1 00:00:00,880 --> 00:00:03,960 Speaker 1: We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This 2 00:00:04,519 --> 00:00:08,959 Speaker 1: is How Men Thick and I Heard radio podcast. Hi everyone, 3 00:00:09,119 --> 00:00:11,920 Speaker 1: I'm Christopher Palaha. You may know me from Lifetime, is 4 00:00:11,920 --> 00:00:15,480 Speaker 1: Buried in Barstow, or Hallmark Christmas Movies, Life, Unexpected, Ringer, 5 00:00:15,520 --> 00:00:19,599 Speaker 1: North Shore, Wonder Woman, The Upcoming Draftic World Dominion, and 6 00:00:19,640 --> 00:00:21,960 Speaker 1: I am so happy to be guest hosting How Men 7 00:00:22,120 --> 00:00:24,520 Speaker 1: Think and answer all your questions and trying to help 8 00:00:24,520 --> 00:00:28,240 Speaker 1: you understand how men think. But first, this is eleven 9 00:00:28,320 --> 00:00:34,080 Speaker 1: Questions with Christopher Palaha. Let's get into it. One. What 10 00:00:34,159 --> 00:00:37,839 Speaker 1: are you known for? Tell us about yourself. Um, I 11 00:00:37,880 --> 00:00:41,640 Speaker 1: think I'm known for I'm obviously I'm an actor, so 12 00:00:41,680 --> 00:00:43,120 Speaker 1: I think I'm known for being an actor. But I 13 00:00:43,159 --> 00:00:45,639 Speaker 1: think more than that, I'm known for being a kind 14 00:00:45,680 --> 00:00:49,559 Speaker 1: of a family man. I'm married. My wife and I 15 00:00:49,680 --> 00:00:53,920 Speaker 1: have been married for nineteen years. Going. Uh, actually we're 16 00:00:54,040 --> 00:00:58,840 Speaker 1: celebrating our nineteenth anniversary this week, and we have three beautiful, 17 00:00:58,880 --> 00:01:03,760 Speaker 1: healthy boys who are now men basically. Um. But but 18 00:01:03,880 --> 00:01:06,640 Speaker 1: aside from that producing a family, I've been I've been 19 00:01:06,680 --> 00:01:09,319 Speaker 1: making TV shows and movies for the past twenty one years. 20 00:01:09,319 --> 00:01:11,720 Speaker 1: I just got into directing so I can call myself 21 00:01:11,760 --> 00:01:14,840 Speaker 1: a filmmaker. So that's kind of a bit about myself. 22 00:01:15,760 --> 00:01:21,759 Speaker 1: Um So who are you in your personal life? Um? 23 00:01:21,880 --> 00:01:25,520 Speaker 1: Who I am in my personal life is very similar 24 00:01:25,520 --> 00:01:31,640 Speaker 1: to who I am in my public life. Um. I 25 00:01:31,680 --> 00:01:36,319 Speaker 1: am pretty patient person. I would have to call myself 26 00:01:36,319 --> 00:01:40,839 Speaker 1: a kind person. I'm a person who's pretty slow to anger. 27 00:01:40,920 --> 00:01:46,120 Speaker 1: I don't really lose my cool. Um, I do have 28 00:01:46,160 --> 00:01:48,840 Speaker 1: different hats that I have to wear. Like as an actor, 29 00:01:49,320 --> 00:01:53,960 Speaker 1: I I live in a world where, uh, I am 30 00:01:54,000 --> 00:01:56,480 Speaker 1: a celebrity to some people, and I get, you know, 31 00:01:56,560 --> 00:02:01,200 Speaker 1: lifted up into the stratosphere of social sort of significance 32 00:02:01,240 --> 00:02:04,480 Speaker 1: that that my job affords me, but that I don't 33 00:02:04,560 --> 00:02:07,680 Speaker 1: do anything about personally. So I think in the sense 34 00:02:07,720 --> 00:02:11,240 Speaker 1: that there's an exterior you know, sort of in the 35 00:02:11,280 --> 00:02:13,880 Speaker 1: market place life where I'm in the public space and 36 00:02:13,919 --> 00:02:16,600 Speaker 1: I'm moving about and then I get to just lose 37 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:19,720 Speaker 1: all that energy when I'm home with my wife and kids. 38 00:02:20,840 --> 00:02:24,480 Speaker 1: Um So there's a bit of a dichotomy. There three 39 00:02:24,520 --> 00:02:28,160 Speaker 1: shows that I'm currently binge watching. All right, my wife 40 00:02:28,160 --> 00:02:29,799 Speaker 1: and I like to at the end of the day, 41 00:02:30,040 --> 00:02:32,480 Speaker 1: kids are in bed, homework has done, all the house 42 00:02:32,560 --> 00:02:34,880 Speaker 1: chores are finished. We get to we get about an 43 00:02:34,919 --> 00:02:38,400 Speaker 1: hour and a half every night. UM, on a really 44 00:02:38,440 --> 00:02:41,440 Speaker 1: good day for her, I will rub her feet and 45 00:02:41,480 --> 00:02:45,760 Speaker 1: we will watch shows. We've Bnged Dope Sick, which is 46 00:02:45,800 --> 00:02:50,919 Speaker 1: incredible starring Michael Keaton, We Crashed and Half Away and 47 00:02:51,040 --> 00:02:56,400 Speaker 1: Jared Leto and Drop Out with Amanda Secrety. Those are 48 00:02:56,440 --> 00:02:58,400 Speaker 1: things that Those are literally the last three shows that 49 00:02:58,400 --> 00:03:02,960 Speaker 1: we've just been watched. UM alright, Question number four, what 50 00:03:03,160 --> 00:03:07,880 Speaker 1: is my favorite food? You know what, I used to 51 00:03:07,919 --> 00:03:10,079 Speaker 1: be fancy about my favorite foods, but I gotta be 52 00:03:10,160 --> 00:03:12,040 Speaker 1: honest with you. My favorite food is a good old 53 00:03:12,040 --> 00:03:16,760 Speaker 1: fashioned cheeseburger. I like cheeseburger from shake Shack. I like 54 00:03:16,840 --> 00:03:20,399 Speaker 1: the cheeseburger from a place called Laurel tavern in the valley. 