WEBVTT - Homeless Hubby 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.320 Welcome to can'tfley Reckless? The production of Ieheart Radio and 0:00:03.360 --> 0:00:18.520 the Black Effects Oh Ship were back on the air. 0:00:18.560 --> 0:00:20.880 Welcome back to got another carefully reckless episode with your 0:00:20.920 --> 0:00:25.080 girl Jess hilarious. I'm here with Taylor. Say hi to Taylor, y'all, 0:00:26.120 --> 0:00:30.680 and Taylor say hi back. I'm excited because you said 0:00:30.720 --> 0:00:34.480 everybody damn heavy with the crack you had sold everybody 0:00:34.800 --> 0:00:39.080 all right now? Because I was raised, I mean, pull 0:00:39.159 --> 0:00:42.440 your motherfucker pants up. It's one thing worse than seeing 0:00:43.040 --> 0:00:45.880 like a dark skin crack, a fucking light skin crack. 0:00:46.000 --> 0:00:46.559 I hate it. 0:00:46.800 --> 0:00:53.320 A child what anyway, But I am so happy because 0:00:54.320 --> 0:01:01.240 Taylor is pregnant and she's having a boy. I'm so excited, 0:01:02.040 --> 0:01:05.920 and I listen, I'm excited because two things. It's just 0:01:05.959 --> 0:01:08.400 another baby, and I'm just I just love babies. 0:01:08.440 --> 0:01:11.760 And then I never thought Taylor would have a kid. 0:01:11.880 --> 0:01:15.240 This girl was over here, tried just a year ago 0:01:15.319 --> 0:01:18.640 when I was pregnant, going through it, trying to figure 0:01:18.680 --> 0:01:25.160 out an invention where a baby can be born. No, 0:01:25.240 --> 0:01:28.080 a baby can be carried inside of an incubator. Yeah, 0:01:28.360 --> 0:01:30.720 I feel like, yes, you feel like women shouldn't have 0:01:30.800 --> 0:01:32.040 to carry for so long. 0:01:32.280 --> 0:01:33.920 Yeah right, I still stand on that. 0:01:34.280 --> 0:01:37.400 And but what were the reasons why, guys, listener, somebody 0:01:37.400 --> 0:01:40.840 look at Where were the reasons why? I say, because 0:01:40.920 --> 0:01:45.080 I feel like it's twenty twenty five and we should 0:01:45.080 --> 0:01:47.960 still be able to, like, you. 0:01:47.920 --> 0:01:50.200 Know, if you want to live our lives like drink. 0:01:50.920 --> 0:01:55.040 Yeah, Like I don't know, I should have like to 0:01:55.120 --> 0:02:01.000 sacrifice your whole body for nine months, you know, like in. 0:02:00.960 --> 0:02:03.560 A sense, I like that. Oh I've been I've been sober. 0:02:03.600 --> 0:02:07.440 I yeah, it's South cold Turkey, absolutely, But at the 0:02:07.520 --> 0:02:10.440 same time, it's like you still feel like yo, with 0:02:10.680 --> 0:02:14.280 all of the high tech knowledgy that we got and 0:02:14.320 --> 0:02:17.720 all the medicine, everything evolved, Like why the hell isn't 0:02:17.760 --> 0:02:21.720 there some type of alternative to being pregnant? And I'm 0:02:21.720 --> 0:02:23.840 not even this same Like I still I like the experience, 0:02:23.919 --> 0:02:25.760 Like I just wanted to be where it's like. 0:02:26.360 --> 0:02:28.160 All right, for a couple of hours, I can just 0:02:28.160 --> 0:02:29.120 put in an incubator. 0:02:29.520 --> 0:02:38.120 Oh my god, oh god, So like PAULI, yeah, I 0:02:38.360 --> 0:02:39.480 feel like I swear you. 0:02:39.560 --> 0:02:41.200 I thought that it was funny last year. 0:02:41.240 --> 0:02:44.280 I think it's funny now hearing this girl explaining shit 0:02:44.320 --> 0:02:47.280 and she is their serious smart way oh, like, yes, 0:02:47.400 --> 0:02:50.799 I really feel that this is just see so much 0:02:50.840 --> 0:02:51.519 other technology. 0:02:51.520 --> 0:02:52.880 I just don't to say why it can't happen. 