WEBVTT - Ep75: Addicted to Sex Feat Rich 0:00:02.920 --> 0:00:07.280 Hi guys, we are here again. Welcome to another episode 0:00:07.480 --> 0:00:11.479 of Horrible Decisions the Sea Girl Mandib And we actually 0:00:11.600 --> 0:00:15.400 didn't think we were going to be able to have videos. 0:00:15.600 --> 0:00:17.920 That's what I did. I was like, oh, we're good. 0:00:18.040 --> 0:00:20.480 Oh well, I mean I yes. I I didn't know 0:00:20.520 --> 0:00:23.080 if our guest today was going to want to be 0:00:23.160 --> 0:00:25.759 on video today because we're actually kind of talking about 0:00:25.800 --> 0:00:28.800 something a little serious. But before we but he consented. 0:00:28.920 --> 0:00:30.360 I want you guys to know that we know how 0:00:30.400 --> 0:00:32.000 to ask for consent and we said it in a 0:00:32.080 --> 0:00:35.000 very sexy way. Can we film you yes means yes? 0:00:36.360 --> 0:00:40.199 Before we get into Horrible Decisions today, I did want 0:00:40.200 --> 0:00:43.000 to go ahead and give a huge shout out UM 0:00:43.040 --> 0:00:46.440 to the Joe Button Podcast for shouting us out on 0:00:46.479 --> 0:00:50.599 their podcast, UM last week, dope. Well, I think we're 0:00:50.560 --> 0:00:52.839 gonna go ahead and drop this next week. So just 0:00:52.880 --> 0:00:54.880 because we're having issues making sure we get you guys 0:00:54.920 --> 0:00:58.040 the best quality of videos for YouTube, and again shout 0:00:58.040 --> 0:01:00.960 out to our YouTube viewer is um, you guys are 0:01:00.960 --> 0:01:03.360 showing us love. You guys appreciate when we dropped the videos, 0:01:03.600 --> 0:01:06.160 y'all can kind of see our faces or whatnot, So 0:01:06.520 --> 0:01:08.720 that's super exciting. I did want to go ahead. We 0:01:08.800 --> 0:01:12.679 did get an email in response to UM one of 0:01:12.720 --> 0:01:15.119 the things that Rory said, and I wanted to bring UM, 0:01:15.160 --> 0:01:17.679 to bring light to it because I thought that it 0:01:17.760 --> 0:01:22.040 was important to kind of make sure we're we're not UM, 0:01:22.120 --> 0:01:26.760 what do I say, maybe spreading information that maybe inaccurate. 0:01:26.800 --> 0:01:28.560 I know, we try to, you know, teach you guys 0:01:28.600 --> 0:01:31.920 as much as we can. And Rory mentioned UM during 0:01:31.959 --> 0:01:34.960 the consent talk and the drunk sex talk that most 0:01:35.080 --> 0:01:38.119 men are always to blame when they go to court 0:01:38.160 --> 0:01:39.959 and you can't win in court. So I wanted to 0:01:40.000 --> 0:01:42.880 read one of these letters from our listeners. They actually said, 0:01:42.880 --> 0:01:44.959 I'm just listening to your latest podcast and want to 0:01:44.959 --> 0:01:47.720 point out that what your guest Rory said about men 0:01:47.800 --> 0:01:50.880 always losing in court of law is bullshit. Out of 0:01:50.920 --> 0:01:53.920 every thousand rapes in the US, only six perpetrators will 0:01:53.960 --> 0:01:56.080 be incarcerated. And I do want to say She also 0:01:56.080 --> 0:02:00.160 included a link for us to do our own research. UM. 0:02:00.160 --> 0:02:02.840 I'm afraid that Rory spread some very damaging and dangerous 0:02:02.880 --> 0:02:05.240 myths about the treatment of rape and sexual assault in 0:02:05.240 --> 0:02:08.280 the criminal justice system. That being said, the discussion about 0:02:08.280 --> 0:02:11.640 consent is very important and I think you're right to 0:02:11.639 --> 0:02:14.440 be having it with men would be better, um if 0:02:14.480 --> 0:02:17.000 those men had their facts straight. Though. I think that 0:02:17.040 --> 0:02:19.080 what Rory was just saying is that as men, you 0:02:19.120 --> 0:02:22.600 need to be even more careful, um, because we know, 0:02:22.880 --> 0:02:25.560 and as we've been seeing with everything that's been going on. 0:02:26.000 --> 0:02:29.720 Even if you're accused the court of like ship, not 0:02:29.760 --> 0:02:34.000 even the real