Speaker 1: We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This
Speaker 1: is How Men Thick and I Heard radio podcast. Hi everyone,
Speaker 1: I'm Christopher Palaha. You may know me from Lifetime, is
Speaker 1: Buried in Barstow, or Hallmark Christmas Movies, Life, Unexpected, Ringer,
Speaker 1: North Shore, Wonder Woman, The Upcoming Draftic World Dominion, and
Speaker 1: I am so happy to be guest hosting How Men
Speaker 1: Think and answer all your questions and trying to help
Speaker 1: you understand how men think. But first, this is eleven
Speaker 1: Questions with Christopher Palaha. Let's get into it. One. What
Speaker 1: are you known for? Tell us about yourself. Um, I
Speaker 1: think I'm known for I'm obviously I'm an actor, so
Speaker 1: I think I'm known for being an actor. But I
Speaker 1: think more than that, I'm known for being a kind
Speaker 1: of a family man. I'm married. My wife and I
Speaker 1: have been married for nineteen years. Going. Uh, actually we're
Speaker 1: celebrating our nineteenth anniversary this week, and we have three beautiful,
Speaker 1: healthy boys who are now men basically. Um. But but
Speaker 1: aside from that producing a family, I've been I've been
Speaker 1: making TV shows and movies for the past twenty one years.
Speaker 1: I just got into directing so I can call myself
Speaker 1: a filmmaker. So that's kind of a bit about myself.
Speaker 1: Um So who are you in your personal life? Um?
Speaker 1: Who I am in my personal life is very similar
Speaker 1: to who I am in my public life. Um. I
Speaker 1: am pretty patient person. I would have to call myself
Speaker 1: a kind person. I'm a person who's pretty slow to anger.
Speaker 1: I don't really lose my cool. Um, I do have
Speaker 1: different hats that I have to wear. Like as an actor,
Speaker 1: I I live in a world where, uh, I am
Speaker 1: a celebrity to some people, and I get, you know,
Speaker 1: lifted up into the stratosphere of social sort of significance
Speaker 1: that that my job affords me, but that I don't
Speaker 1: do anything about personally. So I think in the sense
Speaker 1: that there's an exterior you know, sort of in the
Speaker 1: market place life where I'm in the public space and
Speaker 1: I'm moving about and then I get to just lose
Speaker 1: all that energy when I'm home with my wife and kids.
Speaker 1: Um So there's a bit of a dichotomy. There three
Speaker 1: shows that I'm currently binge watching. All right, my wife
Speaker 1: and I like to at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: kids are in bed, homework has done, all the house
Speaker 1: chores are finished. We get to we get about an
Speaker 1: hour and a half every night. UM, on a really
Speaker 1: good day for her, I will rub her feet and
Speaker 1: we will watch shows. We've Bnged Dope Sick, which is
Speaker 1: incredible starring Michael Keaton, We Crashed and Half Away and
Speaker 1: Jared Leto and Drop Out with Amanda Secrety. Those are
Speaker 1: things that Those are literally the last three shows that
Speaker 1: we've just been watched. UM alright, Question number four, what
Speaker 1: is my favorite food? You know what, I used to
Speaker 1: be fancy about my favorite foods, but I gotta be
Speaker 1: honest with you. My favorite food is a good old
Speaker 1: fashioned cheeseburger. I like cheeseburger from shake Shack. I like
Speaker 1: the cheeseburger from a place called Laurel tavern in the valley.
Speaker 1: And I was just in France and I asked for
Speaker 1: cheeseburgers and people made fun of me, and it was
Speaker 1: the They were the best cheeseburgers I've ever had in
Speaker 1: my life. Like the meat was so tasty and good.
Speaker 1: And so I think cheeseburgers to safe bet. Anywhere you go,
Speaker 1: you get a good one. Number five, tell us about
Speaker 1: your career. When my career is been really blessed and good.
