1 00:00:00,880 --> 00:00:04,520 Speaker 1: This is from Elena on Steve Harvey FM. Elena says, 2 00:00:04,519 --> 00:00:07,120 Speaker 1: I'm twenty six and I feel like my life never 3 00:00:07,160 --> 00:00:10,639 Speaker 1: really got off the ground. After high school, I drifted 4 00:00:10,680 --> 00:00:14,239 Speaker 1: without many close friends and never dated. I pushed through 5 00:00:14,720 --> 00:00:17,760 Speaker 1: college and earned a degree, but now I'm back living 6 00:00:17,800 --> 00:00:20,760 Speaker 1: with my parents because I can't seem to land anything 7 00:00:21,160 --> 00:00:24,320 Speaker 1: beyond part time work. My days are just the gem 8 00:00:24,520 --> 00:00:27,680 Speaker 1: Aaron's and home again. I know I'm healthy and capable, 9 00:00:28,040 --> 00:00:30,440 Speaker 1: but knights hit me hard, and I can't shake the 10 00:00:30,520 --> 00:00:33,839 Speaker 1: feeling that I'm wasting my twenties while everyone else is 11 00:00:33,920 --> 00:00:37,400 Speaker 1: moving ahead. Will I be able? Will I ever be 12 00:00:37,520 --> 00:00:39,839 Speaker 1: able to catch up with my peers? Or am I 13 00:00:39,960 --> 00:00:41,479 Speaker 1: already too far behind? 14 00:00:42,080 --> 00:00:45,920 Speaker 2: Wow? Well, first of all, you've got to stop the 15 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:50,080 Speaker 2: comparison things. Yes, thank you. Like I told you, comparison 16 00:00:50,159 --> 00:00:53,800 Speaker 2: is the greatest thief of joy. You don't even you're 17 00:00:53,840 --> 00:00:58,920 Speaker 2: not even giving your self credit for graduating, forgetting a degree, 18 00:01:00,080 --> 00:01:03,960 Speaker 2: of being healthy, going to the gym. You're not giving 19 00:01:04,000 --> 00:01:06,520 Speaker 2: yourself credit for them you back home with your parents. 20 00:01:06,880 --> 00:01:09,759 Speaker 2: You don't even see that blessing. It's some people ain't 21 00:01:09,760 --> 00:01:13,000 Speaker 2: got nowhere to go. You back home with your parents, 22 00:01:13,040 --> 00:01:14,720 Speaker 2: You got a chance to save money, but you can't 23 00:01:14,800 --> 00:01:19,080 Speaker 2: find nothing worthy. Have you ever thought this is the 24 00:01:19,120 --> 00:01:22,280 Speaker 2: path that you are on, unlike your friends? And please 25 00:01:22,280 --> 00:01:24,800 Speaker 2: stop thinking that your friends, all their lives is just 26 00:01:25,560 --> 00:01:28,360 Speaker 2: a butter cups and daisies. Because I trust me, it 27 00:01:28,400 --> 00:01:33,679 Speaker 2: ain't trust me, it ain't. And twenties is hard on everybody, 28 00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:39,080 Speaker 2: and especially figure. The majority of people I know blow 29 00:01:39,200 --> 00:01:47,120 Speaker 2: their twenties and end up spending their thirties fixing what 30 00:01:47,160 --> 00:01:51,600 Speaker 2: they did in their twenties. That part, I mean, your 31 00:01:51,840 --> 00:01:57,760 Speaker 2: thirties is the repair years. Got all that excess party in, 32 00:01:57,840 --> 00:02:01,720 Speaker 2: stayed in college too long. Oh, these student loans back 33 00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:03,280 Speaker 2: thirties is repair? 