 607 00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:11,000 Speaker 3: the kind of person I would be as close with 608 00:28:11,040 --> 00:28:13,199 Speaker 3: if we met as adults. We've been friends for so long, 609 00:28:13,240 --> 00:28:15,200 Speaker 3: I feel obligated to stay invested. But what can I 610 00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:17,800 Speaker 3: do is this is our friendship doomed? Do I talk 611 00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:21,359 Speaker 3: to her about these issues? Am I just an unsupportive ahole? Thanks? Ladies, 612 00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:24,400 Speaker 3: Love you. EXO Joscelyn Psocell is my drunk bar name, 613 00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:26,000 Speaker 3: so you can read that instead of being anonymous. 614 00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:32,760 Speaker 2: I like that. That's cool her alter ego. Yeah, I'm 615 00:28:32,800 --> 00:28:33,600 Speaker 2: torn on this one. 616 00:28:33,680 --> 00:28:35,600 Speaker 1: Oh tell us how you feel? Well. 617 00:28:35,680 --> 00:28:37,840 Speaker 2: I just think that sometimes we meet people at a 618 00:28:37,880 --> 00:28:41,280 Speaker 2: certain stage in our life, and then as you get older, 619 00:28:41,720 --> 00:28:44,640 Speaker 2: there's sometimes where you just grow apart. Like I feel 620 00:28:44,640 --> 00:28:46,480 Speaker 2: like sometimes it's just like you don't align on the 621 00:28:46,560 --> 00:28:48,280 Speaker 2: things that you used to align with. And I don't 622 00:28:48,280 --> 00:28:51,240 Speaker 2: think it's that anyone did anything wrong. Like, I don't 623 00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:55,360 Speaker 2: think that your friend talking about her new job is 624 00:28:55,480 --> 00:28:59,600 Speaker 2: the underlying issue here. I think it's a symptom of 625 00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:05,320 Speaker 2: and already like set in mindset that she has where 626 00:29:05,400 --> 00:29:07,280 Speaker 2: it's just like, we're not the same people we were 627 00:29:07,360 --> 00:29:10,400 Speaker 2: when we met, and we haven't grown together, we've grown apart, 628 00:29:10,600 --> 00:29:14,920 Speaker 2: and so now everything she does feels annoying because you've 629 00:29:14,920 --> 00:29:17,200 Speaker 2: already set in your mind that you've grown apart. That's 630 00:29:17,240 --> 00:29:19,760 Speaker 2: how I think, And I think it's worth I mean, 631 00:29:19,840 --> 00:29:22,360 Speaker 2: I don't think it's like worth just throwing it away 632 00:29:22,400 --> 00:29:25,600 Speaker 2: without having a conversation, But I do think it's important 633 00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:28,720 Speaker 2: to address things that you're struggling with, because then I 634 00:29:28,800 --> 00:29:30,880 Speaker 2: think it's out on the table. And if y'all do 635 00:29:31,040 --> 00:29:33,760 Speaker 2: grow to a point where you're not best friends anymore, 636 00:29:34,240 --> 00:29:37,280 Speaker 2: it's like we tried and I communicated with her, and 637 00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:39,880 Speaker 2: this wasn't just like I threw in the towel on 638 00:29:40,000 --> 00:29:41,320 Speaker 2: something that was really important to me. 639 00:29:41,600 --> 00:29:44,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I took it at surface level of 640 00:29:44,960 --> 00:29:47,320 Speaker 1: just like somebody like not being socially aware of just 641 00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:49,280 Speaker 1: like saying the same you know, talking about the same 642 00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:51,080 