Speaker 1: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices.
Speaker 2: I'm Nila and I'm Erica and this is a two
Speaker 2: part episode, y'all.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we met up with the homies of Black Girls
Speaker 3: Texting in New York, but we didn't go to New York,
Speaker 3: but you know, you know what I mean. And we
Speaker 3: recorded a long ass episode with the ladies, a very
Speaker 3: very good one. The first one is on their web
Speaker 3: on their platform, so you want to make sure to
Speaker 3: go follow Black Girls Texting on all podcast platforms to
Speaker 3: hear part one of this episode.
Speaker 1: The part two.
Speaker 3: I think we're just gonna like, we haven't talked to
Speaker 3: you guys in a minute, and like we don't normally
Speaker 3: do this where we talk first and then we like
Speaker 3: intro into an episode.
Speaker 1: But we got a lot of catching up to do.
Speaker 4: But fuck it, Weed a boss, We a boss.
Speaker 1: So how is your weekend that's been going on with you, Henny?
Speaker 1: This weekend was your daughter's birthday?
Speaker 3: Yes it was, and so you know, my daughter was
Speaker 3: in full Like I want to wait, what is Luna doing?
Speaker 3: Like the moment was Friday, It was calling Jamila stressing
Speaker 3: her out, Like what what are we doing?
Speaker 1: Because my daughter was stressing me the fuck out.
Speaker 2: She remembered, Oh my god, yes're texting me like eight
Speaker 2: o'clock in the morning, like what's the plan?
Speaker 1: What are we doing.
Speaker 2: I'm like, calm down, Okay, we're doing something, just let
Speaker 2: me wake up first.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she was very excited. Our kids had a two
Speaker 3: day sleepover.
Speaker 2: Yes, I try to make it a point on birthdays
Speaker 2: to do slumber parties.
Speaker 1: I think I'm gonna stop that this year. This is
Speaker 1: gonna be a lot.
Speaker 3: Honestly, I I'm so I'm I commend you because I
Speaker 3: was so happy to leave my kid with you, i know,
Speaker 3: and all those screaming ass kids.
Speaker 1: There was literally like.
Speaker 3: Seven kids at Jamila's house and I was like, wow,
Speaker 3: this is I'm so glad.
Speaker 1: I'm not staying here. And I was like, I hope
Speaker 1: she doesn't asked me to stay, Like I hope, like
Speaker 1: you got it on there really quickly.
Speaker 3: I was like, I hope she's not like you're my
Speaker 3: best friend, you'd say it. I was like, I bet
Speaker 3: she got like four other best friends. So I'm really
Speaker 3: glad that I was not on like baby duty. Shout
Speaker 3: out to Alana because she stayed.
Speaker 1: I was like, you have to know which best friend
Speaker 1: you could ask for what. Eric is not the one
Speaker 1: to ask to join you for a sleepover with five children. No.
Speaker 2: Luckily, my other best friend Alana was probably because two
Speaker 2: of the seven were hers, right, So we had a
Speaker 2: really good time. I like to I finally got my
Speaker 2: place semi together, mostly together. I'm pretty proud of myself.
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna take it. I'm just gonna say, I'm
Speaker 2: proud of you. It's as cute as I have gotten
Speaker 2: the place and like basically eighty five percent fully furnished
Speaker 2: my own apartment, and like o days, I've be on
Speaker 2: a like fucking serious hustle. I've been trying to get
Speaker 2: her room together before her birthday and surprise her. I've
Speaker 2: been trying to get my own shit together so I
Speaker 2: feel like I'm at home so I could stay there.
Speaker 1: So I've done that in the works. Do you need
Speaker 1: some others? Some a little bit of shit, but for
Speaker 1: the most part all me. Baby, Yeah, it looks good.
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, home good.
Speaker 3: So if you've been following us, if you follow us
Speaker 3: on Instagram, then you know we have been home goodding
Speaker 3: our fucking life away. Like every opportunity we get or
Speaker 3: can get to go to.
Speaker 1: A different home goods in the valley. We've gone. I've
Speaker 1: literally been on a home goods tour for the past
Speaker 1: two weeks. It's literally our date night.
Speaker 2: We have had date night at home goods far too
Speaker 2: many times and it's amazing.
Speaker 3: One night we even made Margarita's which, oh, by the way,
Speaker 3: today is actually today, but today is officially.
Speaker 1: I'm not smoking. I'm not sorry I'm smoking.
Speaker 3: I just saw you got what your lip was trembling
Speaker 3: when I said that, You're like your face.
Speaker 2: As I look it over, I pull out a blunt
Speaker 2: from my purse and she says, I'm not smoking.
Speaker 1: Like, what what I meant to say is not drinking.
Speaker 3: I'm going to take a break from drinking until the
Speaker 3: new year, to be hard, because the holidays are around.
Speaker 3: I want to like drink and do those things, but
Speaker 3: I feel like in my thirties, I have to pick
Speaker 3: my poison.
Speaker 1: I'm starting to like, I'm starting to see my face
Speaker 1: age like it's freaking me the fuck out. And I
Speaker 1: have some lines, like my smile lines, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh no, I.
Speaker 3: Mean I've always have the smile lines, but I'm like,
Speaker 3: I literally feel like it's my skin is thinning.
Speaker 1: Also, this vein in my forehead seems like super intense.
Speaker 1: Do you see it. No, that's not a vein, that's skin. Okay,
Speaker 1: it's wrinkling. And that's like a frown. It's wrinkling. Yeah,
Speaker 1: over aging, and you're not gonna drink anymore.
Speaker 5: Oh.
Speaker 3: I saw a picture of j Lo for a fucking
Speaker 3: new single. She's fifty seven years old. She doesn't drink.
Speaker 1: She doesn't know. There's a reason why Jaylo looks the
Speaker 1: way she doesn't drink. Is that what it is doesn't drink.
Speaker 3: Everyone that I know that doesn't really drink just looks
Speaker 3: better overall, like just period. So I know that drinking forever,
Speaker 3: not drinking forever is probably not a true possibility for me. However,
Speaker 3: hiatuses are and I feel like I got to take
Speaker 3: little hiatus and maybe if I start seeing the results
Speaker 3: of my hiatus, I will feel less inclined to drink.
Speaker 3: But I think over the last few months, I've been
Speaker 3: drinking a lot, and I've been stressed and stuff for
Speaker 3: different for different reasons or whatever, and I was just like, yeah,
Speaker 3: you know, I'm gonna cut the drinking and just stick
Speaker 3: to the smoking. And I'm about to do a little
Speaker 3: cleans because Thanksgiving, I don't.
Speaker 1: Do a juice cleans every time. For the last three years,
Speaker 1: I've said I'm gonna do it with you, and I'm
Speaker 1: just gonna do a short one. I'm gonna do three
Speaker 1: day cleans. What are you doing?
Speaker 3: Maybe getting back on my vegetarian pescatarian shit because guys,
Speaker 3: I haven't updated the tribe.
Speaker 1: But I'm single.
Speaker 3: I am newly single, and due to the fact that
Speaker 3: I'm single, I no longer have to ingest copious amounts
Speaker 3: of beef and chicken because my partner that's all he
Speaker 3: eats or eat, and so now there's.
Speaker 1: A lot of bacon, lots so much bacon. I was like, wait, yet,
Speaker 1: last week you're a vegetarian. This week you got a
Speaker 1: new nigga. No, your pork a feeder.
