1 00:00:00,760 --> 00:00:03,480 Speaker 1: Hey, this is Sam. This is John, the og story 2 00:00:03,520 --> 00:00:05,840 Speaker 1: Time podcast host. Oh yeah, we got some great stories 3 00:00:05,840 --> 00:00:06,240 Speaker 1: coming up. 4 00:00:06,280 --> 00:00:08,720 Speaker 2: But before that, we get a teeny two minute break 5 00:00:08,720 --> 00:00:11,640 Speaker 2: from the sponsors that keep this show propped up like 6 00:00:11,680 --> 00:00:15,480 Speaker 2: a little house. Oh y, I'm ending my marriage because 7 00:00:15,760 --> 00:00:19,280 Speaker 2: I'm in love with my best friend rot Row Raggy. 8 00:00:19,760 --> 00:00:21,840 Speaker 2: I am married to a man and we have been 9 00:00:21,840 --> 00:00:24,680 Speaker 2: together for fourteen years. Our relationship has been on the 10 00:00:24,760 --> 00:00:27,400 Speaker 2: rocks for a few years. I have been questioning my 11 00:00:27,800 --> 00:00:31,840 Speaker 2: spicy proclivities. I've always been by, but I've been discussing 12 00:00:31,840 --> 00:00:35,640 Speaker 2: with my therapist and have confided in my husband and friends. 13 00:00:35,479 --> 00:00:37,200 Speaker 1: That I may just be a lover of women. 14 00:00:37,400 --> 00:00:39,519 Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from user lamnesia, and if 15 00:00:39,560 --> 00:00:41,000 Speaker 2: you want to submit your own stories, go to the 16 00:00:41,080 --> 00:00:42,440 Speaker 2: r slash Showkay story Time suburn it. 17 00:00:42,440 --> 00:00:44,480 Speaker 1: I'm Dakota, I'm Angie, and we're weird. 18 00:00:44,600 --> 00:00:46,800 Speaker 2: To give you good advice Goofily, but we don't have 19 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:49,400 Speaker 2: all the answers, so if you do something different and 20 00:00:49,560 --> 00:00:52,800 Speaker 2: let us know in the comments and op says. During 21 00:00:52,800 --> 00:00:55,640 Speaker 2: my last therapy session, I had my husband join and 22 00:00:55,880 --> 00:00:58,600 Speaker 2: I told him I think I only lack women. He 23 00:00:58,720 --> 00:01:01,279 Speaker 2: said that everyone has to make sacrifices, and that if 24 00:01:01,280 --> 00:01:03,120 Speaker 2: I could give him a chance to be the best 25 00:01:03,360 --> 00:01:06,920 Speaker 2: possible version of himself before deciding it's not him and 26 00:01:06,920 --> 00:01:09,800 Speaker 2: that I am really just a lover of women, that 27 00:01:09,840 --> 00:01:12,720 Speaker 2: would be ideal. I agreed because I feel I owe 28 00:01:12,760 --> 00:01:15,399 Speaker 2: him this obviously. I care for him deeply, and he's 29 00:01:15,480 --> 00:01:17,880 Speaker 2: my family. I have not discussed any of this with 30 00:01:17,959 --> 00:01:20,560 Speaker 2: my best friend, since she is friends with us both 31 00:01:20,640 --> 00:01:22,880 Speaker 2: and she knew him first. We have a strict boundary 32 00:01:22,959 --> 00:01:25,160 Speaker 2: that we don't discuss my marriage like I would with 33 00:01:25,200 --> 00:01:27,800 Speaker 2: my other friends. My best friend, who is also a 34 00:01:27,920 --> 00:01:30,840 Speaker 2: lover of women, just canceled the trip we had planned 35 00:01:30,880 --> 00:01:34,480 Speaker 2: all year. She told me she felt uncomfortable. Later that night, 36 00:01:34,520 --> 00:01:36,520 Speaker 2: after my husband sent her a message out of his 37 00:01:36,520 --> 00:01:39,040 Speaker 2: own free will saying he thinks she's making a mistake 38 00:01:39,120 --> 00:01:41,720 Speaker 2: by losing her best friend, she told me that she 39 00:01:42,120 --> 00:01:43,039 Speaker 2: is in love with me. 40 00:01:44,240 --> 00:01:48,680 Speaker 1: What uh oh uh oh uh oh. She's like, oh, 41 00:01:48,760 --> 00:01:51,440 Speaker 1: now that something can actually happen with me and my love, 42 00:01:51,640 --> 00:01:54,360 Speaker 1: I we cannot we get on anymore. You might have 43 00:01:54,400 --> 00:01:55,360 Speaker 1: been in love with you the whole time. 44 00:01:55,400 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 2: Oh oh. I was absolutely speechless. She asked for nothing 45 00:01:59,680 --> 00:02:03,520 Speaker 2: in retur. I am absolutely devastated. I adore her, I 46 00:02:03,520 --> 00:02:06,280 Speaker 2: have a stable life in another state from her, and 47 00:02:06,320 --> 00:02:08,200 Speaker 2: we only get to visit in person a couple of 48 00:02:08,200 --> 00:02:11,639 Speaker 2: times a year. I have secretly been denying my own 49 00:02:12,000 --> 00:02:16,520 Speaker 2: same feelings about her for months. Oh no, you just 50 00:02:16,720 --> 00:02:19,959 Speaker 2: love women. You love this woman? 51 00:02:20,360 --> 00:02:22,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, Nay. 52 00:02:22,800 --> 00:02:25,280 Speaker 2: The thought of losing her makes me want to vomit. 53 00:02:25,680 --> 00:02:28,400 Speaker 2: She is my soulmate. I never in a million years 54 00:02:28,440 --> 00:02:30,880 Speaker 2: thought this would happen. I always thought I would never 55 00:02:30,960 --> 00:02:33,720 Speaker 2: have to face these feelings because it is immoral to 56 00:02:33,840 --> 00:02:34,320 Speaker 2: have them. 57 00:02:34,520 --> 00:02:40,440 Speaker 1: Uh. Oh, ring, ring ring. It's the Catholic church question mark. 58 00:02:40,880 --> 00:02:45,320 Speaker 3: Yes, it's the a lot of potential any other churches 59 00:02:45,440 --> 00:02:49,760 Speaker 3: candidates or that. Yeah, the fact I developed these feelings 60 00:02:49,800 --> 00:02:51,520 Speaker 3: and have such a deep connection with her at all, 61 00:02:51,639 --> 00:02:53,600 Speaker 3: I was willing to live the rest of my life 62 00:02:53,639 --> 00:02:54,600 Speaker 3: as her best friend. 63 00:02:54,760 --> 00:02:57,080 Speaker 2: But now that she confessed this, I feel like there's 64 00:02:57,120 --> 00:03:00,200 Speaker 2: no good option. If I blow up my life, There's 65 00:03:00,240 --> 00:03:03,840 Speaker 2: no way she would ever be able to be satisfied logically, 66 00:03:04,040 --> 00:03:06,400 Speaker 2: because even though it's been a decade of my marriage 67 00:03:06,440 --> 00:03:09,000 Speaker 2: being on its last string, A decade, I thought, you 68 00:03:09,080 --> 00:03:12,359 Speaker 2: said a few years. Huh, she will probably always feel 69 00:03:12,360 --> 00:03:14,840 Speaker 2: like she caused it. She'll feel like a bad person, 70 00:03:14,880 --> 00:03:16,560 Speaker 2: and she'll feel like I'm a bad person. 71 00:03:16,840 --> 00:03:19,639 Speaker 1: Well, I feel like we're jumping to a lot of conclusions. 72 00:03:20,000 --> 00:03:21,079 Speaker 1: Yeah you are. 73 00:03:21,280 --> 00:03:23,480 Speaker 2: You might as well start jumping rope, because you'll be jumping. 74 00:03:24,760 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 2: On second thought, the thought of losing her seems impossible. 75 00:03:27,760 --> 00:03:30,720 Speaker 2: I can't sleep. I'm scrambling to figure out what to say. 76 00:03:30,880 --> 00:03:33,280 Speaker 2: I asked for time to process and asked if I 77 00:03:33,320 --> 00:03:36,160 Speaker 2: could reach out again, and she said yes. I am 78 00:03:36,280 --> 00:03:38,560 Speaker 2: this close to telling my husband that there is no 79 00:03:38,720 --> 00:03:41,000 Speaker 2: life I can imagine without her in it, and jumping 80 00:03:41,000 --> 00:03:43,000 Speaker 2: on a plane to see her. To be clear, we 81 00:03:43,080 --> 00:03:46,200 Speaker 2: have never been intimate, flirtatious, or crossed any lines in 82 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:48,280 Speaker 2: any way. I met her through my husband and we 83 00:03:48,320 --> 00:03:51,480 Speaker 2: instantly clicked like I have never experienced in my life. 84 00:03:51,600 --> 00:03:54,480 Speaker 2: Neither of us has ever been in this situation before. 85 00:03:54,720 --> 00:03:57,680 Speaker 2: In your opinion, is there any situation where we live 86 00:03:57,760 --> 00:04:00,920 Speaker 2: happily ever after? Do I have to let her go 87 00:04:01,200 --> 00:04:03,320 Speaker 2: and think about her for the rest of my life? 88 00:04:03,360 --> 00:04:05,400 Speaker 2: Would you blow up your life and get a flight 89 00:04:05,480 --> 00:04:07,680 Speaker 2: to go see her. I'm so sorry, and I hope 90 00:04:07,680 --> 00:04:10,720 Speaker 2: this isn't triggering. I know that lovers of women have 91 00:04:10,800 --> 00:04:15,200 Speaker 2: a history with buy and women loving, questioning women, not 92 00:04:15,280 --> 00:04:17,919 Speaker 2: choosing them and seeing them as just a fling. This 93 00:04:18,080 --> 00:04:22,120 Speaker 2: is not that I am gutted and devastated my husband. Yeah, 94 00:04:22,120 --> 00:04:23,240 Speaker 2: there's a lot there. 95 00:04:23,400 --> 00:04:26,599 Speaker 1: There's a lot to unpack here, for sure. 96 00:04:27,000 --> 00:04:29,760 Speaker 2: I think your life is already blown up. There's nothing 97 00:04:29,800 --> 00:04:32,360 Speaker 2: you can do about it. Yeah, this has happened. You 98 00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:35,720 Speaker 2: have You have had these thoughts and these feelings, and 99 00:04:35,839 --> 00:04:37,560 Speaker 2: that's that. It already exploded. 