Speaker 1: thing over and over again, because I feel like I 643 00:29:51,200 --> 00:29:53,200 Speaker 1: have to catch myself because I'm like, I can't just 644 00:29:53,320 --> 00:29:55,920 Speaker 1: like text my friends every little freakin detail because it's 645 00:29:56,040 --> 00:29:58,440 Speaker 1: so many details. So like I catch myself doing that 646 00:29:58,480 --> 00:30:01,440 Speaker 1: because I'm trying to be more socially aware. So like, 647 00:30:01,520 --> 00:30:04,200 Speaker 1: maybe your friend just isn't socially aware and like this 648 00:30:04,360 --> 00:30:06,160 Speaker 1: is just what's consuming her right now because it is 649 00:30:06,240 --> 00:30:07,800 Speaker 1: like a new job and it's top of mind and 650 00:30:07,840 --> 00:30:10,240 Speaker 1: there's so much going on. It's like your job essentially 651 00:30:10,320 --> 00:30:12,200 Speaker 1: is your life. You know, you spend more hours at 652 00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:14,160 Speaker 1: your job than you do at your home. So it's 653 00:30:14,200 --> 00:30:16,520 Speaker 1: like maybe she just isn't aware that she's like being annoying. 654 00:30:16,680 --> 00:30:18,960 Speaker 1: If you don't address it, you don't tell her it's annoying. 655 00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:21,360 Speaker 2: Right, doesn't say I think it's worth having a conversation. 656 00:30:21,480 --> 00:30:23,520 Speaker 2: But I also think because it is such a surface 657 00:30:23,600 --> 00:30:26,440 Speaker 2: level thing, it makes me think there's a deeper rooted 658 00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:31,200 Speaker 2: issue in the friendship that it's like that is causing 659 00:30:31,360 --> 00:30:35,240 Speaker 2: so much something so simple is causing so much distress 660 00:30:35,320 --> 00:30:35,600 Speaker 2: and it. 661 00:30:35,880 --> 00:30:38,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, it would it be something else, right, Yeah. 662 00:30:38,520 --> 00:30:40,760 Speaker 2: Like it would. Just I think you're at a point 663 00:30:41,000 --> 00:30:42,960 Speaker 2: where you just need to have a conversation of like 664 00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:48,160 Speaker 2: whether it's the changes y'all have felt in the growth apart. 665 00:30:48,480 --> 00:30:51,560 Speaker 2: It's addressing that. And also like, hey, when we hang out, 666 00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:53,920 Speaker 2: I know your job is so important and I love 667 00:30:54,000 --> 00:30:56,200 Speaker 2: an update, but like I feel like that's the only 668 00:30:56,280 --> 00:30:58,320 Speaker 2: thing we talk about, and I want to talk about 669 00:30:58,320 --> 00:31:01,400 Speaker 2: other things with you. I wanted to just I mean 670 00:31:02,200 --> 00:31:04,840 Speaker 2: sometimes in a relationship, like sometimes Haley will come home 671 00:31:04,880 --> 00:31:07,200 Speaker 2: when something she's working with and it's like, can we 672 00:31:07,360 --> 00:31:09,200 Speaker 2: just have a break and not and just talk about 673 00:31:09,520 --> 00:31:11,120 Speaker 2: other things other than work things? 674 00:31:11,280 --> 00:31:15,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, because like would you eat for lunch? Whatever? 