WEBVTT - Ep 280: This Goes Out to All The Broke Bobbys 0:00:16.360 --> 0:00:27.280 Hey, hey, hey, we're back. We're black, We're brown, ambition, ambition, ambition, 0:00:27.920 --> 0:00:30.960 Mandra We're twins again today with our great shirts. 0:00:31.000 --> 0:00:34.239 Hello. Yes, what I am a phenomenal woman today? Who 0:00:34.320 --> 0:00:34.559 are you? 0:00:35.000 --> 0:00:37.480 I am? DreamCatcher my DreamCatcher T shirt? 0:00:38.360 --> 0:00:40.760 Don't you love that? This whole t shirts that say 0:00:40.800 --> 0:00:43.320 things is coming back? This was big in like the 0:00:43.360 --> 0:00:47.159 eighth grade, except my mom. Remember my dad would like 0:00:47.159 --> 0:00:48.960 get onto me for the shirts I would buy from 0:00:49.000 --> 0:00:51.960 like Coals. They were all on this big wall at Coal's, 0:00:52.400 --> 0:00:55.160 and I think my favorite one, which, by the way, 0:00:55.320 --> 0:00:58.880 I can't the irony of me wearing their shirt, but 0:00:58.920 --> 0:01:02.360 it was like I only look sweet and innocent was 0:01:02.360 --> 0:01:04.600 my favorite one. And I had like little polka dots. 0:01:04.800 --> 0:01:10.000 There was some like yeah and problematic, very problematic and 0:01:10.080 --> 0:01:12.919 undo in the teen section at col circa two thousand 0:01:12.959 --> 0:01:13.320 and one. 0:01:13.400 --> 0:01:17.240 Okay, yes, honestly I like the credit of Khalila, right, 0:01:17.319 --> 0:01:19.880 she's amazing. So she's the owner of Mess in a Bottle? 0:01:19.880 --> 0:01:20.560 Have you heard of it? 0:01:20.720 --> 0:01:22.680 Of course I've heard of that. Well, if you guys 0:01:22.680 --> 0:01:26.800 are your I have your generational wealth budget means to day. 0:01:27.360 --> 0:01:29.560 Yeah, we did like a collaboration together, but she's got 0:01:30.319 --> 0:01:32.520 a great line called mess in the Bottle following on 0:01:32.600 --> 0:01:35.399 social media it literally mess in a bottle. But she 0:01:35.440 --> 0:01:39.319 honestly has some amazing T shirts and saying it's called 0:01:39.440 --> 0:01:42.840 mess for message that all of her T shirts and 0:01:42.880 --> 0:01:46.560 toads have these amazing messages and they're just funny, hilarious 0:01:46.560 --> 0:01:49.720 but also like ooh so true. So go ahead and 0:01:49.720 --> 0:01:53.400 give Khalida a little shadow. Tell her brown ambition Sancha, Okay, 0:01:54.000 --> 0:01:57.840 so I have some like you know, child, I was like, 0:01:57.920 --> 0:02:01.520 let me let's talk some smack today about what's going on? Right, 0:02:01.760 --> 0:02:04.520 the T is the tea. Well, it's not personal, ta, 0:02:04.840 --> 0:02:08.080 But have you heard I'm sure you've heard of the 0:02:08.120 --> 0:02:13.919 site Only Fans correct, of course, right, sexy get you get. 0:02:15.919 --> 0:02:21.400 Sexy things? Did Chris Did Chris Brown have one? Did 0:02:21.440 --> 0:02:22.040 I make that out? 0:02:22.120 --> 0:02:25.440 I don't know he does have one. So anyway, Only 0:02:25.520 --> 0:02:27.640 Fans was known for those of you who are like, 0:02:27.680 --> 0:02:32.280 ah my Christian ears for being like basically the subscription 0:02:32.360 --> 0:02:36.960 site where you could follow folks and basically pay them 0:02:37.000 --> 0:02:38.960 for like stuff that they would put behind a paywall. 0:02:39.080 --> 0:02:41.280 Now I didn't have to be like sex related things, 0:02:41.320 --> 0:02:43.760 but quite honestly, that's how they got known. A lot 0:02:43.760 --> 0:02:46.280 of sex workers you know, went to only fans and 0:02:46.440 --> 0:02:48.440 like you know, and the truth is it provided a 0:02:48.480 --> 0:02:51.760 safe space because you know, one, you know, COVID was 0:02:51.760 --> 0:02:54.320 out and about two you know, I'm sure as you 0:02:54.360 --> 0:02:56.639 guys know, being a sex worker is dangerous because someone 0:02:56.680 --> 0:03:00.800 could kill you, rape you, take advantage of you. It 0:03:00.919 --> 0:03:03.919 allowed people to have ownership because there are some sex workers, 0:03:04.000 --> 0:03:07.680 unfortunately that have people who feel like they have dominion 0:03:07.720 --> 0:03:10.280 over their bodies, you know. But here was like I 0:03:10.320 --> 0:03:12.799 get to decide in a safe space what I want 0:03:12.800 --> 0:03:15.960 to do or not do. So however you feel about 0:03:15.960 --> 0:03:17.679 sex work, I'm not here to judge one way or 0:03:17.720 --> 0:03:20.160 the other. But I'm just giving you guys the backstory. 