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Speaker 1: The show is on.

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Speaker 2: It's stay or go suck. Good morning, every one. Good morning, Heather,

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Speaker 2: how are you?

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Speaker 1: Good morning?

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Speaker 3: I'm okay, Are okay?

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Speaker 2: Well, we're okay. We're okay too, Betty, We're fantastic. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: oh that was that was fake enthusiasm. We're good though.

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Speaker 2: What's going on? Heather? Tell us? What's going on with

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Speaker 2: this this husband of yours? This dude?

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Speaker 3: Well, so, I can't believe that I'm making this call

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Speaker 3: because I am a newlywed, but I really need advice.

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Speaker 2: So call the radio show. I say it every week.

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Speaker 2: You know you got nowhere else to turn. Call the

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Speaker 2: radio show. It's probably better to call us and talk

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Speaker 2: to us about it anonymously than I just to talk

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Speaker 2: to your friends and other people, because you kind of

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Speaker 2: you tarnish people when you when you give your friends

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Speaker 2: information about your your spouse who hopefully isn't going anywhere

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Speaker 2: you know, or like your long term boyfriend and girlfriend,

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Speaker 2: like when you say stuff that's not great about them.

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Speaker 2: It's hard for people to forget when you forgive them

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Speaker 2: and go back, you know what I mean, or when

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Speaker 2: you forgive them and move on, Because your friends sometimes

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Speaker 2: they don't move on. They keep thinking about it, we

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Speaker 2: move on. So what's going on, Heather?

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Speaker 3: Oh exactly, I just need an unbiased opinion. So here

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Speaker 3: I am. So before we got married, we sat down,

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Speaker 3: we did the adult thing, and we went over our

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Speaker 3: financial situations and what they look like and how we

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Speaker 3: were going to handle things once we were married. So

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Speaker 3: during that conversation, we shared our salaries and based on that,

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Speaker 3: we decided how much we would put in per check

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Speaker 3: to our joint account and how much we would keep

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Speaker 3: for our individual accounts, you know. And I was really

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Speaker 3: proud of myself. I was really proud of us as

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Speaker 3: a couple, and you know, thought everything was going great

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Speaker 3: untill until Yeah. So a couple of months after we

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Speaker 3: got married, I was on his computer and he had

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Speaker 3: left his uh, his banking cab.

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Speaker 2: And you don't leave that. You don't leave the Burner

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Speaker 2: email account open, you know, leave this. You don't leave

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Speaker 2: the Ashley Madison account open. Anyway. Okay, So this guy,

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Speaker 2: this guy's banking info is just right there in front

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Speaker 2: of you, and you just couldn't help yourself.

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Speaker 3: Exactly and what did you see him?

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Speaker 2: What did you see him? And on the edge of

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Speaker 2: my seat, quite a storyteller. But what did you see?

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Speaker 3: He I saw what he really makes and it is

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Speaker 3: not what he told me. Oh it's really not it.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so you saw like what you get, Like you

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Speaker 2: saw like a I don't know, he gets paid every

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Speaker 2: two weeks, I'm assuming or something like that, and you

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Speaker 2: saw what one of the checks is for, and then

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Speaker 2: you kind of did the math in your head and

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Speaker 2: you're like, that's a lot more money than he told

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Speaker 2: me he makes.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, uh huh huh. And I was devastated. Why

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Speaker 1: would he lie to me?

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Speaker 3: I told him the truth, and I understand that it's

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Speaker 3: his money, but the fact that he would lie about that,

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Speaker 3: especially when I was completely transparent, it's it's really getting

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Speaker 2: This is interesting because we've heard we've heard a lot

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Speaker 2: of variations of the opposite, where people are lying about

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Speaker 2: how much money they have or or how much money

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Speaker 2: they make, or you know, possessions that they have that

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Speaker 2: of that kind of stuff. I'm not sure if you've

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Speaker 2: So here's the thing. Are you living the life that

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Speaker 2: you want to live? Like with this guy, I means

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Speaker 2: you have the resources to do what you want to