0:02:53.000 --> 0:02:55.480 Yeah, no, no, when the technology said, I definitely do 0:02:55.600 --> 0:02:57.720 understand it because I'm like, yo, y'all, Yeah, y'all got 0:02:57.720 --> 0:02:59.320 a lot of shit, like it's a lot of different 0:02:59.320 --> 0:03:04.520 shit happening. Why haven't why haven't this been already? 0:03:06.440 --> 0:03:09.480 No, it's what is it when officially. 0:03:11.600 --> 0:03:17.000 Another person inside of you? I believe it can be 0:03:17.000 --> 0:03:20.160 done by there are certain things that women have. Yeah, 0:03:21.160 --> 0:03:23.720 oh my gosh, big mag with me my Oreo cookies, 0:03:23.919 --> 0:03:26.560 y'all listen. After the surgery, I'm trying to watch what 0:03:26.600 --> 0:03:29.000 the fuck I eat and everything, thank you, And no 0:03:29.080 --> 0:03:32.480 I did not have a BBO, but I'm trying to 0:03:32.480 --> 0:03:34.840 watch what the fuck I eat, y'all. But I wanted 0:03:34.880 --> 0:03:37.920 some Orio cookies so bad, and I just feel like. 0:03:38.520 --> 0:03:39.240 I'm being told. 0:03:39.360 --> 0:03:42.800 I'm being told because the Orioles is so good. But 0:03:43.800 --> 0:03:46.600 we have a story. 0:03:47.320 --> 0:03:49.760 Is this another one of your up friends or. 0:03:51.400 --> 0:03:56.040 Sorry I'm so blunt about it, but whatever, Okay, so 0:03:56.280 --> 0:03:57.800 this is just somebody that wrote us. 0:03:58.320 --> 0:04:00.839 Okay, cool, and it's gonna read. 0:04:01.960 --> 0:04:05.000 Oh lord, hold up before you start, yo, are you 0:04:05.000 --> 0:04:08.320 gonna be like me not fucking trying to read? 0:04:08.480 --> 0:04:11.000 Yo? Remember I was pregnant and overritt and I was like, 0:04:11.560 --> 0:04:14.600 I ain't reading Tale, and please come read Taylor in 0:04:14.680 --> 0:04:17.039 a minute. In a few months, how far are you boo? 0:04:17.720 --> 0:04:19.600 So you four months? So she's sixteen. 0:04:19.240 --> 0:04:22.920 Weeks yo, and like us, in two more months, maybe 0:04:22.960 --> 0:04:26.279 even one, she would be like, Josh, I don't feel 0:04:26.320 --> 0:04:26.800 like help. 0:04:26.880 --> 0:04:27.839 You took somebody's mess. 0:04:28.279 --> 0:04:30.800 The thought I'll feel you, girl. I can't wait till 0:04:30.800 --> 0:04:37.520 you get me anyway. Anyway, what is the story, Hey, Jess, 0:04:37.560 --> 0:04:40.000 what's up? I'm a listener from Philly. I've been with 0:04:40.120 --> 0:04:43.719 my man for going on six years now. Though our 0:04:43.760 --> 0:04:46.520 relationship we struggle to keep a place. He's a break 0:04:46.640 --> 0:04:49.680 he's a breadwinner, and I'm part time student and stay 0:04:49.720 --> 0:04:52.440 at home mom. We made our roads for marriage long 0:04:52.480 --> 0:04:56.200 before we got married. Before or sorry, however, we won't budge. 0:04:56.440 --> 0:04:59.680 He won't budge and let me switch to help him out. Recently, 0:04:59.720 --> 0:05:01.720 I had foot surgery, so I haven't been able to 0:05:03.440 --> 0:05:06.240 even work if I wanted to just start physical therapy. 0:05:06.880 --> 0:05:08.880 Long story short, my son and I are living with 0:05:09.000 --> 0:05:11.200 my mom since I had surgery. We lost our place 0:05:11.279 --> 0:05:14.680 last year. They lost their place last year after she 0:05:14.800 --> 0:05:20.040 had surgery. Yes, dagn okay, and she won't let him 0:05:20.160 --> 0:05:20.400 move in. 0:05:20.760 --> 0:05:23.240 Oh, I guess like her man move in? That's crazy. 0:05:23.960 --> 0:05:26.280 Since then, he's been gambling a lot more and not 0:05:26.400 --> 0:05:28.800 even trying to go into a shelter or save money 0:05:29.240 --> 0:05:29.919 up for a place. 0:05:30.400 --> 0:05:30.960 What do I do? 0:05:31.120 --> 0:05:33.599 I love him, but my sons is four years old. 0:05:33.680 --> 0:05:37.680 I'm only twenty four. I can't deal with drama anymore. 