1 00:00:16,360 --> 00:00:27,280 Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, we're back. We're black, We're brown, ambition, ambition, ambition, 2 00:00:27,920 --> 00:00:30,960 Speaker 1: Mandra We're twins again today with our great shirts. 3 00:00:31,000 --> 00:00:34,239 Speaker 2: Hello. Yes, what I am a phenomenal woman today? Who 4 00:00:34,320 --> 00:00:34,559 Speaker 2: are you? 5 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:37,480 Speaker 1: I am? DreamCatcher my DreamCatcher T shirt? 6 00:00:38,360 --> 00:00:40,760 Speaker 2: Don't you love that? This whole t shirts that say 7 00:00:40,800 --> 00:00:43,320 Speaker 2: things is coming back? This was big in like the 8 00:00:43,360 --> 00:00:47,159 Speaker 2: eighth grade, except my mom. Remember my dad would like 9 00:00:47,159 --> 00:00:48,960 Speaker 2: get onto me for the shirts I would buy from 10 00:00:49,000 --> 00:00:51,960 Speaker 2: like Coals. They were all on this big wall at Coal's, 11 00:00:52,400 --> 00:00:55,160 Speaker 2: and I think my favorite one, which, by the way, 12 00:00:55,320 --> 00:00:58,880 Speaker 2: I can't the irony of me wearing their shirt, but 13 00:00:58,920 --> 00:01:02,360 Speaker 2: it was like I only look sweet and innocent was 14 00:01:02,360 --> 00:01:04,600 Speaker 2: my favorite one. And I had like little polka dots. 15 00:01:04,800 --> 00:01:10,000 Speaker 2: There was some like yeah and problematic, very problematic and 16 00:01:10,080 --> 00:01:12,919 Speaker 2: undo in the teen section at col circa two thousand 17 00:01:12,959 --> 00:01:13,320 Speaker 2: and one. 18 00:01:13,400 --> 00:01:17,240 Speaker 1: Okay, yes, honestly I like the credit of Khalila, right, 19 00:01:17,319 --> 00:01:19,880 Speaker 1: she's amazing. So she's the owner of Mess in a Bottle? 20 00:01:19,880 --> 00:01:20,560 Speaker 1: Have you heard of it? 21 00:01:20,720 --> 00:01:22,680 Speaker 2: Of course I've heard of that. Well, if you guys 22 00:01:22,680 --> 00:01:26,800 Speaker 2: are your I have your generational wealth budget means to day. 23 00:01:27,360 --> 00:01:29,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, we did like a collaboration together, but she's got 24 00:01:30,319 --> 00:01:32,520 Speaker 1: a great line called mess in the Bottle following on 25 00:01:32,600 --> 00:01:35,399 Speaker 1: social media it literally mess in a bottle. But she 26 00:01:35,440 --> 00:01:39,319 Speaker 1: honestly has some amazing T shirts and saying it's called 27 00:01:39,440 --> 00:01:42,840 Speaker 1: mess for message that all of her T shirts and 28 00:01:42,880 --> 00:01:46,560 Speaker 1: toads have these amazing messages and they're just funny, hilarious 29 00:01:46,560 --> 00:01:49,720 Speaker 1: but also like ooh so true. So go ahead and 30 00:01:49,720 --> 00:01:53,400 Speaker 1: give Khalida a little shadow. Tell her brown ambition Sancha, Okay, 31 00:01:54,000 --> 00:01:57,840 Speaker 1: so I have some like you know, child, I was like, 32 00:01:57,920 --> 00:02:01,520 Speaker 1: let me let's talk some smack today about what's going on? Right, 33 00:02:01,760 --> 00:02:04,520 Speaker 1: the T is the tea. Well, it's not personal, ta, 34 00:02:04,840 --> 00:02:08,080 Speaker 1: But have you heard I'm sure you've heard of the 35 00:02:08,120 --> 00:02:13,919 Speaker 1: site Only Fans correct, of course, right, sexy get you get. 36 00:02:15,919 --> 00:02:21,400 Speaker 2: Sexy things? Did Chris Did Chris Brown have one? Did 37 00:02:21,440 --> 00:02:22,040 Speaker 2: I make that out? 38 00:02:22,120 --> 00:02:25,440 Speaker 1: I don't know he does have one. So anyway, Only 39 00:02:25,520 --> 00:02:27,640 Speaker 1: Fans was known for those of you who are like, 40 00:02:27,680 --> 00:02:32,280 Speaker 1: ah my Christian ears for being like basically the subscription 41 00:02:32,360 --> 00:02:36,960 Speaker 1: site where you could follow folks and basically pay them 42 00:02:37,000 --> 00:02:38,960 Speaker 1: for like stuff that they would put behind a paywall. 43 00:02:39,080 --> 00:02:41,280 Speaker 1: Now I didn't have to be like sex related things, 44 00:02:41,320 --> 00:02:43,760 Speaker 1: but quite honestly, that's how they got known. A lot 45 00:02:43,760 --> 00:02:46,280 Speaker 1: of sex workers you know, went to only fans and 46 00:02:46,440 --> 00:02:48,440 Speaker 1: like you know, and the truth is it provided a 47 00:02:48,480 --> 00:02:51,760 Speaker 1: safe space because you know, one, you know, COVID was 48 00:02:51,760 --> 00:02:54,320 Speaker 1: out and about two you know, I'm sure as you 49 00:02:54,360 --> 00:02:56,639 Speaker 1: guys know, being a sex worker is dangerous because someone 50 00:02:56,680 --> 00:03:00,800 Speaker 1: could kill you, rape you, take advantage of you. It 51 00:03:00,919 --> 00:03:03,919 Speaker 1: allowed people to have ownership because there are some sex workers, 52 00:03:04,000 --> 00:03:07,680 Speaker 1: unfortunately that have people who feel like they have dominion 53 00:03:07,720 --> 00:03:10,280 Speaker 1: over their bodies, you know. But here was like I 54 00:03:10,320 --> 00:03:12,799 Speaker 1: get to decide in a safe space what I want 55 00:03:12,800 --> 00:03:15,960 Speaker 1: to do or not do. So however you feel about 56 00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:17,679 Speaker 1: sex work, I'm not here to judge one way or 57 00:03:17,720 --> 00:03:20,160 Speaker 1: the other. But I'm just giving you guys the backstory. 58 00:03:20,560 --> 00:03:23,760 Speaker 1: Now only fans really blew up as a result of 59 00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:26,720 Speaker 1: sex workers, and they've made millions. And some sex workers 60 00:03:26,760 --> 00:03:29,160 Speaker 1: were making like six figures a month, you know, people 61 00:03:29,200 --> 00:03:31,480 Speaker 1: paying like five ten bucks a month to see their 62 00:03:31,480 --> 00:03:36,880 Speaker 1: feet or whatever, you know. And now only fans and 63 00:03:37,080 --> 00:03:42,160 Speaker 1: all their raggediness has decided that they gonna be KFC 64 00:03:42,200 --> 00:03:48,920 Speaker 1: without chicken, Popeyes without the biscuit, a black hair dresser 65 00:03:48,960 --> 00:03:50,800 Speaker 1: without the weight. You already know what I'm talking about. 66 00:03:50,800 --> 00:03:52,880 Speaker 1: I went natural because I couldn't wait no more. But no, 67 00:03:52,960 --> 00:03:54,400 Speaker 1: for real that they are kicking off. 68 00:03:56,440 --> 00:03:58,880 Speaker 2: Wait, I was like the weight you calling them? 69 00:03:59,200 --> 00:04:01,520 Speaker 1: Oh, yes, you like the way you know You're like, 70 00:04:01,600 --> 00:04:03,360 Speaker 1: they're like, we'll come at six am. Girl, you don't 71 00:04:03,360 --> 00:04:04,600 Speaker 1: get into that seat until nine. 72 00:04:04,680 --> 00:04:06,480 Speaker 2: Oh, we're just gonna put you under the dryer. 73 00:04:08,480 --> 00:04:10,360 Speaker 1: So but I'll just say this the like, so what 74 00:04:10,400 --> 00:04:12,760 Speaker 1: do you think about that? Mandy? And I've read it's 75 00:04:12,800 --> 00:04:15,720 Speaker 1: because only fans is like wanting obviously to get either 76 00:04:15,880 --> 00:04:20,000 Speaker 1: access to additional capital and traditional capital. Feels very like 77 00:04:20,040 --> 00:04:23,239 Speaker 1: although I'm sure all those men with access to traditional capital 78 00:04:23,520 --> 00:04:25,039 Speaker 1: is on only fans getting a life. 79 00:04:25,440 --> 00:04:27,839 Speaker 2: But you know, you didn't tell me what chicken was. 80 00:04:28,160 --> 00:04:29,080 Speaker 2: We got caught up on the. 81 00:04:29,120 --> 00:04:32,480 Speaker 1: Now I said. I said chicken for like Popeyes without No, 82 00:04:32,560 --> 00:04:35,679 Speaker 1: I said KFC without chicken, Popeyes without the biscuit. 83 00:04:36,360 --> 00:04:38,599 Speaker 2: So they're getting rid of like you can't put sexy 84 00:04:38,640 --> 00:04:39,560 Speaker 2: stuff on it anymore. 85 00:04:39,680 --> 00:04:42,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, they're kicking off. They said, no more sex stuff 86 00:04:43,600 --> 00:04:49,039 Speaker 1: what they want, So they want like Hilson, which I'm like, 87 00:04:49,080 --> 00:04:51,599 Speaker 1: that's not what only pants. It's almost like going to 88 00:04:51,680 --> 00:04:54,440 Speaker 1: pornhub and being like oh no, no, no, no, no, 89 00:04:54,480 --> 00:04:57,320 Speaker 1: more porn here because they want to attract I guess 90 00:04:57,960 --> 00:05:02,039 Speaker 1: more traditional means of capital money. So I was just thinking, like, 91 00:05:02,080 --> 00:05:05,160 Speaker 1: what do you think about that? That letting this particular 92 00:05:05,520 --> 00:05:08,640 Speaker 1: you know, segment of the population sex workers build up 93 00:05:08,960 --> 00:05:13,920 Speaker 1: their their platform, like like honestly Tumblr, right, So it's 94 00:05:13,920 --> 00:05:16,000 Speaker 1: my understanding that Tumblr. I did not know this, but 95 00:05:16,080 --> 00:05:19,440 Speaker 1: there was a huge, you know, adult component to Tumblr. 96 00:05:20,040 --> 00:05:22,920 Speaker 1: Tumblr was sold to who who bought Tumblr? I want 97 00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:23,640 Speaker 1: to save a Verizon? 98 00:05:24,040 --> 00:05:27,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, somebody, but the Horizon, right, like. 99 00:05:27,240 --> 00:05:30,479 Speaker 1: For like a billion dollars and then Yahoo was like, 100 00:05:30,560 --> 00:05:33,040 Speaker 1: oh no, no, no, no more sexy time. So as 101 00:05:33,080 --> 00:05:35,680 Speaker 1: a result, everybody left Tumblr and then they sold it 102 00:05:35,760 --> 00:05:37,719 Speaker 1: to Rizon for three million. Can you imagine buying something 103 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:41,520 Speaker 1: for a billion? So after kicking off, you know, the 104 00:05:41,560 --> 00:05:44,480 Speaker 1: adult element, and so now only fans is going to 105 00:05:44,600 --> 00:05:47,120 Speaker 1: kick off their adult element. Do you think one that 106 00:05:47,200 --> 00:05:49,960 Speaker 1: it's okay? And and two do you think they're going 107 00:05:50,040 --> 00:05:51,400 Speaker 1: to be able to survive this because that's what they're 108 00:05:51,440 --> 00:05:51,760 Speaker 1: known for. 109 00:05:52,760 --> 00:05:55,640 Speaker 2: I mean, businesses are gonna business no matter what. So 110 00:05:56,040 --> 00:05:59,280 Speaker 2: it doesn't sound like it's illegal. It sounds shisty, and 111 00:05:59,320 --> 00:06:02,960 Speaker 2: it sucks because I read stories about how during the pandemic, 112 00:06:03,040 --> 00:06:07,120 Speaker 2: especially when you know, sex work just wasn't really as possible, 113 00:06:07,120 --> 00:06:08,840 Speaker 2: it was even less safe. And on top of that, 114 00:06:09,080 --> 00:06:12,880 Speaker 2: you know exotic dancer strippers, you know, they were actually 115 00:06:12,880 --> 00:06:16,719 Speaker 2: bringing in an income by building a fan base on OnlyFans, 116 00:06:16,920 --> 00:06:20,360 Speaker 2: and for them it was actually a way to make money. 