WEBVTT - The Professional Homegirl Podcast: I Attend Sex Parties 0:00:09.840 --> 0:00:13.760 Last weekend, I attended the first ever Black Effect Podcast 0:00:13.840 --> 0:00:19.280 Festival in Atlanta, and y'all, it was absolutely amazing. Not 0:00:19.440 --> 0:00:21.720 only did I have the opportunity to be a part 0:00:21.760 --> 0:00:25.000 of the Women in Podcasting panel with some amazing women, 0:00:25.320 --> 0:00:27.560 but I also got a chance to meet tons of 0:00:27.600 --> 0:00:30.920 new people. Shout out to my professional homegirls for pulling up, 0:00:31.040 --> 0:00:33.360 Thank y'all for always holding me down and not up. 0:00:33.760 --> 0:00:35.960 Shout out to the cousins that was in the audience, 0:00:36.360 --> 0:00:39.919 and last but not least, shout out to my family 0:00:40.000 --> 0:00:44.280 from Black Effect Podcast Network. The festival was sold out okay, 0:00:44.680 --> 0:00:48.960 and the energy y'all was fire. Trust me when I 0:00:49.040 --> 0:00:51.720 say this, If you didn't make it to this year's festival, 0:00:52.120 --> 0:00:55.440 you do not, I repeat, you do not want to 0:00:55.480 --> 0:00:59.160 miss out on next year's event. Now let's get into 0:00:59.200 --> 0:01:02.760 this week's episode as my guest shares her experiences with 0:01:02.880 --> 0:01:07.240 sex parties. Sex parties have a history dating back to 0:01:07.280 --> 0:01:12.240 the sexual liberation movement in the nineteen seventies in nineteen eighties, 0:01:12.520 --> 0:01:16.120 during which they began to gain popularity. While these events 0:01:16.120 --> 0:01:18.720 can take on different forms, they often involve in the 0:01:18.840 --> 0:01:25.720 environment that promotes openness, exploration, and sexual expression. Our guest 0:01:25.760 --> 0:01:29.640 today will share her personal experiences and insights on attending 0:01:29.760 --> 0:01:33.959 sex parties. It is important to remember that participation in 0:01:34.000 --> 0:01:38.880 these events should always be consensual, safe, and legal. To 0:01:38.959 --> 0:01:40.319 my guests, how are you doing? 0:01:43.000 --> 0:01:44.360 I am good? How are you? 0:01:45.240 --> 0:01:47.760 I'm all as well? All is cute. I can't complain, 0:01:47.960 --> 0:01:50.560 you know, I'm really excited to have this conversation with you. 0:01:51.960 --> 0:01:54.680 I'm excited as well. I love y'all. All is cute. 0:01:55.320 --> 0:01:56.320 I'm all cute too. 0:01:56.600 --> 0:02:01.120 Okay, it's all about the cuteness. Okay, keeping it cute, y'all. Now, 0:02:01.160 --> 0:02:04.040 please describe what a sex party is and how it works. 0:02:05.520 --> 0:02:08.440 So, a sex party or a play party is basically 0:02:08.760 --> 0:02:11.639 when a lot of open minded, free you know, free 0:02:11.639 --> 0:02:13.399 thinking individuals come together. 0:02:14.800 --> 0:02:17.800 For the purposes of I want to say that it's. 0:02:17.600 --> 0:02:20.040 For the purpose of like networking and meeting other people 0:02:20.080 --> 0:02:22.320 with like similar interests. 0:02:23.000 --> 0:02:24.800 And during these. 0:02:24.639 --> 0:02:29.200 Parties, people might, you know, you might meet a new partner, 0:02:29.360 --> 0:02:31.760 you might change yourself with some partners, maybe you just 0:02:31.880 --> 0:02:35.600 watch the way that it looks. Often varies depending on 0:02:36.000 --> 0:02:38.799 who you are, but in general, I want to say 0:02:38.800 --> 0:02:41.920 it's like a networking event for people with you know, 0:02:42.480 --> 0:02:43.200 same interests. 0:02:43.680 --> 0:02:44.520 Sexual interests. 