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Speaker 3: My family pranked me and now I'm through with them.

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Speaker 1: No jokes.

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Speaker 3: I twenty seven female. I've always had a complicated relationship

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Speaker 3: with my family. They've always been the type of people

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Speaker 3: who think any joke is fine as long as someone laughs,

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Speaker 3: no matter who gets hurt. Over the years, I've tried

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Speaker 3: to brush it off and not let it bother me

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Speaker 3: too much. But this time they cross the line. I

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Speaker 3: can't ignore it. By the way, this comes from Spiritual

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Speaker 3: Ad fifty en. If you want to spend your own stories,

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Speaker 3: go to the RCI Showcase stories. I'm Subreddit. I relate

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Speaker 3: a lot. No, I relate a lot trying to get

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Speaker 3: a laugh out of someone. Yeah, I know, but none

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Speaker 3: at someone's cost.

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Speaker 1: Oh really? Uh huh yeah, yeah, don't at anyone's cost.

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Speaker 1: That didn't hurt you though it hurt my pride.

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Speaker 3: So recently, I achieved something big in my life. I

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Speaker 3: bought my first home after saving for years ingrat night.

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Speaker 3: It's something I worked incredibly hard for, sacrificing vacations, nights out,

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Speaker 1: The prank is that they were they like, found a

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Speaker 1: random house, sold it to her, quote unquote, and then

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Speaker 1: she's like, yeah, I bought my first home. And then

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Speaker 1: they're like pranked. That was sake. We stole your money

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Speaker 1: and you don't have a house. And she's like, that's

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Speaker 1: a terrible thing you've done. It's so funny. Everyone's laughing. Uh.

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Speaker 3: It's like the opposite of the bus when they were

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Speaker 3: like move that bus.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, move that bus, there's nothing there.

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Speaker 3: I was beyond proud of myself and excited to finally

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Speaker 3: to share this milestone with my family, even though our

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Speaker 3: a family dinner to celebrate my new home. Everything seemed

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Speaker 3: fine at first. They congratulated me, asked about the house,

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Speaker 3: my brother thirty mail and sister twenty five female handed

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Speaker 3: me an envelope.

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Speaker 1: Dude, was all right, I'm gonna be right.

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Speaker 3: No. They said it was a surprise to help me

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Speaker 3: I see I'm lost, but I'm gonna keep you going.

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Speaker 3: I opened it and inside was what looked like a

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Speaker 3: legal notice stating my house purchase has been canceled because

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Speaker 3: of clerical error, that it was now being sold to

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Speaker 3: someone else. It even had an official looking letterhead, my

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Speaker 1: Wait, so the brink is just the opposite of what

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Speaker 1: I said the break was gonna be. They just said

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Speaker 3: The banks take it back the house, none of your

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Speaker 1: Oho? How did they approach that? They said, we have

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Speaker 3: So this is what happened next. I was in complete shock.

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Speaker 3: Everyone around the table started laughing, and my brother yelled, gotcha.

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Speaker 3: Turns out they had a fake letter and thought it

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Speaker 3: which only made them laugh harder. They even recorded the

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Speaker 3: What here's my thought one that was funny?

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Speaker 1: What, Yeah, it was pretty funny. I would have I

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Speaker 3: once you started crying, Yeah, jops over.

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Speaker 1: Jokes over, Oh my god, I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 1: I thought you would, like, kid, it's not like she's sobbing,

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Speaker 1: Like that's insane given the context that I have, if

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Speaker 1: this was the only prank they've ever done, funny, but

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Speaker 1: since they always try to get it, Opie, the thing

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Speaker 1: it's like the worst thing that you've ever seen. Dude.

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Speaker 1: So okay, I will the only thing I'm gonna give,

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Speaker 1: why did you think your family had a Like wouldn't

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Speaker 1: of a bank statement that just said hilarical error. You

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Speaker 1: don't have the house. Yeah, oh sorry, they said to

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Speaker 1: us rather than you. Yeah, I feel like your family

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Speaker 1: pranks it because you're really gullible. Not that not that

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Speaker 1: they're right for it, but I think you're an easy target,

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Speaker 3: Sensitive, so that's why.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you're easy it. Don't hurry good for that.

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Speaker 3: Oh dang, my little brother's kind of like this. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: you'll get upset pretty easily. Just what it is. Okay.

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Speaker 3: When I finally managed to speak, I told them how

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Speaker 3: cruel this was. Buying this house is the biggest thing

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Speaker 1: Also, did they post that on social media immediately? Were

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Did you find it later? Probably later?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I left the dinner early, completely heartbroken at your

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Speaker 3: own house. I hate them worth slamming on, Opie, but dude,

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Speaker 3: you're making it easy, Like.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, your family is mean and like kind of bullying you.

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Speaker 3: I I have some more thoughts on this, but I'll

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Speaker 3: tell it later. A few days later, I decided I'd

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Speaker 3: had enough. This wasn't the first time they pulled a

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Speaker 3: prank like this. Over the years, they've humiliated me countless times,

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Speaker 1: Okay, See, those those ones are not cool. Those ones

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Speaker 1: are much more. Honestly, those ones are much worse than

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but this is the straw.

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Speaker 3: I cut off all contact. I didn't make a scene.

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Speaker 3: I just stopped responding to messages, blocked them on social media,

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Speaker 3: tripping messages from extended family saying I'm being selfish and

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Speaker 3: forgive them. This prank felt like the final straw, and

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Speaker 3: Am I the a hole for cutting off my family

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Speaker 3: over this prank? Like Sophia said, not the worst one.

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Speaker 3: But if the dynamic in the family is always you're

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Speaker 1: Joke, it's not fun. It's not fun. Yeah, Like it

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Speaker 1: I'd be like, well, cutting your family off is pretty unreasonable.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, it seems like it's been years and years

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Speaker 3: It makes sense the set of boundary. Some people go

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Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe it's like they realized that, you know, they

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Speaker 3: Yeah, having a serious conversation with people, yeah, will be good.

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Speaker 1: They like, this is what happens when you treat me

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Speaker 3: Gotta be another butt around here, because that can't be

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Speaker 3: the only one. It's not making fun of brother.

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Speaker 3: Top comment best comment is fifteen says you're rightfully upset

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Speaker 3: because it wasn't a brank, it was bullying. It was

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Speaker 3: justify humiliating people. Okay, this was a humiliation tactic. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: they thought it would be fun to upset you on

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Speaker 3: that she misses you. No, she had an opportunity there

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Speaker 3: deserve much better than this. I'm glad you finally desired

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Speaker 3: new home. We just got an update from Ope.

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Speaker 1: I think that the family is going to try a

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Speaker 1: lot harder to get back into her life. Yeah. I

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Speaker 1: So we're aheaded But just just hold your boundaries strong. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: Step by step. Right there you update. Thank you all

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Speaker 3: for the advice and support. I want to provide an

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Speaker 3: update because things have escalated in ways I never expounded no.

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Speaker 3: After I went no contact with my family, I thought

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Speaker 1: They're like, now we're pranking her for real.

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Speaker 3: Watch out, we'll see how your car works without breaks. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Literally, They're like, oh, you thought that was bad. Now

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Speaker 1: that you're no contact with us, you got we had

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Speaker 3: You, whatever protector in the first place. Then that's the case.

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Speaker 1: Some familial bond.

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Speaker 3: For the past few weeks, my brother and sister have

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Speaker 3: been trying to get me to see the funny side

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Speaker 3: multiple times, banging on the door and demanding to talk

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Speaker 3: and let's see how long she can hide. It felt

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Speaker 1: I think that they're doing all of this for their

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Speaker 1: YouTube channel. Really yeah, like OP is their main source

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Speaker 1: of content. Oh and they need they need their star back.

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Speaker 3: Oh shoot, so we're gonna keep this thing going with

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Speaker 3: that her.

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Speaker 1: They make so much money from OP And now she's

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you say, hey, I got a job. Hey, you kid,

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Speaker 1: Well, yeah, the reasonable people in your family exactly what

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Speaker 3: Yeah. This ah ah for a mix of relief and sadness.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, no, Ophie, I hope it ends with you.

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Speaker 3: Then things escalated. My security cameras caught them trespassing on

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Speaker 1: Yeah, there we go. Tucks that I had to come

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Speaker 3: Not well, of course they acted like it was a joke.

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Speaker 3: But then they realized I wasn't playing their game anymore.

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Speaker 3: The pestimen had finally stopped. The restraining order forced them

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Speaker 3: Some family members still don't understand why I had to

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Speaker 3: My home is now a place of peace, not anxiety.

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Speaker 3: My phone is quiet, my life is my own. Again,

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Speaker 1: Well, here you go. Okay, well, hopey, I'm proud of

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Speaker 1: My sister demanded a larger share of our inheritance, but

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Speaker 1: sixty eight, twenty three and if you want to sumit

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because again I'm gonna say it transactional. Yeah, what

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it seems like they didn't have the best relationship.

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Speaker 1: My first immediate advice before we haven't really gotten too

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Speaker 3: It is interesting, that's kind of my este I would

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Speaker 1: Well, I'm just thinking, like if I had this same

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Speaker 1: She argues that family is family and it's not fair

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Speaker 3: Yeah, don't pull that stitch crap on me.