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Speaker 2: do now. And I'm not negating the lie, but you know,

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Speaker 2: maybe his comfort level with saving is vastly different from yours,

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Speaker 2: and so he was just sort of sizing up what

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Speaker 2: know what I'm saying as opposed to going I make

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Speaker 2: tremendously more than you do, so we should spend a

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Speaker 2: whole lot more than we're planning on now. I'm not

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Speaker 2: saying he went about it the right way, but I mean,

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Speaker 2: you know, are you guys living below the level that

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Speaker 2: Are you somehow paying more than he is and he's

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Speaker 2: say you're you're paying more than your fair share because

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Speaker 2: he claims he didn't have the money and he's pocketing

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Speaker 2: the difference. That's bad. But what's really going on.

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Speaker 1: I mean, we're comfortable.

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Speaker 3: I mean, he just kind of made it seem like

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Speaker 3: it was more equal and he makes more.

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Speaker 1: I mean, it's a lot.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, but maybe maybe he's making maybe he's making.

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Speaker 4: The whole thing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that would bother me to the lie.

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Speaker 2: But maybe he doesn't want to. I don't Let's say

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Speaker 2: it's I don't know how much more money he makes

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Speaker 2: so he's just matching it. It's just equal. What you know?

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Speaker 2: Why why does that necessarily hurt things? I'm playing devil's advocations.

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Speaker 3: It's the it's the lie, Like why would he told

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Speaker 3: I mean, we are intertwining our lives and he didn't

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Speaker 3: trust me with that information? Like what is the what

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Speaker 3: I don't know how to feel about? Like what else

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Speaker 3: is he lying about?

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Speaker 4: Right?

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Speaker 2: Well, maybe he says, Okay, let's say you I'm making

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Speaker 2: this up. Let's say you make fifty, he makes one hundred,

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Speaker 2: and so then you guys get together and and he's like, okay,

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Speaker 2: you make fifty and I So then I contribute fifty.

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Speaker 2: You know, I make fifty quote unquote or whatever, and

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Speaker 2: then we live at that level. Because what if he

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Speaker 2: said I make one hundred and you make fifty and

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Speaker 2: you're like, well, great, now we can spend you know

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Speaker 2: what I mean, Now we can spend this much more

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Speaker 2: with that. Now, granted, these are all things that should

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Speaker 2: be discussed, you know, openly, because you're in a relationship.

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Speaker 2: But I mean, do you have debt? Do you have

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Speaker 2: any kind of spending issues? Is there any reason why

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Speaker 2: he isn't telling you the truth about how much money

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Speaker 2: he actually has, Like you have a history of making

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Speaker 2: poor financial decisions. I mean, I'm trying to think of

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Speaker 2: why he would lie.

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Speaker 4: No, I don't.

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Speaker 3: I'm just a normal gal with the normal amount of.

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Speaker 4: Student loan debt.

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Speaker 3: But like, okay, I mean that's the only thing that

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Speaker 2: No, he shouldn't lie, Like, I think we all agree

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Speaker 2: because there's a lot of places you could go with this.

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Speaker 2: He's I don't know, people have texted he's got a

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Speaker 2: gambling problem. People have texted he's protecting himself in case

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Speaker 2: you get married. That seems a little bit likely to me,

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Speaker 2: is that he doesn't want you to know how much

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Speaker 2: he's got in case something happens, and he only has

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Speaker 2: to give you half or what you're thinking. But that's

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Speaker 2: not true though, actually, because if you get divorced, then

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Speaker 2: someone's gonna look at that forensically, and and he's still

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Speaker 2: going to have to give you half. You know, I

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Speaker 2: don't know how much he could really hide. I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Eight three five. You can call us, you can text

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Speaker 2: to say, Kiki's over here. You're just chomming at the bit.