0:02:44.720 --> 0:02:46.640 Oh okay, okay, because I'm like, when you say networking, 0:02:46.680 --> 0:02:49.760 are you talking about like not business now, I mean, 0:02:49.880 --> 0:02:51.640 but that happens, but that could happen. 0:02:51.760 --> 0:02:55.600 Yeah yeah, but the I guess the main purpose is 0:02:55.680 --> 0:02:56.480 sexual interest. 0:02:56.800 --> 0:02:59.760 Okay, Now do you think sex parties are still taboo? 0:02:59.880 --> 0:03:03.480 And if so, why so? 0:03:03.760 --> 0:03:05.840 I want to say fifty fifty on this because I 0:03:05.880 --> 0:03:08.959 do believe that in this eraror, people are like more 0:03:09.000 --> 0:03:13.640 open with their sexuality. I Also what I've also noticed 0:03:13.720 --> 0:03:16.720 is that people are more interested in sex parties, like 0:03:16.720 --> 0:03:17.320 they want to go. 0:03:17.720 --> 0:03:21.920 They're like, I don't know, it's I feel like it's much. 0:03:21.800 --> 0:03:24.320 Less taboo than it has been in the past, but 0:03:24.360 --> 0:03:25.440 it still is tabooed. 0:03:25.680 --> 0:03:28.120 I feel like in New York is very common. 0:03:28.800 --> 0:03:31.080 Right, And that's why I'm like, I don't know if 0:03:31.120 --> 0:03:33.040 this is just because I'm a New Yorker, so it's 0:03:33.080 --> 0:03:34.040 just like you. 0:03:34.000 --> 0:03:36.160 Know, you know, at like I don't know. 0:03:36.200 --> 0:03:37.440 I feel like I can invited to one of these 0:03:37.440 --> 0:03:38.920 things damn near every week at this. 0:03:38.880 --> 0:03:44.000 Point, right, and I feel like anything yeah, right, Like it's. 0:03:43.840 --> 0:03:45.720 Not even people that I know it, Like if you 0:03:45.840 --> 0:03:48.680 random motherfucker be like what is happening? Like do I 0:03:48.760 --> 0:03:53.240 have really, Yes, girl, I was in a whole other 0:03:53.280 --> 0:03:55.840 country and people was asking. But that's what I'm saying, 0:03:55.880 --> 0:03:58.640 Like I was in another country and people were like 0:03:58.720 --> 0:03:59.880 approaching me, asking me. 0:04:00.240 --> 0:04:02.640 So that's why I think it's less taboo. 0:04:02.240 --> 0:04:05.280 Because it's just like mm hmm, I wasn't doing anything 0:04:05.320 --> 0:04:08.040 particularly like I don't know, I wasn't doing anything at 0:04:08.080 --> 0:04:11.600 all that screen, like that screen like, oh, let me 0:04:11.600 --> 0:04:13.160 invite this person to a play. 0:04:12.960 --> 0:04:16.520 Party right now? Are there different types of sex parties? 0:04:16.560 --> 0:04:18.120 And if so, which ones do you go to? 0:04:21.880 --> 0:04:25.080 I don't. I'm actually not sure if there's different kinds. 0:04:25.200 --> 0:04:27.080 The different kinds that I know, I call them the 0:04:27.120 --> 0:04:28.440 safe ones and the unsafe ones. 0:04:28.560 --> 0:04:30.760 Okay, I prefer the safe ones. 0:04:31.320 --> 0:04:33.839 But when I say there's there's safe ones and unsafe ones, 0:04:35.000 --> 0:04:37.880 I feel like some of them they have where there's 0:04:37.880 --> 0:04:41.400 like there's less rules and my rules. I mean, like 0:04:41.680 --> 0:04:44.320 you don't have to get like check for forehand, or 0:04:44.360 --> 0:04:49.400 there's not like condments available. That's not like Russian roule, right, 0:04:49.480 --> 0:04:54.400 So like those those are called the unsafe ones, but 0:04:54.440 --> 0:04:56.640 then there are also but then there's the opposite where 0:04:56.680 --> 0:04:59.039 you know you're getting checked beforehand. 