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Speaker 1: this one right here, right now, and you never know

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Speaker 1: it could be yours.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well this ain't yours, but this is somebody's. Now

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Speaker 2: look at here. This is just another raggedy moment in

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Speaker 2: another raggedy life, and we're gonna try to put it together.

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Speaker 2: Ladies and gentlemen. This is ah now world famous Strawberry Letter,

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Speaker 2: Shirley Strawberry. And then that damn Steve go ahead. Shit,

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Speaker 2: Yeah what.

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Speaker 1: An intro, Steve. Thank you, Uh, thank you. He's feeling himself,

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Speaker 1: but I'm not feeling him. Dear Stephen, Shirley. My husband

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Speaker 1: and I have been together for fourteen years and married

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Speaker 1: for ten. After our third child, we gained a little

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Speaker 1: too much weight, so when our toddler started cool, we

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Speaker 1: started to work out. My husband has lost a lot

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Speaker 1: more weight than I have, but I am glad that

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Speaker 1: my clothes are fitting again. I have to hear my

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Speaker 1: sweet husband bragging about losing more weight than he imagined

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Speaker 1: he would. I have to smile when he flexes his

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Speaker 1: flabby arm muscle in my face like he's Hulk Hogan.

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Speaker 1: I also have to endure the extra minutes that he's

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Speaker 1: added to our intimacy. You cannot tell my husband that

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Speaker 1: he hasn't gained ten more inches by losing weight. He

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Speaker 1: heart to tell him that. I still don't feel much

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Speaker 1: of anything. I understand. I honestly didn't marry him for

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Speaker 1: great sex, but he falls short in that area, in

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Speaker 1: that department. I honestly didn't marry him for great sex

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Speaker 1: because he falls short in that department, real short. I

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Speaker 1: fell in love with him and still love him because

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Speaker 1: he is affectionate and attentive. He thinks he's a man

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Speaker 1: in the bedroom because I lead him to believe that

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Speaker 1: all he needed was a boost of confidence from his

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Speaker 1: way loss, and now he can barely fit his big

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Speaker 1: head in the doorway. I have to compliment just as

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Speaker 1: much as he compliments me. Now he requires affirmations during

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Speaker 1: sex too. I've run out of lives to tell him

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Speaker 1: and faking it isn't fun anymore. He is feeling himself

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Speaker 1: and I'm not feeling him. I'm worried that if I

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Speaker 1: don't feed his ego, another woman will will. All of

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Speaker 1: this new confidence forced him to cheat. What Okay, you're

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Speaker 1: just hating on your husband because he's lost more weight

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Speaker 1: than you. What I mean? I do get it, though,

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Speaker 1: because this does make most women mad. You're working hard

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Speaker 1: down at the gym, eating right, all of that you

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Speaker 1: get on the scales. You've lost about one point two

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Speaker 1: pounds and he's lost about ten. That's usually how it goes.

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Speaker 1: Men lose weight faster than women. I mean, they have

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Speaker 1: more muscle. But I don't really think this is about

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Speaker 1: you just don't like your husband right now. I mean,

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Speaker 1: you know you didn't say he cheated on you during

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Speaker 1: the fourteen years you've been together, So no, losing weight

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Speaker 1: shouldn't make him cheat. Now. Cheating strictly depends on what

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Speaker 1: kind of person he is, his character and all of that.

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Speaker 1: All I can see in this letter is him embracing

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Speaker 1: looking good. His confidence is up. Now I'm worried about

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Speaker 1: you cheating because you didn't say you didn't marry him

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Speaker 1: for his love making. But you are getting tired and

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Speaker 1: You say you still don't feel much of anything. You

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Speaker 1: I just think he's on your nerves, and like I said,

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Speaker 1: you don't like him. I just say, stop resenting and

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Speaker 1: hating on your husband. Because he's lost a few more

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Speaker 2: Steve, this letter, listen to me, y'all, listen to me.

