WEBVTT - Delicate like a Bomb

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<v Speaker 1>We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who

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<v Speaker 1>talks back. What's up y'all? Thank you for tuning in

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<v Speaker 1>for a new episode and we talk back. It's your

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<v Speaker 1>co host, a j Holiday What Up show dedicated to

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<v Speaker 1>you niggas and knees, not the y Hey, y'all, it's

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<v Speaker 1>me Tim Bam. I love y'all again, man, Thank you

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<v Speaker 1>all for coming back with me with y'all A long way.

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<v Speaker 1>You sound like, how you ship? Girl? Shut up? How

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<v Speaker 1>you know how that ship? I heard you three minutes

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<v Speaker 1>you went away. I heard that ship. You hear nothing.

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<v Speaker 1>I war to God, mind your business. I swear to God,

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<v Speaker 1>I heard that ship, and I meant to mention it literally. Look,

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<v Speaker 1>but what I was about to say is shout out

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<v Speaker 1>to the girl in the allens on page talking about

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<v Speaker 1>how only Tammy love y'all, so like y'all needy motherfucker's

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<v Speaker 1>y'all need everybody love y'all, Like, just be happy that

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<v Speaker 1>somebody do. I love y'all. I really love y'all, and

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<v Speaker 1>I appreciate when y'all come back to my comments telling

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<v Speaker 1>me y'all love me too. I like that energy. Keep

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<v Speaker 1>sending it. I'm sending it to y'all. Y'all sitting back

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<v Speaker 1>to me. Okay, don't worry about ain't gotta love y'all, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>I can do it for everybody. I love y'all for everybody, okay, Right.

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<v Speaker 1>I have a lot of gratitude, okay, and appreciation for people.

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<v Speaker 1>So if I could say anything, that's what it would be.

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<v Speaker 1>But people you love tend to disappoint you. I ain't

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<v Speaker 1>playing with people like that. I don't even like humans real.

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<v Speaker 1>I love y'all, I love all y'all. What's up, y'all?

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<v Speaker 1>I had a time last night. At a time last night,

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<v Speaker 1>I went, I went outside. I started at this place

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<v Speaker 1>calling Fuse and Charlotte if you'll come to Charlotte us

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<v Speaker 1>the places y'all need to pop into. I started at

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<v Speaker 1>Infused and then I went to Stats. Sunday night on

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<v Speaker 1>Stats is always a vibe. And then at the that's

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<v Speaker 1>closed so or it closes at twelve o'clock on Sunday,

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<v Speaker 1>which is weird to me because it's their biggest night.

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<v Speaker 1>They probably should stay up until too so they could

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<v Speaker 1>keep getting that money. But right, I'm not the boss,

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<v Speaker 1>so they closed at twelve o'clock. And then after that

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<v Speaker 1>everybody goes to cloud and stay there until to something.

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<v Speaker 1>And I did all of that. I was getting my

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<v Speaker 1>Bernie's Burgo song because you know, I'm old. I was

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<v Speaker 1>out with all these little young hoes drinking with that

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<v Speaker 1>young ass. Now I was hurting this morning bad. I

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<v Speaker 1>went to my meeting this morning, y'all like, hello, good

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<v Speaker 1>morning everybody. I'm sorry, I'm like I told Taylor asked

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<v Speaker 1>he was gonna get on the micro side and like

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<v Speaker 1>that set like Martin Lords moring to you, like to

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<v Speaker 1>go out every Sunday night because that's the only day. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>that's my only day and the whole week to like

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<v Speaker 1>do what I want the rest of the day is

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<v Speaker 1>I gotta be a responsible adult. But I ain't been

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<v Speaker 1>going outside that much like I've been in the house

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<v Speaker 1>on Sunday. So I just came out yesterday. I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>out to night too. Though I didn't do much this weekend. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>I went by one of my older cousins houses to

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<v Speaker 1>try to get here to damn Altar addressed for me,

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<v Speaker 1>and I found out some very interesting things about my family.

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<v Speaker 1>Just havn't you know, because family is really important. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know if people realize that or not, and then

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<v Speaker 1>understanding your lineage and ship like that. She had like

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<v Speaker 1>tape recordings of elders in the family, Like I'm listening

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<v Speaker 1>to tapes. That's dope. I was so excited about that ship,

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<v Speaker 1>like that's the type of ship I'm into. Like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I like that too. So now I'm ready to go

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<v Speaker 1>to this area Summrton, South Carolina. That's where my dad

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<v Speaker 1>family from. It's on the on the river Indians. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's a whole like they our last name is

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<v Speaker 1>a street down there. Land. I want to go a

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<v Speaker 1>whole cemetery with all our people in Like, yes, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to go on the future, you should do it.

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<v Speaker 1>And also yeah, come, come come, because earlier this year,

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<v Speaker 1>like I had a whole list of different places I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to visit. One of the places no longer on

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<v Speaker 1>the list the Georgia guidestones because themi got blown up

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<v Speaker 1>during the summer. But y'all know we have like mounds

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<v Speaker 1>and pyramids all around the United States, and Somerton has

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<v Speaker 1>multiple mounds because you know, we mound builders, like the

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<v Speaker 1>people from the Low Country area. So yeah, I want

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<v Speaker 1>to go see all that ship so that was exciting

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<v Speaker 1>for me. Okay, yeah, that that sounds very exciting. I

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<v Speaker 1>like like that. Um My, my descendants of my family

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<v Speaker 1>are some you know, the white folks because my grandmother

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<v Speaker 1>was mixed raised and my great grandmother didn't have any

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<v Speaker 1>black but she was the product of like a rape honestly. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>But the white descendants of my family have They still

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<v Speaker 1>have the plantation house that they live on. It's something

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<v Speaker 1>to South Carolina, and I really want to go down

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<v Speaker 1>there and talk about reparations because why is the descendants

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<v Speaker 1>of their family they live in their house. I'm descended

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<v Speaker 1>to this family. Where is my forty because in them, right, girl,

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<v Speaker 1>it's probably down there. They probably don't want you like

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<v Speaker 1>my Like my older cousin. She started telling me, like

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<v Speaker 1>how the family that's in because summer tens near Sumter,

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<v Speaker 1>that's like Santine all that. Um. She was saying how

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<v Speaker 1>they don't like the family from Charleston to come because

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<v Speaker 1>it airs property down. They don't want people snooping, They

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to answer no questions. Man and that ship

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<v Speaker 1>because they still living on the land. But it's three

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<v Speaker 1>brothers that split this land amongst each other and only

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<v Speaker 1>their descendants. You know what I'm saying for one of

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<v Speaker 1>their brothers, right families, But I wouldn't want anything from them.

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to What I would like is to

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<v Speaker 1>be able to establish myself as a nation. But you

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<v Speaker 1>can't do that by yourself. So I need family, Like

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<v Speaker 1>that's why family is important. So we want to get

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<v Speaker 1>anything from this government. We may not get the actual

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<v Speaker 1>land that they owe us, but they gotta comp and

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<v Speaker 1>sate us or the mule which I want, the motherfucking money.

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<v Speaker 1>I want whole life insuring. I know what I want

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<v Speaker 1>for reparations. I don't know what y'all niggas, but I

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<v Speaker 1>know what I want my When when I was young,

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<v Speaker 1>my younger, when my boyfriend, my boyfriend's mother worked for

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<v Speaker 1>South Carolina Archives in history, and I used to she

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<v Speaker 1>used to let me read, like if you go there,

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<v Speaker 1>you can read like slavery accounts in different like stories

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<v Speaker 1>from like you know, slavery from black people who are

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<v Speaker 1>living post slavery. I don't know about slavery stories, but

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<v Speaker 1>like really, oh ship, you can go read it true

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<v Speaker 1>stories of black people. Yeah, So South contin So Charleston

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<v Speaker 1>Archives are at the library here and they have Charleston

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<v Speaker 1>has the best records, but you have to go and

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<v Speaker 1>do the research. But they have all that ship at

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<v Speaker 1>the State Archives. I believe it Charleston. That is one

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<v Speaker 1>of the oldest cities in this country, you know, m Charlestown.

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<v Speaker 1>So people don't go check this stuff out and you

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<v Speaker 1>you you will find like places like North Carolina, Tennessee

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<v Speaker 1>where they burned down archive places because they don't want

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<v Speaker 1>you to find that history out. So if you got

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<v Speaker 1>access to that ship even just you know, they have

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<v Speaker 1>uploaded some stuff online. I think it's um I'll get

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<v Speaker 1>the website and tell y'all next week. I can't remember,

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<v Speaker 1>but they have some of the stuff that's like online records.

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<v Speaker 1>You can you can try to start, you know, researching

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<v Speaker 1>your lineage aside from um ancestry dot com. Like that's

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<v Speaker 1>some bullshit. Yeah, I don't even trust that ship because

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<v Speaker 1>I saw where somebody sitting their pet iguana's DNA like

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<v Speaker 1>and it came back like the Guanaco. Listen those websites

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<v Speaker 1>in the terms of conditions, it tells you for entertainment

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<v Speaker 1>purposes only, like how can you send your blood and

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<v Speaker 1>then find out what ethnic group in Africa they gonna

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<v Speaker 1>tie you back to those people like you would have

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<v Speaker 1>to have my ancestors DNA to do that. This ship

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<v Speaker 1>is for entertainment purposes. The only way you can't really

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<v Speaker 1>get your true lineage is to talk to the elders

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<v Speaker 1>in your family if they still around. That's about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Mm hmm, all right, let's get into dumb internet news.

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<v Speaker 1>What happened girl girl girls? So now I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if we're gonna play this on EBT or p p P,

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<v Speaker 1>but the motherucking crab legs not disappeared from the Atlantic Ocean,

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<v Speaker 1>not just the legs, the whole crab is gone. It's

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<v Speaker 1>not just right, that's funny itself. The snow crabs have

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<v Speaker 1>disappeared for the waters around Atlanska. Scientists say over fishing

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<v Speaker 1>is not the cause. So what do you think, Uh,

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<v Speaker 1>this could be caused by I'm assuming like global warming

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<v Speaker 1>is killing everything off. But y'all niggas ain't gonna have

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<v Speaker 1>no snow crab legs this football season. Y'all gonna have

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<v Speaker 1>to eat your chicken wings. Shame. So do you want

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<v Speaker 1>to hear my theory on what's happening? Aside from the obvious?

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<v Speaker 1>When things like like when we start seeing like different

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<v Speaker 1>animals and species of insects, animals, and she's like that

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<v Speaker 1>start disappearing. We next. That's how I see it. But

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of times is human manipulation, you know, because

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<v Speaker 1>we can go in next when they talk about got

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<v Speaker 1>the shoulders on butter, So now you gotta shoulder dr

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<v Speaker 1>crab legs and fucking butter right now. The whole meal missing.

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<v Speaker 1>The whole meal is missing, you guys. Like, And I

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<v Speaker 1>always be telling people I'm a whole mermaid, Like as

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<v Speaker 1>much as I try to eat this straight plant based like, man,

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<v Speaker 1>I cannot not eat seafood, okay, but there's a couple

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<v Speaker 1>of things that happened this year, and I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if people follow this stuff. Mermaids eat fish though, because

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like that would be cannibalism, right, girls, shut

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<v Speaker 1>up all right, Like, as if other animals don't eat

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<v Speaker 1>other animals in the sea, what the hell are we

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<v Speaker 1>talking about cannibals? That's cannibalism. That is non cannibalism. You're

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<v Speaker 1>not eating the same species, You're not. You don't have

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<v Speaker 1>mermaids eating mermaids how you know they don't eat each other?

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<v Speaker 1>You know? You see the mermaids not Yeah, just like

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<v Speaker 1>humans be eating each other, right, they do both ways.

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<v Speaker 1>But okay, so look a few things happened this year

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<v Speaker 1>aside from Russia going to Ward Ukraine. Right, So I

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<v Speaker 1>want to say, like maybe in March um Um one

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<v Speaker 1>of the top Russian lawmakers, like real close to putin

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<v Speaker 1>one of his aids he basically said they want Alaska back. Right.

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<v Speaker 1>I think like maybe in the eighteen hundreds or some time,

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<v Speaker 1>America purchased Alaska from Russia for like some millions, like

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<v Speaker 1>seven million dollars at that time or something like that.

