WEBVTT - Living Advantage Inc. (w/ Pamela Clay) 0:00:00.800 --> 0:00:03.160 Good morning, good afternoon, good evening. 0:00:03.560 --> 0:00:05.440 You are tuned in to the Vitamin D with Dawn 0:00:05.480 --> 0:00:08.520 Day podcast and I am your host, Dawn Day, here 0:00:08.520 --> 0:00:10.280 to get you excited about your life so that you 0:00:10.320 --> 0:00:12.280 can live life on purpose and for a purpose. 0:00:12.520 --> 0:00:13.680 If this is your first. 0:00:13.400 --> 0:00:16.960 Time tuning in, welcome Vitamin D. It's upon of my name. 0:00:17.160 --> 0:00:19.160 My name is Dawn, and you get vitamin D from 0:00:19.160 --> 0:00:21.360 the sun. So I'm here a shed light into your life. 0:00:21.480 --> 0:00:24.840 And I do this with inspirational insights and conversations with 0:00:24.920 --> 0:00:27.920 celebrities and everyday people like you and me, because if 0:00:27.960 --> 0:00:29.880 you want to be better and you want to do better, 0:00:30.400 --> 0:00:32.640 then you're going to have to be able to see better. 0:00:33.040 --> 0:00:35.480 So join me on this journey of living. 0:00:35.240 --> 0:00:39.080 Our best lives and understanding and realizing how you are 0:00:39.120 --> 0:00:41.159 your greatest ass at get your vit. 0:00:41.080 --> 0:00:48.440 Indy right with me and get excited about your life. 0:00:48.680 --> 0:00:53.160 Hello, somebody, somebody, Hello home. I just have to say 0:00:53.240 --> 0:00:58.360 right now, I feel so good. Right people have been 0:00:58.360 --> 0:01:00.920 asked me to say, Dawn, how are you? I say, 0:01:00.960 --> 0:01:06.880 grateful and growing And we know that growing is uncomfortable, 0:01:07.760 --> 0:01:10.720 but this is what you have to ask yourself. You 0:01:10.840 --> 0:01:14.800 asked God to grow didn't you. Well, sometimes it will rain, 0:01:15.400 --> 0:01:18.840 and when there's rain, there's life, right, And just think 0:01:18.880 --> 0:01:21.120 of it this way. I've been saying this often. You've 0:01:21.120 --> 0:01:23.800 heard me say a hill ain't nothing to a stop. 0:01:25.240 --> 0:01:28.240 So we gonna walk it out right, We gonna put 0:01:28.240 --> 0:01:30.399 one foot in front of the other. 0:01:30.800 --> 0:01:34.840 And here's the thing. When we talk about growth, when 0:01:34.840 --> 0:01:37.080 we talk about becoming more, we understand that. 0:01:39.000 --> 0:01:42.000 It is a trial going up because you're asking to 0:01:42.040 --> 0:01:46.800 be more than what you are right now. So when 0:01:46.840 --> 0:01:48.560 I ask you, or when I declare to you that 0:01:48.600 --> 0:01:50.600 it's time to get excited about your life, I have 0:01:50.680 --> 0:01:51.160 to ask you. 0:01:51.240 --> 0:01:55.440 Are you you ask God to grow? All right? 0:01:55.720 --> 0:01:58.520 It's Vitamin David Dante. I am here in live in 0:01:58.600 --> 0:02:01.920 to right. I'm in a studio. E no, we're not 0:02:02.000 --> 0:02:08.040 in the closet, and it feels so good. 0:02:08.840 --> 0:02:12.040 I feel so good, all right. 0:02:12.080 --> 0:02:14.880 But what's also extremely good right now is that I 0:02:15.040 --> 0:02:17.760 have a very special guest in the studio with me. 0:02:18.480 --> 0:02:22.280 I have the executive director for a nonprofit organization entitled 0:02:22.800 --> 0:02:26.399 Living Advantage. So Vitamin D family, put your radio way, 0:02:26.480 --> 0:02:28.880 send your energy, do whatever you got to do, and 0:02:28.960 --> 0:02:29.320 help me. 0:02:29.400 --> 0:02:32.560 Welcome. We one and only miss Pamela Clad. 0:02:35.480 --> 0:02:35.720 Sure. 0:02:36.919 --> 0:02:38.560 How you doing, Pamela, I'm. 0:02:38.360 --> 0:02:43.440 Doing grateful and wonderful, absolutely excited, excited, better live it 0:02:43.480 --> 0:02:45.240 because we live in our lives on purpose and for 0:02:45.280 --> 0:02:46.440 a purpose right solutely. 