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Speaker 1: Yes, Yes, I am Dramas And this is the Street

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Speaker 1: Stowe with hot As bringing you your daily dose of

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Speaker 1: time to Stoke philosophy remixed for the hip hop generation. Now,

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Speaker 1: with that in mind, let's get things started with your

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Speaker 1: daily shot of inspiration. Now today, I wanted to touch

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Speaker 1: on the idea of not striving for perfection, right because

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Speaker 1: I think this is something that we all need to

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Speaker 1: learn how to adapt, right because again, as human beings,

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Speaker 1: perfection is an unobtainable goal and we have to be

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Speaker 1: accepting of that. And a quote that that came to

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Speaker 1: mind when talking about this idea of not striving for

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Speaker 1: perfection and just being accepting, good or bad of what

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Speaker 1: happens in the decisions that we make. It's a quote

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Speaker 1: from mac Miller, and he says, sometimes it's hard to

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Speaker 1: pick right from wrong. The best thing we can do

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Speaker 1: is go with our heart and hope it all goes well.

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Speaker 1: And he's saying a couple of different things here. I

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Speaker 1: think first and foremost at the heart of that to

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Speaker 1: me is giving yourself grace, right understanding that you're doing

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Speaker 1: the best you can and you're not always going to

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Speaker 1: make the right decisions. But but that's Okay, right, that's

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Speaker 1: a part of the human experience. You know, that is life.

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Speaker 1: All you can do is your best and it's like

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Speaker 1: Max says, in those situations, you have to just kind

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Speaker 1: of go with what your intuition is telling you. When

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Speaker 1: you're making any decision, all you could do is is

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Speaker 1: stay true to your heart, stay true to what is

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Speaker 1: inside of you, and hope for the best. Right that

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Speaker 1: that's all you can do. And as long as you are,

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Speaker 1: you know, using that criteria when making a decision, you

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Speaker 1: can be proud of that are bad. When it comes

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Speaker 1: to the outcome, you can stand on that knowing that

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Speaker 1: you stay true to yourself and you followed what was

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Speaker 1: in your heart to me. This also leads to a

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Speaker 1: quote from Marcus Aurelius where he says, perfection of character

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Speaker 1: is this to live each day as if it were

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Speaker 1: your last, without frenzy, without apathy, without pretense, and basically

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Speaker 1: at the heart of what he's talking about is living

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Speaker 1: life without judgment, and that's you know, judgment of yourself

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Speaker 1: in this particular case, you know, living your life without shame, anger,

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Speaker 1: without the anxiety that you're doing something wrong. That is

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Speaker 1: the idea of perfection of character. Again, when he's describing perfection,

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Speaker 1: he's not saying you have to always, you know, get

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Speaker 1: things right. He's just saying, you have to be living

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Speaker 1: with a peace of mind and be at peace with

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Speaker 1: the decisions that you're making, be at peace with the

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Speaker 1: way that life is going, with the hands that you

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Speaker 1: are being dealt. Right. That is perfection of character. And

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Speaker 1: again it's not perfection in the literal sense, you know.

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Speaker 1: And I think I kind of relate to this more

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Speaker 1: so on kind of calling myself out a bit for

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Speaker 1: maybe self shaming U recently. I've talked about this on

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Speaker 1: a previous episode of kind of keeping my head down,

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Speaker 1: going in the woods and just building for a while.

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Speaker 1: And as with anything, there are consequences to every decision

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Speaker 1: that we make. And one of my consequences for kind

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Speaker 1: of really just focusing on my career and myself was

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Speaker 1: a lot of my relationships suffered, right, friendship suffered. And

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Speaker 1: I was recently kind of coming to terms with that

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Speaker 1: as I've been kind of bringing my head above water.

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Speaker 1: And there was some shames, some guilt, frustration or anger

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Speaker 1: with people in my life who didn't seem to understand

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Speaker 1: and who didn't sort of just like with open arms,

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Speaker 1: welcome me back into into the fold, you know. But

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Speaker 1: I have to learn to accept the decision that I

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Speaker 1: made and accept the fact that I felt, in my

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Speaker 1: heart of hearts like I was making the best decision

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Speaker 1: for me and my future, and in retrospect, I still

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Speaker 1: believe that. Right So, I can't beat myself up because

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Speaker 1: there was some sort of trapnel in the process, right

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Speaker 1: that there were some people who maybe had their feelings hurt.

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Speaker 1: And as much as I never want to upset anybody,

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Speaker 1: particularly those people that I care about, you know, I

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Speaker 1: have to be accepting of the fact that not everything

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Speaker 1: is going to play out perfectly. Not everything is going

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Speaker 1: to be some sort of smooth ride. There are going

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Speaker 1: it and move forward by trying to rebuild those relationships,

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Speaker 1: you know, rebuild the ones that I think are worthwhile.