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<v Speaker 1>Now Russia wants Alaska back. That's one thing, right. The

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<v Speaker 1>other thing is is that I don't know if y'all

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<v Speaker 1>believe in this type of stuff, but this is eh

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<v Speaker 1>J's conspiracy. Okay, we all knew where it was going. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that none of this is a conspiracy because it's all factual. Ship.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just laying out another perspective on how to look

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<v Speaker 1>at why the crab legs are disappearing from Alaska, the crabs,

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<v Speaker 1>not just the names the crabs. Why the crabs are disappearing,

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<v Speaker 1>Why the snow crab legs disappearing? Just legs in the

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<v Speaker 1>seat girl that is wild. Okay, Okay, so Russia wants

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<v Speaker 1>Alaska back. I don't know if y'all study like ancient

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<v Speaker 1>civilizations and stuff like that, like the an anarchy all that,

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<v Speaker 1>Like they say, these people still exist in an Antarctic,

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<v Speaker 1>which is like right above Alaska. Um. Another thing that

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<v Speaker 1>happened this year was that Russia hosted war games with China,

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<v Speaker 1>so you know, China is kind of like complicit with

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<v Speaker 1>how Russia is handling Um, Ukraine and stuff like right

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<v Speaker 1>there on the same team essentially. So I want to

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<v Speaker 1>say me be in August and September, they had war

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<v Speaker 1>games in Alaska on the in Alaska and those waters,

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<v Speaker 1>So what we are dropping nuclear missiles and stuff, what

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<v Speaker 1>we are doing in the water, And that could explain

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<v Speaker 1>why the species because they say snow crabs are like

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<v Speaker 1>the most abundant. It's like billions. The crustaceans are just

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<v Speaker 1>not there exactly, so they're in abundance. So it's not

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<v Speaker 1>like you can over fish them, so they're not dying

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<v Speaker 1>from being over fished. It's something else that's happening in

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<v Speaker 1>that water. It could be Alaska being contaminated by Russia.

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<v Speaker 1>Who knows, but I think it's human manipulation, is what

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<v Speaker 1>we're experiencing right now. It could be all right, this

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<v Speaker 1>is a conspiracy theory of my own. It could be

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<v Speaker 1>a portal to different dimensions under the water. And one

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<v Speaker 1>of the motherfucker's slipped down in it and they cooked

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<v Speaker 1>it over there, and it was like, oh, this ship

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<v Speaker 1>tastes good. It's fishing, and they sucked all of them

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<v Speaker 1>today's side and said, y'all, y'all can't handle crab legs.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I believe there is a portal in Antarctica.

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<v Speaker 1>I believe that, So that could be they could be

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<v Speaker 1>getting the funk on through because they know something about

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<v Speaker 1>to happen on this realm. Y'all forgot that. Cern did

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<v Speaker 1>this damn hydro collider earlier this year where they try

0:13:20.840 --> 0:13:24.640
<v Speaker 1>to pierce a hole in the universe to create black matter,

0:13:24.960 --> 0:13:29.200
<v Speaker 1>dark dark matter, all these different things that transpired this year.

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<v Speaker 1>You gotta take into consideration when we start seeing ship

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<v Speaker 1>we've never seen before. But yeah, that's scary, y'all if

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<v Speaker 1>you think about it's kind of scary, like billions of

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<v Speaker 1>crustaceans are just missing billions. That's crazy, Like where did

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<v Speaker 1>they go? Right? Or it could be something simple like

0:13:46.480 --> 0:13:48.480
<v Speaker 1>them trying to hike the price up on snow crabs

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<v Speaker 1>because they know bitches be buying it on E B

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<v Speaker 1>T Right. I don't know the snow crab girls just

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<v Speaker 1>stop sucking like they boycotting they niggas and they're like,

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<v Speaker 1>we're not fucking making no more billions. God dange, have

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<v Speaker 1>you been following what's been going on with Tasha K

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<v Speaker 1>and Cardi B at all? Um not really tell me

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<v Speaker 1>what happened. So you know, Cardi B sued Tasha K

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<v Speaker 1>this year the laws who actually started in twenty nineteen,

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<v Speaker 1>I believe. But she sued Tasha k Um in a

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<v Speaker 1>defamation case. So we all know that the UM defense

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<v Speaker 1>against um defamation or slander is the truth, right. So

0:14:35.720 --> 0:14:38.600
<v Speaker 1>Tasha K wasn't able to prove that what she was

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<v Speaker 1>saying about Cardi B was true, so the course of

0:14:41.960 --> 0:14:46.160
<v Speaker 1>waterhor her four million dollars. So Cardi B right now

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<v Speaker 1>is using the courts to take that bitch house all

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<v Speaker 1>types of ship, like she wants her coins from Tasha K.

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<v Speaker 1>And you got a lot of people who me personally,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't like the blog ship. You know what I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 1>The more we build out plat form. We could end

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<v Speaker 1>up one of those people that somebody's prying into our

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<v Speaker 1>private lives to put it on the internet for money.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I know, people say, oh, that comes with celebrity, right,

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<v Speaker 1>It shouldn't, though, you know what I'm saying, Like, I

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<v Speaker 1>literally want to start a blog and I won't tell

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<v Speaker 1>you all the name of it because I'm gonna do

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<v Speaker 1>it one day, but I'm going I would like to

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<v Speaker 1>let blogs see how it feels to have somebody exposed

0:15:24.680 --> 0:15:27.080
<v Speaker 1>that day baby Daddy got a baby on the way

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<v Speaker 1>Christmas Day to the world before you even know that

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<v Speaker 1>is devastating to ruin somebody's day like that, And that's

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<v Speaker 1>the type of ship that they'd be doing. It's really shady.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I unfollow all the different blogs. I haven't followed

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<v Speaker 1>all the blogs during uh goddamn monkey pocks because I

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<v Speaker 1>was tired of seeing that ship on my goddamn timeline.

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<v Speaker 1>Like y'all ain't manifesting that bullshit from my skin. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>but we've been talking about people. We do talk about

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<v Speaker 1>people ship, but I think it's a difference between spectating

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<v Speaker 1>and giving your opinion on what you see as opposed

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<v Speaker 1>to actually paying keep both for information prying. You got

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<v Speaker 1>somebody's best friend getting four hundred dollars to give a

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<v Speaker 1>video this little Nah. I'm not into that. I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>and we're not on here trying to tear nobody down. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm not into like subscribing to a subscription to

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<v Speaker 1>get fucking people other people business that. It is weird

0:16:22.200 --> 0:16:25.480
<v Speaker 1>to me. I don't like that industry. You shouldn't be

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<v Speaker 1>able to say and do what you want to do

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<v Speaker 1>to people like exactly. There should be uh repercussions for

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<v Speaker 1>doing and saying ship That's all I'm saying, But not

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<v Speaker 1>to Kanye. I don't want to go there in their

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<v Speaker 1>mind never mind, never mind. No, yeah, you want to

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<v Speaker 1>go there, but I don't do. No, let's go down

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<v Speaker 1>for two seconds. Forgive me for saying that I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want What did he say, though? Tell me what did

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<v Speaker 1>he say? It's just the fit all comments that kind

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<v Speaker 1>of It wasn't the knee. It was a fitting al.

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<v Speaker 1>But I went to look at all the reports and

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<v Speaker 1>it shows that it was a lack of oxygen that

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<v Speaker 1>killed him. It wasn't the fitting al. Okay, So in

0:17:16.560 --> 0:17:20.200
<v Speaker 1>that particular thing, okay, the thing with Kanye even saying

0:17:20.240 --> 0:17:23.360
<v Speaker 1>that they did report he had fitting all in this system.

0:17:23.800 --> 0:17:26.600
<v Speaker 1>I don't believe that the police gave him fitting off.

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<v Speaker 1>But it was definitely not just that need to the neck.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why I was confused why those other cops didn't

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<v Speaker 1>get the same amount of time, because it's the pressure

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<v Speaker 1>of all three of those grown men on top of

0:17:38.240 --> 0:17:44.840
<v Speaker 1>that one man. Yeah, that caused something to not breathe exactly, asphyxiation,

0:17:44.920 --> 0:17:49.760
<v Speaker 1>which is what the cause of death was. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and what else you don't agree with? That was just

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<v Speaker 1>my It was just my biggest thing that when he

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<v Speaker 1>went there was like, come on, Kanye is you know

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<v Speaker 1>it's a very very sense of the topic and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>just to say things like that, and with the type

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<v Speaker 1>of platform here, it's just kind of like, yeah, come on.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, you mentioned in in in regards to with

0:18:12.119 --> 0:18:14.360
<v Speaker 1>Tasha k and what's going on with Cardi B. Let's

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<v Speaker 1>stay on topic. Then yeah, you should. Like I said

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<v Speaker 1>before when I first started talking about them, the cure,

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<v Speaker 1>the remedy for uh slander case for defamation, a character

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<v Speaker 1>case is always going to be the truth. So you

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<v Speaker 1>have to prove what you said, what you wrote, what's true,

0:18:34.080 --> 0:18:36.280
<v Speaker 1>Tasha K wasn't able to do that, and I don't

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<v Speaker 1>feel like you should just be able to say and

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<v Speaker 1>do what you want to do to people in America

0:18:39.800 --> 0:18:43.600
<v Speaker 1>like that ship should not come with celebrity. It shouldn't.

0:18:43.840 --> 0:18:46.560
<v Speaker 1>She was saying like, oh, she got herpes or baby

0:18:46.640 --> 0:18:49.600
<v Speaker 1>gonna be slow, all kind of weird things tashak And

0:18:49.640 --> 0:18:53.240
<v Speaker 1>then she hasn't She hasn't digressed either. She's stole online

0:18:53.320 --> 0:18:56.320
<v Speaker 1>making like means like I just I just withdraw my

0:18:56.400 --> 0:18:59.120
<v Speaker 1>last thousand dollars. I ain't got no money. So it's

0:18:59.160 --> 0:19:01.120
<v Speaker 1>just like, I feel like Cardie could be really want

0:19:01.119 --> 0:19:03.960
<v Speaker 1>to fight her, and because I can't physically put my

0:19:04.000 --> 0:19:06.119
<v Speaker 1>hand on you, like this is the next next best thing,

0:19:06.160 --> 0:19:09.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna just destroy your whole existence. And some people

0:19:09.640 --> 0:19:12.199
<v Speaker 1>may see that as evil, but I believe what Tasha

0:19:12.280 --> 0:19:14.600
<v Speaker 1>K did to Cardi B as evil. We already know

0:19:14.680 --> 0:19:16.720
<v Speaker 1>Cardi B as the type of person who she can't

0:19:16.720 --> 0:19:19.879
<v Speaker 1>take criticism from one right, and again that should not

0:19:19.920 --> 0:19:23.760
<v Speaker 1>come with mean comments, people waking up just to be

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<v Speaker 1>meaning you shouldn't come with being a celebrity. You know

0:19:27.119 --> 0:19:29.280
<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying, And that's what happens. And then talking

0:19:29.280 --> 0:19:32.200
<v Speaker 1>about our people, kids and ship like that. Yeah, it's

0:19:32.240 --> 0:19:36.240
<v Speaker 1>just not one tashak, because one tashak spreading that type

0:19:36.240 --> 0:19:40.560
<v Speaker 1>of rhetoric multiplies into you know, twenty thousand tashaks and

0:19:40.640 --> 0:19:44.640
<v Speaker 1>her comments, and that does affect people. People have said

0:19:44.720 --> 0:19:46.760
<v Speaker 1>mean things to me and my comments nine as big

0:19:46.760 --> 0:19:49.080
<v Speaker 1>as I'm not a star like celebrity, and that should

0:19:49.080 --> 0:19:51.920
<v Speaker 1>affects you, even though you may say it doesn't, it does.

0:19:53.119 --> 0:19:56.840
<v Speaker 1>So it does mean. I think my skin has gotten

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<v Speaker 1>a little more thicker over the um years, just because

0:20:01.200 --> 0:20:03.760
<v Speaker 1>it's just been talking about about me my whole life exactly.

0:20:05.440 --> 0:20:08.399
<v Speaker 1>I was like, damn, I remember when I was like

0:20:08.520 --> 0:20:11.200
<v Speaker 1>little I was. I wouldn't even high school yet, and

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<v Speaker 1>I was a whole I ain't even fucking how am

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<v Speaker 1>I home? Not home? I'm not even fucking yet. Like

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<v Speaker 1>it was in your aura, even then, I had a horror.

