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Speaker 1: The Nicky Glazer Podcast. Nicky, here's Nicky. Hello here, I

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Speaker 1: am a nick Laser podcast. Welcome to the show. I'm

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Speaker 1: Nicky Glazer. It is Monday. It is actually Friday where

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Speaker 1: we are. We are pre recording this. So if something

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Speaker 1: big happens over the weekend and we don't comment on it,

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Speaker 1: it's because we don't care about anything except ourselves and

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Speaker 1: we didn't know about it. Because but I feel like

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Speaker 1: something big is coming. Yeah, like I mean, we are

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Speaker 1: brink of nuclear war, I hope. So maybe I'll knock

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Speaker 1: out some New York competition. I could be a number

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Speaker 1: one comedian if everyone dies on the coast. Chris told

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Speaker 1: me last night on Your On Your Marina's here as

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Speaker 1: well as Andrew and Noah. Of course, Noah's and and

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Speaker 1: Anya are business remotely. And Andrew I wish was remote. Look,

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Speaker 1: first of all, I took a poop purpose Andrew comes

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Speaker 1: up to my apartment nine floors up. You have nine bathrooms.

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Speaker 1: I have three, But it's regardless. He comes up literally

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Speaker 1: seven minutes before we begin the podcast, and every single

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Speaker 1: time he goes and he poops, it's almost every time

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Speaker 1: there is I hear multiple flushes. So that's when I

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Speaker 1: know it's a poop. No, it's just I got so

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Speaker 1: much piss. There is way more fiss than you think.

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Speaker 1: I'm glad that bowl is like contains multitudes because when yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's like a poem, um, but it's a yeah. He

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Speaker 1: came up today and I go, are you going to poop?

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Speaker 1: He had just gotten here. I'm like, you couldn't if

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Speaker 1: I know I'm going to some third location. I just

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Speaker 1: try to. But I get where you go to places

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Speaker 1: and suddenly you just have to poop. You didn't know

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Speaker 1: it before that, I did not know it. I had

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Speaker 1: a burrito from Trader Joe's and I had a coffee.

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Speaker 1: Performing gives you nerv a lot before you perform. So

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Speaker 1: I think this is a performance of sorts, and so

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Speaker 1: it's kind of gets that going because you have the

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Speaker 1: same it's the same energy before show. I think it is.

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Speaker 1: It's died down a lot, especially, I mean, we do

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Speaker 1: this so much. I mean, but yeah, No, I've been

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Speaker 1: known to ship before shows. Some I knew people that

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Speaker 1: throw up before show. Josh Allen, he's a quarterback for

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Speaker 1: the Bills, throws up before and he's like, it's not interrextsy.

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Speaker 1: It's just getting ready for the game. Yeah yeah right, Um,

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Speaker 1: let me and Nikki tell you all about Andreia that

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Speaker 1: not interacts you. Okay, that is way different. One more

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Speaker 1: theory about Andrew's um spat is it could be a

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Speaker 1: compliment to you, Nick, like I feel so relaxed around

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Speaker 1: you that it's not I love the spin, great spin,

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Speaker 1: but I know that andrews her our anxiety induced. He's

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Speaker 1: not in my heart. Yeah. I just saw him go

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Speaker 1: creep back in the bathroom, like his little bathroom, and

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Speaker 1: I go, what do you It was always like when

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Speaker 1: Marian goes back there, and I was like, what are

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Speaker 1: you going to do? It's always to poop. It's like dogs.

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Speaker 1: And Andrew never go back into a back bathroom to

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Speaker 1: do anything. Well, when I lived here, you had a

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Speaker 1: rule that I couldn't shot in the middle bathroom because

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Speaker 1: it was like, you know, it just walks out into

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Speaker 1: the kitchen a lot more. That makes sense. So I

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Speaker 1: go to the back corner, like you know, I went

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Speaker 1: to the back corner. I didn't sit in the middle.

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Speaker 1: I know, but it's just it's just funny to me.

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Speaker 1: I get it, and I'm not I was laughing. But

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Speaker 1: I just was like, are you pooping? Because it is funny.

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Speaker 1: You literally were in your apartment four minutes ago, and

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Speaker 1: you could have done it there. You know what, I

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Speaker 1: didn't do it? Read I have a one bathroom. Luckily

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Speaker 1: I'm on the third floor, dres two shooters on there.

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Speaker 1: I should in the hallway when Brennan is getting ready

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Speaker 1: in the morning, I go, I go and shoot in

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Speaker 1: the hallway. It's a considerate what we're supposed to applaud

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Speaker 1: you for that, for not wanting to be in the

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Speaker 1: bathroom while she's doing her makeup and shipping. That seems

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Speaker 1: like it's serving you by going hallway into a public shitter.

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Speaker 1: When you in the hallway hallway hallway. Oh that's a

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Speaker 1: great shitter. Believe me, I've hit that one up before.

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Speaker 1: It's not that I don't mind. We are abnormal that

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Speaker 1: we can even poop in public. Some people cannot even

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Speaker 1: poop in public. Public pooper. I could see you waiting.

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Speaker 1: I mean, if you're a touring musician, you have to

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Speaker 1: so I've been. I've been P and P four decades.

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Speaker 1: Do you enjoy it, though? Do you enjoy a public poop?

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Speaker 1: I don't, Nicky was just talking about Borders books the

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Speaker 1: good bookstore bathroom poop is always welcome. Yeah, there's something

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Speaker 1: heard a trick that I want to share with everyone

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Speaker 1: that really did work for me. The other day. I

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Speaker 1: of like, oh, I know there's more, you know, out

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Speaker 1: there for me in the world. Yeah, in there, out there,

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Speaker 1: I know there's more in me to get out there.

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Speaker 1: And I heard this thing on the Always Sunny podcast. Um,

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Speaker 1: it was just a clip that played, but Glenna Howarton

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Speaker 1: was sharing that when he is having struggles getting out

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Speaker 1: things out, that he pictures a dog pooping and just

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Speaker 1: a dog like kind of shaking and looking over its shoulder,

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Speaker 1: and like if he pictures it, it can help aid

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Speaker 1: his own. And I did it the other day. And

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Speaker 1: it's funny because on the podcast they were like, what

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Speaker 1: a medium sized dog, And that really helped me because

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Speaker 1: I would be like what kind of dog and for

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Speaker 1: some reason, A I don't own a medium sized dog,

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Speaker 1: and I just picture it like looking at me and

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Speaker 1: shaking and pooping and it kind of helped. And also

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Speaker 1: another trick that really does work if you This is

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Speaker 1: one if like, I'm so sorry for the poop chat

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Speaker 1: at the top of the show, but um, we'll move

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Speaker 1: on to um yeah, we'll move on to period blood soon.

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Speaker 1: It's uh, if you have got one that's just on

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Speaker 1: the precipice. This isn't like I think I have warned me.

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Speaker 1: This is like you know you do, and it's just

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Speaker 1: not you're either exhausted. You sit up straight like a

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Speaker 1: you move back and forth. Um going to like that

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Speaker 1: works years ago, gently like eases it out and it

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Speaker 1: really frank of your own body. It's like or you

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Speaker 1: ever feel selemium husk from Whole Foods like Taylor the

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Speaker 1: other day. Um yeah, squatty potty, I mean that's kind

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Speaker 1: of like the work. Do you guys have squatty potties?

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Speaker 1: What I do but sometimes I'm even too lazy to

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Speaker 1: do it right there though, But just this, Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: just ut my feet right up on the seat. I

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Speaker 1: use that trash can that I've found that before. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: if you out there, people need to get squatty potties.

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Speaker 1: They're great, although, um is there something bad about The

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Speaker 1: only bad thing about it is i'd rather you know,

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Speaker 1: I was doing the Graham bensing Or show, which you

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Speaker 1: cord surgery thing and you can check it out. Um,

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Speaker 1: he was over here for um, you know, to interview me,

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Speaker 1: and we're friends, like we it's in the thing, but

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Speaker 1: we like went on a date before, Like I'm I

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Speaker 1: know this guy. He was over and I was getting

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Speaker 1: like that. I'm like, now, you know, like you're picturing

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Speaker 1: like there's just something for some reason. It's the same

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Speaker 1: as like buying toilet paper. Everyone knows what you're gonna

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Speaker 1: do with that, but you might. As a girl with

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Speaker 1: toilet paper, you can go, I'm just using it to

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Speaker 1: kind of see ship stains on it, or like piss

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Speaker 1: stains like some people squat it is a Yeah, it

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Speaker 1: looks nice, but it's everyone knows what it's for. My

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Speaker 1: toilet is what you say, My toilet is mahogany. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: padded seat, like after Grandma took it down, it's a

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Speaker 1: We've talked about this. Oh yeah, where you just threw

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Speaker 1: up your hands. Yeah, you just go like that, oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: I think it's too much. I don't get sick because

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Speaker 1: I'm constantly absorbing your own, my own astrums all the time.

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Speaker 1: Wash your hands. Yeah, I've started doing that since hearing

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Speaker 1: Nikki's theory on it. But are you guys like crazy

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Speaker 1: about hand sanitizer and washing our hands? Like, not at all.

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Speaker 1: I wish your theory was true though, about being sick,

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Speaker 1: because I have been exposed to so many germs and

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Speaker 1: so many illnesses and my loans. You're pretty clean person, honey,

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Speaker 1: like so many breakdown counters hand sanitizer. Do not use

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Speaker 1: hand sanitizer. How do you keep so clean? You're so clean?

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Speaker 1: I'm not, but I've had so many colds. It doesn't

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Speaker 1: it doesn't do anything for my immunity whatsoever. I never

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Speaker 1: did you just start getting sick more? No? My parents

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Speaker 1: when I was eight and I had strepped throat multiple times,

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Speaker 1: messed up my gut and lungs. Didn't your parents smoke? Nick? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: wonder if that's why we're so many to our moms

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00:21:50,520 --> 00:21:53,720
Speaker 1: and it's just us like giving them back what they

425
00:21:53,760 --> 00:21:58,120
Speaker 1: give us. Yeah, I think that could be. I will

426
00:21:58,160 --> 00:22:03,080
Speaker 1: say though, that my dad I I often want to

427
00:22:03,119 --> 00:22:05,440
Speaker 1: play mediator for their things. I don't know if anyone

428
00:22:05,480 --> 00:22:07,400
Speaker 1: relates to this, but you watch your parents get into

429
00:22:07,480 --> 00:22:12,200
Speaker 1: the same arguments they've been getting into for forty years

430
00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:14,439
Speaker 1: in front of you, like the same things. Like the

431
00:22:14,480 --> 00:22:18,320
Speaker 1: other night, my dad, I guess my mom cooked enchilada's

432
00:22:18,359 --> 00:22:20,720
Speaker 1: and my dad made some comment like, be nice if

433
00:22:20,720 --> 00:22:24,680
Speaker 1: we had ngelata sauce, because e J hand roasted tomatoes

434
00:22:24,720 --> 00:22:26,800
Speaker 1: to make this sauce. She worked all day on this meal.

435
00:22:27,200 --> 00:22:29,560
Speaker 1: And my dad's only comment was that it would be

436
00:22:29,640 --> 00:22:32,560
Speaker 1: nice with enchelata sauce. And it just that ticked me

437
00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:39,440
Speaker 1: off so much that she didn't have that sauce. My dad.

438
00:22:40,760 --> 00:22:43,120
Speaker 1: The sauce is right there, Yeah, it's right, he could

439
00:22:43,160 --> 00:22:45,760
Speaker 1: just it's from a candles. I'm sorry, And then my

440
00:22:45,840 --> 00:22:48,200
Speaker 1: dad's defense is always I'm sorry. I just like it was.

441
00:22:48,480 --> 00:22:50,040
Speaker 1: Am I supposed to lie and say I like it

442
00:22:50,080 --> 00:22:52,199
Speaker 1: when I don't. It's just like I think you can

443
00:22:52,280 --> 00:22:56,880
Speaker 1: find something about it that you like and maybe say

444
00:22:57,200 --> 00:22:59,359
Speaker 1: you know and next time, you know what, why don't

445
00:22:59,359 --> 00:23:01,280
Speaker 1: you go by a and eventelats so that you have

446
00:23:01,320 --> 00:23:03,800
Speaker 1: it next time? She makes enchiladas. And then my mom

447
00:23:03,840 --> 00:23:05,920
Speaker 1: goes right to, I'm never making a meal for you again.

448
00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:08,239
Speaker 1: That's it. I'm done. And I have been hearing that

449
00:23:08,280 --> 00:23:11,720
Speaker 1: threat for thirty five years, like an empty threat. A

450
00:23:11,720 --> 00:23:13,480
Speaker 1: little bit, it's never gonna and she goes, I'm serious

451
00:23:13,560 --> 00:23:16,399
Speaker 1: this time. I'm serious. I'm not. I'm not doing it anymore.

452
00:23:16,440 --> 00:23:19,680
Speaker 1: You're not doing and it is I get her point.