court, but public opinion pens you was guilty, right, 0:02:34.040 --> 0:02:36.880 So I think that's maybe something he was trying to 0:02:36.919 --> 0:02:39.840 reference more so than anything, when when he said that, 0:02:39.880 --> 0:02:42.359 I was immediately thinking of the what's the swimmer brock 0:02:42.639 --> 0:02:48.040 something I don't know when when he's the white boy 0:02:48.160 --> 0:02:51.399 that raped the girl and then he got off completely 0:02:51.440 --> 0:02:55.679 scott free. He was woman or something like that. I 0:02:55.720 --> 0:02:58.040 don't remember who we rate like I heard it was 0:02:58.080 --> 0:03:00.360 like an elderly woman was that it No, no, no, no, 0:03:00.440 --> 0:03:02.120 this is somebody else that was on here and you 0:03:02.240 --> 0:03:05.040 don't like community service. Yeah, he was like this like 0:03:05.120 --> 0:03:08.200 star swimmer and you know, you know just I mean, 0:03:08.400 --> 0:03:10.320 it's weird because when Marity said that, I think her 0:03:10.360 --> 0:03:12.519 and I both like nodded our heads. And it's because 0:03:13.120 --> 0:03:16.000 you always just know that they're such a bad like 0:03:16.040 --> 0:03:17.600 you never get away from it. It's just this bad 0:03:17.600 --> 0:03:19.320 stigma attached to you for life. You're always going to 0:03:19.360 --> 0:03:20.959 be a rapist, no matter what the funk you do. 0:03:21.400 --> 0:03:24.280 I mean, I didn't know that until that girl sent 0:03:24.320 --> 0:03:25.440 the ad or I don't know if it was a 0:03:25.440 --> 0:03:28.280 man or a woman sent them the link. And I 0:03:28.320 --> 0:03:30.360 really appreciate you for doing that, because, to be honest 0:03:30.360 --> 0:03:32.560 with you, I couldn't believe the numbers. What was it? 0:03:32.600 --> 0:03:34.960 One and every how many people? Oh I didn't I 0:03:35.000 --> 0:03:36.800 didn't look at it. It was a crazy number, like 0:03:36.800 --> 0:03:38.920 one in every sixty six or something like that. Get 0:03:38.960 --> 0:03:42.160 a cute, I mean, or get um? What's the word 0:03:42.160 --> 0:03:47.040 I'm looking for. I'm for the first time. You know 0:03:47.080 --> 0:03:49.840 what that is. I'm sucked up is this crazy workout 0:03:49.880 --> 0:03:52.280 ship and I'm like zoned in on like everything in 0:03:52.280 --> 0:03:54.880 this room. It's like adderall but like for the gym, 0:03:55.280 --> 0:03:57.400 and I feel insane by the way. I want to 0:03:57.440 --> 0:04:00.000 let you guys know, Welcome to Horrible Decisions. If you're 0:04:00.040 --> 0:04:02.720 ran new listener from Joe Budden's podcast and you heard 0:04:02.760 --> 0:04:05.720 rory um. Every week, we have different types of guests, 0:04:05.720 --> 0:04:08.800 whether they're kinky or whether they're an influencer, whoever they 0:04:08.880 --> 0:04:12.120 might be. This week, Um, we have someone super special 0:04:12.160 --> 0:04:13.960 and you're gonna find out where they're here. We have 0:04:14.000 --> 0:04:15.840 a few different topics that we talked about every week, 0:04:15.840 --> 0:04:17.960 a few different segments, and then when we're about to 0:04:17.960 --> 0:04:21.120 get into is called vanilla shit, where pretty much is 0:04:21.120 --> 0:04:22.880 gonna be the most vanilla ship we talk about. It's 0:04:23.000 --> 0:04:26.159 something in the news where sex is there, um, whether 0:04:26.160 --> 0:04:28.440 it be something like someone getting accused of rape, or 0:04:28.520 --> 0:04:31.680 someone selling their panties online, or the girl in Japan 0:04:31.720 --> 0:04:34.000 who was sucking too under people, whatever it might be. 0:04:34.040 --> 0:04:37.320 And this week it's about gay porn studies. Um. Yeah, 0:04:37.320 --> 0:04:40.320 so it's something that I actually came across UM looking. 