100 00:04:37,600 --> 00:04:40,360 Speaker 1: There it is. Woop there it is oop whoop there 101 00:04:40,360 --> 00:04:40,640 Speaker 1: it is. 102 00:04:40,839 --> 00:04:43,720 Speaker 2: Yep. You either live a lie and full of regret 103 00:04:43,920 --> 00:04:47,200 Speaker 2: until that inevitably kills your marriage, or or until that 104 00:04:47,240 --> 00:04:51,000 Speaker 2: inevitably ends your marriage, or you just yeah, go see 105 00:04:51,000 --> 00:04:51,400 Speaker 2: your girl. 106 00:04:51,720 --> 00:04:55,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, well there's just a few options here, that's all. 107 00:04:56,000 --> 00:04:59,000 Speaker 2: My husband is being an amazing support while I've sobbed 108 00:04:59,040 --> 00:05:01,719 Speaker 2: over her for the past twelve hours. I feel like 109 00:05:01,839 --> 00:05:06,039 Speaker 2: absolute trash. Any advice, please, there's an update. Yeah, I 110 00:05:06,080 --> 00:05:09,520 Speaker 2: think your husband supports you, and however unfortunate it is, 111 00:05:09,520 --> 00:05:10,520 Speaker 2: it's you know, it is what it is. 112 00:05:10,640 --> 00:05:10,880 Speaker 4: Yeah. 113 00:05:10,920 --> 00:05:12,599 Speaker 1: I think that's great that he supports you, and I think, 114 00:05:12,720 --> 00:05:16,000 Speaker 1: you know, I hope that you're working on accepting yourself 115 00:05:16,000 --> 00:05:20,480 Speaker 1: in therapy, because obviously there's some internalized, you know, problems there, 116 00:05:20,800 --> 00:05:23,960 Speaker 1: So I feel like, you know, if you get those 117 00:05:24,000 --> 00:05:25,760 Speaker 1: out of the way, then hopefully you'll be able to 118 00:05:25,800 --> 00:05:28,120 Speaker 1: live happier with this. I feel like you're also jumping 119 00:05:28,160 --> 00:05:30,960 Speaker 1: to so many conclusions on about how she feels or 120 00:05:31,000 --> 00:05:33,640 Speaker 1: would feel in this situation, Like if she's in love 121 00:05:33,640 --> 00:05:36,400 Speaker 1: with you, I'm sure she wouldn't feel like the worst 122 00:05:36,400 --> 00:05:38,640 Speaker 1: person for the rest of your lives, Like maybe for 123 00:05:38,680 --> 00:05:41,240 Speaker 1: a little bit, if she even does feel guilty for 124 00:05:41,240 --> 00:05:42,120 Speaker 1: breaking up your marriage. 125 00:05:42,720 --> 00:05:45,720 Speaker 2: But and you said you've never talked to her about it, 126 00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:49,080 Speaker 2: and you also said that it's been on a string 127 00:05:49,240 --> 00:05:50,359 Speaker 2: for ten years. 128 00:05:50,560 --> 00:05:53,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, you're just making a lot of guesses. So I 129 00:05:53,240 --> 00:05:56,800 Speaker 1: would talk to her, talk to your husband, talks with therapists. 130 00:05:56,360 --> 00:05:57,240 Speaker 2: Talk with yourself. 131 00:05:57,400 --> 00:06:00,920 Speaker 1: Just go be a woman lover. Yeah, go do it. Update. 132 00:06:01,080 --> 00:06:03,960 Speaker 2: First of all, thank you so much. I found nothing 133 00:06:04,040 --> 00:06:08,200 Speaker 2: but warmth and comfort in the woman Lover Subredditz, and 134 00:06:08,320 --> 00:06:11,160 Speaker 2: you have all been extremely supportive and helpful. I told 135 00:06:11,160 --> 00:06:13,679 Speaker 2: my friend I felt the same. I told my husband 136 00:06:13,720 --> 00:06:17,560 Speaker 2: this it is over. He was upset and now bargaining. 137 00:06:17,839 --> 00:06:20,320 Speaker 2: It's extremely painful to have to continue to tell him 138 00:06:20,360 --> 00:06:22,840 Speaker 2: this isn't a sacrifice I'm willing to make. Not only 139 00:06:22,880 --> 00:06:25,440 Speaker 2: do I prefer women, but I also have feelings for 140 00:06:25,520 --> 00:06:28,839 Speaker 2: my friend even without my spicy proclivity. In question, we 141 00:06:28,920 --> 00:06:31,479 Speaker 2: haven't been happy. We've had happy moments, of course, and 142 00:06:31,520 --> 00:06:33,480 Speaker 2: we love and care for each other. But I know 143 00:06:33,600 --> 00:06:35,880 Speaker 2: this is not for me and not for him. I 144 00:06:35,920 --> 00:06:38,560 Speaker 2: want nothing but to be friends and amicable. I want 145 00:06:38,600 --> 00:06:40,960 Speaker 2: all the best for him. I will split everything with him. 146 00:06:41,160 --> 00:06:44,000 Speaker 2: He can have our babies. I want him to have 147 00:06:44,080 --> 00:06:46,159 Speaker 2: the best life in the world. I just know it's 148 00:06:46,160 --> 00:06:48,040 Speaker 2: not with me. That might be a doing a little 149 00:06:48,040 --> 00:06:50,599 Speaker 2: too much there him me hang on to your children, Yeah, 150 00:06:50,640 --> 00:06:52,719 Speaker 2: maybe it don't just be like you can I'll be 151 00:06:52,880 --> 00:06:53,840 Speaker 2: a birthing. 152 00:06:53,520 --> 00:06:57,479 Speaker 1: Unit for you. Yeah. Like, here's my sacrifice is that 153 00:06:57,800 --> 00:06:59,400 Speaker 1: I don't have to see my children ever. Get you 154 00:06:59,400 --> 00:07:02,760 Speaker 1: a cube. It's like, no, probably want to see your kids. 155 00:07:02,960 --> 00:07:05,159 Speaker 2: Well I don't. I don't think do they have kids. 156 00:07:05,200 --> 00:07:07,560 Speaker 2: I think what she's saying is that let me see, 157 00:07:07,760 --> 00:07:11,320 Speaker 2: let me let me just okay, fourteen years I don't, 158 00:07:11,400 --> 00:07:14,640 Speaker 2: I see, I haven't seen anything about the children. I 159 00:07:14,680 --> 00:07:17,240 Speaker 2: think what she's saying is like, yeah, when me and 160 00:07:17,280 --> 00:07:21,080 Speaker 2: your friend want kids, you can be the one to 161 00:07:21,240 --> 00:07:22,200 Speaker 2: make the kids. 162 00:07:22,600 --> 00:07:25,040 Speaker 1: You know what, I know what I'm sentence again because 163 00:07:25,080 --> 00:07:26,280 Speaker 1: I did not get that at all. 164 00:07:26,280 --> 00:07:29,520 Speaker 2: He said, we've had happy moments, blah blah blah. I 165 00:07:29,560 --> 00:07:31,440 Speaker 2: want all the best for him. I will split everything 166 00:07:31,480 --> 00:07:35,320 Speaker 2: with him. He can have our babies. Well that me 167 00:07:35,720 --> 00:07:37,400 Speaker 2: can have our babies. 168 00:07:37,840 --> 00:07:40,280 Speaker 1: Well yeah, but that's what I mean, but I don't 169 00:07:40,320 --> 00:07:43,400 Speaker 1: have babies. After she said like, we can split everything, 170 00:07:44,000 --> 00:07:46,120 Speaker 1: he can have our babies, that made me think, like, 171 00:07:46,680 --> 00:07:48,440 Speaker 1: I guess you would say, and that's the opposite of 172 00:07:48,480 --> 00:07:51,600 Speaker 1: splitting that is, Yeah, I don't know, that's weird. 173 00:07:51,720 --> 00:07:53,800 Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure she's saying I want to split all 174 00:07:53,840 --> 00:07:56,720 Speaker 2: the marital assets and then he can impregnate me. 175 00:07:56,960 --> 00:07:59,400 Speaker 1: I really don't want that to be the truth. 176 00:07:59,560 --> 00:08:02,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, which she's what I'm saying, Like, hey, now maybe 177 00:08:02,720 --> 00:08:06,960 Speaker 2: let's just break up and he to go our separate ways. 178 00:08:07,200 --> 00:08:09,280 Speaker 2: You can want the best for him, but you don't 179 00:08:09,280 --> 00:08:13,040 Speaker 2: have to like mid do this. I don't know you 180 00:08:13,160 --> 00:08:15,960 Speaker 2: could be right. I just really don't want to jump there. 181 00:08:16,080 --> 00:08:18,600 Speaker 2: I just wanted to not be I'm sure we'll probably 182 00:08:18,680 --> 00:08:22,600 Speaker 2: get some level of clarification. Yeah, but yeah, don't just 183 00:08:22,640 --> 00:08:25,800 Speaker 2: be like yeah, you can just be a baby making 184 00:08:26,160 --> 00:08:29,040 Speaker 2: unit anyway. I want him to have the best life 185 00:08:29,120 --> 00:08:31,160 Speaker 2: in the world. I just know it's not with me. 186 00:08:31,520 --> 00:08:33,760 Speaker 2: As for my friend, we aren't running off together. We 187 00:08:33,800 --> 00:08:37,400 Speaker 2: have therapists and lives and successful careers. She doesn't seem 188 00:08:37,480 --> 00:08:39,920 Speaker 2: to be going anywhere, and that makes this process just 189 00:08:39,960 --> 00:08:42,960 Speaker 2: a bit easier, albeit excruciating. I know in my heart 190 00:08:43,000 --> 00:08:44,920 Speaker 2: I did the right thing, the right way, and that 191 00:08:45,040 --> 00:08:47,400 Speaker 2: this could be the beginning of the rest. 192 00:08:47,120 --> 00:08:48,520 Speaker 1: Of my life. Thank you again. 193 00:08:48,679 --> 00:08:51,240 Speaker 2: There are some comments, and I do think she's there's 194 00:08:51,280 --> 00:08:53,319 Speaker 2: no way they have kids. No mother is going to 195 00:08:53,400 --> 00:08:53,959 Speaker 2: be talking like. 196 00:08:53,920 --> 00:08:57,360 Speaker 1: That, yeah, yeah, being like this is the first day. 197 00:08:56,880 --> 00:08:59,160 Speaker 2: She'd be like, well, I'm going to co parent my 198 00:08:59,240 --> 00:09:02,200 Speaker 2: children with this guy, right, not just you can take 199 00:09:02,240 --> 00:09:02,800 Speaker 2: the babies. 200 00:09:03,080 --> 00:09:05,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm really my brain is really just so in 201 00:09:06,000 --> 00:09:08,600 Speaker 1: denial of that. I'm just like gonna ignore that whole 202 00:09:08,640 --> 00:09:08,959 Speaker 1: part of that. 203 00:09:09,360 --> 00:09:11,520 Speaker 2: She's just trying to cope and come up with like 204 00:09:11,600 --> 00:09:14,360 Speaker 2: a like a yeah, I'm gonna you know, I know 205 00:09:14,480 --> 00:09:17,199 Speaker 2: this sucks for you, so let me give you like whatever, 206 00:09:17,400 --> 00:09:19,040 Speaker 2: let me give you the sweet end of the deal. 207 00:09:19,120 --> 00:09:20,640 Speaker 2: It's like, I don't know if that's that. 208 00:09:20,840 --> 00:09:23,600 Speaker 1: But if she's realizing that she's she loves women. I 209 00:09:23,640 --> 00:09:25,520 Speaker 1: doubt she's just gonna be like, well, yeah, I'll still 210 00:09:25,520 --> 00:09:26,800 Speaker 1: like boink my mind. 211 00:09:26,960 --> 00:09:29,719 Speaker 2: Maybe maybe she means, like, you know, they'll do like 212 00:09:29,760 --> 00:09:33,560 Speaker 2: an IVF or something with his maybe with his juice 213 00:09:33,640 --> 00:09:46,040 Speaker 2: with this suit, right, yeah, comments she says. If I 214 00:09:46,080 --> 00:09:48,000 Speaker 2: blow up my life, there's no way she would ever 215 00:09:48,040 --> 00:09:50,319 Speaker 2: be able to be satisfied logically, because even though it's 216 00:09:50,320 --> 00:09:53,559 Speaker 2: been okay quoting back, you're the only one who can 217 00:09:53,600 --> 00:09:56,800 Speaker 2: decide what to do. But please respect her own choices. 218 00:09:57,160 --> 00:09:59,880 Speaker 2: She is her own person, your friend. She can just 219 00:10:00,280 --> 00:10:02,800 Speaker 2: what to do. Don't undermine her choices just because you 220 00:10:02,840 --> 00:10:05,720 Speaker 2: think they will make her feel bad. She confessed to you, 221 00:10:05,800 --> 00:10:08,679 Speaker 2: she must have thought that that's what's best in this situation. 