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Speaker 1: Welcome back, happy our listeners. And I know you probably

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Speaker 1: can't see us, but Rachel, where are you right now?

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Speaker 1: Because it's a step up from the typical closet scene

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Speaker 1: that we always sit in. I am so I've talked.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I've talked about it on this podcast,

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Speaker 1: but I've said before that I'm going to be back

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Speaker 1: and forth between La and Miami. So I'm finally in

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Speaker 1: my LA apartment. It's got completely done yet, So for

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Speaker 1: those of you who may be watching us, don't judge

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Speaker 1: me quite yet. It's I totally feel like I'm in

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Speaker 1: And I don't know, are you big on visualization and manifestation,

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Speaker 1: I'm about to go down this Yes, no, I am.

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Speaker 1: I am so, I am too. And I've always wanted

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Speaker 1: a place in La, like even if I'm writing, because

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Speaker 1: that's what I'm doing. But I've always been too fearful

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Speaker 1: to make the jump, to make the leap. I always

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Speaker 1: put a bunch of excuses. So the fact that I'm

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Speaker 1: internally means so much to me because I've always said,

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Speaker 1: even before the batch I'm like, I thought about taking

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Speaker 1: just kind of fulfilling. M it feels right probably, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm sure in a sense, it's like you're, you know,

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Speaker 1: crossing another thing off the bucket list. Well, like I said,

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Speaker 1: for our listeners, they can't obviously see um, but Rachel

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Speaker 1: am is that? I guess I'm sure that you without

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Speaker 1: way more than I thought. It's like complete. I don't

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Speaker 1: like this is the beauty of doing from a distance

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Speaker 1: can't show you everything. Yeah, no, I get it. I

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Speaker 1: So in the meantime, we have another exciting episode for

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Speaker 1: you guys, and you know, recently between Rachel and I,

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Speaker 1: but also it's our guests, we've been talking a lot

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Speaker 1: about what the franchise means to us. You know, how

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Speaker 1: long we've been watching, or why we started watching, what

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Speaker 1: answered when people ask, like, what's one of your favorite

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Speaker 1: things that came from, you know, both being on the

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Speaker 1: Bachelor and Bachelor and besides finding love and being able

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Speaker 1: and I've shared that before, but I was so eager

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Speaker 1: I just say this, I think you're so true. You

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Speaker 1: is in that group chat because there's so many of us,

426
00:22:33,280 --> 00:22:34,760
Speaker 1: and I feel like half the time I'll just leave

427
00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:36,679
Speaker 1: my phone and come back to like one hundred and

428
00:22:36,680 --> 00:22:39,159
Speaker 1: seven missed messages, and then of course you have to

429
00:22:39,160 --> 00:22:40,800
Speaker 1: like scroll up to the top and go through it

430
00:22:41,240 --> 00:22:42,800
Speaker 1: a Dana. I don't know what it is, but you

431
00:22:42,840 --> 00:22:45,840
Speaker 1: always like leave these good, like little one liners in there,

432
00:22:45,920 --> 00:22:48,040
Speaker 1: and if I'm not like really paying attention, I'm like

433
00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:49,760
Speaker 1: I have to like go back and be like, oh

434
00:22:49,800 --> 00:22:52,320
Speaker 1: my gosh, you just said this, Like you said, I

435
00:22:52,320 --> 00:22:54,600
Speaker 1: don't remember what the meme was like the other day

436
00:22:54,600 --> 00:22:57,520
Speaker 1: about Boas or something. Whatever it was was, Yeah, it's

437
00:22:58,840 --> 00:23:01,720
Speaker 1: at yeah one about the mask you have to wear

438
00:23:01,760 --> 00:23:04,480
Speaker 1: a mask. It was something about people complaining about not

439
00:23:04,800 --> 00:23:07,000
Speaker 1: we'll have to find that again, but not wearing a mask.

440
00:23:07,040 --> 00:23:08,760
Speaker 1: They're like, oh, it's the worst. I can't breathe, it's

441
00:23:08,760 --> 00:23:10,840
Speaker 1: the worst. I'm like, well, I wear a bra every day,

442
00:23:10,840 --> 00:23:15,480
Speaker 1: and if I didn't, you'd be upset, not me, because

443
00:23:15,560 --> 00:23:18,480
Speaker 1: I've had two children and nurse two children per year,

444
00:23:18,560 --> 00:23:21,159
Speaker 1: so nobody wants to see that. But I still wear

445
00:23:23,960 --> 00:23:29,080
Speaker 1: thinking of that, how are you? I am currently living

446
00:23:29,080 --> 00:23:31,240
Speaker 1: the dream. I can't tell you where I am, but

447
00:23:31,520 --> 00:23:33,960
Speaker 1: when I'm looking up, I'm staring at a crystal blue

448
00:23:34,000 --> 00:23:38,560
Speaker 1: ocean and fresh sun and sailboats. I'm doing really well.

449
00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:43,840
Speaker 1: That sounds terrible if you're listening to this podcast. Everybody

450
00:23:43,880 --> 00:23:47,720
Speaker 1: close their eyes and Let'siana explain that again, and I'll

451
00:23:47,760 --> 00:23:50,280
Speaker 1: just look out and I'm like, I can see the

452
00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:53,840
Speaker 1: bottom of the ocean floor. It's all. And I imagine

453
00:23:53,840 --> 00:23:57,720
Speaker 1: myself like laying out with a crisp blast of chardonnay

454
00:23:58,440 --> 00:24:01,560
Speaker 1: and the pool boy coming and saying, missus stag Leana,

455
00:24:01,640 --> 00:24:04,199
Speaker 1: what kind of get for you? And I'm like, just

456
00:24:05,320 --> 00:24:09,480
Speaker 1: anything there and look pretty. I think people think you

457
00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:12,200
Speaker 1: I live in Miami and that's the life I'm always living.

458
00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:14,280
Speaker 1: And I'm like, I've think my polls three times. I

459
00:24:14,280 --> 00:24:17,280
Speaker 1: could see the water every day from my balcony and

460
00:24:17,320 --> 00:24:19,920
Speaker 1: I'm probably inside most of the time, you know. So

461
00:24:20,040 --> 00:24:23,800
Speaker 1: it's it's different from wherever you are to being in Miami.

462
00:24:23,840 --> 00:24:26,200
Speaker 1: Look in the States, there's so there's a difference there. Also,

463
00:24:26,280 --> 00:24:28,159
Speaker 1: people think we live in southern California and we're at

464
00:24:28,160 --> 00:24:29,920
Speaker 1: the beach every day and my children are well behaved,

465
00:24:29,960 --> 00:24:33,800
Speaker 1: but most of the time in off the wall. Adjust

466
00:24:33,880 --> 00:24:39,439
Speaker 1: your expectations, people, please, Yes, parenthoods I do not have

467
00:24:39,480 --> 00:24:41,840
Speaker 1: a nanny, and I'm the personal chef, I'm the home

468
00:24:41,880 --> 00:24:46,040
Speaker 1: school teacher, I'm the cleaning lady. I'm also the wife,

469
00:24:46,680 --> 00:24:49,160
Speaker 1: a jack of all trades. She's doing it all. You're

470
00:24:49,160 --> 00:24:53,760
Speaker 1: a superwoman. Um no, Danna, We've had some phone conversations

471
00:24:53,800 --> 00:24:57,160
Speaker 1: about obviously both of our experiences while we're on the show.

472
00:24:57,200 --> 00:25:00,240
Speaker 1: They were vastly different for a number of reasons, and

473
00:25:01,359 --> 00:25:03,800
Speaker 1: you know, we kind of recapped what went down obviously

474
00:25:03,800 --> 00:25:06,800
Speaker 1: when you were on Brad season didn't end up choosing anyone,

475
00:25:07,080 --> 00:25:09,320
Speaker 1: and then told Rachel, I'm like, I want her on

476
00:25:09,520 --> 00:25:11,880
Speaker 1: to get her take on it, because to this day

477
00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:14,159
Speaker 1: and from what I've heard, from you is like you

478
00:25:14,240 --> 00:25:17,040
Speaker 1: did not see that coming. You would know, like to

479
00:25:17,040 --> 00:25:20,199
Speaker 1: this day, you're so like, what the hell happened? Right? Yeah?

480
00:25:20,240 --> 00:25:22,920
Speaker 1: I cannot say this enough, Like it's the number one

481
00:25:23,080 --> 00:25:26,560
Speaker 1: Well I don't know. It's either the number one question

482
00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:28,960
Speaker 1: or people say why did you choose that guy in

483
00:25:29,080 --> 00:25:31,639
Speaker 1: your season? And I'm like both questions, I have no answer.

484
00:25:32,240 --> 00:25:37,800
Speaker 1: I was outside my own body. Yeah. So the situation

485
00:25:37,800 --> 00:25:40,159
Speaker 1: with Brad, the hard part is is like, well, you

486
00:25:40,240 --> 00:25:44,160
Speaker 1: two know this. Viewers see a certain thing, but they

487
00:25:44,160 --> 00:25:47,720
Speaker 1: don't know what happens off camera, and they don't know

488
00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:51,080
Speaker 1: the things that Brad has said to me. So I

489
00:25:51,200 --> 00:25:53,560
Speaker 1: try to lay it out there so that everybody knows

490
00:25:53,640 --> 00:25:59,160
Speaker 1: and understands how I mean, truly confused I was. But

491
00:25:59,200 --> 00:26:01,760
Speaker 1: with that being said, I had like, come on, like

492
00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:04,159
Speaker 1: I'm looking at the situation. I'm like, I'm super thankful

493
00:26:04,200 --> 00:26:07,920
Speaker 1: for his decision. Had he chosen me, I may have

494
00:26:08,119 --> 00:26:11,760
Speaker 1: never gone on to be the bachelorette and then ultimately

495
00:26:11,920 --> 00:26:15,720
Speaker 1: have probably not met Stephen and have these two beautiful

496
00:26:15,800 --> 00:26:18,000
Speaker 1: kids that I just like, you know, so I am

497
00:26:18,040 --> 00:26:20,040
Speaker 1: a firm believer in like his plan, you know what

498
00:26:20,040 --> 00:26:22,720
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like I'm a Christian and I believe that

499
00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:26,160
Speaker 1: His better is better than my better because I chosen

500
00:26:26,240 --> 00:26:31,359
Speaker 1: what I really wanted for me. Good miss as a

501
00:26:31,520 --> 00:26:34,199
Speaker 1: true mess, but like I am a Christian woman and

502
00:26:34,280 --> 00:26:36,960
Speaker 1: I believe that like God had his plan for me,

503
00:26:37,119 --> 00:26:39,480
Speaker 1: and ultimately I had to go through all of that.

504
00:26:41,240 --> 00:26:46,000
Speaker 1: Not dismissing the pure mind blown confusion that I went through,

505
00:26:46,400 --> 00:26:48,040
Speaker 1: but like I had to go through all of that

506
00:26:48,119 --> 00:26:52,159
Speaker 1: to be ready for for where I am now. I

507
00:26:52,280 --> 00:26:55,680
Speaker 1: have a beautiful marriage, and I have a wonderful husband,

508
00:26:55,800 --> 00:26:59,480
Speaker 1: and I have two really awesome, happy, healthy kids. And

509
00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:03,480
Speaker 1: it's to look back and be like, oh man, I

510
00:27:03,560 --> 00:27:08,399
Speaker 1: was so sad. Yeah, I was so like I'm really

511
00:27:08,400 --> 00:27:12,960
Speaker 1: happy now. Yeah, yeah, I was a story. Yeah, sure,

512
00:27:13,560 --> 00:27:15,760
Speaker 1: I'll let sorry beca. I just want to say this

513
00:27:15,800 --> 00:27:17,640
Speaker 1: one quote that I love when people say it because

514
00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:19,160
Speaker 1: I feel like it applies to me too. And it's

515
00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:21,639
Speaker 1: something that you were saying, Diana when they say we

516
00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:25,679
Speaker 1: make plans and God laughs. Yeah, it's a story, story

517
00:27:25,720 --> 00:27:28,080
Speaker 1: of my life, you know, like all this toughs of

518
00:27:28,160 --> 00:27:30,000
Speaker 1: beat's gonna go this way and this way and this way,

519
00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:32,160
Speaker 1: and can you imagine if it had gone that way?

520
00:27:32,480 --> 00:27:36,320
Speaker 1: Because how unhappy and what I miss we all would

521
00:27:36,359 --> 00:27:38,639
Speaker 1: be oh yeah, oh my god, and Rachel like I

522
00:27:38,680 --> 00:27:42,080
Speaker 1: am a planner, like down to down to the day.