0:02:46.680 --> 0:02:49.679 They say gratitude is everything. The more grateful we are, 0:02:49.720 --> 0:02:51.760 the more things we have to be grateful for. 0:02:52.680 --> 0:02:54.520 What's you grateful for today? Today? 0:02:54.520 --> 0:02:57.000 I'm grateful to be here with don to get that energy, 0:02:57.040 --> 0:02:58.160 get that positive. 0:02:57.840 --> 0:03:00.160 Energy, get that vitamin D, get that vitamin D and 0:03:00.200 --> 0:03:02.760 take things to the next level. It's always one thing 0:03:02.840 --> 0:03:06.680 to talk it and you wake up and you express it, 0:03:06.760 --> 0:03:09.760 you pray, but it's another thing to actually do. That's 0:03:09.800 --> 0:03:10.840 what I have to be an action. 0:03:11.600 --> 0:03:12.720 Faith that works is dead. 0:03:12.840 --> 0:03:14.120 Absolutely today we're in action. 0:03:14.480 --> 0:03:18.120 And your action started way early because you pulled up 0:03:18.160 --> 0:03:22.079 on me when I was over at FM DOW. MS 0:03:22.160 --> 0:03:25.040 Katie came out and said, Dawn, I have somebody that 0:03:25.080 --> 0:03:27.320 would like to be on the FM DOW And because 0:03:27.360 --> 0:03:30.160 of the immediate transition, you still didn't let that go 0:03:30.200 --> 0:03:32.520 by the wayside. I came out to the thirtieth anniversary 0:03:32.520 --> 0:03:35.839 event for Living Advantage. We connected and you said, Dawn, 0:03:36.360 --> 0:03:37.640 I still want to do some stuff with you. 0:03:37.760 --> 0:03:41.400 That's right, absolutely, yeah. I mean I like where you were, 0:03:41.520 --> 0:03:44.800 of course, but wherever you are like to be a 0:03:44.840 --> 0:03:45.320 part of that. 0:03:45.840 --> 0:03:46.160 Thank you. 0:03:46.640 --> 0:03:47.360 Yeah, yeah. 0:03:47.400 --> 0:03:52.080 I think you have very special talent and you inspire 0:03:52.160 --> 0:03:54.880 people motivate, and that's what living advantage is all about, 0:03:54.960 --> 0:03:58.280 especially working with foster youth. Kids that don't generally have 0:03:58.600 --> 0:04:03.040 a strong foundation, have a family foundation. So living advantages 0:04:03.240 --> 0:04:06.080 are the moms and dads of foster youth, and Dundee 0:04:06.240 --> 0:04:07.480 is part of living advantage. 0:04:07.520 --> 0:04:10.200 I'm part of Dundee. So we're gonna inspire our kids 0:04:10.200 --> 0:04:11.360 to be the best they can we. 0:04:11.440 --> 0:04:12.120 Shet a mind. 0:04:12.240 --> 0:04:12.520 Yes. 0:04:12.680 --> 0:04:16.320 Now, for anyone that may be unfamiliar, Living advantage started 0:04:16.360 --> 0:04:19.960 by your mother in nineteen ninety three, is that correct? 0:04:20.040 --> 0:04:20.240 Yes? 0:04:20.440 --> 0:04:24.000 Tell us more well, mom was at your mom Miss 0:04:24.080 --> 0:04:25.760 Bernie missus Bernie's Clay. 0:04:25.880 --> 0:04:29.760 Okay, yes, say her name her, Miss Bernice Williams Clay. 0:04:30.320 --> 0:04:34.280 She was a special ad. She her background is speech pathology, 0:04:34.560 --> 0:04:36.440 so she was in special ad for the Los Angeles 0:04:36.520 --> 0:04:40.120 Unified School District. She did that for twenty seven years 0:04:40.240 --> 0:04:44.160 and then still being a young giving person, when she retired, 0:04:44.200 --> 0:04:47.200 she wanted to continue her efforts. She found that the 0:04:47.240 --> 0:04:51.680 majority of kids that were underserved in school, They didn't 0:04:51.720 --> 0:04:55.080 have learning disability abilities. It was mainly because of their 0:04:55.160 --> 0:04:59.360 family upbringing, their family issues. So you know, all when 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:01.960 they say, you know, kids have learning disability generally, was 