Speaker 1: I've had twenty one years of affording my life by
Speaker 1: only acting. I've only ever been an actor. I've never
Speaker 1: had to do other jobs to make it, so in
Speaker 1: that way, it's been really blessed. And I've also been
Speaker 1: the kind of actor where I can go to the
Speaker 1: growth True store and shop with my kids and not
Speaker 1: be bombarded. I've been with some people who, Um, I
Speaker 1: worked with a guy who was really famous, and everywhere
Speaker 1: we went, i mean we're talking like the hot We're
Speaker 1: talking the you know, anywhere we went, like anywhere everywhere,
Speaker 1: people were like, Hey, you're so and so from that
Speaker 1: so and so thing. And I asked him when I
Speaker 1: was like, how does that feel like when you're with
Speaker 1: your family? And he's like, oh, it's crazy, man. He's like,
Speaker 1: I'm always kind of having the And I've watched intense
Speaker 1: scrutiny that that fame brings, and um, I've been saved
Speaker 1: from that at least all my kids have been young.
Speaker 1: And so I've had this really cool thing where I've
Speaker 1: been able to be a father, able to be a husband,
Speaker 1: able to be a provider, and still have probably one
Speaker 1: of the best jobs in the world, which is, you know,
Speaker 1: pretending to be other people and entertaining people and getting
Speaker 1: to make people laugh and cry. My career has included
Speaker 1: television and film, and recently, UM, I got into co
Speaker 1: writing a romance series called Moments Like It's called from
Speaker 1: ConA with Love. But um their books and the first
Speaker 1: one which has been published and is out and available
Speaker 1: right now, it's called Moments Like This. And the second
Speaker 1: book will be available at Barnes and Nobles and everywhere
Speaker 1: the books are sold October eleventh. That's called Where's Roses?
Speaker 1: And we're gonna write three more in the series, so
Speaker 1: it'll be a total of five books. And these are romance.
Speaker 1: This is the romance. There's a family saga that all
Speaker 1: takes place on the Hawaiian Islands, so each book is
Speaker 1: a different island. And we're turning the first book into
Speaker 1: a movie. Um yeah, And I just recently got into directing.
Speaker 1: I did a short film called The Work of Art
Speaker 1: that was just screened to canned film festivals. So exciting,
Speaker 1: fun stuff. Um. Number six, what is my biggest fear
Speaker 1: in life? Oh? What is my biggest fear? Man? It's
Speaker 1: not it's losing people. It's it's the death of people
Speaker 1: that I love. That's my biggest fear. And I think
Speaker 1: the best way to describe that fear for you is that, Um,
Speaker 1: when I was a boy, I would weep hot tears
Speaker 1: every time my mom or my dad left, whether they
Speaker 1: dropped me off at Little League or they bringing home
Speaker 1: from school and they had to run an errand real quick,
Speaker 1: I would start to cry because I was terrified and
Speaker 1: convinced that they were going to die in a terrible
Speaker 1: carrect and then that was it. And the only way
Speaker 1: that I was able to overcome that was to say, like,
Speaker 1: in my mind, visualize, well what next. Okay, so they
Speaker 1: die and then what happens, and then what happens, and
Speaker 1: then what happens, and see their death all the way
Speaker 1: through um to the end. And I think that would
Speaker 1: be I think my biggest fear. And then the problem
Speaker 1: with that fear is, unlike the fear of spiders or
Speaker 1: heights or sharks or inevitably, it's going to come to
Speaker 1: pass for me on every level. So that's I think
Speaker 1: it's a it's a constant awareness of that. Um. Okay,
Speaker 1: number seven, what is my biggest pet peve? My biggest
Speaker 1: pet peeves probably rude people market, you know, like at
Speaker 1: the grocery store people who cut you off in traffic.
Speaker 1: We take some minutes to recalibrate and not get angry. Um.