523
00:27:42,119 --> 00:27:44,160
Speaker 1: Like Stephen texts me this morning, I was like, who's

524
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:45,639
Speaker 1: with the kids to borrow? And I was like, you

525
00:27:45,680 --> 00:27:51,560
Speaker 1: are so lucky that I have things organized, know everything

526
00:27:51,720 --> 00:27:55,440
Speaker 1: you know. And and also I would say, like thirteen

527
00:27:55,520 --> 00:27:58,640
Speaker 1: years ago when I was on the Bachelor, like that

528
00:27:58,800 --> 00:28:02,199
Speaker 1: was probably the most vulnerable in my life that I

529
00:28:02,240 --> 00:28:05,240
Speaker 1: had ever been, you know, aside from where I am

530
00:28:05,280 --> 00:28:08,119
Speaker 1: now in my marriage, because I think that's a beautiful

531
00:28:08,119 --> 00:28:11,600
Speaker 1: thing about marriage is you hopefully learn to become one.

532
00:28:12,920 --> 00:28:14,880
Speaker 1: And the beautiful thing about that is, like Stephen can

533
00:28:14,920 --> 00:28:17,879
Speaker 1: see me vulnerable and cry, which I would never in

534
00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:19,960
Speaker 1: a million years allow anyone to do that. I will

535
00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:24,200
Speaker 1: never forget being sent home in a limo from Brad's

536
00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:27,120
Speaker 1: season and they kept trying to get me to cry.

537
00:28:27,160 --> 00:28:29,359
Speaker 1: I mean, you guys know how foss are. And I

538
00:28:29,400 --> 00:28:35,800
Speaker 1: had this one like dragon tier like my life twenty

539
00:28:35,800 --> 00:28:40,479
Speaker 1: five year old face because I devastated. The one man

540
00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:45,920
Speaker 1: that I trusted most during this situation betrayed me and

541
00:28:45,960 --> 00:28:48,400
Speaker 1: he didn't have to. He could have thrown me a

542
00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:50,560
Speaker 1: bone and the things that he said to me off

543
00:28:50,600 --> 00:28:54,440
Speaker 1: camera led me to believe now I'm gonna lay it out.

544
00:28:54,440 --> 00:28:57,320
Speaker 1: I'll never forget this, right, I no longer want Brad

545
00:28:57,400 --> 00:29:02,400
Speaker 1: wall Mack Praise the Lord. But they allowed me to

546
00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:06,280
Speaker 1: stay the night with Brad the night before the final ceremony.

547
00:29:06,680 --> 00:29:16,080
Speaker 1: What camera four shut? Of course me for sure? Oh yeah,

548
00:29:16,800 --> 00:29:19,640
Speaker 1: did I say why? We filmed the whole day and

549
00:29:19,680 --> 00:29:22,560
Speaker 1: then once everything shut down, producers came over and they said, hey,

550
00:29:22,600 --> 00:29:24,360
Speaker 1: Brad would like to see you if you would like

551
00:29:24,440 --> 00:29:26,560
Speaker 1: to stay the night, would be happy to take you

552
00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:27,800
Speaker 1: over there, but this is up to you. And I

553
00:29:27,840 --> 00:29:30,200
Speaker 1: was like absolutely, like yeah, I was saying, I love

554
00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:33,080
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I want to. So I stayed the

555
00:29:33,160 --> 00:29:36,000
Speaker 1: night with Brad, and it honestly was really cool because

556
00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:38,320
Speaker 1: we just kind of hung out. We let we like

557
00:29:38,360 --> 00:29:40,840
Speaker 1: watched the news and he was like laying on the

558
00:29:40,880 --> 00:29:42,160
Speaker 1: couch and at his head in my lap and I

559
00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:44,000
Speaker 1: was just kind of like rubbing his hair as a

560
00:29:44,040 --> 00:29:46,680
Speaker 1: normal couple would do. And then we shut off the

561
00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:49,320
Speaker 1: TV and he was like, you know, what do you

562
00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:50,920
Speaker 1: think about all this? And I was like, honestly, I

563
00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:54,680
Speaker 1: was a little skeptical coming into it, but like I genuinely,

564
00:29:56,200 --> 00:30:00,080
Speaker 1: like have real feelings for you, and if anything, I

565
00:30:00,080 --> 00:30:03,120
Speaker 1: am a brutally honest human being and I still am

566
00:30:03,200 --> 00:30:06,360
Speaker 1: to this day. And so I said, I have been

567
00:30:06,400 --> 00:30:09,479
Speaker 1: one hundred percent honest with you about everything that I

568
00:30:09,480 --> 00:30:13,400
Speaker 1: feel currently and this entire situation. And he was like,

569
00:30:13,760 --> 00:30:15,840
Speaker 1: that's so great. He was like, what do you think

570
00:30:16,040 --> 00:30:17,680
Speaker 1: is going to happen when this is all done? And

571
00:30:17,720 --> 00:30:19,680
Speaker 1: I was like, well, ultimately, I hope that we can

572
00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:21,840
Speaker 1: have a relationship, but we can build some faith and

573
00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:24,040
Speaker 1: some trust on that and he was like me too,

574
00:30:24,120 --> 00:30:27,640
Speaker 1: me too. And then the next day when my handler

575
00:30:27,680 --> 00:30:30,440
Speaker 1: came to pick me up, he walked me out holding

576
00:30:30,480 --> 00:30:33,400
Speaker 1: my hand, right, I mean, after we smith the night together,

577
00:30:33,440 --> 00:30:35,160
Speaker 1: and I don't I don't need to tell you what happened,

578
00:30:35,520 --> 00:30:39,600
Speaker 1: but he kissed me and he said I'll see you

579
00:30:39,680 --> 00:30:43,360
Speaker 1: tomorrow and I said, oh my god, don't remind me.

580
00:30:43,400 --> 00:30:45,720
Speaker 1: And he said, don't worry, it's going to be a

581
00:30:45,720 --> 00:30:52,560
Speaker 1: good day. Oh okay, okay, no, God, I am not

582
00:30:52,640 --> 00:30:54,920
Speaker 1: messing that up. That is exactly what happened. And if

583
00:30:55,160 --> 00:30:57,360
Speaker 1: I don't think Brad would even deny that. As a

584
00:30:57,360 --> 00:30:59,600
Speaker 1: matter of fact, on Sunday, that was the first time

585
00:30:59,600 --> 00:31:02,480
Speaker 1: that I ever heard him address that when he said,

586
00:31:03,440 --> 00:31:05,800
Speaker 1: I absolutely wish I hadn't done that. I led her

587
00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:07,640
Speaker 1: in the wrong direction. I don't know if he was

588
00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:10,120
Speaker 1: just caught up in the moment, I don't really know,

589
00:31:10,600 --> 00:31:13,920
Speaker 1: or like, if he knew he wasn't going to choose anyone,

590
00:31:14,080 --> 00:31:17,400
Speaker 1: why even have me come over and stay tonight? Like right,

591
00:31:17,640 --> 00:31:19,440
Speaker 1: I don't think he's the type of man that needs

592
00:31:19,440 --> 00:31:22,040
Speaker 1: a woman's comfort, you know what I'm saying, But that

593
00:31:22,400 --> 00:31:26,520
Speaker 1: you never believe you. I mean, I said quite a

594
00:31:26,520 --> 00:31:29,960
Speaker 1: bit of off camera time with Brad see at that back.

595
00:31:30,640 --> 00:31:33,120
Speaker 1: If I was you, I'd be like, what does my

596
00:31:33,200 --> 00:31:35,040
Speaker 1: ring look like? Here's the dress that I'm going to

597
00:31:35,120 --> 00:31:38,880
Speaker 1: be wearing. Can't wait? Like, oh oh my god, guy,

598
00:31:38,960 --> 00:31:44,120
Speaker 1: it was such a mind pudge. And you know what

599
00:31:44,160 --> 00:31:46,880
Speaker 1: I'm saying, it was a mind fuck. You know, yes,

600
00:31:47,360 --> 00:31:50,720
Speaker 1: it was a fuck. I have never been so confused

601
00:31:50,760 --> 00:31:53,640
Speaker 1: in my life. So I obviously go home thinking like,

602
00:31:54,040 --> 00:31:56,400
Speaker 1: oh my god. He practically just told me it's me.

603
00:31:57,040 --> 00:31:59,960
Speaker 1: You know, it's it's me. And I walked into that

604
00:32:00,040 --> 00:32:04,320
Speaker 1: final ros ceremony thinking like I never truly believed that

605
00:32:04,440 --> 00:32:07,760
Speaker 1: it was Jenny, Although I love Jenny. We hung out

606
00:32:07,760 --> 00:32:09,840
Speaker 1: off camera, and I think she is delightful and she

607
00:32:10,040 --> 00:32:12,720
Speaker 1: is at her core a really good person, and she's

608
00:32:12,800 --> 00:32:16,680
Speaker 1: super duper happy and she's a cheerleader, which is complete

609
00:32:16,680 --> 00:32:20,000
Speaker 1: opposite of me. So I early enjoyed my time around her.

610
00:32:20,240 --> 00:32:22,520
Speaker 1: She was just like tobally and happy all the time.

611
00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:25,440
Speaker 1: But we are two totally different people, and I couldn't

612
00:32:25,440 --> 00:32:28,080
Speaker 1: help but think, like, if it's her, I felt solid

613
00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:30,800
Speaker 1: with that because we are so different. But if it's me,

614
00:32:31,240 --> 00:32:34,080
Speaker 1: you know, like I really was true to who I

615
00:32:34,200 --> 00:32:36,719
Speaker 1: was the entire time, and so once all of that happened,

616
00:32:36,760 --> 00:32:41,800
Speaker 1: going into the final ros ceremony, I ninety nine and

617
00:32:41,840 --> 00:32:46,680
Speaker 1: a half percent felt solid walking into that. Well, I mean,

618
00:32:46,880 --> 00:32:50,040
Speaker 1: why would not. It sounds like Brad can hang out

619
00:32:50,120 --> 00:32:53,280
Speaker 1: with some other people from the show that couldn't always

620
00:32:53,280 --> 00:32:55,800
Speaker 1: make up their minds too, But I can't, like especially,

621
00:32:55,800 --> 00:32:58,120
Speaker 1: you know, I just I can relate to that because

622
00:32:58,200 --> 00:32:59,880
Speaker 1: I think when I was on R season, Lauren and

623
00:33:00,000 --> 00:33:02,160
Speaker 1: I were so different, and so yeah, you kind of

624
00:33:02,160 --> 00:33:04,000
Speaker 1: are like, you know, it's going to be telling of

625
00:33:04,080 --> 00:33:06,320
Speaker 1: who he wants, what direction he's going to go, if

626
00:33:06,320 --> 00:33:10,160
Speaker 1: it's true, and you know, and so yeah, I get

627
00:33:10,200 --> 00:33:14,400
Speaker 1: that that is really shitty though, did he I want

628
00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:17,720
Speaker 1: to know, so, like, after he ended things, did you

629
00:33:17,880 --> 00:33:20,520
Speaker 1: know that he ended things with both of you? Or

630
00:33:20,640 --> 00:33:23,920
Speaker 1: was it not until the finale that you saw him? No,

631
00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:27,320
Speaker 1: both of you. Yeah, I knew that he sent Jenny home.

632
00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:30,040
Speaker 1: I can't remember if it played that way, but when

633
00:33:30,080 --> 00:33:33,600
Speaker 1: we did them what was supposed to be the proposal,

634
00:33:33,840 --> 00:33:36,320
Speaker 1: he told me. He said straight up that he sent

635
00:33:36,400 --> 00:33:38,840
Speaker 1: Jenny home. And I think at that point, if I

636
00:33:38,880 --> 00:33:40,840
Speaker 1: remember you can see my eyes light up. I'm like,

637
00:33:40,880 --> 00:33:44,600
Speaker 1: oh my god, here it comes. Actually at the time,

638
00:33:44,640 --> 00:33:48,440
Speaker 1: I think we used a different a different jeweler. But yeah,

639
00:33:48,480 --> 00:33:51,480
Speaker 1: he told me he sent Jenny home, So I obviously

640
00:33:51,520 --> 00:33:54,520
Speaker 1: am like, oh this is this, yeah, right, tell ending

641
00:33:54,560 --> 00:33:56,880
Speaker 1: you know? So I knew he sent Jenny home. The

642
00:33:56,880 --> 00:34:00,080
Speaker 1: difference is is that Jenny did not know that he

643
00:34:00,160 --> 00:34:04,000
Speaker 1: sent me home. So when the show rapped, Jenny went

644
00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:11,759
Speaker 1: home feeling at peace with knowing that he chose me, yeah,

645
00:34:11,760 --> 00:34:15,120
Speaker 1: because he said I need something more Like she thought

646
00:34:15,120 --> 00:34:18,440
Speaker 1: that full time that he sent her home and chose

647
00:34:18,480 --> 00:34:21,960
Speaker 1: me like she at the after the final rows and

648
00:34:22,040 --> 00:34:24,839
Speaker 1: we were filming that, they showed each of us the

649
00:34:24,880 --> 00:34:28,320
Speaker 1: final episode and then they let Jenny come into my

650
00:34:28,360 --> 00:34:30,560
Speaker 1: green room and she was sobbing, and she was like,

651
00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:35,080
Speaker 1: this whole time, I thought that he chose you. I

652
00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:37,800
Speaker 1: thought that you two were living your happily ever after.

