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Speaker 2: My sick brother wanted me to take his kids, but

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Speaker 2: incredibly hard. Sam and I forty three female, have always

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Speaker 2: He was there when my daughter was born while my

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Speaker 2: storytime suppered it. I'm Sophia, I'm Dakota, I'm Angie, and

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Speaker 2: we're here to give good advice. S gooofully, But we

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Speaker 2: She said, I must leave now. She took her phone,

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry, spoiler alert, you might be moving to Alaska.

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Speaker 2: It just got worse. The house they bought was next

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Speaker 2: Doing this, no, sir. Sam immediately called me. I purchased

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Speaker 1: You guys are useless, a big circle of uselessness.

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Speaker 2: Sam said he really wasn't feeling good and didn't go

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Speaker 2: sixty five and hadn't been sick long enough. Can't we

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Speaker 2: At five pm, I got a text from Sam's phone.

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Speaker 2: It took a few hours, but Sam finally admitted. He

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Speaker 2: I know we will never get to do that. Oh,

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Speaker 2: And there are some comments, but do you have any

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Speaker 3: Andy?

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Speaker 1: And it's really sad.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just really, really an awful situation. Comment one says,

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Speaker 2: how old are the kids? Is Lily the oldest?

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Speaker 2: He says, the kids are sixteen, fifteen, eleven, seven and

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Speaker 3: That's really rough.

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Speaker 2: The five year old is not his son, but he's

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Speaker 2: He's paid for daycare and medical insurance, all living expenses.

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Speaker 2: He calls my brother dad when he sees his bio

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Speaker 2: I'm Dakota, I'm Sophia, I'm Angie, and we are.

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Speaker 3: Here to give you good advice.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's not your sister, it's your crazy, that's your hater.

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Speaker 2: I was doing the no I was doing. You didn't

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Speaker 1: I have no idea what to do. Call Tom Cruise.

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Speaker 1: We got comments in a new day, says you have

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Speaker 1: Two hours, go bust down that door. Yeah, I know,

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Speaker 1: It turns out they've been sneaking around because they've been

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Speaker 1: I had no clue they were smoking together, or that

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Speaker 2: casual smoker, then why did he feel the need to

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00:20:59,720 --> 00:21:02,680
Speaker 2: be so secretive. He would have just told your sister. Oh,

440
00:21:02,720 --> 00:21:03,959
Speaker 2: she's chill with that when I do it.

441
00:21:04,280 --> 00:21:07,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh, he says. I'm very relieved, to say the least.

442
00:21:07,400 --> 00:21:08,120
Speaker 2: I don't trust them.

443
00:21:08,600 --> 00:21:10,720
Speaker 3: Thank you all for your help. I feel like a

444
00:21:10,760 --> 00:21:13,200
Speaker 3: complete idiot. No, sorry for wasting your tongue.

445
00:21:13,200 --> 00:21:13,879
Speaker 2: They're trigging you.

446
00:21:14,960 --> 00:21:16,439
Speaker 3: There's a second update.

447
00:21:16,600 --> 00:21:21,200
Speaker 2: I don't buy this. I think it's incredibly suspicious that

448
00:21:21,240 --> 00:21:25,040
Speaker 2: they're hiding all of this smoke in so like they're

449
00:21:25,040 --> 00:21:27,160
Speaker 2: literally doing it in the past a way of night.

450
00:21:27,800 --> 00:21:30,159
Speaker 1: I think it does make more sense that it was

451
00:21:30,200 --> 00:21:33,320
Speaker 1: so obvious, you know, like you'd think that if you

452
00:21:34,000 --> 00:21:37,400
Speaker 1: hypothetically put yourself in their shoes and you like, we're

453
00:21:37,600 --> 00:21:40,840
Speaker 1: making out with your sister's boyfriend, or like you hooked

454
00:21:40,920 --> 00:21:43,919
Speaker 1: up with him and you're engaged to be married, and

455
00:21:43,960 --> 00:21:45,919
Speaker 1: then you sit down at the you know, at the

456
00:21:45,960 --> 00:21:48,600
Speaker 1: table for breakfast the next day, and you guys are

457
00:21:48,640 --> 00:21:52,200
Speaker 1: like giving each other funny looks. You'd think you would

458
00:21:52,200 --> 00:21:53,440
Speaker 1: not do that.

459
00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:53,879
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying.

460
00:21:54,080 --> 00:21:59,399
Speaker 1: So like, oh, they were being just the smoking I

461
00:21:59,560 --> 00:22:01,760
Speaker 1: think it makes more sense given that behavior.

462
00:22:01,920 --> 00:22:07,360
Speaker 2: However, let's go back because remember Ope was like they

463
00:22:07,359 --> 00:22:09,280
Speaker 2: were acting weird the next day. They wouldn't talk to

464
00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:11,960
Speaker 2: each other, they wouldn't look at each other. That's true, Like,

465
00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:15,080
Speaker 2: why are we acting that way? If it was just

466
00:22:15,280 --> 00:22:17,800
Speaker 2: we're smoke buddies. We're smoking buddies.

467
00:22:18,400 --> 00:22:23,119
Speaker 1: Strange twenty seven and twenty six, Okay, that's too old.

468
00:22:22,880 --> 00:22:26,200
Speaker 2: To be Yeah, to be hot, like sneaking around from

469
00:22:26,760 --> 00:22:31,280
Speaker 2: one your partner. Opie's boyfriend is or sneaking around, and

470
00:22:31,320 --> 00:22:34,080
Speaker 2: then also your sister like it's weird, Like you're an

471
00:22:34,119 --> 00:22:36,200
Speaker 2: adult who cares if your sister doesn't approve?

472
00:22:36,520 --> 00:22:38,399
Speaker 3: Update Humber two. I feel silly.

473
00:22:38,640 --> 00:22:41,359
Speaker 1: Boyfriend and sister were sneaking around because they smoked together,

474
00:22:41,480 --> 00:22:43,200
Speaker 1: not because they were having a spice to sleep.

475
00:22:43,480 --> 00:22:46,080
Speaker 3: Little Sis wasn't sure I would approve, so they.

476
00:22:45,920 --> 00:22:49,640
Speaker 1: Were being secretive. There are comments I must be more

477
00:22:49,760 --> 00:22:53,000
Speaker 1: cold tolerant than other people or something, because even in

478
00:22:53,040 --> 00:22:55,119
Speaker 1: my dirt bag days, I would have gone outside for

479
00:22:55,200 --> 00:22:57,560
Speaker 1: this instead of hanging out in a bathroom. Yeah, that's

480
00:22:57,600 --> 00:22:59,840
Speaker 1: the part that struck me. How rude to do this inside?

481
00:23:00,240 --> 00:23:02,720
Speaker 1: Oh so dumb. If you really don't want anyone to

482
00:23:02,720 --> 00:23:04,760
Speaker 1: find out you are smoking, you really don't act like

483
00:23:04,800 --> 00:23:07,240
Speaker 1: they did. It's like they were asking to get caught.

484
00:23:07,640 --> 00:23:10,280
Speaker 1: Everything from smoking in the biath room to using the

485
00:23:10,280 --> 00:23:13,000
Speaker 1: smell of strong perfume to cover up the smell is stupid.

486
00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:15,320
Speaker 1: It's because of this that I believe it when Op

487
00:23:15,480 --> 00:23:18,040
Speaker 1: says that the boyfriend only smokes on occasion. There's a

488
00:23:18,040 --> 00:23:20,399
Speaker 1: second comment that says, if she was fine with her boyfriend,

489
00:23:20,480 --> 00:23:22,639
Speaker 1: why did he not tell her sister? She would probably

490
00:23:22,640 --> 00:23:24,320
Speaker 1: be chill and decide to sneak around.

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Speaker 3: Reply.

492
00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:27,639
Speaker 1: Boyfriend flew into town with op ergo, he did not

493
00:23:27,760 --> 00:23:31,120
Speaker 1: have his own. This was the sister's devil's let us

494
00:23:31,359 --> 00:23:33,320
Speaker 1: and sister said, okay, but only if you promise not

495
00:23:33,359 --> 00:23:34,119
Speaker 1: to tell my sister.

