Speaker 1: Stop trying to control everything. Not everything broken needs you
Speaker 1: to fix it. You'll burn out before life slows down.
Speaker 1: Stop treating peace like a project. It's not something you earn,
Speaker 1: it's something you allow. And stop gripping the future so
Speaker 1: hard you're crushing the present. The number one Health and
Speaker 1: Wellness Podcast, Jay Sheety Jay Sheddy shet Hey, everyone, welcome
Speaker 1: back to On Purpose. Thank you so much for tuning
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Speaker 1: miss a video. Now. Today's episode is for anyone who's
Speaker 1: ever looked at their life and thought, this is not
Speaker 1: how it was supposed to go. This is not the plan,
Speaker 1: this is not how I imagined it to be. And
Speaker 1: I'm sure so many of you can relate to that.
Speaker 1: This is not what you wanted, This is not what
Speaker 1: you desired, this is not what you wished for, and
Speaker 1: you're feeling stuck. Maybe you didn't get the job, maybe
Speaker 1: the relationship ended, maybe you're nowhere near where you thought
Speaker 1: you'd be by now. If you feel stuck, if you
Speaker 1: feel lost, if you feel confused, this episode is for you.
Speaker 1: And before we dive in, I want you to hear
Speaker 1: this clearly, that doesn't mean you've failed. It just means
Speaker 1: you're in the part of the story you didn't plan for,
Speaker 1: and sometimes that's where the real story begins. I want
Speaker 1: you to recognize that you feeling stuck right now is
Speaker 1: not the end. You're feeling stuck right now is not
Speaker 1: a failure. You're feeling stuck right now is not where
Speaker 1: the story finishes. By you being here right now, this
Speaker 1: is where we rewrite that narrative. It's where you make
Speaker 1: that shift, and it's where you feel the switch in
Speaker 1: your life. If you follow what I'm about to share
Speaker 1: in this episode, you will actually be able to reclaim
Speaker 1: ownership over your own life, over your own mind, and
Speaker 1: move in the direction that you want and actually even better.
Speaker 1: That's what I want you to understand today that the
Speaker 1: position you're in right now may not be where you
Speaker 1: want to be, but it can be the launchpad of
Speaker 1: something even better. So today I want to walk you
Speaker 1: through six science backsteps to rebuild your mindset when life
Speaker 1: takes a turn you didn't expect. Let's get into it.
Speaker 1: Step one is learning to pause the inner critic and
Speaker 1: activate the observer. This is an idea that I learned
Speaker 1: about during my time as a monk in recognizing the
Speaker 1: different voices that exist in our mind. There's the voice
Speaker 1: that's always loud, there's the voice that's always certain, and
Speaker 1: then there's that quiet observer. Now, a lot of people
Speaker 1: ask me this question, Jay, how do I know the
Speaker 1: difference between my inner critic and my intuition? How do
Speaker 1: I know the difference between my mind and my intuition? Right?
Speaker 1: It can be hard. It can feel like there are
Speaker 1: a lot of voices, There are a lot of noises
Speaker 1: going on inside your mind. How do you decipher? How
Speaker 1: do you make sense of it? Here's what I've learned.
Speaker 1: Your mind is certain and loud. Right, it will say
Speaker 1: to you. Don't do that. You'll look like a fool.
Speaker 1: Don't do that at work, everyone will see it. Don't
Speaker 1: speak up because you might say something stupid. It's loud
Speaker 1: and it's certain, but the intuition is quiet and it's curious. Hey,
Speaker 1: maybe you should try that out. Hey, you know what.
Speaker 1: I think you might be really good at that. Why
Speaker 1: don't we follow it? Hey, you know what, you have
Speaker 1: a really good idea. Everyone may not get it, but
Speaker 1: it's worth sharing it. Take a moment to notice the
Speaker 1: different voices that exist within you. Your inner critic is certain
Speaker 1: and loud. You will look like a fall, You're a failure,
Speaker 1: you got it wrong. You're not good enough, you're not
Speaker 1: smart enough, you're not pretty enough. Very certain, very loud.
Speaker 1: The intuition says, I feel like I like this. I
Speaker 1: think I'm passionate about this. I think I'm excited about this.
Speaker 1: In a difficult position, it says, I think we might
Speaker 1: get out of this if we try this. But the
Speaker 1: inner critic says, no, don't try it. It's not worth
Speaker 1: your time. It's a waste of time. You're just stuck.
