WEBVTT - Ep. 15 — Put a ring on it! 0:00:15.440 --> 0:00:17.040 Would be like, and then you should have put a 0:00:17.120 --> 0:00:20.880 ring starting. 0:00:28.120 --> 0:00:30.640 So for those of you guys who don't know, well, 0:00:30.640 --> 0:00:31.200 how would you know? 0:00:31.360 --> 0:00:31.880 No one knows. 0:00:32.800 --> 0:00:36.680 So Mandy got a ring a ka, she got engaged. 0:00:36.720 --> 0:00:39.600 AKA, I know I have nothing to show for it. 0:00:39.720 --> 0:00:42.320 I know she's actually like waving her ringless hand in 0:00:42.400 --> 0:00:44.239 front of the mic. 0:00:44.320 --> 0:00:46.559 But no, she really is engaged. Her ring is being sized. 0:00:47.240 --> 0:00:51.240 Yes, let us lets people know. She's my publicist put 0:00:51.240 --> 0:00:52.040 out the president. 0:00:51.800 --> 0:00:53.159 And it was so pretty. 0:00:53.320 --> 0:00:56.320 So we were supposed to tape yesterday and Madie text 0:00:56.320 --> 0:00:57.280 me was like I can't tape. 0:00:57.320 --> 0:00:58.920 I was like why. She's like, it's a good reason. 0:00:59.200 --> 0:00:59.920 I just got a game. 0:01:00.400 --> 0:01:02.120 And I was like, so you know, I looked at 0:01:02.120 --> 0:01:06.600 Superman with this extra side. I like, Mandy just got engaged. Meanwhile, Supergirl, 0:01:06.640 --> 0:01:08.720 his nine year old daughter, was like, oh my god, 0:01:08.840 --> 0:01:11.600 congratulations missus Mandy. Even though she does not know Mandy, 0:01:11.920 --> 0:01:13.360 she was just equally as excited. 0:01:13.600 --> 0:01:17.720 It's that womanly instinct that engagement is like some sort 0:01:17.760 --> 0:01:19.160 of mountain you must overcome. 0:01:19.319 --> 0:01:20.880 She was like stocking me like you canna call her 0:01:21.040 --> 0:01:23.280 like waiting, like so I can tell her personally, I'm like, 0:01:23.480 --> 0:01:24.520 just be easy. 0:01:24.480 --> 0:01:25.880 I've never talked on the phone as much as I 0:01:25.920 --> 0:01:29.280 did yesterday in my entire life. Yeah, I'm so excited. 0:01:29.280 --> 0:01:32.160 So we got engaged. It happened Saturday night. I was 0:01:32.200 --> 0:01:35.520 completely shocked. If you've known me, if you've asked me, 0:01:35.760 --> 0:01:37.800 if you'd asked me to bet a million dollars, would 0:01:37.840 --> 0:01:39.319 have told you it's not gonna happen for like another 0:01:39.400 --> 0:01:43.120 year or two or three. But it happened on Saturday, 0:01:43.160 --> 0:01:45.200 and I was like completely shocked on the control freak. 0:01:45.760 --> 0:01:47.520 And so when I mean, we went to it like 0:01:47.520 --> 0:01:50.120 a little jazz club to see some live music, and 0:01:50.120 --> 0:01:51.880 he was totally casual. He was like, oh, let's go 0:01:51.880 --> 0:01:53.920 to this jazz clubs night. It's like, you know, we're young, 0:01:54.240 --> 0:01:56.920 we'll do it. He dog sat all weekend like we 0:01:56.960 --> 0:01:59.000 deserve this, you know, and I was like great, awesome. 0:01:59.320 --> 0:02:02.320 I drink some colle went out, and. 0:02:02.720 --> 0:02:04.480 Something in my mind. I was like, maybe there's a 0:02:04.560 --> 0:02:05.320 ring in this podcast. 0:02:05.440 --> 0:02:08.040 I really yeah, but not, but I thought it at 0:02:08.040 --> 0:02:09.720 the same time like no way, Like that's crazy. But 0:02:09.760 --> 0:02:12.560 I kind of patted it, kind of patted it. It was 0:02:12.560 --> 0:02:14.720 like nothing's in there, no box. And then like I 0:02:14.720 --> 0:02:17.520 mean just it left my mind completely, had a little 0:02:17.520 --> 0:02:19.120 flash of a thought and then it was gone and 0:02:19.160 --> 0:02:22.280 we went. The concert was great. I mean I insisted 0:02:22.320 --> 0:02:24.000 on paying for dinner. I'm like, I gotta pay for dinner. 