496
00:23:34,640 --> 00:23:37,600
Speaker 3: They who hold the devils, that just hold the power. Reply.

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Speaker 1: I think sometimes in relationships you have to ask yourself

498
00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:42,480
Speaker 1: if a secret is worth looking like you're sleeping with

499
00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:43,359
Speaker 1: your girlfriend's sister.

500
00:23:43,560 --> 00:23:44,080
Speaker 3: Yeah.

501
00:23:44,320 --> 00:23:47,800
Speaker 2: I agree. Sometimes you gotta be like, mmm, my girlfriend's

502
00:23:47,800 --> 00:23:50,320
Speaker 2: sister really wants me to keep that we're smoking together

503
00:23:50,560 --> 00:23:53,119
Speaker 2: a secret. But I know that my girlfriend's fine with

504
00:23:53,160 --> 00:23:55,520
Speaker 2: me smoking, and I know that that would look pretty

505
00:23:55,520 --> 00:23:58,040
Speaker 2: suspicious if she woke up and found me not there.

506
00:23:58,800 --> 00:24:01,000
Speaker 2: Maybe I should not keep it a secret.

507
00:24:01,359 --> 00:24:04,080
Speaker 1: Comment three Should I drown myself with another woman's perfew

508
00:24:04,160 --> 00:24:05,920
Speaker 1: to cover the smell of the devil's letters from my

509
00:24:05,960 --> 00:24:09,160
Speaker 1: girlfriend who knows I smoke? Such a hard decision coming

510
00:24:09,240 --> 00:24:11,600
Speaker 1: in before. My siblings and cousins take walks a lot

511
00:24:11,640 --> 00:24:14,600
Speaker 1: during big family events too, and we all know what

512
00:24:14,640 --> 00:24:15,000
Speaker 1: that is.

513
00:24:15,280 --> 00:24:17,800
Speaker 2: Yep, the classic cousin walk.

514
00:24:17,760 --> 00:24:20,679
Speaker 3: The classic cousin stroke, taking a nice stroll. It's just

515
00:24:20,680 --> 00:24:21,560
Speaker 3: such a lovely night.

516
00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:22,639
Speaker 1: Why don't we take a walk?

517
00:24:23,359 --> 00:24:25,760
Speaker 2: That is the end of that story, but we got

518
00:24:25,800 --> 00:24:29,679
Speaker 2: another one coming up. I refuse to forgive my grandmother

519
00:24:29,880 --> 00:24:32,520
Speaker 2: even though she's close to kicking the bucket.

520
00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:34,440
Speaker 3: How dare she do that to that bucket?

521
00:24:34,880 --> 00:24:37,439
Speaker 2: I am a thirty year old female and I have

522
00:24:37,520 --> 00:24:40,240
Speaker 2: been trying to go no contact with my grandma, but

523
00:24:40,359 --> 00:24:42,800
Speaker 2: I keep getting pushed to let her stay in my life.

524
00:24:43,080 --> 00:24:45,360
Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from Mammoth Order five six

525
00:24:45,440 --> 00:24:48,960
Speaker 2: oh five, directly from the r slash okay story time

526
00:24:49,080 --> 00:24:51,840
Speaker 2: subreddit woo and if you want to spit your own stories,

527
00:24:52,240 --> 00:24:56,720
Speaker 2: go to that zubreddit. I'm Sophia, I'm Dakota, I'm Angie,

528
00:24:56,800 --> 00:24:58,480
Speaker 2: and we're here to give good advice goofy, but we

529
00:24:58,520 --> 00:25:01,080
Speaker 2: don't have the answers, no what we'd do. Let us

530
00:25:01,119 --> 00:25:02,720
Speaker 2: know what you would do in the comments, and op

531
00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:07,000
Speaker 2: says four some backstory. My grandma has always been uptight

532
00:25:07,040 --> 00:25:10,880
Speaker 2: and judgmental. She has shown clear favoritism over her children

533
00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:14,440
Speaker 2: and grandchildren. Growing up across the country from her, while

534
00:25:14,440 --> 00:25:17,600
Speaker 2: my mom's family all lived near her didn't help. I

535
00:25:17,640 --> 00:25:20,000
Speaker 2: have a cousin twenty nine mail let's call him En

536
00:25:20,280 --> 00:25:23,159
Speaker 2: let's call him Neil, that she was always favored because

537
00:25:23,200 --> 00:25:26,520
Speaker 2: he came from the bath home. Well, yes, his home

538
00:25:26,560 --> 00:25:28,600
Speaker 2: life sucked. I didn't know much about it until I

539
00:25:28,640 --> 00:25:31,280
Speaker 2: was an adult. As a child, I just didn't understand

540
00:25:31,440 --> 00:25:34,920
Speaker 2: why I wasn't as important. There was a specific time

541
00:25:35,000 --> 00:25:37,480
Speaker 2: I can remember that my grandma made a deal with

542
00:25:37,600 --> 00:25:43,840
Speaker 2: Neil that if so shilly, that if he got on

543
00:25:43,920 --> 00:25:46,119
Speaker 2: her role in school, she would take him to the mousehouse.

544
00:25:46,520 --> 00:25:49,320
Speaker 2: Of course, she made that deal while on the phone

545
00:25:49,520 --> 00:25:51,680
Speaker 2: with my mom, and I heard it. My mom made

546
00:25:51,680 --> 00:25:54,800
Speaker 2: her offer me the same deal, and guess who actually

547
00:25:54,880 --> 00:25:57,639
Speaker 2: kept the deal. She wasn't happy about taking me, and

548
00:25:57,720 --> 00:26:00,840
Speaker 2: I could tell. All of my cousins would go spend

549
00:26:00,840 --> 00:26:02,920
Speaker 2: a month of the summer with her and my step granddad,

550
00:26:03,359 --> 00:26:06,720
Speaker 2: but my brother and I were never invited. Every time

551
00:26:06,800 --> 00:26:09,720
Speaker 2: when we could come visit, it was never fine. Unless

552
00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:12,399
Speaker 2: our step grandpa took us down to the river or

553
00:26:12,440 --> 00:26:15,800
Speaker 2: out for a four wheeler ride, we would get consistently

554
00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:19,000
Speaker 2: yelled at and made to feel small. I still remember

555
00:26:19,040 --> 00:26:21,760
Speaker 2: getting yelled at because I didn't know the ornament container

556
00:26:21,880 --> 00:26:24,600
Speaker 2: was one of those snap connector ones and when I

557
00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:27,720
Speaker 2: picked it up, the ornaments dropped out and broke. I

558
00:26:27,960 --> 00:26:30,960
Speaker 2: cried when she yelled at me, and she never apologized.

559
00:26:31,080 --> 00:26:33,359
Speaker 2: For birthdays, all my brother and I got was a

560
00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:37,400
Speaker 2: two dollars bill. Well, those are kind of rare, that's cool.

561
00:26:37,480 --> 00:26:39,520
Speaker 3: Those might even be worth four dollars.

562
00:26:39,840 --> 00:26:43,120
Speaker 2: And for Christmas a savings bond. I was nine when

563
00:26:43,160 --> 00:26:46,040
Speaker 2: she gave me the last savings bond. Our cousins would

564
00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:49,359
Speaker 2: get multiple gifts. So there is some backstory of childhood,

565
00:26:49,400 --> 00:26:52,159
Speaker 2: and not even all of it. As an adult, I

566
00:26:52,200 --> 00:26:55,600
Speaker 2: thought it had gotten better until Neil got with his ex.

567
00:26:56,240 --> 00:26:58,879
Speaker 2: Neil would go through issues with her and I would

568
00:26:58,960 --> 00:27:02,280
Speaker 2: end up in the middle oh Neil when they would argue.

