Speaker 1: I'm Honey Germy. My parents are Dominican. I was born
Speaker 1: and raised in New York City. I love sneakers and
Speaker 1: I'm a body positive advocate.
Speaker 2: I'm Carolina bermudez Sonkawns, but I was born and raised
Speaker 2: in Ohio. I'm a wife, a mama, and a worker bee.
Speaker 3: This is life and spanglish. You guys, we are having
Speaker 3: so much fun.
Speaker 2: We had just such an amazing conversation with Lil Sasolm Packet.
Speaker 3: That we had to keep her for an extra week.
Speaker 3: So thank you so much for.
Speaker 4: Being of course, of course I enjoyed myself. I'm glad
Speaker 4: to be here.
Speaker 2: So now we were discussing on the last episode because
Speaker 2: we were talking like we hit so many things, your
Speaker 2: your rise to now making.
Speaker 3: This your career. We talked about your family not following.
Speaker 2: Your family's footsteps, choosing a different career, and we were
Speaker 2: talking about body positivity and I wanted to stop down
Speaker 2: to let you know just how impactful it is. But
Speaker 2: there was a day where, you know, and this is
Speaker 2: the thing where I hear all the time people like,
Speaker 2: oh well what girl, why are you worried or why
Speaker 2: are you so you know, upset you're this, You're that,
Speaker 2: you know, like when we talk about bodies, you know,
Speaker 2: everybody has their own body. You have to be comfortable
Speaker 2: in your own skin. And I think we all have
Speaker 2: our own insecurities. And there was a day where I
Speaker 2: was really like not feeling myself and I was just down,
Speaker 2: like about everything, you know what I mean. And so
Speaker 2: again I go to Instagram and you know, I'm just
Speaker 2: scrolling through and then I see one of your videos
Speaker 2: where you're talking about how we have to like love
Speaker 2: the skin that we're in. We got this one life
Speaker 2: and how you have completely embraced who you are and
Speaker 2: what you are, And so I wanted to share that
Speaker 2: with people because there are so many of us who
Speaker 2: need to hear things like this. Yeah.
Speaker 5: Yeah, It's like I said, I really believe that this
Speaker 5: world will do everything in its power to make you
Speaker 5: feel like less than, whether it's comparing or invalidating sometimes
Speaker 5: how you feel about yourself. You could sit there and
Speaker 5: feel like I have this issue and someone's gonna be like, oh,
Speaker 5: but you don't have this, or there's someone who has
Speaker 5: it worse. It's like, can I just accept like how
Speaker 5: I'm feeling right now, so that I can get through it.
Speaker 2: That's exactly it, because it doesn't mean that I'm ungrateful.
Speaker 2: I recognize I'm breathing, I can see, I can touch,
Speaker 2: I can feel all of these things.
Speaker 3: But there are days where you just kind of feel
Speaker 3: like blah.
Speaker 2: About yourself, you know, and I think that like there
Speaker 2: also is that other side of like almost toxic positivity.
Speaker 3: Yeah, don't allow you to just feel the feeling.
Speaker 6: Like you can't.
Speaker 5: You can't just be real with yourself and say like
Speaker 5: today I just don't feel like it because someone else
Speaker 5: has to come in and be like oh but again,
Speaker 5: like again comparison, and.
Speaker 6: You notice that we don't do that when somebody is like.
Speaker 5: Happy, like if I want a PlayStation and someone's not
Speaker 5: gonna be like, oh, well, there's other people out there
Speaker 5: that have mansions like can I accept my happiness on
Speaker 5: this PlayStation? So I feel like when you're down, people
Speaker 5: love to almost invalidate, like how you're feeling in that moment.
Speaker 5: And I'm a big believer. If this is how I feel,
Speaker 5: I accept how I feel. It doesn't mean I'm going
Speaker 5: to stay here, but I have to acknowledge it in
Speaker 5: order to get through it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So no, we are talking with Lil Sasolm packet
Speaker 2: three t's at the end because you gotta follow her
Speaker 2: on Instagram all social media. So I wanted to bring
Speaker 2: you back because we had so many different questions that
Speaker 2: we didn't get to get to last week, and one
Speaker 2: of the first ones is do you have any favorite
Speaker 2: creators that you follow or like, how do you how
Speaker 2: do you come up with the things that you like
Speaker 2: post on Insta and TikTok eighty HD trauma.
Speaker 5: No, honestly, I kid you not like I put on
Speaker 5: the camera and I don't know what I'm going to
Speaker 5: talk about. I don't plan them out. I don't sit
Speaker 5: there and be like today I'm gonna talk about this.
Speaker 5: I put roll and whatever blurts out, I'm like, okay,
Speaker 5: I guess that's what.
Speaker 6: We're feeling like today. But I have some creators that
Speaker 6: I really look up to.
Speaker 5: They're friends of mine. I have this friend his Instagram
Speaker 5: handle is rich black Guy. He does stuff with his son.
Speaker 5: He's just very like he's so everything is like a movie,
Speaker 5: and I love the stuff that he does. I have
Speaker 5: another creator named Barbosa people who just rant New York City.
Speaker 5: I love and I follow creators that you can just
Speaker 5: tell that they're just themselves. They're not they're trying to
Speaker 5: be anything else, putting on a whole show. I can't
Speaker 5: sit there and watch other creators Like I try to
Speaker 5: do my best to.
Speaker 4: Post up and get off the internet.
