Speaker 1: If there was a problem, I'm it.
Speaker 2: Where to your mother?
Speaker 1: Hello everyone, it is the two cool moms. I'm Joe Gatto,
Speaker 1: I'm Steve, and I'm a little bit more peppy than Steve.
Speaker 1: And why is that Stephen? Somebody had a little too
Speaker 1: much of the mommy juice last night.
Speaker 2: Mommy juice, Mommy indulged, Mommy was over served last night.
Speaker 1: Well, you were here in New York. You got together
Speaker 1: with some pals.
Speaker 2: The Comedy Seller had their Christmas party last night in April.
Speaker 2: A couple months later in April, so they had their
Speaker 2: their holiday party, and I was like fearing it. I
Speaker 2: knew going into it was going to be like, oh god,
Speaker 2: the drinks are going to flow in open bar. It's like,
Speaker 2: it's all I need to hear. Yeah, it was fun.
Speaker 1: Uh the drinking rice was it a rose or would
Speaker 1: you have a box wine? Nice box wine like a
Speaker 1: sippy cup.
Speaker 2: I do my Jamo ginger. But uh, it was great
Speaker 2: to seeing everybody. And I will tell you this. Ronnie
Speaker 2: Chang his a shoal speak easy. I got to catch
Speaker 2: up with him last night. It's great, great, really really great.
Speaker 2: I think he's a great comic. And it was a
Speaker 2: really cool concept because he just did it like in
Speaker 2: Chinatown in like a like a like a just like
Speaker 2: a really quaint kind of like cool vine. It was
Speaker 2: really awesome. Yeah, and he looks cool. He's got a tuxedo.
Speaker 2: It was just I don't know, I was really like,
Speaker 2: you're feeling that? Yeah, yeah, yeah, I was really Uh.
Speaker 2: It's just very happy for him too. It's nice to
Speaker 2: see people you you appreciate succeed.
Speaker 1: It's great.
Speaker 2: It's great for that, you know, because we celebrated.
Speaker 1: Well, it's good to have people in your corner. That's
Speaker 1: what we did for sure.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: It's nice to have cheerleaders in life. Yes, like people
Speaker 1: that will accept you if you know, you're wearing your
Speaker 1: sunglasses on your hat like.
Speaker 2: That doesn't Yeah, but I love it.
Speaker 1: You get away with it.
Speaker 2: You don't put them. Where do you put them? I
Speaker 2: always go right here.
Speaker 1: I only go here.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I don't wear hats though, so that's not an option
Speaker 1: for me.
Speaker 2: Why don't you wear hats?
Speaker 1: Because I look like I look like you do, but
Speaker 1: you look okay with it, like you look like a
Speaker 1: grown up.
Speaker 2: No no, no, no, no no, I look like you do,
Speaker 2: but you look good with it.
Speaker 1: No, that's not grown up child, like a grown up child, like,
Speaker 1: I don't my nose doesn't really work with it. But
Speaker 1: we had like a stranger. I wear it like when
Speaker 1: I'm on the ocean, in the ocean, or you know,
Speaker 1: sometimes a sailor's cap when I have to run out
Speaker 1: of the house in a moment to go get bagels
Speaker 1: in the morning. Yeah, I'll throw it on, but I
Speaker 1: don't use it as a style choice like you do.
Speaker 1: You do it stylistically. No, No, how many hats do
Speaker 1: you have?
Speaker 2: A lot?
Speaker 1: See you go out and shopping for hats.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I like a ball cap. Yeah I would love
Speaker 2: to go ape shit at Lid's, but I can't because
Speaker 2: there's no reason.
Speaker 1: For me too.
Speaker 2: Lid's is a go to, a must in the mall.
Speaker 2: But Lidds is like Starbucks. There's always like two or
Speaker 2: three in them all.
Speaker 1: Of course, it's all about multiple locations.
Speaker 2: So what you what's your favorite hat?
Speaker 1: Then a fedora and I will wear when to get
Speaker 1: a little bit older in life.
Speaker 2: See I I think I told you this. I wore
Speaker 2: for door to the Uh Comedy Store and I got
Speaker 2: made fun of so bad I never wored again.
Speaker 1: That's your out. I mean, I will not look good
Speaker 1: in a fedora, but I just feel like there's something.
Speaker 2: About you can look good in a door.
Speaker 1: I surprised myself with a couple of them. But I
Speaker 1: think I have more of a door shaped head than
Speaker 1: I do of a cap A ball cap.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yah, I like a good for door. But I
Speaker 2: think you have to be a certain age. Yeah, like
Speaker 2: a twenty year old. Doesn't know a.
Speaker 1: Specific type of twenty year old looks great in fedora. Yeah,
Speaker 1: somebody that could pull off a fedora.
Speaker 2: But it's also like seeing a I don't know, when
Speaker 2: you see like a two year old with glasses or
Speaker 2: like a sixty year old with braces, You're like, what
Speaker 2: the braces? Right?
Speaker 1: That is unnatural?
Speaker 2: I don't like that.
Speaker 1: Why do you still have your real teeth?
Speaker 2: First of all, it's like, what do you get a
Speaker 2: straighten for the last like six years before you get
Speaker 2: the dents.
Speaker 1: I am just I am just remembering something you blew
Speaker 1: my mind. When I was younger, I used to used
Speaker 1: to go to the orthodontist doctor Soakaro, and I used
Speaker 1: to hate his waiting room because it always smelt funny
Speaker 1: to me and it was always I guess we're on
Speaker 1: the same cycle. So a lot of times like our
Speaker 1: mental cycles, singing on the same cycle as a guy
Speaker 1: for his checkups, and he was an older man. He
Speaker 1: was like it was older to me, but he was
Speaker 1: probably like in his forties, thirties, forties, probably forties, and
Speaker 1: he had braces and I always just stared at him
Speaker 1: the whole time. It just like looked at him.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's always a creepy look weird.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: A baby with glasses throws me off a little too.
Speaker 2: A baby with.
Speaker 1: Like like getting a bejorn Like.
Speaker 2: It's like I get it, but it's still like little professor. Yeah, yeah, it's.
Speaker 1: Like I do like when they look like little little
Speaker 1: like little gentleman's or madams, like they have their little
Speaker 1: like it's other proper. You can have fun with a
Speaker 1: frame with a kid that you can't have fun with
Speaker 1: as an adult. Oh yeah, yeah, you know what I mean. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you can have like a square tortoise shell and like
Speaker 1: he looks cool. It's like, yeah, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Like boss.
Speaker 2: Baby, did that buss?
Speaker 1: Do you have any uh? Do you need any corrective
Speaker 1: lenses or you're your eyesight? Uh?
Speaker 2: I wear contacts I wear contact lenses.
