WEBVTT - Love Stories: Jennie Garth and Dave Abrams 

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, there are folks in this episode nine to two

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<v Speaker 1>to one. Oh No. Our Glove series internues with the

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<v Speaker 1>love stories of two folks now who have been in

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<v Speaker 1>a relationship a marriage for ten years. But get this,

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<v Speaker 1>one of those years he rode around with their divorce

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<v Speaker 1>papers in the back of his truck. Yes, welcome to

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<v Speaker 1>this special cuffings. He's an edition of ABN TJ.

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<v Speaker 2>Robs.

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<v Speaker 1>This has been a blast. This was our final couple. Boy,

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<v Speaker 1>they went out with a bang. Didn't I love these two?

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<v Speaker 3>And certainly did.

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<v Speaker 4>Jenny Garth and her husband Dave Abrams. They have a

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<v Speaker 4>nine year age difference. Jenny is nine years older than Dave. Yes,

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<v Speaker 4>she already had three kids from a previous marriage coming

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<v Speaker 4>into this relationship. And one of my favorite moments is

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<v Speaker 4>when we asked about whether or not these two had

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<v Speaker 4>chemistry when they first met. Because this was a double

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<v Speaker 4>blind date. They were set up to meet one another,

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<v Speaker 4>and the moment Jenny says she saw Dave, she said,

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<v Speaker 4>oh hell no, oh hell no.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, we we get into this in the interview

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<v Speaker 1>we do with her, but we have spent some time

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<v Speaker 1>with her over the past year, and we've heard this

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<v Speaker 1>story from her in person. Now you'll hear how she

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<v Speaker 1>answers the question he and what do you say? She said, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>hell no, Well, she was just like it.

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<v Speaker 3>Was a hard note for her when she saw him.

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<v Speaker 1>But then we've talked to her in person and asked

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<v Speaker 1>her about it. She said what she saw, she was like.

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<v Speaker 4>Like, she right, But she goes on to describe him

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<v Speaker 4>as tall, dark and handsome with a pea coat, who

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<v Speaker 4>looked like an actor, and she was just like.

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<v Speaker 1>Ugh, yeah, but for a lot of people that would

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<v Speaker 1>sound awesome. He sounds great. He's a good looking, tall,

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<v Speaker 1>god great guy. But for her, in that world, she

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<v Speaker 1>was immediately turned off by someone who looked like he

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<v Speaker 1>was in that world.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, because she, of course has spent most of her

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<v Speaker 4>at least at that point, most of her life in

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<v Speaker 4>front of the camera in Hollywood.

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<v Speaker 3>Man, I grew up watching her.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm the same age as her, so I grew up

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<v Speaker 4>with her watching her do nine O two and Ozero.

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<v Speaker 4>But yeah, she was just wanting out of that whole scene,

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<v Speaker 4>and he looked as though he was a part of it,

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<v Speaker 4>even though he isn't.

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<v Speaker 2>He isn't.

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<v Speaker 1>But these two they were the last now in our

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<v Speaker 1>series and they were. I said this to you during

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<v Speaker 1>the interview. I leaned over and I said, these are adults,

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<v Speaker 1>like they are grown folks who've been through a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>They've been through previous relationships and marriages, they broke up

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<v Speaker 1>for a little while, you got step kids involved. There's

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<v Speaker 1>so much going on. But they also show us that, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>despite all of that, there's still something to them that

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<v Speaker 1>is evident in the conversation we're having. It's not just

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<v Speaker 1>a matter we're still together or we've been together two years. No,

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<v Speaker 1>you can see them while they sit next to each

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<v Speaker 1>other and how they talk to each other, that there

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<v Speaker 1>is something still special going on with these two. I

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<v Speaker 1>love it.

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<v Speaker 4>It is inspirational to know that you can get that

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<v Speaker 4>low and be that bad off where you actually have

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<v Speaker 4>divorce papers and you are not talking, you are not

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<v Speaker 4>seeing each other for over a year, and here they are,

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<v Speaker 4>six years after that tumultuous year. They can sit there

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<v Speaker 4>and be in love and so comfortable with one another,

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<v Speaker 4>and the trust that they've built up from going through

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<v Speaker 4>that trunk is evident and speaks to the strength of

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<v Speaker 4>their relationship today. So, without further ado, please take a

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<v Speaker 4>listen to our conversation with Jenny Garth and Dave Abrams.

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<v Speaker 4>Jenny and Dave are with us now. Thank you all

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<v Speaker 4>for agreeing to do this, and thank you for being

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<v Speaker 4>with us today.

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<v Speaker 5>Absolutely, you're welcome. We love seeing you too.

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<v Speaker 3>I we love seeing you.

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<v Speaker 4>It's been so much fun to see couples sitting next

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<v Speaker 4>to each other, interacting with each other while answering the questions.

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<v Speaker 4>It's a very different experience than just interviewing someone one

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<v Speaker 4>on one. So this, we promise this will be fun.

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<v Speaker 3>All right, we'll start off.

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<v Speaker 4>With each of you give me three words to describe

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<v Speaker 4>the state of your relationship right now.

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<v Speaker 3>Who wants to go first?

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, the first three words that pop in my head,

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<v Speaker 6>I would say stability. That just popped in my head.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't know if this is a negative word, but

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<v Speaker 6>content is like that was another one. No, but it

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<v Speaker 6>just I'm I'm I've been like mulling over like how

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<v Speaker 6>I'm very content and and it's like it's it's a

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<v Speaker 6>weird feeling, because when are you you know, some something's happening,

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<v Speaker 6>But no, no, no, I'm feeling like trying to understand, trying to

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<v Speaker 6>understand the words I'm not.

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<v Speaker 5>I've only gotten.

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<v Speaker 6>A content, stability, and I would say, uh, support is

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<v Speaker 6>another one. Oh well you yeah, I went first, So

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<v Speaker 6>I think support is right now. I feel like with

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<v Speaker 6>her supporting me and me supporting her with all the

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<v Speaker 6>you know stuff she has going and yeah, and it

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<v Speaker 6>is the same with me as well. Her support for

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<v Speaker 6>me is yeah, full on and that's been That was

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<v Speaker 6>one of the big things early in our relationship was

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<v Speaker 6>sometimes I felt like I wasn't supported.

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<v Speaker 1>So okay, that's just question one.

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<v Speaker 2>We just don't question one. Guys.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, Jenny, where are your three words support?

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<v Speaker 7>Support, I wou'd say humorous, we laugh a lot, and reliable.

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<v Speaker 5>We are we are we always do what we say

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<v Speaker 5>we're going to do. We're always where we say we're

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<v Speaker 5>going to be, and that gives both of us, I think,

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<v Speaker 5>such a sense of stability and that reassurance.

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<v Speaker 6>There's next places we are actually ever at any good point, so.

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<v Speaker 5>We don't we don't stray far from our so forth.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, gotchaka, next question here and we this is going

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<v Speaker 1>to be fun because we have heard part of the

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<v Speaker 1>story about how you all met. But the question that

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<v Speaker 1>we've asked all the couples is was there immediate chemistry

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<v Speaker 1>when you first.

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<v Speaker 5>Met you want me to go first?

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<v Speaker 3>No, it was a blind date, right, it was.

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<v Speaker 5>A blind double date. And I think I told you

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<v Speaker 5>guys this once on some other podcasts we do. But

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<v Speaker 5>we we talked about the fact that I walked into

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<v Speaker 5>the setup location, the restaurant, the bar, and I walked

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<v Speaker 5>in and I immediately saw a tall, handsome, like actor

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<v Speaker 5>looking guy with scrubble pea coat, so pretentious, and I

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<v Speaker 5>was like, oh, I thought, no, no, so yeah, that

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<v Speaker 5>was my first I disagree.

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<v Speaker 6>I think that it was.

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<v Speaker 5>There was a disagree with my reaction.

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<v Speaker 6>No chemistry, The question was chemistry. I feel like there

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<v Speaker 6>was chemistry. We were just kind of like waiting for it.

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<v Speaker 6>Because after we left that date with the two people

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<v Speaker 6>that we were on the date with, we went and

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<v Speaker 6>had a drink by ourselves, and that's when, Yeah, we

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<v Speaker 6>had a lot of chemistry. We didn't stop seeing each other,

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<v Speaker 6>like and then we got married.

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<v Speaker 3>So there, who said I love you first?

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<v Speaker 6>Probably me?

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<v Speaker 5>I was thinking, it's probably me. Wow, is it bad

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<v Speaker 5>that we don't remember?

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<v Speaker 1>No this, We've talked all these couples. This is the

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<v Speaker 1>first time there wasn't an immediate Ah, it's usually is

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<v Speaker 1>the guy.

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<v Speaker 3>It was usually the guy.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, okay, but you all can't remember who it was.

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<v Speaker 6>No, I remember so much vividly. I don't. I feel

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<v Speaker 6>like it was me, but you feel like it was you.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't. I don't know. I think I blocked that

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<v Speaker 5>on my memory.

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<v Speaker 1>How about I put it this way, you all knowing

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<v Speaker 1>what you know of each other and your relationship. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>who is it more likely? You think probably said it first.

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<v Speaker 5>I feel like it's more likely me because I'm a

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<v Speaker 5>little bit more of a communicator, like a clear shooter,

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<v Speaker 5>you know. I'm like, look, I love you, let's not

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<v Speaker 5>waste any more time.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, that's true, That could be true. Yeah, I agree

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<v Speaker 6>with that, all right. She's very yeah, very direct.

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<v Speaker 4>That is a good thing in a relationship. How long

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<v Speaker 4>did you all date before you got engaged? How long

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<v Speaker 4>were you engaged before you got married.

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<v Speaker 5>We were engaged.

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<v Speaker 6>We got months after we met December, January, February. We

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<v Speaker 6>were engaged in March. We got married in July.

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<v Speaker 5>Wow, six months and got married at six months six months?

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<v Speaker 4>Did you have any reservations at that, like, for having

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<v Speaker 4>such an accelerated timeline.

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<v Speaker 6>Uh? Yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean, because I mean it

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<v Speaker 6>bit us in the butt like three years down the

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<v Speaker 6>road because we didn't I mean, we broke up for

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<v Speaker 6>like eight.

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<v Speaker 5>Months a year. It was twelve months, actually.

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<v Speaker 6>It was it was like eight months, just twelve.

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<v Speaker 3>You broke up. You were already married though, so you

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<v Speaker 3>were you were separated, separated.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, but I think that's because we did jump into

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<v Speaker 5>it full and fast like that, and I think we

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<v Speaker 5>could have used a little more time to understand get

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<v Speaker 5>to know each other and our problem solving where we

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<v Speaker 5>each were individually, like in our growth and my healing,

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<v Speaker 5>and you know, we just could have used some more time. Probably.

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<v Speaker 6>I had a lot of stuff that, you know, that

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<v Speaker 6>I had to kind of deal with that I didn't

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<v Speaker 6>deal with in my single days and other relationships that

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<v Speaker 6>you know, the same patterns were happening. I had to

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<v Speaker 6>look at myself and also she had to look at herself.

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<v Speaker 6>And then it's been great ever since. So it was

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, it's crazy, but it was such a Our

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<v Speaker 6>journey has been such a blessing. I mean, I know

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<v Speaker 6>it sounds cheesy to say that, but it's it's true.