55 00:03:20,480 --> 00:03:22,960 Speaker 1: And I was just in France and I asked for 56 00:03:23,000 --> 00:03:25,040 Speaker 1: cheeseburgers and people made fun of me, and it was 57 00:03:25,080 --> 00:03:27,920 Speaker 1: the They were the best cheeseburgers I've ever had in 58 00:03:27,919 --> 00:03:30,120 Speaker 1: my life. Like the meat was so tasty and good. 59 00:03:30,120 --> 00:03:34,359 Speaker 1: And so I think cheeseburgers to safe bet. Anywhere you go, 60 00:03:34,480 --> 00:03:38,640 Speaker 1: you get a good one. Number five, tell us about 61 00:03:38,800 --> 00:03:44,640 Speaker 1: your career. When my career is been really blessed and good. 62 00:03:44,680 --> 00:03:48,240 Speaker 1: I've had twenty one years of affording my life by 63 00:03:48,320 --> 00:03:51,760 Speaker 1: only acting. I've only ever been an actor. I've never 64 00:03:51,800 --> 00:03:54,880 Speaker 1: had to do other jobs to make it, so in 65 00:03:54,920 --> 00:03:57,440 Speaker 1: that way, it's been really blessed. And I've also been 66 00:03:57,480 --> 00:03:59,720 Speaker 1: the kind of actor where I can go to the 67 00:03:59,720 --> 00:04:03,440 Speaker 1: growth True store and shop with my kids and not 68 00:04:03,800 --> 00:04:07,440 Speaker 1: be bombarded. I've been with some people who, Um, I 69 00:04:07,480 --> 00:04:11,400 Speaker 1: worked with a guy who was really famous, and everywhere 70 00:04:11,440 --> 00:04:14,240 Speaker 1: we went, i mean we're talking like the hot We're 71 00:04:14,240 --> 00:04:20,040 Speaker 1: talking the you know, anywhere we went, like anywhere everywhere, 72 00:04:20,480 --> 00:04:22,599 Speaker 1: people were like, Hey, you're so and so from that 73 00:04:22,640 --> 00:04:24,640 Speaker 1: so and so thing. And I asked him when I 74 00:04:24,720 --> 00:04:26,240 Speaker 1: was like, how does that feel like when you're with 75 00:04:26,279 --> 00:04:29,040 Speaker 1: your family? And he's like, oh, it's crazy, man. He's like, 76 00:04:29,080 --> 00:04:32,200 Speaker 1: I'm always kind of having the And I've watched intense 77 00:04:32,240 --> 00:04:37,040 Speaker 1: scrutiny that that fame brings, and um, I've been saved 78 00:04:37,080 --> 00:04:39,000 Speaker 1: from that at least all my kids have been young. 79 00:04:39,160 --> 00:04:41,120 Speaker 1: And so I've had this really cool thing where I've 80 00:04:41,120 --> 00:04:43,799 Speaker 1: been able to be a father, able to be a husband, 81 00:04:43,960 --> 00:04:46,320 Speaker 1: able to be a provider, and still have probably one 82 00:04:46,360 --> 00:04:48,360 Speaker 1: of the best jobs in the world, which is, you know, 83 00:04:48,440 --> 00:04:51,400 Speaker 1: pretending to be other people and entertaining people and getting 84 00:04:51,400 --> 00:04:54,719 Speaker 1: to make people laugh and cry. My career has included 85 00:04:54,720 --> 00:04:57,680 Speaker 1: television and film, and recently, UM, I got into co 86 00:04:57,800 --> 00:05:01,360 Speaker 1: writing a romance series called Moments Like It's called from 87 00:05:01,400 --> 00:05:06,000 Speaker 1: ConA with Love. But um their books and the first 88 00:05:06,000 --> 00:05:08,200 Speaker 1: one which has been published and is out and available 89 00:05:08,279 --> 00:05:11,680 Speaker 1: right now, it's called Moments Like This. And the second 90 00:05:11,680 --> 00:05:14,400 Speaker 1: book will be available at Barnes and Nobles and everywhere 91 00:05:14,440 --> 00:05:18,919 Speaker 1: the books are sold October eleventh. That's called Where's Roses? 92 00:05:19,680 --> 00:05:21,360 Speaker 1: And we're gonna write three more in the series, so 93 00:05:21,360 --> 00:05:24,120 Speaker 1: it'll be a total of five books. And these are romance. 94 00:05:24,160 --> 00:05:26,680 Speaker 1: This is the romance. There's a family saga that all 95 00:05:26,760 --> 00:05:29,120 Speaker 1: takes place on the Hawaiian Islands, so each book is 96 00:05:29,120 --> 00:05:32,000 Speaker 1: a different island. And we're turning the first book into 97 00:05:32,040 --> 00:05:36,560 Speaker 1: a movie. Um yeah, And I just recently got into directing. 98 00:05:36,680 --> 00:05:38,800 Speaker 1: I did a short film called The Work of Art 99 00:05:38,839 --> 00:05:42,240 Speaker 1: that was just screened to canned film festivals. So exciting, 100 00:05:42,320 --> 00:05:47,599 Speaker 1: fun stuff. Um. Number six, what is my biggest fear 101 00:05:47,880 --> 00:05:58,360 Speaker 1: in life? Oh? What is my biggest fear? Man? It's 102 00:05:58,400 --> 00:06:03,279 Speaker 1: not it's losing people. It's it's the death of people 103 00:06:03,320 --> 00:06:06,800 Speaker 1: that I love. That's my biggest fear. And I think 104 00:06:06,800 --> 00:06:10,839 Speaker 1: the best way to describe that fear for you is that, Um, 105 00:06:10,920 --> 00:06:14,920 Speaker 1: when I was a boy, I would weep hot tears 106 00:06:14,960 --> 00:06:18,520 Speaker 1: every time my mom or my dad left, whether they 107 00:06:18,560 --> 00:06:22,680 Speaker 1: dropped me off at Little League or they bringing home 108 00:06:22,720 --> 00:06:24,280 Speaker 1: from school and they had to run an errand real quick, 109 00:06:24,320 --> 00:06:27,600 Speaker 1: I would start to cry because I was terrified and 110 00:06:27,640 --> 00:06:29,760 Speaker 1: convinced that they were going to die in a terrible 111 00:06:29,800 --> 00:06:32,120 Speaker 1: carrect and then that was it. And the only way 112 00:06:32,120 --> 00:06:34,320 Speaker 1: that I was able to overcome that was to say, like, 113 00:06:34,800 --> 00:06:38,280 Speaker 1: in my mind, visualize, well what next. Okay, so they 114 00:06:38,320 --> 00:06:40,240 Speaker 1: die and then what happens, and then what happens, and 115 00:06:40,279 --> 00:06:42,920 Speaker 1: then what happens, and see their death all the way 116 00:06:42,920 --> 00:06:48,120 Speaker 1: through um to the end. And I think that would 117 00:06:48,120 --> 00:06:49,960 Speaker 1: be I think my biggest fear. And then the problem 118 00:06:50,040 --> 00:06:52,560 Speaker 1: with that fear is, unlike the fear of spiders or 119 00:06:52,600 --> 00:06:56,599 Speaker 1: heights or sharks or inevitably, it's going to come to 120 00:06:56,640 --> 00:06:59,800 Speaker 1: pass for me on every level. So that's I think 121 00:06:59,839 --> 00:07:04,080 Speaker 1: it's a it's a constant awareness of that. Um. Okay, 122 00:07:04,200 --> 00:07:05,880 Speaker 1: number seven, what is my biggest pet peve? My biggest 123 00:07:05,880 --> 00:07:08,640 Speaker 1: pet peeves probably rude people market, you know, like at 124 00:07:08,640 --> 00:07:10,840 Speaker 1: the grocery store people who cut you off in traffic. 