0:20:32.359 --> 0:20:36.920
<v Speaker 1>That's exactly what it was. They saw that ship coming. Okay,

0:20:38.320 --> 0:20:40.560
<v Speaker 1>all right, so look the last thing I saw was

0:20:41.320 --> 0:20:44.560
<v Speaker 1>this little boy white Kao Cireus. He's tripping out. He's

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<v Speaker 1>driving on the highway in Hollywood. I'm assuming because he

0:20:47.640 --> 0:20:52.080
<v Speaker 1>says anybody could come to Beverly Hill Center and rob him, right, now,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's where I'm at. Nigga. First of all, anybody

0:20:55.440 --> 0:20:58.280
<v Speaker 1>coming to Beverly Hill Center to do anything to you

0:20:58.760 --> 0:21:06.199
<v Speaker 1>in broad daylight? Okay, off, maybe brascos, but not the

0:21:06.280 --> 0:21:13.720
<v Speaker 1>Beverly Center. That was a hard joke. But rest in peace.

0:21:13.840 --> 0:21:19.720
<v Speaker 1>What's his name? PNB? Yeah? PNB Rock so um. Apparently

0:21:20.200 --> 0:21:23.199
<v Speaker 1>he's having some type of breakdown because it sounds like

0:21:23.280 --> 0:21:25.320
<v Speaker 1>his voice is treamling like he was crying. He was saying,

0:21:25.320 --> 0:21:27.359
<v Speaker 1>how little baby don't sunk with him no more? He

0:21:27.440 --> 0:21:29.920
<v Speaker 1>hasn't spoken to Drake, Drake hasn't funked with him no more.

0:21:30.640 --> 0:21:32.960
<v Speaker 1>And he was like, I should just die, you know,

0:21:33.000 --> 0:21:35.480
<v Speaker 1>I could just die now, Like do nobody in the

0:21:35.520 --> 0:21:39.040
<v Speaker 1>industry funk with me? You know? To me, this sounds

0:21:39.119 --> 0:21:43.080
<v Speaker 1>like he's running out of money. M hmm, that's what

0:21:43.160 --> 0:21:46.959
<v Speaker 1>it sounds like to me. Yeah, one good hit. Yeah.

0:21:47.720 --> 0:21:50.840
<v Speaker 1>My thing thing is why y'all want to die about

0:21:50.960 --> 0:21:55.919
<v Speaker 1>being poor? I've been poor before. If I get poor again,

0:21:55.960 --> 0:21:59.240
<v Speaker 1>I'm still want to be here. I could survive. I've

0:21:59.240 --> 0:22:02.320
<v Speaker 1>been happy poor, you know. Yes, let me tell you.

0:22:02.359 --> 0:22:04.520
<v Speaker 1>Whenever you feel like that and you feel like you

0:22:04.560 --> 0:22:08.920
<v Speaker 1>know there's nothing left, you always got yourself. I've always

0:22:09.040 --> 0:22:12.080
<v Speaker 1>got me because I funk with me, and that's the

0:22:12.080 --> 0:22:18.280
<v Speaker 1>most priceless thing you got. All that you don't hold

0:22:18.320 --> 0:22:21.159
<v Speaker 1>the same value as yourself. Yeah, you know how I

0:22:21.160 --> 0:22:23.359
<v Speaker 1>feel about suicide. Like, if you're gonna do it, and

0:22:23.600 --> 0:22:26.920
<v Speaker 1>do it, don't be publicizing it. It's really abusive. It's

0:22:26.920 --> 0:22:29.640
<v Speaker 1>abusive to the public. It's abusive to people who love you.

0:22:29.960 --> 0:22:32.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm pretty sure your mom's seeing that. Like, people who

0:22:32.280 --> 0:22:34.320
<v Speaker 1>close to you, who actually have a relationship with you

0:22:34.359 --> 0:22:36.880
<v Speaker 1>and love you, don't want to see you saying ship

0:22:36.960 --> 0:22:38.679
<v Speaker 1>like that just because a couple of niggas in the

0:22:38.720 --> 0:22:43.280
<v Speaker 1>industry don't sunk with you. Um, the side of this thing,

0:22:43.640 --> 0:22:46.200
<v Speaker 1>you know. Recently, they was talking laughing at him, asked,

0:22:46.320 --> 0:22:47.800
<v Speaker 1>I guess it was a rumor that he was working

0:22:47.840 --> 0:22:50.240
<v Speaker 1>with Ditty or some crazy ship like that. At some

0:22:50.320 --> 0:22:52.160
<v Speaker 1>point they asked him about it on the Breakfast Club.

0:22:52.200 --> 0:22:55.120
<v Speaker 1>I had talked something like in my mind, now I'm

0:22:55.160 --> 0:22:56.840
<v Speaker 1>looking at you, like, did you do some ship you

0:22:56.880 --> 0:22:59.080
<v Speaker 1>regret and now they didn't deliver on the things that

0:22:59.119 --> 0:23:01.320
<v Speaker 1>were offered to you for doing those things? Did you

0:23:01.400 --> 0:23:05.720
<v Speaker 1>beend the knee? What happened right? What happened? No? Matter

0:23:05.760 --> 0:23:08.520
<v Speaker 1>what happened, it's still ain't worth dying about, you know.

0:23:09.200 --> 0:23:11.080
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I I don't know what death looks like,

0:23:11.119 --> 0:23:12.919
<v Speaker 1>so I don't know what's on the other side. It

0:23:13.000 --> 0:23:16.320
<v Speaker 1>might be I don't know what. Yeah, it might be

0:23:16.400 --> 0:23:18.119
<v Speaker 1>lit on the other side. So I mean, if you

0:23:18.160 --> 0:23:22.639
<v Speaker 1>want to go, go, but send us an email. That

0:23:22.800 --> 0:23:26.719
<v Speaker 1>can't send email for you? Why we get ghosts emails

0:23:26.720 --> 0:23:32.080
<v Speaker 1>all the time? What like spam? What the fucking schools

0:23:32.119 --> 0:23:36.359
<v Speaker 1>sending these emails? They ain't dead people, We don't pis.

0:23:36.800 --> 0:23:38.960
<v Speaker 1>I promise you I ain't got an email from a

0:23:39.040 --> 0:23:42.320
<v Speaker 1>dead motherfucker. Get I promise you I had. You don't know.

0:23:42.400 --> 0:23:44.119
<v Speaker 1>It might be in your junk box, it might be

0:23:44.200 --> 0:23:47.560
<v Speaker 1>in your spam box. You know. No, I know I can't.

0:23:47.840 --> 0:23:52.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm pretty much sure. But you know, all right, Because

0:23:52.800 --> 0:23:55.640
<v Speaker 1>people swear we joke about everything, suicide is not a joke.

0:23:55.720 --> 0:23:58.480
<v Speaker 1>Suicide is very serious. It's a very real issue, and

0:23:58.520 --> 0:24:00.639
<v Speaker 1>I think it's become a greater issue in our country

0:24:00.680 --> 0:24:05.359
<v Speaker 1>then it used to be. Yes, people are, people are

0:24:05.560 --> 0:24:09.280
<v Speaker 1>stressed out, people are going through changes, and really only

0:24:09.320 --> 0:24:12.400
<v Speaker 1>a strong gonna survive. But if you don't want to survive,

0:24:12.720 --> 0:24:14.840
<v Speaker 1>you know you have we have to want to survive,

0:24:14.960 --> 0:24:17.960
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying. Um, it's just a tough

0:24:18.000 --> 0:24:20.639
<v Speaker 1>time for everybody. And there's a couple of things that

0:24:20.640 --> 0:24:22.480
<v Speaker 1>I can name that may play a part in what

0:24:22.600 --> 0:24:25.600
<v Speaker 1>people are experiencing. But it's one thing I always think

0:24:25.600 --> 0:24:28.080
<v Speaker 1>about when people say, you know, one thing I think

0:24:28.080 --> 0:24:31.200
<v Speaker 1>about when people do abruptly commit suicide and nobody knew

0:24:31.240 --> 0:24:34.080
<v Speaker 1>that they were suicidal. Like that young girl, um who

0:24:34.160 --> 0:24:36.680
<v Speaker 1>committed suicide last last month. I forgot her name though.

0:24:36.720 --> 0:24:41.480
<v Speaker 1>She was like one of these rappings fitness, young lady, beautiful. Yeah,

0:24:41.560 --> 0:24:46.280
<v Speaker 1>so she took her life, and I feel like, this

0:24:46.320 --> 0:24:51.560
<v Speaker 1>is just my spiritality, spirituality kicking in right. It's almost

0:24:51.600 --> 0:24:56.240
<v Speaker 1>like people who do commit suicide, it's something in that

0:24:56.320 --> 0:25:02.159
<v Speaker 1>moment that they realized that there saying that they don't like.

0:25:02.240 --> 0:25:03.840
<v Speaker 1>She said that she was like she never felt like

0:25:03.880 --> 0:25:06.600
<v Speaker 1>she belonged here. It's like that's just what her her

0:25:06.680 --> 0:25:09.840
<v Speaker 1>her soul or her spirit came to experience and she

0:25:09.960 --> 0:25:12.560
<v Speaker 1>was ready to go. I feel like you should be

0:25:12.680 --> 0:25:14.720
<v Speaker 1>able to have control of your own life in that

0:25:14.800 --> 0:25:18.600
<v Speaker 1>way if you don't want to be here anymore. Yeah.

0:25:19.040 --> 0:25:21.560
<v Speaker 1>So I just I look at suicide different nowadays. I

0:25:21.640 --> 0:25:24.600
<v Speaker 1>used to think about it differently, but yeah, I just

0:25:24.600 --> 0:25:28.879
<v Speaker 1>look at suicide different nowadays. Um, there was this woman

0:25:29.040 --> 0:25:31.280
<v Speaker 1>and I saw like there was a documentary about it,

0:25:31.320 --> 0:25:32.879
<v Speaker 1>but I can't think of the name at the moment.

0:25:32.920 --> 0:25:36.160
<v Speaker 1>But she was the mother of two white males who

0:25:36.320 --> 0:25:40.520
<v Speaker 1>had like this illness that gave them zero quality of life.

0:25:41.280 --> 0:25:43.439
<v Speaker 1>And she took care of them, you know. But she

0:25:43.560 --> 0:25:46.400
<v Speaker 1>was getting old and she was about to die, and

0:25:46.920 --> 0:25:49.000
<v Speaker 1>she knew that nobody was gonna take care of her

0:25:49.000 --> 0:25:51.560
<v Speaker 1>sons the way she would take care of him, so

0:25:51.600 --> 0:25:56.280
<v Speaker 1>she killed him. She killed both of them, and she

0:25:56.400 --> 0:25:59.040
<v Speaker 1>called it a mercy killing. Yeah, And I feel like

0:25:59.080 --> 0:26:05.040
<v Speaker 1>hospitals do that all time, just take people out. I

0:26:05.080 --> 0:26:07.520
<v Speaker 1>feel like they do do that. And I and I

0:26:07.600 --> 0:26:10.640
<v Speaker 1>and I was I was torn, like, you like, how

0:26:10.680 --> 0:26:13.800
<v Speaker 1>do you get to decide for them? You know, because

0:26:13.840 --> 0:26:17.000
<v Speaker 1>they can't there They were non verbal, they weren't you know,

0:26:18.200 --> 0:26:23.119
<v Speaker 1>they couldn't do much of nothing, but just exists right right. Um,

0:26:23.200 --> 0:26:25.280
<v Speaker 1>So I don't want to be like that me neither.

0:26:25.359 --> 0:26:28.240
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to ever be like that. But a

0:26:28.280 --> 0:26:30.439
<v Speaker 1>part of me is like, you're not God, so you

0:26:30.440 --> 0:26:33.560
<v Speaker 1>shouldn't be able to decide that for them. But you

0:26:33.600 --> 0:26:36.440
<v Speaker 1>are their mother and you're the only one who taking

0:26:36.480 --> 0:26:41.159
<v Speaker 1>care of him. And that's God. This I see. Women

0:26:41.440 --> 0:26:43.800
<v Speaker 1>are the closest thing, if if, if you believe there's

0:26:43.840 --> 0:26:45.840
<v Speaker 1>a higher power and there's like this big thing in

0:26:45.840 --> 0:26:48.639
<v Speaker 1>the sky for you, I feel like on earth, women

0:26:48.680 --> 0:26:51.640
<v Speaker 1>are the closest thing you want to get to to God.