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<v Speaker 6>I wouldn't have changed that.

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<v Speaker 4>That totally makes sense. What happened in those eight or

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<v Speaker 4>ten months. It was the difference that made the difference

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<v Speaker 4>that now look at you, how many years later, still together,

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<v Speaker 4>still happy.

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<v Speaker 3>What happened during that period of time when you separated.

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<v Speaker 6>Been back together for like six years during the break

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<v Speaker 6>when we were broken up.

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<v Speaker 5>I think we just both, like we said, did a

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<v Speaker 5>lot of personal growth. I think that prior to the breakup,

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<v Speaker 5>to the separation, i'll call it, we had been going

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<v Speaker 5>to couple therapy and that wasn't working for us like that.

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<v Speaker 5>He did not like that and so and it didn't

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<v Speaker 5>it didn't help us. So we thought he didn't want

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<v Speaker 5>to do it anymore. And I thought, well, why don't

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<v Speaker 5>I just work on myself and you work on yourself,

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<v Speaker 5>and they'll see what happens and see if that if

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<v Speaker 5>we uncover some things, some truths about ourselves that we

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<v Speaker 5>need to look at and you know, grow through. And

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<v Speaker 5>I think that that's one of the big things that

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<v Speaker 5>happened while we were separated. He had his divorce papers

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<v Speaker 5>in a Manila envelope in the back you know how

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<v Speaker 5>you're he has a truck and then in the back

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<v Speaker 5>of the truck seat there's a pocket like in the seat. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>the Manila envelope with our divorce papers completely ready to

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<v Speaker 5>sign here, drove them around for months and months and

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<v Speaker 5>months in this car. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>So I filed in like April. There was like you know,

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<v Speaker 6>the first four months where it's anger and just I

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<v Speaker 6>don't want to talk to you. I'm done, I'm blah blah.

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<v Speaker 6>So I got papers drawn up in like April. I

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<v Speaker 6>didn't know what I was doing. The guy was like, well,

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<v Speaker 6>you have community properties, Like I don't care, just do

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<v Speaker 6>whatever is the easiest fast trap.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 6>And then in December January we started kind of dating

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<v Speaker 6>again and becoming like trying to do like we made

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<v Speaker 6>it a point to be like a normal couple. I

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<v Speaker 6>had a little apartment, I had gotten a dog, like

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<v Speaker 6>I was going through something, and so she you guys.

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<v Speaker 5>He got a dog. While wait, it's a dog. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>oh wait, know you got a new truck, a giant

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<v Speaker 5>truck that doesn't even fit on the streets of Los Angeles.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, okay, he was going through something.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, okay, you is the dog still with you?

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<v Speaker 4>All?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, he's our son now. Yeah, he's like he's in

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<v Speaker 6>love more. He's in love with Jenny. Like that's his person.

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<v Speaker 1>We're more concerned that you're in love with her and

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<v Speaker 1>she's still your person. Yeah, mister Manila envelope.

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<v Speaker 5>Jesus seriously, guys, the Manila envelope was still in there

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<v Speaker 5>like a year I think after.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, we got back. I just sat there. I don't

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<v Speaker 6>throw away a lot of stuff.

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<v Speaker 3>That might be one thing you should throw away though.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, it's gone. The truck's gone.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, guys, I think we could rap now because you

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<v Speaker 1>all just answered questions eight through forty.

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<v Speaker 2>Next question here is there? I'm not sure.

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<v Speaker 1>Is there an age difference and has it played any

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<v Speaker 1>role in your relationship?

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<v Speaker 6>Yes, I'm nine.

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<v Speaker 5>Years older than Dave.

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<v Speaker 6>So when we met, I was thirty four, she was

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<v Speaker 6>forty three, and then we got married. I was thirty

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<v Speaker 6>five four five he got married. Oh my god, I can't.

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<v Speaker 5>When we go back in time and I realized how

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<v Speaker 5>young you were, it freaks me out a little bit.

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<v Speaker 6>I was a young thirty five.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you know what, that made complete sense to me.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't get close to the beginning to get my

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<v Speaker 1>ish together in life until I was probably thirty eight

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<v Speaker 1>or thirty nine. I was a mess, so that it

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<v Speaker 1>makes perfect sense.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I mean, yeah, that was that was totally true

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<v Speaker 6>with me, and then jumping into the situation where I

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<v Speaker 6>had three step children the ages of like sixteen eleven

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<v Speaker 6>or or Lola was just twelve, and then Fiona was

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<v Speaker 6>a seven eight, and then taking all that on and

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<v Speaker 6>the dogs and then this celebrity and this celebrity that

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<v Speaker 6>I had just come into her life, and then like

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<v Speaker 6>paparazzi and like stuff like that, and then.

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<v Speaker 5>It was a lot.

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<v Speaker 6>It was a lot.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that makes a lot of sense.

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<v Speaker 4>So I mean, that's that's admirable that you all took

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<v Speaker 4>a beat and it was probably scary as hell and

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<v Speaker 4>awful for that period of time.

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<v Speaker 3>But look at you now.

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<v Speaker 4>That's that's really impressive and it's inspirational for folks who

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<v Speaker 4>are going through tough times.

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<v Speaker 3>But you can, you know, you can figure it out.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah you want to.

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<v Speaker 3>That's really cool.

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<v Speaker 5>I didn't get through it. But back to your point

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<v Speaker 5>about the age thing, So they're having that gap in

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<v Speaker 5>age there there have been times when it comes up.

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<v Speaker 5>I think not as much anymore because, like we said,

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<v Speaker 5>he has done some growing up. I've stopped growing up

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<v Speaker 5>and you keep growing up, which is great. So now

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<v Speaker 5>we're kind of like in the middle.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I agree, the age difference. I never really felt

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<v Speaker 6>I never really that wasn't that wasn't really a big

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<v Speaker 6>issue to me. It was a bigger issue for everybody

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<v Speaker 6>else because they would, you know, they would talk about

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<v Speaker 6>it more in the news or whatever. When we were

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<v Speaker 6>first together, it was a thing.

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<v Speaker 4>But funny enough, if a man was nine years older

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<v Speaker 4>than the woman, no one would say, oh, that's just

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<v Speaker 4>when It's like.

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<v Speaker 6>No one would that and I no one would care,

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<v Speaker 6>and no it ever gets talked about. But I mean,

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<v Speaker 6>I think there was a couple other celebrities that Kristin

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<v Speaker 6>Cavaleria was dating like a twenty five year old and

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<v Speaker 6>that was all over the news.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, no, I hear you.

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<v Speaker 4>Why did you two and you made the decision very quickly,

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<v Speaker 4>as you just told us, Why did you two want

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<v Speaker 4>to be married? And where do you think the two

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<v Speaker 4>of you would be if you had just chosen to

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<v Speaker 4>stay as a couple and never actually officially legally get married.

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<v Speaker 5>I think for me, having three you know, grows who

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<v Speaker 5>were young young tweens and teenagers, it was weird for

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<v Speaker 5>me to just, based on my morals and my upbringings

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<v Speaker 5>to have a man in the house that I wasn't

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<v Speaker 5>fully committed to or he wasn't fully committed to me,

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<v Speaker 5>because I didn't want to give them the messaging. That's

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<v Speaker 5>what was one of the things that was important for me,

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<v Speaker 5>And maybe that was one of the things that you know,

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<v Speaker 5>caused us to rush into it because marriage was more

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<v Speaker 5>important to me. I'm just I'm a Midwestern I like

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<v Speaker 5>to be married. I like to have full on commitment,

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<v Speaker 5>and I like to know I'm not wasting my time

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<v Speaker 5>with somebody, you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 6>So for me that yeah, yeah, I mean I think

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<v Speaker 6>for me, I didn't. I didn't think about marriage. I

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<v Speaker 6>didn't really think about kids. I didn't. I just was

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<v Speaker 6>kind of, you know, plugging away and this kind of

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<v Speaker 6>just like happened, and I just kind of went with it.

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<v Speaker 6>I got into it.

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<v Speaker 1>No appreciate the honesty of that answer, really there, Jenny,

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<v Speaker 1>to be able to talk about it in such a way.

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<v Speaker 2>Yet, you know what, we probably.

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<v Speaker 1>Because of you wanted marriage and because of the way

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<v Speaker 1>you came up, you probably rushed into the marriage.

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<v Speaker 2>That was a very honest answer.

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<v Speaker 6>I appreciate that one hundred percent. I mean I was

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<v Speaker 6>so in love and so like committed. At that time,

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<v Speaker 6>I was like, let's let me do everything I can

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<v Speaker 6>to show this woman that I am this person and

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<v Speaker 6>I am committed. And then you know, obviously after the

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<v Speaker 6>purple roses whatever the saying is, and you've hit reality

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<v Speaker 6>and then you're yeah, it's a lot. But I think

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<v Speaker 6>looking back, I wouldn't have changed anything. But I love

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<v Speaker 6>what we did.

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<v Speaker 3>That's very cool.

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<v Speaker 4>So we I always preface this next question with we

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<v Speaker 4>ask everyone this question, answer it however you'd like. But

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<v Speaker 4>how would you describe your sex life and how has

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<v Speaker 4>it changed over the years.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, when we got together. When we first got together,

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<v Speaker 5>I was in my forties, and you know what they

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<v Speaker 5>say about ladies in their forties, late forties, Like I

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<v Speaker 5>was ready all the time, right, yeah, yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, yeah, women come into their sexual powers in their

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<v Speaker 4>thirties and forties. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>And I think that you had I don't know.

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<v Speaker 6>Where you were this like in the beginning. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 6>I mean it's always good at the beginning, and then.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, and then you know, yeah, I mean, you know.

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<v Speaker 6>We don't really were We don't really talk a lot

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<v Speaker 6>about sex and stuff like that. I'm pretty modest, I

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<v Speaker 6>don't I've never you know, been very wealth Yeah, totally,

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<v Speaker 6>but I would say that it's definitely gotten better. There's

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<v Speaker 6>definitely been challenges with menopause and certain things and.

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<v Speaker 5>Teenage kids in the house all the time.

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<v Speaker 6>We have never we never have an empty house. So

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<v Speaker 6>it's like, I mean even the twenty two year old

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<v Speaker 6>those with us, which I love that she's here. Her

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<v Speaker 6>boyfriend's also here like a lot, which I love him too,

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<v Speaker 6>but it's a full house.

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<v Speaker 5>Does that have effect? Yeah, we go on weekend ways.

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<v Speaker 6>We just did, like just like we just went to

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<v Speaker 6>Palm Springs for like a night just to get out,

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<v Speaker 6>just to be like, we throw the phone away, we

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<v Speaker 6>just need to get away. And that was great. But

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<v Speaker 6>that we have.

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<v Speaker 5>To get speak quiet all the time. That I hope

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<v Speaker 5>my kids aren't listening to this. You don't need to

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<v Speaker 5>be quiet. All our balls are shared by two teenage girls.

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<v Speaker 5>Like it's a thing.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's tough.

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<v Speaker 6>And we know this because they've said, well, why were

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<v Speaker 6>you guys arguing this? I was like, it wasn't what

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<v Speaker 6>are you talking about?