675 00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:18,480 Speaker 2: We don't get that exciting every night of like what 676 00:31:18,640 --> 00:31:21,560 Speaker 2: did you eat for lunch? You know? But I'm just saying, 677 00:31:21,600 --> 00:31:24,239 Speaker 2: like I do think it's important to have to let 678 00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:27,200 Speaker 2: someone know because sometimes people don't know that that they're 679 00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:30,120 Speaker 2: just hemming and hauling on and on about the same thing. Yeah, 680 00:31:30,240 --> 00:31:32,680 Speaker 2: and they probably she might not even remember if she's 681 00:31:32,760 --> 00:31:34,360 Speaker 2: talked to you about certain things and you're like, I've 682 00:31:34,360 --> 00:31:35,960 Speaker 2: heard this story for five hundred times. 683 00:31:36,120 --> 00:31:36,320 Speaker 1: Yeah. 684 00:31:36,800 --> 00:31:39,959 Speaker 3: I talk about work a lot because that's often all 685 00:31:40,000 --> 00:31:41,880 Speaker 3: that I do in the day. And at one point 686 00:31:41,920 --> 00:31:44,560 Speaker 3: Alison was like, Hey, you get paid for that. I don't, 687 00:31:44,680 --> 00:31:47,560 Speaker 3: so I'm can we calm it down, you know, And 688 00:31:47,640 --> 00:31:49,360 Speaker 3: I was like wow, And I think about that old 689 00:31:49,440 --> 00:31:50,800 Speaker 3: every time I started like talking about work, I'm like, 690 00:31:50,800 --> 00:31:52,760 Speaker 3: oh god, you know, like she just leave them at 691 00:31:52,800 --> 00:31:53,280 Speaker 3: the office. 692 00:31:53,560 --> 00:31:56,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, which is hard, so hard. It's easier 693 00:31:56,880 --> 00:31:58,520 Speaker 2: said than none to just be able to turn it off, 694 00:31:58,640 --> 00:32:00,880 Speaker 2: but it is. I do think it's worth a conversation. 695 00:32:01,080 --> 00:32:04,240 Speaker 2: And I also think that if it's if it's a 696 00:32:04,320 --> 00:32:06,320 Speaker 2: deeper issue and it's like, hey, we're just not the 697 00:32:06,360 --> 00:32:09,560 Speaker 2: same people, and I want to be more specific on 698 00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:12,360 Speaker 2: where I'm spending my time and energy and friendships and relationships, 699 00:32:12,400 --> 00:32:18,120 Speaker 2: and it's not here anymore. That's okay. Yeah, it's good luck, Jocelyn, Jocelyn. 700 00:32:18,360 --> 00:32:21,719 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, we wish you the best of Joscelyn. All right. 701 00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:25,960 Speaker 3: Last one this is from Lauren, Hi, Banya and me Ston. 702 00:32:26,160 --> 00:32:29,400 Speaker 3: That's fun and just binge. Nobody wants this And all 703 00:32:29,440 --> 00:32:31,560 Speaker 3: he did the whole time was picture Tany as Joanne 704 00:32:31,640 --> 00:32:33,880 Speaker 3: and Robbie is Noah. I want to know all the 705 00:32:33,920 --> 00:32:36,239 Speaker 3: different parallels Tonya saw when she watched the show. Did 706 00:32:36,280 --> 00:32:38,600 Speaker 3: she experience similar struggles with Robbie's family as far as 707 00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:41,080 Speaker 3: the religion and being more conservative? Is Robbie a lot 708 00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:45,360 Speaker 3: like Noah's character, even parilis Becca saw from out outside perspective, 709 00:32:45,520 --> 00:32:46,360 Speaker 3: love you guys. 710 00:32:48,680 --> 00:32:52,720 Speaker 1: Well right off the I mean the storyline in and 711 00:32:52,840 --> 00:32:56,920 Speaker 1: of itself is like this blonde podcast or that talks 712 00:32:56,920 --> 00:33:01,840 Speaker 1: about sex dating this like Jewish guys, So like right off, Rabbi, sorry, Rabbi, 713 00:33:02,400 --> 00:33:07,600 Speaker 1: my apologies, even though Robbie's not a rabbi. The general 714 00:33:08,520 --> 00:33:12,480 Speaker 1: synopsis of the show is like literally our relationship, so 715 00:33:12,640 --> 00:33:15,160 Speaker 1: that to me, like right off the bat was very weird. 