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Speaker 1: The Red Show is on its Stay or Go all right,

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Speaker 1: Beth is here. Hi Baske, good morning, Welcome to the show.

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Speaker 1: How are you okay?

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Speaker 2: How are you doing?

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Speaker 1: Beth doing great? What's going on with your husband? We

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Speaker 1: got to hear all about this. Some group therapy actually

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Speaker 1: going on right now.

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Good, I need it. I'm sure I'm like a lot

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Speaker 4: of women out there.

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Speaker 1: But.

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Speaker 5: I'm not happy because it's football season and I lose

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Speaker 5: my husband during football season, so I need some advice here.

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Speaker 5: He's had tickets like his whole life, and it's just

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Speaker 5: that thing where every Sunday during football season, he gets

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Speaker 5: up early, he tailgates, He's gone like the entire day.

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Speaker 5: And I don't know even if I liked football, It's

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Speaker 5: not like I could go with him because we have kids.

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Speaker 5: But I need some advice.

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Speaker 4: About how to handle this.

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Speaker 5: I feel like if the roles or reversed and I

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Speaker 5: was going out drinking with my friends on like every

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Speaker 5: Saturday during the summer, he would look at me like

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Speaker 5: I was creepy.

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Speaker 4: So I just do that.

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Speaker 3: Why don't you come up with some form of compromise.

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Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not saying that you're not right to

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Speaker 1: find it annoying but to to you, But I mean, like,

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Speaker 1: why not come up with some form of compromise.

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Speaker 3: Why don't you say, hey, I want to do this.

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Speaker 5: I feel like I don't.

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Speaker 4: I just kids, I don't know. It just feels I'd

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Speaker 4: rather he just.

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Speaker 5: Chill out a little bit, maybe go like half the time,

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Speaker 5: as opposed to being like full out everything.

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Speaker 4: We don't know.

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Speaker 6: Come on, now, what do you mean he's had You

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Speaker 6: said he's had these tickets since he was forever, since

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Speaker 6: he was a kid or whatever it is you knew

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Speaker 6: going into this relationship.

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Speaker 1: What you get married and says you know, but something

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Speaker 1: as he well knows, looking like at reovill being all

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Speaker 1: big time. Oh you know what you tell you don't

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Speaker 1: what you tell the little lady over here that this

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Speaker 1: is what I'm gonna do. We just did a story

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Speaker 1: a couple of days ago about how you.

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Speaker 3: You got tricked into not even tricked.

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Speaker 1: It was well, you're welcome to come, but what that

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Speaker 1: meant is your ass is coming and you went so

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Speaker 1: you know how it goes?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, but I mean this is this is totally different,

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Speaker 6: Like he's had these tickets forever, Like if you haven't

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Speaker 6: season tickets or something you not like it's it is

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Speaker 6: like you literally and so you don't want to go anymore.

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Speaker 2: I mean, like his life is different now and that's

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Speaker 2: just the reality of it.

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Speaker 6: But this is something that this is something that he's

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Speaker 6: had before before they were even together.

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Speaker 3: So like some things, they don't have to change like

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Speaker 3: it does.

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Speaker 6: I mean, let him have his thing like he's he

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Speaker 6: has like some passion for it, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: Let him do it well.

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Speaker 1: I used to stay out till four in the morning,

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Speaker 1: get the club and hook up with bottle girlsmore like.

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Speaker 2: This, he's going.

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Speaker 1: Past tickets to the bottle girls forever. Stop Now like

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Speaker 1: he's going like it's only going to the home games. It's

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Speaker 1: not like he's going to every game, but leaving.

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Speaker 2: In the morning, drinking all day.

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Speaker 3: Probably after knew that going into this.

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Speaker 6: This is what I live, this is at this is

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Speaker 6: his hobby, this is what he's done for his whole life.

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Speaker 3: You want to know the read to ask you this?

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Speaker 3: Go ahead, Polina was.

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Speaker 2: Well quick out. Let's say the reason why she can't

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Speaker 2: do the same.

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Speaker 7: When it comes to like, I don't know, every Sunday

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Speaker 7: she'll be brunching in the summer is because I guarantee

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Speaker 7: you she's a default parent. So her doing that every

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Speaker 7: Sunday or Saturday whatever, it requires more work to get

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Speaker 7: everything ready, to get the kids, babysitters, all of that.