453
00:23:19,720 --> 00:23:21,239
Speaker 1: I want her to do that. I wanted to go,

454
00:23:21,880 --> 00:23:24,280
Speaker 1: I will not make you meals anymore. But but it's

455
00:23:24,280 --> 00:23:26,720
Speaker 1: an empty threat because I know she will. I would

456
00:23:26,760 --> 00:23:28,280
Speaker 1: love my mom to put down her foot because it

457
00:23:28,400 --> 00:23:31,720
Speaker 1: is rude. He never he's and then why can't you

458
00:23:31,720 --> 00:23:33,280
Speaker 1: say thank you? He goes, I did say thank you,

459
00:23:33,440 --> 00:23:35,560
Speaker 1: but and I go, thank you don't have a butt

460
00:23:35,840 --> 00:23:37,879
Speaker 1: and sorries don't have a butt, and I was like,

461
00:23:37,880 --> 00:23:41,199
Speaker 1: type like, sorries don't have a yeah, And I did

462
00:23:41,240 --> 00:23:43,880
Speaker 1: it from you, Dad, I didn't get it from you.

463
00:23:44,600 --> 00:23:49,679
Speaker 1: I didn't get what I wanted from you. And I

464
00:23:49,720 --> 00:23:52,399
Speaker 1: said thank you. I'm sorry, but I just like him

465
00:23:52,480 --> 00:23:55,959
Speaker 1: with I like, I've heard this my whole life. My

466
00:23:56,000 --> 00:23:58,000
Speaker 1: mom will go, you know what, fuck you, fuck this.

467
00:23:58,480 --> 00:24:00,520
Speaker 1: I made a goddamn soup you want. If you don't

468
00:24:00,520 --> 00:24:02,200
Speaker 1: like it, don't eat it. Make whatever you fucking want.

469
00:24:02,280 --> 00:24:03,919
Speaker 1: And then my dad will go like, I'm sorry, what

470
00:24:04,000 --> 00:24:05,359
Speaker 1: was I supposed to say? And she's like, what about

471
00:24:05,400 --> 00:24:07,600
Speaker 1: thank you? And he's like, but I like my soup warm,

472
00:24:07,760 --> 00:24:09,320
Speaker 1: I like it hot. It's not hot. What am I

473
00:24:09,359 --> 00:24:12,240
Speaker 1: supposed to lie? And so it's just like this, and

474
00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:15,720
Speaker 1: I just I'm like, what can't you both see the path?

475
00:24:15,920 --> 00:24:18,680
Speaker 1: Like it's so clear for me, It's like Dad is unappreciative.

476
00:24:18,800 --> 00:24:23,000
Speaker 1: So then mom goes into um being feeling sad about

477
00:24:23,040 --> 00:24:25,560
Speaker 1: not being appreciated, and then she lashes out with fuck you.

478
00:24:25,600 --> 00:24:27,879
Speaker 1: And then my dad is offended by her saying fuck you,

479
00:24:28,040 --> 00:24:30,399
Speaker 1: so he leans more into your crazy and then my

480
00:24:30,440 --> 00:24:32,919
Speaker 1: mom here's crazy, and then she goes into it's like

481
00:24:33,240 --> 00:24:36,000
Speaker 1: it's someone needs to break the cycle, and I just

482
00:24:36,000 --> 00:24:39,399
Speaker 1: don't like break. I don't know. Also like love each

483
00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:43,680
Speaker 1: they also enjoy each other's company more than anyone. And

484
00:24:44,280 --> 00:24:47,120
Speaker 1: it happened so much. They don't really call it a fight. Andrew,

485
00:24:47,160 --> 00:24:51,080
Speaker 1: how fucking dare you to fight? My whole life saying

486
00:24:51,160 --> 00:24:54,800
Speaker 1: stop fighting, stop fighting? And then it would all go

487
00:24:54,920 --> 00:24:57,359
Speaker 1: to me and go, we are not fighting. You say

488
00:24:57,359 --> 00:24:59,119
Speaker 1: that all the time. And I said it with my

489
00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:01,320
Speaker 1: voice the other night of if you guys would please

490
00:25:01,359 --> 00:25:03,560
Speaker 1: stop getting into this same fight over the last and

491
00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:06,200
Speaker 1: they were like you and you calling this a fight,

492
00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:09,239
Speaker 1: and I'm like, and they always go, it's it was

493
00:25:09,280 --> 00:25:12,440
Speaker 1: my first joke I ever wrote was probably in fourth grade.

494
00:25:12,440 --> 00:25:15,639
Speaker 1: I remember they said it's because it always happened. We

495
00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:20,040
Speaker 1: would go, yeah, well that I guess that was third grade,

496
00:25:20,040 --> 00:25:26,399
Speaker 1: but fourth grade sitting on this banister is great. Fourth grade.

497
00:25:26,720 --> 00:25:31,600
Speaker 1: My first joke I remember was my parents like I

498
00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:34,400
Speaker 1: just remember them going, it's not a fight, it's a discussion,

499
00:25:34,840 --> 00:25:38,040
Speaker 1: and I'm like, well, when we have a discussion about

500
00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:41,200
Speaker 1: the book A Tree Grows in Brooklyn, Um, my teacher

501
00:25:41,240 --> 00:25:43,359
Speaker 1: doesn't throw a chair across the room. And say fuck

502
00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:45,399
Speaker 1: you guys and then run out of the room. So

503
00:25:45,520 --> 00:25:48,359
Speaker 1: that like I was comparing it to the discussions like

504
00:25:48,359 --> 00:25:51,160
Speaker 1: a book discussion, like you know, like, oh, we're discussing this.

505
00:25:51,520 --> 00:25:54,480
Speaker 1: It's not like fuck you and slamming a door. That

506
00:25:54,600 --> 00:25:56,800
Speaker 1: to me is a fight. It's like and I feel

507
00:25:56,880 --> 00:25:59,760
Speaker 1: gas lit as a child. If your kids think you're fighting,

508
00:26:00,240 --> 00:26:02,280
Speaker 1: you're fighting because guess what, it's not up to you

509
00:26:02,320 --> 00:26:05,880
Speaker 1: to determine what a fight is. He feels like if

510
00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:08,080
Speaker 1: there's a fight going on, there means their feelings are

511
00:26:08,080 --> 00:26:11,040
Speaker 1: being invalidated by you saying no, we're just having a discussion.

512
00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:13,560
Speaker 1: I love my parents so much, but I just want

513
00:26:13,560 --> 00:26:15,960
Speaker 1: to say, Mom, if you're listening and going, everyone's gonna

514
00:26:16,000 --> 00:26:19,399
Speaker 1: think we are just the worst people. Every family is

515
00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:23,760
Speaker 1: like this. You're not alone. My dad and mom for

516
00:26:24,240 --> 00:26:29,120
Speaker 1: five years fought. It was beyond fighting, it was of

517
00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:31,760
Speaker 1: it was. It was bad like I would go to

518
00:26:31,840 --> 00:26:35,960
Speaker 1: my room because I really was. I would like kill

519
00:26:36,000 --> 00:26:39,240
Speaker 1: things in there. That's what the that's what made him

520
00:26:39,280 --> 00:26:41,439
Speaker 1: a murderer. You looked out. I know, I got in

521
00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:44,000
Speaker 1: the stand up like they tried it so much more.

522
00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:47,600
Speaker 1: Famous just killed a few people. That's I just want

523
00:26:47,600 --> 00:26:49,560
Speaker 1: to say the whole Damer show. He's just like, I'm

524
00:26:49,600 --> 00:26:52,040
Speaker 1: a failure, no one's ever I'm not going to amount

525
00:26:52,080 --> 00:26:54,879
Speaker 1: to anything. I'm never going to be anything. And I'm like, Jeff,

526
00:26:54,880 --> 00:26:56,680
Speaker 1: you have no idea how much entertainment you were going

527
00:26:56,720 --> 00:27:00,520
Speaker 1: to bring to millions of people in forty years. He's

528
00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:03,000
Speaker 1: like the Van Gogh of murderers. Like the most popular

529
00:27:03,040 --> 00:27:05,560
Speaker 1: Netflix show that has ever been Just stay Alive, Jeff,

530
00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:07,880
Speaker 1: You'll see it. He wanted to stay alive. He got

531
00:27:07,880 --> 00:27:10,280
Speaker 1: beaten to death by a guy in prison when they

532
00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:13,800
Speaker 1: were cleaning toilets and there was a discussion. They were

533
00:27:13,800 --> 00:27:19,000
Speaker 1: having a discussion, but my dad would yell like it

534
00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:23,200
Speaker 1: was beyond yelling, like the loudest fighting you could ever see.

535
00:27:23,200 --> 00:27:24,960
Speaker 1: You have neighbors or where you would like so rich

536
00:27:25,040 --> 00:27:28,280
Speaker 1: that you had like we were. My dad just got

537
00:27:28,359 --> 00:27:30,120
Speaker 1: rich enough so he could yell at my mom and peace.

538
00:27:33,320 --> 00:27:37,000
Speaker 1: So my dad, I just remember hearing and I go,

539
00:27:37,080 --> 00:27:40,440
Speaker 1: why are you yelling? I'm not yelling, And then finally

540
00:27:41,080 --> 00:27:43,879
Speaker 1: I raised my voice to him and it was like

541
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:46,119
Speaker 1: later in life too, it is way past a divorce

542
00:27:46,160 --> 00:27:48,960
Speaker 1: and everything he goes, whoa, whoa, what are you yelling?

543
00:27:49,440 --> 00:27:52,159
Speaker 1: And I'm like, this is what you've sounded like the

544
00:27:52,320 --> 00:27:55,320
Speaker 1: whole life. And I've never once gotten up to here.

545
00:27:55,760 --> 00:27:58,239
Speaker 1: I've never once yelled like this, Oh my god in

546
00:27:58,280 --> 00:28:02,160
Speaker 1: my life. I mean sometimes I can through It's. Yeah,

547
00:28:02,200 --> 00:28:05,119
Speaker 1: I wonder like I'm not a person who gets really

548
00:28:05,240 --> 00:28:09,919
Speaker 1: upset if someone interprets what I'm doing differently than what

549
00:28:10,000 --> 00:28:12,760
Speaker 1: I think i'm doing, because I trust that, Like I mean,

550
00:28:12,800 --> 00:28:14,640
Speaker 1: I'm not saying I'm perfect in that way of like

551
00:28:15,080 --> 00:28:16,760
Speaker 1: I think we've gotten into things where you're like your

552
00:28:16,760 --> 00:28:21,080
Speaker 1: tone and I'm like, what tone? But I do even

553
00:28:21,119 --> 00:28:24,920
Speaker 1: when i'm saying what tone, I'm aware that there's something

554
00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:27,199
Speaker 1: going on and regardless of if I know about it,

555
00:28:27,320 --> 00:28:29,480
Speaker 1: you're interpreting in that way and your feelings are valid.

556
00:28:29,560 --> 00:28:34,520
Speaker 1: So there needs to be something addressed about sure, but

557
00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:37,320
Speaker 1: we're all bringing so but it doesn't matter. Like I

558
00:28:37,359 --> 00:28:40,160
Speaker 1: feel like sometimes in a relationship I was in once,

559
00:28:40,400 --> 00:28:44,880
Speaker 1: like I would say you're um, you're mad at me,

560
00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:49,040
Speaker 1: and he was just like I can't like you, and

561
00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:51,520
Speaker 1: you got angry and he's like, I cannot stand you

562
00:28:51,600 --> 00:28:54,480
Speaker 1: saying and I was angry or mad, I was bummed out,

563
00:28:54,800 --> 00:28:56,800
Speaker 1: I was disappointed, But do not say it was mad

564
00:28:56,880 --> 00:28:59,400
Speaker 1: or angry, and I'm like, what is the difference? But

565
00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:01,640
Speaker 1: that was the big guessed that was a big hang

566
00:29:01,720 --> 00:29:05,479
Speaker 1: up for us, was like defining what his anger was.

567
00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:08,400
Speaker 1: And to him, anger was like looked like something different

568
00:29:08,400 --> 00:29:10,479
Speaker 1: and when I said it, it made him feel do

569
00:29:10,480 --> 00:29:14,520
Speaker 1: you relate to that? On your being misunderstood? Men don't

570
00:29:14,560 --> 00:29:17,000
Speaker 1: want to be perceived as angry because it's like right,

571
00:29:17,120 --> 00:29:21,840
Speaker 1: not feeling too abusive, So they're like, I'm not mad. See,

572
00:29:21,880 --> 00:29:28,760
Speaker 1: I just know. I've had this conversation to like, someone

573
00:29:28,920 --> 00:29:33,080
Speaker 1: i'm talking to is incredibly stressed out freaked out about

574
00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:36,000
Speaker 1: the future. And then I'll say, like, I'm listening to

575
00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:38,719
Speaker 1: you and it sounds like you're very distressed, and I

576
00:29:38,760 --> 00:29:41,320
Speaker 1: get that, and it's a guy and he's like, I'm

577
00:29:41,320 --> 00:29:45,080
Speaker 1: not distressed. I'm freaking out. I'm frustrated the future is

578
00:29:45,320 --> 00:29:47,520
Speaker 1: nigh and it's going to be hell. And I'm like,

579
00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:50,160
Speaker 1: you're distressed. What is so wrong with saying distressed? I

580
00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:54,280
Speaker 1: guess it sounds like a certain fatality wens or your

581
00:29:54,320 --> 00:29:58,360
Speaker 1: weakness or like also, anger means you're you're out of control,

582
00:29:58,680 --> 00:30:00,959
Speaker 1: and men don't like to be out of control. But

583
00:30:01,000 --> 00:30:03,200
Speaker 1: I think you want to drive, you want to steer,

584
00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:08,000
Speaker 1: and like maybe that's it. Well, I think I feel like, yeah,

585
00:30:08,120 --> 00:30:11,960
Speaker 1: look I'll call my I'll call my dad. Um, I'll

586
00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:19,120
Speaker 1: keep it short, shorter, tiny boy. So as a man,

587
00:30:19,240 --> 00:30:24,920
Speaker 1: what never mind? No, Like, if you could tell someone

588
00:30:24,960 --> 00:30:28,520
Speaker 1: that they're angry, there it's so hard to defend that

589
00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:33,240
Speaker 1: without sounding angry. So then you just you feel defenseless

590
00:30:33,320 --> 00:30:35,240
Speaker 1: at that moment in a way. And I think that's

591
00:30:35,240 --> 00:30:38,560
Speaker 1: why certain guys like that is why if you're like, oh,

592
00:30:38,600 --> 00:30:40,200
Speaker 1: you're you're just why are you in a bad mood?

