WEBVTT - Butt Slap Bill 0:00:07.560 --> 0:00:17.160 I got to s Yeah, yeah, yeah, welcome. We know 0:00:17.320 --> 0:00:21.439 his parenting. I'm Peter McCarney, Beth Nowel, We're in it. 0:00:21.560 --> 0:00:25.440 We're doing it episode Wow. Can you believe that we're 0:00:25.440 --> 0:00:31.120 almost to a hundred? Can you believe? Hundred weeks? So, 0:00:31.440 --> 0:00:35.720 like the rest of you, where um still in coronavirus lockdown, 0:00:38.640 --> 0:00:41.200 we are hearts are going out to those of you 0:00:41.320 --> 0:00:47.920 who are in essential workforces and in New York City 0:00:48.000 --> 0:00:53.840 and areas that are being very affected right now. Um, 0:00:53.920 --> 0:00:59.880 we are still riding this out in Massachusetts. We're boy, 0:01:00.200 --> 0:01:02.560 We're mostly doing good. It's been a little bit of 0:01:02.600 --> 0:01:07.560 a bumpy ride here. Um, but yes, relatively we're great, 0:01:08.080 --> 0:01:12.040 um compared to people who are really struggling. But yeah, 0:01:12.080 --> 0:01:14.760 we're very lucky. But we're also having to deal with 0:01:14.800 --> 0:01:18.080 each other. That being said, we have our own challenges. 0:01:19.240 --> 0:01:24.080 What are some of yours this week? Elizabeth? Um, it's 0:01:24.160 --> 0:01:27.480 just trying to carve out space and time to be 0:01:27.560 --> 0:01:31.480 alone and away from you all is my number one concern. 0:01:31.800 --> 0:01:35.200 That and my allergy situation. How are they compared to 0:01:35.319 --> 0:01:39.360 last week? Better than last week? But it's still like 0:01:40.600 --> 0:01:43.360 it feels like in terms of keeping the kids away 0:01:43.400 --> 0:01:48.040 from me, it feels like there's like a strong effort 0:01:48.080 --> 0:01:51.520 early in the week, and then as the week goes on, 0:01:51.800 --> 0:01:54.000 it's kind of like our regular weeks where everything just 0:01:54.040 --> 0:01:56.680 slowly starts to fall apart and the kids become more 0:01:56.840 --> 0:02:00.280 tired and everyone's trying, like it becomes sort of every 0:02:00.280 --> 0:02:05.920 man for himself and it devolves and it's not fun 0:02:06.040 --> 0:02:08.160 by the end. The end of the week fell apart 0:02:08.200 --> 0:02:11.560 in terms of our rules. But today boy being back 0:02:11.560 --> 0:02:14.280 on track and being very clear about who's in charge 0:02:14.320 --> 0:02:17.880 of what when, Yeah, better. It feels like it feels 0:02:17.880 --> 0:02:19.480 good for it to be a Monday and be like, Okay, 0:02:19.480 --> 0:02:21.280 we're hunkering down, and it kind of feels good to 0:02:21.320 --> 0:02:23.760 be the weekend when we're like, okay, we're not really 0:02:23.840 --> 0:02:26.240 going to try to work that hard, and then everyone's 0:02:26.280 --> 0:02:30.519 like a little bit more relaxed. Um. But Friday, when 0:02:30.560 --> 0:02:34.720 you're almost there, Yeah, Friday, it was hard because you're 0:02:34.760 --> 0:02:36.480 kind of like neither here nor there, Like the kids 0:02:36.520 --> 0:02:41.720 are too tired to actually uh do anything productive or 0:02:41.960 --> 0:02:45.520 be left alone, and then like our efforts to get 0:02:45.560 --> 0:02:48.880 work done are increasingly futile and we really should already 0:02:48.880 --> 0:02:53.240 be throwing in the towel we should, except today they 0:02:53.280 --> 0:02:56.240 got a lot of education. Today. Daddy school was back 0:02:56.320 --> 0:03:01.560 in full swing, and I I saw the Brent's teacher 0:03:01.600 --> 0:03:05.320 has been sending At the beginning, I think every educator 0:03:05.720 --> 0:03:09.080 was suddenly wildly trying to figure out how to do 0:03:09.120 --> 0:03:13.639 their job digitally, and especially were a kindergarten teacher, Like 0:03:13.720 --> 0:03:16.880 what the hell do you do? So I feel like 0:03:16.919 --> 0:03:20.680 the the resources she was sending our way were a 0:03:20.720 --> 0:03:23.880 little hodgepodge and weird, and I would just ignore them 0:03:24.040 --> 0:03:27.360 because I was The emails that