Speaker 1: What makes me most happy? My wife and my kids
Speaker 1: make me most happy just being able to hear them laugh,
Speaker 1: be around them. You know that's always the best any
Speaker 1: time with them. What is your idea Saturday morning? Well
Speaker 1: goes back to number eight. Most happy? Uh, my wife
Speaker 1: and I'll be sleeping and our kids will just dogpile
Speaker 1: us and we'll all just be laying in bed in
Speaker 1: that moment where there's nothing to do and you don't
Speaker 1: have to get up. There's no there's no school to
Speaker 1: drive anyone to, no work to do, and it's like
Speaker 1: a perfect Saturday morning. Number ten, Are you more of
Speaker 1: the athlete for the armchair quarterback? I'm like more of
Speaker 1: the athlete. I like to run a lot. I'm very active.
Speaker 1: I ski. Um Like every time I go to a
Speaker 1: new city, the best way around it is to job
Speaker 1: early in the morning. Um. So I think the athlete
Speaker 1: And then what keeps you elevated? Um? I have a
Speaker 1: lot of goals that I've set for myself, and I
Speaker 1: feel like until I can meet those, uh, that keeps
Speaker 1: me motivated. There's stories that I want to tell. There
Speaker 1: are things I want to accomplish as an artist. Um,
Speaker 1: there are things I want to accomplish, you know, financially,
Speaker 1: and I want to see my kids, you know, go
Speaker 1: up and grow up and do well. And so those
Speaker 1: things keep me motivated. Hi, Eli, Hi, how are you?
Speaker 1: I'm great? How are you doing the day? Very well?
Speaker 1: Thank you good. Do you have a question about how
Speaker 1: men think? Well, I'm single, I'm trying to get out
Speaker 1: there in real life and rather than relate relying on
Speaker 1: dating apps. Do you think it's strange to me a
Speaker 1: girl out a loan or a bar? I mean, I
Speaker 1: think it depends on the bar. I think it depends
Speaker 1: on the night. I think it depends on the time
Speaker 1: and night. Um. I think there's a lot of you know,
Speaker 1: things you got to weigh into that question. But no,
Speaker 1: I think a bar is a social It's a it's
Speaker 1: a town. It's a public meeting place. It's where people
Speaker 1: go to, you know, to have a drink and to
Speaker 1: talk to other human beings. I think that's what bars
Speaker 1: were designed for. You know. I'm I'm I'm of a
Speaker 1: certain age. I'm forty five, and so the whole thing
Speaker 1: of meeting people online was always in an anthema to me,
Speaker 1: Like I never thought about using the internet to meet anybody.
Speaker 1: So there's a whole generation of people where that's the normal,
Speaker 1: you know, status quote. But it used to be you
Speaker 1: had to go to church, you meet single people at church.
Speaker 1: You went to a bar and you single, you know,
Speaker 1: or you go jogging or any public place. So I
Speaker 1: don't think it's weird at all. Okay, I just didn't
Speaker 1: know if that looks kind of tacky. But you know,
Speaker 1: there's not too many routes unless you're going to go
Speaker 1: on online dating, which I was trying to avoid. So
Speaker 1: I appreciate these. Thank you. I mean, I think if
Speaker 1: you sip, if you sit modestly throughout the course of
Speaker 1: the evening, you know, if you're like ten drinks in,
Speaker 1: it might be a little uh might say something about
Speaker 1: it fair enough? Thank you? Hi, Amy, How are you?
Speaker 1: I'm doing good? How are you doing great? Thank you?
Speaker 1: So what's your question? Okay, So my boyfriend and I
Speaker 1: decided to abstain before marriage, and we've had this agreement
Speaker 1: for about five years. But lately I've had a change
Speaker 1: of heart and I'm just wondering if maybe we need
Speaker 1: to see where a good fit before we get married.
Speaker 1: So I don't know how to bring this up to him. Wow, Okay,
Speaker 1: first off, let's unpack the fact that it's been five years.
Speaker 1: That's a long time. Um, are you guys engaged to
Speaker 1: be married? Are you gonna get married? Are you? Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're engaged. We're waiting, So it's we're not going to
Speaker 1: marry in the next month. You know, we're planning, so right,
Speaker 1: I mean, my first gut instinct is to say, you've
Speaker 1: waited this long? You know, there's something like I think. Okay,
Speaker 1: first off, are you have you abstained? Are both of
Speaker 1: you virgins? Have you both substained your whole lives? Or
Speaker 1: were you guys active prior to dating and then made
Speaker 1: a choice after you started dating to sort of abstain?
