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Speaker 2: My wife cheated and now wants an open marriage.

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Speaker 1: Just looking at her options here.

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Speaker 3: So, my wife female thirty and I'm male thirty three

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Speaker 3: have been married.

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Speaker 2: For eight years now.

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Speaker 3: We had a fair bit of ups and downs during

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Speaker 3: our marriage. Five years ago I found out that my

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Speaker 3: wife had cheated on me with the man she knew

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Speaker 3: from Tinder.

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Speaker 2: It's already happened three.

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Speaker 1: Years ago or five years ago? Did it happen?

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Speaker 2: This is five years ago? Oh?

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Speaker 3: This three years into the relationship marriage. She told me

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Speaker 3: that after they hooked up three times or so. By

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Speaker 3: So first, I was shocked and wanted to divorce because

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Speaker 3: cheating is a no go for me.

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Speaker 2: Oh well, but she told me how sorry.

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Speaker 3: She was and that she only loves me and she

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Speaker 3: was really trying her best to show me that I

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Speaker 3: can trust her again, and I did.

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Speaker 1: Dude, Oh pe, you got oh vaginomanized? Oh yeah, I know,

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Speaker 1: I understand because she uses her.

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Speaker 3: Now my mantroduced to you. My wife's best friend, Chris

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Speaker 3: Male thirty one.

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Speaker 1: Best friend, bez friend wink wink bezrunk wink winkink.

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Speaker 3: They've known each other for fifteen years or so, and

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Speaker 3: whenever we had issues, she always ran to him.

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Speaker 2: To ah.

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Speaker 3: Chris is single. He has had some relationships, but it

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Speaker 3: never lasted that long. I know he has feelings for

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Speaker 3: my wife. Dude, come on, we can't be this blind.

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Speaker 1: We can't be It's always going on long rides Lord

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Speaker 1: at night, and sometimes she's Chris.

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Speaker 3: He is always telling me that he wants a girlfriend

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Speaker 3: that is just like my wife.

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Speaker 2: Oh oh, and keeps telling her that I did not

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Speaker 1: Oh, this is at your friend, This is not your friend. Open.

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Speaker 1: I want someone that's just like your wife, more like

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Speaker 1: I want your wife. Take out a few of those

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Speaker 1: words there.

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Speaker 3: I never thought much about it because in my head

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Speaker 3: Chris is like a boot liquor, and I never thought

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Speaker 2: Girl brother, my guy sir, anyone has a chance at

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Speaker 2: your wife sounds like it.

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Speaker 1: Do give about anybody a chance.

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Speaker 3: Fast forwards. Six months ago, we again had our ups

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Speaker 3: Well she had spicy sleep.

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Speaker 1: I can assure you you didn't have.

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Speaker 3: She was never in the mood, and after trying many

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Speaker 3: me really unhappy. So the more I thought about her suggestion,

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Speaker 1: So I agreed, Oh, this is a trap in a tactic.

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Speaker 3: She was baffled at first, but in the end we

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Speaker 3: We have spicy sleep with no spicy sleep in our apartment.

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Speaker 3: of female twenty eight. Let's call her Sarah. She is

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Speaker 3: a very flirtatious girl, and I always thought she was

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Speaker 2: Well usually developed later.

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Speaker 1: No, she just wants a new ride.

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Speaker 3: The next day, I talked to my wife about my

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Speaker 3: Some days later, I went to Sarah's place and we

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Speaker 3: Didn't see that coming. I knew something was wrong, so

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Speaker 3: She told me that Chris and her had had spicy sleep.

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Speaker 1: Oh interesting, don't we have like a rule rules about.

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Speaker 3: That, don't We have like four rules? And one of

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Speaker 1: And is it the other rule that you don't have

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Speaker 3: Wow, you got two out of the four in one goat.

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Speaker 3: After hearing this, Ifing screamed at her and we got

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Speaker 3: into a huge fight. Not only did she break the

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Speaker 3: get too come on. But what really tipped me off

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Speaker 3: I was overreacting way too much. I did not talk

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Speaker 3: keep thinking that Chris is somehow manipulating her, so she

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Speaker 3: separates from me. So am I the ale? And there

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Speaker 2: Dude, Chris doesn't have to do a single thing.

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Speaker 1: I saw a meme a while ago where it's like,

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Speaker 1: how other dudes be talking to your girlfriend? And the

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Speaker 1: dude's like, he's manipulating you. He's said that to you,

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Speaker 1: but you did nothing wrong. How could you let him

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Speaker 2: Exactly?

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Speaker 1: And then it's like and the girlfriend's like, hey, baby,

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Speaker 1: we should talk about a few things. And the guy's like, oh, like,

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Speaker 1: let's talk, but just getting worm tongued over there.

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Speaker 2: Getting worm tungued?

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Speaker 1: Get it?

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Speaker 3: I do yeah, man, Lord of the Rings, Lord of

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Speaker 3: the Rings reference man. Oh p, Chris really didn't have

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Speaker 2: She already cheated on you.

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Speaker 1: He was lying this up for more.

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Speaker 3: Come on, she's been lining this up about maybe fifteen years.

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Speaker 3: Edit seems like I'm a boot liquor myself.

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Speaker 2: Oh the irony.

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Speaker 3: And there's an update. Thanks to all the harsh comments

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Speaker 3: calling me a witch, idiot, doramat, et cetera. It really

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Speaker 1: Bro, It's okay, you had no one else to talk

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Speaker 1: to because your wife want over open marriage, and your

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Speaker 1: She just didn't have anyone to bounce good ideas off of.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and I got an update. And I'm also answering

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Speaker 3: some questions. Yes, my wife is fairly attractive. I heard

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Speaker 3: that from colleagues on multiple occasions. Use that pilates yoga

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Speaker 3: fitness type woman. She's got a front airbag job six

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Speaker 3: years ago, which I paid for elmail. This is one

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Speaker 1: By the way, if you pay for you get to

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Speaker 1: play with it. Okay, those are the rules.

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Speaker 3: WHOA Okay, but come on, no, I think it's funny

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Speaker 3: that OP bought this you know, enhancement, enhancement or whatever,

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Speaker 3: and then a year after that she cheated.

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Speaker 2: Like that's what my money is going to, you cheating

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Speaker 2: on me?

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Speaker 1: Okay? So like, for example, if Angelina pays for my

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Speaker 1: what not to get extended, guess who gets to gets

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Speaker 1: the extension as well. I don't think no one else

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Speaker 2: I don't think you had to give an example.

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Speaker 1: I'm just giving this an example in a in a

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Speaker 2: It is just like, you know, consent is still like

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Speaker 2: a thing. Yeah, you don't own it just because you

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Speaker 2: pay for it. But I know that's not what you meant.

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Speaker 1: Dude. If we're in a okay, if we're in a marriage,

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Speaker 1: and you pay for that enhancement for me, no one

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Speaker 2: Yes, that no one else should do.

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Speaker 1: I'm dying this hill. If you pay for you get

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Speaker 2: I think the hill is that you shouldn't cheat on

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Speaker 1: Yes, and especially it's sort of like give it. Here

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Speaker 1: we go, Here we go, here we go. Oh no,

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Speaker 1: Andi needs a kidney, I give her one of mine

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Speaker 2: Messed up?

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Speaker 1: Even that's that's the same thing as this.

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Speaker 2: That's yeah, nice but brown hair, green eyes.

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Speaker 3: On the other hand, I'm fairly average looking besides my

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Speaker 2: I don't have anything else going for.

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Speaker 3: Because of my wife's fitness addiction, I got into it

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Speaker 1: Got pretty jacked bitten. This d in her mouth addiction.

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Speaker 3: More like, oh boy, we need a on From this story,

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Speaker 3: my best friend and I came to the conclusion that

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Speaker 3: she's only with me for financial security. Yeah, I mean

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Speaker 3: you paid for her her front airbag job. She's getting

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Speaker 3: financial security from you. I got a solid education, well

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Speaker 3: paying job. Plus my parents are wealthy. You have that

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Speaker 3: generational wealth. My wife has not been working for three

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Speaker 3: years or so. I was also planning on buying a

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Speaker 3: house this year. Yes, I think so too. That my

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, she's doing to herself. She's not working.

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Speaker 1: She's over there canodling brand new front airbags with everybody.

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Speaker 3: Uh huh, let's go to the update. However, I am

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Speaker 3: still at my friend's place. In my mind, this marriage

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Speaker 3: is over and I'm filing for divorce.

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Speaker 1: Good.

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Speaker 3: I tried to tell her that yesterday over the phone,

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Speaker 3: or so, so I sent her a text before going

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Speaker 1: I think you should call Chris instead.

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Speaker 1: That can take a weird turn. Had a boss who

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Speaker 3: Had a boss, you got it, So basically he got

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Speaker 3: But there's a second update, folks. Yeah, I think leaving

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Speaker 3: Well, I don't think they were friends. I think Chris

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Speaker 3: Father's Gravey says, my guy, will you please have some

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Speaker 3: Digital Drew says, ugree, divorce this woman before she has

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Speaker 3: Guy twelve twelve says, let's be honest, your wife opened

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Speaker 3: You know, be very aware when someone cheats on you,

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Speaker 1: That one was not gonna work out whatsoever. And oh man,

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Speaker 1: What do you mean, no, that work? What if someone

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Speaker 4: Okay, So okay, I know the jokes that you're trying

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Speaker 2: We're just clarifying people.

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Speaker 3: Online viewers that Riley is saying with consent, Yes, that's

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Speaker 4: And Riley knows that guy, he knows that right right now,

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Speaker 2: You would you see that all the time with Keon.

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Speaker 1: She's trying to cheat.

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Speaker 1: Did we do Do you guys remember that movie Britain? Yes? Yes,

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Speaker 1: Because this is trashy.

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Speaker 2: Guy, trashy, trashy.

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00:20:40,600 --> 00:20:43,320
Speaker 4: He placed his arms around my waist and his head

445
00:20:43,359 --> 00:20:46,040
Speaker 4: on my shoulder. I was wearing a shirt that shows

446
00:20:46,040 --> 00:20:48,040
Speaker 4: a lot of cleavage, and I'm sure he was looking

447
00:20:48,080 --> 00:20:50,640
Speaker 4: at my chest. During this time, I felt a mix

448
00:20:50,680 --> 00:20:54,000
Speaker 4: of this weird adrenaline and arousal, as well as some panic.

449
00:20:54,520 --> 00:20:56,560
Speaker 4: I am a married woman, and I know this was

450
00:20:56,640 --> 00:20:58,760
Speaker 4: not okay. It would break my heart to know my

451
00:20:58,840 --> 00:21:00,640
Speaker 4: husband would hug another word like this.

452
00:21:00,640 --> 00:21:04,360
Speaker 2: This suck. Oh my heavens.

453
00:21:04,119 --> 00:21:09,000
Speaker 1: Girl, reality, you're already cheating, You're already changing the way

454
00:21:09,000 --> 00:21:11,080
Speaker 1: you look so another man can look at you. You're

455
00:21:11,080 --> 00:21:13,600
Speaker 1: already doing activities and actions so another man can look

456
00:21:13,600 --> 00:21:16,080
Speaker 1: at you. We've already crossed this line, wi you.

457
00:21:16,040 --> 00:21:18,760
Speaker 4: I've already crossed this line. It's you've just crossed the

458
00:21:18,760 --> 00:21:20,399
Speaker 4: line into self awareness.

459
00:21:20,520 --> 00:21:23,680
Speaker 1: That's where we're at and is now become physical.

460
00:21:23,760 --> 00:21:26,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, well I think before Ope, he was like, oh,

461
00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:28,800
Speaker 3: it's just a fantasy, it's not anything real, But now

462
00:21:28,800 --> 00:21:29,040
Speaker 3: it is.

463
00:21:29,440 --> 00:21:32,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly like I don't. I'm not really wearing revealing

464
00:21:32,480 --> 00:21:35,080
Speaker 2: clothes just for him, am I? Just for me?

465
00:21:35,680 --> 00:21:39,320
Speaker 1: Also, Maurita says, Riley, your binden snap needs work. I

466
00:21:39,840 --> 00:21:40,639
Speaker 1: use it in a while.

467
00:21:42,600 --> 00:21:43,400
Speaker 2: I loved it.

468
00:21:44,200 --> 00:21:46,399
Speaker 4: He kept holding me and I think he wanted me

469
00:21:46,440 --> 00:21:48,720
Speaker 4: to turn around and kiss him, but I didn't, even

470
00:21:48,760 --> 00:21:51,679
Speaker 4: though I really really wanted to, I was able to

471
00:21:51,720 --> 00:21:55,960
Speaker 4: control myself. Oh. He let go of me after a

472
00:21:56,000 --> 00:21:58,359
Speaker 4: while and we finished cleaning everything up in silence and

473
00:21:58,440 --> 00:22:01,760
Speaker 4: just said goodbye. However, I can't stop thinking about him

474
00:22:01,760 --> 00:22:04,600
Speaker 4: and our hug. When I think of him, this strange,

475
00:22:04,640 --> 00:22:07,679
Speaker 4: overwhelming excitement takes over me, and it makes me feel

476
00:22:07,720 --> 00:22:09,359
Speaker 4: really good and full of life.

477
00:22:09,800 --> 00:22:14,960
Speaker 1: Get a love search? Yeah, what happened to a good

478
00:22:14,960 --> 00:22:15,480
Speaker 1: old barn?

479
00:22:15,840 --> 00:22:17,520
Speaker 2: He is referencing at TikTok.