Speaker 1: So here's what I want you to think about. The
Speaker 1: more you listen to that quot yet, to that curious
Speaker 1: inner voice, the less you will be affected by that loud,
Speaker 1: certain noise of the mind. The reason why the intuition
Speaker 1: has got so quiet is because it's been ignored. What
Speaker 1: happens to you when you feel like a friend isn't
Speaker 1: paying you attention, You shut down, You get quiet, You
Speaker 1: don't make as much noise. That's what's happened to our intuition.
Speaker 1: It's faded into the background. It's taken the passenger seat,
Speaker 1: sometimes from the back of the car. It may whisper,
Speaker 1: hey take a left, Hey take a right. Try this out.
Speaker 1: But the more we listen to it, the stronger that
Speaker 1: voice becomes, the more confidence it gains. So it's really
Speaker 1: important first of all, to know the difference between your
Speaker 1: inner critic and your mind. And I would even give
Speaker 1: them a name, give them a personality, so you know
Speaker 1: the difference. Right. The reason why we know which friends
Speaker 1: are good for us and which aren't is because we
Speaker 1: remember their name, We remember what they look like. The
Speaker 1: problem is, the voices in our head don't have a face.
Speaker 1: The voices in our head don't have a personality. We
Speaker 1: have to create one for them. So choose a name
Speaker 1: for your mind that feels like it's nagging you, forcing
Speaker 1: you to do what's right, a name that feels like that.
Speaker 1: And then choose a name for your intuition, that good friend,
Speaker 1: that deep friend, that sincere, genuine person who really wants
Speaker 1: to help you, who really wants to make a difference
Speaker 1: in your life. The next thing we have to do
Speaker 1: is learn to speak to ourselves with the kindness and
Speaker 1: the empathy we would use to speak to someone we love.
Speaker 1: Something I've noticed about high performing people. Having sat down
Speaker 1: with so many are now is that they have two traits.
Speaker 1: They are high standards and high grace. High standards make sense.
Speaker 1: They want to be the best. They want to push themselves,
Speaker 1: they want to drive, they want to succeed in business,
Speaker 1: in their career, in their passion, in their purpose. And
Speaker 1: we should all have high standards. If we don't demand
Speaker 1: high standards of ourselves, we will shrink to very low
Speaker 1: expectations of others. Think about that for a second. If
Speaker 1: you don't set high standards for yourself, you will shrink
Speaker 1: to the low expectations of others. But here's the most
Speaker 1: important part. Everyone who has high standards, who achieves them,
Speaker 1: has high grace, the ability to recognize that actually guilt
Speaker 1: blocks growth. Shame doesn't lead to change. I won't shift
Speaker 1: myself by guilty myself. I won't become better by making
Speaker 1: myself feel bad for too long. It may work in
Speaker 1: the short term. There's an amazing speech by Roger Federer
Speaker 1: where he talked about how when he's playing a point,
Speaker 1: it is the most important point in the world, but
Speaker 1: when that point is over, whether he won or lost,
Speaker 1: that point is the least important point.
Speaker 2: In the world.
Speaker 1: That is the difference between high standards and also having
Speaker 1: high grace when you're playing the point, when you're in
Speaker 1: the moment, you take it seriously. When you lose, when
Speaker 1: things don't go to plan, When things don't go in
Speaker 1: the way you imagined, they weren't that important. Remember this.
Speaker 1: Stop saying mean things to yourself you'd never say to
Speaker 1: someone else. Stop being critical in your head just because
Speaker 1: no one else can hear it. Stop believing your worst
Speaker 1: thoughts just because they're loud. Stop mistaking your inner critic
Speaker 1: for your inner truth. Start listening to how you speak
Speaker 1: to yourself, because no one lives in your head more
Speaker 1: than you do. It's natural. I get it. When life
Speaker 1: doesn't go to plan, the first instinct is to blame,
Speaker 1: and mostly toward ourselves. I should have known better, I
Speaker 1: should have done more. But here's what Research from self
Speaker 1: compassion expert doctor Christin Nelf shows self judgment in moments
Speaker 1: of failure increases cortisol. Think about that for a second.
