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Speaker 1: Bugle up and hold on tight. We got it for

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Speaker 1: you here. It is Strawberry Letter. Subjects he won't let

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Speaker 1: me fight her. Dear Stephen Shirley, I've been dating an

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Speaker 1: amazing guy for two years and I feel like I

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Speaker 1: have finally found my future husband. He is great with

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Speaker 1: my kids, and my family loves him. I couldn't have

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Speaker 1: asked for a better man to enter my life. But

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Speaker 1: there's just one problem. It's his ex girlfriend that won't

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Speaker 1: go away. He was honest about a crazy X that

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Speaker 1: he had had a bad breakup with, and he's been

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Speaker 1: trying to end all of the communication with her, but

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Speaker 1: she seems to be slow and does not understand when

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Speaker 1: he says to leave me alone to leave him alone.

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Speaker 1: She has made these past two years a living hell

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Speaker 1: for me and my man. She follows us around and

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Speaker 1: drives by his house and mine. Whenever we talk about

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Speaker 1: this situation, the conversation goes left and he defends her,

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Speaker 1: and it makes me angry. Most of our arguments are

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Speaker 1: over her, and I feel like I'm fighting harder than

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Speaker 1: he is. In my younger days, I had a way

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Speaker 1: of handling females like this because I was as ignorant

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Speaker 1: acting as she is now. But now that I'm older, wiser,

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Speaker 1: and a professional, I'll handle her differently. She deserves a

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Speaker 1: good butt whipping, but I'm not going to do anything

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Speaker 1: until she comes in my face or I catch her

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Speaker 1: outside my house. Then she's going to get smacked, no

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Speaker 1: doubt about it. I told him what my intentions are,

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Speaker 1: and he keeps asking me not to fight her. I

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Speaker 1: want to scare her, beat her at her own game,

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Speaker 1: and make the foolishness stop. I told him the next time,

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Speaker 1: the next step will be for me to leave him

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Speaker 1: because I'm sick of her. I love this man and

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Speaker 1: want to proceed further, but she's a never ending nuisance.

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Speaker 1: How do I get him to see that she's a

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Speaker 1: hindrance to our relationship. I don't want to hurt her,

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Speaker 1: just scare her away. How do I handle this? Okay,

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Speaker 1: he already knows she's a nuisance. He knows that you

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Speaker 1: all are together when she's stocking you, she drives by

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Speaker 1: the house. He already knows because you said that at

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Speaker 1: the beginning of your letter. He told you he was

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Speaker 1: honest about his crazy X. What I'm more concerned about

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Speaker 1: is that he's defending her when you guys argue about this.

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Speaker 1: He's defending his crazy X. Why is he doing that?

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Speaker 1: She's a nutcase, right, He's been doing this for two

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Speaker 1: years and he's still defending her. I mean, doesn't that

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Speaker 1: sound crazy to you? Well, because it does sound crazy

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Speaker 1: to me. He keeps asking you not to fight her,

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Speaker 1: and I agree with him that about that, because she's

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Speaker 1: not worth it. But why isn't he getting a restraining

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Speaker 1: order or something on her? I mean, she's stalking you, guys?

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Speaker 1: Why is he letting you do everything you said in

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Speaker 1: your letter? You're working harder than he is, and this

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Speaker 1: shouldn't even be your fight. He should handle it. He

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Speaker 1: should handle it. Or is the reason he's so nonchalant

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Speaker 1: and not handling it and defending her. Is he still

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Speaker 1: dealing with her? Mm? Surely that has crossed your mind

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Speaker 1: a time or two. Well, I think you're way more

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Speaker 1: upset about it. You're way more angry about it, and

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Speaker 1: you're way more ready to take matters into your own hands.

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Speaker 1: And you shouldn't have to do that. He's not acting

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Speaker 1: like a future husband to me. You think this is

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Speaker 1: such a great guy. Not to me. You know, we

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Speaker 1: marry for love, of course, but also marry for security.

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Speaker 1: It's very important that you know you feel protected by

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Speaker 1: your man. He's not doing that, and here you are

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Speaker 1: having to deal with his crazy X because he's doing nothing.

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Speaker 1: You've threatened to leave him because you're sick of her.

