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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices.

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Speaker 2: I'm Nila and I'm Erica and this is a two

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Speaker 2: part episode, y'all.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we met up with the homies of Black Girls

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Speaker 3: Texting in New York, but we didn't go to New York,

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Speaker 3: but you know, you know what I mean. And we

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Speaker 3: recorded a long ass episode with the ladies, a very

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Speaker 3: very good one. The first one is on their web

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Speaker 3: on their platform, so you want to make sure to

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Speaker 3: go follow Black Girls Texting on all podcast platforms to

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Speaker 3: hear part one of this episode.

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Speaker 1: The part two.

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Speaker 3: I think we're just gonna like, we haven't talked to

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Speaker 3: you guys in a minute, and like we don't normally

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Speaker 3: do this where we talk first and then we like

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Speaker 3: intro into an episode.

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Speaker 1: But we got a lot of catching up to do.

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Speaker 4: But fuck it, Weed a boss, We a boss.

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Speaker 1: So how is your weekend that's been going on with you, Henny?

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Speaker 1: This weekend was your daughter's birthday?

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Speaker 3: Yes it was, and so you know, my daughter was

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Speaker 3: in full Like I want to wait, what is Luna doing?

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Speaker 3: Like the moment was Friday, It was calling Jamila stressing

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Speaker 3: her out, Like what what are we doing?

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Speaker 1: Because my daughter was stressing me the fuck out.

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Speaker 2: She remembered, Oh my god, yes're texting me like eight

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Speaker 2: o'clock in the morning, like what's the plan?

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Speaker 1: What are we doing.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, calm down, Okay, we're doing something, just let

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Speaker 2: me wake up first.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she was very excited. Our kids had a two

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Speaker 3: day sleepover.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I try to make it a point on birthdays

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Speaker 2: to do slumber parties.

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Speaker 1: I think I'm gonna stop that this year. This is

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Speaker 1: gonna be a lot.

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Speaker 3: Honestly, I I'm so I'm I commend you because I

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Speaker 3: was so happy to leave my kid with you, i know,

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Speaker 3: and all those screaming ass kids.

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Speaker 1: There was literally like.

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Speaker 3: Seven kids at Jamila's house and I was like, wow,

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Speaker 3: this is I'm so glad.

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Speaker 1: I'm not staying here. And I was like, I hope

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Speaker 1: she doesn't asked me to stay, Like I hope, like

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Speaker 1: you got it on there really quickly.

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Speaker 3: I was like, I hope she's not like you're my

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Speaker 3: best friend, you'd say it. I was like, I bet

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Speaker 3: she got like four other best friends. So I'm really

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Speaker 3: glad that I was not on like baby duty. Shout

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Speaker 3: out to Alana because she stayed.

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Speaker 1: I was like, you have to know which best friend

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Speaker 1: you could ask for what. Eric is not the one

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Speaker 1: to ask to join you for a sleepover with five children. No.

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Speaker 2: Luckily, my other best friend Alana was probably because two

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Speaker 2: of the seven were hers, right, So we had a

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Speaker 2: really good time. I like to I finally got my

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Speaker 2: place semi together, mostly together. I'm pretty proud of myself.

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Speaker 2: I'm just gonna take it. I'm just gonna say, I'm

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Speaker 2: proud of you. It's as cute as I have gotten

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Speaker 2: the place and like basically eighty five percent fully furnished

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Speaker 2: my own apartment, and like o days, I've be on

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Speaker 2: a like fucking serious hustle. I've been trying to get

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Speaker 2: her room together before her birthday and surprise her. I've

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Speaker 2: been trying to get my own shit together so I

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Speaker 2: feel like I'm at home so I could stay there.

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Speaker 1: So I've done that in the works. Do you need

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Speaker 1: some others? Some a little bit of shit, but for

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Speaker 1: the most part all me. Baby, Yeah, it looks good.

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Speaker 1: I was like, okay, home good.

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Speaker 3: So if you've been following us, if you follow us

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Speaker 3: on Instagram, then you know we have been home goodding

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Speaker 3: our fucking life away. Like every opportunity we get or

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Speaker 1: A different home goods in the valley. We've gone. I've

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Speaker 1: literally been on a home goods tour for the past

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Speaker 1: two weeks. It's literally our date night.

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Speaker 2: We have had date night at home goods far too

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Speaker 2: many times and it's amazing.

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Speaker 3: One night we even made Margarita's which, oh, by the way,

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Speaker 3: today is actually today, but today is officially.

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Speaker 1: I'm not smoking. I'm not sorry I'm smoking.

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Speaker 3: I just saw you got what your lip was trembling

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Speaker 3: when I said that, You're like your face.

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Speaker 2: As I look it over, I pull out a blunt

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Speaker 2: from my purse and she says, I'm not smoking.

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Speaker 1: Like, what what I meant to say is not drinking.

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Speaker 3: I'm going to take a break from drinking until the

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Speaker 3: new year, to be hard, because the holidays are around.

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Speaker 3: I want to like drink and do those things, but

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Speaker 3: I feel like in my thirties, I have to pick

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Speaker 1: I'm starting to like, I'm starting to see my face

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Speaker 1: age like it's freaking me the fuck out. And I

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Speaker 3: Mean I've always have the smile lines, but I'm like,

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Speaker 3: I literally feel like it's my skin is thinning.

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Speaker 1: Also, this vein in my forehead seems like super intense.

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Speaker 1: Do you see it. No, that's not a vein, that's skin. Okay,

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Speaker 1: it's wrinkling. And that's like a frown. It's wrinkling. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: over aging, and you're not gonna drink anymore.

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Speaker 3: I saw a picture of j Lo for a fucking

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Speaker 3: new single. She's fifty seven years old. She doesn't drink.

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Speaker 1: She doesn't know. There's a reason why Jaylo looks the

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Speaker 3: Everyone that I know that doesn't really drink just looks

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Speaker 3: better overall, like just period. So I know that drinking forever,

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Speaker 3: not drinking forever is probably not a true possibility for me. However,

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Speaker 3: hiatuses are and I feel like I got to take

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Speaker 3: of my hiatus, I will feel less inclined to drink.

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Speaker 3: But I think over the last few months, I've been

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Speaker 3: different for different reasons or whatever, and I was just like, yeah,

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Speaker 3: to the smoking. And I'm about to do a little

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Speaker 1: Do a juice cleans every time. For the last three years,

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Speaker 1: just gonna do a short one. I'm gonna do three

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Speaker 3: Maybe getting back on my vegetarian pescatarian shit because guys,

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Speaker 3: I haven't updated the tribe.

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Speaker 1: But I'm single.

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Speaker 3: I am newly single, and due to the fact that

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Speaker 3: I'm single, I no longer have to ingest copious amounts

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Speaker 1: A lot of bacon, lots so much bacon. I was like, wait, yet,

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Speaker 1: last week you're a vegetarian. This week you got a

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Speaker 1: new nigga. No, your pork a feeder.

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Speaker 3: You always knew pork was my gateweight. I know you

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Speaker 3: I looked in the mirror and I was like, I

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Speaker 2: Like a week ago, I drank way too much, really

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Speaker 2: got really drunk, like really drunk, like I'm I remembered,

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Speaker 2: and like the next day, I was so fucking sick.

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Speaker 2: Crouching over the toilet and telling God, I'm never going

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Speaker 2: to drink till twenty twenty one. Three days later I drank.

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Speaker 2: So I'm not going to just sit here and lie

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Speaker 2: definitely not drinking whiskey for a long while.

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Speaker 1: But you know, I'm just.

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Speaker 2: Gonna work my way in between drinking less so then

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Speaker 2: And because I just know myself, and I know the

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Speaker 1: And I'm going to do the three day detox with you.

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Speaker 2: No, I do because I've been wanting to do that

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Speaker 2: for a long time. And I have a juicer three

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Speaker 2: to five days and we go to food for Less

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Speaker 2: and get our ship. Also, let me order some jars

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Speaker 2: on Amazon and it's done. We've got it under control.

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Speaker 2: I think I want to do it nice months.

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Speaker 1: Oh for jars? Okay, great.

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Speaker 2: Anyway, Yes, Erica and I because our lives are perfectly

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Speaker 1: We are both single, and.

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Speaker 2: Just for the record, I'm so happy, not that we're

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Speaker 1: Exact. You can see her face. You have to join

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Speaker 2: If you're happy, I'm happyest. I was happy when you

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Speaker 2: were happy, but when you weren't happy, it was annoying.

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Speaker 1: Me because I knew that wasn't the situation for you.

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Speaker 2: And I was being cool because I'm a nice friend

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Speaker 1: But yeah, I'm happy to know.

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Speaker 3: I love how my friend's tiptoe around shit with me,

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Speaker 3: whereas like I don't do I don't do that, but

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Speaker 1: Friends feel like they have to just say no. I

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Speaker 1: wasn't saying tiptoe. I wasn't saying that.

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Speaker 2: I was being particular about how I was going to

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Speaker 2: approach the situation because bitches get real sensitive when they're

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Speaker 2: in love and when Dick is involved. And I've had

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Speaker 2: situations with other best friends where Dick was involved and

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Speaker 1: Now I know you are a more sane friend, so

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Speaker 1: I'm not tripping.

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Speaker 2: But also, I don't have to tell you how I

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Speaker 1: And I told you this before. I wasn't tiptoeing.

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Speaker 2: But never, ever, not once, did you say what do

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Speaker 2: you think, Mila, because you knew what I thought, So

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Speaker 2: I asked.

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Speaker 3: Your opinion on things. For sure, I did, maybe not

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Speaker 3: the overall relationship.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well, don't you.

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Speaker 2: Know I told you the beginning I was like, I'm

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Speaker 2: going to tell you how this is going to go

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Speaker 2: for me, I'm not going to be feeling it.

