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Speaker 2: Live from Canada, dear blog. So this is not financial

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Speaker 2: advice I'm looking for. It's more, I guess, like parental advice.

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Speaker 2: to be.

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Speaker 1: I think you're asking for the audience. Parental advice from

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Speaker 1: us wouldn't be very valuable since none of us have kids.

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Speaker 2: Well, I still think you guys have an input and

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Speaker 2: maybe some good advice. Obviously you're an uncle to two

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Speaker 2: small children's and you know, and they're the same age

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Speaker 2: as my daughter, or at least mayviz who's your niece.

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Speaker 2: So my daughter, Jigi is fourteen months. I hate that

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Speaker 2: I'm that parent, but like I guess I get the

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Speaker 2: whole month thing now, because if you say a year,

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Speaker 2: it's like, well, she's a.

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Speaker 3: Little more than a year. But uh, yeah, we're in

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Speaker 3: a very tough spot.

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Speaker 2: And I remember, Fred, you saw a video on my

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Speaker 2: Instagram too, maybe like a couple weeks ago, and you

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Speaker 2: were like, damn, like I'm surprised that, like you know,

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Speaker 2: she's kind of having this kind of a meltdown at

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Speaker 2: this young age. And I was like, I know, why

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Speaker 2: are we melting down at one year old?

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Speaker 3: I don't know, And I need advice.

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Speaker 2: I need help because it's getting really hard and I

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Speaker 2: don't know what to do at this point, Like you

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Speaker 2: don't discipline a toddler. I could put her in time

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Speaker 2: out in the chair in the corner and she'll end

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Speaker 2: up right back on the couch, Like that's not gonna happen.

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Speaker 2: And also I don't think she understands that I don't

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Speaker 2: know if I even want to do that that way.

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Speaker 2: So I'm trying to figure out a balance of like

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Speaker 2: how do you I don't know, what do you train

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Speaker 2: like a train of dog? Like how do you how

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Speaker 2: do you like work with a one year old so

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Speaker 2: that the one year old stops doing things like she

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Speaker 2: does a thing where she hits. Now, I know a

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Speaker 2: lot of babies do this, like she'll get but only

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Speaker 2: when she's mad. If I take away my phone, which

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Speaker 2: I can't stand when she grabs my phone or anyone's phone,

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Speaker 2: I take it away.

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Speaker 3: Okay, we're taking this away.

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Speaker 4: And she just hits and we look at her and

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Speaker 4: we're like, Gigi, no, And then she goes nice and

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Speaker 4: she rubs your head nice, just.

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Speaker 1: Like it's I mean, there you go. You're you're doing

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Speaker 1: something because it's almost like, if I'm interpreting it correctly,

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Speaker 1: like she's saying that wasn't nice, and I need to

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Speaker 1: be nice, Like she knows the difference.

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Speaker 3: She's okay, so we're smarter than I think.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I mean, if I mean, I haven't

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Speaker 1: I haven't seen her do this, but it almost it

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Speaker 1: feels like she knows what's nice and what's not nice.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but when she gets mad, like I mean, she'll

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Speaker 2: start even like fisting and shaking, Like she'll start shaking

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Speaker 2: her fists at me and.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, whoa, I mean you do that to me?

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Speaker 1: So that's where she's getting it. Yeah, I mean maybe is.

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Speaker 3: It my temper? Like I try to be calm around her.

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Speaker 2: I don't want her to be overwhelmed and like anxious

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Speaker 2: like me, But I don't know. I just want her

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Speaker 2: to kind of, I don't know, stop with the hitting obviously,

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Speaker 2: and kind of stop with the meltdowns and like we're

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Speaker 2: not doing full meltdowns at Target yet.

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Speaker 3: You know, when the kid doesn't get what they want,

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Speaker 2: Like, we're not doing that yet, but I can tell

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Speaker 2: it's coming and it makes me nervous.

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Speaker 3: I know, kids are kids, but I just I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I don't want that.

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Speaker 2: Plus she looks like my mam Alat and my in law,

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Speaker 2: my mother in law, and I feel like we all

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Speaker 2: kind of parent these parents, we all kind of do

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Speaker 1: Oh oh oh yeah, my guess would be that your

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Speaker 1: your mom and Hobby's mom. My guess would be they

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Speaker 1: let her do it like this shit, It's just like here,

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Speaker 1: take it, take take the phone or whatever.

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Speaker 3: I think, So, yeah, I think you also.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what I'm talking about here, but my

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Speaker 1: guess would be some of these melts that you have

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Speaker 1: to just let them do it and then walk away

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Speaker 1: and just let them process the meltdown.

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Speaker 3: That's where I'm at.