Speaker 3: You always knew pork was my gateweight. I know you
Speaker 3: do love por Pork is my gateway meat drug. It's
Speaker 3: not pork, it's bacon, specifically bake. I don't like ham
Speaker 3: and like all that other shit. But yeah, I just
Speaker 3: I looked in the mirror and I was like, I
Speaker 3: don't look my best like I don't and it's not
Speaker 3: even about weight. It's just like I feel like my skin,
Speaker 3: like there's a clarity that happens when all the things
Speaker 3: are aligned and working well, and it's not aligned and
Speaker 3: working well.
Speaker 2: Like a week ago, I drank way too much, really
Speaker 2: got really drunk, like really drunk, like I'm I remembered,
Speaker 2: and then I just suddenly don't remember. And apparently I
Speaker 2: was making out with my homegirl that we don't make out,
Speaker 2: and like the next day, I was so fucking sick.
Speaker 1: I have not been that sick in a long while,
Speaker 1: and I was like I was.
Speaker 2: Crouching over the toilet and telling God, I'm never going
Speaker 2: to drink till twenty twenty one. Three days later I drank.
Speaker 2: So I'm not going to just sit here and lie
Speaker 2: to everyone and to myself. I'm not going to drink
Speaker 2: like that anymore. I'm definitely not gonna drink like I'm twenty.
Speaker 2: I'm definitely not gonna drink an empty stomach, and I'm
Speaker 2: definitely not drinking whiskey for a long while.
Speaker 1: But you know, I'm just.
Speaker 2: Gonna work my way in between drinking less so then
Speaker 2: when the new year comes that I will be drinking less.
Speaker 2: And because I just know myself, and I know the
Speaker 2: holiday is coming. I'm going to Mexico soon. I'm going
Speaker 2: to drink, but I'm going to drink less and I'm
Speaker 2: going to drink more precautiously.
Speaker 1: And I'm going to do the three day detox with you.
Speaker 2: No, I do because I've been wanting to do that
Speaker 2: for a long time. And I have a juicer three
Speaker 2: to five days and we go to food for Less
Speaker 2: and get our ship. Also, let me order some jars
Speaker 2: on Amazon and it's done. We've got it under control.
Speaker 2: I think I want to do it nice months.
Speaker 1: Oh for jars? Okay, great.
Speaker 2: Anyway, Yes, Erica and I because our lives are perfectly
Speaker 2: aligned in the universe, we are universal sisters.
Speaker 1: We are both single, and.
Speaker 2: Just for the record, I'm so happy, not that we're
Speaker 2: both single or that her relationship didn't work out, but
Speaker 2: just that she's happy.
Speaker 1: Exact. You can see her face. You have to join
Speaker 1: patroon Smila's face right now.
Speaker 2: If you're happy, I'm happyest. I was happy when you
Speaker 2: were happy, but when you weren't happy, it was annoying.
Speaker 1: Me because I knew that wasn't the situation for you.
Speaker 2: And I was being cool because I'm a nice friend
Speaker 2: and I was just chilling in the corner.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I'm happy to know.
Speaker 3: I love how my friend's tiptoe around shit with me,
Speaker 3: whereas like I don't do I don't do that, but
Speaker 3: for some reason, my.
Speaker 1: Friends feel like they have to just say no. I
Speaker 1: wasn't saying tiptoe. I wasn't saying that.
Speaker 2: I was being particular about how I was going to
Speaker 2: approach the situation because bitches get real sensitive when they're
Speaker 2: in love and when Dick is involved. And I've had
Speaker 2: situations with other best friends where Dick was involved and
Speaker 2: it didn't go well, and so I know to tread
Speaker 2: lightly when Dick is involved.
Speaker 1: Now I know you are a more sane friend, so
Speaker 1: I'm not tripping.
Speaker 2: But also, I don't have to tell you how I
Speaker 2: feel because you already know how I feel because you
Speaker 2: know me.
Speaker 1: And I told you this before. I wasn't tiptoeing.
Speaker 2: But never, ever, not once, did you say what do
Speaker 2: you think, Mila, because you knew what I thought, So
Speaker 2: I asked.
Speaker 3: Your opinion on things. For sure, I did, maybe not
Speaker 3: the overall relationship.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, don't you.
Speaker 2: Know I told you the beginning I was like, I'm
Speaker 2: going to tell you how this is going to go
Speaker 2: for me, I'm not going to be feeling it.
Speaker 1: I could tell, and I left it at that, and
Speaker 1: then I was just like, hey, I'm nice. But overall,
Speaker 1: you know.
Speaker 2: Sometimes the thing is sometimes your friends be hating, but
Speaker 2: when you got good friends, most of the time your
Speaker 2: friends be knowing.
Speaker 1: Your friends be knowing because if your friends know you.
Speaker 2: But anyway I have, I'm finally being more sane and
Speaker 2: really putting two feet into my single theom and I'm
Speaker 2: feeling really good about it.
Speaker 1: I know you're a little bit newer in the pond.
Speaker 2: I mean, so you know, a little bit newer in
Speaker 2: the single pond than I am this round, but it's
Speaker 2: actually the time.
Speaker 1: It just really makes things better.
Speaker 2: I've you know, I went to Tennessee to see an
Speaker 2: Internet bay, which was a great trip and you can
Speaker 2: also learn about that more on Patreon. I recently, Oh
Speaker 2: Orlando from Harder Soft podcast came out here. We hung out,
Speaker 2: did all types of cool date night stuff and it
Speaker 2: just reminded me like, I like doing me whenever I want,
Speaker 2: with whoever I want, and don't call me because I'm
Speaker 2: not answering. I just yeah, I'm like really thriving in
Speaker 2: that space right now, just like I'm loving myself and
Speaker 2: appreciating myself and saying fuck the bullshit, you know, and
Speaker 2: also being super super honest with people that I'm dating,
Speaker 2: because I.
Speaker 1: Think once feelings start to develop, it's easy.
Speaker 2: To curve the truth, especially when it's about you, like
Speaker 2: when it's things that don't make you look that good.
Speaker 2: But I'm like, I don't care because I'm gonna just
Speaker 2: like I'm not perfect, Like, yeah, I cheated on my
Speaker 2: last X, Yeah twice doesn't make me look great, but
Speaker 2: this is what it is. I'd be fucking up and
Speaker 2: you could you could take it or you could leave it.
Speaker 2: And then I also feel like the people who can
Speaker 2: take it, they're gonna be there and they're gonna like
Speaker 2: be looking forward to who you're becoming and not so
Speaker 2: much the things that you've done previously.
Speaker 1: Right, So yeah, that's my update. How's your.
Speaker 3: I mean, being single has been whatever, It's fine. I'm
Speaker 3: really not in the space to be, you know, out
Speaker 3: there like that at all, really at all.
Speaker 1: I'm kind of just like.
Speaker 3: Oh, guys, I know I said, I'm not on like
Speaker 3: fuck niggas anymore.
Speaker 1: And like we shouldn't say nagas.
Speaker 5: Like honestly, fuck them, fuck them, fuck them, not all
Speaker 5: of them, but like.
Speaker 1: There's like two specific ones, two specifically.
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe there's actually three, but we're gonna just with
Speaker 2: the top top three older top.
Speaker 3: There's two people that are are the top two ranks
Speaker 3: of the fuck Nigga List.
Speaker 2: They're like, if you put up the fuck Niggas List,
Speaker 2: their faces pop up.