0:03:20.560 --> 0:03:23.760 Now only fans really blew up as a result of 0:03:23.880 --> 0:03:26.720 sex workers, and they've made millions. And some sex workers 0:03:26.760 --> 0:03:29.160 were making like six figures a month, you know, people 0:03:29.200 --> 0:03:31.480 paying like five ten bucks a month to see their 0:03:31.480 --> 0:03:36.880 feet or whatever, you know. And now only fans and 0:03:37.080 --> 0:03:42.160 all their raggediness has decided that they gonna be KFC 0:03:42.200 --> 0:03:48.920 without chicken, Popeyes without the biscuit, a black hair dresser 0:03:48.960 --> 0:03:50.800 without the weight. You already know what I'm talking about. 0:03:50.800 --> 0:03:52.880 I went natural because I couldn't wait no more. But no, 0:03:52.960 --> 0:03:54.400 for real that they are kicking off. 0:03:56.440 --> 0:03:58.880 Wait, I was like the weight you calling them? 0:03:59.200 --> 0:04:01.520 Oh, yes, you like the way you know You're like, 0:04:01.600 --> 0:04:03.360 they're like, we'll come at six am. Girl, you don't 0:04:03.360 --> 0:04:04.600 get into that seat until nine. 0:04:04.680 --> 0:04:06.480 Oh, we're just gonna put you under the dryer. 0:04:08.480 --> 0:04:10.360 So but I'll just say this the like, so what 0:04:10.400 --> 0:04:12.760 do you think about that? Mandy? And I've read it's 0:04:12.800 --> 0:04:15.720 because only fans is like wanting obviously to get either 0:04:15.880 --> 0:04:20.000 access to additional capital and traditional capital. Feels very like 0:04:20.040 --> 0:04:23.239 although I'm sure all those men with access to traditional capital 0:04:23.520 --> 0:04:25.039 is on only fans getting a life. 0:04:25.440 --> 0:04:27.839 But you know, you didn't tell me what chicken was. 0:04:28.160 --> 0:04:29.080 We got caught up on the. 0:04:29.120 --> 0:04:32.480 Now I said. I said chicken for like Popeyes without No, 0:04:32.560 --> 0:04:35.679 I said KFC without chicken, Popeyes without the biscuit. 0:04:36.360 --> 0:04:38.599 So they're getting rid of like you can't put sexy 0:04:38.640 --> 0:04:39.560 stuff on it anymore. 0:04:39.680 --> 0:04:42.560 Yeah, they're kicking off. They said, no more sex stuff 0:04:43.600 --> 0:04:49.039 what they want, So they want like Hilson, which I'm like, 0:04:49.080 --> 0:04:51.599 that's not what only pants. It's almost like going to 0:04:51.680 --> 0:04:54.440 pornhub and being like oh no, no, no, no, no, 0:04:54.480 --> 0:04:57.320 more porn here because they want to attract I guess 0:04:57.960 --> 0:05:02.039 more traditional means of capital money. So I was just thinking, like, 0:05:02.080 --> 0:05:05.160 what do you think about that? That letting this particular 0:05:05.520 --> 0:05:08.640 you know, segment of the population sex workers build up 0:05:08.960 --> 0:05:13.920 their their platform, like like honestly Tumblr, right, So it's 0:05:13.920 --> 0:05:16.000 my understanding that Tumblr. I did not know this, but 0:05:16.080 --> 0:05:19.440 there was a huge, you know, adult component to Tumblr. 0:05:20.040 --> 0:05:22.920 Tumblr was sold to who who bought Tumblr? I want 0:05:22.960 --> 0:05:23.640 to save a Verizon? 