480
00:22:17,600 --> 00:22:21,520
Speaker 4: I hope you guys get it. The few times me

481
00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:24,840
Speaker 4: and my husband have had bedroom fund since February, I

482
00:22:24,880 --> 00:22:28,440
Speaker 4: am always thinking about my new coworker. I feel terrible

483
00:22:28,600 --> 00:22:30,320
Speaker 4: for what I'm doing. I know it's wrong and my

484
00:22:30,400 --> 00:22:33,399
Speaker 4: husband doesn't deserve this. Please don't judge. I'm here to

485
00:22:33,480 --> 00:22:36,400
Speaker 4: get help and advice. I know I'm doing something very immoral,

486
00:22:36,480 --> 00:22:38,840
Speaker 4: even though we haven't kissed or anything else. I love

487
00:22:38,880 --> 00:22:40,560
Speaker 4: my husband and I see myself with him for the

488
00:22:40,640 --> 00:22:42,639
Speaker 4: rest of my life, even if the bedroom fund is

489
00:22:42,680 --> 00:22:45,280
Speaker 4: not the best. He is my best friend and an

490
00:22:45,359 --> 00:22:48,800
Speaker 4: amazing person who makes me very happy. This new coworker

491
00:22:48,880 --> 00:22:50,720
Speaker 4: is someone I don't even know, and I don't think

492
00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:52,960
Speaker 4: this will lead to a relationship, but it has made

493
00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:55,200
Speaker 4: me feel so good and excited in a way that I.

494
00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:56,439
Speaker 2: Hadn't felt in a long time.

495
00:22:56,960 --> 00:22:58,800
Speaker 4: The feeling that takes over my body when I talk

496
00:22:58,880 --> 00:23:01,120
Speaker 4: to him is so powerful that I've started to think

497
00:23:01,119 --> 00:23:03,680
Speaker 4: that I would actually sacrifice my marriage just to have

498
00:23:03,760 --> 00:23:04,760
Speaker 4: bedroom fun with him.

499
00:23:04,960 --> 00:23:06,840
Speaker 2: He's got a sacrifice a marriage.

500
00:23:07,800 --> 00:23:10,159
Speaker 1: This is the ten percent. You're looking as like you

501
00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:11,800
Speaker 1: have ninety percent of what you want a relationship, but

502
00:23:11,840 --> 00:23:13,680
Speaker 1: this is the ten percent, and you're willing to risk

503
00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:15,280
Speaker 1: your ninety percent to get with a ten percent.

504
00:23:15,560 --> 00:23:17,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, we don't want that. We don't want that.

505
00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:20,760
Speaker 4: But also it's it's really crazy that she was like,

506
00:23:21,000 --> 00:23:23,080
Speaker 4: I don't think this will lead to a relationship. I

507
00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:25,760
Speaker 4: don't want to throw my marriage away from this, and

508
00:23:25,800 --> 00:23:28,000
Speaker 4: then in the next sentence she was like, Okay, but

509
00:23:28,040 --> 00:23:29,760
Speaker 4: every time we speak, I just.

510
00:23:29,760 --> 00:23:31,840
Speaker 2: Think I might throw away my marriage. It's a crime.

511
00:23:32,200 --> 00:23:34,000
Speaker 1: You just have a crush, That's what this is. This

512
00:23:34,040 --> 00:23:38,480
Speaker 1: is like a little little fleeing you know. Summary. Yeah,

513
00:23:38,480 --> 00:23:41,920
Speaker 1: what's that one movie? Yes, thank you, bad thing, that's

514
00:23:41,920 --> 00:23:42,439
Speaker 1: what that is.

515
00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:46,440
Speaker 4: Summer loven Yeah, exactly, exactly. Even if we don't get

516
00:23:46,480 --> 00:23:48,440
Speaker 4: into a relationship, I think we have such a strong

517
00:23:48,480 --> 00:23:50,680
Speaker 4: chemistry that it would be amazing. I don't want to

518
00:23:50,760 --> 00:23:52,719
Speaker 4: cheat on my husband, so I'm thinking of asking him

519
00:23:52,760 --> 00:23:55,359
Speaker 4: for an open marriage. He knows my libido is higher,

520
00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:57,359
Speaker 4: so maybe he will be okay with it. If I'm

521
00:23:57,400 --> 00:23:59,520
Speaker 4: honest with myself, I think it would hurt him a

522
00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:01,720
Speaker 4: lot that I even ask, But maybe he will say

523
00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:04,040
Speaker 4: yes because he knows I'm not one hundred percent happy

524
00:24:04,080 --> 00:24:06,800
Speaker 4: with our bedroom fund would me asking this be the

525
00:24:06,920 --> 00:24:09,879
Speaker 4: end of our marriage or a solution to my dilemma. Also,

526
00:24:10,080 --> 00:24:12,160
Speaker 4: leaving my job is not an option. I am one

527
00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:14,480
Speaker 4: of the top managers and my salary is very high.

528
00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:16,360
Speaker 4: I doubt I would be able to find another job

529
00:24:16,400 --> 00:24:17,199
Speaker 4: of this salary in a.

530
00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:18,360
Speaker 2: Short or medium term.

531
00:24:18,680 --> 00:24:20,280
Speaker 4: We don't work in the same department, so I'm not

532
00:24:20,359 --> 00:24:22,800
Speaker 4: his boss and have no influence on his position or salary.

533
00:24:22,960 --> 00:24:25,960
Speaker 4: Just to clarify again, please don't judge me. I feel

534
00:24:26,000 --> 00:24:28,520
Speaker 4: crap enough as things are. What would you do if

535
00:24:28,520 --> 00:24:30,600
Speaker 4: you were me? Ask my husband for an open marriage,

536
00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:32,280
Speaker 4: Ignore my feelings and just stop.

537
00:24:32,080 --> 00:24:32,800
Speaker 2: This little game.

538
00:24:33,080 --> 00:24:35,640
Speaker 4: Please help me understand my situation from an outside perspective

539
00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:37,639
Speaker 4: so that I don't ruin my marriage for nothing.

540
00:24:37,640 --> 00:24:40,840
Speaker 2: And there is a small updates. But what do you think, op?

541
00:24:40,880 --> 00:24:45,040
Speaker 1: He should do two things? Number one, Yeah, I would

542
00:24:45,080 --> 00:24:47,959
Speaker 1: start analyzing your relationship with your husband and see if

543
00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:51,080
Speaker 1: this is just a friendship or if this is actually marriage,

544
00:24:51,280 --> 00:24:54,080
Speaker 1: because in this marriage, you're lacking a physical connection, which

545
00:24:54,119 --> 00:24:56,879
Speaker 1: we are realizing is very important to you. OPI.

546
00:24:57,200 --> 00:25:00,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, And it seems like they've talked about that. That's

547
00:25:00,359 --> 00:25:03,679
Speaker 4: what it seems like he knows that she doesn't have

548
00:25:03,760 --> 00:25:06,080
Speaker 4: as much fun with how they're doing things in the

549
00:25:06,080 --> 00:25:09,440
Speaker 4: bedroom and everything. So I wonder if it's been something

550
00:25:09,440 --> 00:25:11,480
Speaker 4: that they've tried to work on or if it's something

551
00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:14,480
Speaker 4: that he's just kind of like, I just like, don't.

552
00:25:15,520 --> 00:25:17,159
Speaker 2: Want to do what you want to do, you know

553
00:25:17,200 --> 00:25:17,679
Speaker 2: what I mean.

554
00:25:17,520 --> 00:25:19,560
Speaker 4: Which is like, you know, okay in itself, but it's

555
00:25:19,600 --> 00:25:22,399
Speaker 4: just some you might need to have a different discussion.

556
00:25:22,840 --> 00:25:25,640
Speaker 1: And that brings me to my second point. If you've realized, oh,

557
00:25:25,640 --> 00:25:28,160
Speaker 1: he is more than a friend, he's than my actual soulmate, Yeah,

558
00:25:28,400 --> 00:25:30,480
Speaker 1: I think going to like some sort of counseling, like

559
00:25:30,520 --> 00:25:35,320
Speaker 1: a spicy counselor or counseling in general, to align yourself

560
00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:38,160
Speaker 1: with a physical attraction, because you're getting his physical attraction

561
00:25:38,240 --> 00:25:40,879
Speaker 1: with a coworker and super fun of games. But you

562
00:25:40,920 --> 00:25:43,600
Speaker 1: need to have this with your husband or the third thing,

563
00:25:43,920 --> 00:25:46,560
Speaker 1: you just might need to end at all and try

564
00:25:46,600 --> 00:25:49,280
Speaker 1: again because there's something missing in this relationship and you're

565
00:25:49,480 --> 00:25:50,360
Speaker 1: longing for that.

566
00:25:50,440 --> 00:25:53,960
Speaker 2: Also, the answer is not open marriage. Yeah, definitely don't

567
00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:55,880
Speaker 2: go for open marriage. It's not going to work out

568
00:25:55,920 --> 00:25:58,200
Speaker 2: how you want to do. Already have someone in mind, Yeah,

569
00:25:58,240 --> 00:25:59,000
Speaker 2: you're just feating.

570
00:25:59,080 --> 00:26:01,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, and yeah exactly, and open marriage only works eight

571
00:26:01,440 --> 00:26:03,400
Speaker 1: percent of the time. We've done the math. We see

572
00:26:03,440 --> 00:26:03,880
Speaker 1: it all the time.

573
00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:06,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know it's not gonna work here. It's it's

574
00:26:06,240 --> 00:26:07,399
Speaker 2: definitely not gonna work.

575
00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:09,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, so you definitely have to ignore your feelings, maybe

576
00:26:09,560 --> 00:26:11,480
Speaker 4: talk to your husband about it, try to figure out

577
00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:12,000
Speaker 4: what will be.

578
00:26:11,920 --> 00:26:13,040
Speaker 2: More exciting for you.

579
00:26:13,560 --> 00:26:17,120
Speaker 4: But there is a small update, So thank you everyone

580
00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:19,560
Speaker 4: for your take on my situation. After taking a couple

581
00:26:19,600 --> 00:26:21,800
Speaker 4: hours to think more about this, I've decided to bring

582
00:26:21,840 --> 00:26:24,080
Speaker 4: it up with my husband this weekend. I will wait

583
00:26:24,160 --> 00:26:26,600
Speaker 4: until Friday evening after work so that we can both

584
00:26:26,640 --> 00:26:29,240
Speaker 4: talk it out during the weekend without affecting work. If

585
00:26:29,240 --> 00:26:31,240
Speaker 4: he wants to continue being married to me, then we

586
00:26:31,320 --> 00:26:33,359
Speaker 4: need to talk about the bedroom situation and fix it

587
00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:35,600
Speaker 4: as best we can. If he decides to divorce me,

588
00:26:35,640 --> 00:26:37,679
Speaker 4: then I will respect his decision and let him keep

589
00:26:37,720 --> 00:26:40,159
Speaker 4: our house because I feel really crappy for letting this

590
00:26:40,280 --> 00:26:43,240
Speaker 4: game get so far. I bet you won't feel really

591
00:26:43,280 --> 00:26:46,040
Speaker 4: crappy when you're filling up this other coworker.

592
00:26:46,520 --> 00:26:51,520
Speaker 2: Oh, it's true, that's her. It's true.

593
00:26:51,760 --> 00:26:55,800
Speaker 4: You would have said that if I didn't no roll

594
00:26:55,840 --> 00:26:57,320
Speaker 4: to take you said, so many.

595
00:26:57,960 --> 00:27:00,960
Speaker 1: Were talking about you won't have any proof.

596
00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:03,959
Speaker 4: We literally have three cameras pointing as you right now

597
00:27:03,960 --> 00:27:05,639
Speaker 4: and a giant microphone in your face.

598
00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:11,439
Speaker 1: No proof, prove it in Go ahead, Okay, we'll remind it.

599
00:27:11,560 --> 00:27:13,320
Speaker 1: Oh wow, look you don't even have to tape. It's crazy.

600
00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:17,399
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, there are some comments. Comment Number one says, quote,

601
00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:20,800
Speaker 4: I will make me end my relationship. Fix the title

602
00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:23,560
Speaker 4: for you. Stop putting blame on him. Know what you

603
00:27:23,560 --> 00:27:27,000
Speaker 4: are doing. Asking for any open marriage will most definitely

604
00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:30,320
Speaker 4: cause more problems. If he even says yes, it might

605
00:27:30,359 --> 00:27:32,480
Speaker 4: work for a bit, but you're not asking for open

606
00:27:32,520 --> 00:27:36,119
Speaker 4: You're asking to cheat with somebody specific. That's not good intentions.

607
00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:39,879
Speaker 4: Just stop what you are doing. Stop blaming him, Just

608
00:27:39,920 --> 00:27:43,119
Speaker 4: stop coming. Number two says he's not your soulmate. Don't

609
00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:45,960
Speaker 4: throw that word around. You don't knowingly hurt and betray

610
00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:48,800
Speaker 4: your soulmate or someone you love. Seems like you weren't

611
00:27:48,840 --> 00:27:51,080
Speaker 4: ready for a marriage, and it also seems like you

612
00:27:51,160 --> 00:27:54,239
Speaker 4: essentially settled for your now husband. Poor guy, because you

613
00:27:54,280 --> 00:27:56,240
Speaker 4: say you broke up with your last boyfriend because he

614
00:27:56,280 --> 00:27:58,440
Speaker 4: didn't want to marry you and you enjoyed your time

615
00:27:58,440 --> 00:28:01,400
Speaker 4: with him more honestly, just have a clean divorce from

616
00:28:01,400 --> 00:28:03,720
Speaker 4: this man and let him find his true soulmate.

617
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:04,680
Speaker 2: You seem like.

618
00:28:04,680 --> 00:28:08,000
Speaker 4: You're more into yourself and enjoy being chased and wanted

619
00:28:08,040 --> 00:28:10,879
Speaker 4: from someone who isn't your husband. You pretty much already

620
00:28:10,960 --> 00:28:14,000
Speaker 4: cheated in my eyes, because you entertained another man. You

621
00:28:14,119 --> 00:28:16,520
Speaker 4: let him essentially grope you from behind, and you did

622
00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:19,040
Speaker 4: nothing about it. Hope for the best outcome for you,

623
00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:21,640
Speaker 4: regardless of the fact that you seem like you only

624
00:28:21,680 --> 00:28:24,119
Speaker 4: care about yourself instead of having a normal conversation with

625
00:28:24,160 --> 00:28:26,560
Speaker 4: your husband and not actively trying to cheat on him.