Brent's teacher were sending 0:03:27.400 --> 0:03:30.480 were so frequent that I just couldn't even like catch 0:03:30.560 --> 0:03:33.920 up to read the first or second email. And then 0:03:33.960 --> 0:03:36.200 I was just like, you know what, I don't read 0:03:36.240 --> 0:03:39.320 these emails. So I emailed her and I gave her 0:03:39.440 --> 0:03:42.880 up because she uh is great, and she she reached 0:03:42.880 --> 0:03:45.000 out to us individually, as I assumed she did with 0:03:45.040 --> 0:03:49.600 all the kids. She's like, how's it going? And I explained, 0:03:49.720 --> 0:03:51.720 I was honest. I was like, we're not really following 0:03:51.760 --> 0:03:53.560 what you're sending us, but here's what we're doing. It's 0:03:53.560 --> 0:03:56.040 a lot of stuff, and she's like, that's fabulous, don't 0:03:56.080 --> 0:04:00.200 worry about it. So that took a load off. But 0:04:00.200 --> 0:04:04.240 then today actually went in and started reading her notes 0:04:04.800 --> 0:04:08.480 and she has this, uh this online resource there. She 0:04:08.560 --> 0:04:12.760 signed up her class for like these reading challenges. And 0:04:12.800 --> 0:04:14.680 I ignored it at first because I'm like, Brin is 0:04:14.680 --> 0:04:16.440 a great reader and he's reading all the books here. 0:04:16.800 --> 0:04:20.080 But I opened it today and it's a very simple 0:04:21.800 --> 0:04:26.839 you know, Brin, here's like twenty books. Um, They're very simple, 0:04:27.360 --> 0:04:29.359 and he clicks on the button to read them, and 0:04:29.400 --> 0:04:31.760 he reads the book and then he takes a quiz 0:04:31.800 --> 0:04:35.640 about it. And uh, we started actually open this up 0:04:35.680 --> 0:04:38.280 and logged in and created his account and started doing it, 0:04:38.640 --> 0:04:41.839 and I was shocked at how into it he was. 0:04:42.400 --> 0:04:45.839 He read like twenty books in a row, and I 0:04:45.880 --> 0:04:47.200 was like, this is great. And then I was like, 0:04:47.240 --> 0:04:50.000 let's take a break, because then you you get points 0:04:50.720 --> 0:04:53.240 and you build up all these like stars, and then 0:04:53.279 --> 0:04:55.880 you can take the stars and go into a spaceship 0:04:56.000 --> 0:04:59.640 and build your little special spaceship room where you can 0:04:59.640 --> 0:05:03.599 buy ro about the aliens. And this immediately destroyed the 0:05:03.640 --> 0:05:07.160 whole thing, because as soon as brain realized he could 0:05:07.200 --> 0:05:10.560 spend these stars on cool things, he rushed back to 0:05:10.600 --> 0:05:14.560 the books and started reading them too fast, and that 0:05:14.640 --> 0:05:16.800 then he started he had a perfect score for like 0:05:16.839 --> 0:05:20.200 twenty books, and then the next three he started getting 0:05:20.279 --> 0:05:23.919 questions wrong because he would just want to get the 0:05:23.960 --> 0:05:26.480 stars and he'd rush back to like buy an alien, 0:05:27.240 --> 0:05:29.800 and he got so mad when he missed a question, 0:05:30.320 --> 0:05:32.839 and I'm like, you're overloaded, man, you gotta take a 0:05:32.839 --> 0:05:35.160 break because you're not remembering anything from the books because 0:05:35.160 --> 0:05:38.680 you've just read now thirty books, and so he's got 0:05:38.680 --> 0:05:40.800 a lot of points. But I'm like, this incentive was 0:05:40.839 --> 0:05:43.560 all wrong. I should have left alone when when the 0:05:43.600 --> 0:05:48.679 incentive was just reading. Yeah, it's hard enough to fall 0:05:48.800 --> 0:05:51.800 in those traps when you're doing homeschool and just like 0:05:51.920 --> 0:05:54.920 you say something offhand and then suddenly it like derails 0:05:55.080 --> 0:06:00.560 the whole day. That that is I think my big 0:06:01.560 --> 0:06:06.320 suggestion for parents trying to do any sort of homeschooling. 