Speaker 5: Oh really, I do, because since when it becomes a career,
Speaker 5: sometimes you get so mentally drained in doing so that
Speaker 5: you don't even want to do nothing with social media.
Speaker 5: Because again, when you're an influencer, everything is social.
Speaker 2: It's true.
Speaker 6: So at some point it's like I need to unwind.
Speaker 5: I have to remember what it was like to be
Speaker 5: outside when MySpace was a thing, and like you know,
Speaker 5: back in the days when social media just started and
Speaker 5: you didn't know what to do with it. Like I
Speaker 5: have to bring myself back so that I'm not everything
Speaker 5: doesn't become watching the likes and the views and getting
Speaker 5: upsessed with the follows and the unfollows and the hate.
Speaker 4: It's just it can take over.
Speaker 2: That can be toxic too, Like when you don't get
Speaker 2: the likes on the video, Oh yeah, did you brush
Speaker 2: it off? Or are you like.
Speaker 5: There are I have to detach myself from my work
Speaker 5: in a sense where it's just like if I put
Speaker 5: it up, I have to be like, well, I like it,
Speaker 5: because before I used to be like, this is gonna go.
Speaker 7: Viral, this is a hit. Expectations were too high, too high.
Speaker 5: Girl was like, again, those are the videos I get
Speaker 5: the three likes my first viral video, I will never forget.
Speaker 5: We got two million on YouTube. All I did was say, hey,
Speaker 5: I say the word talk, and I didn't realize I
Speaker 5: had an accent. I So to this day, I look
Speaker 5: at that video and I'm like, I don't understand why
Speaker 5: you got two million views.
Speaker 4: But I'm in my mail truck talking about talk.
Speaker 5: I didn't realize they say talk, it's talk, but I
Speaker 5: say talk and I just posted it, didn't think anything
Speaker 5: of it.
Speaker 4: Two million views.
Speaker 7: It really be like that. A lot of the viral
Speaker 7: stuff I'm like, okay.
Speaker 2: No one kid a million views isles things, Yeah, that
Speaker 2: can really pop off. So it's like, but by the way,
Speaker 2: she said my Space, I feel like we would be
Speaker 2: in your topic.
Speaker 5: I miss I missed the top e. But I know
Speaker 5: this worl could not handle a topic. They could not
Speaker 5: excuse me. I was five yesterday. What you mean I'm seven.
Speaker 2: I think that you are in my opinion, a trailblazer.
Speaker 2: But what does it mean to you?
Speaker 5: To me, I felt, you know, I realized earlier on,
Speaker 5: I felt like there were so many I don't think
Speaker 5: that there's a lack of Latina representation. I think there's
Speaker 5: a lack of pushing the Latina representation and them being
Speaker 5: big faces. I think that a lot of them are
Speaker 5: slept on and channels are not being pushed the way
Speaker 5: that they need to. So for me to get some
Speaker 5: kind of recognition, it means a lot. And that's why
Speaker 5: I'm such a I'm a big believer of putting on people.
Speaker 5: I'm not a gatekeeper. I'm very much If I believe
Speaker 5: in you, I'll share your stuff because sharing is free,
Speaker 5: don't cost nothing to just tag people.
Speaker 4: And I think there just needs to be more of that.
Speaker 5: I think a lot at times with the Latino community,
Speaker 5: we have a tendency of glorifying struggle where it's like
Speaker 5: I struggle, so you need to struggle, And I'm not
Speaker 5: about that. I think there needs to be more of
Speaker 5: us who are willing to extend a hand of like, hey,
Speaker 5: I made it here, and if I see you're trying
Speaker 5: and I believe in you, here like I'll put you
Speaker 5: on or I'll give you an opportunity, because there there
Speaker 5: are many of us, just we're not on these bigger platforms.
Speaker 5: And I think it's because, of course, not only is
Speaker 5: it kind of against us the industry to kind of
Speaker 5: put us on, but there's not enough support amongst each other.
Speaker 6: There's more competition.
Speaker 4: So it means a lot.
Speaker 6: To me to just be having a space like that
Speaker 6: that could do that.
Speaker 2: And your voice has an impact, you know, and a
Speaker 2: lasting impact. So I think that that is something that
Speaker 2: people need to remember. But now, what kind of advice
Speaker 2: would you give your younger self.
Speaker 5: It's gonna be all right, I don't chose those boys,
Speaker 5: I would say, younger me.
Speaker 4: It's funny.
Speaker 5: Younger me was more wanting to be a wife than
Speaker 5: wanting to be like a business woman. Like I always
Speaker 5: was more into relationships and stuff like that. And not
Speaker 5: that that's a bad thing, but I feel like there
Speaker 5: was a part of me that I was always pouring
Speaker 5: into other people and not willing to give that to myself.
Speaker 3: But don't you think that that is the example. That's
Speaker 3: the example that.
Speaker 2: I had from my mom.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, my mom.
Speaker 2: Gave up her entire Life mentioned this on the podcast
Speaker 2: because she was raising six kids. My mom had dreams.
Speaker 2: My mom never got to realize those dreams. But it's
Speaker 2: almost like in our community, not only is it expected,
Speaker 2: but it's venerated. Yeah, that you gave it up because
Speaker 2: of the kids, you know, and even for people who
Speaker 2: don't have kids, you're still giving up something like it's
Speaker 2: such a selfless thing.
