Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys
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Speaker 2: Matthew was on the phone today for a first ad
Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Selena.
Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we're gonna call her and
Speaker 2: see if she tell us why she's ghosting him and
Speaker 2: maybe get him another day. But first, Matthew, how long
Speaker 2: has it been since you heard from Selena?
Speaker 3: About a week?
Speaker 4: Okay? Have you been hitting her up to try to
Speaker 4: get a hold of her.
Speaker 3: I'm to ask over day was a going about rigo,
Speaker 3: she's so busy. I kind of checked it after that
Speaker 3: one more time for she had some availability coming up, responded,
Speaker 3: and I'm not gonna like keep paying on.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it can get creepy real quick with that.
Speaker 3: I'm not trying to do that.
Speaker 1: Crush your soul the more times you don't get Yeah, okay, well,
Speaker 1: how is the date though? Must have been great if
Speaker 1: you want to get a hold of her.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I thought it went great. It might
Speaker 3: at work. I work in the department, so I did
Speaker 3: as any come executive. I helped probably some computer issues
Speaker 3: at work. We had some chemistry. I felt like pretty
Speaker 3: obvious right from the get go. I worked up a
Speaker 3: nerve to ask her out. She said like she was
Speaker 3: into it. She told me she liked lemons on Martini's,
Speaker 3: so I know it's a perfect spot. It's a really
Speaker 3: cool spots got old Hollywood vibe, which I always always
Speaker 3: liked a lot. We had some drinks. I did not
Speaker 3: have a lemon drop. I had them dried Martini, but
Speaker 3: but she had some some kind of big well and
Speaker 3: everything we talked about dreams features stuff like that, kind
Speaker 3: of in a lfehearted way. I mean it felt really
Speaker 3: good and I was I was really slightly had a
Speaker 3: pretty intensive makeout session in the dark corner we were.
Speaker 3: I mean it felt like you know, kids in school.
Speaker 3: I mean a lot of that kind of giggly energy
Speaker 3: and sat. We had the date split up. That was
Speaker 3: pretty much. I thought it looked really good. I was
Speaker 3: little to get hold of her. I would like to understand,
Speaker 3: you know, I've got to kind of undessarly how it
Speaker 3: cass on her for a while. So I was pretty
Speaker 3: broke up that she, you know, doesn't seem to be
Speaker 3: willing to respond at least.
Speaker 2: Anything happened on the date that you think could be
Speaker 2: a reason she's not calling you back.
Speaker 3: I mean, the only thing I can think of is
Speaker 3: I actually did just get let go from the job
Speaker 3: that we worked together. So she said at the end
Speaker 3: of the state, you know, see it work, and I
Speaker 3: had to be like, I don't even gonna be the salce.
Speaker 3: So I told her that I actually, you know, wasn't
Speaker 3: working there anymore, which I kind of thought would actually
Speaker 3: be a good thing because it removes the possibility of like,
Speaker 3: you know, the office politics and that sort of thing.
Speaker 3: Takes the pressure off of that. That's really the only
Speaker 3: thing I could think of that might have gone wrong
Speaker 3: with it, unless I was just totally misread, you know,
Speaker 3: the signals. And I guess this is always a possibility,
Speaker 3: But that's only one thing I can think of, is
Speaker 3: it I got let go?
Speaker 1: Does she feel like kind of a shallow person that
Speaker 1: would be like, I am not dating your guys who's unemployed?
Speaker 3: I mean, maybe don't. I didn't get that buy from
Speaker 3: her at all. I mean, she seemed pretty down to
Speaker 3: earth and like, you know, I mean that strikes me
Speaker 3: as just being kind of short of sighted and so
Speaker 3: shouldn't starting that way off. But I mean, I guess
Speaker 3: it is a possibility.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, did you guys kiss and stuff at the
Speaker 2: end they made out in the dark.
Speaker 3: But you were making out, you know, we made out
Speaker 3: the bar at the very hand or I said that, no,
Speaker 3: but yeah, maybe that was a warning sign or some sort.
Speaker 3: But did you guys another like finalist good Bob. We
Speaker 3: definitely talked about seeing an older in the day. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I mean that was on the table for sure.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, we'll see if we can figure it out
Speaker 2: for you. Then we'll play a song, come back and
Speaker 2: call her and social talk so why she's ghosting you
Speaker 2: and maybe get you another date.
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, so did all right?
