WEBVTT - D is for Dead - Episode 10 with Joe Gatto and Steve Byrne 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:02.240 If there was a problem, I'm it. 0:00:05.800 --> 0:00:06.680 Where to your mother? 0:00:07.440 --> 0:00:10.440 Hello everyone, it is the two cool moms. I'm Joe Gatto, 0:00:11.000 --> 0:00:13.480 I'm Steve, and I'm a little bit more peppy than Steve. 0:00:13.520 --> 0:00:15.800 And why is that Stephen? Somebody had a little too 0:00:15.840 --> 0:00:17.160 much of the mommy juice last night. 0:00:18.560 --> 0:00:22.040 Mommy juice, Mommy indulged, Mommy was over served last night. 0:00:22.079 --> 0:00:23.320 Well, you were here in New York. You got together 0:00:23.360 --> 0:00:24.080 with some pals. 0:00:24.520 --> 0:00:29.960 The Comedy Seller had their Christmas party last night in April. 0:00:30.200 --> 0:00:32.840 A couple months later in April, so they had their 0:00:32.920 --> 0:00:36.400 their holiday party, and I was like fearing it. I 0:00:36.479 --> 0:00:38.960 knew going into it was going to be like, oh god, 0:00:39.200 --> 0:00:41.680 the drinks are going to flow in open bar. It's like, 0:00:41.800 --> 0:00:43.720 it's all I need to hear. Yeah, it was fun. 0:00:44.280 --> 0:00:46.880 Uh the drinking rice was it a rose or would 0:00:46.880 --> 0:00:50.120 you have a box wine? Nice box wine like a 0:00:50.120 --> 0:00:51.040 sippy cup. 0:00:53.720 --> 0:00:56.240 I do my Jamo ginger. But uh, it was great 0:00:56.240 --> 0:00:58.880 to seeing everybody. And I will tell you this. Ronnie 0:00:58.920 --> 0:01:02.360 Chang his a shoal speak easy. I got to catch 0:01:02.400 --> 0:01:04.880 up with him last night. It's great, great, really really great. 0:01:05.400 --> 0:01:08.240 I think he's a great comic. And it was a 0:01:08.319 --> 0:01:11.200 really cool concept because he just did it like in 0:01:11.280 --> 0:01:16.120 Chinatown in like a like a like a just like 0:01:15.840 --> 0:01:18.560 a really quaint kind of like cool vine. It was 0:01:18.640 --> 0:01:21.280 really awesome. Yeah, and he looks cool. He's got a tuxedo. 0:01:21.360 --> 0:01:22.920 It was just I don't know, I was really like, 0:01:23.000 --> 0:01:25.360 you're feeling that? Yeah, yeah, yeah, I was really Uh. 0:01:25.880 --> 0:01:27.640 It's just very happy for him too. It's nice to 0:01:27.680 --> 0:01:30.400 see people you you appreciate succeed. 0:01:30.520 --> 0:01:30.920 It's great. 0:01:31.240 --> 0:01:33.240 It's great for that, you know, because we celebrated. 0:01:35.880 --> 0:01:37.560 Well, it's good to have people in your corner. That's 0:01:37.600 --> 0:01:38.320 what we did for sure. 0:01:38.400 --> 0:01:38.560 Yeah. 0:01:38.600 --> 0:01:41.440 It's nice to have cheerleaders in life. Yes, like people 0:01:41.480 --> 0:01:43.000 that will accept you if you know, you're wearing your 0:01:43.040 --> 0:01:44.160 sunglasses on your hat like. 0:01:44.160 --> 0:01:46.240 That doesn't Yeah, but I love it. 0:01:46.280 --> 0:01:47.039 You get away with it. 0:01:47.319 --> 0:01:48.600 You don't put them. Where do you put them? I 0:01:48.640 --> 0:01:49.360 always go right here. 0:01:49.400 --> 0:01:50.200 I only go here. 0:01:50.400 --> 0:01:50.640 Yeah. 0:01:50.760 --> 0:01:52.560 I don't wear hats though, so that's not an option 0:01:52.600 --> 0:01:52.840 for me. 0:01:52.880 --> 0:01:53.840 Why don't you wear hats? 0:01:54.280 --> 0:01:57.200 Because I look like I look like you do, but 0:01:57.280 --> 0:01:59.120 you look okay with it, like you look like a 0:01:59.120 --> 0:01:59.480 grown up. 0:01:59.520 --> 0:02:01.960 No