117 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:24,520 Speaker 2: And yeah, I mean judgment free zone, you know, as 118 00:06:24,560 --> 00:06:27,120 Speaker 2: far as how they're making money, but it sucks. It 119 00:06:27,400 --> 00:06:30,320 Speaker 2: definitely sucks. I wonder how like prescriptive they're going to 120 00:06:30,360 --> 00:06:32,800 Speaker 2: be about what kind of content you know, how on 121 00:06:32,880 --> 00:06:37,120 Speaker 2: Instagram basically anything but a nipple is okay. I see 122 00:06:37,160 --> 00:06:40,159 Speaker 2: some stuff on ig and I'm just like, what is 123 00:06:40,320 --> 00:06:46,280 Speaker 2: this follow It seems like everyone's tits an ass are 124 00:06:46,279 --> 00:06:48,200 Speaker 2: out now because that's like the look, you know what 125 00:06:48,200 --> 00:06:53,000 Speaker 2: I mean, like celebrities and influencers or whoever. Anyway, it's 126 00:06:53,120 --> 00:06:56,760 Speaker 2: it's like sex sells and people are obsessed with building 127 00:06:56,839 --> 00:06:59,000 Speaker 2: their their I mean, you're not going to see any 128 00:06:59,040 --> 00:07:02,320 Speaker 2: of that on Mandy Money. I'm sorry. I mean you'll 129 00:07:02,320 --> 00:07:04,280 Speaker 2: have to be a little bit better first, But. 130 00:07:04,720 --> 00:07:07,839 Speaker 1: So only fans actually vote a tweet on August twenty first, 131 00:07:08,240 --> 00:07:10,559 Speaker 1: I'm like, is this real? It is? It says dear 132 00:07:10,760 --> 00:07:14,880 Speaker 1: sex workers. The only Fans community would not be what 133 00:07:14,920 --> 00:07:18,600 Speaker 1: it is today without you. The policy change was necessary 134 00:07:18,600 --> 00:07:22,440 Speaker 1: to secure banking and payment services to support you. We 135 00:07:22,520 --> 00:07:25,200 Speaker 1: are working around the clock to come up with solutions, 136 00:07:27,480 --> 00:07:28,200 Speaker 1: are they though. 137 00:07:28,000 --> 00:07:29,960 Speaker 2: Because they already seem to like take the banks money. 138 00:07:30,000 --> 00:07:31,960 Speaker 1: Yes, run so people are like, so instead of dropping 139 00:07:32,040 --> 00:07:33,920 Speaker 1: Visa and Massacre, you chose to drop us, the people 140 00:07:33,960 --> 00:07:36,480 Speaker 1: who put your platform on the map. You never promoted 141 00:07:36,560 --> 00:07:39,720 Speaker 1: us only random fitness instructors and celebrities. We brought the 142 00:07:39,760 --> 00:07:42,040 Speaker 1: traffic and you kicked us to the curb instead of 143 00:07:42,040 --> 00:07:45,080 Speaker 1: standing up for us against the payment services platform. 144 00:07:45,520 --> 00:07:48,400 Speaker 2: I'm like the time for them to start their Patreon account. 145 00:07:48,840 --> 00:07:50,680 Speaker 2: Like I'm trying to think of other ways a good 146 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:56,040 Speaker 2: a sub stack. Crazy. Sex is just sex and menstrual 147 00:07:56,320 --> 00:07:59,840 Speaker 2: periods are like the two biggest taboos. It's like corporate 148 00:08:00,000 --> 00:08:02,680 Speaker 2: America does not want to give any money to these 149 00:08:02,720 --> 00:08:05,920 Speaker 2: two causes. It's a it's a shame A. 150 00:08:05,880 --> 00:08:09,280 Speaker 1: Sex Work of Rope wrote like, all you super conservative 151 00:08:09,320 --> 00:08:11,840 Speaker 1: people who wanted to get rid of you know, like 152 00:08:11,920 --> 00:08:13,280 Speaker 1: only fans, and now we're just going to have to 153 00:08:13,320 --> 00:08:18,960 Speaker 1: have sex with your husbands again. I was like, Sis, 154 00:08:19,160 --> 00:08:21,480 Speaker 1: you had to do them like that's She was like, 155 00:08:21,520 --> 00:08:24,080 Speaker 1: what you think, who do you think supporting us? You know, 156 00:08:24,360 --> 00:08:27,200 Speaker 1: like and I'm just like wow that, you know, It's 157 00:08:27,240 --> 00:08:30,280 Speaker 1: what's so crazy to me. I remember like reading the 158 00:08:30,400 --> 00:08:33,199 Speaker 1: stat or something. I was like watching a video where 159 00:08:33,240 --> 00:08:35,760 Speaker 1: they were saying that, you know, as much as people 160 00:08:35,880 --> 00:08:38,880 Speaker 1: pretend to be conservative in their outward lives, someone said 161 00:08:38,880 --> 00:08:43,640 Speaker 1: that when church conventions come to hotels that they actually 162 00:08:43,640 --> 00:08:47,440 Speaker 1: see a spike in pornography sales on like you know, 163 00:08:47,520 --> 00:08:56,679 Speaker 1: like which I mean, And so it's just really hypocritical. Unfortunately, 164 00:08:56,679 --> 00:08:57,840 Speaker 1: like I said, I'm not here to judge what you 165 00:08:57,840 --> 00:08:59,360 Speaker 1: do or how you do as a grown person with 166 00:08:59,400 --> 00:09:03,040 Speaker 1: other grown people. You know, that's consensual, but you know 167 00:09:03,160 --> 00:09:05,199 Speaker 1: people love to judge and then they you know, then 168 00:09:05,240 --> 00:09:07,920 Speaker 1: you look at their history, their computer history, and you're like, 169 00:09:08,000 --> 00:09:11,280 Speaker 1: oh wow a system, Mary Clarence. 170 00:09:13,080 --> 00:09:17,280 Speaker 2: I mean, it just it just really yeah. It just 171 00:09:17,440 --> 00:09:22,000 Speaker 2: underlines and underscores why sex work is so dangerous because 172 00:09:22,559 --> 00:09:25,920 Speaker 2: people will only admit that they pay for it or 173 00:09:25,960 --> 00:09:28,959 Speaker 2: that it just it lives in the margins, and then 174 00:09:29,000 --> 00:09:32,360 Speaker 2: they are by doing this, they are again marginalizing this 175 00:09:32,520 --> 00:09:35,200 Speaker 2: sex work. And even if the people running these VC 176 00:09:35,360 --> 00:09:38,200 Speaker 2: firms and these financial institutions that are backing only fans, 177 00:09:38,440 --> 00:09:41,360 Speaker 2: they don't want to back them, you know, publicly. But 178 00:09:41,480 --> 00:09:43,800 Speaker 2: I bet you people who work there would have no 179 00:09:43,880 --> 00:09:46,400 Speaker 2: problem in the margins, you know, in the dark corners 180 00:09:46,840 --> 00:09:50,840 Speaker 2: taking advantage of you know, women or other people who 181 00:09:50,840 --> 00:09:54,240 Speaker 2: are offering these services or this content, you know what 182 00:09:54,320 --> 00:09:56,360 Speaker 2: I mean, in a place that they wouldn't have any 183 00:09:56,400 --> 00:10:00,680 Speaker 2: oversight and they'd be less safe in doing so. So 184 00:10:00,800 --> 00:10:05,400 Speaker 2: just another step back for giving sex workers the protection 185 00:10:06,400 --> 00:10:08,920 Speaker 2: you know, and the visibility that makes the profession a 186 00:10:08,960 --> 00:10:10,000 Speaker 2: little bit more safe. 187 00:10:10,320 --> 00:10:13,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, So I thought that. I was just like, well, 188 00:10:13,040 --> 00:10:15,720 Speaker 1: we'll see, we'll see if this is another tumbler moment 189 00:10:16,120 --> 00:10:20,000 Speaker 1: where if this you know, if sex workers leave in 190 00:10:20,120 --> 00:10:22,920 Speaker 1: masks and only fans, if they're even able. Because here's 191 00:10:22,920 --> 00:10:25,880 Speaker 1: the thing, like I wouldn't start at only fans, like 192 00:10:25,880 --> 00:10:27,560 Speaker 1: you know, you and I talked about starting a Patreon 193 00:10:27,679 --> 00:10:30,920 Speaker 1: for brand Ambition, which we've done it y'all will see soon, okay, 194 00:10:31,400 --> 00:10:33,920 Speaker 1: But you know, like if we had it never even 195 00:10:33,960 --> 00:10:36,080 Speaker 1: occurred to me, well, oh, Mandy, we should start an 196 00:10:36,120 --> 00:10:39,160 Speaker 1: only fans for Brown Ambission, Like you'd be like, what 197 00:10:40,040 --> 00:10:43,920 Speaker 1: because I associate only fans with sex work which is fine, 198 00:10:43,960 --> 00:10:46,160 Speaker 1: but I would say that's not a platform that that 199 00:10:46,280 --> 00:10:49,560 Speaker 1: Branna vission falls under. So I don't even know if 200 00:10:50,320 --> 00:10:53,040 Speaker 1: they're going to be able to attract you know, like 201 00:10:53,080 --> 00:10:54,400 Speaker 1: and I don't know. I guess time will tell if 202 00:10:54,440 --> 00:10:57,600 Speaker 1: they'll be able to attract enough traffic new kind of 203 00:10:57,600 --> 00:11:00,240 Speaker 1: traffic to not be Tumblr. So we else. 204 00:11:00,679 --> 00:11:02,120 Speaker 2: I was just gonna say I was there when y'all 205 00:11:02,120 --> 00:11:06,040 Speaker 2: who bought Tumblr? Yeah, that was Mandy's heyday. It was 206 00:11:06,600 --> 00:11:08,720 Speaker 2: quite sad, quite sad. 207 00:11:09,320 --> 00:11:12,960 Speaker 1: Now, did you have you heard of broke Bobby? 208 00:11:14,320 --> 00:11:14,600 Speaker 2: No? 209 00:11:15,000 --> 00:11:18,000 Speaker 1: Ooh girl, I'm barely on social I was just catch 210 00:11:18,000 --> 00:11:20,800 Speaker 1: a girl. Okay, let me, let me set the set 211 00:11:20,840 --> 00:11:24,439 Speaker 1: the stage. So youngish white dude, I think he's right, 212 00:11:25,280 --> 00:11:29,480 Speaker 1: goals on TikTok and says, hey guys, me and my 213 00:11:29,640 --> 00:11:33,360 Speaker 1: friends created this spreadsheet to try to figure out if 214 00:11:33,400 --> 00:11:37,040 Speaker 1: we can go on vacation. Here's what the spreadsheet looks like. 215 00:11:37,080 --> 00:11:40,320 Speaker 1: It's a list of I want to say, maybe like 216 00:11:40,440 --> 00:11:44,800 Speaker 1: twenty friends and it says their name, their income. The 217 00:11:44,880 --> 00:11:48,160 Speaker 1: highest paid friend is five million dollars a year. The 218 00:11:48,240 --> 00:11:50,640 Speaker 1: lowest paid friend is one hundred and twenty five thousand 219 00:11:50,679 --> 00:11:54,080 Speaker 1: dollars a year. Like they have paid time off, if 220 00:11:54,080 --> 00:11:57,679 Speaker 1: they're gonna get maybe like any like bonuses they also have, 221 00:11:57,800 --> 00:12:00,000 Speaker 1: if they're willing to go to a third world country, 222 00:12:00,960 --> 00:12:03,880 Speaker 1: if they are willing to pry fly private, how much 223 00:12:03,880 --> 00:12:07,000 Speaker 1: they're willing to spend on a one day vacation, a 224 00:12:07,000 --> 00:12:10,120 Speaker 1: seven day vacation versus a three day vacation, if they 225 00:12:10,120 --> 00:12:12,439 Speaker 1: have a significant other, So something. 