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Speaker 1: I could tell, and I left it at that, and

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Speaker 1: then I was just like, hey, I'm nice. But overall,

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Speaker 2: Sometimes the thing is sometimes your friends be hating, but

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Speaker 1: Your friends be knowing because if your friends know you.

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Speaker 2: But anyway I have, I'm finally being more sane and

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Speaker 3: Other than that. Oh, this weekend, me and Jamila went

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Speaker 1: You were smart? Also, those were my ones? You know that, right?

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Speaker 1: What yeah? And that good thing I left? Wow? What

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Speaker 1: I like love a lot. I like attention. I like

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Speaker 3: And I'm noticing, like, how do you have enough love

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Speaker 1: It's very hot to get. Everyone loves it. I want more.

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Speaker 1: It's the ax of all loves. The black car. My

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Speaker 1: And also it's very addicting.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to think about all that other shit,

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Speaker 2: and I don't even care what you're doing when you

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Speaker 2: leave about of here. Just be safe, don't get on

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Speaker 3: Thanks amen, Amen. Speaking of love and affection, I think

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Speaker 3: Black Girl's Texting. So the ladies over at Black Girls Texting,

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Speaker 3: first of all, are fucking hilarious and amazing and amazing.

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Speaker 1: And you know, you never like when you when.

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Speaker 3: so you don't really I don't. I don't have any

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Speaker 1: But sitting down with these ladies was really cool.

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Speaker 3: I had it like I was dying to like kind

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Speaker 1: Right, they're dynamic together.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's true that if they revealed themselves and it's amazing.

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Speaker 3: So we're starting off this episode a little bit untraditional,

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Speaker 3: just like we did at the top of this episode

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Speaker 3: by talking to you.

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Speaker 1: With a poor story.

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Speaker 3: Two of the ladies of a blussless texting share a

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Speaker 2: Make sure you catch part one of this episode on

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Speaker 2: Black Girl's texting.

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Speaker 1: Enjoy what happened? This sounds like a horr. Did you

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Speaker 1: have this? Sounds like a horry? We ran a train

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Speaker 1: on this dude? Yeah? Sure, Joy that y'all shared. Just

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Speaker 1: see our faces.

441
00:21:23,720 --> 00:21:26,399
Speaker 4: What happened was Glenn was seeing this dude who I

442
00:21:26,480 --> 00:21:28,119
Speaker 4: just thought was so fine and I and I and

443
00:21:28,160 --> 00:21:29,320
Speaker 4: I was like, yo, Glenn.

444
00:21:29,080 --> 00:21:31,199
Speaker 1: Like past, she woudn't have done that.

445
00:21:31,200 --> 00:21:31,480
Speaker 6: Gun.

446
00:21:32,000 --> 00:21:34,480
Speaker 4: I was like, Glenn, past that, let me just experience

447
00:21:34,600 --> 00:21:37,320
Speaker 4: that he's fine. And she was like no, no, no,

448
00:21:37,359 --> 00:21:39,520
Speaker 4: I don't have Yo, Glenn, that's not your nigga.

449
00:21:39,840 --> 00:21:41,280
Speaker 1: Y'all are just fucking like.

450
00:21:41,359 --> 00:21:51,960
Speaker 4: Past that, like let me yeah that I'm shut it.

451
00:21:47,680 --> 00:21:50,360
Speaker 3: Is shut it. She tried to do this to one

452
00:21:50,359 --> 00:21:53,240
Speaker 3: of my girls and I was like, can you your.

453
00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:55,400
Speaker 1: Girl, I said. I was in the back like Glenn, No,

454
00:21:55,640 --> 00:21:56,960
Speaker 1: don't do it, Glenn, don't.

455
00:21:57,000 --> 00:22:00,080
Speaker 4: But I asked for consent, right, I asked, because there

456
00:22:00,080 --> 00:22:00,800
Speaker 4: are shady bitches that.

457
00:22:00,760 --> 00:22:03,200
Speaker 1: Will just go fuck your nigga. I don't. I'm gonna

458
00:22:03,200 --> 00:22:04,439
Speaker 1: ask you. I'm gonna ask you.

459
00:22:04,520 --> 00:22:07,959
Speaker 4: And she was like, well, only if I'm there, and

460
00:22:08,000 --> 00:22:09,840
Speaker 4: I was like, say, let's.

461
00:22:11,119 --> 00:22:11,960
Speaker 1: All right, cool, And.

462
00:22:11,920 --> 00:22:14,880
Speaker 7: Then we all got black out during like a snowstorm.

463
00:22:14,960 --> 00:22:18,160
Speaker 7: I was twelve people in my apartment. We were all

464
00:22:18,200 --> 00:22:20,720
Speaker 7: like snorting xanax and we were.

465
00:22:20,560 --> 00:22:21,719
Speaker 1: Not snorting xanax.

466
00:22:22,240 --> 00:22:25,359
Speaker 5: I was.

467
00:22:24,800 --> 00:22:34,560
Speaker 1: I don't know, I was snorting something cushed up snorting.

468
00:22:35,240 --> 00:22:35,280
Speaker 3: No.

469
00:22:35,680 --> 00:22:37,960
Speaker 1: I took it with a mimosa. I will say, Gladys

470
00:22:38,000 --> 00:22:47,280
Speaker 1: exaggerating over her, maybe because you were saying this story.

471
00:22:47,480 --> 00:22:47,720
Speaker 5: Yeah.

472
00:22:47,760 --> 00:22:47,959
Speaker 1: I mean.

473
00:22:48,000 --> 00:22:50,600
Speaker 7: The thing that was interesting though, was, as I said,

474
00:22:50,600 --> 00:22:52,520
Speaker 7: like me and this guy had just been messing around

475
00:22:52,560 --> 00:22:54,159
Speaker 7: for mad long, but.

476
00:22:54,040 --> 00:22:55,639
Speaker 1: Then all of us are together.

477
00:22:55,680 --> 00:22:57,840
Speaker 7: It was just weird because I was trying to engage,

478
00:22:59,119 --> 00:23:01,879
Speaker 7: was weirded out by it, so do.

479
00:23:02,040 --> 00:23:05,359
Speaker 3: Women your time were trying to flirt with like you

480
00:23:05,359 --> 00:23:10,480
Speaker 3: were trying to Yeah, we're joining this and she was like,

481
00:23:10,560 --> 00:23:11,440
Speaker 3: this is transactional.

482
00:23:11,480 --> 00:23:12,760
Speaker 1: I just want this to correct.

483
00:23:13,080 --> 00:23:15,960
Speaker 7: But funnily enough, it wasn't her first time because only

484
00:23:16,040 --> 00:23:18,639
Speaker 7: some months prayer she and Chelsea.

485
00:23:20,320 --> 00:23:27,120
Speaker 2: A flashing from the living room like she's all fucking innocent.

486
00:23:27,280 --> 00:23:30,560
Speaker 1: Yeah right, my wifeends sleep in the next room.

487
00:23:30,840 --> 00:23:33,280
Speaker 4: Here's the thing when you have a podcast and friend

488
00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:36,560
Speaker 4: on top of being like a pillow princess. Okay, I

489
00:23:36,600 --> 00:23:38,920
Speaker 4: love women, but the type of women I love I

490
00:23:38,920 --> 00:23:40,960
Speaker 4: think y'all are beautiful. But John know, the type of

491
00:23:41,080 --> 00:23:42,960
Speaker 4: women that I think I would engage.

492
00:23:42,600 --> 00:23:46,360
Speaker 1: With are very big breasts. Yeah, like plasticky kind of bitches.

493
00:23:46,840 --> 00:23:49,400
Speaker 1: What is it? Who like big big titties?

494
00:23:51,640 --> 00:23:54,520
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, And I'm not trying to touch any vagina,

495
00:23:54,600 --> 00:23:57,440
Speaker 4: but they can touch on me. Again, I'm a selfish lover.

496
00:23:57,600 --> 00:23:59,800
Speaker 4: The more and more we talk about this selfish lover,

497
00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:01,280
Speaker 4: I don't know how there the.

498
00:24:01,359 --> 00:24:04,080
Speaker 2: Selfish one implant her and herself and all the thresomes of.

499
00:24:04,080 --> 00:24:10,480
Speaker 1: The wow fish makes sense, right? What?

500
00:24:11,040 --> 00:24:14,600
Speaker 4: But it was so funny because like we would be

501
00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:18,200
Speaker 4: like fucking and it would be like, Okay, he's gonna

502
00:24:18,200 --> 00:24:21,240
Speaker 4: fuck Glenn, and then we literally switched the condom, put

503
00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:23,560
Speaker 4: another one on, and then he would fuck me, and

504
00:24:23,600 --> 00:24:29,240
Speaker 4: then I'd be like, yeah, Glenn back like girl, nice Glenn.

505
00:24:30,280 --> 00:24:35,679
Speaker 1: It was oh, girl, girl, do you want to get

506
00:24:35,800 --> 00:24:39,800
Speaker 1: you want the water? Literally that's kind of the energy.

507
00:24:40,240 --> 00:24:44,040
Speaker 4: Literally my turn lay down the energy, and then it

508
00:24:44,080 --> 00:24:45,879
Speaker 4: would switch to me and Glenn would be like trying

509
00:24:45,880 --> 00:24:47,840
Speaker 4: to like it, and I'd be like, get the fuck

510
00:24:47,960 --> 00:24:48,440
Speaker 4: out of here.

511
00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:53,400
Speaker 1: Oh my god, this is the most hilarious I've ever literally,

512
00:24:53,840 --> 00:24:55,359
Speaker 1: and now I need to hear how it went with

513
00:24:55,880 --> 00:24:56,520
Speaker 1: you over there.