0:04:40.640 --> 0:04:42.400 I'm on Twitter, so of course a lot of people 0:04:42.440 --> 0:04:44.960 send me um some pretty weird things. And I've mentioned 0:04:45.240 --> 0:04:48.280 multiple times on the show that I am a female 0:04:48.320 --> 0:04:50.960 who was into watching gay porn. You're not the only one, 0:04:52.440 --> 0:04:56.080 And apparently the new study actually says um. Back in 0:04:56.120 --> 0:04:59.880 two thousand fifteen, the wildly popular online pornography site Pornhub, 0:05:00.240 --> 0:05:02.640 which both over a hundred and fifteen million daily views, 0:05:02.839 --> 0:05:07.280 published findings that took sexuality researcher Lucy a. Ville by surprise. 0:05:07.839 --> 0:05:11.279 Women are responsible for more than a third of the 0:05:11.320 --> 0:05:15.000 site's gay male porn views UM and so I am 0:05:15.080 --> 0:05:19.200 going to attach this link onto our Patreon account for 0:05:19.240 --> 0:05:21.640 those of you who are patrons, and basically you can 0:05:21.680 --> 0:05:25.279 read up on it basically talking about the psychological factors 0:05:25.320 --> 0:05:27.880 as to why women prefer gay porn over I think 0:05:27.920 --> 0:05:30.599 this is weird. Men like watching lesbian porn if women 0:05:30.600 --> 0:05:33.640 are head a sexual and the male body. Some men do, 0:05:33.760 --> 0:05:36.320 but but all not women. I mean, all women don't 0:05:36.360 --> 0:05:39.040 like gay male porn either. But here's the thing, Like, 0:05:39.080 --> 0:05:40.720 if you like a certain body type in your head 0:05:40.760 --> 0:05:42.440 or right, and then you get to see two of them, 0:05:42.520 --> 0:05:45.080 it's like the best. I mean, that's why I'm sure 0:05:45.120 --> 0:05:47.760 we like to watch it. Well, they the study actually 0:05:47.800 --> 0:05:50.400 went in depth as to why they say women like 0:05:50.480 --> 0:05:51.719 to watch it, and one of the things that I 0:05:51.760 --> 0:05:54.400 read that was fairly interesting was that they feel like 0:05:54.760 --> 0:05:59.440 women in straight porn are often treated poorly. Um. They 0:05:59.480 --> 0:06:01.920 kind of feel like the women are being disrespected and porn, 0:06:02.000 --> 0:06:04.119 which I I agree to that a lot of the times. 0:06:04.160 --> 0:06:06.960 It's not a very intimate porn. I will say, if 0:06:07.000 --> 0:06:11.160 you are into watching intimate straight porn, UM, I only 0:06:11.240 --> 0:06:14.960 like BBC's clearly when I watch porn, but black b 0:06:15.160 --> 0:06:20.360 l A c K E D. It's it's filmed very intimate. 0:06:20.640 --> 0:06:23.479 Oh it's super into. I mean, but I don't know. 0:06:23.760 --> 0:06:26.920 And I would say the production value production values super good, 0:06:26.920 --> 0:06:32.080 but it means to me they show like everyone is consenting, 0:06:32.120 --> 0:06:33.960 like it does. It looks like everyone is just o joint. 0:06:34.000 --> 0:06:36.400 So let me tell you about some intimate Like there's 0:06:36.440 --> 0:06:38.960 a genre called I think it's f E M M 0:06:39.080 --> 0:06:42.200 like fem fem porn. You can google fem porn. There's 0:06:42.240 --> 0:06:44.640 someone called Erica Lust. I brought her up a few times, 0:06:44.920 --> 0:06:48.000 and it's a woman that makes porn for women based 0:06:48.040 --> 0:06:50.680 on stories that people send into her. I think she 0:06:50.720 --> 0:06:52.640 has a Patreon. You can watch it. But like, there 0:06:52.680 --> 0:06:55.800 is porn created with like a whole scene with candles 0:06:55.800 --> 0:06:58.359 and ship, like the music that to me is like 0:06:58.400 --> 0:07:01.280 the intimate porn black and as intimate as I want 0:07:01.279 --> 0:07:04.599 to watch. That's some intimate ship. There's only another thing. 0:07:04.640 --> 0:07:06.240 I don't like an intimate porn too much. I like 0:07:06.320 --> 0:07:07.960 to talk to diready in bed, and I feel like 0:07:07.960 --> 0:07:10.960 the intimate porn is too soft. It's love making basically, 0:07:11.200 --> 0:07:13.760 it's like your hair is beautiful, your eyes are like 0:07:13.800 --> 0:07:20.120 an ocean and like the level and blacked because on 0:07:20.560 --> 0:07:23.920 in black it's like more so they're sucking their friend's friend, 0:07:24.040 --> 0:07:27.520 or they're sugar daddy, or they're sucking their home girl's boyfriend. 