1 00:00:09,400 --> 00:00:12,840 Speaker 1: What's up, y'all. Welcome to this episode of Keep It Positive, Sweetie, 2 00:00:12,840 --> 00:00:16,360 Speaker 1: and today we are talking about dating women of my caliber. 3 00:00:17,520 --> 00:00:18,800 Speaker 2: Y'all. 4 00:00:18,960 --> 00:00:22,400 Speaker 1: This right here is something I've been struggling with, especially 5 00:00:22,400 --> 00:00:26,319 Speaker 1: as I continue to ascend, finding the right man that 6 00:00:26,680 --> 00:00:28,680 Speaker 1: is secure enough, that. 7 00:00:30,240 --> 00:00:33,000 Speaker 2: Is ready to date. 8 00:00:32,840 --> 00:00:36,040 Speaker 1: A woman like me, that is ready to date a 9 00:00:36,080 --> 00:00:39,960 Speaker 1: woman in the industry. It's so many different obstacles that 10 00:00:40,000 --> 00:00:42,560 Speaker 1: I have to go through to find a mate, and 11 00:00:42,880 --> 00:00:44,400 Speaker 1: I just feel like I'm in a place in my 12 00:00:44,479 --> 00:00:49,160 Speaker 1: life where dating is getting harder and harder. Every guy 13 00:00:49,159 --> 00:00:52,199 Speaker 1: that I date, either they start off really good and 14 00:00:52,240 --> 00:00:54,800 Speaker 1: then they see how I'm living and like, oh, I 15 00:00:54,800 --> 00:00:56,080 Speaker 1: can't do this, or I can't keep up. 16 00:00:56,080 --> 00:00:56,680 Speaker 2: I can't do that. 17 00:00:57,040 --> 00:01:00,880 Speaker 1: So I'm always talking about relationship ships to my good 18 00:01:00,920 --> 00:01:08,160 Speaker 1: friends SI Si SI. Here with me. We had a 19 00:01:08,520 --> 00:01:14,280 Speaker 1: very candid conversations about relationships. So side, yes, you've seen me. 20 00:01:14,640 --> 00:01:16,959 Speaker 1: First of all, let's go back back in the time. 21 00:01:17,520 --> 00:01:21,000 Speaker 1: Was it like twenty twelve, twenty thirteen we collaborated on. 22 00:01:21,000 --> 00:01:21,560 Speaker 2: The song together. 23 00:01:21,680 --> 00:01:23,760 Speaker 1: Correct, that was a black history one of your black 24 00:01:23,800 --> 00:01:24,679 Speaker 1: history Yeah? 25 00:01:24,680 --> 00:01:27,600 Speaker 3: I think it was black history too. Yeah, Yeah, that 26 00:01:27,680 --> 00:01:30,360 Speaker 3: was everybody's favorite one. No, it was Black History, one 27 00:01:30,440 --> 00:01:30,839 Speaker 3: was Everybody. 28 00:01:30,920 --> 00:01:31,840 Speaker 2: So that was the one you was on. 29 00:01:32,040 --> 00:01:34,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, so I was on that one did really 30 00:01:34,920 --> 00:01:38,920 Speaker 1: really well. Yes, that's a backstory how we actually met. 31 00:01:39,120 --> 00:01:40,840 Speaker 1: I knew you when you were working with Boo like 32 00:01:40,880 --> 00:01:44,319 Speaker 1: a long time ago, and then you've done things from 33 00:01:44,360 --> 00:01:47,560 Speaker 1: writing for Kanye to who have tell me what. 34 00:01:47,400 --> 00:01:48,080 Speaker 2: You what you do? 35 00:01:48,600 --> 00:01:53,160 Speaker 3: You know, I've written Travis Scott, Kanye's, we worked with 36 00:01:53,240 --> 00:01:57,440 Speaker 3: Drake's to the you know, the high echelon of people. 37 00:01:57,560 --> 00:02:01,440 Speaker 2: But you know, be humble. I love it. 38 00:02:02,480 --> 00:02:04,560 Speaker 1: You are a very of a person, but you are 39 00:02:04,640 --> 00:02:07,800 Speaker 1: so talented. I feel like you are one of the 40 00:02:07,800 --> 00:02:12,119 Speaker 1: most underrated artists of our time, one of the most 41 00:02:12,400 --> 00:02:16,800 Speaker 1: prolific writers. Like the way you write spit like it's 42 00:02:17,840 --> 00:02:24,680 Speaker 1: it's insane. No, you really are like got it seriously, 43 00:02:25,320 --> 00:02:27,120 Speaker 1: and I hope that you like continue to put music 44 00:02:27,120 --> 00:02:28,520 Speaker 1: out bless us because we miss it. 45 00:02:29,240 --> 00:02:30,679 Speaker 2: You album's coming soon. 46 00:02:31,280 --> 00:02:34,880 Speaker 1: There you go, we got here, We got the officials perfect. 47 00:02:35,000 --> 00:02:35,560 Speaker 2: We need it that. 48 00:02:35,880 --> 00:02:39,400 Speaker 1: Let's just have a very candid conversation about how this 49 00:02:39,560 --> 00:02:40,320 Speaker 1: dating life. 50 00:02:40,320 --> 00:02:47,080 Speaker 3: Is well, I think, well, pertainity to yourself. I would say, 51 00:02:47,960 --> 00:02:50,400 Speaker 3: you know, it's it's difficult for people that grew up 52 00:02:50,760 --> 00:02:55,560 Speaker 3: similar to you, like myself, both parents raised with certain values, 53 00:02:56,040 --> 00:02:59,000 Speaker 3: seeing what love really looks like, seeing what family looks 54 00:02:59,080 --> 00:03:02,120 Speaker 3: like in a world where a lot of people don't 55 00:03:02,120 --> 00:03:07,639 Speaker 3: grow up that way. So it's almost a teaching It's 56 00:03:07,639 --> 00:03:12,440 Speaker 3: almost like I would say it like this, you're more 57 00:03:12,480 --> 00:03:15,080 Speaker 3: like Harriet Tubman and you come back. 58 00:03:15,480 --> 00:03:17,600 Speaker 2: You're not gonna just say I'm only gonna save the 59 00:03:17,639 --> 00:03:21,399 Speaker 2: women here. Okay, you may have to save a man 60 00:03:21,480 --> 00:03:22,079 Speaker 2: here as well. 61 00:03:23,560 --> 00:03:27,040 Speaker 3: You can't demasculate him if he's at home watching the 62 00:03:27,120 --> 00:03:29,239 Speaker 3: kids and you're at work, you know what I mean. 63 00:03:29,520 --> 00:03:31,800 Speaker 3: You have to be able to pour that same energy. Oh, 64 00:03:31,840 --> 00:03:34,399 Speaker 3: you want to start a business like most men will 65 00:03:34,440 --> 00:03:36,120 Speaker 3: ask the girl you want to start a business? 66 00:03:36,520 --> 00:03:39,440 Speaker 2: You know what I mean? And I think that's where we. 67 00:03:41,840 --> 00:03:44,680 Speaker 3: Society has said, man, a man should approach a woman 68 00:03:45,600 --> 00:03:49,000 Speaker 3: like a woman like you should approach a man. But 69 00:03:49,160 --> 00:03:54,240 Speaker 3: you gotta think like you, you know, be judicious about it. 70 00:03:54,280 --> 00:03:56,280 Speaker 3: Don't just be out approaching guys. 71 00:03:56,400 --> 00:03:59,000 Speaker 2: But you know what I mean. But if you see 72 00:03:59,040 --> 00:04:00,640 Speaker 2: someone you like, you have. 73 00:04:00,600 --> 00:04:05,320 Speaker 3: A great conversation to be able to hold the conversation 74 00:04:05,360 --> 00:04:08,560 Speaker 3: with him and let him know metaphorically that I think 75 00:04:08,560 --> 00:04:11,160 Speaker 3: you're attractive, yeah, you know what I mean, versus like 76 00:04:11,240 --> 00:04:13,280 Speaker 3: standing off and just laying on him to gain the 77 00:04:13,360 --> 00:04:14,080 Speaker 3: confidence to. 78 00:04:14,160 --> 00:04:15,960 Speaker 2: Like walk up to you. You know what. 79 00:04:16,880 --> 00:04:19,080 Speaker 1: That's why I'm still single, because I'm waiting on him 80 00:04:19,080 --> 00:04:21,120 Speaker 1: to come to meet. They don't approach me. 81 00:04:21,400 --> 00:04:22,760 Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah. 82 00:04:23,200 --> 00:04:25,800 Speaker 1: Sometimes it's funny because a lot of the women that 83 00:04:25,839 --> 00:04:29,960 Speaker 1: I know that are in successful marriages or relationships ended 84 00:04:30,040 --> 00:04:32,600 Speaker 1: up shooting their shot first, and I'm like, oh you 85 00:04:33,120 --> 00:04:34,880 Speaker 1: He's like, yeah, she shot her shot to me, and 86 00:04:35,040 --> 00:04:39,039 Speaker 1: here we are some years later, and I'm like, okay, 87 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:42,160 Speaker 1: so yeah, we've been taught not to approach men. You've 88 00:04:42,160 --> 00:04:45,000 Speaker 1: been taught that a man finds a wife, so it's 89 00:04:45,000 --> 00:04:46,880 Speaker 1: like you don't go searching for him, he comes to 90 00:04:46,880 --> 00:04:49,440 Speaker 1: find you. And a lot of times I feel like 91 00:04:49,440 --> 00:04:51,480 Speaker 1: we miss out our blessing, we misinterpret the word when 92 00:04:51,480 --> 00:04:52,000 Speaker 1: it comes to that. 93 00:04:52,200 --> 00:04:53,240 Speaker 2: It's just so true. 94 00:04:53,600 --> 00:04:58,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, because like I said, you know, I wantn't say 95 00:04:58,160 --> 00:05:03,279 Speaker 3: the beneficiary, but you're in a great advantageous situation where 96 00:05:03,680 --> 00:05:08,320 Speaker 3: you have a great job, great career, great family, great upbringing, 97 00:05:09,120 --> 00:05:15,080 Speaker 3: where you have an abundance, and sometimes you have to 98 00:05:15,120 --> 00:05:18,719 Speaker 3: do philanthropy with men and figure out who's a good 99 00:05:18,760 --> 00:05:23,160 Speaker 3: foundation to donate this this life. 100 00:05:22,920 --> 00:05:24,880 Speaker 2: Too, you know what I'm saying, And. 101 00:05:25,080 --> 00:05:27,800 Speaker 1: Set said you a rapper even when you're talking, Oh, 102 00:05:28,040 --> 00:05:31,440 Speaker 1: you know, it's just you know, my addiction is you know, 103 00:05:32,960 --> 00:05:33,520 Speaker 1: I worked out. 104 00:05:33,520 --> 00:05:35,720 Speaker 3: I couldn't read that well in high school, but hip 105 00:05:35,760 --> 00:05:38,640 Speaker 3: hop would do healthy. So don't ever think that hip 106 00:05:38,640 --> 00:05:42,440 Speaker 3: hop is not a you know, a learning tool. But 107 00:05:42,800 --> 00:05:45,640 Speaker 3: I think that's the biggest thing. It's just you finding 108 00:05:46,040 --> 00:05:52,720 Speaker 3: in ladies. It's only one of me, okay, so. 109 00:05:52,040 --> 00:05:52,479 Speaker 2: One of me. 110 00:05:52,600 --> 00:05:54,839 Speaker 3: So don't think you're just gonna go around and get 111 00:05:54,839 --> 00:05:58,440 Speaker 3: this type of you know, you know, this education, this 112 00:05:58,520 --> 00:06:00,000 Speaker 3: relationship education from anyone. 