Speaker 1: Like where did the choice for purity come in? Um?
Speaker 1: So not in my younger, younger years, but um, we
Speaker 1: both converted and we decided that we were going to abstain. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, I think it's a really interesting conversation. I
Speaker 1: think that if you are, like, for example, if you're
Speaker 1: a Christian and you've made the decision to substain for
Speaker 1: religious purposes. It's because you're in a relationship with God
Speaker 1: inasmuch as you in a relationship with this other person
Speaker 1: and you want God to have you know, you want
Speaker 1: your relationship to you know, you want to have purity
Speaker 1: in that, you want to have favor in that you
Speaker 1: wanted to You want to be doing the things that
Speaker 1: are that are right according to your faith, and so
Speaker 1: that you can do things that are right according to
Speaker 1: the to the faith within that relationship. Um. You know,
Speaker 1: for example, my wife and I waited. She was a
Speaker 1: virgin before we got married. I was not um but
Speaker 1: when I met her, I made the decision to wait
Speaker 1: with her. UM. And in a weird way, like when
Speaker 1: you believe in God and when you like, I imagine,
Speaker 1: did you guys are did you convert to Christianity? Is
Speaker 1: that what you guys converted into? Okay? So, like when
Speaker 1: you believe in the Christian narrative, all of a sudden
Speaker 1: you believe that God really does have a personal interest
Speaker 1: in all aspects of your life, and he cares about
Speaker 1: your your sex, he cares about your health, he cares
Speaker 1: about your relationships. And that's in in a relationship to Him,
Speaker 1: to God, but also to each other scifically when you
Speaker 1: bring Jesus into the conversation and how he loved people
Speaker 1: and how we're supposed to love people like him. So
Speaker 1: I think that I think that since you've waited, and
Speaker 1: since your intentions are to get married, I would just
Speaker 1: keep waiting, even though that's this idea of is he
Speaker 1: going to be a good fit or not, because having
Speaker 1: been somebody who didn't wait, Like I had a girlfriend
Speaker 1: and we weren't awesome on the front end, but you
Speaker 1: learned a kind of you learn to work with each
Speaker 1: other and you know, like chemistry build chemistry, like there
Speaker 1: isn't really a bad fit. And I think and I
Speaker 1: think that's kind of where you know, you you walk
Speaker 1: in faith and you say, you know, Lord of really
Speaker 1: waiting for this person and hopefully your your sex life
Speaker 1: is blessed. And I think that's a part of being
Speaker 1: in a healthy marriage is you know, like figuring out
Speaker 1: what that relationships looks like and and how often do
Speaker 1: you do it? And and there's something about we live
Speaker 1: in a world that's very very um it's not it's
Speaker 1: not that it's confusing. It's confusing if you're a Christian
Speaker 1: because you're looking around the landscape. You're going like wow,
Speaker 1: like everything is wide open, but there's this God put
Speaker 1: stop signs for humans because if you blast through the
Speaker 1: stop signs and you start speeding, you could just get dangerous.
Speaker 1: But it's dangerous for your heart, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: And so I think if you if you slow down
Speaker 1: a little bit and you take it how it was
Speaker 1: meant to be designed, which is it's I believe that
Speaker 1: sex is like a taste of heaven. I believe it's
Speaker 1: like it's intensely pleasurable, and God wanted us to be
Speaker 1: designed that way, you know what I mean, so that
Speaker 1: we can have this incredible experience while we're here on
Speaker 1: earth before we die. And then and then you know,
Speaker 1: if it's between a man and a woman, then you
Speaker 1: get to make a baby hopefully, and you can start
Speaker 1: your family. And there's all sorts of things that come
Speaker 1: out of it. Um when we have sex just out
Speaker 1: of sheer, you know, for sheer pleasure. I think what
Speaker 1: you'll find ultimately, regardless of whether or not you ascribe
Speaker 1: to the Christian narrative, if you're just a person, it's
Speaker 1: like a drug. We burned through that and before you
Speaker 1: know it, you need more and more, and you need different,
Speaker 1: you need and so you kind of like and so
Speaker 1: it does get a little dangerous. And I think that
Speaker 1: you know, I don't know. I mean, that's my personal opinion.