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Speaker 1: You know, Hanna, he had years to fix things with him,

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Speaker 3: Pros and gons list? Yeah, pro more money, he shuts up.

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Speaker 3: If you split it firstwoting bro, she shows up, Colin

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Speaker 1: I also do. We I don't think it's say you

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Speaker 3: No, Yeah, but she got a lot more than than

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Speaker 1: just kind of money, you know, money hungry, and you're like, oh,

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00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:39,480
Speaker 1: she actually doesn't really care about having a relationship with

439
00:21:39,560 --> 00:21:43,359
Speaker 1: me at all. This was my dad's wishes. Who am

440
00:21:43,440 --> 00:21:46,560
Speaker 1: I to say no to what he wants? Yeah, and

441
00:21:46,760 --> 00:21:50,280
Speaker 1: it's I've seen some comments saying this is fake from

442
00:21:50,359 --> 00:21:54,520
Speaker 1: the out key details. So let me clear a few

443
00:21:54,560 --> 00:21:58,639
Speaker 1: things up. First. About my sister's estrangements. It wasn't something

444
00:21:58,680 --> 00:22:02,800
Speaker 1: that happened overnight. After my parents' divorce. She sided heavily

445
00:22:02,880 --> 00:22:05,680
Speaker 1: with my mom and gradually distance herself from our dad.

446
00:22:06,320 --> 00:22:09,160
Speaker 1: She blamed him for their splits, and even though Dad

447
00:22:09,200 --> 00:22:11,840
Speaker 1: tried to reconcile over the years, she was unwilling to

448
00:22:11,840 --> 00:22:14,800
Speaker 1: meet him halfway. I'm not saying she's a bad person.

449
00:22:15,240 --> 00:22:18,000
Speaker 1: Divorces are messy, but it's not like Dad cut her

450
00:22:18,040 --> 00:22:21,199
Speaker 1: off for no reason. Second, I know some of you

451
00:22:21,320 --> 00:22:23,880
Speaker 1: might think Dad was playing favorites, but I don't see

452
00:22:23,880 --> 00:22:26,320
Speaker 1: it that way. I think he divided things based on

453
00:22:26,359 --> 00:22:29,120
Speaker 1: who was there for him in his final years. It

454
00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:33,720
Speaker 1: wasn't about punishment, it was about recognition. Lastly, for those

455
00:22:33,760 --> 00:22:37,679
Speaker 1: saying I'm conveniently painting myself as the golden child, I

456
00:22:37,800 --> 00:22:40,840
Speaker 1: promise that's not my intention. My sister had her reasons

457
00:22:40,840 --> 00:22:43,760
Speaker 1: for stepping back, but I stepped up because I felt

458
00:22:43,800 --> 00:22:45,639
Speaker 1: it was the right thing to do. That's why this

459
00:22:45,720 --> 00:22:49,920
Speaker 1: situation is so hard. I'm trying to honor my dad's wishes,

460
00:22:50,040 --> 00:22:52,840
Speaker 1: but I also don't want to completely ruin my relationship

461
00:22:52,960 --> 00:22:55,800
Speaker 1: with my sister. Hope this clears up some of the gaps.

462
00:22:56,560 --> 00:22:59,960
Speaker 1: And why did my parents get divorced? My parents divorce

463
00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:02,480
Speaker 1: happened when I was twelve and my sister was nine.

464
00:23:03,000 --> 00:23:05,800
Speaker 1: It wasn't one big event. It was a combination of things.

465
00:23:06,080 --> 00:23:09,199
Speaker 1: My dad worked long hours running his own business, and

466
00:23:09,240 --> 00:23:12,119
Speaker 1: my mom felt neglected. She also said Dad had a

467
00:23:12,119 --> 00:23:15,639
Speaker 1: controlling personality, which caused a lot of tension. Oka On

468
00:23:15,680 --> 00:23:18,560
Speaker 1: the other hand, Dad felt Mom wasn't supportive of his

469
00:23:18,680 --> 00:23:22,240
Speaker 1: career and resented him for working so much. Eventually, they

470
00:23:22,320 --> 00:23:25,639
Speaker 1: just couldn't make it work and they decided to separate. Okay,

471
00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:29,200
Speaker 1: my sister blamed Dad for the divorce because in her eyes,

472
00:23:29,760 --> 00:23:32,960
Speaker 1: he was the one who chose work over family. Mom

473
00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:36,080
Speaker 1: didn't exactly help. She would make comments about how Dad

474
00:23:36,119 --> 00:23:39,200
Speaker 1: cared more about his business than his kids. I think

475
00:23:39,240 --> 00:23:42,400
Speaker 1: this shaped my sister's perspective and made her more distant

476
00:23:42,480 --> 00:23:45,040
Speaker 1: from him, I see, yeah.

477
00:23:44,600 --> 00:23:47,920
Speaker 3: And family is family. She's the reason she brought that up.

478
00:23:48,800 --> 00:23:51,600
Speaker 3: He's choosing you over.

479
00:23:51,400 --> 00:23:54,679
Speaker 1: Her, which I think in some ways it might feel

480
00:23:54,720 --> 00:23:58,560
Speaker 1: like that's what OP is doing to her again of

481
00:23:58,640 --> 00:24:01,040
Speaker 1: like choosing this money or or her you know, their

482
00:24:01,160 --> 00:24:05,239
Speaker 1: dad over her again over yeah god, yeah, And I

483
00:24:05,240 --> 00:24:09,600
Speaker 1: feel like maybe she's sensing feeling that betrayal. I there's

484
00:24:09,680 --> 00:24:11,879
Speaker 1: there's more and more questions. I hope he's gonna answer.

485
00:24:12,760 --> 00:24:14,960
Speaker 1: I do think that you could have a sit down, like,

486
00:24:15,000 --> 00:24:18,920
Speaker 1: don't involve your mom, don't involve other family members, say like, hey,

487
00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:23,520
Speaker 1: I'm sup working this out. Just sit down with your sister,

488
00:24:23,720 --> 00:24:27,840
Speaker 1: say like this is why dad gave me this money. Yeah,

489
00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:30,639
Speaker 1: I you know, I was helping them out for a

490
00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:32,880
Speaker 1: long time. And I understand that you had a difficult

491
00:24:32,960 --> 00:24:35,040
Speaker 1: relationship with dad and that's kind of your own thing.

492
00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:40,359
Speaker 1: And yeah, like have that mature conversation if you want to, again,

493
00:24:40,440 --> 00:24:43,840
Speaker 1: if you want to kind of make sure that your

494
00:24:44,480 --> 00:24:48,159
Speaker 1: your relationship with your sister doesn't completely break down. If

495
00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:49,760
Speaker 1: you don't want to do fifty to fifty, maybe you

496
00:24:49,960 --> 00:24:52,840
Speaker 1: just increase it a little bit. Yeah, yeah, Like if

497
00:24:52,840 --> 00:24:55,240
Speaker 1: it's like eighty twenty, maybe it goes to like seventy

498
00:24:55,320 --> 00:24:57,560
Speaker 1: thirty or so. You know, that's not saying that you

499
00:24:57,680 --> 00:25:00,440
Speaker 1: have to do this. We're legally entitled to that money,

500
00:25:00,480 --> 00:25:03,119
Speaker 1: but throw the talent. I think, I think there is

501
00:25:03,160 --> 00:25:07,760
Speaker 1: a way where you I don't know, I just feel

502
00:25:07,760 --> 00:25:10,679
Speaker 1: like a piece then like, oh, well, you know, I

503
00:25:10,680 --> 00:25:13,359
Speaker 1: don't want to dishonor my dad's wishes. And at the

504
00:25:13,480 --> 00:25:16,359
Speaker 1: end of the day, it is like, you want the money,

505
00:25:16,359 --> 00:25:19,040
Speaker 1: which is fair, and you were given the money because

506
00:25:19,040 --> 00:25:22,480
Speaker 1: you're legally entitled to it. But yeah, I just think,

507
00:25:23,240 --> 00:25:26,200
Speaker 1: see if you can save this relationship if you want

508
00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:29,440
Speaker 1: to with your sister. Yeah, and that doesn't necessarily mean

509
00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:31,760
Speaker 1: just giving her all the money. It just means having

510
00:25:31,800 --> 00:25:34,200
Speaker 1: a conversation. It's good. It was a really good thought.

511
00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:36,960
Speaker 1: And also you can ask why does she need this money,

512
00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:39,200
Speaker 1: because you know, is there something going on in her life?

513
00:25:39,240 --> 00:25:41,359
Speaker 1: And maybe it's not I'm going to go to fifty

514
00:25:41,400 --> 00:25:44,080
Speaker 1: to fifty, but I absolutely will help you if there

515
00:25:44,160 --> 00:25:47,200
Speaker 1: is something that you need, like the sister's in idle

516
00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:50,680
Speaker 1: to this money, yeah, or she thinks she is when

517
00:25:51,080 --> 00:25:53,720
Speaker 1: it legally she's not not. Yeah, there's just a lot

518
00:25:53,720 --> 00:25:56,080
Speaker 1: of things that went wrong. The Dad kept trying to

519
00:25:56,119 --> 00:25:58,359
Speaker 1: reach out. Yeah, you didn't want to talk to him.

