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Speaker 2: Sophie is on the phone today for a first day
Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Chris.
Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we're gonna call him and
Speaker 2: see if it tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe
Speaker 2: get her another date.
Speaker 3: But first, Sophie, how are you hi?
Speaker 4: I'm I'm good, all things considered.
Speaker 3: Well, how long has it been since you heard from Chris.
Speaker 4: It's been about two weeks now, so a good chunk
Speaker 4: of time.
Speaker 5: Honestly, have you been trying to get a hold of him?
Speaker 1: I was, but then I didn't want to seem crazy,
Speaker 1: so I kind of I kind of tapered off, and
Speaker 1: now I'm texting you guys.
Speaker 4: They're calling you guys.
Speaker 3: Okay, great, Well let's talk about it. How did you
Speaker 3: meet Chris?
Speaker 5: Like?
Speaker 3: How is your date?
Speaker 6: So?
Speaker 1: Everything was really great, I mean he The only weird
Speaker 1: thing is he is best friends with my ex and
Speaker 1: we matched on Hinge and I kind of was like,
Speaker 1: and I saw him, and I've always thought he was
Speaker 1: really cute and a nice guy, but you know, I
Speaker 1: ended up swiping on him just to see.
Speaker 4: It's like a social experiment.
Speaker 1: We ended up matching, so yeah, and I was like,
Speaker 1: we were like, ha, this is so weird. But we
Speaker 1: really hit it off and we ended up moving off
Speaker 1: of hinge and you know, texting phone calls, and then
Speaker 1: about two weeks ago we actually went on a first date.
Speaker 3: Okay, and he's your friend's best friend is best friend.
Speaker 5: Yeah, so you knew him before then while you were
Speaker 5: with your ex.
Speaker 4: I knew who he was.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've known him for a bit, like we'd always
Speaker 1: been friendly, and it was never it was like he
Speaker 1: was just you know, my exes good friend and so
Speaker 1: I saw him quite a bit, but it was never
Speaker 1: anything romantic.
Speaker 3: Did you guys talk about that before you decided to
Speaker 3: go on a date?
Speaker 1: Yeah, we definitely, like you know, talked about the elephant
Speaker 1: in the room and we were like, is this really weird?
Speaker 4: Is this like messed up?
Speaker 1: And we were like no, we're adults, Like we can
Speaker 1: we can do this.
Speaker 4: Why don't we go on a date and see if
Speaker 4: it is really weird? So that's what we decided to do.
Speaker 3: Well, how did it go.
Speaker 4: It was honestly like one of the best first days
Speaker 4: I've ever had.
Speaker 1: We went to this arcade and we were playing games
Speaker 1: and we got wings and shots and I just.
Speaker 4: Like felt like a kid again. And I mean, not
Speaker 4: drinking shots as a kid.
Speaker 3: But you know, right right right, got it?
Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly. Sugar. Sugar you know was the drug at
Speaker 4: that time.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I mean, and then we kissed at the
Speaker 1: end of the night and was actually really hot.
Speaker 4: And but then he was like, I don't know, I
Speaker 4: just feel really weird about Kyle. That's my act.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna call him and just like let
Speaker 1: him know. And I was like, I was kind of resistant, honestly.
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't think you need to do that,
Speaker 1: but go ahead, like go for it. And he was like, okay,
Speaker 1: I'm going to. And I guess, you know, something must
Speaker 1: have happened in that conversation because everything was great. And
Speaker 1: then he said he was gonna call Kyle and has
Speaker 1: not responded to my text my calls, has completely ghosted me.
Speaker 3: Anything else you can think of other than your ex's
Speaker 3: best friend.
Speaker 4: To them, I mean, I think that's a pretty big thing.
Speaker 4: So I don't know, I don't think anything else happened.
Speaker 1: Like it was a really great date, So something must
Speaker 1: have happened in that conversation and it yeah, sick to
Speaker 1: my stomach.
Speaker 3: Well, how would that conversation even go?
Speaker 5: Like, I don't even know how I would feel if
Speaker 5: like my friend came to me was like, hey, I'm
Speaker 5: dating your exit.
Speaker 3: Is that okay? How would you handle that? Double?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 2: I'd be fine with it? But then again, that's just
Speaker 2: how I am. I'd be like, yeah, cool, whatever, you know,
Speaker 2: unless unless it was an ex I was like, dude.
Speaker 5: Oh, Sophie, do you got some something to tell us
Speaker 5: about your last relationship?
Speaker 4: Oh? No, I really don't.
Speaker 1: I yeah, I'm trying to think like it wasn't a
Speaker 1: great breakup. It was fairly amicable and it was a
Speaker 1: while ago, Like you know, I don't really have any
Speaker 1: hard feelings towards him, Like it's.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, Well we'll see if we can figure out
Speaker 2: for you a plus on come back and then call
Speaker 2: him and see if it tells why he's ghosting you
Speaker 2: and maybe get you another data.
Speaker 4: Right, Okay, that sounds free. Thanks guys.