0:07:27.520 --> 0:07:30.080 They shouldn't be sucking, are they it's their first one 0:07:30.200 --> 0:07:33.960 night stand? In black? Yes, Like it's very very there's 0:07:34.000 --> 0:07:39.040 all you know, like that intimate, having fun intimate to me. 0:07:39.280 --> 0:07:43.480 All porn besides, like gonzo porn is like what's gonzo porn? Gonzo? 0:07:43.880 --> 0:07:45.880 From what I understand, it's basically just go straight into 0:07:45.880 --> 0:07:49.440 the shot, like I need a sorry line. I can 0:07:49.520 --> 0:07:52.280 do Gonzo all the time. I could do both. I 0:07:52.320 --> 0:07:54.360 don't jerk off for your story. I need at least 0:07:54.600 --> 0:07:57.840 one minute of the storyline than one minute of watching porn. 0:07:57.920 --> 0:08:00.160 And then I passed forward to the fucking I then 0:08:00.160 --> 0:08:03.400 I only like certain angles in the fucking stuff. I'm 0:08:03.440 --> 0:08:05.680 really big on telling me fast forward to the cum shot, 0:08:05.680 --> 0:08:07.880 which is why I only watch now because I'm like, 0:08:07.920 --> 0:08:09.920 I want to watch for five minutes of coum shots. 0:08:10.040 --> 0:08:12.440 I do fast forward to the shot to the time. 0:08:12.720 --> 0:08:14.800 It's just exciting for me. And now that like, so 0:08:14.840 --> 0:08:18.240 we got sponsored by Spunk lube. And it's actually, by 0:08:18.280 --> 0:08:20.360 the way, I didn't know people. I hate to say 0:08:20.360 --> 0:08:22.800 it like this, but like when someone wants to sponsor something, 0:08:22.840 --> 0:08:25.360 I feel like, are they not well known yet? And 0:08:25.400 --> 0:08:27.280 of course that's not always true, you know what I'm saying, 0:08:27.320 --> 0:08:29.960 Like you do say in Handy Blueser or whatever. So 0:08:30.040 --> 0:08:32.720 spunk Globe is a loube that looks like come. And 0:08:32.760 --> 0:08:34.240 I had it in my house and one of my 0:08:34.280 --> 0:08:35.920 age was like, oh my god, bitch, they gave you 0:08:35.960 --> 0:08:38.319 like bottles like this. Oh my god, I used this 0:08:38.360 --> 0:08:42.600 all the time and like it like it's it's it's 0:08:42.640 --> 0:08:45.040 like it looks the consistency is just like, come, what 0:08:45.080 --> 0:08:48.040 does it taste like? Oh, we ain't tasted now, it 0:08:48.120 --> 0:08:52.480 ain't flavor. It tastes fine. Sorry, but before we leave 0:08:52.520 --> 0:08:54.680 the Vanilla Show, I also wanted to note that another 0:08:54.760 --> 0:08:58.280 keep finding over the course of Netville's um research was 0:08:58.320 --> 0:09:01.880 that of the women and said that they had imagined 0:09:01.880 --> 0:09:05.720 themselves as men while consuming the gay mail erotica. And 0:09:05.720 --> 0:09:08.800 it's crazy because I don't really let's just speak of me. 0:09:08.960 --> 0:09:10.880 I don't think of myself as the male, but I 0:09:10.920 --> 0:09:14.800 either envisioned myself in the room watching and I always 0:09:14.840 --> 0:09:16.559 pick one of them to be my my boyfriend or 0:09:16.600 --> 0:09:19.400 something like, oh yeah, take that. See I've I've heard 0:09:19.400 --> 0:09:21.600 guys say that with lesbian porn. For me, I can't 0:09:21.600 --> 0:09:24.520 get down with lesbian porn only because I don't know 0:09:24.559 --> 0:09:26.520 where I fit into the equation. Like for me, when 0:09:26.559 --> 0:09:29.440 I'm watching porn, it's like I'm trying to live vicariously 0:09:29.480 --> 0:09:31.760 through the guy that's there. But if it's just girls there, 0:09:31.760 --> 0:09:34.360 I'm like, cool, am I supposed to relate to? Oh? 0:09:34.840 --> 0:09:37.640 I don't think like that. That's just me. I understand 0:09:37.640 --> 0:09:41.240 why some guys like lesbian porn and why some girls 0:09:41.280 --> 0:09:44.319 