0:02:24.000 --> 0:02:24.359 I gotta do it. 0:02:24.360 --> 0:02:26.920 We were trying to be equitable with the finances. And 0:02:26.960 --> 0:02:30.040 then we like went home, stopped at riding, had to 0:02:30.040 --> 0:02:31.040 get some toilet paper. 0:02:32.400 --> 0:02:34.040 I just thought it was another night. Yes. 0:02:34.480 --> 0:02:37.320 And then we get home and he's like, put everything down. 0:02:37.360 --> 0:02:38.560 I have a question to ask you. 0:02:38.600 --> 0:02:40.720 Did you know then, like when did your dawn on you? 0:02:40.760 --> 0:02:42.920 No? Because he was like, put everything down, and I 0:02:42.960 --> 0:02:44.359 was taking off my shoes at the front door and 0:02:44.360 --> 0:02:45.440 he's like, yeah, take your shoes off. 0:02:45.440 --> 0:02:46.959 I was like, oh am, I get a foot rug. 0:02:47.120 --> 0:02:47.680 That's awesome. 0:02:48.360 --> 0:02:50.720 How much can I look the sting date night? And 0:02:50.760 --> 0:02:52.839 then he's like but then he starts backing up, which 0:02:52.880 --> 0:02:56.560 was weird. Back it's backing up, and then he puts 0:02:56.560 --> 0:03:00.360 his hand into his his jacket pocket. Yes, and then 0:03:00.400 --> 0:03:02.200 my heart is going and it's like it's like two 0:03:02.200 --> 0:03:02.640 in the morning. 0:03:02.639 --> 0:03:02.919 Almost. 0:03:02.960 --> 0:03:04.360 We were off and we were late, and I was 0:03:04.520 --> 0:03:06.679 slightly tipsy, not gonna lie, had a little bit of 0:03:06.680 --> 0:03:09.800 white wine and I was like, wait, wait, what what 0:03:09.919 --> 0:03:11.520 is happening? This can't be happening. 0:03:11.639 --> 0:03:13.040 Yay that I know. 0:03:13.160 --> 0:03:14.600 I didn't say this can't be happening. I was like, 0:03:14.600 --> 0:03:16.280 what are you doing really right now? 0:03:16.400 --> 0:03:16.760 Really? 0:03:16.840 --> 0:03:18.919 I was like kind of laughing, like I always I 0:03:18.919 --> 0:03:21.040 don't know what. I guess you can kind of imagine it, 0:03:21.400 --> 0:03:23.400 what that moment's going to be like. And whenever I 0:03:23.480 --> 0:03:26.040 thought about it, I could make myself tear up just 0:03:26.080 --> 0:03:29.200 thinking about that moment. But in the actual moment, I 0:03:29.240 --> 0:03:31.440 was literally so stunned. It's like awkward. You know when 0:03:31.480 --> 0:03:33.840 you see something terrible and you laugh because you're awkward 0:03:33.840 --> 0:03:36.480 about it. Yeah, this was This was not terrible obviously, 0:03:36.760 --> 0:03:38.680 So yeah, I just started laughing, kind of giggling, and 0:03:38.720 --> 0:03:40.240 I was like, oh my god. And then I started 0:03:40.240 --> 0:03:42.800 shaking and then he he gave his feet little speech. 0:03:42.840 --> 0:03:44.720 I mean, it was nothing like super elaborate. It was 0:03:44.720 --> 0:03:47.320 just very simple, like very you know, very us, like 0:03:47.440 --> 0:03:50.200 very you know, in our apartment, in our home. But 0:03:50.360 --> 0:03:52.720 the fact that he got me by surprise, I was 0:03:52.800 --> 0:03:55.240 goen be nosy, control free. 0:03:55.760 --> 0:03:56.760 I'm nosy as hell. 0:03:57.800 --> 0:03:59.480 We used to share, We used to like, you know, 0:03:59.720 --> 0:04:02.240 we had like a very open technology thing like if 0:04:02.280 --> 0:04:04.320 our If his laptop was nearest and I need to 0:04:04.320 --> 0:04:06.080 get on the internet, I would just grab it. If 0:04:06.080 --> 0:04:07.600 his cell phone was nearby, I need to text somebody, 0:04:07.600 --> 0:04:08.040 I'll just grab it. 0:04:08.240 --> 0:04:09.080 You