0:05:24.040 --> 0:05:27.040 Yeah, somebody, but the Horizon, right, like. 0:05:27.240 --> 0:05:30.479 For like a billion dollars and then Yahoo was like, 0:05:30.560 --> 0:05:33.040 oh no, no, no, no more sexy time. So as 0:05:33.080 --> 0:05:35.680 a result, everybody left Tumblr and then they sold it 0:05:35.760 --> 0:05:37.719 to Rizon for three million. Can you imagine buying something 0:05:37.720 --> 0:05:41.520 for a billion? So after kicking off, you know, the 0:05:41.560 --> 0:05:44.480 adult element, and so now only fans is going to 0:05:44.600 --> 0:05:47.120 kick off their adult element. Do you think one that 0:05:47.200 --> 0:05:49.960 it's okay? And and two do you think they're going 0:05:50.040 --> 0:05:51.400 to be able to survive this because that's what they're 0:05:51.440 --> 0:05:51.760 known for. 0:05:52.760 --> 0:05:55.640 I mean, businesses are gonna business no matter what. So 0:05:56.040 --> 0:05:59.280 it doesn't sound like it's illegal. It sounds shisty, and 0:05:59.320 --> 0:06:02.960 it sucks because I read stories about how during the pandemic, 0:06:03.040 --> 0:06:07.120 especially when you know, sex work just wasn't really as possible, 0:06:07.120 --> 0:06:08.840 it was even less safe. And on top of that, 0:06:09.080 --> 0:06:12.880 you know exotic dancer strippers, you know, they were actually 0:06:12.880 --> 0:06:16.719 bringing in an income by building a fan base on OnlyFans, 0:06:16.920 --> 0:06:20.360 and for them it was actually a way to make money. 0:06:20.560 --> 0:06:24.520 And yeah, I mean judgment free zone, you know, as 0:06:24.560 --> 0:06:27.120 far as how they're making money, but it sucks. It 0:06:27.400 --> 0:06:30.320 definitely sucks. I wonder how like prescriptive they're going to 0:06:30.360 --> 0:06:32.800 be about what kind of content you know, how on 0:06:32.880 --> 0:06:37.120 Instagram basically anything but a nipple is okay. I see 0:06:37.160 --> 0:06:40.159 some stuff on ig and I'm just like, what is 0:06:40.320 --> 0:06:46.280 this follow It seems like everyone's tits an ass are 0:06:46.279 --> 0:06:48.200 out now because that's like the look, you know what 0:06:48.200 --> 0:06:53.000 I mean, like celebrities and influencers or whoever. Anyway, it's 0:06:53.120 --> 0:06:56.760 it's like sex sells and people are obsessed with building 0:06:56.839 --> 0:06:59.000 their their I mean, you're not going to see any 0:06:59.040 --> 0:07:02.320 of that on Mandy Money. I'm sorry. I mean you'll 0:07:02.320 --> 0:07:04.280 have to be a little bit better first, But. 0:07:04.720 --> 0:07:07.839 So only fans actually vote a tweet on August twenty first, 0:07:08.240 --> 0:07:10.559 I'm like, is this real? It is? It says dear 0:07:10.760 --> 0:07:14.880 sex workers. The only Fans community would not be what 0:07:14.920 --> 0:07:18.600 it is today without you. The policy change was necessary 0:07:18.600 --> 0:07:22.440 to secure banking and payment services to support you. We 0:07:22.520 --> 0:07:25.200 are working around the clock to come up with solutions, 0:07:27.480 --> 0:07:28.200 are they though. 0:07:28.000 --> 0:07:29.960 Because they already seem to like take the banks money. 0:07:30.000 --> 0:07:31.960 Yes, run so people are like, so instead of dropping 0:07:32.040 --> 0:07:33.920 Visa and Massacre, you chose to drop us, the people 0:07:33.960 --> 0:07:36.480 who put your platform on the map. You never promoted 0:07:36.560 --> 0:07:39.720 us only random fitness instructors and celebrities. We brought the 0:07:39.760 --> 0:07:42.040 traffic and you kicked us to the curb instead of 0:07:42.040 --> 0:07:45.080 standing up for us against the payment services platform. 0:07:45.520 --> 0:07:48.400 I'm like the time for them to start their Patreon account. 