like gas. I don't need to you both just said this. 0:09:44.559 --> 0:09:46.319 I don't need to put me in there at all. 0:09:47.040 --> 0:09:49.320 I just watch it. Oh yeah, I imagine now there 0:09:49.440 --> 0:09:51.760 is a moment where like I'll watch it and then 0:09:51.800 --> 0:09:54.840 I'll like close, like there's actually this is more recently, 0:09:55.280 --> 0:09:58.560 the last thirty seconds before an orgasm. I let the 0:09:58.600 --> 0:10:01.079 phone drop and I close my eyes and then I'm 0:10:01.080 --> 0:10:03.480 like in my own thing, Like I just was like, okay, 0:10:03.520 --> 0:10:05.520 we were doing bococky done, and then I'm like, oh 0:10:05.600 --> 0:10:09.880 my god, wakonda. That's really what I've been incurating too. 0:10:09.920 --> 0:10:13.960 Is Michael B. Jordan honestly, just everything about him, like 0:10:14.000 --> 0:10:16.240 that final scene where like he rips the shirt off 0:10:16.240 --> 0:10:21.040 and there's like, I'm just mad that he died. I'm 0:10:21.040 --> 0:10:23.199 mad that I saw all the tweets before watching the 0:10:23.240 --> 0:10:24.960 movie and I ain't know. God damn, Michael B. Jordan. 0:10:26.000 --> 0:10:27.679 I mean that made me a little bit sad because 0:10:27.679 --> 0:10:29.719 now every movie I've seen almost Michael B. Jordan and 0:10:29.720 --> 0:10:33.520 the nigga died. Fruit Vale Station. He died, motherfucking Black Panther. 0:10:33.600 --> 0:10:35.880 He died. I'm my god, damn, because he's paying villains right. 0:10:35.920 --> 0:10:41.040 He lived in uh no, no, fruit Vale. He was 0:10:41.120 --> 0:10:44.640 just a broke nigger who got shot shot. I can't 0:10:44.679 --> 0:10:46.720 think of a movie that he lived in, because what's 0:10:46.720 --> 0:10:48.640 the first movie, that superhero movie that he was in. 0:10:49.120 --> 0:10:54.240 He probably died in that dying Fantastic four there because 0:10:54.240 --> 0:10:56.560 he was alive. Yeah, I mean, it's a whack as. 0:10:56.880 --> 0:10:59.120 I'm just really hoping he comes back to Black Panther 0:10:59.240 --> 0:11:02.800 because I'm not going, I mean, I'll take died in 0:11:02.840 --> 0:11:04.839 the in the Ancestral plane when they you know, take 0:11:04.880 --> 0:11:08.640 the Earth. It's so crazy because we talked about ghosts 0:11:08.720 --> 0:11:12.680 um in the last episode and you posted the meme. Um, yeah, 0:11:12.720 --> 0:11:14.760 if that nigga was alive, I him, and I swear 0:11:14.800 --> 0:11:16.680 I thought about that when Paul Walker died, like that 0:11:16.840 --> 0:11:18.800 was a white man, I would have fucked, like damn, 0:11:19.360 --> 0:11:21.720 Like I mean, is that a bad thing to be 0:11:21.760 --> 0:11:23.480 when someone dies, to be like damn? You could have 0:11:23.480 --> 0:11:26.960 got this hold on. Wait here's like a like is it? Like? 0:11:27.080 --> 0:11:29.280 I mean, immediately I thought he died and I was like, 0:11:29.720 --> 0:11:31.400 you never see him? Like they'd be like he'd be like, 0:11:31.480 --> 0:11:35.600 damn he did. Wait? Wait, have you guys ever sucked 0:11:35.600 --> 0:11:41.599 somebody that died? No? No, no, no, Like I'm not 0:11:41.640 --> 0:11:43.280 gonna lie. I'd be seeing them r I P T 0:11:43.440 --> 0:11:46.560 shirts and I'd be like, damn he did. I wish died. 0:11:46.679 --> 0:11:52.559 But that's kind of still live. I remember, like someone 0:11:52.760 --> 0:11:57.040 died that I know, and I sucked him, and I 0:11:57.080 --> 0:11:59.120 didn't remember I sucked him until one of my homegirls, myni, 0:11:59.160 --> 0:12:01.280 They're like, damn bit remember. I was like, no, I didn't. 0:12:01.280 --> 0:12:03.880 But I just wrote on a baby mama's Facebook, well 0:12:03.920 --> 0:12:06.360 how sorry I am. I was about to send the 0:12:06.400 --> 0:12:09.000 bitch flowers and then I was like is that wrong? Yeah? 0:12:09.240 --> 0:12:11.080 I think that's bad form problem. But if you didn't 0:12:11.080 --> 0:12:15.680 remember the dick hopefully he having dicks. I don't remember. 