125 00:07:11,440 --> 00:07:14,880 Speaker 1: We take some minutes to recalibrate and not get angry. Um. 126 00:07:14,880 --> 00:07:17,520 Speaker 1: What makes me most happy? My wife and my kids 127 00:07:17,600 --> 00:07:20,560 Speaker 1: make me most happy just being able to hear them laugh, 128 00:07:20,640 --> 00:07:24,240 Speaker 1: be around them. You know that's always the best any 129 00:07:24,320 --> 00:07:28,160 Speaker 1: time with them. What is your idea Saturday morning? Well 130 00:07:28,520 --> 00:07:31,760 Speaker 1: goes back to number eight. Most happy? Uh, my wife 131 00:07:31,760 --> 00:07:33,840 Speaker 1: and I'll be sleeping and our kids will just dogpile 132 00:07:33,960 --> 00:07:36,040 Speaker 1: us and we'll all just be laying in bed in 133 00:07:36,080 --> 00:07:38,680 Speaker 1: that moment where there's nothing to do and you don't 134 00:07:38,680 --> 00:07:40,600 Speaker 1: have to get up. There's no there's no school to 135 00:07:40,680 --> 00:07:43,160 Speaker 1: drive anyone to, no work to do, and it's like 136 00:07:43,160 --> 00:07:47,360 Speaker 1: a perfect Saturday morning. Number ten, Are you more of 137 00:07:47,440 --> 00:07:52,000 Speaker 1: the athlete for the armchair quarterback? I'm like more of 138 00:07:52,040 --> 00:07:54,480 Speaker 1: the athlete. I like to run a lot. I'm very active. 139 00:07:54,600 --> 00:07:58,120 Speaker 1: I ski. Um Like every time I go to a 140 00:07:58,160 --> 00:07:59,960 Speaker 1: new city, the best way around it is to job 141 00:08:00,040 --> 00:08:03,320 Speaker 1: early in the morning. Um. So I think the athlete 142 00:08:03,840 --> 00:08:08,880 Speaker 1: And then what keeps you elevated? Um? I have a 143 00:08:08,880 --> 00:08:11,320 Speaker 1: lot of goals that I've set for myself, and I 144 00:08:11,360 --> 00:08:15,240 Speaker 1: feel like until I can meet those, uh, that keeps 145 00:08:15,240 --> 00:08:18,000 Speaker 1: me motivated. There's stories that I want to tell. There 146 00:08:18,000 --> 00:08:21,000 Speaker 1: are things I want to accomplish as an artist. Um, 147 00:08:21,160 --> 00:08:24,360 Speaker 1: there are things I want to accomplish, you know, financially, 148 00:08:24,520 --> 00:08:27,040 Speaker 1: and I want to see my kids, you know, go 149 00:08:27,160 --> 00:08:28,680 Speaker 1: up and grow up and do well. And so those 150 00:08:28,680 --> 00:08:42,160 Speaker 1: things keep me motivated. Hi, Eli, Hi, how are you? 151 00:08:42,800 --> 00:08:45,960 Speaker 1: I'm great? How are you doing the day? Very well? 152 00:08:45,960 --> 00:08:48,439 Speaker 1: Thank you good. Do you have a question about how 153 00:08:48,440 --> 00:08:51,360 Speaker 1: men think? Well, I'm single, I'm trying to get out 154 00:08:51,400 --> 00:08:54,320 Speaker 1: there in real life and rather than relate relying on 155 00:08:54,440 --> 00:08:57,160 Speaker 1: dating apps. Do you think it's strange to me a 156 00:08:57,200 --> 00:09:02,640 Speaker 1: girl out a loan or a bar? I mean, I 157 00:09:02,679 --> 00:09:05,439 Speaker 1: think it depends on the bar. I think it depends 158 00:09:05,480 --> 00:09:07,600 Speaker 1: on the night. I think it depends on the time 159 00:09:07,600 --> 00:09:12,040 Speaker 1: and night. Um. I think there's a lot of you know, 160 00:09:12,080 --> 00:09:14,080 Speaker 1: things you got to weigh into that question. But no, 161 00:09:14,280 --> 00:09:16,160 Speaker 1: I think a bar is a social It's a it's 162 00:09:16,200 --> 00:09:18,520 Speaker 1: a town. It's a public meeting place. It's where people 163 00:09:18,559 --> 00:09:21,360 Speaker 1: go to, you know, to have a drink and to 164 00:09:21,400 --> 00:09:24,439 Speaker 1: talk to other human beings. I think that's what bars 165 00:09:24,440 --> 00:09:27,280 Speaker 1: were designed for. You know. I'm I'm I'm of a 166 00:09:27,280 --> 00:09:30,160 Speaker 1: certain age. I'm forty five, and so the whole thing 167 00:09:30,160 --> 00:09:32,920 Speaker 1: of meeting people online was always in an anthema to me, 168 00:09:33,120 --> 00:09:35,960 Speaker 1: Like I never thought about using the internet to meet anybody. 169 00:09:35,960 --> 00:09:38,160 Speaker 1: So there's a whole generation of people where that's the normal, 170 00:09:38,880 --> 00:09:40,920 Speaker 1: you know, status quote. But it used to be you 171 00:09:40,960 --> 00:09:43,240 Speaker 1: had to go to church, you meet single people at church. 172 00:09:43,480 --> 00:09:45,120 Speaker 1: You went to a bar and you single, you know, 173 00:09:45,240 --> 00:09:48,160 Speaker 1: or you go jogging or any public place. So I 174 00:09:48,200 --> 00:09:52,839 Speaker 1: don't think it's weird at all. Okay, I just didn't 175 00:09:52,840 --> 00:09:55,080 Speaker 1: know if that looks kind of tacky. But you know, 176 00:09:55,120 --> 00:09:57,120 Speaker 1: there's not too many routes unless you're going to go 177 00:09:57,160 --> 00:09:59,160 Speaker 1: on online dating, which I was trying to avoid. So 178 00:10:00,080 --> 00:10:03,400 Speaker 1: I appreciate these. Thank you. I mean, I think if 179 00:10:03,400 --> 00:10:05,839 Speaker 1: you sip, if you sit modestly throughout the course of 180 00:10:05,880 --> 00:10:07,520 Speaker 1: the evening, you know, if you're like ten drinks in, 181 00:10:07,760 --> 00:10:10,400 Speaker 1: it might be a little uh might say something about 182 00:10:10,400 --> 00:10:16,240 Speaker 1: it fair enough? Thank you? Hi, Amy, How are you? 183 00:10:17,240 --> 00:10:19,880 Speaker 1: I'm doing good? How are you doing great? Thank you? 184 00:10:20,600 --> 00:10:25,840 Speaker 1: So what's your question? Okay, So my boyfriend and I 185 00:10:25,920 --> 00:10:31,960 Speaker 1: decided to abstain before marriage, and we've had this agreement 186 00:10:31,960 --> 00:10:36,800 Speaker 1: for about five years. But lately I've had a change 187 00:10:36,840 --> 00:10:41,520 Speaker 1: of heart and I'm just wondering if maybe we need 188 00:10:41,559 --> 00:10:43,959 Speaker 1: to see where a good fit before we get married. 