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Speaker 1: My dad is trying to steal my fifty thousand dollars

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Speaker 1: inheritance and give it to my stepsister.

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Speaker 2: I refuse to pay for her college. Am I the asshole?

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Speaker 2: You can't have the fifty k, but I will give

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Speaker 2: you something else, a sexual favor. Step sys.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so this is kind of awkward to be typing,

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Speaker 1: but here it goes. I seventeen, female have a college

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Speaker 1: fund started by my grandparents, maternal and paternal, with some

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Speaker 1: of the money coming from my parents. The fund was

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Speaker 1: originally for me and my sister, but my mom and

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Speaker 1: sister died four years ago.

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Speaker 2: Oh sorry to hear that op.

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Speaker 1: That sucks, and my grandparents, who hold the account, chose

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Speaker 1: to leave it all for me and continued paying into it.

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Speaker 1: My dad married eighteen months after my mom and sister died,

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Speaker 1: and he has a stepdaughter who is the same age

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Speaker 1: as my sister would be if she were alive. Eighteen months, respectful,

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Speaker 1: time to continue fucking after your wife died. She's a

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Speaker 1: high school senior now and talk has turned to her

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Speaker 1: going to college. Her mom was single until she married

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Speaker 1: my dad and never had the opportunity to start a

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Speaker 1: fund before they have something saved but it's not enough

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Speaker 1: and won't be. So my dad asked me to share.

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Speaker 2: Mine with her.

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Speaker 1: He said it was always intended to be for two people,

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Speaker 1: and my sister would want her money to be used

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Speaker 1: by someone in the family.

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Speaker 2: Well, how about her literal sister.

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Speaker 3: She's dead, I know, no, no, no, op yeah yeah,

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Speaker 3: oh he's still alive.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's someone in the family. I told him it

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Speaker 1: was being used by someone in the family. Me, yeah,

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Speaker 1: her sister, and he replied that stepsister is our sister too.

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Speaker 1: I told him, no, I only have one sister and

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Speaker 1: she's dead. This is how I feel. I know people

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Speaker 1: will give me shit for it, but I only have

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Speaker 1: one sibling and that's how it will always be. That's

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Speaker 1: not personal against my stepsister, but we're not sisters or

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Speaker 1: even family beyond her mom being married to my dad.

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Speaker 1: My dad said he was telling me I need to

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Speaker 1: share the money. I told him, no, good. He went

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Speaker 1: to my grandparents, his parents, and they said it was

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Speaker 1: for me since my sister could no longer use it.

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Speaker 1: He went to my maternal grandparents then, because they were

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Speaker 1: the two who originally set up the account, and they

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Speaker 1: told him they have no obligation to fund my stepsister

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Speaker 1: going to college because she isn't their granddaughter. He's back

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Speaker 1: trying to force me to say yes. His wife and

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Speaker 1: daughter are also telling me it's the right thing to

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Speaker 1: do and it's what we do for family, and my

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Speaker 1: because they never met my sister, let alone know what

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Speaker 1: she would want.

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Speaker 2: Am I the asshole? There is an update?

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Speaker 3: Oh man, I hope something bad happens to the dad

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Speaker 3: and sister of the mom because.

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Speaker 1: Just like, like die like the sister like that, but

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Speaker 1: you know, like you really want more tragedy to to

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Speaker 2: They just pissed me off so much.

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Speaker 3: This is just a classic example of dad marry someone new,

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Speaker 3: which hey, great for him, and that box go crazy.

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Speaker 3: Now he's completely over prioritizing his new wife and her

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Speaker 1: Like but hey, when the box tell you to do something,

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Speaker 1: sometimes you listen to the box. Hey everyone, this got

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Speaker 1: way more attention than I was expecting, and so I'm

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Speaker 1: going to post a response to some stuff here. I

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Speaker 1: don't know how to reply to every specific question asked individually.

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Speaker 1: I don't worry that my dad will get his hands

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Speaker 1: on the money. I'm not going to be forced into this,

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Speaker 1: and I will be gone before I have access to

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Speaker 1: the money. This has already hurt my relationship with my dad.

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Speaker 1: I'm not really sure there will be one. In a year,

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Speaker 1: I'll be eighteen and can live my own life and

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Speaker 1: get some peace from all this. We'll finish high school

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Speaker 1: at my grandparents, probably, since that's where I plan to

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Speaker 1: move once I can leave this house. It makes me sad,

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Speaker 1: but I lost so much already. I'm going to be okay.

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Speaker 1: It will just take time. So it sounds like this

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Speaker 1: is like ruining the relationship. Yeah, people have talked about

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Speaker 1: his marrying again eighteen months later, and I know there

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Speaker 1: has been debate about this. I didn't pay much attention

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Speaker 1: would get shit for voicing how I felt, But it sucked.

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Speaker 1: He has handled everything in the worst possible way, and

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Speaker 1: I hold some resentment toward him for it. I do

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Speaker 1: think he deserves to be happy, but I have been

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Speaker 1: drowning in grief since I lost my mom and sister.

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Speaker 1: Knowing he could try to replace his wife and daughter

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Speaker 1: so soon after we lost them sucks. It hurts me.

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Speaker 1: But he would see me as a brat if I

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Speaker 1: told him this. I already expect people to say that

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Speaker 1: when read this, Op, You're not a brat, not at all. Also,

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Speaker 1: such an over stepping for the dad to ask for

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Speaker 1: your college money for a big time this, you know, girl.

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Speaker 2: He'd be banging. It's awful. Like, I don't know, what

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Speaker 2: do you think is opdahole?

