Speaker 1: Hey, viewers, Sniffy's Cruising Confessions is an explicit podcast about
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Speaker 2: Gabe, it's time for Cruising Confession. Now, I'm going to
Speaker 2: ask you this age old question. Are you a top
Speaker 2: or bottom?
Speaker 3: I don't see how that's any of your business. No,
Speaker 3: I'm kidding. It depends on the day, in my mood
Speaker 3: and the partner.
Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, I mean I think I lean maybe more
Speaker 1: toward topping from you. Yeah, I got I'm a tums girly.
Speaker 1: My stomach is like it's the ibs. Yeah, it's the
Speaker 1: ibs for me. No, it's not even that bad. I
Speaker 1: just like I have a harder time bottoming, I think,
Speaker 1: and it's something I've learned through life, and I try
Speaker 1: to keep an even keel. But yeah, sometimes I'm not
Speaker 1: topping or bottoming. Sometimes I'll do something else entirely. Yeah,
Speaker 1: how much?
Speaker 3: Like, Oh that's a good question. I am like nine.
Speaker 2: Percent top okay, but I will say currently I'm in
Speaker 2: my bottom era.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, we found christ time. I'm so excited
Speaker 3: for you. This is great, this is spectacular.
Speaker 2: It's been fantastic, I will say, because I think it
Speaker 2: was like you, I really struggled to find that balance
Speaker 2: in like stemic issues, and I think I've got something
Speaker 2: that works really well. So like I'm more confident in
Speaker 2: my bottom. Meaning now I have another question for you. Oh, okay,
Speaker 2: have you heard of sides? I have? Okay, I first
Speaker 2: heard about it online.
Speaker 1: My understanding is that sides are people who prefer non
Speaker 1: penetrative sex. Yeah, which is like it's my understanding as well. Right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's like that's a mood everybody's in. Sometimes that's an
Speaker 1: option on the UH on the catering menu, if you will,
Speaker 1: at the buffet of gay sex. It's interesting to me too,
Speaker 1: that side is sort of like developing as this identity.
Speaker 3: I didn't understand the necessity for it at first.
Speaker 1: I was like, you always have non penetrative sex, you
Speaker 1: can always just be like I'm into oral, I'm into masturbating, whatever.
Speaker 3: Why do we have to like label it totally?
Speaker 1: Yeah, So like I get it, but I think because
Speaker 1: people are always asking the topper bottom question, it does
Speaker 1: sort of necessitate this like alternative or this other like
Speaker 1: category of how a person prefers to engage with their
Speaker 1: sexual partners.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so I get it. I get it.
Speaker 2: But I also feel like in every situation, in every
Speaker 2: person I meet, I'm not always feeling topper bottom vibes
Speaker 2: from them, Like I don't I want to be intimate
Speaker 2: with you sexually, but I don't. Necessarily the penetration is
Speaker 2: not the part that I'm really that interested in.
Speaker 3: No, I do know what you mean.
Speaker 1: It's like sometimes I don't I find someone really hot,
Speaker 1: but I don't want to fuck.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I just want to like get naked and roll
Speaker 2: around exactly see where that goes, and like maybe later
Speaker 2: we can get there.
Speaker 3: But like, I just want to be naked with you. Oh,
Speaker 3: that's so sweet. Thank you.
Speaker 1: I've been waiting for you to ask for so long. Well,
Speaker 1: in case you had guessed. In today's episodes, we are
Speaker 1: talking about all things sides, and we're inviting the Messiah
Speaker 1: of masturbation bait, Banded XCEL, who stops by to chat
Speaker 1: about why he identifies as a side and what led
Speaker 1: him to create the Order of the bb XL and
Speaker 1: nationwide Network for Masturbators of Color. Welcome to Stiffy's Cruising Confessions.
Speaker 1: I am Gabe Gone, I'm.
Speaker 2: Chris Patterson Rosso. Each week, Week's More the sublime world
Speaker 2: of queer sex, cruising and relationship will.
Speaker 1: Be talking to queer folks of all kinds. Ask them questions,
Speaker 1: swap sex stories, share intimate revelations.
Speaker 3: A lot of us are discovering ourselves in cruising spaces.
Speaker 3: This happened to me at this toilet stall, in the
Speaker 3: library or the airport. I feel like everybody's gonna fuck
Speaker 3: a little harder here.
Speaker 4: Damn.
Speaker 3: So I've been like the neighborhood flat and I took
Speaker 3: pride in that. I was so afraid but yet so intrigued.
Speaker 3: And the more I gave him, the more he could take.