189 00:10:44,960 --> 00:10:49,880 Speaker 1: So I don't know how to bring this up to him. Wow, Okay, 190 00:10:50,240 --> 00:10:53,040 Speaker 1: first off, let's unpack the fact that it's been five years. 191 00:10:53,120 --> 00:10:56,480 Speaker 1: That's a long time. Um, are you guys engaged to 192 00:10:56,559 --> 00:10:59,920 Speaker 1: be married? Are you gonna get married? Are you? Yeah, 193 00:11:00,120 --> 00:11:04,719 Speaker 1: we're engaged. We're waiting, So it's we're not going to 194 00:11:04,800 --> 00:11:08,360 Speaker 1: marry in the next month. You know, we're planning, so right, 195 00:11:08,760 --> 00:11:11,600 Speaker 1: I mean, my first gut instinct is to say, you've 196 00:11:11,640 --> 00:11:16,400 Speaker 1: waited this long? You know, there's something like I think. Okay, 197 00:11:16,480 --> 00:11:19,200 Speaker 1: first off, are you have you abstained? Are both of 198 00:11:19,200 --> 00:11:21,920 Speaker 1: you virgins? Have you both substained your whole lives? Or 199 00:11:21,960 --> 00:11:24,480 Speaker 1: were you guys active prior to dating and then made 200 00:11:24,480 --> 00:11:27,760 Speaker 1: a choice after you started dating to sort of abstain? 201 00:11:27,840 --> 00:11:32,840 Speaker 1: Like where did the choice for purity come in? Um? 202 00:11:33,040 --> 00:11:39,960 Speaker 1: So not in my younger, younger years, but um, we 203 00:11:40,120 --> 00:11:45,240 Speaker 1: both converted and we decided that we were going to abstain. Yeah, 204 00:11:45,440 --> 00:11:48,200 Speaker 1: I mean, I think it's a really interesting conversation. I 205 00:11:48,240 --> 00:11:51,079 Speaker 1: think that if you are, like, for example, if you're 206 00:11:51,080 --> 00:11:54,040 Speaker 1: a Christian and you've made the decision to substain for 207 00:11:54,240 --> 00:11:57,959 Speaker 1: religious purposes. It's because you're in a relationship with God 208 00:11:58,080 --> 00:12:00,440 Speaker 1: inasmuch as you in a relationship with this other person 209 00:12:01,160 --> 00:12:03,920 Speaker 1: and you want God to have you know, you want 210 00:12:03,960 --> 00:12:07,800 Speaker 1: your relationship to you know, you want to have purity 211 00:12:07,800 --> 00:12:09,120 Speaker 1: in that, you want to have favor in that you 212 00:12:09,120 --> 00:12:10,960 Speaker 1: wanted to You want to be doing the things that 213 00:12:10,960 --> 00:12:14,320 Speaker 1: are that are right according to your faith, and so 214 00:12:14,360 --> 00:12:16,280 Speaker 1: that you can do things that are right according to 215 00:12:16,440 --> 00:12:19,680 Speaker 1: the to the faith within that relationship. Um. You know, 216 00:12:19,760 --> 00:12:22,200 Speaker 1: for example, my wife and I waited. She was a 217 00:12:22,280 --> 00:12:25,600 Speaker 1: virgin before we got married. I was not um but 218 00:12:25,640 --> 00:12:28,000 Speaker 1: when I met her, I made the decision to wait 219 00:12:28,120 --> 00:12:32,120 Speaker 1: with her. UM. And in a weird way, like when 220 00:12:32,160 --> 00:12:35,680 Speaker 1: you believe in God and when you like, I imagine, 221 00:12:35,720 --> 00:12:38,080 Speaker 1: did you guys are did you convert to Christianity? Is 222 00:12:38,080 --> 00:12:41,400 Speaker 1: that what you guys converted into? Okay? So, like when 223 00:12:41,400 --> 00:12:43,880 Speaker 1: you believe in the Christian narrative, all of a sudden 224 00:12:43,920 --> 00:12:46,840 Speaker 1: you believe that God really does have a personal interest 225 00:12:47,080 --> 00:12:50,319 Speaker 1: in all aspects of your life, and he cares about 226 00:12:50,360 --> 00:12:53,040 Speaker 1: your your sex, he cares about your health, he cares 227 00:12:53,040 --> 00:12:57,280 Speaker 1: about your relationships. And that's in in a relationship to Him, 228 00:12:57,320 --> 00:13:00,800 Speaker 1: to God, but also to each other scifically when you 229 00:13:00,840 --> 00:13:03,360 Speaker 1: bring Jesus into the conversation and how he loved people 230 00:13:03,400 --> 00:13:06,120 Speaker 1: and how we're supposed to love people like him. So 231 00:13:06,240 --> 00:13:10,680 Speaker 1: I think that I think that since you've waited, and 232 00:13:10,720 --> 00:13:14,520 Speaker 1: since your intentions are to get married, I would just 233 00:13:14,600 --> 00:13:18,679 Speaker 1: keep waiting, even though that's this idea of is he 234 00:13:18,760 --> 00:13:21,920 Speaker 1: going to be a good fit or not, because having 235 00:13:21,960 --> 00:13:24,440 Speaker 1: been somebody who didn't wait, Like I had a girlfriend 236 00:13:24,440 --> 00:13:26,000 Speaker 1: and we weren't awesome on the front end, but you 237 00:13:26,160 --> 00:13:28,680 Speaker 1: learned a kind of you learn to work with each 238 00:13:28,720 --> 00:13:32,600 Speaker 1: other and you know, like chemistry build chemistry, like there 239 00:13:32,640 --> 00:13:35,160 Speaker 1: isn't really a bad fit. And I think and I 240 00:13:35,200 --> 00:13:37,480 Speaker 1: think that's kind of where you know, you