no, no, no, no no, I look like you do, 0:02:02.280 --> 0:02:03.080 but you look good with it. 0:02:03.320 --> 0:02:07.320 No, that's not grown up child, like a grown up child, like, 0:02:07.400 --> 0:02:10.360 I don't my nose doesn't really work with it. But 0:02:10.720 --> 0:02:12.359 we had like a stranger. I wear it like when 0:02:12.400 --> 0:02:15.640 I'm on the ocean, in the ocean, or you know, 0:02:16.960 --> 0:02:18.720 sometimes a sailor's cap when I have to run out 0:02:18.720 --> 0:02:20.880 of the house in a moment to go get bagels 0:02:20.919 --> 0:02:22.200 in the morning. Yeah, I'll throw it on, but I 0:02:22.240 --> 0:02:23.880 don't use it as a style choice like you do. 0:02:24.440 --> 0:02:27.040 You do it stylistically. No, No, how many hats do 0:02:27.040 --> 0:02:27.280 you have? 0:02:27.760 --> 0:02:28.040 A lot? 0:02:28.120 --> 0:02:30.160 See you go out and shopping for hats. 0:02:30.200 --> 0:02:32.640 Yeah, I like a ball cap. Yeah I would love 0:02:32.680 --> 0:02:35.720 to go ape shit at Lid's, but I can't because 0:02:35.760 --> 0:02:36.560 there's no reason. 0:02:36.320 --> 0:02:36.799 For me too. 0:02:37.400 --> 0:02:40.560 Lid's is a go to, a must in the mall. 0:02:41.160 --> 0:02:43.959 But Lidds is like Starbucks. There's always like two or 0:02:43.960 --> 0:02:44.480 three in them all. 0:02:44.520 --> 0:02:46.720 Of course, it's all about multiple locations. 0:02:47.040 --> 0:02:48.600 So what you what's your favorite hat? 0:02:48.600 --> 0:02:50.760 Then a fedora and I will wear when to get 0:02:50.760 --> 0:02:51.600 a little bit older in life. 0:02:51.840 --> 0:02:54.239 See I I think I told you this. I wore 0:02:54.320 --> 0:02:57.119 for door to the Uh Comedy Store and I got 0:02:57.240 --> 0:02:58.880 made fun of so bad I never wored again. 0:02:59.480 --> 0:03:04.240 That's your out. I mean, I will not look good 0:03:04.280 --> 0:03:06.079 in a fedora, but I just feel like there's something. 0:03:05.840 --> 0:03:07.520 About you can look good in a door. 0:03:07.760 --> 0:03:10.400 I surprised myself with a couple of them. But I 0:03:10.400 --> 0:03:12.280 think I have more of a door shaped head than 0:03:12.320 --> 0:03:15.240 I do of a cap A ball cap. 0:03:15.800 --> 0:03:17.359 Yeah, yah, I like a good for door. But I 0:03:17.440 --> 0:03:20.080 think you have to be a certain age. Yeah, like 0:03:20.120 --> 0:03:22.320 a twenty year old. Doesn't know a. 0:03:22.320 --> 0:03:24.720 Specific type of twenty year old looks great in fedora. Yeah, 0:03:24.760 --> 0:03:25.919 somebody that could pull off a fedora. 0:03:25.960 --> 0:03:27.880 But it's also like seeing a I don't know, when 0:03:27.880 --> 0:03:29.919 you see like a two year old with glasses or 0:03:30.040 --> 0:03:32.120 like a sixty year old with braces, You're like, what 0:03:32.200 --> 0:03:35.120 the braces? Right? 0:03:35.160 --> 0:03:36.160 That is unnatural? 0:03:36.240 --> 0:03:36.880 I don't like that. 0:03:36.960 --> 0:03:38.160 Why do you still have your real teeth? 0:03:38.200 --> 0:03:41.920 First of all, it's like, what do you get a 0:03:41.920 --> 0:03:44.120 straighten for the last like six years before you get 0:03:44.120 --> 0:03:44.440 the dents. 