226 00:12:12,280 --> 00:12:15,320 Speaker 2: In the organization. This is like, I wish my friend 227 00:12:15,320 --> 00:12:16,280 Speaker 2: group had a friend like this. 228 00:12:16,960 --> 00:12:19,200 Speaker 1: No, you don't. We're gonna back it on up because 229 00:12:19,440 --> 00:12:24,400 Speaker 1: this guy says so. The guy on here, I'm guessing 230 00:12:24,520 --> 00:12:27,000 Speaker 1: he his name is t Cruz, and it looks like 231 00:12:27,040 --> 00:12:31,319 Speaker 1: he's probably number three on the list. He makes three 232 00:12:31,360 --> 00:12:34,520 Speaker 1: million plus a year, right, the last guy on the 233 00:12:34,559 --> 00:12:38,120 Speaker 1: list who makes one hundred and twenty five thousand dollars 234 00:12:38,360 --> 00:12:42,000 Speaker 1: a year. His name on here is broke Bobby. That's 235 00:12:42,000 --> 00:12:44,400 Speaker 1: what he called. That's what they call him because broke 236 00:12:44,440 --> 00:12:46,800 Speaker 1: Bobby makes a hundred and twenty five thousand dollars a year, 237 00:12:46,840 --> 00:12:49,319 Speaker 1: and Kiki Key, isn't that so funny because he's poor 238 00:12:50,679 --> 00:12:53,040 Speaker 1: and any one of their friends that there's about ten 239 00:12:53,080 --> 00:12:55,199 Speaker 1: friends that make an under a hundred and they call 240 00:12:55,240 --> 00:13:03,599 Speaker 1: them the welfare ten because just when you're like, ohh. 241 00:13:01,679 --> 00:13:04,000 Speaker 2: Why is their income need to be on this spreadsheet? 242 00:13:04,080 --> 00:13:09,559 Speaker 1: Exactly because they want to see whose penis is bigger obviously. 243 00:13:09,240 --> 00:13:11,960 Speaker 2: And they have to like self report there. I have 244 00:13:11,960 --> 00:13:13,720 Speaker 2: a lot of thoughts. I actually did see this. I 245 00:13:13,720 --> 00:13:15,800 Speaker 2: didn't know that his name was broke Bobby. I'm sorry 246 00:13:15,800 --> 00:13:19,280 Speaker 2: I saw something on this making its way across TikTok. I. 247 00:13:19,600 --> 00:13:22,640 Speaker 2: First of all, pay transparency among friends cool. I'm kind 248 00:13:22,640 --> 00:13:24,600 Speaker 2: of down with that, which I think that's dope. I've 249 00:13:24,600 --> 00:13:27,280 Speaker 2: always had. I always had that one friend who I 250 00:13:27,280 --> 00:13:29,640 Speaker 2: would actually tell what I was earning to and vice versa. 251 00:13:29,800 --> 00:13:33,679 Speaker 2: That's good, but no, not if you're gonna make people 252 00:13:33,720 --> 00:13:36,400 Speaker 2: feel bad for where they're at compared to you. I mean, 253 00:13:36,520 --> 00:13:39,600 Speaker 2: Jesus Christ, broke Bobby needs some new friends unless they're 254 00:13:39,600 --> 00:13:41,240 Speaker 2: gonna pay for all of his vacations. And that's why 255 00:13:41,320 --> 00:13:42,120 Speaker 2: he's friends with them. 256 00:13:42,160 --> 00:13:46,120 Speaker 1: And so some people were like, wait, I make that 257 00:13:46,160 --> 00:13:49,240 Speaker 1: I'm the rich one in my friend or you know, 258 00:13:49,400 --> 00:13:52,040 Speaker 1: I think there's a statistic statistic that says, like, you know, 259 00:13:52,120 --> 00:13:54,280 Speaker 1: the average American makes like less than one quarter of 260 00:13:54,280 --> 00:13:57,800 Speaker 1: what quote unquote broke Bobby is bringing in. And there's 261 00:13:57,840 --> 00:13:59,760 Speaker 1: a lot of other problematic things like willing to go 262 00:13:59,760 --> 00:14:01,480 Speaker 1: to a third world country, like what is that about? 263 00:14:01,520 --> 00:14:04,200 Speaker 1: And then there was one interesting component where it was 264 00:14:04,240 --> 00:14:06,960 Speaker 1: like they said, like, you know, are you single married girlfriend? 265 00:14:07,000 --> 00:14:10,960 Speaker 1: One guy was seventy percent single whatever that means. I'm 266 00:14:10,960 --> 00:14:12,360 Speaker 1: sure his girlfriend is thrilled. 267 00:14:12,840 --> 00:14:17,080 Speaker 2: It's this a joke, now, jo No, and why did 268 00:14:17,080 --> 00:14:19,000 Speaker 2: they publish it? I have so many questions. 269 00:14:19,120 --> 00:14:22,200 Speaker 1: Yes, so I honestly I think that obviously the guy 270 00:14:22,200 --> 00:14:24,080 Speaker 1: who published it wanted to show, hey, look at me, 271 00:14:24,160 --> 00:14:27,200 Speaker 1: I make three million dollars a year, you know, And 272 00:14:27,600 --> 00:14:29,160 Speaker 1: he later on came back on and said, oh, you 273 00:14:29,200 --> 00:14:31,560 Speaker 1: guys are so sensitive. It's an inside joke. Now, here's 274 00:14:31,600 --> 00:14:35,280 Speaker 1: the thing about inside jokes. They're meant for inside. TikTok 275 00:14:35,360 --> 00:14:39,640 Speaker 1: is outside. And maybe Bobby doesn't want everybody to know 276 00:14:39,800 --> 00:14:42,880 Speaker 1: or his business, or even your friends for people to 277 00:14:42,920 --> 00:14:45,160 Speaker 1: know their business. Because some friends, you know, you have 278 00:14:45,240 --> 00:14:48,480 Speaker 1: their real names on here how much they make, and 279 00:14:48,640 --> 00:14:50,720 Speaker 1: you know, if they're in a relationship, you know, the 280 00:14:50,760 --> 00:14:53,400 Speaker 1: person with the friend, the person in the seventy percent 281 00:14:53,440 --> 00:14:57,120 Speaker 1: relationship with with that person might be like oh wow, 282 00:14:57,640 --> 00:15:00,000 Speaker 1: And so I don't know, I think raking your friend 283 00:15:00,120 --> 00:15:02,960 Speaker 1: it seemed less like, because here's the thing to me, 284 00:15:03,040 --> 00:15:06,360 Speaker 1: if it was really Mandy, for like, hey, Mandy, you 285 00:15:06,480 --> 00:15:08,240 Speaker 1: and ten of our friends we're trying to decide on 286 00:15:08,320 --> 00:15:10,840 Speaker 1: vacations every year. Why can't you just say, in the 287 00:15:10,840 --> 00:15:14,400 Speaker 1: beginning of the year, here's my vacation budget. Now, yes, 288 00:15:14,520 --> 00:15:16,280 Speaker 1: having knowing how much you make whatever something that we 289 00:15:16,360 --> 00:15:19,120 Speaker 1: might talk about. But to pretend like this sheet is 290 00:15:19,160 --> 00:15:21,200 Speaker 1: to figure out if we can go on vacation. I 291 00:15:21,200 --> 00:15:23,480 Speaker 1: don't need to know how much you make, you know, 292 00:15:24,080 --> 00:15:26,680 Speaker 1: if I'm just figuring out your vacation budget, you know, 293 00:15:27,160 --> 00:15:27,920 Speaker 1: like you might say. 294 00:15:27,720 --> 00:15:29,680 Speaker 2: It can't even matter how much you make. It's more 295 00:15:29,720 --> 00:15:33,560 Speaker 2: about what's your cash flow, what's your Never salary is 296 00:15:33,560 --> 00:15:36,480 Speaker 2: not the whole story. We're so obsessed with salary. 297 00:15:36,160 --> 00:15:38,680 Speaker 1: Yes we are. And it's just and I just thought 298 00:15:38,680 --> 00:15:42,120 Speaker 1: the fact that like calling somebody broke Bobby, it's just 299 00:15:42,200 --> 00:15:45,240 Speaker 1: also too It's like, are we quantifying how important our 300 00:15:45,280 --> 00:15:47,800 Speaker 1: friends are to us? It seems like you get to 301 00:15:47,800 --> 00:15:49,840 Speaker 1: be at the top of the wrong if you make 302 00:15:49,880 --> 00:15:52,040 Speaker 1: the most, but you might be like the worst friend 303 00:15:52,760 --> 00:15:55,119 Speaker 1: or like the friend that's like you know, least available, 304 00:15:55,280 --> 00:15:58,480 Speaker 1: or you know, like it's just yeah, you know and 305 00:15:58,520 --> 00:16:02,040 Speaker 1: I just was like, wow, so yeah, so broke Bobby's 306 00:16:02,080 --> 00:16:04,160 Speaker 1: trending for all the wrong reasons. And it's just I 307 00:16:04,280 --> 00:16:06,800 Speaker 1: just thought like, oh, so the guy's name is he's 308 00:16:06,800 --> 00:16:09,640 Speaker 1: a real estate agent. His name is Tom Cruise, and 309 00:16:09,760 --> 00:16:11,400 Speaker 1: I just think, quite honestly, he wanted people to see 310 00:16:11,400 --> 00:16:14,120 Speaker 1: how much he makes. And he said, like, for example, 311 00:16:14,200 --> 00:16:16,520 Speaker 1: he said, I if the trip and I get this. 312 00:16:16,600 --> 00:16:18,680 Speaker 1: If there's gonna be a trip that's going to cost 313 00:16:18,760 --> 00:16:21,120 Speaker 1: ten thousand dollars and a friend only wanted to spend five, 314 00:16:21,160 --> 00:16:23,240 Speaker 1: he wouldn't invite them. But you don't need all this 315 00:16:23,360 --> 00:16:26,840 Speaker 1: back information in order to know. That's just something to ask, Hey, 316 00:16:26,880 --> 00:16:28,520 Speaker 1: this trip is going to cost five do you want 317 00:16:28,520 --> 00:16:31,560 Speaker 1: to come? That's it, And then people can decide from 318 00:16:31,560 --> 00:16:33,720 Speaker 1: themselves versus you trying to publicly shame them so you 319 00:16:33,720 --> 00:16:35,400 Speaker 1: can say, hey, look at me, I make good money. 320 00:16:36,240 --> 00:16:37,960 Speaker 2: This one goes out to all that broke Bobby. It's 321 00:16:37,960 --> 00:16:43,800 Speaker 2: the broke Brenda's the broke Brandon's out there. But the 322 00:16:43,880 --> 00:16:46,400 Speaker 2: dynamic in your friend group, and not even in friends group, 323 00:16:46,480 --> 00:16:50,240 Speaker 2: but in family groups, when your income starts to surpass 324 00:16:50,320 --> 00:16:54,240 Speaker 2: a certain like starts to surpass what's normal in your group. 