222 00:10:09,000 --> 00:10:11,360 Speaker 2: Please respect this and don't make your decisions based on 223 00:10:11,400 --> 00:10:15,800 Speaker 2: an assumption she'll regret her choice. Oh P replies, thank you. 224 00:10:15,800 --> 00:10:16,400 Speaker 1: You are right. 225 00:10:16,720 --> 00:10:19,760 Speaker 2: She is an intelligent and emotionally mature woman. She would 226 00:10:19,760 --> 00:10:21,680 Speaker 2: not have told me this for no reason. She was 227 00:10:21,760 --> 00:10:24,600 Speaker 2: adamant that she has no intention to do anything about 228 00:10:24,600 --> 00:10:27,920 Speaker 2: this and essentially is stepping away. My gut and my 229 00:10:28,000 --> 00:10:31,920 Speaker 2: heart want to go get her. Hush, she replies again, 230 00:10:32,280 --> 00:10:34,360 Speaker 2: this is a big decision. To make, and I can't 231 00:10:34,400 --> 00:10:36,520 Speaker 2: and won't tell you what to do. You should probably 232 00:10:36,520 --> 00:10:38,640 Speaker 2: give yourself some time to calm down before making it 233 00:10:38,679 --> 00:10:41,160 Speaker 2: as well, not because you're making a mistake by wanting 234 00:10:41,160 --> 00:10:43,199 Speaker 2: to go to her, but so that you can make 235 00:10:43,240 --> 00:10:45,840 Speaker 2: whatever decision you'll make with a clear head, at least 236 00:10:45,880 --> 00:10:48,600 Speaker 2: as much as possible. I can only imagine how emotional 237 00:10:48,600 --> 00:10:51,679 Speaker 2: this situation must be. Take full responsibility for this. It's 238 00:10:51,679 --> 00:10:54,360 Speaker 2: a big thing, and you owe it to yourself and 239 00:10:54,520 --> 00:10:57,040 Speaker 2: to her. But I will also echo what the other 240 00:10:57,120 --> 00:11:01,040 Speaker 2: commenter said, someone that you love loves you. This is 241 00:11:01,120 --> 00:11:04,000 Speaker 2: not a bad thing. It's a good thing. Yes, it's 242 00:11:04,000 --> 00:11:08,240 Speaker 2: also difficult in your situation, but it's not bad for you. 243 00:11:08,080 --> 00:11:09,559 Speaker 1: I just wanted to put that out there. 244 00:11:10,160 --> 00:11:13,640 Speaker 2: Really, it's not bad for you, and it's not really 245 00:11:13,640 --> 00:11:14,240 Speaker 2: your fault. 246 00:11:14,240 --> 00:11:15,439 Speaker 1: It's just the way it is. 247 00:11:15,800 --> 00:11:19,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, this is really bad news for your husband, right right. 248 00:11:20,000 --> 00:11:23,080 Speaker 1: But it's gonna it's gonna suck to hear. Yeah, I'm 249 00:11:23,080 --> 00:11:26,080 Speaker 1: sure he doesn't. You don't want that to be the case. 250 00:11:26,160 --> 00:11:28,400 Speaker 1: I mean, like, yeah, you said earlier. You know he's 251 00:11:28,480 --> 00:11:31,000 Speaker 1: trying to get you to give him a second chance. 252 00:11:31,080 --> 00:11:33,240 Speaker 1: But you know you don't have to feel like guilty 253 00:11:33,280 --> 00:11:33,559 Speaker 1: for that. 254 00:11:33,559 --> 00:11:37,840 Speaker 5: Though, Yeah, it's it's okay. It's okay that this is happening, 255 00:11:37,880 --> 00:11:40,560 Speaker 5: and it is good for you, it's bad for it, 256 00:11:41,679 --> 00:11:44,280 Speaker 5: Op says. My next therapy session is on Friday. Should 257 00:11:44,280 --> 00:11:46,440 Speaker 5: I wait until then and discuss with my therapist and 258 00:11:46,520 --> 00:11:49,080 Speaker 5: have a clear decision, or should I make sure first 259 00:11:49,280 --> 00:11:51,760 Speaker 5: if it's even an option on her mind, let me 260 00:11:51,880 --> 00:11:54,320 Speaker 5: choose her like, ask if she would even want that. 261 00:11:54,640 --> 00:11:56,800 Speaker 5: The first one, right, is that that's the right way. 262 00:11:56,960 --> 00:11:58,040 Speaker 1: I don't want to do anything that. 263 00:11:57,960 --> 00:12:00,760 Speaker 2: Would be disrespectful to her or the person i'm from. 264 00:12:00,800 --> 00:12:03,040 Speaker 2: The moment I met her, something in me told me 265 00:12:03,080 --> 00:12:05,080 Speaker 2: this is my person. I would have lived the rest 266 00:12:05,120 --> 00:12:08,959 Speaker 2: of my days without confessing this. Huh, she replies again, 267 00:12:09,200 --> 00:12:11,000 Speaker 2: can't say if you should, but if you want to 268 00:12:11,040 --> 00:12:13,680 Speaker 2: wait until that and feel it will help, sure, there's 269 00:12:13,720 --> 00:12:16,040 Speaker 2: probably no harm in doing this. Just don't leave her 270 00:12:16,080 --> 00:12:18,360 Speaker 2: hanging for too long. I can imagine she's dealing with 271 00:12:18,400 --> 00:12:22,800 Speaker 2: emotions similarly intense to yours right now, especially since you 272 00:12:22,800 --> 00:12:25,280 Speaker 2: have a strict boundary of not talking about your marriage, 273 00:12:25,280 --> 00:12:27,160 Speaker 2: so she doesn't know that it wasn't doing well for 274 00:12:27,200 --> 00:12:30,000 Speaker 2: a long time. I can imagine she thinks right now 275 00:12:30,040 --> 00:12:32,480 Speaker 2: that she's going to lose you, And yeah, I don't 276 00:12:32,480 --> 00:12:35,200 Speaker 2: think you should ask her if this is an option. First, 277 00:12:35,320 --> 00:12:37,480 Speaker 2: she loves you, she told you so, she already made 278 00:12:37,480 --> 00:12:40,160 Speaker 2: her step. Imagine you ask her if she would potentially 279 00:12:40,200 --> 00:12:42,280 Speaker 2: be willing to be with you, and then you decide 280 00:12:42,280 --> 00:12:46,400 Speaker 2: against it. Bill Fantastic says, I will split everything with him. 281 00:12:46,600 --> 00:12:49,640 Speaker 2: He can have our babies. Bye, okay, we're getting here. 282 00:12:49,679 --> 00:12:50,000 Speaker 1: We go. 283 00:12:50,440 --> 00:12:55,679 Speaker 2: Please, you're taking half your furniture but leaving your kids. 284 00:12:55,880 --> 00:12:58,520 Speaker 2: I'm confused. Opie says, they're docs. 285 00:12:58,840 --> 00:13:03,920 Speaker 1: Oh my god, Okay, okay, yeah. I was like, there's 286 00:13:03,960 --> 00:13:07,360 Speaker 1: no way she's just going wait, there's no way she's 287 00:13:07,400 --> 00:13:09,920 Speaker 1: just gonna be baby making machine. When she just realized 288 00:13:09,960 --> 00:13:15,000 Speaker 1: she's a Lesbo Like there's yeah, and they're dogs. 289 00:13:15,160 --> 00:13:17,680 Speaker 2: We have three of them. He is very bonded with 290 00:13:17,720 --> 00:13:19,480 Speaker 2: two of them. And I know that as much as 291 00:13:19,480 --> 00:13:22,040 Speaker 2: it would pain me that he would need the support 292 00:13:22,240 --> 00:13:24,160 Speaker 2: and they're his baby is as much as they are mine. 293 00:13:24,559 --> 00:13:26,920 Speaker 2: The house and furniture and everything is mine. So what 294 00:13:26,960 --> 00:13:29,400 Speaker 2: I mean is I'll give him whatever he wants fairly 295 00:13:29,640 --> 00:13:32,600 Speaker 2: and split monetarily. I was the breadwinner and he was 296 00:13:32,640 --> 00:13:35,920 Speaker 2: my employee. With minimal tasks, so I supported us both. 297 00:13:36,040 --> 00:13:38,480 Speaker 2: He basically will not need to find another job or 298 00:13:38,520 --> 00:13:40,800 Speaker 2: anything and would be set for a good while, so 299 00:13:40,880 --> 00:13:43,200 Speaker 2: it's not like he'll be scrambling to survive and will 300 00:13:43,280 --> 00:13:45,400 Speaker 2: likely live in his parents' house rent free, so he 301 00:13:45,440 --> 00:13:47,480 Speaker 2: can build a life himself. We have an update here 302 00:13:47,480 --> 00:13:48,320 Speaker 2: from one year later. 303 00:13:48,600 --> 00:13:53,000 Speaker 6: Oh yeah, I think you're you know, I hope that 304 00:13:53,080 --> 00:13:55,840 Speaker 6: you can do this with a clear conscience, and you know, 305 00:13:56,120 --> 00:14:00,200 Speaker 6: hopefully your ex husband will be able to recall her 306 00:14:00,240 --> 00:14:00,559 Speaker 6: from this. 307 00:14:01,080 --> 00:14:03,360 Speaker 2: I think he'll be all right. He'll have the dogs, 308 00:14:03,920 --> 00:14:05,000 Speaker 2: he'll have the doggies. 309 00:14:05,600 --> 00:14:06,839 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think so. 310 00:14:07,480 --> 00:14:11,120 Speaker 2: Hey, you know what, women love dogs? A divorced guy 311 00:14:11,240 --> 00:14:12,440 Speaker 2: with some dogs. 312 00:14:12,600 --> 00:14:16,200 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, you're gonna be fine. You're gonna be 313 00:14:16,480 --> 00:14:18,800 Speaker 1: just fine. Yeah, all right. 314 00:14:19,080 --> 00:14:24,720 Speaker 2: One year later, this past Saturday, I proposed and she said, yes, 315 00:14:25,160 --> 00:14:32,760 Speaker 2: what bo all right, let's bow marriage. Maybe not maybe, 316 00:14:32,760 --> 00:14:34,880 Speaker 2: I don't know if that's was that effect you say it, 317 00:14:35,120 --> 00:14:36,120 Speaker 2: Let's bow marriage. 318 00:14:36,240 --> 00:14:36,840 Speaker 1: Just say. 319 00:14:39,480 --> 00:14:42,040 Speaker 2: This has been the happiest year of my life. Thank 320 00:14:42,080 --> 00:14:44,640 Speaker 2: you everyone here for your support that day a year ago. 321 00:14:45,000 --> 00:14:48,440 Speaker 2: Life is amazing. And she had a ring on it. 322 00:14:48,760 --> 00:14:50,280 Speaker 2: And that is the end of that story. 323 00:14:50,560 --> 00:14:54,000 Speaker 1: Oh okay, well lever Retelle, happy. 324 00:14:53,760 --> 00:14:56,840 Speaker 2: Ending love, a good old gay marriage. 325 00:14:56,920 --> 00:15:03,360 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Oh yeah, a marriage an 326 00:15:03,440 --> 00:15:05,480 Speaker 1: a gay marriage. 