Speaker 2: If you're having sex on Sniffy's, you already have a
Speaker 2: moral deficit.
Speaker 3: Our guest this week is a legend in the making.
Speaker 2: Bait Banded Xcel is a groundbreaking hip hop artist, content creator,
Speaker 2: and its self proclaimed messiah of masturbation.
Speaker 1: He's also the CEO and founder of the Order of
Speaker 1: the BBXL, Babros and International Network for Masturbators of Color,
Speaker 1: which you can find at bbxlbabros dot com. His debut single,
Speaker 1: beat that Dick Up has become an anthem in the
Speaker 1: beater community. His album Chronicles of a Bat is in
Speaker 1: the works now. You can find this adult content on
Speaker 1: OnlyFans and just for fans at bait Bandit XL.
Speaker 2: Welcome to cruising Defessions bait Banded XCEL. How you doing,
Speaker 2: what's going on? You're feeling welcome. Do you remember getting
Speaker 2: any messages about masturbation from your parents?
Speaker 3: Ooh, so my sex talk at the house was it
Speaker 3: was corny as hell. Man at the time. I had
Speaker 3: my stepfather. He told me and my brother at the
Speaker 3: same time. Oh okay, and me and my brother, you
Speaker 3: know what I'm saying, Like, you know, we had that talk,
Speaker 3: but it was it was just weird. It didn't give
Speaker 3: me much information. Okay. I think he wanted it that way.
Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, I was like, damn, at least you got one.
Speaker 1: We didn't get one at all.
Speaker 3: I didn't get one at all.
Speaker 2: My mom ordered a book and my brother and I
Speaker 2: opened this back and it was like a book about
Speaker 2: what's happening to my body in sex?
Speaker 3: And like that was the talk that's wild. Yeah, at
Speaker 3: least you've got literature that I grew up in Florida.
Speaker 1: Man, Like sex education in Florida was like, these are
Speaker 1: condoms you will die if you don't use. We're done right,
Speaker 1: Like it was wild. I do remember the growing up.
Speaker 1: I experimented with masturbation, like once I hit puberty, and
Speaker 1: I would obviously masturbate in the mornings, like I would
Speaker 1: masturbate and then shower, and my parents realized that I was
Speaker 1: spending too long, so they would just.
Speaker 3: Turn off the hot water on me.
Speaker 1: It was so rude. I was like this anti.
Speaker 3: Masturbation campaign to stop.
Speaker 1: I'm like it was wild.
Speaker 3: How about you?
Speaker 1: Did you ever experience anything like that where you kind
Speaker 1: of had to like hide at first while like your
Speaker 1: body and stuff.
Speaker 3: I definitely had to hide some things. I remember when
Speaker 3: I first got caught and I lot my ass off
Speaker 3: about what it was too. I did the shower thing,
Speaker 3: and I also would take long because you know, after
Speaker 3: you shoot your night everywhere, you know you gotta wash.
Speaker 3: So so once I figured like you know what I'm
Speaker 3: gonna I'm gonna start doing this in the bed. I
Speaker 3: wouldn't go to bathroom the morning, I had a rag
Speaker 3: I would just use, and I used it and used it. Okay,
Speaker 3: So one day I came home and my mother was
Speaker 3: in my mother fucking room cleaning it and she was
Speaker 3: underneath the bed, and as soon as I walked in,
Speaker 3: she was like, what's this? And so I told her
Speaker 3: I was being lazy and I didn't want to get
Speaker 3: up to get t ship about blowing my nose on it.
Speaker 1: You're blowing something, yeah, so big Bendy. We've talked a
Speaker 1: little bit about sort of, you know, growing up and
Speaker 1: learning about your body and masturbation, but I'm curious, at
Speaker 1: what point did you start to think about your sexuality
Speaker 1: and other people and sexual experiences with other folks.
Speaker 3: I knew that at a younger age, like I was
Speaker 3: attracted to both men and women, but I definitely at
Speaker 3: that time didn't know like what gay and bisexual any
Speaker 3: of that shit was, you know what I'm saying. I
Speaker 3: just knew that I like both, you know, and I
Speaker 3: don't even know that there would you know what people's
Speaker 3: opinions about that will be? And at what point into
Speaker 3: your life did you encounter the term side? So that's
Speaker 3: new for me. You know what I'm saying because I
Speaker 3: just knew that there were people who consider themselves either
Speaker 3: solo sexual or they just only you know, did mutual
Speaker 3: masturbation and or sex. You know, that was it. That's
Speaker 3: not really a name or nothing like that for it.