569
00:27:02,359 --> 00:27:04,480
Speaker 2: I was the mediator who called them both out on

570
00:27:04,520 --> 00:27:07,679
Speaker 2: their bs. Well, come to find out, Neil was treating

571
00:27:07,680 --> 00:27:10,040
Speaker 2: her like crap, and true to who I am, I

572
00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:13,280
Speaker 2: called him out. She told me he was talking badly

573
00:27:13,320 --> 00:27:15,679
Speaker 2: about her to friends and family. I brought it up

574
00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:17,600
Speaker 2: and he denied it and told me to look at

575
00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:20,719
Speaker 2: his messages. He gave me his loggin and I signed

576
00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:23,520
Speaker 2: in to take a look. Well, only I deleted a

577
00:27:23,520 --> 00:27:25,960
Speaker 2: lot of messages so I couldn't get a clear view

578
00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:29,000
Speaker 2: of what was said. Yeah, he's like take a look

579
00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:31,720
Speaker 2: at my phone. She's like, it's all it's like the

580
00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:34,160
Speaker 2: redacted government files.

581
00:27:34,320 --> 00:27:36,960
Speaker 1: Yeah. She's like, I can't read this black bars.

582
00:27:37,119 --> 00:27:37,320
Speaker 3: Yeah.

583
00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:40,439
Speaker 2: He's like, well those are classified, so you can't. Sorry,

584
00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:43,040
Speaker 2: I can't read those. This is something we had issues

585
00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:45,720
Speaker 2: with before, because he would accuse me of things to

586
00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:49,200
Speaker 2: our family and then delete the messages before people could

587
00:27:49,200 --> 00:27:52,560
Speaker 2: see them, and no one would take my word as proof.

588
00:27:52,880 --> 00:27:55,800
Speaker 2: One night, my iPad wasn't working properly and I ended

589
00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:58,440
Speaker 2: up clicking into his account since it was still on

590
00:27:58,440 --> 00:28:02,040
Speaker 2: my logged in account. Neil called me and freaked out.

591
00:28:02,440 --> 00:28:04,639
Speaker 2: I logged out immediately and deleted the account from my

592
00:28:04,680 --> 00:28:07,440
Speaker 2: lists right after it happened. Well, on top of him

593
00:28:07,480 --> 00:28:10,880
Speaker 2: yelling at me, he went to our grandma and told

594
00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:14,240
Speaker 2: on me, like we were five years old, Neil, why

595
00:28:14,240 --> 00:28:16,200
Speaker 2: are you being a little snitch?

596
00:28:16,240 --> 00:28:18,280
Speaker 3: Just get stitches, Neil Wema Grandma.

597
00:28:18,320 --> 00:28:20,040
Speaker 2: Grandma walked into my accounts.

598
00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:23,200
Speaker 1: Gma, ganma, Hey, it's Sam.

599
00:28:23,240 --> 00:28:24,439
Speaker 3: We're gonna get back to these stories.

600
00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:26,440
Speaker 1: But here's three bits of ads from our sponsors that

601
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Speaker 1: keep the show alive.

602
00:28:28,080 --> 00:28:28,280
Speaker 5: Now.

603
00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:30,239
Speaker 2: During all of this, she had already been yelling at

604
00:28:30,280 --> 00:28:32,920
Speaker 2: me for being involved with Neil and his ex'es issues,

605
00:28:33,359 --> 00:28:35,840
Speaker 2: even though they asked me to be honestly, I do

606
00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:38,239
Speaker 2: think that you should just like let them do their

607
00:28:38,280 --> 00:28:40,680
Speaker 2: own thing and tell them, hey, I don't care.

608
00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:43,440
Speaker 3: Can't you That is an option you can just go.

609
00:28:43,680 --> 00:28:46,480
Speaker 1: I'm actually I'm not gonna add my two cents to

610
00:28:46,480 --> 00:28:47,040
Speaker 1: this equation.

611
00:28:47,360 --> 00:28:52,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, if it's so much like drama every time you

612
00:28:52,360 --> 00:28:55,440
Speaker 2: try and help them and then your grandmother gets involved,

613
00:28:55,520 --> 00:28:58,520
Speaker 2: then it's maybe just best to leave them be. Neil

614
00:28:58,680 --> 00:29:01,040
Speaker 2: only had an issue with it after asking me because

615
00:29:01,080 --> 00:29:04,360
Speaker 2: I wouldn't side with him blindly, so our grandma came

616
00:29:04,400 --> 00:29:06,840
Speaker 2: at me and yelled at me. I finally told her

617
00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:08,520
Speaker 2: that I was out of it and not to get

618
00:29:08,560 --> 00:29:11,520
Speaker 2: involved with mine and Neil's issues like we were kids,

619
00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:14,760
Speaker 2: or to even talk to me about Neil again. Things

620
00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:17,080
Speaker 2: were okay for about a year and a half, and

621
00:29:17,120 --> 00:29:19,720
Speaker 2: I even allowed her to come to my wedding. She

622
00:29:19,800 --> 00:29:23,640
Speaker 2: had surprisingly behaved at my wedding well. About a year

623
00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:25,960
Speaker 2: after my wedding, I gave birth to my first son.

624
00:29:26,320 --> 00:29:28,960
Speaker 2: We decided to go to my husband's family for Christmas.

625
00:29:29,320 --> 00:29:31,200
Speaker 2: On our way, I got a message from my grandma

626
00:29:31,320 --> 00:29:33,440
Speaker 2: after she saw a post I made with my son

627
00:29:33,880 --> 00:29:36,560
Speaker 2: backing up a little after everything Neil had pulled and

628
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:39,440
Speaker 2: caused he wasn't able to see his kids with his

629
00:29:39,480 --> 00:29:42,040
Speaker 2: ex for about a year or so without having to

630
00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:44,200
Speaker 2: go through a third party, which he didn't like doing.

631
00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:47,040
Speaker 2: Back to the message, my grandma sent me a text

632
00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:50,720
Speaker 2: saying that while I was sitting holding and kissing my baby,

633
00:29:51,040 --> 00:29:53,160
Speaker 2: I should think about how Neil hasn't been able to

634
00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:56,280
Speaker 2: see his kids. What she thinks I helped with. She

635
00:29:56,360 --> 00:29:58,880
Speaker 2: literally is getting on you for just holding your baby.

636
00:29:59,280 --> 00:30:01,680
Speaker 2: She's like, you get your baby and me like I

637
00:30:01,720 --> 00:30:03,240
Speaker 2: would just text her back. I thought you told me

638
00:30:03,280 --> 00:30:05,320
Speaker 2: not to get involved. I'm not getting involved.

639
00:30:05,320 --> 00:30:08,040
Speaker 1: Sorry, you guys speaking out of both sides of your

640
00:30:08,040 --> 00:30:08,960
Speaker 1: mouth right now.

641
00:30:10,640 --> 00:30:13,880
Speaker 2: After that, I told her I was done and blocked her.

642
00:30:14,040 --> 00:30:16,400
Speaker 2: She had crossed my boundary and tried to make me

643
00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:19,840
Speaker 2: feel guilty about holding my son. I didn't talk to

644
00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:22,920
Speaker 2: her or even allow any access to my family for

645
00:30:22,960 --> 00:30:25,880
Speaker 2: a little under a year until I got stuck being

646
00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:28,360
Speaker 2: around her because she was visiting my family when my

647
00:30:28,400 --> 00:30:30,680
Speaker 2: son and I flew to visit as well. Do you

648
00:30:30,720 --> 00:30:34,120
Speaker 2: apologize to me about what she said? The apology basically was,

649
00:30:34,560 --> 00:30:37,720
Speaker 2: I'm sorry you took it that way, which is that's

650
00:30:37,840 --> 00:30:41,360
Speaker 2: actually not an apology, right, that's a pretty bad apology.

651
00:30:41,520 --> 00:30:42,880
Speaker 3: It's actually being blamed.

652
00:30:43,160 --> 00:30:46,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, she actually just blamed you for how.

653
00:30:46,200 --> 00:30:46,920
Speaker 1: She treated you.