Speaker 1: I did not know this. Yeah really, oh yeah for
Speaker 1: how long? Your whole life?
Speaker 2: Pretty much? Yea yeah, which I have bad vision, terrible. Yeah,
Speaker 2: like if I lost my contacts.
Speaker 1: One of these looking around for it.
Speaker 2: Really yeah, it's it's not good thick glasses and I
Speaker 2: wore I got a new pair of glasses recently and
Speaker 2: I wore them out, and my one buddy goes, holy shit.
Speaker 2: I was like, all right, I'll just put this next
Speaker 2: to the fucking fedor that I got.
Speaker 1: I want. I want a picture of you and your
Speaker 1: glasses and a Fedora. Please send it.
Speaker 2: I'll send it.
Speaker 1: I will post it on the tool bombs.
Speaker 2: I will.
Speaker 1: That'd be great.
Speaker 2: It's as I get home up.
Speaker 1: That's what I want. I want you and your big
Speaker 1: thick glasses with your door on, and just like, so,
Speaker 1: don't do that thing where you're trying to make a
Speaker 1: dorky face. Try to sell it, like, try to sell
Speaker 1: it as a look.
Speaker 2: I'll try to sell it. I'll do my best. But
Speaker 2: I like the hat. I like the hat, and I
Speaker 2: it's in my closet and I go to the mirror
Speaker 2: sometimes I put it on. I'm like, fucking I like it,
Speaker 2: but I'm I don't want to get made fun of.
Speaker 1: Could you wear wear when we're on the road together
Speaker 1: next week. No, I won't make fun of you.
Speaker 2: I'll support you, I know. But it's still like you don't.
Speaker 2: Then now you're put in a trap. We're like supporting
Speaker 2: something that might not.
Speaker 1: That's the worst where you have the support a friend
Speaker 1: and you know, I'm not that kind of person, though
Speaker 1: I will you know, Oh, I know, Oh, I know
Speaker 1: that's not for you. That's a makes sense of mine.
Speaker 1: That's not for you.
Speaker 2: We're talking about my driving the other day and it
Speaker 2: stayed with me all day.
Speaker 1: Oh did it?
Speaker 2: Yeah? And I was like, you know what, they didn't mention.
Speaker 2: They didn't mention the fucking fifteen times hazard's on to
Speaker 2: say thank you, and you have never heard of that.
Speaker 2: I always do that.
Speaker 1: I've never heard of a hazard way.
Speaker 2: When somebody lets me merge in, I always shoot them
Speaker 2: the hazard lights to say thank you, and I give
Speaker 2: a way just in case I'm doubled. I'm doubling down
Speaker 2: on the gratitude. And nobody recognized that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you're doing you're doing it like because one person.
Speaker 1: It's kind of like it's kind of like a feat
Speaker 1: that puts an extra dollar in the church basket. Like
Speaker 1: you're still doing something wrong and you're trying to emerging. No,
Speaker 1: like the blinker thing. Okay, that's your plus, but it's
Speaker 1: because of your minds is while you're doing it. You
Speaker 1: know my first question. You're a good driver, steve.
Speaker 2: The beams.
Speaker 1: You think your high beams, Oh flesh and the high
Speaker 1: beams is thank you. No, let's get out of my way.
Speaker 1: They're also behind you so they don't see your head lights.
Speaker 1: Thank you for.
Speaker 2: Let's go get another peachy dip ship.
Speaker 3: Or according to the Internet, flashing your hazards twice is
Speaker 3: a sign of thank you.
Speaker 1: Ah well, I stand corrected.
Speaker 2: Well, this mama taught another mama.
Speaker 1: This mama bear learned a less little that's it. I'm fine,
Speaker 1: and I'm fine with it. I'm almost evolving as a person.
Speaker 2: But I have been known on occasion, did you run
Speaker 2: a guy accountable?
Speaker 1: Did you run a guy who a ditch once?
Speaker 2: No, that'd be horrible.
Speaker 1: Wig was that you run got too a ditch and
Speaker 1: with the wolfman and flher flasher blinkers at him, thinking
Speaker 1: has three times I pulled over?
Speaker 2: Okay, that's crazy. All right, okay, this is coming to
Speaker 2: us from Sarah two co moms. My partner of twenty
Speaker 2: eight years left me and our two children for eight months,
Speaker 2: though he was still sending money, and then decided to
Speaker 2: come back like nothing happened. I can't forgive him, and
Speaker 2: now he won't leave. I don't have a lot of savings,
Speaker 2: and divorce would deplete every penny I have. How can
Speaker 2: I get him to agree to arbitration, the less expensive
Speaker 2: option in our state and end this marriage when it
Speaker 2: seems like he is perfectly content? That is crazy. That's
Speaker 2: a lot to unpack.
Speaker 1: That is so he she they can.
Speaker 2: For eight years, he dips for eight months, eight months,
Speaker 2: they got two kids, comes back.
Speaker 1: And is like, honey, I'm home. Okay, okay, So this
Speaker 1: is blowing my mind, Like that is knock knockers that
Speaker 1: he's home. Come on in.
Speaker 2: Hey, we're worried. What's for dinner?
Speaker 1: But what happened?
Speaker 2: Hey you got a soccer trophy? But dad, good for you?
Speaker 1: You guys won the championship. Yeah that it was a
Speaker 1: six month or alley and you're missed at all?
Speaker 2: That is insane.
Speaker 1: You come back here. There's a good chance there is
Speaker 1: a there's a thirty percent chance, twenty seven point five
Speaker 1: percent chance that that kid had a birthday. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: you were gone. That kid is older when you came home.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, that's bananas. You left a five year
Speaker 2: old and came home with a six year old, Like,
Speaker 2: unless you're on deployment serving the country.
Speaker 1: No, but this makes it sound like I was like
Speaker 1: I'll be right back. Oh, not even that. It was
Speaker 1: like I'm out and then it's like, nah, change my mind,
Speaker 1: I'm back. Yeah, okay, So well, you're you're in a
Speaker 1: you're in a pickle. And I don't blame her, yeah
Speaker 1: for wanting him to bolt, like the relationship's over. She
Speaker 1: made a decision. Yeah, she's made a decision. Yeah, there
Speaker 1: shouldn't be any guilt there. You've done what you feel
Speaker 1: is right for you.
Speaker 2: You get him to arbitration.
Speaker 1: I really honestly think this is this is a legal
Speaker 1: this is a legal issue. But I'm pretty sure you
Speaker 1: probably have a lot of rights and you could probably
Speaker 1: get some pro bono work to help you in this situation,
Speaker 1: because it seems like it would be somebody that would
Speaker 1: help you, because maybe even the arbitrator, because arbitration normally
Speaker 1: happens to someone of illegal stance, it ends up getting
Speaker 1: paid eventually anyway. So the first thing I would do
Speaker 1: is probably talk to get a free consultation. You get
Speaker 1: free consultations anywhere from a lawyer that knows better than us. Sure,
Speaker 1: but there's got to be something you could do here.