Speaker 7: But I think it's we not doing that no more.
Speaker 1: Care.
Speaker 7: I am so sorry, we just do that no more.
Speaker 5: It's honestly, to me, it's almost like a false sense
Speaker 5: of humility at some point, because it's almost like we
Speaker 5: can't even accept help if we're struggling sometimes.
Speaker 4: Because we feel like, no, as a Latina, you have
Speaker 4: to have it.
Speaker 5: You have to be able to hold down the fort
Speaker 5: and hold on a job and hold on all the stuff.
Speaker 5: And it's just like it's okay to say that you
Speaker 5: need help. And again, like you said, it's completely venerated
Speaker 5: to the point that people feel like amongst the Latino community,
Speaker 5: we serve the man and the kids and everyone else
Speaker 5: gets served first, and we last the scraps, and you know,
Speaker 5: it's it's honorable, And I'm like, no, there has to
Speaker 5: be a point where you're like, it's okay to pour
Speaker 5: into myself too.
Speaker 2: Okay. So I have two stories for you. Number one,
Speaker 2: when my brother had three older brothers. When my brothers
Speaker 2: would come they were in college and like they were
Speaker 2: way older than me. But my brothers would come home
Speaker 2: from with their friends from the bar, and my mom
Speaker 2: would be like, Mama, Mama, I'll go see that, but
Speaker 2: I need it, you know. Like my mom would say,
Speaker 2: and I was like ten eleven years old. She would
Speaker 2: be like, get up, we're going to serve the guy.
Speaker 2: The guys are coming home. And it's like, I'm sorry,
Speaker 2: you know, man. But by the way, I don't.
Speaker 3: Blame my mother. I think it's a cultural right.
Speaker 2: And then just this past weekend, Mark and I, my
Speaker 2: husband and I went to we got a house in
Speaker 2: Fire Island. We invited friends and I cooked for twenty
Speaker 2: three people.
Speaker 7: Oh I cook, Yeah, I did salad. I did my
Speaker 7: same day or you started a day before this.
Speaker 3: Is like, I mean, I started prepping as soon as
Speaker 3: I got.
Speaker 6: Their Okay, good man.
Speaker 2: Everything right. So we're serving everybody and my husband looks
Speaker 2: at me and he's like, where's your food? And I said,
Speaker 2: I know he I thought, that's it.
Speaker 6: Yeah, wow, yeah, you.
Speaker 2: Know, upset, and he goes, why didn't you say anything?
Speaker 2: And I said two things. Number One, I was so busy,
Speaker 2: I didn't even realize.
Speaker 7: You don't come. You're just so distracted.
Speaker 2: But there was no more chicken thighs, you know what.
Speaker 2: And he felt horrible and he was like, no, we
Speaker 2: are getting you food. But it's just like it's one
Speaker 2: of those things where we're so conditioned to be that way.
Speaker 5: We're so conditioned to not look at ourselves or the
Speaker 5: mentality of being a servant instead of serving.
Speaker 4: Like I'm a big believer.
Speaker 5: I'll serve and I'll you know, take care of my
Speaker 5: family and all that stuff, but I'm not a servant
Speaker 5: where you're not.
Speaker 6: Going to treat me like lessons or forget that I
Speaker 6: need have needs to.
Speaker 4: I need to eat some of that that I'm making.
Speaker 2: And it was seriously, the compliments were off the chart.
Speaker 2: You know, you have to take that time and make
Speaker 2: that space for yourself.
Speaker 1: That's a fact. Now I want to talk to you
Speaker 1: about other creators. I know a lot of people in
Speaker 1: this building who went to school journalism. They do this,
Speaker 1: they do that, but they don't want to create content
Speaker 1: because of hair, makeup, background, own sound video. You're out
Speaker 1: here just doing you like, talk to them, please, I
Speaker 1: want you to talk to them because I'm not getting through.
Speaker 3: To them talking to me right now.
Speaker 4: You're overthinking it. You're overthinking it.
Speaker 5: Look at some of the stuff, like even when I
Speaker 5: told you about how my video went viral and I
Speaker 5: was like talk And even to this day, I'm like, I.
Speaker 6: Don't understand while that one viral and I'm in the video.
Speaker 5: You know you're overthinking it because at the end of
Speaker 5: the day, whatever message that you want to get across
Speaker 5: has to be said. It doesn't matter how you look
Speaker 5: the makeup of so people just need to hear what
Speaker 5: you have to say. And if you're too busy caught
Speaker 5: up in your own head about it, doesn't look There
Speaker 5: was a girl who got four million followers off a
Speaker 5: period a per uh.
Speaker 6: Please don't sit there and overthink the process of.
Speaker 5: Being of whatever messages you want to do, just do it.
Speaker 5: Put the camera on and again, if you love it
Speaker 5: and you have a passionate about it, and you have
Speaker 5: something positive.
Speaker 4: To say, just go for it.
Speaker 2: I love that.
Speaker 5: And like I said, don't get caught up on the likes,
Speaker 5: because the one that you have your hair and makeup
Speaker 5: all done may get the ten likes.
Speaker 2: And then the one where.
Speaker 5: You're busted out, you know, Noah's hair is coming out,
Speaker 5: that might be the one that goes viral, and that's.