0:03:44.600 --> 0:03:47.080 I am just I am just remembering something you blew 0:03:47.120 --> 0:03:48.800 my mind. When I was younger, I used to used 0:03:48.800 --> 0:03:51.520 to go to the orthodontist doctor Soakaro, and I used 0:03:51.520 --> 0:03:53.400 to hate his waiting room because it always smelt funny 0:03:53.400 --> 0:03:56.040 to me and it was always I guess we're on 0:03:56.080 --> 0:03:58.360 the same cycle. So a lot of times like our 0:03:58.400 --> 0:04:00.960 mental cycles, singing on the same cycle as a guy 0:04:01.000 --> 0:04:03.000 for his checkups, and he was an older man. He 0:04:03.080 --> 0:04:05.040 was like it was older to me, but he was 0:04:05.080 --> 0:04:08.080 probably like in his forties, thirties, forties, probably forties, and 0:04:08.120 --> 0:04:12.920 he had braces and I always just stared at him 0:04:13.200 --> 0:04:14.960 the whole time. It just like looked at him. 0:04:15.040 --> 0:04:17.840 Yeah, it's always a creepy look weird. 0:04:17.920 --> 0:04:18.080 Yeah. 0:04:18.160 --> 0:04:18.400 Yeah. 0:04:18.480 --> 0:04:20.480 A baby with glasses throws me off a little too. 0:04:20.920 --> 0:04:21.560 A baby with. 0:04:23.080 --> 0:04:25.320 Like like getting a bejorn Like. 0:04:27.480 --> 0:04:31.320 It's like I get it, but it's still like little professor. Yeah, yeah, it's. 0:04:31.120 --> 0:04:33.320 Like I do like when they look like little little 0:04:33.320 --> 0:04:35.559 like little gentleman's or madams, like they have their little 0:04:36.040 --> 0:04:38.360 like it's other proper. You can have fun with a 0:04:38.400 --> 0:04:39.960 frame with a kid that you can't have fun with 0:04:40.000 --> 0:04:42.480 as an adult. Oh yeah, yeah, you know what I mean. Yeah, 0:04:42.520 --> 0:04:44.279 you can have like a square tortoise shell and like 0:04:44.320 --> 0:04:46.240 he looks cool. It's like, yeah, you know what I mean, 0:04:46.320 --> 0:04:46.960 Like boss. 0:04:46.680 --> 0:04:47.760 Baby, did that buss? 0:04:50.400 --> 0:04:52.640 Do you have any uh? Do you need any corrective 0:04:52.680 --> 0:04:54.360 lenses or you're your eyesight? Uh? 0:04:55.080 --> 0:04:57.800 I wear contacts I wear contact lenses. 0:04:57.839 --> 0:05:00.159 I did not know this. Yeah really, oh yeah for 0:05:00.160 --> 0:05:01.120 how long? Your whole life? 0:05:01.640 --> 0:05:04.760 Pretty much? Yea yeah, which I have bad vision, terrible. Yeah, 0:05:04.760 --> 0:05:07.000 like if I lost my contacts. 0:05:06.880 --> 0:05:09.440 One of these looking around for it. 0:05:10.040 --> 0:05:13.640 Really yeah, it's it's not good thick glasses and I 0:05:13.720 --> 0:05:16.159 wore I got a new pair of glasses recently and 0:05:16.200 --> 0:05:19.440 I wore them out, and my one buddy goes, holy shit. 0:05:19.839 --> 0:05:21.320 I was like, all right, I'll just put this next 0:05:21.320 --> 0:05:23.120 to the fucking fedor that I got. 0:05:24.240 --> 0:05:26.920 I want. I want a picture of you and your 0:05:26.960 --> 0:05:28.640 glasses and a Fedora. Please send it. 0:05:28.720 --> 0:05:29.159 I'll send it. 0:05:29.200 --> 0:05:30.679 I will post it on the tool bombs. 0:05:31.160 --> 0:05:31.479 I will. 0:05:32.200 --> 0:05:32.760 That'd be great. 0:05:32.839 --> 0:05:33.880 It's as I get home up. 0:05:33.839 --> 0:05:35.360 That's what I want. I want you and your big 0:05:35.360 --> 0:05:37.240 thick glasses with your door on, and just like, so, 0:05:37.600 --> 0:05:38.839 don't do that thing where you're trying to make a 0:05:38.839 --> 0:05:41.200 dorky face. Try to sell it, like, try to sell 0:05:41.200 --> 0:05:41.719 it as a look. 0:05:41.760 --> 0:05:43.919 I'll try to sell it. I'll do my best. But 0:05:45.040 --> 0:05:48.400 I like the hat. I like the hat, and I 0:05:48.600 --> 0:05:51.039 it's in my closet and I go to the mirror 0:05:51.040 --> 0:05:53.160 sometimes I put it on. I'm like, fucking I like it, 0:05:53.200 --> 0:05:54.840 but I'm I don't want to get made fun of. 