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Speaker 7: So it's for her, it's not even worth it. So

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Speaker 7: he is lucky he can even do that. Does that

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Speaker 6: And where this this is where Frick comes in and says,

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Speaker 6: you know, there's got to be some kind of compromise,

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Speaker 6: like is Saturday's her day or whatever?

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Speaker 3: You know, Saturdays are for the girls. Whatever.

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Speaker 1: Let me ask let me ask that question. Let me

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Speaker 1: ask my questions, Rufio, thank you, Beth. Is he a

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Speaker 1: good father overall? Like outside of the whatever seventeen weeks

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Speaker 1: or how many weeks the NFL season is now?

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Speaker 3: I mean, is this guy doing a good job?

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Speaker 1: Yes?

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Speaker 4: I can't even Yeah, he's it's a great dad. He's

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Speaker 4: a great dad. Six dasaly week great. I gotta say

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Speaker 1: Okay, So he's a good dad. It's not you know whatever,

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Speaker 1: ten home games, nine home games, whatever it is. He's

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Speaker 1: been doing it forever with his family, with his family, brothers.

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Speaker 1: I don't know who all goes to this thing. I

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Speaker 1: don't know why you can't go necessarily. Why can't you

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Speaker 1: hire a babysitter and then you guys go together occasionally

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Speaker 1: at least.

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Speaker 5: I mean, listen, you're making it sound better than it feels.

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Speaker 4: But I mean I hear you like, that does sound

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Speaker 4: like a good solution. It feels like a lot of work.

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Speaker 4: We have three kids, Like it's just a deal.

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Speaker 5: But now that I'm like saying it out loud, I

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Speaker 5: feel like that sounds fair.

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Speaker 1: I'm not trying to make you feel bad about you know,

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Speaker 1: your needs, of your requests or or you know the

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Speaker 1: fact that you guys are in a relationship now and

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Speaker 1: have kids and have to do things together. I'm not

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Speaker 1: I'm not suggesting that. I'm not asking you to backtrack

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Speaker 1: on on why you called I guess I'm just wondering

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Speaker 1: if there's not a compromise where everybody, Yeah, you know,

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Speaker 1: you're not gonna get everything you want. He will get

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Speaker 1: everything he wants. But like, I mean, if he's a

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Speaker 1: great dad, doesn't I say something in itself about yeah.

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Speaker 4: Is there where like I get a couple of those days,

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Speaker 4: But like I hear you, like.

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Speaker 5: That's that just makes both parents busy one day though,

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Speaker 5: and I want it to be like the opposite.

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Speaker 8: I would look at you funny if you did the

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Speaker 8: same thing. Yeah, that's just what goes with it.

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Speaker 7: And also to you, I guarantee you if you go

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Speaker 7: out to brunch or whatever you do for the whole day.

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Speaker 7: I'm talking like, from morning till night, you're gonna get

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Speaker 7: blown up by your husband a hundred times.

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Speaker 2: Where are the bottles? Where's this?

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Speaker 7: Where's the formula, where's extra divers I can't find this

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Speaker 7: because I'm a wife and I'm a father, and i.

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Speaker 6: Do daddy duties all day, all week, and I'm not

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Speaker 6: calling my wife.

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Speaker 2: Majority of men will.

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Speaker 1: I will say to hold on, now, hold on, Not

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Speaker 1: every guy is a complete dumbassy. Will say that God,

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Speaker 1: like my brother in law, for all the crap I've

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Speaker 1: given him, is an extremely capable father. Now, my sister

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Speaker 1: will tell you that she does everything better. And I

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Speaker 1: love my sister, but I'm not sure if that's true.

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Speaker 1: That's what she thinks. But he does a great job.

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Speaker 1: And so I don't know that it necessarily means just

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Speaker 1: because you're not what And by the way, maybe this

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Speaker 1: is a complex that he's developed. I'm not saying this

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Speaker 1: is your fault, Bath or Pauline or whomever. But maybe

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Speaker 1: he's like, look, I'm not gonna do it right anyway,

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Speaker 1: So I'm gonna go to my football game and you

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Speaker 1: watch the kids, and that's what we're doing. Because he's

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Speaker 1: of the mindset that no matter what he does, he

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no one does it better.

