Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.
Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.
Speaker 1: Today's tip is to realize that you can take charge
Speaker 1: of at least some of your happiness, even in rough circumstances.
Speaker 1: Doing what we might call happiness homework can make life
Speaker 1: feel more doable. Today's tip and several others this week
Speaker 1: come from psychologist Sonya Lubomirski's book The How of Happiness,
Speaker 1: A Scientific Approach to getting the life you want. Since
Speaker 1: the dawn of time, people have wanted to become happier.
Speaker 1: Since the dawn of time, people have also fretted that
Speaker 1: this is a rather frivolous pursuit amidst the world's sufferings.
Speaker 1: Plagues aren't new, and the world has gone through plenty
Speaker 1: of terrible things. But it turns out that happier people
Speaker 1: have more energy and more motivation to solve the problems
Speaker 1: around them, enriching their communities as they feel better themselves.
Speaker 1: So how do we become happier? Luba Mirsky identifies three
Speaker 1: main influences on happiness. About half of your happiness is
Speaker 1: due to your natural happiness set point research with identical
Speaker 1: and Fraternal Twins finds that, as with weight, each person
Speaker 1: has a happiness level that they gravitate towards. While that
Speaker 1: may seem kind of depressing that half of your happiness
Speaker 1: is completely outside your control, it can also be comforting
Speaker 1: that there's nothing wrong with you if you're never as
Speaker 1: sunny as your roommate. Another chunk of happiness is due
Speaker 1: to circumstances, job situation, family sattus, health finances, where we live,
Speaker 1: and yes, whether we're on lockdown to slow the spread
Speaker 1: of a virus. What might surprise you, though, is that
Speaker 1: this chunk is pretty small. And other words, if you
Speaker 1: want to be happy, moving to the beach or getting
Speaker 1: a twenty dollar raise may not actually be the fastest
Speaker 1: way to get there. Instead, Lubamirski writes, if you're not
Speaker 1: happy today, then you won't be happy tomorrow unless you
Speaker 1: take things into your own hands and take action. That's
Speaker 1: because the remaining forty of our happiness, according to Lubamirski,
Speaker 1: comes from what she calls intentional activity. This brings us
Speaker 1: to our happiness homework. It turns out that happy people
Speaker 1: have specific habits. According to Lubamirski's research, they invest in relationships,
Speaker 1: with family and friends. They express gratitude, They help people
Speaker 1: they know and those they don't. They practice being optimistic,
Speaker 1: They exercise, and they pursue goals of lasting importance. She
Speaker 1: advises that we should spend time on what she calls
Speaker 1: happiness work to become happier, just as we spend time
Speaker 1: on physical training to become more fit. It makes sense
Speaker 1: if you take time each day to do something such
Speaker 1: as calling a friend, writing letters to nursing home residents,
Speaker 1: going for a walk, or counting your blessings, you will
Speaker 1: be happier than you would otherwise be. It's as simple
Speaker 1: as that, So why not make time for these things?
Speaker 1: Challenge yourself to set aside a few minutes each day
Speaker 1: for these happiness homework assignments. If your kids study after dinner,
Speaker 1: maybe you can do some of your work then too.
Speaker 1: Or you can assign yourself happiness homework for the first
Speaker 1: thing in the morning that will get your day off
Speaker 1: to a great start. In the coming days, I'll share
Speaker 1: a few of these specific practices Luba Mirski recommends for
Speaker 1: boosting our happiness. If you want to read more, you
Speaker 1: can check out her blog for Psychology Today, The How
Speaker 1: of Happiness and her recent post how to Hold onto
Speaker 1: Happiness when your world collapses about you guessed it, happiness
Speaker 1: and the time of coronavirus. The good news is that
Speaker 1: we don't need to consign ourselves to unhappiness just because
Speaker 1: circumstances are far from optimal. Some chunk of happiness is
Speaker 1: still within our control if we're willing to try. In
Speaker 1: the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's
Speaker 1: to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd
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