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Speaker 5: Because it's it's a hidden bank account today, a side

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Speaker 5: family tomorrow. Okay, Yes, you just never know what people

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Speaker 5: are up to. No, No, I just got a pay

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Speaker 5: raise and he didn't. No, no, you didn't just get

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Speaker 5: a pay raise. You know, when you get a pay raise,

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Speaker 5: that's our pay raise. Okay, I've teld you guys, what's

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Speaker 5: his as ours, what's Mine's is mine? That's this is

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Speaker 5: where she messed up with. Yeah, as a woman, you

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Speaker 5: never you never tell how much money you actually have. Yes,

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Speaker 5: Oh no, you gotta have a lord have mercy account

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Speaker 5: is what it's called. And it's onto the side just

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Speaker 5: in case he asks, crazy.

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Speaker 2: You're you're doing what he's doing.

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Speaker 1: Absolutely.

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Speaker 2: Oh women should, yes, but men shouldn't.

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Speaker 2: No, Okay, so I always want to be clear. Yes,

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Speaker 2: you're doing exactly what Heather's husband is doing right now currently.

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Speaker 2: Yes everyone and Tim thinks that you make less than

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Speaker 2: you make absolutely and you are embezzling your own money, right,

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Speaker 2: but you're really it's embezzlement because you're not you're lying

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Speaker 1: I'm not money, I'm just protecting me.

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Speaker 2: Okay, well then that's all her husband's doing that.

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Speaker 5: Well, no, because you can have a whole side fac

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Speaker 5: I don't know, and maybe his side family too.

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Speaker 1: I don't. I don't trust a man who has all

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Speaker 2: Well, then why should we trust a woman who has

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Speaker 2: all that money on the side.

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Speaker 1: Because we have to do it.

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Speaker 5: It's just something we have to do, and as women,

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Speaker 5: we should okay, we need right.

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Speaker 2: I think that it would be fair for men to

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Speaker 2: have their own his own separate account too, And it

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Speaker 2: would appear that Heather's not comfortable with that. So so

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Speaker 2: he's just doing it and it doesn't appear to be

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Speaker 2: I'll let you go head because we're gonna take some

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Speaker 2: phone calls. But Heather, thank you so much, and good

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Speaker 2: luck and have the radio on. We're gonna talk about

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Speaker 2: you now behind your.

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Speaker 3: Back, Okay, insights.

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Speaker 1: Of course, of course they're gonna be good looking to

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Speaker 2: Just because. But this, I think this comes down to

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Speaker 2: like fundamentals about how people think about money. And maybe

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Speaker 2: he loves her, but they maybe fundamentally they don't agree

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Speaker 2: that it can be spent. This dude probably doesn't think that.

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Speaker 2: I'm not saying she does, and I'm not also sure

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Speaker 2: that she would admit that on the radio. But again,

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Speaker 2: some people think, oh, we have all this money, we

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Speaker 2: should spend it. Who's to say that he's not saving

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Speaker 2: and then he pays for a vacation. Who's to say

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Speaker 2: he's not saving for their future kids college. Who's to

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Speaker 2: say he's not saving so they can make it down

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Speaker 2: payment on a bigger house. Who is to say this

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Speaker 2: is sinister?

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Speaker 1: Well, then just say that.

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Speaker 2: But my thing is if if he does say it,

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Speaker 2: then she may think, well, the half of that's mine,

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Speaker 2: so we should spend it on this or or or

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Speaker 2: I shouldn't have to contribute.

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Speaker 6: Equally for what I think it's like, are all lies

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Speaker 6: equal to you or not, because you know obviously they're

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Speaker 6: not to you because like to me, a lie is

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Speaker 6: a lie. So like, if he's cheated, we wouldn't be

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Speaker 6: sitting here trying to figure out why he cheated. So

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Speaker 6: but we're trying to figure out why he lied about

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Speaker 6: his finances. Like if you're honest with me, you're honest

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Speaker 6: with me.

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Speaker 2: It just doesn't seem to be hurting them, except for

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Speaker 1: It's a lie though. You're starting your marriage off on

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Speaker 7: I mean, he's not gonna get away with it too

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Speaker 1: Why are you lying?

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Speaker 5: Rock?