0:06:06.720 --> 0:06:09.200 Schedules are great, you know if you can get them 0:06:09.240 --> 0:06:15.200 to work, but ultimately, desire drives learning. So if your 0:06:15.360 --> 0:06:20.159 kids attention and excitement is pointed in a direction that 0:06:20.320 --> 0:06:24.800 is in any way productive or educational, don't try to 0:06:25.520 --> 0:06:28.480 don't try to push, take a hard right turn into 0:06:28.560 --> 0:06:32.560 something else. Ride that wave and just say they're into 0:06:32.640 --> 0:06:35.440 this right now let's just get everything educational out of 0:06:35.440 --> 0:06:38.720 it we can, and if it means four days of 0:06:39.279 --> 0:06:45.279 complicated additions, which it was for Britain, for our kids, 0:06:46.440 --> 0:06:49.320 I think this advice is pretty applicable for our kids 0:06:49.320 --> 0:06:51.400 who are three and five years old. I feel like 0:06:51.480 --> 0:06:55.359 for other people, like for us, the learning resources seem 0:06:55.440 --> 0:06:57.279 kind of like a waste of time because it's like 0:06:57.440 --> 0:07:00.560 very time consuming to look up the resources and figure 0:07:00.600 --> 0:07:02.600 them out, and it's just it's like for a five 0:07:02.680 --> 0:07:04.680 year old, so it's not like it's like we could 0:07:04.760 --> 0:07:06.800 challenge them on our own. If our kids were older, though, 0:07:07.680 --> 0:07:11.640 I do think I would be like, what is common 0:07:11.680 --> 0:07:15.880 core math? How does life work? Like? I would need 0:07:16.000 --> 0:07:19.240 more help, And I do think like kids at those 0:07:19.280 --> 0:07:21.640 ages might want to be stimulated in ways that I 0:07:21.680 --> 0:07:25.440 could not directly provide. I would. I think in some 0:07:25.480 --> 0:07:28.400 ways I would love it because I think the common core, 0:07:28.640 --> 0:07:33.520 like what you need to figure out is a little 0:07:33.520 --> 0:07:36.800 more tangible. Well, this is what I like about Daddy's 0:07:36.800 --> 0:07:40.640 school being more structured, is that you love to set 0:07:40.680 --> 0:07:48.040 the rules and be the leader. And I don't. I 0:07:48.080 --> 0:07:51.120 don't enjoy like repeating things like I just don't like 0:07:51.840 --> 0:07:54.960 I want to be doing something new and interesting. So 0:07:55.760 --> 0:07:58.240 like mommy school tends to be more free form, and 0:07:58.280 --> 0:08:00.920 we take a walk on the beach in the afternoon, 0:08:01.200 --> 0:08:04.880 like like these kids need to get outside. Sometimes mommy 0:08:04.920 --> 0:08:07.360 school is like a task that allows mommy to clean 0:08:07.400 --> 0:08:12.080 the kitchen. Sometimes mommy school is a walk and that's what. 0:08:12.240 --> 0:08:14.120 We had a really good walk today and they were 0:08:14.160 --> 0:08:17.600 like playing and like we were on this adventure. And 0:08:17.640 --> 0:08:21.280 then we drew a square door in the sand and 0:08:21.320 --> 0:08:24.880 we jumped into it into like a different world, and 0:08:24.920 --> 0:08:27.560 then like they were loving it. So it was like 0:08:27.600 --> 0:08:31.480 it's very Jacqueline West Books of Elsewhere. Yeah, well then 0:08:31.680 --> 0:08:35.320 we when we were jumped through the sand one on 0:08:35.320 --> 0:08:37.720 one of the times, burn was like we're in a book. 0:08:38.240 --> 0:08:40.240 And then they just kept saying that over and over again. 0:08:40.240 --> 0:08:44.600 They were like, we're in a book. There. Their make 0:08:44.679 --> 0:08:50.360 believe is getting like Narnia level, you know, like the 0:08:50.440 --> 0:08:52.880 kids that in the Lion, the Witch and Wardrobe are 0:08:52.920 --> 0:08:56.840 in this giant empty house and so they just explore 0:08:56.880 --> 0:08:59.120 and create their own world. To I feel like there 0:09:00.000 --> 0:09:01.960 are in that mode, and they're starting to have like 0:09:02.080 --> 0:09:05.760 call backs, like they're always like okay, your winkle, I'm 0:09:05.840 --> 0:09:11.559 tinkle and your ankle like they have, like go to characters. 