520
00:25:58,560 --> 00:26:01,439
Speaker 1: It's a divorce. It didn't work out. Why were my

521
00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:05,040
Speaker 1: sister and dad so conflicted? After the divorce? I stayed

522
00:26:05,040 --> 00:26:08,480
Speaker 1: with Dad while my sister lived with mom. Dad tried

523
00:26:08,520 --> 00:26:11,680
Speaker 1: to stay involved in her life, but the distance, both

524
00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:15,320
Speaker 1: physical and emotional, made things harder. Over time, my sister

525
00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:18,080
Speaker 1: started avoiding him. For example, he'd call her but she

526
00:26:18,080 --> 00:26:20,880
Speaker 1: wouldn't pick up. He'd send gifts or letters, and she'd

527
00:26:20,920 --> 00:26:23,680
Speaker 1: never acknowledge them. One of the big breaking points came

528
00:26:23,720 --> 00:26:26,760
Speaker 1: when she graduated high school. Dad showed up through her

529
00:26:26,800 --> 00:26:31,159
Speaker 1: graduation uninvited because he wanted to celebrate her, but she

530
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:33,560
Speaker 1: got upset and accused him of trying to make it

531
00:26:33,560 --> 00:26:37,480
Speaker 1: about himself. After that, they barely spoke. Why didn't my

532
00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:40,720
Speaker 1: sister visit when Dad was sick? This is something only

533
00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:43,440
Speaker 1: my sister can fully explain, but I think it goes

534
00:26:43,480 --> 00:26:46,800
Speaker 1: back to their strain relationship. By the time Dad got sick,

535
00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:50,159
Speaker 1: they hadn't spoken in years. I reached out to her

536
00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:53,080
Speaker 1: multiple times, telling her how serious things were, but she

537
00:26:53,119 --> 00:26:56,280
Speaker 1: said she wasn't ready to see him. Dad was hurt,

538
00:26:56,400 --> 00:26:58,880
Speaker 1: but never angry. He just said she asked to come

539
00:26:58,920 --> 00:27:03,520
Speaker 1: on her own terms. Unfortunately she never did Dan that.

540
00:27:03,920 --> 00:27:06,359
Speaker 1: I mean, she's gonna regret that of Actually, if she

541
00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:07,600
Speaker 1: doesn't already.

542
00:27:07,760 --> 00:27:09,560
Speaker 3: I have hundreds to wipe her tears with.

543
00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:13,640
Speaker 1: No, and that is her own cross to bear, not yours.

544
00:27:14,400 --> 00:27:20,080
Speaker 1: But yeah, I just again, don't sacrifice this relationship with

545
00:27:20,119 --> 00:27:24,119
Speaker 1: your sister until you're very sure that it needs to

546
00:27:24,160 --> 00:27:27,080
Speaker 1: be sacrificed or it needs to be you know ended.

547
00:27:27,240 --> 00:27:30,000
Speaker 1: Why didn't Dad just leave everything fifty to fifty? I

548
00:27:30,040 --> 00:27:32,880
Speaker 1: asked myself this too. I think Dad felt the inheritance

549
00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:36,080
Speaker 1: should reflect the relationships he had. He knew I had

550
00:27:36,080 --> 00:27:38,720
Speaker 1: been there for him throughout his illness, and he wanted

551
00:27:38,760 --> 00:27:41,320
Speaker 1: to recognize that. At the same time, he didn't want

552
00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:44,000
Speaker 1: to completely exclude my sister, which is why he left

553
00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:47,080
Speaker 1: her sentimental items and some money. I don't think it

554
00:27:47,119 --> 00:27:49,240
Speaker 1: was about punishing her. I think he just wanted to

555
00:27:49,280 --> 00:27:53,320
Speaker 1: acknowledge the reality of her family dynamic. Hope this clears

556
00:27:53,359 --> 00:27:55,919
Speaker 1: up some of the questions people have been asking, and

557
00:27:56,000 --> 00:27:59,480
Speaker 1: there is an update, But do you have any thoughts

558
00:27:59,600 --> 00:28:00,760
Speaker 1: before we jump in?

559
00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:05,800
Speaker 3: I think the sister is gonna come harder. They're doubling down. Yeah,

560
00:28:05,960 --> 00:28:08,200
Speaker 3: what do you what do you call it? Whenever old

561
00:28:08,200 --> 00:28:10,520
Speaker 3: people try to sign things but they aren't of their mind.

562
00:28:10,640 --> 00:28:14,600
Speaker 1: Oh like yeah, like he wasn't it Yeah, basically today

563
00:28:14,680 --> 00:28:17,240
Speaker 1: right by and to be able to sign that, Yeah, he.

564
00:28:17,280 --> 00:28:17,800
Speaker 3: Wasn't all there.

565
00:28:17,960 --> 00:28:21,600
Speaker 1: She checked him to give him all the money. Yeah. Yeah.

566
00:28:21,680 --> 00:28:25,439
Speaker 1: I think I'm still of the try and see if

567
00:28:25,440 --> 00:28:30,320
Speaker 1: you can communicate with your sister, have the conversation. But

568
00:28:30,520 --> 00:28:32,600
Speaker 1: you know, she might just want that money. You might

569
00:28:32,640 --> 00:28:36,439
Speaker 1: just be after that money. I also do think, like

570
00:28:36,720 --> 00:28:38,280
Speaker 1: op he was saying, like, oh, I don't think my

571
00:28:38,360 --> 00:28:40,240
Speaker 1: dad was punishing her. I think it was just reflecting.

572
00:28:40,320 --> 00:28:43,320
Speaker 1: I think it like it is kind of a punishment.

573
00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:45,280
Speaker 1: You know. It's like you weren't there for me, so

574
00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:47,400
Speaker 1: you don't get this money. That's not to say that

575
00:28:47,440 --> 00:28:50,520
Speaker 1: it isn't valid, but she's gonna see it that way

576
00:28:50,560 --> 00:28:52,880
Speaker 1: because it is. You know, she didn't do something, so

577
00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:55,360
Speaker 1: she doesn't get the money. Yeah, and that's in a way,

578
00:28:55,600 --> 00:28:58,800
Speaker 1: you know, and she has to live with that again.

579
00:28:59,040 --> 00:29:01,040
Speaker 1: She doesn't get to I have that moment with her

580
00:29:01,120 --> 00:29:05,280
Speaker 1: dad and reconciliation, doesn't get this money because she wasn't there.

581
00:29:07,160 --> 00:29:09,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I don't think it was fair both ways.

582
00:29:09,320 --> 00:29:11,320
Speaker 3: I think the sister of views things in one way

583
00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:12,720
Speaker 3: and the other.

584
00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:19,200
Speaker 1: Yes, absolutely, divorce is tricky on kids and adults alike updates.

585
00:29:19,920 --> 00:29:22,840
Speaker 1: After thinking it through and reading a lot of your comments,

586
00:29:22,960 --> 00:29:26,160
Speaker 1: I've decided I'm not giving my sister anything beyond what

587
00:29:26,320 --> 00:29:29,000
Speaker 1: Dad left her. His will was clear, and I'm not

588
00:29:29,040 --> 00:29:31,720
Speaker 1: going to disrespect his wishes to appease someone who didn't

589
00:29:31,720 --> 00:29:34,080
Speaker 1: even bother to visit him when he was passing away.

590
00:29:35,040 --> 00:29:37,840
Speaker 1: I tried to be reasonable and explain my side, but

591
00:29:37,920 --> 00:29:41,640
Speaker 1: it's pointless. My sister is still sending me nasty texts,

592
00:29:41,680 --> 00:29:44,200
Speaker 1: calling me names, and acting like I stole from her.

593
00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:47,280
Speaker 1: My mom is no better. She basically turned this into

594
00:29:47,280 --> 00:29:49,920
Speaker 1: a full on guilt trip, saying things like you're tearing

595
00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:54,840
Speaker 1: this family apart and you're just like your father. Honestly,

596
00:29:54,840 --> 00:29:58,080
Speaker 1: if being just like dad means standing my ground, I'll

597
00:29:58,120 --> 00:30:00,880
Speaker 1: take it as a compliment. I think you living with

598
00:30:00,960 --> 00:30:03,320
Speaker 1: your dad and your sister living with your mom, you

599
00:30:03,360 --> 00:30:09,040
Speaker 1: have like cemented those kind of relationships.

600
00:30:09,120 --> 00:30:09,520
Speaker 3: Yeah.

601
00:30:09,560 --> 00:30:11,240
Speaker 1: I think your mom was always going to side with

602
00:30:11,280 --> 00:30:15,240
Speaker 1: your sister because you, in her mind, probably sided with

603
00:30:15,320 --> 00:30:17,600
Speaker 1: your dad. Yeah, and she has a lot of resentment

604
00:30:17,640 --> 00:30:21,520
Speaker 1: towards him. Literally. Yeah, at this point, I'm done trying

605
00:30:21,560 --> 00:30:23,640
Speaker 1: to keep the peace. They can say whatever they want

606
00:30:23,640 --> 00:30:26,680
Speaker 1: about me not changing my mind. I'm gonna do what

607
00:30:26,720 --> 00:30:29,160
Speaker 1: I want with the inheritance and move on with my life.