653
00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:40,960
Speaker 1: And she said, I can't believe that he broke your

654
00:34:41,000 --> 00:34:44,160
Speaker 1: heart and did this to you. More so that I

655
00:34:44,239 --> 00:34:49,080
Speaker 1: lived with that for four plus months. When I came home,

656
00:34:49,120 --> 00:34:52,799
Speaker 1: I didn't tell anyone because I was so baffled and

657
00:34:53,000 --> 00:35:00,040
Speaker 1: so confused, with no answers whatsoever. I only told my

658
00:35:00,080 --> 00:35:03,319
Speaker 1: sister and I only told my aunt. Those are the

659
00:35:03,320 --> 00:35:06,520
Speaker 1: only two people knew that knew because I truly wanted

660
00:35:06,640 --> 00:35:09,719
Speaker 1: everyone to be as confused as I was, and I

661
00:35:10,680 --> 00:35:15,279
Speaker 1: love surprises still to this day. I love surprises, and

662
00:35:15,320 --> 00:35:17,919
Speaker 1: as confused as I was, I wanted everyone to feel

663
00:35:18,000 --> 00:35:20,640
Speaker 1: those emotions because that's the place I sat in for

664
00:35:20,680 --> 00:35:23,319
Speaker 1: four and a half months. And I mean minus like

665
00:35:23,400 --> 00:35:26,240
Speaker 1: like death and grief like that was truly the hardest

666
00:35:26,239 --> 00:35:29,400
Speaker 1: thing that I ever went through. Wow, Okay, like so

667
00:35:29,480 --> 00:35:32,040
Speaker 1: many things to say one they'll make them like you anymore,

668
00:35:32,200 --> 00:35:36,480
Speaker 1: because I don't know if I would have told people,

669
00:35:36,600 --> 00:35:39,400
Speaker 1: but my gosh, I mean, this is this is what

670
00:35:39,440 --> 00:35:41,719
Speaker 1: I love about these conversations. And I'm so and Becca

671
00:35:41,760 --> 00:35:43,640
Speaker 1: and I were talking about this or so thankful we're

672
00:35:43,880 --> 00:35:47,719
Speaker 1: revisiting these other seasons because this was a world for

673
00:35:48,000 --> 00:35:50,680
Speaker 1: social media is what it is. There's no way that

674
00:35:50,719 --> 00:35:53,160
Speaker 1: would have been a secret. There's no way we wouldn't

675
00:35:53,160 --> 00:35:56,960
Speaker 1: have known something, and we may have been surprised at

676
00:35:57,000 --> 00:35:58,759
Speaker 1: the end, we may not have been surprised. So that's

677
00:35:58,840 --> 00:36:01,400
Speaker 1: one thing I think of it too. I'm listening to

678
00:36:01,440 --> 00:36:05,480
Speaker 1: it and I'm just I feel what like what you

679
00:36:05,600 --> 00:36:09,040
Speaker 1: felt then, just hearing you describe it, and I'm just

680
00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:11,719
Speaker 1: thinking of, Wow, look how far you've come when you

681
00:36:11,760 --> 00:36:15,200
Speaker 1: talk about your life now and how happily married you are,

682
00:36:15,239 --> 00:36:18,280
Speaker 1: and your wonderful husband and your wonderful, healthy, beautiful kids.

683
00:36:18,320 --> 00:36:21,399
Speaker 1: Your kids are so cute, by the way, I'll say

684
00:36:21,400 --> 00:36:23,440
Speaker 1: it so you don't have to They are super cute.

685
00:36:23,760 --> 00:36:26,000
Speaker 1: I mean they're they're pretty freaking cute. I love that

686
00:36:26,160 --> 00:36:30,480
Speaker 1: they're a doormar. They're like catalog kids, and yeah, you

687
00:36:30,480 --> 00:36:32,480
Speaker 1: should put them and you should put them into something.

688
00:36:33,800 --> 00:36:36,040
Speaker 1: But just to see what you have now, but to

689
00:36:36,080 --> 00:36:39,320
Speaker 1: know the heartbreak you have. It's like we were saying,

690
00:36:39,320 --> 00:36:42,160
Speaker 1: how you guys, especially at the beginning. I mean, yes,

691
00:36:42,200 --> 00:36:44,560
Speaker 1: all the women are, but just I don't know, I'm biased.

692
00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:48,440
Speaker 1: Especially the women at the beginning are such great examples

693
00:36:48,520 --> 00:36:52,240
Speaker 1: of strong power for women. It's like listening to your story.

694
00:36:52,280 --> 00:36:54,560
Speaker 1: All our listeners are baster happy. Our listeners listen to

695
00:36:54,560 --> 00:36:57,200
Speaker 1: this like you may be coming out of this type

696
00:36:57,200 --> 00:36:59,719
Speaker 1: of relationship. You might be in it right now where

697
00:36:59,719 --> 00:37:02,960
Speaker 1: you're so confused. It shouldn't be this confusing. So you know, like,

698
00:37:02,960 --> 00:37:05,080
Speaker 1: I feel like they should take your stories, Diana and

699
00:37:05,200 --> 00:37:07,040
Speaker 1: know that you can come out of it and things

700
00:37:07,120 --> 00:37:08,920
Speaker 1: can be so much better. It just might not be

701
00:37:09,000 --> 00:37:14,120
Speaker 1: on the timing that you want. Well, I can like,

702
00:37:14,320 --> 00:37:18,759
Speaker 1: all right right now, true, that's what listening to it.

703
00:37:18,800 --> 00:37:22,480
Speaker 1: I'm period right now. So there's what I always say

704
00:37:22,520 --> 00:37:25,560
Speaker 1: this because I think you guys know this well. Well,

705
00:37:25,600 --> 00:37:28,040
Speaker 1: here's one of the perks about being on the show

706
00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:29,759
Speaker 1: so long ago. I am actually like tearing up a

707
00:37:29,760 --> 00:37:32,240
Speaker 1: little bit. Thank you so much. This is more Okay,

708
00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:41,719
Speaker 1: here it comes. Oh my god, I'm sorry. It's don't

709
00:37:41,760 --> 00:37:43,799
Speaker 1: cry because I'm gonna start I'm gonna start crying. I

710
00:37:43,800 --> 00:37:51,280
Speaker 1: am not crying. I'm a messing. It happens. Oh, here's

711
00:37:51,320 --> 00:37:54,279
Speaker 1: the beautiful thing. There are two things right there is

712
00:37:54,280 --> 00:37:56,359
Speaker 1: a piece of me who is very thankful about being

713
00:37:56,360 --> 00:37:59,160
Speaker 1: on the show. So long ago, before you girls women,

714
00:38:01,880 --> 00:38:05,440
Speaker 1: there was a non issue like I didn't have in

715
00:38:05,560 --> 00:38:08,879
Speaker 1: touch or photographers like hiding in my bushes in noon

716
00:38:08,920 --> 00:38:11,600
Speaker 1: and Georgia thirteen years ago, you know, so I didn't

717
00:38:11,800 --> 00:38:14,400
Speaker 1: I didn't have to go through the same like trials

718
00:38:14,400 --> 00:38:16,960
Speaker 1: and tri relationship people like tearing every piece of my

719
00:38:17,040 --> 00:38:21,799
Speaker 1: relationships apart because they're just It just wasn't that way

720
00:38:21,840 --> 00:38:23,680
Speaker 1: back when I was on the show. So I could

721
00:38:23,800 --> 00:38:25,640
Speaker 1: go on the show, and I could come home and

722
00:38:25,719 --> 00:38:27,720
Speaker 1: grieve and mourn with the people that I love most,

723
00:38:28,000 --> 00:38:30,360
Speaker 1: and no one was tearing me apart along the way.

724
00:38:31,120 --> 00:38:34,360
Speaker 1: So I have so much sympathy for you guys, or

725
00:38:34,400 --> 00:38:37,919
Speaker 1: for current bachelors and bachelorettes who go on the show

726
00:38:37,960 --> 00:38:40,440
Speaker 1: and have to be very conscious of every step that

727
00:38:40,520 --> 00:38:43,760
Speaker 1: they're taking along the way because someone is always looking

728
00:38:43,760 --> 00:38:46,480
Speaker 1: at them and following them and willing to take a

729
00:38:46,560 --> 00:38:50,160
Speaker 1: video and submit it somewhere. I didn't have to experience

730
00:38:50,239 --> 00:38:54,280
Speaker 1: any of that. The other piece of me that finds

731
00:38:54,280 --> 00:38:57,399
Speaker 1: so much comfort is in all of this. And I

732
00:38:57,400 --> 00:38:59,920
Speaker 1: imagine you get so many more dms than I do.

733
00:39:00,520 --> 00:39:02,319
Speaker 1: But like people will message me all the time and

734
00:39:02,400 --> 00:39:05,440
Speaker 1: be like, oh, you know, I so want to find

735
00:39:05,520 --> 00:39:08,600
Speaker 1: that person to share my life with, and I so admire,

736
00:39:09,120 --> 00:39:11,120
Speaker 1: you know, a good marriage and all of these things.

737
00:39:11,160 --> 00:39:15,239
Speaker 1: Do you have any advice? And here's the thing. Had

738
00:39:15,360 --> 00:39:19,880
Speaker 1: I met Stephen thirteen years ago, I was a mess,

739
00:39:20,760 --> 00:39:24,160
Speaker 1: and I was in my mid twenties. I was self entitled,

740
00:39:24,200 --> 00:39:26,160
Speaker 1: like after being on the Bachelor, and I was like, Oh,

741
00:39:26,200 --> 00:39:31,160
Speaker 1: everybody needs to be worthy of meys on national television,

742
00:39:31,239 --> 00:39:33,400
Speaker 1: you know, And that is so beyond me at my

743
00:39:33,480 --> 00:39:36,600
Speaker 1: core to be like that, and I just was. I

744
00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:39,000
Speaker 1: was very selfish in that time in my life, and

745
00:39:39,040 --> 00:39:45,400
Speaker 1: I would have never been prepared mentally, physically, anything for

746
00:39:45,400 --> 00:39:48,560
Speaker 1: for a really incredible marriage, you know. So one thing

747
00:39:48,560 --> 00:39:51,160
Speaker 1: I pride myself in is that I never settled. I

748
00:39:51,360 --> 00:39:52,960
Speaker 1: very well could have. I mean, you guys know this

749
00:39:53,000 --> 00:39:57,560
Speaker 1: at least twenty five times, but I never ever settled.

750
00:39:57,640 --> 00:40:01,080
Speaker 1: I knew I wanted something really, really great, and I

751
00:40:01,120 --> 00:40:03,640
Speaker 1: also just wasn't ready for it. I was in a

752
00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:06,640
Speaker 1: selfish time in my life, and once I became the

753
00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:09,760
Speaker 1: Bachelorette and went through the show, I just really thought

754
00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:12,240
Speaker 1: that everyone should bound out to me. And how stupid

755
00:40:12,320 --> 00:40:15,280
Speaker 1: is that, you know? So it was a very humbling

756
00:40:15,360 --> 00:40:18,680
Speaker 1: process after going through the Bachelor, a very humbling and

757
00:40:18,760 --> 00:40:24,120
Speaker 1: confusing process, and then being the bachelorette getting the time

758
00:40:24,200 --> 00:40:28,120
Speaker 1: to be selfish and travel the world and be on

759
00:40:28,200 --> 00:40:31,160
Speaker 1: television shows and host and live the dream and make

760
00:40:31,280 --> 00:40:34,879
Speaker 1: money like hosting stupid parties at clubs, like he does

761
00:40:34,880 --> 00:40:38,239
Speaker 1: that so stupid, But I did, you know? And then

762
00:40:38,239 --> 00:40:43,600
Speaker 1: I met Stephen, and had he met me at twenty six,

763
00:40:43,800 --> 00:40:46,120
Speaker 1: her marriage would never last. And I'm not saying our

764
00:40:46,120 --> 00:40:49,600
Speaker 1: marriage is perfect. We had definitely weathered some serious storms

765
00:40:49,680 --> 00:40:51,399
Speaker 1: and I am so thankful to be where we are

766
00:40:51,440 --> 00:40:54,200
Speaker 1: now to think like we have come out the other side.