0:26:51.720 --> 0:26:56.320
<v Speaker 1>We literally give life for real, We cultivated and we

0:26:56.400 --> 0:27:00.520
<v Speaker 1>give life. So um, you know. I also feel like

0:27:00.560 --> 0:27:02.919
<v Speaker 1>women are just a portal so we can take it

0:27:02.960 --> 0:27:08.240
<v Speaker 1>away too, tell me that all the time. Yeah, I

0:27:08.280 --> 0:27:10.960
<v Speaker 1>brought you in here, I'll take y'all. But the thing

0:27:11.040 --> 0:27:14.080
<v Speaker 1>is is that you are just a portal, right for

0:27:14.200 --> 0:27:16.600
<v Speaker 1>that other human being, and once they get here, they

0:27:16.720 --> 0:27:20.000
<v Speaker 1>are their own entity. You don't own another human being,

0:27:20.080 --> 0:27:24.040
<v Speaker 1>even your child, right. But in that case, like she,

0:27:24.359 --> 0:27:27.520
<v Speaker 1>they would probably end up somewhere dying miserably anyway, because

0:27:27.520 --> 0:27:30.480
<v Speaker 1>nobody would take care of you like your mama would.

0:27:31.280 --> 0:27:33.120
<v Speaker 1>And that's just the truth. And that was and they

0:27:34.359 --> 0:27:36.639
<v Speaker 1>they put her ass to jail. She died in jail.

0:27:39.800 --> 0:27:44.119
<v Speaker 1>That's where. Yeah, man, that's sad. So was she old?

0:27:44.760 --> 0:27:48.159
<v Speaker 1>She was, yeah, she was getting old, Okay, she was

0:27:48.200 --> 0:27:50.520
<v Speaker 1>getting older. And she's like you know, I don't feel

0:27:50.520 --> 0:27:54.320
<v Speaker 1>well anymore. I feel like my days are numbered and

0:27:54.400 --> 0:27:58.119
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to leave them here like this wouldn't

0:27:58.160 --> 0:28:01.040
<v Speaker 1>about me to take care of them, right, and then

0:28:01.040 --> 0:28:02.920
<v Speaker 1>the state ain't gonna take care of them like that either,

0:28:03.119 --> 0:28:05.960
<v Speaker 1>Like they would have just died in a hospital somewhere,

0:28:06.040 --> 0:28:09.560
<v Speaker 1>died in some type of adult facility. As soon as

0:28:09.600 --> 0:28:11.439
<v Speaker 1>you put your family members in those type of places,

0:28:11.440 --> 0:28:13.960
<v Speaker 1>they end up dying. You know. It becomes like hospice

0:28:14.000 --> 0:28:16.800
<v Speaker 1>care in a short period of time, maybe up out

0:28:16.800 --> 0:28:20.119
<v Speaker 1>of here. M So, I feel like the hospitals do it,

0:28:20.160 --> 0:28:23.960
<v Speaker 1>but they like to play god. Yeah, it's okay for

0:28:24.000 --> 0:28:25.600
<v Speaker 1>them to play god because they don't took the oath.

0:28:25.680 --> 0:28:28.399
<v Speaker 1>They got all of hundred thousand dollars and student loans

0:28:28.400 --> 0:28:30.560
<v Speaker 1>and all his bullshits, and now you get to play god.

0:28:32.800 --> 0:28:36.719
<v Speaker 1>I don't like that crazy world, I know, right, but listen, y'all, Okay,

0:28:36.960 --> 0:28:38.560
<v Speaker 1>we're gonna take a break right quick, and when we

0:28:38.600 --> 0:28:43.840
<v Speaker 1>come back, we want to get into the strong black

0:28:44.280 --> 0:28:49.640
<v Speaker 1>woman thrope. What y'all think about that thrope? Not your throat.

0:28:49.920 --> 0:28:52.800
<v Speaker 1>We know y'all got strong throats. We're talking about the throat.

0:28:55.720 --> 0:29:02.400
<v Speaker 1>We'll be back all right, y'all, So we are two

0:29:02.440 --> 0:29:06.200
<v Speaker 1>black women, right, Okay. I believe the majority of our

0:29:06.240 --> 0:29:11.800
<v Speaker 1>listeners are black women, And um, what I wanted to

0:29:11.840 --> 0:29:20.440
<v Speaker 1>talk about is like the the strong black woman saying misconception. Um.

0:29:20.480 --> 0:29:23.200
<v Speaker 1>I read this article and I'm just gonna read the

0:29:23.200 --> 0:29:25.959
<v Speaker 1>the just the first little paragraph because it kind of

0:29:26.080 --> 0:29:28.600
<v Speaker 1>explains what I want to talk about. So it's so

0:29:28.720 --> 0:29:32.920
<v Speaker 1>it says the stereotype of the strong black woman is

0:29:32.920 --> 0:29:36.280
<v Speaker 1>more than just a cultural throat. Many black women in

0:29:36.320 --> 0:29:41.080
<v Speaker 1>America report feeling pressured to act like superwoman, projecting themselves

0:29:41.120 --> 0:29:44.760
<v Speaker 1>as strong, self sacrificing and free of emotion to cope

0:29:44.800 --> 0:29:48.840
<v Speaker 1>with stress of race and gender based discrimination in their

0:29:48.920 --> 0:29:53.880
<v Speaker 1>daily lives. That's our motherfucking wait to carry forever in America.

0:29:54.480 --> 0:29:57.600
<v Speaker 1>I think that's you know, it is a stereotype, but

0:29:57.640 --> 0:30:00.240
<v Speaker 1>it has it's something that's been passed down to us

0:30:00.280 --> 0:30:03.040
<v Speaker 1>from slavery. We've had to be the strong black woman.

0:30:03.880 --> 0:30:07.960
<v Speaker 1>We've had like they would take our our male counterpart

0:30:08.160 --> 0:30:13.160
<v Speaker 1>and beat them, tie one side of his body, like

0:30:13.320 --> 0:30:15.880
<v Speaker 1>his legs to a horse, and tie his hands to

0:30:15.960 --> 0:30:19.320
<v Speaker 1>another horse, and then beat both horses until a rip

0:30:19.360 --> 0:30:22.800
<v Speaker 1>the nigga apart in front of you. You know, we

0:30:22.880 --> 0:30:26.240
<v Speaker 1>had to like see these things and feel like, Okay,

0:30:26.320 --> 0:30:29.080
<v Speaker 1>we may not have our male counterpart to take care

0:30:29.120 --> 0:30:32.440
<v Speaker 1>of us, so we have to be strong for ourselves

0:30:32.480 --> 0:30:35.480
<v Speaker 1>and for our children. And I think that ideology has

0:30:35.480 --> 0:30:38.720
<v Speaker 1>been passed down after generation the generation of generation, and

0:30:38.720 --> 0:30:41.200
<v Speaker 1>then it almost became like a badge of honor, like

0:30:41.760 --> 0:30:48.400
<v Speaker 1>I'm the strong, proud Black woman, but I'm over that ship. Well,

0:30:48.480 --> 0:30:50.520
<v Speaker 1>you know, we can go back to slavery, but a

0:30:50.600 --> 0:30:53.600
<v Speaker 1>lot of people and like as you may take it,

0:30:53.680 --> 0:30:57.240
<v Speaker 1>that's a black holocaust, and that's still happening today. Right.

0:30:58.000 --> 0:31:00.480
<v Speaker 1>The thing is that those same things all will happen

0:31:01.080 --> 0:31:06.280
<v Speaker 1>two women. Um, those same things also happened to other

0:31:06.800 --> 0:31:10.520
<v Speaker 1>ethnic groups of women, other races of women. But you

0:31:10.560 --> 0:31:14.320
<v Speaker 1>don't hear Indian women going around saying I'm a strong

0:31:14.480 --> 0:31:19.800
<v Speaker 1>Indian woman, or Asian saying I'm a strong Chinese woman.

0:31:20.520 --> 0:31:23.840
<v Speaker 1>So what is the thing about black culture where you know,

0:31:25.040 --> 0:31:28.600
<v Speaker 1>that's like a self proclaimed title that we've taken on

0:31:28.960 --> 0:31:32.200
<v Speaker 1>and it has hurt, It has hurt and harmed us

0:31:32.960 --> 0:31:36.640
<v Speaker 1>um and kind of motivated us at the same time, right,

0:31:36.680 --> 0:31:41.480
<v Speaker 1>because now we're looking for um, good relationships with our

0:31:41.480 --> 0:31:44.600
<v Speaker 1>men and that strong black woman thing comes in and

0:31:44.640 --> 0:31:48.920
<v Speaker 1>it's a problem mm hmm uh in the hospital setting

0:31:49.800 --> 0:31:52.680
<v Speaker 1>when you know, given birth, we don't get the same

0:31:52.720 --> 0:31:57.040
<v Speaker 1>type of medical care, same type of pain medicine, because

0:31:57.400 --> 0:32:02.000
<v Speaker 1>we are supposedly these wrong that can take all this pain.

0:32:02.120 --> 0:32:04.719
<v Speaker 1>Like the whole O B G. Y in system was

0:32:04.760 --> 0:32:07.920
<v Speaker 1>built off of experiments that these white doctors were doing

0:32:08.000 --> 0:32:11.880
<v Speaker 1>on black women when no anesthesia. M Like, it's a

0:32:11.920 --> 0:32:16.520
<v Speaker 1>real thing, not a conspiracy. These things happen. So now

0:32:16.600 --> 0:32:20.240
<v Speaker 1>we've just been carrying this, this this false badge of honor,

0:32:20.680 --> 0:32:22.360
<v Speaker 1>and it doesn't help us in our day to day

0:32:22.400 --> 0:32:27.600
<v Speaker 1>lives at this point. I agree, you know, so we've

0:32:27.600 --> 0:32:31.000
<v Speaker 1>had to be strong. I feel like black men also

0:32:31.080 --> 0:32:34.800
<v Speaker 1>have had to be strong, but they can't say, oh,

0:32:34.840 --> 0:32:37.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm a strong black man. We would probably look at

0:32:37.200 --> 0:32:40.320
<v Speaker 1>them like, you know what I'm saying. So why is

0:32:40.360 --> 0:32:43.920
<v Speaker 1>it I want my say here strong? Because then we

0:32:44.080 --> 0:32:47.840
<v Speaker 1>start comparing their struggle to ours as women. No, because

0:32:47.880 --> 0:32:52.840
<v Speaker 1>I didn't. I can see that because I'm I'm living

0:32:52.840 --> 0:32:58.239
<v Speaker 1>a soft life over here. Let's talk about it. In

0:32:58.360 --> 0:33:00.920
<v Speaker 1>order for black women to be able to live a

0:33:01.000 --> 0:33:06.040
<v Speaker 1>soft life, right that that that the dynamics within our

0:33:06.040 --> 0:33:11.360
<v Speaker 1>relationships with black men. Well, then have to change because again,

0:33:11.760 --> 0:33:14.520
<v Speaker 1>the way black women are it's a trauma response. It's

0:33:14.560 --> 0:33:17.280
<v Speaker 1>not how we want to be. But maybe we can

0:33:17.320 --> 0:33:20.280
<v Speaker 1>start living our soft life before the men come into it,

0:33:20.600 --> 0:33:22.600
<v Speaker 1>so then they can see our life is a soft

0:33:22.680 --> 0:33:25.040
<v Speaker 1>life and you need to be like the strong black

0:33:25.080 --> 0:33:27.719
<v Speaker 1>man that we need. So I found a list of

0:33:27.800 --> 0:33:32.840
<v Speaker 1>things to help you live a soft life, lady. First

0:33:32.840 --> 0:33:37.000
<v Speaker 1>thing is to schedule me time to be nurturing to yourself,

0:33:37.120 --> 0:33:39.760
<v Speaker 1>to help restore your energy so you're not running on

0:33:39.840 --> 0:33:41.600
<v Speaker 1>empty all the time, because a lot of us are

0:33:41.640 --> 0:33:46.000
<v Speaker 1>always on e so you need to date. Start setting

0:33:46.080 --> 0:33:49.080
<v Speaker 1>dates with yourself. Schedule me time, whatever that looks like.

0:33:49.600 --> 0:33:51.560
<v Speaker 1>To get away from your kids, even to just be

0:33:51.600 --> 0:33:56.560
<v Speaker 1>sitting still in peace is me time, So schedule me time.

0:33:56.600 --> 0:34:01.000
<v Speaker 1>That's number one. Number two, cultivate new belief about rest.

