Speaker 1: And we've got a brand new second date update for you.
Speaker 1: Thanks so much for being here on the podcast. And
Speaker 1: Man and today is like a little unusual because the
Speaker 1: first date that this couple had was eleven months ago.
Speaker 2: Yeah, usually we know it's like two weeks. We're like, oh,
Speaker 2: that's kind of long.
Speaker 1: Ye is eleven months And you'll find out why it's
Speaker 1: been that long. I mean, I don't know that the
Speaker 1: reason is going to make the guy feel good, but
Speaker 1: you'll hear it in just a second. But first, let's
Speaker 1: get to some of our favorite comments of the week. Alexis,
Speaker 1: what do you got?
Speaker 2: Yes, Jamil Raymond said, Hi from Pakistan. Dating in the
Speaker 2: US is getting crazier to craziest. That is so true.
Speaker 2: I will say it really helps because we are a radio.
Speaker 1: Show and we're syndicated in over like fifty cities and
Speaker 1: that has like changed the game for us in order
Speaker 1: to find all these people. And not to mention dating apps, Yes,
Speaker 1: dating apps have added a new level of crazy that
Speaker 1: never was there before. I could set my location to
Speaker 1: Pakistan right now and see who's there and cause some
Speaker 1: drama there you go, We're bringing crazy to you.
Speaker 2: Yes, let's get this show started.
Speaker 3: Right now, second date up date. In terms of the
Speaker 3: amount of time it takes between the first date and
Speaker 3: the second date, what do you think is optimal? Like
Speaker 3: three to four days, at least a week.
Speaker 4: You don't want to.
Speaker 3: Go back to back? Maybe two weeks? Is that pushing
Speaker 3: it too long?
Speaker 5: I think?
Speaker 3: Okay, because for our listener, Nuss, you're like out of town.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's delicate though, because you don't want to lose
Speaker 1: the momentum.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the hard part.
Speaker 3: Well, for our listener, Amanda, she's going on eleven months.
Speaker 1: Oh wait, I mean, do we need to tell her
Speaker 1: to move on at this point?
Speaker 3: Well, hold on, because she says she has a good
Speaker 3: reason for that. Okay, so let's talk to her. Amanda,
Speaker 3: thanks for being on with us. Start at the very
Speaker 3: beginning here. Tell us who is this guy and how
Speaker 3: did you meet him?
Speaker 2: And how do you remember his name after eleven months?
Speaker 4: Hello?
Speaker 3: Yes, if you waited eleven months to get back together
Speaker 3: with well, his.
Speaker 4: Name is Jordan, so you know it reminds me of basketball,
Speaker 4: so I cann't forget him.
Speaker 1: Wowron, this is eleven months ago.
Speaker 2: You went on a date with this guy?
Speaker 4: Yeah? I did?
Speaker 3: And where did you meet? Him.
Speaker 4: I met him on hinge okay, and she was very nice,
Speaker 4: like our interactions were kind of funny.
Speaker 2: Actually, are you sure you remembering right since it was
Speaker 2: so long.
Speaker 4: Yes, because usually I won't go on a date with
Speaker 4: them unless they're funny.
Speaker 3: Okay, he checks nice and kind of funny. I know
Speaker 3: you find out he was funny.
Speaker 1: I mean I wouldn't match people whose prompts are all serious.
Speaker 1: That's actually, yeah, you know.
Speaker 4: I don't want to be with someone who was boring.
Speaker 3: What did you guys do for a date?
Speaker 4: So what we ended up going on a coffee date,
Speaker 4: and yeah, that's my thing. I love you.
Speaker 5: That's good because sometimes if I from a guy perspective,
Speaker 5: if a girl says coffee date, that means I want
Speaker 5: to be very slow.
Speaker 3: I just want a quick fit high.
Speaker 1: I'm not away feel like it's I'm not sure if
Speaker 1: you're hot from your picture or let me see you
Speaker 1: in the daytime.
Speaker 4: Well that's the face time. But we've moved past that.