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<v Speaker 5>That was Now when we have sex, we argue just

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<v Speaker 5>to fool them.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh my god, we turn on the TV. We've last

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<v Speaker 6>the TV.

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<v Speaker 2>This is a real relationship here.

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<v Speaker 1>This is great, all right, next question here, aside from

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<v Speaker 1>sex though physical touch, how important is physical touch? For example,

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<v Speaker 1>walking down the street, do you find yourself you're always

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<v Speaker 1>holding hands. If you're in the room, do you find

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<v Speaker 1>yourselves rubbing up against each other? How important is that

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<v Speaker 1>to you?

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<v Speaker 5>Well, I know you two are touchers. You like physical connection.

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<v Speaker 5>I love that about your couple. But we always hold hands.

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<v Speaker 5>I think when we met, I was like, here's a

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<v Speaker 5>couple things that are really important to me. I like

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<v Speaker 5>to have my handheld, and I like someone to open

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<v Speaker 5>the door for me, like all the time. Never I

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<v Speaker 5>never touch a doorknob, Like that's kind of like my dream.

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<v Speaker 5>And he was all for that. We hold hands constantly,

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<v Speaker 5>and I'm a lot more touchy, I think than he is.

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<v Speaker 5>But also we're very independent, so there's times when I

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<v Speaker 5>don't need it, he doesn't need it, but I should

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<v Speaker 5>need that hug at the end of the day or

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<v Speaker 5>before big thing I need.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I've kind of been, i mean, growing into being

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<v Speaker 6>more affectionate, especially with the girls. Like you know, I'm

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<v Speaker 6>not I'm not very affectionate. I mean I show my

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<v Speaker 6>love and how I do like I show up for people,

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<v Speaker 6>I'm there. That's kind of like my showing like affection.

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<v Speaker 6>I know she always needs like a hug, so it's

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<v Speaker 6>like tuning that in just to go hug her out

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<v Speaker 6>of the blue, or like give one of the girls

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<v Speaker 6>a hug, Like that's a big thing for me, just

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<v Speaker 6>to even hug.

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<v Speaker 5>Like it's kind of like the way you grew up.

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<v Speaker 5>Probably physical, No, we snuggle my my kids and I

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<v Speaker 5>snuggle constantly, so that physical touch is really important.

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<v Speaker 3>That's cute. I love that.

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<v Speaker 4>So we know that you pretend to fight when you're

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<v Speaker 4>having sex, but how often do.

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<v Speaker 3>You actually fight?

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<v Speaker 4>So? Yeah, how often do you actually fight? And is

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<v Speaker 4>there something you fight about?

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<v Speaker 3>Most?

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<v Speaker 5>I think we argue about the girls, one the youngest,

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<v Speaker 5>probably in particular, just because of maybe not understanding I

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<v Speaker 5>understand her in a different way than he might be

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<v Speaker 5>able to. What else is there we do? We argue

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<v Speaker 5>about money? No, because we're kind of his her and hours.

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<v Speaker 6>So yeah, I mean, what do we are alowed to argue?

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<v Speaker 2>Golf?

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<v Speaker 5>Golf?

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<v Speaker 6>That's what he was going to say, golf.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm a golf widow.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, I was trying to figure out he golfs too much?

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<v Speaker 3>And it takes it takes what six hours, seven hours?

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, I'm I'm on a golf team and then

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<v Speaker 6>we're in season right now, and then you have to

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<v Speaker 6>have a dinner after you play on Thursday, and it's

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<v Speaker 6>a bunch of other clubs golf.

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<v Speaker 3>Then there's the nineteenth hole.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, one night a week.

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<v Speaker 6>Well, in this it's not.

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<v Speaker 5>A nice t J. It's damn day.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so one day a week.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, but yeah, and then tournaments and stuff like that.

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<v Speaker 6>It can be like a weekend. But but that's it.

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<v Speaker 6>Like I only go to golf work, okay, don't.

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<v Speaker 5>I used to care about it a lot more. Now

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<v Speaker 5>I'm so busy. I'm like, go do your thing. I'll

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<v Speaker 5>see you later. What bring me dinner? I don't know

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<v Speaker 5>what's happening.

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<v Speaker 6>And it's interesting. I've been I've been sober for like

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<v Speaker 6>two and a half almost three years, so like being

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<v Speaker 6>around this environment where guys are just getting trash, I

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<v Speaker 6>just haven't. I just sit there like it was.

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<v Speaker 5>He doesn't really, Yeah, I don't care get involved with

0:23:37.280 --> 0:23:39.840
<v Speaker 5>that part anymore, which is such. I mean, like I

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<v Speaker 5>didn't never know jumping onto that topic, like I didn't

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<v Speaker 5>never know how insecure. That environment made me not insecure,

0:23:48.960 --> 0:23:53.600
<v Speaker 5>but just unstable, like destabilized. When like my husband would

0:23:53.600 --> 0:23:57.240
<v Speaker 5>go and you know, drink with the guys at the club,

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<v Speaker 5>I worry, like I worry about I'm driving, and I

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<v Speaker 5>just I don't know, I think that since he stopped

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<v Speaker 5>drinking by his choice, it was, it's been such a

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<v Speaker 5>secure feeling for me. I love it. I stopped drinking too,

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<v Speaker 5>So we're in it together.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, very cool.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, Well, next question here, When was the last time,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how, Maybe this was this morning, or

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<v Speaker 1>maybe it was weeks ago, the last time you remember

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<v Speaker 1>having to say I'm sorry to the other And what

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<v Speaker 1>was it for?

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<v Speaker 6>Oh, that's a good question. I feel like I just

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<v Speaker 6>said I'm sorry for something.

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<v Speaker 1>Probably it was probably on golf day.

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<v Speaker 5>He doesn't apologize for that.

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<v Speaker 6>What was it recently? It was like it was recently?

0:24:44.040 --> 0:24:45.280
<v Speaker 6>It was like this past weekend.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh was it Sunday morning? And I was so frustrated

0:24:52.400 --> 0:24:55.840
<v Speaker 6>because it was the game. I went into work and

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<v Speaker 6>then I came back and then they were reupholsteraing shared

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<v Speaker 6>so everything.

0:25:01.560 --> 0:25:04.560
<v Speaker 5>Sunday you're not supposed to do any household.

0:25:04.040 --> 0:25:09.000
<v Speaker 6>Chores my daughter Lola and her are constantly they work

0:25:09.040 --> 0:25:12.680
<v Speaker 6>on the brand together, but they're constantly doing like projects,

0:25:12.960 --> 0:25:17.320
<v Speaker 6>like they don't stop. Like they took apart this these

0:25:17.359 --> 0:25:20.920
<v Speaker 6>two seats that were pink and re upholstered them. When

0:25:20.920 --> 0:25:22.960
<v Speaker 6>I got my upholster guy, he was like, we could

0:25:23.000 --> 0:25:24.560
<v Speaker 6>I could do it for nine hundred bucks, but.

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<v Speaker 5>We wanted to do it ourselves.

0:25:26.800 --> 0:25:29.200
<v Speaker 6>So they couldn't do it themselves. So they needed a

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<v Speaker 6>little bit of help. But Sunday morning, the.

0:25:31.440 --> 0:25:33.679
<v Speaker 5>Staple or gun, those are really hard to use, you

0:25:33.720 --> 0:25:36.400
<v Speaker 5>guys on my hand is not that strong anymore.

0:25:36.680 --> 0:25:40.520
<v Speaker 6>And then now they want to cut the barstools three

0:25:40.600 --> 0:25:43.439
<v Speaker 6>inches off the metal, which they need a welder to

0:25:43.480 --> 0:25:43.840
<v Speaker 6>do that.

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<v Speaker 5>So they asked what time when you were? Sorry lost?

0:25:48.160 --> 0:25:49.160
<v Speaker 6>I think it was Sunday.

0:25:49.400 --> 0:25:49.639
<v Speaker 5>I was.

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<v Speaker 6>I had a little bit of a temper tandrent because

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<v Speaker 6>then the internet. Then they had the Internet guy coming

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<v Speaker 6>over on Sunday on a Sunday.

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<v Speaker 1>The Internet guy on a Sunday Jednie.

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<v Speaker 5>Appointment up and then he got mad at oh happening?

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<v Speaker 6>Well they were well, they were late, and then this

0:26:12.720 --> 0:26:15.399
<v Speaker 6>guy's like, well we got to run these wires. It's noon.

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<v Speaker 6>I gotta be so. Yeah, I did say I was

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<v Speaker 6>sorry because you were being a little bio because I

0:26:22.200 --> 0:26:25.200
<v Speaker 6>was being a bitch a little bit. But I had

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<v Speaker 6>a lot of anxiety about the Eagles and then you know,

0:26:28.320 --> 0:26:31.520
<v Speaker 6>facilitating people at work, and so yeah, you know.

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<v Speaker 4>I think it takes a lot, though, to admit that

0:26:33.640 --> 0:26:35.679
<v Speaker 4>you know, and to say you're sorry.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that's cool and that's what it's all about.

0:26:38.800 --> 0:26:38.960
<v Speaker 6>Right.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh man, I'm if I had to be asked this question.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't think about until now. The last time I

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<v Speaker 1>had to say I'm sorry was for something similar. I apologize.

0:26:46.800 --> 0:26:49.120
<v Speaker 1>We get up two three in the morning sometimes don't

0:26:49.119 --> 0:26:52.359
<v Speaker 1>get a lot of sleep, and I was just frantic

0:26:52.480 --> 0:26:54.720
<v Speaker 1>and I was not in a good way. I'm slamming

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<v Speaker 1>stuff in a hurry. And I later just said, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what, I'm sorry for how I was. I was

0:26:59.200 --> 0:26:59.880
<v Speaker 1>not in a good way.

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<v Speaker 3>It's amazing to hear it. I wasn't even upset about it.

0:27:03.119 --> 0:27:05.000
<v Speaker 4>I knew that you hadn't slept that much, and it

0:27:05.040 --> 0:27:06.800
<v Speaker 4>was cool to have you even say that when I

0:27:06.920 --> 0:27:09.520
<v Speaker 4>wasn't even I didn't even say anything, But it makes

0:27:09.640 --> 0:27:10.520
<v Speaker 4>it makes a big difference.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I think saying sorry is so underrated because it

0:27:14.359 --> 0:27:19.439
<v Speaker 5>really makes the other person feel seen and respected. I

0:27:19.480 --> 0:27:22.280
<v Speaker 5>think when there's a conflict, to work it out on

0:27:22.320 --> 0:27:24.360
<v Speaker 5>your own and come back to the person and have

0:27:24.880 --> 0:27:27.400
<v Speaker 5>that clear conversation with like, I'm not going to point

0:27:27.400 --> 0:27:29.520
<v Speaker 5>the finger at you in this situation. I'm going to

0:27:29.560 --> 0:27:32.240
<v Speaker 5>point the thumb and look at how I what my

0:27:32.320 --> 0:27:35.800
<v Speaker 5>bark wasn't And it just feels really reassuring to have that.