Speaker 1: You can't be this powerless. Yeah, and also divorce doesn't
Speaker 1: have to be that expensive. Go to like divorce dot
Speaker 1: com and get a certificate?
Speaker 2: Is that how it works?
Speaker 1: Well?
Speaker 2: Can you get like does he like make that up? No?
Speaker 1: It doesn't. Like what is that legal zoom? Legal zoom
Speaker 1: Like can't I'm sure legal zoom open on legal zoom
Speaker 1: seems they have a divorce section.
Speaker 2: That sounds Banana's to me.
Speaker 1: Very sure you could do discount divorces.
Speaker 2: Come on on legal zoom maybe, because I guess if
Speaker 2: you can't do divorce, what would you do on legal zoom?
Speaker 1: Not Like legal zoom is like a site where you
Speaker 1: get like it has a it's like it was it
Speaker 1: was to give access to legal services to people that
Speaker 1: couldn't afford right, you know, it's like a pooling thing.
Speaker 3: Right, So there's nothing No. Legal zoom is to set
Speaker 3: up an LLC. But you can do it. Seems like
Speaker 3: there's a lot of free consultations, just typing and legal.
Speaker 1: Legal divorce advice. It's everything's free consultation.
Speaker 2: Okay, you can at least ask the question.
Speaker 1: Okay, great. I don't appreciate the first part of that,
Speaker 1: where you had to yell at me about legal zoom
Speaker 1: being something out by the tone. There was a tone there,
Speaker 1: and I made a mistake. And again it's my second mistake,
Speaker 1: and I'm sorry. I learned something.
Speaker 3: I'll make sure to make it even more heavy next time.
Speaker 3: I'll be worse about it. Great, let's unplugg that, Mike.
Speaker 3: The problem is you don't get the hazards. The problem
Speaker 3: is he's in charge of what's plugged and I plugged.
Speaker 3: I don't know how to do any of it, but
Speaker 3: I agree with you.
Speaker 2: There's got to be some way legally for her. She
Speaker 2: can't be stuck and mired in a horrible relationship that
Speaker 2: you don't want to be in.
Speaker 1: And also, you got to do what's right for the
Speaker 1: You got a kid here, right, You got a child
Speaker 1: to worry about.
Speaker 2: Two kids? She said, yeah, that's the best bananas to
Speaker 2: like the audacity to just go to somebody for eight
Speaker 2: months and then come back like and obviously it it's
Speaker 2: for somebody.
Speaker 1: Else that didn't work out, is my immedia it has
Speaker 1: to be. Yeah, that's my media assumption. Tried something, didn't
Speaker 1: work out, came back it's likeah, this is my my
Speaker 1: plan bes working.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean that that that never makes the other
Speaker 2: person feel good ever.
Speaker 1: Even if ever the flip the flip of that is okay,
Speaker 1: let's give the guy the benefits out. Okay, give the
Speaker 1: guy benefit out. He realized let's say maybe he didn't
Speaker 1: maybe it was working out, and he was like, oh,
Speaker 1: forget it, there's no way. This isn't right, doesn't feel
Speaker 1: right in my heart. I have a family, has to
Speaker 1: go back. If he didn't come into that door with
Speaker 1: that attitude and demeanor and being like I messed up?
Speaker 1: What can I do to make this right? Right? Right?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: You gotta eat some crow?
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I mean that door should just be bolted
Speaker 1: and sorry you're out, you know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, But then why did she let him just mosey
Speaker 2: on in in the first place? Too? Right? True, it's her.
Speaker 1: He probably mosied in, You're right, he probably it's her fault.
Speaker 1: You probably what did you do wrong to make him leave,
Speaker 1: right mind, I think you're picking up from the wrong handle.
Speaker 1: He might he definitely mosy, though. I feel like he
Speaker 1: came in like holding like a bag. He probably had
Speaker 1: a cowboy hat on at this point and just came
Speaker 1: in and was like I'm back and went and got
Speaker 1: a beer.
Speaker 2: But show up with like birthday gifts or like Christmas
Speaker 2: or anything like, Hey, guys, have missed a lot.
Speaker 1: Definitely missed. I miss that is eight months, okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: is three quarters of the year.
Speaker 2: Pretty much just shot a lot happens there a lot,
Speaker 2: And if you're going in a school year exactly.
Speaker 1: But if you'll leave it from like February March April,
Speaker 1: if that's what you're missing, you're not missing much.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: That's when you that's when there's nothing really going on
Speaker 1: on the calendar, right. Otherwise you meet missing like you're
Speaker 1: missing Fourth of julyies, you missing bob Kitchen, Thanksgivings. You'
Speaker 1: missing birthdays, you missing Christmases and or Kwanzas and or Hanukkahs,
Speaker 1: whatever the all of you celebrate, or all of them.
Speaker 2: Almost alidays. These kids are old gifts for sure. I
Speaker 2: feel bad for these kids. Yeah, that's crazy to acknowledge.
Speaker 1: All right, So I guess the takeaway is Google, go
Speaker 1: to the internet, find some free legal advice part from
Speaker 1: somebody in your town and start there.
Speaker 2: There's got to be somebody and I and I wish
Speaker 2: you the best.
Speaker 1: I hope, I hope that works out for you. That
Speaker 1: seems like a bad reality, so I'll send you love
Speaker 1: and I hope I hope you get to figure it out.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Absolutely, that that's It's just I don't know, it's
Speaker 2: like gut wrenching to read that. Yeah, I'm sorry. That
Speaker 2: was the first one we did.
Speaker 1: Yeah, hey, we're here, we're here to, We're here to,
Speaker 1: you know, we're here. Try to add some uh humor
Speaker 1: and reflection. And I think we missed on both of those.
Speaker 2: Oh for two Okay, oh god, okay, I need help
Speaker 2: as a mom. This is Mary.
Speaker 1: Okay, Marie, Yeah, Maria, Marie.
Speaker 2: With an E. Right, Oh that's a e.
Speaker 1: Yeah that's Marie. Okay, Miss Murray, how my glasses on?
Speaker 1: You have contacts? I don't know why you're asking me
Speaker 1: how to read.
Speaker 2: I need help As a mom to a girl teen,
Speaker 2: her attitude is off the chain, but she is also
Speaker 2: one of the sweetest people you'll meet. The attitude is
Speaker 2: affecting her social life because she comes off as rude
Speaker 2: to her classmates, but she says she isn't trying to
Speaker 2: be and doesn't know she's being that way. That's a
Speaker 2: tough one because that's that's what it all happens. That
Speaker 2: I think when you're a teenager, especially your early teen years,
Speaker 2: you are the worst version of yourself.