325 00:16:54,720 --> 00:16:57,840 Speaker 2: I mean that can make things awkward. And I even 326 00:16:57,920 --> 00:17:01,560 Speaker 2: like had posted about this recently. The more transparent I've 327 00:17:01,600 --> 00:17:04,600 Speaker 2: become about my income, I have had people reach out 328 00:17:04,640 --> 00:17:07,399 Speaker 2: to me, like even friends or just randos from the internet, 329 00:17:07,440 --> 00:17:09,960 Speaker 2: which is fine, and ask you know, aren't you worried 330 00:17:09,960 --> 00:17:12,720 Speaker 2: about people knowing your net worth or how much you 331 00:17:12,760 --> 00:17:15,840 Speaker 2: make or that you're successful and whatnot? And I guess 332 00:17:15,840 --> 00:17:19,560 Speaker 2: I just made a decision that I'm not worried. And 333 00:17:19,600 --> 00:17:22,520 Speaker 2: their insinuation is that once people know how much you make, 334 00:17:22,560 --> 00:17:24,919 Speaker 2: they're just going to come and ask you for things, 335 00:17:25,040 --> 00:17:27,080 Speaker 2: you know, ask for money. That has not been my 336 00:17:27,160 --> 00:17:31,359 Speaker 2: situation at all. But even if it were, what else 337 00:17:31,480 --> 00:17:34,360 Speaker 2: is the money for if not to create a comfortable 338 00:17:34,359 --> 00:17:36,560 Speaker 2: life and to help others you know, when I need it. 339 00:17:36,600 --> 00:17:38,680 Speaker 2: Call me a dirty liberal socialist whatever you want to 340 00:17:38,720 --> 00:17:42,080 Speaker 2: call me, but I'm not here to I'm not here 341 00:17:42,080 --> 00:17:44,119 Speaker 2: to hide it as if there's only enough for me 342 00:17:44,200 --> 00:17:47,359 Speaker 2: and there's not enough for anyone else. Like the whole point, 343 00:17:47,400 --> 00:17:52,360 Speaker 2: And I think what can be inspiring to a way 344 00:17:52,359 --> 00:17:54,119 Speaker 2: of looking at so if you're the broke Bobby and 345 00:17:54,160 --> 00:17:57,639 Speaker 2: your friend group, instead of maybe comparing yourself and feeling down, 346 00:17:58,160 --> 00:18:00,920 Speaker 2: look at it more as Okay, this is what's possible, 347 00:18:01,000 --> 00:18:03,720 Speaker 2: and maybe I should ask so and so some questions 348 00:18:03,720 --> 00:18:06,800 Speaker 2: about how they approach their finances or do they even 349 00:18:07,280 --> 00:18:09,720 Speaker 2: you know, you make three million dollars a year? Do 350 00:18:09,760 --> 00:18:12,520 Speaker 2: you like your job? Are you happy? Those are the 351 00:18:12,600 --> 00:18:14,920 Speaker 2: questions I'd be asking on top of that, you know, 352 00:18:14,640 --> 00:18:15,440 Speaker 2: do you maybe. 353 00:18:15,280 --> 00:18:17,480 Speaker 1: Are you guys hiding? Shoot? Because if you're taking home 354 00:18:17,520 --> 00:18:19,880 Speaker 1: for you a million, you know, my assumption is your 355 00:18:19,880 --> 00:18:23,320 Speaker 1: business is maybe making twenty million, you know. And so 356 00:18:23,800 --> 00:18:28,000 Speaker 1: you're right. I don't think inherently having a sheet or 357 00:18:28,040 --> 00:18:30,200 Speaker 1: talking about your finances your friends is a bad thing. 358 00:18:30,680 --> 00:18:34,040 Speaker 1: I think using it as a way to shame and 359 00:18:34,119 --> 00:18:36,800 Speaker 1: say I am inherently better than you because I make more. 360 00:18:36,920 --> 00:18:39,439 Speaker 1: That's not true. Yeah, that's is not true. You're not 361 00:18:39,480 --> 00:18:42,040 Speaker 1: in you know, because that was the tone. Like I 362 00:18:42,080 --> 00:18:44,920 Speaker 1: look at Brooke, Bobby. He can't go anywhere with us, 363 00:18:45,000 --> 00:18:48,120 Speaker 1: he he And it's just like that's your friend, that's 364 00:18:48,119 --> 00:18:50,960 Speaker 1: your manson them. What if they call the others the 365 00:18:50,960 --> 00:18:53,680 Speaker 1: welfare the welfare ten, anybody who made less. 366 00:18:53,480 --> 00:18:57,920 Speaker 2: Than welfare ten. That's highly offensive to anyone who's ever 367 00:18:57,960 --> 00:19:01,440 Speaker 2: gotten public benefits, because they're that's just stupid and offensive. 368 00:19:01,920 --> 00:19:04,320 Speaker 2: I mean, this also reminds me of that that guy 369 00:19:04,359 --> 00:19:07,840 Speaker 2: on TikTok who goes around to people's big mansions and 370 00:19:07,920 --> 00:19:10,760 Speaker 2: knocks on their door and says, oh hi. You know, 371 00:19:10,920 --> 00:19:12,359 Speaker 2: first of all, he had to be white. There's no 372 00:19:12,359 --> 00:19:12,600 Speaker 2: way to. 373 00:19:15,119 --> 00:19:18,560 Speaker 1: Imagine call the police like the neighbors across the. 374 00:19:18,560 --> 00:19:21,480 Speaker 2: Streets, just like the little the little curtain moves or 375 00:19:21,600 --> 00:19:23,680 Speaker 2: no one ever comes. But anyway, he's a nice guy. 376 00:19:23,720 --> 00:19:25,240 Speaker 2: I just want to know what you do for a living. 377 00:19:25,240 --> 00:19:28,520 Speaker 2: Your home is so beautiful and it bothers me so 378 00:19:28,760 --> 00:19:31,720 Speaker 2: damn much. And I and it took me a while 379 00:19:31,760 --> 00:19:34,160 Speaker 2: to realize why this series pissed me off so much. 380 00:19:34,160 --> 00:19:36,600 Speaker 2: And it's just because it doesn't matter what kind of 381 00:19:36,600 --> 00:19:40,040 Speaker 2: house you have. There are plenty of millionaires next door 382 00:19:40,160 --> 00:19:45,320 Speaker 2: who do not have the spectacular mansions. And I wish why, Yeah, 383 00:19:45,359 --> 00:19:47,800 Speaker 2: I wish that he would knock on some regular ass 384 00:19:47,800 --> 00:19:50,960 Speaker 2: people's homes and say, hey, what's your net worth? Or 385 00:19:51,240 --> 00:19:53,439 Speaker 2: just knock on the mansion, you know, knock on the 386 00:19:53,440 --> 00:19:57,000 Speaker 2: people's mansion and say, just wondering, you know, what's your 387 00:19:57,040 --> 00:20:00,399 Speaker 2: cash flow? Like, are you are your house poor? I 388 00:20:00,400 --> 00:20:02,840 Speaker 2: know they're not gonna tell, but it just gives us 389 00:20:02,880 --> 00:20:06,119 Speaker 2: perception that and still in America, like this idealization of 390 00:20:06,160 --> 00:20:10,560 Speaker 2: like the home being the like the trophy of all 391 00:20:10,600 --> 00:20:14,920 Speaker 2: trophies for success, and how so many people's version of success. 392 00:20:15,119 --> 00:20:17,280 Speaker 2: You could have a millionaire living in a tiny home, 393 00:20:17,640 --> 00:20:19,800 Speaker 2: you know, or a tree house in the in the 394 00:20:19,880 --> 00:20:23,240 Speaker 2: forest or whatever. I just I don't like it because 395 00:20:23,240 --> 00:20:26,639 Speaker 2: I feel like it does proliferate that idea that wealth 396 00:20:26,960 --> 00:20:32,679 Speaker 2: is home ownership and spectacular homeownership is the way to wealth, 397 00:20:32,720 --> 00:20:34,800 Speaker 2: because that is just not the case. 398 00:20:34,720 --> 00:20:39,560 Speaker 1: Yes, or that's a that's a result of because I mean, 399 00:20:40,400 --> 00:20:42,280 Speaker 1: I guess I could have a mansion if I wanted it. 400 00:20:42,320 --> 00:20:44,600 Speaker 1: I don't know that I'll have to live in a mansion. Certainly, 401 00:20:44,640 --> 00:20:47,199 Speaker 1: this is probably not our final house, but maybe the 402 00:20:47,240 --> 00:20:50,560 Speaker 1: next house, you know. And the only thing different I like, 403 00:20:50,600 --> 00:20:53,000 Speaker 1: the size of this house is twenty two hundred square feet, 404 00:20:53,000 --> 00:20:55,800 Speaker 1: which is not huge. It's only three of us, and 405 00:20:55,840 --> 00:20:57,800 Speaker 1: the Lista's gonna be going away to college soon, so 406 00:20:57,840 --> 00:20:59,160 Speaker 1: it's gonna be like two of us. So I don't 407 00:20:59,200 --> 00:21:01,040 Speaker 1: want some huge base. I never see my husband. But 408 00:21:01,680 --> 00:21:03,840 Speaker 1: we went to a house this weekend and their house 409 00:21:03,920 --> 00:21:05,159 Speaker 1: was about the same size of ours. And that they 410 00:21:05,160 --> 00:21:06,560 Speaker 1: had a pool, and I was like, you know, what 411 00:21:06,680 --> 00:21:09,399 Speaker 1: if when we do get a next house, I would 412 00:21:09,440 --> 00:21:11,000 Speaker 1: like a pool because the pool was really nice. It 413 00:21:11,080 --> 00:21:13,879 Speaker 1: was in ground and it was salt water. It was 414 00:21:13,880 --> 00:21:15,240 Speaker 1: just a record pool. But she just switched it out 415 00:21:15,240 --> 00:21:17,440 Speaker 1: for salt water. But I thought, hmmm, because I grew 416 00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:19,160 Speaker 1: up with a big backyard and I kind of missed 417 00:21:19,160 --> 00:21:21,159 Speaker 1: that because we don't have a big backyard here with 418 00:21:21,280 --> 00:21:24,800 Speaker 1: grass and stuff, and so ours is all paved and 419 00:21:24,880 --> 00:21:28,760 Speaker 1: so that's probably like the next move because I think 420 00:21:29,600 --> 00:21:31,640 Speaker 1: one of the reasons why I've been spending less time 421 00:21:31,640 --> 00:21:33,400 Speaker 1: on social media. So if you've been following me lately, 422 00:21:33,480 --> 00:21:35,600 Speaker 1: you know that, like I've been doing lives when I 423 00:21:35,600 --> 00:21:39,760 Speaker 1: feel like it. But at the at the suggestion of 424 00:21:39,800 --> 00:21:42,920 Speaker 1: doctor Green, my coach and she's also a therapist, she said, 425 00:21:43,600 --> 00:21:45,560 Speaker 1: you know, like cause I was just like, I've just 426 00:21:46,040 --> 00:21:47,960 Speaker 1: I go on social media and then you see terrible 427 00:21:48,000 --> 00:21:52,080 Speaker 1: things like someone's being killed or harassed, or people are 428 00:21:52,080 --> 00:21:54,320 Speaker 1: posting in ways it's just not edifying to me anymore. 429 00:21:54,320 --> 00:21:56,000 Speaker 1: It used to be so much fun, but it's not. 430 00:21:56,119 --> 00:21:58,960 Speaker 1: But I told her I missed like teaching, you know, 431 00:21:59,040 --> 00:22:00,919 Speaker 1: and lives where they're one of the main ways that 432 00:22:00,960 --> 00:22:02,640 Speaker 1: I used to like teach. If I learned a lesson, 433 00:22:02,640 --> 00:22:04,760 Speaker 1: I would teach it, whether it's financial education lesson, a 434 00:22:04,840 --> 00:22:07,879 Speaker 1: lesson in business. And she suggested why not go live 435 00:22:08,520 --> 00:22:12,000 Speaker 1: and then come off? And I tried, but I found 436 00:22:12,000 --> 00:22:13,919 Speaker 1: myself like, you know, like cause it's almost like, you know, 437 00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:16,400 Speaker 1: it's that one bag of chips. So then I try this. 438 00:22:16,520 --> 00:22:18,400 Speaker 1: I go live, and then I actually take the app 439 00:22:18,400 --> 00:22:21,960 Speaker 1: off my phone, so I uninstall the app, so it 440 00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:25,240 Speaker 1: for me to go scroll again, I have to like 441 00:22:25,400 --> 00:22:28,760 Speaker 1: go actively install it, and so that's helped tremendously. So 442 00:22:28,800 --> 00:22:30,920 Speaker 1: I have found myself going live more and more. So 443 00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:32,679 Speaker 1: I've been doing like cause I get a lot of 444 00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:36,040 Speaker 1: requests for people to mentor for me to mentor people, 445 00:22:36,680 --> 00:22:39,399 Speaker 1: and I'm like, yeah, I don't have as much capacity, 446 00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:41,919 Speaker 1: but during the lives, because I don't say them to 447 00:22:41,960 --> 00:22:43,240 Speaker 1: the I just go live and I come off. I 448 00:22:43,240 --> 00:22:46,160 Speaker 1: don't save them to the feed. During the