know, we just do that. 0:04:09.120 --> 0:04:13.000 We trusted you too, And but like a few months ago, 0:04:13.080 --> 0:04:15.880 he started being really weird about his electronics, like, don't 0:04:15.880 --> 0:04:18.279 touch my laptop, you cannot use my cell phone. You 0:04:18.320 --> 0:04:19.960 need to stop it, like getting upset with me. And 0:04:20.000 --> 0:04:22.680 I was like, oh, what's happening. I texted my girlfriend 0:04:22.760 --> 0:04:25.880 like he's either cheating or he's going to propose. And 0:04:26.240 --> 0:04:29.280 I did have an inkling that he was gonna at 0:04:29.360 --> 0:04:30.880 least he was saving up for a ring, and maybe 0:04:30.920 --> 0:04:33.400 he didn't want me to know, but we talked about 0:04:33.680 --> 0:04:35.440 We were open. I mean, you have to be open 0:04:35.440 --> 0:04:37.279 about it. Do you want to marry me? Yeah, you 0:04:37.279 --> 0:04:39.880 should know that before you propose. Gentlemen, you should know that. 0:04:40.240 --> 0:04:42.680 And then also like I mean the financial part of it. 0:04:42.760 --> 0:04:45.920 You know, I wanted to take on more financial responsibilities 0:04:46.080 --> 0:04:48.000 around the house because I wanted to leave him room 0:04:48.080 --> 0:04:49.960 to save up for you know what I mean. So 0:04:50.040 --> 0:04:51.600 I mean I knew that much. So it wasn't a 0:04:51.680 --> 0:04:53.960 surprise me that he got touchy about it. Okay, but 0:04:54.000 --> 0:04:55.040 I did not think it. 0:04:54.960 --> 0:04:59.720 Was going to be November fifty nine, twenty eighth. Oh god, 0:04:59.720 --> 0:05:03.720 I don't no today. No, well, Nina, well it's Friday. 0:05:03.720 --> 0:05:07.200 Technically, technically it was Saturday. It was Sunday morning, so 0:05:07.240 --> 0:05:09.479 that's I think that was the twenty nine. Yeah, yeah, 0:05:09.520 --> 0:05:12.560 my sister's birthday. I always remember. I guess I'll have 0:05:12.600 --> 0:05:13.480 to Rema, how. 0:05:13.400 --> 0:05:14.880 Old are you know? I'm twenty eight. 0:05:15.000 --> 0:05:16.800 Oh my god, she turned twenty seven. I cannot even 0:05:16.800 --> 0:05:17.919 imagine her getting engaged. 0:05:18.200 --> 0:05:20.720 I feel like you're such a bag. I can't imagine myself. Like, oh, 0:05:20.720 --> 0:05:22.680 he's text me right now. 0:05:22.960 --> 0:05:25.880 He just this is so, this is so NARCISSI. He 0:05:25.960 --> 0:05:28.080 just texted with an update of how many likes her Facebook. 0:05:30.040 --> 0:05:31.800 I was gonna ask that, did she get a lot 0:05:31.800 --> 0:05:32.240 of likes? 0:05:32.360 --> 0:05:35.400 I got? Hell, four hundred and fifty two? Wow, y'all 0:05:35.400 --> 0:05:39.040 are famous? Practically will Facebook famous? Oh? 0:05:39.040 --> 0:05:41.919 I was really sweet, though, Yeah, I don't. I like 0:05:42.000 --> 0:05:44.520 Sunday was such a blur. And but that's the thing, 0:05:44.520 --> 0:05:46.520 like I don't feel old enough to get married. It's 0:05:46.560 --> 0:05:48.760 like when we moved in together, I'm like, no one's like, 0:05:49.320 --> 0:05:52.239 there's no test for this, I like exam but in meanwhile, 0:05:52.320 --> 0:05:54.960 like there's nothing about it, Like how old your mom 0:05:55.000 --> 0:05:57.560 when she had you? She's actually twenty seven when she 0:05:57.600 --> 0:05:59.320 had me, but she got married for the first time 0:05:59.320 --> 0:06:01.440 when she was twenty Okay, but you have two kids 0:06:01.440 --> 0:06:02.039 by twenty two. 0:06:02.080 --> 0:06:03.640 I guess what I'm saying, Like, you know, our parents 0:06:03.680 --> 0:06:05.479 got like you know, I think my mom was like 0:06:05.520 --> 0:06:06.680 twenty three or twenty four. 0:06:06.680 --> 0:06:08.040 I don't know. Can you imagine? 