0:05:02.080 --> 0:05:04.560 not that, like eighty ninety percent had nothing to do 0:05:04.600 --> 0:05:08.159 with their learning capabilities. It was what their emotion on 0:05:08.279 --> 0:05:11.520 spiritual you know, was going on in their households. And 0:05:11.600 --> 0:05:14.960 so from there that's why she want She decided that she. 0:05:14.960 --> 0:05:17.239 Wanted to do a little more. And at the time 0:05:17.320 --> 0:05:19.080 I was a real estate investor. I said, well, let's 0:05:19.080 --> 0:05:21.840 go buy some houses and let's put the kids in 0:05:21.880 --> 0:05:22.960 and let's take care of them. 0:05:23.160 --> 0:05:24.880 And that's how we started living advantage. 0:05:24.920 --> 0:05:26.760 And it was in was it ninety six? Was it 0:05:26.880 --> 0:05:27.760 that you guys. 0:05:27.520 --> 0:05:30.000 First ninety six our first home, our first group home? 0:05:30.160 --> 0:05:32.560 Right, and then you took over the organization of ninety nine? 0:05:32.680 --> 0:05:32.960 Yes? 0:05:33.160 --> 0:05:37.160 Yes, Mom became me all unfortunately, and you know, I said, 0:05:37.160 --> 0:05:39.000 how hard could it be? Right, how hard can it 0:05:39.040 --> 0:05:42.599 be to hire a bunch of folks? Thirty years later, Look, 0:05:42.800 --> 0:05:45.800 I'm here, like, oh my goodness, stunting. 0:05:45.400 --> 0:05:48.840 Care standing here, and I'm so grateful to have this 0:05:48.839 --> 0:05:52.000 conversation with you, because, as we know, may is Foster 0:05:52.080 --> 0:05:54.600 Care Awareness Month, Yes, as a foster care youth. 0:05:54.800 --> 0:05:57.919 Foster Care foster foster Youth Awareness. 0:05:57.480 --> 0:05:59.400 Month, Foster Youth Awareness. Yes. 0:05:59.680 --> 0:06:01.440 So I'm glad that we can put this to the 0:06:01.480 --> 0:06:03.520 forefront because I feel like a lot of people, you know, 0:06:03.600 --> 0:06:07.000 we hear about foster care but not really understanding what 0:06:07.080 --> 0:06:11.359 it is and why it's important. Yes, so tell us 0:06:11.400 --> 0:06:13.279 a little wit, tell us what about it. You know, 0:06:13.480 --> 0:06:16.119 I learned a lot. Tell us what exactly is foster 0:06:16.240 --> 0:06:18.080 care and those how they end up in. 0:06:18.160 --> 0:06:21.640 Absolutely so, one thing about foster care about you know, 0:06:21.920 --> 0:06:24.799 youth that are in the foster care system, children, babies, 0:06:25.680 --> 0:06:29.640 Each of them have their own history. It's everybody's unique. 0:06:29.880 --> 0:06:32.719 Some people are there because Some kids are there because 0:06:32.760 --> 0:06:35.560 maybe their parents passed or they you know, it could 0:06:35.600 --> 0:06:38.400 be just their parents are ill. Sometimes it has nothing 0:06:38.400 --> 0:06:42.880 to do with neglect, abuse, abandonment. Sometimes it's just a circumstance. 0:06:42.920 --> 0:06:46.120 You know. Let's say, when parents go to the army, 0:06:46.160 --> 0:06:49.000 they go to the armed forces, and you know, they 0:06:49.080 --> 0:06:52.120 end up dying or something. From there, the kids end 0:06:52.200 --> 0:06:55.039 up in foster care. And usually if they're in foster care, 0:06:55.080 --> 0:06:58.400 that means their family dynamics, their their aunts, their uncles, 0:06:58.440 --> 0:07:01.400 their cousins, their grandparents. You know, usually it's not a 0:07:01.440 --> 0:07:03.560 strong force. So that's how they end up in foster cure. 0:07:03.760 --> 0:07:07.320 Just not a strong enough family union unit. So that's 0:07:07.360 --> 0:07:10.120 where living advantage comes in. We are a support system. 0:07:10.320 --> 0:07:12.760 We started off with the group homes and then after 0:07:12.800 --> 0:07:15.720 twelve years, I decided I wanted to take on the 0:07:15.760 --> 0:07:19.400 whole foster care industry, the whole foster care system. 