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Speaker 8: I know?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, look at you.

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Speaker 2: Tim pays more of the bills to he should Yeah,

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Speaker 7: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: No, Like how much money are you relationship as I should?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: You do? You do?

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Speaker 2: You park a nice car hilarious, like at the airport

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Speaker 1: Will you tell him when you get married or still no?

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Speaker 2: Because the.

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Speaker 4: What is it?

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Speaker 5: I'm so serious you guys, I've been raised as a

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Speaker 2: Case my mom does this, oh always.

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Speaker 5: I know, mam afraid got to make a care of

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Speaker 2: What we don't know is how much money, because you

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Speaker 2: know what, I can't really speak to exactly the reason

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Speaker 2: why she I mean, one, she got a lot of

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Speaker 2: taking from her in a divorce.

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, children.

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Speaker 2: But the other is I think that my parents have

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Speaker 2: mean I think a lot of it's a protection mechanism.

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Speaker 2: But I guess I don't know why a dude can't

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Speaker 2: same way that you do. Absolutely okay, So but just

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Speaker 2: to be clear, though, you can do it absolutely so

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Speaker 2: you're living like her husband, yes, but it's wrong for him.

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Speaker 1: It's absolutely wrong for him.

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Speaker 2: Okay, hi, Jay, how you doing, Jay?

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Speaker 4: I'm doing all right?

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Speaker 2: An just to recap here, So this this woman just

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Speaker 2: But we're gonna overlook that she found out that her

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Speaker 4: Yeah, me personally, like I said, I mean, you know,

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Speaker 4: I think it's it's like a it's like a little, small,

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Speaker 4: over dramatic a little bit because I'm not gonna lie, like,

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Speaker 2: Really got to know this.

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Speaker 4: I'm listening, Yeah, Like I'm listening to it and I'm

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Speaker 4: I feel like, personally, she doesn't. If he worked hard

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Speaker 4: keep you know, that part of him, you know, himself,

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Speaker 4: not like so much of a three but like, it's

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Speaker 4: not okay to lie. But I mean again, exactly right,

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Speaker 2: Well, no, Jay, I'm saying. I'm saying there's more than

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Speaker 2: I'm massively in debt and I spend every dollar I

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Speaker 2: think that's Protecting their family finances is different than supporting

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Speaker 4: I think so too. I think it's because he probably

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Speaker 4: but it has to be something in order for her

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Speaker 4: to be shocked enough to be like, oh, well, yeah,

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Speaker 4: you make more than I do. And she's probably has

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Speaker 4: let me just keep a little, because if I told

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Speaker 4: that they have twice as more. And get it.

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Speaker 2: I get it.

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Speaker 4: We're together and everything like that, but you still have

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Speaker 4: to have a separate mindset for finances.

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Speaker 2: In my ket, maybe he's saving for a surprise of

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Speaker 2: maybe he wants to buy a new.

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Speaker 4: Car in case, maybe just in case of financial hardship,

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Speaker 4: Like nobody ever mentioned that, Like what if they go

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Speaker 4: through a financial hardship and he has the extra money

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Speaker 4: to get them back.

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Speaker 2: Now he gonna go, I'm Jay, I'm sorry, he gonna

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Speaker 2: go hang out with his other family. I gotta go, Jay,

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Speaker 2: have a good day. Thank you, Lord is good morning? Well,

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Speaker 2: having his own full conversation over there. I don't know,

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Speaker 2: lordas what do you think? What do we do? Stare go?

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Speaker 9: You know why? I think what there newly was?

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Speaker 4: I think for to day.

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Speaker 9: But she's got to have a really tough conversation with

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Speaker 9: this guy. If you just don't start up.

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Speaker 5: A marriage with that kind of lilaight thought.