716 00:33:15,680 --> 00:33:20,920 Speaker 1: The first kiss when I got my vagina tingles, that 717 00:33:21,120 --> 00:33:24,160 Speaker 1: felt very like similar to the kiss that we had 718 00:33:25,920 --> 00:33:28,600 Speaker 1: less with the family because his mom and his sister 719 00:33:28,680 --> 00:33:32,200 Speaker 1: in law were like so excited about me because of 720 00:33:32,280 --> 00:33:34,120 Speaker 1: like everything that he's gone through in the past, so 721 00:33:34,240 --> 00:33:37,440 Speaker 1: like I didn't have to deal with any family members 722 00:33:37,480 --> 00:33:39,280 Speaker 1: not liking me, which was really nice, Like they were 723 00:33:39,360 --> 00:33:43,480 Speaker 1: really like lovely to me. But the scene where she's 724 00:33:43,520 --> 00:33:45,760 Speaker 1: trying to like impress all the other like friends at 725 00:33:45,760 --> 00:33:51,480 Speaker 1: the basketball game, like that is so literally me like 726 00:33:51,600 --> 00:33:54,680 Speaker 1: trying to like make friends with other school moms, like hey, 727 00:33:54,720 --> 00:34:02,000 Speaker 1: I'm cool, like I'm new here, uh looking up the 728 00:34:02,040 --> 00:34:05,560 Speaker 1: other woman On Instagram and social media I did a 729 00:34:05,640 --> 00:34:08,359 Speaker 1: lot of that. What else from the show? 730 00:34:10,880 --> 00:34:13,840 Speaker 2: I mean, I feel like even with your his Robbie's 731 00:34:13,840 --> 00:34:15,680 Speaker 2: family was so much more accepting of you. But I 732 00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:21,640 Speaker 2: do feel like you feeling like the blonde Christian there 733 00:34:21,800 --> 00:34:25,120 Speaker 2: was like the ships coming in. I think there was 734 00:34:25,239 --> 00:34:30,320 Speaker 2: some like not pressure, but there was some nerves in terms. 735 00:34:30,160 --> 00:34:32,000 Speaker 1: Of yeah, just because it's so it was so foreign 736 00:34:32,040 --> 00:34:34,480 Speaker 1: to me, like I've never I've i've never had like 737 00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:36,239 Speaker 1: a satyr, or I didn't know what a satyr was, 738 00:34:36,320 --> 00:34:38,800 Speaker 1: Like I remember I made it was COVID and so 739 00:34:39,920 --> 00:34:42,840 Speaker 1: I am not sure exactly, but it was a satyr 740 00:34:42,880 --> 00:34:45,440 Speaker 1: that I wanted to make for Robbie, and so I like, 741 00:34:46,680 --> 00:34:48,319 Speaker 1: I look, I saw pictures of it. I look at 742 00:34:48,360 --> 00:34:52,319 Speaker 1: it now, it's so wish mode. I look at it now, 743 00:34:52,400 --> 00:34:54,640 Speaker 1: I'm like, this is so not what it should have 744 00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:57,719 Speaker 1: looked like. You know, I tried. I tried, and I 745 00:34:57,760 --> 00:34:59,840 Speaker 1: also had no idea. I had no idea what I 746 00:34:59,920 --> 00:35:02,120 Speaker 1: was doing. Yeah, but I do feel like it was 747 00:35:02,200 --> 00:35:05,319 Speaker 1: both ways too. He never even decorated a Christmas tree 748 00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:08,480 Speaker 1: until he met me, right, and so I invited him 749 00:35:08,480 --> 00:35:10,440 Speaker 1: over one night to like decorate the tree, and he 750 00:35:10,600 --> 00:35:13,279 Speaker 1: like went to Creighton Beryl and he was like asked 751 00:35:13,320 --> 00:35:15,600 Speaker 1: for help to buy ornaments because he like didn't know, 752 00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:18,399 Speaker 1: like like which ones do you buy? Like I don't 753 00:35:18,400 --> 00:35:20,719 Speaker 1: know which one she had? Yeah, do you buy? He 754 00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:22,160 Speaker 1: bought them in pairs. He thought you had to buy 755 00:35:22,200 --> 00:35:22,760 Speaker 1: them in pairs. 