0:06:08.200 --> 0:06:10.960 No, heck no, I was just barely learning how to 0:06:11.000 --> 0:06:11.680 shave my legs. 0:06:13.000 --> 0:06:13.960 I'm still not good at that. 0:06:14.800 --> 0:06:16.120 But yeah, it's just crazy to think, like. 0:06:16.120 --> 0:06:18.359 Oh my god, we're allowed to do this coming up 0:06:18.400 --> 0:06:21.560 so and then, I mean, the friends I've talked to 0:06:21.680 --> 0:06:23.440 have been like, you'll get more used to it. It's 0:06:23.480 --> 0:06:25.080 not going to feel real, And it really hasn't felt 0:06:25.120 --> 0:06:26.560 real so far. I mean, I have the ring, but 0:06:26.600 --> 0:06:30.560 I don't have it because poor Boo. He's such a 0:06:30.640 --> 0:06:33.479 good guy, he is, but he decided that somehow in 0:06:33.520 --> 0:06:35.000 his mind, he was like, I'll just get to the 0:06:35.000 --> 0:06:37.279 same ring size that I wear, oh as a six 0:06:37.320 --> 0:06:41.880 foot one gentleman, which was not the right size, like 0:06:41.920 --> 0:06:43.680 it was basically it could have fit checks thinger. 0:06:43.800 --> 0:06:46.960 Probably it was a size ten and I'm a size six. Non, well, 0:06:47.040 --> 0:06:48.520 you know, I like his logic. 0:06:48.680 --> 0:06:50.960 Needless to say once the diamond district. Oh, let me 0:06:51.000 --> 0:06:52.480 just so, let me say this, like if you're getting 0:06:52.520 --> 0:06:54.040 your ring, if you live in New York anyway, I 0:06:54.080 --> 0:06:56.680 don't know if there's a diamond district in every city. Yeah, 0:06:56.880 --> 0:06:58.840 but we went to a jeweler and in my neighborhood 0:06:58.880 --> 0:07:00.960 in Queens and he quoted us like one hundred bucks 0:07:00.960 --> 0:07:02.960 for the resizing, and I don't know. I'm like, okay, 0:07:03.040 --> 0:07:04.480 well that seems like a little bit for a very 0:07:04.480 --> 0:07:08.440 expensive ring. Yeah, but then I went my coworker told me, no, no, no, no, no, 0:07:08.480 --> 0:07:09.960 you need to go to the diamond district. It's like 0:07:10.240 --> 0:07:12.640 row upon row stall upon and stuff all up on 0:07:12.640 --> 0:07:15.080 top of each other's little jewelers, like most of them 0:07:15.120 --> 0:07:17.680 are Jewish. I think small businesses in New York forty 0:07:17.720 --> 0:07:20.160 seventh Street between like fifth and sixth there's like these 0:07:20.200 --> 0:07:22.880 giant I never know if there's these giant diamond like 0:07:22.960 --> 0:07:25.280 pillars marking it off right before you get to write. 0:07:25.320 --> 0:07:26.920 Now, I've never been. Yeah, you need to go. 0:07:26.960 --> 0:07:28.880 It's an experience and everyone's like yelling at you come 0:07:28.920 --> 0:07:30.160 in here, come in here. Do you want to sell 0:07:30.200 --> 0:07:31.480 something you're gonna buy? 0:07:31.640 --> 0:07:32.360 Like it's the holiday. 0:07:32.360 --> 0:07:34.320 So they're really aggressive, okay, and she's like, no, no, 0:07:34.360 --> 0:07:36.440 you need to go to my friend Irving. The place 0:07:36.520 --> 0:07:38.720 is called the Wolf something wolf Bearing or you need 0:07:38.760 --> 0:07:41.239 to go see my friend Irving his wife raiseel. 0:07:41.640 --> 0:07:43.480 So I went there. That hooked me up and for 0:07:43.560 --> 0:07:44.120 twenty bucks. 0:07:44.120 --> 0:07:47.480 They're gonna twenty burellars to twenty bucks. 0:07:47.480 --> 0:07:48.840 So this is like lighting the fire for me to 0:07:48.880 --> 0:07:52.000 like do an inexpensive wedding. Yeah for real, See I. 0:07:51.920 --> 0:07:53.920 Want you to I want you to google blog about it. 0:07:54.120 --> 0:07:56.320 I know, well you guys will, I'll share my journey 0:07:56.480 --> 0:07:56.640 for it. 0:07:56.800 --> 0:07:58.600 Right now, I'm just like I'm saying, I'm not going 0:07:58.680 --> 0:08:00.640 to think about it till after January because I'm getting 0:08:00.640 --> 0:08:01.320 a little anxious. 