Speaker 3: It's like, yeah, damn, sucks to be you. So I've
Speaker 3: been like trying to like breathe through that. I'm like,
Speaker 3: you know what, it's fine, it's cool, it's all good.
Speaker 3: But it's been a challenging like week and a half
Speaker 3: between like breaking up with the boyfriend and then dealing
Speaker 3: with some other bullshit. I have had to like I
Speaker 3: feel like I've been like over eating too. I realize,
Speaker 3: like that's a thing that I do, Like when I
Speaker 3: am stressed, I like eat, I pick my face. I
Speaker 3: can't stop eating, like I'll i'll like eat and drinking and.
Speaker 1: It's like fucked up. It's like it's like borderline.
Speaker 3: I don't want to say eating disorder because that's not
Speaker 3: like that's not something you should just throw around.
Speaker 1: But like I don't know, I.
Speaker 3: Just noticed myself doing a weird shit, like I'll just eat,
Speaker 3: like wake up in the middle of the night and
Speaker 3: just like eat.
Speaker 1: Like a lot of food for no reason. You're it,
Speaker 1: You're only a secret sweet eater.
Speaker 3: I'm a secret eater period because like I'm in I
Speaker 3: get embarrassed by like, bitch just like just saw me
Speaker 3: eat like five hundred thousand things that I'm like gonna
Speaker 3: go in the kitchen.
Speaker 2: Meanwhile, I'm like, do you want to order more food?
Speaker 3: But that's been like contributing to me not feeling well
Speaker 3: and then the drinking. So I just feel like I
Speaker 3: need to like be more healthy because I have so
Speaker 3: many great, amazing things happening in my life. I was
Speaker 3: literally driving the other day and I was thinking about us,
Speaker 3: and I was thinking about my daughter and how like
Speaker 3: how like smart she is and how bright she is,
Speaker 3: and how much I fucking love her. It's had like
Speaker 3: I think I've talked about this before, Like I had
Speaker 3: this moment where like it's like all of a sudden,
Speaker 3: it's like I unlocked another like dimension of how much
Speaker 3: I fucking love her. And it was like that moment
Speaker 3: I was like I just love her so much, and
Speaker 3: I was like, you know what, fuck all this other shit,
Speaker 3: because nothing else matters. I'm good, I'm healthy, my family's healthy.
Speaker 3: All this other shit will get worked out and that's it.
Speaker 3: Other than that. Oh, this weekend, me and Jamila went
Speaker 3: to see the Mike Tyson Roy Roy Jones Junior fight.
Speaker 1: We went to see outside. We went to go see outside.
Speaker 1: We heard they were gonna be strippers.
Speaker 3: And if you know me and Jamila, if you if
Speaker 3: the word strip just comes out of your mouth, where
Speaker 3: they were are they?
Speaker 1: And I have not been to a strip club.
Speaker 3: In probably about a year now, and I really really
Speaker 3: really really really really like strippers.
Speaker 1: I've almost now finished ones from the party, not all
Speaker 1: of them, but every time I go to a store
Speaker 1: and news them, I'm like, I'm not a dancer. Take
Speaker 1: all these ones.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we got invited to this little party actually down
Speaker 3: the street from my house.
Speaker 1: It was super convenient.
Speaker 3: We had Uncle Sebastian and Uncle Josh come over and
Speaker 3: watch our kids for like four hours so that we
Speaker 3: could go get ratchet real quick in COVID safe environment.
Speaker 1: We met up with Jessica Rose.
Speaker 2: Shout out to Jessica because she's our fellow ratchet.
Speaker 1: Oh I love her. I love her. Yeah, they act.
Speaker 1: And also they left me at the party. Oh my god.
Speaker 1: Literally we went to the party. They were there for
Speaker 1: like fifteen minutes. You were not supposed to, like tell
Speaker 1: the whole.
Speaker 3: I'm just saying, fifteen minutes. I look up, Do you
Speaker 3: may to go get something out of my car? I
Speaker 3: thought no, I said, she's gonna go get alcohol. We're
Speaker 3: gonna go buy Hennessy.
Speaker 1: There was no more Hennessy, just going to Hennessy. I
Speaker 1: offered to take her and then we did. Then they
Speaker 1: were gone for an hour and a half.
Speaker 2: It was like an hour, and we did a small
Speaker 2: detour to somebody's house all the way.
Speaker 1: In North Hollywood.
Speaker 3: We came back and apparently while we were gone, I
Speaker 3: had to put on a shovel.
Speaker 2: I missed her doing the splits, the moving splits across
Speaker 2: the floor.
Speaker 1: So I'm pissed that I missed that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so yeah, I started dancing with this girl and
Speaker 3: then like she was just like literally she was actually
Speaker 3: must have had the strongest ass in knees ever, because
Speaker 3: like I was behind her and then she got down
Speaker 3: and she was twrking and she was torking me backwards,
Speaker 3: Like I just kept like going backwards backwards, but we
Speaker 3: literally like probably cleared at least like ten feet all
Speaker 3: the way back.
Speaker 1: That's talent. I'm gonna have to let me see if
Speaker 1: we do so. I should have got paid. I should
Speaker 1: were my ones, I am? She kept some of those ones?
Speaker 1: You were smart? Also, those were my ones? You know that, right?
Speaker 1: I got those ones you did yes before I left?
Speaker 1: What yeah? And that good thing I left? Wow? What
Speaker 1: an ethical stripper partygoer I am. I try to support
Speaker 1: when I can.
Speaker 2: Oh, speaking of single them and drinking and reflection, it
Speaker 2: was just because I'm newly single and because I'm like
Speaker 2: in a new space. Like literally I'm just like really
Speaker 2: noticing my how I move, and I'm thinking, like I
Speaker 2: love love so much, like am I am? I always
Speaker 2: looking for new prospects maybe a little bit.
Speaker 1: I like love a lot. I like attention. I like
Speaker 1: to give love and attention.
Speaker 2: But also I'm working on like cutting that off a
Speaker 2: little bit, because like you can't love everybody everybody.
Speaker 3: And I'm noticing, like, how do you have enough love
Speaker 3: for yourself if you're giving it all away?
Speaker 1: Now, Like giving people love brings me joy.
Speaker 2: However, I just realized that, like, the type of love
Speaker 2: that I offer is very it's very luxury.
Speaker 3: It's high end, high end love, and it's who loves.
Speaker 1: It's very hot to get. Everyone loves it. I want more.
Speaker 1: It's the ax of all loves. The black car. My
Speaker 1: love is the black card. You know, everybody can't. You can't.
Speaker 1: Everyone applies for the black card. Everybody can't get it.
Speaker 2: Again, everybody wants the black cart, but everybody doesn't make
Speaker 2: all the requirements. Limited cardholders to the Black card, denied
Speaker 2: to the Black love, get your credit score up.
Speaker 1: And also it's very addicting.
Speaker 2: I know I'm infectious, you know, like I love that way,
Speaker 2: like even in kind of casual situations, just like I'm
Speaker 2: going to give you the girlfriend experience. So I just
Speaker 2: want to be more cautious of who I'm sharing my
Speaker 2: energy with and vice versa, and really just like spending
Speaker 2: energy with myself.
Speaker 1: I realize I could avoid that a lot. So now
Speaker 1: that I'm alone in my nearly furnished home, I shall
Speaker 1: reflect on that and sit, sit, sit sit. I don't
Speaker 1: know what my future dating looks like. I don't want
Speaker 1: to know. That's another thing. Yeah, I come to this discovery.