593
00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:42,120
Speaker 1: Why are you angry? And it's like I'm not in

594
00:30:42,120 --> 00:30:44,080
Speaker 1: a bad mood. And then you're like, well, I think

595
00:30:44,080 --> 00:30:46,000
Speaker 1: you're in a bad mood, and then it's gonna there's

596
00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:47,680
Speaker 1: no way to defend that. And I think it like

597
00:30:47,760 --> 00:30:50,080
Speaker 1: backs up into a corner and then you don't want

598
00:30:50,120 --> 00:30:52,920
Speaker 1: to be nice because you're already told that you're shitty.

599
00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:54,840
Speaker 1: Does that make sense? I the other night had a

600
00:30:54,920 --> 00:30:57,080
Speaker 1: very like I want you. I think it's exactly what

601
00:30:57,080 --> 00:30:59,520
Speaker 1: you're saying. The other night I felt like Chris was

602
00:30:59,560 --> 00:31:02,280
Speaker 1: annoyed at I thought I just wasn't getting me tension

603
00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:05,640
Speaker 1: and affection, and like I felt like Chris was upset

604
00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:09,520
Speaker 1: with me, and but I had no The only evidence

605
00:31:09,560 --> 00:31:13,720
Speaker 1: I had was the humidity in the area, and like

606
00:31:13,840 --> 00:31:15,960
Speaker 1: you know, when you're with someone long enough, you know,

607
00:31:16,800 --> 00:31:18,560
Speaker 1: and and he's really great in the sense that he

608
00:31:18,640 --> 00:31:21,040
Speaker 1: will admit like he won't be like no, there was

609
00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:24,120
Speaker 1: nothing wrong, like he'll be like yeah, like the way

610
00:31:24,120 --> 00:31:26,600
Speaker 1: my eyelashes were, like I can just sense, like I

611
00:31:26,600 --> 00:31:28,640
Speaker 1: couldn't even close my eyes and sense if he's mad

612
00:31:28,640 --> 00:31:30,680
Speaker 1: at me. There's just like a heat from his body

613
00:31:30,720 --> 00:31:32,520
Speaker 1: that comes off. It's very subtle, but I just can

614
00:31:32,840 --> 00:31:35,720
Speaker 1: sense it. And I was like, there's something off. And

615
00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:38,040
Speaker 1: we were at a concert and I just said to him,

616
00:31:38,080 --> 00:31:41,040
Speaker 1: I go, are you annoyed with me? Because I just

617
00:31:41,040 --> 00:31:43,200
Speaker 1: felt like I was just like annoying him. When it

618
00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:45,400
Speaker 1: turns out he felt bad that he brought me to

619
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:47,440
Speaker 1: this concert that I wasn't having a good time at

620
00:31:47,440 --> 00:31:49,280
Speaker 1: because I was on my headphones even though I just

621
00:31:49,680 --> 00:31:51,600
Speaker 1: I'm a lot, and I was like, I thought about

622
00:31:51,600 --> 00:31:53,080
Speaker 1: not going on my headphones, but then I was like,

623
00:31:53,920 --> 00:31:55,560
Speaker 1: you were. He was on his phone trying to work

624
00:31:55,560 --> 00:31:57,360
Speaker 1: out Cardinals tickets games, and so I was like I

625
00:31:57,360 --> 00:31:58,960
Speaker 1: couldn't talk to him because he was on this like

626
00:31:59,520 --> 00:32:02,480
Speaker 1: this live conversation. I didn't want to listen to Reverend

627
00:32:02,480 --> 00:32:04,560
Speaker 1: horton heat. It wasn't my jam. And so I put

628
00:32:04,560 --> 00:32:06,800
Speaker 1: in my headphones. And I remember being like, should I

629
00:32:06,840 --> 00:32:08,840
Speaker 1: not put in my headphones so he doesn't think I'm

630
00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:11,040
Speaker 1: like tapping out? But I was like, but if we

631
00:32:11,040 --> 00:32:12,920
Speaker 1: were doing good right now and I felt comfortable, would

632
00:32:12,880 --> 00:32:15,480
Speaker 1: put in my headphones. I'm not gonna do anything to

633
00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:19,240
Speaker 1: be I just want to be myself. So I put

634
00:32:19,240 --> 00:32:22,080
Speaker 1: in my headphones. And then so I said, are you

635
00:32:22,080 --> 00:32:25,160
Speaker 1: annoyed at me? And he goes no, and then that

636
00:32:25,240 --> 00:32:27,200
Speaker 1: was the end of it. And so my point was

637
00:32:27,280 --> 00:32:29,520
Speaker 1: if you're not annoyed with someone, you go no, what

638
00:32:29,560 --> 00:32:31,640
Speaker 1: do you mean? Why did you think that? And then

639
00:32:31,960 --> 00:32:34,400
Speaker 1: like if I asked you, like did you murder that

640
00:32:34,600 --> 00:32:40,120
Speaker 1: girl fourth floor, you know, the one that happened yesterday,

641
00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:42,440
Speaker 1: you would go, oh my god, No, I didn't. Why

642
00:32:42,440 --> 00:32:44,640
Speaker 1: would you even think that of me? But if you

643
00:32:44,640 --> 00:32:47,400
Speaker 1: didn't murder and you wanted to, you just go no,

644
00:32:48,200 --> 00:32:50,200
Speaker 1: you know, Like it's when I got caught shoplets, and

645
00:32:50,280 --> 00:32:53,760
Speaker 1: I was like, I did it, But if I wouldn't have,

646
00:32:53,800 --> 00:32:55,600
Speaker 1: I would be like relaxed and be like, no, oh

647
00:32:55,600 --> 00:32:58,720
Speaker 1: my god, sorry. The beaver would often it's like he

648
00:32:58,760 --> 00:33:00,320
Speaker 1: was annoyed at me, and I knew it, but he

649
00:33:00,360 --> 00:33:03,600
Speaker 1: didn't want to talk about it's loud so cut to

650
00:33:04,000 --> 00:33:06,040
Speaker 1: you know. We got through it. The tension broke because

651
00:33:06,080 --> 00:33:07,760
Speaker 1: we ended up having fun with the Toady's and it

652
00:33:07,800 --> 00:33:10,360
Speaker 1: was just like something happened where the energy stopped. But

653
00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:12,440
Speaker 1: I couldn't get over the fact that, like, there was

654
00:33:12,480 --> 00:33:15,400
Speaker 1: this weird thing and he didn't he didn't do what

655
00:33:15,440 --> 00:33:17,320
Speaker 1: I wanted him to do in that moment, which is like, babe,

656
00:33:17,360 --> 00:33:19,280
Speaker 1: why do you think I'm annoyed? And like hold my hand?

657
00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:21,080
Speaker 1: And so last night I brought it up to him,

658
00:33:21,080 --> 00:33:24,320
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I realized it was not the best

659
00:33:24,320 --> 00:33:27,520
Speaker 1: way to approach that I should have said, I'm sensing

660
00:33:27,560 --> 00:33:29,640
Speaker 1: like you're annoyed with me, which is probably not the case?

661
00:33:29,760 --> 00:33:32,400
Speaker 1: Is that true? As opposed to like, I just don't

662
00:33:32,400 --> 00:33:34,560
Speaker 1: know how because when you're when you do get accused up,

663
00:33:34,560 --> 00:33:36,480
Speaker 1: are you annoyed at me? That makes someone annoyed at you?

664
00:33:36,560 --> 00:33:38,800
Speaker 1: If there's there's one way, now, I am you know,

665
00:33:38,920 --> 00:33:42,680
Speaker 1: like how do you But you had a really good

666
00:33:42,680 --> 00:33:44,520
Speaker 1: one on you You saw a therapist recently and they

667
00:33:44,560 --> 00:33:47,360
Speaker 1: had a great little line that I loved that I wanted. Yeah,

668
00:33:47,400 --> 00:33:50,560
Speaker 1: that's when you're in a conflict and they told me,

669
00:33:51,080 --> 00:33:54,080
Speaker 1: you say, like, I know, so before I started, I

670
00:33:54,120 --> 00:33:56,080
Speaker 1: just want you to know I'm not trying to and

671
00:33:56,120 --> 00:33:58,480
Speaker 1: then fill in the blank with whatever their triggers are.

672
00:33:58,560 --> 00:34:01,800
Speaker 1: So if you're triggered by someone abandoning you or whatever,

673
00:34:02,320 --> 00:34:04,200
Speaker 1: so hey, I just want you to know I'm not

674
00:34:04,240 --> 00:34:07,200
Speaker 1: saying this to make you feel abandoned or anything or

675
00:34:07,240 --> 00:34:11,160
Speaker 1: criticized whatever. And then do you believe that? You ask

676
00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:13,840
Speaker 1: do you believe that? And if they say yes, and

677
00:34:13,920 --> 00:34:18,400
Speaker 1: you're like, okay, having said that, I'm feeling like I

678
00:34:18,440 --> 00:34:20,600
Speaker 1: really want to abandon that. Do you want to believe that?

679
00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:23,200
Speaker 1: You know? Because people always go I'm not racist, but

680
00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:25,200
Speaker 1: and it's like, if they were to ask I'm not racist,

681
00:34:25,320 --> 00:34:28,160
Speaker 1: do you believe that? Before I continue the sentence, they

682
00:34:28,160 --> 00:34:29,840
Speaker 1: wouldn't get through the rest of the sentence because no

683
00:34:29,840 --> 00:34:32,200
Speaker 1: one believes you because a lot of times you preempt

684
00:34:32,320 --> 00:34:35,560
Speaker 1: something with the opposite of what you actually are doing,

685
00:34:35,719 --> 00:34:38,359
Speaker 1: and the person knows that, and you don't give them

686
00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:41,080
Speaker 1: the leeway. You're giving yourself the lee way to like,

687
00:34:41,160 --> 00:34:43,520
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to be like a bitch here, but

688
00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:46,279
Speaker 1: like you need to. And it's like, well, what if

689
00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:47,640
Speaker 1: you checked in right up, I'm not trying to be

690
00:34:47,680 --> 00:34:50,600
Speaker 1: a bit Do you believe that just because you give

691
00:34:50,640 --> 00:34:54,239
Speaker 1: the preemptive like the disclaimer, that doesn't mean you're not

692
00:34:54,320 --> 00:34:57,040
Speaker 1: an asshole? Like plenty of assholes are like, hey, I

693
00:34:57,040 --> 00:34:58,640
Speaker 1: don't mean to be an asshole, but here comes a

694
00:34:58,640 --> 00:35:01,920
Speaker 1: real asshole thing, be doing a wrong example, it's kind

695
00:35:01,920 --> 00:35:08,719
Speaker 1: of like, hey, I don't want to spot I'm not

696
00:35:08,840 --> 00:35:10,480
Speaker 1: judging you. I want you to know that. Do you

697
00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:14,920
Speaker 1: believe me? Okay? Having said that, you're like rolling your

698
00:35:14,960 --> 00:35:17,319
Speaker 1: eyes or what I perceived was you rolling your eyes

699
00:35:17,360 --> 00:35:20,439
Speaker 1: just at me right now made me feel really bad

700
00:35:20,480 --> 00:35:22,839
Speaker 1: and rejected. And I don't know what to do with

701
00:35:22,880 --> 00:35:26,000
Speaker 1: these feelings. What do you think about that? You know?

