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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen. If you

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Speaker 1: need advice on relationships, on sex, on parenting, on dating,

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Speaker 1: Steve Harvey f M and click submit Strawberry Letter. We

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Speaker 1: could be reading your letter live on the air, just

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Speaker 1: like we're gonna read this one right now. Buckle up,

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Speaker 1: hold on tight. We got it for you. Here it

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Speaker 1: is Strawberry Letter. Thank you Little Tommy, I mean, thank

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Speaker 1: you Tommy. Please now if you're pop teen, inside voice,

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Speaker 1: inside voice, inside voice, Tommy, love you, love you, love

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Speaker 1: you all right. Subject to my man wants to share

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Speaker 1: his goodies. Dear Stephen Shirley. I am a twenty seven

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Speaker 1: year old female and my man is slightly younger than

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Speaker 1: I am. He's an underwear model for several online magazines,

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Speaker 1: and that's why I fell for him. He has a

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Speaker 1: on social media. He loves the attention. He says, it's

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Speaker 1: all just for fun, and he never responds to the

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Speaker 1: women and men that hit on him. The attention has

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Speaker 1: while he was on a modeling gig last week, a

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Speaker 1: He told me that he wants to try it and

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Speaker 1: that he wants me to be okay with it because

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Speaker 1: he could make a lot of money. I told him,

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Speaker 1: hell no, he was not going to get paid to

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Speaker 1: cheat on me. He keeps telling me that it's not

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Speaker 1: like that. He said, the sex is strictly business and

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Speaker 1: there are no emotions involved. He thinks I'm being selfish

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Speaker 1: and have old school thinking, and I should have an

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Speaker 1: with this because the modeling was a big problem for us,

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Speaker 1: so I know porn will only make matters worse. And

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Speaker 1: what do we do if and when people start recognizing him?

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Speaker 1: He said he wouldn't be ashamed at all. I love

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Speaker 1: him and could see myself marrying him, but not if

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Speaker 1: he's okay with sleeping with other girls in front of

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Speaker 1: a camera. I asked him if the tables were turned

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Speaker 1: mind this. Man hit the roof and told me there

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Speaker 1: is a big difference. I don't plan on testing that

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Speaker 1: theory because I would never have sex with another man

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Speaker 1: while I'm with him on camera or not. I don't

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Speaker 1: think this is normal. Please help, well, I absolutely one

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Speaker 1: especially not for someone who claims they care about you

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Speaker 1: and how you feel. And this bothers you so much,

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Speaker 1: you know, seems like he would take that into consideration.

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Speaker 1: I mean, modeling is one thing, but porn is something

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Speaker 1: all together different. You're having sex on camera with one

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Speaker 1: or more partners. You're right, the attention has gone to

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Speaker 1: his head. Um, you know he says that. Um, you know,

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Speaker 1: you don't like it. He says it's strictly business and

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Speaker 1: there are no emotions evolved involved. Uh that may be

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Speaker 1: know you're thinking about marrying this guy. I don't think

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Speaker 1: this guy is marriage material, not where he is right now.

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Speaker 1: You're twenty seven, he's younger than you he's interested in

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Speaker 1: doing porn for money. That's not what who you want

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Speaker 1: I'm worn out out. It was hard to David. What

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Speaker 1: a day. But you know, remember though, in the third

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Speaker 1: this guy is not marriage material right now. He's definitely

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Speaker 1: really ridiculous. I don't even see why why we're reading it.

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Speaker 1: It don't make no damn sense on no level. Nothing

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Speaker 1: slightly younger. He's an underwear model. That's it. You're done.