0:04:59.160 --> 0:05:01.279 I've seen ones where you have to get a background checked, 0:05:01.360 --> 0:05:02.040 like that that. 0:05:01.960 --> 0:05:05.920 One was, Yeah, that that one was like they were 0:05:05.960 --> 0:05:09.640 on it, on it. But I also it's it's much 0:05:09.680 --> 0:05:12.600 more of a pleasurable experience knowing that like all these 0:05:12.640 --> 0:05:14.960 things are available and that you know that everything everyone 0:05:15.000 --> 0:05:18.040 went to a process, and that everyone in the room, 0:05:18.279 --> 0:05:22.160 you know, is safe because not everyone has those conversations 0:05:22.240 --> 0:05:24.400 that everyone's comfortable with asking people. 0:05:24.120 --> 0:05:25.920 Of their status and things of that nature. 0:05:26.160 --> 0:05:29.039 So I don't know, to me, it's more comfortable, but 0:05:29.080 --> 0:05:31.039 I guess now that I'm talking about it and thinking 0:05:31.040 --> 0:05:35.159 about it, there's also like impromptu shit because I like 0:05:35.240 --> 0:05:36.880 to hope. I like to host events a lot, and 0:05:36.920 --> 0:05:41.440 I've noticed that some of my like regular vanilla events 0:05:41.520 --> 0:05:47.400 have turned you know, a little wild. I do so 0:05:47.520 --> 0:05:51.200 I don't host, I don't host play parties, but I 0:05:51.240 --> 0:05:53.880 do host gay nights. I used to do gay nights 0:05:53.880 --> 0:05:57.599 like throughout the city, and then some of my game 0:05:57.680 --> 0:05:59.480 nights will get a little wild at the end. 0:06:00.080 --> 0:06:02.840 Learn something new every day on the Professional Homegirl podcast 0:06:03.200 --> 0:06:05.080 something knowing this girl for how long? 0:06:06.800 --> 0:06:07.120 Wow? 0:06:07.360 --> 0:06:11.560 But go ahead, learn something new every day. 0:06:12.000 --> 0:06:13.480 I think it's just my personality. 0:06:13.480 --> 0:06:15.599 I feel like I make people feel like very comfortable, 0:06:17.480 --> 0:06:20.400 So I don't know it should just be happening. 0:06:21.760 --> 0:06:23.960 But I also feel like with the safe parties it 0:06:24.000 --> 0:06:26.480 brings out a certain crowd because I feel like when 0:06:26.480 --> 0:06:30.320 you have less restrictions and rules, it brings out a 0:06:30.360 --> 0:06:32.280 whole different type of crowd that I'm pretty sure a 0:06:32.320 --> 0:06:33.800 lot of people are kind of like, Eh. 0:06:34.520 --> 0:06:35.320 It's true. 0:06:35.360 --> 0:06:37.840 So I've noticed the ones with a lot of rules 0:06:37.880 --> 0:06:39.359 and like a lot of things that you need to 0:06:39.360 --> 0:06:42.400 do beforehand, it's often a professional crowd. 0:06:43.440 --> 0:06:45.440 Like those are the parties. 0:06:45.040 --> 0:06:48.680 Where I'm usually around doctors, lawyers, people from shreet like 0:06:48.920 --> 0:06:52.040 those part those are how those usually come out. And 0:06:52.080 --> 0:06:55.920 the ones that are kind of like not just easy breezy, right, 0:06:56.000 --> 0:06:58.560 let's see what's gonna like, what's gonna go down? Those 0:06:58.640 --> 0:07:00.200 are usually like someone. 0:07:00.080 --> 0:07:02.520 I get into, I go taking an argument or somebody 0:07:04.640 --> 0:07:11.000 happened often right right that part, but it doesn't happened often. 0:07:11.040 --> 0:07:13.760 But I will say that I've seen that more at 0:07:13.800 --> 0:07:16.480 one of those parties than when that was you know, 0:07:16.960 --> 0:07:17.840 more organized. 0:07:18.080 --> 0:07:18.480 M hmm. 0:07:19.320 --> 0:07:21.720 Now have you noticed any changes in the sex party 0:07:21.800 --> 0:07:27.040 scenes since you've been going, And if so, what are they. 0:07:27.400 --> 0:07:27.480 Not? 0:07:27.760 --> 0:07:28.120 Really? 0:07:28.320 --> 0:07:31.840 I think no, not really it's still no phones, Like 0:07:31.880 --> 0:07:34.280 I haven't been to any where phones have been allowed. 