34 00:02:04,920 --> 00:02:05,920 Speaker 1: And you know what? 35 00:02:06,120 --> 00:02:08,480 Speaker 2: So this is what I would do. Stop focusing on 36 00:02:08,520 --> 00:02:12,359 Speaker 2: your friends, Focus on yourself. What is your gifts? What 37 00:02:12,440 --> 00:02:16,400 Speaker 2: is your talents? What are you passionate about? And start 38 00:02:16,480 --> 00:02:19,760 Speaker 2: looking in that and and and and ask God what 39 00:02:19,800 --> 00:02:22,440 Speaker 2: your gift is. It's very simple. And once you discover that, 40 00:02:22,520 --> 00:02:24,520 Speaker 2: become passionate about your gift and get on with your 41 00:02:24,560 --> 00:02:29,040 Speaker 2: life and realize this you're only twenty six. At twenty six, 42 00:02:29,320 --> 00:02:35,240 Speaker 2: I was so fall I wasn't a stick, I wasn't 43 00:02:35,240 --> 00:02:37,640 Speaker 2: an eight ball, I wasn't a keyball. I was chalk. 44 00:02:39,400 --> 00:02:44,519 Speaker 1: Oh, I was chalk. But keep going, Steve, You'll make 45 00:02:44,560 --> 00:02:46,799 Speaker 1: it one day. You'll make it one. 46 00:02:46,720 --> 00:02:52,520 Speaker 2: No, listen to me, you're only twenty six. Stop berating yourself. 47 00:02:53,400 --> 00:02:56,320 Speaker 2: A whole lot of people mess they twenties up. I 48 00:02:56,360 --> 00:02:59,480 Speaker 2: know I did. That's through mine out the window. Now. 49 00:02:59,520 --> 00:03:03,200 Speaker 2: I got already at twenty four, had twins at twenty five. 50 00:03:04,000 --> 00:03:10,120 Speaker 2: I'll go way too fast. I'm just now recovering from that. 51 00:03:17,639 --> 00:03:21,360 Speaker 2: Who are grown with children of their own. I'm still 52 00:03:21,360 --> 00:03:22,480 Speaker 2: climbing out that hole. 53 00:03:22,720 --> 00:03:26,760 Speaker 1: Look you're grandfather down. Quit it. See, keep going, You'll 54 00:03:26,800 --> 00:03:28,880 Speaker 1: make it one day. Keep going. Don't get it. 55 00:03:29,440 --> 00:03:32,560 Speaker 2: It's no see that's what that's what the mother. Don't 56 00:03:32,680 --> 00:03:38,760 Speaker 2: waller in the squalor. Get off and quit creating squalor 57 00:03:38,840 --> 00:03:39,520 Speaker 2: that ain't there. 58 00:03:39,920 --> 00:03:40,640 Speaker 1: You're twenty six. 59 00:03:40,680 --> 00:03:43,000 Speaker 2: You're actually okay. If you quit comparing yourself to your 60 00:03:43,000 --> 00:03:45,320 Speaker 2: friends who ain't doing all that great, if you really 61 00:03:45,360 --> 00:03:48,440 Speaker 2: knew the behind the scenes story, stop following them on Instagram. 62 00:03:48,960 --> 00:03:51,560 Speaker 2: Stop looking at their little life because you don't know 63 00:03:51,560 --> 00:03:53,840 Speaker 2: how it's going. Hey man, I had this young dude. 64 00:03:54,000 --> 00:03:57,240 Speaker 2: I was talking to it one time. He's a very 65 00:03:57,280 --> 00:04:00,760 Speaker 2: successful young kid, and they having some out of troubles, 66 00:04:00,960 --> 00:04:04,040 Speaker 2: and he was talking with some people I knew. He 67 00:04:04,160 --> 00:04:06,880 Speaker 2: said the funniest thing. Man. I had to laugh, But 68 00:04:06,920 --> 00:04:08,880 Speaker 2: then I had to give him some some some old 69 00:04:08,920 --> 00:04:12,600 Speaker 2: school wisdom with him. He said, because he was having 70 00:04:12,600 --> 00:04:15,760 Speaker 2: some real marital issues. He was just sitting there with 71 00:04:15,800 --> 00:04:19,120 Speaker 2: his head down and he said, man, you can't even 72 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:20,040 Speaker 2: cheat in peace. 73 00:04:21,600 --> 00:04:26,279 Speaker 1: What I laughed? 74 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:29,200 Speaker 2: Man, I laughed so hard I had to catch myself. 75 00:04:29,200 --> 00:04:31,360 Speaker 2: And then I said, come in, Come in, little man, 76 00:04:31,680 --> 00:04:34,880 Speaker 2: let me frak. That's an oxy moron. 77 00:04:35,000 --> 00:04:41,080 Speaker 1: That's that's something that the Steve Harvey Morning Show. 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