Speaker 1: Misspelling with Tori Spelling and iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2: Okay, screw tender, Like when you have Heather McDonald, you
Speaker 2: don't need a dating app.
Speaker 3: So Heather is talking to me all about dating because I.
Speaker 2: Am her newly single friend and we're talking all about
Speaker 2: it here. It is the bonus dating episode.
Speaker 3: You never knew you needed. How you dating anyone? Thank
Speaker 3: you for asking? Now do you want to or no?
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've gotten so used to just being with my
Speaker 2: kids now that I don't know what I could possibly
Speaker 2: be able to give someone else. But it would be
Speaker 2: nice to feel those feelings again, you feel excited about
Speaker 2: like romance or something.
Speaker 1: I think I think where you're at as good. I
Speaker 1: think you just not everybody has to like be with
Speaker 1: somebody and having a lot of friends that have gotten
Speaker 1: divorced at different stages in life, with different stages of
Speaker 1: their kids. I just think you just you know, you
Speaker 1: were with Dean for so long everything. I just think,
Speaker 1: you know, like if it happens, it happens. If you're
Speaker 1: not like, but it can be really fun when the
Speaker 1: time comes. Like my friends that do go on it,
Speaker 1: they're very they're very successful, Like I'm always like there.
Speaker 3: I think a lot of guys.
Speaker 1: Are into women you know that are not twenty five,
Speaker 1: and they do not have trouble getting dates at all.
Speaker 3: Nobody they last into like love.
Speaker 1: No, but like if you do like the abs and stuff,
Speaker 1: but that's hard, you know, your celebrity. So it's like
Speaker 1: but with by other friends like no, Like my friends
Speaker 1: are attractive and put together, but they get a lot
Speaker 1: of I love looking at the thing like a single
Speaker 1: friends and see them and you see what's out there.
Speaker 1: But I think it's also really hard because I think
Speaker 1: I think a guy over fifty who's divorced has it.
Speaker 1: It's got to be the greatest time of their life
Speaker 1: because when you think about it, a guy who's like
Speaker 1: gen X, who's like fifty ish, it was probably really
Speaker 1: hard to get a girlfriend and get laid in high school,
Speaker 1: if not impossible, same thing in college. Then they have
Speaker 1: their wife, you know, for whatever twenty years and then
Speaker 1: they're divorced, and now it's just so easy for them
Speaker 1: to get a girl.
Speaker 3: All they have to do is be.
Speaker 1: Able to you know, own a home, and like every
Speaker 1: girl is like oh okay.
Speaker 2: I think it's like you've got to get a guy
Speaker 2: that that is my soul right.
Speaker 1: Now, you're going to get a guy that's not been
Speaker 1: on that that long.
Speaker 3: I think you keep referring to it.
Speaker 2: Are you talking about the apps and apps apps you
Speaker 2: can't get?
Speaker 3: What do you mean? I can't get somebody without an app?
Speaker 1: Now I'm talking about it, like, yeah, if I refuse
Speaker 1: to do the app, like I think, I mean, I think,
Speaker 1: then I think you get you know, I do think
Speaker 1: like a matchmaker situation, or like I think people are
Speaker 1: going to move more towards like group things, group things,
Speaker 1: like where you actually show up in person single people,
Speaker 1: not group sex. I'm not like where you actually show
Speaker 1: up in person and it's like everybody bring their single friend.
Speaker 1: Like I think people are going to start moving towards that.
Speaker 3: I'm not doing that. I don't know.
Speaker 2: I just honestly, I never thought i'd be fifty two,
Speaker 2: have five kids and suddenly be single. Like it's just
Speaker 2: it's exhausted. You just don't You're a place where you
Speaker 2: just don't have to start over. And I know I'm
Speaker 2: too tired to start over at fifty. You don't need
Speaker 2: to start over.