767
00:40:55,000 --> 00:40:59,759
Speaker 1: But that's the beautiful thing about marriage is like all

768
00:40:59,800 --> 00:41:03,680
Speaker 1: to we are committed to each other and committed to

769
00:41:03,719 --> 00:41:07,520
Speaker 1: our family and making things work, and that's down deep

770
00:41:07,560 --> 00:41:10,840
Speaker 1: below the dirt of it all, as well as on

771
00:41:10,880 --> 00:41:14,120
Speaker 1: the top side when things are really really wonderful. And

772
00:41:14,440 --> 00:41:16,919
Speaker 1: I think that's a beautiful thing that I never ever

773
00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:19,840
Speaker 1: found that before Stephen, like to where I felt like

774
00:41:19,880 --> 00:41:22,640
Speaker 1: at a partner that would fight for us. Yeah, And

775
00:41:22,680 --> 00:41:25,319
Speaker 1: so you know, looking back at it all, it's been

776
00:41:25,360 --> 00:41:27,800
Speaker 1: really fun to watch it. But I'm also like, thank god,

777
00:41:28,000 --> 00:41:32,480
Speaker 1: like blessed Stephen, I'm a lucky one. Really, I am. Well.

778
00:41:32,520 --> 00:41:35,200
Speaker 1: I love listening do you say all that, because I mean,

779
00:41:35,400 --> 00:41:39,319
Speaker 1: it's so well spoken, but it's your story and I

780
00:41:39,360 --> 00:41:41,759
Speaker 1: think though even though that is your story and kind

781
00:41:41,760 --> 00:41:44,759
Speaker 1: of how your life has you know, paved this way

782
00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:47,480
Speaker 1: for you and your children now like no one, you know,

783
00:41:47,520 --> 00:41:49,239
Speaker 1: we all have an idea of where we want to

784
00:41:49,239 --> 00:41:50,680
Speaker 1: be in life, and we never know where it's going

785
00:41:50,719 --> 00:41:53,399
Speaker 1: to go. And the fact that you this is why

786
00:41:53,440 --> 00:41:57,480
Speaker 1: I love doing these recaps and watching seasons that I

787
00:41:57,600 --> 00:42:00,440
Speaker 1: never started, you know, I never had watched and tell

788
00:42:00,719 --> 00:42:03,560
Speaker 1: you know, I was a freshman in college. It's we

789
00:42:03,680 --> 00:42:05,719
Speaker 1: you know, all going to talk to you and other

790
00:42:05,840 --> 00:42:09,080
Speaker 1: women who have gone through similar things, who women watching

791
00:42:09,080 --> 00:42:11,240
Speaker 1: the show now we're even just listening to this podcast

792
00:42:11,280 --> 00:42:14,640
Speaker 1: can relate to. And that's something that's really special. And

793
00:42:14,719 --> 00:42:16,640
Speaker 1: you know, I have to say, like I don't think

794
00:42:16,960 --> 00:42:21,480
Speaker 1: head you know, COVID ben spread and had quarantine been

795
00:42:21,520 --> 00:42:23,520
Speaker 1: putting place in the shutdown, like we wouldn't be doing

796
00:42:23,520 --> 00:42:26,360
Speaker 1: these recaps. We wouldn't have the opportunity to be having

797
00:42:26,400 --> 00:42:29,440
Speaker 1: this conversation. And that's a really special thing. And I

798
00:42:29,480 --> 00:42:31,279
Speaker 1: want to go back to something you said earlier, as

799
00:42:31,320 --> 00:42:34,640
Speaker 1: you said his plan is bigger and better than my plan,

800
00:42:34,920 --> 00:42:37,080
Speaker 1: and that I just want people to really take that

801
00:42:37,160 --> 00:42:39,719
Speaker 1: in and realize, like you know, you can be a

802
00:42:39,719 --> 00:42:43,040
Speaker 1: planner and have what you want in life to happen,

803
00:42:43,120 --> 00:42:46,479
Speaker 1: and it's always gonna get what's shaken up a little

804
00:42:46,480 --> 00:42:49,200
Speaker 1: bit at certain times. And so I love, I love

805
00:42:49,200 --> 00:42:51,920
Speaker 1: that we can have you on and get your taken

806
00:42:51,960 --> 00:42:53,799
Speaker 1: and hear you now because it seems like you've just

807
00:42:53,880 --> 00:42:59,799
Speaker 1: grown tremendously since you were on thank god season yeah yeah, one.

808
00:43:00,000 --> 00:43:05,080
Speaker 1: Though I do the show, ye oh god, it's like

809
00:43:05,280 --> 00:43:08,200
Speaker 1: where would where would we all be have we settled

810
00:43:08,239 --> 00:43:14,280
Speaker 1: with that guy from you know in Noon and Georgia probably,

811
00:43:16,600 --> 00:43:19,080
Speaker 1: And I love to get this take from you know,

812
00:43:19,120 --> 00:43:22,600
Speaker 1: like from I hate season seasons. That's what we like

813
00:43:22,680 --> 00:43:25,400
Speaker 1: to say now because like I'm the same age as

814
00:43:25,440 --> 00:43:29,719
Speaker 1: you guys say, I'm like, yeah, older, that's me, and

815
00:43:29,760 --> 00:43:34,799
Speaker 1: I came in around like twelve seasons later or whatever. Um. Anyways,

816
00:43:34,960 --> 00:43:38,359
Speaker 1: when you watch The Bachelorette, now, what do you think

817
00:43:38,400 --> 00:43:41,879
Speaker 1: of it versus between when you were on it versus now?

818
00:43:43,200 --> 00:43:46,920
Speaker 1: All right, if I'm getting my honest opinion, which either

819
00:43:47,040 --> 00:43:50,040
Speaker 1: of you would expect anything less out of me. Um,

820
00:43:51,000 --> 00:43:54,160
Speaker 1: I have a hard time watching the show now. I

821
00:43:54,440 --> 00:43:58,680
Speaker 1: really have enjoyed the Bachelor Goat like seeing the old

822
00:43:58,800 --> 00:44:02,160
Speaker 1: seasons read air, because I think there is something really

823
00:44:02,200 --> 00:44:04,680
Speaker 1: beautiful about the fact that we were all on and

824
00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:08,920
Speaker 1: by we, I mean me, Trista Jin, you know, Meredith

825
00:44:08,960 --> 00:44:12,400
Speaker 1: and some of the other guys. We were on before

826
00:44:12,480 --> 00:44:16,080
Speaker 1: social media was a thing, and I think that social

827
00:44:16,120 --> 00:44:19,680
Speaker 1: media has changed the show and the way that it works.

828
00:44:20,040 --> 00:44:22,160
Speaker 1: And by that I mean it is so hard to

829
00:44:22,200 --> 00:44:25,160
Speaker 1: tell who is coming on to sell gummy bear hairs

830
00:44:25,200 --> 00:44:28,440
Speaker 1: and teeth Whitner versus who really is there for the

831
00:44:28,560 --> 00:44:31,160
Speaker 1: right reasons, you know, like these night winners can go

832
00:44:31,320 --> 00:44:33,680
Speaker 1: home and sell so much teeth Whitner, they don't have

833
00:44:33,719 --> 00:44:38,240
Speaker 1: to have a real job. Yeah. I have so enjoyed

834
00:44:38,600 --> 00:44:41,200
Speaker 1: watching the show played back and see some of the

835
00:44:41,200 --> 00:44:44,200
Speaker 1: older cast on because it just felt so genuine to me.

836
00:44:44,800 --> 00:44:47,080
Speaker 1: And I don't know if I'm just that naive, because

837
00:44:47,080 --> 00:44:50,560
Speaker 1: I am quite gullible, but like I truly went on

838
00:44:50,600 --> 00:44:53,239
Speaker 1: for the right reasons. People find it so silly when

839
00:44:53,239 --> 00:44:58,239
Speaker 1: I say I didn't take a paycheck. I don't know

840
00:44:58,239 --> 00:45:03,360
Speaker 1: if I'm just stupid or as the bachelorette. Yeah, yeah,

841
00:45:03,800 --> 00:45:07,600
Speaker 1: what not get a paycheck? They definitely helped me out

842
00:45:07,600 --> 00:45:09,360
Speaker 1: because obviously six months of my time I had to

843
00:45:09,360 --> 00:45:12,720
Speaker 1: pay my mortgage, right, I owned man at home in Georgia,

844
00:45:13,280 --> 00:45:16,440
Speaker 1: and just some other small bills, but it was ministry

845
00:45:17,760 --> 00:45:22,839
Speaker 1: really yeah, like thousand bucks a month. Yeah, but that's

846
00:45:23,160 --> 00:45:27,800
Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying. I joke around about like being stupid,

847
00:45:27,880 --> 00:45:31,160
Speaker 1: but also like I genuinely went on the show for

848
00:45:31,239 --> 00:45:34,240
Speaker 1: the right reasons and I still to this day, thirteen

849
00:45:34,280 --> 00:45:37,040
Speaker 1: years later, so really solid in that I didn't go

850
00:45:37,080 --> 00:45:40,719
Speaker 1: on for a paycheck or to become famous or any

851
00:45:40,719 --> 00:45:42,719
Speaker 1: of those things. And luckily I've had some really great

852
00:45:42,760 --> 00:45:46,200
Speaker 1: opportunities landed my lap along the way, which are awesome

853
00:45:46,239 --> 00:45:48,640
Speaker 1: and fun. But I also have a real life and

854
00:45:48,640 --> 00:45:52,600
Speaker 1: I have a real job, and like I feel really

855
00:45:52,680 --> 00:45:56,400
Speaker 1: good in that. Yeah. So the show is just so

856
00:45:56,600 --> 00:46:00,160
Speaker 1: different nowadays. And I remember having a conversation with a

857
00:46:00,160 --> 00:46:04,480
Speaker 1: contestant who had been on several episodes of Bachelor, the Bachelorette,

858
00:46:04,560 --> 00:46:09,320
Speaker 1: probably Bachelor Pad and Bachelor in Paradise, and and I

859
00:46:09,880 --> 00:46:12,160
Speaker 1: was the Bachelorette, Like at one point in time, I

860
00:46:12,280 --> 00:46:19,239
Speaker 1: was most desired woman in America build that right, yes,

861
00:46:20,920 --> 00:46:23,239
Speaker 1: But I remember having a conversation with this young woman

862
00:46:23,320 --> 00:46:25,600
Speaker 1: and again I was probably eight years older than her,

863
00:46:25,640 --> 00:46:27,080
Speaker 1: and she was like, well, what am I supposed to

864
00:46:27,080 --> 00:46:28,759
Speaker 1: do now? It's not like I can get a real job.

865
00:46:29,000 --> 00:46:30,919
Speaker 1: And I'm standing there like, I have a real job.

866
00:46:31,560 --> 00:46:34,120
Speaker 1: Why can't you have a real job. Well, I'm just

867
00:46:34,200 --> 00:46:39,360
Speaker 1: so famous. And I was like I wanted to just

868
00:46:39,560 --> 00:46:43,040
Speaker 1: shaker by the shoulders and be like, honey, it's cool,

869
00:46:43,560 --> 00:46:48,319
Speaker 1: take the opportunities. You absolutely should, but like, you need

870
00:46:48,360 --> 00:46:51,040
Speaker 1: a job, you need a path, and you need a

871
00:46:51,040 --> 00:46:54,480
Speaker 1: career because one day, in the blip of all of this,

872
00:46:54,880 --> 00:46:56,759
Speaker 1: no one's going to know who the fuck you were.

873
00:46:57,120 --> 00:46:59,640
Speaker 1: But even then, this is what I tell people, and

874
00:46:59,680 --> 00:47:01,960
Speaker 1: I am glad that I come from this world. I

875
00:47:02,000 --> 00:47:06,360
Speaker 1: didn't watch the show before saying I wouldn't have known

876
00:47:06,880 --> 00:47:09,319
Speaker 1: anybody walking down the street. I didn't even know who

877
00:47:09,440 --> 00:47:11,600
Speaker 1: Jojo was, and she lived in the same city as me,

878
00:47:12,320 --> 00:47:15,000
Speaker 1: you know, So it wasn't until I got in this world.

