WEBVTT - Stop Trying to Find Yourself

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<v Speaker 1>You found your way here to waking up with Ryan.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so glad that you pushed play. This is the

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<v Speaker 1>place you and I come to wake up together. So

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<v Speaker 1>let's take a deep breath and begin. Good morning, my love.

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<v Speaker 1>You are completely here now, always here. And the mind

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<v Speaker 1>is always trying to get you to forget that. It's

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<v Speaker 1>creating all sorts of noise in your head to move

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<v Speaker 1>you away from yourself. And it's taught that the mind

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<v Speaker 1>is that which vacillates. So all day long, the mind

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<v Speaker 1>is vacillating or moving from one polarity to another. And

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<v Speaker 1>it's doing so in a way that has gotten you

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<v Speaker 1>to believe that it's trying to help you somehow. by

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<v Speaker 1>thinking about all of this activity so that you can

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<v Speaker 1>feel like you know what you're doing in the world.

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<v Speaker 1>And really, the truth is, is that who you really

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<v Speaker 1>are that is right here right now, who you really are,

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<v Speaker 1>which the mind is always trying to get you to

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<v Speaker 1>move away from, is the very thing that for lack

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<v Speaker 1>of a better word, who you truly are, knows exactly

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<v Speaker 1>how to show up in every single moment, knows exactly

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<v Speaker 1>what to do and what to say and how to handle,

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<v Speaker 1>how to create, what to create. And so the question

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<v Speaker 1>that I have for you this morning is, as you

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<v Speaker 1>go about your day, Are you going to pay more

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<v Speaker 1>attention to the activity of your mind that's moving you

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<v Speaker 1>further and further away from yourself? Or will you just

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<v Speaker 1>allow yourself to be here, to stop seeking and be here?

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<v Speaker 1>My teacher, Amaji in India, she tells this story about

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<v Speaker 1>a father who's getting his things together to go to work.

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<v Speaker 1>And he's finding himself frustrated because he can't find his eyeglasses.

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<v Speaker 1>And so he's running around the house looking for his glasses,

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<v Speaker 1>can't find them. Finally, he goes to his children and

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<v Speaker 1>he asks them, where are my glasses? Have you seen

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<v Speaker 1>them anywhere? And the children start to laugh, which of course,

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<v Speaker 1>this father is running late for work. He can't find

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<v Speaker 1>his glasses. Their laughter only frustrates him more. And so

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<v Speaker 1>he storms off, keeps looking for his glasses. And then

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<v Speaker 1>he finds his wife and he asks her, have you

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<v Speaker 1>seen my glasses anywhere? And she has a little chuckle

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<v Speaker 1>and she points to the top of his head to

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<v Speaker 1>show him that his eyeglasses have been perched on his forehead.

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<v Speaker 1>And so he was seeking something that he didn't realize

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<v Speaker 1>he already had, which is why he couldn't find it.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's what the mind is always doing. The mind

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<v Speaker 1>is always seeking something that you have always had. which

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<v Speaker 1>is why the mind can't find it. The peace and

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<v Speaker 1>the joy that you are and always have been is

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<v Speaker 1>right here. And the mind is always seeking it through

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<v Speaker 1>trying to achieve in the external world. But how can

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<v Speaker 1>you find what you already have? Another way of saying

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<v Speaker 1>this is how can you become what you already are?

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<v Speaker 1>And so the mind that has you on the seeking

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<v Speaker 1>journey of bettering yourself is actually the ego's very sneaky

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<v Speaker 1>way of trying to ensure that you don't discover who

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<v Speaker 1>you already are and who you always have been and

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<v Speaker 1>always will be. And so your true spiritual path is

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<v Speaker 1>less about becoming and seeking and more about about stillness

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<v Speaker 1>and letting yourself discover who you are right here. And

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<v Speaker 1>one of the gateways to that is your breath. And

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<v Speaker 1>so I wanted to take a few minutes this morning

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<v Speaker 1>just to help you connect to your breath, to connect

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<v Speaker 1>to who you are right here. So Let's take a

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<v Speaker 1>few moments to close our eyes. And just take a

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<v Speaker 1>few cleansing breaths here, in through the nose and maybe

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<v Speaker 1>out through the mouth, inhaling and exhaling. With every breath,

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<v Speaker 1>allowing yourself to withdraw into yourself. Coming here to where

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<v Speaker 1>you are always. And as we go into this breath practice,

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<v Speaker 1>so keep your breath moving. As we go into this

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<v Speaker 1>short breath practice, utilizing the breath as a tool to

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<v Speaker 1>move your attention and your awareness from the mind that's

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<v Speaker 1>trying to get you to seek outside yourself and using

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<v Speaker 1>your breath to draw your attention back into your bone marrow,

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<v Speaker 1>back into the depths of of yourself, of your soul,

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<v Speaker 1>of your beingness. So take a breath in and exhale.

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<v Speaker 1>And we're now going to inhale for a count of four, three, two, one,

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<v Speaker 1>and exhale for four, three, two, one. In and out

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<v Speaker 1>through your nose, inhaling for four, three, two, one and

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<v Speaker 1>exhaling for four, three, two, one. Very simply inhaling for four, three, two,

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<v Speaker 1>one and exhaling for four, three, two, one. Keeping yourself

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<v Speaker 1>going on that count, inhaling for four, And then exhaling

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<v Speaker 1>for four when you're ready. With every inhale, filling yourself

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<v Speaker 1>with breath as if you're stretching your body from the inside.

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<v Speaker 1>And every exhale, allowing the body to relax as if

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<v Speaker 1>you're drawing your attention and your energy into yourself. Keeping

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<v Speaker 1>the breath moving. letting the breath be an anchor to here,

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<v Speaker 1>where you always are, where you already are, where everything is.

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<v Speaker 1>Here lives the peace and the joy that the mind

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<v Speaker 1>seeks in things outside of you and will never find

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<v Speaker 1>there Keep the breath going. The things of the world,

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<v Speaker 1>as the Buddha said, the things of the world can

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<v Speaker 1>only offer temporary happiness. Whereas here, as you find yourself here,

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<v Speaker 1>always here, now, exists the infinite grace that you are.

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<v Speaker 1>which is what you've been looking for your entire life.

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<v Speaker 1>Relaxing the breath pattern now as you take one more

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<v Speaker 1>deep breath in and let it go. Offering gratitude for

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<v Speaker 1>what is here. And when you're ready, letting your eyes

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<v Speaker 1>blink open. The good news is you can stop the search.

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<v Speaker 1>Everything you seek is right here. Just waiting to be uncovered.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't have to understand that as a concept. Not

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<v Speaker 1>yet anyway. All you need to do is be willing

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<v Speaker 1>to come back. Come back. And what is here will

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<v Speaker 1>show itself to you. Loving you from here. Hi. I

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<v Speaker 1>hope you're feeling even just a little bit more prepared

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