702
00:35:26,040 --> 00:35:28,000
Speaker 1: What's hard with with stuff like that? I feel like

703
00:35:28,640 --> 00:35:32,719
Speaker 1: sometimes it's like if if if you're going, hey, are

704
00:35:32,719 --> 00:35:35,000
Speaker 1: you annoyed with me? Right? Like, let's say, and then

705
00:35:35,040 --> 00:35:38,480
Speaker 1: he goes uh. I feel like if he goes no,

706
00:35:38,560 --> 00:35:40,959
Speaker 1: I'm not like you. Sometimes I feel like you can't

707
00:35:41,000 --> 00:35:43,239
Speaker 1: win in a situation because then if you go no,

708
00:35:43,320 --> 00:35:45,520
Speaker 1: I'm not annoying at all. It's like, yeah, you are annoying,

709
00:35:45,600 --> 00:35:48,280
Speaker 1: or like like you can't I agree. Sometimes I feel

710
00:35:48,280 --> 00:35:50,680
Speaker 1: like when you know I've been you know, I'll be

711
00:35:50,719 --> 00:35:53,040
Speaker 1: asked by Brennan, I'll be like, you know, um, are

712
00:35:53,040 --> 00:35:55,160
Speaker 1: we good right now? I'm like, yeah, of course we're good.

713
00:35:55,480 --> 00:35:59,120
Speaker 1: Like but it's like if I go over the top,

714
00:35:59,200 --> 00:36:01,120
Speaker 1: then I'm almost like I'm only doing it because you're

715
00:36:01,120 --> 00:36:03,480
Speaker 1: asking me, and it's not authentic, you know what I mean.

716
00:36:03,520 --> 00:36:06,520
Speaker 1: So sometimes I feel like, well, stuck in like a decision,

717
00:36:06,640 --> 00:36:08,640
Speaker 1: Like I think that she would want you to go

718
00:36:08,640 --> 00:36:11,080
Speaker 1: over the top because she needs reassurance. So whether or

719
00:36:11,080 --> 00:36:15,640
Speaker 1: not you because you don't like giving people things that

720
00:36:16,200 --> 00:36:18,239
Speaker 1: they you think that you're already giving them that they

721
00:36:18,239 --> 00:36:21,040
Speaker 1: don't think. Yes, yeah, you're like, well that's it. She's

722
00:36:21,040 --> 00:36:23,520
Speaker 1: accusing you of something that you aren't doing. But the

723
00:36:23,560 --> 00:36:25,719
Speaker 1: sake of the thing is it's the fighting thing again,

724
00:36:25,719 --> 00:36:27,759
Speaker 1: it's the yelling thing again. It doesn't matter what you

725
00:36:28,040 --> 00:36:30,680
Speaker 1: are think you're doing. She's perceiving in a different way

726
00:36:30,680 --> 00:36:33,759
Speaker 1: and you have to honor that. I have trouble doing that,

727
00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:36,759
Speaker 1: and I get really frustrated with myself. I told Chris

728
00:36:36,840 --> 00:36:38,520
Speaker 1: last night, I was like when I'm saying, are you

729
00:36:38,560 --> 00:36:40,520
Speaker 1: annoyed at me? That's my way of being like, will

730
00:36:40,560 --> 00:36:43,200
Speaker 1: you hold my hand and just let me know that? Okay?

731
00:36:44,080 --> 00:36:45,759
Speaker 1: And that's why he goes, you could help me too

732
00:36:45,840 --> 00:36:48,799
Speaker 1: by holding my hand. I'm like, but I'm so scared too,

733
00:36:48,880 --> 00:36:50,799
Speaker 1: what if you don't hold it back or something? And

734
00:36:50,800 --> 00:36:53,279
Speaker 1: he's like, did I ever do that? I'm like, I

735
00:36:53,280 --> 00:36:55,439
Speaker 1: don't think so. I'm just like scared of these make

736
00:36:55,560 --> 00:36:58,160
Speaker 1: believe rejections. And I go. But if I ever do

737
00:36:58,239 --> 00:37:01,360
Speaker 1: hold your hand and you reject it, I am leaving.

738
00:37:01,640 --> 00:37:03,239
Speaker 1: It doesn't mean we're over, but I will get an

739
00:37:03,320 --> 00:37:05,520
Speaker 1: uber home and I will I will leave immediately and

740
00:37:05,560 --> 00:37:10,759
Speaker 1: just know that. And he's like, okay, okay, fucking I

741
00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:14,520
Speaker 1: would believe that. I don't even care if they talk.

742
00:37:15,000 --> 00:37:18,000
Speaker 1: That's such a good communication. They can't read your mind.

743
00:37:18,320 --> 00:37:22,240
Speaker 1: I love Pat Alan's tip in her book about dealing

744
00:37:22,320 --> 00:37:25,680
Speaker 1: with um men because she says, been appealed, you want

745
00:37:25,680 --> 00:37:28,400
Speaker 1: to appeal to their logic. So what you do is

746
00:37:28,440 --> 00:37:30,680
Speaker 1: you think of what are what are the signals that

747
00:37:30,719 --> 00:37:34,160
Speaker 1: are giving you this impression that they're mad at you? So, okay,

748
00:37:34,160 --> 00:37:36,920
Speaker 1: his arms are crossed, he's not speaking to me. He's

749
00:37:36,960 --> 00:37:39,600
Speaker 1: huffing and puffing. And then what you do with in

750
00:37:39,719 --> 00:37:42,960
Speaker 1: order to not escalate as you sort of lay out

751
00:37:42,960 --> 00:37:46,520
Speaker 1: the evidence like, hey, um, I'm noticing by your body

752
00:37:46,600 --> 00:37:51,320
Speaker 1: language it appears that you seem upset. And then you say,

753
00:37:51,800 --> 00:37:55,279
Speaker 1: let me know if let me know when you're let

754
00:37:55,280 --> 00:37:57,880
Speaker 1: me know when you're available to believe about that? Yeah,

755
00:37:58,239 --> 00:38:01,160
Speaker 1: or like or you can say are you or and

756
00:38:01,239 --> 00:38:02,880
Speaker 1: if you are, do you want to talk about it?

757
00:38:02,960 --> 00:38:08,120
Speaker 1: And then let them make a time. But I know

758
00:38:08,239 --> 00:38:10,319
Speaker 1: what you have a lot to say about this. I'm

759
00:38:10,320 --> 00:38:13,920
Speaker 1: sure you're very good at this stuff. Any sweeping thoughts

760
00:38:13,960 --> 00:38:19,000
Speaker 1: before we move on, Well, okay, I think in a relationship,

761
00:38:19,040 --> 00:38:21,480
Speaker 1: from what I'm starting to notice, even in my own,

762
00:38:22,080 --> 00:38:26,799
Speaker 1: there's a person who likes to address whatever the situation is,

763
00:38:26,840 --> 00:38:29,520
Speaker 1: like right there in the moment and just like really

764
00:38:29,719 --> 00:38:31,719
Speaker 1: peel it up and just really talk about it. And

765
00:38:31,760 --> 00:38:34,000
Speaker 1: then there's the other person who just needs some space

766
00:38:34,040 --> 00:38:35,600
Speaker 1: from it and wants to run away and for the

767
00:38:35,640 --> 00:38:39,840
Speaker 1: situation to go away and disappear. Yes, so obvious. The

768
00:38:39,840 --> 00:38:42,160
Speaker 1: one who likes to talk, I am the one who

769
00:38:42,239 --> 00:38:44,960
Speaker 1: just likes to walk out and just forget about it.

770
00:38:45,160 --> 00:38:49,520
Speaker 1: And all of it originates from how we handled UM

771
00:38:50,520 --> 00:38:55,200
Speaker 1: disagreements or discussions UM in our in our home life.

772
00:38:55,640 --> 00:38:58,400
Speaker 1: So in my home life, we would all argue, we

773
00:38:58,400 --> 00:39:00,960
Speaker 1: would get yelled at, and then we just like everyone

774
00:39:01,080 --> 00:39:04,120
Speaker 1: goes into their own space in the house, slams the door,

775
00:39:04,239 --> 00:39:06,399
Speaker 1: and then we just never talk about it. And that's

776
00:39:06,600 --> 00:39:10,239
Speaker 1: and that's what I've brought to my relationship, which is

777
00:39:10,280 --> 00:39:15,319
Speaker 1: so unhealthy. So UM, the talk that you just had

778
00:39:15,320 --> 00:39:18,920
Speaker 1: with Chris is talks that I usually have with av

779
00:39:19,680 --> 00:39:22,000
Speaker 1: Like if if I get really mad at something, I

780
00:39:22,080 --> 00:39:24,839
Speaker 1: know that I can't I shouldn't talk about it right

781
00:39:24,840 --> 00:39:27,239
Speaker 1: then and there I need some space and he wants

782
00:39:27,239 --> 00:39:29,279
Speaker 1: to really talk about it. So I just had to

783
00:39:29,320 --> 00:39:31,600
Speaker 1: explain to him, like, you have to give me at

784
00:39:31,640 --> 00:39:36,279
Speaker 1: least fifteen minutes from the point where there's um some

785
00:39:36,400 --> 00:39:40,000
Speaker 1: kind of turbulence to just calm down, because we're not

786
00:39:40,040 --> 00:39:41,759
Speaker 1: going to have a good conversation, even though I know

787
00:39:41,800 --> 00:39:43,719
Speaker 1: that you need and I promise I will give you

788
00:39:43,840 --> 00:39:46,919
Speaker 1: that conversation and not ignore you like I used to do,

789
00:39:47,600 --> 00:39:50,719
Speaker 1: But you have to give me that break. And that's

790
00:39:50,719 --> 00:39:53,719
Speaker 1: really worked for us. That's really good. Well, you know

791
00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:57,400
Speaker 1: what you're doing is promising a resolution at some point,

792
00:39:57,640 --> 00:39:59,400
Speaker 1: whereas I think a lot of times when people go

793
00:39:59,600 --> 00:40:01,680
Speaker 1: and they do the silent treatment or they go off

794
00:40:01,719 --> 00:40:04,080
Speaker 1: on their own, the other person is left being like

795
00:40:04,320 --> 00:40:06,239
Speaker 1: this is the end and I don't know when this.

796
00:40:06,640 --> 00:40:08,319
Speaker 1: I need to know the running time of the movie.

797
00:40:08,360 --> 00:40:09,799
Speaker 1: I need to know when I'm going to get out

798
00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:12,600
Speaker 1: of this, when this is point. I need to know,

799
00:40:12,680 --> 00:40:14,600
Speaker 1: like there's I need to know when you know if

800
00:40:14,600 --> 00:40:15,880
Speaker 1: we're going on a road trip, I need to know

801
00:40:15,920 --> 00:40:18,040
Speaker 1: the exact amount of minutes. I like to know the plan.

802
00:40:18,239 --> 00:40:21,360
Speaker 1: So I think that I'm someone who everyone knows. I

803
00:40:21,440 --> 00:40:24,359
Speaker 1: move fast, I talk fast. I can switch emotions like that,

804
00:40:24,440 --> 00:40:26,400
Speaker 1: Like I can go from being like life sucks to

805
00:40:26,480 --> 00:40:29,000
Speaker 1: being like and then cry and I go, oh god, okay,

806
00:40:29,080 --> 00:40:31,319
Speaker 1: let's go to the zoo, Like I can go on

807
00:40:31,360 --> 00:40:34,040
Speaker 1: a fucking dime, and the second that I feel you,

808
00:40:34,080 --> 00:40:38,360
Speaker 1: Like even last night after our talk, yeah, and Chris

809
00:40:38,440 --> 00:40:41,000
Speaker 1: is like getting very getting you know at this point

810
00:40:41,200 --> 00:40:44,080
Speaker 1: used to it. But and I'm getting used to his

811
00:40:44,160 --> 00:40:47,040
Speaker 1: more slow measured like needs time alone, needs to process.

812
00:40:47,080 --> 00:40:48,600
Speaker 1: But even last night after we had this talk, I

813
00:40:48,640 --> 00:40:50,920
Speaker 1: was like, all right, good night baby, like kiss and

814
00:40:50,960 --> 00:40:53,000
Speaker 1: like everything was fine. And before that I was like

815
00:40:53,320 --> 00:40:55,480
Speaker 1: I really need to talk about last night. And he

816
00:40:55,800 --> 00:40:57,759
Speaker 1: then so he meets me on my level of like

817
00:40:57,840 --> 00:41:00,480
Speaker 1: this is serious, like this is a you or die

818
00:41:00,560 --> 00:41:02,080
Speaker 1: thing that we have to handle right now. And then

819
00:41:02,080 --> 00:41:04,279
Speaker 1: he said everything I needed to hear. He validated all

820
00:41:04,280 --> 00:41:07,200
Speaker 1: my feelings. We have a plan, Like he made me

821
00:41:07,200 --> 00:41:09,839
Speaker 1: feel hard and I was instantly like alright, I'm gonna

822
00:41:09,840 --> 00:41:12,000
Speaker 1: have it and just like back to like joking, and

823
00:41:12,000 --> 00:41:15,480
Speaker 1: He's just like are you good? Are we good? And

824
00:41:15,520 --> 00:41:17,320
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, all right, I'm just gonna put on

825
00:41:17,360 --> 00:41:19,440
Speaker 1: the reever, put on my head and like listen to

826
00:41:19,800 --> 00:41:21,600
Speaker 1: He was just like I could just tell he's kind

827
00:41:21,600 --> 00:41:25,359
Speaker 1: of just like a little like a little bit um.