0:05:55.200 --> 0:05:57.680 Could you wear wear when we're on the road together 0:05:57.720 --> 0:06:01.680 next week. No, I won't make fun of you. 0:06:01.720 --> 0:06:05.040 I'll support you, I know. But it's still like you don't. 0:06:05.080 --> 0:06:07.760 Then now you're put in a trap. We're like supporting 0:06:07.760 --> 0:06:08.840 something that might not. 0:06:09.160 --> 0:06:10.920 That's the worst where you have the support a friend 0:06:10.960 --> 0:06:14.080 and you know, I'm not that kind of person, though 0:06:14.160 --> 0:06:17.120 I will you know, Oh, I know, Oh, I know 0:06:17.279 --> 0:06:20.120 that's not for you. That's a makes sense of mine. 0:06:20.480 --> 0:06:21.039 That's not for you. 0:06:21.440 --> 0:06:24.560 We're talking about my driving the other day and it 0:06:24.640 --> 0:06:25.520 stayed with me all day. 0:06:25.520 --> 0:06:26.000 Oh did it? 0:06:26.160 --> 0:06:28.280 Yeah? And I was like, you know what, they didn't mention. 0:06:28.920 --> 0:06:33.000 They didn't mention the fucking fifteen times hazard's on to 0:06:33.000 --> 0:06:36.360 say thank you, and you have never heard of that. 0:06:36.720 --> 0:06:37.480 I always do that. 0:06:37.520 --> 0:06:38.680 I've never heard of a hazard way. 0:06:38.880 --> 0:06:41.760 When somebody lets me merge in, I always shoot them 0:06:41.920 --> 0:06:43.800 the hazard lights to say thank you, and I give 0:06:43.839 --> 0:06:46.880 a way just in case I'm doubled. I'm doubling down 0:06:47.279 --> 0:06:50.280 on the gratitude. And nobody recognized that. 0:06:50.360 --> 0:06:53.400 Yeah, but you're doing you're doing it like because one person. 0:06:53.560 --> 0:06:55.400 It's kind of like it's kind of like a feat 0:06:55.440 --> 0:06:57.520 that puts an extra dollar in the church basket. Like 0:06:57.560 --> 0:07:00.760 you're still doing something wrong and you're trying to emerging. No, 0:07:01.160 --> 0:07:04.080 like the blinker thing. Okay, that's your plus, but it's 0:07:04.120 --> 0:07:06.520 because of your minds is while you're doing it. You 0:07:06.560 --> 0:07:13.800 know my first question. You're a good driver, steve. 0:07:14.360 --> 0:07:14.800 The beams. 0:07:14.840 --> 0:07:16.440 You think your high beams, Oh flesh and the high 0:07:16.480 --> 0:07:19.080 beams is thank you. No, let's get out of my way. 0:07:19.360 --> 0:07:21.720 They're also behind you so they don't see your head lights. 0:07:21.720 --> 0:07:22.080 Thank you for. 0:07:24.240 --> 0:07:26.000 Let's go get another peachy dip ship. 0:07:26.840 --> 0:07:30.160 Or according to the Internet, flashing your hazards twice is 0:07:30.200 --> 0:07:31.000 a sign of thank you. 0:07:31.600 --> 0:07:34.920 Ah well, I stand corrected. 0:07:35.160 --> 0:07:39.160 Well, this mama taught another mama. 0:07:39.080 --> 0:07:41.760 This mama bear learned a less little that's it. I'm fine, 0:07:41.840 --> 0:07:44.520 and I'm fine with it. I'm almost evolving as a person. 0:07:46.160 --> 0:07:51.120 But I have been known on occasion, did you run 0:07:51.120 --> 0:07:51.960 a guy accountable? 0:07:52.240 --> 0:07:53.680 Did you run a guy who a ditch once? 0:07:54.040 --> 0:07:56.800 No, that'd be horrible. 