879
00:47:15,040 --> 00:47:17,120
Speaker 1: And I think what people need to realize coming in

880
00:47:17,160 --> 00:47:19,799
Speaker 1: on the show is most of the world has no

881
00:47:19,880 --> 00:47:22,959
Speaker 1: idea who you are. Majority they don't. That's your nation.

882
00:47:23,040 --> 00:47:27,120
Speaker 1: Makes you feel like everybody knows you, they don't, So

883
00:47:27,200 --> 00:47:31,279
Speaker 1: it is hard to break through that bachelor bubble or

884
00:47:31,360 --> 00:47:34,359
Speaker 1: reality TV and to become something else. I'm not saying

885
00:47:34,400 --> 00:47:36,880
Speaker 1: you can't, it's just the odds are against you, just

886
00:47:36,920 --> 00:47:38,840
Speaker 1: like the odds are against you to find your perfect

887
00:47:38,920 --> 00:47:41,800
Speaker 1: person on this show. It's just you gotta be realistic

888
00:47:41,800 --> 00:47:44,160
Speaker 1: about things. Nobody knows who you are. That's the mentality

889
00:47:44,200 --> 00:47:46,640
Speaker 1: you need to have coming in and coming out. And

890
00:47:46,719 --> 00:47:49,279
Speaker 1: also there's something really good about like humbling yourself and

891
00:47:49,320 --> 00:47:52,000
Speaker 1: knowing who you are, Like, yeah, you have this great opportunity,

892
00:47:52,040 --> 00:47:54,240
Speaker 1: but like eventually you got to go back to real life,

893
00:47:54,280 --> 00:47:58,359
Speaker 1: Like yeah, I mean, what else? What else will you do?

894
00:47:58,480 --> 00:48:01,440
Speaker 1: You have to be known for something else when you're

895
00:48:01,520 --> 00:48:04,040
Speaker 1: sixty and you're a boot or hanging to your knee

896
00:48:04,280 --> 00:48:05,920
Speaker 1: and you're trying to drink your glass of wine and

897
00:48:06,000 --> 00:48:08,239
Speaker 1: more on the patio, Like, no one's gonna give a

898
00:48:08,280 --> 00:48:13,160
Speaker 1: graph that you were the bachelorette. This is what people

899
00:48:13,200 --> 00:48:17,440
Speaker 1: need to hear. I love this um. Also, you know what, Okay,

900
00:48:17,600 --> 00:48:20,000
Speaker 1: we always talk about the bachelortte Bible that we share

901
00:48:20,040 --> 00:48:22,560
Speaker 1: with all the women. You know, we talked about it

902
00:48:22,600 --> 00:48:25,640
Speaker 1: with Claire like this is why we need to send

903
00:48:25,640 --> 00:48:29,680
Speaker 1: it to everyone, starting with Trista, to to get your

904
00:48:29,760 --> 00:48:33,520
Speaker 1: take because it's so important. It's so different than you

905
00:48:33,560 --> 00:48:36,720
Speaker 1: know what. I'm sure Rachel and I went through UM. Dianna.

906
00:48:37,520 --> 00:48:40,839
Speaker 1: I love this conversation. I know that you mentioned you

907
00:48:40,880 --> 00:48:44,080
Speaker 1: love surprises, so we actually do have a surprise for

908
00:48:44,120 --> 00:48:47,280
Speaker 1: you today that we chos to get into UM because

909
00:48:47,360 --> 00:48:51,440
Speaker 1: we have a surprise guest joining us today because she

910
00:48:51,560 --> 00:48:58,839
Speaker 1: loves you and we love you so much. Bad Oh,

911
00:48:58,920 --> 00:49:02,920
Speaker 1: you made my day, Molly. How have you been a good? Good?

912
00:49:03,040 --> 00:49:05,080
Speaker 1: Look at this like power group of ladies. I'm talking

913
00:49:05,719 --> 00:49:10,360
Speaker 1: love it wonderful, Colly. I was just telling the girls

914
00:49:10,360 --> 00:49:12,400
Speaker 1: the moment that I fell in love with you, and

915
00:49:12,480 --> 00:49:15,359
Speaker 1: I'm I don't remember whose wedding it was at, well

916
00:49:15,400 --> 00:49:18,200
Speaker 1: you and I got a little pie faced. That was

917
00:49:18,400 --> 00:49:21,680
Speaker 1: everybody's wedding that I've been to, so I was I

918
00:49:21,800 --> 00:49:25,759
Speaker 1: was precking at weddings so that would not I was

919
00:49:25,760 --> 00:49:27,880
Speaker 1: telling the girls how you confessed to me that what

920
00:49:28,000 --> 00:49:29,560
Speaker 1: a wino you are, and I was like, oh my god,

921
00:49:29,640 --> 00:49:31,920
Speaker 1: me too, and you were like one time I was

922
00:49:32,000 --> 00:49:33,960
Speaker 1: laying in the bed with a glass of wine and

923
00:49:34,040 --> 00:49:37,480
Speaker 1: a bag of embarrassing and Jason came in to find

924
00:49:37,520 --> 00:49:39,759
Speaker 1: me with Cheetos, and I was like, do you know

925
00:49:39,880 --> 00:49:41,839
Speaker 1: my times I find Diana like that. I was like,

926
00:49:42,200 --> 00:49:45,160
Speaker 1: I love Molly so much, Like I was so in

927
00:49:45,280 --> 00:49:49,440
Speaker 1: bed with my hand in the Cheeto's bag. I love this.

928
00:49:50,800 --> 00:49:54,520
Speaker 1: My pretty good, I said, I'm pretty sure I sent

929
00:49:54,560 --> 00:50:00,239
Speaker 1: Molly photos of me several times later. Passed so right,

930
00:50:00,360 --> 00:50:02,319
Speaker 1: It's so great because you know when people see us,

931
00:50:02,320 --> 00:50:06,040
Speaker 1: they see us on TV in gowns, fully made up,

932
00:50:06,520 --> 00:50:10,240
Speaker 1: sitting you know, in a professional setting. You know, everything

933
00:50:10,280 --> 00:50:12,560
Speaker 1: has to be on point. And then like somebody's like,

934
00:50:12,600 --> 00:50:15,080
Speaker 1: you know what, I too fall asleep, passed out with

935
00:50:15,120 --> 00:50:18,000
Speaker 1: my hand in the chip back and one hand on

936
00:50:18,080 --> 00:50:20,799
Speaker 1: the glass of wine. I've literally fallen asleep. Yeah. Have

937
00:50:20,960 --> 00:50:23,719
Speaker 1: you have you lived life? If you hadn't passed out

938
00:50:23,760 --> 00:50:25,320
Speaker 1: with like a slice of pizza in your mouth, I

939
00:50:25,400 --> 00:50:29,000
Speaker 1: don't think so right. Yeah, let me tell you. If

940
00:50:29,000 --> 00:50:31,160
Speaker 1: you're taking your wine and been like, oh, I'm really

941
00:50:31,200 --> 00:50:33,240
Speaker 1: tired right now and put it in the fridge for tomorrow,

942
00:50:33,360 --> 00:50:37,440
Speaker 1: like your glass, I'm on another level. Oh I finished

943
00:50:37,480 --> 00:50:42,319
Speaker 1: every glass. I never had the wine, you know, don't

944
00:50:42,360 --> 00:50:45,239
Speaker 1: hoist it. Last night I fell asleep so I'm in,

945
00:50:45,320 --> 00:50:47,560
Speaker 1: like Molly, I'm in. I don't know if down on

946
00:50:47,600 --> 00:50:49,719
Speaker 1: the seat it, but I'm in La. I'm back and forth.

947
00:50:49,760 --> 00:50:51,840
Speaker 1: And so I'm setting up my new apartment and I

948
00:50:51,960 --> 00:50:54,680
Speaker 1: was like, gotta gotta get a bottle of wine while

949
00:50:54,719 --> 00:50:56,879
Speaker 1: I'm at the store, you know. So I got these

950
00:50:56,880 --> 00:50:59,040
Speaker 1: plastic little cups and I was like, I'm gonna have

951
00:50:59,080 --> 00:51:01,880
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have wine. And I fell asleep so tired,

952
00:51:01,920 --> 00:51:03,560
Speaker 1: and I woke up and I was like, what is

953
00:51:03,560 --> 00:51:05,600
Speaker 1: that smell? You know, how like wine smells different than

954
00:51:05,640 --> 00:51:14,920
Speaker 1: that stuff, Like, oh my god. Anyways, okay, selling stories, Holly,

955
00:51:15,080 --> 00:51:16,839
Speaker 1: how are you doing well? Beck already asks you how

956
00:51:16,840 --> 00:51:19,440
Speaker 1: are you doing? But like quarantine everything, like let's do

957
00:51:19,480 --> 00:51:22,120
Speaker 1: a little check in with the how are the kids?

958
00:51:22,440 --> 00:51:24,680
Speaker 1: It's good. I mean it's been interesting, Like I'm going

959
00:51:24,680 --> 00:51:27,600
Speaker 1: through what every other working parent in America is going

960
00:51:27,600 --> 00:51:30,600
Speaker 1: through with school being all remote and online. So like

961
00:51:30,600 --> 00:51:33,479
Speaker 1: I've taken on a new job of homeschool teacher, which

962
00:51:33,480 --> 00:51:36,160
Speaker 1: is something I never thought I would do. Um And

963
00:51:36,320 --> 00:51:39,799
Speaker 1: I was used to prior to all the world shutting down,

964
00:51:39,840 --> 00:51:42,040
Speaker 1: I was used to being home by myself all day

965
00:51:42,040 --> 00:51:45,560
Speaker 1: long and then overnight everyone's in my house. Yeah, all

966
00:51:45,640 --> 00:51:50,040
Speaker 1: day long. Like I I don't know. I like, you're

967
00:51:50,080 --> 00:51:52,440
Speaker 1: not meant to spend that much time with your fous

968
00:51:55,719 --> 00:51:58,239
Speaker 1: So why this is why you have such a fabulous

969
00:51:58,239 --> 00:52:01,040
Speaker 1: closet that you could describe your gospel and get away

970
00:52:02,040 --> 00:52:04,880
Speaker 1: right lock the door. Yeah. So it's like my kids,

971
00:52:04,920 --> 00:52:07,760
Speaker 1: like Riley and Tie are really good kids. They handled

972
00:52:07,760 --> 00:52:10,759
Speaker 1: the school stuff really well. Um, but we're in it

973
00:52:10,800 --> 00:52:13,000
Speaker 1: again for the fall. They announced that schools canceled for

974
00:52:13,040 --> 00:52:16,560
Speaker 1: the fall. So not same here. I told the girls

975
00:52:16,560 --> 00:52:19,320
Speaker 1: that I was updating my resume. I'm the school teacher,

976
00:52:19,360 --> 00:52:22,200
Speaker 1: I am the cleaning lady, I'm the chief, I am

977
00:52:22,200 --> 00:52:26,279
Speaker 1: the wife, I am all of the things, the blond caretaker,

978
00:52:27,080 --> 00:52:34,040
Speaker 1: the nanny. Go get it. Oh my gosh. So for Bashel,

979
00:52:34,080 --> 00:52:36,759
Speaker 1: happy our listeners out there. Um, if you didn't know,

980
00:52:36,800 --> 00:52:42,200
Speaker 1: we had actually two superwomen on the podcast today, it ain't.

981
00:52:44,719 --> 00:52:47,800
Speaker 1: I listened to you, and I'm like, Rachel, don't complain

982
00:52:47,920 --> 00:52:50,320
Speaker 1: about what you're doing when it's just it's just like me,

983
00:52:50,480 --> 00:52:53,759
Speaker 1: Brian and the dog. You know. But everyone has their

984
00:52:53,760 --> 00:52:57,640
Speaker 1: own challenges, you know, like everyone's going through something. Guys

985
00:52:57,680 --> 00:53:03,720
Speaker 1: deserve a hand clasps and a glass of wine. Sure,

986
00:53:03,880 --> 00:53:06,360
Speaker 1: I've heard of the war and ten. I'm just thankful

987
00:53:06,400 --> 00:53:13,319
Speaker 1: I can even get pans. Oh god, twenty yeah, exactly whatever.