0:07:48.840 --> 0:07:50.680 Like I'm trying to think of other ways a good 0:07:50.680 --> 0:07:56.040 a sub stack. Crazy. Sex is just sex and menstrual 0:07:56.320 --> 0:07:59.840 periods are like the two biggest taboos. It's like corporate 0:08:00.000 --> 0:08:02.680 America does not want to give any money to these 0:08:02.720 --> 0:08:05.920 two causes. It's a it's a shame A. 0:08:05.880 --> 0:08:09.280 Sex Work of Rope wrote like, all you super conservative 0:08:09.320 --> 0:08:11.840 people who wanted to get rid of you know, like 0:08:11.920 --> 0:08:13.280 only fans, and now we're just going to have to 0:08:13.320 --> 0:08:18.960 have sex with your husbands again. I was like, Sis, 0:08:19.160 --> 0:08:21.480 you had to do them like that's She was like, 0:08:21.520 --> 0:08:24.080 what you think, who do you think supporting us? You know, 0:08:24.360 --> 0:08:27.200 like and I'm just like wow that, you know, It's 0:08:27.240 --> 0:08:30.280 what's so crazy to me. I remember like reading the 0:08:30.400 --> 0:08:33.199 stat or something. I was like watching a video where 0:08:33.240 --> 0:08:35.760 they were saying that, you know, as much as people 0:08:35.880 --> 0:08:38.880 pretend to be conservative in their outward lives, someone said 0:08:38.880 --> 0:08:43.640 that when church conventions come to hotels that they actually 0:08:43.640 --> 0:08:47.440 see a spike in pornography sales on like you know, 0:08:47.520 --> 0:08:56.679 like which I mean, And so it's just really hypocritical. Unfortunately, 0:08:56.679 --> 0:08:57.840 like I said, I'm not here to judge what you 0:08:57.840 --> 0:08:59.360 do or how you do as a grown person with 0:08:59.400 --> 0:09:03.040 other grown people. You know, that's consensual, but you know 0:09:03.160 --> 0:09:05.199 people love to judge and then they you know, then 0:09:05.240 --> 0:09:07.920 you look at their history, their computer history, and you're like, 0:09:08.000 --> 0:09:11.280 oh wow a system, Mary Clarence. 0:09:13.080 --> 0:09:17.280 I mean, it just it just really yeah. It just 0:09:17.440 --> 0:09:22.000 underlines and underscores why sex work is so dangerous because 0:09:22.559 --> 0:09:25.920 people will only admit that they pay for it or 0:09:25.960 --> 0:09:28.959 that it just it lives in the margins, and then 0:09:29.000 --> 0:09:32.360 they are by doing this, they are again marginalizing this 0:09:32.520 --> 0:09:35.200 sex work. And even if the people running these VC 0:09:35.360 --> 0:09:38.200 firms and these financial institutions that are backing only fans, 0:09:38.440 --> 0:09:41.360 they don't want to back them, you know, publicly. But 0:09:41.480 --> 0:09:43.800 I bet you people who work there would have no 0:09:43.880 --> 0:09:46.400 problem in the margins, you know, in the dark corners 0:09:46.840 --> 0:09:50.840 taking advantage of you know, women or other people who 0:09:50.840 --> 0:09:54.240 are offering these services or this content, you know what 0:09:54.320 --> 0:09:56.360 I mean, in a place that they wouldn't have any 0:09:56.400 --> 0:10:00.680 oversight and they'd be less safe in doing so. So 0:10:00.800 --> 0:10:05.400 just another step back for giving sex workers the protection 0:10:06.400 --> 0:10:08.920 you know, and the visibility that makes the profession a 0:10:08.960 --> 0:10:10.000 little bit more safe. 0:10:10.320 --> 0:10:13.000 Yeah, yeah, So I thought that. I was just like, well, 0:10:13.040 --> 0:10:15.720 we'll see, we'll see if this is another tumbler moment 0:10:16.120 --> 0:10:20.000 where if this you know, if sex workers leave in 0:10:20.120 --> 0:10:22.920 masks and only fans, if they're even able. Because here's 0:10:22.920 --> 0:10:25.880 the thing, like I wouldn't start at only fans, like 0:10:25.880 --> 0:10:27.560 you know, you and I talked about starting a Patreon 0:10:27.679 --> 0:10:30.920 for brand Ambition, which we've done it y'all will see soon, okay, 0:10:31.400 --> 0:10:33.920 But you know, like if we had it never even 0:10:33.960 --> 0:10:36.080 occurred to me, well, oh, Mandy, we should start an 0:10:36.120 --> 0:10:39.160 only fans for Brown Ambission, Like you'd be like, what 0:10:40.040 --> 0:10:43.920 because I associate only fans with sex work which is fine, 0:10:43.960 --> 0:10:46.160 but I would say that's not a platform that that 0:10:46.280 --> 0:10:49.560 Branna vission falls under. So I don't even know if 0:10:50.320 --> 0:10:53.040 they're going to be able to attract you know, like 0:10:53.080 --> 0:10:54.400 and I don't know. I guess time will tell if 0:10:54.440 --> 0:10:57.600 they'll be able to attract enough traffic new kind of 0:10:57.600 --> 0:11:00.240 traffic to not be Tumblr. So we else. 0:11:00.679 --> 0:11:02.120 I was just gonna say I was there when y'all 0:11:02.120 --> 0:11:06.040 who bought Tumblr? Yeah, that was Mandy's heyday. It was 0:11:06.600 --> 0:11:08.720 quite sad, quite sad. 0:11:09.320 --> 0:11:12.960 Now, did you have you heard of broke Bobby? 