0:08:01.440 --> 0:08:01.720 Okay. 0:08:01.800 --> 0:08:04.240 My mother's asked me one too many questions. She's like, 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:06.440 how many attendant? Where's it going to be? You want 0:08:06.440 --> 0:08:07.880 to be in New York, but you're from Atlanta. Don't 0:08:07.920 --> 0:08:08.520 you have family there? 0:08:08.560 --> 0:08:12.440 Well that very mom with her oh Loda. So I'm 0:08:12.440 --> 0:08:14.240 just gonna get through that. I'm just want to enjoy 0:08:14.280 --> 0:08:16.320 it and get through the holidays and then you know 0:08:16.360 --> 0:08:17.040 what my sister did. 0:08:17.080 --> 0:08:19.240 She got like one of these like books that you 0:08:19.360 --> 0:08:21.000 kind of like, you know, tells you like first step, 0:08:21.040 --> 0:08:21.600 sixond step. 0:08:21.680 --> 0:08:22.840 She said, oh god, I need that book. 0:08:22.960 --> 0:08:26.560 Yeah, I'll ask her please do like I'm looking at you. 0:08:25.200 --> 0:08:28.760 So I was like, wow, tell me the way. I 0:08:28.800 --> 0:08:30.480 do not know because she was like that too. 0:08:30.480 --> 0:08:32.400 She's not she wasn't like a big planner, but she 0:08:32.440 --> 0:08:33.400 was like, the book really just helped. 0:08:33.400 --> 0:08:35.360 I just put my stuff in. It was like, okay, I. 0:08:35.280 --> 0:08:37.120 Feel like so much about the wedding is just managing 0:08:37.160 --> 0:08:39.679 everyone's emotions outside. I need to work on my own 0:08:39.720 --> 0:08:42.600 emotions first, for one thing. But like, so just yesterday 0:08:42.640 --> 0:08:45.320 was stressful making sure that I told everybody the right 0:08:45.360 --> 0:08:47.400 way before I posted it anywhere, because I don't you 0:08:47.440 --> 0:08:49.240 hate that feeling is like, yeah, you learn from a 0:08:49.280 --> 0:08:50.960 friend that you thought was a friend and you're like 0:08:51.200 --> 0:08:53.840 they got married or had a baby on on like Instagram. 0:08:54.559 --> 0:08:58.240 Oh well that's nice, the baby's twelve exactly. 0:08:58.800 --> 0:09:00.600 So I made sure I went down my entire like 0:09:00.600 --> 0:09:02.439 I went through my favorites. This is a quick way 0:09:02.440 --> 0:09:04.160 of reading out people. I went through my favorites. I 0:09:04.320 --> 0:09:07.880 on my iPhone and like called everyone personally facetimed if 0:09:07.920 --> 0:09:09.560 I could make sure they could see it and like, 0:09:09.840 --> 0:09:12.200 and it was really fun seeing their reactions. Plus I 0:09:12.200 --> 0:09:16.280 haven't made phone calls. That's when did anybody cry? So 0:09:16.480 --> 0:09:19.560 my mom didn't cry, but so my my fiance. 0:09:20.240 --> 0:09:22.040 I know, I'm like, who you said? At that part, 0:09:22.040 --> 0:09:22.480 I was like who? 0:09:27.000 --> 0:09:29.320 So he actually called my parents the day that he 0:09:29.400 --> 0:09:31.559 was going to do it, And meanwhile, he hadn't really 0:09:31.600 --> 0:09:33.320 had a plan. He he was just like, I was 0:09:33.360 --> 0:09:34.800 just going to wait for the right event for us 0:09:34.800 --> 0:09:37.120 to go to and you know, do it afterwards or something. 0:09:37.440 --> 0:09:39.520 So he So that's why it felt so real when 0:09:39.559 --> 0:09:40.319 he was like, let's. 0:09:40.120 --> 0:09:41.080 Just go to this jazz show. 0:09:41.240 --> 0:09:43.240 Yeah, because it wasn't like oh so that's why, because 0:09:43.240 --> 0:09:45.320 you probably would have noticed if he was like feeling 0:09:45.360 --> 0:09:46.160 really weird. 