1 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:21,720 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your girl Cheeky's and you've reached the 2 00:00:21,760 --> 00:00:24,200 Speaker 1: voicemail box for Dear Cheeky's. I'm here to give you 3 00:00:24,239 --> 00:00:27,160 Speaker 1: advice on anything and everything you need help with. Maybe 4 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:29,320 Speaker 1: you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues with 5 00:00:29,360 --> 00:00:32,159 Speaker 1: your family, or maybe you need help figuring out how 6 00:00:32,200 --> 00:00:34,680 Speaker 1: to balance your checkbook or how to start a business. 7 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:37,560 Speaker 1: What arever the cases I want to hear from you. 8 00:00:37,680 --> 00:00:40,120 Speaker 1: Remember these are my thoughts and opinions. And if you're 9 00:00:40,159 --> 00:00:42,599 Speaker 1: suffering from an issue or hardship, you should seek help 10 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:45,600 Speaker 1: from a qualified professional. All right, now, go ahead and 11 00:00:45,640 --> 00:00:47,120 Speaker 1: leave your question at the sound of the beat. 12 00:00:49,320 --> 00:00:53,479 Speaker 2: Hi, Cheeky, my name is your Landa. I am a 13 00:00:53,880 --> 00:00:58,280 Speaker 2: big fan of your mother's music. I respect that you 14 00:00:58,520 --> 00:01:02,520 Speaker 2: came from the hood and raised up to be the 15 00:01:02,560 --> 00:01:08,440 Speaker 2: biggest star ever in the Latina community. And I'm also 16 00:01:08,480 --> 00:01:11,240 Speaker 2: a big fan of yours. Two. I love you so much. 17 00:01:12,040 --> 00:01:17,080 Speaker 2: My question is how do you feel if you are 18 00:01:17,240 --> 00:01:22,120 Speaker 2: in a relationship. What a guy five months but you 19 00:01:22,240 --> 00:01:26,920 Speaker 2: have not been introduced to the family and he said 20 00:01:26,959 --> 00:01:34,199 Speaker 2: that you're his future identify of a wife in his life. 21 00:01:34,520 --> 00:01:36,119 Speaker 2: How do you feel about that? 22 00:01:37,560 --> 00:01:39,600 Speaker 1: Yolanda, First of all, thank you so much for loving 23 00:01:39,640 --> 00:01:44,399 Speaker 1: my mother and for loving me, and for your question. Mimasita. 24 00:01:44,920 --> 00:01:47,960 Speaker 1: People take things at their own pace. Okay, let's just 25 00:01:47,960 --> 00:01:50,560 Speaker 1: say this guy takes things slowly. It's been five months. 26 00:01:50,680 --> 00:01:52,720 Speaker 1: I would be asking the same question to be honest, 27 00:01:54,000 --> 00:01:57,520 Speaker 1: but words your cheap. I'm sorry. I mean, he's telling 28 00:01:57,520 --> 00:01:59,559 Speaker 1: you because I've had someone tell me that before. Oh 29 00:01:59,600 --> 00:02:04,080 Speaker 1: you're the my dreams and your wife material. Yeah, but 30 00:02:04,120 --> 00:02:07,800 Speaker 1: you're not acting like I'm wife material. So show me 31 00:02:07,920 --> 00:02:10,200 Speaker 1: with actions. Don't just tell me this and this and 32 00:02:10,240 --> 00:02:11,960 Speaker 1: this and that, like you need to show me that 33 00:02:12,080 --> 00:02:14,160 Speaker 1: I'm that and you your actions need to show that. 34 00:02:14,160 --> 00:02:16,560 Speaker 1: You need to give me my place. So I get 35 00:02:16,600 --> 00:02:19,760 Speaker 1: you now. I think you shouldn't rush things. I mean, 36 00:02:19,760 --> 00:02:22,000 Speaker 1: if everything's good and you're feeling him and he's treating 37 00:02:22,040 --> 00:02:24,440 Speaker 1: you well, then I think you need to give yourself 38 00:02:24,480 --> 00:02:27,760 Speaker 1: a timeline or give him a timeline and say, hey, 39 00:02:28,560 --> 00:02:30,960 Speaker 1: if by a year, or even if you want it sooner. 