0:34:01.680 --> 0:34:04.800
<v Speaker 1>It says if you tie yourself worth to how productive

0:34:04.880 --> 0:34:08.040
<v Speaker 1>you can be, uh you grow an environment where you're

0:34:08.080 --> 0:34:10.600
<v Speaker 1>called lazy, or if you grew up in an environment

0:34:10.600 --> 0:34:13.800
<v Speaker 1>where you're called lazy for relaxing, you may feel guilty

0:34:13.840 --> 0:34:16.480
<v Speaker 1>when you aren't busy. Rest shouldn't be a response or

0:34:16.560 --> 0:34:24.759
<v Speaker 1>reward for overworking. Yourself, make time for rest, Ladies, prioritize rest. Yeah,

0:34:24.760 --> 0:34:29.560
<v Speaker 1>I agree with that. Um, oftentimes Black women we get

0:34:29.600 --> 0:34:34.799
<v Speaker 1>into relationships where we're having to always build with somebody else. Right,

0:34:34.880 --> 0:34:36.920
<v Speaker 1>not saying that other groups of women don't do this,

0:34:36.960 --> 0:34:40.680
<v Speaker 1>but I like, just I'm just speaking about Black America

0:34:40.680 --> 0:34:43.120
<v Speaker 1>because even like we would say, some African nations don't

0:34:43.160 --> 0:34:44.560
<v Speaker 1>even have to go through this, like the men know

0:34:44.640 --> 0:34:47.280
<v Speaker 1>the roles and women know the role and it works.

0:34:47.600 --> 0:34:50.680
<v Speaker 1>You know. Um, this is just based on our experience

0:34:50.719 --> 0:34:54.960
<v Speaker 1>in America. Oftentimes, you don't really have that much time

0:34:55.000 --> 0:34:58.760
<v Speaker 1>to rest unless you're like really single, single with no kids.

0:34:58.800 --> 0:35:03.080
<v Speaker 1>But if you're in a relationship, especially with an entrepreneur,

0:35:04.280 --> 0:35:06.520
<v Speaker 1>they want you to be the secretary. You gotta do

0:35:06.600 --> 0:35:10.480
<v Speaker 1>all these things as still performing in the bedroom, if

0:35:10.520 --> 0:35:13.520
<v Speaker 1>this kid's involved, you still gotta do that too. It's

0:35:13.560 --> 0:35:17.239
<v Speaker 1>like there's really no time to chill out, there's no

0:35:17.360 --> 0:35:19.880
<v Speaker 1>time to relax, but you have to. You have to

0:35:19.880 --> 0:35:23.080
<v Speaker 1>prioritize your rest because I mean, ladies, it starts to

0:35:23.120 --> 0:35:26.440
<v Speaker 1>show up on your face baby when you when you

0:35:26.600 --> 0:35:28.759
<v Speaker 1>look at you, you look at a bit like damn,

0:35:28.880 --> 0:35:31.799
<v Speaker 1>she looked like she had a hard life, you know,

0:35:32.200 --> 0:35:35.800
<v Speaker 1>and it's because we're not prioritizing our rest. And another

0:35:35.880 --> 0:35:39.960
<v Speaker 1>reason is because we're not wearing sunscreen. Y'all start wearing sunscreen,

0:35:40.040 --> 0:35:43.239
<v Speaker 1>black girl. Sunscreen is a thing. It's a product I use,

0:35:43.440 --> 0:35:46.160
<v Speaker 1>and it will help your face. If you don't have

0:35:46.239 --> 0:35:51.120
<v Speaker 1>to struggle, don't Struggling doesn't always make the journey worthwhile

0:35:51.239 --> 0:35:54.360
<v Speaker 1>or the destination meaningful. You don't have to struggle to

0:35:54.440 --> 0:35:58.839
<v Speaker 1>have an empowering, relatable, or inspirational story. We aren't all

0:35:58.880 --> 0:36:02.440
<v Speaker 1>dealt the same cards. So if you're currently have access

0:36:02.480 --> 0:36:04.640
<v Speaker 1>to things that make it easier for you to accomplish

0:36:04.640 --> 0:36:08.080
<v Speaker 1>something or achieve your goal, take it. Don't feel guilty,

0:36:08.480 --> 0:36:12.640
<v Speaker 1>choose easy over hard every time. Okay, let's talk about

0:36:12.680 --> 0:36:14.920
<v Speaker 1>that for a second, because I feel like in the

0:36:14.960 --> 0:36:18.160
<v Speaker 1>black community is almost like if you didn't struggle, you

0:36:18.200 --> 0:36:21.040
<v Speaker 1>and ship, it's like you ain't get that out of

0:36:21.040 --> 0:36:25.520
<v Speaker 1>the mud exactly. I don't like that because everybody's bottom

0:36:25.680 --> 0:36:28.840
<v Speaker 1>is different, Like my bottom is different from yours. My

0:36:28.960 --> 0:36:34.440
<v Speaker 1>bottom might be you know, the damn dirt to somebody else.

0:36:34.719 --> 0:36:36.839
<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying. Everybody has a bottom, So

0:36:36.880 --> 0:36:41.520
<v Speaker 1>why are we criticizing people who didn't have to struggle, right,

0:36:41.600 --> 0:36:43.920
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying. And for whatever reason, in

0:36:43.920 --> 0:36:47.280
<v Speaker 1>in the black community, black women are supposed to struggle

0:36:47.280 --> 0:36:50.120
<v Speaker 1>in relationships. We're supposed to have struggle love we have,

0:36:50.280 --> 0:36:53.279
<v Speaker 1>We're supposed to have grown up struggling, you know what

0:36:53.360 --> 0:36:55.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying, in order for people to respect our hustle

0:36:56.360 --> 0:36:58.960
<v Speaker 1>or respect who we are now as a person, Like,

0:37:00.120 --> 0:37:02.400
<v Speaker 1>why is that? Why do I have to struggle with

0:37:02.440 --> 0:37:06.399
<v Speaker 1>a man um in order to get the reward of

0:37:06.520 --> 0:37:10.440
<v Speaker 1>just simply just the love, right? Why do I have

0:37:10.520 --> 0:37:14.640
<v Speaker 1>to do that? You don't have to Yeah, that's what

0:37:14.840 --> 0:37:19.759
<v Speaker 1>this this is, That's what this is saying. But we

0:37:20.000 --> 0:37:23.520
<v Speaker 1>for whatever reason, It's almost like niggas test you, Like

0:37:23.560 --> 0:37:25.640
<v Speaker 1>why are you testing me? Either you funk with me

0:37:25.719 --> 0:37:28.760
<v Speaker 1>or you don't. You know what I'm saying, Like, don't

0:37:28.880 --> 0:37:31.279
<v Speaker 1>don't do anything. I saw a post the other day

0:37:31.280 --> 0:37:32.920
<v Speaker 1>and I and I posted it on my story and

0:37:32.960 --> 0:37:35.560
<v Speaker 1>somebody one of my homeboys and boxed me and he

0:37:35.600 --> 0:37:38.960
<v Speaker 1>was like, that's not toxic because in the video it's

0:37:39.000 --> 0:37:41.759
<v Speaker 1>a guy like smiling, like licking his tongue out. He

0:37:41.880 --> 0:37:43.879
<v Speaker 1>was so excited because the bitches on the other side

0:37:43.880 --> 0:37:48.640
<v Speaker 1>of the phone going crazy. The caption was like when

0:37:48.719 --> 0:37:51.719
<v Speaker 1>you when you when you add a girl to make

0:37:51.760 --> 0:37:53.920
<v Speaker 1>your woman mad or something like that, Why are you

0:37:54.000 --> 0:37:57.759
<v Speaker 1>intentionally making me mad? Why do you want to disturb

0:37:58.719 --> 0:38:01.560
<v Speaker 1>a woman's peace in that way? I just think like

0:38:01.640 --> 0:38:04.200
<v Speaker 1>these men are also dealing with their own trauma, and

0:38:04.239 --> 0:38:07.520
<v Speaker 1>they'll be taking this along for the ride. Yes, Because

0:38:07.560 --> 0:38:09.479
<v Speaker 1>the thing is is that if you ask a man

0:38:09.880 --> 0:38:13.239
<v Speaker 1>what he wants from a woman, nine percent of the

0:38:13.280 --> 0:38:16.960
<v Speaker 1>men will say I want peace. But a lot of

0:38:17.000 --> 0:38:20.680
<v Speaker 1>these niggas, excuse me, A lot of these men do

0:38:20.840 --> 0:38:24.839
<v Speaker 1>not know how to facilitate peace, nor do they know

0:38:24.920 --> 0:38:29.600
<v Speaker 1>how to maintain peace. You aren't peace You aren't even peaceful,

0:38:30.000 --> 0:38:33.719
<v Speaker 1>yet you're demanding peace from somebody else when you're the disturbance.

0:38:34.000 --> 0:38:39.360
<v Speaker 1>Imagine that, right, be my piece. You're not even peaceful,

0:38:39.400 --> 0:38:41.680
<v Speaker 1>So I'm supposed to be your piece all while I'm

0:38:41.719 --> 0:38:49.880
<v Speaker 1>losing their head. Yeah, be my piece? Nah? Alright. Number

0:38:49.880 --> 0:38:56.120
<v Speaker 1>four that let people help you. This is a good one, because, yeah,

0:38:56.440 --> 0:38:58.760
<v Speaker 1>this is a big one. If you have well intended

0:38:58.800 --> 0:39:01.080
<v Speaker 1>people in your circle of us willing to help you,

0:39:01.560 --> 0:39:06.040
<v Speaker 1>let them help you. God damn, they're hit home. Because

0:39:06.080 --> 0:39:09.440
<v Speaker 1>I know a lot of people who don't accept help,

0:39:10.040 --> 0:39:14.040
<v Speaker 1>or afraid to ask for help from people who are willing,

0:39:14.920 --> 0:39:17.560
<v Speaker 1>you know. So that's a big one. Ladies, let people

0:39:17.600 --> 0:39:20.799
<v Speaker 1>help you. Yeah, and that is actually like one of

0:39:20.840 --> 0:39:24.120
<v Speaker 1>my things I work on the most is asking for help.

0:39:25.000 --> 0:39:27.600
<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying, Because I'm the type of person.

0:39:28.000 --> 0:39:31.439
<v Speaker 1>I am very intuitive, I'm an EmPATH. I can feel

0:39:31.440 --> 0:39:33.919
<v Speaker 1>when somebody need help, so I make it to where

0:39:33.960 --> 0:39:36.640
<v Speaker 1>they don't even have to ask me. I'm offering, you

0:39:36.680 --> 0:39:39.279
<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying. So I kind of look for

0:39:39.320 --> 0:39:42.920
<v Speaker 1>that too for people, like just in general conversation on

0:39:43.040 --> 0:39:46.680
<v Speaker 1>me telling you what's going on, whatever I want you

0:39:46.719 --> 0:39:49.000
<v Speaker 1>to offer, especially for men. You know what I'm saying,

0:39:49.000 --> 0:39:50.319
<v Speaker 1>I don't wanna have to come and ask you for ship.

0:39:50.400 --> 0:39:52.200
<v Speaker 1>I feel like you should just already be doing. I'm

0:39:52.200 --> 0:39:54.239
<v Speaker 1>sorry that that may be a thing because there's a

0:39:54.280 --> 0:39:56.680
<v Speaker 1>lot of women who are afraid to ask. Now, I'm

0:39:56.719 --> 0:39:59.440
<v Speaker 1>not afraid to ask a man for nothing. I'm not

0:39:59.520 --> 0:40:02.520
<v Speaker 1>afraid to ask for ship. I don't know how I

0:40:02.640 --> 0:40:04.680
<v Speaker 1>learned that when I learned that, but I would let

0:40:04.680 --> 0:40:07.720
<v Speaker 1>you know what I need very upfront. But that's because

0:40:07.760 --> 0:40:10.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm also generous, you know, So I'm gonna let you

0:40:10.840 --> 0:40:13.000
<v Speaker 1>know what I need because you ain't got no problem.

0:40:13.040 --> 0:40:15.200
<v Speaker 1>Let me know what the funk you need exactly. And

0:40:15.239 --> 0:40:16.879
<v Speaker 1>I feel like that's a big problem for a lot

0:40:16.880 --> 0:40:21.200
<v Speaker 1>of black women. Like if you you have to be

0:40:21.360 --> 0:40:25.600
<v Speaker 1>upfront with, especially in relationships, whatever you want like me,

0:40:25.880 --> 0:40:27.759
<v Speaker 1>Like see say, for instance, you want to sugar dad,

0:40:27.800 --> 0:40:29.160
<v Speaker 1>you want somebody to take care of you. You You need

0:40:29.200 --> 0:40:33.040
<v Speaker 1>to say that ship up front first and foremost, not after.

