WEBVTT - Ep. 7 "Is White Grass Greener?" 0:00:03.040 --> 0:00:07.160 We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who 0:00:07.240 --> 0:00:16.439 talked back. Okay, I relo that this episode is brought 0:00:16.480 --> 0:00:19.600 to you by Tequila and the last little bit aloud. 0:00:19.680 --> 0:00:26.200 I got left. Real hot girl ship, real old lady knees, 0:00:26.400 --> 0:00:30.160 Branny pussy knees, you got great hairs on it. You've 0:00:30.240 --> 0:00:33.199 never seen that episode of Sex in the City. When 0:00:33.280 --> 0:00:35.840 Samantha first saw like the first grade haro and pussy, 0:00:36.000 --> 0:00:42.120 she was like, nobody wants to fun Bratty's pussy. I 0:00:42.159 --> 0:00:44.000 remember when I first saw the first grade hair on. 0:00:44.360 --> 0:00:46.319 I didn't see it myself. It was someone down there 0:00:46.520 --> 0:00:48.680 and he was like was my boyfriend at the time. 0:00:48.960 --> 0:00:50.560 He was like, oh, you got a little great pat 0:00:51.240 --> 0:00:53.720 and I was like, first I was taking it back. 0:00:53.840 --> 0:00:55.920 Then I was like, are you doing hair? Are you eating? 0:00:56.560 --> 0:01:01.440 Like Bitchard died in a it all. I've been waxing 0:01:01.440 --> 0:01:03.280 ever since. You know, I used to die with my pussy. 0:01:03.320 --> 0:01:06.080 Go on, you are weird. I think I want to 0:01:06.080 --> 0:01:08.000 get like it, cut like into a little heart and 0:01:08.040 --> 0:01:11.720 do like a little red heart patch. Wouldn't it be cute? Yeah? Girl, 0:01:13.040 --> 0:01:16.959 go ahead, knocked yourself out. Bit, I don't know. Thank 0:01:16.959 --> 0:01:19.880 you guys for tuning into a new episode of We 0:01:20.200 --> 0:01:23.399 Talk Back. It's your girl a j Welcome, my lovely 0:01:23.520 --> 0:01:26.720 Is this tim Bam? I missed, y'all. I'm drinking my 0:01:26.760 --> 0:01:30.760 coconut milk tea. She liked the milk with them balls 0:01:30.760 --> 0:01:33.880 in it. I don't like that. So how was your 0:01:33.959 --> 0:01:36.679 I haven't seen you since last Thursday? What do you do? 0:01:37.319 --> 0:01:41.240 I am ship going on. It's chilling out, being domesticated. 0:01:41.640 --> 0:01:43.760 That's what you do. You said that every week because 0:01:43.840 --> 0:01:46.200 that's what the funk I do. Stay home and cook 0:01:46.280 --> 0:01:50.160 meals all we came. Sounds boring. Yeah, and try to 0:01:50.200 --> 0:01:53.240 prepare for our next show. Stuff like that. That's about it. 0:01:54.000 --> 0:02:00.640 I don't be doing none of that. I would. I 0:02:00.680 --> 0:02:04.280 went to stay forty eight uh, and I ate, so 0:02:04.520 --> 0:02:06.720 I was like, I felt like a glutton. This man 0:02:06.800 --> 0:02:09.560 asked me to go, and I was like, sure. Baby. 0:02:10.160 --> 0:02:12.040 We went up in that place and I swear I 0:02:12.080 --> 0:02:13.880 was eating off of his plate. He had to run 0:02:13.919 --> 0:02:16.760 to the car. I ate some of his food. He 0:02:16.880 --> 0:02:22.520 was gone, Oh, I just ate until I was stuff like. 0:02:22.560 --> 0:02:24.480 I ate until I was uncomfortable. You know how you 0:02:24.480 --> 0:02:26.679 eat until you feel bad? Hell? Yeah, Like you need 0:02:26.680 --> 0:02:31.560 to perch. I wanted to throw, but I didn't do that. 0:02:31.600 --> 0:02:33.760 But it was delicious. I couldn't even tell you nothing, 0:02:33.760 --> 0:02:36.360 the man said to me the whole time, because I 0:02:36.480 --> 0:02:40.320 was just so entertained by my food. I've never been 0:02:40.360 --> 0:02:44.799 there before. It's new here in Charlotte. Stad that one day, 0:02:44.919 --> 0:02:49.119 I made another reservation for the leven. I came home 0:02:49.160 --> 0:02:53.080 and went to see, like they're booked up. Huh, what 0:02:53.160 --> 0:02:55.240 didn't I have? He said, get what you want, and 0:02:55.240 --> 0:02:59.880 I looked at him in the serious face. Anything right, anything? Okay, 0:03:00.000 --> 0:03:03.519 all right? Let me start with fried um lobster tails. 