0:05:38.880 --> 0:05:42.880 What why her mom is not letting her man move 0:05:42.920 --> 0:05:45.000 in with them? Okay, so she lives with her mom. 0:05:45.720 --> 0:05:48.680 First of all, she's from Philly, so d d d DA. 0:05:49.120 --> 0:05:54.640 But what girl, that's a red flag bitch? Oh my god. 0:05:54.720 --> 0:05:57.200 All right, So she's from the inner city streets of 0:05:57.279 --> 0:06:01.840 Philly and she lives with mother. Yeah, she had have 0:06:01.960 --> 0:06:04.560 surgery after you lost it at first? 0:06:04.600 --> 0:06:04.840 Please. 0:06:05.800 --> 0:06:09.480 Yeah. But they're already together though, and she made boyfriend 0:06:09.520 --> 0:06:10.120 for six years. 0:06:10.800 --> 0:06:13.080 It's a long before we got married. So why are 0:06:13.120 --> 0:06:16.479 you not letting him move in? He must be on drugs. 0:06:17.480 --> 0:06:19.800 It has to be like some something that's keeping that. 0:06:20.920 --> 0:06:23.160 It has to be like, uh, you know, let him 0:06:23.160 --> 0:06:23.400 move in? 0:06:23.640 --> 0:06:25.720 Yeah, yeah, he might he may have some type of 0:06:25.720 --> 0:06:29.160 addiction or he may still or something. It gotta be 0:06:29.279 --> 0:06:32.000 something that's stopping that because you are this is your husband. 0:06:32.040 --> 0:06:34.440 This is not just that you deal with. 0:06:35.160 --> 0:06:37.720 Okay, but but just to clarify, she do live with 0:06:37.800 --> 0:06:40.880 her mother, right, okay, she lives with her mom. 0:06:41.320 --> 0:06:43.200 He won't like what is the gist? This is like 0:06:43.240 --> 0:06:44.880 a lot going on here? What is she? What does 0:06:45.120 --> 0:06:50.880 she wants to know what to do? Because he hasn't 0:06:51.000 --> 0:06:52.000 a gambling problem. 0:06:52.200 --> 0:06:55.320 Yeah, he's been going and not even trying to He's 0:06:55.320 --> 0:06:57.160 not even trying to go to a shelter, so he's 0:06:57.160 --> 0:06:58.360 been homeless on the street. 0:06:58.760 --> 0:07:02.160 This is your husband. Yeah, and he at move in 0:07:02.240 --> 0:07:07.160 with you? You said no, not her, but the mother. Yeah, yeah, 0:07:07.200 --> 0:07:07.560 it must be. 0:07:07.800 --> 0:07:09.880 I love him, but my son is four years old. 0:07:10.080 --> 0:07:13.080 I'm trying four. I can't deal with anyone drama. If 0:07:13.120 --> 0:07:15.440 you love me, you'll listen to this commercial and then 0:07:15.480 --> 0:07:20.800 we'll be right back. She's twenty four, her son is 0:07:20.880 --> 0:07:25.720 what four years old? Can't deal with no drama? And 0:07:25.880 --> 0:07:29.040 she had surgery on her foot, That's. 0:07:28.920 --> 0:07:29.360 What it was. 0:07:29.720 --> 0:07:32.040 Yeah, But then it's like he said, he's the breadwinner. 0:07:32.440 --> 0:07:36.720 This is so confusing, So how did he ended up bad? 0:07:37.200 --> 0:07:40.440 So maybe he was the bread winner because he has 0:07:40.520 --> 0:07:42.800 a gambling problem. You know, when they update up, but 0:07:42.920 --> 0:07:45.720 when they lose, they lose, you know what I mean. 0:07:45.800 --> 0:07:49.240 So maybe he was he had a streak of winning, 0:07:49.840 --> 0:07:51.760 and so he was the breadwinner or one point and 0:07:51.880 --> 0:07:56.520 then he got pushed back and my fucking casino bitters. 0:07:56.280 --> 0:07:58.720 As you know, well they said it says to our relationship. 0:07:58.800 --> 0:08:01.960 We struggle to keep a police too. So so no 0:08:02.080 --> 0:08:03.880 stability whatsoever. 