0:09:45.920 --> 0:09:48.760 The control freak that I am. Oh yes, oh, today's day, 0:09:48.760 --> 0:09:49.080 isn't it? 0:09:49.080 --> 0:09:51.079 If he was like wait, because he's so out of 0:09:51.160 --> 0:09:53.560 character he and I he's not. I'm usually one being like, 0:09:53.600 --> 0:09:54.840 let's go do this thing, and he's like, I just 0:09:54.880 --> 0:09:56.720 want to watch Netflix. You So, if he had been 0:09:56.760 --> 0:09:59.000 all of a sudden excited to go do an activity. Okay, 0:09:59.000 --> 0:10:00.800 then you're like, this is a They were a series 0:10:00.840 --> 0:10:02.800 of activities. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, So I'm kind of 0:10:03.480 --> 0:10:04.120 he was smart. 0:10:04.200 --> 0:10:05.360 He was very skillful. 0:10:06.240 --> 0:10:07.880 So he called my mom the day and my dad 0:10:07.920 --> 0:10:09.920 the day of, and my mom said she cried, but 0:10:10.000 --> 0:10:11.960 when I talked to her, she wasn't crying. She was 0:10:12.040 --> 0:10:14.600 yelling at me because I texted her a picture before 0:10:14.640 --> 0:10:17.000 I called her in person, even though I knew she 0:10:17.000 --> 0:10:20.080 already knew order of things. The order of things, boy 0:10:20.080 --> 0:10:23.079 was I called her right after. But anyway, moms are special. Yes, 0:10:23.679 --> 0:10:26.439 so yeah, my dad, however, plus his little heart. I 0:10:26.440 --> 0:10:28.160 don't think my dad knows how to listen to podcasts 0:10:28.200 --> 0:10:30.360 yet I have a teacher, so I'll tell you guys. 0:10:30.360 --> 0:10:32.040 So my dad went and oops. 0:10:32.040 --> 0:10:35.959 When my fiance called my dad, he initially pretty much 0:10:36.000 --> 0:10:38.240 like hung up on him because he could not deal. 0:10:38.280 --> 0:10:41.360 And I know my dad, I'm his only daughter, and 0:10:41.440 --> 0:10:43.200 you know, my parents divorced when I was ten, So 0:10:43.320 --> 0:10:45.160 my dad's mind, I've really been stuck as a ten 0:10:45.200 --> 0:10:48.400 year old forever forever, And so I knew I wasn't mad. 0:10:48.440 --> 0:10:50.520 I was like, oh, don't worry, he's just in his feelings. 0:10:50.520 --> 0:10:51.840 He does not know how to deal with his emotion 0:10:51.880 --> 0:10:55.079 because his ten year old's getting married, he basically, and 0:10:55.400 --> 0:10:58.680 so he finally called me last night and he told 0:10:58.679 --> 0:11:00.760 me he was up all night stressed out. 0:11:00.800 --> 0:11:04.200 He said, I was just it was just shocked. I can't. 0:11:04.240 --> 0:11:06.280 I don't know how to deal with these feelings, basically, 0:11:06.400 --> 0:11:09.040 and I could hear him tearing up on when you're 0:11:09.080 --> 0:11:10.480 a grown man, Yeah, you know, just. 0:11:10.480 --> 0:11:12.280 Wait till your wedding. You just better have some some 0:11:12.400 --> 0:11:13.200 waterproof mascot. 0:11:13.320 --> 0:11:14.840 I need to like put a tranquilizer dart. 0:11:15.440 --> 0:11:16.920 I don't not worried about me and worried about my 0:11:17.000 --> 0:11:19.880 dad walking down that it needs to be liked. 0:11:21.520 --> 0:11:26.120 Yeah, medicated, ye, tranquilized data. That's the words, a data. 0:11:26.160 --> 0:11:28.560 I want to start a hashtag. Congrats Mandy with an eye, 0:11:29.120 --> 0:11:30.080 congrats Mandy. 0:11:30.240 --> 0:11:32.760 Let's see who's gonna Yeah, let's see who needs a hashtag. 0:11:32.960 --> 0:11:35.240 I should give away something for people who used to hashtag. Oh, 0:11:35.280 --> 0:11:38.200 we'll just give you some virtual love. Just don't ask 0:11:38.240 --> 0:11:38.800 me any questions. 