Speaker 2: The one that people will appreciate because they can relate
Speaker 2: to it, like you know, that's that's where people find
Speaker 2: like that common thread. We're gonna take a quick break
Speaker 2: and then I want to hear about what's coming up
Speaker 2: next for you. So after this we're going to discuss
Speaker 2: future plea. Okay, we are back.
Speaker 3: With my girl, Rita Lilsa so packet you had that
Speaker 3: you know.
Speaker 2: By the way, this isn't easy. A lot of people
Speaker 2: think like, oh, doing a podcast, everybody can do a
Speaker 2: pocket this this is not easy.
Speaker 1: You're talking about her being interviewed us hosting.
Speaker 2: You know what I mean, because it's not something that
Speaker 2: you commonly do, you know, I mean, I don't know
Speaker 2: if you if you nod, well.
Speaker 7: She's doing great.
Speaker 1: We're just having a conversation here, you know, vibes and
Speaker 1: life and san English exactly.
Speaker 2: Now, I do want to ask if you have any
Speaker 2: plans to do stand up in your future because you.
Speaker 3: Are so fun like it. It comes so naturally to you.
Speaker 4: I get asked that all the time. I get so
Speaker 4: many people you should just stand up.
Speaker 2: I've had people.
Speaker 4: Tell me that they'll like, you know, have they have
Speaker 4: a venue for me.
Speaker 5: But truth is, I'm gonna be one hundred percent with
Speaker 5: you guys. I cannot handle Heckler's And so I don't
Speaker 5: do stand up because I know it will take one
Speaker 5: Stacy and Josephine in the comments and in the audience
Speaker 5: for me to be like world Star. And so I'm
Speaker 5: not delivered from Egypt yet. So for me, it's just
Speaker 5: better if I did.
Speaker 6: Not and I'm behind the camera doing it because.
Speaker 4: People and people people.
Speaker 5: There's a part of me that's still the Bronx side
Speaker 5: that I'm like, all right, let's we have to be professional.
Speaker 2: She took off the hoops shout out.
Speaker 1: She's one of my favorite comed She is amazing. She
Speaker 1: loves coming up to power. She's dope.
Speaker 7: She's Dominican and Puerto Rican. She's both and she's from
Speaker 7: New York too. She's dope.
Speaker 3: No, but stand up is no joke. You really have
Speaker 3: to be prepared and.
Speaker 2: You have to be quick, and you got I feel
Speaker 2: like you are all of those things, but you know,
Speaker 2: maybe like performing in front of a crowd isn't for you,
Speaker 2: So like, what is the next goal? You know?
Speaker 5: Right now, my next goal is I'm opening up a
Speaker 5: social media management company because i want to start putting.
Speaker 5: Like I said, I'm a big believer in influencer is
Speaker 5: it nothing without their following? And so now that I've
Speaker 5: gotten too a space where it started to work for me,
Speaker 5: I would love to be able to put other people on,
Speaker 5: people of color, latinos and help promote their businesses and
Speaker 5: get their social media's up and going for them.
Speaker 4: So that's what I'm doing.
Speaker 3: I don't know this, but were you self talk is like,
Speaker 3: how did you navigate?
Speaker 2: You talked about your YouTube channel, you talked about your tiktoks,
Speaker 2: you talked about Instagram. Was it just you sitting there
Speaker 2: figuring it out.
Speaker 3: Finding out what works?
Speaker 4: Yeah, finding out what works.
Speaker 5: Because a lot of times I'm a big I like
Speaker 5: to ask questions and I would always get the same
Speaker 5: kind of common responses.
Speaker 7: Just work hard.
Speaker 5: It's like, okay, so you're not going to try to
Speaker 5: give me something beneficial cool I had worked in the
Speaker 5: background before, Like I've helped casting directors cast for projects.
Speaker 5: And I've worked in media where I used to work
Speaker 5: with influencers just like you know, helping them build their pages,
Speaker 5: until I decided that I want to do it for myself.
Speaker 5: So it's just a learning curve where some days you're
Speaker 5: like this works, and then the algorithm changes and it's like,
Speaker 5: well that don't work anymore.
Speaker 1: And social media it's like you learn everything today and
Speaker 1: tomorrow you got to start coying.
Speaker 6: It's a monster. Social media is an absolute monster, and.
Speaker 2: It's so crazy that just in the past however many years,
Speaker 2: you know, like what since Facebook started or.
Speaker 7: Twitter, probably like the last ten to fifteen.
Speaker 6: Years made it harder.
Speaker 5: It's because so many people started going viral and becoming
Speaker 5: you know, huge content creators.
Speaker 6: They started to make it harder, which is why they
Speaker 6: switched the algorithm so much.
Speaker 5: So you really have to kind of be on top
Speaker 5: of like, Okay, I'm noticing that the views don't look
Speaker 5: the same and it's the same type of content shadow
Speaker 5: bands you get get shadow band. I had a page
Speaker 5: gaint shadow bands, and then I started the little sets
Speaker 5: Une package one in November because I had a page
Speaker 5: of like thirty thousand followers, and I was like, I know,
Speaker 5: there's a reason why I'm not growing.
Speaker 2: I was like, there's absolutely.
Speaker 6: I was like, I am posting every day consistently, my
Speaker 6: views are not there.
Speaker 4: I think I'm shadow band. So I had to start
Speaker 4: a new page.
Speaker 2: That is so wild because there's a guy in South
Speaker 2: Dakota that makes leather wallets and he has more followers
Speaker 2: than I've been in that industry for twenty day. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I was just grinding and hustling.