0:08:04.520 --> 0:08:08.520 And the mom is probably more than likely like, nah, no, 0:08:09.160 --> 0:08:11.320 you won't come in this motherfucker and move you off me. 0:08:11.600 --> 0:08:15.520 You can barely take care of your family when you 0:08:15.640 --> 0:08:18.240 know they're basically you're the reason why my daughter and. 0:08:18.680 --> 0:08:20.440 My grand chall got to move back in with me, 0:08:21.360 --> 0:08:22.000 Like the fuck. 0:08:22.520 --> 0:08:25.880 So no, But it's definitely deeper than what she's telling 0:08:26.000 --> 0:08:29.480 us with between her mom and him, it's some other 0:08:29.560 --> 0:08:30.680 ship that's going on too. 0:08:32.320 --> 0:08:35.360 Damn. Just pray for Philly because I. 0:08:35.440 --> 0:08:41.040 Mean, I mean, how she thought about getting a job, yeah, 0:08:41.160 --> 0:08:45.280 but then she can't walk, right, I mean, it's not that's. 0:08:45.160 --> 0:08:49.040 Not gonna be forever. Now there's job, you can stay 0:08:49.040 --> 0:08:53.280 at home and do it. Damn. But it's like her marriage. 0:08:54.520 --> 0:08:57.160 Look at that and then that's the little boy's dad. 0:08:57.440 --> 0:09:01.679 And is this camp located when you got kids, like 0:09:01.760 --> 0:09:04.160 when you have a kid and you're not just boyfriend 0:09:04.200 --> 0:09:08.480 or girlfriend like y'all, motherfucker's really married, and shit, that's crazy. 0:09:08.800 --> 0:09:09.400 That sucks. 0:09:10.200 --> 0:09:11.439 The first time I have been able to give the 0:09:11.520 --> 0:09:14.360 mother fucking advice tell you that, because it's a lot 0:09:14.400 --> 0:09:16.960 of moving parts to it, I can we can definitely 0:09:17.679 --> 0:09:19.959 suggest that she finds a job of her own. I 0:09:20.000 --> 0:09:22.080 don't know what to tell her about her husband, though, yeah, 0:09:22.520 --> 0:09:25.080 you know what I mean, she has to number one, 0:09:25.240 --> 0:09:28.760 be thinking about that baby, Like, get yourself in shape 0:09:29.000 --> 0:09:31.120 mentally and physically so you can take care of your 0:09:31.160 --> 0:09:33.480 little boy. I know your mom, although you are her daughter, 0:09:33.640 --> 0:09:36.200 she don't want you to live in our house forever, obviously, 0:09:36.480 --> 0:09:39.720 you know what I mean. You grown, and so until 0:09:39.720 --> 0:09:41.520 you get on your back on your feet, you know, 0:09:42.160 --> 0:09:46.200 and you gain that stability and that independence, mommy gonna 0:09:46.240 --> 0:09:50.360 be right there. But yeah, you still have a responsibility, 0:09:50.840 --> 0:09:52.920 you know what I mean, to be a grown, grown woman, 0:09:53.040 --> 0:09:55.199 be a parent, Get the fucked back out. You know. 0:09:56.400 --> 0:09:58.640 I'm sorry about your husband though. 0:09:59.679 --> 0:10:02.480 Yeah, but she's definitely gonna need some therapy too, because 0:10:02.800 --> 0:10:05.599 this does seem like a lot of drama, Like, just 0:10:06.120 --> 0:10:09.720 look at the whole story. It just is they've always 0:10:09.720 --> 0:10:11.800 struggled to keep a place, Like come on, then, she's 0:10:11.840 --> 0:10:12.360 too young. 0:10:12.280 --> 0:10:12.959 To be going through this. 0:10:13.040 --> 0:10:18.120 She's doing four, She gonna definitely need some fucking therapyst 0:10:18.160 --> 0:10:21.120 some type of shit. But the fact that she is 0:10:21.200 --> 0:10:23.320 so young, girl, I'm gonna tell you that you're going 0:10:23.360 --> 0:10:26.600 through this now your thirties, You're gonna be solid, You're 0:10:26.679 --> 0:10:27.360 gonna be great. 0:10:27.520 --> 0:10:31.480 She's probably like six more years, but trust me, listen, 0:10:31.600 --> 0:10:34.160 listen to what I'm telling you. This shit is going 0:10:34.280 --> 0:10:38.400 to frame who you are going to be in your thirties. 