Speaker 3: So it's new to me. I guess that just has
Speaker 3: to be a name for you know everything. Yeah, what
Speaker 3: is it being aside mean to you? I think for me,
Speaker 3: being a side is specifically being into everything except for penetration.
Speaker 3: You know, as tops they love to penetrate, bottoms love
Speaker 3: to be penetrated, verse they love it both ways. Sides
Speaker 3: they just simply want to engage in everything else except
Speaker 3: for penetration. I think it's really simple, but unfortunately people
Speaker 3: do make it complicated for no reason.
Speaker 1: Truly, And just like you can be a top one
Speaker 1: day bottom another, like maybe you're your side for the week.
Speaker 1: I did also want to try to unpack a lot
Speaker 1: of the conversation that's happening online surrounding sides. What are
Speaker 1: some of the judgments that you see, not just when
Speaker 1: it comes to size, but like Baiter's queer folks engaging
Speaker 1: in non penetrative sex and naming it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, man, we get the whole childish thing a lot,
Speaker 3: you know, what the hell is aside people, I think
Speaker 3: that everybody knows what that is. But people have just
Speaker 3: taken this you know, fake outrage way too far and
Speaker 3: try to, you know, draft up these tweets online to
Speaker 3: bash the Bay community. Like I said, I just I
Speaker 3: don't get it, you know, I think that, Well, what
Speaker 3: I can say is, I'll tell you a short story.
Speaker 3: One time I had a Bay party that was like
Speaker 3: a pregame to a sex party linked up with you know,
Speaker 3: a friend from the community who was hosting the sex
Speaker 3: party that started like midnight. So I was like, Yo'll
Speaker 3: let me host a bag party at the spot from
Speaker 3: like ten to midnight. So we got to midnight, the
Speaker 3: second party started, but the betas was still there and
Speaker 3: the whole circle. So a couple of bottoms came in
Speaker 3: and saw like all the betas like standing in circles,
Speaker 3: and they just was you know, circling the room trying
Speaker 3: to sendify signals saying something, and and the betas was
Speaker 3: just doing the damn thing, and two of them got
Speaker 3: pissed off and left, you know. So what I think
Speaker 3: it is is some people just can't fathom because of
Speaker 3: the limit of their own sexual experiences, that two people
Speaker 3: can only want mutual masturbation from each other, you know,
Speaker 3: And it's about the experiences and the and the the
Speaker 3: way they feel that make them desire something like that.
Speaker 3: So you would never understand, you know, you got to
Speaker 3: be open to it. So fuck all that shit.
Speaker 1: Man like you mentioned, we've always had terminology to describe
Speaker 1: acts besides topping or bottoming, right, mutual masturbation, oral, It's
Speaker 1: like there's many, Yeah, So it's like, I think we've
Speaker 1: always known that there are options outside of this, But yeah,
Speaker 1: I think the itself is sort of news, sort of
Speaker 1: identifying a community or a group of people. And I think,
Speaker 1: you know, just to I'm curious about your understanding because
Speaker 1: my take on what I've heard and read is that
Speaker 1: it seems like not all sides are against anals. Some
Speaker 1: might be more into oral or mutual masturbation than anal,
Speaker 1: Some might have penetrative sex occasionally. So it seems like
Speaker 1: kind of a fluid word. Do you have the same
Speaker 1: kind of understanding or viewpoint on it?
Speaker 3: It is fluid, Honestly. You can go from talking about
Speaker 3: people who identify as sides versus those who identify as
Speaker 3: a beta, you know, those who like the act of
Speaker 3: masturbation with a solo, mutual, large group. Because you don't
Speaker 3: have to be a side to enjoy being a beta.
Speaker 3: You can also be a top, bottom, whatever, So I'll
Speaker 3: believe that. So it's like man sexuality in itself is
Speaker 3: just a spectrum. But I guess we just have to
Speaker 3: have these certain labels so another person can know what
Speaker 3: you are into and what you're not into.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so let's actually talk a little bit about the
Speaker 1: baiting community. I think for a lot of people out there,
Speaker 1: maybe the pandemic was the first time they might have
Speaker 1: heard this term or kind of seen like a baiting
Speaker 1: zoom room, right. I think a lot of the sort
Speaker 1: of safety precautions we had to take meant that masturbation,
Speaker 1: either like in front of somebody or being shared digitally
Speaker 1: was sort of like one of the few ways we
Speaker 1: could be intimate with people.
Speaker 3: We were living with at the time.