626
00:28:26,880 --> 00:28:29,080
Speaker 4: COMMN Number three says, what I do in those situations

627
00:28:29,200 --> 00:28:31,720
Speaker 4: is fantasize about the full picture. Say you sleep with

628
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:34,439
Speaker 4: the twenty four year old, it's amazing, you have mind blowing,

629
00:28:34,440 --> 00:28:38,040
Speaker 4: spicy sleep. Now you leave your husband. Now what you're

630
00:28:38,080 --> 00:28:39,280
Speaker 4: dating the twenty four year old?

631
00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:41,440
Speaker 2: You work with him? Suddenly the rush isn't.

632
00:28:41,240 --> 00:28:43,520
Speaker 4: There so much anymore. There's a new twenty two year

633
00:28:43,520 --> 00:28:45,400
Speaker 4: old at work that the guy is now flirting with.

634
00:28:45,760 --> 00:28:47,840
Speaker 4: He's only twenty four and wants to fool around with

635
00:28:47,880 --> 00:28:48,440
Speaker 4: another woman.

636
00:28:48,960 --> 00:28:51,080
Speaker 2: You were a fun game to him. Oh you start

637
00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:54,240
Speaker 2: to miss your husband yet and there is an update.

638
00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:54,720
Speaker 2: But honestly.

639
00:28:54,800 --> 00:28:57,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's a good, good way to do it, being

640
00:28:57,320 --> 00:28:58,680
Speaker 4: realistic about the situation.

641
00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:02,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, term, Yeah, because she knows.

642
00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:05,160
Speaker 4: She knows this isn't like a relationship that she just

643
00:29:05,200 --> 00:29:08,400
Speaker 4: thinks is better than her relationship. Like she she knows

644
00:29:08,680 --> 00:29:11,760
Speaker 4: that she's just in this marriage. It's been comfortable, and

645
00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:14,480
Speaker 4: she's put up with this stuff that she she's missed

646
00:29:14,480 --> 00:29:18,880
Speaker 4: out on because she loves him. But now that you

647
00:29:18,920 --> 00:29:20,920
Speaker 4: know they went on and that part didn't really get

648
00:29:21,120 --> 00:29:23,960
Speaker 4: as exciting or any more exciting than it needed to

649
00:29:24,000 --> 00:29:24,760
Speaker 4: be than now.

650
00:29:25,040 --> 00:29:28,040
Speaker 1: She's got this temptation in front of her. Yeah, this

651
00:29:28,320 --> 00:29:31,240
Speaker 1: fresh new meat stick. Oh, she's trying to get a

652
00:29:31,240 --> 00:29:32,640
Speaker 1: little little nibble less.

653
00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:35,560
Speaker 2: See, you say way worse things than I do. No idea,

654
00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:38,160
Speaker 2: we're talking to say way worse things than I do.

655
00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:43,160
Speaker 1: So she needs to realize, am I gonna cash out

656
00:29:43,360 --> 00:29:46,760
Speaker 1: a nice, little comfy relationship for a little meat stick?

657
00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:48,360
Speaker 2: But there is an updates.

658
00:29:48,520 --> 00:29:51,760
Speaker 4: So many people wrote me horrible things, thinking that I'm

659
00:29:51,760 --> 00:29:54,160
Speaker 4: an awful person for behaving like this. I know that

660
00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:56,360
Speaker 4: this may sound like that, and I do feel bad

661
00:29:56,360 --> 00:29:58,840
Speaker 4: about everything, but marrying and living with someone who is

662
00:29:58,840 --> 00:30:00,400
Speaker 4: not fulfilling you is really difficults.

663
00:30:00,400 --> 00:30:02,959
Speaker 2: I wouldn't wish it on anyone so dramatic.

664
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Speaker 3: He wouldn't wish it on anyone, And I definitely couldn't

665
00:30:05,080 --> 00:30:06,960
Speaker 3: have communicated any of these thoughts or feelings.

666
00:30:07,000 --> 00:30:09,000
Speaker 2: Also, I had to cheat.

667
00:30:09,520 --> 00:30:13,120
Speaker 1: What's really bothering me is the lack of accountability. I

668
00:30:13,160 --> 00:30:15,960
Speaker 1: have not seen her once be like, I'm in the wrong.

669
00:30:16,360 --> 00:30:18,920
Speaker 1: What's up with this? Well, I mean she's putting it

670
00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:21,640
Speaker 1: on her husband saying, oh my gosh, he's not fulfilling

671
00:30:21,680 --> 00:30:22,960
Speaker 1: my needs. And then he's putting it on the co

672
00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:24,640
Speaker 1: work her. Oh my gosh, she's making me want to

673
00:30:24,640 --> 00:30:24,960
Speaker 1: do it.

674
00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:27,280
Speaker 4: Well, okay, I will say she is.

675
00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:30,240
Speaker 2: She is saying that she's in the wrong, that she's

676
00:30:30,280 --> 00:30:31,240
Speaker 2: left up produced.

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00:30:31,000 --> 00:30:34,240
Speaker 4: A little bit, but it feels bad, but she's not

678
00:30:34,760 --> 00:30:36,760
Speaker 4: doing anything about it, that's the thing.

679
00:30:36,920 --> 00:30:39,040
Speaker 2: So like, I'll give her that. I guess she's saying it.

680
00:30:39,080 --> 00:30:42,600
Speaker 4: We can't like ragging her for that, but still in

681
00:30:42,640 --> 00:30:43,920
Speaker 4: the wrong because she's not doing anything.

682
00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:44,600
Speaker 2: He is an.

683
00:30:44,480 --> 00:30:47,160
Speaker 4: Amazing person, so it makes it really hard. If he

684
00:30:47,280 --> 00:30:49,120
Speaker 4: was not nice to me or we had other issues,

685
00:30:49,160 --> 00:30:51,800
Speaker 4: it would be an easier decision. But because everything except

686
00:30:51,800 --> 00:30:55,520
Speaker 4: spicy sleep is fantastic, it's really tough. Imagine finding someone

687
00:30:55,560 --> 00:30:57,920
Speaker 4: you love dearly and who loves you just as dearly,

688
00:30:58,040 --> 00:31:01,120
Speaker 4: but he has really low libido and really high so

689
00:31:01,360 --> 00:31:03,960
Speaker 4: you feel unwanted, undesired, and unfulfilled.

690
00:31:04,040 --> 00:31:08,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, you feel conversation exactly.

691
00:31:07,640 --> 00:31:10,480
Speaker 1: But you are feeling unfulfilled.

692
00:31:10,280 --> 00:31:12,640
Speaker 2: Right because it's not just about libido. I think, like

693
00:31:12,720 --> 00:31:15,880
Speaker 2: it's not it's not just about like, oh, I just

694
00:31:16,000 --> 00:31:18,160
Speaker 2: like this stuff more than you do. It's like there,

695
00:31:18,200 --> 00:31:19,120
Speaker 2: I feel like.

696
00:31:19,200 --> 00:31:20,160
Speaker 1: She wants to be filled.

697
00:31:20,920 --> 00:31:22,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah.

698
00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:24,680
Speaker 4: Exactly, But I feel like there's still things that you

699
00:31:24,720 --> 00:31:28,040
Speaker 4: can do to like say, like, you know, okay, maybe

700
00:31:28,440 --> 00:31:30,240
Speaker 4: I don't know, not as often, I don't want to

701
00:31:30,280 --> 00:31:32,000
Speaker 4: do these things as often, but like the things that

702
00:31:32,040 --> 00:31:36,360
Speaker 4: we do during what's going on over there, Riley just.

703
00:31:36,320 --> 00:31:38,840
Speaker 1: Trying to figure out a way to fill herself up

704
00:31:38,880 --> 00:31:39,640
Speaker 1: with love.

705
00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:42,320
Speaker 2: It's not even a good joke that you're cracking up

706
00:31:42,360 --> 00:31:43,240
Speaker 2: over there about.

707
00:31:43,760 --> 00:31:46,720
Speaker 4: It's not even that good.

708
00:31:47,520 --> 00:31:50,120
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, but yeah, I don't know.

709
00:31:50,160 --> 00:31:52,800
Speaker 4: I feel like they could figure some sort of compromise

710
00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:56,560
Speaker 4: out and not just like, you know, just be like well, yeah,

711
00:31:56,600 --> 00:31:59,480
Speaker 4: we just are completely uncompatible in that sense, and there's

712
00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:01,160
Speaker 4: nothing we can about it, you know.

713
00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:04,800
Speaker 1: So sounds like a conversation to do old space.

714
00:32:05,200 --> 00:32:06,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly.

715
00:32:06,760 --> 00:32:09,479
Speaker 4: That was my situation, and I tried to navigate it

716
00:32:09,520 --> 00:32:11,720
Speaker 4: as best as I could. I know, some people judged

717
00:32:11,760 --> 00:32:14,120
Speaker 4: me for flirting with my coworker Mail twenty five, and

718
00:32:14,160 --> 00:32:16,120
Speaker 4: I accept that I did some bad things, but it

719
00:32:16,200 --> 00:32:17,560
Speaker 4: wasn't actually cheating.

720
00:32:17,880 --> 00:32:19,240
Speaker 2: Being real, many people in.

721
00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:21,560
Speaker 4: Relationships are attracted to others who are not their partner

722
00:32:21,560 --> 00:32:22,440
Speaker 4: and flirt a little bit.

723
00:32:22,720 --> 00:32:24,840
Speaker 2: That's not cheating, but it's not okay either.

724
00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:27,120
Speaker 1: Okay, stop trying to justify yourself and get to the point.

725
00:32:27,200 --> 00:32:30,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, because that's also like, yeah, every couple will have

726
00:32:30,200 --> 00:32:33,240
Speaker 4: a different tolerance for what you can do with other people.

727
00:32:33,400 --> 00:32:36,480
Speaker 4: Every couple will define cheating differently. So you might think

728
00:32:36,520 --> 00:32:38,680
Speaker 4: that that's not cheating, and that might make you feel

729
00:32:38,720 --> 00:32:40,720
Speaker 4: a bit better, But does your husband know that you

730
00:32:40,720 --> 00:32:41,760
Speaker 4: guys talk about that, Like.

731
00:32:41,720 --> 00:32:45,000
Speaker 1: Recently in our relationship, I was, you know it, tried

732
00:32:45,040 --> 00:32:46,520
Speaker 1: to do a blonde chick, but now I'm a tracked to

733
00:32:46,520 --> 00:32:49,560
Speaker 1: a redhead chick, and it's like, how do I navigate

734
00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:51,440
Speaker 1: that in a relationship? And who knows? It might be

735
00:32:51,480 --> 00:32:53,760
Speaker 1: blue hair soon? Who knows?

736
00:32:53,960 --> 00:32:54,360
Speaker 2: Yeah?

737
00:32:54,560 --> 00:32:58,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, how are you going to just keep jumping around

738
00:32:58,200 --> 00:32:59,240
Speaker 4: for all these different women.

739
00:32:59,440 --> 00:33:02,040
Speaker 1: Ley, it's fun. Fact, it's the same moment I just

740
00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:04,240
Speaker 1: gotta that makes.

741
00:33:04,080 --> 00:33:06,680
Speaker 4: It so much easier. Oh, that makes it so much

742
00:33:06,720 --> 00:33:09,840
Speaker 4: easier then, so maybe that's just what this is. Maybe

743
00:33:09,840 --> 00:33:10,240
Speaker 4: it's just.

744
00:33:10,200 --> 00:33:15,760
Speaker 3: Opie's husband in a wig and like I didn't even recognize.

745
00:33:16,560 --> 00:33:19,400
Speaker 2: Just so attractive in all these different wigs, and then

746
00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:20,520
Speaker 2: he like accuses her.

747
00:33:20,560 --> 00:33:23,080
Speaker 4: He's like, oh, dare you now he knows all about

748
00:33:23,080 --> 00:33:25,600
Speaker 4: the cheating because he's pricked you. Now that this is clear,

749
00:33:25,760 --> 00:33:27,840
Speaker 4: I'd like to ask for another piece of advice from

750
00:33:27,840 --> 00:33:29,880
Speaker 4: people who are in a similar position as me, and

751
00:33:29,960 --> 00:33:32,040
Speaker 4: people who want to help.

752
00:33:32,680 --> 00:33:37,800
Speaker 1: People that are in a similar situation. They do not

753
00:33:37,920 --> 00:33:40,280
Speaker 1: go to the Facebook groups who are like I want

754
00:33:40,280 --> 00:33:41,920
Speaker 1: to cheat to my husband's how do I do it?

755
00:33:41,960 --> 00:33:46,400
Speaker 1: Don't go there. I'm glad you're here a similar similar

756
00:33:46,520 --> 00:33:48,000
Speaker 1: situation as me.

757
00:33:51,240 --> 00:33:51,680
Speaker 2: I love you.

758
00:33:53,000 --> 00:33:54,680
Speaker 4: If you don't want to help and just want to

759
00:33:54,760 --> 00:33:56,760
Speaker 4: judge me, then skip it and move on to the

760
00:33:56,760 --> 00:33:58,000
Speaker 4: next Reddit post you find.

761
00:33:58,200 --> 00:34:01,120
Speaker 2: Thanks. Well, oh, a long time has passed since my

762
00:34:01,200 --> 00:34:01,840
Speaker 2: last update.

763
00:34:01,880 --> 00:34:02,600
Speaker 1: Whoa Well?

764
00:34:02,640 --> 00:34:04,040
Speaker 2: Okay, actually, first, before we.

765
00:34:04,000 --> 00:34:07,400
Speaker 4: Read that, I think, uh, op, if you're genuinely looking

766
00:34:07,440 --> 00:34:10,800
Speaker 4: for advice because I can understand you. You made a

767
00:34:10,880 --> 00:34:15,440
Speaker 4: noopsia on purpose and that's not okay. What you have

768
00:34:15,520 --> 00:34:17,960
Speaker 4: to do now is be honest about it. Stop it

769
00:34:18,200 --> 00:34:19,240
Speaker 4: because you know it's wrong.

770
00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:20,520
Speaker 2: You're feeling bad about it.