113 00:06:00,120 --> 00:06:00,840 Speaker 2: This is just me. 114 00:06:01,040 --> 00:06:05,919 Speaker 1: But uh, did you break that line? 115 00:06:06,000 --> 00:06:14,320 Speaker 2: It's a thousand the only one of metem, you know 116 00:06:14,320 --> 00:06:17,240 Speaker 2: what I'm saying. But I think that's what it is. 117 00:06:17,240 --> 00:06:21,200 Speaker 3: It's a it's a and you know, in our community, 118 00:06:21,440 --> 00:06:24,880 Speaker 3: I remember back in the day you had to date 119 00:06:24,920 --> 00:06:30,919 Speaker 3: who you were compatible with in your neighborhood. Now everybody 120 00:06:30,960 --> 00:06:32,440 Speaker 3: has access to the world. 121 00:06:32,600 --> 00:06:36,920 Speaker 4: I was just saying, without working, to be able to 122 00:06:37,160 --> 00:06:40,360 Speaker 4: go and see what was in France, you had to 123 00:06:40,400 --> 00:06:43,680 Speaker 4: be able to afford a flight to get there, get there, 124 00:06:44,360 --> 00:06:48,560 Speaker 4: enjoy yourself versus everybody can go to Saint Bart's with 125 00:06:48,600 --> 00:06:50,080 Speaker 4: you because all you gotta do is go live. 126 00:06:53,640 --> 00:06:55,320 Speaker 2: I don't have to go to Saint Bars Crystal went. 127 00:06:55,400 --> 00:07:00,600 Speaker 2: I just went out was there too. 128 00:07:02,000 --> 00:07:04,840 Speaker 3: So a lot of those things are like I was 129 00:07:04,920 --> 00:07:07,320 Speaker 3: blocking those experiences with. 130 00:07:08,920 --> 00:07:10,240 Speaker 2: The man with someone else. 131 00:07:10,320 --> 00:07:14,200 Speaker 1: So wow, that's real. I was just talking to a 132 00:07:14,240 --> 00:07:19,280 Speaker 1: guy about that, about the over exposure and the endless 133 00:07:19,960 --> 00:07:22,120 Speaker 1: possibilities and like people that you can talk to like 134 00:07:22,160 --> 00:07:24,360 Speaker 1: as soon as your person message, like say friends, we 135 00:07:24,440 --> 00:07:27,480 Speaker 1: were dating and then like you wasn't acting right, It's like, 136 00:07:27,520 --> 00:07:29,360 Speaker 1: oh I got somebody my DM right now. It's like 137 00:07:29,440 --> 00:07:32,400 Speaker 1: so easier place. It's like it leaves no room to 138 00:07:32,480 --> 00:07:34,480 Speaker 1: really like work for things anymore, like you were saying, 139 00:07:35,200 --> 00:07:38,120 Speaker 1: And that's so true because I feel like we live 140 00:07:38,160 --> 00:07:41,400 Speaker 1: in such a time where everything is at our fingertails, 141 00:07:42,160 --> 00:07:43,960 Speaker 1: and at least like when we were growing up, like 142 00:07:44,040 --> 00:07:46,800 Speaker 1: we didn't have that, there was no social media. We 143 00:07:46,920 --> 00:07:51,640 Speaker 1: used to write letters to people like love notes, you know, yo. 144 00:07:51,920 --> 00:07:54,560 Speaker 1: I used to write literally four page letters to my 145 00:07:54,680 --> 00:07:58,320 Speaker 1: little boyfriend when I was in high school. And there's 146 00:07:58,520 --> 00:08:01,040 Speaker 1: that's a lost art, I feel like, because love is 147 00:08:01,040 --> 00:08:02,760 Speaker 1: an ard in itself, and I feel like that we've 148 00:08:02,880 --> 00:08:03,240 Speaker 1: lost that. 149 00:08:04,800 --> 00:08:07,200 Speaker 2: But do you know why you felt like that about him? 150 00:08:08,000 --> 00:08:09,679 Speaker 2: Because he was actually your friend. 151 00:08:11,040 --> 00:08:13,920 Speaker 3: Y'all playing on the playground, y'all going to school, y'all 152 00:08:13,960 --> 00:08:17,440 Speaker 3: run to school, but you don't know that you're attracted 153 00:08:17,480 --> 00:08:18,800 Speaker 3: to him, and he don't know you try to y'all 154 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:21,640 Speaker 3: just growing up together. A lot of times, that's how 155 00:08:22,120 --> 00:08:23,400 Speaker 3: relationship should be. 156 00:08:24,040 --> 00:08:26,200 Speaker 2: I said that y'all should go to the playground together, 157 00:08:26,280 --> 00:08:27,520 Speaker 2: y'all should do things together. 158 00:08:29,280 --> 00:08:31,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, when you meet somebody, you had to come get 159 00:08:31,440 --> 00:08:33,080 Speaker 1: their approval from from your family. 160 00:08:33,240 --> 00:08:33,400 Speaker 2: You know. 161 00:08:33,440 --> 00:08:35,679 Speaker 1: It wasn't like I can't bring you around my people. 162 00:08:36,200 --> 00:08:37,280 Speaker 2: Like you get what I'm saying. 163 00:08:37,280 --> 00:08:39,240 Speaker 1: You really get to know the person, become their friend. 164 00:08:39,320 --> 00:08:40,000 Speaker 2: I always say that. 165 00:08:40,240 --> 00:08:46,160 Speaker 3: But even deeper into approval, it's almost, uh, you almost 166 00:08:46,240 --> 00:08:48,040 Speaker 3: get a lifetime past. 167 00:08:49,760 --> 00:08:50,960 Speaker 2: You don't need the approval. 168 00:08:51,040 --> 00:08:54,560 Speaker 3: See, approval is some If you're inviting the stranger over 169 00:08:55,120 --> 00:08:58,400 Speaker 3: and he's saying, Mom, if your mom already knew this 170 00:08:58,520 --> 00:09:01,679 Speaker 3: guy as your friend, and y'all just happen to get together, 171 00:09:01,840 --> 00:09:02,959 Speaker 3: there's no question about it. 172 00:09:03,040 --> 00:09:03,760 Speaker 2: There's no question. 173 00:09:04,200 --> 00:09:05,960 Speaker 1: Like they're already comfortable, they know you're a good person. 174 00:09:06,000 --> 00:09:09,840 Speaker 1: It's like, oh, that's from down the street, karen Son. 175 00:09:10,600 --> 00:09:12,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's totally different. 176 00:09:12,520 --> 00:09:14,640 Speaker 3: So sometime you gotta throw them in the water, bring 177 00:09:14,720 --> 00:09:18,320 Speaker 3: them to environments whereas other women bring them to, you. 178 00:09:18,360 --> 00:09:20,959 Speaker 2: Know, places that he's never been. Just see how he reacts. 179 00:09:21,160 --> 00:09:23,480 Speaker 2: And you can't look at it like, man, you know, 180 00:09:24,559 --> 00:09:27,040 Speaker 2: I shouldn't have wasted no money on you. It's like, 181 00:09:27,640 --> 00:09:28,680 Speaker 2: what you're gonna do it anyway? 182 00:09:28,760 --> 00:09:32,599 Speaker 3: Buy another bracelet you know what I'm saying, Buy me 183 00:09:32,679 --> 00:09:36,480 Speaker 3: a ticket, bro let me go with y'all, like, and 184 00:09:36,600 --> 00:09:39,280 Speaker 3: then you will see, like, oh, can this guy you 185 00:09:39,400 --> 00:09:43,600 Speaker 3: know interact with you know, the rim of people I'm around? 186 00:09:43,800 --> 00:09:46,240 Speaker 2: Does he know how to handle itself? Is he drinking 187 00:09:46,320 --> 00:09:47,440 Speaker 2: too much out here on this trip? 188 00:09:47,520 --> 00:09:47,559 Speaker 1: Like? 189 00:09:47,600 --> 00:09:51,640 Speaker 3: You can learn a lot about somebody just from an invitation, right, 190 00:09:52,360 --> 00:09:53,080 Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying. 191 00:09:53,520 --> 00:09:55,719 Speaker 2: So always look at it like that. 192 00:09:55,840 --> 00:09:57,959 Speaker 3: Don't look at it as like somebody gotta deserve to 193 00:09:58,080 --> 00:10:02,720 Speaker 3: be in your presence. M Most like I always tell people, 194 00:10:03,200 --> 00:10:05,599 Speaker 3: you don't have to earn my respect, you already have. 195 00:10:05,760 --> 00:10:06,360 Speaker 2: You got to keep it. 196 00:10:06,600 --> 00:10:09,600 Speaker 3: You don't have to earn my love, you already have it. Wow, 197 00:10:10,320 --> 00:10:13,160 Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying, You just gotta keep it yeah, 198 00:10:13,360 --> 00:10:14,599 Speaker 3: you know what I mean. Some people like, man, you 199 00:10:14,640 --> 00:10:18,679 Speaker 3: gotta earn you already got a sweetheart. 