0:03:03.520 --> 0:03:09.120 I had crispy shrimp, deviled eggs, bone in filetman twelve ounce. 0:03:09.600 --> 0:03:12.840 I had cream spinach. I had mushrooms I had they 0:03:12.840 --> 0:03:16.240 had cream corn crimbert. I had that too, Lobster and 0:03:16.280 --> 0:03:22.800 crab macaroni and cheese, two buns cheese on it, and 0:03:23.040 --> 0:03:27.560 three Hennessey sidecars, remy sidecars. I fu that food up. 0:03:27.880 --> 0:03:30.000 And he had like some beef spar rooms like that. 0:03:30.280 --> 0:03:32.680 He had he ate some of those sides because they 0:03:32.720 --> 0:03:35.840 were sharable, but he had to be sparals. And I 0:03:35.960 --> 0:03:37.480 ate some of his ship too. Oh, and I also 0:03:37.560 --> 0:03:39.720 had crab cakes. Bitch. So did the nicket call you 0:03:39.760 --> 0:03:42.920 back after that? Yeah? He didn't call me. Yeah he 0:03:43.040 --> 0:03:45.480 know he better know. I like to eat, see me. 0:03:46.560 --> 0:03:48.360 They said, you don't get this thick because you know 0:03:48.400 --> 0:03:50.360 how to cook. No, I know how to eat. I 0:03:50.400 --> 0:03:53.000 can cook too, though our reservation was for four thirty 0:03:53.160 --> 0:03:55.600 on a Saturday, because you can't. It's hard to get 0:03:55.640 --> 0:04:03.960 in there. And I was back home sleep by seven o'clock. Well, 0:04:04.320 --> 0:04:06.440 we usually don't want to talk about other people business 0:04:06.440 --> 0:04:08.720 on this podcast for real, So I just want to 0:04:08.800 --> 0:04:11.680 talk about some of the ratchet current events, the social 0:04:11.680 --> 0:04:15.320 media current events. See what you think about her? Okay, 0:04:15.600 --> 0:04:19.560 I've been seeing ben Zeno and his daughter. Wasn't that 0:04:19.640 --> 0:04:21.839 coit how you pronounced it. I don't want to her 0:04:21.920 --> 0:04:27.760 name it coy. It's like coile. It looked like toy 0:04:27.839 --> 0:04:31.560 because I think about like the fish, her and her 0:04:31.640 --> 0:04:34.680 daddy are. I mean everybody. I won't say everybody has 0:04:34.720 --> 0:04:37.479 daddy issues that I feel like families always, you know, 0:04:37.520 --> 0:04:40.320 we always have problems in our families that sometimes we 0:04:40.440 --> 0:04:44.760 never discuss. But I just don't know if social media 0:04:44.920 --> 0:04:47.400 is a place to air all your dirty laundry with 0:04:47.480 --> 0:04:49.919 your parents, especially with your parents that you should respect. 0:04:50.040 --> 0:04:52.479 And if your dad wasn't a sort of a celebrity, 0:04:52.520 --> 0:04:55.159 would you even be online talking crazy about him like that? 0:04:55.440 --> 0:04:58.400 I mean, but you might be just nobody would care, right, 0:04:58.480 --> 0:05:00.680 so you wouldn't do it. So because you a platform 0:05:01.200 --> 0:05:04.480 using it trying to tell your dad down a little bit, 0:05:04.480 --> 0:05:06.760 because I feel like that's something if you really want 0:05:06.839 --> 0:05:09.279 to build a relationship with him, maybe I'll should go 0:05:09.279 --> 0:05:12.080 to therapy maybe and he should initiate it. We're discussing 0:05:12.120 --> 0:05:15.520 this like people know what we're talking about. Um, if 0:05:15.560 --> 0:05:19.839 you haven't been paying attention, there's a former rapper because 0:05:19.839 --> 0:05:22.320 I don't know if he makes music anymore. Ben Zeno, Yes, 0:05:22.400 --> 0:05:28.520 and now he's a reality so him and his daughter, 0:05:28.520 --> 0:05:31.520 who is also a rapper, a new rapper. She has 0:05:31.560 --> 0:05:36.039 that song about this a TikTok um. They're arguing back 0:05:36.080 --> 0:05:39.040 and forth about him being a good father to her 0:05:39.440 --> 0:05:44.359 over social media and he's defending himself against that. And 0:05:44.360 --> 0:05:46.640 it's ugly because she called her her dad a bitch 0:05:46.640 --> 0:05:49.320 ass nigga and say if she was a nigger, she 0:05:49.360 --> 0:05:51.919 would be He's