Speaker 1: Ah, that's an interesting person. I was.
Speaker 2: I was horrible, horrible to my parents, to my brother,
Speaker 2: an absolute nightmare.
Speaker 1: I find that I find that more with boys because
Speaker 1: the moones are kicking in. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: you got the horse coming in, and I think, sorry, hormones.
Speaker 1: I abbreviated it on both ways. It doesn't sound right
Speaker 1: either way. I'll just say the full word. I feel
Speaker 1: like the hormones really jack up boys because I had
Speaker 1: I actually have a twin thes a nephew, boy and girl.
Speaker 1: And I saw them in their teen you know, they're
Speaker 1: seventeen eighteen now, but I saw them during their puberty
Speaker 1: years and you can see and the thing that I think,
Speaker 1: I feel like it always manifests itself with me. I
Speaker 1: had a quick wit and a sharp tongue, and I
Speaker 1: was like, mean but funny except for the person I
Speaker 1: was talking to. So that was like a thing I
Speaker 1: had to adjust. It got brought to my attention from
Speaker 1: some people I cared about, and I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm not I didn't feel like I was doing something
Speaker 1: wrong right when it was brought to my attention. I
Speaker 1: found a way to self correct it. Now, it seems
Speaker 1: like the daughter doesn't realize she's doing that, so she
Speaker 1: doesn't have the tools to cope with it or self adjust.
Speaker 1: So that's what you have to do there. You got
Speaker 1: to you gotta give her a little bit of guidance,
Speaker 1: I think. Yeah.
Speaker 2: It also sounds like her friends have called her out
Speaker 2: on this behavior.
Speaker 1: Yes, and then it's becoming a lack of friends.
Speaker 2: Yeah, right, so you know, reality does That's the good
Speaker 2: lesson though, that lesson, Yes, in there, it's just like
Speaker 2: you know, if you go around shooting off your mouth
Speaker 2: or whatever, you know, in school, eventually somebody's probably gonna
Speaker 2: smack you around a mine, right, and you know then
Speaker 2: you you know, Okay, these are the boundaries and so
Speaker 2: your action exactly. Yeah, And I think she's learning the
Speaker 2: consequences of her actions that she's going to lose friendship
Speaker 2: so with this, and eventually that's got to catch up
Speaker 2: with you. Yeah, you can't just bulldoze your life not
Speaker 2: being accountable at all.
Speaker 1: I think the advice of the mom here, she says
Speaker 1: us for advice how to handle it, I think is
Speaker 1: conversations with because it seems like that her daughter is
Speaker 1: realizing it as well. Now. So now what I think
Speaker 1: the next steps here is to try to equip her
Speaker 1: with ways to help herself and not come at her
Speaker 1: just telling what our problem is, but again coming at
Speaker 1: her with solutions, because that's what we need to do
Speaker 1: as parents. We need to help children grow by teaching them,
Speaker 1: giving showing them a path. They have a girl on
Speaker 1: their own, but you have to show them. It helps
Speaker 1: them to point to them in the right direction.
Speaker 2: So I'll say this though, too. If she's hot, then
Speaker 2: you get a pass. Like girls you can be kind
Speaker 2: of bitchy and it's just like, eah, you're so hot.
Speaker 1: It's like okay, oh you know what, unplugged his mic too.
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna you know, hopefully she's hot, is what
Speaker 1: we're saying. Oh my god, the worst of me had
Speaker 1: an ugly bitchy daughter.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, Like if she keeps doing then then
Speaker 2: get us some touch up, some surgery. So she's like
Speaker 2: stunning and then it's like she'll get she'll get away
Speaker 2: with it.
Speaker 1: So that's the advice from Steve. Steve is a get
Speaker 1: plastic surgery for your rude daughter.
Speaker 2: So she's a knockout, right, I think you'd be rude. No,
Speaker 2: but what I mean to a kid like that, that's brutal.
Speaker 2: But there are casualties along the way. I lost a
Speaker 2: friendship or two because I was such a like you know,
Speaker 2: I just oh my god, I look I think back
Speaker 2: fourteen fifteen. I'd love to go back and just like
Speaker 2: smack me around. Yeah, what is your problem? Are you
Speaker 2: out of your mind?
Speaker 1: It's hard because you are going through a lot. And
Speaker 1: if you're you had an older brother, I'm the older Yeah, right,
Speaker 1: so your younger brother. Did your younger brother go through this?
Speaker 1: Did you see that happening in your younger brother and
Speaker 1: try to like coach him to not be that way?
Speaker 2: No, because I was so overwhelming. He never even had
Speaker 2: a chance. So he was just like this little sheltered dog,
Speaker 2: like scared kind of in the corner the whole time,
Speaker 2: and he was always kind of please please get him
Speaker 2: out of her, but he was you know, just look,
Speaker 2: we're all insecure at that age. You're all trying to
Speaker 2: find your way through it, and you're trying to find
Speaker 2: your identity and you're breaking free from your parents, and
Speaker 2: we can all totally get it. But you know, I've
Speaker 2: already braced myself and my kids for this. I go,
Speaker 2: there's going to come a time she's nine, buddy, when
Speaker 2: you're not gonna want to talk to me? Yeah, right there.
Speaker 2: And I I always tell her, I go, just know
Speaker 2: you can always talk to me. I'm always here for you.
Speaker 2: Just know that. So I'm like, I'm laying breadcrumbs for
Speaker 2: her now, no one is coming. But I think I
Speaker 2: think that when those do, when those things do happen
Speaker 2: and my kids have like little spats, I just go,
Speaker 2: let's take a ride and I get my daughter, or
Speaker 2: go take a walk just her and I because she's
Speaker 2: She's had little moments here there. It's nothing major, but
Speaker 2: I you know, it's something where I think maybe if
Speaker 2: you isolate her and you're together, or maybe going somewhere
Speaker 2: just doing something together and letting her vent and get
Speaker 2: some things, because you know, it's I just think that
Speaker 2: whole period of time is so difficult for kids. But
Speaker 2: and the last thing they want to do is be
Speaker 2: with you. But the one thing you want to do
Speaker 2: is be there for them, right right, But it's almost
Speaker 2: like you gotta kind of let it happen, right, Yeah.
Speaker 1: I mean, life will teach teach her lessons, Sue. You know,
Speaker 1: we said that like she's gonna start seeing the she's
Speaker 1: gonna start reaping when get sewed here.
Speaker 2: And yeah, you gotta get your teeth kicked very now,
Speaker 2: and then.
Speaker 1: The best of luck to you. I hope that helped
Speaker 1: it a little bit.
Speaker 2: Oh god, okay, this is uh.