0:11:14.320 --> 0:11:14.600 No? 0:11:15.000 --> 0:11:18.000 Ooh girl, I'm barely on social I was just catch 0:11:18.000 --> 0:11:20.800 a girl. Okay, let me, let me set the set 0:11:20.840 --> 0:11:24.439 the stage. So youngish white dude, I think he's right, 0:11:25.280 --> 0:11:29.480 goals on TikTok and says, hey guys, me and my 0:11:29.640 --> 0:11:33.360 friends created this spreadsheet to try to figure out if 0:11:33.400 --> 0:11:37.040 we can go on vacation. Here's what the spreadsheet looks like. 0:11:37.080 --> 0:11:40.320 It's a list of I want to say, maybe like 0:11:40.440 --> 0:11:44.800 twenty friends and it says their name, their income. The 0:11:44.880 --> 0:11:48.160 highest paid friend is five million dollars a year. The 0:11:48.240 --> 0:11:50.640 lowest paid friend is one hundred and twenty five thousand 0:11:50.679 --> 0:11:54.080 dollars a year. Like they have paid time off, if 0:11:54.080 --> 0:11:57.679 they're gonna get maybe like any like bonuses they also have, 0:11:57.800 --> 0:12:00.000 if they're willing to go to a third world country, 0:12:00.960 --> 0:12:03.880 if they are willing to pry fly private, how much 0:12:03.880 --> 0:12:07.000 they're willing to spend on a one day vacation, a 0:12:07.000 --> 0:12:10.120 seven day vacation versus a three day vacation, if they 0:12:10.120 --> 0:12:12.439 have a significant other, So something. 0:12:12.280 --> 0:12:15.320 In the organization. This is like, I wish my friend 0:12:15.320 --> 0:12:16.280 group had a friend like this. 0:12:16.960 --> 0:12:19.200 No, you don't. We're gonna back it on up because 0:12:19.440 --> 0:12:24.400 this guy says so. The guy on here, I'm guessing 0:12:24.520 --> 0:12:27.000 he his name is t Cruz, and it looks like 0:12:27.040 --> 0:12:31.319 he's probably number three on the list. He makes three 0:12:31.360 --> 0:12:34.520 million plus a year, right, the last guy on the 0:12:34.559 --> 0:12:38.120 list who makes one hundred and twenty five thousand dollars 0:12:38.360 --> 0:12:42.000 a year. His name on here is broke Bobby. That's 0:12:42.000 --> 0:12:44.400 what he called. That's what they call him because broke 0:12:44.440 --> 0:12:46.800 Bobby makes a hundred and twenty five thousand dollars a year, 0:12:46.840 --> 0:12:49.319 and Kiki Key, isn't that so funny because he's poor 0:12:50.679 --> 0:12:53.040 and any one of their friends that there's about ten 0:12:53.080 --> 0:12:55.199 friends that make an under a hundred and they call 0:12:55.240 --> 0:13:03.599 them the welfare ten because just when you're like, ohh. 0:13:01.679 --> 0:13:04.000 Why is their income need to be on this spreadsheet? 0:13:04.080 --> 0:13:09.559 Exactly because they want to see whose penis is bigger obviously. 0:13:09.240 --> 0:13:11.960 And they have to like self report there. I have 0:13:11.960 --> 0:13:13.720 a lot of thoughts. I actually did see this. I 0:13:13.720 --> 0:13:15.800 didn't know that his name was broke Bobby. I'm sorry 0:13:15.800 --> 0:13:19.280 I saw something on this making its way across TikTok. I. 0:13:19.600 --> 0:13:22.640 First of all, pay transparency among friends cool. I'm kind 0:13:22.640 --> 0:13:24.600 of down with that, which I think that's dope. I've 0:13:24.600 --> 0:13:27.280 always had. I always had that one friend who I 0:13:27.280 --> 0:13:29.640 would actually tell what I was earning to and vice versa. 