lives, I've 449 00:22:46,240 --> 00:22:48,680 Speaker 1: just been doing like mentorship and it's been so much 450 00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:51,520 Speaker 1: fun where somebody will like, you know, send me a 451 00:22:51,600 --> 00:22:54,280 Speaker 1: question about there. Typically for me, most of my lives 452 00:22:54,359 --> 00:22:58,480 Speaker 1: revolve around personal finance and but largely business you know, 453 00:22:58,560 --> 00:23:01,520 Speaker 1: and I get to answer these questions that normally I 454 00:23:01,520 --> 00:23:04,360 Speaker 1: would only have like about five mentees that I talk 455 00:23:04,440 --> 00:23:06,840 Speaker 1: to on a weekly basis. And so I've just been 456 00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:10,480 Speaker 1: really enjoying it and that's been my way to kind 457 00:23:10,480 --> 00:23:12,840 Speaker 1: of like protect my peace but then doing something that 458 00:23:12,920 --> 00:23:15,639 Speaker 1: I really enjoy which is like this kind of like 459 00:23:15,680 --> 00:23:19,000 Speaker 1: digital mentorship viaized. But then I get to jump off 460 00:23:19,040 --> 00:23:21,119 Speaker 1: and like, you know, take my you know, take myself 461 00:23:21,119 --> 00:23:23,000 Speaker 1: off Instagram and let the team do what they do. 462 00:23:24,600 --> 00:23:27,920 Speaker 1: So yeah, I just there has to be ways around 463 00:23:28,040 --> 00:23:30,160 Speaker 1: figuring out how you get to show up for you 464 00:23:30,600 --> 00:23:33,040 Speaker 1: so you can be a millionaire and say I don't 465 00:23:33,040 --> 00:23:36,040 Speaker 1: want the big house. I feel like it's so hard 466 00:23:36,080 --> 00:23:38,800 Speaker 1: for us to be cause people, you know, we all 467 00:23:38,880 --> 00:23:42,119 Speaker 1: kind of follow the trends and sometimes it's really not 468 00:23:42,200 --> 00:23:46,320 Speaker 1: to our benefit, you know. Like I had to ask myself, Okay, Tiffany, 469 00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:48,320 Speaker 1: like you want to I always say baby millionaire, but 470 00:23:48,320 --> 00:23:49,760 Speaker 1: I only say that because it makes me uncomfortable. But 471 00:23:49,840 --> 00:23:51,240 Speaker 1: the truth is I'm not a baby millionaire. I'm just 472 00:23:51,280 --> 00:23:55,760 Speaker 1: a millionaire millionaire, you know, And like, okay, and I 473 00:23:55,800 --> 00:23:57,679 Speaker 1: don't necessarily want the big old house. And I'm like, 474 00:23:57,760 --> 00:24:01,040 Speaker 1: is that wrong? I have like, like literally, I was 475 00:24:01,040 --> 00:24:03,879 Speaker 1: picking up a young woman from the train station who 476 00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:06,520 Speaker 1: wanted to be my mentee, and she said, what does 477 00:24:06,560 --> 00:24:08,520 Speaker 1: she say, because my car is a two thousand and 478 00:24:08,560 --> 00:24:11,840 Speaker 1: I want to say fifteen or sixteen Lincoln MKZ right. 479 00:24:12,040 --> 00:24:16,480 Speaker 2: Fer standards, it's a luxury. Yeah, because you were driving 480 00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:19,760 Speaker 2: glorified scrap metal before for real. 481 00:24:19,840 --> 00:24:23,760 Speaker 1: But she was like, wow, you are so humble. I 482 00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:25,960 Speaker 1: was like, what do you mean? She was like this car. 483 00:24:26,080 --> 00:24:31,480 Speaker 1: I was like, meanwhile, I was like, I'm not Evenna. 484 00:24:31,240 --> 00:24:34,080 Speaker 2: Just said nothing. I was trying to be humble. 485 00:24:34,119 --> 00:24:36,439 Speaker 1: I was like, like, my car, this is I'm not 486 00:24:36,480 --> 00:24:39,200 Speaker 1: making a humble statement. I was like, but this car 487 00:24:39,359 --> 00:24:41,240 Speaker 1: is cute though it's sporting. 488 00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:44,679 Speaker 2: You called the budgetista. It's in your title, okay. 489 00:24:45,440 --> 00:24:48,520 Speaker 1: But she was making like a statement like look at 490 00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:51,199 Speaker 1: me a little broke down core out here. And I 491 00:24:51,320 --> 00:24:55,600 Speaker 1: was like, get out my car. But no, But I want. 492 00:24:55,800 --> 00:24:57,760 Speaker 1: What I'm wanting for everyone is to kind of decide 493 00:24:57,760 --> 00:24:59,959 Speaker 1: for themselves how they want their life to go, despot 494 00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:03,639 Speaker 1: what your bank account might say. You know, now, if 495 00:25:03,640 --> 00:25:06,120 Speaker 1: your bank accounts holding you back, I'm living their life 496 00:25:06,119 --> 00:25:07,680 Speaker 1: that you want. Obviously, you want to make a move there, 497 00:25:07,720 --> 00:25:10,679 Speaker 1: but yeah, I just and for me it just pulling 498 00:25:10,680 --> 00:25:14,639 Speaker 1: off social media. It's helping me become more aware of 499 00:25:14,880 --> 00:25:17,080 Speaker 1: how do you actually want to live, Tiffany, despite what 500 00:25:17,119 --> 00:25:19,680 Speaker 1: your bank account might say, like how do you align that? 501 00:25:19,800 --> 00:25:24,720 Speaker 2: You know, I discovered a very handy tool if you 502 00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:26,479 Speaker 2: do not want to have to go through the trouble 503 00:25:26,520 --> 00:25:28,840 Speaker 2: of deleting apps or whatnot, and if you have some 504 00:25:29,720 --> 00:25:33,080 Speaker 2: amount of self control on your iPhone, at least you 505 00:25:33,119 --> 00:25:35,960 Speaker 2: can set a time limit for your apps. So I've 506 00:25:36,040 --> 00:25:38,840 Speaker 2: now set a one hour TikTok and a one hour 507 00:25:38,920 --> 00:25:41,840 Speaker 2: Instagram limit, and it is embarrassing to me how quickly 508 00:25:41,880 --> 00:25:45,960 Speaker 2: I reach it. For example, when I wake up in 509 00:25:46,000 --> 00:25:47,680 Speaker 2: the middle of the night for whatever reason and I 510 00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:49,600 Speaker 2: can't go back to sleep, I usually get on TikTok 511 00:25:49,680 --> 00:25:53,320 Speaker 2: and then yesterday it was like it wasn't even daylight yet, 512 00:25:53,359 --> 00:25:56,840 Speaker 2: and it's like, your limit has been reached for the day. Meanwhile, 513 00:25:56,880 --> 00:26:00,120 Speaker 2: I know I had some tiktoks. Most later you're like, say, 514 00:26:00,920 --> 00:26:04,000 Speaker 2: how I just really like extraction videos. But anyway, so 515 00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:06,840 Speaker 2: that's a good hack and it has saved me because 516 00:26:06,880 --> 00:26:10,600 Speaker 2: my screen time between that and uh Rio wanting to 517 00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:12,840 Speaker 2: use my phone to watch TV all the time to 518 00:26:12,880 --> 00:26:16,040 Speaker 2: watch Pepa. My screen time was like seven hours a day. 519 00:26:16,280 --> 00:26:19,240 Speaker 1: And I was like, you know, he's gonna have an accent now, 520 00:26:19,760 --> 00:26:21,719 Speaker 1: but you know you remember all the kids that we are. 521 00:26:22,560 --> 00:26:25,119 Speaker 2: Oh he's not, but we will because we go around 522 00:26:25,119 --> 00:26:28,800 Speaker 2: the house just yelling dad, day peg, take out the garbage. 523 00:26:29,600 --> 00:26:32,400 Speaker 2: I'm just like, yeah, my niece. 524 00:26:32,640 --> 00:26:35,399 Speaker 1: I'm always like, are you Canadian? Because a million my 525 00:26:35,440 --> 00:26:38,080 Speaker 1: niece's four, her accent is like what are you watching? 526 00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:41,000 Speaker 1: So my sister calls it ratchet baby TV. She's like, 527 00:26:41,040 --> 00:26:42,960 Speaker 1: a million likes ratchet baby TV. I'm like, what is 528 00:26:43,040 --> 00:26:46,439 Speaker 1: ratchet baby TV? So apparently there's like reality shows but 529 00:26:46,520 --> 00:26:49,640 Speaker 1: for babies who like, you know, like so she likes 530 00:26:49,640 --> 00:26:51,520 Speaker 1: to watch like like you know, like if you're watching 531 00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:53,600 Speaker 1: Real Housewives, it's like grown women doing row women things. 532 00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:56,119 Speaker 1: So she will. There are shows where kids who were 533 00:26:56,119 --> 00:26:58,720 Speaker 1: her age play with toys and interact with each other 534 00:26:58,760 --> 00:27:01,320 Speaker 1: that there are four and five, and so she doesn't 535 00:27:01,359 --> 00:27:03,440 Speaker 1: like roam in. Her brother, who six, likes to watch 536 00:27:03,600 --> 00:27:06,280 Speaker 1: educational TV, but she's like, no, I want to see 537 00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:08,560 Speaker 1: these kids play these tools. Oh, look at them in 538 00:27:08,600 --> 00:27:13,160 Speaker 1: the pool. Okay, splash. I call it ratchet baby TV. 539 00:27:13,200 --> 00:27:15,080 Speaker 1: I'm like, but you need to learn something. She's like, 540 00:27:15,119 --> 00:27:20,159 Speaker 1: I want to see my friends. But yeah, but no, 541 00:27:20,240 --> 00:27:23,919 Speaker 1: it's just really like, yeah, it's interesting, how you know, 542 00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:26,040 Speaker 1: sometimes you can wake up and find that you might 543 00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:28,920 Speaker 1: not be living actually your life, just someone else's idea 544 00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:32,639 Speaker 1: of life and resetting because social media really almost encourages that. 545 00:27:33,000 --> 00:27:35,200 Speaker 1: And so whatever your tools are, whether it's your off 546 00:27:35,200 --> 00:27:37,639 Speaker 1: social medium, for the most part, you have that timer. 547 00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:40,000 Speaker 1: Like Mandy said, I wanted there's a timer y'all. Let 548 00:27:40,080 --> 00:27:42,800 Speaker 1: us know. Is there a timer like that for androids? 549 00:27:43,000 --> 00:27:43,719 Speaker 1: I wonder if there is. 550 00:27:43,760 --> 00:27:46,840 Speaker 2: TikTok itself has a time or functional in the app. Yeah, 551 00:27:46,880 --> 00:27:50,000 Speaker 2: in the settings you can. And they also not that 552 00:27:50,040 --> 00:27:52,879 Speaker 2: I know, but if you're scrolling in the wee hours 553 00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:55,720 Speaker 2: of the morning, they actually will still one of the 554 00:27:55,800 --> 00:27:59,240 Speaker 2: videos you get will eventually be Hey, you don't worry, 555 00:27:59,280 --> 00:28:00,679 Speaker 2: those videos will be either tomorrow. 