0:10:38.559 --> 0:10:41.079 All of this type shit is what makes us so 0:10:41.320 --> 0:10:46.000 fucking strong and resilient as women. So I'm sorry about 0:10:46.000 --> 0:10:49.280 your marriage, but apparently, baby, that ain't the one. Moving 0:10:49.360 --> 0:10:52.880 on now, Taylor, take your time. 0:10:53.840 --> 0:10:57.640 Okay, all right, Okay, Hey, yess what's up? 0:10:58.400 --> 0:11:01.000 So? I lost my son a year and a half 0:11:01.080 --> 0:11:03.439 ago during labor. He was four days away from his 0:11:03.600 --> 0:11:07.040 due date. I was devastated and I'm still traumatized. My 0:11:07.120 --> 0:11:09.719 boyfriend and I are unfortunately going through a breakup. We 0:11:09.840 --> 0:11:12.480 didn't make it through the grief. God knows if maybe 0:11:12.559 --> 0:11:14.760 we will work things out in the future. But I 0:11:14.920 --> 0:11:17.719 just turned thirty three, and I'm afraid to wait to 0:11:17.880 --> 0:11:20.480 try again. But at the same time, I'm carefu to 0:11:20.520 --> 0:11:22.959 try again and I don't want to rush it. I 0:11:23.040 --> 0:11:25.720 have an appointment to go for a consultation about getting 0:11:25.760 --> 0:11:28.360 my eggs frozen, but I'm also wondering if I should 0:11:28.679 --> 0:11:30.640 just go ahead and get a sperm donnor and have 0:11:30.800 --> 0:11:33.599 my baby alone, or consider in the future using my 0:11:33.679 --> 0:11:36.480 frozen eggs. The thought of doing it a loan is 0:11:36.520 --> 0:11:39.679 all so scary. What are your thoughts? Thank you for 0:11:40.040 --> 0:11:44.000 thank you in advance. Oh baby, that's a lot. I mean, 0:11:44.080 --> 0:11:48.160 I definitely do understand, and I respect that I've never 0:11:48.240 --> 0:11:50.040 been through that, So let me just say that first. 0:11:50.120 --> 0:11:54.000 And I appreciate you, you know, being vulnerable enough to 0:11:54.080 --> 0:11:58.560 share something so tragic. I mean, that definitely is tragic, 0:11:58.679 --> 0:12:01.199 and I'm very very sorry. I do respect that you 0:12:01.240 --> 0:12:03.520 want to wait, you don't want to rush it. I 0:12:03.760 --> 0:12:07.439 absolutely hate that you and the dad, or you and 0:12:07.520 --> 0:12:11.520 your ex. You know, he couldn't y'all couldn't. This could 0:12:11.640 --> 0:12:14.240 make y'all stronger in a sense, you know what I mean? 0:12:14.400 --> 0:12:16.679 Like this, you know, and things like this happen. You know, 0:12:17.280 --> 0:12:21.239 a couple may go through something detrimental to the relationship, 0:12:21.280 --> 0:12:23.240 board to both of them, you know, and it affects 0:12:23.280 --> 0:12:28.000 the relationship so badly that they can't they can't move 0:12:28.080 --> 0:12:29.520 forward together as a couple. 0:12:29.800 --> 0:12:32.679 I don't know. I don't know why that is. I mean, 0:12:32.720 --> 0:12:35.480 I hope y'all don't blame each other. I hope y'all don't. 0:12:35.559 --> 0:12:37.080 You know what I mean, because a lot of couples can, 0:12:37.320 --> 0:12:38.840 Like even in the movie Why Did I Get Married? 0:12:38.920 --> 0:12:43.160 You know, yeah, with Tyler Perry and his wife, the 0:12:45.679 --> 0:12:50.000 Jackson Maliki and that's my bed they did. 0:12:50.360 --> 0:12:52.560 Tyler Perry did have a situation with his wife about 0:12:52.600 --> 0:12:54.240 a kid, but it was that's not the one that 0:12:54.240 --> 0:12:56.000 I'm talking about you, right, I'm talking about. 0:12:58.640 --> 0:13:00.800 Can you still have a baby with you? You can 0:13:00.840 --> 0:13:03.360 get him untied? Yeah, once you get them burnt and clipped. 0:13:05.000 --> 0:13:10.160 But yeah, yeah, like damn bitch. 0:13:10.880 --> 0:13:17.400 But no, the scenario with Janny Jackson and Malik Yoba, 0:13:17.720 --> 0:13:22.920 yes that was but no, that still wasn't she got 0:13:23.000 --> 0:13:24.959 them because that was a car accident. 