Speaker 1: Self judgment in moments of failure increases cortisol. It decreases
Speaker 1: motivation and keeps you stuck in shame. How many times
Speaker 1: have you done that? You make a mistake and now
Speaker 1: you're beating yourself up about it, not just in the
Speaker 1: morning when you look in the mirror, but at night,
Speaker 1: before your head hits the pillow. You're constantly replaying that
Speaker 1: moment you messed up at work. Maybe you want the
Speaker 1: perfect parent today, and all of a sudden, you've gone
Speaker 1: from wanting to be the perfect parent to believe even
Speaker 1: you're the worst parent of all time. Your motivation decreases,
Speaker 1: your quarters all increases, and it keeps you stuck in shame.
Speaker 1: You can't shift from shame. So what helps instead mindful
Speaker 1: self observation. It's the shift from I messed up? Two?
Speaker 1: Interesting this thing go how I thought? Stop saying I'm
Speaker 1: not good enough. You're not lazy. You're drained from carrying
Speaker 1: what no one sees. You're not falling behind. You're healing
Speaker 1: in a world that rewards burnout. You're not the problem.
Speaker 1: The pressure is. You're not unmotivated. You're tired of pretending
Speaker 1: you're fine. You're not lost. You're just not on someone
Speaker 1: else's timeline, and you're not stuck. You're processing, and that counts.
Speaker 1: Step number two. Let go of the control illusion. One
Speaker 1: of the reasons why we don't like it when things
Speaker 1: don't go to plan is we wanted everything perfectly controlled,
Speaker 1: We had everything mapped out. Maybe you had a color
Speaker 1: coded spreadsheet right and you wanted everything to happen exactly
Speaker 1: how it was mapped out. That control illusion creates so
Speaker 1: much resistance in our life. Sometimes the things you can't
Speaker 1: plan for a control are really big and hard, and
Speaker 1: sometimes they happen in the most beautiful way. Have you
Speaker 1: ever noticed how the best parts of a trip or
Speaker 1: moments in life are never the ones you actually planned.
Speaker 1: I think about this. One time RADI and I had
Speaker 1: everything mapped out, full schedule, that's how I like to function,
Speaker 1: but someone casually invited us to this gathering, no real
Speaker 1: dress code, no plan, no agenda. We showed up and
Speaker 1: it turned into one of the most meaningful nights of
Speaker 1: the year. No cameras, no expectations, just connection, the kind
Speaker 1: of night where you forget to check your phone because
Speaker 1: you're so into it. And then there was another time
Speaker 1: I was in La, completely exhausted, a friend texting me
Speaker 1: last minute, come to this dinner. I almost said no,
Speaker 1: but I went and I ended up in a backyard
Speaker 1: eating amazing food, having a live stand up comedy show.
Speaker 1: Surrounded by people I'd never met who somehow felt like
Speaker 1: old friends. That moment wasn't supposed to happen. I didn't
Speaker 1: plan it, but it stayed with me. It shifted something.
Speaker 1: That's the kind of traveling moments I crave, not just
Speaker 1: the sites or the luxury, but those rare, unexpected experiences
Speaker 1: that wake you up a little. We all chase destinations,
Speaker 1: but what we're really chasing is that spark, that a liveness.
Speaker 1: And when a door opens to something like that, whether
Speaker 1: it's a private dinner, a behind the scenes moment, or
Speaker 1: something you couldn't have found on your own, I'm saying
Speaker 1: yes every time, because in the end, it's not about
Speaker 1: where you were, it's about how it made you feel.
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Speaker 1: to what you want in life, just not in the
Speaker 1: way you imagine it. The problem with the control illusion
Speaker 1: is you have an im you're projecting here and reality
Speaker 1: is happening down here, and when reality doesn't match your imagination,
Speaker 1: you think there's something wrong with reality, as opposed to
Speaker 1: realizing that in reality, you may get to the result
Speaker 1: of your imagination, but not through the path of your imagination.
Speaker 1: So many people don't get to where they want because
Speaker 1: the path looks different to what they imagined. Don't give
Speaker 1: up on your goal because the path looks different. Don't
Speaker 1: give up on the result because your road looks different.
