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Speaker 1: Good morning Usa yo yo yo yo yo yo yo

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Speaker 1: yo yo yo Jess, hilarryo ass Semary. It's Tuesday, Yes,

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Speaker 1: and today's show it's all about relationships, and it's in

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Speaker 1: the studio relationships. No, not me and Charlamagne, but we're

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Speaker 1: talking about some of our spouses, exes.

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Speaker 2: And boyfriends and the girlfriends.

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Speaker 3: That's right.

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Speaker 1: Well, today my wife Gied will be joining us. Of course,

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Speaker 1: we have a book, Real Life Real Love, and a

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Speaker 1: new book coming out in the new year called Real

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Speaker 1: Life Real Family. But we're gonna be talking everything relationship

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Speaker 1: and also room stopped Through. That's Jess's baby daddy and

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Speaker 1: we'll be talking to him about co parenting and relationships.

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Speaker 4: So that's today's show, So don't go anywhere.

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Speaker 3: It's the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 4: Good morning, wake up, wake up?

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Speaker 2: Wait yo aspeak your time to get it off your chest? Yo? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Your mad or blessed? You want to hear from you

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Speaker 2: on the breakfast glove.

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Speaker 4: Hello is this it's Tony, Tony what get it off

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Speaker 4: your chest?

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Speaker 5: Man?

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Speaker 6: A girl been cheating on me for last two years.

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Speaker 7: It's sound out about it.

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Speaker 2: That I'm damn, how'd you find out? Bro?

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Speaker 6: Man?

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Speaker 2: My dude from the joint called to let you know.

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Speaker 3: Damn how he knowing?

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Speaker 2: He in jail. He ain't coming with the dude.

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Speaker 8: Damn.

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Speaker 2: That's horrible. Damn. I'm sorry it is.

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Speaker 8: And I've been being bad of the year for two

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Speaker 8: years with the baby.

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Speaker 3: She ain't in.

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Speaker 2: Mind what you go do to her? You leaving or

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Speaker 2: you stayed. To be honest with us, I'm leaving.

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Speaker 9: Did you leave already or you find the gun?

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Speaker 8: No, I'm in the process of just happened on Friday.

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Speaker 2: I'm good to that three days at leaving. Did you

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Speaker 2: tell her yet? You tell her you found out? Yeah? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Did she admit to it?

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Speaker 8: No, That's what I'm saying that that that dude told

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Speaker 8: me the truth. She lied like you usual.

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Speaker 2: But the dude told me the truth truth.

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Speaker 9: How you know he's not just trying to break up

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Speaker 9: your happy home.

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Speaker 8: He ain't got no reason to.

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Speaker 9: They never do. I think you should with her before

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Speaker 9: you get that new apartment you did.

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Speaker 8: She lies, She said she wasn't cheap exactly.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, man, And then he said he talked me.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, I've been messing with her since twenty twenty two, Like, wow.

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Speaker 9: You gotta be more to the stories. Black women don't cheat.

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Speaker 2: Man, cut it off. That's all women cheat. Yeah, black

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Speaker 2: men don't. Alright, Tony, but that's all I want to man,

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Speaker 2: y'all have a good day. Hello.

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Speaker 4: Who's this?

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Speaker 10: Hey?

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Speaker 11: Good morning?

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Speaker 6: It's done.

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Speaker 2: It's up down where you talking from?

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Speaker 6: Can't you tell him? Like way out south? River down, Georgia.

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Speaker 2: River down, Georgia, good morning, down.

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Speaker 6: Good morning.

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Speaker 2: Get it off your chest?

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Speaker 6: All right, Okay, I just have to start letting it

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Speaker 6: roll because I've been so curious and so nice the election.

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Speaker 2: Don't you've been drinking this morning?

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Speaker 6: No, I ain't even drinking.

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Speaker 2: Okay, sorry, gad, what.

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Speaker 6: Are you talking about? Like some I'm talking sus No.

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Speaker 2: Yes, because you're talking a little bit.

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Speaker 6: I have to I don't slow. Nobody can understand what

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Speaker 6: I'm saying. Just so I'm like, so so from the South.

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Speaker 2: All right, and I'm like that said, good ahead, mama,

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Speaker 2: gin I'm sorry for interrupting you.

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Speaker 6: Oh no, you're a girl.

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Speaker 2: I did that.

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Speaker 6: I appreciate y'all, Ai and Charlane. I enjoy also much. Okay,

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Speaker 6: So I'm like really sick a Trump and I'm like,

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Speaker 6: I don't understand. While they had two people tried to

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Speaker 6: take out the STUF and they both failed.

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Speaker 2: We don't wish, We don't wish political violence on any

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Speaker 2: elected official, man, nobody at all. Man, we don't do that.

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Speaker 2: That's not what we do. She drunk, and it's like

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Speaker 2: when somebody tell you something that you know you're drying

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Speaker 2: you so real fast.

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Speaker 6: Right right, you're right, I'm not drunk.

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Speaker 3: Where you calling from?

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Speaker 4: Georgia?

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Speaker 3: I never heard of Georgia whatever somewhere.

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Speaker 9: She did an incredible hawk this morning.

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Speaker 10: I'm sorry, it's river Dalehdale in Atlanta, like near Okay

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Speaker 10: in Atlanta?

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Speaker 6: Well yeah, yeah, I'm twenty minutes from the Atlanta airport. Okay,

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Speaker 6: you know, like Little Baby is all those songs. Yeah,

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Speaker 6: I'm from Clay, I'm from play.

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Speaker 2: Those Okay, Okay, all right, Well, nice to hear from

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Speaker 2: you this morning. Thank you so much. Who's everybody who

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Speaker 2: listen to us on ninety six one to beat out

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Speaker 2: there in Atlanta? That's right?

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Speaker 5: Work.

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Speaker 6: So hey, I want to I want to book.

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Speaker 2: You don't scrag me as the reading, but I'll I'll

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Speaker 2: send you a book. I'll send you a copy of

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Speaker 2: my new book, Getting Honest a die line. Why small

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Speaker 2: talk sucks. I have a bunch of them in here

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Speaker 2: right now.

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Speaker 6: I appreciate any baby.

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Speaker 11: When you sign it, I will sign it.

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Speaker 2: What's your name again? Don?

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Speaker 6: God, You're awesome. It's down.

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Speaker 2: Right now.

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Speaker 3: Hold on, drunk, all right?

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Speaker 12: Hold on, sign drunk your weekend and dawning.

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Speaker 2: Don't hang up.

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Speaker 4: Okay, I'm signing for you because I need to know

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Speaker 4: how I get that.

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Speaker 2: That's right, hold on, Edie, gonna put you on, holding on.

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Speaker 9: He literally is signing the book right now for you.

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Speaker 5: Do.

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Speaker 2: I'm literally signing it right now.

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Speaker 9: Are you gonna remember you asked for this book?

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, all right, hold on right now, peace, drunk,

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Speaker 2: ass down, I'm signing it right now, alright, Dor you

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Speaker 2: have a good one, Oka safe, hold on, do not

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Speaker 2: hang up.

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Speaker 6: He look, thank god, I'm not hanging up, y'all. I'm

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Speaker 6: praying for y'all.

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Speaker 13: Y'all you praying for you.

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Speaker 2: Jesus Christ. Already, make sure you get Don's address. Man,

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Speaker 2: I got her book right here signed, still just need

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Speaker 2: to be.

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Speaker 1: Delivered, alright, Get it off your chest eight and drink

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Speaker 1: five eight five one oh five on.

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Speaker 2: The Breakfast Club good morning the Breakfast Club. You're time

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Speaker 2: to get it off your chest. Whether you're man or blessed,

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Speaker 2: we want to hear from you on the breakfast cloud.

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Speaker 8: It's telling your want what's up?

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Speaker 2: Get it off your chest?

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Speaker 8: Brother, A right, good fun shot man of God.

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Speaker 2: Thing are you doing?

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Speaker 11: Brother?

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Speaker 2: Yes? Great?

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Speaker 8: Want to bank in like eight eight proscue? I had

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Speaker 8: a lot of ump around my fast feet out here.

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Speaker 8: You'll talk about colding out and all that.

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Speaker 2: A lot yes up.

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Speaker 8: Something you will still about this cross state man, because.

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Speaker 14: That's what might I wasn't out wring the hell out

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Speaker 14: went on one building you back with but he certain.

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Speaker 2: I can't hear what you're saying, But you say I

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Speaker 2: heard that. You say you was in the hospital for

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Speaker 2: eight days because you had an infection around your prostate.

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Speaker 14: Right, and I just want to bring a wellness to it.

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Speaker 2: That's right, man. Listen, you know we we we make

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Speaker 2: jokes and stuff because you know, whenever you think about

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Speaker 2: something in your butt, it makes you giggle. But the

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Speaker 2: reality of the situation is that's why we go get

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Speaker 2: colding oscars and all of that stuff because of prostate

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Speaker 2: can Yeah, absolutely, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 8: You all I mean that ain't got nothing to do

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Speaker 8: main thing.

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Speaker 2: What you mean capital?

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Speaker 8: You know what your main thing here?

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Speaker 2: Your penis Yes, they put the capital in.

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Speaker 8: They got a thing bigger than the number ten pencils.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know about that.

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Speaker 3: Now put me on.

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Speaker 2: Now you need to school me what you're talking abou

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Speaker 2: I thought the prophet what they got to do? What

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Speaker 14: Frustrated pretty much with one your bladder that won you

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Speaker 14: your urine. So they put you to sleep and wake

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Speaker 14: up with a big old thing coming at you and

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Speaker 14: being out the capitol.

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Speaker 2: Now hold on, now, when I got a pro stet exam, uh,

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Speaker 2: the doctor put that glove on and put that finger

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Speaker 2: large No, I.

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Speaker 8: Had infection already, not knowing that I had it.

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Speaker 2: Oh, got you, got you? Got you? Okay, okay, okay,

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Speaker 2: all right, okay, But how you doing now? Broes? Uh?

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Speaker 2: So how you doing now?

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Speaker 14: I'm doing fine. I'm up and moving. It wasn't no back.

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Speaker 8: They kept me in the hospital so long to get

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Speaker 8: the infection out.

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Speaker 14: But other than that, you know, I'm moving to walk.

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Speaker 14: I'm moving the walk regularly.

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Speaker 2: And this is why you got to get prostat exams

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Speaker 2: early and regular so you don't end up having an infection.

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Speaker 2: That's right. You got to go make sure you.

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Speaker 1: Check get yourself checked out.

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Speaker 2: Go to the doctor.

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Speaker 4: Don't be too cool, don't get scared.

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Speaker 2: Go to the doctor. I ended up getting a project

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Speaker 2: because I went for a vasectomy and the vaseectorm me

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Speaker 2: turned into a prostate exam. Now that confused me, you

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Speaker 2: know what I mean, because I thought that you know,

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Speaker 2: he liked what he saw and he just wanted to

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Speaker 2: turn me around and get a little free for you.

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Speaker 2: You know what I mean. I mean I had to

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Speaker 2: call a lot of people before I called it out.

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Speaker 2: I had to buy to call a lot of people

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Speaker 2: like Yo, this regular man. I just came here for

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Speaker 2: a p second me for a constation. Man, I came

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Speaker 2: for a briefing test. He telling me, turn around, I mean, hello,

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Speaker 2: who's this? Yeah? Whatever? Brefast Club is, Nando, Nanda whatever,

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Speaker 2: get it off your test.

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Speaker 14: Yo, man.

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Speaker 15: I just wanted to shout out my merch on Instagram

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Speaker 15: if I could. It's Underdog fitted.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 15: I just wanted to shout it out. I make original

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Speaker 15: underdog could have had to snap backs by the don righty.

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Speaker 15: It's actually merged from my book that I'm writing, and

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Speaker 15: I was trying to get some help from Charlet Magne.

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Speaker 15: If you could help me, you know, uh, finish this book,

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Speaker 15: trying to write and publish and everything.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, send me the manuscript, man, if you got a manuscript,

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Speaker 2: are like a one sheet of what the book is about.

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Speaker 2: Eight hundred five eight five one oh five one. If

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Speaker 6: Now.

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Speaker 3: It's the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 2: Good morning, the Breakfast Club on everybody.

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Speaker 1: It's j n V, Jess Hilarias Charlamagne, the guy we

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Speaker 1: are the Breakfast Club just is on maternity leave. So

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Speaker 1: Laura Leosa is filling in. And we got some special

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Speaker 2: Welcome, what though, thank you, thank you, thank you for

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Speaker 2: having good morning. Now, just to tell y'all wondering why

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Speaker 2: I'm here, I walked in the door and she's sit down. Yes, ma'am,

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Speaker 2: I'm in your house because man is here to promote

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Speaker 2: her new album Live Brief Fight. But I mean, y'all

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Speaker 2: been doing things together forever, like y'all even know life

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Speaker 7: No, And I don't move to either.

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Speaker 2: Look, we got married at twenty one, so we've been

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Speaker 3: That's a long time.

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Speaker 7: I have no separations. I like to say that we

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Speaker 2: Did y'all know as soon as y'all saw each other

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Speaker 3: But we were just friends.

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Speaker 10: But it wasn't long after though, that I knew, but

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Speaker 7: I felt like he was the one, but I was like,

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Speaker 7: I don't know, because you know, David had a little

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Speaker 10: Some months that because we started singing together early, so

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Speaker 2: Group, Like, so y'all know me Kirk Franklin and another guy,

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Speaker 2: Darrel Blair, so Kirk Franklin. I've been friends for like

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Speaker 10: So it's just but I just felt like, if it

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Speaker 2: Watch his play waves.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, and his place.

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Speaker 3: She she actually busted me one time with my with

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Speaker 4: Was just looking. I just look you yourself.

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Speaker 2: They threw me a surprise birthday party.

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Speaker 10: No, well we were no, they just we were all

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Speaker 10: this friends and how you invite people to Okay, we're

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Speaker 10: gonna do this and listen, we're meeting at this house.

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Speaker 10: Were meeting at this house. But he brought somebody with him,

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Speaker 10: But it was just people that we all knew.

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Speaker 3: I was doing a little much for real.

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Speaker 2: That's why I wouldn't hook up with her, because she

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Speaker 3: I know that once I said I do, I am,

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Speaker 3: I will all right, and here I am.

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Speaker 1: So what do you tell young couples because you said something,

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Speaker 1: you said, yeah, but you've been together that and never separation. Right,

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Speaker 1: me and my wife we've been married twenty three years,

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Speaker 1: every day, good, bad, ugly, whatever. So what do you say,

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Speaker 7: We took the voice off the table.

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Speaker 10: And the thing is is to sometimes you gotta just

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Speaker 7: Sometimes you just have to back up, Okay, just take

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Speaker 10: And digest what's happening versus so you won't say piercing

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Speaker 10: I say piercing things. I've been saying that since the beginning,

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Speaker 10: because you can say stuff when you're angry, and you

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Speaker 7: Head you still think.

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Speaker 2: You never try to resolve issues in the middle of

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Speaker 2: When you're trying to resolve stuff in the middle of war,

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Speaker 2: like she say, just I'm quick with quick bit in

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Speaker 2: And I just started to see how man, this is

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Speaker 2: devastating this woman. It's crushing her. So you know, I

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Speaker 1: What's the worst battle that you guys got into that?

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Speaker 1: You remember that it was just nasty and you was

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Speaker 2: Okay, So like we talk which one the knock at

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Speaker 2: the door, the knock at the door, knock at the door.

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Speaker 2: Imagine this. Imagine she's at work, you at the house,

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Speaker 2: been served, say served with what what? Oh? You have

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Speaker 3: I'm like what I got a new Yeah. And so

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Speaker 2: I'm good? This is how long y'all were married at

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Speaker 3: Married five years by this time, so before I got married,

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Speaker 3: when them last come by?

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Speaker 2: The last little here? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: And so imagine her coming home and say, hey, how

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Speaker 2: What you do today?

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Speaker 3: Oh? I got this another baby?

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Speaker 2: That's how you said it. No, I didn't.

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Speaker 1: Took you some time.

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Speaker 7: Take them some time to get it out.

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Speaker 2: Her because on the way home, Okay, I'm gonna tell

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Speaker 11: You know the time, and I can't.

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Speaker 8: I just tried to.

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Speaker 3: Finally had to come and say, dear, you know I

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Speaker 2: That you know that I had.

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Speaker 7: And the thing is is he he had to. He

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Speaker 3: Things that have happened my two daughters.

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Speaker 10: So it's like I told him, I said, Okay, now

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Speaker 10: I accepted the one because I was there when she

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Speaker 7: Because we was she was at the hospital, and I

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Speaker 10: But as he came and said this to me about

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Speaker 10: I knew they had a thing going, but for how

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Speaker 1: You know.

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Speaker 7: I was like, I don't know.

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Speaker 10: Because the chick, God bless the we in a better

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Speaker 10: right hands on them. I ain't putting the Holy hands

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Speaker 10: even to you know what. We talked about it, and

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Speaker 10: David really pulled me before.

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Speaker 2: We got that.

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Speaker 3: It got really bad because she was like, I can't

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Speaker 2: I'm out.

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Speaker 3: And I shared with her, like, look, it's me and

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Speaker 7: That's the breakdown he gave you.

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Speaker 2: It's me and you against everything else. Because I know

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Speaker 2: I put us in a bad situation. I tell my

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Speaker 2: I say, that's a hard place to put kids. And

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Speaker 2: I say, I take full responsibility. I mean, my two

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Speaker 2: old daughter's best thing ever happened.

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Speaker 3: You see them now. I went to get the blood tests.

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Speaker 3: You know how you going to do the test and

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Speaker 3: I was gonna go and do a test.

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Speaker 2: You know, the first ain't baby, probably ain't mine. That

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Speaker 3: So by now she's five and I walk in the

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Speaker 2: Down at this little face. We ain't got to take

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Speaker 10: But to me, she looked like him and she looked

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Speaker 10: of the two. But when David told me the resolve

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Speaker 7: He said, it's us, and then it's them.

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Speaker 2: It's everybody.

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Speaker 10: I said, So you never have to worry about me

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Speaker 7: So that gave me a reassurance, and.

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Speaker 3: I wouldn't have to.

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Speaker 10: Be fighting to have my plate because I knew that

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Speaker 10: I had the papers. But still, you don't want to

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Speaker 10: be warring with someone else over just stuff that's even

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Speaker 10: outside of your home.

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Speaker 1: Right.

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Speaker 4: We have more with Tamala and David Man when we

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Speaker 4: come back, so don't move.

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Speaker 2: It's to breakfast Club. Good morning, the breakfast Club. Everybody.

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Speaker 1: It's dj NV, Jesseelarraychelamine, the God. We are the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 1: Long the roads are filling in for Jess and we're

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Speaker 1: still kicking in with David and Tamala Man.

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Speaker 2: Now, with all that was going on, how did you.

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Speaker 1: Block out the noise, right, because I'm sure you had

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Speaker 10: He's this that, but it written one. No one really

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Speaker 10: So all of us didn't know each other and knew

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Speaker 7: What is that, you know, doing what you did? You know,

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Speaker 10: So yeah, so but if people they knew me as

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Speaker 10: it's like she had her reputation, I had mine. And

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Speaker 10: it's like, no one really never stepped to me and

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Speaker 2: Now. Mind you, when we wrote this book and I

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Speaker 2: put the chapter the Knock at the Door at it, girl,

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Speaker 2: he was cheating on you all the time.

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Speaker 3: It's like, due the math.

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Speaker 2: Read the book.

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Speaker 3: Just go read the book, you know, girl, I knew

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Speaker 7: But if I were living and.

452
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Speaker 10: We breathing and we fight all through all the things,

453
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Speaker 10: you know, thirty six years later, We're still building, we're

454
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Speaker 10: still living because we just believe that Heaven is our destiny.

455
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Speaker 7: You know, we're breathing every breath with purpose.

456
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Speaker 10: We believe that we have a call, we have a

457
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Speaker 10: purpose to do what we do, even to inspire people

458
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Speaker 10: that follow us in relationships. I mean, this is like

459
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Speaker 10: you said that everybody want us to do this together. Lord,

460
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Speaker 10: they do, and they expect to see us. It's like

461
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Speaker 10: when you see one, it's like, Okay, well yours man,

462
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Speaker 10: you out here by yourself.

463
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Speaker 7: No, he's here. It's like he just stepped the trust me.

464
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Speaker 3: I've been trying to lay in the cut while we've

465
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Speaker 3: been doing this promo tour and the same thank you.

466
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Speaker 7: We fighting together, we're doing this together.

467
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Speaker 2: I really can't. I mean, I don't see y'all a part.

468
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Speaker 2: Y'all are really tagged team back again. Every time here,

469
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Speaker 2: it was complete.

470
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Speaker 10: When y'all are together and if and that's that's I

471
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Speaker 10: love the completion of it because he completes me. And

472
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Speaker 10: my prayer is like, Lord, please give us more time,

473
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Speaker 10: give us more time together. And it's like it's like

474
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Speaker 10: I don't know if I can do life without without him?

475
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Speaker 2: Is that what got y'all to get into shape because

476
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Speaker 2: you said, you know, you wanted to live like you

477
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Speaker 2: wanted more times that with me, y'all said, you know what,

478
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Speaker 2: getting to this, I had whole diabetes scare and all

479
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Speaker 2: the stuff, and it's like, man, we got to do something.

480
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Speaker 2: I can't leave it here by itself. It's just too

481
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Speaker 2: much going on, just seeing the craziness, and I'm just like,

482
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Speaker 2: I can't leave it here byself. I got to get

483
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Speaker 2: myself together. And so that's what we're doing. We just

484
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Speaker 2: a work in progress, you know this, good man.

485
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Speaker 6: Thank you.

486
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Speaker 7: Working from the inside out.

487
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Speaker 10: I think the importance of it is like this record

488
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Speaker 10: and doing it is like mentally working, coming from a

489
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Speaker 10: mental space, coming from building a body, doing differently, making

490
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Speaker 10: better decisions for the body.

491
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Speaker 7: And that thing is like, so we can be here

492
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Speaker 7: longer together.

493
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Speaker 2: And I was telling you off air, thank you so

494
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Speaker 2: much for what you're doing in this mental health space.

495
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Speaker 2: It means a lot to me as a black man

496
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Speaker 2: and somebody who's expected to make the world feel good.

497
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Speaker 2: And I was like, I shared it. I was embarrassed

498
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Speaker 2: to come out with my story of depression and making

499
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Speaker 2: it and to hear stories like yours, and you're talking

500
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Speaker 2: and just putting it in the forefront. It makes people

501
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Speaker 2: like me say, good, I can share mine without being embarrassed,

502
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Speaker 2: because I was embarrassed.

503
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Speaker 3: Really, I mean, like, but why embarrassment though?

504
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Speaker 2: Every time to come out and perform, you, mister Brown,

505
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Speaker 2: you make the world laugh.

506
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Speaker 4: Like you said, I grew up.