0:07:58.480 --> 0:07:59.880 Wig was that you run got too a ditch and 0:08:00.000 --> 0:08:02.480 with the wolfman and flher flasher blinkers at him, thinking 0:08:04.000 --> 0:08:06.560 has three times I pulled over? 0:08:09.200 --> 0:08:12.160 Okay, that's crazy. All right, okay, this is coming to 0:08:12.240 --> 0:08:14.840 us from Sarah two co moms. My partner of twenty 0:08:14.880 --> 0:08:17.920 eight years left me and our two children for eight months, 0:08:18.080 --> 0:08:20.840 though he was still sending money, and then decided to 0:08:20.840 --> 0:08:23.360 come back like nothing happened. I can't forgive him, and 0:08:23.400 --> 0:08:26.400 now he won't leave. I don't have a lot of savings, 0:08:26.440 --> 0:08:29.360 and divorce would deplete every penny I have. How can 0:08:29.400 --> 0:08:32.559 I get him to agree to arbitration, the less expensive 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:35.640 option in our state and end this marriage when it 0:08:35.679 --> 0:08:39.720 seems like he is perfectly content? That is crazy. That's 0:08:39.720 --> 0:08:40.520 a lot to unpack. 0:08:40.720 --> 0:08:43.640 That is so he she they can. 0:08:43.920 --> 0:08:46.240 For eight years, he dips for eight months, eight months, 0:08:46.360 --> 0:08:47.880 they got two kids, comes back. 0:08:47.760 --> 0:08:51.720 And is like, honey, I'm home. Okay, okay, So this 0:08:51.800 --> 0:08:55.000 is blowing my mind, Like that is knock knockers that 0:08:55.120 --> 0:08:57.760 he's home. Come on in. 0:08:57.840 --> 0:08:59.160 Hey, we're worried. What's for dinner? 0:08:59.360 --> 0:09:00.000 But what happened? 0:09:00.240 --> 0:09:05.400 Hey you got a soccer trophy? But dad, good for you? 0:09:05.280 --> 0:09:07.319 You guys won the championship. Yeah that it was a 0:09:07.360 --> 0:09:10.480 six month or alley and you're missed at all? 0:09:11.160 --> 0:09:12.200 That is insane. 0:09:12.600 --> 0:09:14.679 You come back here. There's a good chance there is 0:09:14.720 --> 0:09:20.280 a there's a thirty percent chance, twenty seven point five 0:09:20.320 --> 0:09:23.160 percent chance that that kid had a birthday. Oh yeah, 0:09:23.200 --> 0:09:25.320 you were gone. That kid is older when you came home. 0:09:25.440 --> 0:09:29.480 Oh yeah, yeah, that's bananas. You left a five year 0:09:29.480 --> 0:09:33.120 old and came home with a six year old, Like, 0:09:33.200 --> 0:09:35.439 unless you're on deployment serving the country. 0:09:35.640 --> 0:09:37.160 No, but this makes it sound like I was like 0:09:37.360 --> 0:09:40.480 I'll be right back. Oh, not even that. It was 0:09:40.520 --> 0:09:42.520 like I'm out and then it's like, nah, change my mind, 0:09:42.559 --> 0:09:45.800 I'm back. Yeah, okay, So well, you're you're in a 0:09:46.000 --> 0:09:48.160 you're in a pickle. And I don't blame her, yeah 0:09:48.200 --> 0:09:53.160 for wanting him to bolt, like the relationship's over. She 0:09:53.240 --> 0:09:56.800 made a decision. Yeah, she's made a decision. Yeah, there 0:09:56.800 --> 0:09:58.640 shouldn't be any guilt there. You've done what you feel 0:09:58.679 --> 0:09:59.200 is right for you. 0:10:00.120 --> 0:10:01.199 You get him to arbitration. 0:10:01.960 --> 0:10:04.240 I really honestly think this is this is a legal 0:10:04.480 --> 0:10:07.320 this is a legal issue. But I'm pretty sure you 0:10:07.400 --> 0:10:08.880 probably have a lot of rights and you could probably 0:10:08.880 --> 0:10:12.319 get some pro bono work to help you in this situation, 0:10:12.440 --> 0:10:15.360 because it seems like it would be somebody that would 0:10:15.400 --> 0:10:18.600 help you, because maybe even the arbitrator, because arbitration normally 0:10:18.600 --> 0:10:21.160 happens to someone of illegal stance, it ends up getting 0:10:21.160 --> 0:10:23.640 paid eventually anyway. So the first thing I would do 0:10:23.720 --> 0:10:25.839 is probably talk to get a free consultation. You get 0:10:25.840 --> 0:10:28.320 free consultations anywhere from a lawyer that knows better than us. Sure, 0:10:28.480 --> 0:10:29.600 but there's got to be something you could do here. 0:10:29.640 --> 0:10:33.760 You can't be this powerless. Yeah, and also divorce doesn't 0:10:33.760 --> 0:10:35.360 have to be that expensive. Go to like divorce dot 0:10:35.360 --> 0:10:36.360 com and get a certificate? 