0:12:15.880 --> 0:12:18.679 Have you ever a girl and didn't remember? Well, I 0:12:18.679 --> 0:12:21.200 feel like everyone sees the title. I feel like you, 0:12:22.559 --> 0:12:27.080 so yeah, yeah, definitely. I mean like it's when when 0:12:27.120 --> 0:12:29.160 y'all talk about like body count two, I'm like, how 0:12:29.200 --> 0:12:31.880 would I even approach that? I mean, I haven't already said, 0:12:31.880 --> 0:12:34.679 I don't really know the ansom. I have no idea. 0:12:34.880 --> 0:12:37.840 I mean, I know my body count only because I 0:12:37.880 --> 0:12:42.360 have a list. But I will tell you, Um, I 0:12:42.480 --> 0:12:45.680 have recently just been like, you know, on Instagram and 0:12:45.679 --> 0:12:47.120 like someone write me and I'd be like, oh, let 0:12:47.120 --> 0:12:49.240 me add that to my notes, and I click on 0:12:49.320 --> 0:12:51.000 a section and then you know, I put the number 0:12:51.120 --> 0:12:53.360 right by it. And I had actually have shared the 0:12:53.400 --> 0:12:54.920 list with a few homegirls and be like, I need 0:12:54.960 --> 0:12:57.319 you all to verify because yeah, I think we did 0:12:57.320 --> 0:12:58.760 it on air and I was like, are you I 0:12:58.840 --> 0:13:01.200 know you forgot this negative Niga She was adding while 0:13:01.200 --> 0:13:02.640 he was on the show. It was bad. If I 0:13:02.800 --> 0:13:05.520 typed in every name of every person that I've slept with, 0:13:05.600 --> 0:13:11.280 if I deleted that file, my iPad would be physically stage. Yeah, 0:13:11.320 --> 0:13:14.320 it's it's ridicul you're the cash I would be spending 0:13:14.360 --> 0:13:17.440 so much money on I cloud storage already know. So 0:13:17.520 --> 0:13:20.200 normally what we'd have every week is a kink of 0:13:20.240 --> 0:13:22.280 the week. Um, And I want to know, did you 0:13:22.360 --> 0:13:24.679 end up finding a kink for them? Yeah? Yeah, So 0:13:25.400 --> 0:13:27.760 a few weeks ago I brought this up and I 0:13:27.800 --> 0:13:30.400 think Mandy was like, I don't understand how you get 0:13:30.400 --> 0:13:32.120 your hair with but I found out it's a kink. 0:13:32.640 --> 0:13:40.559 It's called trip for salond. You know what to pronunciation 0:13:40.640 --> 0:13:43.720 do you go ahead? Which is smart is prips alagnia. 0:13:43.840 --> 0:13:49.079 I'm sorry, trips alagnia trip. Look he did really trips alagnia. 0:13:49.200 --> 0:13:53.559 So anyway, though, it is the joy of getting someone's 0:13:53.600 --> 0:13:58.319 hair shampoo. It is literally you found this as bro 0:13:58.440 --> 0:14:00.880 because everybody be like, damn you like that? You like that? 0:14:00.960 --> 0:14:02.120 And I'd be like, you want you want to? You 0:14:02.160 --> 0:14:04.560 want to see you want to? I mean, well, I 0:14:04.559 --> 0:14:06.600 know when I go to like the Dominicans the lines 0:14:06.800 --> 0:14:08.800 and they'd be like doing my hair and they got 0:14:08.920 --> 0:14:10.920 they do this little scratching thing in the back when 0:14:10.920 --> 0:14:13.400 they do the shampoo, and that ship do feel good? 0:14:14.840 --> 0:14:18.120 It is, So that's what I was finding out, Like, Okay, 0:14:18.280 --> 0:14:20.760 because we're are rogin Is zones and then like that's 0:14:20.800 --> 0:14:22.960 one and it's a very intimate place to be touched. 0:14:23.000 --> 0:14:24.480 And now I remember when we were talking about it 0:14:24.720 --> 0:14:27.800 in the BDSM episode about aftercare. Somebody washed my hair. 0:14:28.520 --> 0:14:30.600 So I was recent I get my hair washed a 0:14:30.680 --> 0:14:34.400 Chinatown and this like really shitty place, um and there 0:14:34.440 --> 0:14:37.320 was a new girl who was like really fucking good looking, 0:14:38.240 --> 0:14:40.560 and it was the first time I've ever opened my 0:14:40.600 --> 0:14:42.400 eyes we had my hair washed because I was just 0:14:42.440 --> 0:14:48.920 like and like it was just wet and Sophie and 0:14:48.960 --> 0:14:53.160 she was just like, it's good to h I definitely 0:14:53.200 --> 0:14:56.120 like like my I like my my neck the back 0:14:56.160 --> 0:14:58.080 of my neck rubbed, and I like the guys to 0:14:58.120 --> 0:14:59.800 play in my hair. And a lot of guys like 0:15:00.160 --> 0:15:01.840 for women to play in their hair too when they 0:15:01.840 --> 0:15:04.800 have hair, or even just to especially with my acrylic nails. 