0:40:33.080 --> 0:40:35.600
<v Speaker 1>You don't gave up your damn couci And now you've

0:40:35.600 --> 0:40:37.920
<v Speaker 1>got all these demands. Now you're trying to figure out

0:40:37.960 --> 0:40:40.160
<v Speaker 1>what are we No, you need to ask for what

0:40:40.239 --> 0:40:43.160
<v Speaker 1>you want. Let people know what you want, what paid

0:40:43.200 --> 0:40:46.800
<v Speaker 1>you on up front? Yeah, because I mean it just sells.

0:40:46.880 --> 0:40:50.840
<v Speaker 1>It sets healthy boundaries for that relationship when you set

0:40:50.840 --> 0:40:55.840
<v Speaker 1>your expectations in the beginning. Right. So that's kind of

0:40:55.840 --> 0:40:58.280
<v Speaker 1>a little bit off topic, a little bit from asking

0:40:58.320 --> 0:41:03.360
<v Speaker 1>for help. But if you're overwhelmed, right, you got people

0:41:03.400 --> 0:41:05.640
<v Speaker 1>around you who love you. Like I know for a fact,

0:41:05.680 --> 0:41:08.400
<v Speaker 1>I don't use my resources like I should. I don't

0:41:08.560 --> 0:41:11.160
<v Speaker 1>because I don't like being disturbed. And this could be

0:41:11.200 --> 0:41:15.200
<v Speaker 1>like one of my little um things. I will help people,

0:41:15.200 --> 0:41:17.759
<v Speaker 1>but at the same time, I don't like being disturbed,

0:41:17.880 --> 0:41:20.439
<v Speaker 1>so I don't disturb other people, you know what I mean.

0:41:21.200 --> 0:41:23.520
<v Speaker 1>So I can literally be in the closet dying child

0:41:23.560 --> 0:41:27.359
<v Speaker 1>and I ain't gonna tell anybody I'm gonna I'm gonna

0:41:27.360 --> 0:41:31.440
<v Speaker 1>figure it out. I know you You know those posts

0:41:31.480 --> 0:41:34.560
<v Speaker 1>that say, um if if your girl say I'll figure

0:41:34.600 --> 0:41:36.440
<v Speaker 1>it out, she's gonna figure that shot out and she

0:41:36.920 --> 0:41:39.000
<v Speaker 1>with you. No more like that's me for real, I'll

0:41:39.000 --> 0:41:40.840
<v Speaker 1>figure it out. Because I don't like the word no.

0:41:41.239 --> 0:41:44.120
<v Speaker 1>I don't like when I do muster up the courage

0:41:44.160 --> 0:41:46.839
<v Speaker 1>to ask somebody about something and maybe acting like they

0:41:46.840 --> 0:41:50.560
<v Speaker 1>can't come through for me. I don't like that. I

0:41:50.600 --> 0:41:53.040
<v Speaker 1>don't like no, they don't bother me. I just asked

0:41:53.040 --> 0:41:56.000
<v Speaker 1>the next motherfucker, you can't do it alright, I need

0:41:56.000 --> 0:42:01.000
<v Speaker 1>a manage and on to the next. It's kind of

0:42:01.040 --> 0:42:04.000
<v Speaker 1>like cold calling. You know, you calling enough people, somebody

0:42:04.080 --> 0:42:11.919
<v Speaker 1>gonna say, not the customer service, a begging cold call

0:42:12.000 --> 0:42:20.479
<v Speaker 1>you motherfucking I ain't mad at nobody, stupid. Number five.

0:42:21.200 --> 0:42:24.680
<v Speaker 1>Speak to yourself kindly. This is one of the ones

0:42:24.760 --> 0:42:27.719
<v Speaker 1>that I have to work on all the time. That

0:42:27.880 --> 0:42:30.960
<v Speaker 1>negative self talk that's in your head is just telling

0:42:30.960 --> 0:42:34.760
<v Speaker 1>you things that aren't right about yourself or aren't good enough,

0:42:35.239 --> 0:42:36.840
<v Speaker 1>and it's in your brain and you have to like

0:42:37.760 --> 0:42:41.880
<v Speaker 1>really get that negative say funk that negative inner voice

0:42:42.200 --> 0:42:46.680
<v Speaker 1>and speak out loud nice things to your self. My

0:42:46.840 --> 0:42:49.040
<v Speaker 1>challenge everybody to stop what they're doing right now, go

0:42:49.120 --> 0:42:52.439
<v Speaker 1>look in the mirror and say something fucking nice to yourself. Yes,

0:42:52.760 --> 0:42:55.680
<v Speaker 1>it's the subconscious mind you gotta work on. And that's

0:42:55.719 --> 0:42:59.319
<v Speaker 1>another thing, daily, daily, on a daily basis, I'm doing

0:42:59.360 --> 0:43:02.560
<v Speaker 1>different practice. This isn't rituals. So I can change my

0:43:02.640 --> 0:43:06.279
<v Speaker 1>subconscious mind. So even even like when I start having

0:43:06.320 --> 0:43:09.000
<v Speaker 1>a negative, negative thought, you know what I picture. I

0:43:09.120 --> 0:43:11.880
<v Speaker 1>picture like a box and I'm putting that thought in

0:43:11.920 --> 0:43:14.800
<v Speaker 1>a fucking box, and I'm trying a motherfucker balloon to

0:43:14.920 --> 0:43:17.680
<v Speaker 1>that box, and I'm letting it float away. I'm letting

0:43:17.719 --> 0:43:20.880
<v Speaker 1>it go and I'm replacing it with a better thought.

0:43:21.239 --> 0:43:24.520
<v Speaker 1>Because the present is all we have. We don't have

0:43:24.560 --> 0:43:26.360
<v Speaker 1>the future anymore. I mean, we don't have the future.

0:43:26.400 --> 0:43:30.279
<v Speaker 1>We don't have the past. Right the present, present, right

0:43:30.320 --> 0:43:33.440
<v Speaker 1>now is all you got. So you have the ability

0:43:33.840 --> 0:43:37.200
<v Speaker 1>to create a better past. You got the ability to

0:43:37.280 --> 0:43:40.279
<v Speaker 1>create a better future, but it happens in the now,

0:43:40.960 --> 0:43:43.520
<v Speaker 1>So when you're sitting there having all these negative thoughts.

0:43:43.640 --> 0:43:46.000
<v Speaker 1>Right now, you're sucking up your past and you're sucking

0:43:46.080 --> 0:43:50.640
<v Speaker 1>up your future. Period. So you gotta let list stuff go,

0:43:51.239 --> 0:43:55.879
<v Speaker 1>Let things go, Let that hurt go. Girl. I told

0:43:55.880 --> 0:43:57.640
<v Speaker 1>you to go to the mirror, is because I know

0:43:57.680 --> 0:44:00.000
<v Speaker 1>you didn't get up. I said, go to the mirror

0:44:00.120 --> 0:44:02.360
<v Speaker 1>and say something nice to your motherfucker's self. Go do

0:44:02.480 --> 0:44:05.399
<v Speaker 1>it like we give other people compliments all day long.

0:44:05.520 --> 0:44:07.919
<v Speaker 1>Give yourself some complex. Bit you're doing a good job.

0:44:07.960 --> 0:44:11.480
<v Speaker 1>Bit you're doing a good job. Period. Whatever it is.

0:44:11.560 --> 0:44:13.920
<v Speaker 1>Whatever you notice something good about yourself, say it out

0:44:13.960 --> 0:44:17.239
<v Speaker 1>loud to yourself. Damn my titties sitting up nice today.

0:44:17.480 --> 0:44:21.400
<v Speaker 1>Damn I'm smart, Damn I'm funny. Is hell? Ain't it

0:44:21.640 --> 0:44:26.479
<v Speaker 1>that brings me the number six? Stop trying to be humble? Yeah,

0:44:26.640 --> 0:44:31.080
<v Speaker 1>trying to be humble this list because in the black

0:44:31.120 --> 0:44:34.040
<v Speaker 1>community it's almost like they you need to be humble.

0:44:34.080 --> 0:44:38.239
<v Speaker 1>Are y'all always trying to humble? Somebody listening? Three and

0:44:38.239 --> 0:44:41.600
<v Speaker 1>beyond being humble? If you the ship, act like it, okay,

0:44:42.000 --> 0:44:44.640
<v Speaker 1>and then and then if you're trying to get to

0:44:44.680 --> 0:44:48.799
<v Speaker 1>be the ship, it starts today again in the now Okay,

0:44:49.280 --> 0:44:54.320
<v Speaker 1>stop being humble, ladies, that's old. Starting today, we're gassing

0:44:54.320 --> 0:44:58.200
<v Speaker 1>ourselves up. Gass yourself up, toot your horn, yes, because

0:44:58.200 --> 0:45:00.560
<v Speaker 1>who else gonna do it? And funny who got a

0:45:00.600 --> 0:45:03.319
<v Speaker 1>problem with it? Exactly because I can recall being in

0:45:03.360 --> 0:45:05.839
<v Speaker 1>relationships where I couldn't depend on my mate to do it.

0:45:06.120 --> 0:45:07.600
<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying, I had to you gotta

0:45:07.680 --> 0:45:10.160
<v Speaker 1>be your own self starter, You gotta be your own

0:45:10.200 --> 0:45:13.480
<v Speaker 1>chairleader sometimes because in some of these relationships these men

0:45:13.640 --> 0:45:16.960
<v Speaker 1>is almost like they are in competition with you. You

0:45:17.000 --> 0:45:19.080
<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying, Like somebody not telling you that

0:45:19.120 --> 0:45:21.719
<v Speaker 1>you're pretty, and when we're looking for that, like we

0:45:21.760 --> 0:45:23.960
<v Speaker 1>can go outside and like thirty other men are telling

0:45:24.080 --> 0:45:25.879
<v Speaker 1>us how beautiful you are. Right, But if that man

0:45:26.000 --> 0:45:27.680
<v Speaker 1>that's in the home with you or the man you're

0:45:27.760 --> 0:45:33.160
<v Speaker 1>with isn't doing that, it's abuse for women. I get

0:45:33.239 --> 0:45:35.680
<v Speaker 1>men who say something like, man, I don't be wanting

0:45:35.719 --> 0:45:37.120
<v Speaker 1>to say that to you because I know you hear

0:45:37.160 --> 0:45:40.960
<v Speaker 1>that ship all day long and that's bullshit. So what

0:45:41.520 --> 0:45:43.319
<v Speaker 1>so yeah, I want to hear it from you too,

0:45:44.080 --> 0:45:48.479
<v Speaker 1>Yo go, yo go. It's that exactly. Never get enough,

0:45:49.200 --> 0:45:55.680
<v Speaker 1>Never get enough. Number seven, focus on what you can control.

0:45:56.880 --> 0:46:02.319
<v Speaker 1>Stop fucking worrying girl. That's my mantra. Yeah. I got

0:46:02.480 --> 0:46:05.120
<v Speaker 1>a tattoo on my middle finger, on my right middle finger,

0:46:05.760 --> 0:46:11.680
<v Speaker 1>and it's apostrophe e M fuck them to all things uncontrollable.

0:46:11.840 --> 0:46:15.319
<v Speaker 1>And I got this tattoo like twenty years old. Okay,

0:46:15.440 --> 0:46:20.239
<v Speaker 1>So I always worry about little things. Big ship, I'd

0:46:20.280 --> 0:46:22.840
<v Speaker 1>be like, damn, fuck it, I just gotta deal with it.

0:46:22.880 --> 0:46:25.600
<v Speaker 1>But it'd be little things that give me a goddamn headache. Man,

0:46:26.000 --> 0:46:28.400
<v Speaker 1>But in a real way, like you really have to

0:46:28.480 --> 0:46:31.440
<v Speaker 1>be like fuck it and control of things that you

0:46:31.480 --> 0:46:34.680
<v Speaker 1>can control. You can't control everything, but what you can't control,

0:46:35.160 --> 0:46:38.319
<v Speaker 1>do that ship? Yeah, because I mean I know me,

0:46:38.440 --> 0:46:42.040
<v Speaker 1>like I'll be on the airplane baby, having a whole

0:46:42.239 --> 0:46:45.200
<v Speaker 1>anxiety attack, Like, Lord, what is the pilot? Do it

0:46:45.280 --> 0:46:49.719
<v Speaker 1>up there? I can't control that. I just have to

0:46:49.800 --> 0:46:52.320
<v Speaker 1>be calm and just know that God got me and

0:46:52.400 --> 0:46:56.640
<v Speaker 1>whatever will be case Iraq Sara, whatever will be will be.