0:13:29.800 --> 0:13:33.679 That's good, but no, not if you're gonna make people 0:13:33.720 --> 0:13:36.400 feel bad for where they're at compared to you. I mean, 0:13:36.520 --> 0:13:39.600 Jesus Christ, broke Bobby needs some new friends unless they're 0:13:39.600 --> 0:13:41.240 gonna pay for all of his vacations. And that's why 0:13:41.320 --> 0:13:42.120 he's friends with them. 0:13:42.160 --> 0:13:46.120 And so some people were like, wait, I make that 0:13:46.160 --> 0:13:49.240 I'm the rich one in my friend or you know, 0:13:49.400 --> 0:13:52.040 I think there's a statistic statistic that says, like, you know, 0:13:52.120 --> 0:13:54.280 the average American makes like less than one quarter of 0:13:54.280 --> 0:13:57.800 what quote unquote broke Bobby is bringing in. And there's 0:13:57.840 --> 0:13:59.760 a lot of other problematic things like willing to go 0:13:59.760 --> 0:14:01.480 to a third world country, like what is that about? 0:14:01.520 --> 0:14:04.200 And then there was one interesting component where it was 0:14:04.240 --> 0:14:06.960 like they said, like, you know, are you single married girlfriend? 0:14:07.000 --> 0:14:10.960 One guy was seventy percent single whatever that means. I'm 0:14:10.960 --> 0:14:12.360 sure his girlfriend is thrilled. 0:14:12.840 --> 0:14:17.080 It's this a joke, now, jo No, and why did 0:14:17.080 --> 0:14:19.000 they publish it? I have so many questions. 0:14:19.120 --> 0:14:22.200 Yes, so I honestly I think that obviously the guy 0:14:22.200 --> 0:14:24.080 who published it wanted to show, hey, look at me, 0:14:24.160 --> 0:14:27.200 I make three million dollars a year, you know, And 0:14:27.600 --> 0:14:29.160 he later on came back on and said, oh, you 0:14:29.200 --> 0:14:31.560 guys are so sensitive. It's an inside joke. Now, here's 0:14:31.600 --> 0:14:35.280 the thing about inside jokes. They're meant for inside. TikTok 0:14:35.360 --> 0:14:39.640 is outside. And maybe Bobby doesn't want everybody to know 0:14:39.800 --> 0:14:42.880 or his business, or even your friends for people to 0:14:42.920 --> 0:14:45.160 know their business. Because some friends, you know, you have 0:14:45.240 --> 0:14:48.480 their real names on here how much they make, and 0:14:48.640 --> 0:14:50.720 you know, if they're in a relationship, you know, the 0:14:50.760 --> 0:14:53.400 person with the friend, the person in the seventy percent 0:14:53.440 --> 0:14:57.120 relationship with with that person might be like oh wow, 0:14:57.640 --> 0:15:00.000 And so I don't know, I think raking your friend 0:15:00.120 --> 0:15:02.960 it seemed less like, because here's the thing to me, 0:15:03.040 --> 0:15:06.360 if it was really Mandy, for like, hey, Mandy, you 0:15:06.480 --> 0:15:08.240 and ten of our friends we're trying to decide on 0:15:08.320 --> 0:15:10.840 vacations every year. Why can't you just say, in the 0:15:10.840 --> 0:15:14.400 beginning of the year, here's my vacation budget. Now, yes, 0:15:14.520 --> 0:15:16.280 having knowing how much you make whatever something that we 0:15:16.360 --> 0:15:19.120 might talk about. But to pretend like this sheet is 0:15:19.160 --> 0:15:21.200 to figure out if we can go on vacation. I 0:15:21.200 --> 0:15:23.480 don't need to know how much you make, you know, 0:15:24.080 --> 0:15:26.680 if I'm just figuring out your vacation budget, you know, 0:15:27.160 --> 0:15:27.920 like you might say. 0:15:27.720 --> 0:15:29.680 It can't even matter how much you make. It's more 0:15:29.720 --> 0:15:33.560 about what's your cash flow, what's your Never salary is 0:15:33.560 --> 0:15:36.480 not the whole story. We're so obsessed with salary. 