507
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Speaker 2: I'm a family like okay, So people expect that, and

508
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Speaker 2: so they don't know in the background you dying literally

509
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Speaker 2: dying and drowning. And so when people like you come

510
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Speaker 2: out and you know, make it known. Hey, it's cool.

511
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Speaker 2: I have a therapist and I have Jesus sure, and.

512
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Speaker 10: So you know, I just all of your lives, what

513
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Speaker 10: y'all give. I think it's important that all of us

514
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Speaker 10: bring what we bring to the table. I feel like

515
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Speaker 10: this pie is big enough for all of us to

516
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Speaker 10: have a piece to share it. We can help somebody,

517
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Speaker 10: I mean, one of our messages how to get to somebody.

518
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Speaker 2: I mean, my god, I mean.

519
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Speaker 10: It's like, with the platforms that we have, we should

520
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Speaker 10: be able to help encourage somebody from any walk of life.

521
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Speaker 10: I just feel like we're sent here not just for us,

522
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Speaker 10: We're sent here to help all walks.

523
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Speaker 2: The message in this album.

524
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Speaker 10: This album is to live, breathing, and fight even though

525
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Speaker 10: you're facing the things you're facing. The songs talking about

526
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Speaker 10: carry on, even though that you've dealt with mental health

527
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Speaker 10: or different different things in your family, or whatever your

528
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Speaker 10: issues may be.

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Speaker 7: We have to carry on. We deserve to win.

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Speaker 10: After you've done and been through the miss and the

531
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Speaker 10: upbringers that we've came out of.

532
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Speaker 7: We deserve to win. You deserve to have some nice things.

533
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Speaker 7: You deserve to have a smile on your face to be.

534
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Speaker 3: You're gonna find somebody I've been watching.

535
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Speaker 2: Talking and she don't pray about it.

536
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Speaker 11: You don't know what.

537
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Speaker 2: You don't know. She was kind of like you early on.

538
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Speaker 3: She was a player to what she's been doing radio.

539
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Speaker 12: Watching, you know, start out player players.

540
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Speaker 3: You said, I didn't start out playing.

541
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Speaker 9: I didn't. I mean once you I wasn't a player.

542
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Speaker 2: I was.

543
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Speaker 9: I'm meeting people, you know.

544
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Speaker 1: And now she kicks the saying game to the same guys.

545
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Speaker 1: And they figured it out to the fact that two

546
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Speaker 1: gentlemen said you need to fix yourself.

547
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Speaker 2: You need to get there.

548
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Speaker 9: First of all.

549
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Speaker 2: Two men told us you need to heal town.

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Speaker 12: One of them on lasted till Sunday after homecoming because

551
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Speaker 12: you needed to hear no, because he don't get me

552
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Speaker 12: started a lot of it, a lot of it deflecting

553
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Speaker 12: and cap and the language.

554
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Speaker 2: Should be calling these guys things like eaters. Y'all know

555
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Speaker 2: about that my best eater.

556
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Speaker 11: Not that I don't say the phone in the phone

557
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Speaker 11: eat up best.

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Speaker 2: Eat That is not true.

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Speaker 7: I would, But I think we should come when.

560
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Speaker 10: But when you're looking at being found, I think we

561
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Speaker 10: have to make a list of what we're wanting in

562
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Speaker 10: a relationship, and then you become the list.

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Speaker 2: That's all.

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Speaker 7: Just know what you want and it's okay to have standards.

565
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Speaker 9: And but you said that you've realized later in life

566
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Speaker 9: about your value forget. But it takes time for.

567
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Speaker 12: You to get to a certain point where you feel like, okay,

568
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Speaker 12: now I'm ready to enter back into things. I just

569
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Speaker 12: feel like some men don't understand when you're taking that time.

570
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Speaker 12: And that doesn't mean that you're lonely or without, it's

571
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Speaker 12: just you know, you need that time. I stepped away

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Speaker 12: from something.

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Speaker 7: See that's y'all say, taking her time for that's the

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Speaker 7: healing process right there. So she is in the process

575
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Speaker 7: of being here. So y'all just have to it's her way.

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Speaker 12: Honestly, I got I'd be with the whole sorry for

577
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Speaker 12: them that I brought y'all into this, and I did

578
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Speaker 12: not know as long as you know.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I know it, and I know these guys. Y'all

580
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Speaker 7: stop teasing her.

581
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Speaker 2: Try to Mom or somebody.

582
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Speaker 3: I'm just old.

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Speaker 7: I'm just I'm I'm the oldest in here. I'm fake.

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Speaker 12: I did take time before I started dating. I took

585
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Speaker 12: a lot of time because it was a long relationship

586
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Speaker 12: that I was in. And then I got and that

587
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Speaker 12: was like and now here come these two.

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Speaker 2: But I see God working on.

589
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Speaker 10: One of my first titles. I have hands around. But

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Speaker 10: I have a song on this called Power, talking about

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Speaker 10: the power of God.

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Speaker 7: You should listen to it. It's a good one. The

593
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Speaker 7: power is really just talking.

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Speaker 10: About how just how the Lord just maneuvers and how

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Speaker 10: his power just happens over things, and just how he

596
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Speaker 10: just holds us. I mean, it's just amazing how God

597
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Speaker 10: just really protects us when we don't know that we're

598
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Speaker 10: being protected. We think we out here doing it ourselves,

599
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Speaker 10: but the Lord is really shielding us. So it's just

600
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Speaker 10: it's just really a blessing to be able to bring

601
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Speaker 10: my hope is that it's good music and people can

602
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Speaker 10: be healed and have inspiration from it.

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Speaker 1: We have more with David and Timbla Man when we

604
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Speaker 1: come back, let's get into a joint off for our

605
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Speaker 1: deserve to win. It's the breakfast Club, Good morning wanting everybody.

606
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Speaker 1: We are the breakfast Club. We're still kicking it with

607
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Speaker 1: David and Tamala Man Charlemanne.

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Speaker 2: I was gonna ask about Lord, I trust you right

609
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Speaker 2: because you know to what you're speaking about now. You

610
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Speaker 2: say when the sun's not shining down on me, when

611
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Speaker 2: the chaos is overwhelming, my peace for my life is

612
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Speaker 2: spending out of control. When I lose my grip and

613
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Speaker 2: I start to let go, Lord, I trust you. How

614
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Speaker 2: hard is it to put your trust in God when

615
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Speaker 2: things aren't going well, when you don't see no.

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Speaker 8: Light of it?

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Speaker 10: Could be hard to me. That's why I have a

618
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Speaker 10: real good cry. I get in my car a lot

619
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Speaker 10: because my car to me is like I can get

620
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Speaker 10: away from everything and I don't have to hear anything.

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Speaker 9: It's like that.

622
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Speaker 7: But in my closet it's like a pride closet.

623
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Speaker 10: And in my car because God is like, I don't

624
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Speaker 10: understand what's happening right now, this last year and half

625
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Speaker 10: half of things and things coming to me like I

626
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Speaker 10: can't believe that I'm in this situation.

627
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Speaker 7: I can't believe that I'm having a fight just to

628
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Speaker 7: prove who I am.

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Speaker 10: And I thought I was doing that, but it's like, okay, Lord,

630
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Speaker 10: I trust you. I trust that you're gonna handle it.

631
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Speaker 10: And then that's when the song came for me working

632
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Speaker 10: for me, that the Lord just gave me a stamp

633
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Speaker 10: of approval.

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Speaker 7: You may not see me at.

635
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Speaker 10: Work, but I'm working in your behalf that he's working

636
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Speaker 10: for me, bless you. So it's just I just take

637
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Speaker 10: comfort in knowing that he is my gud and he

638
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Speaker 10: is my help. He's my present help in the time

639
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Speaker 10: of storm, that even when I don't see and nobody

640
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Speaker 10: else is around, he's there and I can go to

641
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Speaker 10: him and I ain't got to worry about him my

642
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Speaker 10: business being in the street.

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Speaker 2: That's why testimony is so important though, right because I

644
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Speaker 2: like to hear other people's stories and what they've been

645
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Speaker 2: through and.

646
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Speaker 10: What that overcoming of it overcoming, the overcoming sure was overcoming.

647
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Speaker 10: And that's the thing is and the Lord has allowed

648
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Speaker 10: me to finish the work, even to the extent of

649
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Speaker 10: even with my body, I reached the goal of like

650
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Speaker 10: even the weight loss that I was trying to do so,

651
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Speaker 10: but to even spiritually become a writer like I wrote

652
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Speaker 10: on it, Like I gave direction on every song on

653
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Speaker 10: this album. So it's like things that I'm proving to

654
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Speaker 10: myself and showing like Lord, you know, I wrote the

655
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Speaker 10: plan down and I'm following through with the plan.

656
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Speaker 2: Working for me. That was your eleventh number one, right, Yes,

657
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Speaker 2: you've watched the record of all time.

658
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Speaker 3: Wow, Kirk, we're tired. We're tired for number one.

659
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Speaker 10: But I mean, you don't see this stuff coming. You owe,

660
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Speaker 10: people don't like the music and enjoy it.

661
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Speaker 7: But it's like when it happened, I don't even look

662
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Speaker 7: at the charge y'all they have. They tell me.

663
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Speaker 9: Working for me, you lean into the country music.

664
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Speaker 12: Yeah, so I know, and I know Kirk Franklin is

665
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Speaker 12: known for dibbling, dabling different beats and sounds and stuff

666
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Speaker 12: like that. Have you thought about, like what you know

667
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Speaker 12: it would be like for you to do other stars,

668
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Speaker 12: of bringing other stars like the R and B or

669
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Speaker 12: like anything secular but making it gospel kind of how

670
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Speaker 12: he does a bit well.

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Speaker 7: I kind of have some balanced this close to maybe

672
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Speaker 7: R and B. I've had a little.

673
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Speaker 10: If we did do a love project Us against the World,

674
00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:49,000
Speaker 10: that I did, like I have a song that Kyle

675
00:27:49,080 --> 00:27:51,440
Speaker 10: feels I sing a song, does Carl feel like it's

676
00:27:51,680 --> 00:27:53,280
Speaker 10: really a straight R and B song.

677
00:27:53,359 --> 00:27:55,480
Speaker 7: We didn't push it, but I think it would have

678
00:27:55,520 --> 00:27:56,359
Speaker 7: really did well.

679
00:27:56,480 --> 00:27:58,200
Speaker 10: But I just still want people to think that I

680
00:27:58,320 --> 00:28:00,359
Speaker 10: was trying to do R and B music, that I

681
00:28:00,440 --> 00:28:02,600
Speaker 10: still want to stay in my genre because I feel.

682
00:28:02,400 --> 00:28:04,080
Speaker 7: Like we all have a part to play.

683
00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:05,720
Speaker 3: And really she was afraid of what.

684
00:28:08,240 --> 00:28:08,520
Speaker 2: I did.

685
00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:09,440
Speaker 11: I was I was.

686
00:28:09,520 --> 00:28:12,440
Speaker 10: I was very fearful and it wasn't like I was

687
00:28:12,520 --> 00:28:15,440
Speaker 10: fighting them, but I was dragging my feet. It's like,

688
00:28:15,960 --> 00:28:18,040
Speaker 10: I feel like if I can hear whatever, I could

689
00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:21,080
Speaker 10: sing whatever. You know, like when you say the country music,

690
00:28:21,160 --> 00:28:23,920
Speaker 10: it's like, I'm country, y'all. Y'all hear in my just

691
00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:26,240
Speaker 10: how I talk. But I know about the chickens and

692
00:28:26,280 --> 00:28:28,720
Speaker 10: the hogs. You know, I was raised actually in the country,

693
00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:32,520
Speaker 10: so it's like those things to me. What it's like,

694
00:28:32,640 --> 00:28:35,000
Speaker 10: I've been stretched and a lot of times we only

695
00:28:35,080 --> 00:28:37,680
Speaker 10: listen to people's single that they have at but we

696
00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 10: really don't go listen to the body of even with the.

697
00:28:42,040 --> 00:28:45,000
Speaker 2: Love project we did, she was afraid, like, of what

698
00:28:45,160 --> 00:28:47,680
Speaker 2: people were gonna think. I'm in the studio, I got

699
00:28:47,880 --> 00:28:50,520
Speaker 2: my chest hairs and I got much sunshape. I'm doing

700
00:28:50,560 --> 00:28:51,200
Speaker 2: my best R.

701
00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:53,920
Speaker 7: And B what I mean, let the lights damn.

702
00:28:56,840 --> 00:28:57,120
Speaker 16: I was.

703
00:28:59,080 --> 00:29:01,120
Speaker 2: And she was like, just have I said, that is

704
00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:03,960
Speaker 2: not how you sing. But then I realized she was

705
00:29:04,040 --> 00:29:07,640
Speaker 2: afraid of what the church crad was gonna, you know,

706
00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:08,360
Speaker 2: think of her.

707
00:29:08,440 --> 00:29:10,560
Speaker 10: But once I thought about it, it's like I'm singing

708
00:29:10,640 --> 00:29:12,880
Speaker 10: to the love of my life. I'm singing to him.

709
00:29:12,960 --> 00:29:16,200
Speaker 10: I'm not singing for y'all, per se. I mean, thank

710
00:29:16,240 --> 00:29:18,640
Speaker 10: God for everybody, but I was singing to him, and

711
00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:21,040
Speaker 10: the song is you make me feel like I'm on

712
00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:21,440
Speaker 10: top of.

713
00:29:21,480 --> 00:29:23,520
Speaker 7: The world, and when it's the truth, he does.

714
00:29:24,000 --> 00:29:26,280
Speaker 10: So it's like when you hear this song, it's like

715
00:29:26,560 --> 00:29:28,960
Speaker 10: it just brings it all to life of like me

716
00:29:29,880 --> 00:29:32,640
Speaker 10: talking straight to him or him, you know, feeling like

717
00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:33,320
Speaker 10: when he touched me.

718
00:29:33,440 --> 00:29:34,760
Speaker 7: It's just it's just he.

719
00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:37,240
Speaker 10: Still he's still give me goose bumps. So it's like

720
00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:40,160
Speaker 10: they don't do that because you don't do that.

721
00:29:40,840 --> 00:29:41,800
Speaker 4: Don't do that right now?

722
00:29:43,000 --> 00:29:45,000
Speaker 2: Y'all married? Why can't you married people have that?

723
00:29:45,400 --> 00:29:47,880
Speaker 10: It's true, but it's just a society that we live in.

724
00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:51,200
Speaker 10: It's like our people. We can be judgmental. We could

725
00:29:51,200 --> 00:29:53,000
Speaker 10: be the most loving, but we also can be the

726
00:29:53,040 --> 00:29:55,440
Speaker 10: most judgmental when it comes to Christian people.

727
00:29:55,560 --> 00:29:57,600
Speaker 2: I don't understand that about Christianity. I'm not gonna do

728
00:29:59,880 --> 00:30:00,920
Speaker 2: the for a thing they teach.

729
00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:04,680
Speaker 3: And I love being on this side, but I don't.

730
00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:05,360
Speaker 2: Know why we're like that.

731
00:30:05,520 --> 00:30:08,480
Speaker 10: I have, but it's it just it does have to

732
00:30:08,560 --> 00:30:11,560
Speaker 10: be a separation, though, y'all it has. It's just I

733
00:30:11,680 --> 00:30:15,600
Speaker 10: wouldn't come and look for you to do certain things,

734
00:30:15,920 --> 00:30:17,640
Speaker 10: just like you probably wouldn't expect for me to do

735
00:30:17,760 --> 00:30:20,120
Speaker 10: certain things. And it's not judgmental, you just it's just

736
00:30:20,240 --> 00:30:23,000
Speaker 10: like what you represented you, just like with your parents.

737
00:30:23,120 --> 00:30:25,800
Speaker 10: Just like sometimes even some like our kids like to

738
00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:27,720
Speaker 10: talk about six. They don't want us to talk about six.

739
00:30:30,120 --> 00:30:33,160
Speaker 10: So it's like, but it's just like people that we're doing.

740
00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:35,640
Speaker 10: People don't want to hear certain things from certain people.

741
00:30:36,120 --> 00:30:37,840
Speaker 10: So it's not I don't think all of it is

742
00:30:38,320 --> 00:30:42,120
Speaker 10: I would say judging. It's just what would Jesus do.

743
00:30:42,200 --> 00:30:52,760
Speaker 7: Could you see him just pull back on one was

744
00:30:52,840 --> 00:30:54,040
Speaker 7: to bring a message.

745
00:30:57,720 --> 00:30:58,880
Speaker 2: His father created.

746
00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:02,520
Speaker 7: It was not for him smoking. No, the bush was

747
00:31:02,560 --> 00:31:04,800
Speaker 7: being burnt to show as a sacrifice.

748
00:31:07,120 --> 00:31:08,680
Speaker 9: Sacrifice in the bush that I'm talking about.

749
00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:10,600
Speaker 7: Not they cookn't green.

750
00:31:10,840 --> 00:31:13,720
Speaker 2: God creates everything for a purpose. God created marijuana.

751
00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:16,840
Speaker 7: He did, but it wasn't for us to be like

752
00:31:17,240 --> 00:31:18,560
Speaker 7: joy get high.

753
00:31:18,760 --> 00:31:19,040
Speaker 2: Healing.

754
00:31:20,960 --> 00:31:22,520
Speaker 7: It's healing. It's for healing.

755
00:31:22,760 --> 00:31:23,920
Speaker 2: I don't think Jesus got high.

756
00:31:24,280 --> 00:31:24,640
Speaker 13: I don't.

757
00:31:24,760 --> 00:31:26,720
Speaker 2: I'm gonna push you. Why do you think all the

758
00:31:26,760 --> 00:31:30,960
Speaker 2: people thought he was walking on water. He turned the

759
00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:34,240
Speaker 2: water into wine, so that's the alcohol. And then he

760
00:31:34,360 --> 00:31:36,680
Speaker 2: turned the fish, the fish and the bread. He moved

761
00:31:36,720 --> 00:31:41,720
Speaker 2: the ply of everybody. That's the monkey. Man, know, man,

762
00:31:42,800 --> 00:31:43,719
Speaker 2: that is the monkey.

763
00:31:44,160 --> 00:31:45,520
Speaker 3: See why you always on here?

764
00:31:45,600 --> 00:31:47,520
Speaker 11: Come on, come on la getting this? So this is

765
00:31:47,640 --> 00:31:48,080
Speaker 11: I'm with you.

766
00:31:48,240 --> 00:31:48,920
Speaker 2: This is your time.

767
00:31:49,040 --> 00:31:51,560
Speaker 12: And what I'm doing, I'm allowing him to jump off

768
00:31:51,600 --> 00:31:53,360
Speaker 12: the cliff on his own. Gonna watch him.

769
00:31:53,640 --> 00:31:55,760
Speaker 2: Jesus know my heart, he working on.

770
00:31:57,720 --> 00:32:01,160
Speaker 9: Don't try to bring God on in here. Do you

771
00:32:01,240 --> 00:32:01,480
Speaker 9: see it?

772
00:32:01,560 --> 00:32:01,800
Speaker 11: Double?

773
00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:02,880
Speaker 9: You were just smoking with God?

774
00:32:04,200 --> 00:32:04,560
Speaker 2: All right?

775
00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:05,440
Speaker 11: I told you.

776
00:32:10,600 --> 00:32:11,920
Speaker 7: He's working for them tonight.

777
00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:14,080
Speaker 1: Man, We appreciate you.

778
00:32:14,160 --> 00:32:17,160
Speaker 2: You know, we have to definitely needs it. We all

779
00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:17,440
Speaker 2: need it.

780
00:32:17,520 --> 00:32:19,360
Speaker 7: Father God, we thank you for this day. We thank

781
00:32:19,440 --> 00:32:21,640
Speaker 7: you for this opportunity to be before your people.

782
00:32:21,640 --> 00:32:25,160
Speaker 10: Where should just bless us, Lord God, bring inspiration understanding

783
00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:27,680
Speaker 10: to all of us. God in every area that we need,

784
00:32:27,760 --> 00:32:30,200
Speaker 10: and touch those that are having problems for us in

785
00:32:30,280 --> 00:32:32,840
Speaker 10: their minds. Lord God, to just bring and lift every

786
00:32:32,920 --> 00:32:33,880
Speaker 10: weight off of us.

787
00:32:33,920 --> 00:32:35,320
Speaker 9: On God, we just give you.

788
00:32:35,320 --> 00:32:37,840
Speaker 10: Glory for this opportunity. Thank you for the Breakfast Club.

789
00:32:37,960 --> 00:32:39,880
Speaker 10: Thank you for what they bring for our people. And

790
00:32:39,960 --> 00:32:43,640
Speaker 10: we give you glory for everything that you're doing. Jesus name, Amen, Amen.

791
00:32:44,080 --> 00:32:45,800
Speaker 2: Man, always a pleasure man.

792
00:32:45,840 --> 00:32:46,880
Speaker 3: Thank you, Thank you.

793
00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:51,480
Speaker 4: The album out right now, Live breathing and fight and remember.

794
00:32:51,440 --> 00:32:52,680
Speaker 7: Live and keep breathing, keep fighting.

795
00:32:52,840 --> 00:32:54,680
Speaker 2: God did not smoke the burner. He did not.

796
00:32:55,840 --> 00:32:56,840
Speaker 3: It was That's not it.

797
00:32:57,000 --> 00:32:58,960
Speaker 7: It was for sacrifice. Come on, get out of that.

798
00:32:59,160 --> 00:33:00,160
Speaker 3: It's the Breakfast.

799
00:33:03,280 --> 00:33:05,400
Speaker 2: Morning, the Breakfast Club.

800
00:33:08,080 --> 00:33:11,520
Speaker 1: E j Envy Angela Yee Charlamagne the God. We are

801
00:33:11,600 --> 00:33:14,040
Speaker 1: to Breakfast Club. We got a special guest in the building.

802
00:33:14,520 --> 00:33:15,400
Speaker 3: Never met her before.

803
00:33:16,160 --> 00:33:18,760
Speaker 4: She's an actress, she's an author, she's a mom.

804
00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:24,640
Speaker 1: Ladies and gentlemen, it's a wife, my wife, Yes, Gia, hello, welcome?

805
00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:27,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, what that's this one name? She's like Madonna Beyonce.

806
00:33:28,120 --> 00:33:31,120
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, okay, okay, okay. How nervous are you, sir?

807
00:33:31,240 --> 00:33:31,560
Speaker 3: Seriously?

808
00:33:31,960 --> 00:33:33,000
Speaker 13: He's been acting real weird.

809
00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:39,920
Speaker 17: You guys have a book out, Real Life, Real Love Life,

810
00:33:40,000 --> 00:33:42,440
Speaker 17: Lessons on Joy, pain and the Magic that holds us together.

811
00:33:42,760 --> 00:33:45,200
Speaker 17: And I've been dying to ask you this question, Gia

812
00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:49,040
Speaker 17: in person, how do you feel about charlamagna and be

813
00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:50,360
Speaker 17: flirting with each other every day?