Speaker 2: Yep, place on comeback, get your first day follow up next.
Speaker 2: Right in the middle of today's first day follow up.
Speaker 2: If you're just joining us. Sophie is on the phone
Speaker 2: and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Chris. So
Speaker 2: in a second, we're gonna call him and see if
Speaker 2: you'll tell us why he's a ghost singer and maybe
Speaker 2: get her another date. But first, Sophie, why don't you
Speaker 2: refresh our memory on your date with Chris?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: I mean it was a really great day because it
Speaker 1: was really fun, really hot.
Speaker 4: But he is dating.
Speaker 1: I mean, he is my you know, Exu's best friend,
Speaker 1: so he's gran'ma's gonna call him, give him heads up
Speaker 1: because he's my friend. And after that, I guess I've
Speaker 1: just not heard from him in two weeks, so something
Speaker 1: must have happened in that conversation.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, all right, probably sold.
Speaker 3: Him not to see you, right, Yeah, well let's see.
Speaker 3: Are you ready for us to call him?
Speaker 4: Yes, but I'm also so scared.
Speaker 3: Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, man, I speak to Chris. Please.
Speaker 3: This is Chris, Chris, what's up? How are you? This
Speaker 3: is Jewbel. I'm from a radio show called The Jebel Show. Yeah, Hi, Chris.
Speaker 3: I'm Nina also on the show.
Speaker 4: Hi, and I'm Victoria. Okay, we're in a radio group
Speaker 4: chat or something.
Speaker 3: Pretty much. Yeah. Have you ever listened to the show before?
Speaker 4: Yeah? I have.
Speaker 3: Well, have you ever heard a First Day follow Up before?
Speaker 1: Uh?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I was.
Speaker 6: I was wondering why I was calling me because I'm like,
Speaker 6: I've heard the show, but I didn't fill out any like,
Speaker 6: you know, contest anything.
Speaker 2: So somebody emailed us about you because the first a
Speaker 2: follow Up is a segment where if you go out
Speaker 2: on a date with somebody and then you end up
Speaker 2: ghosting them, they can email us to get you on
Speaker 2: the phone and ask why you're ghosting them.
Speaker 3: And we got an email about you. Do you know
Speaker 3: who would be from?
Speaker 6: I'm probably out, it's probably Sophie, right, it is Sophie.
Speaker 3: You want to tell us why you're going?
Speaker 6: I mean, well, I don't know what she told you,
Speaker 6: but I mean we went out, but she's we matched
Speaker 6: up online and lonstory short, she dated my best friend
Speaker 6: for quite some time.
Speaker 4: They broke up.
Speaker 6: I wouldn't want somebody going out one of my buddies
Speaker 6: going out with my ex, right, But I thought, okay, well,
Speaker 6: you know, Kyle's not like me.
Speaker 4: Kyle's probably cool with it.
Speaker 6: So we went out and and it was everything was great,
Speaker 6: but just at the end of the night, I just
Speaker 6: you know, felt like I really need to say something
Speaker 6: to Kyle just to make sure.
Speaker 4: So I called him up, and I know what I thought.
Speaker 6: Kyle was like, yeah, go ahead, do whatever you want myself.
Speaker 6: He seemed to not have a problem with it, but
Speaker 6: he didn't tell me there are other buddy.
Speaker 4: Robbie ran into Sophie recently and took her home that night.
Speaker 6: So so now like I'm just you know, that's that's
Speaker 6: a that's a little too much. Like I know, Kyle's
Speaker 6: cool and I can deal with that, but if she's
Speaker 6: like if she's trying to work her way through her
Speaker 6: crew to get back to Kyle, I don't know what's
Speaker 6: going on.
Speaker 4: So I just I just kind of stepped back.
Speaker 3: Okay, did you think to ask her about that or
Speaker 3: you're just like no, I'm out.
Speaker 7: No.
Speaker 6: Just at that point, I'm like, look, I don't know,
Speaker 6: I don't even know what the situation was. I'm not
Speaker 6: sure if she's like purposely trying to get with with Kyle's.
Speaker 4: Buddies or or or what the deal is.
Speaker 6: But I'm just like, now, that's that's two of my
Speaker 6: friends there she's been with.
Speaker 3: I just I okay, well, thank you for being honest
Speaker 3: with us.
Speaker 2: And she's also been with us actually this whole time
Speaker 2: she's on the phone.
Speaker 4: Well, you didn't tell me that.
Speaker 3: I'm sorry about that. Forgot about that part, Sophie.
Speaker 4: Yeah, what what the hell? Like, that's not that's not
Speaker 4: true at all. That Yeah, you could have me because
Speaker 4: I would have told you right then and there. That's
Speaker 4: a complete lie. That's not that's not true. You didn't
Speaker 4: go home with Robbie together, Nyton.
Speaker 6: I mean, why why would Kyle lie? Why would Robbie lie?
Speaker 6: I mean, we wheel each other since we were kids.
Speaker 6: They're not gonna lie to me.
Speaker 4: Yeah, well, I think Kyle.