756 00:35:24,480 --> 00:35:24,680 Speaker 3: Yeah. 757 00:35:25,080 --> 00:35:27,840 Speaker 2: I feel like I watched it feeling like the general 758 00:35:28,040 --> 00:35:30,840 Speaker 2: storylines and some there were some specific things where I 759 00:35:30,960 --> 00:35:33,000 Speaker 2: was like, this felt very like your story. 760 00:35:33,360 --> 00:35:33,560 Speaker 3: Yeah. 761 00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:36,440 Speaker 2: And even for Aaron Foster, who it's based on, She's like, 762 00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:39,480 Speaker 2: there's a there's a lot of extremes in it, you. 763 00:35:39,560 --> 00:35:42,480 Speaker 1: Know, but even the best somebody in this show is 764 00:35:42,520 --> 00:35:43,200 Speaker 1: named Rebecca. 765 00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:45,879 Speaker 2: I literally before I realized it was Aaron Foster who 766 00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:48,120 Speaker 2: wrote it, and they have their podcast together, I was like, 767 00:35:48,239 --> 00:35:52,680 Speaker 2: someone listens to someone was inspired by Tanya's story too. 768 00:35:52,719 --> 00:35:54,360 Speaker 1: I didn't realize it was Aaron's either, and I was like, 769 00:35:54,520 --> 00:35:55,600 Speaker 1: this is a listener yeah. 770 00:35:55,719 --> 00:35:55,919 Speaker 2: Yeah. 771 00:35:56,719 --> 00:35:59,480 Speaker 1: And then the cousin his brother's named Sasha, Yeah, and 772 00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:01,520 Speaker 1: we have a song. He has a Sausha in his family. 773 00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:03,440 Speaker 1: Like I was like, this is so weird. 774 00:36:03,800 --> 00:36:06,359 Speaker 2: Yeah, I know. I felt that way too. And one 775 00:36:06,360 --> 00:36:08,560 Speaker 2: of my favorite storylines in that show was when she 776 00:36:08,680 --> 00:36:11,080 Speaker 2: got the ick. When like he had his like sports 777 00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:14,280 Speaker 2: code on and the shorts and he had the flowers 778 00:36:14,360 --> 00:36:17,680 Speaker 2: for the mom and she was just like, oh Like, 779 00:36:17,920 --> 00:36:20,399 Speaker 2: I was like that, that is such a I loved 780 00:36:20,480 --> 00:36:22,879 Speaker 2: that it was a reversed ach though, because I feel 781 00:36:22,920 --> 00:36:25,440 Speaker 2: like in my situation, anytime I would get the thick 782 00:36:25,480 --> 00:36:28,399 Speaker 2: from guys, I'd just be like done done. 783 00:36:28,600 --> 00:36:31,359 Speaker 1: Oh right, she overcame the it overcame the ck. Yeah. Yeah, 784 00:36:31,600 --> 00:36:34,239 Speaker 1: I never got the ck with Robbie. I don't think. 785 00:36:36,080 --> 00:36:39,080 Speaker 1: I'm sure the very some of you did recently where 786 00:36:39,120 --> 00:36:42,440 Speaker 1: you were like, oh my gosh, the bit moji. Oh no, 787 00:36:45,040 --> 00:36:48,600 Speaker 1: I showed him this, so I can't remember. You were 788 00:36:48,680 --> 00:36:52,400 Speaker 1: at my house for after we went wedding dress shopping 789 00:36:53,360 --> 00:36:56,360 Speaker 1: and Becca was showing me some text message from Robbie 790 00:36:57,080 --> 00:37:01,600 Speaker 1: and I see the photo that is saved in her 791 00:37:01,760 --> 00:37:05,279 Speaker 1: phone for him, and it's like this goofy looking bit 792 00:37:05,440 --> 00:37:09,680 Speaker 1: moji and I literally never cringed or had the ick harder. 