327 00:15:04,960 --> 00:15:09,240 Speaker 2: And YAG and yeah, yeah, I just say it backwards. Yeah, 328 00:15:09,600 --> 00:15:11,960 Speaker 2: we're only doing that because sometimes algorithms want to take 329 00:15:12,000 --> 00:15:14,840 Speaker 2: away all of our monetization for saying that word out loud, yes, 330 00:15:15,120 --> 00:15:17,520 Speaker 2: which is crazy, and so we don't do something about it. 331 00:15:17,720 --> 00:15:18,720 Speaker 1: Absolutely, maybe not. 332 00:15:18,720 --> 00:15:19,920 Speaker 2: Lesbo, though maybe not. 333 00:15:20,200 --> 00:15:24,920 Speaker 1: We'll find out. We will find out. Yeah, married, YAG married, 334 00:15:25,160 --> 00:15:26,280 Speaker 1: YAG married. 335 00:15:26,880 --> 00:15:26,960 Speaker 5: Go. 336 00:15:27,440 --> 00:15:29,360 Speaker 1: Yeah. I feel like if you know, I don't know 337 00:15:29,360 --> 00:15:31,840 Speaker 1: how the husband is or ex husband is doing, but 338 00:15:32,000 --> 00:15:33,440 Speaker 1: hopefully he's chilling and. 339 00:15:33,440 --> 00:15:37,840 Speaker 2: We shouldn't really to be honest for a while. Maybe yeah, 340 00:15:37,960 --> 00:15:38,560 Speaker 2: I'm sure. 341 00:15:39,080 --> 00:15:41,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean me personally, I don't like to know. 342 00:15:41,760 --> 00:15:43,160 Speaker 1: OP does not need to know. 343 00:15:43,560 --> 00:15:46,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, Like and Op was talking like, oh this is, 344 00:15:46,080 --> 00:15:48,840 Speaker 2: you know, really important, and even I think for both 345 00:15:48,880 --> 00:15:52,920 Speaker 2: of you, a very clean break is probably for the best. 346 00:15:53,160 --> 00:15:54,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, And I don't even know if they got that. 347 00:15:54,720 --> 00:15:57,240 Speaker 1: If he works for her a little bit, she mentioned like. 348 00:15:57,720 --> 00:15:59,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, I worked, I'm sure he'll be finding a new 349 00:15:59,800 --> 00:16:02,280 Speaker 2: yeah whatever, right, But. 350 00:16:02,560 --> 00:16:05,080 Speaker 1: Because she she just mentioned like he'd be fine for 351 00:16:05,120 --> 00:16:07,000 Speaker 1: a little bit, and I was like, well, so is 352 00:16:07,040 --> 00:16:11,920 Speaker 1: he's still gonna work with you? Yeah, and Papa, But 353 00:16:12,120 --> 00:16:14,360 Speaker 1: that was a great story. We got the end of 354 00:16:14,360 --> 00:16:16,960 Speaker 1: his Sorry, that was a stressful time for you though. 355 00:16:17,720 --> 00:16:20,320 Speaker 1: That was a lot to deal with. Yeah, but that 356 00:16:20,440 --> 00:16:23,360 Speaker 1: story's over. We've got another one. My best friend said 357 00:16:23,400 --> 00:16:26,239 Speaker 1: he deserved me more than my boyfriend. 358 00:16:26,560 --> 00:16:29,200 Speaker 2: Your best friend trying to be your boyfriend. 359 00:16:30,440 --> 00:16:34,160 Speaker 1: Trigger warning mentions a physical altercation. So my twenty one 360 00:16:34,160 --> 00:16:37,120 Speaker 1: female friend of ten years, Mark twenty three male called 361 00:16:37,160 --> 00:16:39,600 Speaker 1: me yesterday to meet him for lunch and that he 362 00:16:39,800 --> 00:16:43,160 Speaker 1: had something important to discuss with me. I had free time, 363 00:16:43,240 --> 00:16:46,640 Speaker 1: so I agreed. I met him already there and joined him. 364 00:16:46,840 --> 00:16:49,120 Speaker 1: We had lunch and then we talked a bit about 365 00:16:49,200 --> 00:16:51,880 Speaker 1: random things. By the way, this comes from besties, And 366 00:16:51,920 --> 00:16:53,320 Speaker 1: if you want to submit your own stories, go to 367 00:16:53,360 --> 00:16:56,920 Speaker 1: the r slash Okay story time Supreddit And I'm Angie. 368 00:16:56,480 --> 00:16:58,880 Speaker 2: I'm Dakota, and we're here to give good advice. 369 00:16:58,880 --> 00:17:01,120 Speaker 1: Goofly. But we don't have all the answers, all right, 370 00:17:01,240 --> 00:17:03,120 Speaker 1: We just know what we would do in the situation. 371 00:17:03,200 --> 00:17:04,720 Speaker 1: But let us know what you would do in the comments, 372 00:17:04,760 --> 00:17:09,000 Speaker 1: so Op says. Then he cleared his throats, and started speaking. 373 00:17:09,280 --> 00:17:12,040 Speaker 1: He first told me that he didn't understand why I 374 00:17:12,119 --> 00:17:14,920 Speaker 1: was dating my now boyfriend when he's a better match 375 00:17:14,960 --> 00:17:15,199 Speaker 1: for me. 376 00:17:15,400 --> 00:17:19,320 Speaker 4: I asked him to explain, ex blake yourself, sir. 377 00:17:20,280 --> 00:17:23,320 Speaker 1: He basically went on about how he liked me first, 378 00:17:23,440 --> 00:17:26,280 Speaker 1: and he met me first. He's more good looking, he 379 00:17:26,359 --> 00:17:29,520 Speaker 1: knows me better. He's taller than my boyfriend and more successful, 380 00:17:29,520 --> 00:17:31,880 Speaker 1: which is not true in a way. My boyfriend works 381 00:17:31,920 --> 00:17:34,400 Speaker 1: aside from growing up in wealth, while Mark's entire life 382 00:17:34,440 --> 00:17:37,439 Speaker 1: is funded by his parents' moneyl He told me he 383 00:17:37,480 --> 00:17:40,000 Speaker 1: doesn't understand how I could be with him when he's 384 00:17:40,160 --> 00:17:41,719 Speaker 1: always been around waiting for me. 385 00:17:41,840 --> 00:17:45,080 Speaker 2: I gotta say, it's crazy that this guy's technique is 386 00:17:45,160 --> 00:17:48,520 Speaker 2: just like well, first of all, I called dibbs, right, 387 00:17:49,040 --> 00:17:49,800 Speaker 2: I met. 388 00:17:49,640 --> 00:17:53,280 Speaker 1: You first, Like when we're looking at the timeline, there's two. 389 00:17:53,320 --> 00:17:57,440 Speaker 1: It's just like, you know, first in first out literally 390 00:17:57,600 --> 00:18:02,280 Speaker 1: or last in first out literally. Everything else is high. Yeah, 391 00:18:03,640 --> 00:18:06,919 Speaker 1: come on, come on. I was out of words and 392 00:18:07,000 --> 00:18:09,439 Speaker 1: asked him if he wanted me to be honest, to 393 00:18:09,520 --> 00:18:11,960 Speaker 1: which he said yes. I told him that I would 394 00:18:12,040 --> 00:18:14,400 Speaker 1: never want to date him given how I was seen 395 00:18:14,480 --> 00:18:18,879 Speaker 1: the way he treated his past girlfriends Oh, let's go. 396 00:18:19,520 --> 00:18:25,320 Speaker 5: Let's go get him out the airhorn. 397 00:18:25,840 --> 00:18:28,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, he ghosts them when he feels like it and 398 00:18:28,760 --> 00:18:31,080 Speaker 1: just expects them to be there waiting. I told him 399 00:18:31,080 --> 00:18:34,040 Speaker 1: he's too immature and irresponsible for me, and that dating 400 00:18:34,119 --> 00:18:37,359 Speaker 1: him would be exhausting. I also explained that the reasons 401 00:18:37,400 --> 00:18:40,280 Speaker 1: I mentioned was why, over time, I started putting a 402 00:18:40,320 --> 00:18:43,120 Speaker 1: distance to a friendship, because I didn't like the way 403 00:18:43,119 --> 00:18:45,359 Speaker 1: he treated the women in his life. When I was done, 404 00:18:45,480 --> 00:18:49,120 Speaker 1: he was just quiet. He just excused himself and left. Yeah, 405 00:18:49,119 --> 00:18:52,159 Speaker 1: he tried to ghost irl. He's like, if you excuse me, 406 00:18:52,200 --> 00:18:54,199 Speaker 1: I have some women to reach out to. You I 407 00:18:54,200 --> 00:18:56,800 Speaker 1: haven't spoken to in months. Right, you've reminded me. 408 00:18:57,080 --> 00:18:59,960 Speaker 2: There's some women that I met before you as another one, 409 00:19:00,040 --> 00:19:01,920 Speaker 2: and I have DIBs on that I'm going to reach 410 00:19:01,920 --> 00:19:02,440 Speaker 2: out to now. 411 00:19:02,560 --> 00:19:05,840 Speaker 1: Right. Later in the evening, our other friends started asking 412 00:19:05,920 --> 00:19:07,879 Speaker 1: what I did to Mark and that he's been a 413 00:19:07,920 --> 00:19:10,439 Speaker 1: wreck since he met me for lunch. He's drinking and 414 00:19:10,480 --> 00:19:13,880 Speaker 1: not telling anyone what happened. Yeah, because he just got 415 00:19:13,920 --> 00:19:17,480 Speaker 1: his butt handed to him in that conversation. Yeah, I 416 00:19:18,720 --> 00:19:20,919 Speaker 1: just found out I'm a terrible person. Actually, let me 417 00:19:21,160 --> 00:19:21,679 Speaker 1: deal with this. 418 00:19:21,720 --> 00:19:24,200 Speaker 2: It's like, oh, I found that I need to change 419 00:19:24,200 --> 00:19:27,600 Speaker 2: my behavior well, and I just like destructively drink and 420 00:19:27,640 --> 00:19:29,600 Speaker 2: make this other people's fault and problem. 421 00:19:29,800 --> 00:19:32,399 Speaker 1: Right, And I'm so not surprised that what she said 422 00:19:32,680 --> 00:19:35,920 Speaker 1: about his dating life is the case. After he said, like, oh, 423 00:19:35,960 --> 00:19:39,000 Speaker 1: I called Dibbs. And I'm also taller and more successful 424 00:19:39,200 --> 00:19:41,880 Speaker 1: because I have my parents have a much money. I'm 425 00:19:41,920 --> 00:19:45,800 Speaker 1: taller and my parents are richer. Yeah, it's like, okay, 426 00:19:46,400 --> 00:19:50,200 Speaker 1: it definitely seems like a red pilled alpha male type. 427 00:19:50,240 --> 00:19:55,359 Speaker 1: And again, yeah, I called DIBs. Most importantly, he was 428 00:19:55,359 --> 00:19:59,400 Speaker 1: there first, the sacred rite of me first finders keepers. 