Speaker 1: The path, the road, the journey to where you want
Speaker 1: to go, is definitely going to look different to what
Speaker 1: you planned. I'm certain of that. There is no one
Speaker 1: in the history of the world who got to where
Speaker 1: they want to in love, relationships, or their career in
Speaker 1: exactly the way they planned. They will all tell you
Speaker 1: there were pivots, there were detours, there were reroutes, there
Speaker 1: were even full on U turns. But the control illusion
Speaker 1: trips each and every one of us up. Don't let
Speaker 1: the control illusion be the reason you don't get to
Speaker 1: where you want. The control illusion says, well, if it
Speaker 1: doesn't happen my way, I don't want it. Well, if
Speaker 1: this is not happening, if this isn't the sign I'm
Speaker 1: being shown, then nothing works. And what ends up happening
Speaker 1: is something amazing could be happening for you, but you
Speaker 1: miss it. It's almost like imagine you're knocking on a
Speaker 1: door and you're waiting for it to open, and while
Speaker 1: you're knocking on that door, three other doors open for you.
Speaker 1: But you're so busy knocking on this door and wondering
Speaker 1: why it doesn't open that you miss out on the
Speaker 1: three other doors that were waiting for you to walk
Speaker 1: through them. We all do this in our life. We're
Speaker 1: so busy knocking on this door endlessly, don't turn around
Speaker 1: to look at the one that's open in inviting us.
Speaker 1: I have seen in my life time and time again
Speaker 1: that often the doors I want to open don't open immediately,
Speaker 1: And if I would have stayed in that position, that's
Speaker 1: how I stay stuck. If you feel stuck right now,
Speaker 1: it's because you're stuck waiting for one door to open,
Speaker 1: rather than realizing there are three others that are inviting
Speaker 1: you in right now. That's why we feel stuck. We're
Speaker 1: waiting on the doorstep, going when will this door open?
Speaker 1: And you can be waiting seven years and the door
Speaker 1: may open in seven years, but you don't know, so
Speaker 1: you stay stuck. You feel stuck, But hey, if you
Speaker 1: walked into the other door, you could come back out
Speaker 1: and move into that door in seven years. It will
Speaker 1: work out. Stop trying to control everything. Not everything broken
Speaker 1: needs you to fix it. Stop trying to outrun uncertainty.
Speaker 1: You'll burn out before life slows down. Stop managing everyone's
Speaker 1: emotions like it's your full time job. Stop treating peace
Speaker 1: like a project. It's not something you earn, it's something
Speaker 1: you allow. And stop waiting for life to make sense
Speaker 1: it rarely does in real time. And stop gripping the
Speaker 1: future so hard you're crushing the present. What's meant for
Speaker 1: you won't need force, Just focus. One of the biggest
Speaker 1: reasons we spiral when plans fall apart is because of
Speaker 1: illusion control, the belief we should be able to predict
Speaker 1: and manage everything. But studies from doctor Ellen Langer Harvard
Speaker 1: show that people who accept uncertainty actually experience less anxiety
Speaker 1: and better performance over time. You can't plan for every twist,
Speaker 1: but you can decide how you respond to it. The
Speaker 1: problem is when we try to plan for every twist,
Speaker 1: we try to be prepared for every pivot, and guess what,
Speaker 1: even trying your best, it won't happen. So here's your reminder.
Speaker 1: Control the next step, Control your response, not the whole story.
Speaker 1: I'm sure you've reached places in your life that you
Speaker 1: never imagined. I'm sure you got over breakups and heartbreak
Speaker 1: you never imagined you would. This feeling you're having right now,
Speaker 1: of being stuck, of feeling like life's not going to plan,
Speaker 1: maybe what opens you up to a bigger plan. We
Speaker 1: all think our imagination's pretty good, but the universe's imagination
Speaker 1: far surpasses anything in this limited mind. Just think about
Speaker 1: the Solar System, think about the planets, think about nature.
Speaker 1: Everything is taken care of and every everything is provided for.
Speaker 1: It's only us that believe our imagination surpasses that of
Speaker 1: the universe. Don't compare your limited imagination to the limitless
Speaker 1: abundance of the universe. The universe has the ability to
Speaker 1: gift you more than you could ever imagine. You may
Speaker 1: think your vision is big, but the universes as bigger
Speaker 1: if you're willing to tap in and tune in. Step
Speaker 1: number three is reframe failure as redirection. You are not
Speaker 1: a failure. You're someone who started. You're not lost. You're
Speaker 1: in between versions of yourself. You're not starting over, You're
Speaker 1: re entering with better instincts. You're not finished, but you're
Speaker 1: also not at the start. You're not off track, you're
Speaker 1: off autopilot. See here's the reality. Your brain is wired
Speaker 1: to see failure as danger. The Amigdala lights up, triggering
Speaker 1: a threat response. But when researchers at Columbia studied how
Speaker 1: high performers recover, they found a pattern. They reframe setbacks
Speaker 1: as information, not identity. Stop saying I failed. Try this instead.