814
00:33:52,640 --> 00:33:59,840
Speaker 13: Kind of turns me on. I didn't expect that answer.

815
00:34:00,120 --> 00:34:09,279
Speaker 18: No, I'm nervous, people, Okay, explain No, I mean, I mean,

816
00:34:09,320 --> 00:34:12,520
Speaker 18: I think it's a little strange, but I'm amused by it,

817
00:34:14,680 --> 00:34:15,279
Speaker 18: amused by it.

818
00:34:15,360 --> 00:34:16,400
Speaker 13: Does anything goes too far?

819
00:34:16,520 --> 00:34:16,680
Speaker 7: Ever?

820
00:34:17,520 --> 00:34:19,880
Speaker 3: No, it's all in good fun and all it is.

821
00:34:19,960 --> 00:34:20,600
Speaker 19: I don't mind it.

822
00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:22,680
Speaker 4: So you didn't mind that when he gave me ass.

823
00:34:22,960 --> 00:34:28,120
Speaker 2: First of all, context please, everybody ever watched the show

824
00:34:28,160 --> 00:34:29,200
Speaker 2: every day? Context?

825
00:34:29,280 --> 00:34:29,600
Speaker 14: Please?

826
00:34:30,080 --> 00:34:31,160
Speaker 2: Okaya?

827
00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:32,360
Speaker 19: Can you guys sound by that?

828
00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:36,000
Speaker 3: He gave me a mold of his ass's and it

829
00:34:36,120 --> 00:34:37,919
Speaker 3: was in my ass. It was a molde of a ass.

830
00:34:38,680 --> 00:34:39,560
Speaker 2: Yes, I thought it was.

831
00:34:39,560 --> 00:34:40,560
Speaker 1: A mold of your actual No.

832
00:34:40,760 --> 00:34:45,040
Speaker 17: No, and then what about when they touch each other

833
00:34:45,080 --> 00:34:46,160
Speaker 17: and that's never.

834
00:34:46,040 --> 00:34:49,839
Speaker 18: Happened to You've never seen them, that hasn't happened.

835
00:34:49,960 --> 00:34:51,440
Speaker 19: No, you want to tell me something I need to know.

836
00:34:51,600 --> 00:34:53,440
Speaker 13: No, they like rub up brush against each other. If

837
00:34:53,440 --> 00:34:54,160
Speaker 13: they're walking at.

838
00:34:54,080 --> 00:34:56,960
Speaker 3: The door, they starting rubb against each other. We don't

839
00:34:56,960 --> 00:34:57,360
Speaker 3: ever do it.

840
00:34:58,160 --> 00:35:00,399
Speaker 13: They're going the revolving door together and have in one.

841
00:35:02,360 --> 00:35:02,880
Speaker 19: Explain that.

842
00:35:03,960 --> 00:35:04,680
Speaker 11: Now I need to answer.

843
00:35:04,719 --> 00:35:06,279
Speaker 2: It was stupid. I don't even know how to happen.

844
00:35:06,800 --> 00:35:11,320
Speaker 2: It was really stupid. It was really very intentional. It

845
00:35:11,480 --> 00:35:13,400
Speaker 2: wasn't well.

846
00:35:14,480 --> 00:35:17,360
Speaker 1: And then what makes his way walking around was so

847
00:35:17,520 --> 00:35:20,480
Speaker 1: stupid and was giggle because it was so stupid.

848
00:35:20,840 --> 00:35:21,840
Speaker 2: Had to giggle all the way through it.

849
00:35:22,000 --> 00:35:25,799
Speaker 20: You guys, just added insulted, sitting there in the one

850
00:35:25,880 --> 00:35:27,000
Speaker 20: slot giggling together.

851
00:35:30,560 --> 00:35:35,040
Speaker 2: Oh man, anyway, back to the matter at hand, real life,

852
00:35:35,120 --> 00:35:38,440
Speaker 2: real love. What is that magic that holds y'all together?

853
00:35:38,520 --> 00:35:43,359
Speaker 20: You think, you know, whenever I find that people come

854
00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:46,799
Speaker 20: to our house or are around us, I think they're

855
00:35:46,880 --> 00:35:47,799
Speaker 20: kind of surprised at.

856
00:35:47,760 --> 00:35:49,680
Speaker 13: How much fun we have together.

857
00:35:49,880 --> 00:35:54,040
Speaker 20: I find him to be very charming, charismatic, and one

858
00:35:54,080 --> 00:35:55,920
Speaker 20: of the things that I love most about him is

859
00:35:56,000 --> 00:35:58,640
Speaker 20: his boyish nature. So we really have a lot of

860
00:35:58,719 --> 00:36:02,000
Speaker 20: fun together and we always since we first met. The

861
00:36:02,080 --> 00:36:04,919
Speaker 20: first week we spent together, I thought to myssage, it's

862
00:36:04,960 --> 00:36:07,520
Speaker 20: a lot of fun and he's he's like a friend,

863
00:36:07,920 --> 00:36:09,480
Speaker 20: you know, And that's part of the magic.

864
00:36:10,080 --> 00:36:11,640
Speaker 2: You knew that this was the person who was gonna

865
00:36:11,640 --> 00:36:12,440
Speaker 2: send the rest of your life.

866
00:36:12,640 --> 00:36:14,400
Speaker 19: After about two weeks of knowing him.

867
00:36:14,480 --> 00:36:17,040
Speaker 13: Yes, he knew before you even spent a day together.

868
00:36:18,560 --> 00:36:22,360
Speaker 19: I explain before before we even spent a day together.

869
00:36:22,560 --> 00:36:24,200
Speaker 1: Well, when I first when I first seen you, I

870
00:36:24,239 --> 00:36:26,080
Speaker 1: mean I wrote in the book that I thought you

871
00:36:26,160 --> 00:36:27,879
Speaker 1: were beautiful and amazing. And the first time I saw

872
00:36:27,920 --> 00:36:30,759
Speaker 1: you were actually running track and for people that don't know,

873
00:36:30,880 --> 00:36:38,080
Speaker 1: you know track, she's playing tracks like that. You know,

874
00:36:38,200 --> 00:36:40,399
Speaker 1: he had, you know, big double d's, And I would

875
00:36:40,760 --> 00:36:43,480
Speaker 1: stop basically stalker outside and just watch her run.

876
00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:46,160
Speaker 3: Track and watch a breast bottle like that word don't

877
00:36:46,160 --> 00:36:47,880
Speaker 3: say stalk, but.

878
00:36:47,880 --> 00:36:48,680
Speaker 7: That's actually what he was.

879
00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:52,399
Speaker 19: It was actually stalking. And I would see him.

880
00:36:53,239 --> 00:36:56,560
Speaker 20: I would see him sitting with his friends in this

881
00:36:56,800 --> 00:37:00,320
Speaker 20: bright blue con edison vand because that's what his parents

882
00:37:00,360 --> 00:37:03,080
Speaker 20: bought him to trans to transfer his DJ equipment from

883
00:37:03,120 --> 00:37:04,040
Speaker 20: sweet sixteen.

884
00:37:03,760 --> 00:37:09,560
Speaker 19: To sweet sixteen time, and I would see it parked

885
00:37:09,600 --> 00:37:10,280
Speaker 19: behind the fence.

886
00:37:10,760 --> 00:37:13,400
Speaker 13: I'm thinking myself, like, Yo, why is this van.

887
00:37:13,360 --> 00:37:16,040
Speaker 19: There every day at practice?

888
00:37:18,960 --> 00:37:21,399
Speaker 2: Yo? Yeah?

889
00:37:22,120 --> 00:37:25,399
Speaker 19: It was bright blue. He wasn't low, he was not low.

890
00:37:27,040 --> 00:37:31,200
Speaker 16: He was just sitting in the And then one day, actually, babe,

891
00:37:31,200 --> 00:37:33,560
Speaker 16: do you remember one day he emerged from the van

892
00:37:33,840 --> 00:37:36,440
Speaker 16: and approached me and kicked it And I was like, oh,

893
00:37:36,600 --> 00:37:37,760
Speaker 16: so you're that weird though.

894
00:37:39,680 --> 00:37:40,240
Speaker 2: Both kids.

895
00:37:40,480 --> 00:37:42,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, she was fifteen, I was sixteen. We went to

896
00:37:42,600 --> 00:37:43,279
Speaker 4: the same high school.

897
00:37:43,320 --> 00:37:45,800
Speaker 17: So m but you say that you knew that she

898
00:37:46,000 --> 00:37:47,560
Speaker 17: was going to be your wife, like right away? You

899
00:37:47,600 --> 00:37:49,960
Speaker 17: think it was before y'all even spoke when he was

900
00:37:50,000 --> 00:37:50,719
Speaker 17: stalking her.

901
00:37:51,040 --> 00:37:53,640
Speaker 1: Actually know when we actually spoke, and you know, I

902
00:37:53,719 --> 00:37:57,120
Speaker 1: found out how you know, beautiful she was inside and outside,

903
00:37:57,200 --> 00:38:00,480
Speaker 1: and how smart she was and caring and she was

904
00:38:00,640 --> 00:38:02,200
Speaker 1: just that she was the one. She was the most

905
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:04,279
Speaker 1: beautiful thing I've ever seen in my life and the

906
00:38:04,360 --> 00:38:05,960
Speaker 1: most precious thing. So I was like, this is going

907
00:38:06,040 --> 00:38:06,560
Speaker 1: to be my wife.

908
00:38:07,719 --> 00:38:09,480
Speaker 2: I want people to get the book, but I do want,

909
00:38:09,560 --> 00:38:12,960
Speaker 2: you know, to explain how do you keep reinventing the

910
00:38:13,120 --> 00:38:16,959
Speaker 2: relationship when you start that young. Now interview is fifty something,

911
00:38:17,040 --> 00:38:18,960
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, you're much much younger. But

912
00:38:19,080 --> 00:38:22,799
Speaker 2: how do you keep how do you keep reinventing?

913
00:38:22,880 --> 00:38:24,960
Speaker 19: And I think that that's part of the magic.

914
00:38:25,040 --> 00:38:25,959
Speaker 3: We don't have to try.

915
00:38:26,760 --> 00:38:28,279
Speaker 19: We don't intentionally.

916
00:38:28,520 --> 00:38:31,160
Speaker 20: We do a lot of things intentionally and deliberately, but

917
00:38:31,280 --> 00:38:35,680
Speaker 20: we don't intentionally reimagine the relationship and act on that.

918
00:38:36,040 --> 00:38:39,160
Speaker 19: The only thing that I would say that we're good

919
00:38:39,239 --> 00:38:41,800
Speaker 19: about is keeping it sexy and making.

920
00:38:41,640 --> 00:38:44,040
Speaker 20: Sure that that part of our relationship doesn't get to

921
00:38:44,120 --> 00:38:46,160
Speaker 20: monotonous and doesn't get stale.

922
00:38:46,560 --> 00:38:49,000
Speaker 19: So we have a lot of fun in that space.

923
00:38:49,880 --> 00:38:51,640
Speaker 7: But we don't have to think, like, God.

924
00:38:51,520 --> 00:38:53,279
Speaker 20: How am I going to stop being bored of you?

925
00:38:53,960 --> 00:38:55,160
Speaker 20: Or how am I going to get to a point

926
00:38:55,160 --> 00:38:57,440
Speaker 20: where you don't annoy me anymore? He legitimately does not

927
00:38:57,960 --> 00:39:01,279
Speaker 20: annoy me. I look forward to his phone calls every day,

928
00:39:01,719 --> 00:39:04,480
Speaker 20: and we probably speak on the phone about maybe eight

929
00:39:04,560 --> 00:39:07,399
Speaker 20: or nine ten times a day because he's away a lot,

930
00:39:07,520 --> 00:39:08,920
Speaker 20: you know. So he calls me on his way through

931
00:39:08,920 --> 00:39:10,279
Speaker 20: the breakfast club he calls me in his way home

932
00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:11,160
Speaker 20: from the breakfast clubs.

933
00:39:11,320 --> 00:39:11,719
Speaker 19: He calls me.

934
00:39:11,760 --> 00:39:15,319
Speaker 20: If something happens, he calls me incessantly. It's and I'm

935
00:39:15,400 --> 00:39:17,480
Speaker 20: never like you again, I'm like him again.

936
00:39:17,880 --> 00:39:18,080
Speaker 16: You know.

937
00:39:18,239 --> 00:39:21,759
Speaker 20: It's just that feeling that I've always had that no

938
00:39:21,880 --> 00:39:24,239
Speaker 20: matter what ups or downs we were going through, that

939
00:39:24,480 --> 00:39:25,160
Speaker 20: never left me.

940
00:39:25,560 --> 00:39:27,960
Speaker 13: Now, he told us this story about the cowboy outfit.

941
00:39:28,360 --> 00:39:29,320
Speaker 19: He told you about that.

942
00:39:29,680 --> 00:39:33,320
Speaker 12: Wait wait wait, the cowboy outfit in college with the

943
00:39:33,400 --> 00:39:36,439
Speaker 12: asses chats that No, they.

944
00:39:36,360 --> 00:39:38,120
Speaker 13: Were, Yeah, you tell us about it.

945
00:39:38,200 --> 00:39:39,920
Speaker 19: Oh wait, rare Sean, did you actually tell him about that,

946
00:39:40,840 --> 00:39:41,840
Speaker 19: like on error in private?

947
00:39:43,160 --> 00:39:44,800
Speaker 9: He did, because it was in private.

948
00:39:44,840 --> 00:39:45,960
Speaker 19: This is a whole double cross.

949
00:39:47,360 --> 00:39:52,080
Speaker 13: Jessip as a cowboy and his he had, remember, okay, and.

950
00:39:52,120 --> 00:39:54,120
Speaker 2: I remember that after he told his story, he goes.

951
00:39:56,280 --> 00:40:00,279
Speaker 20: Like what he did when we were in college. Yeah,

952
00:40:00,480 --> 00:40:02,400
Speaker 20: we went through a stage where we were doing like

953
00:40:02,440 --> 00:40:06,360
Speaker 20: a lot of role play. Yeah, and one night I

954
00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:07,640
Speaker 20: dared him to be a cowboy.

955
00:40:07,840 --> 00:40:09,000
Speaker 9: So we went and got the cowboy.

956
00:40:10,360 --> 00:40:12,759
Speaker 19: He had like the big brown hat, and then he

957
00:40:12,840 --> 00:40:13,239
Speaker 19: had like the.

958
00:40:13,280 --> 00:40:16,560
Speaker 20: Little holsters and everything and big do you remember I

959
00:40:16,600 --> 00:40:17,280
Speaker 20: took pictures?

960
00:40:17,920 --> 00:40:19,200
Speaker 13: Where are those are they? In the book?

961
00:40:20,160 --> 00:40:24,200
Speaker 19: About maybe three years after he made me physically burn

962
00:40:24,280 --> 00:40:24,839
Speaker 19: them on the grill.

963
00:40:25,080 --> 00:40:25,319
Speaker 2: Wow.

964
00:40:26,360 --> 00:40:27,960
Speaker 19: He put them on the grill and told me how

965
00:40:28,000 --> 00:40:29,200
Speaker 19: to light it? Yeah, they don't exist.

966
00:40:29,320 --> 00:40:30,320
Speaker 13: Don't you wish you still had that?

967
00:40:31,000 --> 00:40:32,879
Speaker 2: Would y'all talk about lay in the book? You said

968
00:40:32,880 --> 00:40:34,800
Speaker 2: he likes to put on the rock Nation paper plane

969
00:40:34,840 --> 00:40:36,279
Speaker 2: hat and he goes, what's my name?

970
00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:37,160
Speaker 3: And I want you to say jig.

971
00:40:37,440 --> 00:40:38,799
Speaker 19: I didn't contribute to that chapter.

972
00:40:39,080 --> 00:40:40,520
Speaker 3: Okay, that wasn't my work.

973
00:40:41,000 --> 00:40:41,399
Speaker 2: No, I didn't.

974
00:40:42,280 --> 00:40:45,600
Speaker 13: Wait, they really so he wasn't lying they were assless chaps.

975
00:40:45,680 --> 00:40:46,680
Speaker 19: Yeah, yeah, he had a whole.

976
00:40:46,760 --> 00:40:47,359
Speaker 7: It was a whole thing.

977
00:40:47,480 --> 00:40:49,279
Speaker 13: I just pulled the U yu gia. He did not

978
00:40:49,400 --> 00:40:49,840
Speaker 13: tell us that.

979
00:40:50,080 --> 00:40:53,640
Speaker 16: Damn to get my book and you will learn a

980
00:40:53,840 --> 00:40:58,920
Speaker 16: slew of tactics what you want out of life.

981
00:41:00,200 --> 00:41:01,760
Speaker 3: It was a holster, by the way, there were holsters.

982
00:41:02,040 --> 00:41:04,200
Speaker 13: It was a whole. It was some other dress up things,

983
00:41:04,239 --> 00:41:04,879
Speaker 13: you go, right.

984
00:41:06,200 --> 00:41:09,120
Speaker 20: It was more so me dressing up and he was

985
00:41:09,160 --> 00:41:10,840
Speaker 20: just like the recipient of that. That That was the

986
00:41:10,920 --> 00:41:13,120
Speaker 20: one little and that's why it was a dare because

987
00:41:13,160 --> 00:41:14,319
Speaker 20: it was kind of supposed to be a joke.

988
00:41:14,520 --> 00:41:16,360
Speaker 19: But he never really dressed up.

989
00:41:17,600 --> 00:41:18,200
Speaker 2: He was a doctor.

990
00:41:18,440 --> 00:41:18,879
Speaker 13: That was one.

991
00:41:19,239 --> 00:41:20,360
Speaker 2: Did you really burn the pictures?

992
00:41:20,440 --> 00:41:22,000
Speaker 19: I really did in front of him?

993
00:41:22,239 --> 00:41:23,239
Speaker 13: Wow, you didn't have.

994
00:41:26,280 --> 00:41:26,720
Speaker 9: Negatives?

995
00:41:27,200 --> 00:41:30,239
Speaker 19: Was going to share that they never goes left in

996
00:41:30,320 --> 00:41:31,040
Speaker 19: our relationships.

997
00:41:31,080 --> 00:41:35,879
Speaker 20: I had that I will ruin the entire reputation, I'll

998
00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:37,279
Speaker 20: never be able to work again, and I.

999
00:41:37,320 --> 00:41:38,680
Speaker 13: Question them over to a new audience.

1000
00:41:41,160 --> 00:41:43,680
Speaker 4: We got more with my wife's Gia Casey. When we

1001
00:41:43,840 --> 00:41:46,040
Speaker 4: come back. We're talking out new book that's out right now,

1002
00:41:46,239 --> 00:41:47,200
Speaker 4: Real Life, Real Love.

1003
00:41:47,239 --> 00:41:48,000
Speaker 3: So don't go anywhere.

1004
00:41:48,000 --> 00:41:50,839
Speaker 4: It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning, Everybody's.

1005
00:41:50,320 --> 00:41:55,080
Speaker 1: DJ Envy, Angelaee, Charlamagne the guy. We are the Breakfast Club.

1006
00:41:55,360 --> 00:41:57,319
Speaker 1: We got a special guest still in the building, my wife,

1007
00:41:57,480 --> 00:42:00,600
Speaker 1: Gia Casey. We're talking about our new book, Real Life,

1008
00:42:00,840 --> 00:42:03,440
Speaker 1: Real Love, Life lessons on Joy, Pain and the Magic

1009
00:42:03,520 --> 00:42:05,960
Speaker 1: that holds us together. You could pick it up today,

1010
00:42:06,080 --> 00:42:07,800
Speaker 1: or you can get it on Audible or Kindle or

1011
00:42:07,840 --> 00:42:08,960
Speaker 1: wherever you get your books.

1012
00:42:09,400 --> 00:42:11,239
Speaker 13: Ye, how is it a both of you writing his

1013
00:42:11,320 --> 00:42:11,840
Speaker 13: book together?

1014
00:42:12,239 --> 00:42:13,640
Speaker 19: Some of it was fun, It was nice to be

1015
00:42:13,760 --> 00:42:17,240
Speaker 19: creative and get your thoughts down on paper. It was work,

1016
00:42:18,360 --> 00:42:21,680
Speaker 19: but a lot of it was difficult. I'm a very

1017
00:42:21,719 --> 00:42:22,320
Speaker 19: open person.

1018
00:42:23,040 --> 00:42:26,400
Speaker 20: Rashean, I think had a difficult time because he had

1019
00:42:26,440 --> 00:42:31,279
Speaker 20: to relive a lot of the negative things that transpired.

1020
00:42:30,760 --> 00:42:31,560
Speaker 2: In our relationship.

1021
00:42:32,600 --> 00:42:36,760
Speaker 20: And he can tend to be surface in some respects

1022
00:42:37,000 --> 00:42:38,960
Speaker 20: where you ask him a question, he gives you an answer.

1023
00:42:39,360 --> 00:42:41,600
Speaker 20: I'm a lot more of an in depth person, you know.

1024
00:42:41,640 --> 00:42:44,840
Speaker 20: I think critically about things. And when we would go

1025
00:42:44,920 --> 00:42:47,959
Speaker 20: over these chapters that he's assigned to write, I would

1026
00:42:48,000 --> 00:42:51,120
Speaker 20: ask him questions like Okay, you can't just answer it

1027
00:42:51,239 --> 00:42:53,240
Speaker 20: with a yes or a no or a simple blanket,

1028
00:42:53,360 --> 00:42:56,640
Speaker 20: like one question would mean ten more questions to really

1029
00:42:56,680 --> 00:42:58,640
Speaker 20: get to the meet. And you know, I had to

1030
00:42:58,719 --> 00:43:01,320
Speaker 20: keep reiterating, we're writing the books so that people have

1031
00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:05,600
Speaker 20: something tangible, a reference point for them to make changes

1032
00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:08,520
Speaker 20: in their lives if necessary, or to recognize that the

1033
00:43:08,560 --> 00:43:11,040
Speaker 20: person that you're with needs to make changes in their lives.

1034
00:43:11,520 --> 00:43:13,600
Speaker 3: And it was a journey.

1035
00:43:14,080 --> 00:43:15,960
Speaker 19: It was a journey, but I think it was difficult.

1036
00:43:16,280 --> 00:43:17,920
Speaker 1: Nothing, it was difficult. I had to relive a lot

1037
00:43:17,960 --> 00:43:20,360
Speaker 1: of the f boy ish I put you through. And

1038
00:43:20,480 --> 00:43:22,840
Speaker 1: you don't you forget about a lot of it because

1039
00:43:22,840 --> 00:43:24,600
Speaker 1: you don't have to relive it. But then when you start, no,

1040
00:43:24,719 --> 00:43:27,120
Speaker 1: you forget about it, forget I forget nothing.