0:09:12.040 --> 0:09:16.080 Can we talk about the fake mustaches? I don't know 0:09:16.080 --> 0:09:17.920 where they got this. They just started. They just walked 0:09:17.920 --> 0:09:20.200 into the room when I was there. They're both holding 0:09:20.280 --> 0:09:23.520 we're holding fingers up to their mouths as fake mustaches 0:09:24.720 --> 0:09:28.880 in disguise, and they Brin said, I'm Mr Rogers and 0:09:28.920 --> 0:09:35.800 this is Mrs Rogers and I love Um. Somebody pointed 0:09:35.840 --> 0:09:40.880 out on Instagram that Mrs Rogers has a mustache as well. Yeah, 0:09:41.080 --> 0:09:45.920 that's my favorite, really rather inconspicuous. And then I said 0:09:46.880 --> 0:09:50.160 where are my children? And Prince said they what did 0:09:50.240 --> 0:09:52.240 you say? They went on a hike and they're never 0:09:52.320 --> 0:09:57.240 coming back. If they win the woods and they're never 0:09:57.280 --> 0:10:01.160 come back, you'll never see them again. Um. So there's 0:10:01.200 --> 0:10:04.000 mommy school and there's Daddy School, but periodically there's also 0:10:04.960 --> 0:10:08.640 Ali School. Yeah. Today my sister had a really good 0:10:08.800 --> 0:10:12.520 homeschool session with them. So she I told her. I 0:10:12.520 --> 0:10:15.360 was like, you should teach them civics and she did. 0:10:15.559 --> 0:10:19.280 Boy did she teach them civics. So she, my sister 0:10:19.760 --> 0:10:24.439 with along with Brendan Mayven, created a household government for 0:10:24.559 --> 0:10:28.000 us with a constitution with different branches of government. So 0:10:28.559 --> 0:10:31.640 there's the legislative branch, which is composed of the five 0:10:31.720 --> 0:10:35.959 of us in the House, and then the judicial branch, 0:10:36.000 --> 0:10:40.040 which is my parents, well your parents and my brothers 0:10:40.120 --> 0:10:42.520 and your brothers, and the executive branch, which is your 0:10:42.520 --> 0:10:45.800 parents because they own this house that work currently in. Yes. 0:10:46.320 --> 0:10:52.120 And then so then my sister wrote some bills with 0:10:52.160 --> 0:10:55.000 my with Brenna Maven. Each of them had a bill 0:10:55.080 --> 0:10:58.280 that they sponsored, and some of them medic sponsors. So, 0:10:58.640 --> 0:11:01.439 for example, one of the bills brands said, there's a 0:11:01.440 --> 0:11:05.160 little bill he wrote that says if someone else butt slap, 0:11:05.240 --> 0:11:09.680 then everyone has to slap their butts ten times. They don't, 0:11:09.720 --> 0:11:13.120 they go to prison forever. If they go to prison forever. 0:11:13.200 --> 0:11:14.840 So that bill did not pass. I think a lot 0:11:14.920 --> 0:11:18.120 of us felt that. Actually, Ali wrote a bill if 0:11:18.160 --> 0:11:20.440 someone says jumping Jack's, do you have to tend juppy 0:11:20.520 --> 0:11:23.880 Jack's if you don't go to prison forever. That was 0:11:23.960 --> 0:11:26.760 voted down. That was voted down. The slap butt slap 0:11:27.040 --> 0:11:30.560 was passed. Yeah, that was a three to five vote. 0:11:29.760 --> 0:11:37.880 And then Maybn historically her bill passed unanimously, which was 0:11:37.920 --> 0:11:41.200 a bill that said everybody should have a brain. Everyone 0:11:41.400 --> 0:11:44.160 is supposed to have a brain. Everyone is supposed to 0:11:44.200 --> 0:11:46.640 have a brain. That's the full text of the bill. Yeah, 0:11:46.960 --> 0:11:50.760 not unclear what the penalties are or I don't think 0:11:51.000 --> 0:11:54.360 that is interpreted, but doesn't say you must so you're 0:11:54.360 --> 0:11:57.240 supposed to. So that bill passed unanimously, and then it 0:11:57.280 --> 0:12:01.240 went to the executive branch on a zoom conference with 0:12:01.280 --> 0:12:05.720 all three branches of government. Nana and granddad and grandma 0:12:05.720 --> 0:12:09.200 and grandpa. You're dad and my dad both had some 0:12:09.240 --> 0:12:12.920 good singers on the call. They were in there their element. Yeah, 0:12:13.000 --> 0:12:15.720 when we said, we said the ten butt slabs rule 0:12:15.840 --> 0:12:17.960 when someone else but slab, and my dad said, isn't 0:12:17.960 --> 0:12:22.320 everyone already doing