Speaker 1: This is just showing how manipulative and controlling Kyle can be.
Speaker 1: Because yeah, Robbie did take me home. It was right
Speaker 1: after the breakup. I was definitely a mess, Like I
Speaker 1: was like crying, I was wasted. Robbie was at the
Speaker 1: same bar as me, and yeah, he did take me
Speaker 1: home to my own house. We didn't do anything.
Speaker 4: He just gave me a ride because I should not
Speaker 4: have been driving in that state.
Speaker 1: So like that was Yeah, it was that's a complete lie,
Speaker 1: and it really kind of pissed me off.
Speaker 3: Honestly, you should have mentioned that if he didn't like.
Speaker 3: Saying you took a girl home is very different than oh,
Speaker 3: I took a guy home to her to her house
Speaker 3: and dropped her off.
Speaker 4: He meant to say it like that. He was meant
Speaker 4: to say it like that. I know Kyle, and like
Speaker 4: that is that's just really frustrating.
Speaker 5: So like he would say that knowing what the truth was,
Speaker 5: but was just trying to plant.
Speaker 4: That's actually twist the work there.
Speaker 5: But Sophie, are you sure Robbie did, like Robbie come
Speaker 5: in your house, Like was there anything, did he make
Speaker 5: any moves on you? Or was it just completely innocent?
Speaker 1: It will call Robbie right now and ask him, like, yeah,
Speaker 1: he defitely happened.
Speaker 6: So I'm sure that when Robbie told Kyle that he
Speaker 6: took you home, Kyle just naturally assumed that Robbie's a player.
Speaker 4: He's a dog. That's what he does. He chases honey's
Speaker 4: like it's his job.
Speaker 6: So right, like we just assumed that if Robbie's with
Speaker 6: a girl, he's he's gone there, right, That's how that's
Speaker 6: how he is, has been since we were kids. So
Speaker 6: Kyle might have actually thought something hooked up. But I'm
Speaker 6: not going to say that if Kyle knew otherwise, he
Speaker 6: wouldn't still try to maybe make it seem that way.
Speaker 4: That is kind of how it can be a real
Speaker 4: jerk like that sometimes. I'm not going to argue. I mean, yeah,
Speaker 4: there you go.
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna say, Wow, you are really in Kyle's
Speaker 1: carter here, why don't you two dates?
Speaker 4: Like you're very much like defending him.
Speaker 6: I yeah, of course we've been We've been boys since school,
Speaker 6: of course.
Speaker 4: But you could have called me.
Speaker 1: You could have called me your text me and been like, hey,
Speaker 1: I heard this, and I would have immediately told you.
Speaker 1: I guess now I'm really hurt that you just sort
Speaker 1: of assume the worst of me, Like I'm like trying
Speaker 1: to get through the friend group.
Speaker 4: I almost didn't even.
Speaker 1: You know, swipe right on you like I almost you know,
Speaker 1: for I like I because I didn't want to have
Speaker 1: that impression.
Speaker 4: Now at this point, I'm just like very upset and
Speaker 4: I'm and how I'm giving you a second chance and
Speaker 4: I thought you were different. We both know.
Speaker 1: Robbie kind of is like, yeah, I took her home
Speaker 1: and sort of like, let's that sort of innuendo sit there,
Speaker 1: And I think Kyle knows that too, So I think
Speaker 1: the two kind of were it just worked to his advantage.
Speaker 1: Is sort of why do you and see a little
Speaker 1: manipulative about that?
Speaker 4: And yeah, I mean we all know robbis like, oh yeah,
Speaker 4: it's a her home. It's a her home.
Speaker 1: We're like ha ha okay, like we made like a
Speaker 1: drinking game about it at one point.
Speaker 4: I think, so I was gonna say.
Speaker 6: You, you know as well as I do that when
Speaker 6: Robbie is with a girl, that that's pretty much what happens.
Speaker 4: That's how it rolls.
Speaker 7: So, I mean like it sounds like you're really in
Speaker 7: a Robbie because it sounds like, you know, you couldn't
Speaker 7: do anything except sleep with him because he's just such
Speaker 7: a he's just so irresistible.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, I don't even know how to respond
Speaker 6: to that, honestly, I'm not.
Speaker 4: I mean whatever, I mean, that's that's like, maybe I
Speaker 4: will hook up with Robbie. He's probably a better kisser
Speaker 4: than you were anyway.
Speaker 2: Oh wow, Well, Chris, would you like to go with
Speaker 2: Sophie on another day? We'll pay for it.
Speaker 4: No, I don't think so, I don't think so at all. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 4: I'm not. I'm not shutting any fears for this one.
Speaker 2: So at least you found out why you're getting ghosted.
Speaker 1: Yeah, hey, closure is I want to closure either way,
Speaker 1: so I'm not not mad about that.
Speaker 3: Maybe, oh God, stay away from that group.
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, I think. Uh, I'm done.
Speaker 1: All right, We'll make sure to give you, know, Robbie
Speaker 1: another kiss for me away. I never kissed him.
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