1041
00:43:27,239 --> 00:43:30,600
Speaker 2: But I think not the point though, right, because it's

1042
00:43:30,640 --> 00:43:33,399
Speaker 2: like we don't realize how much we do hurt our

1043
00:43:34,040 --> 00:43:36,840
Speaker 2: women when we do that true though, yeah, I think so.

1044
00:43:37,239 --> 00:43:38,640
Speaker 2: I don't think we realize how deep.

1045
00:43:38,560 --> 00:43:40,480
Speaker 19: That that sounds like an okie do to me.

1046
00:43:40,840 --> 00:43:42,680
Speaker 2: No, I don't think we Until you actually sit down

1047
00:43:42,760 --> 00:43:46,399
Speaker 2: and have those you know, uncomfortable conversations, you don't realize how.

1048
00:43:46,440 --> 00:43:50,000
Speaker 20: Much you if your wife cheated on you and told

1049
00:43:50,080 --> 00:43:54,000
Speaker 20: you that she would have no idea how much that

1050
00:43:54,160 --> 00:43:55,239
Speaker 20: instood to hurt you.

1051
00:43:55,680 --> 00:43:58,359
Speaker 2: Would that makes sense too, Probably not, But I mean,

1052
00:43:58,719 --> 00:44:00,600
Speaker 2: men don't make sense. You believe that.

1053
00:44:02,080 --> 00:44:04,600
Speaker 19: You believe that you're born inherently with like a deficit.

1054
00:44:04,480 --> 00:44:06,800
Speaker 2: Not a deficit. But I just don't. I don't think we.

1055
00:44:06,880 --> 00:44:08,320
Speaker 2: I don't think we're thinking about it, you know what

1056
00:44:08,400 --> 00:44:10,279
Speaker 2: I mean? Like we that's the sad part.

1057
00:44:10,440 --> 00:44:12,720
Speaker 13: It's selfish and that's what keeps That's what keeps.

1058
00:44:12,520 --> 00:44:14,320
Speaker 2: You from doing it in the future, you know what

1059
00:44:14,360 --> 00:44:16,160
Speaker 2: I mean, because you do not want to hurt the

1060
00:44:16,239 --> 00:44:18,080
Speaker 2: woman that you love. And it's so crazy because I

1061
00:44:18,120 --> 00:44:19,839
Speaker 2: saw that with my pops, Like I saw the pain

1062
00:44:20,360 --> 00:44:23,400
Speaker 2: that that caused my mom with his infidelity, So in

1063
00:44:23,480 --> 00:44:24,960
Speaker 2: my mind I was like, damn, I'm about to make

1064
00:44:25,000 --> 00:44:27,279
Speaker 2: the same mistake. So I think it is difficult when

1065
00:44:27,280 --> 00:44:28,640
Speaker 2: you got to relive it because you don't want to

1066
00:44:28,640 --> 00:44:30,600
Speaker 2: talk about it, because you don't want to trigger you.

1067
00:44:31,480 --> 00:44:33,440
Speaker 19: You know some people I don't get triggered, though.

1068
00:44:35,840 --> 00:44:36,799
Speaker 2: That scared me just now.

1069
00:44:44,239 --> 00:44:45,960
Speaker 20: No, Once I got to a point, and it was

1070
00:44:46,000 --> 00:44:49,719
Speaker 20: a process, Once I got to a point where I

1071
00:44:49,880 --> 00:44:54,600
Speaker 20: accepted that it was my job to move on, because

1072
00:44:54,719 --> 00:44:58,920
Speaker 20: I decided to forgive him, and because because he had

1073
00:44:59,040 --> 00:45:03,840
Speaker 20: done all of the work and then some to regain

1074
00:45:04,080 --> 00:45:08,400
Speaker 20: my trust to earn grace from me, I got to

1075
00:45:08,440 --> 00:45:10,960
Speaker 20: a point where I no longer wanted to punish and

1076
00:45:11,320 --> 00:45:14,600
Speaker 20: I didn't have that inherent need to see him suffer.

1077
00:45:15,320 --> 00:45:17,399
Speaker 20: Because when you hurt, and you say it all the time,

1078
00:45:17,480 --> 00:45:20,840
Speaker 20: hurt people hurt people. When you're hurt, you want not

1079
00:45:21,040 --> 00:45:23,839
Speaker 20: just people, you want the person that hurt you to hurt.

1080
00:45:24,480 --> 00:45:27,480
Speaker 20: And anytime that I felt any type of way, I

1081
00:45:27,640 --> 00:45:30,080
Speaker 20: made sure that he felt some type of way. So

1082
00:45:30,320 --> 00:45:32,680
Speaker 20: once I learned how to forgive, and that was a process,

1083
00:45:32,760 --> 00:45:34,920
Speaker 20: because I wasn't necessarily a forgiving person.

1084
00:45:35,160 --> 00:45:37,360
Speaker 19: Before everything was very black and white to me, not

1085
00:45:37,560 --> 00:45:38,200
Speaker 19: very much gray.

1086
00:45:38,880 --> 00:45:42,880
Speaker 20: But once I learned and I understood that that's what

1087
00:45:43,080 --> 00:45:46,360
Speaker 20: was expected from me of God, I had to commit

1088
00:45:46,440 --> 00:45:49,560
Speaker 20: to that and do my best to live up to

1089
00:45:49,719 --> 00:45:53,120
Speaker 20: what forgiveness meant. And that's what set me free, because

1090
00:45:53,120 --> 00:45:55,920
Speaker 20: when you forgive, you don't forgive to ease the burden

1091
00:45:55,960 --> 00:45:58,320
Speaker 20: from the other person. You forgive to ease the burden

1092
00:45:58,560 --> 00:45:58,800
Speaker 20: from you.

1093
00:45:59,040 --> 00:46:02,120
Speaker 17: Measure the work you guys did together, like you had

1094
00:46:02,160 --> 00:46:05,560
Speaker 17: to work on forgiveness and when you said, Okay, I'm gonna,

1095
00:46:06,120 --> 00:46:08,880
Speaker 17: you know, have to move on from this. But what

1096
00:46:09,040 --> 00:46:11,360
Speaker 17: was the work that he did that let you know, Okay,

1097
00:46:11,960 --> 00:46:16,399
Speaker 17: he's serious, and you know I can finally just say

1098
00:46:16,520 --> 00:46:17,720
Speaker 17: I'm not getting triggered anymore.

1099
00:46:17,760 --> 00:46:18,480
Speaker 13: I'm going to let this go.

1100
00:46:19,320 --> 00:46:22,800
Speaker 20: One of the first things was I realized that he

1101
00:46:23,120 --> 00:46:26,400
Speaker 20: understood the impact of what had happened.

1102
00:46:26,840 --> 00:46:28,880
Speaker 19: What he did, He understood it.

1103
00:46:29,200 --> 00:46:32,759
Speaker 20: He didn't just accept it and was accountable for it,

1104
00:46:32,880 --> 00:46:36,960
Speaker 20: but he actually understood. He would do things that a

1105
00:46:37,040 --> 00:46:39,399
Speaker 20: lot of men wouldn't do. He would sit there through

1106
00:46:39,440 --> 00:46:43,040
Speaker 20: those eight hour conversations locked in a room. He answered

1107
00:46:43,239 --> 00:46:46,239
Speaker 20: every question that I had, and I had a lot

1108
00:46:46,320 --> 00:46:50,840
Speaker 20: of questions, and he answered them all truthfully. And you know,

1109
00:46:51,000 --> 00:46:53,759
Speaker 20: when you ask somebody a question and you can tell

1110
00:46:53,880 --> 00:46:56,840
Speaker 20: by their answer, because I mean, the answers weren't pretty,

1111
00:46:57,239 --> 00:46:58,839
Speaker 20: they weren't things that I would have wanted to hear.

1112
00:47:00,120 --> 00:47:02,880
Speaker 20: He went through all of the sufferation, as I call it,

1113
00:47:03,440 --> 00:47:06,800
Speaker 20: and he did it until because a lot of guys,

1114
00:47:07,239 --> 00:47:09,880
Speaker 20: when they mess up, and I mean a lot of them,

1115
00:47:09,960 --> 00:47:12,080
Speaker 20: have told me. I have friends and that have gone

1116
00:47:12,080 --> 00:47:12,279
Speaker 20: through it.

1117
00:47:12,360 --> 00:47:14,360
Speaker 7: It's like, listen, I did it.

1118
00:47:14,640 --> 00:47:16,680
Speaker 19: I apologize. I said I was never going to do

1119
00:47:16,760 --> 00:47:17,120
Speaker 19: it again.

1120
00:47:17,600 --> 00:47:20,839
Speaker 20: I mean that ish right, But it's like every day

1121
00:47:20,960 --> 00:47:23,080
Speaker 20: I'm being punished, I'm being punished, I'm being reminded.

1122
00:47:23,080 --> 00:47:25,080
Speaker 19: It's like, let it go, I apologize, Like, what more

1123
00:47:25,080 --> 00:47:25,640
Speaker 19: do you want from me?

1124
00:47:25,719 --> 00:47:26,000
Speaker 2: Blood?

1125
00:47:26,400 --> 00:47:30,160
Speaker 20: He never took that approach with me. It was the

1126
00:47:30,680 --> 00:47:34,920
Speaker 20: until until you are good, until you are healed. If

1127
00:47:34,960 --> 00:47:36,640
Speaker 20: I have to be a punching bag, I will be that.

1128
00:47:36,760 --> 00:47:38,560
Speaker 20: If I have to be a doormat, I will be that.

1129
00:47:38,880 --> 00:47:41,800
Speaker 20: I will do anything that it makes to survive this

1130
00:47:42,040 --> 00:47:45,719
Speaker 20: because I cannot be without you. And he proved it

1131
00:47:46,120 --> 00:47:48,800
Speaker 20: every single day. It was as though and he was

1132
00:47:48,920 --> 00:47:51,000
Speaker 20: like this before, but it was even more so during

1133
00:47:51,040 --> 00:47:53,640
Speaker 20: this time. It was as though he communicated to me

1134
00:47:53,800 --> 00:47:56,600
Speaker 20: that the only thing that he wanted was to make

1135
00:47:56,680 --> 00:47:59,279
Speaker 20: me happy. And that's pretty much how he lives his life.

1136
00:47:59,440 --> 00:48:02,279
Speaker 19: He lives his life every day waking up thinking like.

1137
00:48:02,360 --> 00:48:04,560
Speaker 20: Damn, how can I make his life easier today? How

1138
00:48:04,640 --> 00:48:06,919
Speaker 20: can I make Ge a happier today? But to answer

1139
00:48:06,960 --> 00:48:09,719
Speaker 20: your question, it was the until. It was the indefinite,

1140
00:48:09,920 --> 00:48:12,160
Speaker 20: and it was the willingness to do any and everything

1141
00:48:12,560 --> 00:48:14,239
Speaker 20: to earn what he lost back.

1142
00:48:14,480 --> 00:48:16,640
Speaker 17: And was there ever a question in your mind? I

1143
00:48:16,760 --> 00:48:19,160
Speaker 17: know there was a point when you thought, no matter

1144
00:48:19,239 --> 00:48:21,799
Speaker 17: what I do, she's never gonna take me back. There

1145
00:48:21,840 --> 00:48:22,680
Speaker 17: ever a time when you were.

1146
00:48:22,640 --> 00:48:23,920
Speaker 2: Like, cry, I'm gonna come over there and hug you

1147
00:48:23,960 --> 00:48:26,480
Speaker 2: and let you know you better hold them. I'm hung

1148
00:48:27,200 --> 00:48:29,640
Speaker 2: from the back. If you cried in front of your wife.

1149
00:48:33,360 --> 00:48:34,200
Speaker 19: Catch that little feel.

1150
00:48:36,440 --> 00:48:38,320
Speaker 1: At that point, I, you know, I didn't know what

1151
00:48:38,440 --> 00:48:40,160
Speaker 1: was gonna happen, but I was like, I have to

1152
00:48:40,239 --> 00:48:43,120
Speaker 1: be honest to at least get my friend back, you know.

1153
00:48:44,320 --> 00:48:46,040
Speaker 1: And at that point, I I, you know, I didn't

1154
00:48:46,040 --> 00:48:47,239
Speaker 1: know what Ge was gonna do. I thought it was

1155
00:48:47,239 --> 00:48:49,080
Speaker 1: a rap. But I was like, I still wanted my friend.

1156
00:48:49,080 --> 00:48:51,040
Speaker 1: I still wanted somebody I can talk to, you know,

1157
00:48:51,360 --> 00:48:53,359
Speaker 1: I still wanted a relationship with her that we can

1158
00:48:53,440 --> 00:48:55,760
Speaker 1: bounce like this. She's all I knew since I was sixteen.

1159
00:48:55,920 --> 00:48:58,759
Speaker 1: So I still wanted my friend back answers Jamaica. That

1160
00:48:58,760 --> 00:48:59,680
Speaker 1: could have been forever beef.

1161
00:49:00,040 --> 00:49:02,759
Speaker 13: Yeah, but you know, it's interesting that you didn't kick

1162
00:49:02,800 --> 00:49:03,520
Speaker 13: him out of the house.

1163
00:49:03,640 --> 00:49:05,800
Speaker 17: You were still polite to him, you still wanted to

1164
00:49:05,960 --> 00:49:08,719
Speaker 17: maintain a co parenting friendship.

1165
00:49:09,200 --> 00:49:09,759
Speaker 9: I feel like that.

1166
00:49:09,880 --> 00:49:13,080
Speaker 17: Here's more when you're like, we're not having sex and

1167
00:49:13,719 --> 00:49:17,040
Speaker 17: might end up with somebody else one day, but you

1168
00:49:17,120 --> 00:49:19,560
Speaker 17: know we're cool, that hurts more, I think sometimes and

1169
00:49:19,719 --> 00:49:22,960
Speaker 17: just completely like being nasty to somebody and cutting them off.

1170
00:49:23,640 --> 00:49:27,600
Speaker 20: Yes, Well, when I found out divorce was imminent, it

1171
00:49:27,719 --> 00:49:31,399
Speaker 20: was never a question. I was raised by a very

1172
00:49:31,560 --> 00:49:36,040
Speaker 20: strong mother who taught me that if a man ever

1173
00:49:36,160 --> 00:49:40,800
Speaker 20: disrespects you to that degree, then you walk. So it

1174
00:49:40,840 --> 00:49:43,120
Speaker 20: didn't matter how much I loved or Sean and how

1175
00:49:43,200 --> 00:49:44,840
Speaker 20: much I would have missed him, and it.

1176
00:49:44,880 --> 00:49:46,640
Speaker 19: Didn't matter if I cried every night.

1177
00:49:46,840 --> 00:49:50,600
Speaker 20: It did not matter one iota how I felt. The

1178
00:49:50,719 --> 00:49:53,400
Speaker 20: only thing that was important to me was that I

1179
00:49:53,480 --> 00:49:56,440
Speaker 20: operated with my head and not my heart, and that

1180
00:49:56,560 --> 00:49:58,919
Speaker 20: I did what I always said that I was going

1181
00:49:59,000 --> 00:50:02,520
Speaker 20: to do. I found out when it was confirmed for me,

1182
00:50:02,640 --> 00:50:05,520
Speaker 20: And you can read the book and see the entire

1183
00:50:05,800 --> 00:50:07,880
Speaker 20: no we want you to go get there, the entire story.

1184
00:50:08,400 --> 00:50:10,920
Speaker 20: But when he confirmed it, we were in a parking lot,

1185
00:50:11,520 --> 00:50:14,279
Speaker 20: and when I drove away from that parking lot, it

1186
00:50:14,360 --> 00:50:16,840
Speaker 20: was a few days before Christmas, and his mother was

1187
00:50:16,920 --> 00:50:18,759
Speaker 20: at the house helping me decorate because we were hosting

1188
00:50:18,840 --> 00:50:21,160
Speaker 20: that year. But I walked into the house and I

1189
00:50:21,239 --> 00:50:25,160
Speaker 20: told her, I said, Christmas is canceled. And she said, oh,

1190
00:50:26,000 --> 00:50:29,040
Speaker 20: and Christmas is canceled. And I said, well, I just

1191
00:50:29,120 --> 00:50:32,200
Speaker 20: found out that Rashaan cheated on me and we're getting

1192
00:50:32,200 --> 00:50:34,960
Speaker 20: a divorce, so there's not gonna be any Christmas this year,

1193
00:50:35,520 --> 00:50:36,560
Speaker 20: at least I'm not hosting.

1194
00:50:36,680 --> 00:50:38,640
Speaker 2: You know, it's wild that people actually canceled Christmas. I

1195
00:50:38,640 --> 00:50:40,120
Speaker 2: thought that was just a figure of speach. No, no,

1196
00:50:41,120 --> 00:50:45,960
Speaker 2: this happened. We canceled Christmas, canceled Christmas. Yeah, Christmas.

1197
00:50:46,080 --> 00:50:48,040
Speaker 19: Well, in the sense of us hosting.

1198
00:50:48,200 --> 00:50:50,239
Speaker 20: I wasn't going to cancel it for our children, but

1199
00:50:50,760 --> 00:50:52,640
Speaker 20: you know, we didn't have to decorate for thirty people

1200
00:50:52,719 --> 00:50:53,200
Speaker 20: to come over.

1201
00:50:53,760 --> 00:50:57,800
Speaker 19: And my lovely mother in law, Hi, Mama.

1202
00:50:58,520 --> 00:51:02,160
Speaker 20: She defended her beautiful son with everything that she could

1203
00:51:02,239 --> 00:51:04,360
Speaker 20: because lying pretty.

1204
00:51:04,160 --> 00:51:07,719
Speaker 19: Much, And when she said something to that effect, I.

1205
00:51:07,800 --> 00:51:09,880
Speaker 20: Said, but for the fact that he just told me

1206
00:51:10,120 --> 00:51:14,320
Speaker 20: that it was true, and he came home maybe twenty

1207
00:51:14,800 --> 00:51:19,000
Speaker 20: or thirty minutes later, and it was a whole thing right.

1208
00:51:19,640 --> 00:51:23,320
Speaker 20: But I was adamant that we were getting a divorce.

1209
00:51:23,440 --> 00:51:26,200
Speaker 20: I contacted an attorney, paid an attorney.

1210
00:51:26,800 --> 00:51:28,480
Speaker 19: It was decided.

1211
00:51:30,320 --> 00:51:34,040
Speaker 20: But thankfully, there were a whole host of things that

1212
00:51:34,200 --> 00:51:40,480
Speaker 20: happened that that convinced me that God had other plans.

1213
00:51:40,960 --> 00:51:43,080
Speaker 1: I will on movie got More with Gia Casey. We're

1214
00:51:43,120 --> 00:51:45,279
Speaker 1: talking out a new book, Real Life, Real Love. Let's

1215
00:51:45,280 --> 00:51:48,000
Speaker 1: get into Mary J. Blijoint his Real Love. It's the

1216
00:51:48,000 --> 00:51:53,000
Speaker 1: Breakfast Club, Good Morning, like Everybody's DJ Indy, Angelie Charlamade,

1217
00:51:53,040 --> 00:51:55,440
Speaker 1: the guys we are the Breakfast Club. We got a

1218
00:51:55,480 --> 00:51:58,080
Speaker 1: special guest still in the building, my wife, Gia Casey.

1219
00:51:58,160 --> 00:52:01,120
Speaker 1: We're talking about our new book, Real Life, Real Love,

1220
00:52:01,200 --> 00:52:03,720
Speaker 1: Life lessons on Joy, Pain and the Magic that holds

1221
00:52:03,800 --> 00:52:05,960
Speaker 1: us together. You could pick it up today or you

1222
00:52:06,000 --> 00:52:07,839
Speaker 1: can get it on Audible and can Dole or wherever

1223
00:52:07,880 --> 00:52:08,720
Speaker 1: you get your books.

1224
00:52:09,160 --> 00:52:11,160
Speaker 17: Yee, And they let me ask you because you know,

1225
00:52:11,360 --> 00:52:13,399
Speaker 17: for women, we always are like and like you said,

1226
00:52:13,440 --> 00:52:15,680
Speaker 17: Tyresee was having a conversation how a man can't cheat

1227
00:52:15,760 --> 00:52:20,040
Speaker 17: on you but still love you. Yeah, but why like,

1228
00:52:20,239 --> 00:52:22,480
Speaker 17: you know, that's something that for women we always want

1229
00:52:22,520 --> 00:52:25,600
Speaker 17: to know. And I'm sure you had so many conversations.

1230
00:52:25,880 --> 00:52:27,040
Speaker 19: Well, I still don't like his answer.

1231
00:52:27,040 --> 00:52:29,960
Speaker 1: I don't necessarily agree with what Tyre said. I really

1232
00:52:30,000 --> 00:52:32,919
Speaker 1: feel that until you know the definition of what love

1233
00:52:33,080 --> 00:52:35,200
Speaker 1: really means. I think a lot of times people just

1234
00:52:35,239 --> 00:52:37,239
Speaker 1: say I love you, and it's oh, I love you.

1235
00:52:37,400 --> 00:52:40,160
Speaker 1: But until you understand the definition of what love means,

1236
00:52:40,200 --> 00:52:42,600
Speaker 1: then you realize I don't if I love somebody like

1237
00:52:42,680 --> 00:52:43,160
Speaker 1: I say.

1238
00:52:43,320 --> 00:52:44,080
Speaker 2: You don't want to hurt them.

1239
00:52:44,160 --> 00:52:45,440
Speaker 1: You don't want to cheat on them, you don't want

1240
00:52:45,440 --> 00:52:47,120
Speaker 1: to disrespect them, you don't want to have them looking

1241
00:52:47,200 --> 00:52:49,960
Speaker 1: crazy because you love that person. And I don't think

1242
00:52:50,040 --> 00:52:52,280
Speaker 1: I knew the definition of love. But when I figured

1243
00:52:52,280 --> 00:52:54,799
Speaker 1: that definition out of what love is and what Gia

1244
00:52:54,920 --> 00:52:56,920
Speaker 1: meant to me, you know, you realize I don't want

1245
00:52:56,920 --> 00:52:58,160
Speaker 1: to hurt her. I don't want to see her cry,

1246
00:52:58,160 --> 00:52:59,320
Speaker 1: I don't want to see her feel a way. I

1247
00:52:59,320 --> 00:53:01,160
Speaker 1: don't want to disrespec I don't want to be controlling.

1248
00:53:01,400 --> 00:53:03,080
Speaker 1: I don't want to be any of those things. And

1249
00:53:03,120 --> 00:53:06,000
Speaker 1: when you realize what that definition is, your outlook of

1250
00:53:06,080 --> 00:53:06,680
Speaker 1: life changes.

1251
00:53:06,840 --> 00:53:08,799
Speaker 2: I agree with it, and I'll add on because I've

1252
00:53:08,840 --> 00:53:12,280
Speaker 2: explored this in therapy. When you say you can cheat

1253
00:53:12,920 --> 00:53:15,120
Speaker 2: and still love a person, you might, but you don't

1254
00:53:15,120 --> 00:53:17,479
Speaker 2: really love yourself. Yeah, I think a lot of times

1255
00:53:17,680 --> 00:53:19,120
Speaker 2: and not a lot of times. All the time men

1256
00:53:19,200 --> 00:53:19,839
Speaker 2: cheat for ego.