429 00:20:00,400 --> 00:20:03,040 Speaker 1: I explained to them what happened, and they are saying 430 00:20:03,080 --> 00:20:05,480 Speaker 1: that I was harsh and that I broke him blah 431 00:20:05,560 --> 00:20:08,000 Speaker 1: blah blah. But I think someone had to tell him 432 00:20:08,040 --> 00:20:10,280 Speaker 1: the truth. So Reddit fam am I the a hole 433 00:20:10,320 --> 00:20:14,000 Speaker 1: and there is an edit, but I have to say, no, no, 434 00:20:14,560 --> 00:20:17,000 Speaker 1: definitely not the ale. I am so relieved that you 435 00:20:17,160 --> 00:20:20,680 Speaker 1: just like smacked him with that honesty, because no one 436 00:20:20,720 --> 00:20:23,399 Speaker 1: tells these people that, no one tells them the truth, 437 00:20:23,400 --> 00:20:24,480 Speaker 1: and you did, so thank you. 438 00:20:24,720 --> 00:20:29,119 Speaker 2: Yeah, hit, you took the Cold War and you wait. 439 00:20:28,160 --> 00:20:31,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, if they think it's harsh, than nacon dat, 440 00:20:31,400 --> 00:20:35,040 Speaker 1: I'm I guess, Yeah, why don't you date him? Yeah? 441 00:20:35,080 --> 00:20:37,000 Speaker 1: I think you treat women terribly, and I don't even 442 00:20:37,040 --> 00:20:38,119 Speaker 1: want to be your friend because of that. 443 00:20:38,320 --> 00:20:41,760 Speaker 2: Literally have distanced myself from you already because you kind 444 00:20:41,760 --> 00:20:42,720 Speaker 2: of treat women bad. 445 00:20:42,880 --> 00:20:45,280 Speaker 1: I see nothing wrong with that, edits. I am so 446 00:20:45,440 --> 00:20:47,800 Speaker 1: overwhelmed by the comments in a good way. Most are 447 00:20:47,840 --> 00:20:50,520 Speaker 1: really funny. I've been laughing so much I woke my 448 00:20:50,600 --> 00:20:53,760 Speaker 1: sister's baby. I've sent my post to my friend not 449 00:20:53,800 --> 00:20:56,600 Speaker 1: associated with Mark, and our group chat is blowing up 450 00:20:56,600 --> 00:20:59,399 Speaker 1: with more laughter. But in all seriousness, I'm thankful for 451 00:20:59,440 --> 00:21:01,840 Speaker 1: the great comment and people giving advice on my safety. 452 00:21:01,960 --> 00:21:04,600 Speaker 1: I'll definitely be more aware of my surroundings going forward. 453 00:21:04,640 --> 00:21:06,680 Speaker 1: I don't know Mark is a violent person, but then again, 454 00:21:06,960 --> 00:21:09,840 Speaker 1: this incident has proved that I may not know him 455 00:21:10,040 --> 00:21:12,879 Speaker 1: like I think I do. Mark is currently blocked from everything. 456 00:21:12,960 --> 00:21:15,280 Speaker 1: Our mutual friends who were supporting him and calling me 457 00:21:15,320 --> 00:21:17,840 Speaker 1: out are also blocked. And this is also a learning 458 00:21:17,920 --> 00:21:20,399 Speaker 1: lesson to me to distance myself a lot more quicker 459 00:21:20,480 --> 00:21:23,840 Speaker 1: next time I see red flag in future friendships. And 460 00:21:25,359 --> 00:21:29,280 Speaker 1: we do have some comments here, so one commenter says, 461 00:21:29,520 --> 00:21:33,919 Speaker 1: and all his bragging about himself is superficial, shallow stuff. Oh, 462 00:21:34,000 --> 00:21:36,600 Speaker 1: he is right. He's too immature and self centered and 463 00:21:36,680 --> 00:21:39,200 Speaker 1: sounds like he's never had to earn anything for himself. 464 00:21:39,200 --> 00:21:41,520 Speaker 1: How did he think this was go? She would say, Gee, 465 00:21:41,520 --> 00:21:44,160 Speaker 1: you're right, how could if he's so foolish? Aw, then 466 00:21:44,200 --> 00:21:47,160 Speaker 1: he could tell her she still had to earn his love. 467 00:21:47,960 --> 00:21:50,639 Speaker 1: Just gross. Yeah that's probably true. Yeah, she'd be like, 468 00:21:50,720 --> 00:21:53,960 Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I've never been told that by you before. 469 00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:57,080 Speaker 1: All I needed to hear was that you called this 470 00:21:57,400 --> 00:21:59,760 Speaker 1: on me. Right, let me leave my boyfriend that I'm 471 00:21:59,760 --> 00:22:03,080 Speaker 1: in life with to date you. He's the typical rich 472 00:22:03,119 --> 00:22:05,359 Speaker 1: boy who thinks we should all bow down to him. 473 00:22:05,359 --> 00:22:07,880 Speaker 1: But if we are to remove his parents' money, then 474 00:22:07,880 --> 00:22:11,320 Speaker 1: he's got nothing to his name. Another commenter says, why 475 00:22:11,359 --> 00:22:13,640 Speaker 1: doesn't she like me? I'm literally the most perfect guy. 476 00:22:13,720 --> 00:22:16,520 Speaker 1: I'm a really nice person. You're a bad person. He 477 00:22:16,640 --> 00:22:19,080 Speaker 1: a self absorbed existential crisis that has nothing to do 478 00:22:19,119 --> 00:22:21,560 Speaker 1: with you, but you will be blamed for OPI responds, 479 00:22:21,920 --> 00:22:25,160 Speaker 1: very self absorbed, he makes everything about him and always 480 00:22:25,200 --> 00:22:28,240 Speaker 1: wants to one up his friends. I'm definitely dropping him 481 00:22:28,280 --> 00:22:29,640 Speaker 1: and the people supporting him. 482 00:22:29,720 --> 00:22:32,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, can you imagine getting sorry for yourself after you 483 00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:36,480 Speaker 2: betray one of your friends. I am assuming that he 484 00:22:36,600 --> 00:22:41,000 Speaker 2: knows Opie's boyfriend. Yeah, and I'm sure goes and tries 485 00:22:41,040 --> 00:22:44,960 Speaker 2: to just steal someone's girlfriend and then when she's like, hey, no, 486 00:22:45,080 --> 00:22:46,960 Speaker 2: your behavior is kind of trash. 487 00:22:47,119 --> 00:22:50,320 Speaker 1: I mean, look at what you're doing right now. Right. 488 00:22:50,480 --> 00:22:52,760 Speaker 2: Plus I've seen the way you treat women, and you 489 00:22:52,960 --> 00:22:53,720 Speaker 2: treat them. 490 00:22:53,680 --> 00:22:56,719 Speaker 1: Poorly, like you're such a bad person. I don't even 491 00:22:56,760 --> 00:23:00,879 Speaker 1: want to be your friend, Leila girlfriend. I keep we 492 00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:04,520 Speaker 1: y are and he's like, hey, mom, can I have 493 00:23:04,600 --> 00:23:06,399 Speaker 1: some money to go buy alcohol? Yeah? 494 00:23:06,760 --> 00:23:08,960 Speaker 4: Well I need eight hundred dollars to go to the 495 00:23:09,040 --> 00:23:11,680 Speaker 4: barn buy it the most expensive bottle. 496 00:23:12,000 --> 00:23:14,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, because I'm sad. We do have an update from 497 00:23:15,040 --> 00:23:18,040 Speaker 1: four days later. Hello Redded family. I don't know if 498 00:23:18,040 --> 00:23:20,480 Speaker 1: anyone will find this we have, but I did get 499 00:23:20,520 --> 00:23:22,880 Speaker 1: a lot of comments and great suggestions on my first post, 500 00:23:22,960 --> 00:23:24,840 Speaker 1: so I feel like I owe you an update. Well, 501 00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:27,800 Speaker 1: so a couple things have happened since then. After some 502 00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:30,080 Speaker 1: people mentioned concerns about my safety, I took it to 503 00:23:30,119 --> 00:23:32,240 Speaker 1: heart and told my sister and her husband I live 504 00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:34,439 Speaker 1: at them for an how about the issue. It was 505 00:23:34,520 --> 00:23:36,720 Speaker 1: also just in case, my ex friends were to stop 506 00:23:36,720 --> 00:23:38,720 Speaker 1: by the house since they used to do that sometimes. 507 00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:41,520 Speaker 1: Since there's a baby at our house, my sister's baby, 508 00:23:41,560 --> 00:23:43,879 Speaker 1: they thought having cameras was not a bad idea for 509 00:23:43,960 --> 00:23:46,720 Speaker 1: everyone's safety. I also told my boyfriend since some of 510 00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:49,200 Speaker 1: you were worried about his safety too. He's a fit 511 00:23:49,280 --> 00:23:51,679 Speaker 1: guy and has security at his house, so he'll be 512 00:23:51,720 --> 00:23:54,040 Speaker 1: all right. On Friday, I went to a birthday party 513 00:23:54,040 --> 00:23:56,240 Speaker 1: with my boyfriend for one of his friends, and everything 514 00:23:56,320 --> 00:23:59,000 Speaker 1: was going well until I saw one of Mark's sidekicks, 515 00:23:59,200 --> 00:24:02,479 Speaker 1: let's call him Ben. I passed him without saying anything, 516 00:24:02,520 --> 00:24:04,600 Speaker 1: and he just looked at me. I told my boyfriend 517 00:24:04,600 --> 00:24:06,399 Speaker 1: that he was there, and we decided not to let 518 00:24:06,440 --> 00:24:09,000 Speaker 1: him bother rest. An hour later, I saw Mark talking 519 00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:11,760 Speaker 1: to the birthday girl. I wasn't surprised they knew each other, honestly, 520 00:24:11,880 --> 00:24:13,760 Speaker 1: most of us went to the same primary school and 521 00:24:13,760 --> 00:24:16,320 Speaker 1: stayed connected through the years. Then he made his way 522 00:24:16,359 --> 00:24:19,480 Speaker 1: over to us, smiling like nothing happened. He went straight 523 00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:22,840 Speaker 1: to my boyfriend, extended his hand and said, I'm Mark. 524 00:24:23,080 --> 00:24:26,280 Speaker 1: You remember me, right, and you must be the boyfriend. 525 00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:30,120 Speaker 1: My boyfriend shook his hand, being polite, of course. Then 526 00:24:30,359 --> 00:24:33,800 Speaker 1: Mark said in his most annoying voice. Can I borrow 527 00:24:33,880 --> 00:24:35,680 Speaker 1: her for a second? I just want to talk. 528 00:24:36,119 --> 00:24:46,000 Speaker 4: Okay, Okay, you're asking some guy's opinion, some guy's permission 529 00:24:46,119 --> 00:24:48,080 Speaker 4: to speak to his girlfriend when she's right. 530 00:24:48,480 --> 00:24:51,760 Speaker 1: Can I talk to your property? Yeah? Just for just 531 00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:53,720 Speaker 1: for a second, I promise. I just need to, like, 532 00:24:53,840 --> 00:24:58,720 Speaker 1: really quick, offer your property another price for being her boyfriend? 533 00:24:59,080 --> 00:25:00,639 Speaker 1: Really quick? Can I Is that alright? 534 00:25:00,720 --> 00:25:03,119 Speaker 2: When you when people talk like that, you gotta just 535 00:25:03,160 --> 00:25:04,639 Speaker 2: be like, can you run that by me? Can you 536 00:25:04,680 --> 00:25:05,440 Speaker 2: say that one more time? 537 00:25:05,560 --> 00:25:06,200 Speaker 1: Yeah? I'm sorry? 538 00:25:06,280 --> 00:25:07,120 Speaker 2: Can you say that again? 539 00:25:07,160 --> 00:25:08,639 Speaker 1: I must not have heard you, right? Who are you 540 00:25:08,680 --> 00:25:11,760 Speaker 1: talking to? I have no power over you know who 541 00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:13,840 Speaker 1: you're gonna borrow or who is going to let you 542 00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:16,720 Speaker 1: borrow them? Like? Is there a reason I shouldn't let 543 00:25:16,760 --> 00:25:18,000 Speaker 1: you talk to my girlfriend? 