you walk 241 00:13:37,520 --> 00:13:39,840 Speaker 1: in faith and you say, you know, Lord of really 242 00:13:39,840 --> 00:13:42,640 Speaker 1: waiting for this person and hopefully your your sex life 243 00:13:42,679 --> 00:13:45,199 Speaker 1: is blessed. And I think that's a part of being 244 00:13:45,240 --> 00:13:48,160 Speaker 1: in a healthy marriage is you know, like figuring out 245 00:13:48,200 --> 00:13:51,040 Speaker 1: what that relationships looks like and and how often do 246 00:13:51,080 --> 00:13:53,959 Speaker 1: you do it? And and there's something about we live 247 00:13:53,960 --> 00:13:58,880 Speaker 1: in a world that's very very um it's not it's 248 00:13:58,880 --> 00:14:02,280 Speaker 1: not that it's confusing. It's confusing if you're a Christian 249 00:14:02,320 --> 00:14:04,400 Speaker 1: because you're looking around the landscape. You're going like wow, 250 00:14:04,679 --> 00:14:07,720 Speaker 1: like everything is wide open, but there's this God put 251 00:14:08,120 --> 00:14:11,240 Speaker 1: stop signs for humans because if you blast through the 252 00:14:11,280 --> 00:14:14,000 Speaker 1: stop signs and you start speeding, you could just get dangerous. 253 00:14:14,280 --> 00:14:16,360 Speaker 1: But it's dangerous for your heart, you know what I mean. 254 00:14:17,000 --> 00:14:19,320 Speaker 1: And so I think if you if you slow down 255 00:14:19,320 --> 00:14:22,040 Speaker 1: a little bit and you take it how it was 256 00:14:22,080 --> 00:14:24,880 Speaker 1: meant to be designed, which is it's I believe that 257 00:14:24,960 --> 00:14:26,960 Speaker 1: sex is like a taste of heaven. I believe it's 258 00:14:27,000 --> 00:14:30,360 Speaker 1: like it's intensely pleasurable, and God wanted us to be 259 00:14:30,440 --> 00:14:32,760 Speaker 1: designed that way, you know what I mean, so that 260 00:14:32,800 --> 00:14:35,120 Speaker 1: we can have this incredible experience while we're here on 261 00:14:35,120 --> 00:14:38,240 Speaker 1: earth before we die. And then and then you know, 262 00:14:38,360 --> 00:14:39,760 Speaker 1: if it's between a man and a woman, then you 263 00:14:39,800 --> 00:14:42,200 Speaker 1: get to make a baby hopefully, and you can start 264 00:14:42,240 --> 00:14:44,240 Speaker 1: your family. And there's all sorts of things that come 265 00:14:44,240 --> 00:14:48,800 Speaker 1: out of it. Um when we have sex just out 266 00:14:48,800 --> 00:14:52,480 Speaker 1: of sheer, you know, for sheer pleasure. I think what 267 00:14:52,520 --> 00:14:56,240 Speaker 1: you'll find ultimately, regardless of whether or not you ascribe 268 00:14:56,240 --> 00:14:59,240 Speaker 1: to the Christian narrative, if you're just a person, it's 269 00:14:59,240 --> 00:15:01,880 Speaker 1: like a drug. We burned through that and before you 270 00:15:01,920 --> 00:15:04,320 Speaker 1: know it, you need more and more, and you need different, 271 00:15:04,520 --> 00:15:06,280 Speaker 1: you need and so you kind of like and so 272 00:15:06,320 --> 00:15:08,560 Speaker 1: it does get a little dangerous. And I think that 273 00:15:09,360 --> 00:15:11,880 Speaker 1: you know, I don't know. I mean, that's my personal opinion. 274 00:15:12,120 --> 00:15:14,560 Speaker 1: You called the guy, you called this guy today to 275 00:15:14,640 --> 00:15:18,160 Speaker 1: ask this guy, so how this man thinks. I think 276 00:15:18,240 --> 00:15:20,480 Speaker 1: if you honestly waited five years, I also think you 277 00:15:20,520 --> 00:15:22,720 Speaker 1: should pretty quick. Like I think you guys should go 278 00:15:22,760 --> 00:15:27,720 Speaker 1: ahead and tie the knot thank you, I did not 279 00:15:27,800 --> 00:15:30,960 Speaker 1: wait to get married. But also look at like why 280 00:15:31,000 --> 00:15:33,880 Speaker 1: are you wanting to almost ask yourself the question like 281 00:15:34,000 --> 00:15:37,480 Speaker 1: why are you considering why do you think now after 282 00:15:37,560 --> 00:15:40,120 Speaker 1: five years you want to introduce sexity relationship? And is 283 00:15:40,120 --> 00:15:43,240 Speaker 1: it because you've hit a bump? Is it because you're 284 00:15:43,280 --> 00:15:45,760 Speaker 1: kind of like you're feeling it straight? And then maybe 285 00:15:45,800 --> 00:15:47,920 Speaker 1: that's a question you've got to ask yourself, like is 286 00:15:47,960 --> 00:15:49,800 Speaker 1: he the guy that you're supposed to be with? And 287 00:15:49,800 --> 00:15:53,640 Speaker 1: then what's beautiful about waiting is if he's not, then 288 00:15:53,680 --> 00:15:56,120 Speaker 1: the next person comes in. And if you guys are 289 00:15:56,200 --> 00:15:58,240 Speaker 1: both waited, then you you're still fresh for each other 290 00:15:58,240 --> 00:16:00,800 Speaker 1: and you're still yah. You know mean, I don't know, 291 00:16:01,120 --> 00:16:03,600 Speaker 1: I don't know. Should should I still bring it up? 292 00:16:03,640 --> 00:16:06,000 Speaker 1: To him and say like, hey, I've had these thoughts 293 00:16:06,200 --> 00:16:08,480 Speaker 1: and maybe it's something we need to look into, not 294 00:16:08,600 --> 00:16:10,960 Speaker 1: in terms of us having sex, people getting married, but 295 00:16:11,360 --> 00:16:14,720 Speaker 1: if it's something between us, Yeah, maybe, I mean, I 296 00:16:14,800 --> 00:16:17,480 Speaker 1: think it's I think it's always important to have a 297 00:16:17,520 --> 00:16:21,200 Speaker 1: really open dialogue with your significant other. I think that's 298 00:16:21,200 --> 00:16:26,000 Speaker 1: the best. That's the that's that's you know, a relationship 299 00:16:26,080 --> 00:16:29,440 Speaker 1: is all about conversation. It's about honest conversation and say like, 300 00:16:29,840 --> 