0:46:57.239 --> 0:47:00.279
<v Speaker 1>What I mean, Yeah, it's hard to surrender, you know

0:47:00.320 --> 0:47:03.160
<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying. And again this even comes through in relationships,

0:47:03.160 --> 0:47:08.000
<v Speaker 1>surrendering to your partner, surrendering like to a man that

0:47:08.160 --> 0:47:12.200
<v Speaker 1>is capable. It's hard for us because of how a

0:47:12.239 --> 0:47:16.319
<v Speaker 1>lot of us have been raised a strong black woman. Thing, like,

0:47:16.560 --> 0:47:18.520
<v Speaker 1>you think you're gonna stop being a strong black woman

0:47:18.560 --> 0:47:20.759
<v Speaker 1>when you get a strong black man, you might be

0:47:20.800 --> 0:47:23.439
<v Speaker 1>trying to overpower that man. You're gonna run his ass

0:47:23.440 --> 0:47:28.799
<v Speaker 1>away because you can't submit, exactly. But that's hard. That's

0:47:28.880 --> 0:47:30.480
<v Speaker 1>you know, that's a hard thing for me. But just

0:47:30.520 --> 0:47:33.400
<v Speaker 1>because I come from a line of strong black women,

0:47:33.640 --> 0:47:36.279
<v Speaker 1>strong single as black women. Now that I think about it,

0:47:37.200 --> 0:47:41.680
<v Speaker 1>let's be clear, and it's hard to submit because you

0:47:41.760 --> 0:47:44.879
<v Speaker 1>can't you especially when you're you know, you've been running

0:47:44.920 --> 0:47:47.600
<v Speaker 1>your own life successfully and then you gotta here come

0:47:47.680 --> 0:47:50.680
<v Speaker 1>this man and you want trusting with the finances and

0:47:50.680 --> 0:47:53.440
<v Speaker 1>trusting with it. I want to. I want that, but

0:47:53.640 --> 0:47:57.560
<v Speaker 1>I don't want as are usually the woman thing. You

0:47:57.600 --> 0:47:59.880
<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying, Smart men usually give their money

0:47:59.880 --> 0:48:05.600
<v Speaker 1>to of the woman because women are well okay, I

0:48:05.680 --> 0:48:08.359
<v Speaker 1>was about to say, okay, because you do have some

0:48:08.400 --> 0:48:10.680
<v Speaker 1>people who are some women that are just bad with money,

0:48:10.680 --> 0:48:13.719
<v Speaker 1>and collectively black women have more debt, you know, because

0:48:13.760 --> 0:48:16.279
<v Speaker 1>we're getting the student we're getting the student loans and all, like, yeah,

0:48:16.280 --> 0:48:18.560
<v Speaker 1>we got the higher education, but we also come into

0:48:18.640 --> 0:48:23.600
<v Speaker 1>relationships and a lot of debt, credit card dat student

0:48:23.640 --> 0:48:27.759
<v Speaker 1>loan debt, tax debt, all that ship. You know, mean,

0:48:27.760 --> 0:48:29.720
<v Speaker 1>while you're marrying a man who didn't go to college.

0:48:29.719 --> 0:48:32.280
<v Speaker 1>Maybe he's a business owner, he's an entrepreneur. He didn't

0:48:32.320 --> 0:48:40.120
<v Speaker 1>come with all that ship, right number eight, Stop trying

0:48:40.120 --> 0:48:43.839
<v Speaker 1>to be the hero. I hope you listening, bitch. It's

0:48:43.880 --> 0:48:46.360
<v Speaker 1>a bit out there that I know for a fact,

0:48:46.600 --> 0:48:52.440
<v Speaker 1>savor who but always save with somebody, always like always

0:48:52.600 --> 0:48:56.120
<v Speaker 1>finding a fixer upper of a person so she can

0:48:56.200 --> 0:48:59.840
<v Speaker 1>just go help their lives. You can't heal and fix

0:49:00.200 --> 0:49:05.000
<v Speaker 1>and rescue everyone, especially if you yourself aren't healed. So

0:49:05.080 --> 0:49:08.040
<v Speaker 1>sometimes you just need to focus your energy or rescue

0:49:08.080 --> 0:49:12.479
<v Speaker 1>with your motherfucking self and stop trying to heal everybody else.

0:49:12.760 --> 0:49:18.000
<v Speaker 1>So I feel like those types of people are necessary helpers, heroes.

0:49:18.560 --> 0:49:21.440
<v Speaker 1>They are necessary. But the problem is that the people

0:49:21.480 --> 0:49:25.600
<v Speaker 1>that they usually attract, our users, you know, they're not

0:49:25.760 --> 0:49:28.879
<v Speaker 1>They're not the guys or the women who are gonna,

0:49:29.000 --> 0:49:33.160
<v Speaker 1>you know, get the help and and stay with him.

0:49:34.000 --> 0:49:35.919
<v Speaker 1>Be don build this man up for the next bitch.

0:49:36.120 --> 0:49:38.720
<v Speaker 1>Me personally, I don't mind passing on a refurbished nigger.

0:49:39.080 --> 0:49:41.800
<v Speaker 1>I don't mind. Okay, if I helped him do something

0:49:41.800 --> 0:49:44.319
<v Speaker 1>and now you know he's a better person for the

0:49:44.360 --> 0:49:48.880
<v Speaker 1>next woman, then so be it. But women, I do

0:49:49.000 --> 0:49:54.080
<v Speaker 1>not suggest you ever building a man. They will resent

0:49:54.280 --> 0:49:59.400
<v Speaker 1>you when they do get on because you know them.

0:49:59.520 --> 0:50:01.719
<v Speaker 1>You know somebody when they're really rich, and you know

0:50:01.800 --> 0:50:03.839
<v Speaker 1>the real person when they really poor, and you know

0:50:04.239 --> 0:50:08.439
<v Speaker 1>ship fucked up right. Usually that's how it works out.

0:50:08.480 --> 0:50:10.160
<v Speaker 1>Like when Koye said, he leaves you asked for a

0:50:10.239 --> 0:50:13.560
<v Speaker 1>white girl, like that's a real thing. M it's a

0:50:13.600 --> 0:50:16.319
<v Speaker 1>real thing because men, men don't like that. He'll then

0:50:16.400 --> 0:50:18.920
<v Speaker 1>go on to another woman who don't even know his

0:50:19.000 --> 0:50:23.240
<v Speaker 1>struggle and do all the things you begged him to do.

0:50:23.239 --> 0:50:26.960
<v Speaker 1>Don't be the hero. Yeah, because a lot of times

0:50:27.000 --> 0:50:30.080
<v Speaker 1>you end up losing yourself and straight away from your

0:50:30.120 --> 0:50:33.840
<v Speaker 1>own trying to help someone else. So find the courage

0:50:33.880 --> 0:50:38.000
<v Speaker 1>to focus on rescuing and keeping yourself. Yeah, it's honey.

0:50:38.760 --> 0:50:45.680
<v Speaker 1>Number nine. Prioritize joy. Indulge in things that make you smile,

0:50:45.840 --> 0:50:50.520
<v Speaker 1>make you feel genuinely happy. Prioritize that into your life.

0:50:51.040 --> 0:50:53.279
<v Speaker 1>Tell me a thing, Tell me a thing that makes

0:50:53.320 --> 0:50:58.080
<v Speaker 1>you happy. Aside for money and family, food, I really

0:50:58.160 --> 0:51:02.359
<v Speaker 1>enjoy food. I enjoy trying new foods. So if you're

0:51:02.360 --> 0:51:05.640
<v Speaker 1>someone who enjoys food, like prioritize going to different a

0:51:05.680 --> 0:51:09.000
<v Speaker 1>different restaurant and maybe even like let's say you can't

0:51:09.000 --> 0:51:11.919
<v Speaker 1>afford a lot, going to try looking at their menu

0:51:12.080 --> 0:51:15.000
<v Speaker 1>and you're finding an advertiser that sounds really good and

0:51:15.080 --> 0:51:20.160
<v Speaker 1>going to try it, right, I'm yelled, queen. One of

0:51:20.160 --> 0:51:23.600
<v Speaker 1>the things that makes me happy, aside from family and

0:51:23.800 --> 0:51:27.520
<v Speaker 1>like money and ship like that are material things, is serving.

0:51:27.920 --> 0:51:31.080
<v Speaker 1>I like to cook and I like to serve people

0:51:31.120 --> 0:51:33.839
<v Speaker 1>to food. And before I even make my plate, I'm

0:51:33.880 --> 0:51:37.080
<v Speaker 1>looking at you to get you to tell me, like

0:51:37.120 --> 0:51:39.040
<v Speaker 1>what's the score? Can I get a thumbs up? Like

0:51:39.080 --> 0:51:41.600
<v Speaker 1>how it tastes? Like how do you enjoy this? Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>that ship makes me fucking happy. I literally used to

0:51:44.520 --> 0:51:47.000
<v Speaker 1>fight one of what one of my exes, girl, because

0:51:47.080 --> 0:51:49.520
<v Speaker 1>I would cook this nigga some food like take my time,

0:51:50.160 --> 0:51:52.840
<v Speaker 1>like even a burger, bitch is gonna be gore mate, Okay,

0:51:53.000 --> 0:51:57.759
<v Speaker 1>let's be clear, handmade, and he wouldn't eat immediately, and

0:51:57.800 --> 0:51:59.719
<v Speaker 1>that would piss me off so bad because I want

0:51:59.760 --> 0:52:04.680
<v Speaker 1>you to taste my food fresh, my mama, Yes, I

0:52:04.719 --> 0:52:07.440
<v Speaker 1>would recook your food on a stove just so you

0:52:07.440 --> 0:52:11.640
<v Speaker 1>can get like the full enjoyment out of its happy

0:52:12.160 --> 0:52:16.040
<v Speaker 1>coming eat it while it's hot. Yes, Actually, like why

0:52:16.160 --> 0:52:18.000
<v Speaker 1>is that an argument? Why I gotta argue with you

0:52:18.040 --> 0:52:19.799
<v Speaker 1>to come eat? You? Was just around here actel like

0:52:19.800 --> 0:52:21.640
<v Speaker 1>he was about to die from hunger, and now I

0:52:21.680 --> 0:52:24.279
<v Speaker 1>actually take the time and cook for you, and like

0:52:24.880 --> 0:52:28.480
<v Speaker 1>you just got the fucking food sitting there getting cold.

0:52:28.840 --> 0:52:32.040
<v Speaker 1>That's that to me? That is like you don't have

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<v Speaker 1>any regard for my time, yeah, at all, because you

0:52:37.320 --> 0:52:40.960
<v Speaker 1>know what's gonna be out here cooking. Yeah, I'm bitches

0:52:44.080 --> 0:52:49.239
<v Speaker 1>right there cooking. You know what. It's crazy because I

0:52:49.280 --> 0:52:51.840
<v Speaker 1>haven't since I've been single, I have not been cooking

0:52:51.880 --> 0:52:53.719
<v Speaker 1>like I used to when I was in a relationship.

0:52:54.000 --> 0:52:56.160
<v Speaker 1>I used to be all on like different There's this

0:52:56.200 --> 0:52:58.759
<v Speaker 1>website called Diva's Can Cook, and I would go to

0:52:58.800 --> 0:53:02.600
<v Speaker 1>a different restaurants, I mean recipes and like like oh baby,

0:53:02.640 --> 0:53:04.319
<v Speaker 1>look when I'm making a day for you. I used

0:53:04.320 --> 0:53:07.160
<v Speaker 1>to be like making pineapple boats with teryaki chicken and

0:53:07.320 --> 0:53:09.359
<v Speaker 1>rice and all and make it cute and giving him

0:53:09.440 --> 0:53:12.360
<v Speaker 1>drinks with little umbrellas in it, like uh yeah, a

0:53:12.400 --> 0:53:16.360
<v Speaker 1>real extra and the most. Now I got a single

0:53:16.480 --> 0:53:19.000
<v Speaker 1>and a bit with door Dash, the funk out of food.

0:53:22.560 --> 0:53:25.439
<v Speaker 1>That ship is too expensive, y'all, that damn door dash.