514
00:24:57,680 --> 00:25:04,320
Speaker 7: That sounds crazy, the one with you well Chelsea, Oh no, no,

515
00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:07,800
Speaker 7: Actually Chelsea trapped me in this scenario.

516
00:25:08,359 --> 00:25:10,560
Speaker 1: We were at the club, we were really fucked up,

517
00:25:10,720 --> 00:25:12,240
Speaker 1: and this is when I was like wilding.

518
00:25:12,720 --> 00:25:15,440
Speaker 4: She actually wanted one of our other friends to come

519
00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:17,840
Speaker 4: home with this guy. So I was actually the second

520
00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:22,760
Speaker 4: draft pick because I think our other friend like curved you. Well,

521
00:25:22,760 --> 00:25:24,639
Speaker 4: she's like a full blown lesbian now, so she was

522
00:25:24,680 --> 00:25:26,120
Speaker 4: probably like not really with the ship.

523
00:25:26,280 --> 00:25:29,040
Speaker 1: She was just following the guys with the weed. Yeah,

524
00:25:29,320 --> 00:25:31,480
Speaker 1: She's like yeah, she didn't she didn't say no. It

525
00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:33,120
Speaker 1: was just the weed that I didn't have any.

526
00:25:33,240 --> 00:25:35,760
Speaker 4: But she was like very explicit I think with that

527
00:25:35,800 --> 00:25:38,879
Speaker 4: friend about her intentions, not so much with me. So

528
00:25:38,920 --> 00:25:40,600
Speaker 4: the next thing I know, I'm thinking that we're going

529
00:25:40,640 --> 00:25:47,920
Speaker 4: to have after club food at cafeteria. Oh my god.

530
00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:52,600
Speaker 4: And I'm like, we get the cafeteria in their clothes.

531
00:25:52,800 --> 00:25:54,560
Speaker 4: So then so then the guy's like, oh, I'll take

532
00:25:54,600 --> 00:25:57,400
Speaker 4: you guys to another spot. I fall asleep in the cab.

533
00:25:57,480 --> 00:25:59,800
Speaker 4: Next thing I know, I'm on the fucking Upper east Side.

534
00:26:00,800 --> 00:26:09,760
Speaker 7: This is trafficking or something.

535
00:26:06,240 --> 00:26:09,560
Speaker 4: Traffic I was like, yep, I shift that you remember

536
00:26:09,600 --> 00:26:10,920
Speaker 4: his name, we get out.

537
00:26:11,119 --> 00:26:15,639
Speaker 1: You could have trust this bit. I was watching from

538
00:26:15,680 --> 00:26:18,359
Speaker 1: the living room, oh even two weeks before when I

539
00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:19,920
Speaker 1: dragged you and put you in the back of the cab.

540
00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:33,280
Speaker 4: Want as she's in Capricorn, but she plan. She's a

541
00:26:33,520 --> 00:26:38,280
Speaker 4: very dynamic chart. So I just want to say that

542
00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:40,479
Speaker 4: I did not know that this was the plan. Like literally,

543
00:26:40,520 --> 00:26:43,480
Speaker 4: we get out of the cab and I'm like, where's

544
00:26:43,480 --> 00:26:46,199
Speaker 4: the food, and the guy's like, oh, We're gonna go

545
00:26:46,200 --> 00:26:48,680
Speaker 4: to my plate and I'm drunk, and I'm like all right, fine,

546
00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:50,480
Speaker 4: Like I'm on the Upper east Side at this point,

547
00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:52,680
Speaker 4: like I'll just crash here and then I'll go about

548
00:26:52,680 --> 00:26:54,280
Speaker 4: my business and get on the train in the morning.

549
00:26:54,280 --> 00:26:56,240
Speaker 4: Because we were young, I wasn't paying for no cab

550
00:26:56,280 --> 00:26:59,160
Speaker 4: back to Brooklyn from the upperast Side. Yeah, we get

551
00:26:59,160 --> 00:27:03,080
Speaker 4: to his student. There's a fucking there's a there's a room,

552
00:27:03,119 --> 00:27:05,879
Speaker 4: and there's a bed, and Chelsea just gets in the

553
00:27:05,880 --> 00:27:08,480
Speaker 4: bed and falls asleep. And now me and the dude

554
00:27:08,520 --> 00:27:11,440
Speaker 4: are fucking playing like Nintendo sixty four, Like we're playing

555
00:27:11,480 --> 00:27:12,359
Speaker 4: like Mario Kart.

556
00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:16,199
Speaker 1: He's playing the guitar for me. We're like, we're like

557
00:27:16,359 --> 00:27:20,040
Speaker 1: kicking it. I just needed a Now.

558
00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:26,520
Speaker 4: We're kicking it. And I'm like, he's like, you want

559
00:27:26,520 --> 00:27:28,760
Speaker 4: some shorts. I'm like yeah, Like him and I are

560
00:27:28,800 --> 00:27:32,680
Speaker 4: like buddies. And then he's like all right, let's stop that.

561
00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:35,080
Speaker 1: I'm like cool.

562
00:27:35,600 --> 00:27:38,760
Speaker 4: We all get into the same bed. I'm still not

563
00:27:38,880 --> 00:27:42,840
Speaker 4: thinking that anything is about to go down. I you know,

564
00:27:42,880 --> 00:27:45,560
Speaker 4: get under the covers, get cozy, and then there's.

565
00:27:45,359 --> 00:27:47,000
Speaker 1: Just a lot of movement.

566
00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:51,879
Speaker 4: And literally my brain was like my brain.

567
00:27:51,680 --> 00:27:56,600
Speaker 1: Was like oh.

568
00:27:56,840 --> 00:28:00,239
Speaker 3: I was like, maybe she doesn't know him awake right,

569
00:28:01,520 --> 00:28:02,800
Speaker 3: Maybe shows me to play sleep.

570
00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:03,440
Speaker 2: I don't know.

571
00:28:04,359 --> 00:28:07,360
Speaker 1: I remember they did like the infamous I'm gonna start

572
00:28:07,359 --> 00:28:09,800
Speaker 1: touching your leg. Yeah, because how you got pulled in?

573
00:28:10,119 --> 00:28:12,600
Speaker 1: Shut it? That's like starter picking. Yes, they were.

574
00:28:14,720 --> 00:28:17,359
Speaker 4: They were messing around, and then I was just there

575
00:28:17,440 --> 00:28:20,720
Speaker 4: and then I mean, I don't know how how detailed

576
00:28:20,720 --> 00:28:24,120
Speaker 4: bing I get. I just remember, I just remember this motion.

577
00:28:25,560 --> 00:28:29,320
Speaker 1: It was at the same damn time. He was a

578
00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:30,080
Speaker 1: fair bank.

579
00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:34,480
Speaker 7: Oh I guess I fal So he was like sitting

580
00:28:34,560 --> 00:28:36,760
Speaker 7: with his back towards he was in the middle.

581
00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:39,600
Speaker 6: That's an interesting So he was always in the middle

582
00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:40,600
Speaker 6: at all points.

583
00:28:41,120 --> 00:28:42,800
Speaker 1: He was in the middle. So it was like this

584
00:28:43,400 --> 00:28:45,760
Speaker 1: he was he was an equal opportunist. He was trying

585
00:28:45,760 --> 00:28:47,640
Speaker 1: to make sure it was balanced. How what is this?

586
00:28:48,040 --> 00:28:49,640
Speaker 1: I don't know. She was going backwards.

587
00:28:53,240 --> 00:28:57,160
Speaker 6: I was blackout, so I don't quite remember, but I

588
00:28:57,200 --> 00:28:58,760
Speaker 6: mean I was kind of a little bit.

589
00:28:58,880 --> 00:29:05,880
Speaker 1: There was consent, yeah, I was yeah, yeah, I was recording.

590
00:29:07,840 --> 00:29:10,080
Speaker 1: I was lit. I was lit assaulted me.

591
00:29:11,840 --> 00:29:14,160
Speaker 6: No, But I remember being like, okay, I think I'm

592
00:29:14,160 --> 00:29:18,600
Speaker 6: supposed to do something with a too, so like like.

593
00:29:19,240 --> 00:29:23,200
Speaker 3: Planning it out, I like reached my arm over and

594
00:29:23,320 --> 00:29:32,320
Speaker 3: like I was like.

595
00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:35,320
Speaker 4: I know, and usually I'm not I'm really not with

596
00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:35,840
Speaker 4: the ships.

597
00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:38,160
Speaker 8: I'm really I don't the fact that none of the

598
00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:40,320
Speaker 8: you two are not really with the ships, but somehow

599
00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:43,920
Speaker 8: still ended up in this fucking studio apartment with this

600
00:29:44,200 --> 00:29:46,000
Speaker 8: band Double Fire bringing on that.

601
00:29:46,080 --> 00:29:48,840
Speaker 1: You said, I think I'm supposed to no never mind,

602
00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:51,040
Speaker 1: never mind.

603
00:29:51,080 --> 00:29:53,960
Speaker 4: Thing is, I will always like I'm impulsive, so I'll

604
00:29:53,960 --> 00:29:56,120
Speaker 4: always kind of like lean in, but then I will

605
00:29:56,160 --> 00:29:58,120
Speaker 4: like quickly put my boundaries up.

606
00:29:58,160 --> 00:29:59,320
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, I'm not touching.

607
00:29:59,160 --> 00:30:01,280
Speaker 4: Your pussy, get away that away from not that, not that,

608
00:30:02,080 --> 00:30:02,520
Speaker 4: And I.

609
00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:04,479
Speaker 6: Have like all these crazy thoughts in my head, like

610
00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:07,200
Speaker 6: all these things that I would like to do, but

611
00:30:07,320 --> 00:30:10,640
Speaker 6: I just can't do them.