00:16:31,640 Speaker 1: you know, I've been having this feeling. But I wonder 301 00:16:31,680 --> 00:16:34,760 Speaker 1: if it's because I'm wanting to like bridge something, or 302 00:16:34,800 --> 00:16:37,480 Speaker 1: I feel a gap and I'm trying to fill this gap, 303 00:16:37,600 --> 00:16:40,040 Speaker 1: or I feel you're slipping away, or I'm a little 304 00:16:40,600 --> 00:16:43,200 Speaker 1: I'm starting to slip away and I need more connected 305 00:16:43,200 --> 00:16:45,800 Speaker 1: to you, And you know, maybe that's where the heart 306 00:16:45,800 --> 00:16:48,040 Speaker 1: of it is. And maybe it's not about you know, 307 00:16:48,080 --> 00:16:50,800 Speaker 1: sex is fun, but it's it's ephemeral. It's quick, and 308 00:16:50,800 --> 00:16:52,520 Speaker 1: it's done, and it's then you're and then you're still 309 00:16:52,560 --> 00:16:56,640 Speaker 1: stuck with whatever, you know what I mean. Yeah, yeah, absolutely, yeah, 310 00:16:56,920 --> 00:16:59,880 Speaker 1: thank you so much. You're welcome, Ami, thanks for calling. 311 00:17:00,560 --> 00:17:05,200 Speaker 1: All right, thank you, Hi, Claire, welcome to the show. 312 00:17:05,800 --> 00:17:09,160 Speaker 1: Thank you so much. So did you call with a question? 313 00:17:10,000 --> 00:17:13,840 Speaker 1: I did? All right, what is your question, Clarience, Well, 314 00:17:13,880 --> 00:17:17,560 Speaker 1: my question is I have been married for ten going 315 00:17:17,640 --> 00:17:21,760 Speaker 1: on eleven years. Mary is great, thank you. I know, right, 316 00:17:21,760 --> 00:17:25,480 Speaker 1: I'm pretty I mean, I feel like in today's California 317 00:17:25,480 --> 00:17:28,320 Speaker 1: it's a huge moms to it's a big deal. Yeah. So, 318 00:17:28,440 --> 00:17:31,639 Speaker 1: and we are very happy and we have two amazing kids. 319 00:17:31,720 --> 00:17:35,720 Speaker 1: One is six and one is eight. And I am 320 00:17:35,800 --> 00:17:39,800 Speaker 1: feeling really frustrated right now because I feel, I feel 321 00:17:39,800 --> 00:17:41,600 Speaker 1: and I know, I know it's not just a feeling. 322 00:17:41,640 --> 00:17:45,760 Speaker 1: I know that I am always the disciplinary in My 323 00:17:45,960 --> 00:17:51,440 Speaker 1: husband always resorts to whatever your mom says, go ask 324 00:17:51,480 --> 00:17:55,560 Speaker 1: your mom? Did you talk to your mom? And I 325 00:17:55,600 --> 00:17:59,120 Speaker 1: need him in order for our kids to not see 326 00:17:59,240 --> 00:18:01,480 Speaker 1: us as good ca bad cop. I need him to 327 00:18:01,520 --> 00:18:05,000 Speaker 1: be more firm with the kids. But I don't want 328 00:18:05,000 --> 00:18:07,640 Speaker 1: to make him feel like he's not being a good parent, 329 00:18:07,680 --> 00:18:09,720 Speaker 1: because he is a good parent. So I would love 330 00:18:09,880 --> 00:18:13,800 Speaker 1: some advice on how to have that discussion with him without, 331 00:18:13,880 --> 00:18:16,080 Speaker 1: you know, making it sound like I'm the bad cop 332 00:18:16,119 --> 00:18:20,040 Speaker 1: and he's the good cop every time? Right, Claire, Yes, 333 00:18:20,359 --> 00:18:25,040 Speaker 1: you are your your your desire for for equity regarding 334 00:18:25,080 --> 00:18:29,560 Speaker 1: discipline is justified. Um, what's your husband's name? Is that 335 00:18:29,600 --> 00:18:33,680 Speaker 1: okay to ask him? Yeah, it's Thomas Thomas, so you'd say, hey, Tom, 336 00:18:33,800 --> 00:18:37,200 Speaker 1: Like I think, have you had the conversation with him about, Hey, 337 00:18:37,280 --> 00:18:39,439 Speaker 1: this feels unfair and you make me feel like the 338 00:18:39,440 --> 00:18:40,920 Speaker 1: bad cop and you get to be the good coup 339 00:18:40,960 --> 00:18:45,919 Speaker 1: Have you had that conversation yet? I've teetered around it, 340 00:18:46,440 --> 00:18:50,560 Speaker 1: but the couple of times I've brought it up, I 341 00:18:50,600 --> 00:18:54,280 Speaker 1: feel like he has been Like I think his reaction 342 00:18:54,400 --> 00:18:58,959 Speaker 1: is just, oh, you're overreacting. Oh, like that's not true. Like, 343 00:18:59,000 --> 00:19:00,879 Speaker 1: I think he's kind of in denial. I don't think 344 00:19:00,920 --> 00:19:04,159 Speaker 1: he really realizes that he does it as much as 345 00:19:04,440 --> 00:19:06,680 Speaker 1: he does. It's always go ask your mother, what did 346 00:19:06,680 --> 00:19:09,120 Speaker 1: your mother say? You know, what would your mother think? 347 00:19:09,200 --> 00:19:11,640 Speaker 1: Whatever your mother says? You know, And I don't. I mean, 348 00:19:11,720 --> 00:19:14,919 Speaker 1: I notice it. I think more because it's he's you know, 349 00:19:15,200 --> 00:19:19,159 Speaker 1: it's me. He's deflecting everything onto you. Yeah, okay, So 350 00:19:19,280 --> 00:19:22,040 Speaker 1: my wife does this wonderful thing where she goes on strike. 