Speaker 1: It's never a good one that starts with oh god,
Speaker 1: this is this is terror. Okay, here he goes.
Speaker 2: What do you do when you hear the guy you
Speaker 2: crush on is getting divorced but you are still married?
Speaker 2: Hold on a second, hold on, let me read this again.
Speaker 2: What do you do when you hear the guy you
Speaker 2: crush on is getting divorced but you are still married? Well,
Speaker 2: you're married, yeah, so you don't do anything? What's the questionaire?
Speaker 2: I don't know that you can't do anything. You're married, Yeah, Yeah.
Speaker 1: What do you think you think you get divorced at
Speaker 1: the two you get married together, you're crushing you live
Speaker 1: happily ever after. That's not that's not story.
Speaker 2: No, no, no, nobody wrote that book.
Speaker 1: That book has not been published.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Have you ever seen the Lifetime Christmas movie based
Speaker 2: on this called.
Speaker 1: Burning Divorce Clause? I haven't seen Divorcy Clause on Lifetime.
Speaker 1: It's great. It's a story about a guy whose life
Speaker 1: falls apart. He gets divorced, and a happily married woman
Speaker 1: is like, oh, I always liked him. I thought he
Speaker 1: had kind eyes. And she divorces her husband and leaves
Speaker 1: their three kids in the lurch, and the two of
Speaker 1: them get married and he comes back eight months later
Speaker 1: like nothing happened. Sorry, Dadica McKellar December twenty fifth, on Lifetime.
Speaker 2: I literally just set it up and you fucking ran
Speaker 2: with it. That was great, man. Yeah, I would say
Speaker 2: that that's crazy terror. I would hope to God that
Speaker 2: you appreciate your husband.
Speaker 1: Maybe, I mean, maybe it's just time to take a
Speaker 1: look at your your situation. Maybe you're you're not happy,
Speaker 1: if your that thought's come in your mind, or it
Speaker 1: might just be a fleeting thought.
Speaker 2: But uh, you can't have a crush on somebody. I guess, right, Yeah,
Speaker 2: I mean that's.
Speaker 1: Bucket list crushes whole past. All that stuff is fun
Speaker 1: to think about, but when if it's going to manifest
Speaker 1: itself into something, you really need to take a look
Speaker 1: inside and really figure out how you're feeling.
Speaker 2: All right, that was a that was an odd one. Yeah,
Speaker 2: we get we.
Speaker 1: Get odd ones. I like it ones.
Speaker 2: Okay, Uh, this is I don't know how to say this.
Speaker 2: Let's say, let's let'saya lettaya lettaya?
Speaker 1: Yeah, let's tell you.
Speaker 2: Let's let's say let'taya Yeah. I got a quick quesh
Speaker 2: for the yee all right. Uh so I recently started
Speaker 2: watching Two Cool Months podcast. But the trouble I'm having
Speaker 2: is I can't seem to stop feeding Joe little pieces
Speaker 2: of candy. It's getting out of hand. First it was
Speaker 2: the Eminem's and now I'm going full Rece's pieces. Help me.
Speaker 2: It's great, she's feeding you, I guess while she's watching this, she's.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because I do sit there with my mouth a
Speaker 1: lot like what mouth either?
Speaker 2: How can she stop doing this?
Speaker 1: Just stop or meet me in real life and just
Speaker 1: keep throwing candy at me. Those are the solutions I
Speaker 1: like to this problem. Either stop doing this self doing this,
Speaker 1: or meet me in real life and give.
Speaker 2: Me some and m reces between eminems and reces with
Speaker 2: PCs man. Really I never got into Reese's pieces. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I love a Reese's peanut butter.
Speaker 1: Talking about the eminem though regular or peanut peanut away,
Speaker 1: even if you don't have the yellow bag, get out
Speaker 1: of my house. I don't know. And then you know
Speaker 1: what the you know what the eminem shit the bed
Speaker 1: on the peanut eminem which they tried to make of
Speaker 1: Reese's pieces. Wait, what the peanut peanut I'm sorry, peanut
Speaker 1: butter eminem. You know the red bag, the peanut butter Eminem's.
Speaker 1: They had a blink where they put a pretzel in it.
Speaker 1: You don't remember this stuff?
Speaker 2: I got the pretzel.
Speaker 1: Well you got the pretz? Good? No?
Speaker 2: Did you like it? No?
Speaker 1: I mean you can't.
Speaker 2: You want it?
Speaker 1: You can't. I wanted it to be good.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: It's one of those situations where you're in something's corner
Speaker 1: and it just didn't land.
Speaker 2: Oh like my fed door exactly. The pretzel lemon m is.
Speaker 1: The Fedora of candies is the Steve Bird Fedora.
Speaker 2: I went and saw they have a white Reese's Peanut
Speaker 2: butter company. You see that, Yes, that's disgusting. I will why,
Speaker 2: I know why mess with?
Speaker 1: I will tell you. Sal was a bartender and I
Speaker 1: didn't drink, but I used to like to go visit
Speaker 1: them at work. So one time I stopped at a
Speaker 1: gas station and we were we were talking about different candies,
Speaker 1: what were the best? And I said, the Riese's lines unbelievable.
Speaker 1: There's no missus in the lineup. And he challenged me
Speaker 1: on that, and I went and bought fifteen dollars is
Speaker 1: worth of reese I bought everything in the seven to
Speaker 1: eleven that was a Reis at the time. There's a lot,
Speaker 1: and you don't know how there's fifteen dollars worth of
Speaker 1: candy and we're talking. This is like, you know, this
Speaker 1: is like early early o's, right, yeah, early two k's yeah, right.
Speaker 1: So I line them up on the I walked in
Speaker 1: with authority with a little bag, a little plastic bag.
Speaker 1: He's sitting there doing his you know, Tom Cruise Jimmy
Speaker 1: cocktail stop. He sees me, I like kicked the door open,
Speaker 1: like it's a saloon. Like a tumbleweed comes through. It's
Speaker 1: like and I walk up, I'm like, oh he and
Speaker 1: I put down all the candies and I'm like, I'm like,
Speaker 1: test me, test me. And we went one by when
Speaker 1: he stopped, we went one by one and there wasn't
Speaker 1: a missing in the lineup. This isn't early Oh's though.
Speaker 1: I don't know about now now.
Speaker 2: I don't think you could. Because I was at a
Speaker 2: like whatever seven eleven or whatever. My butt and I
Speaker 2: we had been drinking and we were like, let's we
Speaker 2: were astounded at how many variations there are races. But
Speaker 2: you just get by the way the Big Cup. Have
Speaker 2: you had that put with the peanuts in it? Have
Speaker 2: you done that with peanuts? And do full peanut in
Speaker 2: the Big Cup?