that? And then your dad had one 0:12:22.840 --> 0:12:29.680 about uh, the executive branch, I don't know something about 0:12:29.800 --> 0:12:35.000 legislative branch not having brains. So they signed into law 0:12:35.400 --> 0:12:39.160 the butt slap law. The executive branch signed it. They 0:12:39.320 --> 0:12:44.040 vetoed the everyone is supposed to have a brain. I 0:12:44.040 --> 0:12:47.160 think on solid grounds it was wishwashy could be interpreted 0:12:47.440 --> 0:12:50.000 too loosely, you would have a legal challenge. So they 0:12:50.120 --> 0:12:52.959 vetoed it, but it was unanimous to vote, so we 0:12:53.040 --> 0:12:58.880 overturned the veto and UH, so we have two new laws. Yeah, 0:12:58.960 --> 0:13:02.640 and then at the of the call with them branded 0:13:02.720 --> 0:13:05.440 yell butt slap um, and then he did not slap 0:13:05.440 --> 0:13:09.359 his own butt, so he was taken to court. Um. 0:13:09.840 --> 0:13:12.280 And he argued that as the person who yells but slap, 0:13:12.320 --> 0:13:14.320 he doesn't have to slap his own But he had 0:13:14.360 --> 0:13:17.960 a pretty good argument. The law said that when anybody 0:13:18.040 --> 0:13:22.760 says butt slap, you have to slap your butt ten times. 0:13:22.760 --> 0:13:27.080 So there was an implied sense of other in it. Um. 0:13:27.120 --> 0:13:31.000 But the judicial branch said they needed six months to deliberate. 0:13:32.000 --> 0:13:33.520 It's tied up in court. My sister is going to 0:13:33.600 --> 0:13:36.720 work on them to write some more specific laws going 0:13:36.760 --> 0:13:41.239 forward to account for these kind of issues and interpretation 0:13:41.280 --> 0:13:45.320 of the law. Um. Can we talk about how much 0:13:45.320 --> 0:13:49.200 ice cream we've eaten? We've eaten a lot of everything lately, 0:13:49.600 --> 0:13:54.400 a lot of home cooked meals. Um, some really really 0:13:54.400 --> 0:14:01.600 good recipes, I would say, really good improvised recipes. Um. 0:14:01.760 --> 0:14:04.200 I gotta say, I love I love how much we're eating, 0:14:04.400 --> 0:14:07.760 just immediately eating all the leftovers. I feel like at 0:14:07.800 --> 0:14:10.560 home we waste so much food, but here we're like, 0:14:10.600 --> 0:14:13.680 we don't want to go to the grocery store. Pandemic 0:14:14.640 --> 0:14:18.200 and so we're like, Alie just made a a taco 0:14:18.320 --> 0:14:22.800 salad from our from our tacos. The other night, I 0:14:22.880 --> 0:14:26.200 made a tortilla cast role from our tacos. That was 0:14:26.240 --> 0:14:30.280 three meals from that Taco night. Yeah, Taco Night is 0:14:30.360 --> 0:14:40.680 really prolific versatile. Um, oh boy, we're really We're really 0:14:40.720 --> 0:14:45.360 isolated out here, aren't we? Are we? Yeah? I suddenly, 0:14:45.440 --> 0:14:50.920 just five seconds ago felt in just talking to you know, 0:14:51.240 --> 0:14:56.840 thousands of people who aren't here. It was a weird 0:14:56.880 --> 0:15:00.880 moment of oh my god, we are alone. And I'm 0:15:00.880 --> 0:15:03.520 sure a lot of people are feeling that right now, 0:15:04.200 --> 0:15:07.720 especially people who are literally alone. I've got a good 0:15:07.800 --> 0:15:12.280 number of friends in apartments that are literally alone. My 0:15:12.360 --> 0:15:17.120 brother is literally alone. It's tough out there. I'm I 0:15:17.160 --> 0:15:20.440 am really you know. I don't want to be too 0:15:20.560 --> 0:15:23.360 dark on the podcast, but I am getting increasingly worried 0:15:23.480 --> 0:15:28.240 for an increasing number of people. Um. So I hope 0:15:28.280 --> 0:15:34.440 everyone listening is doing okay mentally and physically. And I 0:15:34.560 --> 0:15:39.600 gotta say, I really am enjoying. I'm online and on 0:15:39.640 --> 0:15:43.960 social media more than I then I normally would want 0:15:44.000 --> 0:15:49.560 to be. Um, but it feels like a lot of 0:15:49.600 --> 0:15:52.000 time there is a nice balance of boy, we're taking this, 0:15:52.080 --> 0:15:55.920 at least in my like