0:10:36.520 --> 0:10:37.240 Is that how it works? 0:10:38.679 --> 0:10:38.920 Well? 0:10:39.160 --> 0:10:41.480 Can you get like does he like make that up? No? 0:10:41.520 --> 0:10:43.960 It doesn't. Like what is that legal zoom? Legal zoom 0:10:44.000 --> 0:10:47.520 Like can't I'm sure legal zoom open on legal zoom 0:10:47.559 --> 0:10:49.040 seems they have a divorce section. 0:10:49.640 --> 0:10:50.880 That sounds Banana's to me. 0:10:51.240 --> 0:10:53.199 Very sure you could do discount divorces. 0:10:53.640 --> 0:10:57.679 Come on on legal zoom maybe, because I guess if 0:10:57.679 --> 0:10:59.760 you can't do divorce, what would you do on legal zoom? 0:11:00.120 --> 0:11:01.679 Not Like legal zoom is like a site where you 0:11:01.720 --> 0:11:03.880 get like it has a it's like it was it 0:11:03.920 --> 0:11:06.679 was to give access to legal services to people that 0:11:06.720 --> 0:11:09.040 couldn't afford right, you know, it's like a pooling thing. 0:11:09.000 --> 0:11:11.240 Right, So there's nothing No. Legal zoom is to set 0:11:11.280 --> 0:11:14.439 up an LLC. But you can do it. Seems like 0:11:14.480 --> 0:11:17.360 there's a lot of free consultations, just typing and legal. 0:11:17.320 --> 0:11:20.719 Legal divorce advice. It's everything's free consultation. 0:11:20.800 --> 0:11:22.200 Okay, you can at least ask the question. 0:11:22.200 --> 0:11:24.320 Okay, great. I don't appreciate the first part of that, 0:11:24.320 --> 0:11:25.800 where you had to yell at me about legal zoom 0:11:25.800 --> 0:11:28.000 being something out by the tone. There was a tone there, 0:11:28.440 --> 0:11:30.400 and I made a mistake. And again it's my second mistake, 0:11:30.400 --> 0:11:31.400 and I'm sorry. I learned something. 0:11:31.520 --> 0:11:33.560 I'll make sure to make it even more heavy next time. 0:11:33.800 --> 0:11:36.000 I'll be worse about it. Great, let's unplugg that, Mike. 0:11:37.480 --> 0:11:40.200 The problem is you don't get the hazards. The problem 0:11:40.280 --> 0:11:41.920 is he's in charge of what's plugged and I plugged. 0:11:42.480 --> 0:11:44.800 I don't know how to do any of it, but 0:11:44.920 --> 0:11:45.520 I agree with you. 0:11:45.559 --> 0:11:49.320 There's got to be some way legally for her. She 0:11:49.400 --> 0:11:52.760 can't be stuck and mired in a horrible relationship that 0:11:52.760 --> 0:11:53.440 you don't want to be in. 0:11:53.480 --> 0:11:55.199 And also, you got to do what's right for the 0:11:55.360 --> 0:11:57.480 You got a kid here, right, You got a child 0:11:57.520 --> 0:11:58.079 to worry about. 0:11:58.080 --> 0:12:01.240 Two kids? She said, yeah, that's the best bananas to 0:12:01.320 --> 0:12:04.120 like the audacity to just go to somebody for eight 0:12:04.120 --> 0:12:08.360 months and then come back like and obviously it it's 0:12:08.400 --> 0:12:09.479 for somebody. 0:12:09.080 --> 0:12:11.839 Else that didn't work out, is my immedia it has 0:12:11.880 --> 0:12:14.880 to be. Yeah, that's my media assumption. Tried something, didn't 0:12:14.920 --> 0:12:16.920 work out, came back it's likeah, this is my my 0:12:16.920 --> 0:12:17.680 plan bes working. 