Speaker 1: So I'm curious, did you also discover the baiting community
Speaker 1: around this time or was this something that you've been
Speaker 1: involved with or saw earlier.
Speaker 3: I didn't see large zoom baits until the pandemic. Now,
Speaker 3: prior to that, I remember chat wounds on Yahoo Messenger.
Speaker 3: I remember ouvuvu. Yes, I had OVU when I first
Speaker 3: got my first apartment alone. You know, as a beta,
Speaker 3: getting your first apartment alone. It's over, bro, every room, listen,
Speaker 3: every surface, every if I can get up there, I'm
Speaker 3: up there. I'm doing it. Okay. So I discovered uvo
Speaker 3: around that time, so I was having like one on one,
Speaker 3: but like to the point where they were like fifty
Speaker 3: plus guys in a zoom like. That didn't start happening
Speaker 3: for me until the pandemics.
Speaker 2: Talk to me about your community, your online community which
Speaker 2: is now international.
Speaker 3: Yeah, BBXLVA bros. It came out of the pandemic and
Speaker 3: came out of I actually listen. I was not the
Speaker 3: first person, of course, to ever host zoom baits, but
Speaker 3: I developed the pattern. I was consistent with putting them
Speaker 3: out there. I think I had like a schedule I
Speaker 3: used to do like Monday, Wednesdays and Fridays during the pandemic,
Speaker 3: and then it just grew and grew and grew. So
Speaker 3: it got exhausting because you know, we would be on
Speaker 3: their baiting and then somebody would have the link and
Speaker 3: get on there and do something stupid or whatever you know,
Speaker 3: start screaming, playing loud music, doing whatever you know. So
Speaker 3: we had to become more secretive about the process. So
Speaker 3: emailing everybody became so much I created a digital group
Speaker 3: and then it progressed until becoming an organization. Bbxl BA Bros. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: that's amazing. Everyone's there people who identify as all sexual positions,
Speaker 3: but they know that they would love to have a
Speaker 3: space that they can celebrate being the beta.
Speaker 1: When did you shift from the online sort of zoombait
Speaker 1: sessions into in person events.
Speaker 3: When bbxl BA Bros. Began to get bigger wet, there
Speaker 3: was a point we wanted to stop and cap at
Speaker 3: two hundred members, and then even that wasn't enough because
Speaker 3: of demand was still coming in twenty twenty one. So
Speaker 3: everyone would always in the group chat talk about how
Speaker 3: they really wish like the pandemic would harry up and
Speaker 3: be over so we can all try to meet each other.
Speaker 3: Because inside this group we have been going for at
Speaker 3: least a year now, people have built friendships, people have
Speaker 3: built bonds, and so once the pandemics start clearing up
Speaker 3: just enough for people to come outside and start going
Speaker 3: to public places again, we jumped right on and start
Speaker 3: having parties. Some of our parties were in hotels first,
Speaker 3: and then we moved on to like getting airbnbs and
Speaker 3: and different venues like that. So that's amazing. That's amazing.
Speaker 1: I think we all know the spaces for black and
Speaker 1: brown people are very important, but I'm wondering why you
Speaker 1: felt that it was specifically important to create a bait
Speaker 1: space that was focused on your community.
Speaker 3: Especially in my experience, there are more black and brown
Speaker 3: men who have not been able to open up their
Speaker 3: sexuality in certain ways due to many reasons, most of
Speaker 3: all family, you know, religion, things like that. So to
Speaker 3: create a space, you know, bb Excel Bate Bros. For
Speaker 3: those people, you know, those men to come in and
Speaker 3: just you know, so to speak, like their hair down
Speaker 3: and just be themselves in their bait energy like that
Speaker 3: was that was very important to me.
Speaker 2: Have you like received messages from people who have been like,
Speaker 2: thank you so much for creating the space really needed.
Speaker 3: How has that impacted you and how does that felt
Speaker 3: To get those messages? They mean a lot and it
Speaker 3: lets me know that all the work I put in
Speaker 3: to really make bb ex La Bros. What it is
Speaker 3: Today's worth it. Man, I lost the like a lot
Speaker 3: of nights asleep, you know, putting things together, as I said,
Speaker 3: you know, designing all you know, all the flyers. I
Speaker 3: designed our website from scratch, you know, which is really nice.