612
00:30:10,880 --> 00:30:16,040
Speaker 1: Does that make sense to that point? Can? Is it?

613
00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:18,560
Speaker 1: Is it that the point the things that you want

614
00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:22,520
Speaker 1: to do, like how do you like? How I just

615
00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:24,920
Speaker 1: I need? I want to do it, but I'm scared.

616
00:30:25,280 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 1: What maybe should I take some shots? I get them,

617
00:30:28,200 --> 00:30:29,560
Speaker 1: like what do you want to do? But you're scared?

618
00:30:31,000 --> 00:30:33,360
Speaker 1: You want to eat that baby? You know what I

619
00:30:33,360 --> 00:30:35,560
Speaker 1: think it is? You know, I think it is.

620
00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:38,280
Speaker 3: I think that the fear comes from like not knowing

621
00:30:38,320 --> 00:30:39,400
Speaker 3: what position to be in.

622
00:30:39,920 --> 00:30:41,720
Speaker 1: What are we doing here? Like are you bent over?

623
00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:43,880
Speaker 1: Like are you doggy style? You like? Ass up?

624
00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:46,560
Speaker 4: Like are we doing it from the front, like your legs,

625
00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:50,160
Speaker 4: back position, shoulders, like I like all.

626
00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:52,600
Speaker 1: Positions, you know.

627
00:30:52,640 --> 00:30:54,080
Speaker 3: A good one is like if you're giving a guy

628
00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:57,320
Speaker 3: a massage and they're like the stomach, You're like, just

629
00:30:58,400 --> 00:31:00,480
Speaker 3: you can start with the fingers and just like you

630
00:31:00,560 --> 00:31:02,440
Speaker 3: write it like like everyone likes to get the but

631
00:31:02,560 --> 00:31:04,320
Speaker 3: massage like it's actually a hot.

632
00:31:04,160 --> 00:31:06,640
Speaker 1: Spoty no one massages. Don't look at me like that

633
00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:10,480
Speaker 1: has any massage your but lately? I like my butt, yes,

634
00:31:10,840 --> 00:31:13,120
Speaker 1: And I'm like, I'm not even giving niggas massages. What

635
00:31:13,440 --> 00:31:15,960
Speaker 1: like I'm getting massaged. I'm also hell a selfish you

636
00:31:15,960 --> 00:31:17,080
Speaker 1: don't give massages.

637
00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:19,440
Speaker 3: Okay, y'all are ready for ass eating then, because it's

638
00:31:19,280 --> 00:31:22,600
Speaker 3: not selfish woman to eat some mass Okay, you got

639
00:31:22,600 --> 00:31:23,680
Speaker 3: to sacrifice yourself.

640
00:31:23,680 --> 00:31:25,400
Speaker 1: But you might, but you might get like sad.

641
00:31:25,440 --> 00:31:27,120
Speaker 2: I get satisfaction out of it because I kind of

642
00:31:27,120 --> 00:31:29,760
Speaker 2: feel like some.

643
00:31:29,840 --> 00:31:31,560
Speaker 7: Me he wants me to be more aggressive because it

644
00:31:31,560 --> 00:31:34,160
Speaker 7: makes me feel sexy and he would like to feel sexy.

645
00:31:34,440 --> 00:31:36,400
Speaker 2: Okay, he has, he's on his way to some other ship.

646
00:31:36,480 --> 00:31:38,200
Speaker 2: I'm gonna let you know I like him. I do

647
00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:39,560
Speaker 2: like him, and I'm like, I.

648
00:31:39,520 --> 00:31:40,600
Speaker 1: Gotta get this ship together.

649
00:31:45,040 --> 00:31:48,440
Speaker 6: Can you please read a piece of your piece about

650
00:31:48,160 --> 00:31:54,160
Speaker 6: my no please, it's so good, it's so good an

651
00:31:54,160 --> 00:31:59,120
Speaker 6: extremely talented writer, and like this piece it's like erotic.

652
00:31:59,280 --> 00:31:59,600
Speaker 2: Who.

653
00:32:03,960 --> 00:32:07,920
Speaker 1: Well, just do it. I might up as I say.

654
00:32:07,920 --> 00:32:09,840
Speaker 7: The other thing that like, I feel people are debating

655
00:32:09,840 --> 00:32:11,720
Speaker 7: about a lot online, which I think is like not

656
00:32:11,760 --> 00:32:14,960
Speaker 7: a big deal, but like spitting in people's mouths, which I.

657
00:32:14,640 --> 00:32:18,000
Speaker 1: That's another thing. I think. It's like I knew I

658
00:32:18,120 --> 00:32:20,360
Speaker 1: like that too. Not everyone I don't want. I don't

659
00:32:20,360 --> 00:32:23,200
Speaker 1: want anything I actually prefer to do again, I want

660
00:32:23,200 --> 00:32:27,400
Speaker 1: to dominate you. I'll take it. It's not from everyone's

661
00:32:27,960 --> 00:32:30,720
Speaker 1: you want them to spin in your mouth. I will

662
00:32:30,760 --> 00:32:31,160
Speaker 1: do both.

663
00:32:31,320 --> 00:32:34,600
Speaker 3: I don't necessarily feel like I sometimes I just it's

664
00:32:34,600 --> 00:32:36,719
Speaker 3: not something. It's not my go to no no, no, no,

665
00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:39,560
Speaker 3: like and every now and then trick.

666
00:32:40,680 --> 00:32:45,560
Speaker 1: I hate spit. I hate I'm so whack.

667
00:32:45,880 --> 00:32:47,760
Speaker 4: I don't like I really don't like spit, and I

668
00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:50,720
Speaker 4: really don't like sweat. But I like being dominated. Right,

669
00:32:50,840 --> 00:32:54,040
Speaker 4: So if you're like, bitch, get down and I'm just

670
00:32:54,120 --> 00:32:55,800
Speaker 4: sweating all over you and I'm spinning your mouth and

671
00:32:55,840 --> 00:33:00,120
Speaker 4: I'm fucking you up, I'm like, oh, okay, commit know

672
00:33:00,200 --> 00:33:03,600
Speaker 4: what Like you can't just do it. Yeah, you can't

673
00:33:03,640 --> 00:33:09,040
Speaker 4: have it, can't be believable me too, what we're doing, Yeah, yeah,

674
00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:10,400
Speaker 4: let's have a And I'm like.

675
00:33:12,160 --> 00:33:14,200
Speaker 1: If I feel like I mean, I'm going to.

676
00:33:14,960 --> 00:33:17,320
Speaker 4: And I've also had someone be like dominate me and

677
00:33:17,360 --> 00:33:18,640
Speaker 4: I can lean into that as well.

678
00:33:18,840 --> 00:33:20,960
Speaker 1: So it's just I just need somebody to.

679
00:33:21,000 --> 00:33:24,080
Speaker 3: Just you're I think we have to push past some

680
00:33:24,200 --> 00:33:27,600
Speaker 3: of our you know, ideas of like yeah, what like

681
00:33:27,720 --> 00:33:30,080
Speaker 3: male femininity and all that looks like too, because I

682
00:33:30,160 --> 00:33:32,480
Speaker 3: want to do it too. Like I remember when I

683
00:33:32,520 --> 00:33:34,440
Speaker 3: when I first became singlista day, this guy and who

684
00:33:34,520 --> 00:33:36,960
Speaker 3: really liked his nipples played with and like he told

685
00:33:37,000 --> 00:33:39,320
Speaker 3: me that. I was like okay, and I did it

686
00:33:39,360 --> 00:33:42,760
Speaker 3: because I wanted him to feel pleasure. But I wasn't

687
00:33:42,760 --> 00:33:45,640
Speaker 3: getting pleasure from it, like I was just because there.

688
00:33:45,600 --> 00:33:49,040
Speaker 1: Was a blot. No, I was a selfish. I was

689
00:33:49,120 --> 00:33:51,080
Speaker 1: doing it, but I was just like this is like

690
00:33:51,160 --> 00:33:52,800
Speaker 1: what is it? I was just so small.

691
00:33:53,680 --> 00:33:56,560
Speaker 3: But then but then like I the more I did it,

692
00:33:56,560 --> 00:33:57,920
Speaker 3: the more I was like, Okay, this is this.

693
00:33:58,040 --> 00:34:00,040
Speaker 1: I just never experienced this. Whatever, it's not a I

694
00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:02,360
Speaker 1: wouldn't Maybe it is a kink. I don't know, it's rot.

695
00:34:03,080 --> 00:34:06,080
Speaker 3: But yeah, I think there's a lot of like I

696
00:34:06,080 --> 00:34:09,360
Speaker 3: think even as black women too, like with the black body,

697
00:34:09,480 --> 00:34:12,360
Speaker 3: like the male body, Like there's so many rules and things.

698
00:34:12,520 --> 00:34:16,080
Speaker 3: I think specifically the butt specifically with black men is

699
00:34:16,080 --> 00:34:18,960
Speaker 3: like a real thing. I'm not gay, right, and so

700
00:34:19,160 --> 00:34:23,160
Speaker 3: everything's no, it's inevitable that those feelings not only affect

701
00:34:23,239 --> 00:34:27,480
Speaker 3: them but us too, and like feeling that there's this boundary.

702
00:34:27,040 --> 00:34:29,120
Speaker 1: There, that's what alway should have make men feel safe.

703
00:34:29,160 --> 00:34:31,320
Speaker 3: I mean there's yeah, poop comes out of the butthole,

704
00:34:31,360 --> 00:34:33,080
Speaker 3: but like a lot of people, niggas don't be wiping

705
00:34:33,080 --> 00:34:35,719
Speaker 3: their tip be pissed all over that ship and we'd

706
00:34:35,760 --> 00:34:36,400
Speaker 3: be stucking on it.