608
00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:32,240
Speaker 1: If that means cutting some people off, so be it.

609
00:30:32,680 --> 00:30:35,200
Speaker 1: To everyone who says I'm not the ale. Thank you.

610
00:30:35,440 --> 00:30:38,680
Speaker 1: Feels good to have some validation. Now I'm focusing on

611
00:30:38,800 --> 00:30:41,360
Speaker 1: honoring Dad's memory and making the most of what he left.

612
00:30:41,440 --> 00:30:45,160
Speaker 1: And there is a second update. Oh my gosh, do

613
00:30:45,200 --> 00:30:47,960
Speaker 1: you think sister's gonna get worse, gonna double down or

614
00:30:48,000 --> 00:30:51,080
Speaker 1: I guess now triple down or have a change of heart.

615
00:30:51,280 --> 00:30:55,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, the sister's calling her names. There's nothing she can do.

616
00:30:55,760 --> 00:31:00,520
Speaker 1: Right with the sister. Yeah, well legally no, so might

617
00:31:00,560 --> 00:31:02,760
Speaker 1: pester him a little bit or a lot of it.

618
00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:08,600
Speaker 3: Okay, in which case you know, Yeah, yeah, the person was.

619
00:31:08,560 --> 00:31:09,200
Speaker 1: Pranked a bunch.

620
00:31:09,280 --> 00:31:12,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, here's that. Yeah, I think it's fine.

621
00:31:12,560 --> 00:31:17,480
Speaker 1: Legally she can't do anything. Relationship wise, you might have. Yeah,

622
00:31:17,480 --> 00:31:19,560
Speaker 1: it seems like you're probably gonna lose that relationship. But

623
00:31:19,600 --> 00:31:21,080
Speaker 1: it doesn't seem like you want it though.

624
00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:23,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's true. That's true.

625
00:31:24,040 --> 00:31:25,600
Speaker 1: It seems like you kind of lost it when that

626
00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:30,680
Speaker 1: divorce happened already, dang sadly. Update two, So, six months

627
00:31:30,720 --> 00:31:34,360
Speaker 1: after my dad passed and the inheritance was finalized, my

628
00:31:34,440 --> 00:31:39,000
Speaker 1: sister completely lost it. I thought things were rough before,

629
00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:42,480
Speaker 1: but this took it to a whole new level. First,

630
00:31:42,680 --> 00:31:47,120
Speaker 1: she tried to sue me, No way. She claimed I

631
00:31:47,280 --> 00:31:50,800
Speaker 1: manipulated dad, but you said into changing the will and

632
00:31:50,840 --> 00:31:54,600
Speaker 1: accused me of undue influence. Throw the roses, saying I

633
00:31:54,640 --> 00:31:57,040
Speaker 1: isolated her from him while he was sick and pressured

634
00:31:57,120 --> 00:31:58,880
Speaker 1: him while he was medicated.

635
00:31:59,160 --> 00:31:59,400
Speaker 3: Yeah.

636
00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:04,360
Speaker 1: Absolutely, it was full of lies and reached so far.

637
00:32:04,440 --> 00:32:06,440
Speaker 1: I don't even know how she said it with a

638
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:09,280
Speaker 1: straight face. She even had two friends of hers signed

639
00:32:09,320 --> 00:32:13,080
Speaker 1: statements saying they felt something was off, even though neither

640
00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:14,640
Speaker 1: of them were around our family.

641
00:32:14,840 --> 00:32:18,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, just fill it in. The vibecond was just off.

642
00:32:18,480 --> 00:32:21,520
Speaker 1: She wasn't even around her own father. How were they

643
00:32:21,680 --> 00:32:23,160
Speaker 1: around the father? How?

644
00:32:23,360 --> 00:32:26,240
Speaker 3: Also, how a statement from two friends saying something fell off?

645
00:32:26,400 --> 00:32:27,160
Speaker 3: Good to do anything?

646
00:32:27,320 --> 00:32:30,920
Speaker 1: It's not, That's the thing she's grasping for straws. Her

647
00:32:31,000 --> 00:32:35,360
Speaker 1: case got tossed quickly. Judge dismissed it with prejudice, so

648
00:32:35,440 --> 00:32:37,960
Speaker 1: she can't try again. I thought that would be the

649
00:32:38,040 --> 00:32:40,960
Speaker 1: end of it. Nope, and this is what I said.

650
00:32:41,000 --> 00:32:44,080
Speaker 1: She started pestering me. Yep, she did exactly what both

651
00:32:44,080 --> 00:32:47,800
Speaker 1: of us said. Constant texts, emails, calls from private numbers.

652
00:32:47,840 --> 00:32:50,720
Speaker 1: She made burner accounts on social media and commented on

653
00:32:50,800 --> 00:32:53,840
Speaker 1: anything I posted, signed me up for mailing lists. And

654
00:32:53,880 --> 00:32:56,560
Speaker 1: then I walked outside one day and someone had spray

655
00:32:56,600 --> 00:33:01,000
Speaker 1: painted thief across my garage. I have cameras now, Yeah,

656
00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:04,240
Speaker 1: it was her Clara's day. Had to file a police

657
00:33:04,280 --> 00:33:07,320
Speaker 1: report and that's dyll in progress. Then she showed up

658
00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:09,040
Speaker 1: at the house while I was gone for the weekend,

659
00:33:09,280 --> 00:33:12,400
Speaker 1: broke in through a back window. You wrecked the place,

660
00:33:13,080 --> 00:33:15,960
Speaker 1: ripped pictures off the wall, poured something on the couch,

661
00:33:16,040 --> 00:33:20,200
Speaker 1: smelled like bleach, broke furniture, went through drawers, dumped boxes

662
00:33:20,200 --> 00:33:22,760
Speaker 1: of my dad's stuff on the floor, left a note

663
00:33:22,760 --> 00:33:26,160
Speaker 1: on the bathroom mirror that just said you don't deserve this.

664
00:33:26,680 --> 00:33:29,680
Speaker 1: Thank you for the note that proves you were there.

665
00:33:30,520 --> 00:33:34,640
Speaker 3: You idiots.

666
00:33:34,080 --> 00:33:37,960
Speaker 1: She was capable of this. She absolutely did not deserve

667
00:33:38,000 --> 00:33:40,640
Speaker 1: any of this money. Yeah, I reported the break and

668
00:33:41,080 --> 00:33:45,720
Speaker 1: there's now a criminal case open against her. It gets worse. Wow, right,

669
00:33:45,800 --> 00:33:49,800
Speaker 1: After that, she started telling extended family and mutual friends

670
00:33:49,840 --> 00:33:53,120
Speaker 1: that I harmed her when we were younger. That's where

671
00:33:53,160 --> 00:33:55,440
Speaker 1: I draw the line. Yeah, you can sue her for

672
00:33:55,520 --> 00:33:57,560
Speaker 1: freaking slander.

673
00:33:57,200 --> 00:34:01,720
Speaker 3: Defamation, yeahinology. All right, Well, I guess we can do

674
00:34:01,760 --> 00:34:02,480
Speaker 3: a joint case.

675
00:34:03,440 --> 00:34:07,600
Speaker 1: And then if she's writing anything, it's libel. It's not

676
00:34:07,720 --> 00:34:10,759
Speaker 1: just petty inheritance drama anymore. She crossed a line that

677
00:34:10,840 --> 00:34:15,640
Speaker 1: can't be uncrossed. I've never done anything like that, obviously,

678
00:34:16,200 --> 00:34:18,439
Speaker 1: and hearing that kind of accusation come from your own

679
00:34:18,440 --> 00:34:21,840
Speaker 1: sibling is something I don't think i'll ever process. I

680
00:34:21,880 --> 00:34:24,600
Speaker 1: have nothing to hide, and I've already spoken to a lawyer.

681
00:34:24,760 --> 00:34:27,799
Speaker 1: If she says it publicly again, I'm filing a defamation suit.

682
00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:29,720
Speaker 1: Final thoughts.

683
00:34:29,880 --> 00:34:32,319
Speaker 3: It's crazy that someone feels this entitled.

684
00:34:32,280 --> 00:34:34,560
Speaker 1: Yeah to money that they didn't earn, money.

685
00:34:34,320 --> 00:34:36,080
Speaker 3: That didn't earn, and they're gonna spend the rest of

686
00:34:36,120 --> 00:34:39,120
Speaker 3: their lives trying to get the money instead of building

687
00:34:39,160 --> 00:34:40,160
Speaker 3: well and getting well.

688
00:34:40,239 --> 00:34:40,680
Speaker 1: Yeah.

689
00:34:40,800 --> 00:34:42,680
Speaker 3: As you can see, this is a trait of hers

690
00:34:42,800 --> 00:34:47,120
Speaker 3: and it's transactional. Yeah, and she wants things that doesn't like.