as that was the funny part to me. 0:05:52.040 --> 0:05:54.520 Sorry that was funny to you. I was I was 0:05:54.560 --> 0:05:57.400 clutching my pearls. I don't give a funk. Well my 0:05:57.480 --> 0:06:01.240 daddy did. I would never I love my daddy so much, man, 0:06:01.279 --> 0:06:03.000 I can never do my dad like that. Like you 0:06:03.080 --> 0:06:05.760 grow up and you realize, like your parents are just humans, 0:06:06.080 --> 0:06:09.680 they're not super superhumans. So you realize like the age 0:06:09.720 --> 0:06:12.240 they were with different things going on, and they're just 0:06:12.240 --> 0:06:15.760 trying to figure it out. Like and also, as a man, 0:06:16.080 --> 0:06:18.080 your thing is to get money, get money. So she 0:06:18.160 --> 0:06:21.159 mentioned like at one point they went broke. That happens, 0:06:21.320 --> 0:06:23.359 So imagine the stress that would have been on a 0:06:23.440 --> 0:06:27.279 man trying to provide for his family and seeing them 0:06:27.320 --> 0:06:29.480 not being able to do to certain things like that 0:06:29.520 --> 0:06:32.520 they're used to. Because I bet they weren't broke broke exactly. 0:06:32.600 --> 0:06:34.680 So I don't know. I don't know. I feel like 0:06:34.680 --> 0:06:36.200 they need to do some damn therapy. You know how 0:06:36.240 --> 0:06:38.600 that shouldn't y'alla. If y'all want to put it on 0:06:38.640 --> 0:06:40.640 out there for the world, at least get a check, 0:06:40.680 --> 0:06:43.480 because I'm y'all goa pay. Yeah, they can sit down 0:06:43.480 --> 0:06:46.640 and have a session with a real therapist. Yeah, because 0:06:46.680 --> 0:06:48.320 what is the dad supposed to do at that point? 0:06:48.520 --> 0:06:50.880 How is he supposed to respond to his daughter publicly 0:06:51.240 --> 0:06:54.960 right saying, nigga in public. But you got me fucked up. 0:06:55.000 --> 0:06:56.880 You don't get to talk about me like that. We're 0:06:56.880 --> 0:06:58.680 still on the outside looking at I don't know. I 0:06:58.720 --> 0:07:01.560 just hope her disrespect is warranted. Yeah, you know what 0:07:01.640 --> 0:07:04.359 I'm saying, because just like respect, his earn soul is disrespect. 0:07:04.400 --> 0:07:07.680 So if he's done things to um, you know, hurt her, 0:07:07.800 --> 0:07:10.080 harm her, if you just want to tend it from 0:07:10.080 --> 0:07:11.840 your dad, like, that's just not the way to go 0:07:11.880 --> 0:07:14.560 about it. If you want a relationship with your dad 0:07:14.640 --> 0:07:18.680 or you you need him, you need his advice. As 0:07:18.720 --> 0:07:21.280 she wants love, that's all it is at the end 0:07:21.280 --> 0:07:23.120 of the day, Like she just wants her father to 0:07:23.240 --> 0:07:25.600 love her the way she feels like he should. Neither 0:07:25.680 --> 0:07:29.080 one of them honestly know how to really say what's 0:07:29.120 --> 0:07:31.679 going on because instead of saying all these ugly things 0:07:31.720 --> 0:07:34.080 that could just be expressed and what what the hurt is. 0:07:34.560 --> 0:07:37.000 And at a certain point, you have to have self responsibility. 0:07:37.080 --> 0:07:39.000 So no matter how you were raised or what your 0:07:39.000 --> 0:07:41.440 parents did or didn't do, you have to determine what 0:07:41.520 --> 0:07:44.000 you want to take from those situations and inform who 0:07:44.040 --> 0:07:47.120 you want to be it shouldn't always matter how somebody 0:07:47.120 --> 0:07:50.679 else did you? All right? What about a little oozy 0:07:50.840 --> 0:07:54.440 verd j T? The motherfucker's this too young and too 0:07:54.520 --> 0:07:56.960 rich for me? I love it. She's like, I want 0:07:57.000 --> 0:08:00.680 some crablegs. They on the way. I'm gonna post what 0:08:00.760 --> 0:08:03.880 I want to see somebody me too. I love JT. 0:08:04.040 --> 0:08:06.240 I love a little ouzy Ver. I think he's very 0:08:06.320 --> 0:08:10.480 eclectic and he looks like very androgynous at times. They're 0:08:10.520 --> 0:08:12.920 just unique because she does. He does not seem like 0:08:12.960 --> 0:08:15.320 what I imagined her to be with this thinking. Looked 0:08:15.360 --> 0:08:17.920 like he would probably be trying to compete with me 0:08:18.280 --> 0:08:22.000 and what I got on, Like, why do you my jacket? 