Speaker 1: You called the guy, you called this guy today to
Speaker 1: ask this guy, so how this man thinks. I think
Speaker 1: if you honestly waited five years, I also think you
Speaker 1: should pretty quick. Like I think you guys should go
Speaker 1: ahead and tie the knot thank you, I did not
Speaker 1: wait to get married. But also look at like why
Speaker 1: are you wanting to almost ask yourself the question like
Speaker 1: why are you considering why do you think now after
Speaker 1: five years you want to introduce sexity relationship? And is
Speaker 1: it because you've hit a bump? Is it because you're
Speaker 1: kind of like you're feeling it straight? And then maybe
Speaker 1: that's a question you've got to ask yourself, like is
Speaker 1: he the guy that you're supposed to be with? And
Speaker 1: then what's beautiful about waiting is if he's not, then
Speaker 1: the next person comes in. And if you guys are
Speaker 1: both waited, then you you're still fresh for each other
Speaker 1: and you're still yah. You know mean, I don't know,
Speaker 1: I don't know. Should should I still bring it up?
Speaker 1: To him and say like, hey, I've had these thoughts
Speaker 1: and maybe it's something we need to look into, not
Speaker 1: in terms of us having sex, people getting married, but
Speaker 1: if it's something between us, Yeah, maybe, I mean, I
Speaker 1: think it's I think it's always important to have a
Speaker 1: really open dialogue with your significant other. I think that's
Speaker 1: the best. That's the that's that's you know, a relationship
Speaker 1: is all about conversation. It's about honest conversation and say like,
Speaker 1: you know, I've been having this feeling. But I wonder
Speaker 1: if it's because I'm wanting to like bridge something, or
Speaker 1: I feel a gap and I'm trying to fill this gap,
Speaker 1: or I feel you're slipping away, or I'm a little
Speaker 1: I'm starting to slip away and I need more connected
Speaker 1: to you, And you know, maybe that's where the heart
Speaker 1: of it is. And maybe it's not about you know,
Speaker 1: sex is fun, but it's it's ephemeral. It's quick, and
Speaker 1: it's done, and it's then you're and then you're still
Speaker 1: stuck with whatever, you know what I mean. Yeah, yeah, absolutely, yeah,
Speaker 1: thank you so much. You're welcome, Ami, thanks for calling.
Speaker 1: All right, thank you, Hi, Claire, welcome to the show.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. So did you call with a question?
Speaker 1: I did? All right, what is your question, Clarience, Well,
Speaker 1: my question is I have been married for ten going
Speaker 1: on eleven years. Mary is great, thank you. I know, right,
Speaker 1: I'm pretty I mean, I feel like in today's California
Speaker 1: it's a huge moms to it's a big deal. Yeah. So,
Speaker 1: and we are very happy and we have two amazing kids.
Speaker 1: One is six and one is eight. And I am
Speaker 1: feeling really frustrated right now because I feel, I feel
Speaker 1: and I know, I know it's not just a feeling.