Speaker 3: Thank you so much. Appreciate that. You know, do you
Speaker 3: watch mostly baiting porn? No, There's a wide variety of
Speaker 3: things that get my dick card. Okay, listen, I have
Speaker 3: a lot of things that you know that that I
Speaker 3: love to see. I'd love to see the bookmarks. What
Speaker 3: are some of the key all right, all right, all right,
Speaker 3: so I watched I like, first of all, exhibitionist, you know,
Speaker 3: public porn. All right, I love to see. I love
Speaker 3: to watch some hardcore fuckings. Sometimes I do watch women
Speaker 3: as well sometimes, but I only watch like videos where
Speaker 3: they make themselves squirt. You know, that's kind of interesting squirting. Yeah. Oh,
Speaker 3: I watch videos of guys, you know, doing oral sex
Speaker 3: and women until they squirt in their face. That turns
Speaker 3: me on. I'd love to see, you know, the bottoms
Speaker 3: with the dildos and the fucking machines like that's yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2: Fuck machines are a whole other level to set up
Speaker 2: involved in having to execute that alone.
Speaker 3: The investment truly.
Speaker 1: Yes, And also do you get a custom made does
Speaker 1: somebody make it for it? It's wild, but fuck machines
Speaker 1: are Yeah, that's a next level expert pro move.
Speaker 3: It's a wide variety of things that turn me on.
Speaker 1: I'm curious how much of your day would you say
Speaker 1: it involves baiting? How much time do you usually spend
Speaker 1: on it? You know, just creating content or for self pleasure?
Speaker 3: Oh that's well, I'm gonna edge your mostly, you know,
Speaker 3: and that is something I've grown into and it works
Speaker 3: better for me, especially with creating content every week or
Speaker 3: you know, just trying to make sure I got a
Speaker 3: good nutshot for those who subscribe. You know, people pay
Speaker 3: their money. They want to see, you know, you got
Speaker 3: to give them what they want to see. But I
Speaker 3: do have boundaries about that as well. But you know,
Speaker 3: working from home, for me, I can bait whenever, you
Speaker 3: know what I'm saying, whenever I'm feeling it. I just
Speaker 3: gauge my day. Sometimes I take thirty minutes and take
Speaker 3: a smoke break and stroke, you know, then I'll you know,
Speaker 3: get back to my work, you know whatever for another hour.
Speaker 3: So take another break, do it again. So if I
Speaker 3: ain't got nothing to do. Sometimes, you know, I wake
Speaker 3: up with the expectation like let me set my my
Speaker 3: you know, morning up, so I can go ahead and
Speaker 3: get a good bait in, you know for the first
Speaker 3: half of day, especially like on a Saturday. That's all
Speaker 3: we call it, Saturday bait community, you know, a good
Speaker 3: day to just get comfortable and beat your day.
Speaker 2: A lot of the contents I watch on Twitter is etching,
Speaker 2: and I'm really fascinated by it, and I try myself
Speaker 2: to do it, but like I just can never sustain.
Speaker 3: So you got to practice, you gotta know, Like how
Speaker 3: I got there is learning what my pressure points were,
Speaker 3: where they wear all my dick, what made me more sensitive.
Speaker 3: And I tried to, like just through practice come up
Speaker 3: with a combination of like moves that I could do
Speaker 3: that are pleasurable but don't exactly take me, you know.
Speaker 3: And then I started testing myself like, oh my edge
Speaker 3: right until I feel it. And then sometimes I will
Speaker 3: go almost a little too far and just like you know,
Speaker 3: not just a little bit, but exactly the whole thing.
Speaker 3: You know, That's just how you get better at it,
Speaker 3: honestly for me, So I just have to practice more.
Speaker 3: Just practice more, you gotta. But you gotta be patient,
Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying, Like, you gotta put the
Speaker 3: time in. You can't like you know, you can't rush it,
Speaker 3: bro y'all gotta take some time. I've done it. I've
Speaker 3: edged through a whole football game before. My god, absolutely,
Speaker 3: how long are those? Sorry?
Speaker 4: That's literally.
Speaker 3: Oh man, I like reacting And I was like, wait,
Speaker 3: I don't know. It depends on the game, if they're
Speaker 3: going to ot, if they call a lot of timeouts.
Speaker 3: So what are we talking? Bassline? Alright, so baseline, like
Speaker 3: for me, my personal baseline. I mean sometimes I go
Speaker 3: between on average thirty to forty five minutes of edging,
Speaker 3: you know, and like that's just one edging session in
Speaker 3: the day for me. I like the edge because I
Speaker 3: like to feel horny o day sometimes, you know what
Speaker 3: I'm saying, especially like if I wear my rain out
Speaker 3: stuff like that.