0:27:35.880 --> 0:27:38.600
<v Speaker 5>I think I apologize to him this morning because he

0:27:38.640 --> 0:27:42.520
<v Speaker 5>walked into the bedroom with this giant cup of coffee

0:27:42.560 --> 0:27:45.200
<v Speaker 5>from Starbucks and he was just sitting there holding it

0:27:45.240 --> 0:27:46.920
<v Speaker 5>and drinking it. And I just stared at her and

0:27:46.920 --> 0:27:49.480
<v Speaker 5>I was like, where's Mike. You didn't get me any

0:27:49.760 --> 0:27:52.320
<v Speaker 5>You didn't get me a tea? And he said no,

0:27:52.440 --> 0:27:55.960
<v Speaker 5>I didn't. He's like, oh you didn't. You didn't you

0:27:56.000 --> 0:27:57.960
<v Speaker 5>went to Starbus, you didn't get meyone? He said, no,

0:27:58.280 --> 0:28:04.080
<v Speaker 5>I didn't think of you. And then so I go, oh, mad, yeah,

0:28:04.240 --> 0:28:05.120
<v Speaker 5>not terribly. Well.

0:28:05.160 --> 0:28:07.119
<v Speaker 6>I was joking with her.

0:28:07.440 --> 0:28:12.560
<v Speaker 5>He was joking, I'm sorry that I believed you.

0:28:12.640 --> 0:28:18.800
<v Speaker 3>Basically that's hilarious. I said, but that's cute. You still

0:28:18.840 --> 0:28:19.719
<v Speaker 3>have a little humor.

0:28:19.920 --> 0:28:21.639
<v Speaker 4>You knew she might get mad, but it would be

0:28:21.720 --> 0:28:23.760
<v Speaker 4>a funny moment when she realized.

0:28:23.400 --> 0:28:25.320
<v Speaker 2>I get it right. You said, I'm sorry that I

0:28:25.359 --> 0:28:27.360
<v Speaker 2>thought you were in Is that right?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah?

0:28:29.560 --> 0:28:33.119
<v Speaker 5>Okay, got it like that, apology.

0:28:33.000 --> 0:28:34.960
<v Speaker 2>Sorry about that day? All right?

0:28:34.960 --> 0:28:37.080
<v Speaker 1>Next up here speak Well, we'll stick with the mad

0:28:37.160 --> 0:28:39.360
<v Speaker 1>and the fight theme for a second. This will be

0:28:39.360 --> 0:28:41.440
<v Speaker 1>the last one in that regard. Do you make a

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<v Speaker 1>point of not going to bed angry or do sometimes

0:28:44.600 --> 0:28:44.840
<v Speaker 1>you do.

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<v Speaker 5>It sometimes to be angry.

0:28:48.000 --> 0:28:50.440
<v Speaker 6>Yes, I mean I would like to make it a

0:28:50.440 --> 0:28:52.760
<v Speaker 6>point not to go to bed angry, but sometimes we

0:28:52.800 --> 0:28:53.800
<v Speaker 6>do go to bed angry.

0:28:53.880 --> 0:28:58.200
<v Speaker 5>You just gotta call it. Sometimes.

0:28:56.560 --> 0:29:02.040
<v Speaker 6>You ever have the you know, where it's it's getting

0:29:02.160 --> 0:29:04.280
<v Speaker 6>late and you know you're sitting on the side of

0:29:04.280 --> 0:29:06.200
<v Speaker 6>the bed and you're like, well, I'm going to go

0:29:06.240 --> 0:29:08.480
<v Speaker 6>in there, but I'm not. I'm just going to stay

0:29:08.480 --> 0:29:10.680
<v Speaker 6>in this, And then you're just like, well, we're exhausted.

0:29:10.760 --> 0:29:11.080
<v Speaker 6>What's good?

0:29:12.040 --> 0:29:15.600
<v Speaker 5>So? Or did you know those times when when like

0:29:15.920 --> 0:29:18.120
<v Speaker 5>my world would be so going so fast that it's

0:29:18.120 --> 0:29:19.800
<v Speaker 5>not until I lay my head on the pillow that

0:29:19.840 --> 0:29:23.760
<v Speaker 5>I kind of assess things with regard to like what

0:29:23.800 --> 0:29:26.400
<v Speaker 5>we're going through and what we're talking about, where we are,

0:29:26.680 --> 0:29:30.120
<v Speaker 5>and that's when I'm like, so should we talk about

0:29:30.240 --> 0:29:30.720
<v Speaker 5>the thing?

0:29:31.520 --> 0:29:33.479
<v Speaker 6>And maybe at that point where I'm like, no, I

0:29:33.520 --> 0:29:39.080
<v Speaker 6>had all the like, honey, honey talk, yeah, that's the thing,

0:29:39.280 --> 0:29:42.160
<v Speaker 6>Like I should be better at that, But that is

0:29:42.360 --> 0:29:46.200
<v Speaker 6>that is where I've kind of had more time because

0:29:46.200 --> 0:29:48.200
<v Speaker 6>she is so busy and when I'm done, I'm done,

0:29:48.640 --> 0:29:52.480
<v Speaker 6>and she's yeah she wants to talk at that point

0:29:52.520 --> 0:30:00.280
<v Speaker 6>where it's like midnight and I'm like, no, I'm out.

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<v Speaker 3>What do you each love the most about the other?

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<v Speaker 5>I love that Dave is fun. He's fun. He makes

0:30:14.360 --> 0:30:18.200
<v Speaker 5>me laugh in every situation. He's like he's like a

0:30:18.360 --> 0:30:22.800
<v Speaker 5>walking Saturday Night Live show all the time. He's always

0:30:22.800 --> 0:30:26.440
<v Speaker 5>doing like voices and mimic. You know, He's just fun

0:30:26.480 --> 0:30:30.400
<v Speaker 5>to hang out with. He's brought such a levity into

0:30:30.480 --> 0:30:34.760
<v Speaker 5>our home. And you know, because the kids and I

0:30:34.800 --> 0:30:36.800
<v Speaker 5>went through a really hard time with the divorce and

0:30:37.080 --> 0:30:39.920
<v Speaker 5>the family's breaking up and everything, and when he came in,

0:30:40.040 --> 0:30:42.440
<v Speaker 5>that's what we all noticed that we all just felt

0:30:42.440 --> 0:30:44.600
<v Speaker 5>happier when he was around. So that's one of the things.

0:30:44.360 --> 0:30:48.240
<v Speaker 6>I love about Well, Honey, I'm gonna cry at nine

0:30:48.240 --> 0:30:49.240
<v Speaker 6>o'clock in the morning.

0:30:50.960 --> 0:30:53.840
<v Speaker 5>I also love that he's tall because I am short

0:30:53.880 --> 0:30:56.000
<v Speaker 5>and I can't reach a lot of things, so that's

0:30:56.040 --> 0:30:56.720
<v Speaker 5>really helpful.

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<v Speaker 6>I love most about Jenny is she's fierce. I don't know,

0:31:05.360 --> 0:31:09.120
<v Speaker 6>like she's she just when she says she's going to

0:31:09.200 --> 0:31:13.760
<v Speaker 6>do something, she does it. Her loyalty is unmatched, and

0:31:13.800 --> 0:31:18.040
<v Speaker 6>I've learned a lot about that. It's almost loyal to

0:31:18.040 --> 0:31:23.160
<v Speaker 6>a fault, but I'd rather do that than the opposite.

0:31:23.560 --> 0:31:29.160
<v Speaker 6>And she's had the same people around her for thirty

0:31:29.280 --> 0:31:32.000
<v Speaker 6>something years and that says a lot about who she

0:31:32.200 --> 0:31:38.640
<v Speaker 6>is and her character, and I've learned a lot. Yeah,

0:31:38.680 --> 0:31:41.520
<v Speaker 6>I mean, I love I just you know, when you

0:31:42.320 --> 0:31:45.800
<v Speaker 6>she's just my human And so even though I tried

0:31:45.800 --> 0:31:48.960
<v Speaker 6>to get away, just that's just the way it is.

0:31:50.520 --> 0:31:50.680
<v Speaker 4>You know.

0:31:50.840 --> 0:31:53.440
<v Speaker 1>It wasn't lost on us either, Jenny. Since we've been

0:31:53.480 --> 0:31:56.120
<v Speaker 1>asking questions, there were some you deferred and you pause

0:31:56.240 --> 0:31:58.720
<v Speaker 1>and you say, hey, you go first, but we when

0:31:58.720 --> 0:32:01.040
<v Speaker 1>she asked what do you love most about the other?

0:32:01.600 --> 0:32:05.479
<v Speaker 1>You jumped in immediately and had something you knew and

0:32:05.560 --> 0:32:07.680
<v Speaker 1>you wanted to speak first on that. So that wasn't law.

0:32:07.760 --> 0:32:10.040
<v Speaker 1>That was a very cute moment to see. We got

0:32:10.080 --> 0:32:12.200
<v Speaker 1>to turn to some practical stuff. Now the household. You kind

0:32:12.200 --> 0:32:15.480
<v Speaker 1>of alluded to it, but this happens in every relationship.

0:32:15.560 --> 0:32:20.240
<v Speaker 1>How do you handle household finances together separate?

0:32:20.360 --> 0:32:20.920
<v Speaker 2>How does it work?

0:32:22.880 --> 0:32:25.800
<v Speaker 6>Well, it's a little different. I mean it's different.

0:32:26.400 --> 0:32:29.960
<v Speaker 5>Situation is different. Pres is not traditional.

0:32:30.480 --> 0:32:36.640
<v Speaker 6>I would say, no, I contribute to household around our house.

0:32:37.320 --> 0:32:39.560
<v Speaker 6>But if I wasn't married to my wife, I would

0:32:39.560 --> 0:32:43.040
<v Speaker 6>not be living in this house. Let's just say so.

0:32:45.000 --> 0:32:49.320
<v Speaker 5>Probably stepped into a lifestyle that he did not see coming,

0:32:49.360 --> 0:32:53.600
<v Speaker 5>and I would never ever expect him to being that.

0:32:53.680 --> 0:32:58.480
<v Speaker 5>I I've always been independent financially since I started making money.

0:32:58.600 --> 0:33:02.400
<v Speaker 5>I always will take care myself and my kids. So

0:33:02.480 --> 0:33:04.720
<v Speaker 5>I never would expect him to come in and take

0:33:04.760 --> 0:33:06.800
<v Speaker 5>care of me, or take care of the girls, or

0:33:07.040 --> 0:33:09.920
<v Speaker 5>pay fifty percent of what or what take over the

0:33:09.960 --> 0:33:13.480
<v Speaker 5>payments for this lifestyle that I've created for myself and

0:33:13.800 --> 0:33:14.320
<v Speaker 5>the girls.