Speaker 3: I'm like, I don't get it.
Speaker 2: I don't get it.
Speaker 3: It's like my growth is just like boom, it just stopped,
Speaker 3: you know. So there might be something going.
Speaker 1: On with page like that's like niche pages and stuff
Speaker 1: like that. It's like, oh okay, you love let's say
Speaker 1: cats and sunglasses.
Speaker 7: Every single human that likes that will follow.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So sometimes yeah, like that's the way I find your thing, Carolina,
Speaker 1: because it's like people look for like very like you say,
Speaker 1: the guy with the wallets that makes the wallets. People
Speaker 1: sit there and probably just idea, what is.
Speaker 2: This guy doing?
Speaker 3: He was he was putting like these he was like
Speaker 3: stamping these leather wallets.
Speaker 2: And he was just in his studio and he had
Speaker 2: music on.
Speaker 7: In the background and you were just stop.
Speaker 2: You know what your thing is?
Speaker 5: You're you are relatable And I don't even think you
Speaker 5: even realize how relatable you are, maybe because you've spent
Speaker 5: so much time on radio and like and like you
Speaker 5: always are interviewing other people and you have such a
Speaker 5: one personality, But you are so relatable with just even
Speaker 5: the conversation I was having you.
Speaker 4: Or we were getting a coffee.
Speaker 5: Just if people saw that other side to you, I'm
Speaker 5: sure you would get more.
Speaker 6: Of views and even thought, just based on who you are.
Speaker 1: You don't have to try for any You are very
Speaker 1: You're genuinely you. People love you. You're super relatable. The
Speaker 1: thing is that you're not constantly posting. It's not your
Speaker 1: bread and butter. You have your wife, you have a
Speaker 1: morning show, you have children.
Speaker 7: If you commute into work, you.
Speaker 2: Don't have on social media.
Speaker 7: Because you don't.
Speaker 5: You know, that's a career and it's time consuming to
Speaker 5: it takes all day.
Speaker 6: So if it's something like again, if you're not into
Speaker 6: becoming this voute, you're perfectly fine.
Speaker 7: You're perfectly fine telling I.
Speaker 2: Do say to people because they get frustrated because they're like, oh,
Speaker 2: you haven't been on for a week, I'm worried about you.
Speaker 2: Do you ever get that from people like whenever you
Speaker 2: don't post for a day or two, like.
Speaker 7: You post every day.
Speaker 6: I post twice a day every day.
Speaker 7: So that's her career. She makes that bread.
Speaker 4: If you don't love this, then don't do it. So again.
Speaker 5: You don't have to sit there and try and get
Speaker 5: people to follow you or the legs or like I
Speaker 5: don't get caught up and the likes and follows. Those
Speaker 5: who support you and love you, they watch it and
Speaker 5: that's it.
Speaker 2: No, okay, so now I want to switch gears. I
Speaker 2: have seen your dating videos my DearS, and I have seen.
Speaker 3: The struggle, and I have heard the stories. Who is
Speaker 3: the ideal man that can handle all of this?
Speaker 5: I can handle the right amount of spice. I love
Speaker 5: a funny man. I love a big boy, but I
Speaker 5: don't really I don't really have I love my little big.
Speaker 6: Boys I do.
Speaker 5: I love a little poofy chest that I bought, like rap,
Speaker 5: pillowcases and stuff. I just want somebody. I cannot have
Speaker 5: somebody that doesn't have personality. You cannot be like drywall
Speaker 5: and expect something to work with me, absolutely not. I
Speaker 5: talk a lot, and if I can't carry a conversation
Speaker 5: with you, you have to go. So personality is one thing,
Speaker 5: And unfortunately, I feel like loyalty is kind of something
Speaker 5: that is a debatable now.
Speaker 2: And I don't have the time.
Speaker 6: I don't have the time to entertain somebody's gonna play
Speaker 6: games with me.
Speaker 2: We discussed this in our like two episodes ago. We
Speaker 2: were talking about like why do men cheat and all
Speaker 2: this other stuff, and like that for me is like
Speaker 2: the on negotiable because you know, again going back to
Speaker 2: our culture, it's like and you even talked about you know,
Speaker 2: like you know you you know, oh you know my
Speaker 2: mom would say about my one THEO and they excuse it. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and they would just brush it under the rock. Yeah.
Speaker 2: And like I have cousins that, like, you know, I
Speaker 2: may not even know which you know, bless them, but
Speaker 2: you know, yeah, I feel like that is such a
Speaker 2: non negotiable for me. So for you, it's loyalty.
Speaker 3: You need a big boy.
Speaker 5: I love the big boy, but my but my main
Speaker 5: type is a grown man. Yeah, somebody who you communicate,
Speaker 5: don't don't tell me that you're fine and you're not fine.
Speaker 5: They always say that we do that, and they do
Speaker 5: it as well, say that they're okay, and then next
Speaker 5: thing you know, they find out they have some feelings
Speaker 5: for something.
Speaker 4: So now tell me what's wrong, Poppy. Let's talk about
Speaker 4: it exactly, loyalty. Don't have me out here looking stupid.
Speaker 4: But don't you?
Speaker 2: So do you use Instagram? Like? Do people go in
Speaker 2: your dms? Like have you ever gone there? Because I
Speaker 2: feel like that's such a d I've never been seeing.
Speaker 7: I do not like.