200 00:10:18,960 --> 00:10:19,880 Speaker 2: So what do you feel like? 201 00:10:20,080 --> 00:10:22,439 Speaker 1: Are like five things that like I should look for 202 00:10:22,640 --> 00:10:24,880 Speaker 1: in a man, like when it comes to like, okay, 203 00:10:25,080 --> 00:10:26,880 Speaker 1: this is a good guy. Like what do you feel 204 00:10:26,880 --> 00:10:28,079 Speaker 1: like as a man? You feel like these are like 205 00:10:28,200 --> 00:10:30,760 Speaker 1: these are thinking qualities of a good man that I 206 00:10:30,800 --> 00:10:34,480 Speaker 1: should give a chance to. We already know God. 207 00:10:34,640 --> 00:10:35,200 Speaker 2: The spiritual. 208 00:10:35,320 --> 00:10:41,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, spiritual, that's just mean spiritual and God God for man, spirit. 209 00:10:42,679 --> 00:10:46,839 Speaker 2: Seah for sure, for sure. But you know, like when 210 00:10:46,880 --> 00:10:48,880 Speaker 2: I speak spirit it could be religion. 211 00:10:48,960 --> 00:10:52,640 Speaker 3: I would like to say religion because you know, if 212 00:10:52,679 --> 00:10:56,120 Speaker 3: you fear something that's that you can't see, that means 213 00:10:57,040 --> 00:10:59,360 Speaker 3: you know, you're gonna it's like your mama, she might 214 00:10:59,440 --> 00:11:04,920 Speaker 3: you might not she might see you do it. Yeah, 215 00:11:05,200 --> 00:11:10,480 Speaker 3: So spirituality or religion. Then I would think someone that's humble, 216 00:11:12,000 --> 00:11:17,160 Speaker 3: but someone that's also confident, Like for example, a martial 217 00:11:17,280 --> 00:11:20,719 Speaker 3: artist could be humble because he know the pain he 218 00:11:20,760 --> 00:11:23,560 Speaker 3: can inflict to somebody. So that's what I mean by 219 00:11:23,640 --> 00:11:29,280 Speaker 3: humbleness and confidence. You gotta have a little paper. You 220 00:11:29,360 --> 00:11:33,040 Speaker 3: gotta have a little paper, just a little paper that 221 00:11:33,640 --> 00:11:36,400 Speaker 3: because crystal could put you in a place where your little. 222 00:11:36,240 --> 00:11:39,559 Speaker 2: Paper could turn into some big paper multiply. You know 223 00:11:39,600 --> 00:11:42,560 Speaker 2: what I'm saying exactly, it's fruitful, right, you know. 224 00:11:42,559 --> 00:11:43,920 Speaker 3: What I'm saying a lot of people don't know. It 225 00:11:44,040 --> 00:11:46,719 Speaker 3: wasn't an apple, it was a pomegranate. Okay, they have 226 00:11:46,920 --> 00:11:50,360 Speaker 3: multiple season that. Okay, in next and last, but not least, 227 00:11:51,520 --> 00:11:52,640 Speaker 3: I would say taste. 228 00:11:54,920 --> 00:11:56,560 Speaker 2: Taste would taste. 229 00:11:56,360 --> 00:12:00,040 Speaker 3: Would prevent you from doing miscellaneous things that you you 230 00:12:00,080 --> 00:12:00,800 Speaker 3: shouldn't be doing. 231 00:12:00,920 --> 00:12:04,040 Speaker 2: Wow, Like I when there is at the table talking 232 00:12:04,040 --> 00:12:06,880 Speaker 2: about some man, can you take the stream beans off? 233 00:12:07,080 --> 00:12:11,480 Speaker 3: And ordering chicken nuggets at a five star wrestling you 234 00:12:11,640 --> 00:12:14,760 Speaker 3: know he gonna order a thought from back page. 235 00:12:16,240 --> 00:12:19,079 Speaker 2: Your taste level too little? Stop eat something that you 236 00:12:19,120 --> 00:12:21,440 Speaker 2: ain't used to get to eat some cools? Cools? Yeah, 237 00:12:21,679 --> 00:12:23,800 Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying, Try some different things. 238 00:12:23,920 --> 00:12:28,720 Speaker 3: So I think taste humbleness and confidence, a little bit 239 00:12:28,800 --> 00:12:31,680 Speaker 3: of paper and christ. 240 00:12:32,800 --> 00:12:37,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I know it's reread. Yeah. 241 00:12:38,559 --> 00:12:42,000 Speaker 1: Do you feel like men choose monogamy first or they 242 00:12:42,080 --> 00:12:44,720 Speaker 1: find a woman and then decide to be monogamous with her. 243 00:12:47,480 --> 00:12:50,839 Speaker 2: I think it's both. Great. 244 00:12:50,960 --> 00:12:58,160 Speaker 3: Men choose monogamy first, agree, Average men wait and choose 245 00:12:58,200 --> 00:13:01,439 Speaker 3: it once they find a mate. I was raised to 246 00:13:01,559 --> 00:13:04,199 Speaker 3: do the right thing, and that's why I said, like 247 00:13:04,360 --> 00:13:09,960 Speaker 3: sometimes you know a lot of people live for themselves. 248 00:13:10,520 --> 00:13:13,320 Speaker 2: I don't live for myself. Neither is sho anyone live 249 00:13:13,400 --> 00:13:13,960 Speaker 2: for themselves. 250 00:13:14,600 --> 00:13:18,000 Speaker 3: We should live for Christ or whoever your spiritual leader is, 251 00:13:18,800 --> 00:13:22,559 Speaker 3: and what you can contribute to m mankind. 252 00:13:23,520 --> 00:13:25,640 Speaker 2: You know what I mean. And I think that's where 253 00:13:25,720 --> 00:13:27,400 Speaker 2: you find the true piece. 254 00:13:27,480 --> 00:13:30,240 Speaker 3: So when a man comes in a relationship, you know 255 00:13:30,720 --> 00:13:33,120 Speaker 3: he's looking to like, see if I like this girl, 256 00:13:33,840 --> 00:13:35,959 Speaker 3: then out the side. But you have to have that 257 00:13:36,040 --> 00:13:42,080 Speaker 3: in your spirit and be practicing that early, like quick thing. 258 00:13:42,960 --> 00:13:46,160 Speaker 3: I'm in my late thirties. I haven't had a girlfriend 259 00:13:46,240 --> 00:13:49,520 Speaker 3: since my early twenties. Wow, you get what I'm saying. 260 00:13:49,800 --> 00:13:54,160 Speaker 3: And what I what I've learned was I'll be having 261 00:13:54,240 --> 00:13:56,599 Speaker 3: sex with a girl and wouldn't let her know that 262 00:13:56,840 --> 00:13:59,800 Speaker 3: she was the only girl I'm having sex with. W 263 00:14:01,000 --> 00:14:03,280 Speaker 3: just so she stay on her toes. 264 00:14:03,280 --> 00:14:05,320 Speaker 2: I stay on mind. But I'm gonna do the right 265 00:14:05,440 --> 00:14:06,400 Speaker 2: thing regardless. 266 00:14:06,480 --> 00:14:10,040 Speaker 1: But you think that you might not be the only one, Yeah, and. 267 00:14:10,320 --> 00:14:12,040 Speaker 2: Give her the opportunity because I might not be the 268 00:14:12,120 --> 00:14:14,360 Speaker 2: only one for her. It might be somebody better for her. 269 00:14:15,000 --> 00:14:18,280 Speaker 2: See a lot of these a lot of y'all are suckers. 270 00:14:18,520 --> 00:14:20,880 Speaker 3: And I'm gonna tell you why you're a sucker Cause 271 00:14:20,880 --> 00:14:22,600 Speaker 3: you feel like you can go around here and saw 272 00:14:22,640 --> 00:14:25,080 Speaker 3: your royals whatever whoever you want to, But then your 273 00:14:25,240 --> 00:14:27,880 Speaker 3: lady can't do that. M you get what I'm saying. 274 00:14:28,600 --> 00:14:32,440 Speaker 3: And that's where I feel like a lot of relationships 275 00:14:32,520 --> 00:14:37,720 Speaker 3: go wrong. Like like, for instance, I always tell this story. 276 00:14:38,600 --> 00:14:41,440 Speaker 3: If I'm gonna asks my wife who I'm about before I'm. 277 00:14:41,320 --> 00:14:43,800 Speaker 2: At is there any man in the world that you 278 00:14:43,880 --> 00:14:45,720 Speaker 2: would like to be with? 279 00:14:46,520 --> 00:14:50,040 Speaker 3: Any stature? Any we gonna set it up. I'm getting 280 00:14:50,040 --> 00:14:53,280 Speaker 3: the four seasons for you. I'm getting the car service, 281 00:14:53,800 --> 00:14:57,120 Speaker 3: I'm doing everything for you to have this moment. If 282 00:14:57,160 --> 00:14:59,520 Speaker 3: that moment is that special and you feel like you 283 00:14:59,560 --> 00:15:02,120 Speaker 3: can keep up with that moment, I really you have 284 00:15:02,280 --> 00:15:06,000 Speaker 3: that moment, you don't get married at all. 285 00:15:06,160 --> 00:15:07,560 Speaker 1: So like, would you still be with her after that? 286 00:15:07,800 --> 00:15:09,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, if she has that moment and it's like, you know, 287 00:15:09,760 --> 00:15:16,720 Speaker 2: it was cool, but no, no, that's mine. But anything 288 00:15:16,720 --> 00:15:21,920 Speaker 2: you got to keep a leash on, you know what 289 00:15:21,960 --> 00:15:25,360 Speaker 2: I'm saying. So it's like I've just always been that 290 00:15:25,520 --> 00:15:31,360 Speaker 2: kind of guy, because I just know that people are 291 00:15:31,480 --> 00:15:33,320 Speaker 2: flawed and I. 292 00:15:33,320 --> 00:15:35,160 Speaker 3: Don't want to put that much pressure on somebody, and 293 00:15:35,960 --> 00:15:39,840 Speaker 3: something somebody do naturally is what's really important. 