771
00:34:20,600 --> 00:34:22,040
Speaker 1: Stop, get some help.

772
00:34:22,280 --> 00:34:26,319
Speaker 4: Exactly if you keep going with this, you're you're just

773
00:34:26,360 --> 00:34:27,200
Speaker 4: gonna feel worse.

774
00:34:27,280 --> 00:34:31,160
Speaker 2: You know that it's wrong. You know that it's not cool.

775
00:34:30,840 --> 00:34:33,880
Speaker 4: For your husband to be like treated like this, but

776
00:34:34,760 --> 00:34:38,919
Speaker 4: kind of accident. Well exactly, she likes it, she likes it,

777
00:34:39,000 --> 00:34:42,000
Speaker 4: but you know, sometimes it's fun to play with fire

778
00:34:42,120 --> 00:34:44,359
Speaker 4: doesn't mean we can burn things down. We can burn

779
00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:45,759
Speaker 4: down people's properly, you know what I mean.

780
00:34:47,360 --> 00:34:49,120
Speaker 2: That's exactly.

781
00:34:49,320 --> 00:34:52,359
Speaker 1: Sometimes people like to play with their their hot dog

782
00:34:52,400 --> 00:34:55,160
Speaker 1: gonna stick whenever it's on fire. That's a dangerous gain

783
00:34:55,239 --> 00:34:55,800
Speaker 1: to play.

784
00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:58,880
Speaker 4: Dangerous game to play. You heard it here first, folks. Yeah, oh,

785
00:34:58,960 --> 00:35:03,239
Speaker 4: b roast, you know that it's not okay. So yeah,

786
00:35:03,360 --> 00:35:05,839
Speaker 4: just end it, talk to your husband about it, look

787
00:35:05,880 --> 00:35:07,600
Speaker 4: at the deeper issue and work on that.

788
00:35:07,920 --> 00:35:10,359
Speaker 1: Okay, real quick, before we get into this update, I'm

789
00:35:10,360 --> 00:35:14,040
Speaker 1: gonna need you guys to laugh at one joke because

790
00:35:14,080 --> 00:35:15,520
Speaker 1: I am, I am, I need to.

791
00:35:16,080 --> 00:35:17,120
Speaker 2: It's so hard.

792
00:35:17,239 --> 00:35:19,879
Speaker 1: I need to be fulfilled in that way. I'm gonna

793
00:35:19,880 --> 00:35:22,400
Speaker 1: turn into this woman and go on some other podcasts

794
00:35:22,440 --> 00:35:25,120
Speaker 1: and get make the jokes there. Okay, well I'm gonna

795
00:35:25,160 --> 00:35:26,840
Speaker 1: have to go in Dakota. Do you want that?

796
00:35:27,200 --> 00:35:31,600
Speaker 2: Well jakes for the boys and it's just the girls. Okay,

797
00:35:32,320 --> 00:35:36,399
Speaker 2: I proclaimed laugh slute, laughing or.

798
00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:39,120
Speaker 1: Yes, I am a laughing or and I am proud

799
00:35:39,160 --> 00:35:39,480
Speaker 1: of it.

800
00:35:39,560 --> 00:35:43,360
Speaker 2: Whoa, we can't say that word. Riley lie me too though.

801
00:35:43,960 --> 00:35:46,600
Speaker 2: All right on to the small updates.

802
00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:47,959
Speaker 1: Hey, it's Sam, your og host.

803
00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:48,080
Speaker 2: Here.

804
00:35:48,120 --> 00:35:49,680
Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to the stories. But here's three

805
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Speaker 1: minutes of ads from our sponsors.

806
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Speaker 4: Long story short, things are in a weird state right now.

807
00:35:54,440 --> 00:35:56,919
Speaker 4: Why My husband did well for a while, but around

808
00:35:56,960 --> 00:35:58,880
Speaker 4: two months ago he told me that he just doesn't

809
00:35:58,880 --> 00:36:01,680
Speaker 4: feel very spicy. He related, and he's never had high

810
00:36:01,719 --> 00:36:03,960
Speaker 4: libido in his life, so he's finding it hard to

811
00:36:03,960 --> 00:36:06,680
Speaker 4: have spicy sleep. As often as we were, it wasn't

812
00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:10,160
Speaker 4: even much. Two times per week Wednesdays and Saturdays. Mostly

813
00:36:10,560 --> 00:36:12,960
Speaker 4: they've got its schedule, got it scheduled out.

814
00:36:13,239 --> 00:36:16,879
Speaker 1: In fact, that's when Survivor and other new TV show

815
00:36:16,920 --> 00:36:17,440
Speaker 1: come out.

816
00:36:17,920 --> 00:36:21,759
Speaker 2: Wednesdays and Saturday. Just get really riled up from survival.

817
00:36:22,200 --> 00:36:24,839
Speaker 4: He told me that for him, it's more spontaneous and

818
00:36:24,880 --> 00:36:26,720
Speaker 4: we would be okay to do it once per.

819
00:36:26,600 --> 00:36:30,120
Speaker 2: Week or even less often. For this reason, he accepted

820
00:36:30,160 --> 00:36:33,360
Speaker 2: my proposal of an open marriage. Ah, so she did both.

821
00:36:33,400 --> 00:36:35,200
Speaker 4: So she was like, how can we work on our

822
00:36:35,440 --> 00:36:38,959
Speaker 4: on our spicy life and then also can we open

823
00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:39,640
Speaker 4: their marriage.

824
00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:43,320
Speaker 1: I think he came. He came to her, understood it.

825
00:36:44,000 --> 00:36:49,160
Speaker 4: He accepted her proposal as Oh my god, but yeah, I.

826
00:36:50,719 --> 00:36:54,960
Speaker 3: Swear to goodness gracious, like he goes and has spicy

827
00:36:55,040 --> 00:36:56,440
Speaker 3: sleep with that office.

828
00:36:56,600 --> 00:37:00,520
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, it's definitely gonna happen. Like I no wonder.

829
00:37:00,560 --> 00:37:03,359
Speaker 4: It's in a weird state right now, dude, come on.

830
00:37:03,760 --> 00:37:06,600
Speaker 4: So he gave me two conditions. The first that I

831
00:37:06,640 --> 00:37:10,320
Speaker 4: always use a Wiener wrapper and that I'm very hygienic

832
00:37:10,400 --> 00:37:14,120
Speaker 4: so I don't get any disease. Second that I always

833
00:37:14,239 --> 00:37:16,759
Speaker 4: come home to sleep, even if it's very late. So

834
00:37:16,840 --> 00:37:18,880
Speaker 4: we only have one car, so we even offer to

835
00:37:18,880 --> 00:37:20,560
Speaker 4: pick me up at any time, just to make sure

836
00:37:20,600 --> 00:37:21,759
Speaker 4: I'm safe at the end of the night.

837
00:37:22,080 --> 00:37:24,960
Speaker 2: First month was a thrill. I don't want to hear

838
00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:27,120
Speaker 2: about it. Op, I don't want to hear about it.

839
00:37:27,880 --> 00:37:29,040
Speaker 2: I don't want to hear about it.

840
00:37:30,200 --> 00:37:32,520
Speaker 1: But guys, guys, guys. They talked about in an open

841
00:37:32,520 --> 00:37:35,960
Speaker 1: marriage and they agreed to it. So this is their

842
00:37:35,960 --> 00:37:38,760
Speaker 1: They're playing by their own rules. Yeah, they had a conversation.

843
00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:40,680
Speaker 4: I just can't believe they didn't like figure this out

844
00:37:40,719 --> 00:37:44,520
Speaker 4: before they got married, Like this is maybe.

845
00:37:44,239 --> 00:37:46,399
Speaker 2: Why you need to wait a little longer than two

846
00:37:46,520 --> 00:37:48,680
Speaker 2: years to get married people.

847
00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:54,840
Speaker 4: I don't know, just a personal opinion, but that's pretty fast.

848
00:37:55,239 --> 00:37:57,520
Speaker 4: I explained to my coworker the arrangement with my husband,

849
00:37:57,520 --> 00:38:00,719
Speaker 4: and we got together right off. It was a I

850
00:38:00,760 --> 00:38:02,960
Speaker 4: went to his place after work almost every day for

851
00:38:03,040 --> 00:38:05,200
Speaker 4: three weeks and we had a great time. It is

852
00:38:05,239 --> 00:38:08,399
Speaker 4: the best spicy sleep of my life so far. There

853
00:38:08,480 --> 00:38:10,480
Speaker 4: was a lot of passion, and he had a much

854
00:38:10,520 --> 00:38:12,600
Speaker 4: more stamina than I had experienced before.

855
00:38:12,640 --> 00:38:14,080
Speaker 2: And he has a great body too.

856
00:38:14,960 --> 00:38:19,040
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, dude, I can't, I can't.

857
00:38:19,400 --> 00:38:21,120
Speaker 4: We didn't meet for a week because I got my

858
00:38:21,160 --> 00:38:23,479
Speaker 4: period and then he got the VID, so I haven't

859
00:38:23,480 --> 00:38:25,719
Speaker 4: seen him since then. I got into dating apps and

860
00:38:25,760 --> 00:38:28,120
Speaker 4: have hooked up with a couple of younger guys early twenties.

861
00:38:28,600 --> 00:38:32,360
Speaker 4: It has been fun as well. During those two months,

862
00:38:32,400 --> 00:38:34,759
Speaker 4: things didn't change much with my husband. We were loving

863
00:38:34,760 --> 00:38:37,160
Speaker 4: partners whenever we met at home and he didn't ask

864
00:38:37,200 --> 00:38:39,839
Speaker 4: me anything. However, last weekend he asked me a bunch

865
00:38:39,880 --> 00:38:42,600
Speaker 4: of questions, who had I been with and how I

866
00:38:42,680 --> 00:38:45,319
Speaker 4: felt about them. He didn't care much about the spicy sleep,

867
00:38:45,360 --> 00:38:47,400
Speaker 4: but more about the feelings. I told him that I

868
00:38:47,480 --> 00:38:50,320
Speaker 4: didn't feel love for anyone else, only him, which is true.

869
00:38:50,640 --> 00:38:52,439
Speaker 4: My husband said that he is happy that I'm having

870
00:38:52,440 --> 00:38:54,840
Speaker 4: a satisfied life now and that he is worried that

871
00:38:54,880 --> 00:38:57,239
Speaker 4: I will love someone else and leave him. I asked

872
00:38:57,320 --> 00:38:59,759
Speaker 4: him if he wanted to get divorced, and he said no,

873
00:39:00,239 --> 00:39:02,160
Speaker 4: that he wants to be married forever to me and

874
00:39:02,160 --> 00:39:04,400
Speaker 4: that if his libido gets hired, then we could close

875
00:39:04,440 --> 00:39:06,759
Speaker 4: the relationship again. I tried to convince him to get

876
00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:09,040
Speaker 4: into dating apps and find girls, but he wasn't interested.

877
00:39:09,320 --> 00:39:11,479
Speaker 4: I shared him I won't leave him, but I don't

878
00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:13,839
Speaker 4: know how I can make him trust me. I love

879
00:39:13,920 --> 00:39:17,040
Speaker 4: him above everything, but I understand that my actions might

880
00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:17,800
Speaker 4: say otherwise.

881
00:39:18,239 --> 00:39:20,440
Speaker 2: I want him to be happy. Please let me know

882
00:39:20,480 --> 00:39:21,520
Speaker 2: if you have any advice.

883
00:39:21,680 --> 00:39:26,000
Speaker 1: The move was to get a counselor and figure out

884
00:39:26,040 --> 00:39:28,640
Speaker 1: a way to maybe increase his libido because he still

885
00:39:28,680 --> 00:39:30,080
Speaker 1: loves you in this way.

886
00:39:30,400 --> 00:39:34,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, who was to get a counselor period? That too?

887
00:39:34,360 --> 00:39:34,600
Speaker 1: Man?

888
00:39:35,239 --> 00:39:37,440
Speaker 4: Like, I don't know, I feel like there are probably

889
00:39:37,840 --> 00:39:40,040
Speaker 4: things you can figure out, some sort of compromise.

890
00:39:40,120 --> 00:39:40,160
Speaker 1: Me.

891
00:39:40,200 --> 00:39:41,600
Speaker 2: What have you been doing this whole time? You've been

892
00:39:41,600 --> 00:39:44,120
Speaker 2: together for four years? Right, I mean, like have you

893
00:39:44,239 --> 00:39:47,120
Speaker 2: really just put it up? Put up with it for

894
00:39:47,120 --> 00:39:48,040
Speaker 2: four years?

895
00:39:48,400 --> 00:39:50,400
Speaker 1: Like wild? Wild?

896
00:39:51,040 --> 00:39:52,400
Speaker 2: God, I don't know, I don't know.

897
00:39:52,480 --> 00:39:55,439
Speaker 4: I mean, like, you know, if it works for you, guys,

898
00:39:55,440 --> 00:39:56,520
Speaker 4: it works for you, guys.

899
00:39:56,800 --> 00:39:59,880
Speaker 2: I just have a really strong feeling that it's not

900
00:40:00,120 --> 00:40:00,680
Speaker 2: going to work.

901
00:40:00,880 --> 00:40:03,480
Speaker 1: Not it's really not because he's starting to get paranoid

902
00:40:03,480 --> 00:40:06,000
Speaker 1: about the feelings and now he's probably gonna give paranoid

903
00:40:06,040 --> 00:40:07,800
Speaker 1: about the physical aspect of the relationship.