Speaker 1: I know that I am always the disciplinary in My
Speaker 1: husband always resorts to whatever your mom says, go ask
Speaker 1: your mom? Did you talk to your mom? And I
Speaker 1: need him in order for our kids to not see
Speaker 1: us as good ca bad cop. I need him to
Speaker 1: be more firm with the kids. But I don't want
Speaker 1: to make him feel like he's not being a good parent,
Speaker 1: because he is a good parent. So I would love
Speaker 1: some advice on how to have that discussion with him without,
Speaker 1: you know, making it sound like I'm the bad cop
Speaker 1: and he's the good cop every time? Right, Claire, Yes,
Speaker 1: you are your your your desire for for equity regarding
Speaker 1: discipline is justified. Um, what's your husband's name? Is that
Speaker 1: okay to ask him? Yeah, it's Thomas Thomas, so you'd say, hey, Tom,
Speaker 1: Like I think, have you had the conversation with him about, Hey,
Speaker 1: this feels unfair and you make me feel like the
Speaker 1: bad cop and you get to be the good coup
Speaker 1: Have you had that conversation yet? I've teetered around it,
Speaker 1: but the couple of times I've brought it up, I
Speaker 1: feel like he has been Like I think his reaction
Speaker 1: is just, oh, you're overreacting. Oh, like that's not true. Like,
Speaker 1: I think he's kind of in denial. I don't think
Speaker 1: he really realizes that he does it as much as
Speaker 1: he does. It's always go ask your mother, what did
Speaker 1: your mother say? You know, what would your mother think?
Speaker 1: Whatever your mother says? You know, And I don't. I mean,
Speaker 1: I notice it. I think more because it's he's you know,
Speaker 1: it's me. He's deflecting everything onto you. Yeah, okay, So
Speaker 1: my wife does this wonderful thing where she goes on strike.
Speaker 1: She's like, Okay, I'm just not gonna if you don't wanna,
Speaker 1: you know, if you don't value the fact that I
Speaker 1: do laundry, Like here, you do it for a week
Speaker 1: and it really drives home the message pretty quick, or
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, I really do appreciate this, like this
Speaker 1: is kind of amazing, or wow, you are really helpful
Speaker 1: with the kids, or this. So I wonder what would
Speaker 1: happen if you instead of Okay, so the conversation is
Speaker 1: hard to have, and if he's not as receptive the conversation,
Speaker 1: I wonder what would happen if you, for a period
Speaker 1: of time, deliberately made the decision to just deflect all
Speaker 1: of it onto Thomas and be like, whatever your father says,
Speaker 1: you do what your father says, and then all and
Speaker 1: like trump him in being the good cop. Basically, I
Speaker 1: love this idea. Yeah, you know, it's not it's not
Speaker 1: my issue, it's daddy's. Should talk to daddy about it
Speaker 1: and like let him see what happens when you just
Speaker 1: dump everything into his lab. You know, this might actually
Speaker 1: work out well because my mom is coming into town
Speaker 1: next week, so they'll be like two days where I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be doing some things with her, and I think
Speaker 1: I just won't be as available anyway to my kids.
Speaker 1: So if I kind of couple that with you know,
Speaker 1: for a few days kind of I like like this,
Speaker 1: I like this, I like, Hey, Mom's going to be
Speaker 1: in town. I'm gonna be super busy for the next
Speaker 1: few days. I really need you to kind of take
Speaker 1: take over daddy duty with the kids, you know, like
Speaker 1: I need If you really want my opinion on this,
Speaker 1: I think you should frontload it with this decision. So
Speaker 1: like three days before your mom comes into town, I
Speaker 1: would start to strike and then let the let a crescendo.
Speaker 1: So when she's there, you're like, maybe I'm with my mom,
Speaker 1: like I don't know what to do, Like I'm I'm
Speaker 1: got So he's already feeling it by the time your
Speaker 1: mom gets there. Oh my gosh, I love me. Thomas
Speaker 1: is gonna be like you, son of a gun? Why
Speaker 1: do you give her that advice? Here's what I'm gonna
Speaker 1: say to you, the Claire Um. I know that relationships
Speaker 1: are long term investments, and discipline is the most incredible
Speaker 1: way to show love because we don't get to discipline
Speaker 1: everybody in our lives. Like there's only a few people
Speaker 1: that we get to discipline and who will listen to
Speaker 1: us and chart and change the course of their lives.