Speaker 2: So yeah, all right, when we come back, we'll be
Speaker 2: talking to bait Banded XL about being the world's first
Speaker 2: ever beta rapper.
Speaker 3: Stay tuned, welcome back. We are here with bab Bandit XL.
Speaker 1: Now, bag Bandit, I want to talk about masturbation music,
Speaker 1: which is a genre I have recently been introduced to
Speaker 1: thanks to you.
Speaker 3: There have been famous songs about masturbation.
Speaker 1: Prince has dracked you off, and of course the vinyl
Speaker 1: has I touched myself.
Speaker 3: I think you are the first artist to completely.
Speaker 1: Devote your musical output to masturbation, which has to be
Speaker 1: some kind of achievement. I can't imagine anyone in the
Speaker 1: history has done it before. So I'm wondering where did
Speaker 1: you get the idea to start creating music about masturbation.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna be honest, like, I've always loved music. I've
Speaker 3: done music in my normal life before, so this was
Speaker 3: like something I don't want to say a joke. It
Speaker 3: was just something I was doing for fun. I was
Speaker 3: feeling good, of course, you know, and I was just
Speaker 3: playing on this app that I discovered during the pandemic,
Speaker 3: so I, you know, I just wanted to see how
Speaker 3: it would sound if I made some little joky song
Speaker 3: about beating your dick. And I, you know, first I
Speaker 3: just put it out to my bros in our group,
Speaker 3: you know, and then they was like going crazy over yo.
Speaker 3: So I never expected that response. Man, I never expected that.
Speaker 3: And then I was like well, let me put this
Speaker 3: on Twitter and see what happens. And then came a
Speaker 3: beat that dick Up challenge where people would like videos
Speaker 3: and then you know, stroking and nothing to the song
Speaker 3: with the song on the background, nominate another bro, and
Speaker 3: then you know they the next bro do the video.
Speaker 3: You know, So it became a whole thing. And so
Speaker 3: I never expected that. Never expected that a lot of
Speaker 3: people have used it and you know, like college videos
Speaker 3: on porn Hub and stuff like that too. I never
Speaker 3: expected to be this big and that it was on
Speaker 3: Apple Music, Title, Amazon, all all that stuff. SoundCloud is everywhere.
Speaker 3: You got it untitled. That's that's what.
Speaker 1: I was gonna say.
Speaker 4: It was like.
Speaker 1: I love that releases. Yeah, and then we saw a
Speaker 1: video of You're performing at live at a venue I
Speaker 1: think it was Lambda Club here in New York, which
Speaker 1: is amazing, Like it's like a high energy song, but
Speaker 1: it's so funny because there's also like a trio of
Speaker 1: people making out in the background.
Speaker 3: So let me tell you that was an interesting show. Bro,
Speaker 3: like that show because that was at this Lambda Lounge.
Speaker 3: Shout out to Lambda, the owners of Lambda and Lando overall.
Speaker 3: They have landa lounge and Lambda the club in Brooklyn.
Speaker 3: So this was at Brooklyn and so anyway, that that
Speaker 3: night they had an event called meat Fest. So I
Speaker 3: was the opening.
Speaker 1: Yeah, who else could open?
Speaker 3: Let me tell you something. They talk about demon Tom
Speaker 3: on the internet right there, and there was this couple
Speaker 3: that came in and then this third guy. So I
Speaker 3: don't know if they were like a trouble. I don't
Speaker 3: know what they were, but the whole show, they was
Speaker 3: like vibing to the music, but they were making out
Speaker 3: the entire show, filling up on each other. When I
Speaker 3: got to beat the dicker, they start grabbing each other's dicks.
Speaker 3: I was just like, Yo, this is a vibe.
Speaker 4: Yo.
Speaker 3: I wish everybody could be like this at every show.
Speaker 1: I was like, that's your target audience. It's like, regardless
Speaker 1: of who's listening, they're getting hard out of that.
Speaker 3: It was like you didn't even have to be yes.
Speaker 3: And who makes your beats? Do you make them? I
Speaker 3: do not make my beats. My gut, I don't make them.
Speaker 3: I definitely work with a wide variety of engineers and
Speaker 3: producers who you know, pull music together and outsaid that,
Speaker 3: and so what happens when you're like, can you make
Speaker 3: me a be and then you come in and drop
Speaker 3: the verse, Like what is their reaction? Like it was
Speaker 3: a crazy experience because you know, they didn't know they
Speaker 3: was getting when I came in and I got in
Speaker 3: the booth and I just said, all right, I'm just
Speaker 3: gonna close the door. And there was a wheel window
Speaker 3: right here too that sai, I'm not even gonna look
Speaker 3: over there. I'm just gonna start rapping. Just keep going. Yeah,
Speaker 3: we did the take. We did like the first big
Speaker 3: chunk and it was dead ass silent in the room
Speaker 3: for like a little minute, and he was like, all right,
Speaker 3: so where you want to start from? It was, you know,
Speaker 3: after a while, it was like, you know what, he came.