Speaker 1: I don't want to know. I just want to like
Speaker 1: you right now. We like each other right now, right right,
Speaker 1: What time is it? At three eleven?
Speaker 2: I don't want to think about all that other shit,
Speaker 2: and I don't even care what you're doing when you
Speaker 2: leave about of here. Just be safe, don't get on
Speaker 2: my nerves, and give me love and attention.
Speaker 3: Thanks amen, Amen. Speaking of love and affection, I think
Speaker 3: this is a good time to intro into our episode,
Speaker 3: Black Girl's Texting. So the ladies over at Black Girls Texting,
Speaker 3: first of all, are fucking hilarious and amazing and amazing.
Speaker 1: And you know, you never like when you when.
Speaker 3: We have a conversation, like if if you have a
Speaker 3: podcast or you started one that you know, sometimes you
Speaker 3: like reach out to people you never talk to ever
Speaker 3: and the first time you ever speak is on the
Speaker 3: mic and you just kind of like, oh shit, okay,
Speaker 3: so you don't really I don't. I don't have any
Speaker 3: preconceived notions of like, well, who anybody is, and like
Speaker 3: I get to know you right then and there, which
Speaker 3: is like part of the amazing you know, that's just
Speaker 3: part of like the joy of podcasting.
Speaker 1: But sitting down with these ladies was really cool.
Speaker 3: I had it like I was dying to like kind
Speaker 3: of like understand each of their personality.
Speaker 1: Right, they're dynamic together.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's true that if they revealed themselves and it's amazing.
Speaker 3: So we're starting off this episode a little bit untraditional,
Speaker 3: just like we did at the top of this episode
Speaker 3: by talking to you.
Speaker 1: With a poor story.
Speaker 3: Two of the ladies of a blussless texting share a
Speaker 3: poor story that they were both attended to, and it
Speaker 3: was It's amazing, It was really good.
Speaker 2: Make sure you catch part one of this episode on
Speaker 2: Black Girl's texting.
Speaker 1: Enjoy what happened? This sounds like a horr. Did you
Speaker 1: have this? Sounds like a horry? We ran a train
Speaker 1: on this dude? Yeah? Sure, Joy that y'all shared. Just
Speaker 1: see our faces.
Speaker 4: What happened was Glenn was seeing this dude who I
Speaker 4: just thought was so fine and I and I and
Speaker 4: I was like, yo, Glenn.
Speaker 1: Like past, she woudn't have done that.
Speaker 6: Gun.
Speaker 4: I was like, Glenn, past that, let me just experience
Speaker 4: that he's fine. And she was like no, no, no,
Speaker 4: I don't have Yo, Glenn, that's not your nigga.
Speaker 1: Y'all are just fucking like.
Speaker 4: Past that, like let me yeah that I'm shut it.
Speaker 3: Is shut it. She tried to do this to one
Speaker 3: of my girls and I was like, can you your.
Speaker 1: Girl, I said. I was in the back like Glenn, No,
Speaker 1: don't do it, Glenn, don't.
Speaker 4: But I asked for consent, right, I asked, because there
Speaker 4: are shady bitches that.
Speaker 1: Will just go fuck your nigga. I don't. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: ask you. I'm gonna ask you.
Speaker 4: And she was like, well, only if I'm there, and
Speaker 4: I was like, say, let's.
Speaker 1: All right, cool, And.
Speaker 7: Then we all got black out during like a snowstorm.
Speaker 7: I was twelve people in my apartment. We were all
Speaker 7: like snorting xanax and we were.
Speaker 1: Not snorting xanax.
Speaker 5: I was.
Speaker 1: I don't know, I was snorting something cushed up snorting.
Speaker 3: No.
Speaker 1: I took it with a mimosa. I will say, Gladys
Speaker 1: exaggerating over her, maybe because you were saying this story.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I mean.
Speaker 7: The thing that was interesting though, was, as I said,
Speaker 7: like me and this guy had just been messing around
Speaker 7: for mad long, but.
Speaker 1: Then all of us are together.
Speaker 7: It was just weird because I was trying to engage,
Speaker 7: was weirded out by it, so do.
Speaker 3: Women your time were trying to flirt with like you
Speaker 3: were trying to Yeah, we're joining this and she was like,
Speaker 3: this is transactional.
Speaker 1: I just want this to correct.
Speaker 7: But funnily enough, it wasn't her first time because only
Speaker 7: some months prayer she and Chelsea.
Speaker 2: A flashing from the living room like she's all fucking innocent.
Speaker 1: Yeah right, my wifeends sleep in the next room.
Speaker 4: Here's the thing when you have a podcast and friend
Speaker 4: on top of being like a pillow princess. Okay, I
Speaker 4: love women, but the type of women I love I
Speaker 4: think y'all are beautiful. But John know, the type of
Speaker 4: women that I think I would engage.
Speaker 1: With are very big breasts. Yeah, like plasticky kind of bitches.
Speaker 1: What is it? Who like big big titties?
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, And I'm not trying to touch any vagina,
Speaker 4: but they can touch on me. Again, I'm a selfish lover.
Speaker 4: The more and more we talk about this selfish lover,
Speaker 4: I don't know how there the.
Speaker 2: Selfish one implant her and herself and all the thresomes of.
Speaker 1: The wow fish makes sense, right? What?
Speaker 4: But it was so funny because like we would be
Speaker 4: like fucking and it would be like, Okay, he's gonna
Speaker 4: fuck Glenn, and then we literally switched the condom, put
Speaker 4: another one on, and then he would fuck me, and
Speaker 4: then I'd be like, yeah, Glenn back like girl, nice Glenn.
Speaker 1: It was oh, girl, girl, do you want to get
Speaker 1: you want the water? Literally that's kind of the energy.
Speaker 4: Literally my turn lay down the energy, and then it
Speaker 4: would switch to me and Glenn would be like trying
Speaker 4: to like it, and I'd be like, get the fuck
Speaker 4: out of here.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, this is the most hilarious I've ever literally,
Speaker 1: and now I need to hear how it went with
Speaker 1: you over there.
Speaker 7: That sounds crazy, the one with you well Chelsea, Oh no, no,
Speaker 7: Actually Chelsea trapped me in this scenario.
Speaker 1: We were at the club, we were really fucked up,
Speaker 1: and this is when I was like wilding.
Speaker 4: She actually wanted one of our other friends to come
Speaker 4: home with this guy. So I was actually the second
Speaker 4: draft pick because I think our other friend like curved you. Well,
Speaker 4: she's like a full blown lesbian now, so she was
Speaker 4: probably like not really with the ship.
Speaker 1: She was just following the guys with the weed. Yeah,
Speaker 1: She's like yeah, she didn't she didn't say no. It
Speaker 1: was just the weed that I didn't have any.
Speaker 4: But she was like very explicit I think with that
Speaker 4: friend about her intentions, not so much with me. So
Speaker 4: the next thing I know, I'm thinking that we're going
Speaker 4: to have after club food at cafeteria. Oh my god.
Speaker 4: And I'm like, we get the cafeteria in their clothes.
Speaker 4: So then so then the guy's like, oh, I'll take
Speaker 4: you guys to another spot. I fall asleep in the cab.
Speaker 4: Next thing I know, I'm on the fucking Upper east Side.
Speaker 7: This is trafficking or something.