0:07:35.000 --> 0:07:42.880 It's still be respectful, it's still always asked for consent. Yeah, no, 0:07:43.000 --> 0:07:45.000 I haven't really seen a big difference. But I also 0:07:45.040 --> 0:07:47.000 haven't been doing these for a really long time. I 0:07:47.000 --> 0:07:54.200 won't want to say, maybe three four years enough time. 0:07:54.920 --> 0:07:57.720 Really, what's been the same for the four years of 0:07:57.840 --> 0:07:58.760 and involved? 0:07:59.280 --> 0:08:01.400 Now, how were you introduced to these parties? 0:08:04.160 --> 0:08:08.280 So my man, my man, my man, my man, my man. 0:08:08.320 --> 0:08:12.680 Bless that man's heart. So one day, this fine young 0:08:12.720 --> 0:08:15.960 man decides to tell me that, like. 0:08:16.000 --> 0:08:22.840 Yo, we're gonna go to a party. I'm like like right, 0:08:23.000 --> 0:08:24.640 I'm just I'm just like okay. 0:08:24.840 --> 0:08:26.800 And then the outfit he got us was like we 0:08:26.880 --> 0:08:30.560 had like this mansion outfit with the Halloween party. So 0:08:30.600 --> 0:08:33.640 we have this mansion out that mind you. I will disclaimer. 0:08:34.360 --> 0:08:38.800 I have been I have been a part of a 0:08:38.800 --> 0:08:43.640 lot of like group sex things, so like a bunch 0:08:43.640 --> 0:08:45.360 of people in the room having sex at the same time. 0:08:45.360 --> 0:08:49.560 So I've had I guess, but we didn't switch partners. 0:08:49.840 --> 0:08:51.120 Nobody was switching partners. 0:08:51.480 --> 0:08:53.360 It was just I've been in like I've been in 0:08:53.440 --> 0:08:55.720 rooms with like five couple of times set at one time. 0:08:55.640 --> 0:08:56.640 And you're having sex too. 0:08:57.280 --> 0:09:00.559 M hmm, Okay, I've had people like watching, so I 0:09:00.920 --> 0:09:04.440 just wanted to prenote that I've already had those experiences just. 0:09:04.320 --> 0:09:06.080 So people don't be like dam ye man, he set 0:09:06.200 --> 0:09:08.440 you up right, So and he was aware of this. 0:09:08.520 --> 0:09:10.920 He was aware that I've been in these type of situations. 0:09:11.480 --> 0:09:15.400 So anyway, s flashboard or whatever. So it's a Halloween party. 0:09:15.440 --> 0:09:16.320 He's like, yeah, we're going. 0:09:16.240 --> 0:09:18.200 To the party. I'll get to our little sex. 0:09:18.240 --> 0:09:19.960 And I'm just like whatever, it's Halloween, Like, I'm not 0:09:19.960 --> 0:09:22.240 thinking too much of it, right, And we. 0:09:22.280 --> 0:09:25.160 Drive hours It was probably like a two hours drive. 0:09:25.559 --> 0:09:30.840 Wow, right, like upstate man, not upstate. 0:09:30.880 --> 0:09:32.200 It was younger at the time. 0:09:32.800 --> 0:09:34.040 Yeah, that's by two hours. 0:09:34.520 --> 0:09:37.880 So going on quick whatever. We get to the front door. 0:09:38.480 --> 0:09:41.120 He rings the bell or whatever, and he looks at 0:09:41.120 --> 0:09:44.880 me and he says, I just met these people last week, 0:09:44.920 --> 0:09:46.920 Like I don't know, I don't know who's crooky at 0:09:47.240 --> 0:09:49.920 So I was the first like what is happening? And 0:09:49.960 --> 0:09:53.400 then before I could even say anything, the couple opens 0:09:53.440 --> 0:09:56.400 the door, right, And it was funny too, because the 0:09:56.440 --> 0:09:58.600 couple opens the door and there they have like the 0:09:58.640 --> 0:10:00.720 same outfit that we have one that was funny. 0:10:01.920 --> 0:10:03.880 Oh, it's giving swingers. 0:10:07.880 --> 0:10:09.120 So we go in. 0:10:09.520 --> 0:10:12.240 So my party, you know, I'm like, I'm from the city. 0:10:12.240 --> 0:10:14.120 Like I've been to a bunch of parties. You know, parties, 0:10:14.160 --> 0:10:16.360 there's usually a bunch of different people. Want to see singles, 0:10:16.360 --> 0:10:17.920 you're gonna see couples, You're gonna you want to see 0:10:17.920 --> 0:10:18.360 a bunch. 