294 00:15:40,080 --> 00:15:42,840 Speaker 1: At what point do you feel in the relationship that 295 00:15:42,920 --> 00:15:47,320 Speaker 1: you're comfortable with the roles reversing or even being like 296 00:15:47,680 --> 00:15:49,880 Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, not not being so masculine 297 00:15:49,880 --> 00:15:50,920 Speaker 1: and being more vulnerable. 298 00:15:51,320 --> 00:15:55,840 Speaker 3: Well, I think that is emotion, and I think a 299 00:15:55,960 --> 00:15:59,280 Speaker 3: lot of times women would like for us to vocalize 300 00:15:59,360 --> 00:15:59,840 Speaker 3: that emotion. 301 00:16:01,080 --> 00:16:04,360 Speaker 2: But I think that's where a balance comes. 302 00:16:04,440 --> 00:16:07,840 Speaker 3: Because if a niggas start vocalizing his emotions too much, 303 00:16:08,720 --> 00:16:10,400 Speaker 3: it's like, man, this nigga's a sucker. 304 00:16:11,480 --> 00:16:15,040 Speaker 2: I mean, I'm sorry, I feel I'm sorry. I mean 305 00:16:15,120 --> 00:16:16,960 Speaker 2: to say that, but but why do you feel like that. 306 00:16:17,040 --> 00:16:20,200 Speaker 1: I don't feel like if he I mean, okay, if 307 00:16:20,240 --> 00:16:22,680 Speaker 1: he's like two, you know what I'm saying, almost like 308 00:16:22,880 --> 00:16:24,760 Speaker 1: it's almost okay. You acting like a female at this point? 309 00:16:25,280 --> 00:16:26,600 Speaker 2: But why is that? 310 00:16:26,720 --> 00:16:29,920 Speaker 1: Why why have to be a sucker if they Because my. 311 00:16:30,080 --> 00:16:33,840 Speaker 3: Actions should show my emotions, like I should be able 312 00:16:33,880 --> 00:16:37,240 Speaker 3: to cry if something happens, and you know. 313 00:16:37,320 --> 00:16:40,320 Speaker 2: Why I'm crying. So you don't want to talk about it. 314 00:16:40,880 --> 00:16:43,600 Speaker 2: I mean, what are we talking about. I mean, we 315 00:16:43,680 --> 00:16:46,080 Speaker 2: can't talk about it, but I'm just saying we can 316 00:16:46,160 --> 00:16:49,080 Speaker 2: talk through it. But what I'm saying is when you 317 00:16:49,200 --> 00:16:50,240 Speaker 2: get a man that. 318 00:16:52,160 --> 00:16:54,800 Speaker 3: You allowed to start talking about things, he started coming 319 00:16:54,880 --> 00:16:56,040 Speaker 3: up with excuses instead of. 320 00:16:56,040 --> 00:16:56,640 Speaker 2: Getting it done. 321 00:16:58,200 --> 00:17:00,760 Speaker 3: And you may not see it like that, but it's 322 00:17:00,800 --> 00:17:06,560 Speaker 3: almost like if you allow certain things human natural, like 323 00:17:07,040 --> 00:17:08,840 Speaker 3: if we're trying to be on the diet, but you 324 00:17:08,960 --> 00:17:13,400 Speaker 3: keep bringing foot loops in the house and candy, Eventually 325 00:17:13,400 --> 00:17:16,080 Speaker 3: I'm gonna taste the piece and then that's good. 326 00:17:16,119 --> 00:17:19,040 Speaker 2: I'm gonna taste another piece. Then I'm just keep tasting 327 00:17:19,119 --> 00:17:23,080 Speaker 2: the candy. So it's like, I feel like it's something 328 00:17:23,200 --> 00:17:25,879 Speaker 2: that women just have to. 329 00:17:25,960 --> 00:17:29,000 Speaker 3: Learn how to read and not and speak to me 330 00:17:29,560 --> 00:17:33,720 Speaker 3: when it's not an emotional moment. You get what I'm saying, Like, 331 00:17:34,080 --> 00:17:36,439 Speaker 3: don't ask me what's wrong when I'm crying? 332 00:17:37,840 --> 00:17:41,840 Speaker 2: What's wrong? What you would naturally do your cry? You 333 00:17:41,920 --> 00:17:44,360 Speaker 2: know he's crying, boom boom. A couple days later, you're good. 334 00:17:44,960 --> 00:17:48,320 Speaker 2: I've seen you crying the other day. You straight. I 335 00:17:48,320 --> 00:17:48,800 Speaker 2: don't real that. 336 00:17:48,840 --> 00:17:51,200 Speaker 1: I feel like some men do want their woman to 337 00:17:51,240 --> 00:17:54,240 Speaker 1: be there for them when they are Yeah, hug. 338 00:17:54,160 --> 00:17:57,359 Speaker 3: Me like rub my bag's gonna be okay, able to 339 00:17:57,480 --> 00:18:01,240 Speaker 3: like really like hash it out like you know, worry 340 00:18:01,280 --> 00:18:02,880 Speaker 3: about it. I mean, I don't know if you could 341 00:18:03,720 --> 00:18:06,800 Speaker 3: attest to this, but I just know from my guy, 342 00:18:07,040 --> 00:18:13,480 Speaker 3: from my male friends, it's like we'd rather go through 343 00:18:13,560 --> 00:18:15,960 Speaker 3: what we go through and talk about it later or 344 00:18:16,040 --> 00:18:19,240 Speaker 3: talk about it prior. We don't want to do it 345 00:18:19,440 --> 00:18:24,000 Speaker 3: in the moment while we're vulnerable. I think what it 346 00:18:24,119 --> 00:18:29,000 Speaker 3: really is is how I look at it is. Okay, 347 00:18:29,119 --> 00:18:31,720 Speaker 3: say if I'm having a rough time at my job, right, 348 00:18:32,800 --> 00:18:35,600 Speaker 3: I mean, you can be communicating on that prior to 349 00:18:35,720 --> 00:18:36,600 Speaker 3: me getting fired. 350 00:18:37,560 --> 00:18:40,680 Speaker 2: So once I get fired, you ain't gotta talk to me. 351 00:18:43,760 --> 00:18:46,480 Speaker 3: See, That's what I'm saying, Like when you used to 352 00:18:46,600 --> 00:18:49,920 Speaker 3: talking prior to an issue or after an issue. That 353 00:18:50,040 --> 00:18:52,320 Speaker 3: means y'all have a real bond, y'all have a real friendship. 354 00:18:52,359 --> 00:18:53,400 Speaker 3: You'll have a real conversation. 355 00:18:53,960 --> 00:18:56,960 Speaker 2: So if something go wrong, y'all not sitting there like 356 00:18:57,119 --> 00:18:59,280 Speaker 2: how to fix this or what do we do? We've 357 00:18:59,320 --> 00:19:00,800 Speaker 2: already been up in a way at it. 358 00:19:01,600 --> 00:19:05,040 Speaker 3: As companions. See a lot of times people sit around 359 00:19:05,080 --> 00:19:05,520 Speaker 3: each other. 360 00:19:06,240 --> 00:19:08,600 Speaker 2: And ain't talking, communicate and. 361 00:19:11,680 --> 00:19:11,840 Speaker 1: Play. 362 00:19:13,240 --> 00:19:17,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, y'all just y'all just using each other. Y'all misusing 363 00:19:17,880 --> 00:19:21,399 Speaker 3: each other. Let's say that because it's nothing wrong with 364 00:19:21,600 --> 00:19:25,679 Speaker 3: using someone. It's misusing someone that's the issue. 365 00:19:26,400 --> 00:19:27,040 Speaker 2: And if you're just. 366 00:19:27,080 --> 00:19:31,520 Speaker 3: Sitting around your girl playing video games, you're misusing her time. 367 00:19:33,160 --> 00:19:35,800 Speaker 3: If y'all not building, if y'all not having like I 368 00:19:35,920 --> 00:19:39,840 Speaker 3: have this thing where people kind of with me, right, 369 00:19:40,160 --> 00:19:42,440 Speaker 3: I have a bad thing when people say, man, you know, 370 00:19:43,200 --> 00:19:46,159 Speaker 3: you make it seem like it's all about you, And 371 00:19:46,280 --> 00:19:49,640 Speaker 3: I say, because when you say you my friend, I'm gonna. 372 00:19:49,440 --> 00:19:52,160 Speaker 2: Actually call you actually your advice about stuff. 373 00:19:52,640 --> 00:19:56,560 Speaker 3: Wow, It's just people try to act need something when 374 00:19:56,600 --> 00:20:01,639 Speaker 3: I'm asking you something you today, but see, I've been 375 00:20:01,720 --> 00:20:04,240 Speaker 3: on you ain't called me in two weeks. You could 376 00:20:04,280 --> 00:20:05,959 Speaker 3: have asked me what you're about to ask me when 377 00:20:05,960 --> 00:20:06,560 Speaker 3: I'm calling you. 378 00:20:07,040 --> 00:20:09,440 Speaker 2: But you just feel like, oh, he's a celebrity, I'm 379 00:20:09,440 --> 00:20:10,280 Speaker 2: not gonna call him. 380 00:20:10,480 --> 00:20:12,480 Speaker 3: I don't know if our friendship is real. Is he 381 00:20:12,560 --> 00:20:15,440 Speaker 3: gonna stay on the phone with me and hear my problems? 382 00:20:16,000 --> 00:20:16,160 Speaker 2: Yes? 383 00:20:16,280 --> 00:20:16,560 Speaker 1: I am. 384 00:20:17,119 --> 00:20:20,720 Speaker 2: That's why I'm a friend. I'm not just some kind 385 00:20:20,760 --> 00:20:21,760 Speaker 2: of person that's just. 386 00:20:21,920 --> 00:20:25,080 Speaker 3: Like super busy, you know what I mean, Like you're 387 00:20:25,160 --> 00:20:27,560 Speaker 3: super busy as as well, but you make time for 388 00:20:27,640 --> 00:20:28,280 Speaker 3: people you want to. 389 00:20:28,240 --> 00:20:28,760 Speaker 2: Make time for. 390 00:20:29,800 --> 00:20:33,560 Speaker 3: So that's what we I think in relationships, that's what 391 00:20:33,680 --> 00:20:35,679 Speaker 3: it's about. It's about when you. 392 00:20:35,760 --> 00:20:40,960 Speaker 2: Have that real friendship, you know each other before. 393 00:20:40,720 --> 00:20:44,960 Speaker 3: The emotional moment, before the distraught or the emergency happen. 394 00:20:45,040 --> 00:20:48,080 Speaker 3: You know how I'm gonna react in an emergency because 395 00:20:48,400 --> 00:20:50,280 Speaker 3: we're genuine partners. 