Speaker 4: Traffic I was like, yep, I shift that you remember
Speaker 4: his name, we get out.
Speaker 1: You could have trust this bit. I was watching from
Speaker 1: the living room, oh even two weeks before when I
Speaker 1: dragged you and put you in the back of the cab.
Speaker 4: Want as she's in Capricorn, but she plan. She's a
Speaker 4: very dynamic chart. So I just want to say that
Speaker 4: I did not know that this was the plan. Like literally,
Speaker 4: we get out of the cab and I'm like, where's
Speaker 4: the food, and the guy's like, oh, We're gonna go
Speaker 4: to my plate and I'm drunk, and I'm like all right, fine,
Speaker 4: Like I'm on the Upper east Side at this point,
Speaker 4: like I'll just crash here and then I'll go about
Speaker 4: my business and get on the train in the morning.
Speaker 4: Because we were young, I wasn't paying for no cab
Speaker 4: back to Brooklyn from the upperast Side. Yeah, we get
Speaker 4: to his student. There's a fucking there's a there's a room,
Speaker 4: and there's a bed, and Chelsea just gets in the
Speaker 4: bed and falls asleep. And now me and the dude
Speaker 4: are fucking playing like Nintendo sixty four, Like we're playing
Speaker 4: like Mario Kart.
Speaker 1: He's playing the guitar for me. We're like, we're like
Speaker 1: kicking it. I just needed a Now.
Speaker 4: We're kicking it. And I'm like, he's like, you want
Speaker 4: some shorts. I'm like yeah, Like him and I are
Speaker 4: like buddies. And then he's like all right, let's stop that.
Speaker 1: I'm like cool.
Speaker 4: We all get into the same bed. I'm still not
Speaker 4: thinking that anything is about to go down. I you know,
Speaker 4: get under the covers, get cozy, and then there's.
Speaker 1: Just a lot of movement.
Speaker 4: And literally my brain was like my brain.
Speaker 1: Was like oh.
Speaker 3: I was like, maybe she doesn't know him awake right,
Speaker 3: Maybe shows me to play sleep.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I remember they did like the infamous I'm gonna start
Speaker 1: touching your leg. Yeah, because how you got pulled in?
Speaker 1: Shut it? That's like starter picking. Yes, they were.
Speaker 4: They were messing around, and then I was just there
Speaker 4: and then I mean, I don't know how how detailed
Speaker 4: bing I get. I just remember, I just remember this motion.
Speaker 1: It was at the same damn time. He was a
Speaker 1: fair bank.
Speaker 7: Oh I guess I fal So he was like sitting
Speaker 7: with his back towards he was in the middle.
Speaker 6: That's an interesting So he was always in the middle
Speaker 6: at all points.
Speaker 1: He was in the middle. So it was like this
Speaker 1: he was he was an equal opportunist. He was trying
Speaker 1: to make sure it was balanced. How what is this?
Speaker 1: I don't know. She was going backwards.
Speaker 6: I was blackout, so I don't quite remember, but I
Speaker 6: mean I was kind of a little bit.
Speaker 1: There was consent, yeah, I was yeah, yeah, I was recording.
Speaker 1: I was lit. I was lit assaulted me.
Speaker 6: No, But I remember being like, okay, I think I'm
Speaker 6: supposed to do something with a too, so like like.
Speaker 3: Planning it out, I like reached my arm over and
Speaker 3: like I was like.
Speaker 4: I know, and usually I'm not I'm really not with
Speaker 4: the ships.
Speaker 8: I'm really I don't the fact that none of the
Speaker 8: you two are not really with the ships, but somehow
Speaker 8: still ended up in this fucking studio apartment with this
Speaker 8: band Double Fire bringing on that.
Speaker 1: You said, I think I'm supposed to no never mind,
Speaker 1: never mind.
Speaker 4: Thing is, I will always like I'm impulsive, so I'll
Speaker 4: always kind of like lean in, but then I will
Speaker 4: like quickly put my boundaries up.
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, I'm not touching.
Speaker 4: Your pussy, get away that away from not that, not that,
Speaker 4: And I.
Speaker 6: Have like all these crazy thoughts in my head, like
Speaker 6: all these things that I would like to do, but
Speaker 6: I just can't do them.
Speaker 1: Does that make sense to that point? Can? Is it?
Speaker 1: Is it that the point the things that you want
Speaker 1: to do, like how do you like? How I just
Speaker 1: I need? I want to do it, but I'm scared.
Speaker 1: What maybe should I take some shots? I get them,
Speaker 1: like what do you want to do? But you're scared?
Speaker 1: You want to eat that baby? You know what I
Speaker 1: think it is? You know, I think it is.
Speaker 3: I think that the fear comes from like not knowing
Speaker 3: what position to be in.
Speaker 1: What are we doing here? Like are you bent over?
Speaker 1: Like are you doggy style? You like? Ass up?
Speaker 4: Like are we doing it from the front, like your legs,
Speaker 4: back position, shoulders, like I like all.
Speaker 1: Positions, you know.
Speaker 3: A good one is like if you're giving a guy
Speaker 3: a massage and they're like the stomach, You're like, just
Speaker 3: you can start with the fingers and just like you
Speaker 3: write it like like everyone likes to get the but
Speaker 3: massage like it's actually a hot.
Speaker 1: Spoty no one massages. Don't look at me like that
Speaker 1: has any massage your but lately? I like my butt, yes,
Speaker 1: And I'm like, I'm not even giving niggas massages. What
Speaker 1: like I'm getting massaged. I'm also hell a selfish you
Speaker 1: don't give massages.
Speaker 3: Okay, y'all are ready for ass eating then, because it's
Speaker 3: not selfish woman to eat some mass Okay, you got
Speaker 3: to sacrifice yourself.
Speaker 1: But you might, but you might get like sad.
Speaker 2: I get satisfaction out of it because I kind of
Speaker 2: feel like some.
Speaker 7: Me he wants me to be more aggressive because it
Speaker 7: makes me feel sexy and he would like to feel sexy.
Speaker 2: Okay, he has, he's on his way to some other ship.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna let you know I like him. I do
Speaker 2: like him, and I'm like, I.
Speaker 1: Gotta get this ship together.
Speaker 6: Can you please read a piece of your piece about
Speaker 6: my no please, it's so good, it's so good an
Speaker 6: extremely talented writer, and like this piece it's like erotic.
Speaker 2: Who.
Speaker 1: Well, just do it. I might up as I say.
Speaker 7: The other thing that like, I feel people are debating
Speaker 7: about a lot online, which I think is like not
Speaker 7: a big deal, but like spitting in people's mouths, which I.
Speaker 1: That's another thing. I think. It's like I knew I
Speaker 1: like that too. Not everyone I don't want. I don't
Speaker 1: want anything I actually prefer to do again, I want
Speaker 1: to dominate you. I'll take it. It's not from everyone's
Speaker 1: you want them to spin in your mouth. I will
Speaker 1: do both.
Speaker 3: I don't necessarily feel like I sometimes I just it's
Speaker 3: not something. It's not my go to no no, no, no,
Speaker 3: like and every now and then trick.
Speaker 1: I hate spit. I hate I'm so whack.
Speaker 4: I don't like I really don't like spit, and I
Speaker 4: really don't like sweat. But I like being dominated. Right,
Speaker 4: So if you're like, bitch, get down and I'm just
Speaker 4: sweating all over you and I'm spinning your mouth and
Speaker 4: I'm fucking you up, I'm like, oh, okay, commit know
Speaker 4: what Like you can't just do it. Yeah, you can't
Speaker 4: have it, can't be believable me too, what we're doing, Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 4: let's have a And I'm like.