0:10:18.160 --> 0:10:19.560 Offer it's a party. 0:10:20.080 --> 0:10:22.960 It's a party. And this man told me that we 0:10:23.000 --> 0:10:26.959 were going to a party. I walk in. It's nothing 0:10:26.960 --> 0:10:27.600 but couples. 0:10:27.960 --> 0:10:28.319 Mm hmm. 0:10:28.960 --> 0:10:31.640 So I sit down, I look at him. I'm like, 0:10:32.080 --> 0:10:36.400 I'm whispered. I'm like, where are we And he was like, 0:10:36.880 --> 0:10:38.439 I think this might be a sweater party. 0:10:38.520 --> 0:10:40.559 Like this is like he's whispering back because like I 0:10:40.600 --> 0:10:43.760 think we're in a sweager party. I said, what's our rules? 0:10:43.960 --> 0:10:47.240 He said, what's your rules? I said no rules? And 0:10:47.280 --> 0:10:49.040 he was like, I got no rules. 0:10:50.000 --> 0:10:52.000 Oh okay, come on, let me out. 0:10:56.080 --> 0:10:58.040 And communication is important, Like if you ever go to 0:10:58.040 --> 0:11:00.280 one of these things and you go with your partner, 0:11:00.400 --> 0:11:01.840 communication is very very important. 0:11:01.920 --> 0:11:03.439 You need to figure out those rules. 0:11:03.760 --> 0:11:05.840 Which we're going to talk about later, because I feel 0:11:05.880 --> 0:11:08.200 like when you do go with your partner. It can 0:11:08.240 --> 0:11:11.439 go good, or it can go left real quick. 0:11:11.800 --> 0:11:13.320 You have a whole lot of fun, or y'all could 0:11:13.320 --> 0:11:16.440 be arguing on the way back home, right, you want 0:11:16.440 --> 0:11:20.560 to have a lot of fun. But yeah, so what 0:11:20.880 --> 0:11:23.000 so we're playing games or whatever, but it's not no 0:11:23.120 --> 0:11:26.480 freaky shit has happened, like it's real regular. Then at 0:11:26.520 --> 0:11:30.079 some point of the night, the host is like, okay, 0:11:30.120 --> 0:11:31.120 this is part two. 0:11:31.840 --> 0:11:34.160 Like I'm like part two. I'm like, what is happening? 0:11:34.320 --> 0:11:36.199 He was like, you know, the games are going to 0:11:36.240 --> 0:11:38.880 get a little more risky, like you know, if you're 0:11:38.920 --> 0:11:42.560 not comfortable, please let us know if you would like 0:11:42.640 --> 0:11:44.760 to leave now, Like you can leave or you can 0:11:44.840 --> 0:11:47.400 say just watch you don't like He's like explaining all 0:11:47.400 --> 0:11:48.800 the rules, like you don't have to participate, You don't 0:11:48.840 --> 0:11:52.640 have to participate, Please check in with your partners before touching. 0:11:52.679 --> 0:11:54.800 Anyone can please ask their permission, et cetera, et cetera, 0:11:54.840 --> 0:11:55.200 et cetera. 0:11:55.480 --> 0:11:59.680 Right, so now I'm like, okay, like I've never I 0:11:59.720 --> 0:12:02.040 have no revealing and like an environment where like it 0:12:02.080 --> 0:12:02.920 was so structured. 0:12:05.360 --> 0:12:08.440 So so then yeah, so that's happening. We start playing. 0:12:08.440 --> 0:12:11.079 I believe we started playing like True for dere Oh, 0:12:11.120 --> 0:12:12.760 we started playing True for Deer with like. 0:12:12.760 --> 0:12:13.839 Jungle blocks or whatever. 0:12:15.240 --> 0:12:18.600 So now people are getting lap dances, people just doing 0:12:18.640 --> 0:12:19.280 a bunch of stuff. 0:12:19.280 --> 0:12:21.640 But it wasn't I think that party. 0:12:21.360 --> 0:12:24.160 Was like an introductory party because people wouldn't really get 0:12:24.160 --> 0:12:24.560 it into it. 0:12:24.600 --> 0:12:29.400 Get into it. My little freaky ass, I like I 0:12:29.400 --> 0:12:30.040 started giving. 