0:07:19.920 --> 0:07:21.440 I can do more good. 0:07:21.640 --> 0:07:22.200 You can be great. 0:07:25.640 --> 0:07:26.800 I gets it. That's why I'm here. 0:07:26.920 --> 0:07:29.320 You get it right, because we were already great. We 0:07:29.360 --> 0:07:32.080 had We were so good our homes. We had three 0:07:32.080 --> 0:07:34.600 homes all together, La County and Orange County. We were 0:07:34.640 --> 0:07:37.880 so good that we had other states on a waiting 0:07:37.880 --> 0:07:39.600 list because they wanted their kids to go to our 0:07:39.640 --> 0:07:43.720 independent independent living home. Because I started, we were the 0:07:43.800 --> 0:07:48.960 first Internet based computer base where we had our own 0:07:49.440 --> 0:07:50.560 what do you call it? 0:07:50.560 --> 0:07:51.400 It's just like Facebook. 0:07:51.440 --> 0:07:57.480 We house basis and community network on the internet right 0:07:57.520 --> 0:08:00.240 way before Facebook. To battle wasn't the smartest as as 0:08:00.280 --> 0:08:01.560 a Zuckerberd. 0:08:01.120 --> 0:08:03.640 Right, imagine what look where you are now? Exactly a 0:08:03.680 --> 0:08:05.960 my with your location is not your destination? Would you 0:08:06.000 --> 0:08:08.720 start and where you got to finish, you better catch 0:08:08.720 --> 0:08:09.240 it because it's. 0:08:09.160 --> 0:08:12.920 High absolutely and so you know, that's how we we 0:08:13.120 --> 0:08:15.960 form the foundation. So it didn't matter if the kids, 0:08:15.960 --> 0:08:19.120 because kids that are in the foster care system they 0:08:19.200 --> 0:08:22.720 usually move minimum of seven times up to twenty times 0:08:22.720 --> 0:08:25.960 while they're in the system. What yes, that's average seven 0:08:26.080 --> 0:08:28.200 And are you going to talk to out of if 0:08:28.200 --> 0:08:30.400 you have ten kids standing there, four of them will 0:08:30.440 --> 0:08:32.640 tell you they moved at least twenty times while they're 0:08:32.679 --> 0:08:33.240 in the system. 0:08:33.280 --> 0:08:36.679 I learned so much attending the thirtieth anniversary celebration, like 0:08:36.800 --> 0:08:40.719 one I didn't realize it was highlighted more about inconsistency. 0:08:40.880 --> 0:08:43.840 And when we talk about building somebody up for success, 0:08:43.880 --> 0:08:46.600 we know the key is consistency. And if you don't 0:08:46.640 --> 0:08:48.760 even have that instilled in you just because of whatever 0:08:48.800 --> 0:08:52.640 your circumstances of not knowing, then furthermore about it when 0:08:52.640 --> 0:08:54.720 it comes down to being prosperous. And that's why I 0:08:54.760 --> 0:08:57.880 love your organization. The name of it living advantage. So 0:08:57.960 --> 0:09:00.320 many of the youth are at a disadvantage simthing. They 0:09:00.360 --> 0:09:02.760 don't even have paperwork. You had a gentleman speak up 0:09:02.800 --> 0:09:05.000 talk about how he graduated and could not get a 0:09:05.080 --> 0:09:08.120 job simply because he didn't have a birth certificate. 0:09:08.600 --> 0:09:09.920 Things I feel as though, you know. 0:09:09.880 --> 0:09:13.160 An everyday person may take for granted and to say, oh, well, 0:09:13.200 --> 0:09:17.160 you're just lazy and then highlighting even further while a 0:09:17.200 --> 0:09:19.760 lot of people end up in the foster care system. Initially, 0:09:19.880 --> 0:09:22.520 in my own ignorance is simply not knowing. I thought 0:09:22.520 --> 0:09:25.000 it was a whole situation that I shouldn't say always, 0:09:25.040 --> 0:09:28.199 but my mind, based on the lens I have always 0:09:28.240 --> 0:09:31.120 looked at, was thinking that Okay, a parent probably was 0:09:31.120 --> 0:09:34.600 on drugs or they just decided not to take care 0:09:34.640 --> 0:09:36.920 of the child, but not thinking one day I could 0:09:36.920 --> 0:09:39.400 have been serving the armed forces and something happened. 