707
00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:41,120
Speaker 1: Okay, balls be platy and it's nasty, so it's all

708
00:34:41,200 --> 00:34:44,319
Speaker 1: one and the same. To me, I literally have my

709
00:34:44,360 --> 00:34:46,200
Speaker 1: face like buried in some balls.

710
00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:48,719
Speaker 3: Like a nigga will go piss and they'll suck his

711
00:34:48,760 --> 00:34:52,239
Speaker 3: dick immediately like the low peet and then come in

712
00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:53,279
Speaker 3: the bed and we will.

713
00:34:53,440 --> 00:34:56,239
Speaker 1: You're literally stressing me out. Why why do you have

714
00:34:56,239 --> 00:35:01,319
Speaker 1: to do this every time? I'm always scarred for life.

715
00:35:01,360 --> 00:35:03,200
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be like, did you just peek? Did you

716
00:35:03,239 --> 00:35:05,160
Speaker 1: wipe it? Off with your baby white. No he did not.

717
00:35:05,440 --> 00:35:07,759
Speaker 2: You know, it's particular about like my ass wipe being

718
00:35:07,800 --> 00:35:09,560
Speaker 2: like I'm particular like if you're at the house and

719
00:35:09,600 --> 00:35:11,759
Speaker 2: you take a ship and then you kind of try

720
00:35:11,800 --> 00:35:13,239
Speaker 2: and come get back in the bed with me with

721
00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:15,880
Speaker 2: no pants, like no underbears on, without like just getting

722
00:35:15,920 --> 00:35:16,440
Speaker 2: in the shower.

723
00:35:16,640 --> 00:35:18,000
Speaker 1: I believe like, if you're at the house.

724
00:35:17,800 --> 00:35:19,279
Speaker 2: And you just took a ship, you should just take

725
00:35:19,280 --> 00:35:20,520
Speaker 2: a shower real quick, don't.

726
00:35:20,880 --> 00:35:23,920
Speaker 1: I guess you're at the house. Wait, what is your excuse?

727
00:35:24,040 --> 00:35:26,359
Speaker 2: And definitely don't not use the baby white and then

728
00:35:26,440 --> 00:35:29,839
Speaker 2: come get in the bed naked. No, no, no, no,

729
00:35:29,960 --> 00:35:31,080
Speaker 2: I'm a nasty bitch.

730
00:35:31,120 --> 00:35:33,560
Speaker 1: You gotta become clean, like very clean. Maybe I need

731
00:35:33,600 --> 00:35:37,040
Speaker 1: to watch you do it. That's a given. I like

732
00:35:37,080 --> 00:35:39,400
Speaker 1: that as a rule of thumb. I'm going to read

733
00:35:39,440 --> 00:35:45,600
Speaker 1: it a sexy bath. Okay, I'm going to read listen

734
00:35:45,719 --> 00:35:48,520
Speaker 1: to a talented friend. All right.

735
00:35:48,880 --> 00:35:52,960
Speaker 7: So this is actually about this man, right, Okay, So

736
00:35:54,800 --> 00:35:58,880
Speaker 7: where do we want to start. We're calling him Brooklyn

737
00:35:59,000 --> 00:36:03,040
Speaker 7: in this story. So the night before Brooklyn was walking

738
00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:05,600
Speaker 7: me home from this bar in our hood. The air

739
00:36:05,719 --> 00:36:08,400
Speaker 7: was so hot and thick it damn near felt like

740
00:36:08,440 --> 00:36:10,919
Speaker 7: we were wading through the night. We were steps away

741
00:36:10,920 --> 00:36:14,080
Speaker 7: from my apartment when I turned to him abruptly and said, Yo,

742
00:36:14,320 --> 00:36:17,400
Speaker 7: you got AC. Mine hadn't been installed yet and I

743
00:36:17,400 --> 00:36:21,000
Speaker 7: couldn't bear another night sweating between my sheets. Yeah, I

744
00:36:21,040 --> 00:36:23,520
Speaker 7: got AC, he said, and I think we both kind

745
00:36:23,560 --> 00:36:26,200
Speaker 7: of smirked. Later, as we laid on his bed in

746
00:36:26,239 --> 00:36:28,520
Speaker 7: the cool of the air, we kissed for the first time.

747
00:36:28,960 --> 00:36:29,560
Speaker 1: He slid his.

748
00:36:29,560 --> 00:36:32,080
Speaker 7: Tongue around to my neck and up to my ear lobes,

749
00:36:32,160 --> 00:36:35,200
Speaker 7: then used his mouth to slip my earrings off. When

750
00:36:35,239 --> 00:36:38,000
Speaker 7: he spit them out, the backs were securely fastened on.

751
00:36:38,560 --> 00:36:41,040
Speaker 7: I remember thinking the move was totally over the top,

752
00:36:41,120 --> 00:36:43,960
Speaker 7: but also wondering what else his mouth could do. That

753
00:36:44,080 --> 00:36:46,520
Speaker 7: night in June, Brooklyn fucked me like he had something

754
00:36:46,520 --> 00:36:48,719
Speaker 7: to prove, Like he was trying to tell me, you've

755
00:36:48,760 --> 00:36:51,080
Speaker 7: been fronting on me this whole time, but you ain't

756
00:36:51,080 --> 00:36:52,520
Speaker 7: gonna be fronting on me no more.

757
00:36:54,360 --> 00:37:02,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, Wow, things, Yo.

758
00:37:02,920 --> 00:37:06,160
Speaker 1: Jesus loves to try everything with you. Have you stuck

759
00:37:06,200 --> 00:37:12,359
Speaker 1: your finger in the booty? Yet? I did that once? Okay? Dry? Never? Yeah,

760
00:37:12,600 --> 00:37:15,759
Speaker 1: he was like, you can't just be doing that like that? Yeah,

761
00:37:17,120 --> 00:37:21,160
Speaker 1: got what exactly that's.

762
00:37:21,000 --> 00:37:24,239
Speaker 7: Just oh, Glynn, I got I got, I got a

763
00:37:24,239 --> 00:37:25,040
Speaker 7: lot to learn, y'all.

764
00:37:25,080 --> 00:37:27,799
Speaker 1: I'm kidding, no, no, no, just no, it's cool. Just

765
00:37:27,880 --> 00:37:29,600
Speaker 1: take your time and ask us.

766
00:37:31,760 --> 00:37:33,640
Speaker 4: I'm like, I feel like I have some new sister.

767
00:37:34,560 --> 00:37:37,760
Speaker 4: Yeah maybe if I don't know. I think I've always

768
00:37:37,760 --> 00:37:39,279
Speaker 4: gonna beat his bitch, and I think there's gonna be

769
00:37:39,320 --> 00:37:41,319
Speaker 4: a man who's just gonna be like, yeah, I could

770
00:37:41,360 --> 00:37:43,040
Speaker 4: just tie that bitch up and suck her up.

771
00:37:43,080 --> 00:37:46,040
Speaker 1: And it's wait, shut it. You're in l A, aren't you?

772
00:37:45,880 --> 00:37:48,320
Speaker 1: Are you New York? But I work California hours?

773
00:37:48,360 --> 00:37:52,520
Speaker 4: It's got its god it Yeah?

774
00:37:53,000 --> 00:37:56,239
Speaker 1: Are you? Are you both from Kelly like from there? Yeah?

775
00:37:56,360 --> 00:37:58,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, But I spend a lot of time in

776
00:37:58,239 --> 00:38:00,040
Speaker 3: New York. I have an office out there, and so

777
00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:02,520
Speaker 3: I was there like probably twice a month all of

778
00:38:02,640 --> 00:38:04,400
Speaker 3: last year. And I was about to move there, but

779
00:38:04,400 --> 00:38:06,279
Speaker 3: then COVID fucked my life up.

780
00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:09,919
Speaker 1: So come tell us when you're here, Yes, yeah, we will,

781
00:38:10,320 --> 00:38:12,120
Speaker 1: and vice versa. Have you come out stories?

782
00:38:12,239 --> 00:38:12,479
Speaker 7: Yeah?

783
00:38:12,680 --> 00:38:12,879
Speaker 9: Oh?

784
00:38:13,000 --> 00:38:16,359
Speaker 6: Also you asked earlier about the podcasting and dating, So

785
00:38:16,400 --> 00:38:17,640
Speaker 6: do you not tell your dates?

786
00:38:17,640 --> 00:38:19,400
Speaker 1: So who you're talking to that you have a podcast,

787
00:38:19,400 --> 00:38:20,080
Speaker 1: how does that work?

788
00:38:21,719 --> 00:38:25,920
Speaker 3: Not not off the bat norly know, because it's just

789
00:38:25,960 --> 00:38:28,960
Speaker 3: such a preview into my life so quick and like

790
00:38:30,239 --> 00:38:32,319
Speaker 3: I've been I'm like kind of paranoid because I had

791
00:38:32,320 --> 00:38:35,120
Speaker 3: a bad situation with this guy who basically listened to

792
00:38:35,120 --> 00:38:39,040
Speaker 3: the podcast and like learned me and like totally manipulated

793
00:38:39,040 --> 00:38:42,120
Speaker 3: me and like lied and like lied about so much shit,

794
00:38:42,200 --> 00:38:44,960
Speaker 3: like being a single dad, he was married. Yeah, it

795
00:38:45,000 --> 00:38:47,399
Speaker 3: was just the whole thing. So I'm you, I became

796
00:38:47,560 --> 00:38:52,920
Speaker 3: paranoid and shit, but it never comes up, fucked Inevitably

797
00:38:52,920 --> 00:38:54,279
Speaker 3: it comes up because it's such a big part of

798
00:38:54,320 --> 00:38:56,440
Speaker 3: my life. You know, I love I love I love

799
00:38:56,560 --> 00:39:00,120
Speaker 3: what I do. I love podcasting, and it's they're gonna.