0:12:30.280 --> 0:12:32.280 So at one point, like a girl had gate like 0:12:32.400 --> 0:12:33.920 was sucking all my brust or whatever. 0:12:34.480 --> 0:12:35.720 That was like one of the deers. 0:12:35.920 --> 0:12:39.000 And then eventually like so now I'm aroused, right this 0:12:39.080 --> 0:12:42.960 girl don did this to me? So I had went 0:12:43.400 --> 0:12:45.280 So now I'm like sitting with my with my man 0:12:45.400 --> 0:12:47.079 or whatever, and I just like it in the head. 0:12:47.760 --> 0:12:51.120 Your boyfriend life was yeah, my boyfriend because everyone else 0:12:51.240 --> 0:12:53.320 was kind of like doing their own thing. 0:12:53.520 --> 0:12:54.839 For me, you was probably putting on. 0:12:54.760 --> 0:13:00.199 A girl so that my boyfriend like taps me to 0:13:00.360 --> 0:13:05.000 stop because like the host was like staring like boom 0:13:05.200 --> 0:13:08.600 staring at us or whatever. So he's like tacking me. 0:13:08.800 --> 0:13:11.320 And it was his first time, like period ever doing 0:13:11.360 --> 0:13:13.800 anything like this. So like I've had it, like I've 0:13:13.800 --> 0:13:18.720 had these like I guess, unstructured experiences, but he's never 0:13:18.880 --> 0:13:23.440 like done anything like this, so he was just like 0:13:23.440 --> 0:13:24.800 like stop stop, stops to stop. 0:13:24.640 --> 0:13:27.280 Or whatever in the case is was he uncomfortable or 0:13:27.320 --> 0:13:28.199 like nervous or. 0:13:28.640 --> 0:13:30.840 I guess he just didn't want someone staring at me, 0:13:30.920 --> 0:13:33.040 Like he's very protective over me, so I guess he 0:13:33.160 --> 0:13:34.959 was just like finding the moment he was like okay, 0:13:35.000 --> 0:13:36.560 like now stop because he was staring at you. 0:13:36.840 --> 0:13:36.960 Right. 0:13:38.400 --> 0:13:41.040 But then that night, though we didn't like, we didn't 0:13:41.040 --> 0:13:43.840 play with anyone really like we we did have interactions 0:13:43.880 --> 0:13:46.560 with this one girl, like because she on my breast, 0:13:47.280 --> 0:13:48.200 I touched on her. 0:13:49.400 --> 0:13:51.600 But by this time people were like starting to like 0:13:51.640 --> 0:13:55.439 get into rooms and stuff. We were like we loved Yeah, 0:13:55.480 --> 0:13:58.480 I wasn't feeling it. Not that we weren't feeling it. 0:13:58.559 --> 0:14:02.520 We just just like, okay, we're done. Right, Well that's what. 0:14:02.679 --> 0:14:04.360 So that's what I often tell people. 0:14:04.720 --> 0:14:07.760 I'm like, you can be like very experienced, like you 0:14:07.760 --> 0:14:10.120 can go to these things all the time and just 0:14:10.160 --> 0:14:13.679 decided that you don't feel like a sax saurday, like right, 0:14:14.520 --> 0:14:15.360 like maybe you just. 0:14:15.280 --> 0:14:16.839 Wanted to talk to people. Maybe you just wanted to 0:14:16.880 --> 0:14:20.480 meet people, because the last one I went to I 0:14:20.600 --> 0:14:21.680 was like that I was just like, oh. 0:14:21.560 --> 0:14:23.720 I'm not really interested in like partying today, like I 0:14:23.760 --> 0:14:27.280 just wanted to talk mingle and then like we we 0:14:27.280 --> 0:14:29.520 we played a little bit, but not in the sense 0:14:29.560 --> 0:14:33.280 that we had like intercourse with like actual penetrys right 0:14:34.040 --> 0:14:35.160 right right. 0:14:49.400 --> 0:14:51.840 So how do you decide whether or not to attend one? 0:14:51.960 --> 0:14:54.160 Like are you like selective when it comes to certain 0:14:54.160 --> 0:14:57.720 play parties, or like do you go to them a lot? 0:14:59.120 --> 0:15:02.400 I wouldn't say a lot. I would maybe once a 0:15:02.520 --> 0:15:04.440 month somehow I skip a month. 