1257
00:53:20,280 --> 00:53:21,040
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, like that's it.

1258
00:53:21,080 --> 00:53:23,719
Speaker 2: It's wounded ego. It's something that we're lacking. It has

1259
00:53:23,760 --> 00:53:25,239
Speaker 2: nothing to do with all wives, nothing to do with

1260
00:53:25,280 --> 00:53:28,800
Speaker 2: our girlfriends. It's something that we feel like we're lacking

1261
00:53:28,880 --> 00:53:31,120
Speaker 2: for whatever reason, and that's what we go and do.

1262
00:53:31,200 --> 00:53:33,759
Speaker 2: It's literally just to feed all ego. Nothing, no, nothing,

1263
00:53:33,840 --> 00:53:34,120
Speaker 2: Like do you.

1264
00:53:34,080 --> 00:53:35,880
Speaker 17: Think women cheat for the same reason as men or

1265
00:53:35,960 --> 00:53:38,799
Speaker 17: you think it's different, Like when women cheat, you think

1266
00:53:38,840 --> 00:53:40,040
Speaker 17: they cheat for different reasons.

1267
00:53:40,520 --> 00:53:42,359
Speaker 19: I think women also cheat for ego.

1268
00:53:43,040 --> 00:53:48,280
Speaker 20: Who doesn't like to have the attention of the opposite sets,

1269
00:53:48,960 --> 00:53:51,680
Speaker 20: you know, especially when you are at a deficit and

1270
00:53:51,760 --> 00:53:54,560
Speaker 20: you do have holes and you need those holes filled

1271
00:53:54,960 --> 00:53:58,120
Speaker 20: and most people have slight holes. You know, not that

1272
00:53:58,200 --> 00:54:01,200
Speaker 20: you're out there thirsty for the attention of the opposite sex,

1273
00:54:01,520 --> 00:54:03,560
Speaker 20: but even if it's of the same sex, when someone

1274
00:54:03,680 --> 00:54:07,000
Speaker 20: pays you a compliment, like it's nice to be wanted,

1275
00:54:07,360 --> 00:54:08,799
Speaker 20: is essentially what I'm saying.

1276
00:54:08,960 --> 00:54:12,400
Speaker 19: So for women. Yeah, I mean I think that if

1277
00:54:12,440 --> 00:54:15,560
Speaker 19: you're with someone and you cheat, I think a big

1278
00:54:15,640 --> 00:54:16,560
Speaker 19: part of it is ego.

1279
00:54:16,760 --> 00:54:18,520
Speaker 20: But then you know, you'll have people that say that

1280
00:54:18,600 --> 00:54:21,239
Speaker 20: they cheat because the person at home isn't doing what

1281
00:54:21,320 --> 00:54:22,800
Speaker 20: they're supposed to do. You know.

1282
00:54:23,080 --> 00:54:24,480
Speaker 19: And we have a son, Logan.

1283
00:54:24,520 --> 00:54:28,279
Speaker 20: He's eighteen, so he's starting to date seriously and whatnot now.

1284
00:54:28,360 --> 00:54:30,000
Speaker 20: And I had a conversation with him the other day

1285
00:54:30,280 --> 00:54:33,520
Speaker 20: and I said, listen, if you commit to a girl

1286
00:54:33,760 --> 00:54:33,960
Speaker 20: and you.

1287
00:54:34,040 --> 00:54:36,799
Speaker 19: Make her your girlfriend, one thing I do not want

1288
00:54:36,800 --> 00:54:38,239
Speaker 19: you to do is cheat.

1289
00:54:38,719 --> 00:54:40,480
Speaker 20: Do not come to me and tell me that you

1290
00:54:40,560 --> 00:54:42,879
Speaker 20: guys broke up because you cheated on her, because I've

1291
00:54:42,960 --> 00:54:45,400
Speaker 20: raised you better than that. If you decide that you

1292
00:54:45,560 --> 00:54:49,400
Speaker 20: want something else or she's not satisfying whatever needs you have,

1293
00:54:50,120 --> 00:54:50,680
Speaker 20: break up with.

1294
00:54:50,760 --> 00:54:52,200
Speaker 13: Her and move on to the next.

1295
00:54:52,400 --> 00:54:54,359
Speaker 19: And if within a week you feel the same way

1296
00:54:54,360 --> 00:54:56,520
Speaker 19: about that girl, break up with her and move on

1297
00:54:56,640 --> 00:54:57,160
Speaker 19: to the next.

1298
00:54:57,480 --> 00:55:00,520
Speaker 20: Do not cheat, because you're sacrificing your own INDI integrity

1299
00:55:00,800 --> 00:55:03,640
Speaker 20: when you do that, and that's pretty much a sign

1300
00:55:03,719 --> 00:55:07,000
Speaker 20: of really not loving yourself. When you love yourself, you

1301
00:55:07,120 --> 00:55:09,239
Speaker 20: want to be self actualized, you want to be your

1302
00:55:09,360 --> 00:55:12,000
Speaker 20: best self. You want to reach your highest potential, You

1303
00:55:12,080 --> 00:55:14,640
Speaker 20: want to be a kind, a good person, and you

1304
00:55:14,800 --> 00:55:16,880
Speaker 20: owe that to yourself. You don't necessarily owe it to

1305
00:55:16,960 --> 00:55:18,560
Speaker 20: the other person. You owe it to yourself to do

1306
00:55:18,640 --> 00:55:20,880
Speaker 20: those things. And that's what I'm trying to instill in

1307
00:55:21,000 --> 00:55:23,160
Speaker 20: him as my oldest male child.

1308
00:55:23,520 --> 00:55:25,680
Speaker 2: You know, one of the biggest things I think that

1309
00:55:25,760 --> 00:55:27,279
Speaker 2: came out and this was all the work that he

1310
00:55:27,400 --> 00:55:30,359
Speaker 2: did do on himself and he was suicidal at a point.

1311
00:55:30,400 --> 00:55:33,880
Speaker 2: That's we know that, right. Yes, I don't think that

1312
00:55:34,000 --> 00:55:35,640
Speaker 2: was all because of what was going on with you.

1313
00:55:35,719 --> 00:55:36,920
Speaker 2: I think it was, like I said, it was other

1314
00:55:37,000 --> 00:55:39,120
Speaker 2: things that he was dealing with inside of him that

1315
00:55:39,200 --> 00:55:40,640
Speaker 2: probably got him to that point.

1316
00:55:40,880 --> 00:55:44,080
Speaker 20: Yes, we would have to ask him, because we've never

1317
00:55:44,840 --> 00:55:48,880
Speaker 20: had a conversation of it being about anything besides the

1318
00:55:49,560 --> 00:55:51,640
Speaker 20: threat of losing our relationship.

1319
00:55:52,400 --> 00:55:53,040
Speaker 3: I would say this.

1320
00:55:53,200 --> 00:55:54,600
Speaker 1: I would say, you know, I used to look at

1321
00:55:54,600 --> 00:55:58,000
Speaker 1: people who committed suicide as soft and suck like that

1322
00:55:58,360 --> 00:56:00,719
Speaker 1: that's what society made you think. Until I got into

1323
00:56:00,760 --> 00:56:04,240
Speaker 1: that predicament where I felt like my life, well everybody's

1324
00:56:04,280 --> 00:56:06,319
Speaker 1: life around me, would be better if I wasn't here,

1325
00:56:07,160 --> 00:56:10,239
Speaker 1: and I couldn't shake it, and the majority of it

1326
00:56:10,400 --> 00:56:13,719
Speaker 1: was losing my wife, losing my family, losing the thing

1327
00:56:13,800 --> 00:56:16,359
Speaker 1: that I knew and that I loved, and I really

1328
00:56:16,360 --> 00:56:18,920
Speaker 1: feel like I didn't want to be there. And I

1329
00:56:19,000 --> 00:56:21,160
Speaker 1: guess it was everything else that we said, like the

1330
00:56:21,280 --> 00:56:23,920
Speaker 1: insecurities that made me do it, the insecurities around me,

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Speaker 1: and I just didn't know.

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Speaker 2: Who I was as a person. That's powerful.

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Speaker 1: But I will say during all of that, in all

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Speaker 1: those conversations and all those late night talks and with praying,

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Speaker 1: you feel like you realize who you are as a person.

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Speaker 1: And once you figure that out, you figure out who

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Speaker 1: you want to be, who you want to who you

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Speaker 1: want to live like, and you don't care about anything else.

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Speaker 1: You know, at one time I used to care what

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Speaker 1: people thought. Now I don't care. As long as my

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Speaker 1: wife and my family's happy. Everything else is just white

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Speaker 1: noise behind it.

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Speaker 17: To think about how much stronger you guys are as

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Speaker 17: individuals and your marriage is so much stronger after everything

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Speaker 17: you've been through.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, oh yeah, if he said something powerful to

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Speaker 2: because this business, this business will have you living a lot.

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Speaker 2: Because we're characters, right, So we create these characters that

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Speaker 2: kind of protect the rashan and protect the lenard and

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Speaker 2: we're we go home and we one way, but then

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Speaker 2: we're out in the street being another way. But you

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Speaker 2: can't do both. Eventually, that negative is going to catch up.

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Speaker 2: So that's that's why I think he was going through,

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Speaker 2: like not only just the threat of losing you, but

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Speaker 2: just like, who am I?

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Speaker 19: What's that hard for you? Having this dual personality?

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Speaker 1: Almost absolutely, because I mean, like, nothing's better now than

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Speaker 1: to not care what people think? You know, I would

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Speaker 1: have to freedom freedom, I would have to think about

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Speaker 1: what I was saying on the radio and how would

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Speaker 1: affect me, how people would look at me. I would

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Speaker 1: have to think about this or think about that instead

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Speaker 1: of just being free and say, hey, it is what

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Speaker 1: it is.

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Speaker 2: Take it how you like it. If you like me,

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Speaker 2: you like me.

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Speaker 3: If you love me, you love me.

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Speaker 1: If you hate me, you hate me. And once I

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Speaker 1: got to that place, life became a whole lot better.

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Speaker 17: See a lot of gems in this fuck you guys.

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Speaker 17: I was thoroughly entertaining. Like I said, I look stressed.

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Speaker 17: Whatever's all morning, before you guys conversation.

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Speaker 4: The book is out today.

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Speaker 2: Go get it, man, Make sure you pick it up.

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Speaker 2: Real life, real love, Get it today, Life lessons on joy,

1376
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Speaker 2: pain and the magic that hold us together.

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Speaker 1: That's right, Amazon, Bonds and Nobles, wherever you buy books,

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Speaker 1: your local bookstores, please pick it up today, and when

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Speaker 1: you do read it, you read it please. What we

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Speaker 1: want you to do is we want you to tell

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Speaker 1: us what you think about the book, whether it's a

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Speaker 1: thirty second video, tag it, and now we want to

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Speaker 1: repost it.

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Speaker 4: Whether you love it, whether you hate it.

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Speaker 1: We're going to repost all of them because we love

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Speaker 1: to get you guys's feedback.

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Speaker 2: And I think that y'all gonna help with a lot

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00:58:32,400 --> 00:58:34,160
Speaker 2: of couples. And it's clear that y'all too are meant

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Speaker 2: to be with each other, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 20: One of my favorite chapters is called The New Deal,

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Speaker 20: and it's pretty much about reparations that the offender has

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Speaker 20: to make after offending their partner. And it's those things

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Speaker 20: that will help to let to signal to your partner

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Speaker 20: that you just may be worthy of forgiveness and being

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Speaker 20: extended grace.

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Speaker 2: So one of those reparations, the first thing people will

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Speaker 2: say is that, oh, that's why he does the twelve

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Speaker 2: Day Christmas.

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Speaker 19: You know that's right. A lot of people do.

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Speaker 20: But you know, it's funny, and that's the funny thing.

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Speaker 20: We've always done twelve days of Christmas. We just never

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Speaker 20: made it public. And it's not the type of thing

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Speaker 20: that at first I ever wanted to make public because.

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Speaker 3: It is grand.

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Speaker 19: But I decided to start.

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Speaker 20: Posting it because it's not about the material items that

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Speaker 20: he gives me for Christmas.

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Speaker 19: It's about the intention behind it.

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Speaker 9: It's about the thought.

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Speaker 20: You know, he starts shopping almost a year in advance

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Speaker 20: for that, and every gift comes with something special, a

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Speaker 20: little note, a little treasure hunt to find the gift,

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Speaker 20: a prayer, a poem, something that is giving of his heart,

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Speaker 20: not giving up his pocket.

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Speaker 2: And that's why when you you know, you read the

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Speaker 2: book and you hear y'all talk, that's why you understand

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Speaker 2: why he got so upset at these and Maryland. Correct,

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Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying, because y'all relationship is so

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00:59:59,400 --> 00:59:59,840
Speaker 2: much deeper.

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Speaker 19: Of course, you know, because with their comment it almost

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Speaker 19: to me.

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Speaker 20: Suggests as though there's nothing else worthy about him that

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Speaker 20: would signal me to stay aside from what he has

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Speaker 20: to offer financially. And it's a joke, right, but we

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Speaker 20: all know that all jokes are rooted in some truth,

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Speaker 20: and that's what I think their truth was. Looking at

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Speaker 20: it from an outsider, I wasn't some Jackie com Lately

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Speaker 20: and met somebody with money and was like, oh, come up.

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Speaker 19: We ground it out from day one.

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Speaker 20: I was always there and supporting him and loving him.

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Speaker 20: And if he failed and wound up being a secretary

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Speaker 20: or anything followed another path, I would still be there.

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Speaker 9: You did that take it?

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Speaker 19: It took a beat to get that.

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Speaker 2: I can't believe what are you talking. I'm just suggesting

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Speaker 2: other career options that you couldn't take it.

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Speaker 1: So I can't believe he's with me, with my wife,

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Speaker 1: and it's like, you're disrespectful real life.

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Speaker 7: Really, thank you for having you guys.

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Speaker 2: That's right.

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Speaker 9: Pick it up today and it's.

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Speaker 3: The Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 4: Good Morning.

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01:01:17,280 --> 01:01:18,600
Speaker 2: No, you got to tell this guest I love you

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Speaker 2: before you sign off.

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Speaker 1: Yes, in case you thank you for joining us. I

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Speaker 1: love you, I love you, I love you way Moore, Charlotte.

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Speaker 1: It's the Breakfast Club, Good Morning.

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Speaker 13: That's Devil.

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Speaker 2: Breakfast Club. Well Donkey Today goes to a thirty eight

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Speaker 2: year old woman named Briyaka Riaka Benjamin Okay I'm also

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Speaker 2: at that age I simply don't understand what certain people

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Speaker 2: be on. So I treat it like I'm at a safari. Right, Well,

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Speaker 2: I'm on a safari. I'm just riding in a jeep,

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Speaker 2: cruising through the jungle. Keep all my limbs in the

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Speaker 2: car watching the action. Okay. And one thing I like

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Speaker 2: to watch is when people got beef with others and

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Speaker 2: they say, when I see my it's on site now.

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Speaker 3: A lot of folks be lying. Okay, a lot of

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Speaker 3: folks be telling the truth.

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Speaker 2: Though. See on site means it don't matter where you

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Speaker 2: at church, the doctor's office with your grandmother, a funeral

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Speaker 2: for your aunt. No, I said this on site and

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Speaker 2: on site means no matter this site it's on now.

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Speaker 2: Just because I like to watch something doesn't mean I

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Speaker 2: agree with it. I was born in nineteen hundred and

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Speaker 2: seventy eight. Your uncle Shaulah got rules, and one of

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Speaker 2: those rules is that kids should always be protected. You

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Speaker 2: don't do nothing around kids. You put the kids in

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Speaker 2: harm's way, and you shouldn't put the kids in harm's

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Speaker 2: way in any way, shape or form. Okay. You hear

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Speaker 2: those tragic stories and people getting shot and killed while

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Speaker 2: they with their kids. People get shot and kid shot

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Speaker 2: and killed while holding their babies in their arm. That's

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Speaker 2: disgusting to me. Okay, you see someone with their child,

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Speaker 2: you say, you know what, I'll catch them later, which

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Speaker 2: also really don't make no sense, especially if you're dumb

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Speaker 2: ass plans to kill a person because you care about

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Speaker 2: kids enough not to want to harm the adult when

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Speaker 2: they around the child, but you are still willing to

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Speaker 2: take the adult off the earth and leave the child

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Speaker 2: without a parent. Dumb, stupid ass logic that makes no sense.

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Speaker 2: But if people made sense, then I wouldn't be able

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Speaker 2: to do donkey today every day for the last fourteen

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Speaker 2: years now. Briaka Benjamin, thirty eight years old walked into

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Speaker 2: the Holy grounds of Walmart, Okay, the cultural institution that

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Speaker 2: is Wiley's World, and she saw one of her ops. Oh,

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01:03:26,080 --> 01:03:27,960
Speaker 2: she saw one of her ops and she must have

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Speaker 2: vowed that it was on site with this person because

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Speaker 2: Briaka had her six month old baby with her. I repeat,

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Speaker 2: Briaka had her six month old baby with her when

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Speaker 2: she saw her op and this happened. Let's go to

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Speaker 2: News fifteen for the report police.

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Speaker 5: A shocking story out of Unice a mother's behind bars

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01:03:46,000 --> 01:03:49,640
Speaker 5: were simple battery and cruelty to juveniles. Priorities you'll see

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Speaker 5: Eunice Police were called to Walmart in response to a

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Speaker 5: fight near the front doors. Surveillance footage shows Brianka Benjamin,

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Speaker 5: who is thirty eight years old, holding her six month

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Speaker 5: old infant during an r argument before allegedly throwing her

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Speaker 5: baby in a trash can.

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Speaker 2: We'll repeat that she allegedly threw her baby in the

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Speaker 2: trash can before she got into a fight. As of

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Speaker 2: this morning, police say the infant safe and has been

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Speaker 2: entrusted to other family members. You couldn't pass the baby

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Speaker 2: to nobody. You couldn't leave the baby in the stroller.

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Speaker 2: The trash can is the best place you could find

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Speaker 2: to put your baby because you wanted to fight. Brianca

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Speaker 2: Benjamin saw her op. She had her six month old

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Speaker 2: baby with her and threw the baby in the trash

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Speaker 2: can to go square up. I don't know if her

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Speaker 2: op was the baby or the woman she was fighting

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Speaker 2: in the store. Okay, you couldn't even put the baby

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Speaker 2: in the recycle bin. Just just throw the baby in

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Speaker 2: the trash I've heard some wild reasons why folks threw

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Speaker 2: babies in the trash. Brenda threw her baby in the trash,

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01:04:43,960 --> 01:04:46,160
Speaker 2: But Brenda Bailly had a brain. The girl could always

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Speaker 2: spell her name. Plus she was young and didn't want

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Speaker 2: the baby. Lusha's lying through Jamal and the trash for

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Speaker 2: being gay. But Jamal wasn't a baby, Okay, he was

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Speaker 2: big and gay. Right. There's no reason to put your

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Speaker 2: child in a trash can unless you're dressing them up

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Speaker 2: as oscar to ground for Halloween. This is why I

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Speaker 2: be telling folks to go to therapy. This is why

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Speaker 2: I'm such a mental health advocate, because we have to

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Speaker 2: get our minds right. There is no part of the

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Speaker 2: human brain that's your say. That's your say to you,

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Speaker 2: I see my op. I'm gonna throw my baby in

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Speaker 2: the trash so i can go fight. That baby in

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01:05:15,240 --> 01:05:17,440
Speaker 2: your arm should be all the reason you need to

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Speaker 2: avoid the trouble. But what you did with that baby

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Speaker 2: in that moment, Brianca, is a reflection of you. It

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Speaker 2: is exactly how you see yourself. You had no problem

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Speaker 2: throwing your baby in the trash because you see yourself

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Speaker 2: and your life is trash. You don't love yourself. And

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Speaker 2: if you don't love yourself, it's impossible to love anyone

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Speaker 2: or anything else, I guess, including your child. Please get

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Speaker 2: Brianca Benjamin the biggest he hull.

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Speaker 3: No, no, that's crazy.

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01:05:50,680 --> 01:05:53,360
Speaker 2: No, I see the stupid look in your eye. No

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Speaker 2: you won't play a game. No I wouldn't play game.

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Speaker 2: No did you can't? Her name is Brianca Benjamin. Okay, Brianca,

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Speaker 2: that's not like you should be on Street Fighter. Okay,

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01:06:05,280 --> 01:06:07,880
Speaker 2: you know we're not playing the game. Did she win down?

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01:06:08,040 --> 01:06:08,880
Speaker 14: And you know what?

1545
01:06:08,960 --> 01:06:09,240
Speaker 2: Her name?

1546
01:06:09,320 --> 01:06:09,880
Speaker 7: Prianca?

1547
01:06:10,680 --> 01:06:11,960
Speaker 2: Trumk got a daughter named Preanca.

1548
01:06:14,040 --> 01:06:21,080
Speaker 7: Prianca pre Uncle cut it off, man cut it somebody something.

1549
01:06:22,400 --> 01:06:24,400
Speaker 2: Preanca sounded like a baby Trump would have with a

1550
01:06:24,480 --> 01:06:26,960
Speaker 2: black mistress. But did she did she win to fight?

1551
01:06:27,320 --> 01:06:29,200
Speaker 2: I don't know if she wanted not. That's that you're missing.

1552
01:06:29,240 --> 01:06:30,880
Speaker 2: It don't matter if you want. She threw the baby

1553
01:06:30,920 --> 01:06:31,360
Speaker 2: in the trash?

1554
01:06:31,960 --> 01:06:33,400
Speaker 13: Do you think she gotta I think she was trying

1555
01:06:33,400 --> 01:06:34,600
Speaker 13: to kill birds in one stone.

1556
01:06:34,680 --> 01:06:35,200
Speaker 3: She didn't want to.

1557
01:06:35,640 --> 01:06:38,320
Speaker 7: She wanted to fight the girl. God damn, what if

1558
01:06:38,360 --> 01:06:40,920
Speaker 7: somebody would have came up and empty the trays.

1559
01:06:40,680 --> 01:06:43,960
Speaker 2: Right exactly what he was doing, Joe, exactly? What if

1560
01:06:44,000 --> 01:06:46,080
Speaker 2: she got her dumb ass knocked out? And then somebody

1561
01:06:46,200 --> 01:06:48,400
Speaker 2: threw the trash out. Then what man?

1562
01:06:49,600 --> 01:06:50,280
Speaker 1: But race was she?

1563
01:06:50,520 --> 01:06:53,760
Speaker 2: I'm not playing with you. Let me alone or race

1564
01:06:53,840 --> 01:06:57,600
Speaker 2: you thinks she is? Just I don't know. I don't

1565
01:06:57,640 --> 01:07:01,040
Speaker 2: I haven't seen the picture. I ain't seen the pictures.