sphere, in my bubble, people 0:15:56.000 --> 0:16:00.880 obviously taking this very seriously, but there's also a nice 0:16:00.920 --> 0:16:05.800 balance of well and then beyond that, let's be positive 0:16:06.000 --> 0:16:08.680 and let's be here for each other and let's let's 0:16:08.720 --> 0:16:15.240 find healthy diversion um and again like that's great, prepared 0:16:15.360 --> 0:16:19.240 and positive. I feel like I feel that way when 0:16:19.240 --> 0:16:21.960 I interact with people directly, like if I have a 0:16:22.080 --> 0:16:25.880 Zoom happy hour with my old improv team, or like 0:16:26.560 --> 0:16:31.680 when I'm texting my close friends, or like my coworkers 0:16:31.720 --> 0:16:34.560 if we're on Slack or whatever. I feel that way. 0:16:34.880 --> 0:16:38.880 But when I go on social media, it's like very 0:16:38.920 --> 0:16:43.560 overwhelming between the news and then people's anger about the news, 0:16:43.960 --> 0:16:49.000 and very understandably, it's just really overwhelming, and I do 0:16:49.440 --> 0:16:51.080 it's I think it's just really hard to find a 0:16:51.080 --> 0:16:53.560 balance of like taking this seriously and trying to be 0:16:53.800 --> 0:16:56.960 somewhat informed and also making sure that you're taking care 0:16:56.960 --> 0:17:01.200 of yourself and you're like not making yourself crazy for 0:17:01.240 --> 0:17:03.000 no reason, because I think for a lot of us, 0:17:03.440 --> 0:17:07.200 we're not, you know, healthcare workers. There's not a lot 0:17:07.280 --> 0:17:09.240 we can do day to day, and I don't think 0:17:09.280 --> 0:17:12.440 it's like helpful for anyone for us to make ourselves 0:17:12.440 --> 0:17:16.440 crazy about it. Yeah, completely adjust what I what I said. 0:17:16.800 --> 0:17:19.560 That's not general social media. I go to my Facebook 0:17:20.240 --> 0:17:26.000 news feed and it's oh miserable. But these targeted, specific 0:17:26.640 --> 0:17:29.879 online communities, you know, like I talked to all the 0:17:29.880 --> 0:17:33.440 Story Parts company members and it's it's a it's a 0:17:33.520 --> 0:17:38.119 specific and positive focused group or like a Zoom zoom 0:17:38.119 --> 0:17:42.240 hang out with people, uh for sure. Yeah, but going 0:17:42.280 --> 0:17:45.520 down the social media drain in general is the opposite 0:17:45.520 --> 0:17:47.760 of that. Even though I made it sound like that's 0:17:47.760 --> 0:17:49.640 what I was having. Well, I mean there's some good 0:17:49.640 --> 0:17:51.680 things on social media. I don't think it's all bad, 0:17:51.720 --> 0:17:53.480 and I think a lot of people are just reporting 0:17:53.520 --> 0:17:57.119 the facts as they should. But it's just like I 0:17:57.160 --> 0:18:00.760 do feel like you really have to monitor your media 0:18:00.840 --> 0:18:04.159 intake in general right now. Yeah, it's just how curated 0:18:04.160 --> 0:18:07.400 are your feeds? You know, I've got my Facebook feed 0:18:07.440 --> 0:18:09.600 is is the wild West, and so I don't touch 0:18:09.640 --> 0:18:12.479 it because it's thousands of people that I don't really know, 0:18:12.600 --> 0:18:15.520 and so I'm stressed for no reason. Whereas my Instagram 0:18:15.600 --> 0:18:19.040 is nice and tidy and focused and shallow in the 0:18:19.119 --> 0:18:24.040 number of shallow in that in that your shallow. I 0:18:24.160 --> 0:18:26.920 mute almost everybody so that I not because I don't 0:18:26.960 --> 0:18:28.919 want to know what's up with people, but so that 0:18:29.000 --> 0:18:31.639 I run out of stuff to look at quickly. And 0:18:31.680 --> 0:18:34.200 that's what that's what maintains my sanity. And then every 0:18:34.200 --> 0:18:36.719 once in a while I go through and I'll un 0:18:36.840 --> 0:18:40.240 mute people I miss, and I'll re mute people that 0:18:40.280 --> 0:18:43.440 I've seen a lot of. I do think since we've 0:18:43.440 --> 0:18:46.720 been here, I've I have I've never looked at social 0:18:46.760 --> 0:18:51.760 media less over such an extended period of time done it. 