Speaker 2: Cool, we'll play a song, come back and get your
Speaker 2: first a follow up next if you're just joining us
Speaker 2: for today's first date follow up. Matthew is on the
Speaker 2: phone and he's getting ghosted by Selena. So in a
Speaker 2: few minutes we're gonna call her and see if she'll
Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him
Speaker 2: another date. But before we do that, Matthew, why don't
Speaker 2: you refresh our memory on your date with Selena?
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, so I thought it went really well. We
Speaker 3: had some chemistry from when we worked together. That the
Speaker 3: date was great, good drinks, good vibe. We made out
Speaker 3: it seem much. It was some definite intensity. I thought
Speaker 3: things were going great. We started talking about next time,
Speaker 3: next meetings, next dates. And the one thing I could
Speaker 3: think of that went wrong is at the end, I
Speaker 3: had to tell her that I was no longer with
Speaker 3: the company that we worked at together, and that that's
Speaker 3: my guests as to why she's decided ghost that's just
Speaker 3: a guest though.
Speaker 4: All right, are you ready for us to call her?
Speaker 3: Sure? I'd love to have another shot.
Speaker 4: All right, here we go. Man, Hello, him, I askeweak
Speaker 4: to Selena. Please.
Speaker 5: This is Selena.
Speaker 4: Hey, Selena, how are you? My name is Jewbel. I'm
Speaker 4: calling from radio show. It's called the Jebel Show. Hi, Selena,
Speaker 4: the whole show's here. I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria.
Speaker 5: Oh my god, Hi, Hi.
Speaker 3: Hi.
Speaker 4: You listen to the show?
Speaker 5: I do. I'm a fan. This is exciting.
Speaker 4: Oh sweet, thank you? Well, do you have any idea
Speaker 4: while we're calling you?
Speaker 5: I'm a little bit scared.
Speaker 4: Yeah, this is the first date follow up.
Speaker 2: So you went on a date with somebody recently and
Speaker 2: have been ghosting them, and they emailed us, do you
Speaker 2: know who would email us about you?
Speaker 5: I have a pretty good idea.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you want to take a shot at it.
Speaker 5: Is it Matthew?
Speaker 2: Yes, it is Matthew. You are correct. Know told us
Speaker 2: he really liked you and told us about your date.
Speaker 2: But he says, you've been ghosting for over a week now.
Speaker 4: What happened?
Speaker 5: Yeah, Oh man, I feel bad I'm ghosting Matthew because
Speaker 5: he told me that he wants to live in a treehouse. Yeah,
Speaker 5: like for his real house, I think, And like he
Speaker 5: he told me we worked. I don't know if he
Speaker 5: told you, but we worked at the same company and
Speaker 5: he told me that, like towards the end of the day,
Speaker 5: I said, like, oh, see you at work, and he
Speaker 5: told me that he had lost his job there, which
Speaker 5: was fine, like that that's a that's yeah. I felt
Speaker 5: really bad for him that that happened. But he just
Speaker 5: had like he said, he has no plan, and he
Speaker 5: was like, you know, I'm sure everything's everything's going to
Speaker 5: be fine, and I living in a treehouse sounds perfect,
Speaker 5: And like he he did that he wanted to live
Speaker 5: in like one of the fans. He wants like the
Speaker 5: glamping kind of situation. Treehouse. But at the same time,
Speaker 5: I feel like, I mean, I I definitely am not
Speaker 5: interested in living in a treehouse, and I'm looking for
Speaker 5: like a serious partner. And like, at first I thought
Speaker 5: he was joking, because you know, I mean, that's like
Speaker 5: a funny thing to say. But then he like actually
Speaker 5: went into this whole thing about his friend and how
Speaker 5: his friend lives in a treehouse, and how his friend
Speaker 5: like had saved him so much money and he has
Speaker 5: like no more like drama, and you know, he's like
Speaker 5: a volunteer at different schools and he's playing music and
Speaker 5: like that's all well and good for like a you know,
Speaker 5: like a burning man type.
Speaker 1: Like to me, I'm kind of interested, but I don't
Speaker 1: think that feels stressful.
Speaker 4: And when it comes to like a relationship, though.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm like, what where am I going to plug
Speaker 5: in my blow dart? You know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Do they have like fancy treehouses? I mean it does
Speaker 1: sound kind of at least like anyone that you could
Speaker 1: Can you live in them?
Speaker 4: A treehouse? For sure?
Speaker 5: Really, you guys look in a treehouse, but like you
Speaker 5: can't have like kids, you know what i mean. I'm like,
Speaker 5: long term, I'm like this is going nowhere, but like you.