351 00:19:22,280 --> 00:19:24,680 Speaker 1: She's like, Okay, I'm just not gonna if you don't wanna, 352 00:19:24,880 --> 00:19:26,320 Speaker 1: you know, if you don't value the fact that I 353 00:19:26,359 --> 00:19:28,639 Speaker 1: do laundry, Like here, you do it for a week 354 00:19:29,240 --> 00:19:33,359 Speaker 1: and it really drives home the message pretty quick, or 355 00:19:33,400 --> 00:19:36,040 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, I really do appreciate this, like this 356 00:19:36,080 --> 00:19:39,240 Speaker 1: is kind of amazing, or wow, you are really helpful 357 00:19:39,320 --> 00:19:41,520 Speaker 1: with the kids, or this. So I wonder what would 358 00:19:41,520 --> 00:19:44,359 Speaker 1: happen if you instead of Okay, so the conversation is 359 00:19:44,400 --> 00:19:46,720 Speaker 1: hard to have, and if he's not as receptive the conversation, 360 00:19:46,760 --> 00:19:49,879 Speaker 1: I wonder what would happen if you, for a period 361 00:19:49,880 --> 00:19:53,560 Speaker 1: of time, deliberately made the decision to just deflect all 362 00:19:53,600 --> 00:19:57,000 Speaker 1: of it onto Thomas and be like, whatever your father says, 363 00:19:57,040 --> 00:19:58,600 Speaker 1: you do what your father says, and then all and 364 00:19:58,760 --> 00:20:02,119 Speaker 1: like trump him in being the good cop. Basically, I 365 00:20:02,320 --> 00:20:05,840 Speaker 1: love this idea. Yeah, you know, it's not it's not 366 00:20:05,880 --> 00:20:08,080 Speaker 1: my issue, it's daddy's. Should talk to daddy about it 367 00:20:08,119 --> 00:20:10,159 Speaker 1: and like let him see what happens when you just 368 00:20:10,280 --> 00:20:13,760 Speaker 1: dump everything into his lab. You know, this might actually 369 00:20:13,760 --> 00:20:16,440 Speaker 1: work out well because my mom is coming into town 370 00:20:16,720 --> 00:20:19,920 Speaker 1: next week, so they'll be like two days where I'm 371 00:20:19,920 --> 00:20:22,120 Speaker 1: gonna be doing some things with her, and I think 372 00:20:22,160 --> 00:20:24,520 Speaker 1: I just won't be as available anyway to my kids. 373 00:20:24,520 --> 00:20:27,240 Speaker 1: So if I kind of couple that with you know, 374 00:20:27,760 --> 00:20:30,480 Speaker 1: for a few days kind of I like like this, 375 00:20:30,640 --> 00:20:32,359 Speaker 1: I like this, I like, Hey, Mom's going to be 376 00:20:32,359 --> 00:20:34,160 Speaker 1: in town. I'm gonna be super busy for the next 377 00:20:34,240 --> 00:20:37,000 Speaker 1: few days. I really need you to kind of take 378 00:20:37,080 --> 00:20:39,199 Speaker 1: take over daddy duty with the kids, you know, like 379 00:20:39,240 --> 00:20:41,800 Speaker 1: I need If you really want my opinion on this, 380 00:20:41,880 --> 00:20:44,600 Speaker 1: I think you should frontload it with this decision. So 381 00:20:44,760 --> 00:20:47,359 Speaker 1: like three days before your mom comes into town, I 382 00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:51,080 Speaker 1: would start to strike and then let the let a crescendo. 383 00:20:51,160 --> 00:20:52,880 Speaker 1: So when she's there, you're like, maybe I'm with my mom, 384 00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:55,040 Speaker 1: like I don't know what to do, Like I'm I'm 385 00:20:55,080 --> 00:20:57,199 Speaker 1: got So he's already feeling it by the time your 386 00:20:57,240 --> 00:21:00,560 Speaker 1: mom gets there. Oh my gosh, I love me. Thomas 387 00:21:00,640 --> 00:21:02,160 Speaker 1: is gonna be like you, son of a gun? Why 388 00:21:02,160 --> 00:21:03,960 Speaker 1: do you give her that advice? Here's what I'm gonna 389 00:21:03,960 --> 00:21:07,160 Speaker 1: say to you, the Claire Um. I know that relationships 390 00:21:07,200 --> 00:21:11,320 Speaker 1: are long term investments, and discipline is the most incredible 391 00:21:11,320 --> 00:21:13,520 Speaker 1: way to show love because we don't get to discipline 392 00:21:13,560 --> 00:21:16,359 Speaker 1: everybody in our lives. Like there's only a few people 393 00:21:16,520 --> 00:21:18,679 Speaker 1: that we get to discipline and who will listen to 394 00:21:18,800 --> 00:21:22,280 Speaker 1: us and chart and change the course of their lives. 395 00:21:22,560 --> 00:21:25,400 Speaker 1: And that input you're giving into your kids, Like even 396 00:21:25,400 --> 00:21:27,639 Speaker 1: though it's frustrating and it might feel unfair and I 397 00:21:27,720 --> 00:21:29,880 Speaker 1: might feel like you're always being the bad cop, it's 398 00:21:29,880 --> 00:21:32,520 Speaker 1: gonna bond you guys in a way that And truly 399 00:21:32,520 --> 00:21:35,800 Speaker 1: he's missing out on that experience. And so for him 400 00:21:35,840 --> 00:21:38,840 Speaker 1: as a man, like I wish I could talk to him, 401 00:21:38,880 --> 00:21:42,280 Speaker 1: because there's nothing like a father's love and you have 402 00:21:42,359 --> 00:21:44,920 Speaker 1: to be like a part of that love. The fullness 403 00:21:44,920 --> 00:21:46,600 Speaker 1: of that love is being able to speak into somebody 404 00:21:46,600 --> 00:21:49,399 Speaker 1: else's life and say, listen, for your own good, you 405 00:21:49,400 --> 00:21:51,639 Speaker 1: should stop doing this. But for the respect of the 406 00:21:51,800 --> 00:21:53,919 Speaker 1: relationship with your mother, you need to stop talking to 407 00:21:53,920 --> 00:21:55,920 Speaker 1: her like that. Or you've got to stop eating candy 408 00:21:55,960 --> 00:21:58,600 Speaker 1: because it's gonna hurt your body and your blood sugar 409 00:21:58,800 --> 00:22:01,840 Speaker 1: and you might get diabetes and sick. Like there's there's 410 00:22:01,880 --> 00:22:04,240 Speaker 1: he's missing out on a really essential part of being 411 00:22:04,240 --> 00:22:07,920 Speaker 1: a father. And I, you know, it's crazy you say that, 412 00:22:08,000 --> 00:22:11,919 Speaker 1: because my dad was very much a disciplinarian and I 413 00:22:12,000 --> 00:22:14,199 Speaker 1: hated it when I was younger, and I grew to 414 00:22:14,320 --> 00:22:16,639 Speaker 1: respect him so much, and I have such a close 415 00:22:16,680 --> 00:22:19,879 Speaker 1: relationship with both my parents. But like, but you know, 416 00:22:19,880 --> 00:22:21,760 Speaker 1: if my dad wasn't that way, I don't think I 417 00:22:21,760 --> 00:22:24,040 Speaker 1: would have respected him as much as I do now, 418 00:22:24,160 --> 00:22:27,640 Speaker 1: So that's a really And also talk to him though too, 419 00:22:27,680 --> 00:22:31,200 Speaker 