Speaker 1: Like I have a I have a friend who's dating
Speaker 1: like a much younger guy, and they've been together like
Speaker 1: four years, and she's right off the bat meets anybody,
Speaker 1: She's like, yes, I have a boyfriend that's, you know,
Speaker 1: significantly younger than I am, and this is how we
Speaker 1: met and da da da, And she's like, yeah, I
Speaker 1: know that. People are like, oooh, what's that about? You know,
Speaker 1: She's like, I don't care. Like we have a blast
Speaker 1: and I'm not going to have his child, you know,
Speaker 1: like I'm older, I'm not gonna have his child. We
Speaker 1: have a great time. He's super sweet to me. He's
Speaker 1: not going to like steal my money. And you know,
Speaker 1: if then ten years we're not together, so what Like,
Speaker 1: so what I'm having a person?
Speaker 3: She has to start over again? Now, no, you don't,
Speaker 3: But why do you have to start over? That's the thing.
Speaker 1: Who cares if you if you have ten years with
Speaker 1: like a hot, fun, great guy that treates me really
Speaker 1: sweet from like forty eight to fifty eight when he
Speaker 1: was like in his mid thirties, and then once he
Speaker 1: hits forty and you're like fifty eight, you kind of
Speaker 1: decide to go your own way.
Speaker 3: Because he don't have kids or who knows.
Speaker 1: But so bad is what I'm saying, she already has
Speaker 1: her kids, Charity has her life and her money, so
Speaker 1: why not just be with who's ever fun? Unlike when
Speaker 1: we were like twenty eight to thirty, you were looking
Speaker 1: for that person to have kids with. Yeah, dad had
Speaker 1: enough money or career that could elevate your life. Once
Speaker 1: you're like over fifty, it doesn't really matter. You don't
Speaker 1: need them for anything. But can companionship and sex. So
Speaker 1: it's like, choose what is fun for you? And who
Speaker 1: cares if somebody in the corner, some jealous bitch is
Speaker 1: whispering like, oh, he's only he's only into her because
Speaker 1: you know she has a nice home.
Speaker 3: Who the fuck cares? Who cares?
Speaker 2: That's not going to be happening in the corner. But
Speaker 2: but what if I want, like for okay, so I've
Speaker 2: never dated a musician my whole life, and I was like,
Speaker 2: you know, once I was married, I was like that
Speaker 2: was it, you know, and this is it for me?
Speaker 3: But now I can date a musician.
Speaker 2: But I don't know if I really want to date
Speaker 2: a musician, like at my age or state of mind,
Speaker 2: and I'm not really a music person anyway, I've never
Speaker 2: dated But what if I want.
Speaker 1: When you're not a music person, but you're like, why
Speaker 1: not date a musician just because he thought it was hot?
Speaker 3: Didn't you do? Didn't you date? Now do I talk
Speaker 3: to And again we never dated?
Speaker 1: I thought you guys did date in real life?
Speaker 3: Oh okay, And I know I think I would have.
Speaker 2: He was so we were like best friends, Like where's
Speaker 2: my like Travis Barker and my second like phase in life?
Speaker 3: Like where you know? Like that?
Speaker 2: But then okay, anyway, like I could be that girl,
Speaker 2: like I could be Courtney Kardashian. But I've also never
Speaker 2: dated anyone that was like supremely independently wealthy, like would
Speaker 2: fly me on a private plane and take me to
Speaker 2: like maybe I call it.
Speaker 1: I call it you want a Lauren Sancheza? You want
Speaker 1: a Lauren Sanchez to shit, If you're gonna be with someone,
Speaker 1: it needs to elevate your life to a to be
Speaker 1: worth it, like a private, private private jet type of wealth.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I could. Could that be a possibility. Absolutely, what
Speaker 3: app do you go on for that? It could be
Speaker 3: an ass could be it could you just don't know.
Speaker 1: I mean I feel like, if you meet the right person,
Speaker 1: I don't think girls realize how much power they have
Speaker 1: as far as like, I think we were taught to
Speaker 1: like play hard to get and all that, and I
Speaker 1: don't really think you have to play hard to get,
Speaker 1: not about sex, but just like I think you need
Speaker 1: to show whoever you're interested in that you're interested in them.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but then they have to work too, they have
Speaker 3: to work too.