1566
01:07:01,080 --> 01:07:02,920
Speaker 2: I don't know what she looked like. Okay, you want

1567
01:07:02,960 --> 01:07:03,400
Speaker 2: me to google?

1568
01:07:03,720 --> 01:07:05,280
Speaker 7: All right, type it up. You know you be up

1569
01:07:05,320 --> 01:07:06,960
Speaker 7: over there typing and looking up everything else.

1570
01:07:07,040 --> 01:07:09,440
Speaker 2: I'm a googler right now. Let me see that name?

1571
01:07:09,520 --> 01:07:17,800
Speaker 2: Sound white to me? Damn envy, God damn?

1572
01:07:18,200 --> 01:07:18,600
Speaker 11: What is she?

1573
01:07:19,240 --> 01:07:22,840
Speaker 2: God damn. I'll just I'll just I'll just do this right,

1574
01:07:22,880 --> 01:07:25,920
Speaker 2: I'm gonna just take I'm gonna just tell y'all. She

1575
01:07:26,040 --> 01:07:29,760
Speaker 2: got a mouthful of gold teeth. I mean, I mean bullets,

1576
01:07:29,920 --> 01:07:35,160
Speaker 2: I mean loaded, she got all the slugs. But she

1577
01:07:35,240 --> 01:07:41,320
Speaker 2: from Florida. It doesn't matter. Okay, God damn Lord, have

1578
01:07:41,720 --> 01:07:47,440
Speaker 2: mercy on ours. Okay, christ all right, man, well thank

1579
01:07:47,480 --> 01:07:51,280
Speaker 2: you for that. Don't don't she's not black? All right? Well,

1580
01:07:51,360 --> 01:07:52,720
Speaker 2: she's not black, She's white.

1581
01:07:53,000 --> 01:07:53,840
Speaker 11: You know what she is.

1582
01:07:53,960 --> 01:07:54,920
Speaker 2: I'm not saying that word.

1583
01:07:55,000 --> 01:07:57,000
Speaker 3: No, I vowed to not say that word.

1584
01:07:57,040 --> 01:07:58,480
Speaker 4: You've had a couple of times and you still say

1585
01:07:58,480 --> 01:08:01,120
Speaker 4: that after right, people need the douts.

1586
01:08:01,160 --> 01:08:04,880
Speaker 2: Let uncle ruck and set at work.

1587
01:08:05,160 --> 01:08:13,560
Speaker 3: That's right, Okay, alright, I hate yild the breakfast Club.

1588
01:08:15,920 --> 01:08:16,839
Speaker 2: I want to have everybody.

1589
01:08:16,880 --> 01:08:19,920
Speaker 4: It's the d J M V Jess, Larry and the guy.

1590
01:08:20,000 --> 01:08:21,240
Speaker 4: We are the breakfast Club.

1591
01:08:21,520 --> 01:08:23,280
Speaker 2: We got a special guest in the belt because today

1592
01:08:23,320 --> 01:08:27,000
Speaker 2: it's National co Parenting Day, so we had to bring

1593
01:08:27,120 --> 01:08:29,720
Speaker 2: in a man who I feel like him and just

1594
01:08:29,880 --> 01:08:32,639
Speaker 2: have one of the best co parenting relationships I've ever seen.

1595
01:08:33,560 --> 01:08:37,760
Speaker 1: Rome is here, Room is here already call you, wow,

1596
01:08:37,800 --> 01:08:40,519
Speaker 1: what happened? Just saying I want to know who gave

1597
01:08:40,600 --> 01:08:41,840
Speaker 1: Room some liquor this morning?

1598
01:08:42,439 --> 01:08:43,760
Speaker 2: And I was like, I didn't give it to him.

1599
01:08:43,760 --> 01:08:46,200
Speaker 3: I just told them where the ball was. Help yourself,

1600
01:08:46,200 --> 01:08:48,840
Speaker 3: help yourself, that's fine, And you said it was.

1601
01:08:48,920 --> 01:08:51,000
Speaker 7: You said it was apple juice. That's I was about

1602
01:08:51,000 --> 01:08:51,679
Speaker 7: to take a step.

1603
01:08:51,520 --> 01:08:53,360
Speaker 1: And I was like, I was not you n one

1604
01:08:53,400 --> 01:08:55,360
Speaker 1: apple juice. I just ain't thank you. Was gonna pick

1605
01:08:55,400 --> 01:08:57,600
Speaker 1: the cup up you and just have the.

1606
01:08:57,680 --> 01:09:00,679
Speaker 2: Best co parenting situation I've ever And how did y'all

1607
01:09:00,680 --> 01:09:01,200
Speaker 2: get to this point?

1608
01:09:01,520 --> 01:09:03,920
Speaker 3: And she thinks she's my mother first and foremost. But

1609
01:09:04,680 --> 01:09:05,320
Speaker 3: it took time.

1610
01:09:06,040 --> 01:09:08,400
Speaker 1: I felt like when you take the feelings out of it,

1611
01:09:09,600 --> 01:09:12,160
Speaker 1: and you realize that the child is the most important

1612
01:09:12,200 --> 01:09:14,720
Speaker 1: part of the relationship because it's still a readship. Whether

1613
01:09:14,720 --> 01:09:20,040
Speaker 1: you're intimate or not. You can do magical things, magical things.

1614
01:09:20,080 --> 01:09:22,200
Speaker 1: And I think that me being a dad that I

1615
01:09:22,439 --> 01:09:25,200
Speaker 1: was and that I am still today, I wanted that.

1616
01:09:25,680 --> 01:09:27,519
Speaker 1: I felt like if we wasn't gonna be together, it

1617
01:09:27,600 --> 01:09:30,880
Speaker 1: was no need for us to beef. We've created over time.

1618
01:09:31,640 --> 01:09:34,360
Speaker 1: Whereas now she's my best friend, She's my safe space.

1619
01:09:34,400 --> 01:09:36,120
Speaker 1: I feel like, you know, I convent to her because

1620
01:09:36,200 --> 01:09:39,479
Speaker 1: sometimes all the time I need it. But I feel

1621
01:09:39,560 --> 01:09:42,200
Speaker 1: like when I was pouring into these other women, they

1622
01:09:42,240 --> 01:09:43,160
Speaker 1: would use it against me.

1623
01:09:43,680 --> 01:09:44,200
Speaker 2: Mm hmmm.

1624
01:09:44,320 --> 01:09:47,639
Speaker 1: Whereas though now now that she's pregnant, I don't really

1625
01:09:48,439 --> 01:09:50,120
Speaker 1: call her and say certain things because I know she's

1626
01:09:50,120 --> 01:09:53,160
Speaker 1: gonna do certain things mentally now. So Jess is always

1627
01:09:53,200 --> 01:09:55,400
Speaker 1: with my safe space though, so it's like she's always

1628
01:09:55,479 --> 01:09:58,360
Speaker 1: been a person that I go to a call give

1629
01:09:58,400 --> 01:10:01,120
Speaker 1: me advice, some advice I don't take, but just to hear,

1630
01:10:01,600 --> 01:10:02,240
Speaker 1: but just to hear.

1631
01:10:02,320 --> 01:10:03,519
Speaker 3: How give it to you, just to know that she

1632
01:10:03,720 --> 01:10:05,960
Speaker 3: care because I don't really have nobody.

1633
01:10:06,120 --> 01:10:07,479
Speaker 2: How did y'all, how did y'all meet how did you

1634
01:10:07,560 --> 01:10:10,200
Speaker 2: meet Jess? And how did y'all start dating? Back then?

1635
01:10:10,479 --> 01:10:11,600
Speaker 2: What did you see it? When it was like, oh,

1636
01:10:11,640 --> 01:10:12,920
Speaker 2: this is this is somebody I want to know that.

1637
01:10:13,120 --> 01:10:14,880
Speaker 1: It's crazy because we grew up on a smile. He's

1638
01:10:14,880 --> 01:10:19,240
Speaker 1: starting to smile back because my mom, my mom was alive.

1639
01:10:19,280 --> 01:10:21,479
Speaker 3: My mom died when I was tenth. My mom was alive.

1640
01:10:21,680 --> 01:10:23,720
Speaker 3: We went to the same church. My mom died. My

1641
01:10:23,800 --> 01:10:26,080
Speaker 3: father like really took me away from everybody.

1642
01:10:26,720 --> 01:10:29,640
Speaker 1: So now it was like fast forward with like seventeen

1643
01:10:30,360 --> 01:10:35,120
Speaker 1: Facebook and she came across my timeline and I was like, okay,

1644
01:10:35,280 --> 01:10:38,040
Speaker 1: so I did a dot dot dot and I put

1645
01:10:38,080 --> 01:10:39,360
Speaker 1: a basketball emoji.

1646
01:10:40,160 --> 01:10:45,200
Speaker 2: You thought she was a way just shut up you

1647
01:10:45,320 --> 01:10:45,840
Speaker 2: play with you?

1648
01:10:46,520 --> 01:10:47,760
Speaker 3: She bid on it too, Okay.

1649
01:10:48,120 --> 01:10:49,639
Speaker 1: I think I was like, I'm just coming to get

1650
01:10:49,640 --> 01:10:51,439
Speaker 1: my ball, coming to get with mine something like that,

1651
01:10:52,320 --> 01:10:53,559
Speaker 1: and you want a basketball room.

1652
01:10:53,560 --> 01:10:54,000
Speaker 2: I need to know.

1653
01:10:54,120 --> 01:10:56,160
Speaker 3: I've seen it somewhereball.

1654
01:10:56,280 --> 01:10:58,760
Speaker 1: No, I seen somebody do that, Like, I don't know

1655
01:10:58,800 --> 01:11:01,680
Speaker 1: what I seen it basketball.

1656
01:11:02,760 --> 01:11:04,679
Speaker 2: Year twelve years ago.

1657
01:11:05,320 --> 01:11:07,599
Speaker 1: So I'm like, I don't know I did it because

1658
01:11:07,600 --> 01:11:09,559
Speaker 1: I thought it was it was corny, but I thought it.

1659
01:11:09,640 --> 01:11:11,360
Speaker 3: Was you know, but it worked, It got attention. What

1660
01:11:11,400 --> 01:11:12,919
Speaker 3: do you think just when you saw the basketball?

1661
01:11:13,200 --> 01:11:14,400
Speaker 13: I just I said, what is this?

1662
01:11:14,960 --> 01:11:15,240
Speaker 2: Okay?

1663
01:11:15,320 --> 01:11:17,760
Speaker 7: I just typed that back and like he said, it

1664
01:11:17,880 --> 01:11:18,360
Speaker 7: was my ball.

1665
01:11:18,760 --> 01:11:21,479
Speaker 10: It's my ball and I'm coming to get I'm coming

1666
01:11:21,520 --> 01:11:23,120
Speaker 10: to get it or something like I'm coming to get

1667
01:11:23,200 --> 01:11:23,479
Speaker 10: was mine.

1668
01:11:23,479 --> 01:11:26,240
Speaker 13: And I was like, okay, what I knew what I

1669
01:11:26,360 --> 01:11:28,080
Speaker 13: was giving, what it was about it.

1670
01:11:28,720 --> 01:11:29,200
Speaker 4: But it worked.

1671
01:11:29,920 --> 01:11:30,240
Speaker 2: It worked.

1672
01:11:30,280 --> 01:11:32,439
Speaker 1: So you started talking, where was your first date? What

1673
01:11:32,600 --> 01:11:34,439
Speaker 1: was your first when you started first talking, what was

1674
01:11:34,479 --> 01:11:38,559
Speaker 1: your honest? Man, Jasica did a lot. I'm gonna say

1675
01:11:38,640 --> 01:11:42,639
Speaker 1: this before a lot of these young guys became Jody,

1676
01:11:42,720 --> 01:11:43,560
Speaker 1: I was Jody.

1677
01:11:45,800 --> 01:11:51,240
Speaker 3: And our first date, big date. I'm gonna say it

1678
01:11:51,240 --> 01:11:52,520
Speaker 3: with six flags.

1679
01:11:52,520 --> 01:11:55,439
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, all righting it big.

1680
01:11:55,960 --> 01:11:57,880
Speaker 1: But before that we did a lot of other things.

1681
01:11:57,960 --> 01:12:00,160
Speaker 1: But after that, it was we did a lot. She

1682
01:12:00,240 --> 01:12:03,280
Speaker 1: introduced me to a lot. Actually we both was the

1683
01:12:03,320 --> 01:12:06,800
Speaker 1: same age, but she helped make me become God, you're

1684
01:12:06,840 --> 01:12:10,559
Speaker 1: becoming a man coming to man and then yeah, then boom.

1685
01:12:10,760 --> 01:12:13,960
Speaker 1: I just always says that you are you were overprotective,

1686
01:12:14,000 --> 01:12:16,160
Speaker 1: make sure she was good. But she always said, you

1687
01:12:16,200 --> 01:12:18,800
Speaker 1: can't fight. Oh my god, No, she never seen me fight.

1688
01:12:19,640 --> 01:12:21,360
Speaker 1: I never had we fought.

1689
01:12:21,439 --> 01:12:22,360
Speaker 7: I got that from.

1690
01:12:24,880 --> 01:12:26,760
Speaker 1: Of course, I'm not going to fight her. Bro Oh,

1691
01:12:26,840 --> 01:12:30,479
Speaker 1: it's crazy because I just got a picture from the window.

1692
01:12:30,520 --> 01:12:34,840
Speaker 1: You bust the minds How one window would I fist?

1693
01:12:35,280 --> 01:12:36,360
Speaker 2: What happened?

1694
01:12:36,479 --> 01:12:37,640
Speaker 1: You can't be her then if she could break a

1695
01:12:37,680 --> 01:12:39,360
Speaker 1: window from a fish out when you're trying to fight,

1696
01:12:39,560 --> 01:12:40,000
Speaker 1: what happened?

1697
01:12:40,760 --> 01:12:41,880
Speaker 2: To take a sip thinking about that?

1698
01:12:47,400 --> 01:12:49,840
Speaker 1: All right, my step like, Jessica, pull up, mind you

1699
01:12:49,920 --> 01:12:53,120
Speaker 1: hate together? Jaska pulls up. I had a girl in

1700
01:12:53,200 --> 01:12:56,120
Speaker 1: the house. So my brother like, come to the top

1701
01:12:56,120 --> 01:12:57,000
Speaker 1: of the steps.

1702
01:12:56,720 --> 01:12:58,800
Speaker 3: Like just at the door. I'm like, all right here,

1703
01:12:58,840 --> 01:13:01,280
Speaker 3: I come, think it. Don't even wait for me to come.

1704
01:13:01,640 --> 01:13:02,680
Speaker 2: He let her, He let her in.

1705
01:13:02,880 --> 01:13:06,040
Speaker 1: Oh boy, I walked right past him and his friends.

1706
01:13:05,960 --> 01:13:06,519
Speaker 2: With the girl.

1707
01:13:07,560 --> 01:13:09,639
Speaker 3: That's a good end step.

1708
01:13:10,000 --> 01:13:12,080
Speaker 1: But what did I see when I walked down the steps? Jerne,

1709
01:13:12,280 --> 01:13:14,240
Speaker 1: you didn't see so and then she tries to fassage

1710
01:13:14,320 --> 01:13:18,800
Speaker 1: this story. Ashton, I had a portable rocking bashing that

1711
01:13:19,200 --> 01:13:20,640
Speaker 1: where I could put it in the trunk, send it

1712
01:13:20,680 --> 01:13:23,120
Speaker 1: to her, bring it back. Ashton was in a portable

1713
01:13:23,320 --> 01:13:25,519
Speaker 1: rocking drunk. Me and the girl was on the on

1714
01:13:25,600 --> 01:13:28,000
Speaker 1: the bed. I had on basketball short, she had on

1715
01:13:28,040 --> 01:13:31,519
Speaker 1: her uniform pants. She gonna say, she's been saying she

1716
01:13:31,560 --> 01:13:38,840
Speaker 1: was the middle CEO correction she's a correctional officer. So

1717
01:13:39,040 --> 01:13:41,640
Speaker 1: like she's sitting, she's facing me, but her legs is

1718
01:13:41,720 --> 01:13:43,880
Speaker 1: like you know how that goes just to come down

1719
01:13:43,880 --> 01:13:45,519
Speaker 1: and says she keeps she gonna say, oh, we was naked.

1720
01:13:45,560 --> 01:13:49,320
Speaker 3: We was not naked. It had been happening. I don't

1721
01:13:49,320 --> 01:13:49,760
Speaker 3: get naked.

1722
01:13:49,800 --> 01:13:53,960
Speaker 1: And when she topped it up, Oh my gosh, she's

1723
01:13:54,040 --> 01:13:56,080
Speaker 1: never gonna tells anyway she's banging the girl.

1724
01:13:56,439 --> 01:13:57,120
Speaker 2: You beat up the girl.

1725
01:13:57,240 --> 01:13:59,680
Speaker 3: She didn't beat up your bang. And I picked up

1726
01:14:00,200 --> 01:14:01,799
Speaker 3: and walked up the stairs and through outside.

1727
01:14:02,080 --> 01:14:02,880
Speaker 7: You could never lift me.

1728
01:14:03,080 --> 01:14:05,240
Speaker 3: No, you never see what I'm saying.

1729
01:14:05,360 --> 01:14:07,920
Speaker 1: She never wants to She never wants to admit the truth.

1730
01:14:08,080 --> 01:14:09,240
Speaker 1: So on the field, couldn't fight.

1731
01:14:09,600 --> 01:14:12,040
Speaker 3: No, I ain't no fight or not.

1732
01:14:12,200 --> 01:14:15,160
Speaker 10: But she the one time and then she got there,

1733
01:14:15,240 --> 01:14:18,320
Speaker 10: she put on her uniform and went and left, went upstairs.

1734
01:14:19,760 --> 01:14:20,600
Speaker 3: I promised you, I.

1735
01:14:20,640 --> 01:14:23,120
Speaker 9: Wish it was the cat fighting that that.

1736
01:14:23,520 --> 01:14:26,639
Speaker 7: No, my son was not in no portable nothing.

1737
01:14:26,760 --> 01:14:28,760
Speaker 10: He was on the floor on a blanket and the

1738
01:14:28,840 --> 01:14:31,280
Speaker 10: cat was looking at him like he wanted to eat him.

1739
01:14:31,600 --> 01:14:32,080
Speaker 2: Yes, it was.

1740
01:14:35,720 --> 01:14:36,479
Speaker 3: Under the carpet.

1741
01:14:36,600 --> 01:14:38,200
Speaker 1: So I will never lay my I wouldn't even lay

1742
01:14:38,240 --> 01:14:42,920
Speaker 1: on the flooring about this. Eleven tell you she was

1743
01:14:43,000 --> 01:14:44,400
Speaker 1: drunk out of her mind, and I'm trying to figure

1744
01:14:44,439 --> 01:14:48,400
Speaker 1: out who was just getting off the work. You didn't,

1745
01:14:49,320 --> 01:14:51,080
Speaker 1: damn you did not just get off where he was

1746
01:14:51,160 --> 01:14:53,720
Speaker 1: fired at that time. So I got fired right after that.

1747
01:14:54,280 --> 01:14:56,880
Speaker 1: I was working at McDonald's. That's when I was stealing.

1748
01:14:58,760 --> 01:15:00,200
Speaker 1: This is much love.

1749
01:15:00,479 --> 01:15:01,960
Speaker 10: And if I was drinking, okay, I was drinking on

1750
01:15:02,040 --> 01:15:04,439
Speaker 10: the job, but I was at work. So and then

1751
01:15:04,439 --> 01:15:05,679
Speaker 10: I came to get my son.

1752
01:15:05,880 --> 01:15:07,519
Speaker 1: And yeah, it did not come get your son because

1753
01:15:07,520 --> 01:15:10,400
Speaker 1: it was my weekend. So I again until Monday from

1754
01:15:10,520 --> 01:15:11,560
Speaker 1: day kid, why would you come me?

1755
01:15:11,600 --> 01:15:11,680
Speaker 2: Now?

1756
01:15:11,720 --> 01:15:12,679
Speaker 1: He was coming to be nosy.

1757
01:15:13,000 --> 01:15:14,920
Speaker 3: I didn't have to come to me. You was looking

1758
01:15:15,000 --> 01:15:16,120
Speaker 3: for a passinger with her?

1759
01:15:16,120 --> 01:15:16,280
Speaker 2: If you.

1760
01:15:18,760 --> 01:15:22,280
Speaker 1: She because go home.

1761
01:15:23,400 --> 01:15:27,560
Speaker 3: Eleven years years old, man, that's my how did you

1762
01:15:27,600 --> 01:15:29,360
Speaker 3: break the wind hand?

1763
01:15:29,560 --> 01:15:30,080
Speaker 2: You walked out?

1764
01:15:30,840 --> 01:15:35,360
Speaker 3: No, I threw ass out, not that she was not

1765
01:15:35,439 --> 01:15:35,880
Speaker 3: that strong.

1766
01:15:36,280 --> 01:15:36,680
Speaker 2: You did not.

1767
01:15:36,880 --> 01:15:39,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I had you and it was steps.

1768
01:15:41,560 --> 01:15:41,840
Speaker 2: Right there.

1769
01:15:42,200 --> 01:15:44,240
Speaker 9: Could never ever eaten right now, could not do that

1770
01:15:44,720 --> 01:15:45,240
Speaker 9: at the window.

1771
01:15:45,400 --> 01:15:49,080
Speaker 3: I was just really really because he wouldn't.

1772
01:15:48,720 --> 01:15:50,760
Speaker 7: Give me my son. Won't give me my son.

1773
01:15:50,840 --> 01:15:53,719
Speaker 4: You called the police and call the police, Call the police.

1774
01:15:53,880 --> 01:15:54,839
Speaker 2: Never called the police.

1775
01:15:55,200 --> 01:15:56,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, I didn't call the police.

1776
01:15:57,840 --> 01:15:59,240
Speaker 14: Jack pause.

1777
01:16:00,000 --> 01:16:04,679
Speaker 3: I said, every everybody here is well, I'm from the jail.

1778
01:16:04,600 --> 01:16:06,599
Speaker 2: Is right there, right around the corner. You can walk.

1779
01:16:06,600 --> 01:16:09,880
Speaker 3: It's the commotion they walked. I don't know how they came.

1780
01:16:10,120 --> 01:16:12,240
Speaker 10: He called the police on me and then going, and

1781
01:16:12,320 --> 01:16:15,519
Speaker 10: then when the police came, I was I just sat

1782
01:16:15,560 --> 01:16:15,960
Speaker 10: in my car.

1783
01:16:16,040 --> 01:16:16,519
Speaker 9: I was mad.