556 00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:04,040 Speaker 1: When does she go to bed? I know you're like. 557 00:28:04,240 --> 00:28:10,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, and I'm like, let me good night, TikTok. Just 558 00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:15,760 Speaker 2: one more extraction video, pimple pop yo, I'm not gonna 559 00:28:16,240 --> 00:28:18,679 Speaker 2: can don't get me started. Okay, we only have so 560 00:28:18,760 --> 00:28:19,600 Speaker 2: much time for this show. 561 00:28:20,520 --> 00:28:21,959 Speaker 1: I love extraction videos. 562 00:28:22,720 --> 00:28:26,960 Speaker 2: But I am obsessed. There's something so satisfying about the 563 00:28:27,119 --> 00:28:31,639 Speaker 2: really good ones and doctor pimple Popper I know, but 564 00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:33,720 Speaker 2: she doesn't update fast enough, so I need I go 565 00:28:33,840 --> 00:28:36,400 Speaker 2: to like I go to like the discount section of TikTok. 566 00:28:38,360 --> 00:28:41,280 Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm just like, what are you doing? Where 567 00:28:41,280 --> 00:28:45,120 Speaker 1: are your gloves? Where's your tools? I'm like, but yeah, no, 568 00:28:45,240 --> 00:28:47,080 Speaker 1: I don't. That is so strange that people like are obsessed. 569 00:28:47,080 --> 00:28:49,840 Speaker 1: You would never know. Social media has brought like remember 570 00:28:49,880 --> 00:28:52,240 Speaker 1: a s m R. No one knew, and then social 571 00:28:52,280 --> 00:28:54,000 Speaker 1: media brought that to the forefront. Like yo, there are 572 00:28:54,000 --> 00:28:59,959 Speaker 1: people who that sound. All of that makes you. 573 00:28:59,720 --> 00:29:02,280 Speaker 2: Start fiending for it around midnight if I'm still awake 574 00:29:02,360 --> 00:29:04,080 Speaker 2: and it's like, let me get let me see a 575 00:29:04,080 --> 00:29:09,120 Speaker 2: couple ingrown hairs. It's disgusting, all right. 576 00:29:09,960 --> 00:29:12,080 Speaker 1: That that's what we make The transition to a brin 577 00:29:12,200 --> 00:29:24,160 Speaker 1: boosting and breaking. Okay, now it's time to boost up. 578 00:29:24,520 --> 00:29:28,760 Speaker 1: Oh boost up, oh boost oh break, oh boot break. 579 00:29:28,880 --> 00:29:31,840 Speaker 1: For those who don't know, many like real rhythm, okay, 580 00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:35,280 Speaker 1: oh yeah yeah, I also did. I saw you dancing 581 00:29:35,320 --> 00:29:37,080 Speaker 1: on tick I said, oh that's right, man. He show 582 00:29:37,160 --> 00:29:39,000 Speaker 1: them that you hear the beat, you feel the beat, 583 00:29:39,040 --> 00:29:39,880 Speaker 1: you move to the beat. 584 00:29:39,880 --> 00:29:42,720 Speaker 2: Okay, tell me you did zoomba all through college without 585 00:29:42,760 --> 00:29:47,560 Speaker 2: telling me. Yeah, I have the rhythm of like a 586 00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:49,960 Speaker 2: nice like your you know, sixty year old aunt. 587 00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:52,120 Speaker 1: No, no, you got good with them. I'm like, no, no, no, 588 00:29:52,120 --> 00:29:53,600 Speaker 1: don't don't do that to yourself. You got good with it, 589 00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:58,320 Speaker 1: I said, look at man, so thank you. Except are 590 00:29:58,320 --> 00:30:01,400 Speaker 1: we gonna boost? Are you going to to break on? Today? 591 00:30:02,000 --> 00:30:04,080 Speaker 2: I would like to do a boost and a break 592 00:30:04,120 --> 00:30:05,880 Speaker 2: please scuse you? 593 00:30:05,920 --> 00:30:10,000 Speaker 1: Got me doing now? All right? Pepa? Come on, PEPs. 594 00:30:11,560 --> 00:30:15,760 Speaker 2: That is so embarrassing. I cannot even Oh my god, 595 00:30:15,800 --> 00:30:17,400 Speaker 2: my cousin's gonna give me so much shit for that, 596 00:30:17,560 --> 00:30:21,160 Speaker 2: because oh, we're just like, we can't become these people. Anyway. 597 00:30:21,200 --> 00:30:23,480 Speaker 2: I want to do a boost first and foremost, because 598 00:30:23,480 --> 00:30:26,160 Speaker 2: we're on the TikTok theme. I have got to boost 599 00:30:26,520 --> 00:30:31,120 Speaker 2: my favorite TikToker, Alexis Nicole, the black female forager on 600 00:30:31,240 --> 00:30:36,240 Speaker 2: TikTok Woman. She is. She is a gift. She is 601 00:30:36,280 --> 00:30:38,520 Speaker 2: a gift to the universe. I cannot wait for her 602 00:30:38,560 --> 00:30:41,400 Speaker 2: cooking show on Netflix. I'm going to manifest it for her, 603 00:30:41,880 --> 00:30:44,920 Speaker 2: but she will she literally, I mean, and first of all, 604 00:30:45,040 --> 00:30:47,320 Speaker 2: she is just entertaining as hell, because she runs out 605 00:30:47,360 --> 00:30:50,800 Speaker 2: into nature or her backyard or your backyard or these 606 00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:57,240 Speaker 2: random street corners and finds edible food, finds edible plants, plants, fungi, 607 00:30:57,280 --> 00:30:59,960 Speaker 2: all this stuff and flowers and whatnot. And she comes 608 00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:01,640 Speaker 2: back and she does like a mini cooking show, and 609 00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:04,240 Speaker 2: she'll cook something like a plant cracker or like a 610 00:31:04,280 --> 00:31:08,000 Speaker 2: seaweed cracker or whatever. But she is so entertaining and 611 00:31:08,080 --> 00:31:11,760 Speaker 2: so full of life and energy and just joy. And 612 00:31:11,880 --> 00:31:13,880 Speaker 2: what I love most about her is that I was. 613 00:31:14,000 --> 00:31:14,360 Speaker 1: I was. 614 00:31:14,520 --> 00:31:16,640 Speaker 2: I took Rio on a bike ride the other day. 615 00:31:16,680 --> 00:31:19,000 Speaker 2: I just you know, down this just regular bike path 616 00:31:19,080 --> 00:31:22,720 Speaker 2: near our house, and I was so happy being on 617 00:31:22,760 --> 00:31:24,800 Speaker 2: a bike with my son for one thing. But I 618 00:31:24,880 --> 00:31:27,760 Speaker 2: was looking at these weeds and these like things growing, 619 00:31:27,800 --> 00:31:30,680 Speaker 2: and I'm like, oh, is that it is that Queen 620 00:31:30,720 --> 00:31:34,120 Speaker 2: Anne's lace. I could make some fried cauliflower, you know, 621 00:31:34,640 --> 00:31:37,960 Speaker 2: substitute with that, you know, or I'm seeing, you know, 622 00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:40,640 Speaker 2: even just on my walk, She's making me look and 623 00:31:40,800 --> 00:31:43,760 Speaker 2: enjoy nature in a way that I hadn't been doing 624 00:31:43,800 --> 00:31:46,960 Speaker 2: it so far. So she's truly educating Alexis Nicole. If 625 00:31:47,000 --> 00:31:49,360 Speaker 2: you don't follow her, she's on Tiktoks. 626 00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:51,080 Speaker 1: And she's someone she has an institute because I feel 627 00:31:51,080 --> 00:31:51,720 Speaker 1: like I've seen. 628 00:31:51,560 --> 00:31:54,160 Speaker 2: Her probably I feel like everyone kind of repost stuff 629 00:31:54,160 --> 00:31:57,200 Speaker 2: from TikTok on Insta, but TikTok is where she lives, 630 00:31:57,320 --> 00:32:00,840 Speaker 2: and she's so funny and smart. And The New York 631 00:32:00,880 --> 00:32:03,560 Speaker 2: Times had featured her recently in a story about the 632 00:32:03,960 --> 00:32:07,960 Speaker 2: resurgence of foraging and all that. Yeah, love it, love it, 633 00:32:08,080 --> 00:32:12,120 Speaker 2: go ahead, And then just a quick breaking break because 634 00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:16,800 Speaker 2: I struck a bit of a chord when I was pitching. 635 00:32:16,880 --> 00:32:19,520 Speaker 2: And so I'm a Yahoo Finance contributor. Now I mean 636 00:32:19,560 --> 00:32:23,400 Speaker 2: not to speaking back, not to sneak another boost in there, 637 00:32:23,440 --> 00:32:26,360 Speaker 2: but I was pitching ideas because now I'm going to 638 00:32:26,400 --> 00:32:28,880 Speaker 2: be writing an article that I want to write which 639 00:32:28,920 --> 00:32:31,080 Speaker 2: is so exciting, so topics that I like, and then 640 00:32:31,120 --> 00:32:35,360 Speaker 2: also appearing on their Yahoo Finance Live segment once a week. 641 00:32:35,640 --> 00:32:38,000 Speaker 2: And anyway, I was pitching ideas. Struck a little bit 642 00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:40,680 Speaker 2: of a chord this week because people still are hung 643 00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:43,720 Speaker 2: up on this myth that job hopping switching jobs is 644 00:32:43,760 --> 00:32:47,160 Speaker 2: going to make you unemployable, and that recruiters will look 645 00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:49,280 Speaker 2: at your resume and be like, ooh, I don't know 646 00:32:49,480 --> 00:32:52,800 Speaker 2: five jobs and ten years. Can't trust this one. She's shifty. 647 00:32:53,520 --> 00:32:56,200 Speaker 2: And I'm excited to do the story because I'm ready 648 00:32:56,240 --> 00:32:59,800 Speaker 2: to bust this myth. Wide open, wide open. I have 649 00:32:59,840 --> 00:33:04,080 Speaker 2: had seven jobs in ten years, seven and I have 650 00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:06,680 Speaker 2: not I haven't quit all of them. I quit most 651 00:33:06,680 --> 00:33:09,800 Speaker 2: of them. I was laid off once. That sucked. But 652 00:33:10,120 --> 00:33:13,120 Speaker 2: you definitely can job hop. And what I'm trying to 653 00:33:13,120 --> 00:33:15,520 Speaker 2: get a what I'm trying to get across is that 654 00:33:15,680 --> 00:33:19,360 Speaker 2: one corporate America would love or not any I mean 655 00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:22,240 Speaker 2: just anyone who relies on employees for their work, nonprofit, 656 00:33:22,320 --> 00:33:25,680 Speaker 2: small business, big corporations, they would love if we believe this, 657 00:33:25,880 --> 00:33:28,120 Speaker 2: because it means that we'll be reliable and we're gonna 658 00:33:28,120 --> 00:33:30,719 Speaker 2: stick around. So I'm not. And first of all, as 659 00:33:30,760 --> 00:33:33,239 Speaker 2: a hiring manager who hired dozens of people and used 660 00:33:33,280 --> 00:33:35,720 Speaker 2: to run a team, I get it. It sucks when 661 00:33:36,040 --> 00:33:37,760 Speaker 2: people quit and you have to go and do the 662 00:33:37,800 --> 00:33:40,440 Speaker 2: work of recruiting all over again. That is part and 663 00:33:40,480 --> 00:33:44,840 Speaker 2: parcel with being a manager and having a business. But 664 00:33:44,920 --> 00:33:49,120 Speaker 2: from the employees perspective, it is so important to job hop, 665 00:33:49,600 --> 00:33:52,600 Speaker 2: not just because you have you stand to earn such 666 00:33:52,640 --> 00:33:55,240 Speaker 2: big pay raises when you job from when you jump 667 00:33:55,280 --> 00:33:57,520 Speaker 2: from one job to the next, but you have to 668 00:33:57,560 --> 00:34:00,560 Speaker 2: put your career ambitions and your career goals, and if 669 00:34:00,560 --> 00:34:02,320 Speaker 2: you are not getting what you need from a job, 670 00:34:02,600 --> 00:34:05,880 Speaker 2: you shouldn't let this idea that a future hiring manager 671 00:34:05,960 --> 00:34:08,680 Speaker 2: may worry about you leaving a job keep you in 672 00:34:08,719 --> 00:34:11,760 Speaker 2: a bad situation, not getting the you know, not getting 673 00:34:11,800 --> 00:34:13,919 Speaker 2: the investment in your career and your skills that you need, 674 00:34:14,160 --> 00:34:16,920 Speaker 2: working in a toxic environment, you know, working in a 675 00:34:16,920 --> 00:34:19,560 Speaker 2: place where you don't feel accepted or your ideas you 676 00:34:19,600 --> 00:34:22,719 Speaker 2: know are not appreciated, you need to get out of there. 