Speaker 1: If I feel like I mean, I'm going to.
Speaker 4: And I've also had someone be like dominate me and
Speaker 4: I can lean into that as well.
Speaker 1: So it's just I just need somebody to.
Speaker 3: Just you're I think we have to push past some
Speaker 3: of our you know, ideas of like yeah, what like
Speaker 3: male femininity and all that looks like too, because I
Speaker 3: want to do it too. Like I remember when I
Speaker 3: when I first became singlista day, this guy and who
Speaker 3: really liked his nipples played with and like he told
Speaker 3: me that. I was like okay, and I did it
Speaker 3: because I wanted him to feel pleasure. But I wasn't
Speaker 3: getting pleasure from it, like I was just because there.
Speaker 1: Was a blot. No, I was a selfish. I was
Speaker 1: doing it, but I was just like this is like
Speaker 1: what is it? I was just so small.
Speaker 3: But then but then like I the more I did it,
Speaker 3: the more I was like, Okay, this is this.
Speaker 1: I just never experienced this. Whatever, it's not a I
Speaker 1: wouldn't Maybe it is a kink. I don't know, it's rot.
Speaker 3: But yeah, I think there's a lot of like I
Speaker 3: think even as black women too, like with the black body,
Speaker 3: like the male body, Like there's so many rules and things.
Speaker 3: I think specifically the butt specifically with black men is
Speaker 3: like a real thing. I'm not gay, right, and so
Speaker 3: everything's no, it's inevitable that those feelings not only affect
Speaker 3: them but us too, and like feeling that there's this boundary.
Speaker 1: There, that's what alway should have make men feel safe.
Speaker 3: I mean there's yeah, poop comes out of the butthole,
Speaker 3: but like a lot of people, niggas don't be wiping
Speaker 3: their tip be pissed all over that ship and we'd
Speaker 3: be stucking on it.
Speaker 1: Okay, balls be platy and it's nasty, so it's all
Speaker 1: one and the same. To me, I literally have my
Speaker 1: face like buried in some balls.
Speaker 3: Like a nigga will go piss and they'll suck his
Speaker 3: dick immediately like the low peet and then come in
Speaker 3: the bed and we will.
Speaker 1: You're literally stressing me out. Why why do you have
Speaker 1: to do this every time? I'm always scarred for life.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be like, did you just peek? Did you
Speaker 1: wipe it? Off with your baby white. No he did not.
Speaker 2: You know, it's particular about like my ass wipe being
Speaker 2: like I'm particular like if you're at the house and
Speaker 2: you take a ship and then you kind of try
Speaker 2: and come get back in the bed with me with
Speaker 2: no pants, like no underbears on, without like just getting
Speaker 2: in the shower.
Speaker 1: I believe like, if you're at the house.
Speaker 2: And you just took a ship, you should just take
Speaker 2: a shower real quick, don't.
Speaker 1: I guess you're at the house. Wait, what is your excuse?
Speaker 2: And definitely don't not use the baby white and then
Speaker 2: come get in the bed naked. No, no, no, no,
Speaker 2: I'm a nasty bitch.
Speaker 1: You gotta become clean, like very clean. Maybe I need
Speaker 1: to watch you do it. That's a given. I like
Speaker 1: that as a rule of thumb. I'm going to read
Speaker 1: it a sexy bath. Okay, I'm going to read listen
Speaker 1: to a talented friend. All right.
Speaker 7: So this is actually about this man, right, Okay, So
Speaker 7: where do we want to start. We're calling him Brooklyn
Speaker 7: in this story. So the night before Brooklyn was walking
Speaker 7: me home from this bar in our hood. The air
Speaker 7: was so hot and thick it damn near felt like
Speaker 7: we were wading through the night. We were steps away
Speaker 7: from my apartment when I turned to him abruptly and said, Yo,
Speaker 7: you got AC. Mine hadn't been installed yet and I
Speaker 7: couldn't bear another night sweating between my sheets. Yeah, I
Speaker 7: got AC, he said, and I think we both kind
Speaker 7: of smirked. Later, as we laid on his bed in
Speaker 7: the cool of the air, we kissed for the first time.
Speaker 1: He slid his.
Speaker 7: Tongue around to my neck and up to my ear lobes,
Speaker 7: then used his mouth to slip my earrings off. When
Speaker 7: he spit them out, the backs were securely fastened on.
Speaker 7: I remember thinking the move was totally over the top,
Speaker 7: but also wondering what else his mouth could do. That
Speaker 7: night in June, Brooklyn fucked me like he had something
Speaker 7: to prove, Like he was trying to tell me, you've
Speaker 7: been fronting on me this whole time, but you ain't
Speaker 7: gonna be fronting on me no more.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Wow, things, Yo.
Speaker 1: Jesus loves to try everything with you. Have you stuck
Speaker 1: your finger in the booty? Yet? I did that once? Okay? Dry? Never? Yeah,
Speaker 1: he was like, you can't just be doing that like that? Yeah,
Speaker 1: got what exactly that's.
Speaker 7: Just oh, Glynn, I got I got, I got a
Speaker 7: lot to learn, y'all.
Speaker 1: I'm kidding, no, no, no, just no, it's cool. Just
Speaker 1: take your time and ask us.
Speaker 4: I'm like, I feel like I have some new sister.
Speaker 4: Yeah maybe if I don't know. I think I've always
Speaker 4: gonna beat his bitch, and I think there's gonna be
Speaker 4: a man who's just gonna be like, yeah, I could
Speaker 4: just tie that bitch up and suck her up.
Speaker 1: And it's wait, shut it. You're in l A, aren't you?
Speaker 1: Are you New York? But I work California hours?
Speaker 4: It's got its god it Yeah?
Speaker 1: Are you? Are you both from Kelly like from there? Yeah?
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, But I spend a lot of time in
Speaker 3: New York. I have an office out there, and so
Speaker 3: I was there like probably twice a month all of
Speaker 3: last year. And I was about to move there, but
Speaker 3: then COVID fucked my life up.
Speaker 1: So come tell us when you're here, Yes, yeah, we will,
Speaker 1: and vice versa. Have you come out stories?
Speaker 7: Yeah?
Speaker 9: Oh?
Speaker 6: Also you asked earlier about the podcasting and dating, So
Speaker 6: do you not tell your dates?
Speaker 1: So who you're talking to that you have a podcast,
Speaker 1: how does that work?
Speaker 3: Not not off the bat norly know, because it's just
Speaker 3: such a preview into my life so quick and like
Speaker 3: I've been I'm like kind of paranoid because I had
Speaker 3: a bad situation with this guy who basically listened to
Speaker 3: the podcast and like learned me and like totally manipulated
Speaker 3: me and like lied and like lied about so much shit,
Speaker 3: like being a single dad, he was married. Yeah, it
Speaker 3: was just the whole thing. So I'm you, I became
Speaker 3: paranoid and shit, but it never comes up, fucked Inevitably
Speaker 3: it comes up because it's such a big part of
Speaker 3: my life. You know, I love I love I love
Speaker 3: what I do. I love podcasting, and it's they're gonna.
Speaker 1: Be what are you doing every day? Right? Going on
Speaker 1: over there? So yeah, he's a psychopath. Oh yeah, that's
Speaker 1: what that was. And he just yeah, he just had
Speaker 1: a baby too. It was crazy.