Speaker 1: In no way? Your balls they're blown off. That's where
Speaker 1: they aren't. Look from there under the table somewhere. That
Speaker 1: is my favorite Reese's Street. It's called yeah, it's called
Speaker 1: the Big It's called the Peanut Big Cup.
Speaker 2: Okay, I can try this.
Speaker 1: It's great, but the Big Cup is the Big Cup.
Speaker 1: Just are you a peanut butter lover?
Speaker 2: Well not normally when it's Reese's. I yeah, sometime of
Speaker 2: recist peanut butter. Right and and by the way, uh
Speaker 2: on ice cream with peanut butter in it? But you
Speaker 2: don't do I do?
Speaker 1: I just I do ice cream with peanut butter in
Speaker 1: it if I have I'm not an ice cream guy.
Speaker 1: But if I'm forced, if I'm in a corner, my
Speaker 1: back's against the wall, I gotta get a con.
Speaker 2: He's a rat in the coffee. Can't sit man, He's
Speaker 2: gonna find his way out.
Speaker 1: Okay, well, uh so stop beating me, feed him to me.
Speaker 2: I guess high fave moms ever? I uh, okay, wait,
Speaker 2: this is word weird? Uh Tiana, yes, Tiana, Tiana, high
Speaker 2: fave moms ever? I how do I? Okay? The ice
Speaker 2: just there? How do I get over a man that
Speaker 2: broke my heart? Right to the right to.
Speaker 1: The That's it. That's the that's full stop. That's it.
Speaker 2: That's it. How do I get over a man that
Speaker 2: broke my heart?
Speaker 1: Find a new one and break theirs? Steven? The score
Speaker 1: down one nothing, It's a second step up to the plate, Tiana.
Speaker 2: In the scoreboard of life.
Speaker 1: Scoreboard of life.
Speaker 2: You're gonna have to catch you know, we've all been there.
Speaker 1: Everybody's you know, breakups and and all that is part
Speaker 1: of life. And some of them hurt more than others,
Speaker 1: and some of them sting, some of them you forget,
Speaker 1: some of you don't. So it depends on the level
Speaker 1: of this hurt, because right now, while you're in it,
Speaker 1: it might feel like it's the biggest hurt ever. But
Speaker 1: in six months, when you're with somebody new, it might
Speaker 1: it might be it might just be a fleeting memory.
Speaker 1: I hope it's that for you. I hope it's not
Speaker 1: something that sticks for a long time. But I always
Speaker 1: say the best way to do it is just be
Speaker 1: in touch with your feelings and realize what you're hurting about.
Speaker 1: Are you hurting about do you miss that person genuinely
Speaker 1: or do you Are you hurting because you're alone? Now,
Speaker 1: there's a big difference there, right, If you don't like
Speaker 1: being alone, right, and that's why you're hurting, right, there's
Speaker 1: a different way to solve that, right. Sure, get out there,
Speaker 1: meet people if you're hurting because you feel like this person,
Speaker 1: your life is not complete without this person. There's a
Speaker 1: different process you have to go through through there.
Speaker 2: Whiskey, Yes, I've always found is very helpful.
Speaker 1: Whiskey's the designated hitter for you always coming off the bench.
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, but I as much as it does suck
Speaker 2: to go through a breakup, and obviously I think she
Speaker 2: was at the receiving end for how this is worded,
Speaker 2: she was broken up by him. Uh. You know, it's
Speaker 2: so easy to say this as someone that's not in
Speaker 2: your situation, but I have been in this situation many,
Speaker 2: many times, and every relationship that didn't work out was
Speaker 2: another lesson of like learning, Okay, these are the boundaries
Speaker 2: that I'm willing to accept or not. So I always
Speaker 2: learned something from every relationship I always had, which which
Speaker 2: you know, it sucks, I get it, but you're kind
Speaker 2: of better for it, to be honest with one hundred
Speaker 2: percent of it's easy to say those things and it's
Speaker 2: harder to hear. Right.
Speaker 1: Here's the other thing that people say that I don't
Speaker 1: agree with, and it might not be a popular opin,
Speaker 1: but people say people say things like, oh, you know,
Speaker 1: it's it's not it's it wasn't anything you did, or
Speaker 1: you know it's not don't worry. They just weren't you,
Speaker 1: it's them, or whatever it is. But maybe use this
Speaker 1: opportunity to look in the mirror and be like, is
Speaker 1: there something that I need to work on in myself?
Speaker 1: Have I learned anything here? Have I learned to maybe
Speaker 1: communicate better, or to not make assumptions that people know
Speaker 1: what I'm thinking? Should I or not make the assumptions
Speaker 1: that I know what other people are thinking. I think
Speaker 1: there's always a learning process in a breakup, and I
Speaker 1: think that's a pinnacle. You have a moment there to
Speaker 1: really take a look. And sometimes there's not. Sometimes it's
Speaker 1: just a reason this guy or a girl was dope
Speaker 1: and it just didn't work out. But sometimes there is,
Speaker 1: so I feel like it. Don't brush it under the
Speaker 1: rug the break up. Try to learn something from it,
Speaker 1: because it don't make the hurt feel worth it.
Speaker 2: If you really want to get back at him, just
Speaker 2: like Bang three of his friends.
Speaker 1: Three is the bare minimum man in this situation.
Speaker 2: Absolutely get them all talking, get him talking.
Speaker 1: That's what you're gonna want to do here. You want
Speaker 1: to get him talking to. You want to be you
Speaker 1: want to get over the hurt.
Speaker 2: But Gianna, our heart goes out to you. We hope,
Speaker 2: we hope you come out of it the other end better,
Speaker 2: and and you're gonna meet somebody great, he's right around
Speaker 2: the bend.
Speaker 1: Bigger, better things we hope for you always.
Speaker 2: Okay, next question, here we go. I have a five
Speaker 2: year old who just started elementary school. She's learning tons
Speaker 2: of things from her peers. She came to me and said, Mommy,
Speaker 2: what does dead mean? And then she said, are you
Speaker 2: going to be dead? Now? She's terrified that we're all
Speaker 2: gonna die. How do we navigate this? I just did
Speaker 2: this with my son recently. He he's understanding. And my
Speaker 2: daughter I remember having this conversation with too. I think
Speaker 2: it's around five or six. That's when kids kind of
Speaker 2: and that makes sense, right, uh. And I remember being
Speaker 2: a kid crying in the back of my station wagon, thinking,
Speaker 2: oh my god, my my parents are going to die,
Speaker 2: and I don't want my parents to die. And I
Speaker 2: just I was crying about it. My you know, there
Speaker 2: were solace in my folks and they were saying, it's okay,
Speaker 2: it's okay, you know, it's part of life and all
Speaker 2: this stuff. And I kind of reiterated the same things
Speaker 2: to my to my son. He's just sitting there and
Speaker 2: he's grand and I go, Kent, you know, I just
Speaker 2: give him a big hug and I go, I appreciate
Speaker 2: that you want me to be around, but it is
Speaker 2: part of life and I'm going to be around as
Speaker 2: long as I can for you, and I love you
Speaker 2: so much and as long as I'm here, I'm always
Speaker 2: going to love you. And you know, we just kind
Speaker 2: of like had a nice moment. But I think that
Speaker 2: that's something that every parent goes through, for sure. Absolutely,
Speaker 2: it's uh. I think all you can do is just
Speaker 2: console and be supportive, but don't like sugarcoated and pretend
Speaker 2: like it's it's it's not an option. Obviously it is, right,
Speaker 2: but it's like, let's watch Bambi Blind King. Yeah, that's
Speaker 2: a recurring theme in every Disney film, a lot of.