654
00:30:47,240 --> 00:30:50,480
Speaker 2: She was polite and nice enough that I did allow

655
00:30:50,520 --> 00:30:53,640
Speaker 2: little glimpses into my life on my terms, though, which

656
00:30:53,680 --> 00:30:57,240
Speaker 2: meant very low contact. After a year of low contact

657
00:30:57,320 --> 00:30:59,719
Speaker 2: and having my second child, I allowed her to come

658
00:30:59,760 --> 00:31:02,160
Speaker 2: this me and the state I currently live in. Her

659
00:31:02,160 --> 00:31:04,959
Speaker 2: and my mom both came, which is a nightmare in

660
00:31:05,040 --> 00:31:08,280
Speaker 2: itself because of me and my mom's relationship. When she

661
00:31:08,360 --> 00:31:10,680
Speaker 2: flew in, I went and picked her up. My husband

662
00:31:10,720 --> 00:31:12,600
Speaker 2: was deployed at this point, so it was just me

663
00:31:12,640 --> 00:31:16,040
Speaker 2: and the kids. The first thing she did was judge

664
00:31:16,040 --> 00:31:20,520
Speaker 2: me for my spicy book obsession. Leave your spicy book

665
00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:22,240
Speaker 2: obsession out of it. She's just jealous.

666
00:31:22,280 --> 00:31:24,920
Speaker 1: Why does she even know about your spicy book obsession.

667
00:31:25,080 --> 00:31:28,280
Speaker 2: I don't know. Maybe it's on the covers. Maybe it's

668
00:31:28,280 --> 00:31:31,280
Speaker 2: one of those covers, like the Ice Planet Barbarian cover.

669
00:31:31,840 --> 00:31:33,320
Speaker 3: What the hell are you talking about?

670
00:31:33,640 --> 00:31:36,680
Speaker 2: You never heard of Ice Planet Barbarians. It's crazy, man.

671
00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:39,280
Speaker 2: I had a friend who read it, and she read

672
00:31:39,320 --> 00:31:40,160
Speaker 2: me some passages.

673
00:31:40,360 --> 00:31:41,480
Speaker 3: It's crazy.

674
00:31:41,760 --> 00:31:43,920
Speaker 2: We went and stopped by Walmart, where my mom and

675
00:31:43,960 --> 00:31:46,400
Speaker 2: brother had gotten to for my brother to drop her off.

676
00:31:46,400 --> 00:31:47,240
Speaker 3: To me, my.

677
00:31:47,240 --> 00:31:50,360
Speaker 2: Grandma had been hugging and cuddling both of my kids.

678
00:31:50,680 --> 00:31:53,200
Speaker 2: If I saw her cuddling the kids, I'd be like, Wow,

679
00:31:53,280 --> 00:31:56,800
Speaker 2: you're really cuddling my kids. But O Neil can't hug

680
00:31:56,880 --> 00:32:01,000
Speaker 2: his how dare you? The whole time we were outside Walmart,

681
00:32:01,040 --> 00:32:03,520
Speaker 2: and while we were inside, I didn't think anything of

682
00:32:03,520 --> 00:32:06,880
Speaker 2: it because it's just tugs. My mom bent towards my youngest.

683
00:32:06,880 --> 00:32:09,600
Speaker 2: He was only about seven months at the time, and

684
00:32:09,680 --> 00:32:12,720
Speaker 2: I thought she had kissed him. When we finished checking

685
00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:15,040
Speaker 2: out and we were leaving, I just gave my mom

686
00:32:15,040 --> 00:32:17,600
Speaker 2: a reminder that kissing my two year old is okay

687
00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:21,120
Speaker 2: because his immune system is more developed, but not to

688
00:32:21,280 --> 00:32:23,959
Speaker 2: kiss my under one year old. She said okay, and

689
00:32:24,000 --> 00:32:27,240
Speaker 2: she understood, but my grandma kept telling me I couldn't

690
00:32:27,280 --> 00:32:30,160
Speaker 2: tell her not to kiss my son. Actually you can,

691
00:32:30,360 --> 00:32:33,320
Speaker 2: and you can also make it so that your grandmother

692
00:32:33,440 --> 00:32:37,000
Speaker 2: never sees your son. I told her three times, my

693
00:32:37,080 --> 00:32:39,480
Speaker 2: mom told her two times, and my mom even told

694
00:32:39,480 --> 00:32:41,400
Speaker 2: her that when she had kissed my youngest when he

695
00:32:41,440 --> 00:32:44,440
Speaker 2: was barely two months old, she had lost the ability

696
00:32:44,520 --> 00:32:48,160
Speaker 2: to hold my child for an entire day. Well, my

697
00:32:48,200 --> 00:32:51,280
Speaker 2: grandma decided to ignore us and kiss my youngest right

698
00:32:51,360 --> 00:32:54,240
Speaker 2: in front of me. I literally almost left her at Walmart.

699
00:32:54,480 --> 00:32:58,880
Speaker 2: If she's blatantly disobeying your boundaries or just brushing past

700
00:32:58,920 --> 00:33:01,400
Speaker 2: your boundaries, I would say, I'm sorry. You can never

701
00:33:01,720 --> 00:33:03,920
Speaker 2: you know, be alone or hold my kid again until

702
00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:06,360
Speaker 2: you have learned your lesson, which I don't think you're gonna.

703
00:33:06,560 --> 00:33:08,959
Speaker 3: I'm blowing her face, Yeah, I go fitness.

704
00:33:10,400 --> 00:33:12,400
Speaker 2: I caught I'd cough in her face. I go, oh,

705
00:33:12,440 --> 00:33:14,280
Speaker 2: you're you should be fine with the germs. You can't

706
00:33:14,280 --> 00:33:15,720
Speaker 2: tell me what it is. She goes, oh, why are

707
00:33:15,760 --> 00:33:22,160
Speaker 2: you doing? No way, until she floats off into the sky.

708
00:33:22,520 --> 00:33:25,760
Speaker 2: She only apologized because my mom told her I had

709
00:33:25,800 --> 00:33:28,520
Speaker 2: the rule because my boys had just gotten over being sick.

710
00:33:28,800 --> 00:33:31,600
Speaker 2: Shouldn't have to do that. We were headed out to

711
00:33:31,640 --> 00:33:34,040
Speaker 2: the car when she casually brought up how the person

712
00:33:34,080 --> 00:33:36,479
Speaker 2: next door on the plane had been coughing and hacking

713
00:33:36,520 --> 00:33:38,720
Speaker 2: the entire flight. Did you not like that? Was that

714
00:33:38,800 --> 00:33:40,240
Speaker 2: upsetting to you? Mind?

715
00:33:40,280 --> 00:33:40,400
Speaker 1: You?

716
00:33:40,480 --> 00:33:42,720
Speaker 2: I picked her up straight from the airport and went

717
00:33:42,840 --> 00:33:45,480
Speaker 2: right to Walmart, so she hadn't changed it all, and

718
00:33:45,520 --> 00:33:47,880
Speaker 2: I had been hugging up on my boys. I told

719
00:33:47,880 --> 00:33:50,160
Speaker 2: my mom that if my boys got sick due to

720
00:33:50,200 --> 00:33:53,560
Speaker 2: her negligence, I absolutely didn't want anything to do with

721
00:33:53,600 --> 00:33:56,520
Speaker 2: her at all. Well, guess what, me and both boys

722
00:33:56,560 --> 00:34:00,600
Speaker 2: got sick. Yeah, because Grandma was on the plane coughed

723
00:34:00,640 --> 00:34:03,239
Speaker 2: on and she goes, oh, did I hate it when

724
00:34:03,240 --> 00:34:04,800
Speaker 2: they coughed on me? And then she gets sick.

725
00:34:05,400 --> 00:34:07,760
Speaker 1: Lea soaked up every germ in the airport.

726
00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:10,200
Speaker 2: So I told my mom my grandma doesn't get to

727
00:34:10,239 --> 00:34:12,840
Speaker 2: know anything about me and my boys. It's been a

728
00:34:12,880 --> 00:34:15,279
Speaker 2: few months and my husband is home and agrees that

729
00:34:15,320 --> 00:34:18,239
Speaker 2: we won't have any contact with my grandma. My mom

730
00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:20,760
Speaker 2: called the other day and asked if I wanted family

731
00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:23,840
Speaker 2: pictures from the reunion I didn't go to this past summer.