0:33:14.360 --> 0:33:19.040
<v Speaker 6>So we did. Yeah, we did have some resentment. She

0:33:19.200 --> 0:33:21.720
<v Speaker 6>had some resentment towards me a couple of years ago,

0:33:22.400 --> 0:33:24.680
<v Speaker 6>just because it was like after COVID, I'm in the

0:33:24.720 --> 0:33:29.800
<v Speaker 6>restaurant business. I lost one, I sold another one, and

0:33:29.840 --> 0:33:33.720
<v Speaker 6>then I was starting a new one. So we had

0:33:34.120 --> 0:33:36.560
<v Speaker 6>we had to go through a lot of like growing

0:33:36.640 --> 0:33:39.840
<v Speaker 6>pains to where we got now to where it on

0:33:39.880 --> 0:33:45.160
<v Speaker 6>that front, we're very secure in what our contributions are

0:33:45.240 --> 0:33:49.280
<v Speaker 6>to this family and that probably for the first time

0:33:49.520 --> 0:33:54.760
<v Speaker 6>in our marriage we've both felt that way. And yeah,

0:33:54.800 --> 0:33:58.040
<v Speaker 6>so I think that that was a very that was

0:33:58.080 --> 0:34:01.480
<v Speaker 6>a big point of contention our relationship that we just

0:34:01.600 --> 0:34:03.400
<v Speaker 6>kind of swept under the rug a little bit, but

0:34:03.520 --> 0:34:07.360
<v Speaker 6>it did when we had to confront it, I go, Okay,

0:34:07.440 --> 0:34:09.640
<v Speaker 6>I didn't know you were feeling that well way, so

0:34:10.880 --> 0:34:16.560
<v Speaker 6>let's do this to alleviate that, and me working and

0:34:16.640 --> 0:34:21.040
<v Speaker 6>busting to help her in that way, it was a

0:34:21.320 --> 0:34:23.799
<v Speaker 6>it makes me feel good, as you know, as a

0:34:23.840 --> 0:34:25.960
<v Speaker 6>partner that it's not all on.

0:34:26.040 --> 0:34:28.960
<v Speaker 5>Her right, but it's always We've always been very clear

0:34:29.000 --> 0:34:31.680
<v Speaker 5>that this is the world that I created and I

0:34:32.360 --> 0:34:35.120
<v Speaker 5>live in, and I don't expect you to jump into

0:34:35.160 --> 0:34:39.439
<v Speaker 5>this financially because that's not you know, I wouldn't ask

0:34:39.480 --> 0:34:41.960
<v Speaker 5>anybody to jump into a situation that they are not

0:34:42.120 --> 0:34:46.080
<v Speaker 5>familiar with. So I think that we've navigated it pretty well.

0:34:46.120 --> 0:34:49.399
<v Speaker 5>And I will say too, like you know, I used to.

0:34:49.520 --> 0:34:52.720
<v Speaker 5>I've said before in certain relationships, like when the woman

0:34:53.320 --> 0:34:56.160
<v Speaker 5>is the you know, breadwinner or makes more money than

0:34:56.200 --> 0:34:58.919
<v Speaker 5>the man that I heard Sally Field say this once.

0:34:59.000 --> 0:35:03.640
<v Speaker 5>It's like a cancer eats away the relationship, which is

0:35:03.680 --> 0:35:08.680
<v Speaker 5>a pretty dramatic visual, but it's honestly like there's a

0:35:08.800 --> 0:35:14.480
<v Speaker 5>seed planted, and if that seed of resentment or contempt

0:35:14.880 --> 0:35:18.960
<v Speaker 5>or any bitterness about that, if that seed is watered,

0:35:19.000 --> 0:35:21.879
<v Speaker 5>it really can grow and just some a big fat

0:35:21.920 --> 0:35:25.040
<v Speaker 5>weed in your relationship. So I think that really being

0:35:25.120 --> 0:35:30.560
<v Speaker 5>honest and upfront about each of our independent finances and

0:35:31.080 --> 0:35:33.880
<v Speaker 5>how we see ourselves and then how we see us

0:35:33.960 --> 0:35:36.399
<v Speaker 5>as a couple has really benefited us.

0:35:36.719 --> 0:35:39.080
<v Speaker 6>Yeah. I mean when we first met, she didn't know.

0:35:39.960 --> 0:35:42.760
<v Speaker 6>When I first moved in with her at the other house,

0:35:43.000 --> 0:35:46.240
<v Speaker 6>I was like, well, so what's your what's the electrical bill?

0:35:46.440 --> 0:35:48.840
<v Speaker 6>Let me see what that looks like. She didn't know,

0:35:49.520 --> 0:35:55.480
<v Speaker 6>So that's where we started. So I had to like

0:35:55.920 --> 0:35:58.920
<v Speaker 6>delve in, do you know that this is much money?

0:35:59.000 --> 0:36:03.319
<v Speaker 6>We shouldn't keep that full heater on because that's a

0:36:03.360 --> 0:36:04.600
<v Speaker 6>lot of money.

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<v Speaker 5>Like the water warm, what's.

0:36:06.560 --> 0:36:10.359
<v Speaker 6>The So things like that. That's gotten a lot better

0:36:10.440 --> 0:36:15.040
<v Speaker 6>where she over our tenure relationship, has learned so much

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<v Speaker 6>more about finances and has gotten her own finances under control.

0:36:19.600 --> 0:36:23.600
<v Speaker 6>And and and it's so wonderful to see her bloom

0:36:23.640 --> 0:36:28.319
<v Speaker 6>in that regard and for me just to say, well,

0:36:28.440 --> 0:36:32.080
<v Speaker 6>I you know, I helped her with that as well

0:36:32.080 --> 0:36:35.040
<v Speaker 6>as she supported me with other things, you know, I

0:36:35.080 --> 0:36:37.839
<v Speaker 6>mean COVID was tough. I mean I opened a new

0:36:37.920 --> 0:36:40.239
<v Speaker 6>spot and I was working five nights a week just

0:36:40.280 --> 0:36:45.120
<v Speaker 6>going in there, and you know, she supported me through that,

0:36:45.160 --> 0:36:47.239
<v Speaker 6>and then now we're at this point. It's great.

0:36:48.520 --> 0:36:49.480
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's so cool.

0:36:49.520 --> 0:36:51.960
<v Speaker 4>I mean because finances, I mean, it is a topic

0:36:52.000 --> 0:36:55.040
<v Speaker 4>that people don't want to discuss. And I think didn't

0:36:55.040 --> 0:36:58.399
<v Speaker 4>they say people would prefer to talk about sex, even

0:36:58.440 --> 0:37:02.319
<v Speaker 4>uncomfortable conversations about sex, versus uncomfortable conversations about money, Like

0:37:02.440 --> 0:37:05.840
<v Speaker 4>money is just this taboo topic that can eat away you.

0:37:05.920 --> 0:37:08.080
<v Speaker 4>So that's a really thank you for sharing that because

0:37:08.080 --> 0:37:10.240
<v Speaker 4>I think that's very relatable to a lot of people.

0:37:10.600 --> 0:37:10.839
<v Speaker 2>Guys.

0:37:10.840 --> 0:37:12.839
<v Speaker 1>While you were giving your answer, I kept nudging her

0:37:12.840 --> 0:37:15.640
<v Speaker 1>and whispering they're adults. Yeah, Like that was just a

0:37:15.680 --> 0:37:17.759
<v Speaker 1>grown up answer. I know, you know what I'm saying.

0:37:18.160 --> 0:37:19.719
<v Speaker 1>You hear all kinds of answers, but you.

0:37:19.680 --> 0:37:23.399
<v Speaker 2>All, that's real life and adulthood right there. And that's

0:37:23.400 --> 0:37:24.399
<v Speaker 2>what I kept nudging her.

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<v Speaker 6>Thanks. I told her that if we're buried together one day,

0:37:29.600 --> 0:37:32.960
<v Speaker 6>someone's going to put mister Garth by accident. And I'm told.

0:37:36.160 --> 0:37:38.880
<v Speaker 5>He doesn't give a ship. He's like that when you

0:37:39.000 --> 0:37:40.880
<v Speaker 5>check into a hotel, if he calls them.

0:37:40.680 --> 0:37:45.560
<v Speaker 6>By, they go, they go, mister, mister Garth, Hey, what's up?

0:37:45.560 --> 0:37:45.719
<v Speaker 5>Man?

0:37:47.400 --> 0:37:49.759
<v Speaker 2>I've been called mister before. I love it when they

0:37:49.760 --> 0:37:52.279
<v Speaker 2>call the room, would you like?

0:37:52.480 --> 0:37:52.600
<v Speaker 4>Uh?

0:37:53.239 --> 0:37:53.640
<v Speaker 2>Sent up?

0:37:54.160 --> 0:37:57.680
<v Speaker 3>He never corrects them either. He thinks it's hilarious.

0:37:59.880 --> 0:38:02.640
<v Speaker 5>A guy that doesn't that's not an issue for them, Like,

0:38:02.680 --> 0:38:03.560
<v Speaker 5>who cares?

0:38:03.920 --> 0:38:07.319
<v Speaker 4>It's so nice. It is so nice. Yes, that is

0:38:07.320 --> 0:38:08.960
<v Speaker 4>not lost on me. By the way, thank you for

0:38:09.000 --> 0:38:12.520
<v Speaker 4>being always like never getting offended by that or having

0:38:12.600 --> 0:38:16.120
<v Speaker 4>your manhood, you know. But let's take it some way somehow,

0:38:16.160 --> 0:38:20.080
<v Speaker 4>So I appreciate that. How do you guys handle household

0:38:20.160 --> 0:38:24.920
<v Speaker 4>chores like cooking, cleaning, laundry, try.

0:38:24.800 --> 0:38:26.760
<v Speaker 3>All that stuff that people fight about?

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<v Speaker 6>I love? Can we do this once a week? This

0:38:32.840 --> 0:38:37.160
<v Speaker 6>is this is great. I'll start first. I do the poop.

0:38:38.600 --> 0:38:41.400
<v Speaker 6>I do a lot of poop, dog poop, peep. I

0:38:41.440 --> 0:38:46.359
<v Speaker 6>feed the dogs. I do the dishes. I load the

0:38:46.400 --> 0:38:49.560
<v Speaker 6>dishes in the morning because I'm the morning person. They

0:38:49.640 --> 0:38:52.000
<v Speaker 6>get a lot of dishes at night. I unload it

0:38:52.040 --> 0:38:54.560
<v Speaker 6>in the morning. I take out the trash.

0:38:57.480 --> 0:39:00.680
<v Speaker 5>You're in charge of turning off the lights and are

0:39:00.880 --> 0:39:04.239
<v Speaker 5>huge doors because every no one turns off lights.

0:39:04.440 --> 0:39:08.279
<v Speaker 6>I'm like that guy, like it's sign. I put a

0:39:08.320 --> 0:39:10.880
<v Speaker 6>big sign in the eighteen year old room before she

0:39:10.920 --> 0:39:11.960
<v Speaker 6>walks out. Lights.

0:39:12.200 --> 0:39:17.000
<v Speaker 3>Lights, lights, that's funny.

0:39:17.080 --> 0:39:21.120
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, she's constantly. Yeah, she's constantly.

0:39:21.200 --> 0:39:24.200
<v Speaker 5>I'm a homemaker, so I'll do anything. I love it.

0:39:24.680 --> 0:39:28.040
<v Speaker 5>I love I would rather be doing like household chores

0:39:28.840 --> 0:39:30.840
<v Speaker 5>than most things.

0:39:30.960 --> 0:39:32.200
<v Speaker 6>So it's wild.

0:39:32.760 --> 0:39:34.840
<v Speaker 1>You've got a full house there. So, but the cooking

0:39:34.840 --> 0:39:36.480
<v Speaker 1>in the laundry has to be a big deal. How

0:39:36.719 --> 0:39:37.960
<v Speaker 1>how are those two things handled?