396 00:20:50,720 --> 00:20:54,680 Speaker 2: And I think that's the gap or the vulnerability that 397 00:20:55,200 --> 00:20:55,359 Speaker 2: you know. 398 00:20:55,640 --> 00:20:57,840 Speaker 3: She was saying as well, like when do you show 399 00:20:57,880 --> 00:21:01,800 Speaker 3: that emotion, That emotion is your own prior daily and 400 00:21:02,000 --> 00:21:04,360 Speaker 3: after the actual act. 401 00:21:04,440 --> 00:21:07,840 Speaker 2: Or incident that may be a real incident in your life, 402 00:21:08,480 --> 00:21:10,560 Speaker 2: you know what I mean? So if your car breakdown, 403 00:21:11,040 --> 00:21:12,160 Speaker 2: you ain't gonna be distraught. 404 00:21:12,200 --> 00:21:14,560 Speaker 3: You want know why because I know, my dude, finna 405 00:21:14,600 --> 00:21:17,600 Speaker 3: pull up fix this tire or get me a uber 406 00:21:17,720 --> 00:21:19,880 Speaker 3: or get me a Yeah, I ain't. 407 00:21:19,680 --> 00:21:22,080 Speaker 2: Even gonna be stressed, right, but if you know, you 408 00:21:22,160 --> 00:21:26,160 Speaker 2: ain't that company or either. Like I loved your show, 409 00:21:26,480 --> 00:21:28,560 Speaker 2: I mean, am I allowed to say that? Okay? 410 00:21:29,119 --> 00:21:34,119 Speaker 3: I loved the first episode because whoever wrote that wrote 411 00:21:34,160 --> 00:21:37,720 Speaker 3: that for people to have conversation. 412 00:21:38,480 --> 00:21:42,119 Speaker 2: For you to say, go down there and fix that tire. 413 00:21:42,840 --> 00:21:45,560 Speaker 2: To me that y'all ain't had that conversation at home. 414 00:21:45,640 --> 00:21:48,920 Speaker 1: We had not, And that's that's something we're like dealing 415 00:21:49,119 --> 00:21:53,159 Speaker 1: now in the series is communication. And we realized, like 416 00:21:53,240 --> 00:21:54,760 Speaker 1: we really don't talk about a lot of stuff. 417 00:21:55,720 --> 00:21:58,960 Speaker 3: So you know, you work, you come home, you gotta cug, 418 00:21:59,160 --> 00:22:02,119 Speaker 3: you think you know, to have sex and all this 419 00:22:02,280 --> 00:22:07,000 Speaker 3: other stuff. It's like, man, that's a lot on two 420 00:22:07,119 --> 00:22:09,800 Speaker 3: human beings. So that's my biggest thing. Is like friendship 421 00:22:10,840 --> 00:22:12,760 Speaker 3: prepares you for anything in life. 422 00:22:13,480 --> 00:22:15,760 Speaker 1: I agree with that's good, Yeah, really good. 423 00:22:15,960 --> 00:22:20,560 Speaker 2: And friendship is everything. It is to all parts of life. 424 00:22:20,880 --> 00:22:28,320 Speaker 1: That part to all parts of life. We're gonna segue 425 00:22:28,440 --> 00:22:30,080 Speaker 1: into a part of the show that it is called 426 00:22:30,119 --> 00:22:33,760 Speaker 1: positive Outcomes, Okay, where we have someone from our community 427 00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:35,840 Speaker 1: write in and ask us a question. We're going to 428 00:22:35,880 --> 00:22:42,080 Speaker 1: give them advice. Okay, all right, So this one says, Crystal, please, Crystal, please, 429 00:22:42,600 --> 00:22:45,160 Speaker 1: can you tell us what the heck is happening with men? 430 00:22:46,040 --> 00:22:50,199 Speaker 1: I go out with my girlfriends and men don't come 431 00:22:50,320 --> 00:22:55,480 Speaker 1: up to me. I'm with you, girl, same thing. I 432 00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:59,119 Speaker 1: joined dating apps, try that too, and men don't speak 433 00:22:59,359 --> 00:23:02,560 Speaker 1: after we after we match. It's like they want me 434 00:23:02,640 --> 00:23:06,200 Speaker 1: to court them. M that's a good one too. I 435 00:23:06,280 --> 00:23:08,600 Speaker 1: believe a woman should create an environment for a man 436 00:23:08,640 --> 00:23:11,119 Speaker 1: to feel confident enough to approach her, whether it's a 437 00:23:11,200 --> 00:23:12,440 Speaker 1: smile or a sweet flirt. 438 00:23:12,640 --> 00:23:13,480 Speaker 2: But these men just. 439 00:23:13,520 --> 00:23:16,080 Speaker 1: Want us to fully pursue them and be the aggressors. 440 00:23:16,800 --> 00:23:18,800 Speaker 1: I don't know what to do. How can I get 441 00:23:18,920 --> 00:23:19,920 Speaker 1: back to the dating scene? 442 00:23:20,960 --> 00:23:21,400 Speaker 2: Who? Lord? 443 00:23:21,400 --> 00:23:25,280 Speaker 1: Okay, first of all, that was me in twenty It 444 00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:27,920 Speaker 1: actually may have been the top of twenty nineteen. I 445 00:23:27,960 --> 00:23:30,359 Speaker 1: got on the dating site for the first time, and 446 00:23:30,480 --> 00:23:32,480 Speaker 1: I was against it. I was like, I don't know 447 00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:34,840 Speaker 1: who these people are. I'm really big on dating people 448 00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:37,040 Speaker 1: that are referred to me by someone else, like at 449 00:23:37,119 --> 00:23:39,960 Speaker 1: least somebody I has to know the person i'm dating for. 450 00:23:40,080 --> 00:23:42,840 Speaker 2: Really, you know, I can't do it. 451 00:23:43,840 --> 00:23:45,159 Speaker 1: So I tried, you know, I tried. I was like, 452 00:23:45,200 --> 00:23:47,280 Speaker 1: we're gonna try something new. I was trying everything that year. 453 00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:51,000 Speaker 1: It was like Lord, So I tried it and it 454 00:23:51,119 --> 00:23:54,200 Speaker 1: was the same situation as this young lady. I was 455 00:23:54,320 --> 00:23:56,160 Speaker 1: matching with a few people, and then I really wasn't 456 00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:58,400 Speaker 1: seeing a lot. That caught my aunt to even want 457 00:23:58,440 --> 00:24:01,680 Speaker 1: to swipe left whatever it was to like be like 458 00:24:02,040 --> 00:24:03,919 Speaker 1: we're a match. And then the ones I did never 459 00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:06,800 Speaker 1: say anything. The match is like, never said anything. I 460 00:24:06,840 --> 00:24:09,840 Speaker 1: had the same to this is crazy. But what do 461 00:24:09,920 --> 00:24:12,720 Speaker 1: you feel that women need to do? Because I do 462 00:24:12,840 --> 00:24:15,720 Speaker 1: feel like the same as her, that men are waiting 463 00:24:15,760 --> 00:24:18,080 Speaker 1: on us to approach them. They want us to be aggressors. 464 00:24:18,640 --> 00:24:23,360 Speaker 1: The art of pursuing and courting is gone. So from 465 00:24:23,400 --> 00:24:25,360 Speaker 1: a male's perspective, what do you feel like she needs 466 00:24:25,400 --> 00:24:26,400 Speaker 1: to do to get back to dating. 467 00:24:29,600 --> 00:24:38,760 Speaker 3: I think provide the environment, Like everything can't be about you. 468 00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:42,040 Speaker 3: It has to be about the environment because it's the 469 00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:47,280 Speaker 3: environment isn't inviting, then I don't think it sparks the conversation. 470 00:24:48,640 --> 00:24:50,960 Speaker 3: So most of the time when people meet, they say, hey, 471 00:24:51,119 --> 00:24:53,879 Speaker 3: let's go out on the date, versus hey, let's go 472 00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:56,800 Speaker 3: to the skating ring or let's go to a concert. 473 00:24:56,880 --> 00:25:00,480 Speaker 3: Let's go somewhere where the environment is dope. Not just 474 00:25:00,680 --> 00:25:02,879 Speaker 3: me and you there and we're trying to get to 475 00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:05,359 Speaker 3: know each other. You need to just see how he 476 00:25:05,520 --> 00:25:09,640 Speaker 3: is in the environment, because what happened is you'll bring 477 00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:12,280 Speaker 3: a guy that you're according to an environment. Let's just 478 00:25:12,359 --> 00:25:16,040 Speaker 3: say we ain't okay, just say for you, I mean, 479 00:25:16,119 --> 00:25:18,040 Speaker 3: I mean, I guess we gotta say for them. So say, 480 00:25:18,080 --> 00:25:23,600 Speaker 3: if she's what could a girl do, Let's say, go 481 00:25:23,800 --> 00:25:27,920 Speaker 3: to the movies, right and bite three of your homegirls 482 00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:28,720 Speaker 3: bite their guy. 483 00:25:29,359 --> 00:25:31,480 Speaker 2: See if they can bite a guy, and then y'all 484 00:25:31,520 --> 00:25:34,240 Speaker 2: go to the movies like that. But it's really no. 485 00:25:34,359 --> 00:25:36,320 Speaker 1: But what she's asking is like, why do why do 486 00:25:36,480 --> 00:25:38,639 Speaker 1: men feel like we have to approach them? Now? Like 487 00:25:38,680 --> 00:25:39,879 Speaker 1: when did the tables turn on that? 488 00:25:41,320 --> 00:25:43,560 Speaker 3: But what I'm saying is I don't think it's about approaching. 