988
00:53:13,600 --> 00:53:16,160
Speaker 1: I don't care. I don't care. I feel like we

989
00:53:16,200 --> 00:53:19,080
Speaker 1: should take you know, everybody's lives are so crazy right now,

990
00:53:19,080 --> 00:53:21,760
Speaker 1: and what's been great about, you know, Monday nights being

991
00:53:21,800 --> 00:53:24,240
Speaker 1: back to normal. I guess if you're in the Bachelor

992
00:53:24,280 --> 00:53:26,319
Speaker 1: world and you've got the greatest seasons ever playing, so

993
00:53:26,360 --> 00:53:27,960
Speaker 1: it gives you a little bit of escape. I love

994
00:53:28,000 --> 00:53:29,960
Speaker 1: to say that I'm a big sports person, So if

995
00:53:29,960 --> 00:53:32,120
Speaker 1: you're not a sports person, that's what the Bachelor is

996
00:53:32,160 --> 00:53:34,760
Speaker 1: for you. You know, like it's like Monday night Football,

997
00:53:35,080 --> 00:53:38,600
Speaker 1: Monday Night Bachelor. But we do know that Claire season

998
00:53:39,520 --> 00:53:43,400
Speaker 1: is filming now, So are you guys excited for Claire?

999
00:53:43,800 --> 00:53:46,759
Speaker 1: What are your spots? I've met Claire a couple of times.

1000
00:53:46,800 --> 00:53:50,160
Speaker 1: I adore her. I think it's going to be such

1001
00:53:50,239 --> 00:53:55,239
Speaker 1: a refreshing facelift for the franchise, just having like an

1002
00:53:55,239 --> 00:53:58,560
Speaker 1: older woman who knows what she's looking for, she knows

1003
00:53:58,600 --> 00:54:01,759
Speaker 1: what she wants. She's not going to let anyone, you know,

1004
00:54:01,880 --> 00:54:04,000
Speaker 1: bullshit her around, which I think is going to be

1005
00:54:04,080 --> 00:54:06,920
Speaker 1: so fun to see. It's almost like I feel like

1006
00:54:06,960 --> 00:54:10,239
Speaker 1: The Bachelor is coming back to its core. Really, you know,

1007
00:54:11,040 --> 00:54:12,719
Speaker 1: you guys were asking me earlier if I still watched

1008
00:54:12,760 --> 00:54:15,000
Speaker 1: the show. And I have had such a struggle with

1009
00:54:15,080 --> 00:54:16,880
Speaker 1: watching some of the young adults who come on the

1010
00:54:16,880 --> 00:54:19,960
Speaker 1: show because as a grown woman who is married for

1011
00:54:20,000 --> 00:54:21,960
Speaker 1: almost ten years and all of the step I have

1012
00:54:22,000 --> 00:54:24,360
Speaker 1: a hard time relating to the young girls because almso

1013
00:54:24,440 --> 00:54:26,080
Speaker 1: like they have no clue, Like they have a whole

1014
00:54:26,160 --> 00:54:28,240
Speaker 1: other world ahead of them they have no clue about.

1015
00:54:28,280 --> 00:54:30,799
Speaker 1: But with Claire, the nice thing is is that Claire

1016
00:54:30,840 --> 00:54:32,680
Speaker 1: has been around for a while and she is a

1017
00:54:32,719 --> 00:54:35,399
Speaker 1: grown ass woman. There's something really beautiful in that. And

1018
00:54:35,480 --> 00:54:38,759
Speaker 1: also what I so appreciate about appreciate about Claire is

1019
00:54:38,800 --> 00:54:42,080
Speaker 1: that she's not someone to be reckoned with, Like she

1020
00:54:42,200 --> 00:54:45,400
Speaker 1: is not a pushover. She knows exactly what she wants

1021
00:54:45,480 --> 00:54:48,560
Speaker 1: and she is willing to stand up for what she

1022
00:54:48,640 --> 00:54:51,719
Speaker 1: believes in. And I so appreciate that in someone because

1023
00:54:51,719 --> 00:54:53,680
Speaker 1: at twenty six when I was on the show, I

1024
00:54:53,680 --> 00:54:57,040
Speaker 1: couldn't do that. Yeah, there was twenty four when I

1025
00:54:57,080 --> 00:55:00,480
Speaker 1: was on the show. I was a I was the

1026
00:55:00,640 --> 00:55:03,520
Speaker 1: youngest girl on our season, like I was a baby,

1027
00:55:03,600 --> 00:55:05,799
Speaker 1: and I like Jason laughed about it all the time

1028
00:55:05,840 --> 00:55:08,120
Speaker 1: because when we were filming, I would always tell him like,

1029
00:55:08,239 --> 00:55:14,320
Speaker 1: I'm super mature for my age, but like, okay, in

1030
00:55:14,600 --> 00:55:18,040
Speaker 1: your defense, in your defense, I feel like there is

1031
00:55:18,160 --> 00:55:20,239
Speaker 1: a difference because of and we were talking about this

1032
00:55:20,280 --> 00:55:23,680
Speaker 1: before the social media aspect. Yeah, so a twenty four

1033
00:55:23,760 --> 00:55:27,000
Speaker 1: year old then is a little different from a twenty

1034
00:55:27,040 --> 00:55:28,640
Speaker 1: four year old now. I have to say that. But

1035
00:55:28,719 --> 00:55:31,120
Speaker 1: I just thought about this while we were talking. So

1036
00:55:31,640 --> 00:55:36,279
Speaker 1: Claire has had an unfair maybe fair advantage. This is

1037
00:55:36,320 --> 00:55:37,880
Speaker 1: a silver lining and the fact that she had to

1038
00:55:37,960 --> 00:55:40,960
Speaker 1: wait months for her season to start. Her cast was

1039
00:55:41,040 --> 00:55:46,520
Speaker 1: released in March. You know, she was telling me these

1040
00:55:46,680 --> 00:55:50,680
Speaker 1: men all over Instagram. None of us got to do that, right, Like,

1041
00:55:51,520 --> 00:55:53,759
Speaker 1: and I remember even me coming on next season, I

1042
00:55:53,800 --> 00:55:55,960
Speaker 1: didn't even know who he was. I was like, oh,

1043
00:55:56,080 --> 00:55:57,880
Speaker 1: who is he? I had to google him? So, like

1044
00:55:58,000 --> 00:56:00,960
Speaker 1: we we don't get to see and get that advantage

1045
00:56:01,040 --> 00:56:03,560
Speaker 1: of who maybe whose season we're going on before, or

1046
00:56:03,600 --> 00:56:06,160
Speaker 1: who's coming on to arts. Do you think that help

1047
00:56:06,400 --> 00:56:10,880
Speaker 1: or helps or hurts Claire. I think she'll go in

1048
00:56:11,080 --> 00:56:14,120
Speaker 1: with an idea and it may not be what she's expecting.

1049
00:56:14,280 --> 00:56:17,120
Speaker 1: I think I think it could post some challenges for sure,

1050
00:56:17,360 --> 00:56:19,399
Speaker 1: you know, like you seek them on and think about

1051
00:56:19,440 --> 00:56:21,840
Speaker 1: what you see on social media. It isn't reality anyway,

1052
00:56:22,000 --> 00:56:25,920
Speaker 1: So I don't know. I think it helps Claire and

1053
00:56:25,960 --> 00:56:29,480
Speaker 1: it hurts production. That's what I think. Oh good, hot

1054
00:56:29,560 --> 00:56:35,839
Speaker 1: take take, Because from speaking with Claire, she had at

1055
00:56:35,880 --> 00:56:38,800
Speaker 1: the time to go home and dive deep into that Instagram,

1056
00:56:39,239 --> 00:56:41,840
Speaker 1: you know, struggle. She got to look at all of

1057
00:56:41,920 --> 00:56:45,439
Speaker 1: the guys, and also during quarantine she got to see,

1058
00:56:45,920 --> 00:56:48,200
Speaker 1: once they were already cast the show, who was still

1059
00:56:48,280 --> 00:56:51,080
Speaker 1: taking it very seriously and who was out partying every

1060
00:56:51,120 --> 00:56:53,840
Speaker 1: single night posting photos of themselves with their girls or

1061
00:56:53,920 --> 00:56:57,320
Speaker 1: whoever else was around. So I think walking into the situation,

1062
00:56:58,120 --> 00:57:01,960
Speaker 1: I think for Claire, she already had maybe a pre

1063
00:57:03,080 --> 00:57:06,560
Speaker 1: judgment of what was to come, and then unfortunately for production,

1064
00:57:06,800 --> 00:57:11,759
Speaker 1: like the idea of surprise is gone. Well, I think

1065
00:57:11,840 --> 00:57:14,560
Speaker 1: she's gonna have these conversations with these guys though, Like

1066
00:57:14,920 --> 00:57:16,959
Speaker 1: the beauty of the show is you've never met the person,

1067
00:57:17,040 --> 00:57:19,240
Speaker 1: so you can sit and ask them all the whole

1068
00:57:19,280 --> 00:57:21,040
Speaker 1: things you would ask if someone you just met. But like,

1069
00:57:21,120 --> 00:57:23,240
Speaker 1: if she's gonna be like so I saw the tribute

1070
00:57:23,320 --> 00:57:26,880
Speaker 1: check in twenty seventeen to gree Oh, you know she's

1071
00:57:26,880 --> 00:57:28,680
Speaker 1: going to call it out. You know she's gonna be

1072
00:57:28,760 --> 00:57:32,200
Speaker 1: asking those questions. I alway think I feel like she's

1073
00:57:32,200 --> 00:57:34,200
Speaker 1: going to make a lot of cuts early on. Like

1074
00:57:35,280 --> 00:57:37,320
Speaker 1: if I was hurt and I knew enough, I would

1075
00:57:37,560 --> 00:57:39,760
Speaker 1: I would be like, Okay, these are like I only

1076
00:57:39,840 --> 00:57:42,120
Speaker 1: want half the guys to continue moving forward with me,

1077
00:57:42,320 --> 00:57:45,520
Speaker 1: and that's where I want to invest my time. It'll

1078
00:57:45,520 --> 00:57:49,320
Speaker 1: be imagine she's sitting on all of those roads ceremonies, like, hey,

1079
00:57:50,280 --> 00:57:52,640
Speaker 1: I was taking a look down your Instagram and remember

1080
00:57:52,680 --> 00:57:54,920
Speaker 1: on July seventeenth when you had your shirt off and

1081
00:57:55,000 --> 00:58:00,320
Speaker 1: that girl was licking your belly up singh was Amy?

1082
00:58:00,560 --> 00:58:04,920
Speaker 1: Who is Amy? That would be? I think that's what's

1083
00:58:04,960 --> 00:58:07,200
Speaker 1: so great about this too, and we I don't know

1084
00:58:07,200 --> 00:58:09,680
Speaker 1: if we talked about this off camera or on Becca.

1085
00:58:09,800 --> 00:58:12,560
Speaker 1: But also the fact that these guys know they're not

1086
00:58:12,720 --> 00:58:16,760
Speaker 1: going to be the bachelor coming in. They think about

1087
00:58:16,800 --> 00:58:20,240
Speaker 1: that and they won't be traveling. So it's like the

1088
00:58:20,360 --> 00:58:22,560
Speaker 1: reason why I think people go on the show, like

1089
00:58:23,360 --> 00:58:26,280
Speaker 1: hopefully it's to find lover or a partnership, but I

1090
00:58:26,320 --> 00:58:27,920
Speaker 1: think people go on they're like, oh, you know, we

1091
00:58:28,040 --> 00:58:31,080
Speaker 1: still going to travel and build friendships and the fact

1092
00:58:31,120 --> 00:58:33,840
Speaker 1: that like they can't do half of what we had

1093
00:58:33,880 --> 00:58:37,120
Speaker 1: the opportunity to do. Um. I mean, Deanna, I think

1094
00:58:37,160 --> 00:58:39,720
Speaker 1: you said it. Who one of your girls said it,

1095
00:58:40,080 --> 00:58:42,200
Speaker 1: like it's kind of going back to the core and

1096
00:58:42,280 --> 00:58:44,560
Speaker 1: like back to the basics. Now you're taking away all

1097
00:58:44,600 --> 00:58:48,440
Speaker 1: of that extra like who ha, like glitz and glam

1098
00:58:48,560 --> 00:58:50,760
Speaker 1: and it's really like date just down to the dates

1099
00:58:50,800 --> 00:58:53,560
Speaker 1: and getting to know the other person and actually like

1100
00:58:53,720 --> 00:58:56,880
Speaker 1: travel a lot on your season. I don't I cannot

1101
00:58:56,960 --> 00:58:59,280
Speaker 1: tell you how many times Trista and I text each

1102
00:58:59,280 --> 00:59:01,320
Speaker 1: other and we are so jealous of all of you

1103
00:59:01,440 --> 00:59:05,480
Speaker 1: guys because we don't really either our dream vacations. And

1104
00:59:05,640 --> 00:59:10,200
Speaker 1: I went to like the Bahamas and I was so covered.