904
00:40:07,880 --> 00:40:10,759
Speaker 4: Yeah exactly, because it's like, you know, even if this

905
00:40:10,920 --> 00:40:12,920
Speaker 4: goes on, he like gets more used to it and stuff,

906
00:40:12,920 --> 00:40:17,200
Speaker 4: Like he's that possibility of you just like leaving because

907
00:40:17,200 --> 00:40:20,160
Speaker 4: of feelings for another that's I mean, that's technically always

908
00:40:20,200 --> 00:40:23,200
Speaker 4: a possibility, Like that's you know, you could always do that,

909
00:40:23,280 --> 00:40:26,160
Speaker 4: but you that possibility is much higher. No, But now

910
00:40:26,200 --> 00:40:29,000
Speaker 4: that he knows you're basically dating, but there are some

911
00:40:29,080 --> 00:40:32,000
Speaker 4: comments coming. Number one says everyone should note how she

912
00:40:32,120 --> 00:40:34,120
Speaker 4: had someone lined up and wright did you go from

913
00:40:34,160 --> 00:40:36,640
Speaker 4: the jump? If someone even broaches the subject of an

914
00:40:36,680 --> 00:40:39,800
Speaker 4: open relationship, you know cheating has occurred. And to answer

915
00:40:39,840 --> 00:40:43,000
Speaker 4: your question, your husband is correct. Eventually you will fall

916
00:40:43,000 --> 00:40:45,160
Speaker 4: in love with your spicy sleep partner and lose all

917
00:40:45,200 --> 00:40:47,960
Speaker 4: feelings for your husband. Divorce it would be the best

918
00:40:47,960 --> 00:40:51,000
Speaker 4: for you both. Common Number two says, if you actually

919
00:40:51,000 --> 00:40:53,840
Speaker 4: loved your husband, you'd let him go instead of manipulating him.

920
00:40:53,680 --> 00:40:55,600
Speaker 2: And causing him constant heartache.

921
00:40:55,880 --> 00:40:58,520
Speaker 4: No amount of justification will make you seem any less

922
00:40:58,520 --> 00:41:01,520
Speaker 4: selfish and heartless, and if you'll find the same response

923
00:41:01,600 --> 00:41:04,560
Speaker 4: no matter which group you post in next, I hope

924
00:41:04,560 --> 00:41:08,000
Speaker 4: his next partner treats him properly because you clearly lacked

925
00:41:08,160 --> 00:41:11,520
Speaker 4: the emotional depth to do so. And there is another update,

926
00:41:12,040 --> 00:41:14,879
Speaker 4: let's just jump right in. Update number two. I talked

927
00:41:14,920 --> 00:41:16,880
Speaker 4: with my husband about how I felt about our spicy

928
00:41:16,880 --> 00:41:19,680
Speaker 4: sleep life and that it wasn't fulfilling me. He told

929
00:41:19,680 --> 00:41:22,000
Speaker 4: me how he is feeling worse about his depression since

930
00:41:22,000 --> 00:41:25,080
Speaker 4: the pandemic has taken a toll on his income as

931
00:41:25,120 --> 00:41:27,440
Speaker 4: a freelancer and that has lowered his libido in the

932
00:41:27,480 --> 00:41:29,759
Speaker 4: past few months. I was honest with him and told

933
00:41:29,800 --> 00:41:31,840
Speaker 4: him there was someone at work who I was attracted

934
00:41:31,840 --> 00:41:34,000
Speaker 4: to but wouldn't do anything unless he allowed me to.

935
00:41:34,320 --> 00:41:36,279
Speaker 4: I asked him how he would feel about an open

936
00:41:36,320 --> 00:41:38,719
Speaker 4: marriage with the promise that as soon as someone wants

937
00:41:38,760 --> 00:41:41,320
Speaker 4: to close it, it would be closed and no hard feelings.

938
00:41:41,520 --> 00:41:43,319
Speaker 4: I told him that he could also do it with

939
00:41:43,440 --> 00:41:44,759
Speaker 4: other women, of course, but.

940
00:41:44,719 --> 00:41:49,279
Speaker 1: He's not going to that's he doesn't want that. Yeah,

941
00:41:49,480 --> 00:41:53,200
Speaker 1: he's doing this to make you feel happy exactly, stead

942
00:41:53,239 --> 00:41:54,240
Speaker 1: of figuring out aw weighted.

943
00:41:56,000 --> 00:41:58,080
Speaker 3: Oh, I don't think it's like if he has a

944
00:41:58,120 --> 00:42:00,400
Speaker 3: little libido, if he's always had that, it might not

945
00:42:00,440 --> 00:42:04,160
Speaker 3: be anyway for him to raise that. But then the

946
00:42:04,200 --> 00:42:06,239
Speaker 3: relationship doesn't work if that's what she wants and he

947
00:42:06,280 --> 00:42:10,239
Speaker 3: doesn't want that. Yeah, don't cheat on your Like you

948
00:42:10,280 --> 00:42:13,520
Speaker 3: literally planned to cheat then got permission to go hook

949
00:42:13,560 --> 00:42:15,160
Speaker 3: up with someone you already wanted to hook up with him.

950
00:42:15,160 --> 00:42:18,719
Speaker 3: We're like lead, you know, trying to lead up to that.

951
00:42:18,920 --> 00:42:21,080
Speaker 3: So it just wasn't This is not working anymore. You

952
00:42:21,120 --> 00:42:23,040
Speaker 3: can't have a relationship exactly.

953
00:42:23,560 --> 00:42:26,240
Speaker 4: And I hope he is referring to when the request

954
00:42:26,440 --> 00:42:29,240
Speaker 4: opened up. After hearing my request for an open marriage,

955
00:42:29,280 --> 00:42:31,920
Speaker 4: he cried. Because this was a Friday, he spent the

956
00:42:31,960 --> 00:42:35,040
Speaker 4: whole weekend crying and locked up in our bedroom. He

957
00:42:35,120 --> 00:42:36,920
Speaker 4: came out to sleep in the couch during the night,

958
00:42:36,960 --> 00:42:39,719
Speaker 4: but he spent both Saturday and Sunday locked in with

959
00:42:39,800 --> 00:42:42,200
Speaker 4: his phone only. I came in a couple of times

960
00:42:42,239 --> 00:42:44,239
Speaker 4: to hug him and try to comfort him. I felt

961
00:42:44,320 --> 00:42:46,759
Speaker 4: terrible and repeated several times that I loved him and

962
00:42:46,800 --> 00:42:48,919
Speaker 4: wanted to be with him forever, that I didn't want

963
00:42:48,960 --> 00:42:50,640
Speaker 4: to open the marriage if he wasn't okay with it,

964
00:42:50,719 --> 00:42:53,800
Speaker 4: and he clearly wasn't, so just forget I said anything.

965
00:42:54,200 --> 00:42:56,319
Speaker 4: He eventually asked me about this guy I liked, and

966
00:42:56,360 --> 00:42:58,239
Speaker 4: I told him how he looks and how he makes

967
00:42:58,280 --> 00:43:00,319
Speaker 4: me feel. I told him about our flur day, about

968
00:43:00,360 --> 00:43:02,000
Speaker 4: the hug, and that he made me feel it was

969
00:43:02,040 --> 00:43:04,640
Speaker 4: time to either end the game or do something about it.

970
00:43:05,080 --> 00:43:08,960
Speaker 1: And do something about it like also ending it, Yeah, dude,

971
00:43:09,040 --> 00:43:12,160
Speaker 1: like come on, Also, doesn't this guy know you're married?

972
00:43:12,760 --> 00:43:13,160
Speaker 2: He does?

973
00:43:13,239 --> 00:43:15,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's not like, oh, well, I mean, I'm assuming

974
00:43:15,440 --> 00:43:17,239
Speaker 4: actually sure she's got a ring on.

975
00:43:17,680 --> 00:43:19,760
Speaker 1: So oh my gosh.

976
00:43:19,960 --> 00:43:21,880
Speaker 4: He said he would think about the open marriage and

977
00:43:21,920 --> 00:43:23,759
Speaker 4: let me know in a few days. The week after this,

978
00:43:23,880 --> 00:43:25,560
Speaker 4: I was very busy at work, but I wanted him

979
00:43:25,560 --> 00:43:27,759
Speaker 4: to feel safe that I wasn't staying extra hours at

980
00:43:27,760 --> 00:43:30,239
Speaker 4: work to be with my colleague, so I worked from home.

981
00:43:30,520 --> 00:43:32,759
Speaker 4: Having that distance with my colleague made me miss him

982
00:43:32,760 --> 00:43:35,120
Speaker 4: a lot, and I realized I might like him more

983
00:43:35,160 --> 00:43:36,600
Speaker 4: than I first wanted to admit.

984
00:43:37,000 --> 00:43:38,600
Speaker 2: That week was mostly uneventful.

985
00:43:38,680 --> 00:43:41,080
Speaker 4: My husband was also working from home and we barely

986
00:43:41,120 --> 00:43:43,520
Speaker 4: talked during work hours, but we had a nice time

987
00:43:43,600 --> 00:43:46,480
Speaker 4: during the evenings. We had dinner together every evening and

988
00:43:46,520 --> 00:43:49,520
Speaker 4: watch the new Vikings TV series, which we both really liked.

989
00:43:49,560 --> 00:43:50,839
Speaker 1: Okay, like going on.

990
00:43:51,239 --> 00:43:54,000
Speaker 2: No bedroom fun though, and no mention of the open marriage.

991
00:43:54,120 --> 00:43:55,960
Speaker 1: So this was Oh he did this with her husband?

992
00:43:56,280 --> 00:43:59,640
Speaker 2: Yes, okay, Yes, that what you were clarifying. Yeah, okay.

993
00:44:00,080 --> 00:44:01,800
Speaker 4: The week after that, I went back to the office,

994
00:44:01,920 --> 00:44:04,080
Speaker 4: and when I saw my coworker again, I felt this

995
00:44:04,200 --> 00:44:07,600
Speaker 4: amazing sensation again. I realized how attracted I was to

996
00:44:07,680 --> 00:44:09,520
Speaker 4: him and how much I wanted him to touch me.

997
00:44:09,920 --> 00:44:12,080
Speaker 2: The thought of it still drives me crazy.

998
00:44:12,520 --> 00:44:14,319
Speaker 4: It was his twenty fifth birthday that week, so we

999
00:44:14,360 --> 00:44:16,879
Speaker 4: went out with other coworkers to have dinner. At the end,

1000
00:44:16,920 --> 00:44:19,120
Speaker 4: we were alone in the restaurant and we held hands.

1001
00:44:19,480 --> 00:44:22,880
Speaker 4: It felt unbelievably good. I was about to leave because

1002
00:44:22,960 --> 00:44:25,000
Speaker 4: I felt I was starting to cross the line, but

1003
00:44:25,040 --> 00:44:26,840
Speaker 4: then he asked me if he could kiss me.

1004
00:44:27,239 --> 00:44:28,759
Speaker 2: I asked him if he knew I was.

1005
00:44:28,800 --> 00:44:31,759
Speaker 4: Married, and note I don't wear my wedding ring during

1006
00:44:31,800 --> 00:44:33,399
Speaker 4: the winter, so he hadn't seen it.

1007
00:44:33,440 --> 00:44:35,760
Speaker 1: Wait, why not during the winter.

1008
00:44:36,360 --> 00:44:39,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, what's that about. There's no way. It's too cold

1009
00:44:39,560 --> 00:44:40,520
Speaker 2: because it's on your body.

1010
00:44:40,760 --> 00:44:42,400
Speaker 1: You're just wearing gloves, and you don't want it to

1011
00:44:42,440 --> 00:44:43,960
Speaker 1: come off whenever you take your gloves off.

1012
00:44:44,360 --> 00:44:46,120
Speaker 2: That's just weird. Interesting.

1013
00:44:46,480 --> 00:44:48,239
Speaker 1: Hey, it's johnio og host here. We're going to get

1014
00:44:48,239 --> 00:44:49,799
Speaker 1: back to the stories, but he's a quick three minute

1015
00:44:49,800 --> 00:44:51,239
Speaker 1: break of ass form more sponsors.

1016
00:44:51,719 --> 00:44:54,400
Speaker 4: He said yes, but that he didn't mind. After that,

1017
00:44:54,520 --> 00:44:56,560
Speaker 4: I let go of his hand and left the restaurant.

1018
00:44:56,600 --> 00:44:57,520
Speaker 4: I didn't say goodbye.

1019
00:44:57,600 --> 00:44:59,799
Speaker 2: I just left. When I came home, my husband has

1020
00:45:00,239 --> 00:45:02,120
Speaker 2: the bedroom with candles and music, and.

1021
00:45:02,080 --> 00:45:04,399
Speaker 4: He even brought me my favorite candy and big Teddy

1022
00:45:04,400 --> 00:45:07,239
Speaker 4: Bear plushy that was holding a letter. We sat on

1023
00:45:07,280 --> 00:45:08,879
Speaker 4: the bed and he asked me to read the letter

1024
00:45:08,920 --> 00:45:10,840
Speaker 4: out loud. It pretty much said that he loved me

1025
00:45:10,880 --> 00:45:12,879
Speaker 4: above all things and he would do anything to keep

1026
00:45:12,920 --> 00:45:14,960
Speaker 4: us together, and he proposed again.

1027
00:45:15,520 --> 00:45:16,480
Speaker 2: He gave me a ring.

1028
00:45:16,400 --> 00:45:18,560
Speaker 4: With no diamond and put it in my right hand.

1029
00:45:19,239 --> 00:45:21,080
Speaker 4: He told me he was going to get a job

1030
00:45:21,120 --> 00:45:23,480
Speaker 4: so that he didn't have to worry about his freelance business,

1031
00:45:23,520 --> 00:45:25,719
Speaker 4: and also he was going to start working out too,

1032
00:45:26,000 --> 00:45:28,600
Speaker 4: to fight his depression and hopefully get his libido up again.

1033
00:45:28,680 --> 00:45:31,280
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, just a little. This is the same story.

1034
00:45:31,400 --> 00:45:33,640
Speaker 2: Is just a commenter, This is the same story.

1035
00:45:33,800 --> 00:45:34,680
Speaker 1: This is the same story.

1036
00:45:34,760 --> 00:45:36,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, basically, op, he is kind of going back in

1037
00:45:36,680 --> 00:45:40,080
Speaker 3: time a little bit and saying that originally he said

1038
00:45:40,120 --> 00:45:42,560
Speaker 3: no open marriage. He cried, and then she went had

1039
00:45:42,560 --> 00:45:45,280
Speaker 3: dinner with the coworker and was like, oh, we almost kissed.