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Speaker 1: I've read about that and the mel Robbins both let them.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if she I mean she did reference

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Speaker 1: like children like sometimes when in the aisle or whatever,

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Speaker 1: and when they want the toy, you don't want to

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Speaker 1: buy the toy, like yeah, sometimes you know. I think

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Speaker 1: what would be frustrating for me, Pauline, it is that

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Speaker 1: like they're not of the age yet where you can

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Speaker 1: have a conversation even begin to reason with them, you

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Speaker 1: know what I mean. Like this whole this whole theme

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Speaker 1: of today has been about reasoning with people. But it's like,

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Speaker 1: I don't think like you get to a certain age

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Speaker 1: where you can say, you know, and I hear my

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Speaker 1: sister do it with my niece and she's a therapist.

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Speaker 1: So it's like I got it wildly annoying and the

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Speaker 1: kid's gonna be so screwed up. But it's like, you know,

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Speaker 1: you can make a choice. You know, you have a

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Speaker 1: choice here. Your choices are, you know, and like so

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Speaker 1: Polly can talk back about the toy, but you can't

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Speaker 1: really do that necessarily with toddler.

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Speaker 3: No, not not not like at one.

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Speaker 2: And that's the thing too, It's like I want her

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Speaker 2: to like vocalize what she wants, right, but they can't

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Speaker 2: do that. So I think it's where a lot of

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Speaker 2: meltdowns come from. Right, even though I'm an adult who

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Speaker 2: has full meultdowns too, I can't at least vocalize front

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Speaker 2: I don't want this, or hey, Calen, can I have this?

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Speaker 3: Like I don't just like, oh my vocalizing.

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Speaker 1: All right, she's giving the phone, I'm gonna punch you

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Speaker 1: in the face.

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Speaker 2: That's what she said, that's for sure.

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Speaker 3: But I'm like, I don't want to raise a brat.

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Speaker 2: But I also don't want to, like I don't know,

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Speaker 2: like not give her what she needs. So I don't know,

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Speaker 2: I'm having a really hard time with this. She's only one,

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Speaker 2: so yay, we're just getting started. Like it's only I

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Speaker 2: think gonna get a little bit worse before it gets better,

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Speaker 2: before she understands. Right.

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Speaker 1: People are saying the power of distraction. I have two

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Speaker 1: under two. Oh my gosh, none of the tricks worked

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Speaker 1: other than distracting the energy to get back into a

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Speaker 1: good headspace. Under three, they don't understand traditional punishment.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that's true too. I do a lot of

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Speaker 2: like redirecting. And my doctor asked, is she good with that?

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Speaker 2: And I said, yeah, I mean she's like me. It's like, hey,

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Speaker 2: we're here, squirrel, look this way, now, look over here,

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Speaker 2: like if I want her to like stop doing what

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Speaker 2: she's doing, I'm really good at like kind of being like, hey,

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Speaker 2: look over there.

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Speaker 3: Outside.

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Speaker 1: Meltowns are normal. Those are big emotions for a kid

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Speaker 1: who doesn't have the tools to express how they're feeling.

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Speaker 1: These are texts that we're getting and hasn't learned yet

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Speaker 1: how to regulate their emotions. Supporting them through the meltdown,

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Speaker 1: teaching them little by little coping skills will make them

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Speaker 1: emotionally balanced. As for hitting, it sounds like you're doing

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Speaker 1: everything right. I would make sure that they understand that

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Speaker 1: hitting hurtsby looks sad. Tell them that that hurts. Please

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Speaker 1: don't hit me. I didn't hit you, et cetera. It

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Speaker 1: sounds like you are a great mom. Someone said this

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Speaker 1: personal said, I'm impressed by friend's parenting advice. Right, Like,

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Speaker 1: I know what I'm talking about.

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Speaker 5: Just don't hit me. I didn't hit you. Yeah, that's

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Speaker 5: hardly Chris Hansen. I'm gonna try all this thing. She's

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Speaker 5: sitting you and telling you that it's nice, right, Is.

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Speaker 1: She hitting you? And then you tell her no? And

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Speaker 1: then she's like showing you what nice because like rubbing

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Speaker 1: her face would be like a nice feeling. Or is

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Speaker 1: she'd being like, no, this is nice to me slapping

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Speaker 1: you in the face. Yeah, I know I can't understand Gigi.

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Speaker 1: I don't speak her language. Same so once I come

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Speaker 1: from a school counselor start teaching her emotional regulation skills, books,

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Speaker 1: modeling a sign language, there are ways. Yeah, tell her

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Speaker 1: to read a book about it. Read this book? Have

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Speaker 1: you read? Let them