Speaker 4: So okay, we met up, and I kept thinking, like, honestly,
Speaker 4: like I don't know if this guy's in my league,
Speaker 4: Like there was something.
Speaker 2: What do you mean, like in a good way or
Speaker 2: a bad way.
Speaker 3: Yeah, your league.
Speaker 4: So I know this sounds like maybe stupid, but I
Speaker 4: just thought he could dress better, Like I didn't really
Speaker 4: like his styal.
Speaker 3: You know, that's actually really common.
Speaker 5: I actually have friends, and I'm sure I'm in the
Speaker 5: same boat where like you realize we don't really know
Speaker 5: how to dress up than the way we.
Speaker 2: Always Here's the thing, clothes are always fixable.
Speaker 4: That's true, I know. But I made a comment about
Speaker 4: the crocs and I'm like, I don't know about that cross.
Speaker 2: I don't know. I mean, I don't think it's no
Speaker 2: to show up to a coffee dat rugs. Yeah, you text.
Speaker 4: It's just I'm a weirdo. But I guess I was
Speaker 4: being dedgmental because you know, he was so humble and nice.
Speaker 4: I'm like, get out of your head, like it's the style.
Speaker 4: I like, I can fix him, but I don't want
Speaker 4: to come in like, hey we need new wardrobe.
Speaker 3: Yeah, second or third day. So I mean, like the
Speaker 3: bond that you had with him, like personality wise, did
Speaker 3: you feel that? So?
Speaker 4: I don't know. I just didn't feel like the spark,
Speaker 4: you know, like the fireworks you know when you meet
Speaker 4: someone you're like, ooh.
Speaker 1: I thought you've been finding over this guy for the
Speaker 1: last eleven months.
Speaker 2: You didn't even like him the day you hung out
Speaker 2: with him.
Speaker 4: So here's here's like what happened. So basically, at the
Speaker 4: end of the day, we gave each other a hug
Speaker 4: and he was following up with me texting me a
Speaker 4: whole bunch, and I just felt like I didn't want
Speaker 4: to lead him.
Speaker 5: All Okay, that's actually really kind of you.
Speaker 4: Thank you.
Speaker 3: Well, what did you say before we start praising you,
Speaker 3: how kind you are?
Speaker 4: I just said I didn't feel as smart, like we
Speaker 4: can be friends, but like no romantic interests.
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, and how do you take it?
Speaker 4: I think this is why I can't get him out
Speaker 4: of my head. I think because he just says I
Speaker 4: think that you're a great woman and whoever ends up
Speaker 4: with you as a lucky man. And his response is
Speaker 4: just so gracious that like almost made me cry, touched
Speaker 4: my heart.
Speaker 2: So that he was nice and not mean at the end.
Speaker 3: Being rejected specifically, that's got to be hard for a
Speaker 3: guy to be like, oh, you don't like me, but
Speaker 3: you know what, I wish the best for you.
Speaker 2: That's top three most common responses response.
Speaker 4: When I've done it before with other guys. They just
Speaker 4: react so like immature, and they honestly like try to
Speaker 4: get me harder, they start texting me more. It just
Speaker 4: makes it weird awkward.
Speaker 3: Really, No, if it's me, I'm just giving your number
Speaker 3: to one of those like scam call centers and having
Speaker 3: them spam you than crying about it. Yeah, I'm not
Speaker 3: going to try to fight for Yeah, well you reject me,
Speaker 3: then I'm going to get you a million scam calls.
Speaker 3: It just looks like I got thirty percent off your internet.
Speaker 1: Now, she just said you were There was no spark,
Speaker 1: it wasn't even Oh you don't.
Speaker 3: Have to double down. That hurts, but it's nice that
Speaker 3: he was so gracious with you.
Speaker 2: That's pretty cool and it should be expected.
Speaker 3: Honestly, So that happened. That happened eleven months ago, and
Speaker 3: now you're reaching out to us like, I don't understand
Speaker 3: what's changed.