0:13:25.120 --> 0:13:28.160 Yeah, but he blamed her, yeah, because she didn't strap 0:13:28.240 --> 0:13:28.480 him in. 0:13:28.920 --> 0:13:32.520 But in this situation, this girl that's writing us she 0:13:32.760 --> 0:13:35.480 lost her baby at birth, right, so yeah, and I 0:13:35.679 --> 0:13:38.280 hope and well, yeah, it's kind of the same a 0:13:38.480 --> 0:13:40.880 little bit. It's there are some similarities there. But I 0:13:41.000 --> 0:13:46.160 hope that card Man didn't blame her, like, you know, 0:13:46.440 --> 0:13:48.160 if you were taking care of your body or if 0:13:48.280 --> 0:13:50.839 you know something you know and then I hope she 0:13:51.040 --> 0:13:54.000 didn't blame him. Well, if you were there or I 0:13:54.080 --> 0:13:55.800 don't know what it was, because you left a lot 0:13:55.840 --> 0:13:57.800 of details out and that's okay. I'm happy that you 0:13:57.880 --> 0:14:01.079 were even able to open up about this, this much 0:14:01.200 --> 0:14:04.079 of it. I think you should wait, though I do. 0:14:04.240 --> 0:14:07.360 I think you're still hurt. Yes you are thirty three, 0:14:07.440 --> 0:14:09.520 but if you have already taken the steps to freeze 0:14:09.600 --> 0:14:14.160 your eggs and everything, I'm not saying wait forever. But 0:14:15.040 --> 0:14:17.240 just because they tell us our time is clicking, does 0:14:17.320 --> 0:14:19.840 not need to hurry up and rush and have no 0:14:19.920 --> 0:14:22.440 no no, because then you rush and then you're not 0:14:22.680 --> 0:14:25.960 mentally ready, or you're still hurt and haven't healed from 0:14:27.040 --> 0:14:31.400 the previous tragedy, you know what I mean. And I 0:14:31.520 --> 0:14:36.920 think if you still want your relationship, or if you 0:14:37.000 --> 0:14:38.720 still feel like there's something there or you on your 0:14:38.880 --> 0:14:40.160 ex can reconcile. 0:14:40.520 --> 0:14:41.720 I think y'all should work on that. 0:14:42.800 --> 0:14:45.600 I don't encourage any woman to get a spermed owner 0:14:45.920 --> 0:14:48.360 and just raise a baby on our own. 0:14:48.480 --> 0:14:50.360 That shit is hard, you know what I mean. 0:14:50.800 --> 0:14:53.280 Even with Dave beats out here, they be out here, 0:14:53.320 --> 0:14:55.040 and a lot of them turn their lives around and 0:14:55.120 --> 0:14:59.000 take ownership and accountability and become dads. 0:14:59.160 --> 0:15:03.160 You know, a lot of men and do like change. 0:15:03.560 --> 0:15:05.320 You know what I'm saying that they do evolve, and 0:15:05.400 --> 0:15:08.240 they do pivot, and they and they become they realize 0:15:08.440 --> 0:15:10.920 what's that stake, and they do become good dads. I'm 0:15:11.000 --> 0:15:13.440 not saying that that's your situation, but I don't think 0:15:14.240 --> 0:15:18.000 any woman should have to raise a child alone. Hold up, 0:15:18.040 --> 0:15:19.960 Hold up, I know the shit getting good, But listen 0:15:20.040 --> 0:15:21.840 to just a couple seconds of a commercial. 0:15:21.880 --> 0:15:23.000 If you love me, you'll listen. 0:15:25.640 --> 0:15:27.960 Even though it can be very intentional, like because you're 0:15:28.320 --> 0:15:30.520 intentional about it. You're like, I wonder if I should 0:15:30.560 --> 0:15:32.960 just get a sperm down or whatever. But that child 0:15:33.080 --> 0:15:35.480 is gonna grow up and be like, oh, that person 0:15:35.640 --> 0:15:38.680 got two parents and this person got two parents, and 0:15:39.040 --> 0:15:41.480 whereas my you know, because there's still people at the 0:15:41.560 --> 0:15:43.080 end of the day too, and they're gonna grow up. 0:15:43.080 --> 0:15:45.440 They're not gonna be babies forever, and they're gonna be curious, 0:15:46.000 --> 0:15:48.440 and you have to be able