0:09:39.559 --> 0:09:43.280 What if I had a car accident, it lost my mind? 0:09:43.440 --> 0:09:47.160 Disability, mental illness, mental taste, care of the child. 0:09:47.720 --> 0:09:50.679 Mental illness is a big one too. You know, you 0:09:50.800 --> 0:09:54.560 think somebody is being neglectful, but no, they have mental illness. 0:09:54.600 --> 0:09:57.160 You know, thirty years ago see mental illness learn not 0:09:57.240 --> 0:10:00.400 a big yes. So we can go on and on 0:10:00.520 --> 0:10:04.160 of the different reasons. And one of the things that 0:10:04.600 --> 0:10:07.880 especially when we first started, I found that that the 0:10:07.920 --> 0:10:13.440 social service agencies would really think the kids were, like 0:10:13.480 --> 0:10:19.320 you said, lazy or are being neglectful or you know, 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:22.440 just being a bad kid. And a lot of times 0:10:22.440 --> 0:10:24.680 that has nothing to do with that. They're the victims. 0:10:24.720 --> 0:10:27.360 They're the ones who are the children, and they need 0:10:27.400 --> 0:10:30.640 guidance and support. So again, that's what living and maas 0:10:30.720 --> 0:10:33.560 is all about, is taking all of our community, taking 0:10:33.600 --> 0:10:36.640 all supporters, and being able to set a platform so 0:10:36.679 --> 0:10:41.640 we can take our expertise, our experiences and transition to them. 0:10:41.840 --> 0:10:43.960 Therefore they can be, like you said, prosperous and they 0:10:44.000 --> 0:10:48.760 can be you know, also just think about supporting, having 0:10:48.800 --> 0:10:50.800 the support, just knowing. 0:10:50.679 --> 0:10:54.880 That somebody I didn't That was another thing you realized 0:10:54.920 --> 0:10:58.240 that when you're in foster care. I mean the fact 0:10:58.280 --> 0:11:00.920 that you're in someone else's home. I don't like how 0:11:00.960 --> 0:11:03.480 this is going to come out of my mouth. Okay, 0:11:03.520 --> 0:11:05.360 make room for me, family, We make it room. Let 0:11:05.360 --> 0:11:06.520 me adjust it afterwards. 0:11:07.040 --> 0:11:07.319 Yeah. 0:11:07.600 --> 0:11:10.480 Is there is it wrong to have a sense of 0:11:10.559 --> 0:11:13.480 feeling as though somebody doesn't want you? Absolutely? 0:11:13.800 --> 0:11:15.600 And I didn't want to just spit that out and 0:11:15.640 --> 0:11:18.280 put that over people, but how could you feel wanted 0:11:18.320 --> 0:11:19.520 when you have no place to call? 0:11:19.600 --> 0:11:22.559 Absolutely, and you know that these people that are here 0:11:22.600 --> 0:11:25.679 in the household are being paid to just ensure it 0:11:25.760 --> 0:11:28.079 or to what do you say, take care of them? 0:11:28.240 --> 0:11:29.960 Right, They're can be paid to do that. So who 0:11:30.320 --> 0:11:31.280 who are feel comfortable? 0:11:31.280 --> 0:11:32.800 Who are feeling transaction? 0:11:33.080 --> 0:11:35.000 Yeah, yeah, you're a transaction. 0:11:35.240 --> 0:11:37.920 So you know another one that we didn't cover because 0:11:38.240 --> 0:11:41.000 we're talking about the LGBTQ, Yes, youth. 