0:15:04.840 --> 0:15:08.520 Niggas love it. I'd just be like softly scratching bald 0:15:08.560 --> 0:15:10.480 heads and as short as hell. But I mean I 0:15:10.680 --> 0:15:15.360 want to go. So you guys are probably like, who 0:15:15.560 --> 0:15:18.320 is this third voice on the mic? I have questions 0:15:18.360 --> 0:15:20.200 because I just know. Man. He was like, oh, we 0:15:20.240 --> 0:15:21.960 have someone who's gonna come on. I can talk about this. 0:15:21.960 --> 0:15:24.840 This is how do you know about horrible decisions? I 0:15:24.960 --> 0:15:29.200 heard you guys on Brilliant Idiots. Okay, I came from 0:15:29.200 --> 0:15:31.960 that and then he reached out. You reached out? What 0:15:32.080 --> 0:15:34.400 on on my Twitter? You d you d have to 0:15:34.480 --> 0:15:38.600 be somewhere email okay. So um, so, guys, we are 0:15:38.960 --> 0:15:42.120 having an actual, really interesting conversation today and it may 0:15:42.120 --> 0:15:43.880 get a little deep. Um So I just want to 0:15:43.920 --> 0:15:46.360 go ahead and throw that disclaimer out there. But somehow 0:15:46.400 --> 0:15:48.200 and you'll be thinking we'd be digging for these people 0:15:48.240 --> 0:15:51.880 they come to us, so listen. You know it's his fault, 0:15:51.920 --> 0:15:55.000 but no, we actually have a real life sex addict 0:15:55.600 --> 0:15:59.160 um in the building today and he has gone through 0:15:59.200 --> 0:16:04.000 sexual addiction that has affected his job, his family, his life, 0:16:04.080 --> 0:16:10.040 his financials as well as his relationships. It's all of us. 0:16:10.040 --> 0:16:12.200 It me like, of course you're here, Like you know, 0:16:12.240 --> 0:16:14.720 how many people fucking read the caption and they were like, yo, 0:16:14.800 --> 0:16:16.760 I could have been on that ship. And I feel 0:16:16.760 --> 0:16:18.800 like everybody is going to make that joke like you 0:16:18.800 --> 0:16:22.800 know what time, which is I'm so glad because that's 0:16:22.800 --> 0:16:26.320 why he's here. And he actually he actually said, um, 0:16:26.360 --> 0:16:28.720 I just want to let you know that Mandy wheezy, 0:16:28.840 --> 0:16:33.080 both of y'all are safe because probably actually I might 0:16:33.120 --> 0:16:35.880 have it. So what I wanted to start this conversation off, 0:16:35.880 --> 0:16:37.640 and if you guys did not know, we are entering 0:16:37.680 --> 0:16:40.960 the horrible decision for this week of sexual addiction, and 0:16:41.000 --> 0:16:45.800 so I wanted to ask you what is sexual addiction? Okay? 0:16:45.840 --> 0:16:51.040 So sexual addiction is a behavioral addiction that basically means 0:16:51.080 --> 0:16:55.640 you feel compulsions to have sex or sexual interactions and 0:16:55.680 --> 0:16:57.960 you don't feel like you're in control of those compulsions. 0:16:58.680 --> 0:17:01.240 How do you differentiate that from someone who just likes 0:17:01.240 --> 0:17:03.240 a lot of sex? Because I know not that, but 0:17:03.880 --> 0:17:05.720 I just you saying that made me think of something 0:17:05.760 --> 0:17:08.520 when they say, like the mail on average, every forty 0:17:08.560 --> 0:17:12.400 five seconds or every minute thinks of sex. So what's 0:17:12.400 --> 0:17:14.840 so different with that? And like a sex addict, Well, 0:17:14.880 --> 0:17:17.879 I mean, everybody thinks about ship all the time. But 0:17:18.000 --> 0:17:20.640 it's how you act on that that's really the problem. 