0:11:38.800 --> 0:11:39.440 I get stressed out. 0:11:39.440 --> 0:11:40.920 I don't know when, I don't know where, I don't know, 0:11:41.520 --> 0:11:43.360 I don't know anything. I don't know how to do this. 0:11:43.400 --> 0:11:45.840 It's my first time, so, but I'm just overwhelmed with 0:11:45.880 --> 0:11:46.480 all the support. 0:11:46.559 --> 0:11:50.840 So we started on a high note. But you know us, 0:11:50.880 --> 0:11:54.880 we'd like turn left, Wait where are we going? Where 0:11:54.920 --> 0:11:58.280 we're going? So Traine Awards. Oh, but honestly I like 0:11:58.360 --> 0:12:00.520 the awards. I'm not really did you watched? You watch 0:12:00.520 --> 0:12:00.920 the whole thing? 0:12:01.000 --> 0:12:03.920 I did only because I saw such great reviews on Facebook. 0:12:03.960 --> 0:12:05.960 Meanwhile, We're for you on Facebook. And the way it 0:12:06.000 --> 0:12:07.439 works when you watch like the. 0:12:07.679 --> 0:12:10.559 Twitter where I go first, really if face Twitter likes it, 0:12:10.600 --> 0:12:12.160 then on over one, well. 0:12:12.040 --> 0:12:13.600 You know what it is because they play them back 0:12:13.640 --> 0:12:15.280 to back, so they'll play it. And then it ended 0:12:15.320 --> 0:12:18.000 at like ten fifty five and started again at eleven. 0:12:18.040 --> 0:12:19.280 So I was like, oh, I'll stay up and watch 0:12:19.320 --> 0:12:21.880 because the reviews were great, and honestly I loved it. 0:12:21.920 --> 0:12:25.800 I didn't realize that unfortunately R Kelly performed at the end. 0:12:25.840 --> 0:12:28.839 I was like, Oh, this is disappointing. 0:12:28.280 --> 0:12:29.960 Status with R Kelly. I mean, so we all know 0:12:30.000 --> 0:12:31.960 that he's a dirty pedophile. 0:12:32.280 --> 0:12:33.960 Yees, so he married? I don't know. 0:12:34.080 --> 0:12:38.160 Honestly, I think that his career has not obviously prospered 0:12:38.200 --> 0:12:39.960 as much as it would have had he not been 0:12:40.120 --> 0:12:42.640 caught doing what he was doing with young girls. So 0:12:42.640 --> 0:12:45.280 if you guys are not familiar with R. Kelly, he's 0:12:45.320 --> 0:12:47.120 really super talented. I have to say that. You know 0:12:47.200 --> 0:12:51.240 that he's believe, but not just a talented singer, you know, 0:12:51.320 --> 0:12:53.720 the biggest part of Arkelly. He's a really talented like 0:12:53.760 --> 0:12:56.800 songwriter and arranger and like you know, producer, yeah, producer 0:12:57.600 --> 0:13:02.520 and so just a musician. And he was not convicted 0:13:02.679 --> 0:13:05.400 but suspected, I guess you could say, although I don't 0:13:05.400 --> 0:13:09.240 know how he's never been prosecuted, but because there's video 0:13:09.360 --> 0:13:11.560 of him with underaged women, I feel like. 0:13:11.600 --> 0:13:13.520 I was young enough when it was all happening that 0:13:13.559 --> 0:13:15.680 I don't really remember all particular so, but there's video 0:13:15.720 --> 0:13:16.760 of him we have, but I have. 0:13:16.720 --> 0:13:19.280 A general sense of ickiness about him. Yes, he closed 0:13:19.320 --> 0:13:21.440 the show, so he yeah, so and he holds the show. 0:13:21.480 --> 0:13:25.080 So there's video of him of him like urinating on 0:13:25.720 --> 0:13:29.199 women who were underage. And we all know for a 0:13:29.240 --> 0:13:32.000 fact that he married Aliyah, who was the singer that 0:13:32.040 --> 0:13:34.200 passed away. She was fourteen or fifteen at the time. 0:13:34.880 --> 0:13:37.120 And I mean they, I mean they have marriage papers, 0:13:37.120 --> 0:13:38.640 So that's not one of you know, that's not like, oh, 0:13:38.679 --> 0:13:40.200 allegedly No, No, they got married. 