732
00:34:24,200 --> 00:34:26,319
Speaker 2: I told her I was fine with getting ones of

733
00:34:26,360 --> 00:34:28,920
Speaker 2: the aunt I still have contact with and her family.

734
00:34:29,120 --> 00:34:32,360
Speaker 2: The full family picks include Neil and my grandma, and

735
00:34:32,480 --> 00:34:34,440
Speaker 2: I don't want anything with the two of the minute.

736
00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:37,239
Speaker 2: My mom keeps telling me to forgive my grandma, but

737
00:34:37,400 --> 00:34:41,279
Speaker 2: she's still my grandma and the only grandparent I have left. Nope,

738
00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:47,080
Speaker 2: she sucks. Only grandma I have left. Stinks. She's gone.

739
00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:50,520
Speaker 2: I don't feel any connection to her after everything she's done,

740
00:34:50,719 --> 00:34:53,640
Speaker 2: and after she has stomped on every boundary I've ever

741
00:34:53,680 --> 00:34:56,240
Speaker 2: put there is a little bit left to the story.

742
00:34:56,320 --> 00:35:00,480
Speaker 2: But yeah, when any family member blatantly disrespect the rules

743
00:35:00,520 --> 00:35:03,320
Speaker 2: that you're putting in place for the safety of her child,

744
00:35:03,880 --> 00:35:06,799
Speaker 2: blow them away, get.

745
00:35:06,360 --> 00:35:09,360
Speaker 1: Lost, bring out your inner big bad wolf and take that.

746
00:35:09,840 --> 00:35:11,480
Speaker 2: And I huff and I puff, and I blow my

747
00:35:11,560 --> 00:35:12,200
Speaker 2: grandma away.

748
00:35:12,560 --> 00:35:14,000
Speaker 3: That's right, Like a dandelion.

749
00:35:14,239 --> 00:35:16,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, you can make a wish on your grandma. She

750
00:35:16,520 --> 00:35:18,799
Speaker 2: floats away and you go. I wish to never see

751
00:35:18,840 --> 00:35:21,480
Speaker 2: Grandma again. But there's a little bit left. I told

752
00:35:21,520 --> 00:35:24,160
Speaker 2: her that it doesn't matter if she is my only grandparent.

753
00:35:24,360 --> 00:35:26,359
Speaker 2: It doesn't give her the right to do whatever she

754
00:35:26,440 --> 00:35:30,080
Speaker 2: wants without consequences. She can make her choices, but I

755
00:35:30,160 --> 00:35:32,839
Speaker 2: can choose not to have her in my family's life.

756
00:35:33,239 --> 00:35:35,680
Speaker 2: My mom brought up that my grandma just had surgery

757
00:35:35,760 --> 00:35:38,560
Speaker 2: because of skin cancer, and it looks like it might

758
00:35:38,600 --> 00:35:41,399
Speaker 2: have already spread, and there's no telling how much time

759
00:35:41,480 --> 00:35:44,160
Speaker 2: she has left. I told her I'm sorry she's dealing

760
00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:46,720
Speaker 2: with it, but that still doesn't mean she gets a pass.

761
00:35:47,280 --> 00:35:50,160
Speaker 2: Am I the ale for going no contact. I don't

762
00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:52,719
Speaker 2: feel like I am, but has always been drilled into

763
00:35:52,719 --> 00:35:55,840
Speaker 2: my head that family is family no matter what. I

764
00:35:55,960 --> 00:35:58,319
Speaker 2: just don't know how to feel. You should feel like

765
00:35:58,360 --> 00:36:00,840
Speaker 2: you're not the ale because you're not trying to protect

766
00:36:00,840 --> 00:36:02,759
Speaker 2: your kids and that's the most important thing at the.

767
00:36:02,800 --> 00:36:03,279
Speaker 1: End of the day.

768
00:36:03,600 --> 00:36:04,000
Speaker 3: I don't know.

769
00:36:04,040 --> 00:36:07,000
Speaker 1: Man, just feels like you could still be like, hey,

770
00:36:07,200 --> 00:36:09,960
Speaker 1: I heard that you're sick, and I hope that you're okay,

771
00:36:10,360 --> 00:36:11,360
Speaker 1: even if she's.

772
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:15,600
Speaker 2: Like Grandma, yeah, Grandma literally said oh, I'm sick and

773
00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:19,280
Speaker 2: then gave an under sure, she's a silly baby.

774
00:36:19,440 --> 00:36:21,000
Speaker 3: It's the same thing I'm not saying.

775
00:36:21,040 --> 00:36:23,640
Speaker 1: I hope you're I'm not gonna let you around my kids,

776
00:36:23,719 --> 00:36:26,920
Speaker 1: but I hope that you don't die of cancer.

777
00:36:27,840 --> 00:36:29,960
Speaker 3: Is I feel like a fair thing to say?

778
00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:31,920
Speaker 2: Does she have cancer? Did I miss that?

779
00:36:32,400 --> 00:36:37,239
Speaker 3: Yeah? She has skin cancer? Oh spread, I thought you

780
00:36:37,280 --> 00:36:37,640
Speaker 3: were talking.

781
00:36:38,120 --> 00:36:40,239
Speaker 2: I read that and didn't register that at all. I

782
00:36:40,239 --> 00:36:42,279
Speaker 2: thought you were talking about her getting sick from the flight.

783
00:36:42,760 --> 00:36:48,320
Speaker 6: No, oh, yeah, that's no. So I was like, damn, oh, okay,

784
00:36:48,960 --> 00:36:52,279
Speaker 6: I don't give it. If you have cancer you got

785
00:36:52,280 --> 00:36:53,480
Speaker 6: my kids sick.

786
00:36:53,560 --> 00:36:58,279
Speaker 2: I'd be like, sorry, I think that, Yeah, you can

787
00:36:58,360 --> 00:37:00,959
Speaker 2: you can cut off Grandma and still be like, I'm sorry,

788
00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:03,440
Speaker 2: you have cancer. I didn't realize. I didn't register when

789
00:37:03,480 --> 00:37:05,600
Speaker 2: I read that that she had cancer. I was still

790
00:37:05,640 --> 00:37:09,319
Speaker 2: thinking about her getting people sick from the flight. Yeah, yes,

791
00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:10,040
Speaker 2: I agree with you.

792
00:37:10,600 --> 00:37:13,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, she doesn't have to be like number one on

793
00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:14,520
Speaker 1: the list for babysitting now.

794
00:37:14,960 --> 00:37:17,640
Speaker 2: Oh, she's not anywhere on the list.

795
00:37:17,560 --> 00:37:18,319
Speaker 3: Right, That's what I'm saying.

796
00:37:18,560 --> 00:37:20,040
Speaker 1: It's like, you don't have to now be like and

797
00:37:20,080 --> 00:37:21,799
Speaker 1: now you're gonna be here every day.

798
00:37:22,160 --> 00:37:24,200
Speaker 2: Yeah. I don't think you have to have a relationship

799
00:37:24,200 --> 00:37:25,600
Speaker 2: with her, but I think you can be like, hey,

800
00:37:25,840 --> 00:37:26,480
Speaker 2: sorry about that.

801
00:37:26,560 --> 00:37:28,960
Speaker 3: You don't have to wish illness upon her.

802
00:37:29,160 --> 00:37:34,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, I thought we were just talking about the plane sickness. Yeah, yep,

803
00:37:34,760 --> 00:37:39,080
Speaker 2: I have different opinions. Yeah, but we've got another story

804
00:37:39,520 --> 00:37:40,080
Speaker 2: comming up.

805
00:37:40,239 --> 00:37:40,840
Speaker 3: Hey, it's John here.

806
00:37:40,880 --> 00:37:41,880
Speaker 2: We're gonna get back to the stories.

