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Speaker 2: Ryan is on the phone today for a first date
Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by Ella. So in
Speaker 2: a few minutes we'll call her see if you tell
Speaker 2: us why she's ghosting and maybe get him another date
Speaker 2: the first Ryan, how long has it been since you
Speaker 2: heard from Ella?
Speaker 3: It's been It's just been a few days. But you know,
Speaker 3: it was such an instinct connection. I'm really baffled.
Speaker 4: What was your last interaction?
Speaker 3: Like, well, we I mean initially we were just you know,
Speaker 3: texting over Bumble the dating app, and but but we
Speaker 3: we did go out. We went on a We went
Speaker 3: on a first date to a nice restaurant, and I
Speaker 3: don't think it could have gone any better.
Speaker 4: Really, Okay, we'll tell us about the date.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so we we went to an Italian place. We
Speaker 3: were both both pasta lovers, and we were just laughing, drinking.
Speaker 3: We bonded over the fact that we're both newly divorced
Speaker 3: and still new to the dating world. Everything's changed a lot.
Speaker 3: And she she told me she wanted to start a family,
Speaker 3: and I told her, I, actually I'm already at Dad,
Speaker 3: and she took that she was just like in she was.
Speaker 3: She wanted to see pictures of my son and wanted
Speaker 3: to hear stories. It was an incredible conversation. After you know,
Speaker 3: the check came and everything, and she didn't want it
Speaker 3: to or we didn't want it to end, I guess.
Speaker 3: So we went to the bar to you know, to
Speaker 3: have a little coffee and just keep chatting. And you know,
Speaker 3: we both had to get up the next morning and work,
Speaker 3: so we made plans to meet up again. I thought
Speaker 3: we could go on a bike ride, and she was
Speaker 3: into that idea and said we you know, I text
Speaker 3: her the next day, and I mean I thought that
Speaker 3: second day was going to.
Speaker 4: Happen for sure.
Speaker 1: So you guys basically made plans for a second date
Speaker 1: and just never happened.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I haven't.
Speaker 3: She didn't respond back ever.
Speaker 2: Then anything awkward at all happened on the date. Any
Speaker 2: reason you can think of that you're getting ghosted.
Speaker 3: I mean, like the one there's one thing where I'm like,
Speaker 3: I guess I could have This might have been a
Speaker 3: dumb thing to say. When we switched from our you know,
Speaker 3: our dinner table to the bar. The bartender came up
Speaker 3: to us and he asked if me and my wife,
Speaker 3: you know, wanted what we wanted to drink? And I
Speaker 3: didn't correct him. I said, oh, you know, I thought
Speaker 3: it was kind of cute. I thought, actually, my wife
Speaker 3: and I were just going to have an express so
Speaker 3: and she laughed too, and you know, I I thought, okay, sweet,
Speaker 3: like she gets my sense of humor and everything. And
Speaker 3: I went to the bathroom. I came back, but she
Speaker 3: was if something happened. I don't know, she maybe had
Speaker 3: time to think about it, or I offended her, you know.
Speaker 3: When I got back, she seemed kind of anxious to leave,
Speaker 3: a little antsy, and we just, you know, hugged good bye,
Speaker 3: kissed her on the cheek, and I don't I guess.
Speaker 3: I guess I put my foot in my mouth there.
Speaker 4: Maybe if she laughed about it.
Speaker 1: However, I could see if you're somebody that's freshly divorced
Speaker 1: and not being a wife anymore, and then even to
Speaker 1: be joked, like even if it's just joking, that's a
Speaker 1: title that you gave up, and then to be like, ah,
Speaker 1: my wife, maybe it just kind of put her in
Speaker 1: her feels, maybe had nothing to do with you at all.
Speaker 1: It just kind of put her in her feels or something.
Speaker 4: I don't know. Yeah, that's tough. Have you reached out
Speaker 4: to her then? Since?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean the next day I texted about, you know,
Speaker 3: the bike ride. I had found some different you know,
Speaker 3: trails we could try out and see what would work
Speaker 3: for her, And you know, I didn't hear anything back,
Speaker 3: and I figured, you know, I don't know, if she's
Speaker 3: busy or whatever, I'd just give it a little little space.
Speaker 3: I texted, you know again the next day and yeah, just.
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, well we'll see if we can figure it
Speaker 4: out for you.
Speaker 2: Then we'll play a song come back, and then call
Speaker 2: her in steef ttels why she's ghosting you, and maybe
Speaker 2: get you another date.
Speaker 4: Okay, that'd be great. Yeah, all right, well.
Speaker 2: Pla us on come back, get your first day follow
Speaker 2: up next. Right in the middle of the first day
Speaker 2: follow up and if you're just joining us, Ryan is
Speaker 2: on the phone and he's getting ghosted by Ella. So
Speaker 2: we're about to call her stiftels why she's ghosting him
Speaker 2: and maybe get him another date. But before we do that, Ryan,
Speaker 2: why don't you refresh our memory on your date with Ella?
Speaker 3: Yeah. We went out to dinner Italian restaurant. We had
Speaker 3: a great time. She loved the fact that I'm a
Speaker 3: dad and she's she's divorced too, and you know, but
Speaker 3: still wants to have a family. We had coffee at
Speaker 3: the bar after dinner, and I referred to as my
Speaker 3: wife as a joke, and then the vibe changed.