691
00:34:47,719 --> 00:34:49,279
Speaker 3: Of course, she wanted Tom with her dad, and that

692
00:34:49,400 --> 00:34:51,279
Speaker 3: was bad. That like, she didn't get that and things

693
00:34:51,320 --> 00:34:52,440
Speaker 3: didn't end up that way.

694
00:34:52,800 --> 00:34:56,240
Speaker 1: But all this, yeah, I mean she made a choice,

695
00:34:56,360 --> 00:34:59,239
Speaker 1: did not visit her dad, and she was she was

696
00:34:59,239 --> 00:35:02,040
Speaker 1: an adult. You. She's twenty five now, so this was recent,

697
00:35:02,520 --> 00:35:04,719
Speaker 1: probably around twenty three or twenty four when she made

698
00:35:04,719 --> 00:35:08,040
Speaker 1: that decision to not go. Uh Op was there for

699
00:35:08,120 --> 00:35:11,480
Speaker 1: his dad the whole time. And then not only does

700
00:35:11,520 --> 00:35:14,919
Speaker 1: she have the audacity to demand this money, she then

701
00:35:15,200 --> 00:35:20,879
Speaker 1: goes on to Lake Harass. Ope just terribly. I mean,

702
00:35:21,000 --> 00:35:23,920
Speaker 1: no normal person does that when they don't get something

703
00:35:23,960 --> 00:35:27,279
Speaker 1: they want. But there's a little bit left to the story. Ope,

704
00:35:27,480 --> 00:35:29,880
Speaker 1: you made the right decision, and it sucks that you

705
00:35:29,880 --> 00:35:32,120
Speaker 1: have to cut off your probably your mom too, your

706
00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:35,800
Speaker 1: mom and sister, but you know your piece is worth

707
00:35:35,840 --> 00:35:39,000
Speaker 1: more than all this. My mom is still trying to

708
00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:42,000
Speaker 1: play both sides. She says things like, your sister's just

709
00:35:42,160 --> 00:35:45,839
Speaker 1: grieving in her own way, grieving someone she didn't see

710
00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:50,279
Speaker 1: for years, is grieving. As if that justifies any of this.

711
00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:53,920
Speaker 1: It doesn't. We're done. I've cut contact with both of them.

712
00:35:54,320 --> 00:35:57,120
Speaker 1: If there's a takeaway here, it's that people can spiral

713
00:35:57,200 --> 00:35:59,600
Speaker 1: in ways you never expect when money and guilt get

714
00:35:59,640 --> 00:36:03,200
Speaker 1: mixed other. I kept thinking, surely this is the last straw,

715
00:36:03,840 --> 00:36:07,359
Speaker 1: but it just kept going. I'm tired, I'm angry, and

716
00:36:07,440 --> 00:36:10,640
Speaker 1: I'm done. I'll keep the house, I'll keep what Dad

717
00:36:10,719 --> 00:36:15,600
Speaker 1: left me, and I'll keep my distance. Right, look at that,

718
00:36:15,840 --> 00:36:18,960
Speaker 1: Look at that open Keep that house, keep your money.

719
00:36:19,320 --> 00:36:23,600
Speaker 3: Wow, it's so crazy that after someone gets broken in. Yeah,

720
00:36:23,600 --> 00:36:26,319
Speaker 3: we had two stories. People get you know, things get

721
00:36:26,320 --> 00:36:29,480
Speaker 3: broken in, then they get security cameras. You think these

722
00:36:29,520 --> 00:36:32,520
Speaker 3: siblings would think a little bit, Well, they're clearly not smart.

723
00:36:32,600 --> 00:36:35,880
Speaker 1: No, because I'm she's trying to file these like suits

724
00:36:35,920 --> 00:36:40,360
Speaker 1: that have no like no holding it all, like all terrible,

725
00:36:40,520 --> 00:36:43,600
Speaker 1: terrible weird. Yeah, like there's no ground for them to

726
00:36:43,640 --> 00:36:46,520
Speaker 1: stand on. And yet she's like, yeah, this's gotta work.

727
00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:49,719
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get all of this money that I have

728
00:36:49,880 --> 00:36:53,000
Speaker 1: no legal right to, dude, or I'm going to harass

729
00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:56,759
Speaker 1: my brother until he files a police report and she

730
00:36:56,760 --> 00:36:57,760
Speaker 1: probably gets arrested.

731
00:36:58,040 --> 00:36:59,600
Speaker 3: And honestly i'd counter, so.

732
00:37:01,320 --> 00:37:03,560
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, now you can sue her for defamation, you

733
00:37:03,600 --> 00:37:06,000
Speaker 1: can see her for breaking into your house.

734
00:37:07,000 --> 00:37:07,520
Speaker 3: Go through.

735
00:37:07,800 --> 00:37:10,760
Speaker 1: Well, I think it's going through. I think filed criminal charges.

736
00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:13,439
Speaker 3: So now it's she's going to be rested. Yeah, okay,

737
00:37:13,520 --> 00:37:13,799
Speaker 3: thank you.

738
00:37:13,840 --> 00:37:16,200
Speaker 1: Oh yeah no, this is now a criminal case because

739
00:37:16,200 --> 00:37:20,640
Speaker 1: she's stupid enough to have like left. But folks, that

740
00:37:20,800 --> 00:37:22,240
Speaker 1: is the end of that story.

741
00:37:22,600 --> 00:37:23,799
Speaker 3: Got another one coming for you.

742
00:37:23,920 --> 00:37:25,160
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743
00:37:25,239 --> 00:37:27,080
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00:37:27,120 --> 00:37:29,160
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746
00:37:30,520 --> 00:37:33,120
Speaker 1: I want to cut off my step family after my

747
00:37:33,239 --> 00:37:34,200
Speaker 1: father passed away.

748
00:37:34,640 --> 00:37:36,479
Speaker 3: I guess there's no reason you stick around them.

749
00:37:36,560 --> 00:37:38,680
Speaker 1: My parents got a divorce when I was six, and

750
00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:41,560
Speaker 1: I haven't seen my mom since she was harmful. My

751
00:37:41,680 --> 00:37:46,120
Speaker 1: dad were married when I was eight. My stepmom wasn't harmful,

752
00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:48,719
Speaker 1: but we never clicked. She tried to be my new

753
00:37:48,800 --> 00:37:51,040
Speaker 1: mom right off the bat, and I found it weird,

754
00:37:51,160 --> 00:37:53,000
Speaker 1: and she didn't like how I wasn't opened to the

755
00:37:53,040 --> 00:37:55,879
Speaker 1: idea right away. By the way, this comes from cut

756
00:37:55,880 --> 00:37:57,760
Speaker 1: stepfam And if you want to sit your own stories,

757
00:37:57,800 --> 00:37:59,720
Speaker 1: go to the r slash. Okay, storytime separated.

758
00:38:00,200 --> 00:38:02,239
Speaker 3: Oh people are like cars. You just get a new

759
00:38:02,280 --> 00:38:03,279
Speaker 3: one and it's fine.

760
00:38:03,000 --> 00:38:05,640
Speaker 1: And it's fine and they'll adjust immediately. She also had

761
00:38:05,640 --> 00:38:08,040
Speaker 1: a daughter who's one year younger than me. We didn't

762
00:38:08,120 --> 00:38:10,840
Speaker 1: hit it off either. Don't get me wrong, she's a

763
00:38:10,880 --> 00:38:14,600
Speaker 1: totally fine person, but as kids, she was the typical brat,

764
00:38:14,719 --> 00:38:16,359
Speaker 1: so I guess it made it hard for us to

765
00:38:16,400 --> 00:38:17,839
Speaker 1: really bond as kids.

766
00:38:18,000 --> 00:38:20,000
Speaker 3: And then she had a sister that was just like her,

767
00:38:20,200 --> 00:38:21,880
Speaker 3: but they weren't as pretty as you. And then your

768
00:38:21,960 --> 00:38:23,719
Speaker 3: dad left and you always had to clean the house,

769
00:38:24,400 --> 00:38:26,480
Speaker 3: and then you met a prince. It's going to work

770
00:38:26,480 --> 00:38:26,799
Speaker 3: out for you.

771
00:38:27,239 --> 00:38:29,319
Speaker 1: Once I hit my teens, I had a rough patch

772
00:38:29,320 --> 00:38:32,759
Speaker 1: of being rebellious and overall not a good person. My

773
00:38:32,840 --> 00:38:35,160
Speaker 1: dad gave me space like I needed, but my step

774
00:38:35,200 --> 00:38:37,279
Speaker 1: mom didn't see it that way, and we fought a

775
00:38:37,360 --> 00:38:40,439
Speaker 1: lot because of it. My stepsister was all right during

776
00:38:40,480 --> 00:38:43,520
Speaker 1: teen years. She got the more quiet and keep to yourself,

777
00:38:43,760 --> 00:38:46,040
Speaker 1: so we didn't really have any complex. But me and

778
00:38:46,080 --> 00:38:49,239
Speaker 1: my step mom didn't hit it off, and once I

779
00:38:49,280 --> 00:38:52,239
Speaker 1: turned eighteen, I moved out first chance I got. I

780
00:38:52,280 --> 00:38:55,120
Speaker 1: am now twenty four and my dad sadly passed away

781
00:38:55,200 --> 00:38:58,200
Speaker 1: from cancer, so I didn't get along with my stepmom.