to sit down and 0:15:48.520 --> 0:15:50.200 tell that baby. 0:15:50.440 --> 0:15:51.320 Where their dad is. 0:15:51.400 --> 0:15:54.280 And you don't know either. You won't know, you know, 0:15:54.360 --> 0:15:57.240 because you went to a sperm bank. I definitely would 0:15:57.360 --> 0:16:01.480 like for you to some more healing, you know what 0:16:01.560 --> 0:16:05.960 I mean with your break, Like, yeah, therapy, that's why 0:16:06.000 --> 0:16:09.800 I said, like she needs to be counseling therapy. Yeah, yeah, 0:16:10.120 --> 0:16:14.840 I said all pregnancy brain. I said that first, but no, no, 0:16:15.000 --> 0:16:15.520 it's okay. 0:16:15.760 --> 0:16:17.040 I love it. I used to be the same way. 0:16:17.880 --> 0:16:21.600 But yes, I think she definitely should. She should do therapy. 0:16:21.640 --> 0:16:22.960 Anything else you think she should know? 0:16:23.520 --> 0:16:26.080 I don't know. I guess the timing wise of when, Yeah, 0:16:26.160 --> 0:16:27.400 like when did this take place? 0:16:28.560 --> 0:16:30.720 Yeah, because I know because I know she's she feels 0:16:30.720 --> 0:16:33.000 like she's racing against the clock. She thirty three, and 0:16:33.120 --> 0:16:35.840 she's like, I don't want to have I don't want 0:16:35.840 --> 0:16:39.120 to a year and two ago. Okay, so she was. 0:16:39.160 --> 0:16:43.160 Thirty one, maybe thirty thirty one? Yeah, yeah, she was 0:16:43.360 --> 0:16:45.160 a year and a half ago. She was thirty one. 0:16:46.480 --> 0:16:48.120 So they made it to a year and a half 0:16:48.160 --> 0:16:52.480 and then she said they're okay, So, yeah, that's sad. 0:16:53.120 --> 0:16:55.760 What Yeah, I guess I was thinking, like, do they 0:16:55.880 --> 0:16:58.520 just start going through a breakout right after right after okay, 0:16:59.000 --> 0:16:59.480 working on. 0:17:00.960 --> 0:17:02.240 So after the baby. 0:17:03.640 --> 0:17:05.639 That's the way they stayed together for a year and 0:17:05.680 --> 0:17:09.560 a half after that, Yeah, going through it and they 0:17:09.680 --> 0:17:11.200 just yeah, that's so sad. 0:17:11.320 --> 0:17:12.280 Yeah, it's definitely sad. 0:17:12.320 --> 0:17:15.280 And you know, it's probably a different we don't know 0:17:15.320 --> 0:17:17.360 what's going on, but it's probably a couple of different things, 0:17:17.440 --> 0:17:19.680 like he really wants kids, like right now, that could 0:17:19.720 --> 0:17:22.240 be the case, and she's just scared and she doesn't 0:17:22.280 --> 0:17:26.080 want to like jump the gun and and lose another 0:17:26.160 --> 0:17:31.119 baby because they don't even know definitively what happened like 0:17:31.680 --> 0:17:33.480 for them to lose the first one. 0:17:33.560 --> 0:17:36.960 And so no, I definitely get it. But y'all, I 0:17:37.119 --> 0:17:40.920 think the fact that they it's good, but they have 0:17:41.040 --> 0:17:43.119 to know that it's gonna take time. It's not gonna 0:17:43.240 --> 0:17:46.800 take lost the child. It's not going to be like. 0:17:48.400 --> 0:17:50.320 This is not an abortion, Like this is not a 0:17:50.440 --> 0:17:54.399 miscarriage that that was a baby that you lost at birth. 0:17:54.520 --> 0:17:57.880 So yeah, just give yourself the time that you need, 0:17:58.119 --> 0:18:01.040 whether that's a lot of time or a little bit 0:18:01.119 --> 0:18:02.960 more time, but I wouldn't rush. 0:18:02.840 --> 0:18:03.640 It at all. 0:18:05.280 --> 0:18:05.639 Is that it? 0:18:05.840 --> 0:18:08.600 That's all we got? Yeah, okay, cool, I have a 0:18:08.720 --> 0:18:10.600 question for you. What's up? Why aren't you telling me 0:18:10.920 --> 0:18:14.200 you lose friends? We don't have a healthy relationship? 