0:17:20.760 --> 0:17:23.720 You know, how many times have you, you know, been 0:17:23.720 --> 0:17:25.480 pissed at like a coworking, Like I wish I could 0:17:25.480 --> 0:17:27.080 slap that bitch in the mouth right now, but you 0:17:27.080 --> 0:17:29.320 don't do it. Because we live in a polite society. 0:17:29.400 --> 0:17:32.720 And you know whatever, But imagine that you just couldn't 0:17:32.720 --> 0:17:34.280 control that ship. And he was like, I wish I 0:17:34.320 --> 0:17:36.600 could say bam and then that that was it, and 0:17:36.359 --> 0:17:38.040 the many both would have killed each other if we 0:17:38.080 --> 0:17:41.480 didn't have control. There you go, yeah, it would have 0:17:41.480 --> 0:17:43.679 been dead. All right, all right, well you know that 0:17:43.800 --> 0:17:47.679 that's that's they say, if you had that, if you 0:17:47.720 --> 0:17:50.440 didn't have that that barrier in your brain, it would 0:17:50.440 --> 0:17:54.159 be the same exact name thing. So, sex addiction is 0:17:54.200 --> 0:17:57.800 basically the inability to to stop yourself and a lot 0:17:57.840 --> 0:18:02.560 of these things without a tremendous amount of learning about 0:18:02.600 --> 0:18:05.080 yourself and why these things happen and then putting in 0:18:05.119 --> 0:18:08.919 the systems that will prevent that behavior in the future. 0:18:09.200 --> 0:18:13.640 And so um, being a guy with sexual addiction, it's 0:18:13.680 --> 0:18:17.479 considered satta romania, satire romania. I don't really know how 0:18:17.480 --> 0:18:20.480 to say it, but it's the male version of nymphomania, 0:18:20.520 --> 0:18:25.760 which we're all familiar with um, which as a nymphomania 0:18:25.920 --> 0:18:29.160 pertains to women. And then there's a male version of nymphomania. 0:18:29.560 --> 0:18:33.879 And back in the day, they actually diagnosed nymphos um 0:18:33.920 --> 0:18:36.760 as having a mental disorder, and a lot of women 0:18:36.800 --> 0:18:39.840 who were seen as not being able to control their 0:18:39.840 --> 0:18:43.000 sexual desires were actually put into um asilnce not even 0:18:43.040 --> 0:18:45.080 back in the day, we actually did. I don't know 0:18:45.080 --> 0:18:46.600 if we did a vanilla ship or if I was 0:18:46.640 --> 0:18:49.119 just reading it on my own. But sex addiction in 0:18:49.119 --> 0:18:51.480 the UK is not a mental health disorder. Yeah, it's 0:18:51.480 --> 0:18:54.080 it's mark that's fairly recent. Yeah, like within the last 0:18:54.080 --> 0:18:56.440 few weeks. And so I guess I want to talk 0:18:56.440 --> 0:18:59.680 to you more about that. Um I would love for 0:18:59.720 --> 0:19:02.199 you to just go ahead and open up to us 0:19:02.240 --> 0:19:06.240 and say when you found out your addiction and how 0:19:06.560 --> 0:19:09.080 that journey has has gone. And then of course in 0:19:09.119 --> 0:19:10.919 the mix will go ahead and want to speak on 0:19:10.960 --> 0:19:13.199 more things. But how did you know that you were 0:19:13.200 --> 0:19:14.679 a sex at it? But first off, before I go 0:19:14.720 --> 0:19:16.800 any further, I listened to the last episode with Rory 0:19:16.960 --> 0:19:20.240 and I heard he brought wine, so I had to 0:19:19.920 --> 0:19:22.760 I had to one up on it real quick. Oh look, 0:19:22.840 --> 0:19:27.840 he said, and listen day, so I heard you got 0:19:27.880 --> 0:19:29.680 the cups though I do have cups out. Hold on, 0:19:29.760 --> 0:19:32.080 let's go ahead of port because I actually guys, um 0:19:32.119 --> 0:19:35.000 as you guys know tex addiction in the control, Are 0:19:35.000 --> 0:19:36.919 you trying to get drunk? No? No, no, all right, 0:19:36.960 --> 0:19:38.840 So I heard the episode a while back with the 0:19:38.920 --> 0:19:41.879 Sante and I heard you guys talking about one of 0:19:41.880 --> 0:19:44.520 his live shows where he had wine from pomp Pet 0:19:44.520 --> 0:19:49.480 Wine Shop. Actually they're they're my neighbors. So shout shout 0:19:49.480 --> 0:19:51.720