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Speaker 9: Like even if he is saving it for I don't

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Speaker 9: know whatever, Like the only reason is that you're hiding

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Speaker 9: that kind of money. You know what Kiki was saying, like,

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Speaker 9: what are you gonna do with that? In the background,

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Speaker 9: I'm like I think, like, I think it's one thing

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Speaker 9: never know what's gonna happen. Girls don't come as much

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Speaker 9: power sometimes and they don't always trust us. So like,

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Speaker 9: that's why you have to have that money, Dave. But

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Speaker 9: I got like, if you're saving it for like the future,

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Speaker 9: you're saving it for your kid college funds, just tell her, Like,

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Speaker 9: I don't think she's.

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Speaker 10: Gonna be that mad.

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Speaker 2: I'm just I'm trying to think of the other way around.

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Speaker 2: Let's say that I marry someone way more successful than me,

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Speaker 2: which wouldn't be hard to do, and and this I

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Speaker 2: find out, you know, we each make acts and that's

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Speaker 2: And then I find out that she makes triple that.

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Speaker 2: What do I do? I go to her and go, oh, well,

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Speaker 2: well half of that's mine, or you know, I should

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Speaker 2: be able to spend half of that, or I mean,

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Speaker 2: what what is my what is my leverage? What is

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Speaker 9: It's great personally for me. Personally for me, like when

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Speaker 9: like what yours is yours with mine as mine, like

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Speaker 9: I feel like, if you're walking in with that agreement,

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Speaker 9: I'm giving that money, like, then are you really all

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I hear that, And I'm trying to play Devil's advocate

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Speaker 2: at least I don't. I'm not buying I'm not buying

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Speaker 2: Kiki's angle here that women should do it and that

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Speaker 2: he's supporting some side family. I don't know about all that.

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Speaker 2: I'm trying to figure out a reason why he may

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Speaker 2: have done it. But the truth is, if I'm marrying someone,

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Speaker 2: and you know, at this point in my life, marrying

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Speaker 2: hopefully I'm not worried about them stealing from me, or

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Speaker 2: hopefully we have an understanding about spending, we have an

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Speaker 2: that fundamental understanding, and I'm having a lie about how

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Speaker 2: much I make to hide it from someone so they

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Speaker 2: don't spend it all. We shouldn't be married.

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Speaker 9: Yeah, like that was a conversation that should have been

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Speaker 9: and you have to have that big tough division.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, lorda, thank you so much for listening. Have

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Speaker 2: a great day, you too. Man, you're getting killed on

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Speaker 2: the I don't care.

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Speaker 10: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Guess what when we go broke, I'm gonna come through

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Speaker 5: and I'm gonna say, hey, babe.

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Speaker 1: I got it, I got it, I got it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's all he's doing, no big deal.

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Speaker 5: Well no, no, no, it's different when a man saving

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Speaker 5: up that kind of money. He's doing something he don't

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Speaker 5: have any business doing. Okays to get to the bottom hypocrisy, I.

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Speaker 2: Am Oh my god, at least admit it. At least

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Speaker 2: at least you see it clearly, Sophia.

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Speaker 1: Good morning, Hi, good morning.

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Speaker 4: Hey.

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Speaker 2: What do you think is going on here? This This

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Speaker 8: Actually, think I actually think of my husband. He works,

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Speaker 8: and then he also had like a rickinhead account to

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Speaker 8: Saw maybe he's making extra money on that, So maybe

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Speaker 8: she's just tripped.

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Speaker 2: Look at it. Look at it. He's out here investing

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Speaker 2: for their future. Look at this. That's all. That's all

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Speaker 2: he's doing to me.

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Speaker 8: Over COVID, that was a big thing. A lot of

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Speaker 8: people started doing that, like open up robinhood account, investing

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Speaker 8: and need different companies and making money.

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Speaker 2: So there you go, Sophia, you know what he's doing.

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Speaker 2: He thank you, Sophia, have a good day. He saw

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Speaker 2: that commercial late at night. He was watching he was

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Speaker 2: watching House Hunters International late at night, and he saw

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Speaker 2: that commercial. For a dollar a day, you can save

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Speaker 2: a young person's life in another country, and that's he's

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Speaker 2: doing that for a lot of young people.