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Speaker 1: This may, you know, be a deal breaker. It should

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Speaker 1: be a deal breaker, because who knows. You know, we've

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Speaker 1: heard of stalkers and the craziness that can happen. So

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Speaker 1: I would just say, you know, be aware and leaving

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Speaker 1: him is not a bad idea if he continues to

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Speaker 1: do nothing. Jay, Okay, let me just tell you something

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Speaker 1: because you don't know, you don't know, cousin viting, you know,

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Speaker 1: all this stuff don't work on a crazy person. It

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Speaker 1: just don't work. None of these things work on a

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Speaker 1: crazy person. What y'all need to do is mine because

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Speaker 1: he has seen her get beat up before by another girl,

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Speaker 1: his last girlfriend, so he knows ass swhooping is not

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Speaker 1: gonna take. Y'all need to move far, far away from

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Speaker 1: her wherever you can go to get away from her

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Speaker 1: because the ass whooping, the talking, the taunts, none of

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Speaker 1: that is gonna work. She but ain't crazy, and you

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Speaker 1: need to move away from her. He knows. That's why

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Speaker 1: he's telling you not to fight her. It ain't gonna work.

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Speaker 1: He doesn't he know. He he doesn't see her get

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Speaker 1: her asso by his last girlfriend, and he hears back

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Speaker 1: with the same problem. That's why, not only that she

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Speaker 1: might whoop your ass because she crazy. So you need

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Speaker 1: to leave us alone, leave it alone, move away and

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Speaker 1: call her today. That's the best you can do because

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Speaker 1: she crazy crazy. But I'm moving out of my house though,

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Speaker 1: all right, come on, hey, I'm just telling yeah, I'm

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Speaker 1: no seriously shirty. I'm with Jake. Listen, he he know

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Speaker 1: exactly what level oh crazy, she asked, You don't see

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Speaker 1: he know what level? He said. That's why he begged

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Speaker 1: you not to fight hook. It ain't the losses he know.

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Speaker 1: She see, you can't really fight crazy or restraining order, Shirlett,

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Speaker 1: don't do nothing for crazy people. They ignore restraining orders

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Speaker 1: that make them come back over the way. You ask

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Speaker 1: you for the fire. Yeah, see once they filed, you filed,

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Speaker 1: they showed back up. So you just hearing, no, Shirley,

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Speaker 1: She not used the people popping out of bushes. She

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Speaker 1: not used to walking out the dope people are hanging

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Speaker 1: on the roof. He's not used to road from one

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Speaker 1: of your car. You're not using none of these dots,

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Speaker 1: this stuff crazy people do. She ain't never seen somebody

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Speaker 1: over right. Hold up, Well, we'll come back with part

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Speaker 1: two of your response, and here from the nephew as well.

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Speaker 1: At twenty three minutes after the hour, uh, Today's Strawberry Letters,

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Speaker 1: subject he won't let me fight her. We'll get back

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Speaker 1: into it right after this. You're listening, all right, We're

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Speaker 1: gonna recap today's Strawberry Letters, subject he won't let me

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Speaker 1: fight fight her. A young lady wrote in She's been dating,

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Speaker 1: she says, an amazing guy for two years. She feels

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Speaker 1: like she's finally found her future husband. He's great with

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Speaker 1: the kids, the family loves him. She couldn't ask for

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Speaker 1: a better man to enter her life. But the problem

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Speaker 1: is her future husband's X. All right, crazy X. She's

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Speaker 1: stalking them, following them all around, showing up at their house.

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Speaker 1: You know he's done nothing. You get an arguments about it.

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Speaker 1: He defends her. You say, in your younger days you

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Speaker 1: would have beat her down, but you don't do that anymore.

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Speaker 1: You're you're thinking that she's you know, you want her

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Speaker 1: to come up to the house or something like that,

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Speaker 1: or show up and then you'll fight her. He doesn't

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Speaker 1: want you to fight her. You've told him the next

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Speaker 1: step for you would be to leave him because you're

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Speaker 1: sick of her. You love him. You want to proceed further,

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Speaker 1: but you know you can't because it'll be a threesome

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Speaker 1: because she's never she's always around us. You don't want

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Speaker 1: to hurt your scare How do you handle this? That? That?