Speaker 1: This is feedback I didn't ask for, but maybe I needed.
Speaker 1: This is information that will help me next time. Reframe, Well,
Speaker 1: maybe this isn't the right path for me too. Maybe
Speaker 1: it's just a long way, maybe it's a different way.
Speaker 1: Thomas Edison famously said I didn't fail nine nine hundred
Speaker 1: and ninety nine times. I just found nine hundred and
Speaker 1: ninety nine times that it didn't work. That's the shift.
Speaker 1: If you find the one way it works, do you
Speaker 1: care that you tried ninety nine times? I'm guessing not.
Speaker 1: So reframe each way to be okay. I just know
Speaker 1: it doesn't work this way, all right, I just know
Speaker 1: it doesn't work this way. This is just not the
Speaker 1: way it works. It works a different way. Let me
Speaker 1: be open to that. Step four use the tiny winds framework.
Speaker 1: When your plan collapses, your sense of momentum often goes
Speaker 1: with it. So how do you rebuild it? Use something
Speaker 1: known as the progress principle from Harvard Business School. Tiny wins,
Speaker 1: even microacts create a measurable increase in confidence and motivation.
Speaker 1: There's a reason when you're growing up as a kid,
Speaker 1: your parents would put lines on the wall to see
Speaker 1: how far you are growing, because when you're close to something,
Speaker 1: you actually miss the growth. Right. You may even see
Speaker 1: that in yourself. Maybe you started working out, maybe you
Speaker 1: started walking ten thousand steps, and someone sees you and
Speaker 1: they say, wow, I can tell you look healthier. I
Speaker 1: can tell you've been taking care of yourself. And you're like,
Speaker 1: no way, I'm still you know, I still want to
Speaker 1: lose or gain this way, I still want to build
Speaker 1: this muscle. When you're figuring out things on your own
Speaker 1: up close, you'll never feel like you're growing. And that's
Speaker 1: why we don't grow, because we're looking for the big wins,
Speaker 1: not the small ones. So here's the question, what's one
Speaker 1: small thing you can complete today that brings you closer
Speaker 1: to what matters. For example, let's say your business failed.
Speaker 1: Don't relaunch the whole brand. Start with a twenty minute
Speaker 1: brainstorm or reach out to one customer to get feedback.
Speaker 1: Maybe you're going through a breakup and instead of trying
Speaker 1: to find love and convince yourself that love still exists,
Speaker 1: you're just going to do something where you enjoy your
Speaker 1: own company. Momentum comes from movement, not miracles. Let me
Speaker 1: say that again. Momentum comes from movement, not miracles. While
Speaker 1: you waiting for the big miracle, what will motivate you
Speaker 1: more is this small movement. Just start Start small, Start shaky,
Speaker 1: start unsure, Start before you're confident, Start before it makes sense.
Speaker 1: Start with what you have, not with what you wish
Speaker 1: you had. Start ugly, start unprepared, start imperfect, but make
Speaker 1: sure you start Step five. This time expect the plot twist.
Speaker 1: What people don't realize is that as you start building,
Speaker 1: is you start growing, you start to think that everything's
Speaker 1: going to plan. And here's what I realized. So many
Speaker 1: of us are surprised by the plot twist, that we
Speaker 1: shock ourselves into paralysis. I saw an amazing post the
Speaker 1: other day on social media, and it showed two sets
Speaker 1: of water cups. The top water cups all had the
Speaker 1: equal amount of water in them, and on top it said,
Speaker 1: this is what we think consistency looks like. On the
Speaker 1: second line of water cups, one was half full, one
Speaker 1: was three quarters full, one was a quarter full, and
Speaker 1: it said, this is what consistency actually looks like. We
Speaker 1: think when we're in the zone, every day is going
Speaker 1: to be the same. I'm going to work out five
Speaker 1: days a week every week for twelve months. The reality
Speaker 1: is one week you may work out three times, the
Speaker 1: next seven times, the next four times, the next two times,
Speaker 1: the next five times. That's what consistency actually looks like.