0:15:36.160 --> 0:15:38.680 Yes we are. And it's just and I just thought 0:15:38.680 --> 0:15:42.120 the fact that like calling somebody broke Bobby, it's just 0:15:42.200 --> 0:15:45.240 also too It's like, are we quantifying how important our 0:15:45.280 --> 0:15:47.800 friends are to us? It seems like you get to 0:15:47.800 --> 0:15:49.840 be at the top of the wrong if you make 0:15:49.880 --> 0:15:52.040 the most, but you might be like the worst friend 0:15:52.760 --> 0:15:55.119 or like the friend that's like you know, least available, 0:15:55.280 --> 0:15:58.480 or you know, like it's just yeah, you know and 0:15:58.520 --> 0:16:02.040 I just was like, wow, so yeah, so broke Bobby's 0:16:02.080 --> 0:16:04.160 trending for all the wrong reasons. And it's just I 0:16:04.280 --> 0:16:06.800 just thought like, oh, so the guy's name is he's 0:16:06.800 --> 0:16:09.640 a real estate agent. His name is Tom Cruise, and 0:16:09.760 --> 0:16:11.400 I just think, quite honestly, he wanted people to see 0:16:11.400 --> 0:16:14.120 how much he makes. And he said, like, for example, 0:16:14.200 --> 0:16:16.520 he said, I if the trip and I get this. 0:16:16.600 --> 0:16:18.680 If there's gonna be a trip that's going to cost 0:16:18.760 --> 0:16:21.120 ten thousand dollars and a friend only wanted to spend five, 0:16:21.160 --> 0:16:23.240 he wouldn't invite them. But you don't need all this 0:16:23.360 --> 0:16:26.840 back information in order to know. That's just something to ask, Hey, 0:16:26.880 --> 0:16:28.520 this trip is going to cost five do you want 0:16:28.520 --> 0:16:31.560 to come? That's it, And then people can decide from 0:16:31.560 --> 0:16:33.720 themselves versus you trying to publicly shame them so you 0:16:33.720 --> 0:16:35.400 can say, hey, look at me, I make good money. 0:16:36.240 --> 0:16:37.960 This one goes out to all that broke Bobby. It's 0:16:37.960 --> 0:16:43.800 the broke Brenda's the broke Brandon's out there. But the 0:16:43.880 --> 0:16:46.400 dynamic in your friend group, and not even in friends group, 0:16:46.480 --> 0:16:50.240 but in family groups, when your income starts to surpass 0:16:50.320 --> 0:16:54.240 a certain like starts to surpass what's normal in your group. 0:16:54.720 --> 0:16:57.840 I mean that can make things awkward. And I even 0:16:57.920 --> 0:17:01.560 like had posted about this recently. The more transparent I've 0:17:01.600 --> 0:17:04.600 become about my income, I have had people reach out 0:17:04.640 --> 0:17:07.399 to me, like even friends or just randos from the internet, 0:17:07.440 --> 0:17:09.960 which is fine, and ask you know, aren't you worried 0:17:09.960 --> 0:17:12.720 about people knowing your net worth or how much you 0:17:12.760 --> 0:17:15.840 make or that you're successful and whatnot? And I guess 0:17:15.840 --> 0:17:19.560 I just made a decision that I'm not worried. And 0:17:19.600 --> 0:17:22.520 their insinuation is that once people know how much you make, 0:17:22.560 --> 0:17:24.919 they're just going to come and ask you for things, 0:17:25.040 --> 0:17:27.080 you know, ask for money. That has not been my 0:17:27.160 --> 0:17:31.359 situation at all. But even if it were, what else 0:17:31.480 --> 0:17:34.360 is the money for if not to create a comfortable 0:17:34.359 --> 0:17:36.560 life and to help others you know, when I need it. 0:17:36.600 --> 0:17:38.680 Call me a dirty liberal socialist whatever you want to 0:17:38.720 --> 0:17:42.080 call me, but I'm not here to I'm not here 0:17:42.080 --> 0:17:44.119 to hide it as if there's only enough for me 0:17:44.200 --> 0:17:47.359 and there's not enough for anyone else. Like the whole point, 0:17:47.400 --> 0:17:52.360 And I think what can be inspiring to a way 0:17:52.359 --> 0:17:54.119 of looking at so if you're the broke Bobby and 0:17:54.160 --> 0:17:57.639 your friend group, instead of maybe comparing yourself and feeling down, 0:17:58.160 --> 0:18:00.920 look at it more as Okay, this is what's possible, 0:18:01.000 --> 0:18:03.720 and maybe I should ask so and so some questions 0:18:03.720 --> 0:18:06.800 about how they approach their finances or do they even 0:18:07.280 --> 0:18:09.720 you know, you make three million dollars a year? Do 0:18:09.760 --> 0:18:12.520 you like your job? Are you happy? Those are the 0:18:12.600 --> 0:18:14.920 questions I'd be asking on top of that, you know, 0:18:14.640 --> 0:18:15.440 do you maybe. 