544 00:25:18,000 --> 00:25:20,840 Speaker 2: Because I can think of one right now already just 545 00:25:20,960 --> 00:25:23,520 Speaker 2: having met you, right, which I guess they didn't know 546 00:25:23,560 --> 00:25:26,160 Speaker 2: each other, that they did not know each other first, 547 00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:28,040 Speaker 2: but I guess he knew him. 548 00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:29,879 Speaker 1: I'm Mark, you remember me? Right? Well? 549 00:25:30,000 --> 00:25:32,199 Speaker 2: Maybe I have met I think he was saying that 550 00:25:32,240 --> 00:25:35,119 Speaker 2: to op No, that was to him well, because then 551 00:25:35,119 --> 00:25:37,240 Speaker 2: he turned and said he turned. 552 00:25:36,960 --> 00:25:39,720 Speaker 1: To he went straight to my boyfriend, extended his hand 553 00:25:39,760 --> 00:25:40,600 Speaker 1: and said, I'm Mark. 554 00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:42,520 Speaker 2: You remember me, right, Okay. 555 00:25:42,200 --> 00:25:44,280 Speaker 1: You must be the boyfriend. So maybe they didn't meet, but. 556 00:25:44,520 --> 00:25:45,639 Speaker 2: You must be the boyfriend. 557 00:25:45,880 --> 00:25:47,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know, Yeah, I don't know. 558 00:25:47,920 --> 00:25:53,359 Speaker 2: He's either like there's two and you must be the boyfriend. 559 00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:55,840 Speaker 2: Was like a pivot. But I think you're right now, 560 00:25:55,920 --> 00:25:56,480 Speaker 2: you're right. 561 00:25:56,600 --> 00:25:59,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, either way if they've met before or not, 562 00:25:59,640 --> 00:26:03,159 Speaker 1: that's a like totally d bag thing to say, and like, 563 00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:05,520 Speaker 1: very pompous is the word that comes to mind, But 564 00:26:05,560 --> 00:26:08,000 Speaker 1: I feel like that's wrong. That's yeah word'. 565 00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:11,080 Speaker 2: He's saying that, being like and you'll say yes, yeah, 566 00:26:11,119 --> 00:26:13,959 Speaker 2: what if you just go no, yeah, no, no. 567 00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:15,159 Speaker 1: If you have anything to say, you can say it 568 00:26:15,200 --> 00:26:17,600 Speaker 1: right here exactly. So he asked, can I borrow her 569 00:26:17,640 --> 00:26:20,000 Speaker 1: for a second, We just want to talk. I immediately 570 00:26:20,000 --> 00:26:22,400 Speaker 1: shut him down and told him to leave us alone, 571 00:26:22,480 --> 00:26:25,600 Speaker 1: but he didn't. He persisted for a full minute, and 572 00:26:25,640 --> 00:26:27,760 Speaker 1: when my boyfriend told him to leave, he tried to 573 00:26:27,800 --> 00:26:31,280 Speaker 1: take my hand by force. My boyfriend, already annoyed by 574 00:26:31,280 --> 00:26:34,680 Speaker 1: the whole situation, slapped the arrogance out of him. Mark 575 00:26:34,800 --> 00:26:38,240 Speaker 1: tried to fight back, but my boyfriend hit him in 576 00:26:38,280 --> 00:26:40,959 Speaker 1: the face. The security people were called and took him 577 00:26:40,960 --> 00:26:43,760 Speaker 1: out while he shouted, and we left after explaining the 578 00:26:43,760 --> 00:26:45,959 Speaker 1: whole thing to the birth take girl. My boyfriend dropped 579 00:26:45,960 --> 00:26:49,920 Speaker 1: me off at home and left immediately. Yeah, and there 580 00:26:50,160 --> 00:26:53,760 Speaker 1: is a little bit more to the story. But she's 581 00:26:53,880 --> 00:26:59,720 Speaker 1: just following all the stereotypes. You's what an absolute loser. Yeah, yeah, 582 00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:02,760 Speaker 1: he's he's tried to steal her away. First of all, 583 00:27:02,800 --> 00:27:05,679 Speaker 1: he's still not said one word to Opie and trying 584 00:27:05,720 --> 00:27:08,320 Speaker 1: to take her away to talk to her whatever he 585 00:27:08,560 --> 00:27:10,640 Speaker 1: thinks is gonna happen with that conversation. And then when 586 00:27:10,680 --> 00:27:13,560 Speaker 1: security comes after, he was the one that's hit. Like 587 00:27:13,600 --> 00:27:16,359 Speaker 1: security takes him away and he's like screaming and crying 588 00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:18,040 Speaker 1: and being pulled out of there was. 589 00:27:18,080 --> 00:27:20,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, of course the security is like what happened and 590 00:27:20,480 --> 00:27:23,000 Speaker 2: there like, oh yeah, he tried to just like drag 591 00:27:23,280 --> 00:27:28,080 Speaker 2: op away against her will, so I stepped in and 592 00:27:28,200 --> 00:27:28,920 Speaker 2: stopped him. 593 00:27:29,160 --> 00:27:32,040 Speaker 1: They oh, yeah, we're gonna kick him out of the party. Yeah, 594 00:27:32,080 --> 00:27:34,440 Speaker 1: and he's probably gonna be like milking that so hard. 595 00:27:34,480 --> 00:27:36,480 Speaker 1: He's gonna be like having a giant ice pack on 596 00:27:36,520 --> 00:27:39,159 Speaker 1: his face and like, oh my god, he hit me. 597 00:27:39,520 --> 00:27:42,600 Speaker 1: Ah and it's just gonna play the victim cards. 598 00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:45,520 Speaker 2: So I has no idea and never gets told. 599 00:27:45,320 --> 00:27:49,639 Speaker 3: No yep, until he does get told no by my 600 00:27:49,760 --> 00:27:50,840 Speaker 3: fist boom. 601 00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:53,399 Speaker 1: The next day, Saturday, a video was sent to me 602 00:27:53,600 --> 00:27:56,719 Speaker 1: of Mark being taken away by security. Well, people were laughing. 603 00:27:58,240 --> 00:28:00,960 Speaker 1: I guess somebody was filming. The person who sent it 604 00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:05,359 Speaker 1: was one of Mark's ex girlfriends. Her message said, served 605 00:28:05,400 --> 00:28:07,760 Speaker 1: him right. So yeah, that's where we are right now. 606 00:28:07,960 --> 00:28:10,720 Speaker 1: It's been quiet since yesterday. But knowing Mark, he'll definitely 607 00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:13,080 Speaker 1: try to pull something on my boyfriend. My boyfriend is 608 00:28:13,160 --> 00:28:15,720 Speaker 1: not one to resort to violence, but Mark had it coming. Honestly, 609 00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:18,000 Speaker 1: if it wasn't him, someone else would have done it. 610 00:28:18,240 --> 00:28:20,520 Speaker 1: Comment Number one says, not the a hole, bro. You 611 00:28:20,640 --> 00:28:23,399 Speaker 1: literally set boundaries and he refused to respect them. Your 612 00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:27,080 Speaker 1: boyfriend protecting you equals and normal. Oh, he says, thank you. 613 00:28:27,160 --> 00:28:30,040 Speaker 1: He'll definitely appreciate this. He's still sad about me witnessing 614 00:28:30,080 --> 00:28:32,160 Speaker 1: that side of him, but I've assured him that I'm 615 00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:35,320 Speaker 1: not bothered. Mark crossed so many lines. Coment tre number 616 00:28:35,320 --> 00:28:37,640 Speaker 1: two says, security came and if they thought your boyfriend 617 00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:40,320 Speaker 1: was a problem at all, they'd have hauled him right 618 00:28:40,360 --> 00:28:43,400 Speaker 1: off alongside Mark. They knew who the ahle was, even 619 00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:46,640 Speaker 1: though they are complete strangers to you. Your boyfriend shouldn't 620 00:28:46,680 --> 00:28:48,600 Speaker 1: be sad that you had to witness that side of 621 00:28:48,680 --> 00:28:51,120 Speaker 1: him anymore than he should be sad for you to 622 00:28:51,160 --> 00:28:54,280 Speaker 1: see him take a crap. He just did what he 623 00:28:54,360 --> 00:28:57,520 Speaker 1: had to do in an unfortunate situation. I would be 624 00:28:57,680 --> 00:29:02,240 Speaker 1: sad for that, your girl, don't watch it that. I'm 625 00:29:02,280 --> 00:29:05,560 Speaker 1: sorry that I would be like, I'm I'm so sorry 626 00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:11,520 Speaker 1: I had to see that. That's no Opie says, all 627 00:29:11,520 --> 00:29:13,680 Speaker 1: show this comment to him, And you're right on the 628 00:29:13,680 --> 00:29:17,080 Speaker 1: security part. Mark wasn't even invited the Perthday girl was 629 00:29:17,120 --> 00:29:19,480 Speaker 1: just being polite when he showed up after Ben told 630 00:29:19,560 --> 00:29:21,840 Speaker 1: him I was there. Then needs to grow a spine 631 00:29:21,920 --> 00:29:24,760 Speaker 1: and stop being a puppet. And that is the end 632 00:29:24,800 --> 00:29:27,720 Speaker 1: of that. Sorry, but yeah, I think your boyfriend is 633 00:29:27,760 --> 00:29:30,680 Speaker 1: totally fine. And the fact that he's like embarrassed for 634 00:29:31,000 --> 00:29:33,040 Speaker 1: you seeing that side of him is like kind of sweet. 635 00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:35,520 Speaker 1: It's like, yeah, he didn't even do it out of 636 00:29:35,760 --> 00:29:39,600 Speaker 1: like in an un like an invalid situation where he 637 00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:40,400 Speaker 1: was protecting you. 638 00:29:40,560 --> 00:29:43,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, he wasn't fishing. He was like he did what 639 00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:43,800 Speaker 2: needed to. 640 00:29:43,760 --> 00:29:45,720 Speaker 1: Be done, and he like it gave him a warning 641 00:29:45,760 --> 00:29:48,360 Speaker 1: in a way too, Like he started small and then 642 00:29:48,800 --> 00:29:51,160 Speaker 1: brought out the big guns and then brought out the 643 00:29:51,160 --> 00:29:51,720 Speaker 1: big power. 