782
00:38:58,239 --> 00:39:01,000
Speaker 1: I never stopped loving my dad. He texted daily. When

783
00:39:01,000 --> 00:39:03,279
Speaker 1: I moved out. It was rough on me, and I

784
00:39:03,320 --> 00:39:06,480
Speaker 1: do appreciate my step mom helping me with the funeral,

785
00:39:06,600 --> 00:39:08,480
Speaker 1: but that was a couple of months ago, and I

786
00:39:08,520 --> 00:39:12,280
Speaker 1: haven't really talked to her since. My stepsister has invited

787
00:39:12,280 --> 00:39:14,600
Speaker 1: me over for Christmas, and honestly, I don't know if

788
00:39:14,640 --> 00:39:17,120
Speaker 1: I want to go, not because I don't like them,

789
00:39:17,200 --> 00:39:19,400
Speaker 1: but because it's the same house that we grew up

790
00:39:19,400 --> 00:39:21,200
Speaker 1: in and it will remind me too much of my

791
00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:23,080
Speaker 1: dad and I'm still grieving.

792
00:39:23,480 --> 00:39:23,680
Speaker 3: Oh.

793
00:39:24,200 --> 00:39:27,000
Speaker 1: I know my stepsister and stepmom are too, but ef

794
00:39:27,080 --> 00:39:29,160
Speaker 1: it sucks because I don't know. I just want to

795
00:39:29,160 --> 00:39:32,000
Speaker 1: be left alone for some time to process because it

796
00:39:32,040 --> 00:39:34,520
Speaker 1: was only three months ago. Am I the a hole

797
00:39:34,600 --> 00:39:36,239
Speaker 1: if I don't show up to Christmas Day at my

798
00:39:36,280 --> 00:39:40,160
Speaker 1: stepmom's place? And there are some comments and an update,

799
00:39:40,239 --> 00:39:41,320
Speaker 1: But what do you think?

800
00:39:41,600 --> 00:39:45,480
Speaker 3: I recently had sown pass and it was my dad,

801
00:39:46,040 --> 00:39:49,240
Speaker 3: it was my great grandfather, and I feel in that scenario,

802
00:39:49,280 --> 00:39:50,920
Speaker 3: i'd want to be there just to like grieve it

803
00:39:50,960 --> 00:39:51,880
Speaker 3: and let it all out.

804
00:39:52,160 --> 00:39:55,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, this feels different because it's not like people that

805
00:39:55,960 --> 00:39:58,919
Speaker 1: she's emotionally attached to. It's kind of just people she's

806
00:39:58,960 --> 00:40:00,680
Speaker 1: been forced into p amity with.

807
00:40:00,840 --> 00:40:04,040
Speaker 3: And they don't seem to have her best interest at mine.

808
00:40:04,080 --> 00:40:06,840
Speaker 3: It's sort of this is how I think things should

809
00:40:06,840 --> 00:40:09,680
Speaker 3: go about and you have to do that, and during

810
00:40:09,719 --> 00:40:13,880
Speaker 3: this grieving process it's such a very like sensitive time. Yeah,

811
00:40:13,960 --> 00:40:16,320
Speaker 3: and you kind of need a little bit of grace

812
00:40:16,400 --> 00:40:18,799
Speaker 3: more than you need to do this this.

813
00:40:19,120 --> 00:40:21,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think that you should do anything just

814
00:40:21,160 --> 00:40:24,600
Speaker 1: because you're you think you're expected to or it's like, oh,

815
00:40:24,880 --> 00:40:28,560
Speaker 1: well I should see my stuff, And it's like, whatever

816
00:40:28,680 --> 00:40:31,000
Speaker 1: you need to get through this time is the most

817
00:40:31,000 --> 00:40:34,520
Speaker 1: important thing. And if they say, hey, you know, we

818
00:40:34,560 --> 00:40:36,799
Speaker 1: want you to come to Christmas dinner, you can just

819
00:40:36,840 --> 00:40:39,640
Speaker 1: say I appreciate the offer. It's really kind of you,

820
00:40:39,719 --> 00:40:41,960
Speaker 1: but I think I want to take some time alone

821
00:40:41,960 --> 00:40:43,839
Speaker 1: to the process and that's okay. And if you don't

822
00:40:43,880 --> 00:40:46,840
Speaker 1: understand that, then you know you're not great people. I

823
00:40:46,880 --> 00:40:49,000
Speaker 1: mean next, No, you don't want to see them. Yeah,

824
00:40:49,239 --> 00:40:51,840
Speaker 1: it seems like you guys don't vibe. But it seems

825
00:40:51,880 --> 00:40:56,759
Speaker 1: like they're normal and not crazy for the most part, So.

826
00:40:56,960 --> 00:41:01,320
Speaker 3: That moment's wanted a relationship with you. Yeah, nothing came naturally.

827
00:41:01,600 --> 00:41:02,040
Speaker 1: Yeah.

828
00:41:02,600 --> 00:41:04,120
Speaker 3: Uh, that'st off.

829
00:41:03,680 --> 00:41:06,120
Speaker 1: That's top comment, not the a hole. It was nice

830
00:41:06,160 --> 00:41:08,400
Speaker 1: of them to include you, but you, by all means

831
00:41:08,440 --> 00:41:11,160
Speaker 1: don't have to accept their offer. I'm sorry. For your loss.

832
00:41:11,400 --> 00:41:13,600
Speaker 1: If you need an excuse and want to potentially keep

833
00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:15,400
Speaker 1: the door open in case you change your mind in

834
00:41:15,440 --> 00:41:17,680
Speaker 1: the future, you can say you're still grieving and would

835
00:41:17,760 --> 00:41:21,240
Speaker 1: rather be alone, which is nice. Then so it's good advice.

836
00:41:22,040 --> 00:41:24,440
Speaker 1: Opie says, I'll say that I don't know what I

837
00:41:24,520 --> 00:41:27,120
Speaker 1: want yet. I could one day feel like I miss

838
00:41:27,120 --> 00:41:29,360
Speaker 1: and want them, but not right now. My dad's sister,

839
00:41:29,480 --> 00:41:31,400
Speaker 1: my aunt, has been a great mother figure to me

840
00:41:31,480 --> 00:41:33,920
Speaker 1: once my bio mom left me and my dad, so

841
00:41:34,120 --> 00:41:38,200
Speaker 1: I call her my deaf immediate family. Comeder says, you

842
00:41:38,239 --> 00:41:39,839
Speaker 1: are not the a hole if you choose to cut

843
00:41:39,840 --> 00:41:42,680
Speaker 1: them out, but people change, and somewhere along the road

844
00:41:42,719 --> 00:41:46,040
Speaker 1: you will probably regret such a hard decision. Why even

845
00:41:46,040 --> 00:41:49,120
Speaker 1: cut them out? They're a living bridge to your late dad.

846
00:41:49,680 --> 00:41:52,000
Speaker 1: He loved them, and he not only lives in your heart,

847
00:41:52,040 --> 00:41:55,279
Speaker 1: but there's also And then Opi responds, I probably ask

848
00:41:55,360 --> 00:41:57,319
Speaker 1: the wrong question. I won't cut them out. I was

849
00:41:57,360 --> 00:41:59,239
Speaker 1: just wondering if I'd be the a hole for not

850
00:41:59,280 --> 00:42:02,439
Speaker 1: showing up. I won't lie. I'm still grieving and kind

851
00:42:02,440 --> 00:42:04,520
Speaker 1: of want to spend it with my aunt, my dad's sister,

852
00:42:04,840 --> 00:42:07,720
Speaker 1: because she's been a mother figure ever since my actual

853
00:42:07,760 --> 00:42:12,040
Speaker 1: mom left me. And Ope also responded to another commoner saying,

854
00:42:12,040 --> 00:42:14,040
Speaker 1: I worded this wrong. Should have said it more as

855
00:42:14,120 --> 00:42:16,840
Speaker 1: me not going to them this holiday. I appreciate what

856
00:42:16,840 --> 00:42:18,959
Speaker 1: they've done for me, and cutting them out isn't really

857
00:42:18,960 --> 00:42:20,799
Speaker 1: something I want to do. Commoner says, what do you

858
00:42:20,800 --> 00:42:23,040
Speaker 1: have to lose? My opinion is just go for it.

859
00:42:23,480 --> 00:42:25,600
Speaker 1: By reaching out to you, it probably means she likes

860
00:42:25,640 --> 00:42:28,160
Speaker 1: you at least a little bit and obviously cares for

861
00:42:28,200 --> 00:42:29,920
Speaker 1: your well being. If she wants to put food in

862
00:42:29,920 --> 00:42:33,040
Speaker 1: your bellet, Opie says, I like your style. I'll I'll

863
00:42:33,080 --> 00:42:35,640
Speaker 1: try and go and see what happens. Oh, okay, now

864
00:42:35,640 --> 00:42:37,920
Speaker 1: it seems like Opie is going to Christmas dinner.