677 00:34:23,239 --> 00:34:26,600 Speaker 2: The key. The key is so if you're a hiring 678 00:34:26,640 --> 00:34:28,520 Speaker 2: manager and I'm not going to say that I didn't 679 00:34:29,000 --> 00:34:30,839 Speaker 2: look at a resume when I was hiring, and maybe 680 00:34:30,840 --> 00:34:33,440 Speaker 2: Tiffany you have too, and see, you know, okay, so 681 00:34:33,520 --> 00:34:35,719 Speaker 2: many jobs you were there for six months here, nine 682 00:34:35,760 --> 00:34:39,480 Speaker 2: months there. I might ask what happened because I'm interested, 683 00:34:39,960 --> 00:34:42,240 Speaker 2: But you need to be prepared to have a true, 684 00:34:42,480 --> 00:34:45,759 Speaker 2: honest story of why you left. And I think that 685 00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:49,640 Speaker 2: telling that story is what is going to help you 686 00:34:49,880 --> 00:34:53,200 Speaker 2: remove any little, you know, whisper of doubt that could 687 00:34:53,200 --> 00:34:56,280 Speaker 2: be in the recruiter's mind. If you don't have a good, honest, 688 00:34:56,320 --> 00:34:59,960 Speaker 2: compelling story. If it's just I don't really like that much, 689 00:35:00,360 --> 00:35:02,680 Speaker 2: or you know, I wasn't sure, I don't really want 690 00:35:02,680 --> 00:35:05,480 Speaker 2: to do that anymore. Like if you're wishy washy, that 691 00:35:05,600 --> 00:35:07,360 Speaker 2: in and of itself would turn me off as a 692 00:35:07,400 --> 00:35:11,640 Speaker 2: hiring manager. But if you were very confident and you said, oh, okay, well, 693 00:35:11,640 --> 00:35:13,879 Speaker 2: in that one job, I was really excited to try 694 00:35:13,880 --> 00:35:16,200 Speaker 2: this new skill set and I was told that wasn't 695 00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:17,920 Speaker 2: something that I could do in my existing role, so 696 00:35:17,960 --> 00:35:20,200 Speaker 2: I had to pivot and move to a new company. 697 00:35:20,320 --> 00:35:23,160 Speaker 2: Or you know, in this particular role, I was up 698 00:35:23,160 --> 00:35:26,880 Speaker 2: for promotion, I was passed over for X y Z reason, 699 00:35:26,960 --> 00:35:29,440 Speaker 2: So I'm really looking to take the next you know, 700 00:35:29,520 --> 00:35:32,719 Speaker 2: look for a new career challenge. So like, tell a compelling, 701 00:35:33,320 --> 00:35:37,080 Speaker 2: honest story, and that whole myth that you're going to 702 00:35:37,160 --> 00:35:40,560 Speaker 2: be you know, penalized or you know, your resume is 703 00:35:40,600 --> 00:35:41,880 Speaker 2: just going to be pushed to the bottom of the 704 00:35:41,920 --> 00:35:44,279 Speaker 2: pile because you you moved around a lot. It's just 705 00:35:44,640 --> 00:35:49,240 Speaker 2: it's it's Bosky or bo Hockey. 706 00:35:49,280 --> 00:35:50,799 Speaker 1: As we said, you know who you should look up, 707 00:35:50,880 --> 00:35:53,759 Speaker 1: look look to. Like, So I remember ad we tried 708 00:35:53,760 --> 00:35:57,960 Speaker 1: to cover for Bosama st John. She's the CMO of Netflix, 709 00:35:57,960 --> 00:36:00,520 Speaker 1: and that's not home girl, habo. I know we got 710 00:36:00,600 --> 00:36:01,960 Speaker 1: to do our live sim girl. I won't forget. I've 711 00:36:01,960 --> 00:36:06,839 Speaker 1: forgotten so ad. We had a shady clickbait title talking 712 00:36:06,880 --> 00:36:10,759 Speaker 1: about Bosama Saint John new CMO of Netflix, the woman 713 00:36:10,800 --> 00:36:12,600 Speaker 1: that can't stay in place or something like that, because 714 00:36:12,600 --> 00:36:14,359 Speaker 1: she's had four jobs. I think it's like five years 715 00:36:14,400 --> 00:36:16,759 Speaker 1: or something to that effect. And I was like, when 716 00:36:16,800 --> 00:36:21,000 Speaker 1: I love how the Black Women contingency rose up, was like, 717 00:36:21,280 --> 00:36:24,759 Speaker 1: not on today? Will you come from both? Not bos 718 00:36:25,120 --> 00:36:28,280 Speaker 1: She's one of the sweetest, kindest, most genuine people. Despite 719 00:36:28,280 --> 00:36:31,560 Speaker 1: all this, She's accomplished that I've ever met. And so, yeah, 720 00:36:31,640 --> 00:36:35,360 Speaker 1: they dragged, we banged them against the wall and a 721 00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:39,520 Speaker 1: week you know, ended apologizing, ended up apologizing and like 722 00:36:39,600 --> 00:36:44,160 Speaker 1: re I guess rewording their terrible title of the article. 723 00:36:44,320 --> 00:36:46,600 Speaker 1: Yeah and so, but yeah, she's a great one to 724 00:36:46,640 --> 00:36:48,399 Speaker 1: watch because you see as she I mean, she's worked 725 00:36:48,400 --> 00:36:52,560 Speaker 1: everywhere from ubern as CMO, from Endeavor and there was 726 00:36:52,600 --> 00:36:56,320 Speaker 1: a huge, a huge what is those companies called the 727 00:36:56,400 --> 00:37:02,040 Speaker 1: represent like celebrities like publicist, no agency agency. Yeah, it's 728 00:37:02,080 --> 00:37:05,879 Speaker 1: like but like huge celebrities are at Endeavor She also 729 00:37:05,960 --> 00:37:09,200 Speaker 1: came from Apple, where she really blew up as a 730 00:37:09,239 --> 00:37:11,600 Speaker 1: result because she she spoke on stage at Apple like 731 00:37:11,680 --> 00:37:14,120 Speaker 1: during one of their like launches whatever, and she I 732 00:37:14,120 --> 00:37:16,120 Speaker 1: think she was like with Apple Music in particular, but 733 00:37:16,320 --> 00:37:17,880 Speaker 1: both of them is amazing. And you see some of 734 00:37:17,920 --> 00:37:21,200 Speaker 1: the major companies that she's come from, and she's hot 735 00:37:21,800 --> 00:37:25,280 Speaker 1: because people have requested her presence because at that level, 736 00:37:25,440 --> 00:37:28,600 Speaker 1: you're not applying randomly. They're literally tapping you on your 737 00:37:28,600 --> 00:37:31,400 Speaker 1: shoulders say please come here. We have a coin that 738 00:37:31,480 --> 00:37:34,600 Speaker 1: we'd like to give you because in exchange for your brilliance. 739 00:37:34,880 --> 00:37:37,520 Speaker 1: So yeah, that's just I think I can't wait to 740 00:37:37,880 --> 00:37:39,960 Speaker 1: read it and I can't wait to see you. Yeah 741 00:37:39,960 --> 00:37:41,160 Speaker 1: who yeah, yeah. 742 00:37:40,920 --> 00:37:45,480 Speaker 2: Who Wednesday that one pm Eastern stating her time. I 743 00:37:45,520 --> 00:37:48,320 Speaker 2: love But yes, I love that example too because just 744 00:37:48,360 --> 00:37:52,120 Speaker 2: real quick, like the point that you made, tell that 745 00:37:52,160 --> 00:37:54,480 Speaker 2: as part of your story. Oh yeah, I've been really 746 00:37:54,560 --> 00:37:57,400 Speaker 2: fortunate to get so many great opportunities because of my 747 00:37:57,800 --> 00:38:01,040 Speaker 2: particular set of skill sets. I mean, is ultimately why 748 00:38:01,080 --> 00:38:04,200 Speaker 2: I switch jobs seven times in ten years. And there's 749 00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:06,239 Speaker 2: no shame in that. Just tell the truth and say 750 00:38:06,280 --> 00:38:08,719 Speaker 2: it with your chest, like, just be confident, you know, 751 00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:12,080 Speaker 2: be confident in your story, make like they won't challenge 752 00:38:12,080 --> 00:38:15,160 Speaker 2: you on it, I promise you. So I'm excited about that. 753 00:38:15,160 --> 00:38:17,799 Speaker 1: That's awesome. So my boost is like just really like 754 00:38:18,120 --> 00:38:22,880 Speaker 1: it's kind of light. So I had been really enjoying mentorship. 755 00:38:22,920 --> 00:38:25,600 Speaker 1: It was so crazy because when I came back from 756 00:38:26,120 --> 00:38:29,080 Speaker 1: my six weeks off the Hyataughs if you will, I 757 00:38:29,120 --> 00:38:32,160 Speaker 1: remember one of the things I like, doctor Green had 758 00:38:32,200 --> 00:38:34,280 Speaker 1: me write down kind of like what does my ideal 759 00:38:34,560 --> 00:38:36,080 Speaker 1: kind of like week and day and stuff look like? 760 00:38:36,080 --> 00:38:37,360 Speaker 1: And I said, I would really like to take on 761 00:38:37,440 --> 00:38:39,920 Speaker 1: more mentees. I just don't have the time, you know, 762 00:38:40,160 --> 00:38:41,600 Speaker 1: Like I would really like to teach more, I just 763 00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:44,239 Speaker 1: don't have the time. And she was like, hmmm, I 764 00:38:44,280 --> 00:38:46,319 Speaker 1: don't believe that. And so I started to really look 765 00:38:46,360 --> 00:38:49,440 Speaker 1: at my schedule and make them make changes. And as 766 00:38:49,440 --> 00:38:52,160 Speaker 1: a result, I really do have Wednesdays light where I 767 00:38:52,160 --> 00:38:55,440 Speaker 1: don't take any phone calls or any any no interviews, 768 00:38:55,480 --> 00:38:59,040 Speaker 1: no nothing on Wednesdays, no meetings and Fridays off. But 769 00:38:59,160 --> 00:39:00,759 Speaker 1: I can use those days do whatever it is that 770 00:39:00,840 --> 00:39:03,399 Speaker 1: I want. And I found myself. So I started off 771 00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:07,799 Speaker 1: pre hiatus with three three core mentees and now I've 772 00:39:07,800 --> 00:39:10,239 Speaker 1: got like an additional three, and I'm like, I thought 773 00:39:10,280 --> 00:39:12,480 Speaker 1: I didn't have the time, but that just was not true. 774 00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:14,480 Speaker 1: And when I tell you, I'm enjoying myself so much, 775 00:39:14,520 --> 00:39:17,359 Speaker 1: Mandy like, I just like my mentees don't put anything 776 00:39:17,400 --> 00:39:21,439 Speaker 1: in my pocket. I just love seeing like them do well. 777 00:39:21,480 --> 00:39:23,520 Speaker 1: So I love being not just a mentor but also 778 00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:27,640 Speaker 1: a sponsor. So a mentor is I'm here to give 779 00:39:27,640 --> 00:39:29,680 Speaker 1: you advice. Ideally, you want a mentor that's maybe ten 780 00:39:29,719 --> 00:39:32,080 Speaker 1: steps ahead of you and they're like, ooh, chid Ben, 781 00:39:32,120 --> 00:39:33,759 Speaker 1: they've done that. Oh don't do that, don't do that, 782 00:39:34,040 --> 00:39:36,920 Speaker 1: you know, like or like, you know, here's some advice. 