1: because maybe, I mean, maybe he has really awful memories 420 00:22:31,200 --> 00:22:34,359 Speaker 1: of being you know, maybe what you don't know is 421 00:22:34,359 --> 00:22:35,959 Speaker 1: that his dad had a terrible temper or mom, I'm 422 00:22:35,960 --> 00:22:38,119 Speaker 1: at a terrible temper when he was really little, and 423 00:22:38,200 --> 00:22:41,320 Speaker 1: maybe he shell shot that doesn't want to trigger. So 424 00:22:41,440 --> 00:22:44,800 Speaker 1: maybe he you know, he's guarding your kids from a 425 00:22:44,920 --> 00:22:46,720 Speaker 1: terrible temper that we don't know about. Like I'm not 426 00:22:46,800 --> 00:22:49,200 Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not saying that, Thomas. I'm just saying, 427 00:22:49,600 --> 00:22:51,720 Speaker 1: look at it from every angle and say, why aren't 428 00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:54,200 Speaker 1: you doing that? Like why aren't you digging in? Because 429 00:22:54,240 --> 00:22:57,000 Speaker 1: it's it really is a part of parents that you know, 430 00:22:57,040 --> 00:22:59,240 Speaker 1: being a disciplinarian is a part of the job. And 431 00:22:59,280 --> 00:23:03,160 Speaker 1: it's it really is, like you know, like I can't imagine, 432 00:23:03,160 --> 00:23:06,160 Speaker 1: not like I just I like being able to say 433 00:23:06,160 --> 00:23:09,480 Speaker 1: hey guys and having my kids listen to me because 434 00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:14,920 Speaker 1: they're not my wife, you know, yeah, not afraid of respect? Right. 435 00:23:15,320 --> 00:23:19,200 Speaker 1: Should I talk to him before the strike, like try 436 00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:21,320 Speaker 1: to talk to him and then like pitch the strike 437 00:23:21,359 --> 00:23:23,399 Speaker 1: idea or say hey, listen, this is this is what 438 00:23:23,480 --> 00:23:25,000 Speaker 1: I think I really want to do. I think it's 439 00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:27,160 Speaker 1: going to help us. This is what's up, and kind 440 00:23:27,160 --> 00:23:29,680 Speaker 1: of do the strike and then after my mom leaves 441 00:23:30,280 --> 00:23:32,920 Speaker 1: kind of reconvenient, you know, like how is the last week, 442 00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:35,600 Speaker 1: how are the kids, how are you feeling? I kind 443 00:23:35,600 --> 00:23:38,600 Speaker 1: of like the strike idea. First it gets a sense 444 00:23:38,640 --> 00:23:40,639 Speaker 1: of what you really understanding, what you go through, and 445 00:23:40,640 --> 00:23:42,320 Speaker 1: like what you're dealing with. And then just talk to 446 00:23:42,359 --> 00:23:44,800 Speaker 1: him and say, can we unpack this together? Like what 447 00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:47,520 Speaker 1: are you afraid of? Why don't you like to you know? 448 00:23:47,800 --> 00:23:50,480 Speaker 1: Is it reflective of your childhood? Is it like? And 449 00:23:50,520 --> 00:23:53,600 Speaker 1: then say you know you're missing out on because it 450 00:23:53,640 --> 00:23:56,520 Speaker 1: really does. I think like there is something special about 451 00:23:56,520 --> 00:24:00,080 Speaker 1: being able to speak into somebody's life and correct in 452 00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:03,840 Speaker 1: the right way, you know, like it's it's a part 453 00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:07,960 Speaker 1: of it. Absolutely, this is great. I'm actually kind of 454 00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:10,840 Speaker 1: excited to almost do this experiment and kind of see 455 00:24:10,880 --> 00:24:13,760 Speaker 1: what happens. I do think when you don't have something, 456 00:24:13,800 --> 00:24:15,959 Speaker 1: you do learn how much you appreciate it. So I 457 00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:19,200 Speaker 1: think him not having me as the scapegoat for the week, 458 00:24:19,560 --> 00:24:22,560 Speaker 1: and I didn't mention, but we have two boys, so 459 00:24:22,680 --> 00:24:25,560 Speaker 1: I do think it's just so important for him to 460 00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:29,480 Speaker 1: be present in their lives as the disciplinarian. So I'm 461 00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:31,000 Speaker 1: all for this. I'll have to I feel like I 462 00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:32,800 Speaker 1: need to report back and let you know how I 463 00:24:32,840 --> 00:24:35,200 Speaker 1: was going to stay clear. I gotta find out some 464 00:24:35,200 --> 00:24:36,800 Speaker 1: some way. Well, we'll figure out. I want to hear 465 00:24:36,840 --> 00:24:39,520 Speaker 1: how it goes. We'll connect again. Thank you so much. 466 00:24:39,920 --> 00:24:53,200 Speaker 1: All right, clear booby you guys. This has been Christopher 467 00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:57,200 Speaker 1: Plah and has been my joy and pleasure guest hosting 468 00:24:57,280 --> 00:25:00,560 Speaker 1: How Men Think. I hope that I had some reasonably 469 00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:04,320 Speaker 1: good advice how people have been throwing their phones across 470 00:25:04,400 --> 00:25:07,760 Speaker 1: the room and disagreement. Um. Please be sure to check 471 00:25:07,800 --> 00:25:13,000 Speaker 1: out on Lifetime only on Lifetime Buried in Barstow and 472 00:25:13,040 --> 00:25:16,080 Speaker 1: if you miss it June four, Saturday night, you can 473 00:25:16,080 --> 00:25:18,880 Speaker 1: always stream it. 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