0:11:40.880 --> 0:11:41.280 That was it. 0:11:41.360 --> 0:11:43.079 That's it's I can tell you a story about that 0:11:43.280 --> 0:11:48.319 really quickly. So I never thought about so I'm I'm 0:11:48.320 --> 0:11:50.920 an unconditional person and I didn't learn that until like 0:11:51.120 --> 0:11:54.200 to like got into the nonprofit sector. I didn't know 0:11:54.240 --> 0:11:56.800 that I was an unconditional person. And when you think 0:11:56.840 --> 0:12:01.040 about a child that sometimes there are family disowns them 0:12:01.080 --> 0:12:06.559 because you know their LBGG status, the conditions, right. So 0:12:06.840 --> 0:12:09.080 I never looked at it like that. I never even 0:12:09.120 --> 0:12:12.520 once thought or saw a child not you know, being 0:12:12.559 --> 0:12:15.240 in the system because they weren't wanted from their family 0:12:15.240 --> 0:12:18.040 because of their sexual preference. My whole thought and that 0:12:18.280 --> 0:12:20.719 was who cares who? At the end of the day, 0:12:20.760 --> 0:12:22.640 when you look at the average amount of time people 0:12:22.679 --> 0:12:24.880 have sex, if you get lucky, you're having sex a 0:12:24.920 --> 0:12:25.480 half an hour. 0:12:26.080 --> 0:12:28.000 Guess what, that's only two percent of your whole life. 0:12:28.440 --> 0:12:29.160 That's only two. 0:12:29.080 --> 0:12:31.400 Percent so you got ninety eight percent of your whole 0:12:31.440 --> 0:12:33.400 life and people want to base it off who they're 0:12:33.440 --> 0:12:34.040 sleeping with. 0:12:34.400 --> 0:12:36.800 It reminds you, let's take a consideration that being part 0:12:36.800 --> 0:12:37.920 of the community doesn't mean all. 0:12:37.880 --> 0:12:41.560 That you do is have sex. What a life? It's 0:12:41.640 --> 0:12:43.080 just a simple pass exactly. 0:12:43.320 --> 0:12:47.520 And so kids, but sometimes you know disclose that the 0:12:47.600 --> 0:12:50.360 reason why their family doesn't want us because you know 0:12:50.400 --> 0:12:53.400 their sexual preference. And that to me, just it would 0:12:53.400 --> 0:12:55.880 break my heart because why would I not love you 0:12:56.360 --> 0:12:59.160 because of who you might be attracted to her? 0:12:59.480 --> 0:13:02.120 Not because who you ate, but because who you love 0:13:02.840 --> 0:13:03.800 and love is the way. 0:13:03.880 --> 0:13:06.199 Absolutely, how'd you go? Absolutely? 0:13:06.400 --> 0:13:07.079 I learned a lot. 0:13:07.200 --> 0:13:07.839 I learned a lot. 0:13:07.920 --> 0:13:09.440 Well, I've been doing it for thirty years, but I 0:13:09.520 --> 0:13:11.559 learned a lot about me and my personality. 0:13:11.640 --> 0:13:11.800 Time. 0:13:11.880 --> 0:13:14.360 Why we're so good? Why live an advantage? Is so 0:13:14.480 --> 0:13:14.960 good at this? 0:13:15.040 --> 0:13:17.480 That's why I want to tell me why, because that's 0:13:17.480 --> 0:13:21.000 why you gotta come read my book How to Capitalize 0:13:21.080 --> 0:13:25.280 in the foster care system? Right and people say capitalize, 0:13:25.320 --> 0:13:28.679 what does that actually mean? So I'm gonna get I'm 0:13:28.720 --> 0:13:31.760 a divulge into that in a second. But when you 0:13:31.840 --> 0:13:34.400 just think of the thirty years I've been doing it. 0:13:34.400 --> 0:13:36.680 I learned a lot about myself. I started when I 0:13:36.720 --> 0:13:39.439 was thirty. I'm sixty years old. Come on, you've got 0:13:39.440 --> 0:13:44.880 a day, you know when you think about what how 0:13:44.960 --> 0:13:49.800 I've grown and how I've transitioned into being the being 0:13:49.800 --> 0:13:53.480 the great provider that we that we are, but how 0:13:53.559 --> 0:13:57.160 to take it and then have the community have our 0:13:57.200 --> 0:14:02.640 supporters also be great supporters for our kids. Right, So 0:14:02.920 --> 0:14:07.240 if it's living advantage as an organization, imagine having three thousand, 0:14:07.400 --> 0:14:11.439 having one hundred thousand people taking this movement and everybody 0:14:11.480 --> 0:14:13.160 being a mom and dad's of foster care and the 0:14:13.240 --> 0:14:15.400 kids being able to see that. Can you imagine if 0:14:15.400 --> 0:14:19.040 the kids can see three thousand people got you, I 0:14:19.160 --> 0:14:21.680 got you? You imagine how they would feel and how 0:14:21.720 --> 0:14:24.520 they would how they would take home to that and 0:14:24.560 --> 0:14:26.320 then just be the better person that they can be. 0:14:26.520 --> 0:14:28.440 And if yeah, and if you got sense, you would 0:14:28.520 --> 0:14:30.680 care because these are the people that's about to take 0:14:30.720 --> 0:14:31.920 it down as are That's right. 