0:15:04.960 --> 0:15:07.120 It's really whenever they pop up and get invited to 0:15:07.200 --> 0:15:12.000 one one that actually while I got invited, one that's 0:15:12.040 --> 0:15:15.200 coming up this Friday, or we're not going because we're 0:15:15.280 --> 0:15:16.880 on the best of space. 0:15:18.600 --> 0:15:25.240 Good Friday Vigilation. 0:15:28.600 --> 0:15:31.560 I didn't even realize that they planned them for Good Friday. 0:15:31.600 --> 0:15:34.240 Listen, don't even get me started. The time is going 0:15:34.240 --> 0:15:37.160 byself fast. I didn't even know it was Easter, child bro. 0:15:37.600 --> 0:15:41.160 I was surprised because once passed away today? 0:15:41.800 --> 0:15:42.680 Who else whatever? 0:15:42.960 --> 0:15:43.120 Right? 0:15:43.480 --> 0:15:48.360 All these holidays? But what you gonna call it? I 0:15:48.400 --> 0:15:51.800 feel like I typically go because everyone who invites me. 0:15:52.240 --> 0:15:54.520 I have like strangers to invite me or people who 0:15:54.560 --> 0:15:55.800 are just dressed meth to invite me. 0:15:55.880 --> 0:15:57.760 But the ones that typically goes so I feel like 0:15:58.320 --> 0:16:01.360 I've known the people for the little bit mm hm. 0:16:01.360 --> 0:16:02.640 So I'm just I'm comfortable. 0:16:02.640 --> 0:16:05.840 I'll be like, okay, whatever, And how do they invite you? 0:16:05.960 --> 0:16:07.760 Like they tell you and give you a link, or 0:16:07.880 --> 0:16:09.520 like they'd be e. 0:16:09.520 --> 0:16:12.920 Btes okay, yeah, I'd be right ulate e bites or 0:16:13.120 --> 0:16:16.800 just be like a text okay are we doing this? Typically, 0:16:17.040 --> 0:16:20.760 like I'll get like a text beforehand because some people 0:16:20.920 --> 0:16:23.440 like some people like to like here the people who 0:16:23.440 --> 0:16:25.720 are going to be there, not pare them, but like 0:16:26.360 --> 0:16:31.080 they want Like one time I went to one and 0:16:31.480 --> 0:16:33.800 he wanted like more like professional like people in the 0:16:33.840 --> 0:16:37.200 professional field there. So he had like only asked people 0:16:37.240 --> 0:16:40.840 who like were in a certain field. One time, I 0:16:40.880 --> 0:16:44.400 know they wanted mostly singles, like they wanted mostly singles 0:16:44.480 --> 0:16:45.880 or like the first time that I ever went to 0:16:46.400 --> 0:16:49.120 they did all people who have never like experienced that, 0:16:49.800 --> 0:16:51.840 so it was their first time experiencing it. And then 0:16:51.840 --> 0:16:53.760 he had a couple of experienced people to kind of 0:16:54.000 --> 0:16:57.080 like just teach people or talk to them and explain stuff. 0:16:58.160 --> 0:17:02.080 Then there's he sounds like he very like hands on 0:17:02.280 --> 0:17:02.600 with it. 0:17:03.400 --> 0:17:06.720 He's he like he plans them out like he really 0:17:06.720 --> 0:17:10.480 thinks about stuff he thinks about people's personality because he 0:17:10.520 --> 0:17:13.600 also doesn't sometimes people personality is just clash, right, so 0:17:13.840 --> 0:17:15.320 he keeps that in mind as well. 0:17:15.400 --> 0:17:20.760 He also takes like so when I go to play parties, I. 0:17:20.680 --> 0:17:23.040 Typically only mask with women, So he also keeps stuff 0:17:23.080 --> 0:17:24.600 like that in mind, like he has to balance that 0:17:24.640 --> 0:17:26.439 out because there's at least one woman who's not going 0:17:26.520 --> 0:17:27.679 to be participating with guys. 0:17:27.720 --> 0:17:30.439 So right, like there's a bunch of different stuff. 