0:18:14.800 --> 0:18:18.080 Oh girl, when I say, I barely have any motherfucking 0:18:18.119 --> 0:18:20.719 friends left because bitches be jealous. 0:18:21.280 --> 0:18:24.480 Really, yes, listen, listen, especially the single ones. 0:18:24.840 --> 0:18:27.320 And my aunt had to tell me that, Oh my god, Taylor, 0:18:28.080 --> 0:18:30.119 I'm happy that you losing little fends though, because your 0:18:30.160 --> 0:18:33.000 friends is not the best, especially not the stories. 0:18:33.960 --> 0:18:36.280 Please, girl, they are my friend. 0:18:36.760 --> 0:18:38.639 Taylor is a really really good person, and that's why 0:18:38.680 --> 0:18:40.440 I was so shocked about some of the friends that 0:18:40.520 --> 0:18:45.239 she was keeping. But girl, yes, the ones who are 0:18:45.359 --> 0:18:49.280 not in relationships, a lot of your single friends and 0:18:49.760 --> 0:18:50.840 even some family members. 0:18:50.920 --> 0:18:52.040 But we're gonna keep it at friends. 0:18:52.440 --> 0:18:55.040 Girl, they will not understand they're jealous, and the whole 0:18:55.119 --> 0:18:58.119 time they will make you feel like they envy you, 0:18:58.320 --> 0:19:01.800 and you won't even notice until this right here, because 0:19:01.800 --> 0:19:04.080 they're so used to you not being in a relationship. 0:19:04.280 --> 0:19:06.480 They want you to These are things that you never 0:19:06.560 --> 0:19:09.040 noticed about these motherfuckers because you've been single all this 0:19:09.160 --> 0:19:11.480 time with them, and so they've been living their best 0:19:11.560 --> 0:19:14.520 life singlely but still hurt at the same time. And 0:19:14.640 --> 0:19:18.480 then now you moved on, you found happiness, and shit's 0:19:18.480 --> 0:19:20.960 still ain't working out for them and their relationships niggas 0:19:21.000 --> 0:19:22.159 come and go and shit like that. 0:19:22.320 --> 0:19:24.920 They get very jealous. So who I need to beat 0:19:24.920 --> 0:19:35.639 down Vio? All right? For all, You're right, You're. 0:19:35.520 --> 0:19:39.720 Right, should I'm just saying, but I mean, it's just 0:19:40.160 --> 0:19:41.520 it's disappointing, that's all. 0:19:41.640 --> 0:19:42.119 Yeah, it is. 0:19:42.280 --> 0:19:43.920 I get it, especially if it was a long like 0:19:44.000 --> 0:19:47.320 a long time friend, it was like, yeah, man, that's 0:19:47.400 --> 0:19:50.320 how it be sometimes though, and then honestly, a lot 0:19:50.400 --> 0:19:52.720 of times they can't even help it, like they really 0:19:53.040 --> 0:19:56.320 just are miserable in their lives and they're like, damn 0:19:56.400 --> 0:19:59.080 this bitch and leveled up and and just and that 0:19:59.160 --> 0:20:02.200 shit turns into anger, it turns into jealousy. 0:20:02.440 --> 0:20:06.240 It's just I'm sorry about that. My friend's trying to 0:20:06.280 --> 0:20:06.560 tell me. 0:20:08.600 --> 0:20:10.639 I think it has to do with some signs, like 0:20:10.880 --> 0:20:13.840 she was saying, like the horoscopes and stuff, the astrology 0:20:14.080 --> 0:20:17.439 of a Yeah, I don't know, I'll be looking at 0:20:17.480 --> 0:20:20.320 everything like that, and I'm a horror scope girl in 0:20:20.359 --> 0:20:23.800 the sea. Some things are just like, no, that's your character. 0:20:24.080 --> 0:20:26.160 It has nothing to do with the day you were born. 0:20:26.520 --> 0:20:28.400 That's the time you were born. Yeah, no, for sure, 0:20:28.440 --> 0:20:32.879 that's how I am too. I'm not really big on astrology, 0:20:32.960 --> 0:20:36.320 but I am. I am psyched out about it a lot, like, 0:20:36.480 --> 0:20:37.920 oh shit, like cancers do that. 0:20:38.000 --> 0:20:40.800 Yeah, my man did that? You know it is It 0:20:40.920 --> 0:20:41.720 is very interesting. 0:20:42.080 --> 0:20:44.800