0:08:24.160 --> 0:08:26.720 I swear he posted a picture like I don't know 0:08:26.760 --> 0:08:29.320 if he had her boots on or if she had 0:08:29.480 --> 0:08:33.440 his boots on, But these motherfucker's are sharing clothes, you know, 0:08:33.480 --> 0:08:36.720 the youngest. I just see j T as a real nigger, 0:08:36.880 --> 0:08:39.640 and it just bothers me a little bit to see 0:08:39.720 --> 0:08:42.640 little Oozy playing with her publicly, Like remember he said 0:08:42.679 --> 0:08:45.160 something about her being dirty or something like that before 0:08:45.240 --> 0:08:46.800 to some other women and they put it out there. 0:08:47.120 --> 0:08:49.920 Right now, social media is saying JAT, you are not 0:08:50.000 --> 0:08:56.680 a city girl, not a girl that she's an entertainer. 0:08:57.080 --> 0:08:59.319 It's this video a little oozy and he's on the 0:08:59.360 --> 0:09:02.280 back of a motor cycle holding onto someone and he's 0:09:02.320 --> 0:09:05.040 smiling so big, and it was so much joy in 0:09:05.080 --> 0:09:10.880 that man's spirit. Yeah, okay, he looks so happy, though. 0:09:10.920 --> 0:09:13.800 I was like, oh that per and listen, nigga, you're 0:09:13.840 --> 0:09:19.920 mad about okay. Also, did you see what Tyrese's ex 0:09:19.960 --> 0:09:22.400 wife somebody basically asked her. I think it was like, 0:09:22.440 --> 0:09:25.720 do you suggest someone dating a celebrity and she was 0:09:25.760 --> 0:09:28.199 like hell no. Basically m hmm. I agree with her 0:09:28.440 --> 0:09:32.040 because these are the high value men that everybody wants, 0:09:32.080 --> 0:09:35.440 So that means that man isn't high demand for other women, 0:09:35.720 --> 0:09:38.440 so you almost have to compromise who you are to 0:09:38.520 --> 0:09:41.880 deal with those men. I've never heard her, but not 0:09:42.000 --> 0:09:44.840 even niggas don't necessarily even be high value, not a 0:09:44.880 --> 0:09:49.240 spirit definitely, not maybe money, but a lot of celebrity 0:09:49.240 --> 0:09:51.840 men just be whacked when you get next to them 0:09:51.880 --> 0:09:55.480 in person and get to know their real character and 0:09:55.720 --> 0:10:00.600 arrogant and full of trauma, just DeVos. Yes, I'm gonna 0:10:00.600 --> 0:10:03.800 be evil. I know some evil richness. A lot of 0:10:03.800 --> 0:10:05.960 people have to do a lot of things to get 0:10:06.000 --> 0:10:08.760 to where they are. Depending on how much money you got, 0:10:08.840 --> 0:10:11.080 you had to have shipped on some people along the way. 0:10:11.360 --> 0:10:14.280 So it's about integrity. Yeah, so I agree with her. 0:10:14.360 --> 0:10:17.400 She was like, basically, you're gonna have to do all 0:10:17.400 --> 0:10:20.920 the compromising to be with someone of that success level. 0:10:21.000 --> 0:10:24.280 That sucks. Though, Is it just men? Though? That's what 0:10:24.360 --> 0:10:27.560 I said, it's about integrity. Maybe women no matter if 0:10:27.559 --> 0:10:30.280 there are celebrity or not, maybe they just operate on 0:10:30.360 --> 0:10:33.240 a different level of integrity. Because especially when you bring 0:10:33.320 --> 0:10:35.400 children to the picture, you're not just cheating on your 0:10:35.440 --> 0:10:43.000 wife's that's the fact. Somebody else's asked, wait, where did 0:10:43.000 --> 0:10:47.560 that cheating on? So wait, you shouldn't kiss your kids 0:10:47.800 --> 0:10:51.200 if do you eat? Man, No, So once you're eating, 0:10:51.240 --> 0:10:53.600 as ever, you shouldn't kiss you not if you're not 0:10:53.640 --> 0:10:57.360 eating mommy's ass. No. So mommy's asking the children's face, 0:10:57.440 --> 0:11:02.480 but nobody else has got it. He came out of 0:11:02.559 --> 0:11:04.520 mom's asked, I don't know why I can't put momma's 0:11:04.520 --> 0:11:11.120 ass back on your face. So she's talking about celebrity 0:11:11.160 --> 0:11:14.080 or somebody based on the question, and she's talking about celebrities. 