Speaker 2: It's sacrifice tough when something like that happens off somewhere,
Speaker 2: you're on a date and someone calls them your girlfriend,
Speaker 2: because you don't want to be like, yeah, they are,
Speaker 2: but you also want to be like whoa, no way,
Speaker 2: don't even say that far the other way, like I
Speaker 2: would never all right, well that would be Wait you
Speaker 2: ready for us to call her?
Speaker 5: Yeah? Please?
Speaker 4: Okay, here we go. I may I speak to Ella? Please? Ella?
Speaker 2: Hi?
Speaker 4: How are you?
Speaker 2: My name is Jewbel. I'm calling from a radio show
Speaker 2: called the Jewbil Show.
Speaker 4: Hi. Ella, I mean I'm here too.
Speaker 5: Hi.
Speaker 4: How are you?
Speaker 5: I'm okay?
Speaker 4: How are you good? Do you ever listen to the
Speaker 4: show at all? Uh? Not really? Okay?
Speaker 2: Well, maybe do that from time to time to be cool,
Speaker 2: but also no pressure if you haven't.
Speaker 4: We do a segment on our show. It's called the
Speaker 4: first date follow up.
Speaker 2: That's where if you go out on a date with
Speaker 2: somebody and then end up ghosting them, that person can
Speaker 2: email us to get you on the phone and ask
Speaker 2: why you're ghosting them. So, oh my gosh, we got
Speaker 2: an email about you.
Speaker 4: You're kidding, No, I'm not. Do you know who would
Speaker 4: email us? I have an idea you want to take
Speaker 4: a guess?
Speaker 5: Is it Ryan?
Speaker 4: Yes? It is Ryan. Hilarious emailed us. We talked to him.
Speaker 4: He told us about your date.
Speaker 2: He said he really liked you a lot, but he
Speaker 2: doesn't know why you're ghosting him, and would you mind
Speaker 2: telling us?
Speaker 5: Oh, I feel really awkward about this. I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 4: Okay, this is the same space, though, I swear.
Speaker 5: Okay, I mean I thought he was great. We had
Speaker 5: a great time. It was very sparky. I mean, I
Speaker 5: don't know how much he told you, But so I'm
Speaker 5: recently divorced and we were having a great night. And
Speaker 5: I guess what, I'm honest, Like, I got on Instagram
Speaker 5: while he was in the bathroom and I saw a
Speaker 5: picture of my ex with his new girlfriend. Oh, and
Speaker 5: I guess I just got kind of in my feels
Speaker 5: about it. And I feel like maybe my mood kind
Speaker 5: of wrecked the night. It kind of just made me realize, like, oh,
Speaker 5: maybe I'm not as ready as I thought I was.
Speaker 5: I should have handled those very differently, but I don't know.
Speaker 5: I'm kind of new at this and thought run away.
Speaker 1: Your instincts are to run. I mean, yeah, that's hard.
Speaker 1: That's a lot to process all at the same time.
Speaker 5: Yeah, and I feel bad. He seems like a nice guy.
Speaker 5: I mean, we really did hit it off.
Speaker 2: So you're ghosting him because you saw a picture of
Speaker 2: your X with somebody.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I'm ghostuming because I think I'm like,
Speaker 5: oh god, am I actually ready to be jumping back
Speaker 5: out there? If this silly picture threw me off so hard?
Speaker 4: I don't know. I mean, whether you're ready or not.
Speaker 1: I think those types of pictures throw anybody off their game, Like,
Speaker 1: even if you were already moved on in another relationship,
Speaker 1: seeing it for the first time, I would imagine it's
Speaker 1: so kind of shocking.
Speaker 4: No, like, jobble, don't you feel that way? No, I
Speaker 4: never care. Oh, okay, I'm glad. Usually okay, I'm like,
Speaker 4: good they've moved on.
Speaker 1: Well, I understand, and I feel the same way. But
Speaker 1: what I'm saying is maybe that doesn't mean you're not ready,
Speaker 1: It's just that you needed to rip the band aid off.
Speaker 5: I mean, yeah, maybe. I mean the phone was taken
Speaker 5: by a friend of ours who so like she's meeting
Speaker 5: our old friends. Like, I don't know, he just threw me, Okay,
Speaker 5: it wasn't fair to Ryan.
Speaker 2: Well you can say that to Ryan if you want to,
Speaker 2: because he's actually on the phone listening and wants.
Speaker 4: To talk to you.
Speaker 5: God embarrassing.
Speaker 3: Sure, Hey, hey, Ella, I I uh, I don't care.
Speaker 3: I mean, I totally get it that you were you
Speaker 3: were caught off guard, and uh, I don't think it
Speaker 3: ruined the night at all. I'm relieved.
Speaker 5: Frankly, I'm sorry that was not the most mature way
Speaker 5: to handle that. I did not mean to make your
Speaker 5: or feel bad. I know you're kind of in the
Speaker 5: same position.
Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 3: I mean, I I totally I understand where you're coming from.
Speaker 3: And you know, I mean, if we if we were
Speaker 3: able to like hang out again, like you, you'd be
Speaker 3: welcome to, you know, talk about this type of stuff,
Speaker 3: like we can totally talk it out.
Speaker 2: Really well, Ella, would you like to go out with
Speaker 2: Ryan again on another date. We'll pay for it, I mean, yeah,
Speaker 2: I'd love to.
Speaker 3: Amazing.
Speaker 4: Got another date.
Speaker 3: Yay, we can still do the bike ride and then
Speaker 3: we'll we'll go to another.
Speaker 4: Restaurant, the spot Pictures.
Speaker 5: Or Not
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