800
00:38:59,880 --> 00:39:01,920
Speaker 1: Be what are you doing every day? Right? Going on

801
00:39:02,000 --> 00:39:07,719
Speaker 1: over there? So yeah, he's a psychopath. Oh yeah, that's

802
00:39:07,719 --> 00:39:09,799
Speaker 1: what that was. And he just yeah, he just had

803
00:39:09,800 --> 00:39:10,880
Speaker 1: a baby too. It was crazy.

804
00:39:10,920 --> 00:39:12,359
Speaker 3: It was just like I think she was pregnant too

805
00:39:12,400 --> 00:39:14,360
Speaker 3: at that time, you do, or they got or he

806
00:39:14,360 --> 00:39:19,600
Speaker 3: got her right after, Like sorry, yeah, yeah, it's crazy,

807
00:39:19,960 --> 00:39:23,480
Speaker 3: so sad, sad. Yeah, we have a whole episode about it,

808
00:39:23,480 --> 00:39:25,480
Speaker 3: so if you're listening, you want to check out that episode.

809
00:39:25,520 --> 00:39:30,080
Speaker 1: It's called I'm Dating a married man, and it's a

810
00:39:30,120 --> 00:39:33,600
Speaker 1: good one. It's a good it's a treaty. One of

811
00:39:33,680 --> 00:39:40,560
Speaker 1: us did that, just kidding, Elsie put their.

812
00:39:42,400 --> 00:39:48,360
Speaker 2: Wow, you know, Shane, you're advertising shade is advertised.

813
00:39:48,920 --> 00:39:51,960
Speaker 1: I was young. I made a mistake. I don't I know.

814
00:39:52,040 --> 00:39:53,280
Speaker 1: I was trying. Happened.

815
00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:56,000
Speaker 2: You know what I always say, I'm like, you want

816
00:39:56,040 --> 00:39:58,880
Speaker 2: me to date your husband because I likely.

817
00:39:58,680 --> 00:40:00,719
Speaker 1: Don't want him at all. Like I don't want to

818
00:40:00,760 --> 00:40:01,239
Speaker 1: take your mail.

819
00:40:01,280 --> 00:40:03,440
Speaker 2: That's not the goal here, Like just make them both happy,

820
00:40:03,640 --> 00:40:05,680
Speaker 2: and I'm going to do it. Like let's work together,

821
00:40:05,760 --> 00:40:06,840
Speaker 2: Like let's call me if you need me.

822
00:40:07,880 --> 00:40:10,120
Speaker 4: Listen, there's a little about a hot dad that just

823
00:40:10,920 --> 00:40:12,799
Speaker 4: when I go on Whole Foods and I see him,

824
00:40:12,880 --> 00:40:14,160
Speaker 4: Dad's I'll.

825
00:40:14,000 --> 00:40:17,120
Speaker 1: Be getting hot, I know, but I keep it to myself.

826
00:40:17,800 --> 00:40:20,600
Speaker 6: I think guys do look nicer with babies hot dads,

827
00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:22,480
Speaker 6: and may they look a little tired.

828
00:40:23,719 --> 00:40:27,799
Speaker 1: Tired. I'm like, come rub that stubble on me.

829
00:40:30,120 --> 00:40:34,560
Speaker 4: But you know, only only if he's you know, single,

830
00:40:34,640 --> 00:40:35,920
Speaker 4: or maybe on the outs.

831
00:40:36,480 --> 00:40:43,520
Speaker 6: The Okay, my last question for you ladies is what

832
00:40:43,640 --> 00:40:44,440
Speaker 6: is giving birth?

833
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:51,520
Speaker 1: Like these fucking questions. I was like, what question is

834
00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:52,000
Speaker 1: she going to pick?

835
00:40:52,040 --> 00:40:52,920
Speaker 7: Which one is it going to be.

836
00:40:52,960 --> 00:40:54,040
Speaker 4: There's a plethora of.

837
00:40:57,280 --> 00:41:03,719
Speaker 3: The way She's asking curious, I believe you, what is

838
00:41:03,719 --> 00:41:04,239
Speaker 3: giving birth?

839
00:41:04,280 --> 00:41:06,680
Speaker 1: Like, uh, it is? For me?

840
00:41:06,760 --> 00:41:09,440
Speaker 3: It was really Oh, I had birth and I gave

841
00:41:09,480 --> 00:41:12,080
Speaker 3: birth in a hospital, which obviously most people do, but

842
00:41:12,160 --> 00:41:14,440
Speaker 3: that was when I got to the hospital I realized

843
00:41:14,480 --> 00:41:16,200
Speaker 3: it was like the biggest mistake of my life. Like

844
00:41:16,360 --> 00:41:18,640
Speaker 3: I got there and I immediately started crying and everyone

845
00:41:18,800 --> 00:41:19,399
Speaker 3: was like, what's wrong?

846
00:41:19,400 --> 00:41:21,719
Speaker 1: And I was like this were people died. I was like,

847
00:41:21,719 --> 00:41:24,840
Speaker 1: what am I doing here? Why did I choose this?

848
00:41:26,920 --> 00:41:30,080
Speaker 3: I just became so fearful, and then I just feel

849
00:41:30,080 --> 00:41:33,719
Speaker 3: like I wanted to have a natural birth I was

850
00:41:33,719 --> 00:41:36,000
Speaker 3: getting I got induced because my doctor kind of made

851
00:41:36,000 --> 00:41:37,960
Speaker 3: me feel like I had no other choice, like my

852
00:41:38,560 --> 00:41:39,960
Speaker 3: daughter was getting too big.

853
00:41:39,880 --> 00:41:40,960
Speaker 1: Like a lot of doctors did.

854
00:41:41,040 --> 00:41:42,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was one of it was I feel like

855
00:41:42,680 --> 00:41:46,080
Speaker 3: my situation just wasn't. Looking back on it, and now

856
00:41:46,160 --> 00:41:49,840
Speaker 3: that I have so much more knowledge about birth, I

857
00:41:50,960 --> 00:41:51,839
Speaker 3: was I just wasn't.

858
00:41:51,880 --> 00:41:53,400
Speaker 1: I don't think I was given the best advice.

859
00:41:53,440 --> 00:41:56,200
Speaker 3: So I feel like because of that, I had to

860
00:41:56,200 --> 00:41:59,279
Speaker 3: get induced, and then suddenly I wasn't going to be

861
00:41:59,280 --> 00:42:00,640
Speaker 3: able to have a natural birth. I had to get

862
00:42:00,640 --> 00:42:02,839
Speaker 3: a sea section, which I was like, not even on

863
00:42:03,000 --> 00:42:04,920
Speaker 3: like the play like the radar. For me, I was like,

864
00:42:04,960 --> 00:42:08,560
Speaker 3: I'm healthy, I'm capable. I got this. And then I'm like,

865
00:42:08,640 --> 00:42:11,040
Speaker 3: what we're doing We're having a C section? Okay, And

866
00:42:11,080 --> 00:42:13,440
Speaker 3: then that just was not great. I didn't love it,

867
00:42:13,800 --> 00:42:16,480
Speaker 3: to be honest. So birth for me, unfortunately wasn't like

868
00:42:16,520 --> 00:42:20,759
Speaker 3: this beautiful, like amazing experience like I hoped it could be. Yes,

869
00:42:20,840 --> 00:42:25,080
Speaker 3: there was amazing highlight. There were highlight moments like highlight moments.

870
00:42:25,160 --> 00:42:27,360
Speaker 3: Michael Jackson was playing during my c section.

871
00:42:27,920 --> 00:42:30,440
Speaker 1: That was cool, that's cool. They had music on.

872
00:42:30,960 --> 00:42:33,680
Speaker 3: I don't know if that's problematic now, but and I

873
00:42:33,719 --> 00:42:38,200
Speaker 3: was like, Michael mj was playing during the birth of

874
00:42:38,239 --> 00:42:43,120
Speaker 3: my baby girl. But yeah, I think it just wasn't

875
00:42:43,280 --> 00:42:45,279
Speaker 3: what I had hoped and dreamed for. If I ever

876
00:42:45,320 --> 00:42:48,080
Speaker 3: have another child, I definitely would do a lot of

877
00:42:48,080 --> 00:42:50,400
Speaker 3: things differently and follow my gut and intuition.

878
00:42:51,239 --> 00:42:58,400
Speaker 1: But yeah, that's birth for me. Birth is like, well,

879
00:42:58,400 --> 00:42:59,080
Speaker 1: if I always say, like.

880
00:42:59,120 --> 00:43:01,279
Speaker 2: You have these plans, I was like, die hard, I'm

881
00:43:01,280 --> 00:43:03,400
Speaker 2: gonna have an unassistant home birth. I like trained my

882
00:43:03,440 --> 00:43:06,040
Speaker 2: baby daddy. We had like I made him watch four

883
00:43:06,080 --> 00:43:09,200
Speaker 2: thousand videos. Like I called my hippie friends from up North,

884
00:43:09,280 --> 00:43:10,959
Speaker 2: like we're gonna e gauge when I give birth.

885
00:43:10,960 --> 00:43:13,640
Speaker 1: You're gonna come down and deliver my baby. I bought

886
00:43:13,680 --> 00:43:16,400
Speaker 1: the kid and the pool. It would be fine, you know.

887
00:43:17,000 --> 00:43:19,200
Speaker 2: And then like I went for my like one of

888
00:43:19,239 --> 00:43:21,399
Speaker 2: my checkups at thirty seven weeks, which is like three

889
00:43:21,440 --> 00:43:23,120
Speaker 2: weeks early, and she was like, oh.

890
00:43:22,960 --> 00:43:24,360
Speaker 1: I think you should go check into the hospital.