644 00:29:52,000 --> 00:29:54,120 Speaker 2: No, you you you grab my girl by the hand 645 00:29:54,120 --> 00:29:55,880 Speaker 2: after being like, let me talk to her and she 646 00:29:55,960 --> 00:29:58,160 Speaker 2: goes no, yeah, and then you grab her by the 647 00:29:58,200 --> 00:30:00,040 Speaker 2: hand and try to pull her away. Yeah, you're you 648 00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:02,920 Speaker 2: in the people's elbow sport. Yeah, I know what you're 649 00:30:02,920 --> 00:30:03,480 Speaker 2: talking about. 650 00:30:03,720 --> 00:30:06,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's the end of that story. We've got 651 00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:10,480 Speaker 1: another one coming right up. Yes we do. Hey y'all, 652 00:30:10,480 --> 00:30:11,560 Speaker 1: it's John og Host here. 653 00:30:11,600 --> 00:30:13,000 Speaker 6: We're gonna get back to the stories, but here's a 654 00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:14,959 Speaker 6: quick three minute break from as for more sponsors. 655 00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:18,120 Speaker 2: My best friend tried to ruin my wedding because she 656 00:30:18,360 --> 00:30:19,720 Speaker 2: wasn't the center of attention. 657 00:30:20,120 --> 00:30:21,920 Speaker 1: Ooh, we got a wedding crasher. Let's go. 658 00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:25,360 Speaker 2: I thirty six female at the time, was in a 659 00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:28,560 Speaker 2: four year long relationship with my boyfriend, thirty six male. 660 00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:30,840 Speaker 1: We have been living together for three years. 661 00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:34,080 Speaker 2: When he proposed, and of course I said yes. By 662 00:30:34,080 --> 00:30:37,240 Speaker 2: the way, this comes from user purple Haze eleven eighty six, 663 00:30:37,680 --> 00:30:41,120 Speaker 2: direct from the r slash Okay storytime subreddit. Woo and 664 00:30:41,200 --> 00:30:43,560 Speaker 2: if you want to submit your own stories, go to 665 00:30:43,600 --> 00:30:46,720 Speaker 2: the r slash Okay storytime subreddit and submit them there. 666 00:30:47,240 --> 00:30:50,120 Speaker 2: I'm Dakota, I'm Angie, and we are here to give 667 00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:52,080 Speaker 2: you good advice schofully, but we don't have all the answers. 668 00:30:52,120 --> 00:30:53,560 Speaker 2: We only know what we would do, so let us 669 00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:57,080 Speaker 2: know what you would do in the comments. As Op says, 670 00:30:57,680 --> 00:31:00,640 Speaker 2: one week after the proposal, he started to feel very 671 00:31:00,680 --> 00:31:02,920 Speaker 2: ill and I took him to the er. He was 672 00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:07,560 Speaker 2: diagnosed with a terminal kidney disease and had to be hospitalized. 673 00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:08,920 Speaker 2: That's terrible. 674 00:31:09,320 --> 00:31:11,000 Speaker 1: I'm so sorry, so sorry. 675 00:31:11,360 --> 00:31:14,000 Speaker 2: It was so hard for us, especially because my fiance's 676 00:31:14,040 --> 00:31:16,640 Speaker 2: family lives in another country and I don't talk with 677 00:31:16,720 --> 00:31:20,120 Speaker 2: my family for reasons related to my childhood and issues 678 00:31:20,160 --> 00:31:23,040 Speaker 2: that happened long before I met him. So basically it 679 00:31:23,120 --> 00:31:26,560 Speaker 2: was just us and my dearest friends, who were very supportive. 680 00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:29,560 Speaker 2: Once he was released from the hospital, we started planning 681 00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:32,040 Speaker 2: a small wedding with thirty people and chose to get 682 00:31:32,080 --> 00:31:35,120 Speaker 2: married in four months. I asked my group of friends 683 00:31:35,280 --> 00:31:38,560 Speaker 2: eight to be my bridesmaids. I didn't choose a maid 684 00:31:38,600 --> 00:31:41,560 Speaker 2: of honor because all of them were very supportive and 685 00:31:41,640 --> 00:31:44,280 Speaker 2: were helping me with all the wedding prep except two 686 00:31:44,320 --> 00:31:47,320 Speaker 2: of my friends. I understood perfectly because both of them 687 00:31:47,400 --> 00:31:49,480 Speaker 2: had babies for the first time not too long ago, 688 00:31:49,800 --> 00:31:52,200 Speaker 2: and I know that being a new mom can be overwhelming. 689 00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:55,000 Speaker 2: Turns out, my bridesmaids created a group chat in which 690 00:31:55,040 --> 00:31:57,560 Speaker 2: I was not included. This will be important later to 691 00:31:57,680 --> 00:32:01,080 Speaker 2: plan a surprise bachelorette party for me. A month before 692 00:32:01,120 --> 00:32:04,080 Speaker 2: my wedding, my friend of twenty three years, one of 693 00:32:04,120 --> 00:32:07,280 Speaker 2: the two new moms, started sending me messages and calling 694 00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:10,880 Speaker 2: non stop. She was fuming because, as they were planning 695 00:32:10,920 --> 00:32:14,320 Speaker 2: the bachelorette party, someone asked who could bring the cake 696 00:32:14,360 --> 00:32:17,360 Speaker 2: to the party. She replied the next day saying that 697 00:32:17,400 --> 00:32:19,800 Speaker 2: she would do it, but someone had offered before her, 698 00:32:20,040 --> 00:32:22,560 Speaker 2: and they informed her of that. She was telling me 699 00:32:22,680 --> 00:32:25,680 Speaker 2: that the other bridesmaids were dismissing her and not taking 700 00:32:25,720 --> 00:32:29,360 Speaker 2: into consideration any ideas that she gave she was answering. 701 00:32:29,440 --> 00:32:33,560 Speaker 2: Hours or days later, Hey, dumb, dumb, you're blowing the 702 00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:35,280 Speaker 2: surprise bachelorette party. 703 00:32:36,160 --> 00:32:36,360 Speaker 1: Right? 704 00:32:36,520 --> 00:32:38,080 Speaker 2: Was it a surprise? Did I not? 705 00:32:38,240 --> 00:32:40,560 Speaker 1: Did I think that wrong? You didn't catch it? 706 00:32:41,000 --> 00:32:45,160 Speaker 2: Uh? Yes, surprise bachelorette party? Come on, hey, ding dong. 707 00:32:45,320 --> 00:32:48,400 Speaker 2: You're blowing the surprise all because you didn't answer a 708 00:32:48,440 --> 00:32:49,760 Speaker 2: text thread fast enough. 709 00:32:49,880 --> 00:32:51,680 Speaker 1: Oro can't be doing that. 710 00:32:52,160 --> 00:32:52,560 Speaker 4: Uh. 711 00:32:52,600 --> 00:32:55,480 Speaker 2: She said they needed to understand that she was a 712 00:32:55,520 --> 00:32:57,640 Speaker 2: new mom and she didn't have time for all this. 713 00:32:57,880 --> 00:33:00,720 Speaker 2: So why are you demanding you need to make the cake? Yeah, 714 00:33:01,360 --> 00:33:05,760 Speaker 2: and then running to ope to spoil her bachelorette party? Right, 715 00:33:06,120 --> 00:33:08,960 Speaker 2: You're crazy. I told her I had no idea because 716 00:33:08,960 --> 00:33:11,120 Speaker 2: I wasn't even aware they were planning it, because it 717 00:33:11,160 --> 00:33:14,400 Speaker 2: was supposed to be a surprise for me, remember, But 718 00:33:14,520 --> 00:33:17,160 Speaker 2: she kept on saying mean things about the other bridesmaids 719 00:33:17,160 --> 00:33:19,280 Speaker 2: and told me that they can all go f for themselves. 720 00:33:19,280 --> 00:33:22,760 Speaker 2: Oh my god. Then she said if I didn't say 721 00:33:22,800 --> 00:33:24,880 Speaker 2: something to them, it would mean that I was a 722 00:33:24,920 --> 00:33:27,640 Speaker 2: bad friend just like them, and then I could go 723 00:33:27,800 --> 00:33:31,400 Speaker 2: f myself as well. Well. Bye bye, bye bye. 724 00:33:31,600 --> 00:33:34,440 Speaker 1: Great way to get yourself uninvited from the whole wedding. 725 00:33:34,280 --> 00:33:37,080 Speaker 2: A friend of twenty three years. Time to turn you 726 00:33:37,120 --> 00:33:42,320 Speaker 2: into my ex friend of right now, right right now, goodbye? 727 00:33:42,440 --> 00:33:45,320 Speaker 1: Anting taking you out of the wedding. Are you first? 728 00:33:45,400 --> 00:33:48,440 Speaker 2: I'd be like, are you okay? What's actually going on 729 00:33:48,480 --> 00:33:49,440 Speaker 2: that's making you act like this? 730 00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:52,520 Speaker 1: Honestly, because it can't just be just a child. I mean, like, 731 00:33:52,880 --> 00:33:55,000 Speaker 1: I know that sometimes like in the first year, like 732 00:33:55,040 --> 00:33:59,120 Speaker 1: it could be so difficult with your baby, but like yeah, 733 00:33:59,320 --> 00:34:02,280 Speaker 1: also like is it that bad? Like do you need help? 734 00:34:02,440 --> 00:34:05,120 Speaker 1: Like is it really that bad that it's driving you crazy? 735 00:34:05,160 --> 00:34:05,440 Speaker 1: Like this? 736 00:34:05,760 --> 00:34:06,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, where are we at with it? 737 00:34:06,800 --> 00:34:07,360 Speaker 1: What's going on? 738 00:34:07,840 --> 00:34:10,520 Speaker 2: So I ended up asking her not to attend the 739 00:34:10,560 --> 00:34:14,120 Speaker 2: bachelorette party if that would make her uncomfortable. She told 740 00:34:14,160 --> 00:34:16,239 Speaker 2: me that she wouldn't go, and that she didn't even 741 00:34:16,280 --> 00:34:18,400 Speaker 2: want to be part of that circus, and that I 742 00:34:18,600 --> 00:34:20,880 Speaker 2: was a joke for having those types of friends, and 743 00:34:20,920 --> 00:34:24,279 Speaker 2: that I was an attention witchh my god, Okay, I 744 00:34:24,400 --> 00:34:26,640 Speaker 2: was so hurt and offended by all the mean things 745 00:34:26,719 --> 00:34:29,239 Speaker 2: that my friend was telling me. I told her that 746 00:34:29,280 --> 00:34:31,520 Speaker 2: if she really thought all of that, she shouldn't attend 747 00:34:31,600 --> 00:34:33,799 Speaker 2: my wedding either, because it was my It was a 748 00:34:33,960 --> 00:34:36,879 Speaker 2: very special day for me and my fiance, especially because 749 00:34:36,920 --> 00:34:38,920 Speaker 2: once he got diagnosed, we didn't even know if he 750 00:34:38,960 --> 00:34:41,120 Speaker 2: would make it long enough for us to get married. 