0:11:14.080 --> 0:11:16.440 But this kind of goes into what I wanted to 0:11:16.480 --> 0:11:19.839 talk about today. To look before we move on to 0:11:19.920 --> 0:11:23.000 the next segment, let's have a word from our sponsors. 0:11:27.440 --> 0:11:30.440 I have been on a clubhouse all morning and one 0:11:30.520 --> 0:11:34.080 of the main clubhouse room, which is a trending topic 0:11:34.200 --> 0:11:36.760 right now on Twitter. Um let me get to the hold. 0:11:37.040 --> 0:11:39.400 All right, this is the club room topic. I think 0:11:39.400 --> 0:11:41.960 it's time to give white men a chance. And there 0:11:42.000 --> 0:11:45.200 has been a ton of spinoff rooms. There have been 0:11:45.320 --> 0:11:48.040 a lot of nasty tweets. This room was created by 0:11:48.040 --> 0:11:52.080 a black woman, by black women between here, the UK, 0:11:52.320 --> 0:11:55.200 all over the place, different women. UM so it's just 0:11:55.240 --> 0:11:58.040 not American women who feel some type of way about 0:11:58.800 --> 0:12:02.320 the treatment they get from black men within the community, 0:12:02.440 --> 0:12:05.120 and they're wanting to explore their options. And I just 0:12:05.120 --> 0:12:07.760 want to give my take first before you go into 0:12:07.880 --> 0:12:11.640 I see nothing wrong with dating outsiger race. They didn't 0:12:11.679 --> 0:12:14.400 want to hear the statistic that the majority of black 0:12:14.440 --> 0:12:16.680 men are with black women. I think a lot of 0:12:16.720 --> 0:12:20.000 times when black women see a black man with another 0:12:20.280 --> 0:12:23.160 and they get upset, it's because they're single. So they 0:12:23.160 --> 0:12:25.319 feel like, you know, why isn't that man with me. 0:12:25.920 --> 0:12:28.760 Everybody has a preference. The majority of black men are 0:12:28.800 --> 0:12:31.000 with Black women, and the majority of black women are 0:12:31.040 --> 0:12:33.680 with black men. The only problem I have with black 0:12:33.720 --> 0:12:37.080 men who date outside their race is that they will 0:12:37.400 --> 0:12:39.720 justify it, not saying that they even have to give 0:12:39.760 --> 0:12:42.960 somebody a reason why. But instead of saying, I love 0:12:43.040 --> 0:12:47.880 my white queen because such such such such such white queen, 0:12:49.960 --> 0:12:52.959 I love my milkie queen. I love my queen Elizabeth right, 0:12:53.120 --> 0:12:55.520 I love her because this all they need to then 0:12:55.679 --> 0:12:58.360 list the qualities they love about the white woman or 0:12:58.400 --> 0:13:01.400 the other woman that they're with, But instead they use 0:13:01.480 --> 0:13:04.360 that as an opportunity to tell all the things that 0:13:04.400 --> 0:13:07.160 they don't like about Black women. That's the problem I 0:13:07.200 --> 0:13:09.800 have with black men who date outside the race. So 0:13:09.840 --> 0:13:12.480 what I was hearing from the black women, some of 0:13:12.520 --> 0:13:15.280 them said that they have been dating outside their race 0:13:15.360 --> 0:13:17.680 since forever. They just tied at a black community. Others 0:13:17.720 --> 0:13:20.480 were saying they don't like how black men treat Black 0:13:20.520 --> 0:13:25.080 women in general. So you're generalizing men, and you're generalizing 0:13:25.600 --> 0:13:29.600 Black women experiences with black men. There's a lot of 0:13:29.679 --> 0:13:32.800 things that we can't agree on about these niggas, And 0:13:32.840 --> 0:13:35.439 I can't say all the black men that I know 0:13:35.920 --> 0:13:37.679 or the ones that I have been in a relationship 0:13:37.720 --> 0:13:40.000 with We're just bad, you know what I'm saying. Let 0:13:40.000 --> 0:13:41.880 me tell you something. It ain't that nobody can tell 0:13:41.880 --> 0:13:44.680 me about a black man. I love me a black man, period. 