0:39:38.239 --> 0:39:40.560
<v Speaker 5>Well, we let the girls do their own laundry, thank god,

0:39:40.920 --> 0:39:43.959
<v Speaker 5>and we alternate the lawn well, usually Tuesday night.

0:39:44.600 --> 0:39:48.239
<v Speaker 6>Tuesday night's the laundry night, and she'll do it and

0:39:48.280 --> 0:39:49.320
<v Speaker 6>then I'll put it away.

0:39:49.840 --> 0:39:51.839
<v Speaker 4>That's kind of how I us have like such an

0:39:51.920 --> 0:39:54.680
<v Speaker 4>awesome system, Like you even knew what night you do

0:39:54.760 --> 0:39:56.920
<v Speaker 4>laundry and you tag team everything.

0:39:57.040 --> 0:39:58.160
<v Speaker 3>That's remarkable.

0:39:58.560 --> 0:40:00.799
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we have to admit a eighty percent of our

0:40:00.840 --> 0:40:04.840
<v Speaker 1>couples that were they were doing great now all the questions.

0:40:04.960 --> 0:40:09.280
<v Speaker 1>We got the laundry, and there are cracks and the relationship,

0:40:09.920 --> 0:40:11.880
<v Speaker 1>so it's very impressive to hear you will handle it

0:40:11.880 --> 0:40:12.360
<v Speaker 1>the way you do it.

0:40:12.680 --> 0:40:17.719
<v Speaker 6>Don't get don't get me wrong. I hate laundry's that's

0:40:17.719 --> 0:40:19.680
<v Speaker 6>probably that's the thing. I hate them.

0:40:19.800 --> 0:40:21.279
<v Speaker 5>I don't mind it, so it works out.

0:40:23.360 --> 0:40:25.680
<v Speaker 1>Next question here, tell us how much time do you

0:40:25.760 --> 0:40:29.200
<v Speaker 1>find that you need, not just a loan, but away

0:40:29.239 --> 0:40:32.000
<v Speaker 1>from each other. It sounds like you get enough of

0:40:32.040 --> 0:40:34.359
<v Speaker 1>it just naturally, but do you find that you need

0:40:34.440 --> 0:40:35.520
<v Speaker 1>some time apart?

0:40:37.640 --> 0:40:40.960
<v Speaker 5>I feel like we during our therapy work, we both

0:40:41.080 --> 0:40:46.320
<v Speaker 5>learned the concept of circle, square circle from our therapist

0:40:46.960 --> 0:40:50.440
<v Speaker 5>or my therapist who was also seeing you. But Wade

0:40:50.480 --> 0:40:53.640
<v Speaker 5>wait Davis, he taught us this that we're each our

0:40:53.680 --> 0:40:57.240
<v Speaker 5>own individual circles and then in the middle is the square,

0:40:57.840 --> 0:41:02.640
<v Speaker 5>and that square represents our our relationship together. So we

0:41:02.719 --> 0:41:05.200
<v Speaker 5>both have these circles that we on a daily basis

0:41:05.239 --> 0:41:10.120
<v Speaker 5>are filling with you know, work and doing things that

0:41:10.160 --> 0:41:13.040
<v Speaker 5>make us happy and you know, clipping off all those

0:41:13.080 --> 0:41:16.680
<v Speaker 5>pieces of the pie that make somebody whole. Right, So

0:41:16.719 --> 0:41:19.400
<v Speaker 5>those circles are whole and independent of one another. And

0:41:19.440 --> 0:41:22.359
<v Speaker 5>then that square in the middle is empty, and we

0:41:22.440 --> 0:41:26.360
<v Speaker 5>put into it whatever we want, like if well, however,

0:41:26.400 --> 0:41:30.160
<v Speaker 5>we want to nurture the relationship. So we try to

0:41:30.400 --> 0:41:34.120
<v Speaker 5>keep that square in the middle in our in our

0:41:34.200 --> 0:41:36.799
<v Speaker 5>sights and you know, in our goals, and we try

0:41:36.840 --> 0:41:39.880
<v Speaker 5>to put into that square. But I think that that

0:41:40.040 --> 0:41:43.359
<v Speaker 5>awareness for me was really essential because I am kind

0:41:43.400 --> 0:41:47.000
<v Speaker 5>of a co dependent person on only my family, like

0:41:47.040 --> 0:41:50.840
<v Speaker 5>certain like my kids and my husband. So I but

0:41:50.920 --> 0:41:53.719
<v Speaker 5>i'ms also okay with being codependent a little bit. I

0:41:53.960 --> 0:41:59.080
<v Speaker 5>I you know the word interdependent. Yes, yes, that's my

0:41:59.280 --> 0:42:02.640
<v Speaker 5>new that one, because I don't think codependency is like

0:42:02.680 --> 0:42:05.040
<v Speaker 5>a terrible thing. I love people and I want to

0:42:05.080 --> 0:42:05.680
<v Speaker 5>be around them.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm the same way, Jenny, I'm the same way for me.

0:42:08.840 --> 0:42:12.359
<v Speaker 6>I was I was. I needed that kind of independence

0:42:12.360 --> 0:42:16.480
<v Speaker 6>I needed in my time. I needed to go, you know,

0:42:16.600 --> 0:42:18.960
<v Speaker 6>be away and then so I can fill that bucket

0:42:19.000 --> 0:42:21.840
<v Speaker 6>and so that I could come back and and golf

0:42:21.880 --> 0:42:24.840
<v Speaker 6>for me kind of checks all those boxes. It checks

0:42:24.920 --> 0:42:29.440
<v Speaker 6>the social box, it checks the activity box, it checks

0:42:29.520 --> 0:42:33.640
<v Speaker 6>the mental health box, because you're so into that. So

0:42:35.120 --> 0:42:39.000
<v Speaker 6>we have worked that's a that's been a big part

0:42:39.080 --> 0:42:41.320
<v Speaker 6>of how we worked. Like when we first got together.

0:42:41.400 --> 0:42:43.840
<v Speaker 6>I used to go on these football trips with my

0:42:44.000 --> 0:42:47.160
<v Speaker 6>Oklahoma friends to go see ou football and we would

0:42:47.239 --> 0:42:50.320
<v Speaker 6>do that, and that was tough for her. She didn't

0:42:50.400 --> 0:42:53.120
<v Speaker 6>understand that. She couldn't understand that.

0:42:53.280 --> 0:42:55.280
<v Speaker 5>I think that I was just in a different place

0:42:55.560 --> 0:42:59.960
<v Speaker 5>at that point, Like I wasn't interested in my husband

0:43:00.120 --> 0:43:02.759
<v Speaker 5>going off and getting drunk, and you know, he was

0:43:02.800 --> 0:43:04.960
<v Speaker 5>at a different place. And I think as we've matured,

0:43:05.640 --> 0:43:08.480
<v Speaker 5>those things have settled in and like eased up, so

0:43:09.000 --> 0:43:12.520
<v Speaker 5>they they aren't in, they aren't thorns.

0:43:12.560 --> 0:43:16.080
<v Speaker 6>Correct, Yeah, it's not as it's no big deal now

0:43:16.280 --> 0:43:18.640
<v Speaker 6>like it it was so much of a big deal.

0:43:18.760 --> 0:43:20.919
<v Speaker 5>But he's a Gemini and I'm an Aries. I don't

0:43:20.920 --> 0:43:23.080
<v Speaker 5>know if you I don't know that much about astrology,

0:43:23.080 --> 0:43:25.399
<v Speaker 5>but I know that Geminis are the people that have

0:43:25.920 --> 0:43:29.400
<v Speaker 5>two sides, right, which I didn't really know until like

0:43:29.480 --> 0:43:31.480
<v Speaker 5>three years in. I never I never was like, oh

0:43:31.520 --> 0:43:33.800
<v Speaker 5>my gosh, I'm seeing the other side of the Gemini

0:43:34.000 --> 0:43:37.040
<v Speaker 5>and I'm an Aries, which is very strong willed and

0:43:37.560 --> 0:43:42.200
<v Speaker 5>determined and you know, so it's an interesting combination.

0:43:43.640 --> 0:43:51.000
<v Speaker 4>Super super independent le Leo and Aquarius is what we are. Gemini,

0:43:53.120 --> 0:43:56.320
<v Speaker 4>I'm not that good and that I only know about

0:43:56.320 --> 0:43:57.160
<v Speaker 4>it better.

0:43:57.239 --> 0:43:59.520
<v Speaker 5>I wish I knew more about astrology because I think

0:43:59.520 --> 0:44:03.279
<v Speaker 5>it's super I just know geminis.

0:44:02.760 --> 0:44:03.560
<v Speaker 6>Get a bad rap.

0:44:14.520 --> 0:44:16.400
<v Speaker 4>The funny thing is the next couple of questions you

0:44:16.440 --> 0:44:19.959
<v Speaker 4>all have absolutely already answered, like have you ever broken up? Yes?

0:44:22.160 --> 0:44:25.400
<v Speaker 3>Have you ever been a couple of therapy? Yes, But

0:44:25.600 --> 0:44:26.440
<v Speaker 3>we have this question.

0:44:26.520 --> 0:44:29.560
<v Speaker 4>Have you ever in the middle of an argument threatened

0:44:29.719 --> 0:44:34.279
<v Speaker 4>to get divorced, threatened to leave the relationship outside of

0:44:34.280 --> 0:44:34.600
<v Speaker 4>when you.

0:44:34.560 --> 0:44:36.399
<v Speaker 3>Guys actually did do that?

0:44:36.600 --> 0:44:40.080
<v Speaker 4>Have you ever used or reached that point where you

0:44:40.200 --> 0:44:42.680
<v Speaker 4>threw that bomb at the in an argument?

0:44:43.920 --> 0:44:48.680
<v Speaker 5>Oh? Yeah, in the earlier days, we really did. And

0:44:48.719 --> 0:44:52.920
<v Speaker 5>that was super hard for me because the stabilizing, like

0:44:52.960 --> 0:44:56.200
<v Speaker 5>to be told I'm out of here, this is even

0:44:56.280 --> 0:44:59.399
<v Speaker 5>doing this, or you know, it's the worst each other.

0:44:59.480 --> 0:45:00.920
<v Speaker 5>It's the worst feeling.

0:45:01.800 --> 0:45:05.359
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, And I'm my biggest thing I have to work

0:45:05.400 --> 0:45:07.720
<v Speaker 6>on in my whole entire life is fight or flight.

0:45:08.800 --> 0:45:12.840
<v Speaker 6>It's just such a for me. When I leave a situation,

0:45:13.719 --> 0:45:17.680
<v Speaker 6>it's this like almost rebirth. It feels so good to me.

0:45:17.800 --> 0:45:20.800
<v Speaker 6>It's like it's crazy, but it's not healthy, you know

0:45:20.840 --> 0:45:23.319
<v Speaker 6>what I'm saying, Like, Yeah, so I would like in

0:45:23.360 --> 0:45:27.319
<v Speaker 6>those fights that where normally I would just leave and

0:45:27.360 --> 0:45:30.319
<v Speaker 6>go in the other room or just leave, I just

0:45:30.560 --> 0:45:34.120
<v Speaker 6>have chosen to just stay. And so for me just

0:45:34.160 --> 0:45:37.120
<v Speaker 6>to even stay even when nothing's getting solved and still

0:45:37.239 --> 0:45:39.759
<v Speaker 6>the shit dad has meant so much more to her

0:45:39.960 --> 0:45:44.000
<v Speaker 6>and stabilized her even though in my whole being it's

0:45:44.120 --> 0:45:44.759
<v Speaker 6>killing me.