807
00:37:41,880 --> 00:37:43,840
Speaker 1: But a quick three minute ad break from our sponsors

808
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Speaker 1: that keep the show going. My mother in law turn

809
00:37:46,680 --> 00:37:49,040
Speaker 1: my paradise into a nightmare.

810
00:37:49,200 --> 00:37:51,160
Speaker 2: Get out of my utopia.

811
00:37:51,280 --> 00:37:54,160
Speaker 1: My husband and I have a blended family. We put

812
00:37:54,239 --> 00:37:56,480
Speaker 1: them right in the blender and a few years back

813
00:37:56,520 --> 00:37:58,560
Speaker 1: we thought it'd be a great opportunity for the kids

814
00:37:58,600 --> 00:38:00,200
Speaker 1: to move to Hawaii.

815
00:37:59,719 --> 00:38:01,360
Speaker 3: To learn more about their culture.

816
00:38:01,760 --> 00:38:03,960
Speaker 1: His mom had always asked us to come live with them,

817
00:38:04,000 --> 00:38:06,840
Speaker 1: and during the VID she even bought a big house

818
00:38:06,960 --> 00:38:09,080
Speaker 1: with the plan that we'd all move in together one day.

819
00:38:09,560 --> 00:38:12,880
Speaker 1: It seemed like the perfect setup time with family culture

820
00:38:12,880 --> 00:38:15,440
Speaker 1: for the kids, and we just stay a few years

821
00:38:15,480 --> 00:38:18,080
Speaker 1: and then head back home. By the way, this comes

822
00:38:18,080 --> 00:38:22,080
Speaker 1: from user review Green from the r slash Okay storytime

823
00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:24,280
Speaker 1: stop breddits. If you want to submit your own stories,

824
00:38:24,560 --> 00:38:30,360
Speaker 1: go there. I'm Dakota, I'm Sophia, and we are gonna

825
00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:33,040
Speaker 1: give you the good advice that we got and we're

826
00:38:33,040 --> 00:38:33,600
Speaker 1: gonna give it to you.

827
00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:34,319
Speaker 3: Gooflee.

828
00:38:34,440 --> 00:38:36,239
Speaker 1: But we only know what we would do. We don't

829
00:38:36,239 --> 00:38:38,440
Speaker 1: have all the answers, So if you do something else,

830
00:38:38,560 --> 00:38:42,439
Speaker 1: just let us know. And Opie says. So we took

831
00:38:42,480 --> 00:38:45,359
Speaker 1: the leap. We enrolled the kids in school. I took

832
00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:47,680
Speaker 1: a job that had a one hour commute each way

833
00:38:47,719 --> 00:38:50,759
Speaker 1: because of traffic, and life quickly got very busy. We

834
00:38:50,760 --> 00:38:54,719
Speaker 1: were constantly helping around the house, yard, work, house projects,

835
00:38:54,800 --> 00:38:56,640
Speaker 1: you name it. In six months, we made it to

836
00:38:56,680 --> 00:38:59,719
Speaker 1: the beach maybe three times. Mother in law would occasionally

837
00:38:59,719 --> 00:39:03,279
Speaker 1: make passive, aggressive remarks, mostly about my kids. But I

838
00:39:03,320 --> 00:39:06,240
Speaker 1: brushed it off. I told myself, it's just a little tension.

839
00:39:06,600 --> 00:39:09,920
Speaker 1: It'll pass. And then my stepdaughter came to visit.

840
00:39:09,719 --> 00:39:10,280
Speaker 3: For the summer.

841
00:39:10,680 --> 00:39:14,000
Speaker 1: This is the second time husband's family ever met stepdaughter.

842
00:39:14,520 --> 00:39:18,360
Speaker 1: I had planned a family photoshoot, coordinated outfits, hair done,

843
00:39:18,400 --> 00:39:21,520
Speaker 1: and the works. I even left work early to help

844
00:39:21,560 --> 00:39:24,600
Speaker 1: my daughters get ready. As we were walking out the door,

845
00:39:24,680 --> 00:39:27,680
Speaker 1: mother in law puts a ginger flower in stepdaughter's hair,

846
00:39:28,080 --> 00:39:30,640
Speaker 1: on top of the pearl clip I had already styled.

847
00:39:31,040 --> 00:39:32,560
Speaker 1: Did she offer one to my daughter?

848
00:39:33,280 --> 00:39:37,120
Speaker 3: No? I thought it was rude, but whatever, it is rude.

849
00:39:37,560 --> 00:39:39,719
Speaker 3: We drove an hour to the north shore. It was

850
00:39:39,800 --> 00:39:42,600
Speaker 3: hot and ginger flowers wilt fast. By the time we

851
00:39:42,640 --> 00:39:46,760
Speaker 3: got there, the flower was droopy and was basically withered

852
00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:49,520
Speaker 3: way into nothing. I had stepdaughter take it out and

853
00:39:49,600 --> 00:39:52,440
Speaker 3: just set it down. My husband literally dropped it on

854
00:39:52,480 --> 00:39:54,880
Speaker 3: the ground. No big deal, right, wrong?

855
00:39:56,840 --> 00:39:58,480
Speaker 2: I think she's gonna be upset about that.

856
00:39:58,840 --> 00:40:00,680
Speaker 3: We got home and mother and law Yah loses it

857
00:40:00,760 --> 00:40:01,520
Speaker 3: over the flower.

858
00:40:01,800 --> 00:40:04,720
Speaker 1: She starts yelling at me about how I disrespected her

859
00:40:04,760 --> 00:40:09,759
Speaker 1: and Hawaiian culture, and then she goes off for five hours.

860
00:40:10,239 --> 00:40:15,440
Speaker 1: I'm not exaggerating five hours. At some point, it's your

861
00:40:15,480 --> 00:40:17,520
Speaker 1: fault for just staying there. I'm not gonna lie.

862
00:40:17,640 --> 00:40:19,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, me for five hours.

863
00:40:19,719 --> 00:40:22,880
Speaker 1: I'm leaving After fifteen minutes, I'm like, are we still

864
00:40:22,920 --> 00:40:23,359
Speaker 1: doing this?

865
00:40:23,520 --> 00:40:25,239
Speaker 2: Yeah? I'm like, I'm heading out of the house. I'm

866
00:40:25,239 --> 00:40:27,399
Speaker 2: going I'm going to a coffee shop. If I come back,

867
00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:29,680
Speaker 2: you're still going at it. But I'm going back to

868
00:40:29,719 --> 00:40:30,359
Speaker 2: the coffee shop.

869
00:40:30,480 --> 00:40:33,800
Speaker 1: She called me every name imaginable, said my husband didn't

870
00:40:33,800 --> 00:40:36,000
Speaker 1: love me. He said I was a terrible mom, trash

871
00:40:36,080 --> 00:40:39,680
Speaker 1: talked my parents, dragged each one of my kids, including

872
00:40:39,719 --> 00:40:42,640
Speaker 1: ones she's never even met, but she called them horrible

873
00:40:42,640 --> 00:40:45,480
Speaker 1: and entitled and said she couldn't stand them. I said nothing.

874
00:40:45,840 --> 00:40:48,200
Speaker 1: I was in shop. It went on until one in

875
00:40:48,200 --> 00:40:49,200
Speaker 1: the morning, and I had to get.

876
00:40:49,160 --> 00:40:52,160
Speaker 3: Up for work that day. That was it. I was done.

877
00:40:52,440 --> 00:40:54,200
Speaker 3: We made plans and left the island.

878
00:40:54,239 --> 00:40:57,319
Speaker 1: Within the month, I cut off all communication between her

879
00:40:57,400 --> 00:40:58,160
Speaker 1: and my kids.

880
00:40:58,520 --> 00:40:59,720
Speaker 3: My husband was stunned.