1105
00:59:10,240 --> 00:59:12,080
Speaker 1: I'm not saying the Bahamas is not beautiful, but like

1106
00:59:12,400 --> 00:59:18,320
Speaker 1: in comparison to like Tokyo and Greece, and as like

1107
00:59:18,480 --> 00:59:21,960
Speaker 1: what the heck? Like I was so covered in bug

1108
00:59:22,040 --> 00:59:24,400
Speaker 1: bites in the Bahamas that they would no longer let

1109
00:59:24,480 --> 00:59:27,000
Speaker 1: me wear shorts or skirts. They made me wear pants.

1110
00:59:27,440 --> 00:59:29,840
Speaker 1: I was I was like unpresentable. I look like I

1111
00:59:29,960 --> 00:59:35,480
Speaker 1: had scabies or something. I'll go ahead, Becca, No, I

1112
00:59:35,560 --> 00:59:38,640
Speaker 1: was gonna say so you know, well, before you join us,

1113
00:59:38,640 --> 00:59:41,240
Speaker 1: we talked a little bit about Diana's children. Obviously you

1114
00:59:41,440 --> 00:59:44,360
Speaker 1: have some beautiful children, and you both have daughters. So

1115
00:59:45,000 --> 00:59:47,960
Speaker 1: would you want to come of age? Let let the

1116
00:59:48,080 --> 00:59:51,080
Speaker 1: daughters go on the show. I mean, if this show

1117
00:59:51,200 --> 00:59:54,880
Speaker 1: is still around when Riley is of age, like, there's

1118
00:59:54,880 --> 01:00:03,160
Speaker 1: a bigger problem. We don't apo. Oh my gosh, you

1119
01:00:03,240 --> 01:00:05,640
Speaker 1: know what I'm I cannot even go there because right

1120
01:00:05,680 --> 01:00:08,880
Speaker 1: now I'm dealing with the fact that Addison knew that

1121
01:00:09,360 --> 01:00:11,480
Speaker 1: my season, well, she knew, like I was going to

1122
01:00:11,520 --> 01:00:13,880
Speaker 1: be on TV again, you know, and she wanted to

1123
01:00:13,960 --> 01:00:16,400
Speaker 1: watch and she saw a couple of photos that were

1124
01:00:16,480 --> 01:00:17,920
Speaker 1: in my phone of what someone sent to me, and

1125
01:00:17,960 --> 01:00:19,720
Speaker 1: it was like one picture of me kissing Brad. She

1126
01:00:19,920 --> 01:00:22,600
Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, Molly, I didn't know. I'm

1127
01:00:22,600 --> 01:00:26,280
Speaker 1: forgetting this. Jason season is on Netflix. Yeah, and the

1128
01:00:26,360 --> 01:00:27,880
Speaker 1: kids were watching something on the TV and I just

1129
01:00:27,960 --> 01:00:30,680
Speaker 1: popped it up to see what showed. Because I'll never

1130
01:00:30,760 --> 01:00:32,720
Speaker 1: live down the fact that everyone thinks I went back

1131
01:00:32,800 --> 01:00:35,760
Speaker 1: on that final listing Jason back and I'm like, that's

1132
01:00:35,840 --> 01:00:38,080
Speaker 1: not what happened. Like I realized that's the way it played,

1133
01:00:38,120 --> 01:00:39,880
Speaker 1: but I just went back to give Jason advice. Like

1134
01:00:40,320 --> 01:00:42,480
Speaker 1: Jason and I had been talking the whole way through filming,

1135
01:00:42,600 --> 01:00:44,680
Speaker 1: so I knew it was like Allie, I knew all

1136
01:00:44,680 --> 01:00:48,240
Speaker 1: about Melissa, like I knew everything. And so I was

1137
01:00:48,360 --> 01:00:51,640
Speaker 1: watching that and Addison was like, who's that man? That's

1138
01:00:51,920 --> 01:00:57,000
Speaker 1: not my daddy. So, yeah, it's so hard to explain

1139
01:00:57,440 --> 01:00:59,880
Speaker 1: six and a half year old. We've got Tie who

1140
01:01:00,120 --> 01:01:03,640
Speaker 1: was fifteen, and so he's the closest of all Bachelor

1141
01:01:03,760 --> 01:01:06,400
Speaker 1: kids that could potentially be on the show. Yeah, and

1142
01:01:07,320 --> 01:01:09,760
Speaker 1: when it popped up on Netflix, like we had never

1143
01:01:09,920 --> 01:01:12,280
Speaker 1: let him watch it before because this is weird. So

1144
01:01:12,600 --> 01:01:15,240
Speaker 1: he found it on Netflix and he's like, I'm gonna

1145
01:01:15,280 --> 01:01:18,000
Speaker 1: start watching this, and I like that week was the

1146
01:01:18,080 --> 01:01:21,280
Speaker 1: most mortified week of my life. Yeah. Every time I

1147
01:01:21,400 --> 01:01:23,480
Speaker 1: like popped in the room to like check on him

1148
01:01:23,520 --> 01:01:25,800
Speaker 1: and I like saw myself, I would run right out.

1149
01:01:25,960 --> 01:01:28,080
Speaker 1: But like he has said before, like I could totally

1150
01:01:28,160 --> 01:01:30,560
Speaker 1: go on this show, and he's I mean, he's the

1151
01:01:30,600 --> 01:01:32,840
Speaker 1: show could potentially still be on when he's of age.

1152
01:01:32,920 --> 01:01:38,360
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, the first kid from a Bachelor kid you

1153
01:01:38,400 --> 01:01:44,880
Speaker 1: shouldn't have set you It's like a draft recruiting him

1154
01:01:45,320 --> 01:01:48,200
Speaker 1: for several years down the road. Yeah right, Hopefully he

1155
01:01:48,240 --> 01:01:51,000
Speaker 1: doesn't listen to this podcast. Molly, I want to ask

1156
01:01:51,080 --> 01:01:53,920
Speaker 1: you this, what was your greatest thing to come from

1157
01:01:53,960 --> 01:01:56,040
Speaker 1: being on the show, and then what was also the worst.

1158
01:01:56,080 --> 01:01:58,120
Speaker 1: I'm sure it's you know, we can all maybe guess,

1159
01:01:58,160 --> 01:02:00,760
Speaker 1: but I want to hear it from you. I Mean,

1160
01:02:00,880 --> 01:02:04,320
Speaker 1: the obvious is like finding Jason and marrying him, having

1161
01:02:04,360 --> 01:02:07,320
Speaker 1: our family, but that's just too obvious that goes without saying.

1162
01:02:07,440 --> 01:02:12,400
Speaker 1: I think it changed my perspective on life. Like before

1163
01:02:12,440 --> 01:02:14,480
Speaker 1: I went on the show, I was a workhorse, like

1164
01:02:14,560 --> 01:02:16,640
Speaker 1: I did corporate retail. I was like, this is what

1165
01:02:16,680 --> 01:02:17,920
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do for the rest of my life. I'm

1166
01:02:17,960 --> 01:02:20,480
Speaker 1: gonna work at a desk nine to five. I was

1167
01:02:20,520 --> 01:02:22,960
Speaker 1: just like laser focused on it. And the show opens

1168
01:02:23,000 --> 01:02:25,680
Speaker 1: your eyes to so much more in life, with like

1169
01:02:26,120 --> 01:02:29,800
Speaker 1: the opportunities that come your way. I ended up getting

1170
01:02:29,840 --> 01:02:33,040
Speaker 1: a job in radio from being on the show and

1171
01:02:33,200 --> 01:02:35,160
Speaker 1: have done that the past six years, and that never

1172
01:02:35,280 --> 01:02:37,160
Speaker 1: would have happened had I not gone on the show.

1173
01:02:37,320 --> 01:02:39,600
Speaker 1: So I think I just it gave me like a

1174
01:02:39,680 --> 01:02:42,520
Speaker 1: new lease on life, almost like there's more to sitting

1175
01:02:42,600 --> 01:02:45,560
Speaker 1: behind a desk. And I also have this big platform

1176
01:02:45,640 --> 01:02:48,520
Speaker 1: where I can do good and promote good things and

1177
01:02:48,680 --> 01:02:52,600
Speaker 1: just I don't know, it just gives you a different

1178
01:02:52,680 --> 01:02:55,440
Speaker 1: life and I'm super grateful for it. I Mean, the

1179
01:02:55,520 --> 01:02:58,360
Speaker 1: hardest thing was all the backlash that we got from

1180
01:02:58,520 --> 01:03:01,800
Speaker 1: our finale, but that was also short lived, like time

1181
01:03:01,880 --> 01:03:04,160
Speaker 1: does you know all woves and like I haven't with

1182
01:03:04,320 --> 01:03:06,240
Speaker 1: our season being back on that bloos, I haven't had

1183
01:03:06,720 --> 01:03:09,880
Speaker 1: one single negative comments on social media about it. So

1184
01:03:10,000 --> 01:03:12,880
Speaker 1: it's like I don't have anything bad to say, Like

1185
01:03:12,960 --> 01:03:14,480
Speaker 1: we went through a bad time, but I think that

1186
01:03:14,600 --> 01:03:17,880
Speaker 1: brought Jason to me closer together and so I'm grateful

1187
01:03:17,920 --> 01:03:21,080
Speaker 1: for it all. It's so true if you can withstand

1188
01:03:21,200 --> 01:03:25,240
Speaker 1: it together, because everybody has a hard time, especially these

1189
01:03:25,320 --> 01:03:29,640
Speaker 1: days with social media. Coming out of your finale, you

1190
01:03:29,760 --> 01:03:32,960
Speaker 1: think you're so happy to finally announce to the world

1191
01:03:33,040 --> 01:03:35,040
Speaker 1: that you found this person that you're so in love

1192
01:03:35,120 --> 01:03:39,000
Speaker 1: with and it worked, and then social media is like

1193
01:03:39,880 --> 01:03:42,600
Speaker 1: we think in a different way, and it's so hard,

1194
01:03:42,680 --> 01:03:44,400
Speaker 1: and then you have to do media rounds and I'm

1195
01:03:44,400 --> 01:03:46,360
Speaker 1: not sure Molly if you did that, because do the

1196
01:03:46,400 --> 01:03:50,480
Speaker 1: media rounds after and everyone's criticizing you and the questions

1197
01:03:50,520 --> 01:03:53,080
Speaker 1: and they're asking you questions about what didn't happen rather

1198
01:03:53,320 --> 01:03:56,360
Speaker 1: than what did happen. And it's tough, but in that moment,

1199
01:03:56,480 --> 01:03:59,960
Speaker 1: you realize, if we can face this and overcome it together,

1200
01:04:00,600 --> 01:04:04,360
Speaker 1: you can overcome anything. Because the world is criticizing you,

1201
01:04:04,480 --> 01:04:07,160
Speaker 1: and so it's really really powerful to come out on

1202
01:04:07,280 --> 01:04:09,200
Speaker 1: the other side of it. One thing I want to

1203
01:04:09,240 --> 01:04:10,880
Speaker 1: say before we let you guys go, is like we've

1204
01:04:10,920 --> 01:04:12,640
Speaker 1: talked about it over and over and it's such a

1205
01:04:12,760 --> 01:04:17,320
Speaker 1: theme for our podcast, but we love to have strong women, independent,

1206
01:04:17,480 --> 01:04:21,000
Speaker 1: influential women on the show, which is exactly who you

1207
01:04:21,080 --> 01:04:27,400
Speaker 1: guys are, which is why you're here. Surely that Becca

1208
01:04:27,600 --> 01:04:31,640
Speaker 1: and I look up to and we hope that contestants

1209
01:04:31,720 --> 01:04:36,120
Speaker 1: to come on the show the next Bachelorette, just women

1210
01:04:36,200 --> 01:04:38,360
Speaker 1: in general who are fans of the show that may

1211
01:04:38,440 --> 01:04:40,640
Speaker 1: never come on it and you shouldn't but may never

1212
01:04:40,800 --> 01:04:43,440
Speaker 1: come on the show can look up to you. What

1213
01:04:43,720 --> 01:04:47,480
Speaker 1: is vice do you have for clear coming up and

1214
01:04:47,640 --> 01:04:50,479
Speaker 1: just for women in general who are trying to find

1215
01:04:50,640 --> 01:04:53,240
Speaker 1: their prince charming or maybe who might be in a

1216
01:04:53,280 --> 01:04:55,720
Speaker 1: bad situation or just feel a little hopeless when it

1217
01:04:55,760 --> 01:05:02,800
Speaker 1: comes to love. I love you. I think I've said

1218
01:05:02,840 --> 01:05:07,240
Speaker 1: this to Claire Got a time or two. For sure.