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Speaker 2: It's Steve's turn. I don't think this letter is about

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Speaker 2: hate and resentment. I don't me personally. Surely you have

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Speaker 2: you're coming from with that. I could see where you

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Speaker 2: of a woman that's just exhausting from feeding the ego line,

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Speaker 2: pretending trying to act like and she ain't hating on

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Speaker 2: her husband. She actually loved to do. He's a great father.

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Speaker 2: He's very tender and kind and all this help. But

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Speaker 2: let's just start with the letter from the top. First

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Speaker 2: of all, they had these three babies, and they gained

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Speaker 2: a little too much weight. So when our toddler started school,

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Speaker 2: y'all got in there and worked out. You had three babies,

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Speaker 2: you gonna pick up some weight. That's understandable. Why his

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Speaker 2: ass got fat, I don't know what. He didn't have

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Speaker 2: no damn baby. He ain't got no baby weight. So

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Speaker 2: what his big ass doing over there getting chunky, I

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Speaker 2: don't know. So y'all go to the gym. Shirley said,

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Speaker 2: that's exactly right. Men lose weight faster simply because we

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Speaker 2: have a bit more muscle, and it's just easier for

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Speaker 2: a man to lose weight because there's a difference in

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Speaker 2: our hormone balance. And then once you have a baby,

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Speaker 2: there's a hormone adjustment. I'm assuming that you have to make.

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Speaker 2: This is what I've heard. Never had a baby, how

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Speaker 2: I know, but I know it's harder. So now you struggling.

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Speaker 2: But congratulations, you've lost weight. The problem is his weight lost.

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Speaker 2: He want to throw it in your face like it

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Speaker 2: then turned him into something else, And now it has

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Speaker 2: given him more prowess in the bedroom, which he didn't

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Speaker 2: have none to begin with, Lord Mercy. Now he flexing

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Speaker 2: that he done added to our intimacy. And then you

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Speaker 2: cannot tell your husband that he hasn't gained ten more

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Speaker 2: inches by losing weight. Oh now, I probably shouldn't harp

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Speaker 2: on this section of the letter that you said. But

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Speaker 2: he acting like he's gained ten more inches?

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Speaker 1: Hot short, was he careful?

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Speaker 2: If you done picked up ten and you still ain't

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Speaker 2: doing nothing? Damn, hang damn, hang on, Steve.

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter. Subject

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Speaker 1: He's feeling himself, but I'm not feeling him. We'll get

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Speaker 1: back into it right after this. You're listening Morning show,

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Speaker 1: all right? Come on, see let's recap today's Strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: The subject is he's feeling himself, but I'm not feeling him.

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Speaker 2: Well, he's feeling hisself, but I ain't feeling him. So

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Speaker 2: this is a letter really all about a man who'd

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Speaker 2: lost more weight than his wife. They both had, they

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Speaker 2: had three children, and of course she picked up baby weight,

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Speaker 2: and so she's having to deal with some things. He

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Speaker 2: now because of this weight loft, he thinks he hugged

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Speaker 2: huge now he already Intimately, that's not why she married

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Speaker 2: the man. She didn't marry him for his intimate prowess,

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Speaker 2: because she treats him well. He's very kind, he's tender, affectionate,

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Speaker 2: So she didn't marry him for sex. But now he'dne

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Speaker 2: lost his weight. He didn't add it way more minutes

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Speaker 2: to what was already. Sorry, you already doing a damn thing.

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Speaker 2: You don't add some more time to this. She just

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Speaker 2: laying in the bed with her arms folded, looking at

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Speaker 2: looking all off, he just sweating. She ain't had a

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Speaker 2: hard to tell him. This is what she says. I

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Speaker 2: don't have the heart to tell him that. I still

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Speaker 2: don't feel much of anything. Can let me harp on

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Speaker 2: this line for just a second. I don't have the

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Speaker 2: of anything. Lord him mercy, nothing worse than you up

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Speaker 2: in there working. You got your helmet on, you got

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Speaker 2: your work vests on, you packed the lunch by the bed,

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Speaker 2: and you ain't doing no dam damn it. You just

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Speaker 2: up in here, just up in here, just aggravating her.