865
00:42:38,000 --> 00:42:38,360
Speaker 3: Okay.

866
00:42:38,600 --> 00:42:40,560
Speaker 1: Everyone was like, don't cut them off to it, and

867
00:42:40,800 --> 00:42:43,880
Speaker 1: she was like, I wasn't planning to. I guess. Okay.

868
00:42:44,320 --> 00:42:45,400
Speaker 3: Kind of awkward right now.

869
00:42:45,480 --> 00:42:48,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, there is no ill will for either. And I

870
00:42:48,120 --> 00:42:50,600
Speaker 1: do respect my stepsister a bit because she had to

871
00:42:50,640 --> 00:42:53,360
Speaker 1: deal with me being a rebellious nod my teen years

872
00:42:53,920 --> 00:42:55,759
Speaker 1: and she could have defe hated me for that and

873
00:42:55,840 --> 00:42:58,719
Speaker 1: she didn't. And sorry about your dad too. I talked

874
00:42:58,760 --> 00:43:00,799
Speaker 1: to him every day, even if it was like a

875
00:43:00,840 --> 00:43:03,960
Speaker 1: five second good morning. He tried his damnedest to give

876
00:43:03,960 --> 00:43:06,480
Speaker 1: me the best because my mom was harmfules heck, and

877
00:43:06,560 --> 00:43:09,640
Speaker 1: just abandoned me, And another commoner says, not the ale.

878
00:43:09,760 --> 00:43:12,080
Speaker 1: It's understandable that you don't want to spend the rest

879
00:43:12,080 --> 00:43:15,040
Speaker 1: of your life trying to force a relationship with people

880
00:43:15,080 --> 00:43:17,160
Speaker 1: you don't really have a deep connection with. But I

881
00:43:17,200 --> 00:43:18,960
Speaker 1: do think it's lovely that they helped you with the

882
00:43:18,960 --> 00:43:22,960
Speaker 1: funeral arrangements and invited you for Christmas even though they

883
00:43:22,960 --> 00:43:27,360
Speaker 1: weren't obligated to, so clearly they're not bad people. Perhaps

884
00:43:27,400 --> 00:43:29,479
Speaker 1: just keep them on your Christmas and Birthday card list

885
00:43:29,520 --> 00:43:31,160
Speaker 1: and check in on them every now and then we

886
00:43:31,239 --> 00:43:35,440
Speaker 1: got clickbaited. I thought everything's fine. Yeah, I mean, I

887
00:43:35,520 --> 00:43:37,920
Speaker 1: op you lost your father, which is awful, but uh,

888
00:43:38,600 --> 00:43:42,239
Speaker 1: in terms like of the step family, there seemed pretty chill.

889
00:43:42,280 --> 00:43:44,640
Speaker 1: And Opie's like, I don't know, I just I wasn't

890
00:43:44,719 --> 00:43:47,919
Speaker 1: up for it this year, but maybe I'll be good

891
00:43:48,000 --> 00:43:51,080
Speaker 1: by Thanksgiving next year. Yeah, they're better be a turn.

892
00:43:51,320 --> 00:43:54,120
Speaker 3: There better be a turn for the worst. And people

893
00:43:54,440 --> 00:43:57,640
Speaker 3: on crazy yeah cutget to wheels.

894
00:43:58,400 --> 00:44:02,880
Speaker 1: This update would be wild. Something's gonna happen, and Opie says,

895
00:44:03,080 --> 00:44:05,319
Speaker 1: I like that idea. There is no ill will for

896
00:44:05,440 --> 00:44:07,600
Speaker 1: either of them, but I feel no love for them,

897
00:44:08,239 --> 00:44:10,680
Speaker 1: though I do respect my stepsister for what I put

898
00:44:10,680 --> 00:44:13,239
Speaker 1: her through, with the constant fighting and still being at

899
00:44:13,239 --> 00:44:16,560
Speaker 1: the very least cordial. Omer says, not the ale, since

900
00:44:16,600 --> 00:44:18,600
Speaker 1: you have to grieve your own way, but keep in

901
00:44:18,640 --> 00:44:20,560
Speaker 1: mind that they are grieving too and might want you

902
00:44:20,640 --> 00:44:22,720
Speaker 1: there to patch things up and have a fresh start.

903
00:44:23,520 --> 00:44:26,040
Speaker 1: Opie says, I know I want to be there. I

904
00:44:26,080 --> 00:44:29,120
Speaker 1: know I wasn't an easy teen, and I'm forever grateful

905
00:44:29,160 --> 00:44:31,680
Speaker 1: for my step mom not hating me for it or

906
00:44:31,760 --> 00:44:34,560
Speaker 1: my stepsister not resenting me for it. I won't be

907
00:44:34,560 --> 00:44:36,759
Speaker 1: able to make it to this holiday, but I want

908
00:44:36,760 --> 00:44:38,680
Speaker 1: to be there for them because I really am the

909
00:44:38,719 --> 00:44:41,440
Speaker 1: only male family figure either of them have now, and

910
00:44:41,520 --> 00:44:44,279
Speaker 1: Opie's male. I didn't know that. I didn't know that either,

911
00:44:44,440 --> 00:44:48,239
Speaker 1: but there is an update. Oh boy, I decided not

912
00:44:48,440 --> 00:44:50,520
Speaker 1: to cut my step family out of my life. I

913
00:44:50,560 --> 00:44:53,840
Speaker 1: thought that was on the table. Opie's like, I've decided

914
00:44:53,880 --> 00:44:56,080
Speaker 1: to get you said that it wasn't even gonna happen

915
00:44:56,560 --> 00:44:59,960
Speaker 1: to get Yeah. Literally, She's like, I'm gonna cut them back,

916
00:45:00,160 --> 00:45:02,239
Speaker 1: and then she's like, guys, guys, I don't know where

917
00:45:02,239 --> 00:45:05,239
Speaker 1: you got that idea from. I'm not gonna what the

918
00:45:05,280 --> 00:45:08,120
Speaker 1: guy sorry, He's like, I don't know where you got

919
00:45:08,160 --> 00:45:10,000
Speaker 1: that idea from. I was never going to cut them out.

920
00:45:10,360 --> 00:45:13,080
Speaker 1: And then here he is again, and bro my second

921
00:45:13,160 --> 00:45:15,279
Speaker 1: question if I was day whole, if I go or not,

922
00:45:15,400 --> 00:45:17,480
Speaker 1: and people say, it's up to me. So I went

923
00:45:17,520 --> 00:45:20,680
Speaker 1: to my stepmom's place for Christmas. This was my first

924
00:45:20,680 --> 00:45:23,799
Speaker 1: time with my stepmom and stepsister without my dad. It

925
00:45:23,880 --> 00:45:25,880
Speaker 1: was super hard because I sat in the seat he

926
00:45:25,920 --> 00:45:29,719
Speaker 1: always sat on, and I just broke down crying. I

927
00:45:29,719 --> 00:45:33,200
Speaker 1: am forever grateful for both my stepsister and stepmom. Whoa

928
00:45:33,480 --> 00:45:35,560
Speaker 1: because we all just had a group hog on our

929
00:45:35,600 --> 00:45:38,560
Speaker 1: couch while I bawled my eyes out. Stop wait oh,

930
00:45:38,560 --> 00:45:40,799
Speaker 1: if he's like, that's okay. I didn't want to say

931
00:45:40,800 --> 00:45:44,279
Speaker 1: it earlier, but I felt like I think Ope and

932
00:45:44,440 --> 00:45:48,000
Speaker 1: step family just kind of misunderstood each other when they

933
00:45:48,000 --> 00:45:50,840
Speaker 1: were growing up, and he never really gave them a chance.

934
00:45:51,360 --> 00:45:53,560
Speaker 1: And then when he was you know, it's he left

935
00:45:53,560 --> 00:45:57,000
Speaker 1: at eighteen. It's been you know, a couple of years.

936
00:45:57,080 --> 00:46:00,600
Speaker 1: Now he's twenty four, and I feel like you've matured

937
00:46:00,680 --> 00:46:04,480
Speaker 1: and they've also, you know, realized that space. Yeah, you've

938
00:46:04,480 --> 00:46:06,560
Speaker 1: had some space and you have this loss that you

939
00:46:06,719 --> 00:46:09,080
Speaker 1: all have experienced for this person that you all love.

940
00:46:09,200 --> 00:46:10,960
Speaker 1: And I was like, yeah, maybe you could probably give

941
00:46:10,960 --> 00:46:13,520
Speaker 1: them another chance. And it seems like you did.

942
00:46:14,040 --> 00:46:16,200
Speaker 3: This is cute. I love it. Yeah.

943
00:46:16,280 --> 00:46:18,560
Speaker 1: Sometimes you feel like you want to be alone after

944
00:46:18,760 --> 00:46:23,000
Speaker 1: like a terrible thing happens, or just like you're very sad, but.

945
00:46:22,960 --> 00:46:24,319
Speaker 3: That's not what you should do.