1784
01:16:16,600 --> 01:16:17,680
Speaker 10: I was like, no, I can't move here to get

1785
01:16:17,680 --> 01:16:19,640
Speaker 10: my son. And Nicole did tell me your come on

1786
01:16:19,760 --> 01:16:21,160
Speaker 10: this pull off. He's not giving you the baby. He'd

1787
01:16:21,160 --> 01:16:23,040
Speaker 10: not giveing you the baby. I was like, all right, cool,

1788
01:16:23,080 --> 01:16:25,360
Speaker 10: but I was mad, so I didn't pull off. Police

1789
01:16:25,400 --> 01:16:28,920
Speaker 10: paddy wagon pulled up and got out, and you was like,

1790
01:16:29,240 --> 01:16:30,040
Speaker 10: she right there.

1791
01:16:30,000 --> 01:16:30,080
Speaker 6: She.

1792
01:16:35,240 --> 01:16:36,120
Speaker 11: Was I trying to get you.

1793
01:16:36,200 --> 01:16:37,760
Speaker 1: How did I try to get you locked up? When

1794
01:16:37,760 --> 01:16:40,120
Speaker 1: I'm the same one call trying to bail you out

1795
01:16:40,160 --> 01:16:42,479
Speaker 1: with no money. I don't know why you ever thought

1796
01:16:42,479 --> 01:16:44,040
Speaker 1: you could buil somebody out with mine. I ain't sleep

1797
01:16:44,120 --> 01:16:48,360
Speaker 1: that night out. You have a bit you ever went

1798
01:16:48,360 --> 01:16:51,800
Speaker 1: through a woman phone of course, could you eat after that?

1799
01:16:52,280 --> 01:16:53,040
Speaker 3: Yes, you could?

1800
01:16:53,120 --> 01:16:55,880
Speaker 1: Well I couldn't. I'm comparing that to you when she

1801
01:16:55,960 --> 01:16:58,640
Speaker 1: went to jail. I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep, you know,

1802
01:16:58,880 --> 01:17:03,400
Speaker 1: and sick. I didn't want the police.

1803
01:17:03,920 --> 01:17:05,160
Speaker 2: We got more with Rome.

1804
01:17:05,720 --> 01:17:07,599
Speaker 1: If you don't know who Rome is, of course, that's

1805
01:17:07,800 --> 01:17:11,839
Speaker 1: just hilarious baby daddy. And today is National co Parenting

1806
01:17:12,000 --> 01:17:13,880
Speaker 1: Day and we're having a conversation with Rome.

1807
01:17:13,920 --> 01:17:15,479
Speaker 2: So don't go anywhere. It's to breakfast TLUB.

1808
01:17:15,360 --> 01:17:16,639
Speaker 4: Good morning morning everybody.

1809
01:17:16,680 --> 01:17:19,960
Speaker 1: It's the j Envy Jess Hilarious Charlamage, the guy we

1810
01:17:20,040 --> 01:17:22,160
Speaker 1: are the Breakfast Club is still kicking it with Rome.

1811
01:17:22,560 --> 01:17:24,240
Speaker 2: That is Justic's baby daddy.

1812
01:17:24,280 --> 01:17:28,000
Speaker 1: Today is National co Parenting Day, and they are excellent

1813
01:17:28,040 --> 01:17:30,559
Speaker 1: co parents and we're having a great conversation Charlamage.

1814
01:17:30,800 --> 01:17:33,160
Speaker 2: So now when you hear this story and you say

1815
01:17:33,200 --> 01:17:36,280
Speaker 2: to yourself, why they there on National co parent Day?

1816
01:17:36,360 --> 01:17:38,720
Speaker 2: Because they are like the best of friends. Now they

1817
01:17:38,800 --> 01:17:40,680
Speaker 2: call each other. Jess calls you her brother. How do

1818
01:17:40,760 --> 01:17:41,479
Speaker 2: you feel about that?

1819
01:17:42,320 --> 01:17:43,240
Speaker 1: How did y'all get there?

1820
01:17:43,320 --> 01:17:45,599
Speaker 2: Do you look at her like your sister? You said, Mama,

1821
01:17:46,200 --> 01:17:47,360
Speaker 2: I was gonna say what she said?

1822
01:17:47,720 --> 01:17:49,000
Speaker 4: Created that like my mother?

1823
01:17:49,360 --> 01:17:50,200
Speaker 3: Like when we are the town.

1824
01:17:51,479 --> 01:17:55,000
Speaker 1: Now I'm gonna disclose too much, but thank you. No,

1825
01:17:55,200 --> 01:17:58,720
Speaker 1: I just know control like you know how I am though,

1826
01:17:58,760 --> 01:18:01,360
Speaker 1: like me and alone. I think part of that controlling

1827
01:18:01,400 --> 01:18:05,800
Speaker 1: part is like cares and sometimes especially when I'm under

1828
01:18:05,800 --> 01:18:10,320
Speaker 1: the influence, I've done dumbash so as.

1829
01:18:10,280 --> 01:18:13,040
Speaker 2: Big as you know that you I don't know, just

1830
01:18:13,080 --> 01:18:13,920
Speaker 2: assist in the back.

1831
01:18:15,640 --> 01:18:16,840
Speaker 3: Everybody like you know, everybody knows.

1832
01:18:17,120 --> 01:18:19,280
Speaker 1: But I hold myself accountable to that mind you Now,

1833
01:18:19,360 --> 01:18:20,840
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna say you I learned for one of six,

1834
01:18:20,920 --> 01:18:22,800
Speaker 1: so I don did a dumbash over and over again.

1835
01:18:23,600 --> 01:18:25,360
Speaker 3: But I think in that aspect, that's.

1836
01:18:25,280 --> 01:18:28,519
Speaker 1: When the mother of the mother with the v coming,

1837
01:18:28,680 --> 01:18:30,720
Speaker 1: but the brother calling me brother and sister, we're like,

1838
01:18:31,320 --> 01:18:34,960
Speaker 1: honestly without the child likes there, it's just seem like

1839
01:18:35,280 --> 01:18:38,040
Speaker 1: Amazon cameras off, like you can't fake this, will make

1840
01:18:38,080 --> 01:18:38,559
Speaker 1: this up?

1841
01:18:38,640 --> 01:18:41,800
Speaker 10: Oh yeah, Rome started that room, started calling me sis first,

1842
01:18:42,160 --> 01:18:44,680
Speaker 10: and then I started calling him bro. I you know,

1843
01:18:45,080 --> 01:18:47,519
Speaker 10: I'm like, yeah, we do have like a sibling dynamic

1844
01:18:47,600 --> 01:18:51,000
Speaker 10: in some way. You know, he's still confides in my mom.

1845
01:18:51,240 --> 01:18:54,800
Speaker 10: He like my mom is our mother. Like it's not

1846
01:18:55,320 --> 01:18:57,960
Speaker 10: it ain't nothing crazy, it's nothing intimate like, seriously, I

1847
01:18:58,080 --> 01:18:58,600
Speaker 10: always say this.

1848
01:18:58,800 --> 01:19:02,280
Speaker 7: People be like, yeah right, I can literally walk past and.

1849
01:19:03,040 --> 01:19:03,600
Speaker 2: I don't do this.

1850
01:19:03,680 --> 01:19:05,240
Speaker 7: But what I'm saying, I can walk past this man

1851
01:19:05,680 --> 01:19:07,720
Speaker 7: NIGGD and he does. They be like, girl, what like

1852
01:19:07,880 --> 01:19:11,080
Speaker 7: put that out? I'm talking about seriously, like how do y'all.

1853
01:19:10,920 --> 01:19:13,200
Speaker 1: Know each other's spouses or each other's boyfriend and girlfriend?

1854
01:19:13,240 --> 01:19:15,160
Speaker 1: Like how do you deal with his girl? And how

1855
01:19:15,200 --> 01:19:15,640
Speaker 1: do you deal with.

1856
01:19:19,280 --> 01:19:19,519
Speaker 2: Five?

1857
01:19:20,320 --> 01:19:26,200
Speaker 1: I never told you, always tried. It's cool, though it's cool,

1858
01:19:27,200 --> 01:19:29,840
Speaker 1: but this is and now this is the friction part.

1859
01:19:30,120 --> 01:19:30,840
Speaker 2: Now we got over that.

1860
01:19:30,920 --> 01:19:32,800
Speaker 1: But just the the friction part was I mo, my bendess,

1861
01:19:32,800 --> 01:19:36,080
Speaker 1: don't getting her. But the friction part was her getting

1862
01:19:36,120 --> 01:19:39,599
Speaker 1: into minds. But she's still a woman. I'm still a man.

1863
01:19:40,080 --> 01:19:41,280
Speaker 3: So women tend to do that.

1864
01:19:41,400 --> 01:19:43,559
Speaker 1: And this is not no shame of women. I don't

1865
01:19:43,640 --> 01:19:45,960
Speaker 1: mean no disrespect by saying it, but I think women

1866
01:19:46,080 --> 01:19:48,320
Speaker 1: tend to do that, especially a woman that care about you.

1867
01:19:49,240 --> 01:19:51,960
Speaker 1: She said, sometimes you make bad decisions and she's there

1868
01:19:52,160 --> 01:19:54,880
Speaker 1: as your sister to make sure you're good, regardless if

1869
01:19:54,920 --> 01:19:58,800
Speaker 1: it's life relationship or whatever. Correct she said that with

1870
01:19:58,920 --> 01:20:01,640
Speaker 1: me personally, I never really like I talked to her

1871
01:20:01,640 --> 01:20:03,519
Speaker 1: about certain things, but I never really liked my family

1872
01:20:03,640 --> 01:20:07,160
Speaker 1: to get into no intimate situation. Yeah, because guess what,

1873
01:20:07,920 --> 01:20:10,320
Speaker 1: y'all feel a way about this person. However, y'all want

1874
01:20:10,360 --> 01:20:12,519
Speaker 1: whether it's negative or good. If I'm gonna deal with

1875
01:20:12,520 --> 01:20:14,880
Speaker 1: this person, I'm gonna deal with them like the female

1876
01:20:14,920 --> 01:20:16,719
Speaker 1: can smash it out me yesterday.

1877
01:20:17,240 --> 01:20:17,719
Speaker 2: Mm hmmm.

1878
01:20:18,160 --> 01:20:22,439
Speaker 1: I might get over them. But it's like that's why

1879
01:20:22,439 --> 01:20:25,280
Speaker 1: I always That's how I was always able to distinguish

1880
01:20:25,320 --> 01:20:27,720
Speaker 1: the two. Like when Jessica with hef men, when she

1881
01:20:27,800 --> 01:20:29,920
Speaker 1: come to me like, I don't know, like I ain't

1882
01:20:29,960 --> 01:20:32,120
Speaker 1: never pillow talking or sneak dish or nothing like I

1883
01:20:32,160 --> 01:20:34,240
Speaker 1: don't really care for like it ain't nothing to have

1884
01:20:34,360 --> 01:20:36,639
Speaker 1: that I don't if you put it in that sense.

1885
01:20:36,640 --> 01:20:37,960
Speaker 1: But when she comes to me with a man, I

1886
01:20:38,080 --> 01:20:40,560
Speaker 1: tell her ain't right. But both of y'all got to

1887
01:20:40,600 --> 01:20:42,200
Speaker 1: care though, because you gonna want to know who around

1888
01:20:42,240 --> 01:20:45,240
Speaker 1: your son. I never did though, Yeah, I never so

1889
01:20:45,720 --> 01:20:47,840
Speaker 1: in the beginning stage, Yeah, don't have this summer.

1890
01:20:47,880 --> 01:20:50,400
Speaker 3: But I grew out of that. So now it's I

1891
01:20:50,479 --> 01:20:51,840
Speaker 3: trust my child mom enough to.

1892
01:20:51,960 --> 01:20:54,800
Speaker 1: She won't bring no fast around my child, So I

1893
01:20:54,880 --> 01:20:57,479
Speaker 1: don't say, oh, don't have this that's never been a problem.

1894
01:20:57,520 --> 01:21:01,679
Speaker 1: It has been a problem was because envy me except

1895
01:21:01,760 --> 01:21:02,639
Speaker 1: for my last dog.

1896
01:21:04,000 --> 01:21:08,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, my dogs who dog? My dog, Chris, Chris, Chris

1897
01:21:09,320 --> 01:21:10,320
Speaker 3: my dog. I ain't gonna hold he.

1898
01:21:10,439 --> 01:21:13,360
Speaker 1: I think he's the I think like honestly, me and

1899
01:21:13,520 --> 01:21:15,800
Speaker 1: jess Man like, I think it's been times where a

1900
01:21:15,840 --> 01:21:18,280
Speaker 1: woman didn't like me and her situation.

1901
01:21:18,960 --> 01:21:22,400
Speaker 10: But guess what, bye, yeah more so on and yeah

1902
01:21:22,439 --> 01:21:24,639
Speaker 10: it'll be more so on his end because it's much

1903
01:21:24,760 --> 01:21:28,840
Speaker 10: more of them. But the thing is, yeah, the thing

1904
01:21:29,040 --> 01:21:32,960
Speaker 10: is like I don't like when because I even tell

1905
01:21:33,040 --> 01:21:35,680
Speaker 10: him what he's doing wrong too, Like, yo, don't cheer

1906
01:21:35,720 --> 01:21:36,080
Speaker 10: her like that.

1907
01:21:36,240 --> 01:21:38,840
Speaker 7: This is how how how you going to introduce me

1908
01:21:38,920 --> 01:21:39,080
Speaker 7: to it?

1909
01:21:39,160 --> 01:21:39,240
Speaker 2: Now?

1910
01:21:39,560 --> 01:21:41,760
Speaker 10: Now I done got to know where you know, and

1911
01:21:42,240 --> 01:21:43,800
Speaker 10: whether she had a kid or not. Most of the

1912
01:21:43,840 --> 01:21:46,080
Speaker 10: time it's the ones that have the kids. But it's like, yo,

1913
01:21:46,360 --> 01:21:50,479
Speaker 10: you gotta do right or just be single, Like, don't

1914
01:21:50,640 --> 01:21:54,439
Speaker 10: keep hurting women in the process of trying to find

1915
01:21:54,479 --> 01:21:55,960
Speaker 10: what you're looking for. I mean, I know that's all

1916
01:21:55,960 --> 01:21:58,679
Speaker 10: a part of dating, but when you have kids, it's different,

1917
01:21:58,800 --> 01:21:59,960
Speaker 10: you know, And then here.

1918
01:22:00,080 --> 01:22:02,160
Speaker 7: Be like, oh that's why I don't like you to

1919
01:22:02,240 --> 01:22:02,960
Speaker 7: be getting into it.

1920
01:22:03,120 --> 01:22:05,960
Speaker 10: You know, and then I don't like he he attracts

1921
01:22:05,960 --> 01:22:08,920
Speaker 10: a lot of toxic women to like abusive relationships where

1922
01:22:09,040 --> 01:22:11,720
Speaker 10: women will put their hands on them. I'm like, what, yeah,

1923
01:22:11,720 --> 01:22:14,800
Speaker 10: all right, you know, but he don't. He's like, no,

1924
01:22:15,120 --> 01:22:17,800
Speaker 10: but I might be with them. All what she just

1925
01:22:18,120 --> 01:22:19,760
Speaker 10: black your eye? What are you talking about? You know

1926
01:22:19,800 --> 01:22:21,400
Speaker 10: what I'm saying, like, no, we're not doing it.

1927
01:22:21,560 --> 01:22:23,280
Speaker 3: But Claire, I never had a black guy.

1928
01:22:23,600 --> 01:22:27,439
Speaker 10: Okay, well she busts your nose whatever. Women have put

1929
01:22:27,479 --> 01:22:31,000
Speaker 10: their hands on you, and that's.

1930
01:22:30,880 --> 01:22:32,559
Speaker 1: Why, and that's why she's my dog. Like I think

1931
01:22:32,640 --> 01:22:35,120
Speaker 1: she's the only one really honestly, the one to get

1932
01:22:35,160 --> 01:22:38,680
Speaker 1: the under my skin, Like it's a certain wordplace she

1933
01:22:38,840 --> 01:22:40,600
Speaker 1: used and I don't care what tone she used it in,

1934
01:22:41,200 --> 01:22:44,680
Speaker 1: but to say that, it's like I was really never

1935
01:22:44,760 --> 01:22:47,200
Speaker 1: told how to love. When I moved my dad, my

1936
01:22:47,479 --> 01:22:49,160
Speaker 1: dad move my dad and my step mom, which is

1937
01:22:49,240 --> 01:22:51,599
Speaker 1: my mom. Now me and my mom have a great relationship.

1938
01:22:51,640 --> 01:22:55,360
Speaker 1: That's my step mom and my dad was married, but

1939
01:22:55,520 --> 01:23:00,519
Speaker 1: my dad was cheating, like saying, like my dad, my

1940
01:23:00,600 --> 01:23:05,560
Speaker 1: dad showing me that, right, I'm thinking cool, So like

1941
01:23:05,600 --> 01:23:08,320
Speaker 1: when even when I started dealing with women and stuff

1942
01:23:08,320 --> 01:23:11,920
Speaker 1: like that, multiple women and all that. My dad was like, yeah, absolutely,

1943
01:23:13,120 --> 01:23:16,559
Speaker 1: and I'm thinking it's cool because that's that's what That's

1944
01:23:16,560 --> 01:23:18,519
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. I'm being taught like and every man

1945
01:23:18,560 --> 01:23:21,040
Speaker 1: in my life that I looked at as a role

1946
01:23:21,080 --> 01:23:22,519
Speaker 1: model to me was the same way.

1947
01:23:23,920 --> 01:23:26,000
Speaker 3: So it's like what you expect.

1948
01:23:26,160 --> 01:23:28,639
Speaker 1: But the good thing is now it's like I'm old

1949
01:23:28,720 --> 01:23:31,000
Speaker 1: enough now in mind you I ain't perfect. Now I'm

1950
01:23:31,080 --> 01:23:34,519
Speaker 1: seeing it. I'm trying to, you know, change it. But

1951
01:23:34,640 --> 01:23:36,960
Speaker 1: I've never was taught to love properly. So and I

1952
01:23:37,040 --> 01:23:40,160
Speaker 1: never my trust issues up from my dad because I'm

1953
01:23:40,200 --> 01:23:42,960
Speaker 1: seeing what he's doing, but I'm saying when it's done

1954
01:23:42,960 --> 01:23:46,040
Speaker 1: to him, his reactions like, damn, you were just doing this,

1955
01:23:46,120 --> 01:23:50,040
Speaker 1: how you're gonna get mad? Right, So it's like every

1956
01:23:50,120 --> 01:23:53,280
Speaker 1: relationship I've went into, I had an exploration date me,

1957
01:23:53,439 --> 01:23:55,120
Speaker 1: I put an xtray on myself. I say, she's gonna

1958
01:23:55,120 --> 01:23:56,400
Speaker 1: get she gonna get get what I'm getting.

1959
01:23:56,400 --> 01:23:56,680
Speaker 2: I'm gone.

1960
01:23:57,120 --> 01:24:01,599
Speaker 1: So I never really gave a woman the up commitment,

1961
01:24:02,320 --> 01:24:04,080
Speaker 1: not even commitment, but I've never give the woman a

1962
01:24:04,200 --> 01:24:04,519
Speaker 1: chance to.

1963
01:24:04,520 --> 01:24:05,000
Speaker 3: Really love me.

1964
01:24:05,160 --> 01:24:07,479
Speaker 2: But even with the kids, like even having kids, No,

1965
01:24:07,720 --> 01:24:08,160
Speaker 2: I haven't.

1966
01:24:08,439 --> 01:24:09,920
Speaker 1: And this is like I said, no distract to my

1967
01:24:10,000 --> 01:24:13,040
Speaker 1: children moms. A lot of my my children came out

1968
01:24:13,080 --> 01:24:18,120
Speaker 1: of vulnerability, explain and explaining that. So I will meet

1969
01:24:18,120 --> 01:24:21,320
Speaker 1: a woman who I may feel like she's what I need,

1970
01:24:21,680 --> 01:24:23,439
Speaker 1: another safe place, or whatever the case may be, but

1971
01:24:23,479 --> 01:24:26,519
Speaker 1: I'm already vulnerable from a previous relationship. I have a child,

1972
01:24:27,120 --> 01:24:29,240
Speaker 1: knowing I don't want to be with this woman, but

1973
01:24:29,320 --> 01:24:30,960
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm forced to be with it because

1974
01:24:31,000 --> 01:24:31,519
Speaker 1: it's a child.

1975
01:24:32,200 --> 01:24:34,840
Speaker 3: M And I've done that.

1976
01:24:35,600 --> 01:24:38,800
Speaker 2: You know multiple times times you needed a therapist, not

1977
01:24:38,800 --> 01:24:39,519
Speaker 2: another baby, Mama.

1978
01:24:39,640 --> 01:24:41,479
Speaker 3: I need correct they.

1979
01:24:41,520 --> 01:24:43,960
Speaker 1: At the time of need at the time and vulnerability.

1980
01:24:44,560 --> 01:24:47,000
Speaker 1: You know women, You know when women can, they be

1981
01:24:47,120 --> 01:24:49,840
Speaker 1: masked up. But like I never really knew how to

1982
01:24:49,920 --> 01:24:52,720
Speaker 1: be alone. Like I feel like I got to have

1983
01:24:52,880 --> 01:24:55,760
Speaker 1: somebody laying next to me because even before my mom died,

1984
01:24:55,760 --> 01:24:56,720
Speaker 1: my mom always sleep neked.

1985
01:24:57,479 --> 01:24:58,960
Speaker 3: This is a back then thing. How old were you,

1986
01:25:00,160 --> 01:25:01,439
Speaker 3: I was telling? But I was a mommy's boy.

1987
01:25:01,560 --> 01:25:06,720
Speaker 2: Did you ever did you ever really properly so grieving? No?

1988
01:25:07,160 --> 01:25:08,120
Speaker 3: I never really agrieved.

1989
01:25:08,200 --> 01:25:09,800
Speaker 1: All I did was I thought it was gonna help

1990
01:25:09,840 --> 01:25:12,519
Speaker 1: me by going to school for social work, because that's

1991
01:25:12,560 --> 01:25:13,120
Speaker 1: what she was.

1992
01:25:13,240 --> 01:25:15,360
Speaker 3: But I never really probably a grieved, and that's a

1993
01:25:15,439 --> 01:25:16,120
Speaker 3: that's a process.

1994
01:25:16,200 --> 01:25:16,320
Speaker 2: Now.

1995
01:25:16,439 --> 01:25:18,280
Speaker 3: I do want to get, you know, back in the gym.

1996
01:25:18,600 --> 01:25:19,960
Speaker 1: I do want to get a therapist, but don't want

1997
01:25:19,960 --> 01:25:22,280
Speaker 1: everything else around me to be in text so that

1998
01:25:22,360 --> 01:25:25,120
Speaker 1: I could fully commit, because if I ain't fully committed,

1999
01:25:25,479 --> 01:25:26,320
Speaker 1: it ain't gonna work.

2000
01:25:26,320 --> 01:25:27,880
Speaker 4: All right, We got more with Rome.