Speaker 2: Have you know, yeah, you probably can. I'm pretty sure
Speaker 2: there are treos that have showers and stuff. Actually there are.
Speaker 4: I think you could build like technically a real house
Speaker 4: in the tree. Well, I don't know how big of
Speaker 4: a house he's trying to build in.
Speaker 1: The tree, right, but you know that could Well that's
Speaker 1: a good point though, if you're starting to really fast
Speaker 1: forward kids, you imagine your kids running around in a treehouse.
Speaker 5: Amazing.
Speaker 1: I have to build some kind of like what do
Speaker 1: you call it, hammock net underneath of it.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, thank you for being honest with us. I
Speaker 2: appreciate that. Yeah, and I don't know if you remember
Speaker 2: or not, Selena, but during these first day follow ups,
Speaker 2: the person that emailed us is on the phone. So
Speaker 2: Matthew has been listening this whole time and is on
Speaker 2: the phone and wants to talk to you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, you were cool. And remember you saying that
Speaker 3: you always wanted to spend the night in one, so
Speaker 3: it would be.
Speaker 5: Like right like that, yeah, like for for vacation. I'm like,
Speaker 5: I'm I don't want to live in a treehouse, Matthew,
Speaker 5: Like I want to like kind of a venture in
Speaker 5: a treehouse and then I want, like to go back
Speaker 5: to reality, like go back to my life.
Speaker 3: You know, I'm not like urging it to live in
Speaker 3: a treehouse or planning the one that I want. It
Speaker 3: was just sort of a there's something we could do.
Speaker 3: I don't know. It was just like talk.
Speaker 4: It's kind of a good sign though, Matthew, she really
Speaker 4: like fast forward to see the future with you.
Speaker 5: Yeah, And I guess I just mean like so, I
Speaker 5: mean it's like beyond the I'm just like you had
Speaker 5: no plan, Like I'm just like living in a treehouse
Speaker 5: with no plan. It's just like to me, I was like, oh,
Speaker 5: big red flag.
Speaker 3: Well so that I don't have a plan. I just
Speaker 3: have as a means to take some time and figure
Speaker 3: out what I'm going to do next. I don't really
Speaker 3: actually have to work. I just do it because I
Speaker 3: like it. So if I'm not feeling it, I don't.
Speaker 3: But there's the same thing as I'm not having a plan.
Speaker 5: Are you like some what do you mean, like, are
Speaker 5: you like a secret billionaire or something like you don't
Speaker 5: have to work.
Speaker 3: I mean I'm not a billionaire, but I have some money.
Speaker 3: I'm independently well be able to.
Speaker 4: Say, Oh, so it would probably be a very nice treehouse.
Speaker 3: D Yeah. I got to say for me, it's out.
Speaker 3: You're not like what Grandpa made in the backyard and
Speaker 3: a kid. I'm talking about like a house that's in
Speaker 3: a tree not okay with plumbing and showers and you know,
Speaker 3: you could plug in your phone charger for sure. But
Speaker 3: I mean if you don't want that, that's that's fine.
Speaker 3: I don't know exactly what the next maybe year has
Speaker 3: more in terms of plans, but I mean all I
Speaker 3: know is I definitely would like to have the opportunity
Speaker 3: to the more time explain something.
Speaker 2: I would you like to go out with Matthew again?
Speaker 2: We'll pay for it.
Speaker 5: I mean, so you would be willing to like live
Speaker 5: in a house how.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean we could. I would be wanting to
Speaker 3: live in a house with not a tree in sight, and.
Speaker 1: You got enough money to cut him down. It sounds like, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's true. I mean it sounds like you guys really
Speaker 1: like each other. There's a lot of negotiating happening here.
Speaker 3: Yeah. I mean, if that's a sticking point that can be,
Speaker 3: that can be, that's that's negotiable.
Speaker 4: What do you think Selena. One more shot, Selena, he's rich, Nina.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I would be willing to give it another shot.
Speaker 5: I think I had a different orderstanding. What you.
Speaker 4: Okay? Congratulations Matthew, you got another date?
Speaker 3: Agree? Hey Selene, I'm so glad that you're wanting to
Speaker 3: give another shot. You can appreciate why I wouldn't like
Speaker 3: lead with money just bought the top. But yeah, I
Speaker 3: mean or three houses was just for fun. So I'm
Speaker 3: going to ran another shot. Thank you.
Speaker 4: Money got her back in, though I don't know Juble's
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