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Speaker 2: Or stop now, you didn't marry him for great sex

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Speaker 2: because he falls short in that department. Real short it's

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Speaker 2: what she said. So now he done lost his weight,

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Speaker 2: now he'll been here. Shorty Long thinks he doing something. Now,

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Speaker 2: Now Shorty Long didn't he thinks he didn't as you

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Speaker 2: say in her letter, she says he hasn't gained ten

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Speaker 2: more inches by losing weight. Lord hemmersy, Lord Hemmers. So

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Speaker 2: let's move on, y'all. I think we know what the

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Speaker 2: real problem is here. She's not here. She don't dislike

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Speaker 2: And he ain't adding nothing to it, you know, to

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Speaker 2: all he needed was to boost the confidence from his

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Speaker 2: weight loft, and now he can barely fit his big

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Speaker 2: head in the door way. I have to compliment him

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Speaker 2: as much as he compliments me. Now he requires affirmation

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Speaker 2: doing sex? Whose is it? Is it? Mine? What I'm doing? Now?

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Speaker 2: Feel that? How about? Now? Whoa I've been? Whoa breaking it?

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Speaker 2: Breaking it? Hell? Come on, big dirty on the moon?

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, big daddy, when you really won't go, say

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Speaker 2: little fella stop.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she's sick of it.

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Speaker 2: I have run out of lives to tell him, and

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Speaker 2: faking it isn't fun anymore. He's feeling himself and I'm

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Speaker 2: not feeling him. I'm worried that if I don't feed

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Speaker 2: his ego, another woman will. With all this new confidence

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Speaker 2: forced him to cheat. Lady, ain't no other woman gonna

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Speaker 2: tell this lie? I'm telling you right now. See, when

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Speaker 2: you go outside your marriage, you got to go outside

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Speaker 2: your marriage with some activity. Ain't no other woman fitting

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Speaker 2: to tell this lie for what? First of all, they

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Speaker 2: not married. She ain't gonna think it's no future in it.

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Speaker 2: And once she get it and find out what you

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Speaker 2: done found out, it ain't gonna be She ain't gonna

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Speaker 2: have to tell no more lies. Lose my number quick

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Speaker 2: calling me. So please, lady, pick your ego up off

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Speaker 2: the floor and don't lose your self esteem to this

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Speaker 2: dude who has gained so much. You don't have to

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Speaker 2: worry about him cheating because he ain't. He ain't gonna

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Speaker 2: go nowhere. Listen to me. He ain't no where, He

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Speaker 2: ain't nowhere doing nothing.

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Speaker 1: He ain't all that MEA's and cheating on her.

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Speaker 2: You know, ain't like he and that you know, like

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Speaker 2: he said, woo girl, I'm so afraid another woman gonna

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Speaker 2: get her hands on this here. Ain't nobody want that?

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Speaker 2: Ain't nobody finish? Sit up here and talking about Oh,

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Speaker 2: I can't wait for him to call me and a

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Speaker 2: long way go ahead?

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Speaker 1: Should the affirmations during sex that she has to give

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Speaker 2: Lord Lord, look at you? Ah, you bringing it. I

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Speaker 2: can't take no more. Stop, please stop, I can't breathe

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Speaker 2: boy who the Oscar goes to the best leading and gentlemen.

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Speaker 2: The Oscar goes to Sheila Hokey. I want to thank

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Speaker 2: everybody at the academy, and I gave it my all.

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Speaker 2: He was, you know the fact that I stayed in

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Speaker 2: here for We've been married fourteen being together fourteen years,

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Speaker 2: been married ten I've hung it out, had three kids.

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Speaker 1: know podcast where I don't know? On the Strawberry Letter

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Speaker 1: podcast on the free iHeartRadio app. Sounded sounded so good.

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