0:53:25.480 --> 0:53:27.719
<v Speaker 1>You you you be don orders out for seventeen dollars and

0:53:27.800 --> 0:53:32.759
<v Speaker 1>your dad your dad tab Yeah no, I'll be there

0:53:32.760 --> 0:53:38.239
<v Speaker 1>to pick it up. Cancel. But whatever your joy looks like,

0:53:38.280 --> 0:53:39.600
<v Speaker 1>and it don't have to be nothing that you have

0:53:39.719 --> 0:53:42.880
<v Speaker 1>to buy. Dance into your favorite song, watching an episode

0:53:42.880 --> 0:53:45.880
<v Speaker 1>of your favorite show, reading your favorite book, wearing your

0:53:45.880 --> 0:53:49.640
<v Speaker 1>favorite shoes. Whatever joy looks like for you, do it, bit,

0:53:50.160 --> 0:53:54.760
<v Speaker 1>start doing it, Start prioritizing it into your life. Okay,

0:53:54.840 --> 0:53:56.840
<v Speaker 1>because you look up and you ain't wore your favorite

0:53:56.840 --> 0:54:01.160
<v Speaker 1>shoes all year. You ain't dead. Oh yeah, you look up.

0:54:01.200 --> 0:54:04.439
<v Speaker 1>You ain't dance, you all. It's three seasons of your show,

0:54:04.520 --> 0:54:06.440
<v Speaker 1>your favorite shoulder came out, and you ain't watched a

0:54:06.520 --> 0:54:12.279
<v Speaker 1>single episode. You have done nothing. You ain't prioritize your

0:54:12.360 --> 0:54:16.480
<v Speaker 1>joy at all. So let's get back to that and

0:54:16.960 --> 0:54:20.320
<v Speaker 1>to him the last one. Accept that you are worthy

0:54:20.600 --> 0:54:25.239
<v Speaker 1>and deserving mm hmm. You have to accept that. You

0:54:25.280 --> 0:54:27.839
<v Speaker 1>have to decide it and believe it and accept that

0:54:27.920 --> 0:54:32.399
<v Speaker 1>for yourself. That's the word. That's a big word, that

0:54:32.440 --> 0:54:37.839
<v Speaker 1>word decide. I'm gonna give. Let me give, y'all a um.

0:54:37.880 --> 0:54:41.880
<v Speaker 1>I decided On Sunday, I decidedly. I don't know if

0:54:41.880 --> 0:54:43.880
<v Speaker 1>you looked at my story, but it looked like scribble

0:54:43.920 --> 0:54:46.200
<v Speaker 1>scratched the people. I don't know if people. If you

0:54:46.239 --> 0:54:49.600
<v Speaker 1>guys know what a sigil is. A sigil, it's like

0:54:49.760 --> 0:54:52.440
<v Speaker 1>it's a magic ship. Right. So you take a phrase

0:54:53.320 --> 0:54:56.879
<v Speaker 1>or an affirmation, write you write it down, and then

0:54:56.920 --> 0:55:00.440
<v Speaker 1>you take the letters from this phrase or after amation,

0:55:01.200 --> 0:55:05.000
<v Speaker 1>and you arrange it into a photo. You arrange it

0:55:05.160 --> 0:55:09.480
<v Speaker 1>into a picture. So like if if you're saying, I decide,

0:55:10.120 --> 0:55:13.520
<v Speaker 1>you take the letters out of those words and you

0:55:13.520 --> 0:55:14.880
<v Speaker 1>you can do this on the computer. You could do

0:55:14.920 --> 0:55:18.960
<v Speaker 1>a free hand, but you arrange them in a certain way,

0:55:19.719 --> 0:55:22.040
<v Speaker 1>you know, and you put it out there. You might

0:55:22.080 --> 0:55:23.600
<v Speaker 1>want to burn it, but you gotta charge it up,

0:55:23.760 --> 0:55:26.360
<v Speaker 1>charge it up, you know what. Maybe you dance around it,

0:55:26.400 --> 0:55:28.920
<v Speaker 1>maybe you have sex around it, maybe you just meditate

0:55:28.960 --> 0:55:31.120
<v Speaker 1>around it. Whatever it is that you charge it up, right,

0:55:31.320 --> 0:55:33.920
<v Speaker 1>pray around it. Yep. You put it out there and

0:55:33.960 --> 0:55:36.680
<v Speaker 1>you get rid of it, forget about it and watch

0:55:36.719 --> 0:55:41.480
<v Speaker 1>how shit fucking manifest. On Sunday, I had a sigil

0:55:41.719 --> 0:55:45.880
<v Speaker 1>on my story and this guy. Are you calling him

0:55:45.880 --> 0:55:48.680
<v Speaker 1>my husband? Anyway? So my husband messaged me and he

0:55:48.800 --> 0:55:51.560
<v Speaker 1>was like, what what what? What is this? I said,

0:55:51.680 --> 0:55:54.120
<v Speaker 1>it's a sigil and all it says is I decide.

0:55:55.680 --> 0:55:58.919
<v Speaker 1>I decided. It actually said I decided I can send

0:55:58.920 --> 0:56:02.560
<v Speaker 1>it to you, m And I was I was making

0:56:02.560 --> 0:56:06.080
<v Speaker 1>a decision about multiple things. I was following out with

0:56:06.120 --> 0:56:09.640
<v Speaker 1>a home girl. All these different things was happening. But

0:56:09.719 --> 0:56:12.839
<v Speaker 1>I made out my mind on Sunday about a lot

0:56:12.840 --> 0:56:16.319
<v Speaker 1>of things. And I was laying in bed last night

0:56:16.840 --> 0:56:21.160
<v Speaker 1>and I realized that the things I decided on or

0:56:21.239 --> 0:56:28.400
<v Speaker 1>against everything in my fucking favor, everything and in my favor.

0:56:29.680 --> 0:56:34.600
<v Speaker 1>As a Monday Sunday, I did this thing, and I'm like, damn,

0:56:35.560 --> 0:56:38.279
<v Speaker 1>what the fuck? Because I'm like, okay, I'm gonna let me,

0:56:38.360 --> 0:56:40.200
<v Speaker 1>let me break it down just a little bit more.

0:56:41.160 --> 0:56:43.520
<v Speaker 1>So me and this friend were we fell out right.

0:56:43.560 --> 0:56:45.040
<v Speaker 1>So I'm I was supposed to be going to her

0:56:45.040 --> 0:56:47.080
<v Speaker 1>wed and this Saturday, I'm not. I'm no longer going

0:56:47.080 --> 0:56:49.800
<v Speaker 1>to the wed and I I lit another friend convinced

0:56:49.840 --> 0:56:52.040
<v Speaker 1>me to tell her I wasn't coming. But obviously she

0:56:52.080 --> 0:56:54.840
<v Speaker 1>wasn't expecting me because she had a whole bridle shower

0:56:55.280 --> 0:56:58.319
<v Speaker 1>yesterday that I wasn't invited to, but so be it.

0:56:58.920 --> 0:57:01.239
<v Speaker 1>But I decide that's one of the things I decided

0:57:01.320 --> 0:57:05.120
<v Speaker 1>on on that Sunday, right, and on Monday, I got

0:57:05.120 --> 0:57:09.279
<v Speaker 1>a big opportunity that came to me Monday for the

0:57:09.360 --> 0:57:13.160
<v Speaker 1>same day as her wedding. Mm hmm. So once I

0:57:13.239 --> 0:57:19.600
<v Speaker 1>decided that I'm letting this relationship go, other doors opened up. Right.

0:57:20.000 --> 0:57:24.320
<v Speaker 1>Look at God, So decide, Yeah, that's where the magic started.

0:57:24.320 --> 0:57:26.640
<v Speaker 1>It starts in your mind. Wants you to decide you

0:57:26.760 --> 0:57:31.120
<v Speaker 1>don't need anything to deserve the soft life. It doesn't

0:57:31.120 --> 0:57:34.520
<v Speaker 1>have to be earned. When we believe and we decide

0:57:34.520 --> 0:57:36.960
<v Speaker 1>we're worthy of a life guided by ease and comfort,

0:57:37.440 --> 0:57:39.920
<v Speaker 1>we will reject things that don't align with that vision

0:57:40.120 --> 0:57:44.600
<v Speaker 1>and make decisions that get us closer to maintaining that lifestyle. So, ladies,

0:57:44.640 --> 0:57:48.320
<v Speaker 1>decide today that you deserve the soft life, and then

0:57:48.360 --> 0:57:52.200
<v Speaker 1>you're gonna have it all right. I love y'all. I

0:57:52.280 --> 0:57:54.919
<v Speaker 1>love y'all for real. Why am I so filled with love?

0:57:55.000 --> 0:57:59.520
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. It's gratitude. It's a gift and occurs sometimes.

0:57:59.680 --> 0:58:02.000
<v Speaker 1>But when I say I love y'all mean that ship

0:58:02.160 --> 0:58:06.240
<v Speaker 1>I do. So y'all take this list. This comes from

0:58:06.720 --> 0:58:09.200
<v Speaker 1>exo Nicole dot com if you want to go back

0:58:09.320 --> 0:58:11.400
<v Speaker 1>over it and read it for yourself. But you can

0:58:11.440 --> 0:58:18.000
<v Speaker 1>always just listen to our show again and stream it.

0:58:18.040 --> 0:58:20.760
<v Speaker 1>So look not to say we're weak, because we ain't

0:58:20.800 --> 0:58:25.160
<v Speaker 1>weak at all, right, but we real delicate like a

0:58:25.320 --> 0:58:32.840
<v Speaker 1>bomb careful, right versus a flower. Be careful with black women.

0:58:33.600 --> 0:58:35.840
<v Speaker 1>So when we say we're strong, like, yeah, it's a

0:58:35.880 --> 0:58:40.280
<v Speaker 1>real thing, but just be careful, be real, real careful,

0:58:40.840 --> 0:58:43.520
<v Speaker 1>because the goddamn univers don't play about us. That's what

0:58:43.560 --> 0:58:50.240
<v Speaker 1>I do know. Okay, it just doesn't. But you don't

0:58:50.280 --> 0:58:54.600
<v Speaker 1>have to be strong no more. Let go really surrender.

0:58:55.440 --> 0:58:58.640
<v Speaker 1>So whatever that life to the soft life. Here's to

0:58:58.680 --> 0:59:02.800
<v Speaker 1>the soft life, ladies. Listen, we got our consultations up on.

0:59:02.960 --> 0:59:05.920
<v Speaker 1>We talked back E n T dot com right, so

0:59:05.960 --> 0:59:08.160
<v Speaker 1>you can literally book a session to talk to either

0:59:08.200 --> 0:59:10.640
<v Speaker 1>one of us or both of us, whatever you want

0:59:10.640 --> 0:59:13.840
<v Speaker 1>to do, y'all. Check it out is we talk back

0:59:13.960 --> 0:59:17.439
<v Speaker 1>I n T dot com right. Call me if y'all

0:59:17.480 --> 0:59:20.040
<v Speaker 1>need me to tell y'all how much I love y'all individuals.

0:59:20.600 --> 0:59:26.400
<v Speaker 1>Y'all can't do that, I will, right, Yeah, but we're

0:59:26.400 --> 0:59:29.000
<v Speaker 1>gonna have merch coming soon. It's just a process. It's

0:59:29.000 --> 0:59:31.360
<v Speaker 1>a whole process, girl. But at least we've got a

0:59:31.360 --> 0:59:37.200
<v Speaker 1>website now and it's really nice. First of all, Um,

0:59:37.240 --> 0:59:41.360
<v Speaker 1>the lovely von Schelle one of my friends, good friends

0:59:41.520 --> 0:59:43.560
<v Speaker 1>off events that I met her on Instagram, but she's

0:59:43.600 --> 0:59:46.080
<v Speaker 1>also from the low Country. Child. When I tell you,

0:59:46.120 --> 0:59:52.000
<v Speaker 1>God sent God for real for all. Anyway, listen, I

0:59:52.080 --> 0:59:56.120
<v Speaker 1>enjoyed this episode. It gave me um a lot of insights.

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<v Speaker 1>So listen, guys, if you enjoyed this episode, please is

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<v Speaker 1>Back in n T dot com. Y'all check it out. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>still more updates coming up on it, but yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 1>out there. Send us some dumb bad stories, the ask

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<v Speaker 1>a black friend questions all that good. Shoot. If y'all

1:00:24.560 --> 1:00:27.040
<v Speaker 1>see some funny ship online, send it to us too,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, y'all follow me on Instagram official tam Bam.

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<v Speaker 1>I love y'all. That's all I got coming up. God

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<v Speaker 1>bless you, good night, Remember speak now and never hold

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<v Speaker 1>your piece