793 00:37:09,960 --> 00:37:13,160 Speaker 1: I was like, please tell me he did not pick this, 794 00:37:13,440 --> 00:37:16,320 Speaker 1: like please, but he doesn't know. He was like, she 795 00:37:16,480 --> 00:37:17,600 Speaker 1: must have added that for me. 796 00:37:18,800 --> 00:37:22,279 Speaker 2: No, I didn't. That's what phone you know what? 797 00:37:22,640 --> 00:37:24,319 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the test when it. 798 00:37:24,360 --> 00:37:28,800 Speaker 2: Says like someone has a new contact information. That's what 799 00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:29,279 Speaker 2: I did. 800 00:37:31,960 --> 00:37:33,080 Speaker 3: Mine's there's no picture. 801 00:37:34,080 --> 00:37:37,120 Speaker 2: I tell you, guys, what did I create a bit moji? 802 00:37:37,239 --> 00:37:37,879 Speaker 2: Because I did. 803 00:37:37,960 --> 00:37:39,360 Speaker 1: I took a picture of it, and I was like, 804 00:37:40,360 --> 00:37:42,719 Speaker 1: I need to address this, and I addressed it head on. 805 00:37:43,080 --> 00:37:45,200 Speaker 2: She was like what is that? And I was like what. 806 00:37:45,840 --> 00:37:48,759 Speaker 2: She was like, did you choose that for him? And 807 00:37:48,880 --> 00:37:54,600 Speaker 2: I was like, no, that's what came on. This is okay. 808 00:37:54,640 --> 00:37:56,759 Speaker 3: So to be clear, this is a me moji. This 809 00:37:56,880 --> 00:38:00,400 Speaker 3: is the Apple moji, is a Snapchat. 810 00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:01,279 Speaker 1: Sorry, it's a memoji. 811 00:38:01,440 --> 00:38:03,080 Speaker 3: This is slightly more acceptable. I think. 812 00:38:03,520 --> 00:38:07,520 Speaker 1: No, I think this is no me emojis. 813 00:38:09,120 --> 00:38:09,680 Speaker 2: Five o'clock. 814 00:38:12,120 --> 00:38:14,279 Speaker 3: He's given us like self assured smirk too. 815 00:38:14,400 --> 00:38:17,399 Speaker 2: Yeah, I love. I mean that's like when I see 816 00:38:17,480 --> 00:38:21,000 Speaker 2: his text, that's what pops up. That makes me so on. Well, 817 00:38:21,080 --> 00:38:23,560 Speaker 2: we're texting all the time, yeah, every day. 818 00:38:23,640 --> 00:38:25,880 Speaker 1: When I see his every I get it texting. 819 00:38:27,840 --> 00:38:30,000 Speaker 3: Actually, I should point out I looked at my own 820 00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:32,759 Speaker 3: and it's it's a memoji doing the exact same face. 821 00:38:33,280 --> 00:38:35,440 Speaker 3: I did not set this. I didn't set this. 822 00:38:36,960 --> 00:38:40,520 Speaker 2: Wait, I think I didn't. That's on mine as well, 823 00:38:40,600 --> 00:38:42,000 Speaker 2: because on my computer. 824 00:38:43,719 --> 00:38:46,160 Speaker 1: See, oh yeah, I have it for you. 825 00:38:46,719 --> 00:38:48,799 Speaker 3: I'm so embarrassed. 826 00:38:48,960 --> 00:38:49,879 Speaker 1: I have it for you too. 827 00:38:50,920 --> 00:38:53,120 Speaker 3: For the longest time, my picture is me flexing in 828 00:38:53,160 --> 00:38:55,440 Speaker 3: front of a nuclear bomb going off. It should be 829 00:38:55,520 --> 00:38:59,120 Speaker 3: that instead of me emoji. Well, I'm going to change 830 00:38:59,120 --> 00:38:59,440 Speaker 3: it right now. 831 00:38:59,520 --> 00:39:01,560 Speaker 1: It's so funny because I did have that conversation with him. 832 00:39:01,719 --> 00:39:02,680 Speaker 1: I was like, we need to talk. 833 00:39:03,000 --> 00:39:04,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I didn't really see what the big 834 00:39:04,480 --> 00:39:05,880 Speaker 2: deal was. I don't think that would give me the 835 00:39:05,960 --> 00:39:08,000 Speaker 2: ick if she had a. 836 00:39:08,040 --> 00:39:12,440 Speaker 1: Cute It's not a cute little emoji, is it? 837 00:39:12,800 --> 00:39:15,239 Speaker 2: Did it make it? Why? What about it gave you 838 00:39:15,320 --> 00:39:15,640 Speaker 2: the ick? 839 00:39:16,560 --> 00:39:18,280 Speaker 1: Because I'm like, we're not in high school. 