0:13:44.679 --> 0:13:46.600 That's what I want. That's what I'm gonna fight for 0:13:46.679 --> 0:13:49.000 it to the day I die. I know sometimes we 0:13:49.040 --> 0:13:51.360 can be toxic towards each other and our music, and 0:13:51.400 --> 0:13:54.320 aren't the way we talk to which women are the 0:13:54.400 --> 0:13:58.599 main consumers for music, so we set the standards on 0:13:58.720 --> 0:14:06.200 how everything goesry. But I'm always going to be exclusive 0:14:06.240 --> 0:14:08.680 to black man. It's just my preference. Though I don't 0:14:08.720 --> 0:14:11.640 think it has to do with what else anybody else 0:14:11.679 --> 0:14:15.959 has to offer, or how great Spanish Latin lovers are. Whatever. 0:14:16.080 --> 0:14:20.880 I just love me a dark black man. They seem 0:14:20.920 --> 0:14:23.720 powerful to me. So anybody who was siding with black men, 0:14:23.760 --> 0:14:26.040 not even siding, but even trying to come to their 0:14:26.080 --> 0:14:29.440 defense even a little bit, they were calling them picknys. How, 0:14:29.440 --> 0:14:32.720 what's the pigmy? A pick me is like somebody who 0:14:32.920 --> 0:14:37.040 um like caters to the opposing side for a favorite. 0:14:37.280 --> 0:14:39.920 So so who is the opposing side of this? Black men? 0:14:40.760 --> 0:14:43.560 So black men black like me is the opposing side 0:14:43.640 --> 0:14:46.880 for yes? Because these black women are now saying we 0:14:46.960 --> 0:14:49.280 need to explore options. Well, that's the problem. When you 0:14:49.320 --> 0:14:51.680 start seeing black men and you're a black woman as 0:14:51.720 --> 0:14:54.720 the opposition, that's already a problem. Let's that needs to 0:14:54.760 --> 0:14:56.880 be addressed. And why are you seeing your old men 0:14:57.000 --> 0:14:59.640 the only the type of men that you burst as 0:14:59.680 --> 0:15:01.920 the Yeah. And every time you want to say who 0:15:02.000 --> 0:15:05.240 raised these niggas, we did, bitches, You don't know that 0:15:05.320 --> 0:15:08.440 we raised these niggas from their mama to the women 0:15:08.480 --> 0:15:11.480 that they deal with. We are raising these niggas. So 0:15:11.880 --> 0:15:13.880 a lot of things I want to put back onto 0:15:13.960 --> 0:15:15.680 black women, a lot of things that are fault. You 0:15:15.720 --> 0:15:17.160 can call me and pick me all day long. I 0:15:17.200 --> 0:15:18.680 know I'm not a pick me. So what that means 0:15:18.720 --> 0:15:20.760 like pick me? Pick me? Yes, that's what they call 0:15:21.000 --> 0:15:25.680 pick me. Yeah, like the head if you was on 0:15:25.840 --> 0:15:30.640 Clubhouse saying that you bit go to heim, listen, I 0:15:30.680 --> 0:15:33.480 won't say a white man. I can't see myself marrying 0:15:33.480 --> 0:15:36.960 a white man now and other somebody else, some other ethnicity. Yeah, 0:15:37.040 --> 0:15:40.520 but a white man who is responsible for the relationship 0:15:40.560 --> 0:15:43.320 we already have. So you're saying you're being oppressed by 0:15:43.360 --> 0:15:46.400 black men, so you're gonna go to the another oppressor. 0:15:47.160 --> 0:15:50.600 But you should go where you're being loved period. I'm 0:15:50.600 --> 0:15:53.720 not opposed to black men dating white women. I'm not 0:15:53.760 --> 0:15:56.840 opposed to black women dating white men. I'm not opposed 0:15:56.880 --> 0:15:59.840 to it. But I do find myself rolling my eyes 0:16:00.080 --> 0:16:04.720 interracial couples outside sometimes I don't be It's a subconscious 0:16:05.360 --> 0:16:08.480 thing that happens for me sometimes because especially if it 0:16:08.520 --> 0:16:11.720 looks like a well to do, successful black man and 0:16:11.840 --> 0:16:15.040 he's off with something other than a black woman, I 0:16:15.120 --> 0:16:18.760 might glance over to the table and cut my eyes 0:16:18.840 --> 0:16:21.000 real quick and then go back on about my day. 