1040
00:45:45,600 --> 00:45:47,799
Speaker 3: And then she goes back her husband's prepared all this

1041
00:45:47,920 --> 00:45:49,520
Speaker 3: and is now saying, I want to do whatever you

1042
00:45:49,880 --> 00:45:50,400
Speaker 3: like want.

1043
00:45:50,280 --> 00:45:52,520
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, So we're we're getting the Playboy play here.

1044
00:45:52,960 --> 00:45:56,240
Speaker 1: It makes sense why this guy's libido was low, because

1045
00:45:56,320 --> 00:45:59,320
Speaker 1: right now he's probably having to struggle to make it.

1046
00:45:59,520 --> 00:46:03,000
Speaker 1: Ins me. Yeah, then, also working at a freelance job,

1047
00:46:03,040 --> 00:46:06,480
Speaker 1: it's very lonely. If he's working at home, it's very tough. Yeah,

1048
00:46:06,640 --> 00:46:08,360
Speaker 1: Mace kind of sense because he's trying to hold it

1049
00:46:08,360 --> 00:46:10,799
Speaker 1: down on his end and doesn't have a lot of

1050
00:46:10,800 --> 00:46:11,600
Speaker 1: social interactions.

1051
00:46:11,680 --> 00:46:14,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, he literally just said that he's going

1052
00:46:14,120 --> 00:46:18,120
Speaker 4: to try fighting his depression. So he's been just depressed

1053
00:46:18,160 --> 00:46:20,560
Speaker 4: this whole time. Like, no wonder his libido's down. That's

1054
00:46:21,200 --> 00:46:22,120
Speaker 4: how that happens.

1055
00:46:22,200 --> 00:46:24,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, when I had a freelance business, I was pretty

1056
00:46:24,400 --> 00:46:26,840
Speaker 1: stressed out a lot because I was like hoping, Oh am,

1057
00:46:26,880 --> 00:46:30,879
Speaker 1: I gonna make ends meet this month. Everything it's really dark.

1058
00:46:30,960 --> 00:46:33,640
Speaker 2: I'd so see there's things to do about the low libido.

1059
00:46:33,640 --> 00:46:35,399
Speaker 4: It's not just like a he's just stuck with this

1060
00:46:35,440 --> 00:46:37,440
Speaker 4: for the rest of his life, not like, hey, maybe

1061
00:46:37,480 --> 00:46:39,640
Speaker 4: I can help my husband like not be so depressed

1062
00:46:39,640 --> 00:46:40,320
Speaker 4: anymore or something.

1063
00:46:40,360 --> 00:46:41,960
Speaker 1: And if he's not working out too, like, dude, I

1064
00:46:41,960 --> 00:46:43,640
Speaker 1: haven't worked down a little bit. In my head is

1065
00:46:43,680 --> 00:46:46,320
Speaker 1: so foggy. Yeah, whenever I work out, I'm pretty sharp.

1066
00:46:46,320 --> 00:46:48,560
Speaker 1: And if you're not, you know, getting those kind of

1067
00:46:48,640 --> 00:46:51,479
Speaker 1: endorphins or you know whatever, the type of serotonine whatever,

1068
00:46:51,760 --> 00:46:54,040
Speaker 1: don't mean Yeah, your brain's not gonna be a sharp

1069
00:46:54,040 --> 00:46:55,920
Speaker 1: and it's not gonna be feeding off of that.

1070
00:46:56,239 --> 00:46:59,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, and I think working out too like does actually

1071
00:46:59,600 --> 00:47:02,440
Speaker 4: hired your libido too, so that in itself, like ye

1072
00:47:02,880 --> 00:47:03,399
Speaker 4: would help.

1073
00:47:03,560 --> 00:47:05,080
Speaker 2: But oh man, the.

1074
00:47:05,080 --> 00:47:07,319
Speaker 4: Fact that he's doing all this after she literally just

1075
00:47:07,560 --> 00:47:11,000
Speaker 4: almost kissed this guy. Yo. Yeah, he told me he

1076
00:47:11,000 --> 00:47:13,360
Speaker 4: didn't want an open marriage and apologized a bunch of

1077
00:47:13,400 --> 00:47:15,040
Speaker 4: times for not being as good in bed as I

1078
00:47:15,040 --> 00:47:17,640
Speaker 4: wanted him to be. I kept reassuring him that he

1079
00:47:17,800 --> 00:47:20,160
Speaker 4: is the most amazing person in the world, that he

1080
00:47:20,239 --> 00:47:22,680
Speaker 4: is more than enough, that it is me who is

1081
00:47:22,719 --> 00:47:24,920
Speaker 4: stupid and has issues. I told him we could go

1082
00:47:25,000 --> 00:47:27,160
Speaker 4: to the gym together and I would behave professionally with

1083
00:47:27,200 --> 00:47:28,319
Speaker 4: my coworker from now on.

1084
00:47:28,640 --> 00:47:31,640
Speaker 1: So that's just Gauzanda says, OPI heard the libido was

1085
00:47:31,680 --> 00:47:34,920
Speaker 1: down because her husband was depressed, and she didn't go

1086
00:47:35,480 --> 00:47:38,880
Speaker 1: how can I help you out of the space. Instead,

1087
00:47:39,280 --> 00:47:42,680
Speaker 1: she wants to open the relationship like she saw an opportunity.

1088
00:47:43,400 --> 00:47:46,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I feel like, yeah, there's there's like a difference.

1089
00:47:46,800 --> 00:47:50,640
Speaker 4: You know, finding your your spicy chemistry is important in

1090
00:47:50,840 --> 00:47:51,680
Speaker 4: a relationship.

1091
00:47:51,680 --> 00:47:53,080
Speaker 2: But like using the.

1092
00:47:53,080 --> 00:47:54,839
Speaker 4: Excuse of like, oh, I just like have a high

1093
00:47:54,840 --> 00:47:56,879
Speaker 4: libido and you just have a low libido. It's like, okay, well,

1094
00:47:57,080 --> 00:48:00,400
Speaker 4: if there's that issue, then it's like either work on it,

1095
00:48:00,480 --> 00:48:03,520
Speaker 4: find a good compromise that you're actually okay with, or

1096
00:48:03,719 --> 00:48:05,400
Speaker 4: or you just aren't compatible.

1097
00:48:05,560 --> 00:48:07,960
Speaker 1: And then Dushes also says, also, I don't like that

1098
00:48:08,000 --> 00:48:10,239
Speaker 1: OPI phrased it a ring without a diamond instead of

1099
00:48:10,320 --> 00:48:12,239
Speaker 1: like an emoder ring or whatever the gyms were in

1100
00:48:12,280 --> 00:48:13,920
Speaker 1: the ringk She's like, oh he got me a ring

1101
00:48:13,960 --> 00:48:16,440
Speaker 1: without a diamond and proposed to me instead of oh

1102
00:48:16,480 --> 00:48:19,680
Speaker 1: he got me a ring. Yeah yeah, sure, yeah, that's

1103
00:48:19,800 --> 00:48:21,560
Speaker 1: really good wording, good good eye, good iron.

1104
00:48:21,640 --> 00:48:23,640
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, but there's a little bit more to the story.

1105
00:48:24,080 --> 00:48:27,960
Speaker 1: And sorry, uh perverse Lea says, Dudes, I am Polly,

1106
00:48:28,120 --> 00:48:31,200
Speaker 1: and this woman's behavior as me why I I'm not

1107
00:48:31,320 --> 00:48:34,840
Speaker 1: understanding how she can treat this mono man like this.

1108
00:48:34,840 --> 00:48:37,240
Speaker 1: This is cheater behavior, not poly behavior.

1109
00:48:37,280 --> 00:48:40,920
Speaker 2: Eactly, She's not in a Polly relationship or our open relationship.

1110
00:48:41,000 --> 00:48:41,479
Speaker 2: She's a cheater.

1111
00:48:41,760 --> 00:48:45,680
Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah, it's that whole libido excuse, like, oh, it's

1112
00:48:45,719 --> 00:48:46,680
Speaker 4: just biology, babe.

1113
00:48:46,680 --> 00:48:49,480
Speaker 2: I can't do anything about it. I need this. Things

1114
00:48:49,520 --> 00:48:50,960
Speaker 2: are much better between us now.

1115
00:48:51,000 --> 00:48:52,919
Speaker 4: He has put a lot of effort into performing better

1116
00:48:52,960 --> 00:48:54,680
Speaker 4: in the bedroom, and going to the gym has helped

1117
00:48:54,760 --> 00:48:57,120
Speaker 4: us both with the negative feelings we had. As a

1118
00:48:57,160 --> 00:48:59,680
Speaker 4: result of our conversation, we are now at a much

1119
00:48:59,680 --> 00:49:01,719
Speaker 4: better place than we were before, and I feel more

1120
00:49:01,760 --> 00:49:04,319
Speaker 4: connected to him than ever before. I am, still, of course,

1121
00:49:04,360 --> 00:49:07,080
Speaker 4: attracted to my coworker, but I decided to close that

1122
00:49:07,160 --> 00:49:08,640
Speaker 4: door and just ignore him from now on.

1123
00:49:08,960 --> 00:49:10,759
Speaker 2: We don't work in the same department, so I don't

1124
00:49:10,800 --> 00:49:11,120
Speaker 2: need to.

1125
00:49:11,040 --> 00:49:13,000
Speaker 4: Talk to him at all. The last time I spend

1126
00:49:13,000 --> 00:49:14,960
Speaker 4: with him, the less I like him. I feel that

1127
00:49:15,000 --> 00:49:18,120
Speaker 4: the infatuation is starting to disappear, which I am very

1128
00:49:18,160 --> 00:49:21,200
Speaker 4: grateful for. Thank you again to everyone who reached out,

1129
00:49:21,480 --> 00:49:24,400
Speaker 4: especially those who told me about the affair fog. It

1130
00:49:24,440 --> 00:49:26,880
Speaker 4: really helps me put things into perspective and prevented me

1131
00:49:26,920 --> 00:49:28,640
Speaker 4: from making a stupid mistake I would.

1132
00:49:28,400 --> 00:49:30,440
Speaker 2: Regret for the rest of my life. And that's the

1133
00:49:30,520 --> 00:49:31,120
Speaker 2: end of that story.

1134
00:49:31,160 --> 00:49:35,239
Speaker 4: But I'm very confused because this sounded like we were

1135
00:49:35,239 --> 00:49:39,480
Speaker 4: going back in time to like when when the question

1136
00:49:39,640 --> 00:49:41,759
Speaker 4: was first popped up, is like, hey, do you want

1137
00:49:41,760 --> 00:49:44,239
Speaker 4: to have an open relationship? And then now it looks

1138
00:49:44,280 --> 00:49:47,120
Speaker 4: like they chose not to, But we read earlier.

1139
00:49:47,360 --> 00:49:48,840
Speaker 1: I feel like our updates.

1140
00:49:48,480 --> 00:49:52,080
Speaker 2: Got a little out of line there, I am I kind.

1141
00:49:51,960 --> 00:49:53,800
Speaker 4: Of I have a feeling because one of the updates,

1142
00:49:53,800 --> 00:49:56,799
Speaker 4: like it didn't have a specific update like time, like

1143
00:49:56,920 --> 00:49:57,480
Speaker 4: title thing.

1144
00:49:57,920 --> 00:49:59,879
Speaker 2: I think it might have been out of order.

1145
00:50:00,040 --> 00:50:02,560
Speaker 4: And I think that update, I think it sounds like

1146
00:50:02,600 --> 00:50:04,799
Speaker 4: they were going to be fine with like not having

1147
00:50:04,840 --> 00:50:05,799
Speaker 4: an open relationship.

1148
00:50:06,040 --> 00:50:08,919
Speaker 3: No. I think what happened was that he said, yeah,

1149
00:50:09,160 --> 00:50:10,759
Speaker 3: I'm cool with an open relationship.

1150
00:50:11,000 --> 00:50:12,239
Speaker 1: So I think what it was.

1151
00:50:12,640 --> 00:50:15,560
Speaker 2: So Op comes to him, says, hey, a relationship. He

1152
00:50:15,640 --> 00:50:16,560
Speaker 2: starts crying, says no.

1153
00:50:17,360 --> 00:50:20,200
Speaker 3: She goes to have dinner with the guy that and

1154
00:50:20,200 --> 00:50:23,080
Speaker 3: almost kisses him. Comes back, he's like, actually, I'm okay

1155
00:50:23,080 --> 00:50:27,600
Speaker 3: with it. They try it out and then realize this

1156
00:50:27,680 --> 00:50:31,840
Speaker 3: isn't working, and then he tries to work on his libido.

1157
00:50:31,880 --> 00:50:32,520
Speaker 2: I think that was.

1158
00:50:32,840 --> 00:50:34,000
Speaker 1: That's the journey.

1159
00:50:34,239 --> 00:50:34,759
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1160
00:50:35,160 --> 00:50:40,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's weird, Yeah, yeah, super weird. Wasn't update one.

1161
00:50:40,560 --> 00:50:42,840
Speaker 1: She had an amazing few weeks sleeping with a coworker

1162
00:50:42,840 --> 00:50:45,759
Speaker 1: and that did I imagine that, So I think she

1163
00:50:45,840 --> 00:50:48,600
Speaker 1: had there was like a few months. I am confused

1164
00:50:48,640 --> 00:50:49,360
Speaker 1: by the I'm kind of.

1165
00:50:49,400 --> 00:50:52,600
Speaker 4: I'm kind of guessing maybe like at first he wasn't

1166
00:50:52,640 --> 00:50:55,480
Speaker 4: okay with it because he said, like, he'll do whatever

1167
00:50:55,480 --> 00:50:58,719
Speaker 4: you can to keep the marriage, but that meant like

1168
00:50:58,800 --> 00:51:01,239
Speaker 4: going to the gym and stuff. He then said he

1169
00:51:01,360 --> 00:51:03,720
Speaker 4: does like he told me he didn't want an open marriage.

1170
00:51:03,719 --> 00:51:05,879
Speaker 1: Well, Nigie said they never opened it since I'd give

1171
00:51:05,960 --> 00:51:07,320
Speaker 1: him a week and told her.