Speaker 3: It was just like I think she was pregnant too
Speaker 3: at that time, you do, or they got or he
Speaker 3: got her right after, Like sorry, yeah, yeah, it's crazy,
Speaker 3: so sad, sad. Yeah, we have a whole episode about it,
Speaker 3: so if you're listening, you want to check out that episode.
Speaker 1: It's called I'm Dating a married man, and it's a
Speaker 1: good one. It's a good it's a treaty. One of
Speaker 1: us did that, just kidding, Elsie put their.
Speaker 2: Wow, you know, Shane, you're advertising shade is advertised.
Speaker 1: I was young. I made a mistake. I don't I know.
Speaker 1: I was trying. Happened.
Speaker 2: You know what I always say, I'm like, you want
Speaker 2: me to date your husband because I likely.
Speaker 1: Don't want him at all. Like I don't want to
Speaker 1: take your mail.
Speaker 2: That's not the goal here, Like just make them both happy,
Speaker 2: and I'm going to do it. Like let's work together,
Speaker 2: Like let's call me if you need me.
Speaker 4: Listen, there's a little about a hot dad that just
Speaker 4: when I go on Whole Foods and I see him,
Speaker 4: Dad's I'll.
Speaker 1: Be getting hot, I know, but I keep it to myself.
Speaker 6: I think guys do look nicer with babies hot dads,
Speaker 6: and may they look a little tired.
Speaker 1: Tired. I'm like, come rub that stubble on me.
Speaker 4: But you know, only only if he's you know, single,
Speaker 4: or maybe on the outs.
Speaker 6: The Okay, my last question for you ladies is what
Speaker 6: is giving birth?
Speaker 1: Like these fucking questions. I was like, what question is
Speaker 1: she going to pick?
Speaker 7: Which one is it going to be.
Speaker 4: There's a plethora of.
Speaker 3: The way She's asking curious, I believe you, what is
Speaker 3: giving birth?
Speaker 1: Like, uh, it is? For me?
Speaker 3: It was really Oh, I had birth and I gave
Speaker 3: birth in a hospital, which obviously most people do, but
Speaker 3: that was when I got to the hospital I realized
Speaker 3: it was like the biggest mistake of my life. Like
Speaker 3: I got there and I immediately started crying and everyone
Speaker 3: was like, what's wrong?
Speaker 1: And I was like this were people died. I was like,
Speaker 1: what am I doing here? Why did I choose this?
Speaker 3: I just became so fearful, and then I just feel
Speaker 3: like I wanted to have a natural birth I was
Speaker 3: getting I got induced because my doctor kind of made
Speaker 3: me feel like I had no other choice, like my
Speaker 3: daughter was getting too big.
Speaker 1: Like a lot of doctors did.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was one of it was I feel like
Speaker 3: my situation just wasn't. Looking back on it, and now
Speaker 3: that I have so much more knowledge about birth, I
Speaker 3: was I just wasn't.
Speaker 1: I don't think I was given the best advice.
Speaker 3: So I feel like because of that, I had to
Speaker 3: get induced, and then suddenly I wasn't going to be
Speaker 3: able to have a natural birth. I had to get
Speaker 3: a sea section, which I was like, not even on
Speaker 3: like the play like the radar. For me, I was like,
Speaker 3: I'm healthy, I'm capable. I got this. And then I'm like,
Speaker 3: what we're doing We're having a C section? Okay, And
Speaker 3: then that just was not great. I didn't love it,
Speaker 3: to be honest. So birth for me, unfortunately wasn't like
Speaker 3: this beautiful, like amazing experience like I hoped it could be. Yes,
Speaker 3: there was amazing highlight. There were highlight moments like highlight moments.
Speaker 3: Michael Jackson was playing during my c section.
Speaker 1: That was cool, that's cool. They had music on.
Speaker 3: I don't know if that's problematic now, but and I
Speaker 3: was like, Michael mj was playing during the birth of
Speaker 3: my baby girl. But yeah, I think it just wasn't
Speaker 3: what I had hoped and dreamed for. If I ever
Speaker 3: have another child, I definitely would do a lot of
Speaker 3: things differently and follow my gut and intuition.
Speaker 1: But yeah, that's birth for me. Birth is like, well,
Speaker 1: if I always say, like.
Speaker 2: You have these plans, I was like, die hard, I'm
Speaker 2: gonna have an unassistant home birth. I like trained my
Speaker 2: baby daddy. We had like I made him watch four
Speaker 2: thousand videos. Like I called my hippie friends from up North,
Speaker 2: like we're gonna e gauge when I give birth.
Speaker 1: You're gonna come down and deliver my baby. I bought
Speaker 1: the kid and the pool. It would be fine, you know.
Speaker 2: And then like I went for my like one of
Speaker 2: my checkups at thirty seven weeks, which is like three
Speaker 2: weeks early, and she was like, oh.
Speaker 1: I think you should go check into the hospital.
Speaker 2: I was like, I think you're on drugs and then
Speaker 2: she's like, no, it's really get your blood flush high.
Speaker 2: So like basically just to tear in my whole process
Speaker 2: that I thought was gonna happen. I wouldn't even go
Speaker 2: on the tour because I was like, I'm not doing
Speaker 2: it here. So I think like the first lesson in
Speaker 2: birth earned motherhood for me was like your plan nobody cares,
Speaker 2: nobody cares, your kid doesn't care, and God and whoever
Speaker 2: your whole plan, that's as fuck you.
Speaker 1: And I immediately immediately they try to induce.
Speaker 2: You and like they interrupt the natural process, like you
Speaker 2: go to a hospital, likeliness of your process being now
Speaker 2: natural process that your body knows how to do, just
Speaker 2: like your cats and your dogs go on birth and
Speaker 2: they know what to do. Your body knows what to do.
Speaker 2: It counteracts all that shit. First things. First, they try
Speaker 2: to give you drugs, not natural. Try to induce you,
Speaker 2: not natural. They try to put a balloon up your
Speaker 2: pussy to open it up, not natural. And if you're
Speaker 2: a break if they break your water, not natural and
Speaker 2: it's been broken for twenty four hours or more, they
Speaker 2: then say, oh, you have an infection because we broke
Speaker 2: your bladder. And it's too much checking because you've checked
Speaker 2: me way too many times, and now there's an infection
Speaker 2: and now we have to cut you open because I'm
Speaker 2: trying to leave at six and you've been giving birth
Speaker 2: for twelve hours and I actually need to get off
Speaker 2: and I do this every day and I don't really
Speaker 2: give a fuck. So like there's all these things and
Speaker 2: our bodies. So anyway, my rant, just for anyone's pregnant.
Speaker 1: I love the brant. Oh it's important, and.
Speaker 2: It's so important because we're not informed that there are
Speaker 2: no other options. We don't go seeking all the images
Speaker 2: of birth we see them meet on the TV or in.
Speaker 9: The hospital, and like, to be honest, I'm like scared,
Speaker 9: like genuinely they are scaring, and they're saying black women
Speaker 9: are just like drug wrapping dead from having babies. We're
Speaker 9: two and a half times more likely to die, like
Speaker 9: our babies are more likely to die. We're more likely
Speaker 9: to die because they don't believe us.
Speaker 2: And I didn't know that giving birth, which is already scary,
Speaker 2: I was already scared going to the hospital.