1219
01:05:08,560 --> 01:05:12,040
Speaker 1: My advice for Claire was to just, I mean, for sure,

1220
01:05:12,160 --> 01:05:14,800
Speaker 1: take it all in, but ultimately to stay true to

1221
01:05:14,920 --> 01:05:18,080
Speaker 1: who you are. It is so easy throughout this process

1222
01:05:18,160 --> 01:05:20,600
Speaker 1: to get caught up, and I think the four of

1223
01:05:20,720 --> 01:05:23,040
Speaker 1: us can all say the same thing. It is so

1224
01:05:23,280 --> 01:05:26,960
Speaker 1: easy to just blend into the noise around you, and

1225
01:05:27,480 --> 01:05:30,320
Speaker 1: I mean producers, I mean, everyone's opinion on social media,

1226
01:05:31,200 --> 01:05:33,520
Speaker 1: everything that is going to go into this. But if

1227
01:05:33,600 --> 01:05:36,200
Speaker 1: you really, at the end of the day, can come

1228
01:05:36,280 --> 01:05:39,920
Speaker 1: into your own and sit alone and really put yourself

1229
01:05:40,480 --> 01:05:42,880
Speaker 1: back to who you are and where you came from

1230
01:05:42,920 --> 01:05:44,680
Speaker 1: and what it is that you want, I think that

1231
01:05:44,760 --> 01:05:46,880
Speaker 1: that is the most important thing to do throughout this

1232
01:05:47,080 --> 01:05:50,200
Speaker 1: because I mean, it is really hard to be on

1233
01:05:50,280 --> 01:05:52,280
Speaker 1: a date to have the people around you who you

1234
01:05:52,400 --> 01:05:54,960
Speaker 1: think are your friends saying, oh, don't you love him?

1235
01:05:55,000 --> 01:05:56,720
Speaker 1: He says he loves you. Don't can't you picture your

1236
01:05:56,760 --> 01:05:58,600
Speaker 1: life together? This is gonna be so great? Oh my god,

1237
01:05:58,640 --> 01:06:00,560
Speaker 1: Oh my god. It's really hard to get caught up

1238
01:06:00,600 --> 01:06:04,280
Speaker 1: into that. So if you can really, really really stay

1239
01:06:04,360 --> 01:06:05,880
Speaker 1: true to who you are and what it is that

1240
01:06:05,960 --> 01:06:09,959
Speaker 1: you want out of this, and I think that's so important. Yeah,

1241
01:06:10,040 --> 01:06:12,200
Speaker 1: I think, I mean it goes hand in hand, like

1242
01:06:12,320 --> 01:06:14,520
Speaker 1: exactly what I would say. And I tell this to

1243
01:06:14,600 --> 01:06:17,280
Speaker 1: everybody who asks, like what have you learned? What's the

1244
01:06:17,320 --> 01:06:19,160
Speaker 1: biggest piece of advice you would give people? And it's

1245
01:06:19,200 --> 01:06:21,560
Speaker 1: to not care what other people think? Like if I

1246
01:06:21,760 --> 01:06:24,480
Speaker 1: would have listened to what everyone around me was saying

1247
01:06:24,520 --> 01:06:27,000
Speaker 1: after our show, I wouldn't stay with Jason, and we've

1248
01:06:27,000 --> 01:06:30,040
Speaker 1: been married for ten years. You know, like you've got

1249
01:06:30,160 --> 01:06:34,000
Speaker 1: to just do you, and it's no fun to live

1250
01:06:34,120 --> 01:06:36,439
Speaker 1: life the way other people want you to live your life.

1251
01:06:36,680 --> 01:06:38,760
Speaker 1: You know, like you can't be authentic to yourself, then

1252
01:06:38,840 --> 01:06:41,520
Speaker 1: you've got to just not care what other people think

1253
01:06:41,640 --> 01:06:44,720
Speaker 1: and like walk out the noise. It's so true, because

1254
01:06:44,760 --> 01:06:47,040
Speaker 1: don't you feel we do it so often? I don't

1255
01:06:47,080 --> 01:06:49,720
Speaker 1: know if it's just like innately within us. But then

1256
01:06:50,320 --> 01:06:52,840
Speaker 1: and I have this epiphany when I turned thirty that

1257
01:06:52,960 --> 01:06:54,960
Speaker 1: it was like whose life am I living? You know,

1258
01:06:55,120 --> 01:06:57,160
Speaker 1: I'm saying yes to so many people and letting so

1259
01:06:57,240 --> 01:06:59,720
Speaker 1: many other opinions control my life, But what do I want?

1260
01:06:59,760 --> 01:07:01,640
Speaker 1: I'm one who's got to live this life, and I

1261
01:07:01,720 --> 01:07:03,720
Speaker 1: think that that's it's easy to say, but it's so

1262
01:07:04,040 --> 01:07:07,760
Speaker 1: hard to do. So thank you guys, for you, right,

1263
01:07:07,840 --> 01:07:09,760
Speaker 1: you want to please all of those people around you,

1264
01:07:09,960 --> 01:07:13,520
Speaker 1: You want to make everyone happy, but ultimately the only

1265
01:07:13,640 --> 01:07:16,640
Speaker 1: person that matters in this is you is you know,

1266
01:07:17,720 --> 01:07:21,000
Speaker 1: oh well said yeah? And I think that's such good advice,

1267
01:07:21,160 --> 01:07:23,720
Speaker 1: especially in this day and age when there's social media,

1268
01:07:23,800 --> 01:07:29,240
Speaker 1: when we literally have opinions flooding inboxes and it's just

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Speaker 1: there's no truly no getting away from it unless you

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Speaker 1: like totally go off the grid. That that's something that

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Speaker 1: you know. And even for me, I'm I just hearned

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Speaker 1: thirty this year, and that's something that you know. I'm

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Speaker 1: always like, oh, I know what I want left, like,

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Speaker 1: I know what I stand for, and I'm like, especially

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Speaker 1: with I'm like, oh my, what do I, as Becca

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Speaker 1: Coofer and want? And I think that's such great advice

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Speaker 1: forever girl listening, Like you know, just take time and

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01:07:53,840 --> 01:07:55,400
Speaker 1: sit in your own thoughts in your heart and like

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01:07:55,440 --> 01:07:57,760
Speaker 1: what's going to fill you and make you And for

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01:07:57,920 --> 01:08:01,360
Speaker 1: people you specifically like that, girls, girls who have been

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01:08:01,400 --> 01:08:03,440
Speaker 1: on the show, girls who are thinking about going on

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Speaker 1: the show. I think the most important thing people need

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01:08:05,360 --> 01:08:09,040
Speaker 1: to remember this goes away. Yeah, it goes away. You

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01:08:09,160 --> 01:08:11,480
Speaker 1: are not going to be so and so from the

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01:08:11,560 --> 01:08:15,240
Speaker 1: Bachelor for forever. You cannot rely on that and live

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01:08:15,280 --> 01:08:17,719
Speaker 1: your life for that because it is going to go away,

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Speaker 1: and then what are you left with? Yeah, exactly. I

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Speaker 1: think it's like, I know, come on, please and being

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01:08:26,320 --> 01:08:29,040
Speaker 1: known as the girl who chose Jesse Sinsak on a

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Speaker 1: red I'm gonna say to you, Becca, like, bring on

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Speaker 1: your thirties and name sure Mollie can agree with me.

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Speaker 1: I genuinely loved my thirties and even more so, I'll

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01:08:39,680 --> 01:08:41,800
Speaker 1: be thirty nine in a couple of months, and I

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01:08:42,080 --> 01:08:46,120
Speaker 1: feel more myself and more secure as a woman, as

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Speaker 1: a wife, as a parent, just as an individual, like

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Speaker 1: more so than I ever was. I know who I

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Speaker 1: am and there is so much good in that. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: And that's something that I think Lair even said when

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Speaker 1: we had her on the podcast, and I think we're

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Speaker 1: gonna love watching her so much. And she's like, you know,

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Speaker 1: I'm almost forty, Like I've I know what I want.

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Speaker 1: I've been through a ton of really crappy relationships, hopefully

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Speaker 1: some good ones too, But she's that woman where she's

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Speaker 1: at that place where she's like, I'm not going to settle.

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Speaker 1: I know what I want I'm going to make this happen,

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Speaker 1: and that's that's what it's going to be. Just I

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Speaker 1: feel viewers need on a new upcoming season. So yeah,

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Speaker 1: for sure, ladies, thank you so much for participating today.

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Speaker 1: It's like, I don't know, it's like a therapy session,

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Speaker 1: a good girl power Holly and Diana, you're saying before

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01:09:37,720 --> 01:09:40,800
Speaker 1: you came on, there's this women empowering women movement going

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Speaker 1: on social media, women supporting women, and we feel like

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Speaker 1: that's what this podcast has been as well. We just

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Speaker 1: kind of stole that and turned it into this. Plus

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Speaker 1: I think your insight and what you've been through through

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Speaker 1: the season and just an example of what you've been

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Speaker 1: outside of the Bachelor franchise, it's really what our listeners

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01:09:56,439 --> 01:09:59,439
Speaker 1: need to see and here. So thank you so much

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01:09:59,640 --> 01:10:05,360
Speaker 1: for being yes, and what a pleasure. How lucky are

1320
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Speaker 1: we that we just always get to connect with so

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Speaker 1: many amazing women. It's so good and then it's still

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Speaker 1: kind of bad. I was listening to something I said,

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Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, but you shouldn't want to come on

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Speaker 1: the show. Actually, I like you should come from this exactly. Yes,

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Speaker 1: it's not fake, it's real, you see it. It just

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01:10:21,600 --> 01:10:24,960
Speaker 1: transcends your seasons. Whoever you were, you know, you might

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Speaker 1: have lived in the house with It just goes beyond that.

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Speaker 1: And I can't say everybody coming from the show is

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Speaker 1: like that, but a good number of women are, you know,

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Speaker 1: And it's just a beautiful part that you don't always

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Speaker 1: get to see on this show. I mean, even Peter season,

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Speaker 1: the girls who couldn't stand each other, or at least

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Speaker 1: that's what they would show on camera, they all not

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Speaker 1: all of them, but they're pretty cordial to each other

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Speaker 1: off camera. Yeah, it looks like they're close. And even

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Speaker 1: like with Peter's season, you know, for a lot of

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Speaker 1: the time, I was like, I'm a grandma and I

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Speaker 1: can't relate. Like I talked to them on DMS every

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Speaker 1: now and again, and I'm like, you know, what I

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Speaker 1: saw on TV doesn't seem like you. And so it's

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Speaker 1: it's a beautiful thing that hopefully we'll have the opportunity

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Speaker 1: to meet more in person one day and just continue this.

1343
01:11:07,680 --> 01:11:09,800
Speaker 1: It's like a tree and the roots that just keep

1344
01:11:09,840 --> 01:11:13,080
Speaker 1: on growing in a special family in the best way.

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Speaker 1: I love. Oh, I love that I saw the tree

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Speaker 1: when you set it A saw the tree ension. I

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Speaker 1: love that okay, you guys, We hope you enjoyed this

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Speaker 1: episode as much as we did. Make sure you come

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Speaker 1: back next week for more because you know we're going

1350
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Speaker 1: to give you good content every single week. Next week,

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Speaker 1: we're going to take a second stab at choosing a name,

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Speaker 1: So if you guys to have some more suggestions, please

1353
01:11:33,360 --> 01:11:37,000
Speaker 1: please DM because we need one. We clearly need help.

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Speaker 1: We didn't do a good job the first time. We

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01:11:38,720 --> 01:11:41,320
Speaker 1: don't want to disappoint anybody, but we want you guys

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Speaker 1: to feel included and we want to be able to

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Speaker 1: have some type of name and community. So thank you

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Speaker 1: guys for tuning in. Don't forget you can keep checking

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Speaker 1: in with us on social We love hearing from you

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Speaker 1: and we love getting all your messages. You know where

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01:11:53,640 --> 01:11:56,880
Speaker 1: to find us if you don't, it's it's at Bachelor

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Speaker 1: Facebook and Twitter. And as always, don't forget to subscribe

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Speaker 1: to our podcast. Take care of guys,