Speaker 1: But I think you have to show that you like,
Speaker 1: find them interesting, find them funny. These guys like want
Speaker 1: to feel for whatever reason, when you meet someone over fifty,
Speaker 1: like a guy they either was a horrible spouse or
Speaker 1: they had a horrible spouse most likely, so they're either
Speaker 1: a broken human being by a woman that shot on
Speaker 1: them or they broke somebody else. So it's like it's
Speaker 1: gonna be hard, but they're still the same guy that
Speaker 1: you met when we were there's still the same type
Speaker 1: of guys we met when they were twenty five, but
Speaker 1: now they're like fifty five, and so it's just kind
Speaker 1: of like you still can have all that same fun
Speaker 1: and conversation and dating and you're still if you were
Speaker 1: to really get out there, you'd find there was the
Speaker 1: one that was like you had the great chemistry with
Speaker 1: that's the player, the one that's like a little too
Speaker 1: into you that now you're like, I mean, they're all
Speaker 1: the same still there, They're all still from what I've
Speaker 1: like studied for my friends.
Speaker 3: They're all still the same, except instead.
Speaker 1: Of it being nineteen ninety eight and you're at a
Speaker 1: barn Manhattan beach, you're like, you know, going to Soho
Speaker 1: and Malibu and having dinner and you know, and you
Speaker 1: guys have you guys have homes. You know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, wow, So just okay, I say, you just kind
Speaker 2: of have your heart opened.
Speaker 3: But I don't know if I kind of put it
Speaker 3: out there and you just are like, huh, I don't know.
Speaker 3: If I want a guy over fifty, yeah, go for younger,
Speaker 3: maybe like mid to late forties. That sounds fair.
Speaker 2: I've always been with older guys. Not Dean's eight years older.
Speaker 2: It's not like a huge jump. But I'm just saying like.
Speaker 1: That's the other thing, Yeah, Like do you want like
Speaker 1: another Like when I'm married and I like when I
Speaker 1: go like and I see these guys that are not
Speaker 1: my husband that or that age, I'm like, oh my god.
Speaker 1: I think if something happened, I just I don't think
Speaker 1: i'd be pursuing that. I think I would be going
Speaker 1: for the younger person really, because I wouldn't be looking
Speaker 1: to get married again or have kids, or I don't
Speaker 1: I'm not in a financial place where I need to
Speaker 1: like move in with someone. Like I have a friend
Speaker 1: who's been with her boyfriend after her divorce, and she
Speaker 1: had like a lot of boyfriends and then she got
Speaker 1: this great guy. They've been together for like six years.
Speaker 1: They just got engaged and she does she's an executive.
Speaker 1: She does fine in life, and he does too, and
Speaker 1: they are like, we're not gonna get married till his
Speaker 1: youngest is like in college, where she's like, I just
Speaker 1: don't want to deal with that. I don't want to
Speaker 1: be the stepmother. I don't want to like start rearranging
Speaker 1: the house. In the meantime, he's gonna, like, you know,
Speaker 1: start remodeling his house so that in three years when
Speaker 1: they get married, then they can live together. But in
Speaker 1: the meantime, I'm like, I think you're being so smart
Speaker 1: about it, Like why you know, if you financially don't
Speaker 1: need to move in with someone, you don't need to
Speaker 1: sleep with someone every night in the same room.
Speaker 3: I don't think so I'd prefer not to.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so have a boyfriend that you see once in
Speaker 1: a while, or go have sexy weekends or whatever, and
Speaker 1: then all those other nights you just are like by yourself,
Speaker 1: watching your show, scrolling TikTok, just with your kids.
Speaker 3: Okay, my friend, thank you so much. I love you. Yes,
Speaker 3: thank you so much. To see you in person so
Speaker 3: we can talk shit.
Speaker 1: Yes, let's definitely have you come on the show.
Speaker 3: And then we'll go and we'll take.
Speaker 1: The cart and see if we see any cute golfers
Speaker 1: for you.
Speaker 3: Oh, at your country club, we pick me. Yes, okay, okay, okay,
Speaker 3: sounds like good.
Speaker 1: All right, sounds good.