Speaker 1: Death in there. Yeah. Yeah, I had or adopt old
Speaker 1: dogs because that is how my children learned about death.
Speaker 1: Like a lot of his favorite dogs actly died. And
Speaker 1: she goes, oh, whey's uppy. I said he's dead, and
Speaker 1: she goes, well, what's that mean? And I said, you're
Speaker 1: never going to see him again? And she cried to
Speaker 1: the point I got to it and she cried a
Speaker 1: little bit and she's like, oh, I said, I said,
Speaker 1: it's okay, though, but you remember him right, and you
Speaker 1: love him and she still to this day he loves
Speaker 1: him and remembers him. And it became just a staple
Speaker 1: in the house that sometimes they're having a great time
Speaker 1: and then they won't beat her anymore. And it just
Speaker 1: became that. And then with my parents being dead, that's
Speaker 1: when the question came. It was like, I have pictures
Speaker 1: of my parents up and she's like, oh, did I
Speaker 1: ever meet Grandma? I said no, Grandma was already dead
Speaker 1: when you when you were born. And she said oh,
Speaker 1: and she's I was like, but I can tell you
Speaker 1: all about her. I tell her about herself. And then
Speaker 1: she said to me, She's like, are you going to
Speaker 1: be dead? And I said, yeah, I'm going to be dead.
Speaker 1: I said, but I'm not now, and she goes, that's right,
Speaker 1: you're not now. I said no. I said, so while
Speaker 1: we're here, let's have lots of fun. I said, but someday,
Speaker 1: when I'm gone, I'll be gone and you'll just have
Speaker 1: to remember me and remember everything we did together. And
Speaker 1: that was the conversation around it. But my kids really
Speaker 1: did learn through addressing death, and I think you need
Speaker 1: to and I don't think the one thing that gets
Speaker 1: weird for me is like how old is a kid
Speaker 1: when you bring to a funeral or awake? Like I
Speaker 1: see some kids that are at a funeral are awake
Speaker 1: of like an aunt of someone, and I'm like, why
Speaker 1: is this kid here? Sure you want them to remember
Speaker 1: them throwing them up and down and playing them or whatever,
Speaker 1: you know, you don't want to remember them in a box.
Speaker 1: It's really weird, you know. And we ran into that
Speaker 1: a little bit with my mom because my mom passed away.
Speaker 1: My niece Nephries were a little younger, and my sister
Speaker 1: was like battling with it. I was like, don't bring,
Speaker 1: don't bring a good point. Yeah. So that's where it
Speaker 1: gets a little weird for me because that is not
Speaker 1: explaining life and death as much as putting them in
Speaker 1: a situation where they have to try to process the
Speaker 1: thing by themselves, you know, conversation around it. I definitely
Speaker 1: am all for it. I think, uh, honesty and also
Speaker 1: using the tools like what we made a joke, but
Speaker 1: people dye in movies, things you know, like Bambi, Lion King.
Speaker 1: I mean, I can't believe Mufassa and Linking Star for
Speaker 1: spoiler alert, but when that happened as an adult like
Speaker 1: I was older. I was like, you know, I was
Speaker 1: in my twenties when it came out or whatever, and
Speaker 1: I was like wow.
Speaker 2: I was like that really hit yea, And I mean
Speaker 2: the first ten minutes of Up.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like real downer.
Speaker 2: Even thinking about that, I could well up. I'm like,
Speaker 2: they nailed that. Uh that montage, it's beautiful. It's heartbreaking.
Speaker 1: And yeah.
Speaker 2: But my son when he when he was like, what
Speaker 2: is death? I said, come tonight to my show and
Speaker 2: you'll see yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, wait till daddy starts working. Yeah, and I will
Speaker 1: show you what that is. I mean, I'm trying to
Speaker 1: think if I remember my first experience.
Speaker 2: With that sixth sense. When he's like I see dead People,
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, you've been to my shop holding the
Speaker 2: ticket stub.
Speaker 1: It's a Steve Birn live. It's a coma merchant. I
Speaker 1: heeart Steve Byrn dead People. That's a really funny meme.
Speaker 1: We should make that meme. Somebody make that for us
Speaker 1: and please post it and tag us in it. Oh,
Speaker 1: that's really funny. He's wearing your merch. It's the funniest
Speaker 1: thing you've ever said on this show.
Speaker 2: It only took eight episodes.
Speaker 1: Oh, I got finally you got one. I love you.
Speaker 2: I think you're very funny.
Speaker 1: That was really funny, though, that was next level. That
Speaker 1: was a joke when you said it like you appreciated
Speaker 1: his comedian as well. And that was really funny. I
Speaker 1: see dead people on Fridays. It's a comedy cellar. Oh
Speaker 1: that's funny, man, that's funny. See look you can laugh
Speaker 1: about death. Yeah, play you can watch this. We did
Speaker 1: a great job. Put the five year old dead meats
Speaker 1: gone for it means they're out. You ain't seeing them again.
Speaker 1: Love your uncle, Joe. I'm sorry. You're cool. Mom, man
Speaker 1: your age show. But Mom and Joe said that they're dead.
Speaker 2: They're God forever. All right, it's coming to us from Shannon. Hey,
Speaker 2: Mommy's I'm about to be twenty five. Congratulations. And I
Speaker 2: never experienced living alone. I went to college close to home,
Speaker 2: so I've lived with my mom my whole life. I
Speaker 2: live in Lost in the LA Area, and the living
Speaker 2: expenses plus my income here just don't allow me to
Speaker 2: have room to experience living on my own. I pay
Speaker 2: my way for pretty much everything except rent. I have
Speaker 2: a two part question. One any financial tips on how
Speaker 2: to save while still being able to go out and
Speaker 2: enjoy my twenties, especially since two years of it was
Speaker 2: taken away. That's a great point. I My heart goes
Speaker 2: out to her too. How can I try to spend
Speaker 2: some time living alone without breaking the bank? Okay, so
Speaker 2: how do you save and how do you spend time
Speaker 2: living alone without breaking the bank.