0:45:44.920 --> 0:45:47.920
<v Speaker 5>It's so interesting that we met, like we paired up

0:45:48.000 --> 0:45:52.800
<v Speaker 5>because I have abandonment issues from my father, initially getting

0:45:52.840 --> 0:45:55.680
<v Speaker 5>really sick and like kind of losing that father figure

0:45:55.760 --> 0:45:59.680
<v Speaker 5>even though he's stayed alive for a long time. I felt,

0:46:00.000 --> 0:46:03.760
<v Speaker 5>I think, abandoned as a young girl. And then relationships

0:46:03.800 --> 0:46:07.480
<v Speaker 5>happen and marriages and those kinds of things happened, so

0:46:07.520 --> 0:46:10.719
<v Speaker 5>it kind of embedded that further in me. But and

0:46:10.760 --> 0:46:15.040
<v Speaker 5>then I met somebody who likes to leave, Like who

0:46:15.080 --> 0:46:17.840
<v Speaker 5>doesn't who I'm I was in the beginning always like

0:46:17.920 --> 0:46:20.399
<v Speaker 5>well I think he might leave again, Like he's gonna leave,

0:46:20.719 --> 0:46:22.480
<v Speaker 5>so how can you you know?

0:46:22.960 --> 0:46:26.759
<v Speaker 6>I mean, yeah, it's that's why I said at the

0:46:26.880 --> 0:46:29.839
<v Speaker 6>at the beginning of this content for the like the

0:46:29.880 --> 0:46:33.080
<v Speaker 6>first point part, I mean, in my life I have

0:46:33.120 --> 0:46:37.200
<v Speaker 6>felt complete content. There is no like I got it.

0:46:38.239 --> 0:46:40.960
<v Speaker 6>How am I getting out of this situation. Okay, what

0:46:41.160 --> 0:46:44.200
<v Speaker 6>good do I have one hundred thousand dollars where I

0:46:44.200 --> 0:46:45.960
<v Speaker 6>could just go make a new life somewhere.

0:46:48.760 --> 0:46:50.680
<v Speaker 3>Every everybody has had that.

0:46:52.760 --> 0:46:56.239
<v Speaker 6>These are the thoughts, right, but you've got to block those.

0:46:56.320 --> 0:46:58.399
<v Speaker 6>I mean, just this is this is the this is

0:46:58.440 --> 0:47:01.279
<v Speaker 6>these are the crazy wirings that I have that I

0:47:01.440 --> 0:47:02.600
<v Speaker 6>have to like work on.

0:47:02.800 --> 0:47:07.040
<v Speaker 5>It's just me who's like, leaving isn't an option.

0:47:07.120 --> 0:47:09.520
<v Speaker 6>You're either in or you're out, like, and it feels

0:47:09.520 --> 0:47:12.479
<v Speaker 6>so much better to have made that commitment and being like, man,

0:47:12.600 --> 0:47:15.200
<v Speaker 6>this is this is what I am in. I've made

0:47:15.200 --> 0:47:18.080
<v Speaker 6>these choices, and I am so better off.

0:47:18.560 --> 0:47:21.239
<v Speaker 4>I totally get that. Like, I absolutely have that same

0:47:21.280 --> 0:47:23.200
<v Speaker 4>instinct like I have to get out of here. I

0:47:23.239 --> 0:47:24.520
<v Speaker 4>have to, like, I have to leave.

0:47:24.880 --> 0:47:27.319
<v Speaker 3>And he's like, if you leave, you will not be

0:47:27.400 --> 0:47:27.879
<v Speaker 3>coming back.

0:47:28.120 --> 0:47:31.239
<v Speaker 1>That's no, no, no wait wait, that's only if you

0:47:31.360 --> 0:47:32.200
<v Speaker 1>make the threat.

0:47:32.400 --> 0:47:32.680
<v Speaker 7>Yeah.

0:47:32.719 --> 0:47:33.919
<v Speaker 2>I never put you out.

0:47:34.360 --> 0:47:36.200
<v Speaker 4>Oh no no no, you're just saying if you walk

0:47:36.280 --> 0:47:39.120
<v Speaker 4>out that door, no, that it will be locked.

0:47:40.000 --> 0:47:40.239
<v Speaker 5>The way.

0:47:40.239 --> 0:47:41.879
<v Speaker 2>So today's point to hear.

0:47:42.040 --> 0:47:44.359
<v Speaker 1>I was really interested Dave and hearing what you were

0:47:44.400 --> 0:47:47.200
<v Speaker 1>saying there about you know, the fight or flight thing

0:47:47.320 --> 0:47:50.239
<v Speaker 1>to where I'm never the one that's usually trying to fly.

0:47:50.920 --> 0:47:53.160
<v Speaker 1>But if you tell me you mentioned something about just

0:47:53.239 --> 0:47:55.239
<v Speaker 1>how you're able to move on, it's the next thing.

0:47:55.280 --> 0:47:58.560
<v Speaker 1>When someone tells me this relationship is over or I'm

0:47:58.600 --> 0:48:01.520
<v Speaker 1>done or I'm leaving, I'm already in my mind.

0:48:01.680 --> 0:48:03.399
<v Speaker 2>How am I going to get her things back over

0:48:03.440 --> 0:48:04.440
<v Speaker 2>to her? Wow?

0:48:04.520 --> 0:48:10.720
<v Speaker 1>If FedEx is open at a thirty tomorrow, like I'm done? Yeah, yeah,

0:48:10.840 --> 0:48:13.560
<v Speaker 1>not because I choose to, but I listen to someone.

0:48:13.800 --> 0:48:16.360
<v Speaker 1>I don't play that game, so we it's been interesting

0:48:16.400 --> 0:48:18.399
<v Speaker 1>the bag of Force I really set up, Dave when

0:48:18.400 --> 0:48:20.839
<v Speaker 1>you were talking about that fight or flight and how

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<v Speaker 1>your mind kind of works.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and it's not it. I don't even think it's

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<v Speaker 3>a game.

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<v Speaker 4>I think you're it's your it's your ego protecting you,

0:48:27.800 --> 0:48:30.520
<v Speaker 4>it's my ego protecting me. It's your ego protect You

0:48:30.560 --> 0:48:32.239
<v Speaker 4>have to have your backup plan, you have to have

0:48:32.320 --> 0:48:34.480
<v Speaker 4>what am I doing now to protect myself? Because I'm

0:48:34.480 --> 0:48:37.319
<v Speaker 4>feeling really hurt and really scared? So what do I

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<v Speaker 4>do to protect myself? And everybody has different responses to that,

0:48:40.640 --> 0:48:44.000
<v Speaker 4>But thank you for like articulating that, because I think

0:48:44.040 --> 0:48:45.719
<v Speaker 4>a lot of people would relate to that, and I

0:48:45.719 --> 0:48:49.040
<v Speaker 4>think it's really cool that even though you have that

0:48:49.120 --> 0:48:51.799
<v Speaker 4>tendency as so many people do, as I do too,

0:48:52.920 --> 0:48:54.839
<v Speaker 4>that you say, I'm going to make a choice. I'm

0:48:54.880 --> 0:48:58.279
<v Speaker 4>in this relationship and I'm going to I am not

0:48:58.520 --> 0:49:00.759
<v Speaker 4>going to do this thing. It will make me feel

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<v Speaker 4>good right now because the harm it will do later

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<v Speaker 4>is not worth it.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, that's that's such a good point that you mentioned ego,

0:49:08.080 --> 0:49:10.680
<v Speaker 6>because that's one hundred percent what it is. That's one

0:49:10.760 --> 0:49:14.080
<v Speaker 6>hundred percent what like it hits to your core and

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<v Speaker 6>that's just false evidence appearing real, you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh, this is so good. He taught me that fear

0:49:22.440 --> 0:49:26.760
<v Speaker 5>that's the fault. Evidence is false evidence appearing real.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow, that's so cool. I love that and it's so true.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, you said a lot like when I'm when I'm

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<v Speaker 5>feeling fearful of anything, Like I'll just come back to

0:49:40.280 --> 0:49:42.439
<v Speaker 5>that and think, oh, okay.

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<v Speaker 4>That's a good thing to say to yourself when you're

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<v Speaker 4>feeling that, especially if you Yeah, that's oh my gosh,

0:49:48.280 --> 0:49:48.799
<v Speaker 4>I'm using that.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll use it tomorrow.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, morning tomorrow.

0:49:52.880 --> 0:49:54.960
<v Speaker 1>All right, next last few things there, we'll get to

0:49:55.040 --> 0:49:56.200
<v Speaker 1>these last few here for you.

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<v Speaker 2>What is it? And I want to use the word warn,

0:49:59.239 --> 0:50:01.759
<v Speaker 2>but what is it? If you saw a whole.

0:50:01.480 --> 0:50:04.720
<v Speaker 1>Line of couples lined up at city Hall going into

0:50:05.000 --> 0:50:07.680
<v Speaker 1>get married at the justice of the piece, what is it?

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<v Speaker 1>You would want to go down that line and make

0:50:10.280 --> 0:50:13.799
<v Speaker 1>sure you tell every couple make sure you consider this,

0:50:14.440 --> 0:50:17.560
<v Speaker 1>think about this, or even warn them about don't do

0:50:17.680 --> 0:50:19.680
<v Speaker 1>it before they say I do.

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<v Speaker 5>I see somebody getting married, I'm like, oh, don't do it.

0:50:23.280 --> 0:50:27.800
<v Speaker 3>Oh, just wait a little while. Yeah, through some things first.

0:50:28.440 --> 0:50:31.279
<v Speaker 5>But I think that's just like I don't think that's true.

0:50:31.280 --> 0:50:34.040
<v Speaker 5>I think that's the bitter miss in me. But I

0:50:34.080 --> 0:50:38.560
<v Speaker 5>feel like now with the relationship that we've developed into,

0:50:40.680 --> 0:50:43.960
<v Speaker 5>I could give them tips and pointers all day long about,

0:50:44.040 --> 0:50:49.360
<v Speaker 5>you know, just how to have a more harmonious life together.

0:50:49.960 --> 0:50:55.160
<v Speaker 6>I would just I would say, are you ready to work?

0:50:56.239 --> 0:51:01.279
<v Speaker 6>Because it's like it's not for everyone. I mean, I

0:51:01.280 --> 0:51:03.439
<v Speaker 6>don't know. I mean somebody way back in the day

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<v Speaker 6>we don't even know, said you guys get married and

0:51:06.440 --> 0:51:08.040
<v Speaker 6>then you do this, and then this is how it's

0:51:08.040 --> 0:51:11.440
<v Speaker 6>supposed to be the social whatever. I don't know if

0:51:11.440 --> 0:51:14.000
<v Speaker 6>it's for everyone. I would just say, if you're willing

0:51:14.040 --> 0:51:17.359
<v Speaker 6>to commit and make and that will fulfill you and

0:51:17.400 --> 0:51:20.399
<v Speaker 6>the work will fulfill you. Then go, yeah, do it.