828
00:41:25,600 --> 00:41:28,239
Speaker 1: I think the last I think when when if I'm

829
00:41:28,280 --> 00:41:31,840
Speaker 1: just like having lunch with Brenna and it's like just

830
00:41:31,880 --> 00:41:35,960
Speaker 1: a normal lunch, It's a normal Tuesday. There's no nothing stress,

831
00:41:36,040 --> 00:41:39,480
Speaker 1: there's nothing going on, and then like a big question happens,

832
00:41:39,560 --> 00:41:44,040
Speaker 1: like whether it's you know, potentially merry or like big

833
00:41:44,080 --> 00:41:48,760
Speaker 1: big questions like why are we here? Yeah, what happened

834
00:41:48,760 --> 00:41:53,000
Speaker 1: to the dinosaurs? Why did you ship in the hallway?

835
00:41:54,239 --> 00:41:57,759
Speaker 1: It's going to drop a single before October twenty birds

836
00:41:58,080 --> 00:42:02,279
Speaker 1: release of midnight, big question, but like I don't, but

837
00:42:02,400 --> 00:42:04,840
Speaker 1: I think what Noah is saying, I don't think fifteen minutes.

838
00:42:04,880 --> 00:42:07,439
Speaker 1: I think I should go can you give me two

839
00:42:07,480 --> 00:42:10,120
Speaker 1: weeks on this or something? Because I feel like sometimes

840
00:42:10,120 --> 00:42:14,759
Speaker 1: people want answers on such big questions, like right then,

841
00:42:14,560 --> 00:42:16,759
Speaker 1: I think to speak for Brenna, but I don't like,

842
00:42:16,920 --> 00:42:20,279
Speaker 1: can you give me like this? Can you give me?

843
00:42:20,400 --> 00:42:25,640
Speaker 1: It's just I do not like but like, you know,

844
00:42:25,680 --> 00:42:28,200
Speaker 1: what can I get? Because that is accusing like the

845
00:42:28,239 --> 00:42:31,120
Speaker 1: person of like it's it's a response that you would

846
00:42:31,120 --> 00:42:33,279
Speaker 1: have to someone who is like coming on too strong,

847
00:42:33,280 --> 00:42:35,600
Speaker 1: and that's gonna make her feel like, oh, I'm fucking nuts.

848
00:42:35,680 --> 00:42:38,279
Speaker 1: Right he didn't get crazy and just like a more

849
00:42:38,440 --> 00:42:41,080
Speaker 1: measured this is all so hard to do. But like

850
00:42:41,640 --> 00:42:43,719
Speaker 1: I what do you do when it with like big

851
00:42:43,800 --> 00:42:46,399
Speaker 1: questions if you want answers? I think I process big

852
00:42:46,520 --> 00:42:48,920
Speaker 1: questions and big answers in a slower way than you

853
00:42:49,040 --> 00:42:51,000
Speaker 1: and I would. And I know that we need to

854
00:42:51,040 --> 00:42:52,520
Speaker 1: have this talk, and I know it's a long time

855
00:42:52,560 --> 00:42:55,160
Speaker 1: coming and it's probably just came up naturally for you.

856
00:42:55,239 --> 00:42:58,160
Speaker 1: Right now, I'm not ready to talk about it, and

857
00:42:58,200 --> 00:43:01,319
Speaker 1: I'm sorry that I can't. Right now, like almost being like,

858
00:43:01,360 --> 00:43:03,480
Speaker 1: I'm sorry I can't meet you there. I think I

859
00:43:03,480 --> 00:43:07,120
Speaker 1: would instead of blaming her for like why don't we

860
00:43:07,200 --> 00:43:10,960
Speaker 1: talk about this now? Up now? Because sometimes I feel

861
00:43:11,280 --> 00:43:13,680
Speaker 1: that when I bring things up and maybe or I

862
00:43:13,680 --> 00:43:15,960
Speaker 1: want to result something right now, or like let's let's

863
00:43:15,960 --> 00:43:17,640
Speaker 1: just make up. We're fine. Okay, so we're good, and

864
00:43:17,640 --> 00:43:20,000
Speaker 1: like now be nice to me, and he needs more time.

865
00:43:20,719 --> 00:43:23,560
Speaker 1: I feel crazy that I'm able to do that so

866
00:43:23,600 --> 00:43:25,680
Speaker 1: fast when it's really just how I am. It's not

867
00:43:25,920 --> 00:43:27,560
Speaker 1: and maybe it is because I'm kind of crazy, but

868
00:43:27,600 --> 00:43:30,719
Speaker 1: I can't help it. So I think that when just

869
00:43:30,800 --> 00:43:35,960
Speaker 1: like respecting how other people's systems work now and answering

870
00:43:36,040 --> 00:43:39,560
Speaker 1: it not defensively, more like like I understand your concerns,

871
00:43:39,600 --> 00:43:42,440
Speaker 1: let's yeah, yeah, give it. I mean, last night it

872
00:43:42,520 --> 00:43:44,600
Speaker 1: was the dumbest argument. I had to make a video

873
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:49,600
Speaker 1: for KU because they're doing you know, ESPNS Game Day Okay.

874
00:43:49,600 --> 00:43:52,080
Speaker 1: So that show asked me to make a video for

875
00:43:52,200 --> 00:43:54,160
Speaker 1: KU to be like, okay you because they're doing it

876
00:43:54,239 --> 00:43:57,080
Speaker 1: from Lawrence, Kansas for the first time ever. So I

877
00:43:57,080 --> 00:43:58,799
Speaker 1: wrote to Gris being like, hey, can we talk about

878
00:43:58,800 --> 00:44:00,960
Speaker 1: this video. I have to shoot it tomorrow and when

879
00:44:01,000 --> 00:44:03,120
Speaker 1: you help me with it. And so last night he's like,

880
00:44:03,160 --> 00:44:05,080
Speaker 1: let's talk about the video, and I'm like okay, and

881
00:44:05,120 --> 00:44:06,879
Speaker 1: I just I didn't want to talk about it because

882
00:44:06,880 --> 00:44:08,480
Speaker 1: I don't like talking about any I don't like pre

883
00:44:08,520 --> 00:44:10,560
Speaker 1: production at all. I just want to wing it, and

884
00:44:10,560 --> 00:44:12,319
Speaker 1: he goes, hey, I've watched that show a lot. When

885
00:44:12,320 --> 00:44:14,480
Speaker 1: they cut to like these clips of like celebrities, a

886
00:44:14,520 --> 00:44:17,560
Speaker 1: lot of they'll do like they'll they'll either lean into

887
00:44:17,600 --> 00:44:19,800
Speaker 1: like I don't know what football is and like play

888
00:44:19,880 --> 00:44:23,160
Speaker 1: really dumb, or they'll like try to pretend like they

889
00:44:23,160 --> 00:44:25,799
Speaker 1: know too much, and it's just like like a woman

890
00:44:25,880 --> 00:44:27,520
Speaker 1: on last week was saying like, well, I think they're

891
00:44:27,520 --> 00:44:29,200
Speaker 1: gonna be Texas and the guy was like, you mean

892
00:44:29,239 --> 00:44:31,480
Speaker 1: Texas Tech? Is that what you're talking about? And then

893
00:44:31,480 --> 00:44:32,879
Speaker 1: they made fun of for the rest of the show

894
00:44:32,920 --> 00:44:35,759
Speaker 1: without her really knowing about it, and so it just

895
00:44:35,800 --> 00:44:37,520
Speaker 1: clearly showed she didn't know what she was talking about.

896
00:44:37,560 --> 00:44:39,439
Speaker 1: And I was like, why do you think I would

897
00:44:39,480 --> 00:44:41,600
Speaker 1: do either of those? I was so offended that he

898
00:44:41,640 --> 00:44:43,880
Speaker 1: would think I would either go like, oh, what do

899
00:44:43,920 --> 00:44:48,320
Speaker 1: you do with the football European soccer that they're playing,

900
00:44:48,360 --> 00:44:50,799
Speaker 1: like I would make some dumb I go, don't you

901
00:44:50,880 --> 00:44:52,840
Speaker 1: respect me more than like I would do either of

902
00:44:52,840 --> 00:44:55,560
Speaker 1: those things? And he goes, you asked me for help,

903
00:44:55,600 --> 00:44:58,000
Speaker 1: and I'm just I watched the show, I know what happens,

904
00:44:58,000 --> 00:45:00,200
Speaker 1: and I was like, pointers, and I just go, you

905
00:45:00,239 --> 00:45:04,160
Speaker 1: were so right. I am so wrong. I was like,

906
00:45:04,400 --> 00:45:08,279
Speaker 1: you're right, that's my exact did not deserve that whatsoever.

907
00:45:08,520 --> 00:45:11,120
Speaker 1: I asked you for help, you gave me help, and

908
00:45:11,160 --> 00:45:13,040
Speaker 1: then I got mad at you for it, and he

909
00:45:13,160 --> 00:45:16,760
Speaker 1: was just and I liked his phense. He goes, thank you, okay,

910
00:45:16,960 --> 00:45:19,040
Speaker 1: and then it was just so good because I immediately

911
00:45:19,160 --> 00:45:21,200
Speaker 1: was like, what did I just do? And then I

912
00:45:21,239 --> 00:45:25,040
Speaker 1: explained it three times to explain that I knew exactly

913
00:45:25,200 --> 00:45:28,160
Speaker 1: how crazy that was. What did you settle with this

914
00:45:28,239 --> 00:45:34,080
Speaker 1: video video? I'll play it? So are you? That's um? Yeah?

915
00:45:34,120 --> 00:45:36,960
Speaker 1: I mean when I sunk up. There is something really

916
00:45:37,000 --> 00:45:39,279
Speaker 1: gratifying about being like, look how many times I took

917
00:45:39,280 --> 00:45:44,680
Speaker 1: this video one to three, fifteen, sixteen, sixteen times and

918
00:45:44,680 --> 00:45:46,160
Speaker 1: I finally got it in the last one. Here we go.

919
00:45:47,160 --> 00:45:50,880
Speaker 1: It's Nicky Lizer. I'm a comedian and also a K

920
00:45:51,120 --> 00:45:55,320
Speaker 1: alumni or alum. I think it's alum when it's singular.

921
00:45:55,320 --> 00:45:57,239
Speaker 1: I don't. I should know this because I did get

922
00:45:57,239 --> 00:46:00,319
Speaker 1: an English degree from KU, which is maybe why I

923
00:46:00,360 --> 00:46:05,360
Speaker 1: don't know it. But anyway, congrats on not only hosting

924
00:46:05,440 --> 00:46:07,480
Speaker 1: college Game Day for the first time, which is huge,

925
00:46:07,520 --> 00:46:11,120
Speaker 1: but also we're like really good at football right now.

926
00:46:11,400 --> 00:46:13,720
Speaker 1: And we always knew we were really good at basketball,

927
00:46:13,760 --> 00:46:17,719
Speaker 1: but now we've got football basketball and we're also really good.

928
00:46:17,719 --> 00:46:20,600
Speaker 1: I don't know if you know this at producing comedic

929
00:46:20,640 --> 00:46:23,279
Speaker 1: talent Um, I'm not the only person that went to

930
00:46:23,360 --> 00:46:27,560
Speaker 1: KU that is a comedian. We've got Rob wriggle Um,

931
00:46:27,600 --> 00:46:34,520
Speaker 1: Paul Rudd, Bob Dole, So keep turning them out and

932
00:46:36,800 --> 00:46:41,040
Speaker 1: good job. Yeah. I don't think it's going to annoy

933
00:46:41,080 --> 00:46:44,320
Speaker 1: people too much, but um, yeah, I just it's it's

934
00:46:44,360 --> 00:46:49,280
Speaker 1: hard for me to get it up for college football. Yeah,

935
00:46:49,320 --> 00:46:51,520
Speaker 1: I like that. Do you even they're doing well right there?

936
00:46:51,520 --> 00:46:56,080
Speaker 1: On which I hope I'll never be. That was another joke.

937
00:46:56,120 --> 00:46:58,600
Speaker 1: I was like, I'll hope I'll never be five Oh

938
00:46:58,520 --> 00:47:02,480
Speaker 1: which press did that take basketball thing? And then the

939
00:47:02,520 --> 00:47:04,440
Speaker 1: famous Now I know they're going to basketball, and I

940
00:47:04,480 --> 00:47:06,560
Speaker 1: know they're really good at football right now. And Chris

941
00:47:06,600 --> 00:47:08,160
Speaker 1: kind of helped me with that too. He's like, it's cool, Like,

942
00:47:08,200 --> 00:47:11,440
Speaker 1: you guys have always been going to put you know, basketball,

943
00:47:11,520 --> 00:47:14,520
Speaker 1: but now you're you might become this like football thing,

944
00:47:14,719 --> 00:47:16,200
Speaker 1: Like that might be your new thing. He's like, what

945
00:47:16,280 --> 00:47:17,440
Speaker 1: else is big there? And so I was going to

946
00:47:17,520 --> 00:47:20,439
Speaker 1: make a joke about rock talk jayhawk because that's the

947
00:47:20,560 --> 00:47:22,120
Speaker 1: chant and no one knows what it means. And I

948
00:47:22,160 --> 00:47:24,160
Speaker 1: was gonna say, you know, like if you want to

949
00:47:24,160 --> 00:47:26,920
Speaker 1: know what that means, it means like and when KU started,

950
00:47:26,920 --> 00:47:29,280
Speaker 1: like the teachers couldn't afford chalk, so they use rocks

951
00:47:29,360 --> 00:47:31,520
Speaker 1: to like write equations on the board. Actually, that's not

952
00:47:31,560 --> 00:47:33,080
Speaker 1: what it means. Go google it. But that was like,

953
00:47:33,239 --> 00:47:36,080
Speaker 1: that's a nice attempt. It's really because the hills were

954
00:47:36,080 --> 00:47:37,759
Speaker 1: made out of limestone, and when they built the school

955
00:47:37,760 --> 00:47:39,640
Speaker 1: and they were drilling into it, the limestone sent up

956
00:47:39,680 --> 00:47:42,360
Speaker 1: this like chalky dust, and so they were called it

957
00:47:42,440 --> 00:47:45,040
Speaker 1: rock chalk. It's kind of funny to describe that whole

958
00:47:45,040 --> 00:47:48,200
Speaker 1: thing and be like, oh, yeah, and K football is good. Yeah.