Speaker 1: It's interesting because we just had this conversation not too
Speaker 1: long ago. This is the first time in my adult
Speaker 1: life that I'm living alone. I'm truly living alone for
Speaker 1: the first time in my life. I always had a roommate,
Speaker 1: and then I was married and had kids. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: when I moved out, I'm the first time living alone.
Speaker 1: I'm forty six years old. Wow, which is interesting because
Speaker 1: I also lived with my mother in my thirties and
Speaker 1: so I basically always had a roommate and I went
Speaker 1: away to college. So the first time I'm living alone
Speaker 1: from eighteen years old is forty six years old. Holy,
Speaker 1: cas is that crazy?
Speaker 2: That is wild?
Speaker 1: And first time ever had yeah. Wow, So I'm experiencing
Speaker 1: a different type of weirdness with it. But just for
Speaker 1: your point about the saving, it all comes down to
Speaker 1: your whole question just revolves around making concessions. You have
Speaker 1: to what's important for you, what's important to do. Do you
Speaker 1: want to spend money going out with your friends and
Speaker 1: have a smaller apartment. Do you want to have a
Speaker 1: bigger apartment You're happy to spend time in where you're
Speaker 1: you gonna spend your money. You have a limited resource,
Speaker 1: and it's just all about allocations. So I think that's
Speaker 1: the main thing that comes to my mind. First of all,
Speaker 1: is tough too.
Speaker 2: I mean, that's a that's another piece of the puzzle
Speaker 2: that's like, wow, it's really pricey. I just saw something today.
Speaker 2: Somebody posted it's eight dollars and twenty five cents a
Speaker 2: gallon of like the cheap stuff. Eight dollars and twenty
Speaker 2: five cents. Can you imagine being a college kid trying
Speaker 2: to do that in a town or just anybody that
Speaker 2: you got a name tag and you got to go
Speaker 2: to work.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, after taxes, has taken me three hours
Speaker 1: to make up a gallon. It's crazy, you know, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's nuts.
Speaker 2: I went to the gas station, I put my credit
Speaker 2: card in, I put my UH ZIP code in, and
Speaker 2: then I was approved of the loan.
Speaker 1: Hello there, I can't do it. It's for you.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm going to wedding. They're they're registered at Shell
Speaker 2: and BP. Guys, stop stop, make me stop it.
Speaker 1: Sty're registered Shell. That's a great. Yeah. Well, first of all,
Speaker 1: you're picking it. You're in a tough town. That is,
Speaker 1: if you're going to try to live alone, like you,
Speaker 1: maybe move to a cheaper town.
Speaker 2: I guess you got to have a roommate though. Yeah,
Speaker 2: you got it in your twenties in LA. You're gonna
Speaker 2: have a roommates likely. Yeah, you have to think and yeah,
Speaker 2: you do want to go out, you want to have fun,
Speaker 2: but you're gonna be with like minded people and you're
Speaker 2: going to find a great core friends and uh and
Speaker 2: she probably already has them. Yeah, but I think when
Speaker 2: you start branching off into adulthood and she's twenty five,
Speaker 2: that that's what sucks. Right. Imagine me in twenty five
Speaker 2: and you lose two years because of COVID.
Speaker 1: That's what I'll say is if you live with the
Speaker 1: right people, it won't it doesn't feel like a burden.
Speaker 1: I will also say this because I'm thinking about back
Speaker 1: on all my roommates and they are literally my best,
Speaker 1: my best friends, right, Yeah, mer Joe the fish justin
Speaker 1: like all these guys are my guys, Like they're my
Speaker 1: best friends that I that I've lived with, and so
Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be a burden. I guess you
Speaker 1: just have to get somebody that you could live well with.
Speaker 1: And also the the other thing is a roommate does
Speaker 1: add value, right, somebody's split the costs with. You can
Speaker 1: afford a bigger place. You know there is there is
Speaker 1: things there. You know you could you could find a
Speaker 1: silver lining of having to have a roommate. And what
Speaker 1: I would say is, don't put yourself in a financial
Speaker 1: situation strap so you could live on your own, because
Speaker 1: then you just canna be unhappy in an apartment by yourself.
Speaker 1: That's true.
Speaker 2: You don't want to be underwater.
Speaker 1: Yeah, if you're a lesser scuba diver, and then I
Speaker 1: don't know you do professionally. I'm urged in the shell
Speaker 1: to drive. Oh I get it because I was on
Speaker 1: the water. Be back in eight months. We don't have insurts,
Speaker 1: don't have shirts.
Speaker 2: All right, here we go.
Speaker 1: What well, Shannon, what happened?
Speaker 2: What happened?
Speaker 1: It looks matter? Okay, we corrected it.
Speaker 2: Thank you, Shannon, we wish you all the best. Uh.
Speaker 2: By the way, it's great advice, and I think the
Speaker 2: roommate situation is spot on. You want to that's not
Speaker 2: something to be taken lightly. By the way, I've I've
Speaker 2: got a few friends in LA and you know, over
Speaker 2: the years, I've had many a call like my roommate's
Speaker 2: driving my god, just really really, that's something you really
Speaker 2: want to wake the tires on.
Speaker 1: Would you and I make good roommates?
Speaker 2: I haven't had a roommate for a long time.
Speaker 1: Okay, so let's play a fun game. Okay, okay, let's
Speaker 1: go back to twenty five year old Steve. Oh, I'd
Speaker 1: be the best and twenty four year old Joe twenty
Speaker 1: three year old twenty.
Speaker 2: Four year old I bet you the killer roommate.
Speaker 1: You be the best, fantastic roommate. But I'm saying it,
Speaker 1: would we have so much fun? Well?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think so. I was always game for anything.
Speaker 2: And the thing about me when I was twenty four
Speaker 2: is that I drank a lot less. Yep, I was
Speaker 2: a lot more active.
Speaker 1: See. I think that's where we'd miss. Like now, if
Speaker 1: I had young Steve, I'd be like, oh, this guy's
Speaker 1: way too active. If I have old he was like, Oh,
Speaker 1: this guy's always too drunk.
Speaker 2: But I'm very clean.
Speaker 1: Yeah, me too, very orderly. Do you cook?
Speaker 2: I do love to cook.
Speaker 1: I love to cook too.
Speaker 2: I always cooked in college.
Speaker 1: I cooked with own my roommates pretty much.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna leave my wife and kids for eight months.
Speaker 1: We'll give it eight and then you go back. If
Speaker 1: it doesn't work out, you can just come back with
Speaker 1: it like nothing, or on some glasses and be like, hey, things,
Speaker 1: this is the way it is now.
Speaker 2: Daddy's home thing.
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