Speaker 4: I just can't get him out of my head. He's
Speaker 4: like looking there like super glue. So I don't know,
Speaker 4: it's like kind of awkward to like reach out. I'm
Speaker 4: kind of shy now and I feel bad for rejecting him,
Speaker 4: So I really need some help because I feel like
Speaker 4: I was kind of judgmental, that makes sense, and I'd
Speaker 4: like to go out with him again.
Speaker 1: I mean it is going to be hard to come
Speaker 1: back from saying there's no spark. Yeah, Like it means
Speaker 1: you're going to have to put in a little extra.
Speaker 2: Eleven months, Like do we know if you're single?
Speaker 3: It's possible, Well, we need to call him to find out.
Speaker 3: This is definitely different than what we would normally do
Speaker 3: in this segment, but person, Yeah, we'll call Jordan and
Speaker 3: be like, Amanda has decided to slum it and go
Speaker 3: down a level from where she normally would date to
Speaker 3: go out with you one more time of those crocs. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: we'll see what he has to say when we do
Speaker 3: your second date update after this hold on second Date update.
Speaker 3: They say the best things in life take time. That's true,
Speaker 3: Like an aged bottle of wine, medium sized wheel of
Speaker 3: European cheese, putting together a dresser from Ikea with just
Speaker 3: two of the legs missing.
Speaker 2: I don't know, but I still have extra screws.
Speaker 3: And of course, finding the right person to date, not
Speaker 3: just a good one, but the right person. And it's
Speaker 3: taken our listener, Amanda eleven months to come to the
Speaker 3: realization that that guy could have been the one in
Speaker 3: the coffee shop the day that she rejected him.
Speaker 5: You know what else, They also say, Jeff, timing is everything. Yes,
Speaker 5: maybe they needed a little eleven month break.
Speaker 3: True, So it's possible all the things could align, the
Speaker 3: timing could be perfect today because she wants us to
Speaker 3: help her get a second chance with Jordan.
Speaker 2: You know, I think it's sweet.
Speaker 1: I think it shows that you have a lot of
Speaker 1: growth from eleven months ago. You know, like a little
Speaker 1: months ago you were judging somebody's clothes, not you today.
Speaker 4: Right now, I'm not as superficial broke. You're right, but
Speaker 4: I need you to help me work my magic. Like
Speaker 4: I'm in a vulnerable say I'm lonely and I just
Speaker 4: missed Jordan, and I just think that you guys can
Speaker 4: help me.
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, well what willing to do that. I'm just
Speaker 3: glad that we're talking to you over the phone so
Speaker 3: that you can't see what Brook's wearing and be able
Speaker 3: to judge it, like.
Speaker 5: You actually wearing crocodiles on her feet.
Speaker 1: I will say, I like the houses where I was
Speaker 1: like this is I've done better.
Speaker 3: We've matured from that immature girl that she was eleven
Speaker 3: months ago. She can't even see and.
Speaker 4: She just knows I have zebra pants on.
Speaker 3: You guys are like a zoo together. Wow, Joe exotic
Speaker 3: brook Is. I love this bonding time that we're having.
Speaker 3: But we got to call Jordan here and hopefully he
Speaker 3: picks up. I'm gonna dial his number right now here
Speaker 3: we go. Hello, Hey, is this Jordan?
Speaker 1: Yeah, Mass is calling.
Speaker 3: Yes, you may ask.
Speaker 2: Such a dad joke.
Speaker 3: Ask you just having normal conversation. He can ask you
Speaker 3: this is how bros conversation. Yeah, okay, well, thank you
Speaker 3: for politely asking that. To answer your well, if you're
Speaker 3: still there to answer your question, We're a radio show
Speaker 3: called Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning with high brow comedy. Okay,
Speaker 3: And what is this in regards to? Oh, this is
Speaker 3: actually in regards to a woman who's been trying to
Speaker 3: get a hold of you. Well, actually she has been trying,
Speaker 3: Yes she has. It's the usual. Not sure if you'll remember.
Speaker 3: This is a woman named Amanda.
Speaker 4: Uh, you know there's a lot of Amanda's right.
Speaker 3: Fair, Okay, Well, this this is a woman that you
Speaker 3: went on a date with eleven months ago.