0:17:30.720 --> 0:17:33.720 Mm hm, Now how do you how do you approach 0:17:34.040 --> 0:17:37.320 safe sex practices such as condom use and regular testing. 0:17:39.800 --> 0:17:42.960 So I'm paranoid, right. 0:17:44.600 --> 0:17:46.960 No, because my friends make fun of me because like what 0:17:47.240 --> 0:17:49.840 time I got tested like damn near every other week, 0:17:49.880 --> 0:17:52.639 and it was just like, you know, that's pointless, right, 0:17:52.680 --> 0:17:54.200 And I was just like I don't care. 0:17:54.000 --> 0:17:57.399 Yeah, because that Sh'S like gonna show up, chaw. I 0:17:57.520 --> 0:17:59.680 think it takes a little minute for something to show up. 0:18:00.760 --> 0:18:05.440 That's okay, So let's just be like, well, I don't care, 0:18:05.840 --> 0:18:09.760 I'm out safe. So it's funny. So I used to 0:18:09.800 --> 0:18:14.240 I've grown up. I'll stop doing that, but. 0:18:16.359 --> 0:18:19.520 I'm gonna be honest with girls like I've never used 0:18:19.520 --> 0:18:21.200 like potential damn or anything like that. 0:18:21.320 --> 0:18:24.280 I want to ask you, like, I mean, I've never 0:18:24.320 --> 0:18:26.320 been with a girl before, but I feel like with girls, 0:18:26.440 --> 0:18:28.520 like do girls really use protection? 0:18:29.760 --> 0:18:30.560 In my opinion? 0:18:30.640 --> 0:18:34.679 No, Like I've never in all in all my living years, right, 0:18:34.800 --> 0:18:36.840 I have never seen girls use protection with each other. 0:18:37.000 --> 0:18:38.399 And I'm not saying that that's a good thing. 0:18:38.520 --> 0:18:39.080 Right, it's not. 0:18:39.240 --> 0:18:41.560 And you're also not saying that all girls don't do this. 0:18:42.000 --> 0:18:43.560 Some girls do use protection. 0:18:43.920 --> 0:18:48.200 Right, but I just never I've never seen it, right. So, 0:18:48.440 --> 0:18:50.399 and then it's so I'm gonna tell you something like 0:18:50.440 --> 0:18:52.560 now that I'm talking to you, I'm gonna say something silly. 0:18:52.720 --> 0:18:55.560 So like I'll I'll have a girl eat. 0:18:55.440 --> 0:18:57.560 Me out or whatever, no protection or whatever. I'll eat 0:18:57.600 --> 0:19:00.480 her out without protection. But then I'll make my boyfriend 0:19:00.800 --> 0:19:02.000 use a condom to penetrate. 0:19:03.359 --> 0:19:05.400 But the fluens have already. 0:19:05.240 --> 0:19:11.080 Swapped, Like Yo, bitches are annoying. Now you ate some box, 0:19:11.240 --> 0:19:13.159 but you want them to put a condom? You might 0:19:13.320 --> 0:19:14.520 tell let him at that ship raw. 0:19:15.320 --> 0:19:17.200 I don't know. In my head, I'm just like, oh. 0:19:17.240 --> 0:19:22.119 You, but he don't be saying like, oh, you need 0:19:22.119 --> 0:19:23.680 to put some of your mouth before you eat her out. 0:19:23.840 --> 0:19:27.280 But what what goes on the mouth like a plastics 0:19:28.400 --> 0:19:32.840 no goes on the china and you looking at watch 0:19:32.840 --> 0:19:36.000 something like covering it, but it's not the same. Does 0:19:36.040 --> 0:19:36.840 it feel good? 0:19:37.640 --> 0:19:41.720 I've never done that, I mean. 0:19:41.600 --> 0:19:43.600 Because I feel like the contact is so close, so 0:19:43.640 --> 0:19:46.600 we might as well just do it face to uh 0:19:47.520 --> 0:19:49.399 puss girl. 0:19:49.560 --> 0:19:52.040 I don't know. I just to me, I've never done it. 0:19:52.080 --> 0:19:53.560 Maybe I should be doing it. I need to look 0:19:53.600 --> 0:19:55.399 into it. This conversation has a light in me. 0:19:55.760 --> 0:20:00.720 I mean, we're here, now, how long you been doing this? 0:20:02.320 --> 0:20:06.520