489 00:25:43,800 --> 00:25:47,560 Speaker 3: I think it's just providing an environment to be approached. 490 00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:49,040 Speaker 2: Okay, okay, you know what I'm saying. 491 00:25:49,160 --> 00:25:51,879 Speaker 3: Like sometimes it's like if you're on a dating site, 492 00:25:52,320 --> 00:25:54,280 Speaker 3: you know, if we like each other, we're going on 493 00:25:54,359 --> 00:25:56,240 Speaker 3: a date and it's gonna be me and you, yes, 494 00:25:56,520 --> 00:25:58,159 Speaker 3: and we gotta get to know each other and we 495 00:25:58,240 --> 00:26:00,800 Speaker 3: got to see if we like each other. Versus if 496 00:26:00,840 --> 00:26:04,920 Speaker 3: you invite him to a football game or somewhere where 497 00:26:04,960 --> 00:26:07,600 Speaker 3: it's a lot of people, where it could like he 498 00:26:07,680 --> 00:26:09,480 Speaker 3: know how to just focus on you. He can focus 499 00:26:09,520 --> 00:26:11,560 Speaker 3: and have a good time in the environment, and that 500 00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:14,200 Speaker 3: might heighten his sisters say hey, what you're doing later on? 501 00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:16,960 Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. Or you might be like, hey, 502 00:26:17,000 --> 00:26:18,960 Speaker 2: I'm about to go you okay, you're about to leave. 503 00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:20,920 Speaker 2: It like, nah, I ain't leaving. I'm right here. I'm 504 00:26:20,960 --> 00:26:23,000 Speaker 2: right here. Where you going about to go home? 505 00:26:23,200 --> 00:26:23,320 Speaker 1: Oh? 506 00:26:23,400 --> 00:26:26,040 Speaker 2: We done? Yeah? I was like, oh okay, let me 507 00:26:26,080 --> 00:26:26,800 Speaker 2: walk in to the car. 508 00:26:27,359 --> 00:26:30,080 Speaker 3: But if it's like okay, meet me at dinner at 509 00:26:30,160 --> 00:26:33,439 Speaker 3: Ruth Chris at nine, it's like, oh man. 510 00:26:33,280 --> 00:26:36,640 Speaker 2: I'm about to get interviewed and tell me. It ain't 511 00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:39,200 Speaker 2: a free like environment. 512 00:26:39,320 --> 00:26:41,520 Speaker 3: So I think what women have to understand is like, 513 00:26:41,640 --> 00:26:44,280 Speaker 3: you don't have to approach your man, just invite him 514 00:26:44,320 --> 00:26:47,960 Speaker 3: to an environment where he's it's cool for him to 515 00:26:47,960 --> 00:26:50,680 Speaker 3: approach you, it's cool for you to approach him. Because 516 00:26:50,680 --> 00:26:53,280 Speaker 3: a lot of time when people are amongst strangers, they kind. 517 00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:54,639 Speaker 2: Of cling to the person what they know. 518 00:26:55,760 --> 00:26:59,840 Speaker 1: Okay, so let's take this scenario. Say, because I've tried 519 00:26:59,880 --> 00:27:03,520 Speaker 1: to make myself more available to go out so I 520 00:27:03,560 --> 00:27:05,320 Speaker 1: can actually meet somebody because I will stay in this 521 00:27:05,440 --> 00:27:07,560 Speaker 1: house and not going to But I'm like, I'm never 522 00:27:07,600 --> 00:27:09,199 Speaker 1: gonna meet anybody if I stay in the house all 523 00:27:09,240 --> 00:27:11,440 Speaker 1: the time. What do I need to do when I 524 00:27:11,560 --> 00:27:13,640 Speaker 1: step out of here? And because I get it's first 525 00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:19,680 Speaker 1: of all, y'all, it is draining, trying to like get 526 00:27:19,800 --> 00:27:23,080 Speaker 1: ready to be approached. You gotta get ready, do your makeup, 527 00:27:23,200 --> 00:27:26,760 Speaker 1: do your hair, dress up, put the heels on. It's 528 00:27:26,800 --> 00:27:29,600 Speaker 1: a very long process and then it's not the most 529 00:27:29,640 --> 00:27:31,760 Speaker 1: comfortable process. You gotta wear the heels all night and 530 00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:34,160 Speaker 1: trying to be cute. But like, when you get there, 531 00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:37,600 Speaker 1: what do we do to like for me to be like? 532 00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:37,880 Speaker 2: Oh? 533 00:27:38,200 --> 00:27:39,840 Speaker 1: Like, cause what do you like when you when you 534 00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:42,359 Speaker 1: go somewhere? What is the woman doing that you like, 535 00:27:42,359 --> 00:27:43,199 Speaker 1: I'm gonna approach her? 536 00:27:43,800 --> 00:27:43,840 Speaker 2: Like? 537 00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:45,760 Speaker 1: Is this something that the way we need to carry 538 00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:46,600 Speaker 1: ourselves is there? 539 00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:47,960 Speaker 2: We need to smile more? 540 00:27:49,040 --> 00:27:50,680 Speaker 1: Like I'm trying to figure out what it is that 541 00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:53,320 Speaker 1: like will make a man be like, oh her, because 542 00:27:53,320 --> 00:27:55,639 Speaker 1: I know my presence is felt like you're not coming 543 00:27:55,680 --> 00:27:55,840 Speaker 1: to me? 544 00:27:56,000 --> 00:27:56,800 Speaker 2: What's up? Yeah? 545 00:27:56,880 --> 00:28:02,000 Speaker 3: Because you know they get acted by thoughts who are 546 00:28:02,560 --> 00:28:06,120 Speaker 3: who don't have that, they're more of an environment person. 547 00:28:06,240 --> 00:28:08,399 Speaker 3: So what I mean like when you had your party 548 00:28:08,440 --> 00:28:11,280 Speaker 3: the other night, for you to go around and see 549 00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:12,959 Speaker 3: group of men and be like, hey, how y'all doing 550 00:28:13,040 --> 00:28:16,040 Speaker 3: y'all good tonight. I'm glad y'all came out. Thank y'all 551 00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:18,159 Speaker 3: for coming out. Anything you need let me. 552 00:28:18,240 --> 00:28:22,200 Speaker 2: Know when you walk off like damn shallow kind of right. 553 00:28:23,560 --> 00:28:25,480 Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, that's all you need. You 554 00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:27,960 Speaker 2: don't need. You don't need a dude just like walk 555 00:28:28,080 --> 00:28:28,480 Speaker 2: up on you. 556 00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:30,840 Speaker 3: When I say the environment, it's like, that's how you 557 00:28:31,080 --> 00:28:34,840 Speaker 3: curate the environment of the people around you. Then that 558 00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:37,640 Speaker 3: man will be like, you know what, I'm gonna shoot 559 00:28:37,680 --> 00:28:41,480 Speaker 3: a shot. That's it's But like I said, if it's 560 00:28:41,520 --> 00:28:44,600 Speaker 3: something where I feel like it's just me and you 561 00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:48,200 Speaker 3: and I gotta I gotta control this whole big house 562 00:28:48,280 --> 00:28:52,320 Speaker 3: with you. It's just my personality. Most guys ain't got that, 563 00:28:53,240 --> 00:28:55,520 Speaker 3: you know what I mean, or they just reserved or 564 00:28:55,720 --> 00:28:56,720 Speaker 3: whatever the case may be. 565 00:28:56,960 --> 00:29:00,720 Speaker 2: So that's what I think about with all women creating. 566 00:29:00,840 --> 00:29:03,520 Speaker 3: I'm having a cookout at the crib, come over, and 567 00:29:03,600 --> 00:29:04,920 Speaker 3: it's multiple people there. 568 00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:08,200 Speaker 2: It ain't just me and you, And I think that's 569 00:29:08,240 --> 00:29:11,320 Speaker 2: where that is. Women a way of approaching a man. 570 00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:14,360 Speaker 3: It's not actually going into him and asking them like, hey, 571 00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:15,840 Speaker 3: I like you, I think you're sexy. 572 00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:18,600 Speaker 2: He gonna be like okay. 573 00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:22,040 Speaker 3: But if you just create that moment, create that that, 574 00:29:22,240 --> 00:29:25,320 Speaker 3: like I said, that environment for men to be vulnerable, 575 00:29:25,440 --> 00:29:28,240 Speaker 3: for men to be able to feel like, oh man, 576 00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:28,880 Speaker 3: I'm an outcast. 