Speaker 4: A year ago, eleven months ago? Copy date?
Speaker 3: Uh, I'm probably was it.
Speaker 4: Like a hinge date?
Speaker 2: Yes? Yeah, oh she did tell us that.
Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, I think I yeah, I remember Amanda. Yeah,
Speaker 4: we grabbed coffee right a long time ago.
Speaker 3: That's right. What else do you remember from your time
Speaker 3: with Amanda?
Speaker 2: It's probably wasn't much time since it was just coffee.
Speaker 4: But honestly, I just remember her ditching be.
Speaker 2: What do you mean, like when she said she didn't
Speaker 2: want to see you again?
Speaker 5: Oh that? Yeah?
Speaker 4: Yeah, Like I mean I've been turned down before, so
Speaker 4: you know, I'm kind of used to it. Oh buddy,
Speaker 4: definitely was expecting this. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Well, can I just tell you, Jordan's the thing that
Speaker 3: really stood out to Amanda about you was how graciously
Speaker 3: you handled her rejection over text. Okay, I know you
Speaker 3: said something like you're an amazing woman. Whatever guy ends
Speaker 3: up with you, he's going to be so lucky, and
Speaker 3: you like just wished her well.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, you know what. I think I wrote that
Speaker 4: with Ai. Actually, oh wow.
Speaker 3: It was a good It was good feedback.
Speaker 2: That's a good idea to put that day.
Speaker 3: I first, I had been quick on my feet still
Speaker 3: for Amanda, it was a big moment, and you know
Speaker 3: how like sometimes women aren't as emotionally mature as us
Speaker 3: men are. The case, she has taken all this time
Speaker 3: and realized that it's possible she made a huge mistake
Speaker 3: in turning.
Speaker 2: You away, which is kind of sweet.
Speaker 1: Maybe she said that, yeah, yeah, basically yeah, she actually
Speaker 1: has even said she's really been thinking about you a lot.
Speaker 5: Wow.
Speaker 4: I mean, honestly, I don't know what to say.
Speaker 3: This is like the third time that's happened this year?
Speaker 2: What what do you mean time?
Speaker 3: What's happened?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 4: You know, I again.
Speaker 5: I I'm used to rejection, you know, so weirdly enough,
Speaker 5: a lot of these girls they reject.
Speaker 4: Me end up calling me back say like, hey, maybe
Speaker 4: we should get another shot.
Speaker 3: What, Oh, this isn't the first time.
Speaker 2: No, are you complimented by it? Or is it like
Speaker 2: almost kind of a backhanded compliment?
Speaker 3: You know what I mean, I'm more surprised than anything. Yeah, Like,
Speaker 3: how do you take that personally? Or well, if you
Speaker 3: want to be the most surprised, here's a shocker for you,
Speaker 3: because Amanda is on the other line right now, listening
Speaker 3: to this entire conversation, hoping to jump in and talk
Speaker 3: to you.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Amanda's surprise surprise, it's to me. Hello, how are you.
Speaker 3: Exit? I'm good.
Speaker 4: Good to you hear from you again? Yeah, you're excited
Speaker 4: to hear from me. I mean it's been a while,
Speaker 4: you know.
Speaker 5: It's definitely a surprise, you know.
Speaker 4: I feel so awkward. I feel like I'm stuttering and
Speaker 4: like I don't know. But yes, I'm very nervous to
Speaker 4: do this, and I'm glad that AI was able to
Speaker 4: help you out. But there's no AI. Yeah, I mean,
Speaker 4: you know, thinking about his words before speaking. So it's
Speaker 4: not like me, like I just kind of was impulsive
Speaker 4: and was superficial. But I hope that we can maybe
Speaker 4: see each other again. I'm not sure to that.
Speaker 3: Why are you like asking me out?
Speaker 4: Or is this?
Speaker 3: Is this?
Speaker 4: What this is? I mean I needed their help. Yeah,
Speaker 4: it might be like a little crazy. It's been like
Speaker 4: almost a year, right, and maybe you can have amnesia
Speaker 4: and dementia about what happened in the past.