Speaker 3: He came to me. He was like, you know what,
Speaker 3: you got an interesting, you know thing going on, but
Speaker 3: your music hits. It sounds fire Like I appreciate that.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, when it's an album coming out, definitely go and
Speaker 3: drop this year. I just want to make sure it's perfect.
Speaker 3: Chronicles of a Beta is really I really want that
Speaker 3: to be a beta diary for me to really give
Speaker 3: people who don't understand, you know, what being a beata is,
Speaker 3: or at least just understand my life to give them
Speaker 3: a you know, a deeper size. Most of the songs
Speaker 3: are telling the story about a bit experience that I've had,
Speaker 3: or a bait experience that I fantasized about. So and
Speaker 3: I write all my ship, write everything, so you know
Speaker 3: it's coming straight from my experience as my heart.
Speaker 1: So we were talking about it a lot, but I
Speaker 1: think it's time we take a listen to your biggest hip.
Speaker 3: Beat that dick up.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's all right here for all my baby bros.
Speaker 5: You already know what time it is. Go ahead and
Speaker 5: lock that door, put your headstone, turn that all your mother,
Speaker 5: Get comfortable and beat that dick.
Speaker 4: Beat that dip, sit back, relax on the wandrn out.
Speaker 4: Get lost in time.
Speaker 3: That beat that dick.
Speaker 5: Beat that beat that mother fuck.
Speaker 4: Sit back, relax on the wind, your mind the fu out,
Speaker 4: get lost the time.
Speaker 5: I'm my boss, I'm my bait. I ain't got time
Speaker 5: to be I hate that if I ain't beating my best.
Speaker 5: Believe I'm getting paper busting that one busting later, losing
Speaker 5: count got later in my room, get my b b
Speaker 5: X up. Bata is going up and down my tongue
Speaker 5: all night long, beating down the Bush called me King
Speaker 5: Kong that you know my dig the words of the
Speaker 5: song he said, don't punish man, but don't never do me.
Speaker 3: Wronge be that could beat that dick up. That could
Speaker 3: beat that dick up, that could beat that mother beat
Speaker 3: that dick up.
Speaker 5: Sit back and relax, waand your mind come the fuck
Speaker 5: out get lost.
Speaker 1: I love it, Yeah, yeah, yeah, I love it sure
Speaker 1: over the head gets me every time.
Speaker 3: Like you know that looks like you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 3: So you know, say that for later, Yeah, say that
Speaker 3: for lady. You know what I'm saying, get your get
Speaker 3: your night jumping off right, you wish you the happiest edging.
Speaker 1: Thank you to try.
Speaker 2: I came with you and like you know how it's
Speaker 2: going because like yeah.
Speaker 3: Shoot me a dm be like all right, you know,
Speaker 3: but you know we can talk. We can talk about that.
Speaker 3: I gotta like get better, just like take your hands off. Yeah. Also,
Speaker 3: loosen up your grip sometimes, loosen up your grip sometimes. Well,
Speaker 3: I mean, if you want to last.
Speaker 2: You know, you know what I'm saying, And I think
Speaker 2: I have to go with it with the mindset that
Speaker 2: like you're not doing this to come that part, all right,
Speaker 2: I want to thank Bag Band Excel so much for
Speaker 2: stopping by.
Speaker 1: This has been a blast, This is so much fun.
Speaker 3: Thank you. Where can we find you online? So yeah,
Speaker 3: find me on Twitter, find me on Instagram, Bake band
Speaker 3: Excel Official dot com that's where you can find me.
Speaker 3: If you interested in being a member of b Excel
Speaker 3: Bake Bros. Hit us up on Twitter, BBXL Bake Bros.
Speaker 3: Or bb Excel Bagbros dot com. So yeah, thank you again,
Speaker 3: thank you.
Speaker 2: When we come back, we're going to be playing our
Speaker 2: special side edition of our favorite game, Pump or Dump.
Speaker 3: I can't wait and be right back.
Speaker 1: I know, all right, welcome back. It is time to
Speaker 1: play our favorite game here at Cruising Confessions, Pump or Dump.