Speaker 5: I avoid my dms because I used to get a
Speaker 5: lot of peepy leaby.
Speaker 4: Pictures and I just cannot yes.
Speaker 5: And I was like, what makes what makes you think
Speaker 5: that I'm interested in seeing your naked mole rat like
Speaker 5: it looks like it's being held hostage.
Speaker 4: It doesn't want to take this picture, Bob.
Speaker 5: So no, I try to stay away from my dms
Speaker 5: because a lot of them they're just they're always sexual.
Speaker 2: I want I want you to sit up my face.
Speaker 4: No, thank you so deep.
Speaker 5: No, there's a I said, I am somebody's mother.
Speaker 2: I wrote back to him, I said, I am somebody's mother.
Speaker 2: I said, don't make me screenshot this and send this
Speaker 2: to your mom and you don't want anywhere near.
Speaker 7: This drunk she got sexy pitch?
Speaker 4: Is that waxing?
Speaker 6: Oh my favorite?
Speaker 4: No, that's hazy.
Speaker 2: Is nuts. So now when we come back from the break,
Speaker 2: we have a little feature here on Life in Spanglish
Speaker 2: and it's called the Salon. So we take everybody to
Speaker 2: the salon. And this is something that Honey and I
Speaker 2: we love this because she used to go to the
Speaker 2: Dominican salon and that's where you get all the tea
Speaker 2: that you So we come back, we're going to head
Speaker 2: to this line and you're going to help one of
Speaker 2: our listeners with a problem that they have.
Speaker 1: After this, well, you know how it goes down when
Speaker 1: you go get your hair done, mohe you asks for advice.
Speaker 1: The older women Laslo, you know they came from Santiago
Speaker 1: and shit, they're like, did maybe I'm wanning get that you.
Speaker 1: So we decided we want to always, you know, encourage
Speaker 1: our listeners to write in. They send us letters and
Speaker 1: we take them into the salon. Today we have a
Speaker 1: letter from Cci and she starts off saying, ola mista modis.
Speaker 1: I know you usually help with relationship advice, not the case.
Speaker 1: Cz people just love writing in about relationship advice, she said,
Speaker 1: but I have something a little bit different recently, I
Speaker 1: lost a lot of weight, over one hundred pounds down
Speaker 1: since November twenty twenty one. But then Ceci goes on
Speaker 1: to say, I am feeling more confident in myself in
Speaker 1: so many ways, but the loose skin is making me
Speaker 1: feel all types of self conscious. I want to start
Speaker 1: dating and living my life again, but the loose is
Speaker 1: holding me back. I brought this up to me Madre,
Speaker 1: and she told me I was being selfish and I
Speaker 1: should love the body that I am in.
Speaker 7: What do you all recommend? Sincerely?
Speaker 2: Cc oh cc.
Speaker 5: Okay, So here's my take on it. If you have
Speaker 5: that little skin and let's say she can't do something
Speaker 5: about it, like say she can't get surgery to remove it.
Speaker 5: If she, you know, that may not be the course
Speaker 5: of action, then whatever man you're gonna get involved with,
Speaker 5: or a person you're gonna get involved with, wrap them
Speaker 5: up like a tortilla and that skin. It is okay,
Speaker 5: Like at some point you have to whatever your situation is,
Speaker 5: if you can do something about it, then I recommend, like,
Speaker 5: you know, trying your best to do something about it.
Speaker 5: It's okay, to not like something and want to change it.
Speaker 5: But if you can't do something about it or like
Speaker 5: in whatever timeframe, accepting where it is. And you don't
Speaker 5: have to hate yourself while disliking something about you. So, CC,
Speaker 5: you got that extra skin, Ma, who don't like a
Speaker 5: little extra meat on the bones?
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 4: Flap that around like at the wire, ring it out.
Speaker 4: It's it holds extra flavor. And plus that is a
Speaker 4: celebratory thing.
Speaker 6: You've dropped one hundred pounds, CC, one hundred pounds.
Speaker 3: What a journey. One hundred pounds is no job.
Speaker 5: You dropped one of my cankles, CC, So please please
Speaker 5: seec whatever and whatever you're going to do, just don't
Speaker 5: hate yourself in the process of doing it.
Speaker 4: So that's my advice to you, SEC.
Speaker 5: And if you feel like you want to just go
Speaker 5: on the dancy, I promise you there are grown men
Speaker 5: out there who will just love your body and love
Speaker 5: you for you. So don't settle for anybody who's got
Speaker 5: a problem with that. You won CEC one hundred pounds down.
Speaker 5: Congrats to you, boo.
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I feel bad for CC because I understand, but I
Speaker 1: haven't dated in a long time. Well, I haven't gotten
Speaker 1: naked in front of a new man in a long time.
Speaker 1: But girl, when it was time to let them fit
Speaker 1: us out and let that na got bounced, I would
Speaker 1: not have wanted extra skin. I'm not even gonna lie in,
Speaker 1: but like girl, embrace it, because I would have been
Speaker 1: feeling all types of so comfort. I would have been
Speaker 1: like a lu I'm gonna wait for you. I've struggled
Speaker 1: with a lot of you know, body issues since I
Speaker 1: was young. I've always been, you know, on the heavier side.
Speaker 1: I've lost weight, I've gained weight, I've lost weight, and
Speaker 1: I know that insecurity is a mother, especially when it's
Speaker 1: time to get naked in front of a new man.