0:18:15.280 --> 0:18:17.480 Are you guys hiding? Shoot? Because if you're taking home 0:18:17.520 --> 0:18:19.880 for you a million, you know, my assumption is your 0:18:19.880 --> 0:18:23.320 business is maybe making twenty million, you know. And so 0:18:23.800 --> 0:18:28.000 you're right. I don't think inherently having a sheet or 0:18:28.040 --> 0:18:30.200 talking about your finances your friends is a bad thing. 0:18:30.680 --> 0:18:34.040 I think using it as a way to shame and 0:18:34.119 --> 0:18:36.800 say I am inherently better than you because I make more. 0:18:36.920 --> 0:18:39.439 That's not true. Yeah, that's is not true. You're not 0:18:39.480 --> 0:18:42.040 in you know, because that was the tone. Like I 0:18:42.080 --> 0:18:44.920 look at Brooke, Bobby. He can't go anywhere with us, 0:18:45.000 --> 0:18:48.120 he he And it's just like that's your friend, that's 0:18:48.119 --> 0:18:50.960 your manson them. What if they call the others the 0:18:50.960 --> 0:18:53.680 welfare the welfare ten, anybody who made less. 0:18:53.480 --> 0:18:57.920 Than welfare ten. That's highly offensive to anyone who's ever 0:18:57.960 --> 0:19:01.440 gotten public benefits, because they're that's just stupid and offensive. 0:19:01.920 --> 0:19:04.320 I mean, this also reminds me of that that guy 0:19:04.359 --> 0:19:07.840 on TikTok who goes around to people's big mansions and 0:19:07.920 --> 0:19:10.760 knocks on their door and says, oh hi. You know, 0:19:10.920 --> 0:19:12.359 first of all, he had to be white. There's no 0:19:12.359 --> 0:19:12.600 way to. 0:19:15.119 --> 0:19:18.560 Imagine call the police like the neighbors across the. 0:19:18.560 --> 0:19:21.480 Streets, just like the little the little curtain moves or 0:19:21.600 --> 0:19:23.680 no one ever comes. But anyway, he's a nice guy. 0:19:23.720 --> 0:19:25.240 I just want to know what you do for a living. 0:19:25.240 --> 0:19:28.520 Your home is so beautiful and it bothers me so 0:19:28.760 --> 0:19:31.720 damn much. And I and it took me a while 0:19:31.760 --> 0:19:34.160 to realize why this series pissed me off so much. 0:19:34.160 --> 0:19:36.600 And it's just because it doesn't matter what kind of 0:19:36.600 --> 0:19:40.040 house you have. There are plenty of millionaires next door 0:19:40.160 --> 0:19:45.320 who do not have the spectacular mansions. And I wish why, Yeah, 0:19:45.359 --> 0:19:47.800 I wish that he would knock on some regular ass 0:19:47.800 --> 0:19:50.960 people's homes and say, hey, what's your net worth? Or 0:19:51.240 --> 0:19:53.439 just knock on the mansion, you know, knock on the 0:19:53.440 --> 0:19:57.000 people's mansion and say, just wondering, you know, what's your 0:19:57.040 --> 0:20:00.399 cash flow? Like, are you are your house poor? I 0:20:00.400 --> 0:20:02.840 know they're not gonna tell, but it just gives us 0:20:02.880 --> 0:20:06.119 perception that and still in America, like this idealization of 0:20:06.160 --> 0:20:10.560 like the home being the like the trophy of all 0:20:10.600 --> 0:20:14.920 trophies for success, and how so many people's version of success. 0:20:15.119 --> 0:20:17.280 You could have a millionaire living in a tiny home, 0:20:17.640 --> 0:20:19.800 you know, or a tree house in the in the 0:20:19.880 --> 0:20:23.240 forest or whatever. I just I don't like it because 0:20:23.240 --> 0:20:26.639 I feel like it does proliferate that idea that wealth 0:20:26.960 --> 0:20:32.679 is home ownership and spectacular homeownership is the way to wealth, 0:20:32.720 --> 0:20:34.800 because that is just not the case. 0:20:34.720 --> 0:20:39.560 Yes, or that's a that's a result of because I mean, 0:20:40.400 --> 0:20:42.280 I guess I could have a mansion if I wanted it. 0:20:42.320 --> 0:20:44.600 I don't know that I'll have to live in a mansion. Certainly, 0:20:44.640 --> 0:20:47.199