0:18:53.119 --> 0:18:55.480 I mean, I still feel crazy because it's like proportionately 0:18:55.520 --> 0:18:58.240 it's still sort of crazy online, but I don't like 0:18:58.840 --> 0:19:01.000 because I'm with the kids and I can't really look 0:19:01.000 --> 0:19:02.720 at it. And then when I'm working, I really need 0:19:02.720 --> 0:19:06.000 to focus on work because the news is so distracting, 0:19:06.160 --> 0:19:09.280 Like I just can't be on it as often, like 0:19:09.400 --> 0:19:12.919 just browsing things. It's too taxing right now. It's like 0:19:13.040 --> 0:19:17.359 it's just too emotionally exhausting to hear how badly everyone 0:19:17.440 --> 0:19:23.119 is doing um, And so yeah, I just can't and 0:19:23.200 --> 0:19:29.160 I think it's I feel good about trying to limit 0:19:29.200 --> 0:19:31.800 it to some degree. I still feel like I need 0:19:31.840 --> 0:19:35.959 to check in and not like completely become a hermit um. 0:19:36.000 --> 0:19:39.600 But our job right now is as as global citizens, 0:19:40.520 --> 0:19:43.639 is to like not jump the gun on anything, hunker 0:19:43.680 --> 0:19:45.639 down and literally get out of the way. And there's 0:19:46.320 --> 0:19:48.879 and if I get too far into it that I 0:19:48.920 --> 0:19:51.719 get that sense of like I should be doing something 0:19:52.240 --> 0:19:55.640 that's the in for the the most for the most part, 0:19:55.720 --> 0:19:58.280 that's the opposite. Well, I just I just want to 0:19:58.280 --> 0:20:01.560 be aware of what's happening two people in our home 0:20:01.800 --> 0:20:04.159 city of New York, where people are really suffering, Like 0:20:04.200 --> 0:20:06.280 I want to be tuned into the conversation and like, no, 0:20:06.440 --> 0:20:10.639 what's up? And um, you know, it's getting dangerous for 0:20:10.720 --> 0:20:14.400 people we know. And but I do think like our 0:20:14.560 --> 0:20:17.920 primary objective right now as parents is to take care 0:20:17.920 --> 0:20:21.600 of ourselves so that our children don't remember this as 0:20:21.640 --> 0:20:25.240 like a scary, traumatizing time where their parents were upset 0:20:25.280 --> 0:20:28.040 all the time. You know, Yeah, no, and I don't. 0:20:28.080 --> 0:20:30.560 I think they're having a great time. I did have 0:20:31.440 --> 0:20:36.120 my first like serious talk serio quote unquote serious, not serious, 0:20:36.160 --> 0:20:39.959 but very upfront talk with him about what was going on, 0:20:40.640 --> 0:20:43.160 because I took him to the dump. So here there's 0:20:43.160 --> 0:20:45.399 no garbage collection where we are, so we have to 0:20:45.440 --> 0:20:49.879 go to the dump or the the the transfer center 0:20:49.960 --> 0:20:53.959 and recycling center, and uh so I took Bryn. Obviously, 0:20:54.040 --> 0:20:55.440 I was like you have to stay in the car 0:20:56.240 --> 0:20:58.760 and he's like why. I'm like, well, we're all staying 0:20:58.800 --> 0:21:01.120 away from each other right now. And then that led 0:21:01.200 --> 0:21:04.840 to along conversation about all this, and that was the 0:21:04.840 --> 0:21:08.440 most like here's literally what's going on. Here's how dangerous 0:21:08.480 --> 0:21:12.199 it dangerous it is. We talked about people dying, and 0:21:12.920 --> 0:21:14.800 but I also let him know that he's you know, 0:21:14.880 --> 0:21:17.720 he's safe, he's low risk. And he had a lot 0:21:17.720 --> 0:21:20.320 of very thoughtful questions. He also told me, he goes, well, 0:21:20.359 --> 0:21:25.440 it's happening because um because Chinese people ate bats, right, 0:21:25.520 --> 0:21:29.000 And I was like what. And then you know, it's 0:21:29.040 --> 0:21:33.879 like they don't really know what the source of this was, 0:21:33.960 --> 0:21:37.280 but it could be from like people think, from animals 0:21:37.320 --> 0:21:40.119 and initiating in China, or bats or panguins or whatever. 