577 00:29:29,000 --> 00:29:31,239 Speaker 2: I don't know anybody. Oh I know her, the girl 578 00:29:31,280 --> 00:29:33,960 Speaker 2: who invited me. Hey, what's going on? You having a 579 00:29:34,120 --> 00:29:35,400 Speaker 2: nice event? To me? 580 00:29:35,560 --> 00:29:38,520 Speaker 3: That's the best way I would feel like, because that's 581 00:29:38,560 --> 00:29:43,480 Speaker 3: why most dancers or strippers succeed with men, because they'll 582 00:29:43,520 --> 00:29:48,160 Speaker 3: walk up to him, need to dance, and most dudes 583 00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:51,000 Speaker 3: be like, you know this ain't never walked over like, yeah, 584 00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:52,280 Speaker 3: come on over, you want to drink? 585 00:29:52,360 --> 00:29:54,040 Speaker 2: Come on over here. You know what I'm saying. Do 586 00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:57,200 Speaker 2: y'all start talking? You talking about this job? And she did. 587 00:29:57,320 --> 00:30:00,160 Speaker 2: And that's how most successful men end up getting with 588 00:30:00,360 --> 00:30:01,520 Speaker 2: like waitresses or. 589 00:30:03,160 --> 00:30:05,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, minor girl, because them the only girls that will 590 00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:08,080 Speaker 3: walk up to him and have a conversation and let 591 00:30:08,200 --> 00:30:09,440 Speaker 3: him know he's of value. 592 00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:12,320 Speaker 1: Okay, So we gotta I see Okay, I see what 593 00:30:12,360 --> 00:30:16,480 Speaker 1: you're saying. Now. Yeah, we gotta sometimes approach as. 594 00:30:16,360 --> 00:30:20,120 Speaker 2: We say hello. A simple hello would be like, oh dang, 595 00:30:20,200 --> 00:30:22,239 Speaker 2: she said hello to me. You know what I mean 596 00:30:22,400 --> 00:30:25,880 Speaker 2: to me? That is what get me, you know, excited 597 00:30:25,960 --> 00:30:28,760 Speaker 2: to speak to someone. Okay, I like that. 598 00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:32,760 Speaker 1: So I would tell the young lady, listen, stay open, 599 00:30:34,040 --> 00:30:37,040 Speaker 1: continue to go out and try to meet people. The 600 00:30:37,120 --> 00:30:39,720 Speaker 1: flirting and the smiling like a little cute friendly wink 601 00:30:39,840 --> 00:30:44,920 Speaker 1: is is good. But be mindful and intentional about where 602 00:30:44,960 --> 00:30:47,200 Speaker 1: you're going to make sure that you attract the type 603 00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:50,080 Speaker 1: of man that you want as well. I know for me, 604 00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:52,440 Speaker 1: I'm very particularly about the places I go because I 605 00:30:52,480 --> 00:30:54,040 Speaker 1: know the type of man that I want to attract, 606 00:30:54,680 --> 00:30:56,240 Speaker 1: so I would say do that. 607 00:30:56,520 --> 00:30:58,000 Speaker 2: And just on depot, I. 608 00:31:01,640 --> 00:31:04,440 Speaker 1: Met this one guy in home goods. I was in 609 00:31:04,480 --> 00:31:07,480 Speaker 1: the rug section and you know how you have to 610 00:31:07,520 --> 00:31:08,720 Speaker 1: push the rugs. 611 00:31:09,040 --> 00:31:09,520 Speaker 2: Really see it. 612 00:31:09,880 --> 00:31:11,880 Speaker 1: I didn't know he was in between the rugs and 613 00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:13,600 Speaker 1: I pushed the I kind of smushed him in the 614 00:31:13,640 --> 00:31:15,320 Speaker 1: middle of the rugs and he backed up. 615 00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:16,000 Speaker 2: He's like damn. 616 00:31:16,360 --> 00:31:18,040 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I'm so sorry, and I was like, 617 00:31:19,080 --> 00:31:23,040 Speaker 1: I'm so sorry, what's up? And before I knew, he 618 00:31:23,200 --> 00:31:26,600 Speaker 1: was buying my rug and the night they went to dinner, 619 00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:29,840 Speaker 1: and I thought that was gonna be a relationship that 620 00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:31,680 Speaker 1: worked out too. He was a successful man. 621 00:31:34,080 --> 00:31:35,360 Speaker 2: Crazy, that's crazy. 622 00:31:35,720 --> 00:31:38,800 Speaker 1: He was a successful man and then ended up having 623 00:31:38,960 --> 00:31:43,400 Speaker 1: a childhood girlfriend that lived here that he always said 624 00:31:43,400 --> 00:31:43,640 Speaker 1: he was. 625 00:31:43,640 --> 00:31:44,400 Speaker 2: Never gonna get married. 626 00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:46,560 Speaker 1: These are things that I found out as we dated, 627 00:31:47,080 --> 00:31:49,840 Speaker 1: but was still dealing with her and wanted to deal 628 00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:52,360 Speaker 1: with me too, And I was like, so that's what 629 00:31:52,440 --> 00:31:53,000 Speaker 1: we're not doing. 630 00:31:53,600 --> 00:31:55,760 Speaker 2: You know, you lost me, Like go. 631 00:31:55,800 --> 00:31:58,320 Speaker 1: Ahead and stay with Sharty from from the neighborhood. And 632 00:31:58,400 --> 00:32:01,520 Speaker 1: I'm an exit stage left. But I did meet somebody 633 00:32:01,640 --> 00:32:06,080 Speaker 1: at home. Goods Where else do w mean the gym? 634 00:32:06,600 --> 00:32:08,200 Speaker 1: The gym is a good place. I meet men in 635 00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:11,400 Speaker 1: the gym. But yeah, try to go around places that 636 00:32:11,480 --> 00:32:14,360 Speaker 1: you feel like you'll meet somebody that's worth it. 637 00:32:15,240 --> 00:32:19,440 Speaker 2: Like I try to provide places, create places. 638 00:32:20,200 --> 00:32:21,800 Speaker 3: Like I'm saying when you go to the gym that 639 00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:25,720 Speaker 3: La Fitness created that environment, You didn't really create it. 640 00:32:25,880 --> 00:32:29,160 Speaker 2: I am the environment. Yeah, So what I'm saying is like, hey, 641 00:32:29,240 --> 00:32:33,520 Speaker 2: I'm having a barbecue. I'm having a everybody over here, 642 00:32:33,640 --> 00:32:36,080 Speaker 2: Like we got to get to know I'm not just 643 00:32:36,160 --> 00:32:38,200 Speaker 2: saying here, I'm just saying we can go to parks. 644 00:32:38,280 --> 00:32:41,720 Speaker 3: Like people don't do the community things that we used 645 00:32:41,760 --> 00:32:43,560 Speaker 3: to do prior to the Internet. 646 00:32:43,840 --> 00:32:46,719 Speaker 2: Like gods shoot they shot on the internet. 647 00:32:48,120 --> 00:32:50,240 Speaker 3: They don't shoot it in person because there's nowhere to 648 00:32:50,280 --> 00:32:54,000 Speaker 3: shoot it like a club, but it's music blasting everywhere. 649 00:32:54,120 --> 00:32:56,920 Speaker 3: It's like us of the people got to create, like 650 00:32:57,120 --> 00:33:00,560 Speaker 3: festivals and different things that multiple people we can come 651 00:33:00,680 --> 00:33:04,160 Speaker 3: to and we can talk and have conversations. 652 00:33:04,360 --> 00:33:05,320 Speaker 1: That's another Okay, I. 653 00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:05,880 Speaker 2: See you're saying. 654 00:33:06,200 --> 00:33:09,480 Speaker 1: So we could like basically like create environments where people 655 00:33:09,520 --> 00:33:11,400 Speaker 1: can come together and meet each other, kind of like mixers. 656 00:33:11,640 --> 00:33:11,880 Speaker 2: Yeah. 657 00:33:12,880 --> 00:33:15,720 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a good idea versus like looking for a spot, 658 00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:19,440 Speaker 3: because like Circuin, spots have their own audience. Yeah, and 659 00:33:19,640 --> 00:33:22,840 Speaker 3: you go there and they don't have nothing different. You know, 660 00:33:22,920 --> 00:33:25,240 Speaker 3: you ain't gonna meet nobody collected because everybody gonna have 661 00:33:25,280 --> 00:33:30,880 Speaker 3: on Doche and fucking Dior and you know. And yeah, 662 00:33:31,280 --> 00:33:33,240 Speaker 3: but just on some day, like something, I might have 663 00:33:33,400 --> 00:33:37,040 Speaker 3: on some some crocs and some shorts with a hoodie on, 664 00:33:37,360 --> 00:33:39,680 Speaker 3: and you know, go somewhere. 665 00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:42,720 Speaker 2: I go to FuG. I just show up at random 666 00:33:42,840 --> 00:33:45,600 Speaker 2: fuzz and he put me on FU. Yeah. I just 667 00:33:45,720 --> 00:33:46,560 Speaker 2: do random things. 668 00:33:46,680 --> 00:33:49,680 Speaker 3: But I think for women, I would love to say, 669 00:33:49,840 --> 00:33:53,920 Speaker 3: like be creative in those environments your homegirls get together. 