783 00:39:36,960 --> 00:39:39,799 Speaker 1: Here's what I think right before you know taping today. 784 00:39:39,800 --> 00:39:41,359 Speaker 1: That's why I was a little bit running a little late. 785 00:39:41,360 --> 00:39:43,640 Speaker 1: I was just wrapping up with my mentee because she 786 00:39:43,719 --> 00:39:45,000 Speaker 1: was letting me know that she had to let go 787 00:39:45,040 --> 00:39:47,800 Speaker 1: of somebody on her team and she didn't want to 788 00:39:47,840 --> 00:39:49,200 Speaker 1: do it. And I was like, that's the fuck, that's okay, 789 00:39:49,239 --> 00:39:50,960 Speaker 1: you know, like, you don't have to let her go. 790 00:39:51,160 --> 00:39:52,880 Speaker 1: It's only gonna get worse. But you ain't gotta let 791 00:39:52,920 --> 00:39:54,480 Speaker 1: her gos this. But you sometimes you just gotta learn. 792 00:39:54,520 --> 00:39:56,080 Speaker 1: And she was like, oh, hold on, it's gonna get 793 00:39:56,080 --> 00:39:58,839 Speaker 1: worse than this. I was like, much worse. How ask 794 00:39:58,920 --> 00:40:02,560 Speaker 1: me how? Psych Yes, but also because I know, because 795 00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:04,280 Speaker 1: I know what it's like to need to let someone 796 00:40:04,320 --> 00:40:07,400 Speaker 1: go and let them stay for months, if not years, 797 00:40:07,440 --> 00:40:09,880 Speaker 1: and then for it to get really terrible and toxic. 798 00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:12,120 Speaker 1: And so we were just I was just telling her that, 799 00:40:12,280 --> 00:40:14,000 Speaker 1: just really proud of her because she finally made the move, 800 00:40:14,040 --> 00:40:17,000 Speaker 1: but in a way that was kind so anyway, like 801 00:40:17,120 --> 00:40:20,239 Speaker 1: I realizing how much I love that, and even like 802 00:40:20,320 --> 00:40:23,520 Speaker 1: one day when I no longer work as budgetista or whatever, 803 00:40:24,000 --> 00:40:26,760 Speaker 1: I would really love to create some sort of fund 804 00:40:27,000 --> 00:40:28,879 Speaker 1: or whatever that doesn't just give you money but also 805 00:40:28,960 --> 00:40:32,080 Speaker 1: gives you guidance. And so in the meantime, that's what 806 00:40:32,120 --> 00:40:35,600 Speaker 1: I've been focusing my IG lives on, is that it's 807 00:40:35,680 --> 00:40:39,280 Speaker 1: just me being a mentor. We talk a little personal finance, 808 00:40:39,320 --> 00:40:43,600 Speaker 1: but mostly talking about business and how you as a 809 00:40:43,640 --> 00:40:47,360 Speaker 1: woman can navigate. Like today the talk was why you 810 00:40:47,360 --> 00:40:50,440 Speaker 1: should build a community before you build a business, and 811 00:40:50,480 --> 00:40:51,880 Speaker 1: like what does that mean and how do you do? 812 00:40:51,920 --> 00:40:54,000 Speaker 1: So so it's just been really like, I don't know, 813 00:40:54,000 --> 00:40:57,239 Speaker 1: my boost is just like being able to show up 814 00:40:57,640 --> 00:41:00,160 Speaker 1: the way I'm wanting. This new mentorship that I'm doing 815 00:41:00,640 --> 00:41:02,880 Speaker 1: like for like the masses. Oh, it's just called that 816 00:41:02,920 --> 00:41:06,160 Speaker 1: mental for the masses. Mental for the masses. 817 00:41:06,600 --> 00:41:08,560 Speaker 2: And how many you're gonna accept them to your new 818 00:41:08,600 --> 00:41:09,640 Speaker 2: mentorship program? 819 00:41:09,920 --> 00:41:12,239 Speaker 1: You know I'm not mass? Yeah no, I'm like, no, 820 00:41:12,239 --> 00:41:15,840 Speaker 1: we're not doing what I am doing, Tiffany. I'm like, 821 00:41:17,400 --> 00:41:18,800 Speaker 1: I don't want I still got budget. 822 00:41:18,840 --> 00:41:20,560 Speaker 2: You were just giving me so much CREP for my 823 00:41:20,600 --> 00:41:21,600 Speaker 2: free career coaching. 824 00:41:23,160 --> 00:41:25,160 Speaker 1: I'm like, I do not, won't it? That's why I 825 00:41:25,160 --> 00:41:28,000 Speaker 1: do it live. But I will say that, like I 826 00:41:28,120 --> 00:41:30,600 Speaker 1: use this. I'm sure you've heard of like the community app. 827 00:41:31,680 --> 00:41:34,000 Speaker 1: And so if you're like so, because people are like, 828 00:41:34,000 --> 00:41:35,920 Speaker 1: sometimes you go live, Tiffany, how am I supposed to know? 829 00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:37,520 Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't even know what I'm gonna go live, 830 00:41:37,680 --> 00:41:40,080 Speaker 1: but I have been just texting, Hey, I'm going live. 831 00:41:40,560 --> 00:41:43,400 Speaker 1: And so if ever you're like, I want to free mentoring, 832 00:41:43,960 --> 00:41:47,080 Speaker 1: we should do we use community Mandy, what do we use? 833 00:41:47,160 --> 00:41:47,759 Speaker 2: Far do you not? 834 00:41:48,400 --> 00:41:50,960 Speaker 1: We should look into it because it's just a great 835 00:41:51,000 --> 00:41:53,680 Speaker 1: way to let people know. Like it's like and this 836 00:41:53,760 --> 00:41:55,640 Speaker 1: is for anyone listening, this is like a great tool. 837 00:41:56,400 --> 00:41:57,920 Speaker 1: They don't they're not paying us. But I just like 838 00:41:58,000 --> 00:42:00,680 Speaker 1: the tool because it allows me to say. All I 839 00:42:00,760 --> 00:42:03,239 Speaker 1: use community for is to say, hey, I'm about to 840 00:42:03,280 --> 00:42:05,760 Speaker 1: go live right now. There are like four hundred people 841 00:42:06,320 --> 00:42:09,480 Speaker 1: you know who have texted me. The number is nine 842 00:42:09,600 --> 00:42:13,000 Speaker 1: zero eight three seven three eight three three four. You 843 00:42:13,040 --> 00:42:14,799 Speaker 1: text live to that, and that just lets me know 844 00:42:14,840 --> 00:42:16,040 Speaker 1: that everything my goal on to me? 845 00:42:16,239 --> 00:42:18,400 Speaker 2: How do you remember that? But not our email acts. 846 00:42:19,680 --> 00:42:21,640 Speaker 1: Because I've been saying it so much before we got on, 847 00:42:21,800 --> 00:42:26,960 Speaker 1: I was like nine sevens and it's always like, but 848 00:42:27,040 --> 00:42:29,080 Speaker 1: I now I put my text message too in all 849 00:42:29,120 --> 00:42:33,319 Speaker 1: of my like my Instagram like bio, my Facebook bio, 850 00:42:33,440 --> 00:42:35,640 Speaker 1: my Twitter bio. But I've just been really enjoying it 851 00:42:35,680 --> 00:42:38,600 Speaker 1: and it just feels so great because it just feels 852 00:42:38,680 --> 00:42:40,600 Speaker 1: nice to do something just to do something, not for 853 00:42:40,760 --> 00:42:46,000 Speaker 1: some like desired outcome, because the desired outcome literally is 854 00:42:46,040 --> 00:42:49,400 Speaker 1: the thing itself, and so I think I feel like, 855 00:42:49,480 --> 00:42:51,799 Speaker 1: you know, to be reconnected back to that then, like 856 00:42:52,320 --> 00:42:54,239 Speaker 1: just to do a thing because it's enjoyable to do 857 00:42:54,280 --> 00:42:56,239 Speaker 1: a thing, not because there's anything on the back end 858 00:42:56,239 --> 00:42:58,279 Speaker 1: to gain other than this is fun. I'll though I'm 859 00:42:58,280 --> 00:43:00,160 Speaker 1: not gonna lie, and even though I tell people this 860 00:43:00,239 --> 00:43:02,720 Speaker 1: is mentoring, this is it I'm getting way more requests 861 00:43:02,719 --> 00:43:05,399 Speaker 1: for one on one mentorship, and I'm like, h y'all 862 00:43:05,480 --> 00:43:06,879 Speaker 1: was supposed to leave me alone and. 863 00:43:07,000 --> 00:43:12,320 Speaker 2: Just watch the live, just watch the well, oh ready 864 00:43:13,000 --> 00:43:15,680 Speaker 2: until next week? Is this episode two eighty? I love 865 00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:18,759 Speaker 2: a round number. Hope y'all enjoyed. Stay Brown, check us out, 866 00:43:19,040 --> 00:43:21,160 Speaker 2: Stay Brown, check us out? On the social share with 867 00:43:21,200 --> 00:43:23,080 Speaker 2: a friend. Oh, and there was someone I needed to 868 00:43:23,160 --> 00:43:25,960 Speaker 2: shout out because he said that his friend listens to 869 00:43:26,000 --> 00:43:28,600 Speaker 2: the show. She doesn't have Instagram. Wait a second, I 870 00:43:28,640 --> 00:43:30,839 Speaker 2: have to find this. Okay, maybe Sarah had seen it 871 00:43:31,040 --> 00:43:33,480 Speaker 2: because it was so sweet. It was a guy and 872 00:43:33,520 --> 00:43:36,320 Speaker 2: he said, my friend put me on, but she doesn't 873 00:43:36,320 --> 00:43:40,359 Speaker 2: have Instagram. I want to say her name was Bridget. Ah, 874 00:43:40,440 --> 00:43:42,800 Speaker 2: let's just go with Bridget for now and I will 875 00:43:42,920 --> 00:43:45,000 Speaker 2: find it and I will shout her out next week. 876 00:43:45,000 --> 00:43:47,480 Speaker 2: If it's not Bridget, right, well, Bridget for now. 877 00:43:47,760 --> 00:43:49,560 Speaker 1: Yes, thank you for listening, Bridget for now and putting 878 00:43:49,560 --> 00:43:51,839 Speaker 1: your friends on. To remember, we always ask you share 879 00:43:51,800 --> 00:43:55,280 Speaker 1: it with three people. Literally take the link and text 880 00:43:55,320 --> 00:43:57,840 Speaker 1: it to your friends and say you've got to listen. 881 00:43:58,000 --> 00:43:59,520 Speaker 1: I got my whole life this episode. 882 00:43:59,600 --> 00:44:02,000 Speaker 2: So yes, all right, until next week. 883 00:44:02,280 --> 00:44:04,480 Speaker 1: Well, we'll wait until q a b a b a 884 00:44:04,560 --> 00:44:05,680 Speaker 1: q A on Friday. 885 00:44:05,600 --> 00:44:08,320 Speaker 2: Until until Friday. We'll see you Friday. 886 00:44:08,719 --> 00:44:09,879 Speaker 1: Bye boy cock off