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Speaker 1: Yeah he modeled drawls. No, he draws model. What you

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Speaker 1: how heavy you want him to be? Hi rich in

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Speaker 1: model drawls. He takes his shirt off and pull it

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Speaker 1: underwear motling is. As you're standing there in your drawls

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Speaker 1: you gotta look like you got on slacks or some

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Speaker 1: Lynch Joe, nasty ass got them drows one okay, and

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Speaker 1: they read. And let me tell y'all something. I'm time

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Speaker 1: these men with these good body models. That's what I

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Speaker 1: shape models. Du these underwear man underwear asks, because hell,

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Speaker 1: we buy underwear two and we buy a lot more

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Speaker 1: underwear and little fine ass dude elastics come out way

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Speaker 1: more often. Holes tarring them way more often. We're gonna

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Speaker 1: have part two of Steve's response, and i'll answer yours

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Speaker 1: your question as well. Time okay, subject, my man wants

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Speaker 1: to share his goodies. We'll be back at twenty three

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Speaker 1: after the hour. Right after this, you're listening to show.

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Speaker 1: All right, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter. My man

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Speaker 1: ain't recros goodies. This woman dating? Is she twenty seven?

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Speaker 1: Dating this young boy that's an underwear model? He model draws?

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Speaker 1: Now all of a sudden he's modeling down become an

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Speaker 1: so all the comments he ge't gonna be runchy. Ain't

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Speaker 1: Nobody looked at him and said, wow, nice time. You

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Speaker 1: Oh he got on the draws, what so sure? Just

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Speaker 1: let me do my lame bother. You don't understand why,

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Speaker 1: you ma, that's because you know what what she tripped,

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Speaker 1: says it's just for fun. He don't never respond to

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Speaker 1: A producer everybody out here, damn producer approach you with

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Speaker 1: had little draws commercials. They're gonna have some boys come

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Speaker 1: just into there looking like a can of ass fresh. Oh,

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Speaker 1: your little draws on. You need to keep your draws

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Speaker 1: with it because he could make a lot of money,

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Speaker 1: make a lot of money. Ain't no a lot of

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Speaker 1: I told him, hell now, not gonna be okay for

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Speaker 1: telling me it ain't like that. Hit the key in

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Speaker 1: the letter. He said, sex is strictly busy. Wow, I agree,

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Speaker 1: That's what it has always been, because I'm in here

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Speaker 1: he said, ain't no emotions involved. He thinks I'm being

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Speaker 1: selfish and have some old school thinking. Uh they're call values,

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Speaker 1: they're called hopes and dreams, and that's not old fashioned.

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Speaker 1: I should have an open mind about it. Now. She said,

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Speaker 1: And he said that it wouldn't shame at all. I

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Speaker 1: Surely made a good point right here. You see yourself, man,

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Speaker 1: Somebody's not a big difference, Soldier. I know what you're

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Speaker 1: I don't plan. I'm testing that theory because I would

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Speaker 1: This relationship is over. I would never have sex with

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Speaker 1: That's a fair statement that the system may I would

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Speaker 1: But if you can't your ass down there to shoot

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Speaker 1: I don't think it's normal. Please help, No, it's not normal.

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Speaker 1: And you stupid for sitting up here even entertaining this foolishness.

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Speaker 1: And it's time let him go so he can go

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Speaker 1: live his life, because he gonna go do the point O.

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Speaker 1: You better believe that, because it duran to his head.

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Speaker 1: He think you pretty. I've told women all the time,

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Speaker 1: you betty court dating, he's pretty. Asked man, get you

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Speaker 1: us on this yo? No, no, no, no, no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry. No, no, I'm sorry. No, you won't before

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Speaker 1: your birthday. No you I'm gonna have to go with

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Speaker 1: team Steve on this one time. Yeah, I'm ugly German. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you're not boodassing, but you boot you knee camp anybody

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Speaker 1: part you back of the out Yeah, but as ugly. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but you're back of the elbow. I'm not gonna be

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Speaker 1: your job. Tender eye. You're not tender eye. Okay, Timmy

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Speaker 1: you're not attracted at all on your damn birthday. My

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Speaker 1: damn gift to you, Lenny check Hey, email us your Instagram.

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Speaker 1: All right, we'll be back with more of the Steve

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Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show right after you're listening to the Steve

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Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show