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Speaker 7: I just I know how this game goes because I

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Speaker 7: live it and I understand it. That's why I'm more

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Speaker 7: comfy with my baby sometimes going to my mom's because

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Speaker 7: I feel like she won't be blowing me up. It'll

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Speaker 7: be a little less stress free. I'm not saying all

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Speaker 7: men are like this. I'm just saying from what I see,

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Speaker 7: especially on TikTok and social media, I'm not the only

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Speaker 7: one who thinks this way or lives this life.

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Speaker 3: I mean, rufio.

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Speaker 1: When Jess goes to work every day and you guys

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Speaker 1: swap right. You work in the morning and then you

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Speaker 1: come home, and then essentially she goes to work and

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Speaker 1: you watch the kids. You're not calling her every five

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Speaker 1: minutes asking her how to do it right? No, I

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Speaker 1: mean you're asleep, so it's not like.

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Speaker 3: Oh no, I'm kidding kidding.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, no, Yeah, I got two kids. I take care

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Speaker 6: of a newborn, I take I take Ash into school.

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Speaker 7: It's and you do, and you do a great job

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Speaker 7: with that. But I'm just saying I know how this

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Speaker 7: can't assume sure.

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Speaker 3: Every dad's the same, like they don't know what they're doing.

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Speaker 2: But it happens a lot.

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Speaker 3: Does it does? But you know there are really good dads.

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Speaker 2: Out there, one hundred percent I have. I have a

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Speaker 2: good husband and a good dad. I want to be

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Speaker 2: very clear, but I'll call my my mom first.

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Speaker 8: Even if dad's questions, it doesn't make them a bad dad,

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Speaker 8: right saying that boom aeriot. It's just different from others,

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Speaker 8: even scientifically it is. It feels different. Period eight three five.

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Speaker 8: You can context to say number Beth. I'm gonna take

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Speaker 8: some phone calls and we're gonna talk about you behind

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Speaker 8: your back. But but good luck with this. Have the

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Speaker 8: radio on and and thank you for calling her for sharing.

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Speaker 8: We appreciate you.

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Speaker 3: Thank you, Bob. Here's Bob stuck to Bob.

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Speaker 9: Hi, Bob, Hey, what's up guys, Bob.

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Speaker 1: So just to recap here, Beth calls this because her

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Speaker 1: husband has season tickets to football and he goes every

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Speaker 1: week and he has basically his whole life, and so

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Speaker 1: I don't know, seven eight, nine Sundays, whatever it is

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Speaker 1: a year, he's gone for the day and he's out

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Speaker 3: She's at home with three kids.

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Speaker 1: Sounds like she's kind of over it and wants to know,

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Speaker 1: you know, how to how to manage this.

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Speaker 3: What would you say?

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Speaker 9: Well, you got She's got to do exactly what my

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Speaker 9: wife did with me when it comes to my golfing

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Speaker 9: with my buddies. She sat me down. I had to

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Speaker 9: come to Jesus moment. She said, are you an individual

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Speaker 9: I was like, WHOA. So that I really thought about it,

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Speaker 9: I was like, you know what, she's taking care of

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Speaker 9: the kids a lot while I'm working, and I was like, oh,

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Speaker 9: the guys want to go play around the golf, let's go.

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Speaker 9: She's like, no, get your ass home and be a dad.

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Speaker 9: And it worked. So that's what she needs to do,

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Speaker 9: you know. I mean, because again, either you're a teammate

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Speaker 9: because that's what husbands and wives are.

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Speaker 3: Or you're an individual.

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Speaker 9: Doing your own thing on your own terms, and that's

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Speaker 9: when it doesn't work.

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Speaker 1: So, Bob, there's no he goes to these games, you know,

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Speaker 1: on Sundays. And again I'm not minimizing her at all.

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Speaker 9: Well, I mean it's like my wife wants to go

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Speaker 3: So yeah, no, Bob, No, it's not an all day

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Speaker 3: I don't sit there like that's cool. Communicate to you, Bob,

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Speaker 1: Bob's ever gonna listen again. Thanks for whatever, due Bob,

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Speaker 1: you suck. I'm drinking all day and then I'm going

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Speaker 1: That sounds like a lot more like you know, every Sunday,

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Speaker 10: You know what, I got a bunch of friends who

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Speaker 10: What happens is that what they get there, they try

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Speaker 10: And secondly, things have changed now. Men are much more

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Speaker 1: And Jeffrey, thank you man. I appreciate you calling. Have

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Speaker 7: It just is, you know, the default parent thing, like

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Speaker 1: I want to make sure that we're not that we're

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Speaker 1: I think sometimes not all the time. Maybe that's a

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Speaker 7: Sometimes one hundred percent agree that you're saying. I think

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Speaker 7: So I think I'm always gonna feel this separation anxiety

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Speaker 1: Well, I guess where I'm coming from here is that

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Speaker 7: Or like every home game or whatever, let's just say

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Speaker 7: But maybe, yeah, maybe he can't go out on you know,

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Speaker 2: If it's in town he wants to go, that's fine.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I think every Sunday blanket I'm going, there's nothing

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Speaker 1: Hey Courtney, good.