959
00:47:48,239 --> 00:47:50,640
Speaker 1: I mean, like, I think the best thing to do

960
00:47:50,719 --> 00:47:53,160
Speaker 1: when you're forced or like asked to do things that

961
00:47:53,200 --> 00:47:54,799
Speaker 1: are out of your comfort zone is to just be

962
00:47:54,960 --> 00:47:57,880
Speaker 1: honest and not try to fake it. Like I do

963
00:47:58,040 --> 00:48:01,279
Speaker 1: love the I love Ku, I love the colors, I

964
00:48:01,320 --> 00:48:05,600
Speaker 1: love the mascot, I love them. I'm not I don't

965
00:48:05,760 --> 00:48:08,800
Speaker 1: love people being obsessed with college football. It's like, is

966
00:48:08,840 --> 00:48:11,640
Speaker 1: a little bit triggering for me because it's so stupid

967
00:48:12,239 --> 00:48:16,440
Speaker 1: and they don't pay their players and they do well

968
00:48:16,480 --> 00:48:20,560
Speaker 1: that annoys me to now they shouldn't be. I don't

969
00:48:20,640 --> 00:48:23,160
Speaker 1: like any of it. I just don't like it, Like

970
00:48:23,480 --> 00:48:27,160
Speaker 1: it just reminds me of pedophiles and like protecting men

971
00:48:27,480 --> 00:48:30,640
Speaker 1: and like it was I'm sure it was one team

972
00:48:30,760 --> 00:48:34,440
Speaker 1: and I'm the others, but I just don't like the

973
00:48:34,560 --> 00:48:38,520
Speaker 1: like we bleed Blue, Like I just don't like being

974
00:48:38,520 --> 00:48:41,200
Speaker 1: obsessed before it just you know what it's all about

975
00:48:41,280 --> 00:48:45,279
Speaker 1: me wanting attention from men and having this thing sucking aw,

976
00:48:46,560 --> 00:48:49,520
Speaker 1: you're gone, and because I don't understand it, but I

977
00:48:49,560 --> 00:48:52,040
Speaker 1: told Chris I might get into football this season because

978
00:48:52,040 --> 00:48:55,120
Speaker 1: I want to see if Tom Brady, if his game

979
00:48:55,640 --> 00:49:00,160
Speaker 1: um deteriorates from being in this tumultuous like break up

980
00:49:00,160 --> 00:49:04,719
Speaker 1: with Gazelle, because well Tiger, you know, after the Ellen thing,

981
00:49:04,760 --> 00:49:06,720
Speaker 1: it like funked up his game. It's such a mental

982
00:49:06,760 --> 00:49:08,719
Speaker 1: thing so that I'm interested in. So I'm now I'm

983
00:49:08,760 --> 00:49:10,600
Speaker 1: like Okay, I will watch Tom Brady play because I

984
00:49:10,600 --> 00:49:20,640
Speaker 1: want to see. Yes, I could watch it after this. Alright,

985
00:49:20,680 --> 00:49:23,439
Speaker 1: we are back. It's Anya and Andrew and Noah. We're

986
00:49:23,440 --> 00:49:25,799
Speaker 1: all here together. It's so fun. We've done a lot

987
00:49:25,840 --> 00:49:28,719
Speaker 1: of therapy therapizing today, but now we're just going to

988
00:49:28,760 --> 00:49:31,200
Speaker 1: get into some old, good, old fashioned top one bottom one.

989
00:49:31,400 --> 00:49:37,000
Speaker 1: And the category today is chosen by Andrew Songs to

990
00:49:37,120 --> 00:49:43,640
Speaker 1: make Love, to make love. Yeah, I like no, I

991
00:49:43,680 --> 00:49:46,240
Speaker 1: think that's good because it really makes it sets the scene,

992
00:49:46,239 --> 00:49:47,480
Speaker 1: like this is a song you want to put on

993
00:49:47,520 --> 00:49:51,360
Speaker 1: when you are like really it's romantic, face to face anal.

994
00:49:57,680 --> 00:50:01,520
Speaker 1: You know, that's how rottlers have sex. Yeah, they start

995
00:50:01,560 --> 00:50:03,560
Speaker 1: forward and then a rat wilder will turn and they'll

996
00:50:03,560 --> 00:50:06,400
Speaker 1: just his penis is so big. They'll just back. But

997
00:50:06,920 --> 00:50:08,840
Speaker 1: you I like that, you know every creature that's a

998
00:50:08,840 --> 00:50:12,000
Speaker 1: big old dick, like you know what that they have.

999
00:50:12,680 --> 00:50:16,239
Speaker 1: They so then they just bounced it but back what

1000
00:50:16,480 --> 00:50:19,280
Speaker 1: was dicks threw his own legs and he's just banging

1001
00:50:19,360 --> 00:50:25,759
Speaker 1: from reverse. She's sitting. It's a man and a woman.

1002
00:50:26,320 --> 00:50:30,120
Speaker 1: It's a rott Wiler, I know, but female male. Yeah,

1003
00:50:30,520 --> 00:50:34,359
Speaker 1: we don't call dogs men. I mean I call men

1004
00:50:34,520 --> 00:50:45,439
Speaker 1: dogs first of a backhouse. Um yeah, yeah, a male

1005
00:50:45,480 --> 00:50:59,520
Speaker 1: and a woman. I mean, baha, men are bringing at home, y'all.

1006
00:50:59,520 --> 00:51:02,759
Speaker 1: That's all. That's all. That's what dogs eat each other

1007
00:51:02,800 --> 00:51:10,560
Speaker 1: out to. Okay, that's what out crew. First of all,

1008
00:51:10,680 --> 00:51:15,360
Speaker 1: I do not make love to any music with my partner.

1009
00:51:15,960 --> 00:51:19,040
Speaker 1: We never, I think. I think partners in the past

1010
00:51:19,120 --> 00:51:21,200
Speaker 1: have put on music like it's a thing that people do,

1011
00:51:21,239 --> 00:51:24,120
Speaker 1: and I've been with people that do enjoy banging two songs,

1012
00:51:24,520 --> 00:51:26,839
Speaker 1: but Chris and I have never been part of our repertoire.

1013
00:51:27,040 --> 00:51:29,319
Speaker 1: So you just like it's like to hear are just

1014
00:51:29,360 --> 00:51:34,600
Speaker 1: our heavy breathing smacking, you know, the chest fart sounds

1015
00:51:34,680 --> 00:51:40,600
Speaker 1: that brings me to Anya's favorite god smack. I like

1016
00:51:40,680 --> 00:51:48,680
Speaker 1: Prodigy fight. I had like a makeout playlist when all

1017
00:51:48,760 --> 00:51:51,040
Speaker 1: your own songs that do say Matt and just me

1018
00:51:51,440 --> 00:51:55,319
Speaker 1: my discography? Do you Matt listen to stuff now? When

1019
00:51:55,360 --> 00:51:58,719
Speaker 1: you know, I think both of us are probably be like, oh,

1020
00:51:58,760 --> 00:52:04,600
Speaker 1: this production is pretty cool, I know, k anymore if

1021
00:52:04,640 --> 00:52:06,800
Speaker 1: it was just like a weird part of the song

1022
00:52:07,000 --> 00:52:10,000
Speaker 1: or like you know, you can only trust I don't know.

1023
00:52:10,040 --> 00:52:12,120
Speaker 1: I guess you could make a playlist, but I would

1024
00:52:12,160 --> 00:52:14,920
Speaker 1: I run to songs like I'm constantly changing my mind

1025
00:52:14,920 --> 00:52:16,360
Speaker 1: of what I want to listen to. It's rare that

1026
00:52:16,400 --> 00:52:18,600
Speaker 1: I've made a playlist and just like been happy with

1027
00:52:18,640 --> 00:52:21,520
Speaker 1: it just playing out. Ever, it's a good point, and

1028
00:52:21,560 --> 00:52:23,839
Speaker 1: maybe you have to concentrate more. If you're hearing the song,

1029
00:52:23,960 --> 00:52:26,480
Speaker 1: you're not going to be focused enough, or maybe you're

1030
00:52:26,520 --> 00:52:28,759
Speaker 1: too focused, and that's maybe I start thinking about the

1031
00:52:28,800 --> 00:52:30,880
Speaker 1: person that's singing the song, or I think about what

1032
00:52:30,920 --> 00:52:38,800
Speaker 1: that might help. Especially, Okay, let's with legs wide open,

1033
00:52:39,040 --> 00:52:41,439
Speaker 1: start with the I think it'd be funnier to start

1034
00:52:41,440 --> 00:52:42,920
Speaker 1: with the best. Let's start with the best song you

1035
00:52:43,000 --> 00:52:46,680
Speaker 1: have sex to or to make love to. Lately. Well,

1036
00:52:46,719 --> 00:52:49,759
Speaker 1: I don't really play music that much, but you play

1037
00:52:49,760 --> 00:52:53,799
Speaker 1: guitar during sex? Yeah? I did with my teeth. Well,

1038
00:52:53,840 --> 00:53:01,560
Speaker 1: it's on fire backwards lefty. I was like, what is

1039
00:53:01,600 --> 00:53:05,080
Speaker 1: he even saying? Like what is the fire and backgrounds?

1040
00:53:05,120 --> 00:53:14,400
Speaker 1: And then when did you see the Woodstock documentary? Dude?

1041
00:53:14,480 --> 00:53:18,879
Speaker 1: It's so funny. What Stock? So like the It all

1042
00:53:18,960 --> 00:53:20,839
Speaker 1: leads to like the last day they've been through hell,

1043
00:53:20,880 --> 00:53:23,320
Speaker 1: they're not feeding these people the waters infected with poop,

1044
00:53:23,400 --> 00:53:28,400
Speaker 1: Like everything's fucked. They're like and then but a lot

1045
00:53:28,480 --> 00:53:31,600
Speaker 1: of them are staying because there was rumors about there

1046
00:53:31,640 --> 00:53:34,080
Speaker 1: it's going to be some secret performer that is going

1047
00:53:34,120 --> 00:53:37,240
Speaker 1: to close out the Sunday night show. So they're all

1048
00:53:37,280 --> 00:53:39,600
Speaker 1: waiting for this, like maybe it's gonna be Prince, maybe

1049
00:53:39,600 --> 00:53:41,640
Speaker 1: it's gonna be Paul McCartney. Who the funk knows, Like

1050
00:53:41,680 --> 00:53:45,160
Speaker 1: it's gonna be someone huge. They don't have anyone, and

1051
00:53:44,560 --> 00:53:49,000
Speaker 1: they have no one, and instead the show's over. I

1052
00:53:49,000 --> 00:53:51,000
Speaker 1: feel like who closed out the show? It was like,

1053
00:53:52,000 --> 00:53:55,080
Speaker 1: do you remember on your now some huge band closed

1054
00:53:55,080 --> 00:53:57,960
Speaker 1: out the show? But they have someone and someone back down? No,

1055
00:53:58,160 --> 00:54:01,160
Speaker 1: I think Red Hot Sheli Peppers closed and then there

1056
00:54:01,239 --> 00:54:03,720
Speaker 1: was and then they left the stage and then everyone's

1057
00:54:03,760 --> 00:54:05,920
Speaker 1: just staying like, you know, chanting, and then all of

1058
00:54:06,000 --> 00:54:10,040
Speaker 1: a sudden they just, you know, go be careful getting

1059
00:54:10,080 --> 00:54:12,479
Speaker 1: to your cars, have great nine, thank you for coming

1060
00:54:12,520 --> 00:54:15,799
Speaker 1: to Woodstock nine to nine, let like, and then all

1061
00:54:15,840 --> 00:54:17,600
Speaker 1: of a sudden, on the screen they put up Jimmy

1062
00:54:17,680 --> 00:54:21,200
Speaker 1: Hendrix on the screens like playing and everyone's just like

1063
00:54:21,440 --> 00:54:28,000
Speaker 1: and that's when they went, because this weekend has been

1064
00:54:28,040 --> 00:54:29,920
Speaker 1: shipped and we've been waiting for this thing, and that's when.