946
00:46:24,480 --> 00:46:27,400
Speaker 1: Then you realize that, oh wow, actually, when I'm with people,

947
00:46:27,520 --> 00:46:29,440
Speaker 1: it's it's so much better and I don't have to

948
00:46:29,480 --> 00:46:30,480
Speaker 1: sit in my sadness.

949
00:46:30,680 --> 00:46:32,920
Speaker 3: You have to go hang out with your stepmom. That's

950
00:46:32,920 --> 00:46:36,640
Speaker 3: always one relationship exactly. Just do that, Just do it.

951
00:46:36,800 --> 00:46:38,960
Speaker 1: We had brunch and it went well, though I was

952
00:46:38,960 --> 00:46:41,200
Speaker 1: holding in tears for the whole thing. This was the

953
00:46:41,280 --> 00:46:43,799
Speaker 1: first time I could see that they actually did care

954
00:46:43,880 --> 00:46:47,160
Speaker 1: for me, and I care for them. They're my family.

955
00:46:47,440 --> 00:46:49,480
Speaker 1: I didn't stay the night because I define couldn't do that,

956
00:46:49,640 --> 00:46:51,799
Speaker 1: but I left around eleven at night. This was the

957
00:46:51,840 --> 00:46:54,200
Speaker 1: first time I felt like a full family unit and

958
00:46:54,239 --> 00:46:56,239
Speaker 1: not the bad kid who fought with my stepmom and

959
00:46:56,520 --> 00:46:59,759
Speaker 1: wasn't the nicest to my stepsister. I thanks them so

960
00:46:59,840 --> 00:47:01,759
Speaker 1: much much for not holding a grudge. When I went

961
00:47:01,800 --> 00:47:05,160
Speaker 1: through my teen rebel phase, I hugged them both goodbye

962
00:47:05,280 --> 00:47:07,480
Speaker 1: and went home. I feel like me giving them a

963
00:47:07,520 --> 00:47:10,360
Speaker 1: shot and going to my dad's place helped me realize

964
00:47:10,360 --> 00:47:12,919
Speaker 1: that these are the people who have always been there

965
00:47:13,000 --> 00:47:15,399
Speaker 1: for me. I mean, they were the ones who didn't

966
00:47:15,400 --> 00:47:17,080
Speaker 1: give up on me when I was a troubled teen,

967
00:47:17,239 --> 00:47:20,440
Speaker 1: and I love them both for its Oh do you

968
00:47:20,480 --> 00:47:22,520
Speaker 1: have any finals, dude?

969
00:47:22,640 --> 00:47:28,640
Speaker 3: Just misinterpretation. This shows that space helps them absolutely.

970
00:47:28,719 --> 00:47:32,319
Speaker 1: And also, don't like I think that a lot of times,

971
00:47:32,880 --> 00:47:35,279
Speaker 1: you know, we hold on to the grudges or the

972
00:47:35,280 --> 00:47:38,359
Speaker 1: feelings that we had when we were teenagers, which are

973
00:47:38,560 --> 00:47:42,160
Speaker 1: heavily influenced by being a teenager, and now you're an

974
00:47:42,160 --> 00:47:45,200
Speaker 1: adult and you're gonna have different feelings and thoughts.

975
00:47:44,840 --> 00:47:48,680
Speaker 3: And give people a chance. I remember, right before I

976
00:47:48,719 --> 00:47:52,480
Speaker 3: left for college, I was pretty like me and my

977
00:47:52,560 --> 00:47:55,800
Speaker 3: mom were just like button heads with about everything. And

978
00:47:55,840 --> 00:47:57,719
Speaker 3: then I left for college and things seemed to chill out.

979
00:47:57,760 --> 00:47:59,000
Speaker 3: And then it got rough for a little bit because

980
00:47:59,000 --> 00:48:02,000
Speaker 3: I didn't have like the best relationship with another woman.

981
00:48:02,680 --> 00:48:05,160
Speaker 3: My mom didn't like that. But other than that, everything

982
00:48:05,239 --> 00:48:08,000
Speaker 3: was fine. Yeah, and we're cool now, but it takes

983
00:48:08,080 --> 00:48:09,360
Speaker 3: it took a little bit for us to be on

984
00:48:09,400 --> 00:48:09,880
Speaker 3: the safe.

985
00:48:09,760 --> 00:48:14,360
Speaker 1: Yeah. Now, as you grow, you your relationships change, That's true.

986
00:48:14,560 --> 00:48:18,240
Speaker 1: I text my stepsister almost daily now. This is so sweet,

987
00:48:18,920 --> 00:48:20,759
Speaker 1: even if it's just a good morning or I have

988
00:48:20,800 --> 00:48:22,520
Speaker 1: a day off and I call my step mom a

989
00:48:22,520 --> 00:48:24,799
Speaker 1: bit two now, but it goes a bit deeper, and

990
00:48:24,880 --> 00:48:27,720
Speaker 1: I've started to really trust her like a boss.

991
00:48:27,800 --> 00:48:30,680
Speaker 3: That's what you guys always wanted all.

992
00:48:31,440 --> 00:48:33,640
Speaker 1: Thank you all for the advice and to not cut

993
00:48:33,640 --> 00:48:35,920
Speaker 1: them out, because it really did help me realize that

994
00:48:36,000 --> 00:48:38,640
Speaker 1: we are a family. We have been since I was eight,

995
00:48:39,160 --> 00:48:41,520
Speaker 1: and I love and care for both of them very much.

996
00:48:42,000 --> 00:48:45,920
Speaker 1: Comeder says, you, sir, just grew up. Feels good, doesn't it.

997
00:48:46,360 --> 00:48:48,680
Speaker 1: I got closer to my stepmother when I warmed her

998
00:48:48,960 --> 00:48:52,400
Speaker 1: at a burial in the up of Michigan. Well, my

999
00:48:52,440 --> 00:48:54,680
Speaker 1: father was mourning the loss of his parents. Put the

1000
00:48:54,719 --> 00:48:57,400
Speaker 1: pass behind you. You want a good grandmother in your kids'

1001
00:48:57,400 --> 00:49:00,799
Speaker 1: lives when you have kids, Opie says, I. I was

1002
00:49:00,800 --> 00:49:03,080
Speaker 1: a bad kid and brother growing up, and I regret that.

1003
00:49:03,640 --> 00:49:06,239
Speaker 1: I'm so glad neither of them held that against me

1004
00:49:06,360 --> 00:49:09,080
Speaker 1: and just saw it as a Brady teen. Once I

1005
00:49:09,120 --> 00:49:11,320
Speaker 1: have kids, I think having a good aunt and grandma

1006
00:49:11,360 --> 00:49:15,560
Speaker 1: will be awesome for them. Yeah. Yeah, this is great,

1007
00:49:16,480 --> 00:49:16,959
Speaker 1: so good.

1008
00:49:17,080 --> 00:49:17,800
Speaker 3: You're crying.

1009
00:49:18,120 --> 00:49:21,400
Speaker 1: I'm not crying. I'm not crying. Shut up. I'm just

1010
00:49:21,400 --> 00:49:24,960
Speaker 1: so sweet. I love this. I love love family. This

1011
00:49:25,040 --> 00:49:30,400
Speaker 1: is they're so cute. Like again, like Opie. Really, I

1012
00:49:30,520 --> 00:49:32,640
Speaker 1: like to think that, like Opie's dad is, you know,

1013
00:49:33,120 --> 00:49:35,400
Speaker 1: look good it because this is probably what he always wanted,

1014
00:49:35,600 --> 00:49:38,040
Speaker 1: all the people he loved to be connected, and he's like,

1015
00:49:38,080 --> 00:49:41,319
Speaker 1: you know, like loss is really hard, but also out

1016
00:49:41,360 --> 00:49:44,800
Speaker 1: of loss you get like this beautiful you know, coming together.

1017
00:49:45,200 --> 00:49:50,080
Speaker 3: Personally, not a fan of this story. I like it

1018
00:49:50,360 --> 00:49:56,439
Speaker 3: because I want I need more disruption and more things

1019
00:49:56,480 --> 00:49:58,759
Speaker 3: like that we're wrong everything.

1020
00:49:58,960 --> 00:50:00,640
Speaker 1: He just every I went right.

1021
00:50:01,320 --> 00:50:03,600
Speaker 3: He just had a concern and he figured it out

1022
00:50:03,640 --> 00:50:04,320
Speaker 3: and it was great.

1023
00:50:04,440 --> 00:50:06,920
Speaker 1: Yeah. You know what, sometimes we used the reminder that

1024
00:50:07,040 --> 00:50:09,399
Speaker 1: not everything is gonna get worse and worse and worse.

1025
00:50:09,680 --> 00:50:13,319
Speaker 3: Nah, that's not what I'm here for, No way, I'm

1026
00:50:13,320 --> 00:50:13,719
Speaker 3: here for.

1027
00:50:13,640 --> 00:50:16,880
Speaker 1: The t But that's the end of this episode. So

1028
00:50:17,239 --> 00:50:19,640
Speaker 1: if you love us, make sure to subscribe. We love

1029
00:50:19,719 --> 00:50:21,560
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