0:16:21.080 --> 0:16:25.040 But it's just because he's supposed to be one of 0:16:25.080 --> 0:16:26.960 our husband That's how I'll be feeling in my head, 0:16:27.080 --> 0:16:29.800 That's what I was saying. And black women, they you know, 0:16:29.840 --> 0:16:32.880 if you're single, you might find a problem with that 0:16:32.920 --> 0:16:34.720 because that's a man that could have been with you, 0:16:34.840 --> 0:16:37.640 just like Jez being with this girl, right, Why couldn't 0:16:37.640 --> 0:16:40.360 you find a black woman to lead? Right? And I 0:16:40.480 --> 0:16:44.480 mean that kind of thinking is a little ignorant, it is, 0:16:44.880 --> 0:16:47.560 but it's just how I felt like. It's honestly how 0:16:47.560 --> 0:16:51.120 I feel sometimes when I see especially just because a 0:16:51.120 --> 0:16:54.480 lot of black women are exclusive to black women like 0:16:54.600 --> 0:16:57.880 I mean black men like myself. So that makes him 0:16:57.960 --> 0:17:04.280 that much harder and being thirty ish, bye, I have 0:17:04.480 --> 0:17:07.479 fear of because I look at my mom and a 0:17:07.480 --> 0:17:10.960 lot of her friends, and they're all older, and all 0:17:11.000 --> 0:17:14.440 of them are single, and they're just about content. Now 0:17:14.440 --> 0:17:19.720 I had my girlfriends, we eat and we'll be watching 0:17:19.760 --> 0:17:22.199 TV and we just we get dressed up and go 0:17:22.240 --> 0:17:24.760 out to eat, and they'd be just content with that, 0:17:24.920 --> 0:17:27.680 and I am not. I don't want that. But what 0:17:27.760 --> 0:17:30.000 if I considered I don't know if I could even 0:17:30.080 --> 0:17:33.560 consider dating outside. When I think of outside, I'm thinking 0:17:33.600 --> 0:17:39.280 about everybody. I'm not just thinking about white men. Yeah, Dominican, 0:17:39.320 --> 0:17:43.400 which they would think would be black man, Dominican black, Well, 0:17:43.440 --> 0:17:46.439 so who else? Asians? It's in fly as Asian guys, 0:17:46.600 --> 0:17:48.480 like we're in Charlotte. It's a whole little click of 0:17:48.560 --> 0:17:52.520 them wrapped up in Charlotte. That that nigga, look, I 0:17:52.520 --> 0:17:57.680 call him a nigga, That Asian nigga from what's that movie? Uh? 0:17:57.720 --> 0:18:05.920 Singapore Crazy? They find itself. I'll take an Armenian nigger. 0:18:06.320 --> 0:18:11.760 You like Armenians? I like them black beach, dark, black, 0:18:12.080 --> 0:18:15.680 light black, medium black. I don't like almost black all 0:18:15.680 --> 0:18:20.000 the way black. That's all. I like Biggati black with 0:18:20.119 --> 0:18:23.400 a big black dick girl. They wanted people to stop 0:18:23.440 --> 0:18:26.480 focusing on the title, which the title was black women 0:18:26.520 --> 0:18:29.240 should start dating white men. So if you you're just 0:18:29.320 --> 0:18:31.760 coming into the room, you don't know what all other 0:18:31.800 --> 0:18:37.119 conversation conversation at transpired outside of that title. But based 0:18:37.160 --> 0:18:40.399 on that title, that clickbait asked title, that triggering title. 0:18:40.400 --> 0:18:44.000 It wasn't triggering from me because I understand people have preference, 0:18:44.000 --> 0:18:45.960 and I'm not here to make you feel a way 0:18:45.960 --> 0:18:49.760 about your preference, but you might want to explore really 0:18:49.760 --> 0:18:52.680 why you feel like when why are you generalizing? I'm 0:18:52.720 --> 0:18:54.879 never going to say that all black men are just 0:18:55.040 --> 0:18:59.200 bade black man ain't. Black men don't protect black women. 