1172
00:51:07,120 --> 00:51:09,200
Speaker 4: To No, it could have been too that, like maybe

1173
00:51:09,200 --> 00:51:11,120
Speaker 4: they opened it at first, and then after a while

1174
00:51:11,160 --> 00:51:13,680
Speaker 4: he was like, no, this just I just actually really

1175
00:51:13,760 --> 00:51:14,359
Speaker 4: don't like this.

1176
00:51:14,680 --> 00:51:15,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then.

1177
00:51:15,960 --> 00:51:18,840
Speaker 4: Maybe maybe the kiss that he was asking about was

1178
00:51:18,920 --> 00:51:21,799
Speaker 4: kissing in public because that was at a party, so

1179
00:51:21,880 --> 00:51:23,400
Speaker 4: maybe that's what it was. They were doing things in

1180
00:51:23,480 --> 00:51:25,520
Speaker 4: secret and then and then I guess the whole time

1181
00:51:25,560 --> 00:51:28,560
Speaker 4: he didn't know that. And then afterwards now since things

1182
00:51:28,560 --> 00:51:30,560
Speaker 4: were kind of weird, now he's like, no, I don't

1183
00:51:30,680 --> 00:51:36,040
Speaker 4: want an open marriage. Yeah, but ah, man, man, oh man,

1184
00:51:36,120 --> 00:51:37,560
Speaker 4: I always think you guys can be happy.

1185
00:51:37,719 --> 00:51:41,560
Speaker 1: One more story for y'all. I'll then right up. My

1186
00:51:41,719 --> 00:51:45,040
Speaker 1: wife cheated at the start of our relationship because she

1187
00:51:45,160 --> 00:51:46,160
Speaker 1: was unsure about me.

1188
00:51:46,800 --> 00:51:49,640
Speaker 2: Well, you I thought you were sure when you married me.

1189
00:51:50,360 --> 00:51:52,879
Speaker 1: My wife, thirty six female, and I thirty eight male,

1190
00:51:53,000 --> 00:51:55,920
Speaker 1: have been together since twenty ten. We both were at

1191
00:51:55,920 --> 00:51:58,640
Speaker 1: full time and don't have kids. We've been trying for

1192
00:51:58,719 --> 00:52:02,520
Speaker 1: a while without success. Through recent events left me wondering

1193
00:52:02,600 --> 00:52:05,279
Speaker 1: if I really want this with her now. By the way,

1194
00:52:05,360 --> 00:52:08,400
Speaker 1: this comes from a throwaway and affected mars And if

1195
00:52:08,400 --> 00:52:09,960
Speaker 1: you want to make your own stories, what are the

1196
00:52:10,040 --> 00:52:12,479
Speaker 1: ur slish o caase stories? Time Subred that we met

1197
00:52:12,600 --> 00:52:15,440
Speaker 1: when we were both in the university, me two thousand

1198
00:52:15,440 --> 00:52:17,759
Speaker 1: and seven and she two thousand and eight. We were

1199
00:52:17,800 --> 00:52:20,279
Speaker 1: friends before we got together in the end of the

1200
00:52:20,520 --> 00:52:23,560
Speaker 1: two thousand and nine started twenty ten semester. She was

1201
00:52:23,560 --> 00:52:26,160
Speaker 1: going through a bad time in her relationship at the time,

1202
00:52:26,360 --> 00:52:28,680
Speaker 1: and I ended up supporting her with a mutual friend

1203
00:52:28,680 --> 00:52:31,400
Speaker 1: of ours. She broke up with their ex, and a

1204
00:52:31,400 --> 00:52:33,840
Speaker 1: few months later, one thing led to another and we

1205
00:52:33,960 --> 00:52:37,839
Speaker 1: ended up kissing, which led to me inviting her on

1206
00:52:37,880 --> 00:52:41,200
Speaker 1: a date, and the rest just happened. We were officially

1207
00:52:41,239 --> 00:52:45,080
Speaker 1: together twenty ten, and I couldn't be happier. Our marriage

1208
00:52:45,080 --> 00:52:48,360
Speaker 1: and relationship in general were always pretty good. We've always

1209
00:52:48,360 --> 00:52:51,080
Speaker 1: communicated well and I never had a reason to suspect

1210
00:52:51,200 --> 00:52:55,400
Speaker 1: my wife was cheating. Last Saturday, there was a barbecue

1211
00:52:55,400 --> 00:52:57,880
Speaker 1: in her brother's house. I got inside to get some

1212
00:52:57,920 --> 00:53:00,080
Speaker 1: stuff in the kitchen, and while I was looking in

1213
00:53:00,120 --> 00:53:02,640
Speaker 1: side the fridge, I however, heard my wife talking to

1214
00:53:02,680 --> 00:53:05,279
Speaker 1: her sister in the other room. I wasn't trying to

1215
00:53:05,320 --> 00:53:07,640
Speaker 1: snoop on them at first, I really don't do this

1216
00:53:07,719 --> 00:53:10,960
Speaker 1: kind of thing. But then I heard something like, ope,

1217
00:53:11,239 --> 00:53:14,680
Speaker 1: can never know about this. Well, of course that was

1218
00:53:14,840 --> 00:53:20,640
Speaker 1: my cue to actually snoop. I hadn't listened to her talking. Apparently,

1219
00:53:21,040 --> 00:53:24,520
Speaker 1: her sister almost cheated on her boyfriend and was feeling guilty,

1220
00:53:24,920 --> 00:53:26,720
Speaker 1: and my wife told her about the time she slept

1221
00:53:26,760 --> 00:53:29,399
Speaker 1: with a guy who was a lab assistant with her

1222
00:53:29,520 --> 00:53:33,560
Speaker 1: at the university after we started dating we were exclusive

1223
00:53:33,719 --> 00:53:36,319
Speaker 1: see edit two in twenty ten.

1224
00:53:36,880 --> 00:53:39,280
Speaker 2: WHOA, that's crazy.

1225
00:53:39,320 --> 00:53:42,040
Speaker 4: Her sister is like, oh my gosh, like I feel

1226
00:53:42,120 --> 00:53:43,160
Speaker 4: so bad I'm cheating.

1227
00:53:43,200 --> 00:53:45,080
Speaker 2: And then she's like, it's okay, it's okay, you're fine.

1228
00:53:45,120 --> 00:53:47,520
Speaker 2: Like I've been there, I've done it. It's okay, it's

1229
00:53:47,520 --> 00:53:49,200
Speaker 2: not a big deal. This is how you can keep

1230
00:53:49,200 --> 00:53:52,080
Speaker 2: a secret. And that's when she stops keeping her secret.

1231
00:53:52,480 --> 00:53:57,880
Speaker 1: No, absolutely not. I the fact that a sibling or

1232
00:53:57,920 --> 00:54:01,279
Speaker 1: a friend could ever justify someone on cheating that is

1233
00:54:01,320 --> 00:54:05,040
Speaker 1: not a healthy relationship. So oh, why would this wife

1234
00:54:05,080 --> 00:54:08,440
Speaker 1: want to cheat, so, in her words, she said, I

1235
00:54:08,560 --> 00:54:11,439
Speaker 1: wasn't sure about things with OP would work out at

1236
00:54:11,480 --> 00:54:14,400
Speaker 1: the time, and I allowed myself to do it. I

1237
00:54:14,440 --> 00:54:16,640
Speaker 1: felt guilty once I saw how much he loved me

1238
00:54:16,960 --> 00:54:19,479
Speaker 1: and treated me, and I could see a future with him.

1239
00:54:19,680 --> 00:54:22,000
Speaker 1: Then her sister asked if something else happened later in

1240
00:54:22,000 --> 00:54:24,200
Speaker 1: the relationship, and my wife said, no, it was just

1241
00:54:24,239 --> 00:54:26,279
Speaker 1: that one time, and I wish I could forget about it.

1242
00:54:26,440 --> 00:54:28,640
Speaker 1: I haven't talked to her about this yet. I'm not

1243
00:54:28,640 --> 00:54:31,560
Speaker 1: try to approach it. I feel incredibly hurt, and I

1244
00:54:31,600 --> 00:54:35,120
Speaker 1: know confronting her right now may just worsen things again.

1245
00:54:35,560 --> 00:54:38,360
Speaker 1: I've never had a reason to suspect you cheated, but

1246
00:54:38,960 --> 00:54:41,560
Speaker 1: she hit this from me all these years, and now

1247
00:54:41,880 --> 00:54:44,720
Speaker 1: I just found out. It feels like she just cheated

1248
00:54:44,760 --> 00:54:47,680
Speaker 1: on me, and I'm really broken. He noticed I'm not

1249
00:54:47,719 --> 00:54:50,040
Speaker 1: myself these past few days, and I just missed it,

1250
00:54:50,080 --> 00:54:54,080
Speaker 1: saying it's just stress. But she knows me and you

1251
00:54:54,200 --> 00:54:56,520
Speaker 1: will keep trying to get an answer. I don't know

1252
00:54:56,560 --> 00:54:58,680
Speaker 1: what to do. Did I just try and forget what

1253
00:54:58,760 --> 00:55:01,000
Speaker 1: I heard. I don't know if I should talk to

1254
00:55:01,040 --> 00:55:04,600
Speaker 1: her right now or process it in therapy first. We

1255
00:55:04,680 --> 00:55:07,000
Speaker 1: haven't edit I had this happened to a family member once.

1256
00:55:07,239 --> 00:55:10,320
Speaker 1: Really yep, their partner cheating on them and they found

1257
00:55:10,320 --> 00:55:11,319
Speaker 1: out like ten years later.

1258
00:55:11,560 --> 00:55:14,759
Speaker 2: Oh really yeah, and they.

1259
00:55:14,680 --> 00:55:18,319
Speaker 1: Still stay together through a very hard time. But did

1260
00:55:18,320 --> 00:55:20,279
Speaker 1: they say that that they don't have kids right now?

1261
00:55:20,400 --> 00:55:23,440
Speaker 1: Right of you? I don't think, Okay, okay, I think

1262
00:55:23,480 --> 00:55:26,440
Speaker 1: they were trying to have kids. But now he's stuck.

1263
00:55:26,680 --> 00:55:28,320
Speaker 1: Do we break up? Do divorce?

1264
00:55:30,040 --> 00:55:34,160
Speaker 4: I mean maybe, like maybe that's on the table, because, like,

1265
00:55:34,160 --> 00:55:36,200
Speaker 4: like you said, yeah, it feels like you just got

1266
00:55:36,280 --> 00:55:40,160
Speaker 4: cheated on. Like I remember, Oh, I spilled my burrito

1267
00:55:40,280 --> 00:55:44,200
Speaker 4: on the couch on cleaned it up. I'm sorry, but yeah,

1268
00:55:44,200 --> 00:55:46,680
Speaker 4: it's like it it hurts. I remember like leaving a

1269
00:55:46,680 --> 00:55:49,960
Speaker 4: relationship and then like nine months later I realized that

1270
00:55:50,040 --> 00:55:52,839
Speaker 4: he like definitely probably cheated on me. And even though

1271
00:55:52,880 --> 00:55:56,080
Speaker 4: I was like very happy to not be with him anymore,

1272
00:55:56,120 --> 00:55:58,880
Speaker 4: I was still like hurt so much by that.

1273
00:55:59,000 --> 00:56:00,920
Speaker 2: And he's not, you know what I mean, way out

1274
00:56:00,920 --> 00:56:03,640
Speaker 2: of the picture. So it's like it's still like it

1275
00:56:03,760 --> 00:56:04,320
Speaker 2: still gets you.

1276
00:56:04,440 --> 00:56:06,120
Speaker 4: But then if you're still with that person and they

1277
00:56:06,520 --> 00:56:09,120
Speaker 4: haven't even given you a hint that they might have cheated,

1278
00:56:09,400 --> 00:56:15,680
Speaker 4: like they are that trustworthy while actively like had been

1279
00:56:15,800 --> 00:56:18,480
Speaker 4: keeping the secret this whole time. Mm hmmm, that's a

1280
00:56:18,640 --> 00:56:21,040
Speaker 4: that's a even more trust that's being broken.

1281
00:56:21,480 --> 00:56:23,640
Speaker 1: Got net it? I decided it will talk to her,

1282
00:56:23,719 --> 00:56:26,160
Speaker 1: but not right now. I'm so very upset, and I

1283
00:56:26,200 --> 00:56:28,640
Speaker 1: don't want this to turn into a shouting match. I

1284
00:56:28,680 --> 00:56:30,960
Speaker 1: want it to be a conversation, not a fight. I

1285
00:56:30,960 --> 00:56:33,080
Speaker 1: have a therapy session today and I will speak with

1286
00:56:33,120 --> 00:56:35,480
Speaker 1: my therapist about it. Hopefully it will help me start

1287
00:56:35,480 --> 00:56:38,040
Speaker 1: this conversation with my wife. Had I known she cheated

1288
00:56:38,040 --> 00:56:40,279
Speaker 1: at the time, I would have definitely broke up with her.

1289
00:56:40,440 --> 00:56:42,920
Speaker 1: I understand everyone's saying, just leave, but this is the

1290
00:56:42,960 --> 00:56:45,680
Speaker 1: person I built my life with, the person who supported

1291
00:56:45,719 --> 00:56:48,080
Speaker 1: me in so many ways and helped me grow as

1292
00:56:48,120 --> 00:56:50,600
Speaker 1: a person and as a professional. Or I make any

1293
00:56:50,640 --> 00:56:53,560
Speaker 1: harsh decisions, I want to hear what she has to

1294
00:56:53,600 --> 00:56:56,360
Speaker 1: say about this. Then I will decide for myself what

1295
00:56:56,560 --> 00:57:00,279
Speaker 1: I will be willing to do going forward. No, I

1296
00:57:00,280 --> 00:57:02,840
Speaker 1: don't believe she cheated on me any other than this time.

1297
00:57:03,120 --> 00:57:05,279
Speaker 1: She never gave me any reasons to think she did.