0:12:17.920 --> 0:12:21.240 Yeah, I mean that that that never makes the other 0:12:21.400 --> 0:12:22.800 person feel good ever. 0:12:22.880 --> 0:12:25.480 Even if ever the flip the flip of that is okay, 0:12:25.600 --> 0:12:27.760 let's give the guy the benefits out. Okay, give the 0:12:27.760 --> 0:12:30.200 guy benefit out. He realized let's say maybe he didn't 0:12:30.200 --> 0:12:32.120 maybe it was working out, and he was like, oh, 0:12:32.200 --> 0:12:34.440 forget it, there's no way. This isn't right, doesn't feel 0:12:34.480 --> 0:12:35.599 right in my heart. I have a family, has to 0:12:35.640 --> 0:12:38.080 go back. If he didn't come into that door with 0:12:38.200 --> 0:12:40.880 that attitude and demeanor and being like I messed up? 0:12:40.880 --> 0:12:42.800 What can I do to make this right? Right? Right? 0:12:42.880 --> 0:12:43.000 Right? 0:12:43.040 --> 0:12:43.240 Yeah? 0:12:43.240 --> 0:12:44.080 You gotta eat some crow? 0:12:44.200 --> 0:12:46.800 Yeah, yeah, I mean that door should just be bolted 0:12:46.840 --> 0:12:48.480 and sorry you're out, you know. 0:12:48.679 --> 0:12:51.679 Yeah, But then why did she let him just mosey 0:12:51.760 --> 0:12:54.760 on in in the first place? Too? Right? True, it's her. 0:12:55.080 --> 0:12:57.120 He probably mosied in, You're right, he probably it's her fault. 0:12:57.559 --> 0:12:59.480 You probably what did you do wrong to make him leave, 0:12:59.559 --> 0:13:01.600 right mind, I think you're picking up from the wrong handle. 0:13:01.880 --> 0:13:05.400 He might he definitely mosy, though. I feel like he 0:13:05.440 --> 0:13:07.760 came in like holding like a bag. He probably had 0:13:07.760 --> 0:13:09.839 a cowboy hat on at this point and just came 0:13:09.880 --> 0:13:11.959 in and was like I'm back and went and got 0:13:11.960 --> 0:13:12.320 a beer. 0:13:12.720 --> 0:13:17.079 But show up with like birthday gifts or like Christmas 0:13:17.120 --> 0:13:18.679 or anything like, Hey, guys, have missed a lot. 0:13:19.000 --> 0:13:23.760 Definitely missed. I miss that is eight months, okay, yeah, 0:13:24.600 --> 0:13:26.640 is three quarters of the year. 0:13:27.400 --> 0:13:29.920 Pretty much just shot a lot happens there a lot, 0:13:30.080 --> 0:13:31.920 And if you're going in a school year exactly. 0:13:31.960 --> 0:13:34.280 But if you'll leave it from like February March April, 0:13:34.280 --> 0:13:35.760 if that's what you're missing, you're not missing much. 0:13:35.880 --> 0:13:36.440 You know. 0:13:36.520 --> 0:13:38.800 That's when you that's when there's nothing really going on 0:13:38.800 --> 0:13:41.000 on the calendar, right. Otherwise you meet missing like you're 0:13:41.000 --> 0:13:43.360 missing Fourth of julyies, you missing bob Kitchen, Thanksgivings. You' 0:13:43.360 --> 0:13:47.720 missing birthdays, you missing Christmases and or Kwanzas and or Hanukkahs, 0:13:47.760 --> 0:13:50.600 whatever the all of you celebrate, or all of them. 0:13:51.760 --> 0:13:56.920 Almost alidays. These kids are old gifts for sure. I 0:13:56.920 --> 0:14:00.719 feel bad for these kids. Yeah, that's crazy to acknowledge. 0:14:01.120 --> 0:14:04.599 All right, So I guess the takeaway is Google, go 0:14:04.920 --> 0:14:06.800 to the internet, find some free legal advice part from 0:14:06.800 --> 0:14:08.760 somebody in your town and start there. 