40 00:02:31,720 --> 00:02:34,040 Speaker 1: If like now it's six months, it's going to be 41 00:02:34,080 --> 00:02:36,160 Speaker 1: six months, you know, maybe you can say I want 42 00:02:36,160 --> 00:02:39,000 Speaker 1: it eight months or at eight months that we've been dating. 43 00:02:39,080 --> 00:02:40,760 Speaker 1: I want to be able to take this to the 44 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:42,680 Speaker 1: next step. I want to meet your closest friends. I 45 00:02:42,680 --> 00:02:46,040 Speaker 1: want to meet your family. That is if you want 46 00:02:46,080 --> 00:02:48,360 Speaker 1: to continue this relationship. That is what I need as 47 00:02:48,400 --> 00:02:50,840 Speaker 1: a woman so that I could feel like you are 48 00:02:50,880 --> 00:02:54,360 Speaker 1: taking me seriously and I can feel confident with moving forward. 49 00:02:55,080 --> 00:02:58,120 Speaker 1: That is what I suggest for you to do. If 50 00:02:58,120 --> 00:02:59,720 Speaker 1: you can wait a little longer, then give them a 51 00:02:59,760 --> 00:03:03,560 Speaker 1: year of you guys dating. But I think six months 52 00:03:03,680 --> 00:03:07,080 Speaker 1: eight months is suffice for him to know, Okay, this 53 00:03:07,240 --> 00:03:09,880 Speaker 1: is really the woman of my dreams or the or 54 00:03:09,919 --> 00:03:12,200 Speaker 1: your wife material. Then why aren't you introducing me to 55 00:03:12,240 --> 00:03:15,560 Speaker 1: your family? Then what's the problem? Then what's the delay? 56 00:03:16,440 --> 00:03:20,000 Speaker 1: So that is my opinion, but it all depends on 57 00:03:20,000 --> 00:03:22,560 Speaker 1: the conversations you guys have also had in you know, 58 00:03:22,560 --> 00:03:24,280 Speaker 1: in the beginning of the relationship. I don't know, but 59 00:03:24,960 --> 00:03:26,560 Speaker 1: I'm just going based off what you asked, and that 60 00:03:26,639 --> 00:03:30,320 Speaker 1: is my advice in my opinion. Mama, So Yolanda, I 61 00:03:30,360 --> 00:03:32,480 Speaker 1: hope it works out. Please let me know what happens. 62 00:03:32,600 --> 00:03:34,800 Speaker 1: Keep us updated here on to your cheeky's because we 63 00:03:34,840 --> 00:03:37,560 Speaker 1: love it. I want to know if the advice worked 64 00:03:37,960 --> 00:03:40,480 Speaker 1: or if you took another route, and what happened when 65 00:03:40,480 --> 00:03:43,520 Speaker 1: you told homeboy you know, so I hope that helps 66 00:03:46,920 --> 00:03:50,560 Speaker 1: all right, guys. Our next question comes from Jovi's Let's see. 67 00:03:50,680 --> 00:03:54,160 Speaker 3: Hi Cheky's I don't have a question. I just have 68 00:03:54,400 --> 00:03:59,320 Speaker 3: a perspective on something and just wanted to see if 69 00:03:59,840 --> 00:04:02,840 Speaker 3: you can chime in on it. Why do people always 70 00:04:02,920 --> 00:04:06,040 Speaker 3: want to one up me? You know, I'm just a 71 00:04:06,440 --> 00:04:12,840 Speaker 3: basic average person. I mean I am quiet bid. The 72 00:04:12,960 --> 00:04:17,080 Speaker 3: moment that I show some type of potential, people want 73 00:04:17,120 --> 00:04:24,279 Speaker 3: to fact checked or cross reference and they've already judged me. 74 00:04:24,800 --> 00:04:27,000 Speaker 3: It's kind of like, who do you think you are? 75 00:04:27,120 --> 00:04:30,920 Speaker 3: Stay in your below average box? But I mean know 76 00:04:31,040 --> 00:04:33,480 Speaker 3: Manporta like, I don't care. I don't I'm not trying 77 00:04:33,480 --> 00:04:37,840 Speaker 3: to prove myself. I'm just minding my business. So uugh 78 00:04:38,000 --> 00:04:41,240 Speaker 3: whatever to the one upperst thank you for listening. 