0:21:41.119 --> 0:21:43.120 And I was like starting to get into the like, well, 0:21:43.200 --> 0:21:46.439 you don't want to just start saying Chinese people eat bats. 0:21:47.200 --> 0:21:52.280 That's you know, trying to get into racial sensitivities. And 0:21:52.320 --> 0:21:54.359 I was like, is this this is too complex? I 0:21:54.359 --> 0:21:57.119 feel like at his age sometimes you're better off changing 0:21:57.119 --> 0:22:00.960 the conversation rather than like creating an elaborate story around 0:22:02.359 --> 0:22:05.960 Chinese people in bats that he's going to continue to misinterpret. Yes, 0:22:06.560 --> 0:22:09.560 it's like I was like, well, we they we don't 0:22:09.560 --> 0:22:12.119 know what happened. He was like, my friend told me 0:22:12.440 --> 0:22:14.919 there's Chinese people eating bats. And I was like, well, 0:22:15.320 --> 0:22:20.560 we don't know. And maybe somebody did, but obviously not 0:22:20.600 --> 0:22:23.960 all Chinese people are eating bats. And I was like, 0:22:24.040 --> 0:22:30.840 let's let's talk about statistics instead. Let's talk about statistics. 0:22:31.920 --> 0:22:34.160 I really was. I was like, listen, five year old son, 0:22:34.240 --> 0:22:37.200 let's talk about statistics. I talk about death rates instead 0:22:37.240 --> 0:22:41.679 of uh, you're talking about death rates. Not not really. 0:22:41.760 --> 0:22:44.439 I mean I did talk about how it's dangerous for 0:22:44.480 --> 0:22:49.399 certain people. He was very thoughtful. He's not scared, but 0:22:49.480 --> 0:22:52.720 he could sense. He could sense the gravity of the situation. 0:22:56.480 --> 0:23:00.680 What are we gonna do for episode one? I don't know. 0:23:01.280 --> 0:23:03.639 Listeners right in and tell us how should we celebrate 0:23:04.720 --> 0:23:09.000 in uh here at the end times um, And that's 0:23:09.000 --> 0:23:24.000 been our week. This next segment is called Listeners Want 0:23:24.040 --> 0:23:26.479 to Know. It's where we take questions comments from you guys. 0:23:26.760 --> 0:23:31.840 But first I'm going to adjust my chair loudly. I 0:23:32.000 --> 0:23:33.560 wasn't as loud as I thought it was going to be. 0:23:34.400 --> 0:23:36.840 Oh boy, okay, we got a lot of listener mail. 0:23:37.320 --> 0:23:41.000 You are all at home, you have thoughts, you have time, 0:23:41.119 --> 0:23:44.680 and so you are sharing. Thank you. UM. I think 0:23:44.680 --> 0:23:47.840 we're actually we're definitely going to be in an era 0:23:47.920 --> 0:23:50.280 where we can't get to as many emails as we'd 0:23:50.320 --> 0:23:57.359 like to, and an era we're getting more than the normal, 0:23:58.160 --> 0:24:00.240 which is great. Please keep sharing even if we don't 0:24:00.359 --> 0:24:06.639 we don't get your um. Great alright, So this email 0:24:06.720 --> 0:24:14.399 comes with from Craig question colon behavior um. This to 0:24:14.480 --> 0:24:19.680 me feels like ah, this is a British or maybe 0:24:19.680 --> 0:24:23.919 Canadian spelling of behavior b E H A v I O. 0:24:24.320 --> 0:24:30.679 You are behavior um. Not a criticism, just an observation. 0:24:30.880 --> 0:24:33.080 So I have a five year old girl, a two 0:24:33.119 --> 0:24:37.080 year old girl and a week old boy. Well, with 0:24:37.200 --> 0:24:41.120 these times of physical distancing, we are spending a lot 0:24:41.160 --> 0:24:44.320 of time in a smallish apartment together. My question is 0:24:44.840 --> 0:24:47.040 what do you guys do when your kid zero is 0:24:47.040 --> 0:24:51.199 in on a behavior and won't stop nor listening, nor 0:24:51.359 --> 0:24:56.960 listen to interruptions or change requests. My two year old 0:24:57.000 --> 0:24:59.520 has so many ideas in her head but often will 0:24:59.560 --> 0:25:03.960 not accept any deviation or distraction from those she focuses 0:25:04.000 --> 0:25:06.760 on in a moment, such as stealing the one book 0:25:06.800 --> 0:25:09.880 the five year old is trying to read, even though 0:25:10.520 --> 0:25:13.240 they are hundreds there are hundreds of books around. The 0:25:13.240 --> 0:25:16.720 two year old will retry after separation or break down 0:25:16.760 --> 0:25:20.359