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Speaker 1: never told you production of iHeartRadio. And it is June

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Speaker 1: of twenty twenty three, which means we are in Pride month.

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Speaker 1: So we have a bunch of classics around pride, queer

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Speaker 2: Started.

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Speaker 1: This isn't really bad news, but I got this headline

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Speaker 1: there's a trend. Have you heard of this, Samantha, the

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Speaker 1: good luck dying alone? No, apparently it's just apparently people

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Speaker 1: single and happy and saying good luck diying alone, which

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Speaker 2: Side, exactly. Yes.

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Speaker 1: Yes, So there are a couple of classics I wanted

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Speaker 1: So here's the first one. Please enjoy. Hey, this is

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Speaker 1: you a protection of iHeart radio. And it's time for

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Speaker 1: another happy hour, and this one's gonna be mostly happy.

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Speaker 2: How it should be? I like it. I think that's

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Speaker 1: If you are choosing to drink, please do so responsibly.

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Speaker 2: Samantha, what are you sipping on?

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Speaker 3: Uh? You know, I discovered the Brooklyn Summer Pale all.

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Speaker 3: I'm drinking on today. What about you?

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Speaker 1: Well, I just lamented to you that I have no

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Speaker 1: drinking boxed red wine in my delicious hot hot studio closet.

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Speaker 3: You could, you know, fancy it up, but I think ice.

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Speaker 1: I've never added ice to straight boxed red wine, and

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