79 00:04:41,400 --> 00:04:45,400 Speaker 1: Bye ha I love this, Jovis. I like your name 80 00:04:45,440 --> 00:04:49,080 Speaker 1: by the way. Okay, yeah, I feel you. I feel 81 00:04:49,120 --> 00:04:53,039 Speaker 1: you because that happens a lot in my industry where 82 00:04:55,160 --> 00:04:58,719 Speaker 1: people feel the need to, like you said, fact check 83 00:04:59,000 --> 00:05:02,680 Speaker 1: or show that they're more important. I feel that they're 84 00:05:02,720 --> 00:05:06,599 Speaker 1: all it's insecurity, to be honest, Like, if they're just 85 00:05:06,880 --> 00:05:11,200 Speaker 1: constantly doing it, it's because they feel intimidated by you. 86 00:05:11,400 --> 00:05:13,960 Speaker 1: I think. I think that's I mean, because there's no 87 00:05:14,040 --> 00:05:16,520 Speaker 1: unless you guys are having a dialogue and a debate, 88 00:05:16,640 --> 00:05:19,120 Speaker 1: and you know, of course everyone's entitled to their own opinion, 89 00:05:19,320 --> 00:05:22,160 Speaker 1: but it's like if your opinion wasn't asked for or 90 00:05:22,200 --> 00:05:24,240 Speaker 1: it just all depends on the conversation. But I do 91 00:05:24,279 --> 00:05:26,400 Speaker 1: feel that sometimes like when people are trying to one 92 00:05:26,480 --> 00:05:30,360 Speaker 1: up you, it's insecurity. They're intimidated. That's just the way 93 00:05:30,400 --> 00:05:33,120 Speaker 1: that I feel. You know, unless someone asks me, like, hey, 94 00:05:33,120 --> 00:05:34,280 Speaker 1: what do you think about this, then I'll give my 95 00:05:34,320 --> 00:05:36,839 Speaker 1: honest opinion, even if it's not something that I agree 96 00:05:36,880 --> 00:05:39,720 Speaker 1: with or we're not going to agree together on something. 97 00:05:40,240 --> 00:05:43,960 Speaker 1: But it's like people just trying to just yeah, like 98 00:05:44,200 --> 00:05:48,279 Speaker 1: outshine or do things to make you look less. Then 99 00:05:48,480 --> 00:05:51,760 Speaker 1: like it's like, m you're just insecure, baby, that's it. 100 00:05:52,560 --> 00:05:54,279 Speaker 1: So just take it as that, you know what I mean, 101 00:05:54,320 --> 00:05:57,520 Speaker 1: Like you said those one uppers or whatever, go ahead, 102 00:05:57,640 --> 00:06:00,160 Speaker 1: do your thing. We are too busy. We are busy 103 00:06:00,400 --> 00:06:02,880 Speaker 1: out here. So jovis, thank you so much. That was cute. 104 00:06:03,000 --> 00:06:13,760 Speaker 1: Loved it, Okay, So our final question, guys is from Lisa. 105 00:06:14,080 --> 00:06:17,240 Speaker 4: Hi Teeky's I just want to say thank you so much. 106 00:06:17,279 --> 00:06:20,920 Speaker 4: For being who you are. Thank you for being a 107 00:06:20,960 --> 00:06:25,720 Speaker 4: beacon of positivity, especially nowadays, and we need that a 108 00:06:25,760 --> 00:06:28,960 Speaker 4: lot in this world. And yeah, just thank you for 109 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:32,000 Speaker 4: being real. Thank you for being so honest and always 110 00:06:32,080 --> 00:06:35,719 Speaker 4: keeping in one hundred with us. I admire, of course 111 00:06:35,800 --> 00:06:40,120 Speaker 4: you and your siblings, your mom. I feel like you 112 00:06:40,120 --> 00:06:45,040 Speaker 4: guys are such an awesome representation of a beautiful Latino household. 