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Speaker 3: Not even in the slightest. And I'm curious on everyone

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Speaker 3: else's thoughts. And I know we've had a lot of

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Speaker 3: people actually share about like this, you know, step mother,

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Speaker 3: step family dynamic. Let me know your thoughts on the comments,

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Speaker 3: especially if you've had similar semi similar interactions with your stepmother, sister, father, brother,

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Speaker 3: et cetera. But Yeah, I don't think Ope is the

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Speaker 3: asshole in the slightest. The dad is a complete asshole

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Speaker 3: for not just asking her but pressuring her so consistent.

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Speaker 2: Pressure is terrible. Yeah, I feel like.

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Speaker 3: I have a sneaking suspicion this is coming from the

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Speaker 3: step mom. But shout out to the grandparents for supporting OP.

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Speaker 3: It sounds like OP is going to be able to

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Speaker 3: have that money. Like the dad is no illegal right.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it seems like he could only get that money

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Speaker 1: if she gave it.

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Speaker 3: But fuck your parents. Fuck your parents, not literally, maybe

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Speaker 3: the step mom onto the next story. My parents stole

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Speaker 3: my fourth thousand dollars tuition and gave it.

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Speaker 2: To my brother. I will never forgive them. I the ahole.

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Speaker 2: You look very concerned. I mean, stealing any kind of

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Speaker 2: money is cost for concern.

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Speaker 3: For a bit of context, Around a year and a

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Speaker 3: half ago, when I was fifteen, I came up with

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Speaker 3: a plan to pay for my own university fees once

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Speaker 3: I finished school.

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Speaker 2: Heydang, good look and ope, I like it.

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Speaker 3: It's a little expensive between the four to five figure range,

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Speaker 3: and my family isn't the richest, so yeah, I wish

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Speaker 3: to save my parents a trouble of paying and do

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Speaker 3: I can invest in some cheap land back in my

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Speaker 3: like fantastic, fantastic. I told my parents this and they

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Speaker 3: So I began working part time and I worked my

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Speaker 3: stocks off.

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Speaker 2: So did I.

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Speaker 3: So in those one and a half years, I saved

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Speaker 3: up around four thousand dollars without spending a single penny. Dang,

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Speaker 3: that dedication will serve you well later in life. Now

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Speaker 3: here's where the problem began. My younger brother had his

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Speaker 3: thirteenth birthday yesterday, and he had always wanted to have

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Speaker 3: his own gaming PC set. My parents always told him

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Speaker 3: that they couldn't afford it, which makes him sad. One day,

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Speaker 3: I forgot to bring my wallet with me when I

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Speaker 3: was going to school, which had my bank card in it.

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Speaker 3: When I came back, I saw a new gaming PC

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Speaker 3: sitting right in the middle of the living room. No,

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Speaker 3: it was half unboxed, and my brother was crying and

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Speaker 3: jumping around in ecstasy. I was happy for him since

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Speaker 3: I thought they actually managed to buy it themselves, until

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Speaker 3: I found out shortly after that almost half of my

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Speaker 3: saved up money was gone.

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Speaker 2: What kind of parents are you? That is disgusting? Are

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Speaker 2: you kidding me?

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Speaker 1: He worked one and a half years to save up

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Speaker 1: money for education.

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Speaker 2: And they spent half of it on a gaming PC.

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Speaker 1: It sucks because it's like he's just trying to improve

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Speaker 1: his life and his parents are not only not supporting him,

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Speaker 1: but actively fucking over his future.

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Speaker 3: And yes, we know all of each other's bank card passwords.

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Speaker 2: Don't share your passwords with anyone.

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Speaker 3: I was fuming, and I lost it at my parents,

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Speaker 3: demanding why the f did you spend the money that

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Speaker 3: that they just couldn't tell their son that they couldn't

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Speaker 3: afford his dream set when there was money readily available.

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Speaker 1: It's not ready available money. This is money for his

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Speaker 1: future that he earned. I screamed at them and said

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Speaker 1: that they've just stolen fourteen hundred pounds right under my

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Speaker 1: nose without even considering asking me, and that they both

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Speaker 1: owe me big time. My mom snapped back at me,

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Speaker 1: saying that I'm still a child belonging to them and

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Speaker 1: that money should be the last thing on my mind

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Speaker 1: at the moment. Huh, It's funny how it was on

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Speaker 1: your mind when you stole it from me. It was

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Speaker 1: talking back to, A faith I stomped off in anger.

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Speaker 2: Some of you.

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Speaker 3: Redditors may think that thirteen hundred pounds isn't a lot

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Speaker 3: in the real world. But I've worked hard after school

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Speaker 3: to be half gone in an instant is a.

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Speaker 2: Heart break for me.

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Speaker 3: But I think I regret some of the things I

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Speaker 3: do was make my brother happy.

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Speaker 1: Am I the a whole No, not at all. I

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Speaker 1: want to know what everyone else thinks. But they literally

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Speaker 1: stole money from you, and I think that goes to

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Speaker 1: show do not share your bank account passwords, not at

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Speaker 1: all with anyone.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that should be solely you. It's tough.

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Speaker 3: It's tough though, because, like the family, he probably had

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Speaker 3: to I don't know what the laws are like in

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Speaker 3: the UK around getting a bank account, but I'm pretty

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Speaker 3: sure you have to have like a guardian to get

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Speaker 3: your bank account set up, and they could.

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Speaker 2: But you still can the guardian take away your money? No,

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Speaker 2: I don't. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: That's a good question, but well I can easily see

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Speaker 3: probably most parents like set up the password with their kid.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. Oh, you change your passwords, that's pretty

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Speaker 2: gotta do. Yeah, that's it, that's what you gotta do.

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Speaker 2: Let's get to this next story. O