Speaker 1: But when you hold on to that plan of five
Speaker 1: days a week perfect workouts, you actually feel further and
Speaker 1: further away from it. Expect the plot twist. According to
Speaker 1: positive Psychology, research by doctor Sonya Bubomirski. People who are
Speaker 1: happier long term tend to be more psychologically flexible. They
Speaker 1: can hold multiple truths at once. So, for example, stop
Speaker 1: saying this wasn't the plan. Try thinking, this wasn't the plan,
Speaker 1: but it might be part of something better. This is
Speaker 1: the shift we need to make. This wasn't the plan,
Speaker 1: but this might lead to something better. All of a sudden,
Speaker 1: the neural pathways of opportunities open up in your mind.
Speaker 1: All of a sudden, you see the possibilities, not just
Speaker 1: the pain. You're not negating, you're not disregarding what you're feeling.
Speaker 1: They can be grief, they can be stressed, but you're
Speaker 1: opening up this vision. Think of the best people you admire,
Speaker 1: the ones with depth, character, soul. None of them got
Speaker 1: there without a plot twist. As the famous saying goes,
Speaker 1: sometimes the plan not working is the plan and working.
Speaker 1: Sometimes things going wrong is actually them going right. Sometimes
Speaker 1: things that look like a curse end up being the
Speaker 1: blessing if you are open to see it, if you're
Speaker 1: open to view it, if you're open to the possibilities
Speaker 1: and opportunities, and step number six, let curiosity lead you forward.
Speaker 1: When things fall apart, don't rush to the next big fix.
Speaker 1: Instead follow curiosity. Research from neuroscientist doctor Mary Helen Immordino
Speaker 1: Yang shows that curiosity activates a deeper cognitive state tied
Speaker 1: to purpose and resilience. When you ask what if instead
Speaker 1: of what now? You open doors instead of closing them.
Speaker 1: Journal about this. Think of a time in your life
Speaker 1: where you were convinced it was the end, it was
Speaker 1: a failure, and it was the worst thing that could
Speaker 1: have happened to you. And how it became an opportunity
Speaker 1: for something you never imagined. That's what's amazing. When things
Speaker 1: don't go to plan, you get the opportunity to build
Speaker 1: off plan. When things don't go as you imagined, things
Speaker 1: can actually turn out better than you could have ever
Speaker 1: thought of. Open your mind to that. Reflect on this,
Speaker 1: what if? This is the exact moment I was meant
Speaker 1: to reset? So I get it. Life hasn't gone to
Speaker 1: plan lately, and it's the worst. It's hard, it's tough,
Speaker 1: it's difficult, But remember this. The plan was never the point.
Speaker 1: The growth was and the goal was. You don't need
Speaker 1: to know what comes next, You just need to know
Speaker 1: that this is not the end. This is the part
Speaker 1: where you choose how the story continues. Thank you so
Speaker 1: much for listening. If this helped you, share it with
Speaker 1: someone who else is in there in between, And remember
Speaker 1: sometimes this is what it takes. I want you to
Speaker 1: remember you'll get to what you want in life, just
Speaker 1: not in the way you imagined it. You don't have
Speaker 1: to give up on the goal. You just have to
Speaker 1: focus on the growth. I'll catch you in the next episode.
Speaker 1: Leave a comment. Let me know which journal imprompt you're doing,
Speaker 1: what you're reflecting on. I want to see what's connecting
Speaker 1: with you, what you're engaging with, And remember, keep moving.
Speaker 1: You're not lazy, you're tired, You're not behind. You're human.
Speaker 1: Not every thought is truth, Some are just noise. Not
Speaker 1: every voice in your head deserves a microphone. You've survived
Speaker 1: every hard day so far. You're allowed to speak to
Speaker 1: yourself with respect. Growth sounds like kindness, not cruelty. You
Speaker 1: don't get stronger by tearing yourself down. If you love
Speaker 1: this episode, you'll enjoy my interview with doctor Daniel Aman
Speaker 1: on how to change your life by changing your brain.
Speaker 2: If we want a healthy mind, it actually starts with
Speaker 2: a healthy brain. You know I've had the blessing or
Speaker 2: the curse to scan over a thousand convicted felons and
Speaker 2: over one hundred murderers, and their brains are very damaged.