0:14:32.280 --> 0:14:33.080 These are the people. 0:14:32.920 --> 0:14:35.000 That's going to get these policies together, that's gonna sit 0:14:35.000 --> 0:14:35.560 out there in March. 0:14:35.560 --> 0:14:37.440 Who's gonna sit there and make a plan. Who might 0:14:37.480 --> 0:14:40.120 be the next person to might be a cure. 0:14:40.280 --> 0:14:43.480 Yes, might be your next president or just you know, 0:14:43.560 --> 0:14:45.360 I always look at it to your next doctor, your 0:14:45.360 --> 0:14:49.520 next lawyer, you know, your next service provider. Right, So 0:14:50.240 --> 0:14:52.960 we have to be able to start thinking about that 0:14:53.120 --> 0:14:55.560 and how we can grow as ourselves. A lot of 0:14:55.560 --> 0:15:00.960 people people have to be passionate about and they become 0:15:01.320 --> 0:15:02.440 donors or supporters. 0:15:02.520 --> 0:15:02.760 Right. 0:15:03.440 --> 0:15:06.720 So I always think of being passionate about what you 0:15:06.920 --> 0:15:09.280 like to do. So what's your favorite, Hobey, what's your 0:15:09.360 --> 0:15:10.720 favorite pastime? 0:15:11.000 --> 0:15:13.640 Yeah? I like to speak. See, that's what I know. 0:15:13.920 --> 0:15:16.160 I know we can better on anything. 0:15:16.240 --> 0:15:18.240 Put me in any room, in front of any person, 0:15:18.280 --> 0:15:19.520 at any time and anywhere. 0:15:19.920 --> 0:15:21.160 What I will do is speaking. 0:15:21.200 --> 0:15:24.400 And so isn't that interesting? So let's say, for instance, 0:15:24.400 --> 0:15:26.280 you went and you talked in front of ten people, 0:15:26.320 --> 0:15:28.960 and we said, well, what's your passion You said speaking? Right, 0:15:29.400 --> 0:15:32.520 And then the kids take that, they understand, get to 0:15:32.600 --> 0:15:35.800 understand what that means, what that's about, and sometimes they 0:15:36.080 --> 0:15:39.000 you know what, I'm a good speaker too, and we talk. 0:15:39.160 --> 0:15:42.280 We have our let's say real estate agents, right when 0:15:42.280 --> 0:15:45.280 they say, I'm passionate about selling homes not for the money, 0:15:45.280 --> 0:15:47.800 but for the transaction and being able to give people 0:15:48.040 --> 0:15:50.680 a place home right giving them their dreams. 0:15:50.880 --> 0:15:53.400 So I would love to give a person their dream 0:15:53.600 --> 0:15:54.000 come on. 0:15:54.040 --> 0:15:58.200 And then again it just transcends, transcends to growing that 0:15:58.280 --> 0:16:01.040 passion and that motivation and a part and then again 0:16:01.200 --> 0:16:07.280 consistency being consistent with being able to give these different 0:16:07.360 --> 0:16:11.560 notations and opportunities to our kids. So that's what it's 0:16:11.560 --> 0:16:14.720 all about, just taking what we already do and then 0:16:14.840 --> 0:16:17.840 finding how we can be more passionate. 0:16:17.400 --> 0:16:20.880 And amplified and create the opportunities. And I love what 0:16:20.960 --> 0:16:23.560 you said. You know, I constantly say your location is 0:16:23.560 --> 0:16:28.360 not your destination. And oftentimes when I think about disadvantaged 0:16:28.400 --> 0:16:31.760 communities is the fact that there's a lack of resources 0:16:31.760 --> 0:16:34.080 simply not knowing or not having access. 0:16:34.080 --> 0:16:34.880 It's not in reach. 