Speaker 1: What a nice.
Speaker 3: So that was a lot, Jordan. I know that she
Speaker 3: kind of dumped on you there, But you have anything
Speaker 3: that you would like to say back to Amanda or
Speaker 3: ask your Ai what to say back to be.
Speaker 4: Honest, a man, it's been a while since I've seen
Speaker 4: you or seen your picture.
Speaker 3: Yeah. One way that I really jogged my memory is, uh.
Speaker 4: Do you still have that nice butt.
Speaker 1: Out?
Speaker 4: Oh? Well, So I was just telling them about these
Speaker 4: zebra pants that I'm wearing, and I could potentially send
Speaker 4: you a selfie if he's lying.
Speaker 2: Work for do zebra pants make it look bigger?
Speaker 3: Like an optical illusion?
Speaker 2: Ask you for a friend?
Speaker 4: You know, I messed up, so I'm trying to like,
Speaker 4: you know, clean slight here I come.
Speaker 1: The clean slate includes picks. So I was like, you're
Speaker 1: a winner.
Speaker 2: Right now, George.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's she's apologetic for how she treated you. She's
Speaker 3: still got the same features and all the things that
Speaker 3: you liked from the first time you met up. So
Speaker 3: at this point, we'd like to offer to send you
Speaker 3: and Amanda out on another date, and we would.
Speaker 4: Pay for it.
Speaker 1: At this point, I feel like we're interrupting a date
Speaker 1: on the phone right now.
Speaker 3: I know, Saucy, but Jordan, it's up to you.
Speaker 4: I mean, if she's cooled me seeing the other.
Speaker 3: Two girls they rejected me and her being the third,
Speaker 3: I'm open to that, Okay, the hair and the rejection Amanda,
Speaker 3: Now the ball's in your court.
Speaker 4: Heavens, No, you know this was nice, but now I
Speaker 4: cannot handle that. I'm too jealous. No way, I want
Speaker 4: you to myself.
Speaker 2: It's going to be a little competition for you, you.
Speaker 4: Know, if you know a way. Hoh, say, I'm not
Speaker 4: that desperate.
Speaker 3: Are you ditching him now? Twice in one year.
Speaker 4: I was just hoping that we could be at just
Speaker 4: one on one monogamous, not you know, a trio.
Speaker 3: Oh okay, we're missing it.
Speaker 5: Well, hey, come up with a good AI goodbye to her,
Speaker 5: and I'll probably call you in.
Speaker 1: Yes, you'll have six leftovers.
Speaker 3: I guess I'll type one up and i'll say it
Speaker 3: to you later, Amanda. Check your text message.
Speaker 2: Yeah, my god, he's like the rejection king.
Speaker 3: I hope you will have a nice life and a
Speaker 3: nice day. Oh your melting hearts right now. Jordan's hang
Speaker 3: up so we can all call him.
Speaker 2: Back Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 3: I think the lesson that we all learned from that
Speaker 3: is you can let a nice butt in zebra print
Speaker 3: walk away and still be gracious about it.
Speaker 2: That's right.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was a good lesson. It is shocking that
Speaker 1: she was so surprised. Yeah, like, I'm worried about her
Speaker 1: choice and people to go out with if they're so rude.
Speaker 3: It would be yeah, totally, But it would be funny
Speaker 3: if she does text him though, in like a couple
Speaker 3: of weeks or in a couple of minutes after that
Speaker 3: call ended, just the I'd give him a third chance.
Speaker 1: I mean, she's gonna go on one more date with
Speaker 1: a guy that's a jerk and then yeah, yeah, But the.
Speaker 3: Way they were flirting on the phone for a minute,
Speaker 3: I thought for sure they were going to go out
Speaker 3: with it.
Speaker 2: I thought it was a yes before we even asked.
Speaker 2: I know, maybe we should have stayed out of it.
Speaker 2: Maybe that's the problem.
Speaker 3: It was yes, he just said to the.
Speaker 2: Team, she said no.
Speaker 3: But that's the thing about love. It's weird and unpredictable sometimes.
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