881
00:41:00,239 --> 00:41:03,200
Speaker 1: He supported my decision, though I always encouraged him to

882
00:41:03,239 --> 00:41:06,440
Speaker 1: have his own relationship with her. That didn't happen because

883
00:41:06,440 --> 00:41:09,920
Speaker 1: she started sending him long, monthly texts telling him to

884
00:41:10,000 --> 00:41:12,200
Speaker 1: leave me and how horrible of a person I was

885
00:41:12,360 --> 00:41:15,000
Speaker 1: because she opened up her home and that's how I

886
00:41:15,080 --> 00:41:16,760
Speaker 1: treat her and that I need therapy.

887
00:41:17,200 --> 00:41:19,720
Speaker 3: So yeah, I wonder why he doesn't answer anymore.

888
00:41:20,080 --> 00:41:23,399
Speaker 1: Fast forward three years, mother in law has now manipulated

889
00:41:23,480 --> 00:41:25,960
Speaker 1: every one of my husband's summer visits with his daughter.

890
00:41:26,280 --> 00:41:29,279
Speaker 1: Stepdaughter asks to stay home for the summer and then

891
00:41:29,360 --> 00:41:32,080
Speaker 1: goes off to the island anyway, which I get it.

892
00:41:32,320 --> 00:41:35,080
Speaker 1: What kid doesn't want to spend their summer in paradise

893
00:41:35,239 --> 00:41:38,080
Speaker 1: quote unquote, But now she and mother in law are

894
00:41:38,080 --> 00:41:40,920
Speaker 1: calling me mean and harmful. When stepdaughter and I you

895
00:41:41,000 --> 00:41:44,279
Speaker 1: stayed along just fine. Now stepdaughter is questioning why she

896
00:41:44,320 --> 00:41:46,760
Speaker 1: doesn't get to see her dad and thinks he doesn't

897
00:41:46,800 --> 00:41:49,880
Speaker 1: love her. What I get it, she's a kid and

898
00:41:49,920 --> 00:41:52,920
Speaker 1: has no idea. But having a grandmother foster these crazy

899
00:41:52,960 --> 00:41:56,440
Speaker 1: ideas is crazy and I have no words because I

900
00:41:56,440 --> 00:41:58,800
Speaker 1: feel so sorry for her. Earlier this year, mother in

901
00:41:58,880 --> 00:42:01,400
Speaker 1: law sent a sorry kind to text that said, I

902
00:42:01,480 --> 00:42:03,719
Speaker 1: acknowledge I may have said things in the past that

903
00:42:03,760 --> 00:42:05,360
Speaker 1: may have contributed to the tension.

904
00:42:05,880 --> 00:42:08,440
Speaker 3: May have girl. I sent screenshots.

905
00:42:08,640 --> 00:42:11,239
Speaker 1: I let her know I'm not into fake relationships with

906
00:42:11,360 --> 00:42:15,800
Speaker 1: people who invent drama and disrespect my family. Her response

907
00:42:15,840 --> 00:42:19,040
Speaker 1: was immediately placing blame and said she'll protect her beautiful

908
00:42:19,040 --> 00:42:20,560
Speaker 1: granddaughter from mean people.

909
00:42:20,960 --> 00:42:22,840
Speaker 3: Cool. I told her not to contact me again.

910
00:42:23,040 --> 00:42:26,080
Speaker 2: So is the stepdaughter staying with grandma?

911
00:42:26,320 --> 00:42:30,000
Speaker 3: Yeah? During summer, just during the summer. I don't know.

912
00:42:30,160 --> 00:42:33,000
Speaker 2: I don't know if I would want to leave her there.

913
00:42:33,760 --> 00:42:35,239
Speaker 1: But it's like, what are you gonna do? Just be

914
00:42:35,360 --> 00:42:38,560
Speaker 1: like no, then you're the bad guy in that situation. Yeah,

915
00:42:38,560 --> 00:42:40,120
Speaker 1: you know, you don't get to go to Hawaii.

916
00:42:40,520 --> 00:42:43,440
Speaker 2: Honestly, if she's behaving that way, say like, this is

917
00:42:43,480 --> 00:42:46,920
Speaker 2: not like you thing, Let's find something else fun. But uh,

918
00:42:47,160 --> 00:42:49,480
Speaker 2: your grandma's got issues, Like she.

919
00:42:49,480 --> 00:42:51,279
Speaker 1: Doesn't have issues with me, she's got issues with you.

920
00:42:51,640 --> 00:42:54,839
Speaker 1: Then what, I'm your mom and now I hate you.

921
00:42:54,840 --> 00:42:57,319
Speaker 1: You want let me go to Kawaii and you're not

922
00:42:57,320 --> 00:42:59,279
Speaker 1: my mom or my stepmom and I hate you up.

923
00:42:59,640 --> 00:43:02,640
Speaker 3: Remember kids, tell your children to shut up when they

924
00:43:02,640 --> 00:43:03,440
Speaker 3: want to go to Hawaii.

925
00:43:04,040 --> 00:43:07,439
Speaker 2: Shut up. No, sorry, that wasn't actually how I would

926
00:43:07,480 --> 00:43:07,880
Speaker 2: handle that.

927
00:43:08,320 --> 00:43:11,239
Speaker 3: No, it's too late, you know it's too late.

928
00:43:11,640 --> 00:43:12,560
Speaker 2: It's on the books.

929
00:43:13,600 --> 00:43:14,680
Speaker 3: It's on the books.

930
00:43:14,840 --> 00:43:19,799
Speaker 1: No, they're out of nowhere. Last month, she texts me

931
00:43:19,840 --> 00:43:22,439
Speaker 1: saying if she doesn't hear her son's voice, she'll call

932
00:43:22,480 --> 00:43:23,040
Speaker 1: the police.

933
00:43:23,320 --> 00:43:26,200
Speaker 2: I'm blocking her. I'm blocking her. I'm telling my husband, hey,

934
00:43:26,200 --> 00:43:28,000
Speaker 2: handle your mom. I'm blocking her.

935
00:43:28,320 --> 00:43:29,120
Speaker 3: Handle your mother.

936
00:43:29,160 --> 00:43:31,360
Speaker 2: Handle your mom because I don't I certainly won't.

937
00:43:31,520 --> 00:43:32,719
Speaker 3: She needs to be reined in.

938
00:43:33,160 --> 00:43:35,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, someone called the sheriff.

939
00:43:35,880 --> 00:43:38,080
Speaker 3: Somebody called the mom Handler's squad.

940
00:43:38,480 --> 00:43:43,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, it's a group of five qualified individuals who

941
00:43:43,600 --> 00:43:45,440
Speaker 2: all know how to handle moms.

942
00:43:45,880 --> 00:43:50,040
Speaker 3: Oh, yep, yep. That was my last straw.

943
00:43:50,520 --> 00:43:53,480
Speaker 1: I blocked her. My husband called his dad, who had

944
00:43:53,480 --> 00:43:56,520
Speaker 1: no idea any of this was happening. And now I'm

945
00:43:56,560 --> 00:43:59,279
Speaker 1: here wondering am I the bad guy for keeping my

946
00:43:59,360 --> 00:44:02,799
Speaker 1: kids away from someone who actively insults them. They were

947
00:44:02,840 --> 00:44:05,600
Speaker 1: literally five and eight years old when she called them horrible,

948
00:44:05,920 --> 00:44:08,520
Speaker 1: and every teacher or adult I've talked to has described

949
00:44:08,560 --> 00:44:11,320
Speaker 1: them as sweet, thoughtful, and maybe a little loud and hyper.

950
00:44:11,400 --> 00:44:15,399
Speaker 1: But they're just kids. I just want peace. I've told

951
00:44:15,400 --> 00:44:17,799
Speaker 1: my husband my kids are my priority and I need

952
00:44:17,800 --> 00:44:20,319
Speaker 1: to protect them because, honestly, I don't understand how a

953
00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:23,560
Speaker 1: mother could lie about her son's wife and keep trying

954
00:44:23,560 --> 00:44:24,840
Speaker 1: to destroy his family.

955
00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:27,560
Speaker 2: Yeah. I'm not sending my kids back to her. If

956
00:44:27,600 --> 00:44:30,040
Speaker 2: she's bathing this way, we can go to another island

957
00:44:30,080 --> 00:44:30,640
Speaker 2: on Hawaii.