840 00:39:19,280 --> 00:39:21,400 Speaker 2: Oh see, I think that that is an older person 841 00:39:21,520 --> 00:39:23,759 Speaker 2: thing that they do. Oh I thought you were more 842 00:39:23,880 --> 00:39:25,120 Speaker 2: like this is giving boomer. 843 00:39:25,520 --> 00:39:27,719 Speaker 1: No, it was like giving like why aren't you just 844 00:39:27,840 --> 00:39:31,280 Speaker 1: using a photo of yourself or just or just no photo? 845 00:39:31,560 --> 00:39:35,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, or like a color yeah. You Your reaction really 846 00:39:35,680 --> 00:39:36,239 Speaker 2: surprised me. 847 00:39:36,640 --> 00:39:38,600 Speaker 1: Really. Yeah, but I addressed it with him. 848 00:39:39,080 --> 00:39:39,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, you handled it? 849 00:39:40,160 --> 00:39:42,680 Speaker 1: Was where did what's happening. 850 00:39:45,000 --> 00:39:45,600 Speaker 2: For most of you? 851 00:39:45,719 --> 00:39:46,040 Speaker 3: Actually? 852 00:39:46,440 --> 00:39:48,120 Speaker 1: Becca must have added that. For me, I don't know 853 00:39:48,200 --> 00:39:48,520 Speaker 1: what that is. 854 00:39:48,680 --> 00:39:51,680 Speaker 2: I am actually offended now that he thinks I took 855 00:39:51,800 --> 00:39:55,480 Speaker 2: the time to find an memoji that looks like him 856 00:39:56,080 --> 00:40:04,440 Speaker 2: and mo think of mimosa but memoji. Yeah. Anyways, well, 857 00:40:04,440 --> 00:40:07,359 Speaker 2: I'm glad you ever, I'm glad you've already started wedding 858 00:40:07,440 --> 00:40:08,719 Speaker 2: planning before you got that ic. 859 00:40:09,080 --> 00:40:11,160 Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, yeah, I got over it fast. It was 860 00:40:11,200 --> 00:40:18,440 Speaker 1: like same day, same day confrontation. Well that's all for now, folks, 861 00:40:18,480 --> 00:40:19,200 Speaker 1: that's all for now. 862 00:40:19,560 --> 00:40:22,239 Speaker 2: We are back next week chatting with Jenna Eshkowitz, which 863 00:40:22,320 --> 00:40:25,200 Speaker 2: I'm so excited. I was like a glee what did 864 00:40:25,239 --> 00:40:26,120 Speaker 2: they call them, gleek? 865 00:40:26,160 --> 00:40:28,840 Speaker 1: I was a geek. Yeah, So I'm so excited to 866 00:40:28,880 --> 00:40:29,319 Speaker 1: talk to her. 867 00:40:29,600 --> 00:40:32,920 Speaker 2: So if you have any specifically mom related questions or 868 00:40:33,000 --> 00:40:35,359 Speaker 2: any other general questions for her, send them to us 869 00:40:35,760 --> 00:40:38,120 Speaker 2: d miss on Instagram at scrubbing in pot or email 870 00:40:38,200 --> 00:40:41,839 Speaker 2: us at scrubbing in at iHeartMedia dot com. And uh, 871 00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:43,799 Speaker 2: we love you so much. 872 00:40:44,280 --> 00:40:47,759 Speaker 1: We love you so much. We are off to the 873 00:40:47,920 --> 00:40:51,560 Speaker 1: airport because we are going to NAPA this weekend. Yes 874 00:40:51,719 --> 00:40:53,520 Speaker 1: we are, so we're gonna be. 875 00:40:56,160 --> 00:40:58,320 Speaker 2: It sounds like a crash, I think as well. I 876 00:40:58,400 --> 00:41:00,600 Speaker 2: don't like about the plane respect of that. 877 00:41:00,800 --> 00:41:02,000 Speaker 3: That one sounded like a bomb. 878 00:41:02,280 --> 00:41:06,680 Speaker 1: Oh oh my god. Yeah, I'll work on that. 879 00:41:06,760 --> 00:41:09,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, we'll work on that all right. We'll love you bye.