2001
01:25:28,400 --> 01:25:30,320
Speaker 1: If you don't know who Rome is, of course, that's

2002
01:25:30,520 --> 01:25:33,920
Speaker 1: just hilarious is baby daddy. And today is National co

2003
01:25:34,160 --> 01:25:36,680
Speaker 1: Parenting Day, and we're having a conversation with Rome. So

2004
01:25:36,720 --> 01:25:38,040
Speaker 1: don't go anywhere as to Breakfast Club.

2005
01:25:38,080 --> 01:25:40,680
Speaker 2: Good morning, the Breakfast Club.

2006
01:25:42,840 --> 01:25:43,639
Speaker 9: Wanting everybody.

2007
01:25:43,680 --> 01:25:47,160
Speaker 1: It's dj NV just hilarious, Charlamage, the guy we are

2008
01:25:47,240 --> 01:25:49,160
Speaker 1: the breakfast Club is still kitchen with Rome.

2009
01:25:49,560 --> 01:25:51,240
Speaker 2: That is Justic's baby daddy.

2010
01:25:51,280 --> 01:25:55,000
Speaker 1: Today is National co Parenting Day, and they are excellent

2011
01:25:55,040 --> 01:25:57,599
Speaker 1: co parentings and we're having a great conversation, Charlamagne.

2012
01:25:57,680 --> 01:26:00,880
Speaker 2: How did y'all that's the most thing, most I won't

2013
01:26:00,880 --> 01:26:02,439
Speaker 2: say most important, one of the most important things. How

2014
01:26:02,479 --> 01:26:04,800
Speaker 2: did y'all realize we don't have feelings for each other?

2015
01:26:04,960 --> 01:26:05,000
Speaker 1: No?

2016
01:26:05,080 --> 01:26:07,519
Speaker 2: More like? How did that just go away? Like y'all

2017
01:26:07,560 --> 01:26:09,960
Speaker 2: have y'all love each other, but not in that way.

2018
01:26:10,040 --> 01:26:12,200
Speaker 3: I got my answer, you want to go first, you

2019
01:26:12,240 --> 01:26:12,720
Speaker 3: can go first.

2020
01:26:13,040 --> 01:26:13,960
Speaker 13: Because I'm still thinking.

2021
01:26:13,880 --> 01:26:16,960
Speaker 1: When I stopped caring about who she dealt with, when

2022
01:26:17,000 --> 01:26:20,920
Speaker 1: I wouldn't even like I wouldn't even care, Like, how.

2023
01:26:21,040 --> 01:26:24,880
Speaker 3: Did that take three years? Or like my action was

2024
01:26:24,960 --> 01:26:26,120
Speaker 3: like three still?

2025
01:26:26,400 --> 01:26:28,920
Speaker 1: Really yeah, it was like three years, but at that

2026
01:26:29,040 --> 01:26:31,960
Speaker 1: but honestly that three years, like I had caught a

2027
01:26:32,040 --> 01:26:32,559
Speaker 1: big check.

2028
01:26:33,120 --> 01:26:35,560
Speaker 3: So it's like, you know, I was almost half a

2029
01:26:35,640 --> 01:26:39,360
Speaker 3: million dollars, So it was like the pain that I had.

2030
01:26:39,439 --> 01:26:41,320
Speaker 3: Whatever the case, I would I would pay. I would

2031
01:26:41,439 --> 01:26:42,800
Speaker 3: like just bout block it out.

2032
01:26:43,280 --> 01:26:45,559
Speaker 2: But other than that, like you ain't trying to stunt

2033
01:26:45,560 --> 01:26:46,120
Speaker 2: on her a little bit?

2034
01:26:46,320 --> 01:26:49,720
Speaker 3: No, I never, no, I never, no, I never. I'm

2035
01:26:49,760 --> 01:26:50,200
Speaker 3: waiting for that.

2036
01:26:50,479 --> 01:26:53,439
Speaker 1: I never intentionally stunned on her. I never did that.

2037
01:26:53,720 --> 01:26:53,880
Speaker 2: Never.

2038
01:26:55,000 --> 01:26:57,760
Speaker 1: I did everything she possibly could ask me to dig.

2039
01:26:58,400 --> 01:27:02,200
Speaker 1: She said on a uh one of these souls something

2040
01:27:02,200 --> 01:27:04,080
Speaker 1: about a B G. E bill, And I'm address that.

2041
01:27:04,280 --> 01:27:04,840
Speaker 1: I never one ded.

2042
01:27:07,240 --> 01:27:11,479
Speaker 3: I'm addressed that now with the bill. So I'm explaining

2043
01:27:11,960 --> 01:27:12,960
Speaker 3: her lights got cut off.

2044
01:27:13,960 --> 01:27:16,040
Speaker 2: I got a five hundred thousand dollars checking listen, No.

2045
01:27:16,240 --> 01:27:18,960
Speaker 1: It wasn't right then and there. It's over time, mind

2046
01:27:19,040 --> 01:27:22,240
Speaker 1: you because like mind a lot of my place.

2047
01:27:22,280 --> 01:27:22,640
Speaker 2: She helped me.

2048
01:27:22,680 --> 01:27:24,599
Speaker 3: She helped me get a lot on the back man.

2049
01:27:24,760 --> 01:27:27,400
Speaker 3: But in a time like I helped her. Whatever the case,

2050
01:27:27,560 --> 01:27:28,760
Speaker 3: I didn't know she was moving with a man.

2051
01:27:29,200 --> 01:27:30,080
Speaker 7: I didn't move with the man.

2052
01:27:30,160 --> 01:27:33,160
Speaker 3: Well she moved man in with her. Yeah all right, okay,

2053
01:27:33,160 --> 01:27:34,240
Speaker 3: after he had you and the.

2054
01:27:34,240 --> 01:27:35,120
Speaker 9: Doctor too, now.

2055
01:27:36,760 --> 01:27:39,320
Speaker 1: Before in her business. So I don't know that he's

2056
01:27:39,320 --> 01:27:42,280
Speaker 1: not there. So boom, here's his So his's his. Here's

2057
01:27:42,320 --> 01:27:44,960
Speaker 1: my logic, and I'm gonna say what I'm gonna say

2058
01:27:45,000 --> 01:27:48,040
Speaker 1: to her after I explain it. My logic was, all right,

2059
01:27:48,560 --> 01:27:51,800
Speaker 1: man is in the house. Boom, eg cut off. So

2060
01:27:52,240 --> 01:27:54,160
Speaker 1: she like wrong, I'm like, well, I take my son

2061
01:27:54,240 --> 01:27:56,120
Speaker 1: with me. But that wasn't me talking.

2062
01:27:56,640 --> 01:27:57,000
Speaker 2: That was the.

2063
01:27:57,040 --> 01:27:58,280
Speaker 3: Girlfriend I had talking.

2064
01:27:58,720 --> 01:27:59,920
Speaker 13: Oh, you ain't tell me that.

2065
01:28:00,040 --> 01:28:01,760
Speaker 1: I never told you that because as a woman, you

2066
01:28:01,800 --> 01:28:03,280
Speaker 1: ain't trying to hear that, and I as well as

2067
01:28:03,320 --> 01:28:05,960
Speaker 1: a man, and you be and me, I don't want

2068
01:28:05,960 --> 01:28:06,240
Speaker 1: to hear that.

2069
01:28:06,560 --> 01:28:08,400
Speaker 3: So I didn't want to tell you that because I

2070
01:28:08,560 --> 01:28:09,519
Speaker 3: have felt less of a man.

2071
01:28:10,880 --> 01:28:14,320
Speaker 1: So yeah, but now I understand that if somebody else

2072
01:28:14,400 --> 01:28:17,360
Speaker 1: is smacking the cheeks, listen. So the girlfriend was living

2073
01:28:17,400 --> 01:28:19,720
Speaker 1: in the house. So the girlfriend was like, don't talk

2074
01:28:19,720 --> 01:28:25,439
Speaker 1: about no house ahead. So the girlfriend was like, I

2075
01:28:25,520 --> 01:28:26,880
Speaker 1: took a certain amount of money out the bank.

2076
01:28:26,920 --> 01:28:27,160
Speaker 2: I did.

2077
01:28:27,320 --> 01:28:30,559
Speaker 1: She was with me, She like, why are you giving

2078
01:28:30,600 --> 01:28:34,479
Speaker 1: it to Jessica. I'm like, cause she needed and she like,

2079
01:28:34,640 --> 01:28:37,320
Speaker 1: I never said them here. I never said the reason.

2080
01:28:37,640 --> 01:28:40,800
Speaker 1: I never said the reason. Yeah, yeah, I never said

2081
01:28:40,840 --> 01:28:43,200
Speaker 1: the reason though. She was like, what ex thatly do

2082
01:28:43,320 --> 01:28:44,800
Speaker 1: she needs? Because I know you ain't giving her. No,

2083
01:28:45,040 --> 01:28:47,120
Speaker 1: she don't need a bag or nothing like that. I'm like, no,

2084
01:28:47,280 --> 01:28:50,000
Speaker 1: it's something else. She like, well, don't she got to

2085
01:28:50,240 --> 01:28:53,400
Speaker 1: living with her? And mind you, I'm drinking at the time,

2086
01:28:53,640 --> 01:28:54,599
Speaker 1: you're thinking the same thing.

2087
01:28:54,920 --> 01:28:57,080
Speaker 7: I'm like, you wasn't even thinking that till she said it.

2088
01:28:57,320 --> 01:28:59,720
Speaker 1: I wasn't thinking that. But I'm drinking and I'm like, no,

2089
01:28:59,800 --> 01:29:00,720
Speaker 1: what You're right?

2090
01:29:01,080 --> 01:29:02,799
Speaker 2: Why you ain't that? Just though crazy.

2091
01:29:04,080 --> 01:29:07,040
Speaker 1: Because I was a young emotional boy boy.

2092
01:29:06,880 --> 01:29:11,400
Speaker 13: It just ran into a bunch of money and with that, hurt,

2093
01:29:12,080 --> 01:29:12,559
Speaker 13: hurt young.

2094
01:29:12,479 --> 01:29:14,400
Speaker 1: Man got a lot of money. Everybody me over, I

2095
01:29:14,640 --> 01:29:18,360
Speaker 1: got some money. I'm doing make myself happy, and that's.

2096
01:29:18,240 --> 01:29:21,479
Speaker 9: How we broke everybody except me.

2097
01:29:24,200 --> 01:29:27,200
Speaker 1: That was what I was like, and granted, right, now

2098
01:29:27,360 --> 01:29:32,479
Speaker 1: on today, I'm gonna say I truly, sincerely apologized for

2099
01:29:32,720 --> 01:29:35,200
Speaker 1: not taking care of you the way I should have.

2100
01:29:36,560 --> 01:29:39,719
Speaker 1: And I'm gonna take my glasses because for a long

2101
01:29:39,840 --> 01:29:45,200
Speaker 1: time that hurt me. And it's like I never ever, ever,

2102
01:29:45,320 --> 01:29:47,960
Speaker 1: especially I never ever, ever ever meant to do that

2103
01:29:48,080 --> 01:29:50,439
Speaker 1: to you. And it's like, now that's why I even

2104
01:29:50,840 --> 01:29:54,160
Speaker 1: I work so hard today and just try to even

2105
01:29:54,360 --> 01:29:58,360
Speaker 1: just give you something, But in due time that's you

2106
01:29:58,520 --> 01:30:00,200
Speaker 1: come back. I ain't, you know I didn't. I made

2107
01:30:00,200 --> 01:30:02,519
Speaker 1: that back when broke again, made it back when broke again.

2108
01:30:02,640 --> 01:30:05,599
Speaker 1: But my biggest downfall, the comments denominated, was alcohol and women.

2109
01:30:06,840 --> 01:30:09,320
Speaker 1: Them two problems never allowed me to really reach my

2110
01:30:09,479 --> 01:30:12,519
Speaker 1: full potential, even when I seen a couple of years ago.

2111
01:30:12,560 --> 01:30:15,400
Speaker 1: You've seen it twenty nineteen when I was single. When

2112
01:30:15,439 --> 01:30:19,320
Speaker 1: I went moved back by myself, I ran flourished. But

2113
01:30:20,200 --> 01:30:24,519
Speaker 1: if women holding me back. I'm sorry that I didn't

2114
01:30:24,560 --> 01:30:26,080
Speaker 1: do what I was supposed to do. And a lot

2115
01:30:26,080 --> 01:30:28,040
Speaker 1: of money I was in your job, the one you dunk.

2116
01:30:28,080 --> 01:30:29,960
Speaker 1: I felt that that was my duty. But because I

2117
01:30:30,000 --> 01:30:32,519
Speaker 1: had certain people in my in my ear that I

2118
01:30:32,640 --> 01:30:34,640
Speaker 1: thought had their best interest in me. But when the

2119
01:30:34,760 --> 01:30:38,439
Speaker 1: bag ran out, they left. Yeah, I'm sorry. I'm not

2120
01:30:38,520 --> 01:30:39,160
Speaker 1: a sorry person.

2121
01:30:39,240 --> 01:30:44,640
Speaker 7: I apologize, Okay, I appreciate that, But listen, I was not.

2122
01:30:45,320 --> 01:30:46,280
Speaker 7: I was talking to you.

2123
01:30:46,400 --> 01:30:49,040
Speaker 10: And he moved in months after. You think he was

2124
01:30:49,080 --> 01:30:51,000
Speaker 10: gonna move into a dark house? You ain't got you

2125
01:30:51,080 --> 01:30:54,040
Speaker 10: got one. See how I was living. No, And when

2126
01:30:54,080 --> 01:30:56,000
Speaker 10: you said, I asked you, like, yo, can you just

2127
01:30:56,200 --> 01:30:59,160
Speaker 10: get my my lights on? I'll pay you back, That's

2128
01:30:59,160 --> 01:31:00,640
Speaker 10: when I was scamming in on all that shit. That

2129
01:31:00,880 --> 01:31:03,400
Speaker 10: got slow too, So I'm like, all right, you was like, no,

2130
01:31:03,479 --> 01:31:05,920
Speaker 10: I take my son. Nobody taking my kid, not even

2131
01:31:05,960 --> 01:31:08,360
Speaker 10: as far Like, as long as Asha was instead of

2132
01:31:08,400 --> 01:31:10,000
Speaker 10: the dark, we was good, you know.

2133
01:31:10,000 --> 01:31:10,479
Speaker 13: What I'm saying.

2134
01:31:10,560 --> 01:31:12,880
Speaker 9: Like I still had candles, we was playing, We was

2135
01:31:12,960 --> 01:31:13,360
Speaker 9: doing all that.

2136
01:31:13,439 --> 01:31:16,840
Speaker 10: We would stay outside that turned until it went until

2137
01:31:16,880 --> 01:31:18,400
Speaker 10: it got dark, and then we were going the house.

2138
01:31:18,760 --> 01:31:21,000
Speaker 7: And he ain't never asked me why the lights ain't

2139
01:31:21,040 --> 01:31:21,280
Speaker 7: coming on.

2140
01:31:21,680 --> 01:31:22,240
Speaker 9: It don't matter.

2141
01:31:22,360 --> 01:31:23,720
Speaker 10: So as long as he was good, I was good.

2142
01:31:23,760 --> 01:31:26,599
Speaker 10: I just wanted to be able, you know what I'm saying,

2143
01:31:26,640 --> 01:31:27,160
Speaker 10: and just be like.

2144
01:31:27,200 --> 01:31:29,960
Speaker 3: Yo, get life should have and you should have. Well

2145
01:31:30,040 --> 01:31:32,680
Speaker 3: guess what that made you? A demon? And when I

2146
01:31:32,720 --> 01:31:34,080
Speaker 3: say demon, I said in the best way.

2147
01:31:34,120 --> 01:31:34,840
Speaker 2: That turned you up.

2148
01:31:35,360 --> 01:31:38,120
Speaker 1: And I got to teach my kids, especially my oldest boy,

2149
01:31:38,200 --> 01:31:39,680
Speaker 1: might leve me you old bro, like, I don't want

2150
01:31:39,720 --> 01:31:42,000
Speaker 1: you to go through something bad and learn a lesson.

2151
01:31:42,200 --> 01:31:43,639
Speaker 1: I don't think everybody should have to go through something

2152
01:31:43,640 --> 01:31:47,400
Speaker 1: bad and not a lesson. But in your case, I

2153
01:31:47,479 --> 01:31:50,639
Speaker 1: feel like, yeah, that put that battery in your back.

2154
01:31:51,040 --> 01:31:53,160
Speaker 1: And know when that battery came in your back, you

2155
01:31:53,200 --> 01:31:56,400
Speaker 1: ain't it ain't treat me no way. It took still

2156
01:31:56,439 --> 01:32:00,240
Speaker 1: a minute for us to create that bond, but.

2157
01:32:00,360 --> 01:32:01,920
Speaker 2: Y'all have it now, and I think y'all most give

2158
01:32:01,960 --> 01:32:05,320
Speaker 2: each other some great because y'all yeah, and.

2159
01:32:05,360 --> 01:32:07,519
Speaker 1: I always was a hurt young man, so right, but

2160
01:32:07,600 --> 01:32:10,720
Speaker 1: I love this story. It showed the foundation and how

2161
01:32:10,760 --> 01:32:13,240
Speaker 1: you now and how you'll treat each other now. You know,

2162
01:32:13,240 --> 01:32:14,960
Speaker 1: I don't know you, but the way she talks about

2163
01:32:15,000 --> 01:32:16,880
Speaker 1: you on the radio, and and like you said, she

2164
01:32:17,040 --> 01:32:19,360
Speaker 1: is a mother, She protects you, she holds you down.

2165
01:32:19,720 --> 01:32:22,040
Speaker 2: I just love to see it. Yeah. No, sometimes I'll

2166
01:32:22,040 --> 01:32:23,720
Speaker 2: be telling U stuff, talking about room like that. He

2167
01:32:23,840 --> 01:32:26,880
Speaker 2: always did, like why you be talking about But I

2168
01:32:27,720 --> 01:32:27,920
Speaker 2: get it.

2169
01:32:28,080 --> 01:32:29,960
Speaker 3: She don't mean no harm. But she don't, like I said,

2170
01:32:30,040 --> 01:32:33,519
Speaker 3: man like I wish a lot of other people take

2171
01:32:33,600 --> 01:32:36,160
Speaker 3: from us. And that's why she got to be on TV.

2172
01:32:36,280 --> 01:32:37,519
Speaker 2: That's why y'are writing a book.

2173
01:32:38,600 --> 01:32:42,080
Speaker 3: Book Coming Everything, Book, Coming Everything, Coming.

2174
01:32:42,360 --> 01:32:44,280
Speaker 2: Think the most important thing, because I don't want you

2175
01:32:44,320 --> 01:32:45,840
Speaker 2: to save a lot of this, but what's the most

2176
01:32:45,880 --> 01:32:48,800
Speaker 2: important thing. It takes the cold parents. Y'all just leave

2177
01:32:49,240 --> 01:32:51,160
Speaker 2: leaving on that because the National co Parenting Day.

2178
01:32:51,800 --> 01:32:55,080
Speaker 10: After I started up communication, like a lot of people

2179
01:32:55,240 --> 01:32:58,200
Speaker 10: be scared to hurt each other feelings, and a lot

2180
01:32:58,200 --> 01:33:01,680
Speaker 10: of people be afraid to have uncomfortable conversations, whether it's

2181
01:33:01,680 --> 01:33:07,840
Speaker 10: about kids, unhashed differences whatever. Like one day, me and

2182
01:33:07,960 --> 01:33:10,280
Speaker 10: Rome just literally met up and just we just talked

2183
01:33:10,280 --> 01:33:13,000
Speaker 10: about everything that you know, he felt like I did

2184
01:33:13,080 --> 01:33:15,320
Speaker 10: him wrong in certain situations, and then he felt like

2185
01:33:15,800 --> 01:33:18,280
Speaker 10: like I will always try because he says, I'm controlling

2186
01:33:18,320 --> 01:33:20,680
Speaker 10: a lot, and I do take that. You know what

2187
01:33:20,720 --> 01:33:23,760
Speaker 10: I'm saying, Yeah, I own that idea, like I was

2188
01:33:23,800 --> 01:33:26,760
Speaker 10: trying to control how he parents sometimes, like how he.

2189
01:33:26,800 --> 01:33:29,000
Speaker 9: Would raise Ash and all of that type of stuff.

2190
01:33:29,040 --> 01:33:32,280
Speaker 10: We just put everything on the table and just just

2191
01:33:32,400 --> 01:33:34,160
Speaker 10: was like, all right, you're moving forward because it's really

2192
01:33:34,280 --> 01:33:35,120
Speaker 10: about Ash.

2193
01:33:35,800 --> 01:33:39,479
Speaker 7: And that's really like when we after.

2194
01:33:39,280 --> 01:33:41,920
Speaker 13: That, it was like no looking back, It's like, all right, whatever, cool.

2195
01:33:42,760 --> 01:33:44,760
Speaker 2: I'm sure it's a discussion that will continue on not

2196
01:33:44,840 --> 01:33:46,600
Speaker 2: even just the monkst you know, just in Rome, but

2197
01:33:46,640 --> 01:33:48,800
Speaker 2: it's a month anybody out there. You're dealing with corpor

2198
01:33:48,800 --> 01:33:50,720
Speaker 2: aking issue. But I think Rome, you know, Rome is

2199
01:33:50,760 --> 01:33:52,640
Speaker 2: talking to a lot of different issues that a lot

2200
01:33:52,680 --> 01:33:54,160
Speaker 2: of us men go through, you know what I mean.

2201
01:33:54,280 --> 01:33:57,640
Speaker 2: So I'm happy that you was vulnerable this morning, That's right,

2202
01:33:57,680 --> 01:33:59,920
Speaker 2: you know what I mean. And their book is coming

2203
01:34:00,080 --> 01:34:02,360
Speaker 2: soon be a black privilege publisher. Simon Shoes.

2204
01:34:03,760 --> 01:34:04,760
Speaker 3: All right, well it's wrong.

2205
01:34:05,040 --> 01:34:07,160
Speaker 2: Yes, it's the Breakfast Club the Morning Yeah, I can

2206
01:34:07,240 --> 01:34:09,840
Speaker 2: well go dangerous Morning Shore the Breakfast Club, Charlamagne Tha God. Here,

2207
01:34:09,880 --> 01:34:11,760
Speaker 2: I just want to tell all of y'all happy New

2208
01:34:11,880 --> 01:34:14,559
Speaker 2: Year man, and made this new year all your dreams

2209
01:34:14,640 --> 01:34:17,519
Speaker 2: turned into reality and made all your efforts turn into

2210
01:34:17,560 --> 01:34:19,960
Speaker 2: great achievements. Man. Salute, see y'all in the week.

2211
01:34:20,040 --> 01:34:22,400
Speaker 4: Breakfast Club bitches, you don't finish for y'all.

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Speaker 2: Done,