958
00:44:31,239 --> 00:44:32,760
Speaker 3: Aloha alohaiye.

959
00:44:34,120 --> 00:44:35,879
Speaker 2: But that's the end of that story. And we have

960
00:44:35,920 --> 00:44:36,759
Speaker 2: some comments.

961
00:44:37,200 --> 00:44:41,560
Speaker 1: Yes, we do, come in right, We got comments, Yes,

962
00:44:41,600 --> 00:44:45,320
Speaker 1: we do. We've got comments. How about you, you're fags?

963
00:44:45,600 --> 00:44:48,239
Speaker 4: So we have some comments from the video My mother

964
00:44:48,280 --> 00:44:50,719
Speaker 4: in law scammed her own husband.

965
00:44:51,680 --> 00:44:53,680
Speaker 2: Anyone remember that story?

966
00:44:54,360 --> 00:44:55,640
Speaker 3: Yes? I do? Oh wow.

967
00:44:57,800 --> 00:45:02,600
Speaker 4: This was posted on Nov. Eighteenth, twenty twenty five, and

968
00:45:02,640 --> 00:45:05,800
Speaker 4: a little TLDR for those who haven't heard it. Opie

969
00:45:05,840 --> 00:45:09,280
Speaker 4: discovered that mother in law stole fifty two thousand dollars

970
00:45:09,280 --> 00:45:12,080
Speaker 4: from father in law using husband's bank account.

971
00:45:11,760 --> 00:45:13,480
Speaker 2: And forged texts yeah.

972
00:45:13,600 --> 00:45:16,440
Speaker 4: When confronted, father in law believed mother in law's lit

973
00:45:17,040 --> 00:45:21,360
Speaker 4: Mother in law then turned family against Ope, red rumors,

974
00:45:21,400 --> 00:45:25,200
Speaker 4: calling her a gold digger in a or and shared

975
00:45:25,239 --> 00:45:29,600
Speaker 4: baby photos after being told no, and tried manipulating the

976
00:45:29,719 --> 00:45:33,400
Speaker 4: husband against Ope. Opie and baby are now no contact

977
00:45:33,400 --> 00:45:35,640
Speaker 4: with mother in law, who refuses to apologize and has

978
00:45:35,680 --> 00:45:38,640
Speaker 4: only seen her grandson four times in a year. If

979
00:45:38,719 --> 00:45:40,600
Speaker 4: you're curious to know the full story, you can go

980
00:45:40,760 --> 00:45:44,960
Speaker 4: watch the full video. And we do have some comments

981
00:45:45,040 --> 00:45:48,200
Speaker 4: and Marie sixty one twenty says, so, my mom helps

982
00:45:48,239 --> 00:45:49,280
Speaker 4: me open a bank account.

983
00:45:49,320 --> 00:45:50,920
Speaker 2: I trusted her, I loved her.

984
00:45:51,280 --> 00:45:54,640
Speaker 4: She stole thirty thousand dollars that was meant to start

985
00:45:54,640 --> 00:45:58,200
Speaker 4: my life after she pulled me from college she needed

986
00:45:58,239 --> 00:46:00,440
Speaker 4: an eighteen year old to pay bills while she and

987
00:46:00,480 --> 00:46:04,040
Speaker 4: her two adult friends stayed home. She phrased it like

988
00:46:04,280 --> 00:46:06,840
Speaker 4: a good daughter would do this, and she.

989
00:46:06,880 --> 00:46:08,160
Speaker 2: Could only rely on me.

990
00:46:08,719 --> 00:46:11,360
Speaker 4: I never got to finish college. I ran away with

991
00:46:11,400 --> 00:46:15,800
Speaker 4: my husband now boyfriend. You regress you then husband, now boyfriend.

992
00:46:15,840 --> 00:46:17,080
Speaker 4: I'm gona think it wasn't.

993
00:46:16,840 --> 00:46:19,520
Speaker 1: That, but maybe just a little case of backwards typing.

994
00:46:19,719 --> 00:46:21,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, preps then boyfriend, now husband.

995
00:46:21,880 --> 00:46:24,640
Speaker 4: And the whole family blames me for her not meeting

996
00:46:24,640 --> 00:46:28,359
Speaker 4: my two year old and for her twenty fake heart

997
00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:30,920
Speaker 4: attacks that she has had to overstress thinking that I'm

998
00:46:30,960 --> 00:46:33,080
Speaker 4: abusing my daughter because that's.

999
00:46:32,920 --> 00:46:33,680
Speaker 3: What she did.

1000
00:46:33,920 --> 00:46:35,680
Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, my gosh.

1001
00:46:35,840 --> 00:46:38,880
Speaker 3: Yeah wow a heart attack.

1002
00:46:39,000 --> 00:46:41,120
Speaker 2: Yeah. She's like, you're like, hey, you really need to

1003
00:46:41,160 --> 00:46:41,440
Speaker 2: stop this.

1004
00:46:41,560 --> 00:46:44,760
Speaker 1: She's like, ah, I aunt, you should go to cardiologist.

1005
00:46:44,800 --> 00:46:49,000
Speaker 2: Yah yeah yeah, make her call an ambulance every time,

1006
00:46:49,160 --> 00:46:51,280
Speaker 2: and then just to pay all the ambulance.

1007
00:46:52,040 --> 00:46:54,160
Speaker 3: My daughter's taking care of this ambulance.

1008
00:46:54,480 --> 00:46:56,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, this one's on my daughter.

1009
00:46:56,920 --> 00:46:57,360
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1010
00:46:57,960 --> 00:47:01,560
Speaker 4: Michelle Brickner ninety three oh seven says, quoting from a

1011
00:47:01,600 --> 00:47:04,080
Speaker 4: minute forty four in we put a roof over your head,

1012
00:47:04,120 --> 00:47:06,080
Speaker 4: clothes on your back, and food in the fridge.

1013
00:47:06,560 --> 00:47:09,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, you were legally required to do that.

1014
00:47:10,120 --> 00:47:10,319
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1015
00:47:10,360 --> 00:47:11,319
Speaker 2: That's yeah, that's just.

1016
00:47:14,000 --> 00:47:14,360
Speaker 1: Good.

1017
00:47:14,520 --> 00:47:15,560
Speaker 2: That's being a parent.

1018
00:47:15,840 --> 00:47:19,680
Speaker 4: And Edie MiG Yeatster thirteen seventy six says, I work

1019
00:47:19,719 --> 00:47:22,480
Speaker 4: at a US bank. All US banks require that anyone

1020
00:47:22,520 --> 00:47:24,840
Speaker 4: removed from an account has to be present or you

1021
00:47:24,920 --> 00:47:28,799
Speaker 4: have to present a certificate of life expiration. That is

1022
00:47:28,840 --> 00:47:32,240
Speaker 4: a requirement of all federally regulated banks in the US.

1023
00:47:32,280 --> 00:47:35,120
Speaker 4: If a financial institution allows a person to be removed

1024
00:47:35,480 --> 00:47:38,640
Speaker 4: without the required documents, they are breaking protocol.

1025
00:47:38,880 --> 00:47:40,520
Speaker 2: If his name's on the account, then.

1026
00:47:40,400 --> 00:47:43,160
Speaker 4: He has access to every penny in the account and

1027
00:47:43,200 --> 00:47:46,120
Speaker 4: can withdraw it all, start a new account, and then

1028
00:47:46,160 --> 00:47:49,320
Speaker 4: deposit it into the new account without her name exactly.

1029
00:47:49,640 --> 00:47:50,399
Speaker 3: That's what I thought.

1030
00:47:50,440 --> 00:47:51,200
Speaker 2: That's what we said.

1031
00:47:51,360 --> 00:47:53,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what I thought. Wow.

1032
00:47:53,920 --> 00:47:56,759
Speaker 2: Wow, Well those are the comments and the end of

1033
00:47:56,800 --> 00:47:57,520
Speaker 2: the episode.

1034
00:47:57,600 --> 00:47:59,960
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1035
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