0:16:35.400 --> 0:16:37.720 And we understand, you know, doctor Seuss has one of 0:16:37.760 --> 0:16:40.000 the books, All the Places You'll Go, and it's like 0:16:40.040 --> 0:16:42.400 with our young people, let them know the places you 0:16:42.480 --> 0:16:45.240 can go, and when you go, that means you're growing, 0:16:45.480 --> 0:16:47.640 you're becoming more than what you are right now. And 0:16:47.960 --> 0:16:50.560 you know, just highlighting when we think of foster care, 0:16:50.920 --> 0:16:53.000 I'm immediately thinking of the disadvantage. And that's why I 0:16:53.040 --> 0:16:56.400 further love the organizational name living advantage. 0:16:56.600 --> 0:17:00.240 How can we live our lives to the advantage? There 0:17:00.280 --> 0:17:00.560 you go. 0:17:00.800 --> 0:17:03.120 Okay, we're gonna finish this conversation. We're gonna take a 0:17:03.200 --> 0:17:04.840 quick break, all right. I want to talk to you 0:17:04.920 --> 0:17:07.359 about your book you have coming out. Okay, uh, and 0:17:07.560 --> 0:17:08.639 tell us the title again. 0:17:08.920 --> 0:17:12.639 It's called how to Capitalize in the Foster care System. 0:17:12.800 --> 0:17:16.320 Capitalize. That seems like you're taking advantage of somebody living advantage. 0:17:16.320 --> 0:17:21.400 You better catch it. Miss Pamela ain't called to play 0:17:21.440 --> 0:17:23.320 with you all today. Listen, let me be right back. 0:17:23.480 --> 0:17:26.080 Let's get some money and we can continue this conversation. 0:17:26.280 --> 0:17:28.760 All right, Hold time. It's the Vitamin D for Dante 0:17:28.880 --> 0:17:31.080 podcast by This. 0:17:31.080 --> 0:17:34.399 Is Vanessa mel callaway peace. 0:17:34.520 --> 0:17:35.440 What's up everybody? 0:17:35.480 --> 0:17:38.280 This is Trade Chain and you are listening to Violent 0:17:38.400 --> 0:17:40.199 Dean with Donde. 0:17:43.680 --> 0:17:45.520 Okay, I told you I was gonna be right back. 0:17:46.040 --> 0:17:47.919 I have a special guest in the studio with me, 0:17:48.520 --> 0:17:51.280 Miss Pamela Clay. She is the executive director for the 0:17:51.320 --> 0:17:57.720 non profit organization entitled Living Advantage, Inc. Yes, and tell 0:17:57.760 --> 0:17:59.400 us why Living Advantage is so important. 0:17:59.760 --> 0:18:02.359 It's it's important because we have to think about our future. 0:18:02.560 --> 0:18:05.200 Our kids are our future, and when you have kids, 0:18:05.200 --> 0:18:08.360 that don't really have that strong foundation of a family support. 0:18:08.640 --> 0:18:16.199 They end up homeless, incarcerated, you know, unfortunately caught up 0:18:16.240 --> 0:18:22.200 in you know, illegal, you know, illegal circumstances because they're 0:18:22.240 --> 0:18:25.440 usually trying to fight for survival. They're trying to understand, 0:18:25.680 --> 0:18:28.239 you know, think about emotionally, when you don't have a 0:18:28.240 --> 0:18:30.720 mom or dad, or your mom and dad are not available, 0:18:30.800 --> 0:18:34.680 they don't support you, think about the emotional and mental 0:18:34.840 --> 0:18:38.199 capacities of where they are so living advantage. Job is 0:18:38.280 --> 0:18:41.000 to show them that people do care. You know, you 0:18:41.080 --> 0:18:43.399 might have you know, it's nobody. You can't replace a 0:18:43.480 --> 0:18:46.520 mom or a dad, but you can show them that 0:18:46.560 --> 0:18:47.480 there are people. 0:18:47.560 --> 0:18:48.920 That can be figured, that can be yes. 0:18:49.040 --> 0:18:51.040 And I can understand that My mom transitioned when I 0:18:51.119 --> 0:18:53.439 was twenty five, and as i've you know, grown up, 0:18:53.480 --> 0:18:56.000 had so many people of my friend's mothers who stepped 0:18:56.000 --> 0:18:57.840