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Speaker 2: Morning, Hi, good morning friend.

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Speaker 11: So I think it's definitely a compromise situation. But I

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Speaker 4: It is a different situation.

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Speaker 11: He's taking it, however, many sundays away from the family,

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Speaker 6: I think I don't know where the defensive like defensive,

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Speaker 11: It's it's just every situation is different, and I'm I'm

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Speaker 2: All the time.

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Speaker 3: Hi, Courtney, thank you. I appreciate you. Have a great day.

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Speaker 2: Yeah you too.

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Speaker 3: No, I just I get.

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Speaker 3: Dad. He's incredible dad.

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Speaker 1: And I think some of the things I hear about

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 1: But I think sometimes what he's combating is that maternal

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Speaker 2: But at the end of the day, I just I

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Speaker 2: don't know. I don't know. I'm not saying all the

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Speaker 2: other not capable because they are capable.

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Speaker 3: You didn't say that, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 7: It's just different. No, I know, but I'm just echoing

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Speaker 7: what were said earlier. But I don't know, it's just different, man,

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Speaker 7: you know, being a woman.

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Speaker 6: I'm just saying like it's I mean, it's eight Sundays

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Speaker 6: out of three hundred and sixty five days, and it's

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Speaker 6: not like back to back Sunday sometimes.

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Speaker 3: You know, he's only going to home games. He's not.

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Speaker 6: They could be on the road for two weeks in

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Speaker 6: a row and they're together, you know what I'm saying

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Speaker 6: every Sunday.

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Speaker 2: And a lot of people are texting too.

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Speaker 7: Sorry, they're just texting and saying that, you know, she's

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Speaker 7: so selfish in that, but like why are we judging

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Speaker 7: like what bothers her or like what you know doesn't

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Speaker 7: work for her family? Because I think that's not fairy

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Speaker 7: that we're all like, oh, she's so selfish, she's such

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Speaker 7: a this and that, but like they're not their family,

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Speaker 7: we're not her like that bothers her, that bothers her.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Well, and someone texted Fred, being a good dad

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Speaker 1: doesn't mean you get to ignore your family one day

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Speaker 1: a week.

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Speaker 3: Okay, that's a little extreme.

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Speaker 1: Well, but I guess I guess that's the exact point

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Speaker 1: that I'm making is I just want to be sure

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Speaker 1: that and I don't know these people, right, I mean,

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Speaker 1: they call the radio.

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Speaker 3: I don't know the people.

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Speaker 1: But I want to make sure that he's not offering

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Speaker 1: up a compromise and she's not deciding not to take

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Speaker 1: it because well, I don't know, it's just it's too

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Speaker 1: much work, or you know, because maybe it's that she's

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Speaker 1: just not comfortable with that, and that's okay. But you know,

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Speaker 1: just because he's gone every Sunday during football season, every

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Speaker 1: other Sunday or whatever, I guess I don't know that

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Speaker 1: that means we don't know the other side of this, is.

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Speaker 3: All I'm arguing. You know, maybe maybe there.

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Speaker 1: Is a compromise and she doesn't want to take it,

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Speaker 1: and he's going to have to give a little more.

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Speaker 1: Maybe he doesn't get to go to every single game.

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Speaker 1: Maybe he's going to have to give in a little

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Speaker 1: bit more than he's already giving. But I think everyone's

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Speaker 1: just assuming that one person or the other is a

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Speaker 1: bad person here, or one person or the other is selfish,

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Speaker 1: and I think, you know, maybe there's a little bit

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Speaker 1: of going on on both sides where everyone needs to

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Speaker 1: kind of rethink how this goes, maybe I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I don't know these people.

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Speaker 2: What do you think that don't have a dance so

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Speaker 2: I can't play this game.

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Speaker 1: That's it, Okay, that case, The entertainment reports next in

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Speaker 1: it two minutes friend Show is on