Speaker 1: I'm glad I didn't know that shit, because out of
Speaker 1: it even more scared.
Speaker 2: But I am a witness of even my doctor was
Speaker 2: my friend, like we're cool, and like I felt like
Speaker 2: the nursing staff didn't listen to me. I had a
Speaker 2: printed list of things I did not want to happen,
Speaker 2: and like they offered me drugs immediately.
Speaker 1: I printed that shit. Do not offer me drugs right anyway?
Speaker 2: Giving birth is like going into the deepest parts of
Speaker 2: your body, opening closets, doors, going downstairs that you didn't
Speaker 2: even know were inside there, dark rooms, and going to
Speaker 2: find this part in your body that you did not
Speaker 2: even know exists.
Speaker 1: There comes a point where no.
Speaker 2: One can help you. Whoever's in the room can't help you.
Speaker 2: Whatever affirmations you have playing can't help you. The affirmations
Speaker 2: that you've printed nicely on the wall in front of you.
Speaker 1: You could do this.
Speaker 2: Your baby's waiting to see you. I had like this
Speaker 2: affirmation playing like your baby is pushing down you. Old
Speaker 2: baby is coming.
Speaker 1: To see you. It was I don't know why she
Speaker 1: was Australian.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 5: Worry.
Speaker 4: Did you print the affirmations to hand them to the
Speaker 4: nurse too?
Speaker 2: I printed the affirmations that had him on the thing.
Speaker 2: I had a ball balancing girl. I was doing everything,
Speaker 2: went outside to smell weed. I tried everything. But you
Speaker 2: just go onto a place deep down darkness inside of
Speaker 2: your corners of your body.
Speaker 1: You didn't even know we're there, and.
Speaker 2: You're like, only I either I'm gonna die or I'm
Speaker 2: gonna come the fuck up out of this.
Speaker 1: And then suddenly, yeah, just like the.
Speaker 2: Deepest form of like pain slash numbness that you can
Speaker 2: go to, and then you get epidural and it's all
Speaker 2: over and you're like, I'm not the exorcist anymore.
Speaker 1: And then you just push and.
Speaker 2: You're like, oh my god, my baby on your chest,
Speaker 2: and like you cry immediately because it's like.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, this is an experience. I get this.
Speaker 2: Just like another one sense of like, oh my god,
Speaker 2: finally like I got through this.
Speaker 1: I did it.
Speaker 2: You're you could look into this child's eyes and the
Speaker 2: ship is crazy. It's crazy, and then you see your
Speaker 2: pussy open up so big. I asked for a mirror
Speaker 2: because like, my body.
Speaker 1: Is only going to do this once.
Speaker 2: So you see like the head pop up and you're like,
Speaker 2: oh my god, look at my body doing this crazy ship.
Speaker 2: And then like it just like just slides out like
Speaker 2: a little like squid out of a can.
Speaker 6: And then does it immediately like does it immediately like
Speaker 6: close or do they have to sew it up a
Speaker 6: little or like sh face.
Speaker 1: I'm thinking about a squid and a can too. I
Speaker 1: don't know comparison.
Speaker 6: I was.
Speaker 2: Into it and I was like, wait, the shoulders and
Speaker 2: that kind of like comes out.
Speaker 1: It look like a little like flairing. Yeahimes the head
Speaker 1: out for me.
Speaker 3: I have that video that wass were laying on the side.
Speaker 1: It's a serious surgery. They take out your intestines. People
Speaker 1: don't realize.
Speaker 3: They take things down and lay them on the table
Speaker 3: in order to get and Irin's head was so big
Speaker 3: the doctor had to call like we need a chair.
Speaker 3: She stood on the chair way.
Speaker 1: You could hear it you were away.
Speaker 4: Yeah, they don't waya you're just numb. They put a curtain,
Speaker 4: see it. You don't freak and I just remember, like
Speaker 4: you feel your body.
Speaker 1: I felt like the heaviest, like I was going to explode.
Speaker 3: I felt like a piano was like on top of me,
Speaker 3: and I was like it was so much pressure because
Speaker 3: she was.
Speaker 1: Putting all this scared me. I don't want to do that.
Speaker 4: I really have this dream of a natural birth, like
Speaker 4: the way you described it, like.
Speaker 1: The pool and the water and I come with my
Speaker 1: and it's a vibe that's terrible.
Speaker 4: And I'm also such a pussy. I like cried when
Speaker 4: I got an I U D and I was.
Speaker 2: Like, get it. I heard it's very painful. Always say
Speaker 2: is like try your best to stay home. Trust your body,
Speaker 2: you know, like doing your There's less germs that you
Speaker 2: should be familiar with in your home, like everything you
Speaker 2: have you need. It's not this big scary thing, but
Speaker 2: it can be if you go to the hospital. If
Speaker 2: you have to go, it could be good. I had
Speaker 2: a good experience, like mine is some shit. Like they
Speaker 2: were they were pretty cool, like I'm not gonna front
Speaker 2: I was like twelve people there. I felt like I
Speaker 2: felt safe, I felt heard, but like it was safe,
Speaker 2: you know. But like, if you could do that shit
Speaker 2: at home and not go to the hospital, do it.
Speaker 4: You know, Hannah Taylor's out here, Like I just gave
Speaker 4: birth in the bathroom and then my body just snatched back,
Speaker 4: and I'm like, bitch, are you a fucking warlock.
Speaker 1: With human warlock? I'm sure yeah, I'm sure she has
Speaker 1: support too, though.
Speaker 6: But my grandma had eleven kids in the living room.
Speaker 1: See and just that, Yeah, that's amazing.
Speaker 6: Yeah, but they were also eating like yams and planting
Speaker 6: and like natural food. I eat Chick fil A and like,
Speaker 6: so I'll probably be in the hospital.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, and I out.
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Speaker 3: It's so interesting because like I had a friend who
Speaker 3: once shared with me that he used to masturbate at
Speaker 3: work a lot, like he would lee felt like he
Speaker 3: needed to release and go in the bathroom masturbate.
Speaker 1: And he was like, do I have a sex addiction?
Speaker 1: And I was like, I mean to me like that,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't do that, but I don't.
Speaker 10: Know if that's a sex addiction, but not masturbation, masturbating
Speaker 10: at work, but masturbating for work. So for me, in
Speaker 10: order to like concentrate on a said task, I have to.
Speaker 1: Set yourself up.
Speaker 10: I have to get post not clarity, which we all
Speaker 10: can agree.
Speaker 1: Is a real thing.
Speaker 10: Infact, I use it to concentrate to get work done,
Speaker 10: so that post nut clarity is basically clarity. It's clearing
Speaker 10: your mind so you can focus on said whatever right
Speaker 10: or have a better understanding than you had before, because
Speaker 10: before you may have had it cloud the judgment. So
Speaker 10: now I use that as a tool to focus on
Speaker 10: a said text. So you know, you wake up sometimes
Speaker 10: and you got like ten things to do in different places,
Speaker 10: Like now you're thinking, oh, ham is this but it
Speaker 10: might take away time you try to do two things
Speaker 10: at once. I come and then plan everything.
Speaker 1: Gets stuff you guys, I'll be right back. I'm just
Speaker 1: kidding you know what, Because I do use masturbation as
Speaker 1: a tool. Most people would think I'm really strange for
Speaker 1: having something like that day, I was really upset about
Speaker 1: something really personal and super emotional. I was like not okay,
Speaker 1: and I decided to masturbation