Speaker 2: Remember, pump means we love it, we're all about it,
Speaker 2: and dump means the exact opposite.
Speaker 3: We do not want to see it again. Let's get
Speaker 3: it out of here.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, we are starting with peas and carrots.
Speaker 3: Dump. I'd say dump too, Yeah, I mean you can't
Speaker 3: make chicken pop pie without peas and carrots.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but like that's all together in the one thing.
Speaker 2: Carrots is on a side. Yeah, it just gives like
Speaker 2: Midwest frozen vegetables.
Speaker 1: It's giving Midwest frozen vegetables.
Speaker 3: I hate that.
Speaker 1: I understood that perfectly, and it conveyed what you needed
Speaker 1: it too.
Speaker 2: Oh man, Next up on our lists Nancy Reagan. Oh,
Speaker 2: the throat out herself. Yeah, she walks so competitors could run. Truly,
Speaker 2: I hate any Reagan. It's a dump.
Speaker 1: Sorry, No, I'm not sorry.
Speaker 2: Uh, you're gonna hate me. I'm gonna say, pump, You're
Speaker 2: gonna pump.
Speaker 1: The woman who married one of the worst people to
Speaker 1: handle the HIV eights crisis as president.
Speaker 3: She had me a throat. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: She was at the White House when they actively denied
Speaker 1: the existence of h No, no, no, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: But like if we're thinking about it, just from the context.
Speaker 2: We're just thinking about her work, not your husband. Yeah,
Speaker 2: just like throat goat, and like that's a pump to me,
Speaker 2: being a throat oat is a pump. Being Nancy Reagan
Speaker 2: is a dump. Okay, all right, can we separate the
Speaker 2: artists from I'm done. I'm done here, I'm fine. Let's
Speaker 2: go into the next one. We can have a difference
Speaker 2: of opinion.
Speaker 1: It's okay, but yours is problematic and you will get
Speaker 1: dragged for it online.
Speaker 3: So that's fine.
Speaker 1: That's fine.
Speaker 3: I'm saying, as a throw go, I have to support
Speaker 3: another throw go.
Speaker 1: You know what, you know what, Chris Blerding a lot
Speaker 1: about you.
Speaker 3: I like the community.
Speaker 1: Well, I help you and the corpse of Nancy Reagan
Speaker 1: have a wonderful time building community together.
Speaker 2: Next up we have Robin Robin as an Batman sidekick
Speaker 2: another side There have been several iterations of Robin which
Speaker 2: everyone turns into Nightwing and has the juicy booty.
Speaker 3: That's the one I like.
Speaker 1: Also Joel Schumacher's Batman and Robin with the nipples on
Speaker 1: the outside. Life changing gay experience. Really, that was my awakenings,
Speaker 1: all right. Next up is toothy blow Jobs. The concept
Speaker 1: of a toothy blow job. I think we can do
Speaker 1: this together, dumb This was quite the episode, that was
Speaker 1: and I learned a lot too about like sort of
Speaker 1: how folks think of self pleasure and the expansive possibilities
Speaker 1: when you look at the baiting community or masturbation or
Speaker 1: any form of solo play. It's really obviously like one
Speaker 1: of the first sexual experiences I had was with myself. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I don't really think about you know, the time
Speaker 1: that I put into self pleasure. So you know, I
Speaker 1: think one of the best pieces of advice we got
Speaker 1: today from bait bandit was be patient.
Speaker 3: Yes, and loosen your grip yes.
Speaker 1: And I do want to say that I'm really glad
Speaker 1: that we got to do this episode on sides and
Speaker 1: baiting as well. There are so many possibilities for sharing
Speaker 1: what your preferences and identity are on stuffies as well.
Speaker 1: So like obviously y'all are very welcome to come base.
Speaker 1: I mean, you can organize a group bait session.
Speaker 2: You can identify as a side, and now with all
Speaker 2: the new filters, you can filter out if you're looking
Speaker 2: for just other sides to hang out with, which is
Speaker 2: also amazing.
Speaker 3: I was on the last night actually looking for a
Speaker 3: circle jerk.
Speaker 1: I love you. I was out trying the new endowment
Speaker 1: filters just to see what the average size in my
Speaker 1: neighborhood is, you.
Speaker 2: Know what I mean, just to see what's neighbor We
Speaker 2: want to thank our guests today, bait band x L.
Speaker 2: Look for his album Confessions of Abater coming later this year,
Speaker 2: and follow him at bait band XL on all socials
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Speaker 2: for watching, See you next week.
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