751 00:34:41,239 --> 00:34:43,640 Speaker 2: That's why we planned the wedding in four months. I 752 00:34:43,680 --> 00:34:46,319 Speaker 2: wanted to enjoy all the wedding planning. My bachelorette party 753 00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:48,840 Speaker 2: and the most important day of my life, our wedding. 754 00:34:49,120 --> 00:34:51,400 Speaker 2: I would not allow her to make my wedding about 755 00:34:51,440 --> 00:34:53,960 Speaker 2: her and take away my joy of getting married to 756 00:34:54,000 --> 00:34:56,799 Speaker 2: the man of my dreams. She was furious and told 757 00:34:56,800 --> 00:34:59,440 Speaker 2: me that I after our twenty three year long friendship 758 00:34:59,520 --> 00:35:02,440 Speaker 2: over some see you next tuesdays, and she blocked me 759 00:35:02,560 --> 00:35:05,480 Speaker 2: from social media. The wedding day came shortly after, and 760 00:35:05,560 --> 00:35:07,960 Speaker 2: it was a beautiful wedding by the beach, He liss 761 00:35:08,040 --> 00:35:11,200 Speaker 2: to say. It was very emotional for us, including our guests, 762 00:35:11,480 --> 00:35:13,799 Speaker 2: because all of the people there were close to us 763 00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:16,319 Speaker 2: and knew how much this meant for us. A few 764 00:35:16,320 --> 00:35:19,120 Speaker 2: weeks after the wedding, she unblocked me from social media, 765 00:35:19,360 --> 00:35:21,800 Speaker 2: only to tell me that she regretted being my friend 766 00:35:21,880 --> 00:35:23,799 Speaker 2: for so many years, Oh my God, and that she 767 00:35:23,880 --> 00:35:26,200 Speaker 2: realized I was not worth it and that I never 768 00:35:26,239 --> 00:35:29,000 Speaker 2: helped her like she helped me. Not even sure what 769 00:35:29,239 --> 00:35:31,640 Speaker 2: she meant by that, because I was the one that 770 00:35:31,760 --> 00:35:32,879 Speaker 2: was always there for her. 771 00:35:33,239 --> 00:35:34,360 Speaker 1: I even let her stay. 772 00:35:34,160 --> 00:35:36,560 Speaker 2: At my house when her dad booted her out for 773 00:35:36,680 --> 00:35:39,600 Speaker 2: smoking the devil's lettuce. She said she was only my 774 00:35:39,719 --> 00:35:42,080 Speaker 2: friend because she felt sorry for me, because I had 775 00:35:42,080 --> 00:35:44,319 Speaker 2: no other friends when we were in junior high, and 776 00:35:44,360 --> 00:35:46,480 Speaker 2: that was true. I had no other friends because I 777 00:35:46,560 --> 00:35:49,200 Speaker 2: was an introvert and self conscious and so many more 778 00:35:49,320 --> 00:35:52,560 Speaker 2: hurtful things. We've got a little bit more storyline, but honestly, 779 00:35:52,600 --> 00:35:56,680 Speaker 2: it just feels like someone who's really just like hurt 780 00:35:56,719 --> 00:35:59,839 Speaker 2: themselves over something and like is just taking it out 781 00:35:59,840 --> 00:36:02,760 Speaker 2: on you because they have no idea how to cope 782 00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:05,160 Speaker 2: with whatever is going on in their own life. 783 00:36:05,360 --> 00:36:08,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, something is going on. Yeah, like for this, all 784 00:36:08,920 --> 00:36:12,280 Speaker 1: of this just come out of the blue. Is that's crazy? 785 00:36:12,440 --> 00:36:15,160 Speaker 1: She's being so harsh and has so many like strong 786 00:36:15,200 --> 00:36:18,960 Speaker 1: opinions about what all of the people around op and 787 00:36:19,040 --> 00:36:19,800 Speaker 1: ope herself. 788 00:36:19,840 --> 00:36:21,920 Speaker 2: I feel like it's got to be like the kid 789 00:36:22,239 --> 00:36:27,760 Speaker 2: having the baby. The baby is just overblown, overloaded her yeah, 790 00:36:28,120 --> 00:36:31,640 Speaker 2: nervous system, and she's just thrashing and taking it out 791 00:36:31,680 --> 00:36:32,600 Speaker 2: on people around her. 792 00:36:33,719 --> 00:36:35,520 Speaker 1: But you don't understand what it's like to be a mom. 793 00:36:35,560 --> 00:36:37,960 Speaker 2: I couldn't requin this any faster. It's not fair that 794 00:36:38,040 --> 00:36:39,879 Speaker 2: I don't get to make the cake and you don't 795 00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:40,400 Speaker 2: know what I mean. 796 00:36:40,400 --> 00:36:42,080 Speaker 1: You're not helping me at all, and I help you 797 00:36:42,120 --> 00:36:45,080 Speaker 1: so much more. Blah blah blah, blah, like I wasted 798 00:36:45,120 --> 00:36:48,320 Speaker 1: twenty three years Like that is just so wild. I 799 00:36:48,320 --> 00:36:52,200 Speaker 1: I wonder if, like in a year or. 800 00:36:52,120 --> 00:36:54,439 Speaker 7: Something, she's gonna come back and be like, hey, I'm 801 00:36:54,480 --> 00:36:58,520 Speaker 7: really sorry how I reacted. News going on, and then 802 00:36:58,840 --> 00:37:00,880 Speaker 7: you know, you'll have to decide whether you want to 803 00:37:00,960 --> 00:37:02,480 Speaker 7: accept that apology or not. 804 00:37:02,719 --> 00:37:05,080 Speaker 1: But who knows that that's what is even gonna happen. 805 00:37:05,160 --> 00:37:07,319 Speaker 2: Yeah I would, I would honestly just be like, hey, 806 00:37:07,920 --> 00:37:09,600 Speaker 2: I don't know what you're going through. I wish you 807 00:37:09,680 --> 00:37:12,279 Speaker 2: the best. I hope whatever it is you work through it, 808 00:37:12,560 --> 00:37:16,760 Speaker 2: but I think we should probably stop talking and seeing 809 00:37:16,800 --> 00:37:17,760 Speaker 2: each other for a while. 810 00:37:18,040 --> 00:37:18,239 Speaker 1: Yeah. 811 00:37:18,360 --> 00:37:22,760 Speaker 2: His, the things that you've said are are pretty unacceptable. Yeah, 812 00:37:22,800 --> 00:37:23,840 Speaker 2: but let's finish this story. 813 00:37:23,880 --> 00:37:24,919 Speaker 1: Hey, Sean Ogi Hoost. 814 00:37:24,960 --> 00:37:26,480 Speaker 6: We don't get back to the stories, but a quick 815 00:37:26,480 --> 00:37:28,319 Speaker 6: free minute break of ads from our sponsors. 816 00:37:28,520 --> 00:37:29,239 Speaker 1: I just told it. 817 00:37:29,400 --> 00:37:31,839 Speaker 2: I felt sorry for her because I knew that if 818 00:37:31,880 --> 00:37:34,560 Speaker 2: she continued with that attitude, she would end up alone 819 00:37:34,560 --> 00:37:37,320 Speaker 2: and bitter, and I blocked her. I know from mutual 820 00:37:37,400 --> 00:37:39,960 Speaker 2: friends that she's been stalking me with fake profiles, but 821 00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:42,319 Speaker 2: I haven't been in contact with her since then. This 822 00:37:42,440 --> 00:37:44,399 Speaker 2: happened three years ago. 823 00:37:44,520 --> 00:37:47,280 Speaker 1: Okay, so we're getting no apology text after a year. 824 00:37:47,200 --> 00:37:51,120 Speaker 2: No apologies from her after the wedding. My husband's illness 825 00:37:51,120 --> 00:37:53,600 Speaker 2: got progressively worse over a two year period. 826 00:37:53,800 --> 00:37:55,200 Speaker 1: I thought about that part of the story. 827 00:37:55,320 --> 00:37:58,719 Speaker 2: Yeah, due to the hemodialysis and other issues. Sadly, he 828 00:37:58,840 --> 00:38:00,960 Speaker 2: passed away last year from a heart attack. 829 00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:03,000 Speaker 1: That's stuff, dang, I don't know. 830 00:38:03,080 --> 00:38:06,000 Speaker 2: I'm caught between. That's terrible and also it's beautiful that 831 00:38:06,000 --> 00:38:08,279 Speaker 2: you got to spend that time together as husband and 832 00:38:08,719 --> 00:38:12,319 Speaker 2: why could be both mm mm hmm. I was with 833 00:38:12,440 --> 00:38:14,399 Speaker 2: him when it happened. But I treasure in my heart 834 00:38:14,440 --> 00:38:16,920 Speaker 2: the wonderful six years that he shared with me, and 835 00:38:17,000 --> 00:38:19,960 Speaker 2: the last two being as husband and wife. Of course, 836 00:38:20,000 --> 00:38:21,960 Speaker 2: one of the most beautiful memories that I have is 837 00:38:22,000 --> 00:38:24,160 Speaker 2: our wedding day. And by the way, tomorrow would be 838 00:38:24,200 --> 00:38:25,680 Speaker 2: our third wedding anniversary. 839 00:38:26,000 --> 00:38:27,200 Speaker 1: Ah. 840 00:38:27,239 --> 00:38:28,760 Speaker 2: And that is the end of that story. 841 00:38:28,880 --> 00:38:33,200 Speaker 1: I like forgot about that, that plot line, that story. 842 00:38:34,960 --> 00:38:36,200 Speaker 1: That is my emojon. 843 00:38:41,360 --> 00:38:41,520 Speaker 6: Oh. 844 00:38:41,560 --> 00:38:42,760 Speaker 2: It's beautiful though. 845 00:38:42,640 --> 00:38:47,000 Speaker 1: It's beautiful and sad, very sad, beautiful in a sad way. Yeah, 846 00:38:47,040 --> 00:38:49,120 Speaker 1: but I'm I am glad that you guys got that 847 00:38:49,160 --> 00:38:52,640 Speaker 1: time together. I think that's very that's very beautiful. But yeah, 848 00:38:52,719 --> 00:38:57,240 Speaker 1: screw that girl though, screw her. She she sucks, dude, 849 00:38:57,280 --> 00:38:59,959 Speaker 1: she saw I'm glad she wasn't there ruining your actual 850 00:39:00,040 --> 00:39:03,719 Speaker 1: a wedding day, thank goodness. Yeah yeah, but hearts to 851 00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:06,840 Speaker 1: you O P And what a what a beautiful but 852 00:39:07,000 --> 00:39:13,359 Speaker 1: sad ending Timmy Dinasorady in the episode Happy Anniversary, Happy Anniversary. Yep, 853 00:39:13,640 --> 00:39:15,840 Speaker 1: but that is the end. 854 00:39:16,040 --> 00:39:18,560 Speaker 2: So if you love us, make sure you subscribe. 855 00:39:18,640 --> 00:39:21,080 Speaker 1: We love you and see it all.