0:19:00.000 --> 0:19:01.480 And with a nigger who want to beat your ass 0:19:01.520 --> 0:19:04.760 for me, that's like one of the characteristics I look 0:19:04.800 --> 0:19:06.280 for in a man, like I want to know I 0:19:06.320 --> 0:19:10.280 can confidently cut you the funk out and if you're 0:19:10.320 --> 0:19:15.360 a woman, he'll beat your exactly. I think you're gonna 0:19:15.440 --> 0:19:18.879 knock you out home for real. I'm not dealing with 0:19:18.920 --> 0:19:22.240 somebody I don't feel protected around, right, So I guess 0:19:22.240 --> 0:19:25.600 they mean in general, black women aren't protected. I've lived 0:19:25.600 --> 0:19:29.040 in every single city when any major crimes against black 0:19:29.040 --> 0:19:32.560 people as happened. I've been in St. Louis when Michael 0:19:32.600 --> 0:19:36.040 Brown was murdered. I don't know who pushes that narrative 0:19:36.080 --> 0:19:38.159 that we're not protected by black men. I think they 0:19:38.240 --> 0:19:40.720 just mean in general, you know, because why I was 0:19:40.760 --> 0:19:43.320 mentioned in all these situations that I've happened with black people, 0:19:43.440 --> 0:19:45.919 because a lot of times black women are on the 0:19:45.960 --> 0:19:48.920 front line with a baby on our hill black men. 0:19:50.080 --> 0:19:52.200 There's black men out there. Yeah, I'm not saying they aren't, 0:19:52.240 --> 0:19:54.120 but you don't think it's more Black women than black 0:19:54.160 --> 0:19:56.520 men that be out there, Like we show up for 0:19:56.600 --> 0:19:58.359 black men. So a lot of black women feel like 0:19:58.400 --> 0:20:00.600 black men don't show up for us. The whole thing 0:20:00.680 --> 0:20:02.960 is that black women are hard to deal with people 0:20:03.080 --> 0:20:05.720 outside of the black community. They may let you do 0:20:05.760 --> 0:20:07.320 what the funk you wanna do, and they may be 0:20:07.400 --> 0:20:09.840 real passive and shut the funk up about it when 0:20:09.880 --> 0:20:12.280 she's going to talk ship and black men have a 0:20:12.320 --> 0:20:15.720 problem with you just even staying I don't like that ship. 0:20:15.760 --> 0:20:18.920 Don't do that to me. That's nagging or that's being negative, 0:20:19.080 --> 0:20:22.240 or that's being loud. Cussing them out or whatever it is. Well, 0:20:22.280 --> 0:20:24.639 I feel like, you know, black women, I mean, we 0:20:24.840 --> 0:20:27.200 do have some beta females, but a lot of us 0:20:27.240 --> 0:20:30.440 have alpha female personalities and that's because of our upbringing. 0:20:30.600 --> 0:20:33.680 You can take that ship all the way back to slavery. 0:20:33.880 --> 0:20:37.720 I know, here we go with the slavery conversations, but 0:20:37.800 --> 0:20:40.639 you can't take it back because they would tear our 0:20:41.119 --> 0:20:44.399 men away from us, beat them, rip them up, tie 0:20:44.440 --> 0:20:46.280 one half of them to one horse, and tie the 0:20:46.320 --> 0:20:48.400 other half to another, and beat the horses. Today ripped 0:20:48.400 --> 0:20:51.320 the black man and half in front of the black woman. 0:20:51.600 --> 0:20:54.439 So in her mind, she's like, I have to be 0:20:54.640 --> 0:20:57.040 very strong because I don't know when I'm gonna be 0:20:57.080 --> 0:21:00.080 out here by myself. And we raised our baby be 0:21:00.200 --> 0:21:03.359 that way. We raise our black women. The black men. Though, 0:21:03.400 --> 0:21:06.679 then you you treat the black men to be more submissive, right, 0:21:06.920 --> 0:21:09.160 don't because we don't want you rip apart out here 0:21:09.160 --> 0:21:11.119 in the streets. So now we have a whole generation 0:21:11.160 --> 0:21:15.080 of strong alpha females and beta males. I don't want 0:21:15.080 --> 0:21:17.600 to say beta males. Is like beta males may be 0:21:17.720 --> 0:21:20.280 married too, but they're probably getting ran over. Nobody really 0:21:20.280 --> 0:21:22.960 wants the beta male. Some women do want the beata 0:21:23.040 --> 0:21:25.280 male because some women want someone who they can tell 0:21:25.320 --> 0:21:26.840 what the fun to do. I don't like. I don't 0:21:26.840 --> 0:21:30.080 want no man like that. I just want I just 0:21:30.119 --> 0:21:32.040 want equality. I don't want to be able to run 0:21:32.080 --> 0:21:33.720 over anybody, and I don't want to feel like somebody 0:21:33.760 --> 0:21:36.400