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Speaker 1: The only answer is a family.

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Speaker 2: That's the only thing he could be doing.

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Speaker 1: That's it, except the kids are here. And he made

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Speaker 1: that right.

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Speaker 2: Angelica, Hi, hi, I think this guy. You know what

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Speaker 2: he's doing. He's he's supporting dental care in another country

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Speaker 2: because he wants everyone to have teeth. What do you

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Speaker 2: think right now?

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Speaker 10: I look, I understand the fundamental thing where the marriage

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Speaker 10: all that kind of stuff. But on the other hand,

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Speaker 10: I completely agree with Kiki the point of view. I'll

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Speaker 10: tell you what. Hold on, I'll tell you what.

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Speaker 4: I was married, he's.

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Speaker 10: Got the board. You know, things turned really nearing the

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Speaker 10: marriage by the point that I want to I had

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Speaker 10: to start a lord Ha Mercy account in order to

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Speaker 10: walk away of the marriage and keep myself a night

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Speaker 10: keep safe. So I hope women understand that it's mandatory.

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Speaker 10: You know, you can have all the fairy tale the

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Speaker 10: marriage and love and all that kind of stuff.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but I'm sorry, that's women.

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Speaker 10: You No, I'm.

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Speaker 2: Starting to rupt to you, and I hear what you're saying. Yes,

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Speaker 2: but but you know what I'm going to say, which is, well,

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Speaker 2: then why can't a man do that? Because who's to

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Speaker 2: say that the man won't have obligations to his family

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Speaker 2: when things fall apart?

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Speaker 10: Now, because because you know, if you are completely honest

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Speaker 10: in your marriage, and you know, you have to get

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Speaker 10: into the fundamental saying that okay, we're sharing, we're thing.

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Speaker 10: And I get your point that you know, we have

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Speaker 10: this money to invest, we have this money to spend,

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Speaker 10: and all that kind of stuff. They get that's all

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Speaker 10: the great and then they think, because it's the role

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Speaker 10: of being men. You see what I'm saying in their.

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Speaker 2: Marriage, all right, I know what you're saying, and she's Angela,

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Speaker 2: I gotta go, thank you so much so for calling

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Speaker 2: you have a great day. Okay, So she agrees with Kiki,

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Speaker 2: which I should have wrapped that up a long time ago.

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Speaker 1: But oh g she's trying to tell you.

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Speaker 2: I gave her three minutes to say what you already said,

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Speaker 2: and it's just making people more angry. What were you

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Speaker 2: laughing about?

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Speaker 7: Nothing? She sounds like that Auntie on TikTok that talking

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Speaker 7: about maybe it was.

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Speaker 1: She's like, Oh, you.

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Speaker 7: Gotta be honest with them, But I had money on

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Speaker 7: the side because I gotta.

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Speaker 1: Keep myself safe. I'm hearing that's the honesty part.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I mean there are scoring people out there

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Speaker 2: who I it makes them feel more comfortable to know

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Speaker 2: that they've got arresting arresting place, a landing spot somehow

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Speaker 2: financially if things go awright, especially if you're the only

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Speaker 2: person working. I know, that's where it gets really tricky.

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Speaker 2: As if yes, like in the case of my parents divorce,

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Speaker 2: my mom was a stay at home mom, which there's

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Speaker 2: no way to account for how much she should have

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Speaker 2: been you know, quote unquote compensated for that. And in

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Speaker 2: the meantime, you know, my father who's got a business,

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Speaker 2: he's doing whatever he wants with him. She had really

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Speaker 2: no idea, and so she'll never let that happen again. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: but it doesn't mean that people should be hiding money.

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Speaker 2: And I don't know about all that. Yeah, it doesn't

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Speaker 2: have money, ladies. The entertainers should look at you. The

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Speaker 2: entertainer reported is next sheby Shelley. After that, one hundred

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Speaker 2: and fifty bucks if you want to play eight five, five, five,

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Speaker 2: nine one three five. Financial advice given on the Friend

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Speaker 2: shows not to be following