Speaker 1: And that input you're giving into your kids, Like even
Speaker 1: though it's frustrating and it might feel unfair and I
Speaker 1: might feel like you're always being the bad cop, it's
Speaker 1: gonna bond you guys in a way that And truly
Speaker 1: he's missing out on that experience. And so for him
Speaker 1: as a man, like I wish I could talk to him,
Speaker 1: because there's nothing like a father's love and you have
Speaker 1: to be like a part of that love. The fullness
Speaker 1: of that love is being able to speak into somebody
Speaker 1: else's life and say, listen, for your own good, you
Speaker 1: should stop doing this. But for the respect of the
Speaker 1: relationship with your mother, you need to stop talking to
Speaker 1: her like that. Or you've got to stop eating candy
Speaker 1: because it's gonna hurt your body and your blood sugar
Speaker 1: and you might get diabetes and sick. Like there's there's
Speaker 1: he's missing out on a really essential part of being
Speaker 1: a father. And I, you know, it's crazy you say that,
Speaker 1: because my dad was very much a disciplinarian and I
Speaker 1: hated it when I was younger, and I grew to
Speaker 1: respect him so much, and I have such a close
Speaker 1: relationship with both my parents. But like, but you know,
Speaker 1: if my dad wasn't that way, I don't think I
Speaker 1: would have respected him as much as I do now,
Speaker 1: So that's a really And also talk to him though too,
Speaker 1: because maybe, I mean, maybe he has really awful memories
Speaker 1: of being you know, maybe what you don't know is
Speaker 1: that his dad had a terrible temper or mom, I'm
Speaker 1: at a terrible temper when he was really little, and
Speaker 1: maybe he shell shot that doesn't want to trigger. So
Speaker 1: maybe he you know, he's guarding your kids from a
Speaker 1: terrible temper that we don't know about. Like I'm not
Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not saying that, Thomas. I'm just saying,
Speaker 1: look at it from every angle and say, why aren't
Speaker 1: you doing that? Like why aren't you digging in? Because
Speaker 1: it's it really is a part of parents that you know,
Speaker 1: being a disciplinarian is a part of the job. And
Speaker 1: it's it really is, like you know, like I can't imagine,
Speaker 1: not like I just I like being able to say
Speaker 1: hey guys and having my kids listen to me because
Speaker 1: they're not my wife, you know, yeah, not afraid of respect? Right.
Speaker 1: Should I talk to him before the strike, like try
Speaker 1: to talk to him and then like pitch the strike
Speaker 1: idea or say hey, listen, this is this is what
Speaker 1: I think I really want to do. I think it's
Speaker 1: going to help us. This is what's up, and kind
Speaker 1: of do the strike and then after my mom leaves
Speaker 1: kind of reconvenient, you know, like how is the last week,
Speaker 1: how are the kids, how are you feeling? I kind
Speaker 1: of like the strike idea. First it gets a sense
Speaker 1: of what you really understanding, what you go through, and
Speaker 1: like what you're dealing with. And then just talk to
Speaker 1: him and say, can we unpack this together? Like what
Speaker 1: are you afraid of? Why don't you like to you know?
Speaker 1: Is it reflective of your childhood? Is it like? And
Speaker 1: then say you know you're missing out on because it
Speaker 1: really does. I think like there is something special about
Speaker 1: being able to speak into somebody's life and correct in
Speaker 1: the right way, you know, like it's it's a part
Speaker 1: of it. Absolutely, this is great. I'm actually kind of
Speaker 1: excited to almost do this experiment and kind of see
Speaker 1: what happens. I do think when you don't have something,
Speaker 1: you do learn how much you appreciate it. So I
Speaker 1: think him not having me as the scapegoat for the week,
Speaker 1: and I didn't mention, but we have two boys, so
Speaker 1: I do think it's just so important for him to
Speaker 1: be present in their lives as the disciplinarian. So I'm
Speaker 1: all for this. I'll have to I feel like I
Speaker 1: need to report back and let you know how I
Speaker 1: was going to stay clear. I gotta find out some
Speaker 1: some way. Well, we'll figure out. I want to hear
Speaker 1: how it goes. We'll connect again. Thank you so much.
Speaker 1: All right, clear booby you guys. This has been Christopher
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