0:51:21.200 --> 0:51:23.720
<v Speaker 6>But it's yeah, that's.

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<v Speaker 4>So good, Dave, because we watch all these relationship shows

0:51:26.800 --> 0:51:28.680
<v Speaker 4>are one of our favorites is Married at First Sight,

0:51:28.760 --> 0:51:31.600
<v Speaker 4>and we keep hearing all the couples say, it's okay,

0:51:31.600 --> 0:51:33.680
<v Speaker 4>you guys love it too, But it's just like.

0:51:36.719 --> 0:51:39.000
<v Speaker 3>Dumbist line, I'm somebody's wife.

0:51:39.560 --> 0:51:42.680
<v Speaker 2>The dumb one is we go crazy. I didn't think

0:51:42.719 --> 0:51:43.799
<v Speaker 2>marriage would be this hard.

0:51:43.920 --> 0:51:45.719
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, everyone says, I didn't think it was going to

0:51:45.760 --> 0:51:47.759
<v Speaker 4>be hard, and they they love the idea and the

0:51:47.800 --> 0:51:51.000
<v Speaker 4>concept of being someone's wife or having a husband, but

0:51:51.120 --> 0:51:53.320
<v Speaker 4>it's almost like anybody could fill the spot.

0:51:53.360 --> 0:51:54.720
<v Speaker 3>They just want to be married.

0:51:55.239 --> 0:51:56.920
<v Speaker 4>But what people think is just going to be this

0:51:57.000 --> 0:51:59.960
<v Speaker 4>immediate union where you just have a partner who's all

0:52:00.000 --> 0:52:03.120
<v Speaker 4>always on your side, and that is just so not true.

0:52:04.400 --> 0:52:08.080
<v Speaker 6>We probably we could have been on that show. That's

0:52:08.160 --> 0:52:12.520
<v Speaker 6>how we were, and then that's probably the feelings that

0:52:12.600 --> 0:52:15.120
<v Speaker 6>we had the same things like well, we're married, we're

0:52:15.200 --> 0:52:16.600
<v Speaker 6>husband wife and then.

0:52:19.120 --> 0:52:21.920
<v Speaker 3>Oh crap, now this is actually hard. What am I

0:52:21.960 --> 0:52:22.560
<v Speaker 3>supposed to do?

0:52:22.600 --> 0:52:24.200
<v Speaker 4>Now? This isn't what I signed up for I think

0:52:24.320 --> 0:52:26.160
<v Speaker 4>is something that other people say too on the show

0:52:26.520 --> 0:52:28.960
<v Speaker 4>that actually is exactly what you signed up for. You

0:52:29.080 --> 0:52:30.719
<v Speaker 4>just didn't know what you were signing up for.

0:52:31.160 --> 0:52:34.640
<v Speaker 5>No, it's hard, it's hard work, and it's like you're

0:52:34.680 --> 0:52:39.799
<v Speaker 5>spending twenty for seven with someone that is a completely

0:52:39.800 --> 0:52:43.480
<v Speaker 5>different individual. Like and when you get married, people like

0:52:43.600 --> 0:52:46.839
<v Speaker 5>expect us, people to be like, oh, we're married, so

0:52:46.960 --> 0:52:50.160
<v Speaker 5>we think the same, we have all the same goals.

0:52:50.320 --> 0:52:54.040
<v Speaker 5>We are one. No, we're not one. We are two

0:52:54.080 --> 0:52:58.080
<v Speaker 5>people that are choosing to live our lives together every day.

0:52:58.160 --> 0:53:01.480
<v Speaker 5>And that's a lot. That's a lot to be with

0:53:01.520 --> 0:53:02.279
<v Speaker 5>somebody that much.

0:53:03.480 --> 0:53:07.319
<v Speaker 4>Oh, and it's it's all about expectations, isn't it. And

0:53:07.320 --> 0:53:09.520
<v Speaker 4>people we just when you're young, or when you when

0:53:09.520 --> 0:53:13.040
<v Speaker 4>you're you got your your honeymoon phase in full swing,

0:53:13.120 --> 0:53:16.200
<v Speaker 4>you just aren't thinking about what's going to happen in

0:53:16.239 --> 0:53:16.960
<v Speaker 4>the years to come.

0:53:17.040 --> 0:53:18.520
<v Speaker 3>So that's cool, all right, She's not going to.

0:53:18.560 --> 0:53:21.120
<v Speaker 5>Be rainbows and unicorns all the time.

0:53:21.200 --> 0:53:21.400
<v Speaker 4>I know.

0:53:21.440 --> 0:53:23.040
<v Speaker 6>But it's such a good feeling.

0:53:23.280 --> 0:53:23.600
<v Speaker 4>Isn't it.

0:53:23.640 --> 0:53:25.239
<v Speaker 3>Though I know it's addictive.

0:53:25.800 --> 0:53:29.960
<v Speaker 4>Okay, final question, and this is a cheesy question, but

0:53:30.920 --> 0:53:32.319
<v Speaker 4>we've loved the answers.

0:53:32.960 --> 0:53:35.800
<v Speaker 3>What would you each say.

0:53:35.080 --> 0:53:41.160
<v Speaker 4>Is the secret or the thing your thing? Why your

0:53:41.239 --> 0:53:45.480
<v Speaker 4>relationship has lasted through the ups and downs, and that

0:53:45.680 --> 0:53:48.520
<v Speaker 4>you two are a successful, happy couple.

0:53:48.600 --> 0:53:51.160
<v Speaker 3>What is the secret to your success.

0:53:50.960 --> 0:53:56.680
<v Speaker 6>Day by day by day by day. I think the

0:53:58.920 --> 0:54:02.560
<v Speaker 6>I I hate to keep saying commitment, but I think

0:54:02.560 --> 0:54:05.760
<v Speaker 6>we're we're staying committed to each other, and we're staying

0:54:05.800 --> 0:54:09.279
<v Speaker 6>committed to the goals that we have set. We've set

0:54:09.360 --> 0:54:12.160
<v Speaker 6>like a tenure plan right now and we're kind of

0:54:12.800 --> 0:54:17.480
<v Speaker 6>moving down there. So I'm helping her, she's supporting me.

0:54:18.160 --> 0:54:21.680
<v Speaker 6>We're just the support is kind of and we're very

0:54:21.680 --> 0:54:28.320
<v Speaker 6>excited about just the future the girls, her business, my business.

0:54:28.320 --> 0:54:33.040
<v Speaker 6>It's just that's why I said content because like I'm

0:54:33.200 --> 0:54:36.400
<v Speaker 6>we're good right now and we're very excited about the future.

0:54:36.440 --> 0:54:38.880
<v Speaker 6>Like I don't know, is something like gonna happen? If

0:54:39.120 --> 0:54:40.680
<v Speaker 6>am I waiting for something to happen?

0:54:40.840 --> 0:54:43.640
<v Speaker 5>Like free will? It's human beings. We have free will.

0:54:43.800 --> 0:54:46.839
<v Speaker 5>So I think I had to learn that the hard way,

0:54:47.160 --> 0:54:51.160
<v Speaker 5>like when he left and realizing, oh, you can leave

0:54:51.200 --> 0:54:53.640
<v Speaker 5>any time you want, Like it's a choice. It's a

0:54:53.719 --> 0:54:57.560
<v Speaker 5>choice to stay together every day. And I think that

0:54:57.560 --> 0:55:01.399
<v Speaker 5>that is one of the things, and also treat your

0:55:01.440 --> 0:55:06.759
<v Speaker 5>spouse like they're your best friend because they are. Like

0:55:06.840 --> 0:55:08.960
<v Speaker 5>at the end of the day, that's the person that

0:55:09.400 --> 0:55:13.920
<v Speaker 5>gets you. I feel so confident that he understands me

0:55:14.160 --> 0:55:18.120
<v Speaker 5>like nobody else does. And I turned to him for

0:55:18.520 --> 0:55:21.360
<v Speaker 5>advice on how to just like think like a normal person,

0:55:21.360 --> 0:55:24.240
<v Speaker 5>because sometimes I can, you know, go.

0:55:24.280 --> 0:55:28.799
<v Speaker 6>And like, no, that's not what we do here.

0:55:31.360 --> 0:55:35.799
<v Speaker 5>Really keep me grounded, so I.

0:55:35.880 --> 0:55:38.280
<v Speaker 6>Forget that that's not normal.

0:55:40.400 --> 0:55:43.920
<v Speaker 4>Well, I love the day by day like you just

0:55:44.000 --> 0:55:45.840
<v Speaker 4>take it one day at a time, and you choose

0:55:45.840 --> 0:55:47.040
<v Speaker 4>each other and you love each other.

0:55:47.280 --> 0:55:47.719
<v Speaker 6>You know what.

0:55:47.880 --> 0:55:51.880
<v Speaker 4>We learned so much about the two of you, Jenny

0:55:51.880 --> 0:55:53.920
<v Speaker 4>and Dave, and so has everyone else listening.

0:55:53.960 --> 0:55:57.799
<v Speaker 3>So thank you for being open and being real. It's

0:55:57.840 --> 0:55:58.320
<v Speaker 3>not easy.

0:55:58.360 --> 0:56:00.959
<v Speaker 4>It's not easy at all to talk about these things,

0:56:00.960 --> 0:56:03.440
<v Speaker 4>but everybody goes through it, and so I just I

0:56:03.480 --> 0:56:07.000
<v Speaker 4>love how relatable and down to earth and real both

0:56:07.000 --> 0:56:07.439
<v Speaker 4>of you were.

0:56:07.480 --> 0:56:09.719
<v Speaker 3>So thank you well you too as well.

0:56:09.760 --> 0:56:12.920
<v Speaker 6>We always we had a blast when we were in

0:56:12.960 --> 0:56:14.959
<v Speaker 6>San Francisco. You guys are great.

0:56:15.040 --> 0:56:15.680
<v Speaker 5>It was fun.

0:56:15.719 --> 0:56:18.280
<v Speaker 6>It was too short. I know you guys were tired,

0:56:18.400 --> 0:56:21.439
<v Speaker 6>but we need to make another run run one day.

0:56:21.680 --> 0:56:23.719
<v Speaker 1>See now, We're going to be annoying next time we

0:56:23.760 --> 0:56:26.040
<v Speaker 1>see you because now we have all these relationship questions.

0:56:26.080 --> 0:56:27.000
<v Speaker 2>Ask you guys.

0:56:28.520 --> 0:56:29.319
<v Speaker 3>Remember that time.

0:56:29.360 --> 0:56:31.440
<v Speaker 4>It's like we've just been along this ride with you

0:56:31.600 --> 0:56:33.399
<v Speaker 4>for all these years, and so now we know all

0:56:33.400 --> 0:56:36.360
<v Speaker 4>your history, we can have really fun, in depth conversation

0:56:36.440 --> 0:56:38.399
<v Speaker 4>next time we see you too, which hopefully will be soon.

0:56:39.080 --> 0:56:40.839
<v Speaker 2>Yes, guys, thank you all so much.

0:56:40.880 --> 0:56:44.480
<v Speaker 1>We will see y'all soon, having us City appreciate it.

0:56:44.920 --> 0:56:54.760
<v Speaker 5>Bye,