Speaker 1: So yeah, you know, congratulations of losing the one hundred pounds.
Speaker 1: But me, I'm always for plastic surgery.
Speaker 2: If you can get.
Speaker 1: Your money up, Cezy, and you want to cut off
Speaker 1: that loose skin, I would say, go for it. Be
Speaker 1: safe about it, you know, don't go back to the
Speaker 1: motherland and die under the knife, because that's not a
Speaker 1: good look. But if you can do it here in
Speaker 1: the United States, by all means, do it. Whatever makes
Speaker 1: you feel more confident and like putting yourself out there
Speaker 1: in front of men and dating and having sex.
Speaker 7: Whatever makes you feel good. I say, go for it.
Speaker 1: Congratulations on the weight loss, but I understand you one
Speaker 1: hundred percent.
Speaker 7: Can we make it okay.
Speaker 6: For women to do with their bodies what they want,
Speaker 6: which means if they want to.
Speaker 5: Get plastic surgery safe, if you want to wear makeup,
Speaker 5: wear makeup.
Speaker 6: If you don't want to make up, don't want to
Speaker 6: make up.
Speaker 4: This whole competition of.
Speaker 6: Well I don't wear makeup and I do.
Speaker 5: Wear making it's soupid But that that used to drive me.
Speaker 4: Not whatever you want to do.
Speaker 2: Yes, I don't know the reasoning behind why somebody doesn't
Speaker 2: feel like and I explain to people like they're like, oh,
Speaker 2: you're always so done up, Like you know, you always
Speaker 2: make yourself up in your videos.
Speaker 3: First of all, I make myself.
Speaker 2: Up every day.
Speaker 3: That's just me, okay, Like that's how I.
Speaker 2: Was raised, that's how you function. But I also have
Speaker 2: malasma for my second child that is pretty drastic on
Speaker 2: my left side.
Speaker 7: I would have never not you know what I mean?
Speaker 6: Or sometimes you want gold sparkles on your eyelashes.
Speaker 4: Like it's just.
Speaker 7: I've got my bronze to be.
Speaker 5: I don't feel like the world you have to explain
Speaker 5: to the world as to why you want to do
Speaker 5: with your body what you want to do.
Speaker 4: Just be safe about it.
Speaker 5: So one day you want to go no makeup, I'm
Speaker 5: going to make up today. Do you if I want
Speaker 5: to wear makeup and I want to, you know, make
Speaker 5: some blue eyeshadow and make some colors happen, I'm gonna
Speaker 5: do that, and it shouldn't should always be.
Speaker 7: Do you not love yourself?
Speaker 4: Are you insecure?
Speaker 7: Today?
Speaker 6: I feel like looking like Count Dracula.
Speaker 4: I just feel this way, and that's what I want.
Speaker 5: That's when you do your make Yeah, sometimes girl my rock,
Speaker 5: that's it. You know, osborne but a bad and stuff.
Speaker 5: So I just feel like to piggyback of what you said.
Speaker 5: I completely agree if it gets to the point where
Speaker 5: you're just like, listen, I really don't like it.
Speaker 2: I'm a big believer.
Speaker 5: If you can change something that you don't like, be
Speaker 5: safe about it. The only thing I always say is
Speaker 5: don't hate yourself through the process. But is it it
Speaker 5: is completely okay to be like, you know what you
Speaker 5: can't work off blue skin?
Speaker 7: Can you can?
Speaker 3: You can do with him, there's nothing that you can do.
Speaker 5: Other I gotta get cut off, you gotta get slip snip,
Speaker 5: and nobody should have to tell you, oh well, you
Speaker 5: just have to accept it. If you don't love it,
Speaker 5: that's fine, you know what. I'm gonna get it changed
Speaker 5: and I'm gonna be safe about it.
Speaker 7: And that's that.
Speaker 2: And I feel like I'm aligned with both of you
Speaker 2: on your messaging because I do think like there are
Speaker 2: some people who are just like, you know what, there's
Speaker 2: more cushion, like let's do this, and there's also people
Speaker 2: who like really are in there. They're almost like they're
Speaker 2: almost like caught up in that space where they can't
Speaker 2: get out of it, right, you know. And so it's
Speaker 2: like I have to say, c see, your mom is
Speaker 2: coming from a good place, though I know, you know
Speaker 2: a lot of people's mothers have opinions all the time.
Speaker 2: And I think that maybe what she's concerned about is
Speaker 2: like she wants you to just get to that other
Speaker 2: place where you're accepting yourself and you love yourself. But
Speaker 2: when you look in that mirror, you do like what
Speaker 2: you see, this is your life. This isn't your mom's life,
Speaker 2: This isn't your you know, and and much like what
Speaker 2: you said, there's there's so many men who are accepting
Speaker 2: there's there's.
Speaker 5: A there's somebody that I My stance is this, you
Speaker 5: don't get an opinion where you don't put a payment
Speaker 5: if you are not paying for the surgery. If it's
Speaker 5: something that I'm doing myself, you don't get to tell
Speaker 5: me what I should or should not do it.
Speaker 4: That this is my body. I'm allowed to do it
Speaker 4: to what I want. So again, if.
Speaker 5: You're not paying for it, if someone wants to get
Speaker 5: it done, I don't think you should do it.
Speaker 4: Is it coming out of your pocket?
Speaker 2: I don't think so save it.