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Speaker 1: That is the recap of the letter, the crux of

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Speaker 1: what's going on, Junior, Finish your response. Please just gonna

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Speaker 1: hear from the nephew. After year, nobody is ready for

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Speaker 1: his love. Gread you She do stuff that crazy people

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Speaker 1: do like you ain't ready for somebody to hurt their

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Speaker 1: own self. See if you can't hurt nobody, who will

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Speaker 1: ram their own head up against the garage though? That's

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Speaker 1: how crazy she is. She is not afraid of y'all. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know you ain't ready for people to say what

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Speaker 1: you're gonna do when you hear that You ain't even

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Speaker 1: had the fight yet. That's crazy. So how did you

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Speaker 1: gonna handle her? Lead this woman alone, y'all to try

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Speaker 1: to pretend like she don't even exist, because she gonna

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Speaker 1: be around, She's gonna be there. You ain't ready for her.

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Speaker 1: Tell you ain't ready for the cree Ya ready for

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Speaker 1: a woman you haven't see how strong wanna pick up

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Speaker 1: a man cover come out of man cover hole by herself?

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Speaker 1: You ain't ready for that type of You ain't ready

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Speaker 1: for her to jump off the roof on your ass.

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Speaker 1: You ain't ready on that. You ain't he got ready?

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Speaker 1: Me again, you got ready for that in the fight? Man?

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Speaker 1: You that would tell you get ready for you can't.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what to do with that, all right?

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Speaker 1: I said, leave him, Jay said, move away. Je said

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Speaker 1: he agrees with Jay, move away because she really is crazy?

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Speaker 1: What do you say Tommy, I gotta go a different direction.

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Speaker 1: Y'all beat his ass. If he don't let you beat hers,

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Speaker 1: you in me his ass like the time you see

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Speaker 1: her and trying to get this as soon as he

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Speaker 1: don't let you beat his ass right there by the

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Speaker 1: back when she passed a boy the house? How dozens

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Speaker 1: of eggs outside and wear that car when she passed by? Yes,

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Speaker 1: and if he don't throw no eggs with you, beat

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Speaker 1: that ass. Beat his ass again. Now here's what I

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Speaker 1: want you to do when she following. Yet, when she following,

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Speaker 1: y'all let up follow. Then turn down a dirt road.

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Speaker 1: Take it by five miles. Now we're in a dead end.

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Speaker 1: Now get out the car and beat that ass. That's

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Speaker 1: because that's all you're trying to do. You're trying to

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Speaker 1: get her by herself. All right. You don't want to

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Speaker 1: be scared to go down the dirt road. Cool, hit

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Speaker 1: your brakes, real heart, get whip last. Now you can

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Speaker 1: sue her behind you see what I'm saying. Mail hussle

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Speaker 1: boxing gloves with a note that says, see you soon.

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Speaker 1: See you all this though, you got to get loved.

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Speaker 1: She loved this man, Shirley. If you want to have

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Speaker 1: this man, You got to go with it. Sometimes you

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Speaker 1: got the match crazy. It's you have to match it sometimes.

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Speaker 1: All right, Okay, y'all watch the help. You watch the help.

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Speaker 1: Make her one of them many pine real, make her

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Speaker 1: one of them pine and leave that on the doorstep

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Speaker 1: and let her know. I just want a truce. I

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Speaker 1: want us to try to get along. Let her eat

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Speaker 1: a couple of slices of that, you see the one

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Speaker 1: where I'm going. These are things you got to match

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Speaker 1: crazy with crazy. I disagree with my fellas today. I

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Speaker 1: know y'all think that she I think she can be

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Speaker 1: I know, Tommy, she ain't gonna win this fight because

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Speaker 1: the crazy person didn't write us. I see, I see

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Speaker 1: you need help. Crazy ain't ass for nothing. Crazies could

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Speaker 1: with her crazy. They you the one wrote us asking

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Speaker 1: what should you do? We talked, We talked in the

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Speaker 1: world the other thing. Once you whoop his ass, she

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Speaker 1: gonna be really be mad at you, for that's the

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Speaker 1: man she loved. Whip his ass and see what happened

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Speaker 1: to you? See what happened? See what happened? Do you? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you got to match I'm sorry. There are other men

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