113 00:06:45,080 --> 00:06:48,000 Speaker 4: And yeah, thank you for being who you are. My 114 00:06:48,120 --> 00:06:50,200 Speaker 4: question is more along the lines of how do you 115 00:06:50,279 --> 00:06:54,040 Speaker 4: deal with living up to people's expectations. I'm a big sister, 116 00:06:54,200 --> 00:06:58,560 Speaker 4: so I've lived with this all my life, where there 117 00:06:58,600 --> 00:07:03,760 Speaker 4: are set expectations than their unset expectations, and it's always 118 00:07:03,800 --> 00:07:06,200 Speaker 4: just in the back of my mind, even though right 119 00:07:06,200 --> 00:07:08,000 Speaker 4: now I'm in like an era in my life where 120 00:07:08,000 --> 00:07:10,320 Speaker 4: I'm like f the expectations. I just want to do me. 121 00:07:10,800 --> 00:07:14,160 Speaker 4: I just want to be myself, but the expectations are 122 00:07:14,240 --> 00:07:17,520 Speaker 4: like always kind of lingering on what are some of 123 00:07:17,560 --> 00:07:19,360 Speaker 4: the things that I could do some of your advice 124 00:07:19,920 --> 00:07:22,560 Speaker 4: that I could, you know, do to get away from 125 00:07:22,560 --> 00:07:27,280 Speaker 4: that and just enjoy being myself and doing what I do. 126 00:07:27,680 --> 00:07:30,040 Speaker 2: Thank you. Cheeky's hm hmm. 127 00:07:30,040 --> 00:07:33,640 Speaker 1: You said this is a great question. First off, thank 128 00:07:33,640 --> 00:07:35,880 Speaker 1: you so much, you are so sweet, Thank you for 129 00:07:35,920 --> 00:07:39,680 Speaker 1: all those beautiful things you said. I have struggled with 130 00:07:39,680 --> 00:07:44,200 Speaker 1: that my whole life, and I can confidently tell you 131 00:07:44,280 --> 00:07:49,880 Speaker 1: that maybe two years, three years max, did I step 132 00:07:49,920 --> 00:07:55,120 Speaker 1: into my own completely. I thought that I was like, Okay, 133 00:07:55,520 --> 00:07:57,760 Speaker 1: I'm confident, this is what I do, what I want. 134 00:07:57,840 --> 00:08:00,360 Speaker 1: But in reality it was kind of like a a 135 00:08:00,400 --> 00:08:03,000 Speaker 1: facade in a way, without me even knowing, you know, 136 00:08:03,080 --> 00:08:05,440 Speaker 1: because I really thought. But now that I've really stepped 137 00:08:05,440 --> 00:08:09,880 Speaker 1: into my own, like I can really give an f 138 00:08:10,160 --> 00:08:14,280 Speaker 1: what people have to say about me, or even as 139 00:08:14,360 --> 00:08:16,840 Speaker 1: much as I love my siblings, even what they expect 140 00:08:16,880 --> 00:08:18,920 Speaker 1: from me, I'm in such a happy place in my 141 00:08:19,000 --> 00:08:24,560 Speaker 1: life that I think it's not even other people's expectations. 142 00:08:24,600 --> 00:08:29,680 Speaker 1: It's the expectations that we put on ourselves that again subconsciously, so, 143 00:08:29,720 --> 00:08:33,560 Speaker 1: I think it's more of taking it day by day 144 00:08:34,160 --> 00:08:40,000 Speaker 1: and really just owning who you are and really loving 145 00:08:40,160 --> 00:08:43,720 Speaker 1: yourself flaws and all, but being willing to make changes 146 00:08:43,760 --> 00:08:45,560 Speaker 1: if necessary. Not feeling like I know it all, I 147 00:08:45,559 --> 00:08:47,199 Speaker 1: don't give it f like I don't care what people think, 148 00:08:47,240 --> 00:08:49,720 Speaker 1: like no, like still wanting to become the best version 149 00:08:49,760 --> 00:08:54,400 Speaker 1: of yourself, but really really accepting yourself, like saying I 150 00:08:54,559 --> 00:08:58,400 Speaker 1: love who I am because and I think that also 151 00:08:58,440 --> 00:09:02,040 Speaker 1: comes with finding your purpose, and you fully find who 152 00:09:02,080 --> 00:09:04,640 Speaker 1: you are when you find your way, you know, like, 153 00:09:04,840 --> 00:09:06,719 Speaker 1: this is my purpose, this is what I'm here for, 154 00:09:06,760 --> 00:09:08,440 Speaker 1: this is what I love to do. I love to 155 00:09:08,520 --> 00:09:11,600 Speaker 1: service whatever it may be. Like that also gives you 156 00:09:11,640 --> 00:09:15,520 Speaker 1: this incredible amount of confidence to just be who you 157 00:09:15,640 --> 00:09:22,040 Speaker 1: are unapologetically because you truly love and accept yourself, you know, 158 00:09:22,240 --> 00:09:25,480 Speaker 1: and as the eldest, we do have that pressure of 159 00:09:25,600 --> 00:09:28,360 Speaker 1: having to be the example and having to act a 160 00:09:28,360 --> 00:09:30,640 Speaker 1: certain way and blah blah blah. That's something that comes 161 00:09:30,760 --> 00:09:35,320 Speaker 1: with the territory. But that doesn't mean that you can't 162 00:09:35,320 --> 00:09:38,600 Speaker 1: be yourself even if people feel like, well, you weren't 163 00:09:39,200 --> 00:09:41,839 Speaker 1: like this before. You've changed. Yeah, I'm supposed to change. 164 00:09:41,840 --> 00:09:43,800 Speaker 1: I'm supposed to evolve. I'm supposed to grow, I'm supposed 165 00:09:43,800 --> 00:09:46,120 Speaker 1: to learn, I'm supposed to mature. Yes, that's all part. 166 00:09:46,160 --> 00:09:48,320 Speaker 1: If you're the same person you were ten years ago, girl, 167 00:09:48,360 --> 00:09:51,839 Speaker 1: like you're not living like you have to grow and 168 00:09:52,120 --> 00:09:54,480 Speaker 1: learn and all that stuff. So anyways, I want a 169 00:09:54,480 --> 00:09:57,880 Speaker 1: whole other way, but it takes time. It's gonna take time. 170 00:09:57,920 --> 00:10:01,959 Speaker 1: It takes work, Be patient with yourself, be compassionate. There 171 00:10:01,960 --> 00:10:03,840 Speaker 1: are going to be days that you're better than others. 172 00:10:04,400 --> 00:10:06,520 Speaker 1: Just know, okay today, I'm going to do my best. 173 00:10:06,559 --> 00:10:09,640 Speaker 1: Take it day by day, but really just walk in 174 00:10:09,679 --> 00:10:12,880 Speaker 1: your power and know, this is who I am. I'm 175 00:10:12,880 --> 00:10:14,840 Speaker 1: not a mean person. I'm not trying to hurt anybody, 176 00:10:15,600 --> 00:10:18,320 Speaker 1: but this is what makes me happy. What makes you happy? 177 00:10:18,520 --> 00:10:21,320 Speaker 1: Only you know that you know, and and that's it 178 00:10:21,400 --> 00:10:23,800 Speaker 1: living with good intentions, and it just also makes you 179 00:10:23,800 --> 00:10:25,559 Speaker 1: feel better like you're not in the world trying to 180 00:10:25,559 --> 00:10:28,920 Speaker 1: screw people over. Like all that stuff just really really 181 00:10:28,960 --> 00:10:31,120 Speaker 1: helps you step into your own and into your own power. 182 00:10:31,240 --> 00:10:34,480 Speaker 1: So again, it's going to take time. It took me 183 00:10:34,679 --> 00:10:38,760 Speaker 1: a while, and now I'm just like, I'm like fearless, 184 00:10:38,840 --> 00:10:41,760 Speaker 1: really like where it's like, dude, I have this crazy 185 00:10:41,760 --> 00:10:44,120 Speaker 1: amount of faith and I'm only as strong as my faith. 186 00:10:44,240 --> 00:10:45,760 Speaker 1: I say that all the time because it's a truth. 187 00:10:46,120 --> 00:10:50,000 Speaker 1: So anyways, I hope that my advice was you know, helpful, 188 00:10:50,040 --> 00:10:52,320 Speaker 1: and I didn't go all over the place, Issa, but 189 00:10:52,360 --> 00:10:54,600 Speaker 1: thank you so much for taking the time to send 190 00:10:54,600 --> 00:10:56,720 Speaker 1: me the question, and I hope it did make sense. 191 00:10:57,400 --> 00:11:00,120 Speaker 1: And if you want to leave me a question, can 192 00:11:00,160 --> 00:11:02,240 Speaker 1: go ahead and do that at speakpipe dot com. 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