Speaker 6: So exactly, I don't. I didn't ask for your opinion, No, totally.
Speaker 2: And I do have to say to CC because people,
Speaker 2: like I said, people look at me. They're like, oh,
Speaker 2: what do you have to be insecure about? You're this,
Speaker 2: You're that, you're skinny, your fit whatever, Okay, I tell
Speaker 2: them lower the lights. Yes exactly. So you know, I
Speaker 2: think that there is something to be said about making
Speaker 2: a smart choice. Right. You have to research your doctors.
Speaker 2: If you're going to go to a plastic surgeon, you
Speaker 2: have to think financially because plastic surgery is such a risk.
Speaker 3: What would happen if it goes wrong?
Speaker 2: You could build up that money that whatever I'm making
Speaker 2: this subject, that ten to fifteen thousand dollars is going
Speaker 2: to take to cut off the blue skin. You could
Speaker 2: have a complication. You need to not save ten to
Speaker 2: fifteen thousand. You need to save even more.
Speaker 3: Because God forbid, you have to have a second surgery.
Speaker 2: You got to go back in. You got to be
Speaker 2: prepared for that, because then that becomes another thing, right,
Speaker 2: that becomes another hurt. But I will tell you this CC.
Speaker 2: When I was younger, I gained a lot of weight.
Speaker 2: I was on steroids. I had pneumonia, and then I
Speaker 2: lost a lot of weight. So I was on steroids
Speaker 2: for an extended period of time. When I lost my weight,
Speaker 2: my breasts were not the same. I was twenty one
Speaker 2: years old and I went to my mom and dad
Speaker 2: and I said to that my dad's a doctor, which
Speaker 2: I had mentioned. I said, Dad, I said I am
Speaker 2: going to get breast and plants. And he said, no,
Speaker 2: you're not. And I said, no, I am. I said,
Speaker 2: but I can do this with you, or I can
Speaker 2: do it without you. I would love for you to provide,
Speaker 2: like you know your expertise, and help me find the
Speaker 2: right surgeon, I said, And you don't have to pay
Speaker 2: for it, but I've been saying for it, I said,
Speaker 2: But I want your support and I need you to
Speaker 2: understand why I'm doing this. I am a young woman
Speaker 2: who does not feel comfortable in her own skin. And
Speaker 2: when I look in the mirror and I'm d like
Speaker 2: I'm twenty one day, I don't want to feel this
Speaker 2: way every time I go on a date or feel
Speaker 2: like this person isn't going to you know, it's going
Speaker 2: to look at me and feel disgusted. And so they did.
Speaker 2: They at twenty one. They said, look like it's your
Speaker 2: body again. Can we allow women to, you know, do
Speaker 2: it with their bodies? And my dad said, I think
Speaker 2: this was such a good productive conversation because I didn't
Speaker 2: look at it that way, because I said, I want
Speaker 2: to say I'm twenty one now. If I don't do this,
Speaker 2: and if I don't do it with your help, I'm
Speaker 2: gonna go. I'm going to go and do something, and
Speaker 2: I don't ever want to regret this. But I also
Speaker 2: want to find the person who I want to feel
Speaker 2: great about myself when I find the person who's gonna
Speaker 2: love me, you know, so Cec. I hope we helped you.
Speaker 2: I hope we didn't confuse you even more. Yeah you
Speaker 2: know what I mean. But whatever you do.
Speaker 7: Just just be safe.
Speaker 4: That's a nassage.
Speaker 2: Hink it through. And also maybe have a heart to
Speaker 2: heart with your mom because from women to women, I
Speaker 2: think she really will understand where you're coming from.
Speaker 7: Yeah, you gotta be like mommy and Cera say, look
Speaker 7: at your.
Speaker 2: True It is so true. Well, Rita, thank you so
Speaker 2: so much for coming and for being a part of
Speaker 2: life in Spanglish for these two episodes. We love you.
Speaker 2: Where we're in call. We have to call her back at.
Speaker 1: Some Halloween too many say t ever holiday you want
Speaker 1: that for I want that salad.
Speaker 7: You come, you come out.
Speaker 2: To my house.
Speaker 7: I will feel you.
Speaker 2: I'll have your drinks. I will do it all. Thank
Speaker 2: you so so much for spreading your message and continued
Speaker 2: success to you. I want to see you rise, I
Speaker 2: want to see you shine less. Sending you just so
Speaker 2: much love and I hope you feel it.
Speaker 4: Thank you so much.
Speaker 2: I do.
Speaker 4: Thank you.
Speaker 5: This is such an honor again to be here. Thank
Speaker 5: you so much for having.
Speaker 2: Me, Well, everybody follow her. It's at Little Sussem Packet
Speaker 2: with three t's at the end. I also and you
Speaker 2: can follow us at l I Spanglish. I'm at the
Speaker 2: Real Carolina and follow me because I apparently I can't
Speaker 2: get more follows. I don't know. And then you can
Speaker 2: follow Honey.
Speaker 1: App I am Honey Jereman and make sure you guys
Speaker 1: like and subscribe Life in Spanglish wherever you listen to
Speaker 1: your podcast, but preferably on the iHeartRadio app, because it's.
Speaker 5: Free exactly, it's not cheap cheap guys.
Speaker 2: We'll be back next week.
Speaker 1: Lifence Banglish is a production of Life Pnce Banglish Productions
Speaker 1: in partnership with Iheart's My Kuntua podcast network