891
00:43:24,360 --> 00:43:27,359
Speaker 2: I was like, I think you're on drugs and then

892
00:43:27,440 --> 00:43:30,440
Speaker 2: she's like, no, it's really get your blood flush high.

893
00:43:30,480 --> 00:43:33,520
Speaker 2: So like basically just to tear in my whole process

894
00:43:33,520 --> 00:43:35,239
Speaker 2: that I thought was gonna happen. I wouldn't even go

895
00:43:35,239 --> 00:43:36,520
Speaker 2: on the tour because I was like, I'm not doing

896
00:43:36,560 --> 00:43:38,520
Speaker 2: it here. So I think like the first lesson in

897
00:43:38,640 --> 00:43:42,160
Speaker 2: birth earned motherhood for me was like your plan nobody cares,

898
00:43:42,200 --> 00:43:48,320
Speaker 2: nobody cares, your kid doesn't care, and God and whoever

899
00:43:48,480 --> 00:43:49,960
Speaker 2: your whole plan, that's as fuck you.

900
00:43:51,080 --> 00:43:53,719
Speaker 1: And I immediately immediately they try to induce.

901
00:43:53,400 --> 00:43:56,279
Speaker 2: You and like they interrupt the natural process, like you

902
00:43:56,320 --> 00:43:59,680
Speaker 2: go to a hospital, likeliness of your process being now

903
00:44:00,120 --> 00:44:02,040
Speaker 2: natural process that your body knows how to do, just

904
00:44:02,040 --> 00:44:04,319
Speaker 2: like your cats and your dogs go on birth and

905
00:44:04,320 --> 00:44:06,160
Speaker 2: they know what to do. Your body knows what to do.

906
00:44:06,280 --> 00:44:09,040
Speaker 2: It counteracts all that shit. First things. First, they try

907
00:44:09,080 --> 00:44:11,440
Speaker 2: to give you drugs, not natural. Try to induce you,

908
00:44:11,640 --> 00:44:13,759
Speaker 2: not natural. They try to put a balloon up your

909
00:44:13,760 --> 00:44:16,399
Speaker 2: pussy to open it up, not natural. And if you're

910
00:44:16,640 --> 00:44:19,400
Speaker 2: a break if they break your water, not natural and

911
00:44:19,440 --> 00:44:22,480
Speaker 2: it's been broken for twenty four hours or more, they

912
00:44:22,680 --> 00:44:25,160
Speaker 2: then say, oh, you have an infection because we broke

913
00:44:25,200 --> 00:44:28,319
Speaker 2: your bladder. And it's too much checking because you've checked

914
00:44:28,360 --> 00:44:30,200
Speaker 2: me way too many times, and now there's an infection

915
00:44:30,280 --> 00:44:31,879
Speaker 2: and now we have to cut you open because I'm

916
00:44:31,880 --> 00:44:34,839
Speaker 2: trying to leave at six and you've been giving birth

917
00:44:34,880 --> 00:44:37,239
Speaker 2: for twelve hours and I actually need to get off

918
00:44:37,280 --> 00:44:39,520
Speaker 2: and I do this every day and I don't really

919
00:44:39,560 --> 00:44:42,200
Speaker 2: give a fuck. So like there's all these things and

920
00:44:42,360 --> 00:44:45,600
Speaker 2: our bodies. So anyway, my rant, just for anyone's pregnant.

921
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Speaker 1: I love the brant. Oh it's important, and.

922
00:44:48,160 --> 00:44:50,160
Speaker 2: It's so important because we're not informed that there are

923
00:44:50,160 --> 00:44:53,240
Speaker 2: no other options. We don't go seeking all the images

924
00:44:53,280 --> 00:44:55,520
Speaker 2: of birth we see them meet on the TV or in.

925
00:44:55,480 --> 00:44:58,719
Speaker 9: The hospital, and like, to be honest, I'm like scared,

926
00:44:58,880 --> 00:45:02,439
Speaker 9: like genuinely they are scaring, and they're saying black women

927
00:45:02,480 --> 00:45:05,920
Speaker 9: are just like drug wrapping dead from having babies. We're

928
00:45:05,960 --> 00:45:09,000
Speaker 9: two and a half times more likely to die, like

929
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Speaker 9: our babies are more likely to die. We're more likely

930
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Speaker 9: to die because they don't believe us.

931
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Speaker 2: And I didn't know that giving birth, which is already scary,

932
00:45:14,560 --> 00:45:15,720
Speaker 2: I was already scared going to the hospital.

933
00:45:15,760 --> 00:45:17,800
Speaker 1: I'm glad I didn't know that shit, because out of

934
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Speaker 1: it even more scared.

935
00:45:18,680 --> 00:45:21,680
Speaker 2: But I am a witness of even my doctor was

936
00:45:21,719 --> 00:45:24,560
Speaker 2: my friend, like we're cool, and like I felt like

937
00:45:24,640 --> 00:45:26,759
Speaker 2: the nursing staff didn't listen to me. I had a

938
00:45:26,920 --> 00:45:29,000
Speaker 2: printed list of things I did not want to happen,

939
00:45:29,200 --> 00:45:30,800
Speaker 2: and like they offered me drugs immediately.

940
00:45:31,239 --> 00:45:35,200
Speaker 1: I printed that shit. Do not offer me drugs right anyway?

941
00:45:35,719 --> 00:45:39,040
Speaker 2: Giving birth is like going into the deepest parts of

942
00:45:39,080 --> 00:45:42,399
Speaker 2: your body, opening closets, doors, going downstairs that you didn't

943
00:45:42,400 --> 00:45:45,520
Speaker 2: even know were inside there, dark rooms, and going to

944
00:45:45,640 --> 00:45:47,640
Speaker 2: find this part in your body that you did not

945
00:45:47,800 --> 00:45:48,600
Speaker 2: even know exists.

946
00:45:48,600 --> 00:45:50,080
Speaker 1: There comes a point where no.

947
00:45:50,040 --> 00:45:52,680
Speaker 2: One can help you. Whoever's in the room can't help you.

948
00:45:52,960 --> 00:45:57,400
Speaker 2: Whatever affirmations you have playing can't help you. The affirmations

949
00:45:57,400 --> 00:45:59,680
Speaker 2: that you've printed nicely on the wall in front of you.

950
00:45:59,680 --> 00:46:00,279
Speaker 1: You could do this.

951
00:46:00,400 --> 00:46:02,360
Speaker 2: Your baby's waiting to see you. I had like this

952
00:46:02,400 --> 00:46:06,120
Speaker 2: affirmation playing like your baby is pushing down you. Old

953
00:46:06,280 --> 00:46:08,160
Speaker 2: baby is coming.

954
00:46:07,719 --> 00:46:10,600
Speaker 1: To see you. It was I don't know why she

955
00:46:10,680 --> 00:46:11,240
Speaker 1: was Australian.

956
00:46:11,280 --> 00:46:11,520
Speaker 2: I don't know.

957
00:46:11,520 --> 00:46:11,719
Speaker 5: Worry.

958
00:46:12,200 --> 00:46:14,040
Speaker 4: Did you print the affirmations to hand them to the

959
00:46:14,120 --> 00:46:14,640
Speaker 4: nurse too?

960
00:46:14,800 --> 00:46:17,560
Speaker 2: I printed the affirmations that had him on the thing.

961
00:46:17,600 --> 00:46:20,000
Speaker 2: I had a ball balancing girl. I was doing everything,

962
00:46:20,000 --> 00:46:23,640
Speaker 2: went outside to smell weed. I tried everything. But you

963
00:46:23,719 --> 00:46:26,480
Speaker 2: just go onto a place deep down darkness inside of

964
00:46:26,520 --> 00:46:27,600
Speaker 2: your corners of your body.

965
00:46:27,600 --> 00:46:28,400
Speaker 1: You didn't even know we're there, and.

966
00:46:28,440 --> 00:46:30,400
Speaker 2: You're like, only I either I'm gonna die or I'm

967
00:46:30,400 --> 00:46:31,600
Speaker 2: gonna come the fuck up out of this.

968
00:46:32,400 --> 00:46:37,200
Speaker 1: And then suddenly, yeah, just like the.

969
00:46:37,120 --> 00:46:40,520
Speaker 2: Deepest form of like pain slash numbness that you can

970
00:46:40,560 --> 00:46:43,040
Speaker 2: go to, and then you get epidural and it's all

971
00:46:43,080 --> 00:46:45,760
Speaker 2: over and you're like, I'm not the exorcist anymore.

972
00:46:45,840 --> 00:46:46,920
Speaker 1: And then you just push and.

973
00:46:46,880 --> 00:46:49,840
Speaker 2: You're like, oh my god, my baby on your chest,

974
00:46:49,960 --> 00:46:52,000
Speaker 2: and like you cry immediately because it's like.

975
00:46:52,360 --> 00:46:57,120
Speaker 1: Oh my god, this is an experience. I get this.

976
00:46:58,600 --> 00:47:02,120
Speaker 2: Just like another one sense of like, oh my god,

977
00:47:02,440 --> 00:47:04,600
Speaker 2: finally like I got through this.

978
00:47:04,760 --> 00:47:05,319
Speaker 1: I did it.

979
00:47:05,400 --> 00:47:08,600
Speaker 2: You're you could look into this child's eyes and the

980
00:47:08,680 --> 00:47:11,920
Speaker 2: ship is crazy. It's crazy, and then you see your

981
00:47:11,920 --> 00:47:14,720
Speaker 2: pussy open up so big. I asked for a mirror

982
00:47:15,040 --> 00:47:16,160
Speaker 2: because like, my body.

983
00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:17,200
Speaker 1: Is only going to do this once.

984
00:47:17,360 --> 00:47:20,399
Speaker 2: So you see like the head pop up and you're like,

985
00:47:20,520 --> 00:47:22,640
Speaker 2: oh my god, look at my body doing this crazy ship.