0:13:40.400 --> 0:13:41.040 Yeah. 0:13:41.360 --> 0:13:43.560 And then just so many other stories that have come 0:13:43.559 --> 0:13:48.520 out about him basically raping young women. I mean raping 0:13:48.559 --> 0:13:51.080 in the sense of I guess statutory rape. Yeah, I 0:13:51.080 --> 0:13:53.120 haven't heard of him like again, I don't know so 0:13:53.400 --> 0:13:56.640 violently raping, but definitely statutory rape because you know, honestly, 0:13:56.640 --> 0:13:58.120 if you're having sex with a thirteen year old, she 0:13:58.200 --> 0:14:02.360 cannot give consent. She's thirteen, you know, and at least 0:14:02.360 --> 0:14:04.360 not with a grown man giving consent. You know, if 0:14:04.360 --> 0:14:06.120 a thirteen year old thirteen yearn are grown at it, 0:14:06.400 --> 0:14:08.560 that's one thing. A thirteen year old a twenty five 0:14:08.640 --> 0:14:10.079 year old that's a whole other thing. 0:14:10.679 --> 0:14:13.000 So is the is the drama that he performed. People 0:14:13.000 --> 0:14:14.000 say that he shouldn't have. 0:14:13.960 --> 0:14:15.960 Like yeah, only because like you know, everybody's going in 0:14:15.960 --> 0:14:18.800 on Bill Cosby as they should. And it's like, you 0:14:18.840 --> 0:14:22.560 know why because r Kelly didn't just perform he like 0:14:22.680 --> 0:14:26.320 closed the sholf and it was like people in the 0:14:26.360 --> 0:14:29.080 audience were like two stepping, like this man has not 0:14:29.880 --> 0:14:33.200 raped young girls, and it doesn't have video out of 0:14:33.280 --> 0:14:38.240 him raping and really just totally being disgusting with young girls. 0:14:38.320 --> 0:14:40.880 And it's almost like, you know, I saw this article 0:14:40.920 --> 0:14:44.480 then about like oh so still after all this, what 0:14:44.520 --> 0:14:48.040 does it say from for black girls when they're alleged rapists? 0:14:48.080 --> 0:14:50.360 Rapes are not enough. They're like, you know, black girls 0:14:50.400 --> 0:14:52.840 still don't matter. Because I saw other women of color. 0:14:52.880 --> 0:14:55.600 What really struck me with Rika Badu, who's like pro black, 0:14:56.000 --> 0:14:57.400 pro women. 0:14:57.960 --> 0:15:00.000 They're having a new moment right now, Erica bade. 0:14:59.840 --> 0:15:02.040 Yeah she is, and so but it's like cause Erkabadou 0:15:02.200 --> 0:15:04.840 was like, you know, like feminists strong, and then she's 0:15:04.880 --> 0:15:07.600 she actually introduced R. Kelly as my brother, and I 0:15:07.680 --> 0:15:10.360 was like, oh so, and like I said, this is 0:15:10.360 --> 0:15:12.360 not a man who were like hmmm, I'm not quite 0:15:12.360 --> 0:15:13.920 sure if he did it. It's like there's video he 0:15:13.960 --> 0:15:16.680 married Alea when she's fourteen, and even he in his 0:15:17.560 --> 0:15:19.760 and I've seen like him being interviewed and at one 0:15:19.760 --> 0:15:21.600 point he said, I know I have a problem. 0:15:22.240 --> 0:15:23.680 Yeah, it's a complicated thing. 0:15:23.680 --> 0:15:25.480 We kind of talked about it with Bill Cosby before 0:15:25.520 --> 0:15:28.440 and I mentioned like, so I have I mean, I've 0:15:28.480 --> 0:15:34.040 known people personally who have had issues like this, you know, 0:15:34.840 --> 0:15:38.880 with younger women, and have done some really not great things. 0:15:39.280 --> 0:15:42.400 But I can almost I'm staying from both sides here. 0:15:42.400 --> 0:15:44.400 I'm like playing two sides here at the same time. 0:15:44.480 --> 0:15:46.520 Like when it is someone who you consider a brother, 0:15:46.560 --> 0:15:48.440