0:14:09.200 --> 0:14:11.120 There's got to be somebody and I and I wish 0:14:11.160 --> 0:14:11.520 you the best. 0:14:11.559 --> 0:14:12.719 I hope, I hope that works out for you. That 0:14:12.760 --> 0:14:15.679 seems like a bad reality, so I'll send you love 0:14:15.679 --> 0:14:17.360 and I hope I hope you get to figure it out. 0:14:17.559 --> 0:14:20.320 Yeah. Absolutely, that that's It's just I don't know, it's 0:14:20.320 --> 0:14:22.840 like gut wrenching to read that. Yeah, I'm sorry. That 0:14:22.920 --> 0:14:24.040 was the first one we did. 0:14:24.320 --> 0:14:26.640 Yeah, hey, we're here, we're here to, We're here to, 0:14:26.880 --> 0:14:29.320 you know, we're here. Try to add some uh humor 0:14:29.360 --> 0:14:32.000 and reflection. And I think we missed on both of those. 0:14:34.920 --> 0:14:39.000 Oh for two Okay, oh god, okay, I need help 0:14:39.040 --> 0:14:41.240 as a mom. This is Mary. 0:14:41.440 --> 0:14:46.080 Okay, Marie, Yeah, Maria, Marie. 0:14:45.840 --> 0:14:47.640 With an E. Right, Oh that's a e. 0:14:47.880 --> 0:14:50.960 Yeah that's Marie. Okay, Miss Murray, how my glasses on? 0:14:51.000 --> 0:14:52.760 You have contacts? I don't know why you're asking me 0:14:52.760 --> 0:14:53.120 how to read. 0:14:53.200 --> 0:14:56.080 I need help As a mom to a girl teen, 0:14:56.280 --> 0:14:58.560 her attitude is off the chain, but she is also 0:14:58.600 --> 0:15:00.840 one of the sweetest people you'll meet. The attitude is 0:15:00.840 --> 0:15:03.160 affecting her social life because she comes off as rude 0:15:03.200 --> 0:15:05.760 to her classmates, but she says she isn't trying to 0:15:05.800 --> 0:15:10.240 be and doesn't know she's being that way. That's a 0:15:10.280 --> 0:15:12.920 tough one because that's that's what it all happens. That 0:15:13.080 --> 0:15:16.040 I think when you're a teenager, especially your early teen years, 0:15:16.320 --> 0:15:18.880 you are the worst version of yourself. 0:15:18.920 --> 0:15:20.640 Ah, that's an interesting person. I was. 0:15:21.280 --> 0:15:26.120 I was horrible, horrible to my parents, to my brother, 0:15:27.440 --> 0:15:28.520 an absolute nightmare. 0:15:28.560 --> 0:15:31.280 I find that I find that more with boys because 0:15:31.320 --> 0:15:33.680 the moones are kicking in. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, you know, 0:15:33.800 --> 0:15:37.640 you got the horse coming in, and I think, sorry, hormones. 0:15:38.480 --> 0:15:40.680 I abbreviated it on both ways. It doesn't sound right 0:15:40.720 --> 0:15:44.440 either way. I'll just say the full word. I feel 0:15:44.480 --> 0:15:47.680 like the hormones really jack up boys because I had 0:15:47.720 --> 0:15:50.560 I actually have a twin thes a nephew, boy and girl. 0:15:50.880 --> 0:15:52.440 And I saw them in their teen you know, they're 0:15:52.800 --> 0:15:56.480 seventeen eighteen now, but I saw them during their puberty 0:15:56.560 --> 0:16:00.000 years and you can see and the thing that I think, 0:16:00.080 --> 0:16:02.480 I feel like it always manifests itself with me. I 0:16:02.480 --> 0:16:04.320 had a quick wit and a sharp tongue, and I 0:16:04.360 --> 0:16:06.880 was like, mean but funny except for the person I 0:16:06.920 --> 0:16:08.920 was talking to. So that was like a thing I 0:16:08.920 --> 0:16:10.520 had to adjust. It got brought to my attention from 0:16:10.520 --> 0:16:12.560 some people I cared about, and I was like, oh, 0:16:12.640 --> 0:16:15.480 I'm not I didn't feel like I was doing something 0:16:15.480 --> 0:16:17.360 wrong right when it was brought to my attention. I 0:16:17.400 --> 0:16:19.080 found a way to self correct it. Now, it seems 0:16:19.120 --> 0:16:21.360 like the daughter doesn't realize she's doing that, so she 0:16:21.400 --> 0:16:24.800 doesn't have the tools to cope with it or self adjust. 0:16:25.640 --> 0:16:26.800