1065
00:54:30,160 --> 00:54:33,080
Speaker 1: But just the that playcating them with a video of

1066
00:54:33,160 --> 00:54:37,400
Speaker 1: Jimi Hendricks from the original woods Like is so insulting.

1067
00:54:37,480 --> 00:54:41,359
Speaker 1: I loved that documentary. You know this will come them.

1068
00:54:41,840 --> 00:54:43,799
Speaker 1: You know. The one thing missing from the documentary if

1069
00:54:43,800 --> 00:54:45,680
Speaker 1: you did see it, maybe you agree with me, is

1070
00:54:45,800 --> 00:54:49,160
Speaker 1: I wanted more people that were there. Just they had

1071
00:54:49,200 --> 00:54:51,440
Speaker 1: like one two guys that were there that were like,

1072
00:54:51,880 --> 00:54:54,560
Speaker 1: they're fifteen years old. It was the coolest that they're

1073
00:54:54,600 --> 00:54:57,400
Speaker 1: like stoner dudes, and then they had one girl. But

1074
00:54:57,400 --> 00:54:59,480
Speaker 1: I wanted more people that were there to see it.

1075
00:55:00,000 --> 00:55:01,960
Speaker 1: Then get it's hard to get that footage if it

1076
00:55:02,120 --> 00:55:03,880
Speaker 1: just never had it, you know what I mean. But

1077
00:55:04,360 --> 00:55:07,760
Speaker 1: it's just there, you know, interviews, Okay, yeah, I remember

1078
00:55:07,800 --> 00:55:11,040
Speaker 1: the first Woodstock there were interviews of like these people.

1079
00:55:11,120 --> 00:55:13,840
Speaker 1: Everyone hitchhike there and the traffic was so you just

1080
00:55:13,880 --> 00:55:16,759
Speaker 1: had these like people are like, yeah, I've been hitchhiking

1081
00:55:16,840 --> 00:55:19,279
Speaker 1: for six thousand miles and I just wanted to see

1082
00:55:19,440 --> 00:55:22,480
Speaker 1: I don't know, there's something so beautiful about the voyage

1083
00:55:22,520 --> 00:55:26,440
Speaker 1: to go see fucking I don't know Episode three of

1084
00:55:26,560 --> 00:55:30,799
Speaker 1: DAMA and you realize hitchhiking can be heard. No, you're

1085
00:55:30,840 --> 00:55:33,799
Speaker 1: making me really want to watch this sprised because it's

1086
00:55:33,840 --> 00:55:36,640
Speaker 1: not a documentary and you like it. I do like it.

1087
00:55:37,360 --> 00:55:39,200
Speaker 1: Ryan Murphy, I think, is the guy who made this one.

1088
00:55:39,239 --> 00:55:40,840
Speaker 1: He did a good job. And the guy who plays

1089
00:55:40,920 --> 00:55:43,880
Speaker 1: Damer is so fucking good at it, and you you

1090
00:55:43,920 --> 00:55:46,120
Speaker 1: really feel like you're watching dam Like I've watched enough

1091
00:55:46,160 --> 00:55:48,319
Speaker 1: interviews with dam Or. This guy just nails it. And

1092
00:55:48,640 --> 00:55:51,640
Speaker 1: it's cool because I've read everything about Dahmer and it's

1093
00:55:51,640 --> 00:55:53,560
Speaker 1: cool to see it all play out and like how

1094
00:55:53,760 --> 00:55:57,560
Speaker 1: they interpret it and it's fucking grim um better this

1095
00:55:57,800 --> 00:56:03,320
Speaker 1: or the gay sy tapes. This, this is fascinating, is

1096
00:56:03,480 --> 00:56:06,520
Speaker 1: it's truly fascinating, and it's more than what you think.

1097
00:56:06,560 --> 00:56:09,240
Speaker 1: And there's actually there's this one guy that what's interesting

1098
00:56:09,239 --> 00:56:11,399
Speaker 1: about the gay Cy tapes is that there's this one

1099
00:56:11,440 --> 00:56:15,160
Speaker 1: part where one of gay Cy's what could have been

1100
00:56:15,239 --> 00:56:19,040
Speaker 1: victims tells the story of like being with gay Cy

1101
00:56:19,280 --> 00:56:22,279
Speaker 1: and almost becoming a victim, and like he didn't even

1102
00:56:22,280 --> 00:56:25,560
Speaker 1: realize that he dodged, like this insane guy until years

1103
00:56:25,600 --> 00:56:28,719
Speaker 1: later when Gaycey's arrest and he's like and he he

1104
00:56:28,800 --> 00:56:30,400
Speaker 1: comes on the you know, it's on the news, and

1105
00:56:30,400 --> 00:56:32,640
Speaker 1: he turns to his wife and he's like, that's the guy.

1106
00:56:32,800 --> 00:56:34,839
Speaker 1: That's the guy who forced me to do you know,

1107
00:56:34,920 --> 00:56:37,120
Speaker 1: like oral on him with a gun. I'm like, you

1108
00:56:37,160 --> 00:56:39,520
Speaker 1: didn't see that. He could have killed you during all that.

1109
00:56:39,760 --> 00:56:41,560
Speaker 1: It's a very weird story. But the guy is just

1110
00:56:41,600 --> 00:56:44,080
Speaker 1: like he never called me back. This guy never called

1111
00:56:44,120 --> 00:56:49,040
Speaker 1: me back. He owes me a blowjob. Okay, let's get

1112
00:56:49,080 --> 00:56:53,600
Speaker 1: to the best song. Best song? Uh? I think the

1113
00:56:53,680 --> 00:56:55,840
Speaker 1: best music is kind of like you just throw it on,

1114
00:56:56,040 --> 00:57:00,319
Speaker 1: like without a plan. Maybe so then Reptilia by this rokes.

1115
00:57:00,360 --> 00:57:03,200
Speaker 1: It's a little fast, so you kinda sometimes I'll the

1116
00:57:03,239 --> 00:57:05,520
Speaker 1: only problem is I'll funk with the rhythm and I'm

1117
00:57:05,600 --> 00:57:09,480
Speaker 1: like yeah, like and then I'm like, am I I

1118
00:57:09,560 --> 00:57:12,560
Speaker 1: forget she's there. I'm just like at a concert, just

1119
00:57:12,640 --> 00:57:15,960
Speaker 1: happened to be having like Tilia. Can we get like

1120
00:57:15,960 --> 00:57:18,440
Speaker 1: a snippet of it? Can I play like five seconds

1121
00:57:18,480 --> 00:57:21,320
Speaker 1: of it? Yes? Okay, thank you. You'll hear how fast

1122
00:57:21,360 --> 00:57:24,280
Speaker 1: it is. It's probably too fast for love making. It's

1123
00:57:24,320 --> 00:57:31,479
Speaker 1: more just a song you like, Andrew. No, there's something

1124
00:57:31,520 --> 00:57:43,000
Speaker 1: like you skateboard down venice boardwalk too. No, everyone knows

1125
00:57:43,080 --> 00:57:47,120
Speaker 1: that what are you talking about? I literally was going

1126
00:57:47,160 --> 00:57:49,520
Speaker 1: to put the strokes in my bottom one because of

1127
00:57:49,560 --> 00:57:52,919
Speaker 1: the rhythm I was going to do last night, last night.

1128
00:57:53,400 --> 00:57:57,040
Speaker 1: That's I mean, that's a similar That is so stupid.

1129
00:57:58,520 --> 00:58:01,960
Speaker 1: I didn't say it was smart for me. You took

1130
00:58:02,000 --> 00:58:04,360
Speaker 1: this as like, what song are you listening too lately

1131
00:58:05,160 --> 00:58:09,200
Speaker 1: that I happen to have? Let me give you mine? Andrew,

1132
00:58:09,240 --> 00:58:16,160
Speaker 1: please Harper down burn Way. Everyone listening, get this song.

1133
00:58:16,320 --> 00:58:20,000
Speaker 1: It is the best makeout or making love song ever,

1134
00:58:20,400 --> 00:58:24,000
Speaker 1: ever ever. The band is a weird title, but it's

1135
00:58:24,120 --> 00:58:28,000
Speaker 1: Handsome Boy Modeling School and the song is called I've

1136
00:58:28,040 --> 00:58:31,000
Speaker 1: Been Thinking and it's sung by Cat Power and she's

1137
00:58:31,040 --> 00:58:37,439
Speaker 1: in her prime sad cat Power Glory. Wait, the name

1138
00:58:37,440 --> 00:58:40,520
Speaker 1: of the song is Handsome Boy, I've been thinking. Okay,

1139
00:58:40,560 --> 00:58:53,320
Speaker 1: here we go. Okay, um, yes, right, does it speed

1140
00:58:53,400 --> 00:58:56,880
Speaker 1: up at all? No, Andrew, you might have to thrust

1141
00:58:56,920 --> 00:59:00,080
Speaker 1: your heads to the slower motion. You don't get to

1142
00:59:00,280 --> 00:59:03,560
Speaker 1: jackhammer a girl and just to come already. Yeah, this

1143
00:59:03,600 --> 00:59:07,000
Speaker 1: is a sexual song. It's very essential to find them.

1144
00:59:07,040 --> 00:59:11,880
Speaker 1: It sounds like you, thank you, thank you, cat Power,

1145
00:59:12,120 --> 00:59:15,240
Speaker 1: cat Power. Is she doing a cover of the Handsome

1146
00:59:15,320 --> 00:59:23,400
Speaker 1: Voice or whatever there is the band? Maybe? Oh god, alright,

1147
00:59:23,440 --> 00:59:26,080
Speaker 1: well I know what no one? What is no One's

1148
00:59:26,080 --> 00:59:31,760
Speaker 1: gonna brings it's just gonna be fucking swords fighting or

1149
00:59:32,520 --> 00:59:37,120
Speaker 1: archetype close. So both of the stuff the things you

1150
00:59:37,120 --> 00:59:40,400
Speaker 1: talked about. I don't like listening to music. I don't

1151
00:59:40,440 --> 00:59:42,800
Speaker 1: want to like start listening to like hearing lyrics that

1152
00:59:42,840 --> 00:59:45,480
Speaker 1: I understand, because then I'll just be distracted by it.

1153
00:59:45,880 --> 00:59:48,480
Speaker 1: And then the whole rhythm thing like moving, Like if

1154
00:59:48,480 --> 00:59:50,840
Speaker 1: I catch myself moving to the rhythm of a song

1155
00:59:51,560 --> 00:59:54,200
Speaker 1: while making love, it's just it just ruins it for me.

1156
00:59:54,840 --> 00:59:57,720
Speaker 1: So the the band that first came to mind is

1157
00:59:57,760 --> 01:00:02,440
Speaker 1: called the Dillinger Escape Plan and the song is Sunshine

1158
01:00:02,480 --> 01:00:08,680
Speaker 1: the Werewolf, and it's just a it's odd time and

1159
01:00:08,720 --> 01:00:14,280
Speaker 1: it has all that it let's let's see this like

1160
01:00:14,280 --> 01:00:24,760
Speaker 1: a right, shut up, I'll just find it so hot.

1161
01:00:25,640 --> 01:00:31,000
Speaker 1: This sounds like what Dahmer fucking carves and victims too.

1162
01:00:31,920 --> 01:00:43,880
Speaker 1: This is so hot? Noah, what kind of sex has happened?

1163
01:00:44,000 --> 01:00:53,120
Speaker 1: Your love making? The best? Yes, hious fun, incense and

1164
01:00:53,280 --> 01:00:58,200
Speaker 1: like laying down the That just shows how different people are,

1165
01:00:58,680 --> 01:01:03,320
Speaker 1: Like I couldn't murder a dog to that song because

1166
01:01:03,360 --> 01:01:07,760
Speaker 1: I like that's too. I need a gentler tune. I

1167
01:01:07,840 --> 01:01:11,760
Speaker 1: like the aggressive is the aggressive turns me on. Yeah, okay,

1168
01:01:11,840 --> 01:01:15,480
Speaker 1: that makes sense when you get aggressively fun, then to

1169
01:01:15,680 --> 01:01:19,040
Speaker 1: that song, are you getting lightly that? I mean, okay,

1170
01:01:19,080 --> 01:01:21,800
Speaker 1: so making love to you is you're interpreting that as

1171
01:01:21,840 --> 01:01:23,320
Speaker 1: like the kind of sucking you want to do, and

1172
01:01:23,360 --> 01:01:26,280
Speaker 1: that's like that means the most to you is the

1173
01:01:26,760 --> 01:01:28,880
Speaker 1: making love doesn't have to be I guess sexual and

1174
01:01:28,920 --> 01:01:32,880
Speaker 1: slow love's like wedding song. It's gonna be like fucking

1175
01:01:33,040 --> 01:01:37,080
Speaker 1: cut your head off, I know, is I love that song?