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Speaker 1: But I can't sit here and guilt myself for not

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Speaker 1: being able to find the perfect way to balance a

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Speaker 1: personal life and a perfect life. You know. Again, I

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Speaker 1: accept the decision that I made. I know that I

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Speaker 1: made it with you know, my best interest in mind,

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Speaker 1: and now I can move forward without shaming myself. You know,

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Speaker 1: Not everything is going to be without some sort of friction.

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Speaker 1: You just have to be accepting of the fact that

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Speaker 1: you made the best decision possible for you at that time.

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Speaker 1: Right now, with that in mind, when we talk about

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Speaker 1: this idea of not striving for perfection, we have heard

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Speaker 1: the words of Mac Miller. We have heard from Marcus

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Speaker 1: Oreally is, I've talked to you about something I personally

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Speaker 1: have been struggling with as of late. Now let's talk

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Speaker 1: about how you can make it. You a monster for today.

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Speaker 1: But first let's take a quick break and then we'll

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Speaker 1: be right back. So we have heard the words of

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Speaker 1: Mac Miller. We have heard Marcus surreally is I've given

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Speaker 1: you some insight into my own life. How I also

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Speaker 1: am trying to move past this idea of trying to

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Speaker 1: be perfect. Right now, let's talk about how you can

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Speaker 1: make it your mantra for today, and I think, to me,

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Speaker 1: the biggest takeaway from everything that we're talking about in

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Speaker 1: today's episode is the criteria that you set for yourself

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Speaker 1: when making a decision right and understanding that there are

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Speaker 1: going to be aspects of what happens, you know, after

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Speaker 1: you make that decision that are going to be outside

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Speaker 1: of your control. Again, there is a reaction to every

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Speaker 1: decision that we make. Sometimes it's good, sometimes it's bad.

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Speaker 1: But there's always going to be some sort of thing

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Speaker 1: that follows any choice that we make in this life,

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Speaker 1: and we can't always predict it. And in fact, it's

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Speaker 1: unhealthy to try and make decisions based upon our fear

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Speaker 1: of something bad happening or our fear of what others

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Speaker 1: may think. Right, to me, the biggest takeaway from this

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Speaker 1: and the biggest thing that you have to challenge yourself

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Speaker 1: to keep in mind when making a decision, when doing something,

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Speaker 1: when striving for something, is asking yourself, did I put

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Speaker 1: my heart into this? Am I listening to myself and

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Speaker 1: what my heart is telling you that I want right now?

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Speaker 1: And if that's the case, then that's it. There should

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Speaker 1: be no shame, there should be no anxiety and again,

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Speaker 1: that's easier said than done. But when you have the

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Speaker 1: clarity of mind to remind yourself of these things, that

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Speaker 1: all you can do. The only part that you are

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Speaker 1: at in fact in control of is listening to yourself

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Speaker 1: and making the best decision according to what your mind,

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Speaker 1: your heart, your circumstances are telling you, and anything outside

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Speaker 1: of that is beyond your control. Therefore, you shouldn't allow

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Speaker 1: any sort of reaction, any negative reaction, to bring shame

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Speaker 1: make the perfect decision. You are never going to handle

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Speaker 1: every situation perfectly. All you can do is your best

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Speaker 1: now to recap around this idea of not striving for perfection,

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Speaker 1: you know, especially when it comes to decision making in

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Speaker 1: mac Miller talks about the best thing we can do

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Speaker 1: is go with our heart and hope it all goes well. Right.

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Speaker 1: That is accepting that the only thing you're in control

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Speaker 1: of is listening to your heart and then the rest,

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Speaker 1: hoping it all goes well. You just have to leave

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Speaker 1: it up to life, right. You can't do anything else,

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Speaker 1: and you have to be accepting of that and you

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Speaker 1: can't shame yourself for the things that you are not

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Speaker 1: perfection is not making all of the right decisions all

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Speaker 1: of the time. It is living without the anxiety, the shame,

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Speaker 1: the anger, the frustration that comes along with you know,

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Speaker 1: the results of whatever decision that we make in this life. Right,

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Speaker 1: that is perfection of character. Again, it is not about

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Speaker 1: always making the right decision. And even for my story,

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Speaker 1: you know what I'm currently trying to rebuild when it

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Speaker 1: comes to parts of my personal life, I can't shame

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Speaker 1: myself because certain relationships suffered as a result of me

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Speaker 1: prioritizing myself and my career. Right, that was the priority

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Speaker 1: for me during that time period. It's what I needed

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Speaker 1: to do. Now, the only thing I can be in

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Speaker 1: control of is making a decision if I see fit,

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Speaker 1: to try and repair those relationships that may have been

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Speaker 1: harmed as a result of my previous decision. But again,

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Speaker 1: it all starts with acceptance, right, listening to your heart,

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Speaker 1: making a decision accordingly, and accepting whatever happens without any

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Speaker 1: judgment of yourself and the decision that you made. Now,

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Speaker 1: with that said, thank you so much for checking out

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Speaker 1: the Street Stoke Podcast. Do your best to apply these

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Speaker 1: concepts that we discuss into your everyday life and I'll

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