1298
00:57:05,520 --> 00:57:08,480
Speaker 1: I've always had access to her phone, She's never secretive

1299
00:57:08,520 --> 00:57:10,960
Speaker 1: of anything, and we spent most of her free time together,

1300
00:57:11,360 --> 00:57:14,560
Speaker 1: But how do you answer? When I talked to her

1301
00:57:14,640 --> 00:57:18,320
Speaker 1: about it, will surely either confirm this or change it completely.

1302
00:57:18,760 --> 00:57:21,040
Speaker 1: We had an edit too. I talked to my therapist.

1303
00:57:21,240 --> 00:57:22,960
Speaker 1: It helped me a lot. My head is in a

1304
00:57:23,040 --> 00:57:24,960
Speaker 1: much better place now, and I will talk to my

1305
00:57:25,000 --> 00:57:28,680
Speaker 1: wife tonight. My decision on what will be my next

1306
00:57:28,720 --> 00:57:31,040
Speaker 1: steps we based on the way she reacts and responds

1307
00:57:31,080 --> 00:57:34,439
Speaker 1: to me. Also, people are assuming we aren't exclusive when

1308
00:57:34,480 --> 00:57:38,280
Speaker 1: the cheating happened, we were. Words were lost in translation

1309
00:57:38,640 --> 00:57:44,240
Speaker 1: after we started dating. Literally means Spanish, I believe in

1310
00:57:44,400 --> 00:57:47,120
Speaker 1: my mother's tongue, and this is something we say in

1311
00:57:47,160 --> 00:57:50,200
Speaker 1: my country only when couples are exclusive, which was in

1312
00:57:50,280 --> 00:57:53,880
Speaker 1: our case. We did have a phase of friends with benefits.

1313
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Speaker 1: Then we were both seeing other people, but we knew

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Speaker 1: about it. We have an update.

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Speaker 2: Oh wait, a secon have a little burrito. Wait a second,

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Speaker 2: she's eating a burrito.

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Speaker 1: What do you got to say?

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Speaker 4: We had a little bit of a friends with benefits

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Speaker 4: thing while we were seeing other people.

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Speaker 2: While we were both seeing other people.

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Speaker 1: So they were seeing other people and they said, hey,

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Speaker 1: now we're together. We're boyfriend girlfriend now.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but it said that.

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Speaker 4: We were We had a friends with benefits thing while

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Speaker 4: we were both seeing up.

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Speaker 1: So this is what happened. They were friends seeing each

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00:58:23,680 --> 00:58:28,080
Speaker 1: other messing around, friends with benefits, became exclusive. He then

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Speaker 1: hooked up with the other guy.

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Speaker 2: But Angie's implying that they were in relationships when I started,

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Speaker 2: so that's.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, So they basically like were cheating on their relationships

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Speaker 4: with each other it I.

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Speaker 2: Think she was implying that they were also seeing.

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Speaker 3: Other people at first, but then they became official, so

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Speaker 3: they were like seeing people officially, they were just kind

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Speaker 3: of dating around.

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Speaker 1: Okay, update anyway, after I made the post, I talked

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Speaker 1: to my therapist. She helped me put things in perspective

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00:58:54,680 --> 00:58:56,720
Speaker 1: and made me really think on what and how I

1340
00:58:56,800 --> 00:58:59,840
Speaker 1: value my relationship with my wife. She made me realize

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00:58:59,840 --> 00:59:02,160
Speaker 1: that and I really needed to have this conversation with

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Speaker 1: my wife, but not about the cheating itself, but how

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00:59:05,160 --> 00:59:08,040
Speaker 1: she hid it from me. Last night, I decided to

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00:59:08,040 --> 00:59:10,480
Speaker 1: speak with my wife. I've waited until we were both

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00:59:10,560 --> 00:59:13,440
Speaker 1: chilling and called her to our bedroom saying I needed

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Speaker 1: to talk. Tensed up and went with me, asked me

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00:59:16,280 --> 00:59:19,080
Speaker 1: what's wrong. We both sat on her bed and had

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Speaker 1: to hold myself together not to break down in front

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Speaker 1: of her. I said, I heard when she spoke to

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Speaker 1: her sister about the time she cheated when we started

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00:59:26,520 --> 00:59:30,600
Speaker 1: our relationship. Yes, we started being exclusive, I said. I

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00:59:30,680 --> 00:59:33,200
Speaker 1: was hurt a lot, but even more due to the

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00:59:33,240 --> 00:59:35,280
Speaker 1: fact that she hid it from me. I asked her

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00:59:35,280 --> 00:59:37,880
Speaker 1: why she did it and why she never told me anything.

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Speaker 1: She broke down crying in front of me. She said

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00:59:40,320 --> 00:59:44,040
Speaker 1: it was true, happened right after we became exclusive. She

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00:59:44,120 --> 00:59:46,919
Speaker 1: said that us being friends at the time and even

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Speaker 1: having a friends with benefit phase, made her fall in

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Speaker 1: love with me pretty fast. At the time, she had

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Speaker 1: some friends that kept encouraging her stay away from me

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Speaker 1: because she was getting too much attached and too fast,

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Speaker 1: and she needed to wait and have more fun before

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Speaker 1: going all in into another relationship. When I asked her

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Speaker 1: to be my girlfriend, he said, she really wanted to

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01:00:07,720 --> 01:00:10,760
Speaker 1: be together with me, so she said yes. But her

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01:00:10,920 --> 01:00:14,400
Speaker 1: being her words, a naive idiot at the time, she

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01:00:14,520 --> 01:00:18,240
Speaker 1: let herself get influenced by those friends and in one

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01:00:18,280 --> 01:00:21,600
Speaker 1: of those nights outs, he got wasted and ended up

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01:00:21,640 --> 01:00:24,680
Speaker 1: making out with the guy that worked with her in

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01:00:24,720 --> 01:00:27,040
Speaker 1: the lab. He said it was just a makeout and

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01:00:27,120 --> 01:00:31,280
Speaker 1: nothing spicy related. Happened. She swore she exaggerated the story

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01:00:31,360 --> 01:00:35,120
Speaker 1: to her sister, but they didn't have spicy sleep. She said.

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Speaker 1: She regretted it immediately and left the party for her

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01:00:37,800 --> 01:00:39,320
Speaker 1: home and cried all night.

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Speaker 4: Uh.

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01:00:40,400 --> 01:00:43,200
Speaker 1: Now, I don't like that that she exaggerated it to

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01:00:43,240 --> 01:00:46,160
Speaker 1: the sister and believe that she did. I don't believe that.

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01:00:46,840 --> 01:00:49,400
Speaker 1: I think we should call the guy or become friends

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01:00:49,400 --> 01:00:50,600
Speaker 1: with the guy and trying to get out.

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Speaker 2: Of him from ten years.

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01:00:52,400 --> 01:00:55,560
Speaker 1: Ago, plan a seed, plan a guy beside of him.

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Speaker 1: You could try disguise yourself and then be like, hey,

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01:00:58,680 --> 01:01:02,120
Speaker 1: you ever see this guy. Oh yeah, yeah we made

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01:01:02,120 --> 01:01:04,400
Speaker 1: out once, or oh yeah me and her hooked up. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I don't know why she would exaggerate for her sister though,

1386
01:01:07,160 --> 01:01:09,080
Speaker 4: because his sister didn't actually cheat, right, she was just

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01:01:09,160 --> 01:01:10,160
Speaker 4: like thinking about cheating.

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Speaker 2: So it's not like she was like, oh, no, I

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01:01:12,200 --> 01:01:12,960
Speaker 2: slept with someone.

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Speaker 4: Ah, and then their little wife is like, oh, it's okay,

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01:01:16,480 --> 01:01:18,560
Speaker 4: I did that too, you know what I mean.

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01:01:18,600 --> 01:01:21,120
Speaker 2: It's like you you didn't have to do that.

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01:01:21,320 --> 01:01:24,200
Speaker 1: Like what I said, It was a relevant if they

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01:01:24,240 --> 01:01:26,520
Speaker 1: had spicy sleep or not. It was the fact that

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01:01:26,560 --> 01:01:29,080
Speaker 1: she kept this hidden from me that hurts the most

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01:01:29,560 --> 01:01:32,600
Speaker 1: right again and said it was wrong of her and

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01:01:32,960 --> 01:01:35,280
Speaker 1: it was a stupid mistake. You just want to pretend

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01:01:35,280 --> 01:01:38,000
Speaker 1: it never happened. Said she was afraid I was going

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01:01:38,040 --> 01:01:40,120
Speaker 1: to leave her for something so stupid and did not

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01:01:40,160 --> 01:01:42,479
Speaker 1: have the courage to tell me. She swore she loved

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01:01:42,520 --> 01:01:45,200
Speaker 1: me and never felt anything for anyone else after we

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01:01:45,240 --> 01:01:48,720
Speaker 1: got together. Then she begs me to forgive her again,

1403
01:01:49,000 --> 01:01:51,000
Speaker 1: saying it was a stupid mistake out of a young

1404
01:01:51,040 --> 01:01:53,760
Speaker 1: and naive girl who has gotten out of the bad

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01:01:53,800 --> 01:01:57,160
Speaker 1: relationship and let herself be influenced by bad friends. I

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01:01:57,200 --> 01:01:59,720
Speaker 1: felt she was honest, and I mean it. I believe

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01:01:59,720 --> 01:02:03,560
Speaker 1: every word of her, and I feel he genuinely regrets

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01:02:03,600 --> 01:02:05,720
Speaker 1: what has happened. We have a little bit of laugh girls,

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01:02:05,760 --> 01:02:11,160
Speaker 1: What do you got to say? Yeah, he's liar, liar?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Like if you if you really think that you

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01:02:13,520 --> 01:02:15,640
Speaker 4: could still work this out, and you want to still

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01:02:15,640 --> 01:02:18,600
Speaker 4: work this out, then that would be great if you could.

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01:02:18,880 --> 01:02:20,400
Speaker 4: But I mean, if she's been lying to you this

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01:02:20,440 --> 01:02:23,680
Speaker 4: whole time, and then I mean, maybe she's telling the

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01:02:23,720 --> 01:02:24,400
Speaker 4: Jeri about not.

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01:02:24,360 --> 01:02:27,640
Speaker 2: Actually hooking up with him. Maybe, but I don't believe it.

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01:02:27,720 --> 01:02:30,760
Speaker 2: So if if she's lying then she's lying to you

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01:02:30,800 --> 01:02:31,840
Speaker 2: again right now.

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Speaker 4: She had a second chance, had so many chances all

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01:02:35,240 --> 01:02:37,720
Speaker 4: of these years to not lie to you about this,

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01:02:38,400 --> 01:02:40,000
Speaker 4: and she's literally you're confronting her.

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01:02:40,120 --> 01:02:41,680
Speaker 2: She's had another chance that she's down't go away.

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01:02:41,920 --> 01:02:46,880
Speaker 1: Caylen says, funny, how she's not taking accountability. Yeah, yeah,

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01:02:46,320 --> 01:02:48,520
Speaker 1: she's my friend said it. I was just gonna have

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01:02:48,560 --> 01:02:52,720
Speaker 1: a bad relationship. I'm just hearing. I'm truly sorry.

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01:02:52,840 --> 01:02:55,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like, no, you were an adult. You were

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01:02:56,080 --> 01:02:59,000
Speaker 4: aware of your actions. I know you're wasted, but you

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01:02:59,000 --> 01:03:01,360
Speaker 4: were still in control, and so you did it.

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01:03:01,600 --> 01:03:04,760
Speaker 1: Back to the story, said, I forgive her, but I

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01:03:04,800 --> 01:03:06,760
Speaker 1: want to be able to celebrate the date of our

1431
01:03:06,800 --> 01:03:10,120
Speaker 1: start again. So we decided to pick another date. We

1432
01:03:10,160 --> 01:03:13,040
Speaker 1: now celebrate our marriage anniversary and the date we moved

1433
01:03:13,080 --> 01:03:16,040
Speaker 1: in together. We deflated like a balloon after we spoke.

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01:03:16,320 --> 01:03:19,040
Speaker 1: We said it was tormenting her to keep the secret.

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01:03:19,400 --> 01:03:22,400
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie say. The situation did not leave

1436
01:03:22,440 --> 01:03:25,800
Speaker 1: a mark in our relationship. It did. Things definitely shifted,

1437
01:03:26,200 --> 01:03:28,200
Speaker 1: but not in a we need to end things kind

1438
01:03:28,200 --> 01:03:31,360
Speaker 1: of way. Talking to her really did me good and

1439
01:03:31,400 --> 01:03:33,600
Speaker 1: I love her more than anything, even though it hurt

1440
01:03:33,800 --> 01:03:35,760
Speaker 1: I'm now certain we will both be able to navigate

1441
01:03:35,800 --> 01:03:39,640
Speaker 1: this together. That's the end of that story. Wow, beautiful,

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01:03:39,920 --> 01:03:43,880
Speaker 1: this makes cheating makes relationships strongers. Guys, if you want

1443
01:03:43,880 --> 01:03:46,600
Speaker 1: your relationship to be stronger, maybe go cheat and get

1444
01:03:46,640 --> 01:03:47,120
Speaker 1: back together.

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01:03:47,320 --> 01:03:48,520
Speaker 2: Well well.

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01:03:50,200 --> 01:03:53,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, it makes ten percent of relationship stronger because the

1447
01:03:53,880 --> 01:03:55,240
Speaker 1: ninety percent of people leave.

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01:03:57,000 --> 01:03:59,920
Speaker 2: All right, Well, sir, roll the dice.

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01:04:00,080 --> 01:04:02,160
Speaker 1: Were That's my PSA for the day. But guys, AT's

1450
01:04:02,160 --> 01:04:02,800
Speaker 1: the end of the story.

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01:04:03,000 --> 01:04:04,080
Speaker 2: That's the end of that story.

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01:04:03,960 --> 01:04:06,520
Speaker 1: And the end of the episode. So if you love us,

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01:04:06,520 --> 01:04:09,840
Speaker 1: make sure to subscribe. We love you and see you tomorrow.