670 00:33:54,000 --> 00:33:55,800 Speaker 2: Don't make it just a girl's night. I mean when 671 00:33:55,800 --> 00:33:57,960 Speaker 2: you had you do it all the time. You be 672 00:33:58,040 --> 00:34:01,680 Speaker 2: having charade parties and all types of stuff. 673 00:34:02,560 --> 00:34:04,120 Speaker 1: And I invite a lot of people and people meet 674 00:34:04,120 --> 00:34:04,400 Speaker 1: each other. 675 00:34:04,520 --> 00:34:07,240 Speaker 2: They Yeah, I got to get back to that. 676 00:34:10,160 --> 00:34:15,880 Speaker 1: And maybe y'all meet somebody on this podcast. We like 677 00:34:16,000 --> 00:34:18,440 Speaker 1: to make sure that everyone is growing. You know, we're 678 00:34:18,440 --> 00:34:21,200 Speaker 1: all going through something, but what are we growing through? 679 00:34:21,680 --> 00:34:24,719 Speaker 1: So we like to talk about what I'm going through 680 00:34:24,920 --> 00:34:27,840 Speaker 1: and what I'm growing through and just give a testimony 681 00:34:27,880 --> 00:34:30,400 Speaker 1: about where you are in life and how it's been 682 00:34:30,480 --> 00:34:34,120 Speaker 1: a test and a lesson. So for me right now, 683 00:34:34,280 --> 00:34:36,400 Speaker 1: I'm in a place in my life where I am 684 00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:43,000 Speaker 1: going through accepting where I am, especially in this in 685 00:34:43,080 --> 00:34:48,520 Speaker 1: this dating phase, and understanding that when it's in, you 686 00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:50,399 Speaker 1: touch on it when it's time and God's timing it's 687 00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:55,480 Speaker 1: going to happen. And what I'm growing through is making 688 00:34:55,520 --> 00:34:57,560 Speaker 1: sure that all the lessons I need to learn during 689 00:34:57,600 --> 00:35:02,800 Speaker 1: this time that I'm grabbing it. So I'm growing and 690 00:35:02,880 --> 00:35:05,279 Speaker 1: I'm learning at the same time as I go through it. Yeah, 691 00:35:05,320 --> 00:35:07,719 Speaker 1: what are you going through and growing through? 692 00:35:09,120 --> 00:35:12,080 Speaker 3: I think the biggest thing that I'm going through and 693 00:35:12,200 --> 00:35:17,680 Speaker 3: growing through is removing the devil from my life. Wow, 694 00:35:18,400 --> 00:35:24,400 Speaker 3: Removing disappointment, removing all the things that is attached to 695 00:35:24,600 --> 00:35:28,000 Speaker 3: that symbol of Like I used to have this thing 696 00:35:28,080 --> 00:35:29,960 Speaker 3: where like if an artist didn't show it for a 697 00:35:30,080 --> 00:35:31,759 Speaker 3: video shoot, I'd be like distraught. 698 00:35:32,360 --> 00:35:34,480 Speaker 2: Now it's like, okay, God don't want no artists in 699 00:35:34,520 --> 00:35:39,719 Speaker 2: the videos, Like one major artist in show up. I 700 00:35:39,800 --> 00:35:41,000 Speaker 2: scraped all the artists. 701 00:35:41,200 --> 00:35:43,960 Speaker 3: Yeah, because God is telling me, why is it so 702 00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:45,200 Speaker 3: difficult for them to show up? 703 00:35:45,560 --> 00:35:48,799 Speaker 2: Because I want that camera focused on you. Wow, You've 704 00:35:48,880 --> 00:35:49,840 Speaker 2: yet to focus it. 705 00:35:49,960 --> 00:35:53,440 Speaker 3: So that's what I'm going through, learning how to remove 706 00:35:53,520 --> 00:35:57,360 Speaker 3: the devil from my life, remove negativity, and anything that 707 00:35:57,480 --> 00:35:59,839 Speaker 3: happens to me is a positive thing. 708 00:36:00,160 --> 00:36:02,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, even if it hurts, it's positive. 709 00:36:03,920 --> 00:36:06,200 Speaker 3: Like if you tear your acl you need surgery, that 710 00:36:06,280 --> 00:36:08,920 Speaker 3: first week gonna be hurting, but you know, in the 711 00:36:09,120 --> 00:36:10,680 Speaker 3: long run, it is for you to be able to 712 00:36:10,760 --> 00:36:11,279 Speaker 3: walk better. 713 00:36:11,480 --> 00:36:14,400 Speaker 2: So I've learned to accept. 714 00:36:15,480 --> 00:36:18,920 Speaker 3: Things that are not going my way and understand like 715 00:36:19,640 --> 00:36:21,800 Speaker 3: God doesn't want me to work with that person. He 716 00:36:21,880 --> 00:36:25,359 Speaker 3: don't want me to see that person. So I tell people, 717 00:36:25,400 --> 00:36:28,080 Speaker 3: don't say being the devil's advocate, I hate it. Be 718 00:36:28,200 --> 00:36:31,719 Speaker 3: an angel, be the Lord's advocate. So that's what I've 719 00:36:31,760 --> 00:36:34,080 Speaker 3: been working. That's what I've been going from, moving the 720 00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:36,280 Speaker 3: devil and being more of the Lord's advocate. 721 00:36:36,440 --> 00:36:38,239 Speaker 1: I love that you were definitely raising the church. 722 00:36:38,400 --> 00:36:38,880 Speaker 3: I love that. 723 00:36:39,360 --> 00:36:44,360 Speaker 1: I love that the next thing we're gonna do is 724 00:36:45,400 --> 00:36:48,560 Speaker 1: we always take something that we took from the show 725 00:36:48,600 --> 00:36:51,319 Speaker 1: and we say keep it blank, sweetie. So we feel 726 00:36:51,360 --> 00:37:02,560 Speaker 1: in the blank. And from this episode, something that really 727 00:37:02,640 --> 00:37:05,960 Speaker 1: sends out when it comes to relationships is friendship. So 728 00:37:06,080 --> 00:37:10,920 Speaker 1: I would say, keep it friendly, sweetie, friendly, because the 729 00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:14,400 Speaker 1: friendship is definitely like the foundation of a solid relationship. 730 00:37:14,680 --> 00:37:17,960 Speaker 2: What would you say, keep it friendly? I love that. 731 00:37:19,160 --> 00:37:21,640 Speaker 2: It's so much into that, it's so much. 732 00:37:23,160 --> 00:37:25,560 Speaker 3: I mean, you kind of know like me and her 733 00:37:25,640 --> 00:37:28,640 Speaker 3: are very good friends, so she knows a lot about 734 00:37:28,680 --> 00:37:29,879 Speaker 3: my dating life as well. 735 00:37:30,320 --> 00:37:31,040 Speaker 2: Yes, and. 736 00:37:32,760 --> 00:37:36,000 Speaker 3: One thing about me, like every girl ever dated with 737 00:37:36,120 --> 00:37:38,839 Speaker 3: still friends, Yep. I can still call on them as 738 00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:41,680 Speaker 3: a friend and they could call on me as a friend. 739 00:37:41,960 --> 00:37:45,160 Speaker 3: And my biggest saying is I'll be at your wedding. 740 00:37:45,160 --> 00:37:48,719 Speaker 2: Or in your wedding. I know that you do say that. Yeah, yeah, 741 00:37:49,360 --> 00:37:50,319 Speaker 2: that's what I really mean. 742 00:37:50,400 --> 00:37:52,960 Speaker 3: It's like I'll be there to support your wedding or 743 00:37:53,160 --> 00:37:56,680 Speaker 3: I'll be the dude walking you down, you know what 744 00:37:56,680 --> 00:37:56,960 Speaker 3: I mean. 745 00:37:57,120 --> 00:37:59,400 Speaker 2: But that's when you truly love someone when you can 746 00:37:59,440 --> 00:38:02,279 Speaker 2: see that person stay happy with someone else. If you 747 00:38:02,400 --> 00:38:05,239 Speaker 2: can't see somebody you love happy with someone else, you 748 00:38:05,360 --> 00:38:08,040 Speaker 2: truly don't love them. That's so real. You're just You're 749 00:38:08,080 --> 00:38:10,560 Speaker 2: just selfish and want them all to yourself. I love that. 750 00:38:10,640 --> 00:38:13,120 Speaker 1: Keep you friendless when it's all across the board friendly. 751 00:38:13,239 --> 00:38:13,719 Speaker 2: I like that. 752 00:38:14,480 --> 00:38:16,920 Speaker 1: Oh man, thank you so much for coming side. 753 00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:18,400 Speaker 2: This has been amazing. 754 00:38:18,640 --> 00:38:20,800 Speaker 1: I really appreciate it, and I hope you guys enjoyed 755 00:38:20,800 --> 00:38:23,040 Speaker 1: it just as much as I did. And if you 756 00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:27,280 Speaker 1: want to write into our Positive Outcomes listener letters, please 757 00:38:27,360 --> 00:38:30,560 Speaker 1: write in to keep it positive Sweetie at gmail dot com. 758 00:38:30,680 --> 00:38:32,960 Speaker 1: I cannot wait to hear from you guys. We've got 759 00:38:33,080 --> 00:38:36,960 Speaker 1: more coming. Stay tuned and you can follow me on Instagram, Twitter, 760 00:38:38,239 --> 00:38:41,000 Speaker 1: TikTok all the things at love Chris Orine and that's 761 00:38:41,239 --> 00:38:43,600 Speaker 1: l u V c R y s t l r 762 00:38:43,680 --> 00:38:45,800 Speaker 1: E any e side. Tell them where they can find you. 763 00:38:46,040 --> 00:38:49,080 Speaker 2: Oh, you can just say c y hi everything, c 764 00:38:49,320 --> 00:38:53,040 Speaker 2: y H. I mster egot on the way, Yes twenty 765 00:38:53,480 --> 00:39:02,920 Speaker 2: three held the Woman of the p