1176
01:01:37,360 --> 01:01:39,960
Speaker 1: That's what my dad dances with. Well, now I know

1177
01:01:40,000 --> 01:01:42,240
Speaker 1: what my least favorite song to funk too is. So

1178
01:01:42,280 --> 01:01:43,640
Speaker 1: we don't have to do my bottom? No one just

1179
01:01:43,720 --> 01:01:45,800
Speaker 1: hit it? Thank god. I thought I was gonna have

1180
01:01:45,880 --> 01:01:51,360
Speaker 1: the worst. Okay, mine is um no one's. I don't

1181
01:01:51,400 --> 01:01:55,240
Speaker 1: know what Nicky's introduced me to the song. It's Miguel

1182
01:01:55,440 --> 01:02:17,640
Speaker 1: Adorn can't would be all the nose for me. It

1183
01:02:17,720 --> 01:02:22,360
Speaker 1: is a little Marvin Gay, but it's it's because it's

1184
01:02:22,400 --> 01:02:26,160
Speaker 1: not as popular. I think its yeah, but it's a

1185
01:02:26,200 --> 01:02:28,120
Speaker 1: sexy song to me. I like to put it on

1186
01:02:28,200 --> 01:02:29,800
Speaker 1: it when I'm like trying to get in the mood.

1187
01:02:30,000 --> 01:02:32,440
Speaker 1: I guess if you know the lyrics to the song too, well,

1188
01:02:32,480 --> 01:02:37,240
Speaker 1: that could hurt it potentially. Um, okay, now what would

1189
01:02:37,240 --> 01:02:41,160
Speaker 1: be the worst? I think it's all Noah's song the

1190
01:02:41,160 --> 01:02:49,080
Speaker 1: show's over. Um, do you've been leaving love by? She believe?

1191
01:02:51,720 --> 01:02:56,360
Speaker 1: That would be very bad. And to the reason why

1192
01:02:56,920 --> 01:03:01,360
Speaker 1: is my fraternity when we were pledged is they played

1193
01:03:01,400 --> 01:03:03,800
Speaker 1: that all night. They do the thing called hell night

1194
01:03:04,360 --> 01:03:06,200
Speaker 1: where they keep you awake all night and they played

1195
01:03:06,240 --> 01:03:13,960
Speaker 1: that song thirty five thousand times. This song was huge, huge.

1196
01:03:14,080 --> 01:03:17,720
Speaker 1: It was the first like really audible auto tune auto tune?

1197
01:03:18,040 --> 01:03:21,640
Speaker 1: What am I supposed to do to sit around and

1198
01:03:21,680 --> 01:03:26,560
Speaker 1: wait for you? I don't hate it to funk too.

1199
01:03:27,720 --> 01:03:33,040
Speaker 1: I can prease thing. Son say, is that really how

1200
01:03:33,480 --> 01:03:37,840
Speaker 1: big a chick is? Oh? It's just it's too much

1201
01:03:38,840 --> 01:03:41,800
Speaker 1: something inside me. But it's not as big as I

1202
01:03:41,920 --> 01:03:45,480
Speaker 1: wanted to be. Oh, I'd rather hit a tree. Okay

1203
01:03:45,800 --> 01:03:51,720
Speaker 1: then that? Um an ya, do you have a bad one? Yeah?

1204
01:03:51,760 --> 01:03:55,000
Speaker 1: Like any ragtimey song that's like Hello my honey, Hello much.

1205
01:03:59,000 --> 01:04:01,440
Speaker 1: I think that'd be so on the dude man, it

1206
01:04:01,440 --> 01:04:04,840
Speaker 1: would be like a like a black and white Chaplin movie. Yeah,

1207
01:04:06,920 --> 01:04:10,360
Speaker 1: that would be that would be I mean, I think

1208
01:04:10,440 --> 01:04:13,440
Speaker 1: this is an easy answer, Like it's literally like anything

1209
01:04:13,480 --> 01:04:17,760
Speaker 1: that's not Yeah, I guess if it's a very sexual song,

1210
01:04:17,840 --> 01:04:20,600
Speaker 1: it's too sexual. It could be really funny if that's

1211
01:04:20,600 --> 01:04:25,680
Speaker 1: what's the worst. Like Taylor Swift song for fucking Umbe.

1212
01:04:33,280 --> 01:04:37,280
Speaker 1: I like the song I remember, I remember when. Actually,

1213
01:04:37,440 --> 01:04:40,400
Speaker 1: probably a good beat to this is we're gonna get sued,

1214
01:04:40,400 --> 01:04:43,200
Speaker 1: We're gonna have to oath dollars just playing And I

1215
01:04:43,240 --> 01:04:44,919
Speaker 1: don't know if I played tail. I didn't even play

1216
01:04:44,920 --> 01:04:48,240
Speaker 1: the Taylor's version. Oh my god, scot Scooter Bron's making

1217
01:04:48,280 --> 01:04:54,280
Speaker 1: money off of that. Um. I was gonna pick Funeral

1218
01:04:54,400 --> 01:05:00,960
Speaker 1: by Phoebe Bridgers because it's just about like, I don't know,

1219
01:05:01,000 --> 01:05:09,240
Speaker 1: I kind of like that. I'm singing that funeral like

1220
01:05:09,320 --> 01:05:14,720
Speaker 1: weep each Yeah, it's a beautiful song, but just it's

1221
01:05:14,760 --> 01:05:17,800
Speaker 1: about death and it's just too there's too many specific

1222
01:05:17,880 --> 01:05:19,480
Speaker 1: lyrics that would just like get in your head and

1223
01:05:19,560 --> 01:05:22,640
Speaker 1: kind of suck it up. You can't get hard anymore

1224
01:05:22,680 --> 01:05:26,920
Speaker 1: because your dad died. His body is still next to us,

1225
01:05:27,160 --> 01:05:29,000
Speaker 1: you know what. I want to amend my answer. My

1226
01:05:29,120 --> 01:05:36,160
Speaker 1: dad's climate change song would be the worst. Yes, it's

1227
01:05:36,200 --> 01:05:41,080
Speaker 1: too hot, like the sun Ship. I will say Andrew

1228
01:05:41,280 --> 01:05:46,400
Speaker 1: that that Reptilia song is great for making out, like playing,

1229
01:05:47,080 --> 01:05:51,640
Speaker 1: like taking off Brenna's clothes, or like throwing against the wall.

1230
01:05:51,680 --> 01:05:53,640
Speaker 1: A good scene in a movie where it's like they're

1231
01:05:53,640 --> 01:05:56,600
Speaker 1: finally hooking up and it's like I'm just flexing in

1232
01:05:56,640 --> 01:05:59,000
Speaker 1: a mirror and she happens to be there. What No,

1233
01:05:59,200 --> 01:06:05,200
Speaker 1: what's your least face for it? You're not far away

1234
01:06:05,240 --> 01:06:08,400
Speaker 1: from it. It's your body is a Wonderland by John Mayer.

1235
01:06:08,760 --> 01:06:12,480
Speaker 1: Oh God, that's not going to get shope. What a

1236
01:06:12,600 --> 01:06:15,480
Speaker 1: great answer, Noah, because it's so on the nose. But

1237
01:06:15,840 --> 01:06:22,480
Speaker 1: I literally hate the lyric tongue. I hate to I

1238
01:06:22,560 --> 01:06:25,680
Speaker 1: just pickedure a big lot of tongue that just is

1239
01:06:25,720 --> 01:06:29,600
Speaker 1: this big pink tongue is too big, and it's just

1240
01:06:29,680 --> 01:06:35,000
Speaker 1: like I don't like it, but I did. He has

1241
01:06:34,600 --> 01:06:38,680
Speaker 1: a tongue. Have you ever dodged him sing? He like

1242
01:06:38,840 --> 01:06:41,680
Speaker 1: on a big note? He does that trick the vocal

1243
01:06:41,960 --> 01:06:44,320
Speaker 1: coaches sometimes tell you to do, like stick your tongue

1244
01:06:44,320 --> 01:06:48,720
Speaker 1: out on like a long note. His tongue is that. Yeah,

1245
01:06:49,400 --> 01:06:52,120
Speaker 1: he doesn't your teacher tell you to do. You've got

1246
01:06:52,240 --> 01:06:56,160
Speaker 1: the afternoon, You've got this room for two. One thing

1247
01:06:56,280 --> 01:07:00,400
Speaker 1: I'd love to do, discover me, discover just ever me

1248
01:07:00,480 --> 01:07:04,400
Speaker 1: discovering you. I like that that lyric two miles from

1249
01:07:04,440 --> 01:07:09,880
Speaker 1: the every like your skin like porcelain creeps me out

1250
01:07:09,920 --> 01:07:14,919
Speaker 1: to that song too, would be terrible Daughter Daughters. Yeah,

1251
01:07:15,600 --> 01:07:22,320
Speaker 1: that room though, Oh boy, I'd like to funk to that.

1252
01:07:24,680 --> 01:07:34,480
Speaker 1: That hot that was your dad's alternate climate change Driven billies,

1253
01:07:35,040 --> 01:07:41,480
Speaker 1: Driven Billies would be That would be a good final thought, Um,

1254
01:07:41,920 --> 01:07:45,200
Speaker 1: how is your show last night? Fantastic? Dred and fifty

1255
01:07:45,280 --> 01:07:49,439
Speaker 1: people came, A lot of besties came. Yes. I mean

1256
01:07:50,560 --> 01:07:54,400
Speaker 1: we have really great fans. Like the people were so,

1257
01:07:55,760 --> 01:08:00,400
Speaker 1: you know, Tim Chris's brother opened and you know, he

1258
01:08:00,600 --> 01:08:03,480
Speaker 1: was just like, man, they really like you and love you,

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Speaker 1: he actually said. And I don't know, I felt like

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Speaker 1: it was really emotional. Actually at the end of it,

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Speaker 1: I was like thank you, and I said thank you

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Speaker 1: like five times, kind of cheesy, but like I really did,

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Speaker 1: because you know, I've only just started headlining and it

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Speaker 1: just felt very like cool. It felt like very loved

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Speaker 1: and like and I was happy with the material I

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Speaker 1: was doing. And then people afterwards were just we just

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Speaker 1: have really cool people that like us, and it's like, oh, okay,

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Speaker 1: maybe I'm doing something right. And uh yeah, it was

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Speaker 1: really thank you so much for coming. Appreciate it. And

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Speaker 1: then we are opening for Tom's or we're doing sets

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Speaker 1: on Tom Sigura's show this weekend, which will be fun.

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Speaker 1: Tomorrow night at the Fox Theater. We're both um doing that.

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Speaker 1: And I when the Cardinals game on Sundays, I know,

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Speaker 1: do you think they're gonna I mean, you know, I

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Speaker 1: think I think. Yeah, it was very good team. You know,

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01:08:58,560 --> 01:09:03,559
Speaker 1: they have a good rotation going. Yeah, yeah, all the things. Now,

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Speaker 1: I'm very I'm excited about my boyfriend and his friends

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01:09:06,840 --> 01:09:09,080
Speaker 1: enthusiasm for the Carls and I love one of Carlos games.

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Speaker 1: And we're going to sit in the green seats, which

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Speaker 1: are the ones where you get access buffets. Yeah, dude,

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Speaker 1: I'm so excited. It'll be so fun. I'm excited. And

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Speaker 1: then Sunday, wait on you you're just in New York

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01:09:21,760 --> 01:09:24,599
Speaker 1: City like visiting. You're getting like a foot rub. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I got a lot of big plans. Oh my god,

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01:09:27,280 --> 01:09:31,000
Speaker 1: I'm getting a massage actually in twelve minutes that from where.

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Speaker 1: There's a place I found on Google like next door

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01:09:33,800 --> 01:09:35,360
Speaker 1: to here, and I just signed up and it's some

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Speaker 1: guy I don't know if he's in an apartment or whatever.

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Speaker 1: I'm just gonna go. He's may licensed, like he has

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Speaker 1: a website and everything. He's a young guy. He's not

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01:09:41,640 --> 01:09:43,559
Speaker 1: like a creepy old man like it's I had felt

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Speaker 1: a whole form, so he knew, like how deep my

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01:09:45,760 --> 01:09:49,040
Speaker 1: posty was stuck, so I like measure it, so he

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01:09:49,560 --> 01:09:53,160
Speaker 1: knew how many fingers like bring okay we have because

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01:09:53,200 --> 01:09:56,920
Speaker 1: your location, I'm actually kind of worried. I hope he

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01:09:56,920 --> 01:09:59,080
Speaker 1: doesn't get lost. No, he's good. It's gonna be good.

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Speaker 1: I'm so excited. Yes, oh god, I can't believe it's

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01:10:02,280 --> 01:10:04,400
Speaker 1: having the inutilments and I have to go backroom so bad.

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Speaker 1: Number one not to um spotty putty. Thank you guys

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Speaker 1: so much for listening to the ha ha. We'll go

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Speaker 1: back tomorrow with a fresh show for you cannot wait.

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Speaker 1: We'll cover all the events of the weekend, even the

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01:10:15,720 --> 01:10:17,519
Speaker 1: one a big thing that happened this weekend that we

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Speaker 1: didn't talk about because we recorded this on Reready. I remember,

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Speaker 1: I'm not thank you an you for being here. Think

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Speaker 1: you know what? Thank you and don't be cut and

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Speaker 1: jezz get Chan