986
00:47:22,840 --> 00:47:25,080
Speaker 2: And then like it just like just slides out like

987
00:47:25,120 --> 00:47:27,080
Speaker 2: a little like squid out of a can.

988
00:47:27,560 --> 00:47:30,680
Speaker 6: And then does it immediately like does it immediately like

989
00:47:30,800 --> 00:47:32,640
Speaker 6: close or do they have to sew it up a

990
00:47:32,680 --> 00:47:34,520
Speaker 6: little or like sh face.

991
00:47:35,880 --> 00:47:40,279
Speaker 1: I'm thinking about a squid and a can too. I

992
00:47:40,280 --> 00:47:41,600
Speaker 1: don't know comparison.

993
00:47:41,680 --> 00:47:42,040
Speaker 6: I was.

994
00:47:43,840 --> 00:47:47,840
Speaker 2: Into it and I was like, wait, the shoulders and

995
00:47:47,880 --> 00:47:49,319
Speaker 2: that kind of like comes out.

996
00:47:50,760 --> 00:47:55,439
Speaker 1: It look like a little like flairing. Yeahimes the head

997
00:47:55,440 --> 00:47:55,880
Speaker 1: out for me.

998
00:47:56,000 --> 00:47:59,200
Speaker 3: I have that video that wass were laying on the side.

999
00:47:59,239 --> 00:48:01,959
Speaker 1: It's a serious surgery. They take out your intestines. People

1000
00:48:01,960 --> 00:48:02,480
Speaker 1: don't realize.

1001
00:48:02,560 --> 00:48:04,440
Speaker 3: They take things down and lay them on the table

1002
00:48:04,520 --> 00:48:07,719
Speaker 3: in order to get and Irin's head was so big

1003
00:48:07,920 --> 00:48:10,879
Speaker 3: the doctor had to call like we need a chair.

1004
00:48:11,040 --> 00:48:20,720
Speaker 3: She stood on the chair way.

1005
00:48:17,160 --> 00:48:19,160
Speaker 1: You could hear it you were away.

1006
00:48:19,880 --> 00:48:23,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, they don't waya you're just numb. They put a curtain,

1007
00:48:24,840 --> 00:48:26,600
Speaker 4: see it. You don't freak and I just remember, like

1008
00:48:26,800 --> 00:48:28,040
Speaker 4: you feel your body.

1009
00:48:28,200 --> 00:48:31,640
Speaker 1: I felt like the heaviest, like I was going to explode.

1010
00:48:31,760 --> 00:48:33,880
Speaker 3: I felt like a piano was like on top of me,

1011
00:48:34,560 --> 00:48:36,480
Speaker 3: and I was like it was so much pressure because

1012
00:48:36,480 --> 00:48:36,680
Speaker 3: she was.

1013
00:48:36,640 --> 00:48:43,000
Speaker 1: Putting all this scared me. I don't want to do that.

1014
00:48:43,680 --> 00:48:46,719
Speaker 4: I really have this dream of a natural birth, like

1015
00:48:47,040 --> 00:48:48,760
Speaker 4: the way you described it, like.

1016
00:48:49,000 --> 00:48:52,120
Speaker 1: The pool and the water and I come with my

1017
00:48:52,880 --> 00:48:55,600
Speaker 1: and it's a vibe that's terrible.

1018
00:48:55,920 --> 00:48:58,279
Speaker 4: And I'm also such a pussy. I like cried when

1019
00:48:58,280 --> 00:48:59,520
Speaker 4: I got an I U D and I was.

1020
00:48:59,520 --> 00:49:02,759
Speaker 2: Like, get it. I heard it's very painful. Always say

1021
00:49:02,840 --> 00:49:05,200
Speaker 2: is like try your best to stay home. Trust your body,

1022
00:49:05,400 --> 00:49:07,600
Speaker 2: you know, like doing your There's less germs that you

1023
00:49:07,600 --> 00:49:10,319
Speaker 2: should be familiar with in your home, like everything you

1024
00:49:10,400 --> 00:49:12,680
Speaker 2: have you need. It's not this big scary thing, but

1025
00:49:12,719 --> 00:49:14,359
Speaker 2: it can be if you go to the hospital. If

1026
00:49:14,400 --> 00:49:15,759
Speaker 2: you have to go, it could be good. I had

1027
00:49:15,760 --> 00:49:18,120
Speaker 2: a good experience, like mine is some shit. Like they

1028
00:49:18,120 --> 00:49:19,960
Speaker 2: were they were pretty cool, like I'm not gonna front

1029
00:49:20,000 --> 00:49:22,360
Speaker 2: I was like twelve people there. I felt like I

1030
00:49:22,360 --> 00:49:25,000
Speaker 2: felt safe, I felt heard, but like it was safe,

1031
00:49:25,080 --> 00:49:27,399
Speaker 2: you know. But like, if you could do that shit

1032
00:49:27,480 --> 00:49:29,680
Speaker 2: at home and not go to the hospital, do it.

1033
00:49:29,640 --> 00:49:32,160
Speaker 4: You know, Hannah Taylor's out here, Like I just gave

1034
00:49:32,200 --> 00:49:35,320
Speaker 4: birth in the bathroom and then my body just snatched back,

1035
00:49:35,360 --> 00:49:38,240
Speaker 4: and I'm like, bitch, are you a fucking warlock.

1036
00:49:37,920 --> 00:49:41,319
Speaker 1: With human warlock? I'm sure yeah, I'm sure she has

1037
00:49:41,320 --> 00:49:42,160
Speaker 1: support too, though.

1038
00:49:42,360 --> 00:49:46,520
Speaker 6: But my grandma had eleven kids in the living room.

1039
00:49:45,760 --> 00:49:48,080
Speaker 1: See and just that, Yeah, that's amazing.

1040
00:49:48,520 --> 00:49:53,000
Speaker 6: Yeah, but they were also eating like yams and planting

1041
00:49:53,120 --> 00:49:55,680
Speaker 6: and like natural food. I eat Chick fil A and like,

1042
00:49:57,280 --> 00:49:59,560
Speaker 6: so I'll probably be in the hospital.

1043
00:49:59,120 --> 00:50:00,359
Speaker 1: Oh my god, and I out.

1044
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Speaker 3: Okay, ladies, thank you guys so much for coming on.

1045
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Speaker 3: So can you tell our listeners where they can find you.

1046
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Speaker 1: You can find us at black Girls Texting on Instagram.

1047
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Speaker 1: You can email us at Hello at black Girls Texting.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we get.

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Speaker 2: It is I'm crying right now, so happy.

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Speaker 3: It's so interesting because like I had a friend who

1065
00:51:08,719 --> 00:51:11,839
Speaker 3: once shared with me that he used to masturbate at

1066
00:51:11,880 --> 00:51:14,239
Speaker 3: work a lot, like he would lee felt like he

1067
00:51:14,320 --> 00:51:16,320
Speaker 3: needed to release and go in the bathroom masturbate.

1068
00:51:16,360 --> 00:51:17,800
Speaker 1: And he was like, do I have a sex addiction?

1069
00:51:17,960 --> 00:51:20,279
Speaker 1: And I was like, I mean to me like that,

1070
00:51:20,480 --> 00:51:22,520
Speaker 1: I wouldn't do that, but I don't.

1071
00:51:22,280 --> 00:51:25,440
Speaker 10: Know if that's a sex addiction, but not masturbation, masturbating

1072
00:51:25,480 --> 00:51:29,839
Speaker 10: at work, but masturbating for work. So for me, in

1073
00:51:29,920 --> 00:51:34,799
Speaker 10: order to like concentrate on a said task, I have to.

1074
00:51:35,520 --> 00:51:36,319
Speaker 1: Set yourself up.

1075
00:51:37,480 --> 00:51:41,680
Speaker 10: I have to get post not clarity, which we all

1076
00:51:41,680 --> 00:51:42,280
Speaker 10: can agree.

1077
00:51:42,200 --> 00:51:42,799
Speaker 1: Is a real thing.

1078
00:51:42,880 --> 00:51:46,319
Speaker 10: Infact, I use it to concentrate to get work done,

1079
00:51:47,320 --> 00:51:51,600
Speaker 10: so that post nut clarity is basically clarity. It's clearing

1080
00:51:51,920 --> 00:51:56,080
Speaker 10: your mind so you can focus on said whatever right

1081
00:51:56,239 --> 00:51:58,719
Speaker 10: or have a better understanding than you had before, because

1082
00:51:58,760 --> 00:52:01,960
Speaker 10: before you may have had it cloud the judgment. So

1083
00:52:02,080 --> 00:52:04,360
Speaker 10: now I use that as a tool to focus on

1084
00:52:04,400 --> 00:52:06,280
Speaker 10: a said text. So you know, you wake up sometimes

1085
00:52:06,320 --> 00:52:09,120
Speaker 10: and you got like ten things to do in different places,

1086
00:52:09,120 --> 00:52:11,040
Speaker 10: Like now you're thinking, oh, ham is this but it

1087
00:52:11,120 --> 00:52:12,919
Speaker 10: might take away time you try to do two things

1088
00:52:12,920 --> 00:52:18,760
Speaker 10: at once. I come and then plan everything.

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Speaker 1: Gets stuff you guys, I'll be right back. I'm just

1090
00:52:21,440 --> 00:52:29,759
Speaker 1: kidding you know what, Because I do use masturbation as

1091
00:52:29,800 --> 00:52:32,600
Speaker 1: a tool. Most people would think I'm really strange for

1092
00:52:33,120 --> 00:52:35,640
Speaker 1: having something like that day, I was really upset about

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Speaker 1: something really personal and super emotional. I was like not okay,

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Speaker 1: and I decided to masturbation